Don't Get Attached to Women Too Soon | Save a Lifeboat for Yourself

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  • čas přidán 30. 05. 2023
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    In this video I explain why it's essential to not get attached to women too soon. You always want to keep a lifeboat for yourself to protect yourself in case things go south.
    If you want to maintain attraction with a woman, right from the moment you first meet her all the way through to a long-term relationship, then I highly recommend you get a copy of my book Atomic Attraction.
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Komentáře • 110

  • @PassionateSpirit88
    @PassionateSpirit88 Před rokem +121

    I hate to say but never get too attached to a woman especially nowadays in this world. So, in case she cheats or breakups with you, you are never too destroyed or fallen apart too much.

    • @PassionateSpirit88
      @PassionateSpirit88 Před rokem +13

      Never ever got too attached and always have it on your mind that it most likely won't last. That's how it is in this world.

    • @alberteinstein9085
      @alberteinstein9085 Před rokem +6

      @@PassionateSpirit88 You need to read this book it changed my life bro

    • @vanhelsing5602
      @vanhelsing5602 Před rokem +3

      ​@@alberteinstein9085 same bro i downloaded a pirated copy of it & it worked wonders for me❤

    • @oscargonza2748
      @oscargonza2748 Před rokem +12

      You also have to remind youself, that she's not yours it's only your turn, it makes it easier to move forward

    • @stefanross8129
      @stefanross8129 Před rokem +1

      Cool. Yes.

  • @mystykalmn4434
    @mystykalmn4434 Před rokem +51

    She wants to feel that she's the one chasing, If you start chasing it's over .Stay Focus guys

  • @albertodeulofeu5277
    @albertodeulofeu5277 Před rokem +17

    You shouldn’t get attached at all. They’re ruthless. They leave.

  • @morty8659
    @morty8659 Před rokem +19

    No contact starts working when they feel more space from you then what they want.

  • @thevintageAI
    @thevintageAI Před rokem +46

    After I broked up, I'm seeing the real girl I've been with 3 years. NEVER take a daddy issues girl serious.

    • @JaredDeinlein
      @JaredDeinlein Před rokem +5

      Shes broken. Move on. She seeks attention from other men

    • @K4113B4113
      @K4113B4113 Před rokem +1

      Daddy issues is when a girl has been abandoned or neglected by her father?
      What's the behavior of a girl with daddy issues? Attention seeking from men?

    • @thevintageAI
      @thevintageAI Před rokem +8

      @@K4113B4113 They can have a good relationship with their father, as this girl I was dating. But he never been around, and there's a lot of cheating when he was around. It not always attention seeking, this girl I was dating even post too much on social media, she is posting now that we broked up, but they have commitment problems, and they can't solve problems with conversation, in a healthy way, they just pull away, become cold. They cause drama, first sign of weakness they test like a mf.

    • @kuokliangchin2078
      @kuokliangchin2078 Před rokem +1

      Please elaborate . I’m dating a girl without a dad and she has a high body count

    • @thevintageAI
      @thevintageAI Před rokem

      @@kuokliangchin2078 How long? Bro

  • @dontassumemyfender9866
    @dontassumemyfender9866 Před rokem +23

    Its all about vetting correctly. People can hide who they are for around 90 days.
    When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

    • @fresh2354
      @fresh2354 Před rokem

      True 100% but if you’re an expert of energy, you can read them within the first couple of weeks

    • @user-wz4no9sr3g
      @user-wz4no9sr3g Před rokem

      @@fresh2354can you please help my girlfriend has not texted me in too weeks

    • @dontassumemyfender9866
      @dontassumemyfender9866 Před rokem +5

      @@fresh2354 not necessarily. Because by week 2, you should have only been out on 2 dates with zero messages in between or phone calls. So no, you can't really. You can gauge her interest levels on the first 2 dates. And if you can ask good quality questions you can get an idea, but they can hide who they are for 90 days. Anyone can be sweet for 2 dates.
      The phone is for setting dates only not for getting to know someone.
      This is a part of the vetting stage. Because if yhe girl is constantly messaging in between dates, that is an indication that she is needy and insecure. Therefore, she isn't gf material

    • @dontassumemyfender9866
      @dontassumemyfender9866 Před rokem +7

      @@user-wz4no9sr3g if your "girlfriend" hasn't messaged you in 2 weeks, she isn't your gf.

