QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE MARRIAGE | Conversations With Future Spouse | Finances, Genetics Etc

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  • You heard from us and now we'd like to hear your say!
    What other conversations do you think are critical for couples to have before taking that huge leap?
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Komentáře • 699

  • @daphinenamuli7566
    @daphinenamuli7566 Před 10 měsíci +93

    And there's me tearing through this episode 😭😭😭 Pumla gave me checker one,Manuela gave the injection,Rosette cooled the fire,Racheal straight to the point and Angie fired straight to the heart. Thank you Ladies....I bless the day I landed on this channel. Surely I'm to re-watch this show.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Amiina 🙏🏾

    • @nakatoannet1634
      @nakatoannet1634 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Am also rewatching it over en over
      Thanks Ladies

    • @Deedor72
      @Deedor72 Před 10 měsíci

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @kansiimelucius6506
      @kansiimelucius6506 Před 8 měsíci

      I really appreciate bump love for teachings

    • @sumayamya357
      @sumayamya357 Před 7 měsíci

      yes dear...here we watch every show more than once.. the deeper it registers home, the more the number of re-watching

  • @millennialaunty
    @millennialaunty Před 10 měsíci +169

    Everytime I listen to Mrs. Mwine Rachel, I feel blessed and something feels healed inside me. Her submissions are calm, considerate, filled with divine feminine wisdom, and never patronizing. Thank you Rachel for being you.Lots of love ❤.

  • @viviennenabukenya2568
    @viviennenabukenya2568 Před 10 měsíci +35

    Hey ladies. Let me kunyumiza you" in Manuela's voice. Do u remember that episode where you appreciated your partners? Otyoo. I am kinda shy so i wrote a letter to my boyfriend expressing my appreciation for things he has done for me that "altered my brain chemistry". He doesnt like letters so i forced him to read it while i was seated next to him. Guys! His reactions! He even shed a tear or two. He never thought i used to acknowledge those small small acts of kindness.
    Ps: We started dating in s5 in 2015. Now contemplating marriage. All i wanna say is mbagala nnyo my source of inspiration is bump love❤

    • @naturindablessing5330
      @naturindablessing5330 Před 10 měsíci +3

      Blessing follow you bby gal

    • @shantaOzi
      @shantaOzi Před 10 měsíci +2

      Things i love to read and hear about

    • @namatovujoan9139
      @namatovujoan9139 Před 10 měsíci +2

      happy for you gal❤

    • @manuelap.mulondo
      @manuelap.mulondo Před 10 měsíci +6

      Awwwwwwwwww so happy for you. Tag us when you get married so we remember this comment. ❤

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před 10 měsíci +7

      YEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSS
      Healing attachments - one relationship at a time. Love this

  • @conniekavuma5176
    @conniekavuma5176 Před 10 měsíci +66

    My advice would be:
    1- Pay Attention to how someone makes you feel rather than how you feel about them.
    2_Listen very careful to what he/she says: everything you need to know is in those conversations.
    3- Keep your eyes open: see things for what they are and not what you want them to be.
    🙌

  • @tronetronechi94
    @tronetronechi94 Před 10 měsíci +51

    I really love how Pumla protects her ex husband

  • @user-uo6nu9uh8o
    @user-uo6nu9uh8o Před 10 měsíci +77

    At this point I think we need a live bump love show..... ladies please think about it ❤

    • @benitamkhori1216
      @benitamkhori1216 Před 10 měsíci

      We surely do please invite me for the first live show

    • @Robinnah
      @Robinnah Před 10 měsíci

      Definitely ❤❤❤

    • @iamthemessagegrace4568
      @iamthemessagegrace4568 Před 10 měsíci

      Thank you for speaking my mind,I thought about it long timeeee ,consider it bambi dear ladies

    • @yvonnewinfreyug
      @yvonnewinfreyug Před 10 měsíci

      I believe so too

    • @kirundazuena9219
      @kirundazuena9219 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Miss Pumla said this session is around the corner. Just keep it locked here.

  • @victoriasanyime9910
    @victoriasanyime9910 Před 10 měsíci +19

    One of the best conversation I had with my husband pre marriage was on "non negotiables". I think it's paramount to know your non negotiables and state them before walking down the isle.
    One of my non negotiables is no relatives. They can visit, we can help them, but we're not taking in relatives to live with us. I'm very pedantic, particular and intentional about my space, and I know living with people who are not wired like me, or at the very least, know and respect that about me would make me absolutely miserable.
    There's a place for compromise in marriage, but if you know in your hearts of hearts there's something you absolutely cannot compromise on, then that is a non negotiable, state it and see if your partner is willing to accept it or not, before you hitch your wagon to his.

