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- We asked you to ask the guys ANYTHING that you would want answered from a male perspective, and they DELIVERED.
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We asked you to ask the guys ANYTHING that you would want answered from a male perspective, and they DELIVERED.
We are so excited for you to watch this episode and know that you'll love it.
Let us know what surprised you most about their point of view in the comments below.
Thanks to Brian, Patrick, Ben and Mathew for the awesome show!
With love from Bump Love 🤣
If you enjoyed this video please like it, share with someone who will relate and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one.
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Bestest episode!
Everything was on point👌
Please don’t allow them there unsupervised again. Please. Thanks.
Please don’t allow them there unsupervised again. Please. Thanks.
Rach Mwine wesibe biiri, ur man is not so easy. Mukowu nyooooo eeeeeehhhh
I was a student mother..my mum was the toughest in the area we lived in..everyone knew her..when I came home pregnant n crying..she broke down with me..she hugged me n told me we shall get through it..and indeed we did get through it..
Ben properly explained grace on this. It is the grace that puts us in line
I wish i had amother wen i became astudent mother
Aww and I bet she is the bestest grandma too
"...and indeed we did get through it." Love this. Hugs. P
@@NOTANOTHERCZcams yes she is the best..and my number one fan
Woooooow I like the episode
Mulondo has matched very well as the wife
Mathew as Angie 😅
Salvador has shared both Pumla and Rosette's character.....😀 Very lively....
Ben as serious as the wife😅😅😅😅😅😅😅. Enjoyed and learnt.
Brian, there could not have been a better host 🥳
The Spouses to these men, Bambi forgive them if you feel like they over-shared. We needed it raw.
Ben showed the best poise,Mulondo was the most joyous,Mathew was the most calm and ofcourse Salvador was there to stir fun😂😂😂😂but kudos guys it was alllllll intriguing and actually straightening at the same time
Mathew is an empath, love that. If all men could relate like him
The chemistry between the men is 👌🏾
Away from the show. They are close friends.
Cuz thy a close friends even off camera 😂😂😂
Brian seems mindful in his interventions, which is nice. I also get vibes that his marriage to Manuela is founded on partnership and friendship. I see it in the way they interact, which is a better approach as opposed to expectations around holding just a title of wife and husband. Doesn't mean they dont have problems, seems they are comfortable being vulnerable around eachother. Most men in Ug mistake being vulnerable to being weak. They are OK being vulnerable everywhere else but at home, which is why they dont feel taken care of by their spouses. I know women we are not innocent in all this but men do set trends on how they get treated at home.
I love bumplove and was excited for the men take over but I couldn’t get myself to watch till the end. There was a lack of accountability for the most part. There was visible evidence of a lack of communication but very high expectations of women in marriage. I personally lost it when the “ men being friends with their wives and women forgetting their place “ statement was made. It felt as though women are more like servants and men are some where in a high place that women shouldn’t have access to. I understand men rarely speak up and we don’t want criticize what was said but this also feels like we gaslighting each other into not expressing how it felt listening to this conversation. I think expressing ourselves should start a conversation of self examination. Now there could have been better points that I missed because I couldn’t finish the show. I really hope there was. Otherwise, this shows our men need to be more intentional with working on their self awareness, communication and understanding when it’s healthy to feed the ego and when to not. Thanks!
I am sorry but I think you approached this with too much of emotions. And I hope this is not how you address all your issues. Because when you want to have an objective conversation, should be able to listen to even things that sit well with you, and listen to them with an open mind, not biases.
@Pac Isco I would appreciate if you addressed the rest of the points i mentioned because they explain why I was unsuccessful with finishing the video. You can’t just address an effect and ignore the cause.I would like to hear your perspective on those points. Thanks!
Your response shows clearly that you got the message.
There’s lack of accountability and justification of abuse from some of these men (and all those they are representing here). This constant reference to “…as a man, I should … because I’m a man” and “... women should do a, b, c, …z because they are women …” etc is very problematic. Many women cannot stand toxic masculine behavior anymore (and if they are doing so, they are tolerating you), and honestly women shouldn’t carry that burden. Men should positively contribute to changing this narrative concerning gendered roles and practice. Women should start unlearning tolerating some things that no longer serve them. Traditional gender roles are a thing of the past and that’s just the truth. Let’s make the world better by creating better systems that serve the current societal needs. Toxic masculinity behavior is alive and well in this conversation, unfortunately.
