Woman Goes VIRAL For Wanting Love. Here’s What She Should Do.
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- čas přidán 21. 05. 2024
- The most popular genre of viral video recently has been videos of women complaining that they can't find a good man. Many single men, in turn, have the same complaint going the other direction. The inability of young people to successfully match up and get married has become a full on crisis in our culture. What's the cause of it, and how do we fix it?
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If she's having a rough time finding love being a good looking woman imagine being a mid looking dude in today's America.
Fr guys have it way worse
She doesn’t want “love”! She wants a multimillionaire!
That is the thing. Entitled, pretentious women, cry on social media for having high standards and get a bunch of sympathy. Millions of men who are average and not getting any attention from any woman and no one gives a singular fk.
she should dress properly.
She's not good looking
First red flag: woman sharing her private life on TikTok...
True Story
Second red flag: It's clearly Dylan Mulvaney.
🎯🎯🎯
The second woman - “I’m having such a hard time meeting men who are worthy of my time!”
Translation: “I haven’t landed a 1% guy who will worship at the alter of me!”
She has absolutely no intent on lowering her expectations and will end up being alone. Femism has pounded down her throat that SHE is the prize and men need to demonstrate their value to HER. Her bar in a man is so high that 95% of men are quickly weeded out as prospective dating material.
@@aeromedical6776 Agreed!!
having these kinds of meltdowns and posting them online is an immediate red flag in my opinion
That's what I was gonna say. Do these people realize that having this kind of active social media presence is an immediate red flag.
But it’s interesting from a sociological perspective. 😊
while I empathise with her wanting love posting this on tiktok looks unhinged
I can see that for sure and while I would probably never get to that point to actually post something, I can sympathize with being so frustrated and upset that you seek trying to find some kind of sympathy. Its hard being single for so long
When she is immediately complaining about what she NEEDS, this woman will be a succubus in any relationship. And that's why guys have ZERO interest.
“I’m independent… …it’s all about me… …why can’t I find love?!”
How tragic.
Maybe most man are betas and therefore, a successful woman takes away the masculine need they have to provide when they realize they are losers. Many man I know would be happy to have a successful women instead of a debtor, and addict with financial troubles.
The amount of “I” and “me” statements in a short TikTok video was ridiculous
@@hello1943Granted, there is mostly her in her life. 😂
So, anyway
You have to realize that these women crying about wanting a relationship are talking about the top 10-20% of men. There are plenty of men that are available, but they are invisible to these women.
Where can a woman just find a trustworthy man? That seems to be the most difficult trait to find.
I worked with a guy who was good looking, fit, athletic, well spoken, a house, and a reliable income but he could not find a woman and I think it's because he was only about 5' 5" tall.
Exactly. The issue is not that they can't find available men. The issue, for them, is that they can't find a top tier man to marry them. Modern women are so delusional.
Yeah who have no job are lazy you have to do everything house hold related and still work. Men have become a chore to deal with you take on TRIPLE the work when your with a man and women are just having a hard time admiting that's not what we want
Woman want a man not a man baby there is an epidemic of man baby's right now and I don't want to be a grown man's mother it makes me loose instant attraction
"Feminism" has killed the dating scene.
It’s a shame cuz these women especially the first one is so hot. She definitely would find love with me lol
Think it may in fact be a nuanced, multivariable situation but ok
No, free sex and porn has alter a man view of intimacy and love
Hmmmm i reckon it's the hookup culture
yes. See how she starts with saying "i have a job, i'm successful, i'm independent". Well, this is the problem. What she lists down as what she has is what is expected from men. She spent many years working towards that career goal, when she should have spent that time to find a man. At that stage, instead of whinging how no men want her, she would be sharing how she has a loving husband, 4 kids, and the 5th one on the way. No man expects from a woman to be successful and independent. A successful and independent woman will remind herself that, all the time, when her relationship experiences a hiccup, and therefore that she doesn't need a man to thrive. If it's not her, it will be her toxic girlfriends, when she tells them about that argument she had with the bf.
I met my husband at 19. We were friends first. We were both virgins. We’ve been married now 20 years. No baggage from previous sexual relationships. He works hard to provide, I cook and clean and care for our home and our children. Traditional roles are what most men want if they’re honest.
That’s really nice, if you have a man that makes enough to support you and your kids. However, realistically in today’s day and age, they are few and far between. It is a rare thing for families to be able to get by on 1 income. So, this causes further frustration for both sides of the dating game.🤷🏻♀️Men don’t want to feel emasculated. Women don’t want to be stuck “doing everything” in the relationship.
you should be working too!!!
@@jamesjames5715And you should be helping with cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, and taking care of your kids.🤷🏻♀️😉
@@catherinejennings6246 i have no problem doing that
@@jamesjames5715do you realize that you just told someone else's wife how her marriage 'should' be - withan exclamation point? Have you lost your damn mind? Also, do you have any concept how much labor is required to raise kids and keep a home maintained? So few words, so much wrongness packed in there...
I've wanted to be married and have children since I could put two thoughts together. I started dating my husband at 22, whom I met at church, got married at 26. Unfortunately, got divorced through no desire of my own. I couldn't get pregant. Desired a husband for 10 more years, but everyone suitable was already married with children. Turned 40 and met a man with 2 children. Thought this is finally it. He serially cheated on me, so I had to leave. I'm now 46 and have no clue where to meet a suitable husband. I've been forced to take care of myself and be 'independent' - I've never been that woman who wanted to be a 'boss girl', it just so happened that I had to take care of myself. Everyone in my life cannot understand why I'm single. I'm loving, caring, kind, feminine, take care of myself, yet, single. I have to be okay with it, otherwise I'll go insane. I feel for these girl
They're still young and it really hurts sometimes. I wish them all the best, truly.
If you're interested in a guy, do you ask them out?
My question for you, my dear, is describe the man you're looking for? I ask that because many or most women have unrealistic expectations. Women have to understand that most men are average and you have to be ok with that. Otherwise, you'll end up alone because you're waiting for the top 10 men, which are likely to not be the right match for most women
@juakin-qw8vi My requirements are these: he has to be faithful, trustworthy, kind and share my fundamental values of loyalty and trustworthiness. That is it. I don't care how much he makes, I don't care how tall or muscular he is. I want a faithful man who respects the sanctity of a monogamous relationship.
