Women Maintain Relationships, Men Maintain Attraction
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Men who focus too much on a relationship can kill attraction for several reasons:
Overbearing behavior: When a man becomes overly obsessed with a relationship, he may start to suffocate the woman. This can lead to him constantly checking in on her, bombarding her with messages and calls, or trying to control her actions and decisions. This behavior can be overwhelming and unattractive to a woman.
Lack of independence: Women are attracted to men who are confident, self-sufficient, and have their own interests and passions. When a man becomes too focused on a relationship, he may lose sight of these qualities and become too dependent on the woman for his happiness and validation. This can create feelings of boredom and dissatisfaction in the relationship.
Emotional neediness: When a man is overly focused on a relationship, he may become emotionally needy. This can lead to him constantly seeking attention, affection, and reassurance from the woman. This behavior can make a woman feel suffocated and unappreciated, and can kill the attraction she may have initially felt.
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The more relationship focus I've been the worse it has been with women. It's human nature is to be attracted to what they can't have and for women, this applies even more. The more I do me and steer away from the relationship topic, the more they want me. Nothing is sexier to a woman than a man who is working on himself physically and financially.
Absolutely
Please give your honest opinion how can I tell her that I'm interested in you, specially if she is shy girl
Fact
In other words, the less you do for her the more she'll do for you
Yahtzee!! That is exactly correct. One of you will always do more. Don't be that one.
Please give your honest opinion how can I tell her that I'm interested in you, specially if she is shy girl
Just muster the courage to tell her, if she rejects you, so what, at least you tried, the important thing is now she knows you're interested in her, now the ball is in her court and you wait until she starts chasing you, if she doesn't chase you, then she's not interested in you, you move on from her and pursue another girl
When you don't want to let go of the relationship she will definitely do. When you don't want anything do do with the relationship/her, she will want to "make things work". NEVER try to make a women stay.
The moment I became relationship focussed it went to dogs, up until then things were fine.. this is a clichéd lesson yet an important one
Agreed. Of all the women I've been with (ex girlfriends), it's the two women who I wasn't relationship focused with who stay in touch with me and want to get with me in some form or another lol
Emotions always over ride logic with patience
50yo now. Too much work for a lot of self-entitled ones. Hard to vet between the free-meals-not-interested-in-you-while-faking-it first meetup, and the purest one. Been there, done that. And when you get to touch base, most often than not, The juice ain't worth the squeeze.
So living Drama-Free, is a bliss young ones will understand, later.
25yo now. And I understand what you mean just after being married for 4 months now. Drama-free life was indeed a bliss, although a lonely one.
When a woman pulls away,we nuh want her back, she is testing you, to see if you are strong or weak,as a man you are strong, so act strong when she pull away and then she will come back, but we nuh want her back cause we are strong and the prize, how life is happy without her
Master of relationship 👀💯
This is great advice and content Chris indeed logic does not work with women, one has to let them come to the conclusion that she wants the relationship on her own, and that she wants to come back, we have to step aside for a while simultaneously working always on one’s value, chasing her will always take things downhill that’s for sure 💯💫
Yep! I've ruined many potential relationships because of this. Lesson learned!
@@silvermine2033 most of us have been there friend, we have to learn and grow 💫
Please give your honest opinion how can I tell her that I'm interested in you, specially if she is shy girl
Excellent analysis and insight on men maintaining attraction and women maintaining relationship.
Please give your honest opinion how can I tell her that I'm interested in you, specially if she is shy girl
@@Armanraza123 your question ended up under my comment. You need to put it out in the main comment area to get a response from the doctor.
80% of the time she has another guy in mind
You were not her first choice ;-)
Correcto!
Very well said
So true 👍🏼
Thanku chris 🙏....
Brilliant.