Yes, like when Mathew said the man is financially stressed because of pregnancy and the woman carrying triplets has to chip in..uuum how? Abandon the new borns and go to work?
What a time to be alive...men getting to express themselves,giving their PoV, being vulnerable & honest. This is a facet of equality,allowing all sides to be heard. Thank You!
I agree 1000 percent
It's amazing how Manuela and Brian speak so alike 😀
I thought I was the only one that noticed that. Wow
Hmmm so iam not alone!
The comment i was looking for😂😂😂😂
People who share a duvet after a few years start to resemble each other
The laughter.......so alike
Kindly note that no one knows when they are at depression. please don't blame anyone for the aftermath, you men need to observe the character change, even with other people like our parents, you cannot blame anyone for not telling you that they are getting in to depression, they just don't know or they are in denial. its never easy for anyone
Well said!!!!
I agree with you! I think women invest alot in understanding men and their emotions. They will ask, read and attend seminars but you hardly see that kind of effort from men. I think it's time for men to put some effort. Read and ask about pregnancy, motherhood etc. It will may be increase your empathy and compassion towards women and improve the communication.
@@winnienassazzi4484 Facts!!!! Many men focus just on the financial aspect ( which is great by all means) but all the other areas are Equally important. They will not want to go to therapy, they too have childhood trauma that is not dealt with etc. They always refer to the woman of those days, but guess what, she was just as stressed but hid it well from her children. If you look at many photos, you will see a sadness in their eyes. Secondly, many gave very harsh punishments to their children. Part of that was the marital stress they were bottling up 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
This is true Juliana. People really don't know that they are depressed. The ones around them should do the work and support when they see the signs. P
Never commented on anything ever but couldn't resist.
This conversation can run you up a wall with the patriarchal attitudes, excuses,and sense of entitlement, but the fact is we need to celebrate the fact that men can finally share their honest(even when unpleasant) thoughts and feelings. That's the beginning of dialogue, which will hopefully bring about mutual understanding.
I feel you on this!! I was so surprised that these so-called ‘modern’ men still cling to old patriarchal norms and view the advancement of their wives and maybe their mothers as the norm in Uganda. The upper-middle class woman has much more access to a great education, and a great career. She can easily afford househelp which allows her to advance in her chosen career. This is not the case for majority of the Ugandan woman. I never heard any of them sympathize with the woman in rural Uganda who needs an ally to improve on her state. Acknowledge your position of privilege when everyone around you has an easier life than the majority.
The men were too sympathetic to men who get ‘trapped’ by women. Men can provide for a family in many ways other than financially, if that’s not possible. He can protect his home, offer direction, discipline and nurture his children even when he is not employed. It was refreshing hearing their honest perspectives though.
Mothers of boys, do better for the next generation, please 😅
I think negative Patriarchy is not good, unproductive and not needed. Same as negative matriarchy. But Patriarchy also has a positive side. Women always ask me to be leaders when it comes to provision, protection and etc. That's also part of Patriarchy. The challenge is also notice is that Women want men to be who women want them to be which is unrealistic.
@@kiizajohnson8684 there is no such thing as negative or positive patriarchy or matriarchy. Please read more on those terms before you use them
Mwine still upholds the traditional gender roles 😂. It's not just a woman's responsibility to keep the fire burning. Are you providing her emotional needs. Most men think it's all about the money and the woman should be the nurturer to everyone else in the home, displinarian, do the homework, work outside the home, etc. All these things take an emotional toll on the woman making sex the last thing on her mind. I think you should treat your spouse as a friend not a servant. Why not grab that juice from the fridge? Is it such a herculean task? Imagine if your able bodied wife asked you to remove her shoes every single day. Would you do it? Culture should evolve. Many of the so called gender roles are just skills and responsibilities that should be done by all people. 🤷🏽♀️
I loved the part Salvador talked about men being supported during pregnancy too so they better support their spouses
This episode is worth going globally viral. "Is it a premier league"😂😂😂😂😂 the things we take for granted.
I actually normally enjoy the men on this show but this one has grated my soul cos patriarchy is all over this episode. The entitlement is very very wildddddd. I just have one question for these men, if ur doing what ur providing as u say u are why are ur women still working ? They should be ladies of leisure retired off and enjoying life. Men expect women to work just as hard as them then come home and pamper the men ??? Not a single conversation was had about collaborative working in relations. I hateeeee it here sooo much.