@@ElizmaBadenhorst You can't know that when you meet someone. You meet someone and you just like them. You don't know how they 're going to act for the rest of your life. Marriage requires a leap of faith.
@@annabethsmith-kingsley2079 This is true, but there are also ways of figuring out whether someone is likely to possess those traits.
These women can’t even bring themselves to say, “I wish I had a man”…. They keep avoiding it by saying “I need love” or “I’m trying to meet ‘people’…”
I thought the exact same thing
maybe that’s one of the reasons why they are single?
They’re trying to find the top 20%-er who they can get to commit to them. They don’t want to say it outright, nor that the one’s do they get are not monogamous or committed.
Actually she did say that.
Maybe because today, homosexuality is an acceptable alternative to women and maybe the real subtext in her complaint is that she wants a woman. It's certainly a sick enough world today.
If theses women actually went on a date, what would they talk about? If the only thing they find interesting about themselves is their career, dog, depression and therapy, what man would find them marriage material? Don’t wait until you’re married to be the woman you want to be.
If you want a quality man, be a quality woman.
Dammit, Trans women arent women. Nobody wants to date this guy so he should just give up
Exactly. Be who you want to be with. Great advice.
She literally says, "It's about me and what I want."
That's it. That's the problem right there.
100%
I agree. It seems her therapist isn't doing their job very well
@timnelson8656 The problem with most therapies(secular, humanistic) is that they're very much "self" focused. So I'd bet her therapist is also a female who's egging her on and encouraging her to become more self involved
@@triathlontimmy Therapists are smart enough not to talk themselves out of a job
Most therapists are obsessed with telling you how the world and everyone around you have wronged you and trying to help you accept it, rather than trying to make you take accountability for your own mistakes and problems. It’s actually rather cruel to tell people struggling that they have no control over their lives, they just need to accept their life sucks
No man would ever go out with a girl when he KNOWS that she'll be telling the entire world all their personal details the moment it's not perfect. Social media cryers will be alone forever.
Not only that, but what man wants to be with a woman who constantly reminds him that she can “do better”.
I know. I was thinking the same thing.
And, soon after, she’ll be telling it to the judge and asking for half his stuff.
It was nice of her to take time to show everyone that Harrison Butker is correct.
She's successful / independent / achieved pretty much everything. Healthier than she's ever been, very attractive. Happy with everything in that regard.
All the while........ completely fed up, done and finished with life, because those things she has don't make people happy. They especially don't make women happy.
Spot on. His speech was so well said and as a Catholic who is living what he promoted, I could not agree more.
The funniest part is that all the women calling him sexist are the same ones crying on TikTok about having miserable corporate jobs. I don't understand why it's so hard for them to admit that they actually agree with him...
She drank the feminist Kool aid
Good one. 👍
I question the motive/intelligence of anyone crying for help on social media.
its for attention
I don't doubt their sincerity. They appeared to be pretty genuine.
Social media. Try it. It's better than drugs.
Edit: the first download is free😉
I think you missed the point of the video.
@@ice_creamatorium YOU make me laugh. Social media is a drug. Doubt it? Don't sign in for a week. It will change your life.
It’s always sad to hear someone’s heartbreak over not being able to find a dude who’s a 6’4, jacked, professional athlete lawyer who makes 500k a year. This world is so unfair😢
Guarantee they'd never consider my 5'4"' 50K a year self lol
It's not like women are being unreasonably picky or looking for a multimillionaire, or something silly like that.
Women aren't really like that.
😂Jajajajaja
Neither of those women said that lol. The second girl’s experience was truly mortifying and sad
I swear, if you were to ask these women what they’re expecting from a man, you’d understand why they’re alone. Bang average women with totally unrealistic expectations for themselves
I think is the opposite, I have a lot of single guy friends at church and they all say that their standards are very high, they are waiting for a perfect woman in every aspect, and they are not willing to take any risk to ask a girl out or pursue her. They've become lazy and just used to being single, they are very comfortable like that because they know that being married is a sacrifice, and some of them don't want to have kids just to avoid the effort.
All I hear from her video is, "It's all about me. Me, me, me.". I wouldn't go anywhere near her.
MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!
And that’s exactly why she’s alone and incapable of having a permanent, life-long and committed relationship.
.. That and the fact that these people can’t be critical of themselves or come to conclusions without getting the validation of other people which are just as clueless as they are themselves.
And on top of that, when they actually find some truly valuable advice to get what „they want“ they are incapable of applying it to themselves.
For real - I’m a woman and even I don’t want to hear her whine. Ugh
It shouldn’t be about finding someone to complement your lifestyle. It should be about building and sharing a more meaningful life together.
I hear ya but at the same time, anybody who expresses frustration about their dating life is gonna be using "me me me" a lot.
As a single male who just turned 30 years old I find myself searching for the same thing these women are searching for love. Society has sold us the great lie and we have unfortunately bought into the lie. I'm not sure what the answer is but I know God made the family and Satan wants to tear it apart.
Leave Satan out of it.
He got bored with this world…too smart and honest to deal with foolish humans a long time ago…
Wya ? I love Jesus too 😉
If you want love, then crack open the Bible, and discover what the Bible says love is. Then, PRACTICE IT. And, yes, it will be hard to show love to the unlovely. But that is how you learn to love to the point where God can trust you with a marriage.
just keep in mind dude that satan isnt who you have to watch out for. Its single mothers. For all that is good and holy; stay as far away from them as you can. Satan cant do anywhere near the damage in your life that a single mother can. God commands you to stay away from these women for a good reason. Look after yourself and stay on your goals and you will do fine.
@@calvinlockett2963This man is speaking the truth. Been there, done that. Just RUN.
Wanna bet these attractive women are ignoring the 80% of men they don't find attractive?
And then playing shitty mind games with the other 20%.
Women don't seem to understand that men find probably 80% of women attractive if they keep good health. They don't appreciate how low the bar is and it gets to them
Ummm Matt literally says in the video you have to find someone you’re attracted too… would you go out with someone you find unattractive?
@@NorthCitySiderhow’s this insane level of cynicism working out for you? Do you have many relationships with women? 🤔
Who is going to date someone they dont find attractive? tf are you smoking? xD bitter ugly people are the worst.
Female social media narcissism is the problem
They all post their ass in underpants to the permanent public digital record and get about 1000 simps leaving comments that they are a GODESS! They have red flags written all over them.