She is more emotionally invested
Exactly bro gets it
Men should focus on attraction , women should take care on relationship I'll remember that
Thank you for knowledge ❤️
I don't know ur are right or wrong.. but i gonna believe u and i gonna follow your instructions ... thank you 😍😍
Another banger
Women "maintain relationships" so as to "maintain spending."
Facts.
All the responsibility falls on the man's shoulders. If women are so emotional they shouldn't have a right to vote .
Huh? 😂
I don´t agree with that bro.
@@Luigi-xg7hx why not explain yourself
Men are sex driven and the majority of men today are spineless simps. Both men and women today are addled with depression, anxiety, and a whole host of other mental illnesses.
If we go by average mental fortitude, almost no one should be allowed to vote.
If we walk or could walk she changes if she values you she will take responsibility real fast! Women are responsible for the relationship part but she votes how she feels. It's our responsibility for the attraction part which includes protection, security (financially, physically, and emotionally), and a good time. It's simple. If you don't have success it means you didn't meet her needs.
Woman are responsible in a good way ...for the right man.
Enough of this flagrant ignorance! How don't you have well over a million subs. You drop pure gems brother. All these other dating coaches are decent but don't come close to your consistency and quality. Keep up the good work.
Christopher, I notice that there is an issue with telling a man to focus on his career and himself in order to get the girl to like him. I've been there, and I'm sure many guys have as well. l'll explain:
It's possible that the man will start to put on a _performance_ of 'focusing on himself', without actually focusing on himself. As in, he may start saying that he's reading books and hitting the gym when the girl asks him how he's spending his time, but in reality he is merely claiming to be doing these things or only doing them performatively (as in, if he does go to the gym, he'd be doing the bare minimum workout)
While the advice of "focus on yourself" is in good spirit, I don't believe it will click in the mind of the man in the way that it should. Could you kindly do a video about the psychology of this?
Have you ever heard the idea that "faking courage IS courage"? Going to the gym regularly, even if it's doing the bare minimum workout, is breaking down the mental barriers a person has to doing the activity. Going to the gym and getting a good workout in actually feels good, there's nothing to fake there. And if one starts reading books they actually want to read, they won't be able to stop.
Saying those things and not doing them is of course, lip service. But if the person is actually going to the gym and reading, the results speak for themselves.
Does no contact work for short term relationships? The relationship lasted 3 weeks, we met around 8,9 times or so in the month. She was initiating contact probably 85% of the time and she wanted to meet the majority of the times we met. I think the mistakes I made were being too responsive over text, and in the last few days of the relationship I talked about the relationship a bit too much. Do you think no contact will work and there’s any chance she might come back? I’m on day 20 of no contact today.
When she broke up with me, she said something along the lines of, “ I need time out of a relationship, you’ve been lush, but my head is up my arse and I’m stressed with work and I didn’t want to string you along, but I hope we can stay friends, and if not then I totally understand” Then I said
Aw Okay, if you think it’s for the best, then so be it, and I don’t know about being friends”, She then said “ I feel like a twat tho”, then I said, “aw don’t, I’ll see you around” and we haven’t spoke since.
Continue, avoid sending her any msg from your side.
tell them that you don't want to be friends and to call you if they change their mind and go no contact until they reach out to you
It's over, man. Move on. The relationship will never be the same. There is another guy, probably. Women don't like to be single or alone. Women are never totally single or alone.
You responded really well! She will reach out 100%
Perfect response from you tbh, Move on
Hi Chris,can you make a video advice when youre ex blocks you? thanks
Chris! How long a men need to stay with no contact in order to make reattraction for women (i.e In what time men knows if this situation of pulling away is a test or break? Please make explaination for both online and offline dating)
the title of dis video is important.
Women don’t respond to reason and logic.
Everything reminds me of my ex wife, i love her so much, i wish there was a way i can bring her back.
i felt the same way a year ago, my wife left me two years ago and i was so down because she was and is the love of my life, and i couldn't just let her go, so i did all i could to bring her back.