    • @user-wz4no9sr3g
      @user-wz4no9sr3g Před rokem

      @@dontassumemyfender9866 yech she is

  • @stefanross8129
    @stefanross8129 Před rokem +17

    .... Practically ruthless? Yes, they can be. And they can be very, very fickle. That's just the way it is. Just be very nonchalant, and easygoing. Thanks for the FANTASTIC video and your review of these essential fundamentals.

  • @oscargonza2748
    @oscargonza2748 Před rokem +14

    Become emotionally unavailable and you won't have to be attached to her, plain and simple

  • @stefanmolejo4578
    @stefanmolejo4578 Před rokem +28

    Amen brother...
    I experienced this lesson ever so harshly, back in May of 2019...absolutely one of the most painful evenings of my life!

    • @smartrockcoolguy
      @smartrockcoolguy Před rokem +1

      same here bro exact same month and year

    • @stefanmolejo4578
      @stefanmolejo4578 Před rokem +1

      @D K wow....I wasn't alone in that pain for it was hellacious!

    • @Sean-nl5ge
      @Sean-nl5ge Před 10 měsíci +2

      Same here. Painful lesson to learn

    • @stefanmolejo4578
      @stefanmolejo4578 Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@Sean-nl5ge however..... *Lesson learned & then some!!!*

    • @jf1980
      @jf1980 Před 6 měsíci

      Hahaha Same year Same Month!!!!!

  • @bloodymothcurse
    @bloodymothcurse Před rokem +6

    Chris, i’ve been watching you since I was a teen. You have shaped my life more than you will ever know! Forever grateful for all of your teachings and knowledge!

  • @JJ-zz7zv
    @JJ-zz7zv Před 9 měsíci +2

    This is beyond accurate. I’ve experienced this dozens of times and had to learn the hard way

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm Před rokem +2

    I am pursuing someone I like a lot but she'll never know it. I do what Chris says no emotional investment in her, no chasing, no phone calls or texts, no weirdness or awkwardness. When I see her I see her and I try to do the flirting and when we say goodbye it could be for a month.

  • @marcwareham9351
    @marcwareham9351 Před rokem +4

    Relationships and moving it on should always be their idea! Never ask where it’s going or for her to be your girlfriend.

  • @brugaldr809
    @brugaldr809 Před rokem +10

    Best advice ever. The more interest and Inve$tment you do the LESS she wiLL be interested....

  • @brown_recidivist
    @brown_recidivist Před rokem +12

    Always remember she is not who you make her out to be in your mind lol

    • @joshuaruff4207
      @joshuaruff4207 Před rokem +3

      This comment is so underrated..... 💯
      Straight facts 💯

  • @omarshaaban907
    @omarshaaban907 Před rokem +15

    Don't get attached EVER

  • @jacobs3031
    @jacobs3031 Před rokem +3

    I know a lad just like this, pesters me for a night out. As soon as he finds a girl he's heavily in love. Books holidays and things days out all the time. Then he repears all over again.

  • @BornRanger
    @BornRanger Před rokem +3

    In my experience that's only nice in theory and you cannot really control attachment, same way you cannot control love and attraction. You can tell yourself you're not gonna give into any of these things because you know better, but they happen with or without your permission, internally. You can tell yourself i don't have high expectations, but if you genuinely like the other person it won't hurt any less when they screw you.
    Ultimately i believe it all depends on the individual. Some get attached easily, others not so much. It may or may not be a matter of habituation and/or desensitization to relationships, but i doubt anyone can fully control it.