We are not meant to be alone. Many people are seriously suffering from isolation and lack of quality relationships in life
This is definitely true.
Men want what they’ve always wanted. Fit, feminine, cooperative, childless, 20’s (fertility), not in tons of useless debt/bad with money, relatively conservative, no promiscuous past.
Unfortunately, these very basic standards that the vast majority of women easily met in 1960, less than 2% of women meet now. With odds like this it’s better to be alone. Men have their issues but there are far more than 2% of men worth dating/marrying.
@@Joe-hz1nwi can tell you, it's not 2%. That's easily 60% women you just described. A lot of guys are only looking at really attractive ladies and ignoring average looking women. And it's funny coz men also complain that women also only look at the hottest guys. Average girls look at average guys, average guys only look at Beautiful girls and beautiful girls only look at hot guys.
Passport broooos lol
I’ve been alone all my life from teen to middle age and it’s actually not that bad. I have my own place, lots of stuff and go on many adventures, not really feeling isolated and lonely. However, I still wouldn’t recommend this lifestyle for most people.
@@stonemarten1400 ''not that bad'' implies dealing with a woman is somehow preferable to being alone. I have done both and i can tell you that its not worth it. Modern western women are more work than help. They are pretty useless really.
Worth her time means a man who makes 500k a year and is 6'5 feet tall.
BS. I can tell that you are bitter.
dont forget he has to have one that is long
@@VP-bx2jj No, there's plenty of scientific data collected from dating websites. When girls rate the attractiveness of guys they know, they give them fair ratings. Most guys are average, a few are top-tier, and a few are bottom-tier. That all gets thrown out the window when girls rate the attractiveness of strangers. In that case, The vast majority of men don't even exist, and they only care about the 7s, 8s, 9s, and 10s, which is less than 20% of the male population. Since dating apps are all about strangers, all the girls are looking for the hyper-attractive guys, and don't care about anyone else.
Guys, it happens, give fair ratings to both strangers and women they know.
@@VP-bx2jj
Lol, you are clearly not a man who has ever used a dating app. Being asked how tall you are, then ignored if you say anything that starts with the number 5 is the absolute standard. Even women who weigh 500 pounds will tell you they won't date anyone under 6' tall because they "know their worth".
@@VP-bx2jjoh you got a lot of painful learning coming
The irony is that these are usually the same young women that were offended by Harrison Butker's commencement speech.
LOL, thats so true
Those women claim they want love but I would bet that, with comments like "someone worth my time," those women are snobbish and judgemental when on a date with a guy and eager to dismiss the guys as not worthy of them
I love how you make all these judgements and you know absolutely nothing
Zero nurturing, All Selfish Hypergamy. There are not after a relationship, they are after Benefits at Good Men's expense.
2 immediate issues with that first girl:
1 - “me, me, me!!”
2 - all the traits she used to describe herself were all masculine traits. Straight men don’t want to date another man
Spot on!
Nailed it
The problem is that she was told her entire life that those traits had to be reflected in women for them to be considered valuable by society and by men. Femininity was almost always framed by the media we were heavily influenced by as weakness, stupidity and an unbearable burden. Women don't want to be burdens, we want to be valuable. The trouble is is that we've been lied to for decades about what makes a valuable woman. We're taught that if we are dependant on anyone else, than we are to be seen as "gold diggers". If we choose to be stay at home wives and mothers, we're told that we "lack ambition" or are lazy and are doomed to a life where we feel deeply unfulfilled. None of this is true of course, but nevertheless it was what a lot of us were programmed to believe. It's a hell of a mental cage to break out of, and it requires taking accountability for poor choices we made earlier in life. It means coming to terms with understanding what it is one really wants out of life, and then accepting that because of choices one has made, it might never come to fruition.
Thank you! Brett Cooper covered this and said that it wasn’t her fault and that men should just be sympathetic to her and blah blah blah. No. Men did not force feminism/girlboss mentality onto women. We argued the opposite and were labeled toxic etc. now that it’s blown up in their faces, it is not men’s fault. It is women and women’s alone
@@kg2096 - this is valuable insight from a woman’s perspective. You make a lot of very good points. I am lucky that my wife appears to be the exception. She’s been able to find a balance between being a wife, mother, and having a career. We are both closer to 60 than we are 50, so obviously we come from a different generation. In my opinion Feminism has done far more harm to women than it has ever helped them. My wife has a very strong personality, but she knows when to defer to me as the man of the house. Modern women don’t seem to be either taught when to be submissive or just refuse to be submissive under any circumstances. They equate being submissive to being controlled which is absolutely not the same thing.
Another thing is crazy, is the amount of people on mental health problems, and everyone has a therapist.
I have a therapist, even though I don't have mental health problems. It's nice to talk things through with someone who can offer an alternative perspective. My therapist is excellent -- and even though she has a PhD and treats serious mental health problems, she tells me she's more of a life coach for me than anything. While I know there are many people with serious mental health problems, I find (and this is strictly anecdotal) that those who need help the most are the least likely to seek it.
@@01happykat im not saying people who visit a therapist have mental health problems, Im saying in the USA is the only place I know everyone have a therapist.. maybe people in the USA are very sensitive.
What you described about what your therapist provides is what your friends are supposed to do. You just pay for it.
@@medialistener 💯friends. family. cliche, but God, should be the first destination. that ear and answer may come in the form of church family. all of these are FREE btw, and come from sources you can trust better than a hired person, education or not. not to mention considering the hired person's motives, or why they are in the profession. ppl act like the only job bullies and particularly psychopaths want is to be is a cop, not so! "trust me bro"
@@medialistenerexactly... I was thinking... You don't have mental health problems...you also don't have a friend?
I was ghosted by a woman years ago on a dating app. She asked me how tall I was. I told her I was 5’13” tall. She told me she doesn’t date guys under 6-feet tall.
What an idiot.
😄 That made me laugh! (Though sorry you were 👻ed!)
@@SelenaSea ha! Thanks. I’m sure it was for the best. I’ve got me a good one for going on 6-years.♥️
I’ve always assumed that a woman who takes to social media to rant and rave about her life, wouldn’t think twice about taking to social media to rant and rave about her relationship / boyfriend so best avoided. The first girl says “stop telling me I’m wrong”… yet she wants advice on why she can’t find love. There’s the problem right there. I’m willing to bet that both of these ladies have met and dismissed loads of good men over the years because they don’t fit what they’ve been told they ‘deserve’. Unlike Matt, I don’t have much sympathy. They seem reluctant to see themselves as the problem.