  • @najunaevelyne674
    @najunaevelyne674 Před 10 měsíci +11

    Manuella black and white was made for you and you absolutely look beautiful and always smart in it.

  • @rehemapatricks2587
    @rehemapatricks2587 Před 10 měsíci +44

    I learn so much from this show, I am still in my twenties and not yet married. The knowledge shared here is gold.

  • @sigyeful
    @sigyeful Před 10 měsíci +9

    This sounds like 'Questions to ask before marriage in your 30's'. Realistically, in our early and mid 20s, its very difficult to have this mindset and foresight. Iam 37 and i married at 27. I was ready but never had the mindset of having a deep conversation on most of these issues. All i can say, date as long as you can before marriage until both of you break character (stop acting/pretending/being nice to each other all the time). If you have not seen your partner angry or under pressure, do not think/assume you know them!

  • @beingndeshyk4602
    @beingndeshyk4602 Před 10 měsíci +17

    All this 5 women are powerful and their views on this topic are great.kudos🇳🇦

  • @espilajackie9598
    @espilajackie9598 Před 10 měsíci +8

    I agree with you Manuela 100% have the conversation before any intimacy.

  • @komugisharitah4088
    @komugisharitah4088 Před 10 měsíci +39

    I love this, my grandmother told us to consider lineage as an important aspect before marriage interms of longevity
    Have you seen your great grandparents, your grandparents, your parents?
    If you are an orphan, what caused the death of your parents, are the other members of your family still alive?
    Your grandparents children (they include your parents) Are they all alive?
    What about you their children, are you all alive?

  • @nusrahnacham6680
    @nusrahnacham6680 Před 10 měsíci +21

    Angie is right, I knew what I want, whom I want to marry and that I was to be a good wife to that kind of person, I prayed to Allah for such a person and he came into my life, at 22yrs and him at 24 got married , now 5yrs in a happy marriage, both of us below 30yrs, Al-hamdulillah

  • @ZaweddeMableZoe
    @ZaweddeMableZoe Před 10 měsíci +9

    I had to watch this with a pen 🖊️ and note book 📖 cause everything said was important so I had to write it down.
    Thank you ladies 🤩

  • @kasubojustine795
    @kasubojustine795 Před 10 měsíci +25

    Meanwhile Friday is like Christmas to some of us the we wait #bumplove love you always

  • @suzanbukirwa9715
    @suzanbukirwa9715 Před 10 měsíci +43

    Ladies and your entire team, thank you so much for this particular episode. LET THOSE WITH EARS LISTEN but allow me to recommend two books that have opened both my inner and outer eyes and ears because all that the Ladies have said I found in a book Titled " Things I wish I knew before I got Married by GARRY CHAPMAN"
    And another titled " Who You Should Marry by Chris Okonkwo"
    I am forever grateful for the fact that God picked all these ladies and their entire team to deliver us from so much..!

  • @brejet
    @brejet Před 10 měsíci +12

    Hello bumb love am turning 20 this year but I really love u ladies and Every topic u bring out to us.

  • @najunaevelyne674
    @najunaevelyne674 Před 10 měsíci +38

    Am always looking forward to Friday . I thank God for this educative channel. Honestly speaking most of the issues we get in marriage is because we don't listen to conversations with our partners. Sitting on a table to initiate serious topics would attract lies but being attentive and questioning the conversations gives perfect answers. You're doing an amazing job ladies😍

  • @nalwangasophia3166
    @nalwangasophia3166 Před 10 měsíci +9

    Hi ladies,I have watched 80% of the show since 2019,I love the show,I got married last year❤but before that,I did all the tests,had the fights,had no sex with him,asked about his dead mom and where she was burried,like I did the questioning in that by the time the marriage happened,it was like I had know this man for a life time,do people change,yes!but my biggest prayer is the we both grow towards the same direction as we want the same things and both our vision boards are full and we are both willing to push each other.
    Thanks ladies,much love, Sofiya ❤

  • @najunaevelyne674
    @najunaevelyne674 Před 10 měsíci +25

    You are a great researcher and speaker Pumla 😍

  • @annekyarisiima4194
    @annekyarisiima4194 Před 10 měsíci +10

    Just to add, consider the families you are coming from. Ask yourself, imagine i got married in my family. Bad families get children who liberate themselves from bad live but most times majority remain bad hearted. Key words, everyone wants good things and we must counsel ourselves to be better citizens of this country. Well raised children will change the world. Let's have kids we can afford to look after in terms of time, and finances. Thank you ladies for always giving us your life experiences

  • @estherauma9353
    @estherauma9353 Před 10 měsíci +11

    I agree with Rachel on childhood traumas and someone's past. Though I think the traumas shouldn't necessarily disqualify someone especially if they are working on being better. So the red flag for me is a person comfortable in their childhood traumas.