Noreen honey. I do agree that some remarks were giving - patriarchy. I also think that there was so much to learn. We live in a culture where men dont speak up. When they do, we shun them for being medieval and regressive. I thought they were just being honest. So personally, I shut out the regressive parts and listened to the key messages. Otherwise, if you feel too triggered by any content, it just means the conversation isn't for you...and that's okay. P
98% of the comments are highlighting how good the conversation was and yet your opinion is otherwise
And if Andrew Kyamagero joined you gentlemen, I can't even imagine what would've happened. Can you please feature him on the next men's edition.
Oh yes I agree
Yes, Andrew Kyamagero would be perfect
If there's anything this episode has taught me, it's that women and men are very different. I have always known this fact, but this episode has confirmed it so firmly. And whereas some of the opinions expressed were honestly hard to swallow, I am glad men are opening up and as women, we need to listen with open minds. One thing surely stood out for me, the roles of husbands and wives in the bible need to be honored for marriages to work. The more we fight them, the worse it gets. If the man pays the bills and provides and protects, what's hard about giving him juice when he gets home and understanding what mood he's in so as to know when to pick a fight and when not to. Whereas we can wear the pants at work and be boss babes, let's leave those pants at work and not carry them home.
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Loved this panel ,they should be the one talking to our young boys ,they should be used as the face of our men in our generation,all married ,hard working ….
Salvador and ben are the most honest and raw…..legit🤜🏾
That's true 😘😘
The way Nabwiso cleaned up his face and put the katambala aside😂😂😂. He was prepared for this question
This show was so 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 i laughed from the begining to the end. Naye the discussion was on point. Please bring them back😊😊
Salvador, thank you for your transparency.
This is interesting 😁
It's always nice knowing the men's perspective.
What an episode! 🙂Please bring these guys to the show more often
Yes bring these guys to the show more often
This one was world cup for me..We need these men back @Bump love
Nedda Nedda we need a part 2... Wisdom.. Not married yet no baby yet but am glad to be a family here on bump love... Salvador was just so honest bambi
Yeah,we tend to judge people so quickly based on hear say and public opinion, yet in reality...someone just needs a tight hug! and assurance that they will be okay😊
Exactly what my mother told me. Whenever you accuse a man of cheating when he is not cheating, he will actually think or wish he had cheated. Men men!
Very solid panel. Ben's submission on finances should be every woman's take home
Hello bump love gents...as a married woman i have learnt alot about men i can can relate with everything that has been discussed.
Sincere thanks to these men n host.
Special one to ben mwine great guy last met him in 2015 in bugolobi dissecting the ugandas budget at the time
This thing of married people looking alike is sooo true. I see it in the men.
Love how honest Salvador is. By the way we miss those couple shows when are you resuming?
Love hearing from the men's perspective
How am praying for another episode like this but with both men and women on set. Am already imagining Pumla Nabachwa's views on such a hot topic 🥰
Haha! I rolled my eyes a little but mostly I laughed and I learned. P
😂😂😂😂 the expressions!
Mutuzo 😘
Great perspectives. From this insightful tete - a- tete, I come to the conclusion that men want the same thing. A Nigerian- man from Malaysia.
But Brian you have a naughty face, the laugh and facial expressions of when you did that slay queen mimicking, eyeroll and finger up - I died😆😆😆
This labour thing with my bae made me feel the most loved woman in the whole world, all the night I was dancing with my labour pains he was there to help me go through it and I can never compare it to any thing else.
You were lucky that the pregnancy treated you fairly I hated my husband from the beginning up to the end to a point that labour started when he was at work I called my friend and lied to her that my husband is aware but to far for him to come back so that she couldn't call him again and I was lucky gave birth before he was home and he surprised to get a call from me after labour
Just create a show wit the men . I think people need such an honest conversation 👏🏾
U guys are clearly friends!!!! I feel Eleanor has a very good hubby.....most men miss that.......the Bible clearly says women are the weaker vessel....so husbands deal with your wives with understanding......Ben and Brian look and sound like their wives 😅. Salvador's stories were so relatable and i learnt alot.
This is really good. When men have it. It helps a young father like me grow up. Whoever put it together thank you.
Great show! married and those planning to get married NEED to watch it. Both women and men. Thank you guys.
True, not yet married and am really learning a lot so that when that time comes it won't be a surprise to me.♥️🇿🇲.