Over the last four days I have had conversations with older women (60s), expressing their loneliness. Yes, divorce, death, kids don’t care, apathetic grandkids. Not just the young. Solitude goes so far.
Yeah , Just work at nursing home you see it all ( assistant live care facility is PC now for it I guess) and these warehoused seniors, that maybe see their family on a holidays, mothers or Fathers day if there lucky.
people in their 40s too. I had an interaction with a 44 yo lady, who is pretty much a stranger to me, & she poured out her heart about how lonely she is & the only thing in life that she wishes for is a husband. That she would do anything for a husband that was loving towards her (she ended up being abused & cast off by her previous husband & left with 5 kids to raise on her own). that week I also had a conversation with my 50 BIL about how ever since his girlfriend died 4 years ago, his life is lonely & how much he missed having someone to share his time with. Once you hit your 40s it is SO hard to meet someone & to accommodate them with their life/your life, their kids/your kids, etc...I meet so many lonely people.
@@pattyhansen7563 that said I'd rather be single and lonely, than married and lonely.
>>had conversations with older women (60s), expressing their loneliness.
@@sitka49 Damn straight! I lived with a man for six miserable years. It was the LONELIEST I've ever been in my entire life! I will be 61 in July and I am quite content and comfortable in my blessed solitude. I wholeheartedly embrace it and I am thankful for it!
We have a massive breakdown in the institutions where people used to find spouses: church, family friends, regular friends, public schools, etc. All of these institutions are failing.
Bro I’ve dated 3 girls from various churches and they were all absolutely crazy or wanted to get married after 2 dates
Yea no… times change but your list isn’t it.
Maybe join meetups? At least the activity you sign up for will be something you agree on.
@@Landlord_Tipper 3 is not a large sample
The "institutions" are failing because they've been infected and infested with woke progressive Marxism. Liberal people are now brainwashed and conservative values are looked down upon.
People ignore women's hypergamy when talking about dating. Notice the women say "nobody worth my time" whereas the man said "3 women willing to meet." So women think most men are beneath them and then are surprised that they are alone
The language and behavior some women use is unattractive. The ones that use "like", "literally", way too much; Thinking the world is about them, there is a level of humility that a person needs to have for me to want anything to do with them. Family isn't about you, you are just lucky to be a part of it.
"Am I just supposed to be alone? Is that the message? That this beautiful life I've built for myself... It's just supposed to be me in it?"
According to feminism, the answer is YES!!!
Beautifully stated
Exactly. She bought the lie.
The first woman says she’s got such a happy life and then goes on to say she’s miserable. That is a red flag you can see from mars.
I think the point that she has worked hard to build her life and has attained a lot of success. But she is miserable that she can't find someone to share her life with. That is a reasonable upset in my book.
Tikt0k is the first red flag.
@VP-bx2jj The problem being that she is probably only successful in the way that she was told would make her successful not what she needed to do to feel successful in her own eyes
But the things she spent her life achieving are not the things that will attract the kind of man she wants. Those guys don't care about her college degrees or job titles. They'd happily date a Hooters waitress with a GED fifteen years younger and in her reproductive prime. Women are trying to attract men with things that appeal more to other women.
@@Cash_AE Feminism has taught women to think a good, well-paying career will make them happy. They find out too late that it doesn't. They also have no idea what men find attractive in a woman (aside from physical attractiveness).
She's not going viral for "wanting love". She's going viral because she is so steeped in her own cognitive dissonance that she can't see it, and its fascinating to watch. She has no idea that she is her own worst enemy. It's like watching a car wreck.
And still blames everyone who tries to dig her out of it.
Girl could get a date in 7 seconds. Meet a nice guy - be open. Couldnt be simpler
Most men these days are also intimidated of beautiful women. They make false assumptions of you too if you just put on a lil make-up. How ignorant men can be but this is so unfairly true. Many men have told me this too: "you're so disciplined and always try to work on yourself and do all these healthy things and it's just too high of standards to have to meet or live up to".....yep, even good guys have told me this too and I am not too picky either. It's the low self-esteem that is eating ppl up in our entire society and ruining great opportunities for them but insecure types always sabotage their futures. My own parents are one of many examples.
@@kaitlynkarol4600 lol at your comment. You basically said that men are the problem.
@@kaitlynkarol4600Beautiful woman intimidates us as much as a little kid would, it means nothing. We don’t approach them because most of the are a pain in the ass.
@@loveleyday - You read what you wanted to read into it w/out having any curiosity. Since there is no nuance online or in the world much at all - you might want to exercise some balance in your view of other people's views. You fail to know my full views on this topic b/c I only wrote one of them. I basically am a diverse-thinking centrist and pointed out that people in general who are insecure sabotage their lives due to that insecurity.
This is how my parents were -- I said that too, and last time I checked in w/ the REAL science/ biology - there are only two genders so I blamed equally in this CONTEXT both genders, & by doing that, never said that men were 'the problem', which would be saying that men are worse than women. It's not as isolated and black and white like that. Just b/c you may see the world in only b & w doesn't mean everyone else does. Assuming vs having curiosity is where the probs begin! Wow - the irony is wild isn't it?
However, when applying proper context and nuance, men are worse in some ways than women and by the same token, women are also worse in some areas than men. Neither sex is balanced b/c most HUMANS are deeply insecure, which was my point that you sorely missed. You may try to read better and then concentrate better on what you're reading.
@@kaitlynkarol4600 My apologies, I was incorrect. I'll amend my statement:
"You basically said that [most] men are the problem."
Here's what you did: _never said that men were 'the problem', which would be saying that men are worse than women. It's not as isolated and black and white like that._
"It's not as isolated and black and white like that...." is saying "not all men", which by logic is [most] men. Not all men means nearly all men, which means most men.
She’s way too focused on receiving love, not giving it. That’s a huge part of it IMO.
That's precisely what feminism does to women.
Exactly. How many of these woman actually ask MEN what they actually desire in women? They take all their counsel and guidance from other WOMEN and think that’s a reliable source.