    • @rachaelmwine611
      @rachaelmwine611 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Yes, if they are oblivious to them and are unwilling to do the work, that's a red flag.

  • @daphinsleem3054
    @daphinsleem3054 Před 10 měsíci +7

    Leero was not a back bencher
    Was in front writing my notes.
    Thank you ladies.

  • @nyangomaanna9089
    @nyangomaanna9089 Před 10 měsíci +25

    Kemi you are right on point with the other health conditions. Sickle cell anaemia is a serious problem in the African community but we never think of testing for such diseases.

    • @anonnona6433
      @anonnona6433 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Because sex comes before everything and blinds everyone 😂😂😂

  • @ariihocollin4648
    @ariihocollin4648 Před 10 měsíci +17

    This show has shaped me so much and I'm deeply grateful. When Mrs. Mulondo was talking about financial personalities, I remembered that we also have financial traumas yet people don't realise. I'm suggesting we talk about more it. Otherwise I'm glad I joined watching this show in my early twenties, my decisions are now more clear and I know exactly what it is I want and won't settle until I get it.

    • @BrendaBweiiza
      @BrendaBweiiza Před 8 měsíci

      I feel like we shld hv another show about this topic, wish to listen more of it. Its wide with different topics to consider ( talking to yoself, finance,polygamy,...) its alot under

  • @namugumyacathy6147
    @namugumyacathy6147 Před 10 měsíci +47

    This episode is mainly for us who are not yet married thank you ladies 🥰🥰🥰

  • @luckydaphine8050
    @luckydaphine8050 Před 10 měsíci +19

    One of my friend asked his boyfriend mbu babe what are we??he replied mbu we are Ugandans. 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @shamimsulaiman4445
    @shamimsulaiman4445 Před 10 měsíci +9

    When Rachel speaks ❤❤❤

  • @mercymukisa9297
    @mercymukisa9297 Před 10 měsíci +8

    Who is their mentor, it is important that you look into where your future spouse gets counsel. Do not settle for things like I do these things alone.

  • @kaihuramercy1673
    @kaihuramercy1673 Před 10 měsíci +4

    The conversation on how to fix it when things go wrong needs to be had. How to handle conflict in a way that wont break them apart but rather be a source of learning and growth.

  • @dianahmusiime4891
    @dianahmusiime4891 Před 10 měsíci +7

    Thanks Recheal and Angie for being soooo realistic

  • @tracynamaganda2732
    @tracynamaganda2732 Před 10 měsíci +11

    Am so so so glad am getting to hear this conversation before messing up.. 27 no child, in a long distance relationship with someone from my religion and my tribe..Former childhood bestfriend. Same story with Manuela. Holy spirit confirmed it.. And now l have more clarification..

    • @manuelap.mulondo
      @manuelap.mulondo Před 10 měsíci +1

      Amen. Happy for you. Don't forget to get the third confirmation. All spirits must be tested

  • @tumwebaze
    @tumwebaze Před 10 měsíci +5

    You guys are doing serious ministry....some of these things people do not even hear in pre-marital counselling...well done girls...

  • @esthermwanje5908
    @esthermwanje5908 Před 10 měsíci +8

    This was my episode who is 30 but not in a relationship knowing what to talk about thanks girls with love from bump fan

  • @jackiezcribbabycenter8083
    @jackiezcribbabycenter8083 Před 10 měsíci +23

    I love the way Pumla opened this episode, and I remember writing a letter to God about the man I wanted, it was real deep conversation with God. I still have my letter, after 10 years I looked at it and I keep ticking. 😂 i remember mister telling me " I am not looking for a girlfriend " I need a wife😂, that qn. determined whether the conversation had to go on or stop.
    Though times change, one thing I have discovered is you don't go less of what your expectations were rather you grow more and dreams and vision evolve in that line as longer as you keep communication key in your relationship. Great information especially for the young people looking for spouses however the Bible says " A good wife/ husband is a gift from God. Pray and open your eyes at all times. Be wise 👌. ❤❤❤❤❤ to you ladies.