  • @michaelj3385
    @michaelj3385 Před rokem +2

    Chris is the father, brother, uncle, close neighbor that we never had. If you read his book atomic attraction, he states case studies that you can look up to corroborate what he's saying. I wish I had a Chris type figure growing up. This information would have saved me a lot of heartache and pain.
    Thanks uncle Chris!

  • @abdulifeoluwa8197
    @abdulifeoluwa8197 Před rokem +9

    Almost got into one, thanks for this.

  • @thomasjackson474
    @thomasjackson474 Před rokem +1

    Words of Wisdom, as always. Thanks Chris!

  • @MaverickLee11
    @MaverickLee11 Před rokem +1

    I was about to make a video on this topic, nice to hear your take on this subject matter.
    Your increasing attraction and commitment is not her increasing attraction and commitment.
    It's a power-play, you must win the power dynamic.

  • @samuswilliams4576
    @samuswilliams4576 Před rokem +1

    great video , so true!

  • @jameskachi8980
    @jameskachi8980 Před rokem +2

    I have been waiting for ur video

  • @Maldridge815
    @Maldridge815 Před rokem +2

    My ex sent me a very cryptic message after I was on a dating app and matched with the roommate of her co-worker (my ex is sleeping with the co-worker). She told me that if i hooked up with the roommate that I might wake up in the same house as the ex and the co-worker but that i could do whatever I want. I didn't respond. Strongest position is to walk away and not look back.

    • @fappe908
      @fappe908 Před rokem

      Fuck the girl to piss her off lol

  • @carlospita6442
    @carlospita6442 Před rokem +9

    But they hate it when you give them the same treatment

    • @MaverickLee11
      @MaverickLee11 Před rokem +2

      its a power-play, you must win the power dynamic.

  • @brianwaite6070
    @brianwaite6070 Před rokem

    I always enjoy your videos.

  • @VoiceOfThe
    @VoiceOfThe Před rokem +6

    But, how does this work when it comes to who pays? You want the woman to invest in you so you expect her to pay, yet men are supposed to be the provider.... yet where’s the point at which she takes you for a mug and expects you to pay for everything?
    What is the ideal with this? 50/50??
    I’ve stopped dating because of this because it’s always caused me so many issues with relationships. I’ve been accused of being tight, yet paid for everything before with other women and eventually been dumped.

    • @oscargonza2748
      @oscargonza2748 Před rokem +2

      If the chick is genuinely attracted to you, she will do most of the investing, just ask her to do things for you, like clean the house or ask her to buy you a loaf of bread when she's coming over to visit, if she complies, she likes you to the point where you don't have to do much investing, just feed her bread crums and she'll be satisfied with you, bru, less is more with cbicks, bruh

    • @MaverickLee11
      @MaverickLee11 Před rokem +2

      @@oscargonza2748 lol, love that double metaphor

  • @jossell911
    @jossell911 Před 10 měsíci

    Lesson learned!!!

  • @lanmilamare5264
    @lanmilamare5264 Před rokem

    You give great advice bro for men.

  • @harrymccarthy936
    @harrymccarthy936 Před rokem

    Good lad ❤

  • @miltonpowell9520
    @miltonpowell9520 Před rokem

    Facts 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @Yosef_Maharat
    @Yosef_Maharat Před rokem +1

    Is the information already in the book? If so, where exactly can I find it?

  • @georgerodriguez2987
    @georgerodriguez2987 Před měsícem

    Myron Gaines says women become monsters with lots of power

  • @RB-sc3uk
    @RB-sc3uk Před rokem

    What does it mean to invest? You should make a video on this subject.