@@aeromedical6776this wouldnt even be a problem if they took the advice from woman in happy stable relationships, but seems like they are taking advice from "independant strong women" / bitter modern-day feminists.
That's how *most* women are nowadays. Especially Western ones. Women are solipsistic and selfish by nature, so unless their upbringing taught them not to be that way, they'll just default to their nature which is to be self-centered.
Men on the other hand are raised to be selfless. They're raised to sacrifice. Sacrifice for the things they want, sacrifice for the people they love, sacrifice for their country, sacrifice for "the greater good", sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice. That's one of the foundations that most men are raised on. Even to their detriment & destruction many times.
That's not to say that there aren't selfish men because obviously there are. Human beings in general tend to be a bit selfish. But by and large, women are far more selfish and needy than men when all else is equal.
So unless that dynamic is addressed beforehand, any relationship built on these two natures is doomed to fail the moment the more selfish one, usually the woman, utters the words "I'm not happy" and decides to take the man to the cleaners.
And not to mention that most divorce and family courts side with women so that they can punish & financially benefit off of men's misery & labor.
So when you understand that this is how most relationships and inter-gender dynamics are set up, it's no wonder men are running away from relationships at light speed nowadays.
This situation is terminally screwed in the West, as the Elites wanted it, and I don't think that's ever going to change for most people or for society as a whole.
So strap in and do what you can to get & keep a relationship if that's what you want. But for the most part, we can kiss legal marriages goodbye in the West unless and until the unfair divorce, paternity, family court, & alimony laws against men are changed & made more fair to men.
But I wish everyone the best of luck with that because I'd bet on He** freezing over long before that happens.
Yup, if she were focused on "What can I do to make myself more valuable to my future husband?", she wouldn't have much trouble.
Instead, she's focused on "What can I do to make myself better?"
I hate the idea of "Working on myself". It's narcissism. It's not focused on giving something to someone else. It's not focused on a goal of being of service to other people. It's just self-obsession camouflaging itself with the illusion of "progress".
Still single after 7 years? Lower the bar. Maybe you're not as amazing as you think.
Exactly
Im not sure its a selection problem. She's very pretty, and apparently successful. But it sounds like she treats people like servants.
She doesnt need more servants that are less capable, she needs to stop thinking of them like subordinates.
😂😂 yea willing to bet the problem is HER
I feel 0 pity for her. She's rejected plenty of men who wanted her in the hopes of locking down Chad. Chad came, Chad saw, Chad conquered. Now she has to pick up the pieces. Again, absolutely no pity, none
You don't know that though
As a woman who have never found "the man" in her life, I would like to tell all the young women that is still alone, you might never find a man to love. You will end up with cats like I did or maybe a dog, and think that you are alone, but trust me there are married couple that hate each other and still stay together. It would have been nice to be married, have children and by now grandchildren. It is not because I did not try, it just never happened. Some people end up dying alone. Sometimes it is better to be alone and lonely, because you can be married and also be lonely! I also know about couples that meet in the autumn or winter of their life and are now able to enjoy marriage to the full. Here is my advice, just live your life, find things to do, if you are an outdoor kind of person, do outdoor things and you will meet people also like doing outdoor things! Don't dwell on what you want and cannot have, because that will make you bitter!
You left multiple good men back in your 20s, its time to sit down and stop giving "advice" to other women.
@@user-ff8rs7gk6r Maybe advice from a woman is better than a man trying to tell women what they must do.
@@user-ff8rs7gk6r I wouldn't consider you a good man with that kind of rude presumptious attitude. You don't know anything about her.
I’ve come to the conclusion that arranged marriages set up by good families and friends may not be so bad after all.
This used to be the norm back in the day across the world. Now certain cultures in Asia still follow it but get scoffed at by us westerners.
Arranged marriages were a thing because 20 year olds are typically not equipped to make life choices like that.
It worked for centuries.
As a teenager, I thought arranged marriages were "oppressive".
Now I understand why they work.
Because in an arranged marriage, you are benefitting from the collective wisdom of your parents and your prospective spouse's parents. They are capable of evaluating your potential mate in ways you aren't. They are capable of evaluating their family in ways you aren't. And vice versa. They are also removed from the immediate infatuation you might have, and can see things more clearly than you. They can spot red flags more easily if they exist. They can also see virtues that you might not notice.
I also think arranged marriages recognize a truth that is lost in the modern era: that as important as it is to find someone who has the right qualities, it's more important to grow in a marriage. Marriage isn't about finding someone who is "compatible" with you, and then remaining the same stagnant person. Marriage is about growing together. It's about dying to yourself and living for your spouse. I think arranged marriages place a larger emphasis on this aspect of marriage - future growth together - than our modern "meet my prince charming" attitudes about dating and marriage.
Yes, but too many of some communities marry their first cousins leading to all kinds of problems with inbreeding.
“I’m successful I’m independent” = I can pay my own bills. WOW!
Too bad shes a guy
Yes and probably because she has some office job wherein the men do all the important work and the women siphon off the profits and are unfire-able because some affirmative action lawyer would sue if that were to happen.
@@Letsplay222Comments Like this are the reason I will only bring daughters into this World.
Hey there genius - here's a memo for ya: All women need to be able to have some kind of skill to earn a living with b/c guess what? SO many men are lazy bums who either won't work or they do and they're never home to spend quality time w/ you and you end up running the home by yourself which can be very lonely. Or you have to get divorced b/c the man is a wife-beater/ batterer, etc...and the woman ends up w/ nothing or little to no alimony. Or she does but it's still not enough to cover all of her bills so she must get out there and work herself.
OR - and here is the real kicker - wait for it - mic drop coming - MOST MEN DIE EARLIER THAN WOMEN so we are left to pick up the pieces and find how tough it is to be alone and penniless!
SO wise one - we need to have our own money for those times if they come b/c the gov won't pay much anymore and future generations won't have SS money to help them through. I see it all the time w/ widows. My whole family is full of widows who didn't get much in a pension plan from a husband that didn't make that much so there has to be ancillary income moving into the home for survival alone - not talking fancy things and diamond rings!
We need to include ALL the stories out there - not just the ones you hear about on mainstream media or your own fragmented spaces you get news from. Time to grow up and learn for real. Sarcasm can be fun and sometimes necessary but not in the way you wrote that.
Yeah, based on what feminists tell me that's just being a baseline adult, nothing at all special. Seems that goes in all directions.