Wow...in listening to these men in detail am starting to have a different perspective on marriage. It's about tolerance, it's about respect, support and effort. Thank you gentlemen and the incredible women beside each of you
Oh my God this was so beautiful! The urge to type my comments here kept up but the zeal to watch the next minute of the MEN's discussion overpowered me. Watched till the end and kept my phone on do not disturb! What a show that was! What a realistic discussion the men gave us. It is such a beautiful segment of bump love and I hope we often get them on the show. You all women to these MEN are married to exciting husbands. Your families are lucky to have you both as husbands and wives.
So disappointing how the men are just giving excuses!,🙄🙄 Being overwhelmed or not having the financial muscle is no reason to disappear! If you both consented to the pregnancy, there’s no excuse for a man to run, you should be able to go through it together!!!!
Mr. Salvador talking about spending most of his income on the pregnancy, is part of the responsibility a partner takes on when he decides to start a family! So should the women get paid for risking their lives??
Men, grow some ⚽️, and a heart and be real men and take responsibility.
Ps- enjoyed the vibe😂
Try to understand what the men are saying. When we go on with this attitude, we will never understand why some things happen the way they do. We women are not innocent either. So try to understand what they are saying.
Their laughter is contagious 😂
Ben Ben u have saved marriages...that was deep... Kudos Rachael ❤️
I would have Nini😜😜😜naye Mr.Mulondo
I love that y'all came out so real. And i keep talking to my fellow women about the man's ego. Also I speak about how most of the things are natural instinct to women especially parenthood but unfortunately are not as obvious when it comes to men. And this can strain the relationship.
Fantastic episode! I learnt alot from this. Please organise another for us to be better wives and wives-to-be😊
Loved every bit of the show. Thank you for serving something different. It was an absolutely great choice of the hosts
Absolutely to fantastic to have balanced the boat on this forum!!!! Thank You!!! Great insight from our Gentlemen!!! Tubebaza xx
Great presentation . they should have thrown pumla in there. To add salt into the wound.
Hahahaaaa! Wouldn't Golden Tulip have caught fire? 🤣. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 n that’s wat I’m advocating for.
Mulondo kudos, you always speak respectfully about your wife no matter what!. You don’t just speak fwaa.. that is lovely
Came here to hear praises for women naye mama ho! The men are using this episode to vent 😆
Anyways,I'm grateful for this honest conversation from you all our distinguished special hosts.
My man will reap from the nuggets I've picked from this conversation. Thanks Bumplove.
Obalabye 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣They have been waiting for this moment 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@anonnona6433 Nkugambye!
Hahahahaaahaaaaaaaaa! They have been patiently waiting for this opportunity 😅. P
Great show from the male perspective. Keep this show running, it is a very good compliment of the bump love show.
Thanks the men I love the way Mathew brought out his statements but the men really nailed it naye the I wish pumla was here for muchuzi mix😂😂💕💕💕
Hahaha! Golden Tulip would have caught fire mwana gwe. I think it is safer that I stayed away 🤣. P
The show was 🔥 🔥. Let them come back 😂😂😂
I love the maturity that was displayed here.
I love the fact that Salivordor is learning together with wife.....
Thanx guys for bringing yr ladies along on the finances
Era you chose well. All these guys haven't yet been registered in cheating scandals. And they all have respected their wives.
This episode was both hilarious and informative. Thank you gentlemen.
wowww....this was fun. need to be done more frequently and thanks for bringing the right selection of men. They exhibited Godly values and character plus respected each other. 🥰
Wondering episode indeed. Please include subtitles when speaking in your native tongues, so those who are not from Uganda can laugh with you 😂😂😂
Aaaaaawwwww....I hear you. Let's do that in the coming shows. We love our offshore audience. P
Ooh.....
@@pumlanabachwa8668off shore audience oyeee🎉🎉🎉
woooooh, Good communication skills and relationship skills has really been a key point in family and society .Thank you bump love ❤
Loved it!! Thanks for considering bringing this guys. Salvador made me laugh when he found out about PND on his show. 😂
When I was dealing with postpartum depression, my mother in law could tell I was not okay. She talked to my husband and asked him to find me help. I am grateful to her because I would have gotten worse had I not been treated.
Like Ben said, my husband was clueless. He talked to my ob gyn who helped find us the right doctor. Honestly as mothers, it’s not easy to notice you’re suffering from PPD. So you can’t just wakeup and tell someone you’re dealing with depression. And even after you’re diagnosed with PPD, it’s hard to accept help initially.