    • @godsfavoritechild3187
      @godsfavoritechild3187 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Did the man God gave you exactly what you had written to him in the letter?

    • @user-dc5pw6bv9u
      @user-dc5pw6bv9u Před 5 měsíci

      Actually, He gave me better, humanly I presented my petition that included the qualities of a man I wanted, but above all, I needed someone who would love me for who I was, And Yes God answered me and more. ❤

  • @wakielgabriella1946
    @wakielgabriella1946 Před 10 měsíci +7

    Im here with my notebook 😂 Thanks for helping me out❤

  • @biilungyeng5549
    @biilungyeng5549 Před 10 měsíci +5

    Aaaawwwnnn my bump lovers...I really love you ladies 🥰🥰
    Shout outs from Ghana ✌️✌️✌️💃💃💃

  • @rachealayanga8235
    @rachealayanga8235 Před 10 měsíci +7

    Angie! 👌👌👌. The conversation is on-the-go 6, 10, 15 years down. It does not necessarily have to be scheduled! It can be as you both brush or dress up for 5 minutes yiveni! It doesn't have to be over a scheduled 'date night'. Lovely conversation ladies!

  • @mcLeah1
    @mcLeah1 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Who else waits fr Friday like me🎉
    Thank you ladies....

  • @lovelydays1412
    @lovelydays1412 Před 10 měsíci +11

    I got married in my early twenties and still happily married. I believe everyone matures differently and different stages. These are good questions to examine yourself and potential future patner. Thanks again ladies for another banger 🔥🔥

    • @kiraboneema808
      @kiraboneema808 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Am with u even our granny's married before 20 and has successful marriages

    • @joantheokabuye6517
      @joantheokabuye6517 Před 10 měsíci

      @@kiraboneema808 don't count on them because dnas seem to prove most grannies have kids out of wedlock

    • @katoedith3778
      @katoedith3778 Před 10 měsíci

      ​@@kiraboneema808 our grannies kugumad😂😂😂
      And the families (more mature people) chose partners for them

  • @bendealice6538
    @bendealice6538 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Banage Rosette when you talk about what our partners like, banage with my husband i refused to do house work during dating, he had to take me out to tell me doing chores is a show of someone that can be a good wife. I openly told him if he wants to consider house work before marriage, he is with the wrong person, low n behold!! The man latter left me🙈 Banange it was painful, but after a while he came back, and now he is hubby. Just know I am glad i played that, it revealed alot about him.

  • @christinenakazzi280
    @christinenakazzi280 Před 10 měsíci +10

    Us singles nga we going to suffer!😮 We surely needed this, soo many things to consider even before you start a relationship with someone 🤦🏾‍♀️these streets are hard, thank you ladies.

    • @Flourish_today
      @Flourish_today Před 10 měsíci +5

      You will not suffer. Speak positively into your life. You will flourish, you will success and you will find a partner who suits you.

    • @kiraboneema808
      @kiraboneema808 Před 10 měsíci

      ​@@Flourish_todayhave seen people who don't even date, and have successful marriages and those that date, go through this, knowing this that.. same tribe but bad marriages

    • @kiraboneema808
      @kiraboneema808 Před 10 měsíci

      My dear these things have no formula actually couples that even don't date, have more successful marriages than those couples that dated and had all, this steps have bad marriages.

  • @olivia-kim-abba
    @olivia-kim-abba Před 10 měsíci +9

    Before I even watch this episode I have a confession- Am I the only one addicted to Bump Love? So yesterday I woke up thinking about my to do list- I had abit of a long drive to do and I was excited when I remembered I will be riding with BumpLove new episode. I flip to YT app and I just can’t find the episode🤔… i am thinking to myself what has happened to Mr Mulondo has he forgotten it’s Friday?? As my disappointment sets in, the holyspirit reminds me to chill- It’s just Thursday 🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️🙆🏾‍♀️. Ehhh bajenzi Bump lovers we need a brunch meeting at Tulip restaurant😂😂😂😂. Ok let me watch💖💖💖

  • @prossybwami7243
    @prossybwami7243 Před 10 měsíci +12

    I think about Angie saying that we should marry from our same tribe, religion etc is not necessarily the case . We can always talk to our partners about our values, norms and beliefs to see if they are OK with them because some of us don't even fancy men from our tribes.😅