  • @amanverma-ml1fv
    @amanverma-ml1fv Před rokem

    True

  • @Jupiter_9911
    @Jupiter_9911 Před rokem +4

    Never take a woman who grew up in a Feminist country seriously. They are raised to view men as the enemy and look down on you. And if you are part of the 1% never forget how she would treat you if you wouldn't have incredible amounts of wealth

  • @overworlddiplomat7162
    @overworlddiplomat7162 Před 11 měsíci

    Not too soon. Never

  • @DavidVelasquez9
    @DavidVelasquez9 Před rokem

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

    • @peterwilliams6361
      @peterwilliams6361 Před rokem

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

    • @DavidVelasquez9
      @DavidVelasquez9 Před rokem

      @@peterwilliams6361 Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @peterwilliams6361
      @peterwilliams6361 Před rokem

      @@DavidVelasquez9 Her name is *Victoria Lee hess*, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @DavidVelasquez9
      @DavidVelasquez9 Před rokem

      @@peterwilliams6361 Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @willpotter8343
      @willpotter8343 Před 2 měsíci

      Resist thinking about her as best you can. Treat every passing day of no contact as a victory.

  • @user-oe4pk8dm8j
    @user-oe4pk8dm8j Před 2 měsíci

    Yes, don't attach to any girl

  • @unknowboysvlogsghana9750

    I did everything to her and some time ago she stop giving me sex so I have been with someone and she find it out so now she blocked me and doesn’t want to talk to me anymore!!😢

  • @matta5555
    @matta5555 Před rokem

    I think there is some contradiction, sometimes you say take a lead other times you say women should chase you please clarify 🙂

  • @franklavilla3385
    @franklavilla3385 Před rokem +1

    U will find out what she REALLY is like later on - could be a totally different person ...

  • @user-wz4no9sr3g
    @user-wz4no9sr3g Před rokem +2

    Hey what should I do because my girlfriend has not been texting me since in too weeks please help

    • @andywatson8225
      @andywatson8225 Před rokem +1

      She’s no longer your girl. Forget about her and get on with your life.

    • @user-wz4no9sr3g
      @user-wz4no9sr3g Před rokem

      @@andywatson8225 yech yech

    • @amith432
      @amith432 Před rokem +1

      ​@@andywatson8225 don't respond, she will text u for sure! When she comes back just mirror her.

    • @user-wz4no9sr3g
      @user-wz4no9sr3g Před rokem

      @@amith432 what do you mean by that

    • @amith432
      @amith432 Před rokem +1

      @@user-wz4no9sr3g bro! Don't text her first, let her text u, if she comes back u do the same, don't reply soon don't read the message for two three days, after that ask her how she is doing and all don't talk too much don't ask y u didn't text me, if she asked u just say u were little busy so simply. This always work's for me.

  • @Benucci_music
    @Benucci_music Před rokem

    Floyd Mayweather once said. One chick is too close to have no chick. But how can you keep more than one if you want a relationship? It's good to have a plan B but you have to be tactful surely

  • @oppahadventures114
    @oppahadventures114 Před rokem +1

    First here

  • @chiefjadigga4667
    @chiefjadigga4667 Před 9 měsíci +1

    Long story short. You can’t show a woman you’re a human with human need and emotions you have to be a Robot if you want to keep a woman

    • @biancadelarosa7986
      @biancadelarosa7986 Před 8 měsíci

      I’m so excited my broken marriage has been restored my ex love is back after he left me and our kids for another woman.I was so happy to me how he help many people to bring there lover back❤

    • @biancadelarosa7986
      @biancadelarosa7986 Před 8 měsíci

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    • @biancadelarosa7986
      @biancadelarosa7986 Před 8 měsíci

      On What'sapp.

  • @elmo319
    @elmo319 Před 4 měsíci

    End of the day, a woman chooses the man so help her make that choice. It’s that simple

  • @stephonbailey4343
    @stephonbailey4343 Před rokem +1

    None of this stuff is accurate bro not in the black community

    • @omarshaaban907
      @omarshaaban907 Před rokem +5

      You’re wrong
      Humans are humans
      Or explain more