One way to become a higher-quality woman is to stop using "like" all the time, or the f-word, while we're at it.
How did people become so insufferable? It’s everywhere like a plague
Entitlement.
When hearing about young men trying to date and meet a girlfriend today, the line that Ash gives in the first Alien movie comes to mind. "I can't lie to you about your chances...but you have my sympathies".
very apt. I gave up with the idiotic "dating" game 12 years ago. The dates I did get seemed to be to feed people you'll never ever see again.
😂🤭🤞
Noice!
Matt the dating scene nowadays is way worse than you think. I don’t blame you for being oblivious to the situation considering you grew up pre social media era
So you’re saying social media makes the dating scene worse… try getting off social media and getting out potential relationships. Yea, it’s more work, but it’s also more real being face to face.
@@kevinvitale8980 that’s not the point. With what a woman sees on social media, their expectations for a partner get higher. If I was a woman I’d take that advice tho
@kevinvitale8980 You can't just "get off social media", 90% of the women you meet will be active on social media.
The world is always online
Matt thinks everything can be solved by Catholicism and church.
@@aaronreeve1414 All the young people at the Latin Mass I attend seem to have no issue finding spouses. Have you considered that maybe Matt is right?
First issue, no good guy has a Tik Tok account to even know you exist. Second, guys are not picking girls up at the gym. You need to hang out with friends, go where guys are... sporting events, sports bars, local events and activities. Third, stop trying so hard and just be yourself. Guys don't like high maintenance girls. Hard working, good, dependable men are not at clubs or wine bars. They are at work and with family or friends in their free time. Forth, guys don't want insecure, drama filled women who live their lives on the internet. They want a companion who focuses on them and family. All that Sephora makeup and fancy clothing is a huge turn off for most men.
lol indeed
Another problem is that the good guys don't tend to be 6'+ and make six figures.
Another red flag 🚩
When someone says: “I want someone who's WORTH MY TIME/EFFORT/RESPECT”
That’s such pretentious and self-absorbed remark IMO
Im sure there are men willing to date them but it's the women who have an extremely high bar and then lament why theyre still single
Who hears "I, I, I, I deserve, Me, Me, Me" from these women?
She lost me when she said “The life I built for myself.” I’m like maybe you should have made room for a plus one in that life building journey😮
The life her father made possible for her.
I have NEVER met any girl that met those three basic requirements of: 1. Being attractive. 2. I trusted. 3. Shared by values.
If you want a fit, conservative, not in tons of debt, 20’s (fertility), it’s less than 2% of women. The data on that is crystal clear.
it seems that men only want the top 1% women too then. The standarts of "being attractive" for a woman in not easy these days.
If you keep looking for your significant other in dating apps, bars and clubs, you'll die alone. No good partner comes out of those places.
"Don't look for a spouse at the dance, look for them in the field."
-Ancient Wisdom
That's wonderful, but were you listening?
At this point good women don't seem to come from anywhere else either. Not in the West anyway.
I found my wife (of twenty five years, plus two kids, own our own home, nest egg, etc.) in a bar. Granted I wasn't really looking, but this is where we met.
I met my wonderful wife of 20 years on a dating website
Listing your personal achievements is what WOMEN want to hear, not men. We’re so exhausted by the constant pressure to produce and provide, we want a soft place to land. We want to hear that MAYBE all that stuff isn’t as important to you and that we won’t be loved solely based on what we can provide you
Exactly. Women can't even understand that all men want is LOVE. A little kindness, compassion and softness. It's literally free and it takes minimal talent. Just treat us with love and kindness and a desire to take care of each other.
If you want to be independent, go be independent INDEPENDENTLY. Don't ruin a man's life with your bullshit.
Just coz she's listing her achievements in this video doesn't mean she's doing the same during her dates.
Well put dude! Nicely said.
@@reginageorgetownuni true. But she’s posting it on the internet for even more people to see. Something tells me if she’s willing to do that, shes relatively up front about it and finds it one of the more important criteria for dating
Don't believe women will only love you for that. It's the same for women, we only believe men love women for looks. If we all believe that it will only damage relationships.
First rule about looking for love - you have to be lovable. These videos feature women who are so wrapped up in themselves they don't have room for a man in their lives and posting endless TikTok clips swearing/shouting/crying/insulting is not attractive. Be nice and you might be lucky enough to get nice back. If all you are doing is treating relationships like it is some sort of medieval jousting match you aren't going to be happy
True
Very true, most guys want an easy life with a kind and loving girl, certainly not needing her to be a strong and independent boss girl, bringing all that stress and drama.
Part of the problem might be that we put too much pressure on people to 'find someone', they're basically following the social cues of what they're 'supposed ' to be doing.
The second one was seriously humiliated. I'll give her a pass. Except she cried on social media.
I really think we put too much pressure on young people. I spent a lot of my young adult life taking care of a disabled family member, my life pretty much got put on hold for years. While that was a lot of responsibility and I did miss out on a lot, one silver lining was that I kind of got exempted from a bunch of societal pressure about what I 'should' be doing. I swear, people who keep worrying about what society says they 'should' be doing, it's like they are putting their own selves into prison and not letting theirselves out.
One of the biggest regrets of people on their deathbed is "I wish I would have let myself be happy". Life's too short to let society dictate how our lives 'should' be. I know so many people who bought into these generalizations of the paint by numbers life we should all aim for, and a lot of them are stressed out and quite unhappy. Meanwhile, the happiest people I know are against the grain weirdos.
I wish there were more legitimately independent minded people in this world. I think there would be more happy people walking around if that was the case.
Let's be real: Most guys who wanted to get married and start a family did so from about 23-29. Not all but most. There's also the guys that had families late like myself. But so if you're a girl age 27+ and up, You're looking for a nice guy who married the wrong girl and treated him badly and now he's divorced. That's fine but that's a small pool. And they're not at singles events, they're probably not on dating apps and they probably are hesitant to meet anybody. So you meet them at church. And if you don't go to church you're talking about an even smaller pool. Don't bother.
My wife and I found each other in our 40s at church. First marriage for both of us and we've been married for 18 years and loving it. I made LOTS of friends at church and they, practically all, got married in their 30s through 50s. Many for the first time themselves. It can be done, but you have to get off of your duff and do something. Working at soup kitchens, playing cards with the seniors at old folks home, Habitat for Humanity, bible studies, group dinner outings after services, etc are FANTASTIC places to meet girls on neutral ground. The dating pressure is zero. Add the social aspect of the church via parties, mountain getaways, beach trips, and you have the perfect environment to pursue the any woman who catches your fancy.