    • @iamthemessagegrace4568
      @iamthemessagegrace4568 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Why do you over speak the truth prossy 😂😂😂,the issue of tribe mate is also at 0.1% for me😅

    • @shantalmuteteri5376
      @shantalmuteteri5376 Před 10 měsíci

      True abt not wanting same tribe lol however it would be so much if your tribemates however in short it's a hustle we have choosen 😂

  • @rashidahkakimba8996
    @rashidahkakimba8996 Před 10 měsíci +6

    I looooove Pumla....Cheeeiii. Woman knows what she wants and how she wants it.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Hahaha! I'm sure you do/can to. Thanks Raahidah 😊

  • @A28CB
    @A28CB Před 10 měsíci +12

    Questioning genetic diseases was my #1. Very often we disregard the criticality of questioning genetic conditions. Just to later discover your kids have Tay-Sachs, hemoglobin disorders, thalassemia and sickle cell anemia.
    It wasn’t until our daughter was born 3 months and 3 weeks early that I learned my ex-husband' maternal and paternal family has a history of premature births and Tay-Sachs disease. So, genetic conditions and amount of debt is critical.

    • @immaculatenakivumbi2090
      @immaculatenakivumbi2090 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Talk of it, its just a few weeks i have been told about hemoglobin disorder. That am a carrier.

    • @estherauma9353
      @estherauma9353 Před 10 měsíci +2

      And to think that the list of genetic diseases is endless. We need to normalise genetic counselling and screening

  • @twinamatsikoallen4209
    @twinamatsikoallen4209 Před 10 měsíci +8

    Welldone ladies. I needed this 4 years ago but let me choose to do better.
    Can we have the male views about this?? Please

  • @carolinemayende7917
    @carolinemayende7917 Před 10 měsíci +5

    Angie about polygamy your right!..I have a friend whose friends used to cheat and this year he also ended up there! Sadly for him the marriage is gone.

  • @mercyokorom1713
    @mercyokorom1713 Před 10 měsíci +6

    I remember trying to have that money talk with this guy and I immediately got branded a "gold digger". He was like why would I want to know what he earns if am not going to start demanding for things yet he has responsibilities that I don't know of. I had just started getting introduced to the money conversation and I was definitely not yet strong enough to delve thoroughly into it. I let it be and unfortunately for me, I was a gold digger till my friends who truly knew me sabotaged that rumor and it died down.

  • @proscoviaasiimwe6656
    @proscoviaasiimwe6656 Před 10 měsíci +8

    Pumla and Manuela, I would ask that you teach us especially financial matters in marriage and courtship

  • @geraldineliznakachwa3219
    @geraldineliznakachwa3219 Před 10 měsíci +5

    I swear when you spoke about polygamy, i remembered Angie supporting side chicks to have more children with the married guys mbu for stability, it broke my heart😢

  • @judithpeace001
    @judithpeace001 Před 10 měsíci +5

    Am always excited about Friday.......thank you bump love.......i thing us who are not yet married we know what to day in the right time .....wow i really thank you ladies for each episode

  • @wanjah.374
    @wanjah.374 Před 10 měsíci +9

    Good job ladies. What a purposeful and empowering conversation . Really proud to be an African Woman, look at us grow and glow up together 😍😍❤️❤️.

  • @sharonmukisa9318
    @sharonmukisa9318 Před 10 měsíci +5

    With all that is said, be the one to make a difference, don't be like others who don't, who haven't, who didn't get chance to important things.

  • @user-es5rv2dz3p
    @user-es5rv2dz3p Před 10 měsíci +9

    Oh Angie dear, how we missed you.
    Pumla as usual shaking tables unprovoked 😂 I love it.
    Thank you ladies. The amount of knowledge I have amerced from bump love beats all the Canadian prairies and what not that I have ever studied in my entire existence, Christ. Mwebale nyo.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před 10 měsíci +2

      Haha! Canada is looking for labor. That prairie knowledge just might come in handy 😅

    • @patienceasiimwe6983
      @patienceasiimwe6983 Před 10 měsíci

      Wisdom will kill you one day ladies🥰🥰

  • @biyinzikahellenliz3988
    @biyinzikahellenliz3988 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Thanks ladies for equipping us with advise we who are not yet married.
    And you have reminded me how C.V Mathews defines world view that your your world view and you world view is you.

  • @Kaine01
    @Kaine01 Před 10 měsíci +10

    Self awareness gives a ground to know your purpose and view of life and what you can accommodate within. Before marriage we should all be aware of ourselves and the adaptability to change. Even in a place where one is incapacitated, you already know your stand as an individual.