In this age of information at your fingertips(Internet, books etc), men should research some of these things or better still always join your wives for all their antenatal visits, know their doctors, ask questions etc
Aaawwww love. I'm so glad you got the help you needed. Indeed....Men need to do better so they can support us because we don't know that we are depressed. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 Thank you my dear. I appreciate you for always engaging with us in the comment section. Means a lot.
@@julietneubert I know right. PUMLA is a special being.
@@godsfavoritechild3187 Indeed she is!
Wow wow! It's amazing to hear from men, Fabulous 4, please come back again. Maximum respect to all of you, thank you for enlightening us.
This was a great episode. Men sitting and openly sharing out their experiences. I'm certain this has been of great benefit for both men& women.
What a vibe! Ben's accent sounds perfect but bring them often pleaseeeee..i have enjoyed every inch of it
We should have this more often
I honesty learnt a lot…
But salvador’ story of the lockdown was so relatable 😂😂😂😂Great job guys👍
Thank you gentlemen for sharing this was worth it #can't wait for another episode featuring you
I have loved the maturity and right judgement with which all issues are discussed! Keep it up🙏
I love it when the men show up❤❤❤ Our generations idea of feminism is just to live a promiscuous life ,they refuse to acknowledge the difference between equity and equality.
Anyway let me enjoy the show 😊
Lots of love from Kigali Rwanda. Big up to yourselves great minds. It's my first time to see Mbokoro like this serious.
Thank you Bump love for these men doing the show. it gives a great insight to us
Let's all of us know wat to do,..let's play or balance our roles as adults..ladies tuterezeemu ko..the respect is needed, gents are asking bambi🙏🏼
I couldn’t go past 25 minutes. It wasn’t clear to me what the objective of bringing the men was. Generally bump love discuss serious issues in a fun way to make parents and aspiring parents feel less alone and to educate them in a productive and achievable way. I feel like this episode was just meant to make men feel less alone but there was deep intention to help them be better parents. There was s lot of “what is the role of the woman in helping the man to ….” And I just don’t think that’s the only pathway to the creation of more present and informed fathers/caregivers/partners.. it sounded a lot like bar talk at some point and I had to check that I was still watching bump love…
I really loved the men’s episode from 2 years ago - “dad edition: when the baby arrives”
I found it also odd that the men were introduced by their professions without mentioning who they are as parents e.g father of 2. Not even in the captions. I guess that speaks to the direction this episode was meant to take.
I was smiles althrought... what a show! thank you guys🙌. you're legit👏...
A very enlightening episode. So good to hear the men's perspective. And so funny
Watching this very late (11pm) I even don't want to sleep this is too good y'all. These should be done more often please
This got me smiling throughout, very insightful interaction. Thank you!
Wow, I learned and laughed through it all. Thank you gentlemen. Please do return for more episodes
Men take over has killed me today.. thanks bump love, i have failed to even ask my question because of laughter🤣
So educative and funny at the same time. I loved this episode, thanks
This was so beneficial and interesting, thank you guys for the amazing show
Wow ,❤️❤️❤️bump lovers
Good to see you guys ♥️
Loved seeing you guys here sharing experience of real life♥️♥️
wow.....I've enjoyed this show so much. The men should return soon
This has been very insightful...pliz plan to come back with part 2...amazing episode its been
This was really life teaching and fun. thank you Bump love
I enjoyed this episode, just laughters
Thank you!!
It was so informative. The best session is when they talked about how men like to be treated.... respect....serving them etc....
This is really productive, hopefully we have more of men on bump love
I used to quickly flip by Pearl Magic except to watch Mzigo Express , till I saw Sanyu, the Nabwisos did a great job . The set and talent 👏 👌
But can we have these men back???? Pulizzzzzzz I loved this show, watching it the 4th time
Kudos to y'all wives bantu mwe, yr the men of our generation n surely yr so different 🙏🏼kudos to the Mwine', mulondo',idring'& Namwiso'..Bambi, bakyaala, mmwebale🙏🏼thanks for yr contribution era mwalonda bulungi🙌🙌🙌🙌
Been patiently waiting fo dis😘😘
Agree Salvador…. With or without the money, life should be consistent. It actually prevents stress and bitterness bse u eat eggplants even when ur not broke
I am so so grateful for this show Bumplove. I have discovered my mistakes in marriage and are determined to do better. I hope though that it is not too late......
But thanks. The men made every effort to be honest...
It's the white sneakers for me.
Ben Mwine; thank you so much for being open, honest and vulnerable.
It’s refreshing to see & you are one of a kind man.
May God bless you with success.