The thing is not that this woman cant find love, the thing is that she cant find the top 10-20% of men for her. Because there are plenty of men she could be with, but those botton 80% of men are invisible for her
Their problem is not that they can’t find “someone”, it’s that they can’t find a multimillionaire who’s willing to commit!😂😂😂
Matt, kind of hit the nail on the head with this. The online world has made people think that their options are far bigger than they are. All that has to do is complicate the issue. Compare those in there radius models, celebrities, generally personas, social media that is a recipe for disaster. Secondary to that is that more more people in society somehow every single thing in the world is about them they don’t know how to compromise, they don’t know how to see the other people value. They don’t know how to handle conflict. to these people a discussion is an argument. They do not know the difference.
***Women. The online world has convinced WOMEN they deserve more than they do. Men are still on earth with their expectations. Women are not.
Right, both men and women can find plenty of leeches if all they want is "Someone."
@@sheerbeauty I wouldn't call the bottom 80-90 percent of men leeches. I could probably apply the term to most women though.
@@Letsplay222 I was thinking of the bottom 10% rather than the 90% .
As a woman who has been single for years, I sympathize with these women to a degree. However, there are definitely some glaring issues which are contributing to their distress.
The first woman is living for herself and herself alone. That’s why she’s angry and lonely. We must learn to live for others. When you find the joy of being selfless and don’t expect others to contribute to your happiness, you find yourself contented. You naturally attract good things you weren’t even asking for when you live to give and serve.
The second woman hasn’t learned the value of others. She seems to indicate that she’s met plenty of people but doesn’t seem they worth her time. She needs a dose of humility and genuine love for and interest in others so she can see the good men around her which she tends to overlook.
Lastly, both of them need Christ! You will always feel empty and searching for love when you don’t know the supernatural love of God. I pray both of these women come to know that love and perfect peace. 🙏🏻❤️
Not convinced you necessarily need Jesus, but you’re right that you need to be open to others, something that I find difficult as a long-term loner. Anyway, best of luck at finding love Katie.
This is the most kind & true comment on this thread. I even hear married people talk about 'me, me, me' (me-time, alone time, MY career, MY house, etc..) We were made to serve others and the more time you spend doing that the less focused you are on your own problems or pride, It makes you a very attractive person to others - they naturally gravitate to you as friends, lovers, coworkers, even children. We are a selfish culture, which is part of the problem. But sometimes it just takes a while to meet the right person. Wishing you the best. When you put out good into the universe God notices. He sees you in secret, & will reward you openly.
Loved your kind nature, wishing the best for you!
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@@stonemarten1400knowing Jesus loves you is absolutely worth it. In most people’s reality separation from god is hell. It’s our obligation to call you to Christ. The way to the truth and the life.
“Thoust believe there is one God. Good. Even the demons believe that. And they tremble.” James 2:19
And Jesus said before monotheistic jews : “before Abraham was I AM”.
Here’s the solution to dating: since our politics are now polarized, dating needs to be polarized as well. When you meet a person just tell him your political beliefs and date accordingly. There, problem solved.
Problem is not solved, because the math still doesn't work.
As an (almost) 32 year old - chronically single woman, I will not stoop to crying and begging on the internet. Gtfo.
All you have to to do to meet a good man is be fit, feminine, cooperative, childless, 20’s (fertility)*, relatively conservative, no promiscuous past, not in tons of debt/bad with money.
If you are these things, you’re literally in the top 2% of women. In 1960 the vast majority of women met all these standards and more.
*you can’t control you’re 32, that is a negative, but you’re still able to have healthy kids so it’s not a huge negative.
@@Joe-hz1nw I am like that, still no luck.
Me Me me me me me….. it’s alll me me me with these woman. They’re clueless as to what men even want. And they’re expectations are so high.
It’s not that they can’t find someone! Their problem is that they can’t find a multimillionaire who’s willing to commit!😂
Where are her girlfriends to tell her to stop talking that way... Like Like Like literally Like.
Men find that repulsive.
She should just go to a traditional church. Young folks at my church get married every six months.
Right neither one said what they had to offer. I has this I did that. Great for them. Neither said I have a wonderful personality, I can offer this or that for a man !!
@@WideMouthtried 3 churches over the years. All the single women either had b@s7ard children or were obese. Each church would try to get the single
Men to date these women and be critical when we wouldn’t. All the criticism was towards the men.
It used to be churches would enforce norms like you have kids out of wedlock, you’re gone, you’re obese, you’re criticized openly for sloth. Not anymore.
I've yet to hear a woman on a dating profile saying what she'll do for a man. No, it's all about her needs. And when a woman gives dating advice to another woman it's always "you're a queen, you deserve, and never settle"
We're so easily pleased too. Just be friendly, pretty, a little funny and maintain a decent body. That's basically it lol
Meanwhile these women crying about being lonely have 800 men messaging them and many of them are very qualified marriage material. If only she’d deflate her ego just a little bit
@@matthewgallant3622just a tiny f*cking bit
@@matthewgallant3622Modern men are not marriage material 😂
Gosh! Reading all these comments gives me (at 75 years old, 54 years of marriage) insight into a problem I didn't know existed! Back in 1970, we found someone we liked and respected, married them, grew together and worked to build a beautiful life. It didn't seem like the insurmountable problem it is today. So very sad.
If everybody says that you doing something wrong, youre probably doing something wrong.
At minute 2. I'm SURE you point this out. Love is not about yourself. Love is wholly about the other person and your relationship with them. This girl may think she has a lot to offer, but none of it means anything if she's not willing to give of herself. She sounds like she wants someone who worships her, not someone who loves her.
The saddest thing is that I've heard my sister say something akin to this, although not nearly as bad.
It's a common problem. I know lots of people who just tell each other all day "You're perfect just the way you are." and it's just not true. Say what you will about the faults of christians, but that's one thing that we do pretty well--teach humility and charity.
Supposedly the last three posts on the second one's Twitter (before deleting it) were all about abortion. I get it's a complex issue and some women may be reluctantly pro-choice, but anyone who's that riled up and excited about killing babies is a hard pass.