  • @joliejoan9383
    @joliejoan9383 Před 10 měsíci +7

    As a 25 year old lady who's grown up in the diaspora, am so surprised that such conversation are news to some girls (even here in London). But Mrs. Mulondo is right; young people should put 'dancing each other' on hold because your dancing 'parts' are not going anywhere, moreover time waits for no man. LIVE IN THE NOW, BANANGE! Be woke and vigilant kati kati.
    Anyways, thank you ladies :)

  • @tumwebazekenneth4492
    @tumwebazekenneth4492 Před 10 měsíci +6

    You ladies are the bomb! Grt show. I believe all the qns are valid but I think they're better observed like Angie intimated at some point, than asked coz chances are high that lies will carry the day. Genetic testing n qns about congenital diseases should be asked. Am also of the view that such conversations [qns] ought to be started way early with parents, this wld help the children ask/observe for the right clues when time comes. Truth is, our hearts always run so fast ahead of the head hence missing crucial bits in the journey of r/s which attimes are regrettable.

  • @berylchepkorir9953
    @berylchepkorir9953 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Rosette.. green is your colour. You look absolutely lovely 😍

  • @bettyna_bebby
    @bettyna_bebby Před 10 měsíci +6

    For the first time ..Rcheal is not the first to say out her views,,, Pumla took the lead.
    Otherwise am sitting here with my notebook n a pen, ready to learn.
    Thank u ladies.

    • @pumlanabachwa8668
      @pumlanabachwa8668 Před 10 měsíci +2

      But can't you just enjoy the content and not over analyse??? 😅

  • @msf8297
    @msf8297 Před 10 měsíci +7

    i liked angie's advice of getting genetic testing. and here in the USA, please...we need to check our credit score and college debt because money troubles and debt collectors are a no no for me. living here, outside of uganda, has exposed me to being open to other tribes, religions.... we aren't so into culture like that so it is easier

    • @kisakisakye9809
      @kisakisakye9809 Před 9 měsíci

      To add on yr issue that u're not into tribes/ethnicities, religion,etc: I think that's an issue that is only present in some few families and individuals, hitherto, thro' out the world; it has never been a big issue with the majority of folks worldwide! Africans have been marrying all over that continent for generations! Regions, religions have never been a big thing in separating us; because even when a person says... Allah for example that's Arabic language and for me it wasn't till after matriculating at college in the USA that l found out, that not all Arabs are Muslims! Additionally, from long ago the white were fighting each other and conquering neighbors; e.g, Britain is a mixture of Anglo Saxons: German, Dutch, on a grand scale. Such cultural concoction existed in Africa before the coming in of Arabs, Europeans. Again, u may see the Caucasians but besides their morphologies/external appearances these fellas have totally different cultures. H'ver, their open minds started long ago and to demystify such negativities; that's why royal families in eastern Europe could marry from Western Europe, vice versa! Then came a time when they traversed the world in such of wherewithals which culminated into the deception of discovering the Americas...bcz u can't discover where other people already are inhabitants! As they came to the Americas they further intermarried; moreso they started leaving their women in the homes to go and sleep with their slave women! Lastly, the founders of religion fathom it that it's an option of the mind; today u're Catholic, tomorrow u're Adventist or protestant/ which means protesting the other faith! In Africa we had our ways of communicating with Allah or God; in BUGANDA, for instance, gods had different names based on what the natives were pleading for at a given moment! And this fact is well elucidated by the names: mukasa, Musoke, Muwanga, kisaakye, Kiwanuka, etc. This phenomenon was true throughout Africa!
      In a recapitulation, when it comes to ethnic segregation the Asians were the most, worst adamants! Nonetheless, amongst their newer generations that mindset has evolved! For instance: Indian girls are falling in love and marrying Africans today, this' all over the hemisphere; Koreans are marrying anybody, Chinese are marrying everyone and during the pandemic of covid-19, unexpectedly we saw how many Chinese have married Africans inside China mainland!

  • @thechristianperspective
    @thechristianperspective Před 10 měsíci +10

    So no one is commenting about racheals tshirt and the msg on it.... Christ all the way

  • @sheilynananura9228
    @sheilynananura9228 Před 10 měsíci +5

    So many nuggets herein. What struck me the most is the bit on financial personality. We tend to downplay a lot on finances and this impacts our relationships. Thanks ladies for always sharing the truth candidly but also gently. Bless❤

    • @manuelap.mulondo
      @manuelap.mulondo Před 10 měsíci

      Very important discussion to have and observe with your eyes......