@@wonhur885 i wont say i'm glad that you understand how i feel, it is really sad, how did you get her back?
@@LanceNRusso i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me get her back, her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE, you can look her up you will find all you need to know about her online.
@@wonhur885 thank you so much, this is really helpful.
I do feel the same way. I was in a relationship with a girl 2 years younger than me when im going to have a training related to my work for 3 years and right when i back to my hometown, she said she doesnt have feeling at all towards me these years (dont call me adequate or shyt, we call everyday noon night and she always talk like hourly each and i take care of anything stands between) and planned to marry her after my company hire me permanently. But she leaves me for a jerk who s kid of goverment worker and this jerk tossed her off later. I knew this very well so i grind myself to the point that when the time has come, she cant see anyone but me (im smart, handsome, work on oil and gas industry, got several agriculture, feed, daily needs and poultry company. Sexy af because i grind myself when she ditched me, im 90 kg 6"1 and buffed up in 8 months and got strech marks all over my skin because of that). Im literally stand on top of my city (im planning further coz everyone thinks im so bright for a 23 yo male) and she finally contacted me after a year and im well aware that she s not even in my league. I deserves better instead of that snake. Trust me u cant win her back unless u evolve. And if u evolve, u cant be idiot enough to take her back. Your deep love will be converted to malignant hate. But dont channel that hate to skin her alive or murder her family. Channel those hate to grind urself. U ve got to ditch her later
If you have no career, can you still maintain attraction and will she continue to maintain the relationship? And if she says that’s the reason for pulling away and breaking up. Is this the right woman? Have you screwed up as a man? This is the situation I’m finding difficult.
Why don’t you have a career Bruh? That’s the minimum as a man. 👀🤣
No man should be looking for a relationship if they don't have a source of income. She will not respect you without a source of income. You may get around this with a patient woman (rare) if you are studying and can show her the career path to a top tier job or profession. But I strongly advise to focus on your own purpose before women. Success of a man is the equivalent to Beauty of a woman.
Very rarely unless she see's a man has a lot of potential and is working towards something. A man with no purpose is worthless to himself and to any female. Furthermore, I advise any man to not focus on women. Don't even bother with them until you have your priorities right. Even then use caution because they'll come around when they sniff success draining you of time and resources.
Bro focus on your bread. that's the priority
You can but you better be working on something. I met my girl while I was unemployed living off of savings. All I was doing was Muay Thai and hitting the gym, and she was still very attracted to me because I didn’t let unemployment make me lose confidence. I got a job 2-3 months later.
Right now she makes a little more than me but I’m working towards building something for out future so it’s all good.
To sum it up: As long as you remain confident, yes, but you have to be working on something.
so fucking backwards but so fucking true. ugh. thanks for the truth bomb, Chris
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
Hey Chris, I watch all your videos, please respond. My ex dumped me two weeks ago and I didn't plead beg. I did no contact immediately. She was watching all my Instagram stories right away but ended up blocking me yesterday even though I never did anything.
Can you tell me what might be the reasons? Is she doing it to get me to reach out to her? Or is she doing it to now finally move on completely because I never pursued her?
Please respond
Thank you
Move on bro
@@gavliddle5784 broke up being a little needy. Relationship focused.
She did that to trigger a response. Keep no contact going. The tables will turn in due time.
It will take time to absorb this but do the following: leave her behind, focus on your own activities rather that what she posts, doesn't post, blocks, unblocks, says, doesn't say and do your own thing for you.
Get started on this as soon as possible.
If she didn’t care, she wouldn’t block you. Stay the course.
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Not just GF u have to do this to all women otherwise they start spoiling ur repo
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to the e-mailer ; she's probably speaking to someone else bro, let her go.
Is it me, or are you jacked up now? 💪🏻
Nowadays most women seem designed to get played
Please give your honest opinion how can I tell her that I'm interested in you, specially if she is shy girl
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