  • @wardha448
    @wardha448 Před 9 měsíci +2

    I am literally 23 yrs and I feel I really understand the coming point and love these guys cause these always states of confusion in myself most especially when it comes to let's have settles relationships but this give me alot of confidence

  • @couragehassan6906
    @couragehassan6906 Před 9 měsíci +3

    Am always hesitant to comment on the forum partly because I scroll through and hardly come across comments from male gender...😅but I enjoy the conversations,thou with my reservations

  • @rosegichia700
    @rosegichia700 Před 10 měsíci +8

    Hello bump love queens. Yes I'm commenting before watching because I know it will be lit🔥🔥. New fan from Kenya. I'm still re-watching old episodes & I must say I don't know why I dint know you sooner🤩🤩
    Edit: The convo about money is actually very important. Especially one's money personality.

  • @kiraboemilly9869
    @kiraboemilly9869 Před 10 měsíci +5

    Thanks Ladies for such an informative episode! Everyone needs to watch this. You all are so full of knowledge.

  • @user-ec2wl9di4o
    @user-ec2wl9di4o Před 10 měsíci +3

    Wow, this show was straight to me. Am going to listen to it over and over again. Thanks, ladies, for the wisdom shared.

  • @gloriamutoni5137
    @gloriamutoni5137 Před 10 měsíci +21

    Given increasing infertility problems, couples should discuss options that they will consider if they face them. Ask your date/partner, what if we never have children? Would you be open to do IVF or other assisted reproductive techniques?

  • @viqueakky9018
    @viqueakky9018 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Thx ladies for educating us. Can't wait for Men's perspective on the topic.

  • @marthanafula4626
    @marthanafula4626 Před 10 měsíci +6

    I have really loved this episode it has made a lot of sense to me . Usually there are things we ignore during the dating process but you have opened my eyes . Thanks for always educating and entertaining us I really learn a lot from you ladies. Lots of love from this side. Looking forward to the next episode.

  • @namulindageorgette.m6243
    @namulindageorgette.m6243 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Hey bump love,thanx for the show. You ladies bring up topics that are happening in my life. Dating stage is not easy but with these bump love episodes we shall over come. Thank you for this knowledge .

  • @rosenantale2800
    @rosenantale2800 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Me wen it comes to disclosing finance hoo! I don't give correct info 😢 but all these conversations are uncomfortable coz truth be told some people are not true to themselves but u have articulated it well ladies big up

  • @natsmartha7475
    @natsmartha7475 Před 10 měsíci +5

    Angie says marry from your tribe, religion and I would love to add and tell the ladies, out of the the 50 expectations you set, if he has 49, give him a chance.

  • @maggieainembabazi6713
    @maggieainembabazi6713 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Thank you ladies for being such a blessing to all of us. This conversation has honestly touched my heart!!!

  • @aurahkirabo
    @aurahkirabo Před 10 měsíci +11

    Rachel’s last point just liberated me, that’s what I have been struggling with. Thanks Rach

  • @fridahblessings4602
    @fridahblessings4602 Před 10 měsíci +7

    ooh God i be waiting for Friday like nothing,i love Pumla,s phrase of ideas,her reasoning and she does her

  • @namugerwajuliet4633
    @namugerwajuliet4633 Před 10 měsíci +5

    Rosette ❤️❤️i love what am staring at 🥰🥰banange u lady ur glowing, u must be having a peace of mind ❤ thanks women , Friday is done here🥰

  • @user-zm2kh7lu3e
    @user-zm2kh7lu3e Před 10 měsíci +2

    This was indeed an awesome conversation.
    Thanks for the love ladies, the shows are really educative, mind opening and entertaining.
    Love y'all 💕💕

  • @malaikamalaika4062
    @malaikamalaika4062 Před 10 měsíci +7

    Thank you,Ladies,for especially the financial conversations and being able to discern and listen to the silences. What happens if we are to have only gal children? Atte the 'small small' compromise of 'dancing the twins'. May God grant us wisdom.

  • @ethel6651
    @ethel6651 Před 10 měsíci +4

    Thank you ladies. This was a great conversation.
    I believe that having different personalities is very okay because you're able to complement each other.
    As long as you share the same world view, beliefs and values

  • @Nze_momo
    @Nze_momo Před 10 měsíci +6

    Learnt a lot before I embark on this marriage journey… thank you ladies ❤

  • @basketballdiaries2846
    @basketballdiaries2846 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Finances, will make or break you. Very important conversation 👌

  • @justineamulen5755
    @justineamulen5755 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Manuella and pumla, we appreciate the leg power😅

  • @aggiekisakye674
    @aggiekisakye674 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Thank you so much ladies😭 This episode is all things important. Thanks for sharing always, so much wisdom 🙏

  • @imeidamoraa3966
    @imeidamoraa3966 Před 10 měsíci +5

    I'm a KENYAN from Kisii Community married to a Ugandan from Lang'i Community

  • @wasswashafik
    @wasswashafik Před 10 měsíci +5

    Thank you, Ladies. Besides all that is mentioned, it's important to have open, honest and uncomfortable discussions with your partner about various aspects of your life together. These discussions can help ensure that you are on the same page and have a strong foundation for your marriage. Some technical questions to consider can depict the inner person in your partner:
    (1) Health and Wellness
    Are there any existing health issues or concerns that could impact our relationship or future plans?
    How do we prioritize physical and mental well-being in our lives, and how can we support each other in staying healthy?
    (2) Communication and Conflict Resolution
    How do we handle disagreements and conflicts, and what strategies do we plan to use for resolving them? What are our communication styles, and how can we improve our communication as a couple?
    (3) Long-Term Goals
    What are our individual and shared long-term goals for our life together?
    How do we envision our retirement and financial planning for the future?
    (4) Social and Support Networks
    How do we plan to maintain relationships with our friends and family after marriage?
    How can we support each other's social and emotional needs?
    And (5) Negative Individual Traits. Using a critical approach, in most cases, our partners tend to depict some bad manners, and we let it be. Choosing not to discuss, demonstrates a fishy future.
    May all of us have blessings and peace with our partners. Amen.

    • @gift2362
      @gift2362 Před 10 měsíci

      It's true😊😊😊

  • @daphinedash2704
    @daphinedash2704 Před 10 měsíci +2

    This came in at the right time in my life when I am having these conversations with myself. Thank you ladies!

  • @peacegabula8239
    @peacegabula8239 Před 10 měsíci +5

    I think these questions shouldnt be used to try to find someone like u. Coz most likely the person u marry is totally different from u. Similarity isnt necessarily marriage compartiblilty. The answers to some of these can help u know how to "assist" yourself when u get there. But also realise growth happens and growing together is a good thing. That said one should have their most important questions. Other boxes get ticked [or not] later in life when maturity happens for the 2

  • @nakaweesisharon7067
    @nakaweesisharon7067 Před 10 měsíci +3

    These types of conversations are so on point. I would say that, in the early stages it is even easier to have the conversations take advantage and later in the relationship just do it, at a point when you feel you are able whatever comes out, you have done your part.

  • @bendealice6538
    @bendealice6538 Před 10 měsíci +3

    Am glad this has come up now. Gosh! I need a meeting with myself on a certain issue coming up now.
    Good Lord also I have had a conversation with someone, I have asked questions and I have received answers that have led me to a serious decision with them. Thanks ladies for today's topic.

  • @doralove1613
    @doralove1613 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Give God your marriage life because he will give u the fitting shoe for u .. Trust me for that

  • @belindamunguci3331
    @belindamunguci3331 Před 10 měsíci +8

    Beautiful insights in this episode. I particularly like Manuela's submission about knowing your partners financial behaviour, critical! Thanks ladies for making our Fridays. I always look upto a Friday every week🤭

  • @yvonnewinfreyug
    @yvonnewinfreyug Před 10 měsíci +4

    I love you more and more ladies, thanks for helping me/us to be/do better whenever you're vulnerable with your experiences.Thanks always

  • @victorianamwanje2825
    @victorianamwanje2825 Před 10 měsíci +2

    I’m glad I can get to know this information before it’s late, thank you ladies🙏🏾 may God bless you

  • @ainebyonaesther3466
    @ainebyonaesther3466 Před 10 měsíci +5

    I love bump love ❤ Thank you so much ladies

  • @mfsoul6908
    @mfsoul6908 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Wow! Conversations!.
    Thank you, ladies, for these lessons . I'm starting on my questionnaire right away. Be blessed

  • @susanvortmann3719
    @susanvortmann3719 Před 10 měsíci +12

    Thank you ladies as always. I Was just worried today you didnt have something to drink. We need sponsers here to sponser you with drinks. One hour without something to drink is not healthy. I beg all the Sponsers to remember our Ladies who takes time to educate us always ❤