True that
It’s really not a complicated issue. The only logically consistent place life begins is conception. If you don’t want a kid, abstinence, birth control, condoms.
The problem with pro abortion women is their argument boils down to, “I don’t want to take accountability for my actions, I want to do what I want to do, whenever I want to, even if it damages myself and society as a whole greatly.” which is their thought process for most things which is why society is in such a bad place.
@@Joe-hz1nw >>If you don’t want a kid, abstinence, birth control, condoms.
If you don’t value solitude, you’ll never truly value companionship.
That is… if you don’t get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness.
Perfectly stated!💯
"I don't want to be alone, but I've gotten pretty good at it" - Banana man, Adventure time.
Very True
I think I love solitude so much that it might hurt me in the long run tho.
This is cope.
Most young people have more or less the same fundamental values these days: THEY WANT MONEY AND FREEDOM. Which means not having to deal with each other's defects... and also... not having children.
She is saying, “are you f-ing kidding me” while puching her hand and getting upset. She is acting too masculine. Hope she gets better
You know you're in for a treat when you hear the word "literally" twice before you're 30 seconds in.
Best comment haha
Unless they are literally shaking or literally crying.😉
I agree with this. As a 50 something woman nothing gets on my nerves more than this overused n incorrectly used word. Even men n educated people say this but young women say it far more. So childish n ignorant
I had absolutely no sympathy for the first woman. She was entitled and intolerable... but congratulations are in order, she has become the man she always dreamed of.
Same. I laughed at her sad pathetic rant.
And I hate red pill/MGTOW crap as the bitter defeatist nonsense it really is. But bad women exist and they don't deserve forgiveness or love until they stop being... Bad women. That woman is undeniably a bad prospect from any sane man's perspective and she is oblivious to it. So, I laugh at her.
I don't have any for either one of these. And I dont agree with one word he says either. I see young people getting together all the time. I've been bartender for over 38 years and nothing has changed
May I ask where you live where you're seeing things pan out better?
@@tommac21 your anecdotal evidence doesn't negate the mountain of statistics.
I guess Im a sociopath because unless you have a problem that you have no power over then I dont feel bad for you at all. She definitely could solve her problem with just being humble and looking on he right place.
Get off Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, etc. just get off. Furthermore get off social media. CZcams doesn’t count because Pitch Meetings can’t be seen anywhere else.
I imagine they turned down the guy that wanted them 50+ bodies ago.
50 bodies ago was earlier this week. These Modern Women are all about the Streets.
There is another reason women with highly successful careers have trouble finding a mate: they usually reject all men who are not as successful as they are, and who are not tall, slender, and handsome.
Bingo... and in addition to that they have written list of features he must have. Some of these women have lists longer than a grocery list.
I've been in this position and that wasn't true at all. The most common reason I rejected men was misogyny. Men assumed that they were more intelligent than me and therefore anything that I had accomplished must have been easy and they could have done it (if they had bothered). Or they got aggressive and angry at any mild sign of rejection (how dare YOU, I am tall, slender and handsome!). Or they just flat out told me some version of women only want rich / handsome/ tall men and none of them can be trusted. When I found a man who actually respected me personally and women in general, I married him.
@@binchicken3677so glad you found your husband but as you can see from the video and if any woman bothered to listen to mens experiences then you would come to the same conclusion that the rest of us have and realize that alot of women's standards are too high and contrary to popular belief women can be just as sexist, if not more so. Alot of women are incredibly selfish and self serving and if men don't fit into the narrow high bracket that women have set then there MUST be something wrong with the men.
Whenever hypergamy is pointed out, there's always one woman that shows up in the comments to say "Not all women!!!"
That was a generalization. What you just highlighted is called an exception to the rule. And it does not push the conversation in a productive direction.
@@binchicken3677 wow my comment got deleted, how lovely. I was making a point that said women are usually more sexist then men and women have unobtainable high standards but I guess YT didn't like that
We do not live in homogeneous societies anymore. It's hard to find someone who truly aligns with you.
I was an expat American (living in C. Europe since I was 22), 38 years old, seven previous relationships (each years-long; no 1-nightstands); college-educated (at home and abroad), staunchly conservative Catholic upbringing (military family with 7 kids), had already bought land in Hawaii and was having my 1st house built on it (stateside brother was a building contractor, so I could do that from abroad, visiting only annually to take a look), was saving up for 2nd house, working as business consultant, when I met my 22-year-old future wife: Moscow-born (former "Young Pioneer" member) at an office party (she was pals with some of our temps, who had invited her along). Love at first sight. Married six months later, 1st child 9 months after that. That was 26 years ago. Still very happily married. Not much homogeneity there!
This is actually not a new situation. Women (feminists) have been complaining about a lack of "good" men for decades. A survey of these women was done back in the 80's and it was found that there was never a lack of men, but that all of them were deemed unworthy for various trivial reasons. There have been numerous TV shows such as Dr Phil which did special dating events for these picky women. Some of the reasons for rejecting the men shocked Dr Phil and his audience, mostly due to superficial things which could easily be fixed, such as "his belt was too wide", or "I would never date a man with facial hair" or that they were wearing the wrong brand of clothing or shoes. Decades later, we see that things still haven't changed.
Try being a short, average looking balding guy with a normal job. See how many women give you the time of day.
If you take responsibility and have the nature of a protector and provider.. it will be a lot of them.
My husband fits your description. I'm considered out of his league, but I was never the type who chose men solely based on looks and certainly, not money. The women who are rejecting you are doing you a favour. The wrong ones will not want you. When you meet the one, you'll be glad that all the wrong women didn't waste your time. Don't give up! Just work on yourself, your relationship with God, your health, and your confidence. You'll get your girl, trust me.
And, I can't speak for all women, but what attracted me to my husband (other than his voice) was the fact that he didn't praise me for my looks until we both confessed our love for each other. Instead, he genuinely wanted to get to know me for me, asked me a lot of questions, and invested a lot of quality time. Now, he later told me that, of course, he had sexual thoughts about me, but kept them to himself. It's gets really old when a woman is constantly told she's hot/sexy/beautiful by a guy she's just getting to know. A little compliment here and there is okay, but when a guy overdose it, it sends a signal that he's too lustful. I hope that helps!
I love bald guys! My husband was balding already when i met him. I cant wait til he shaves it all off 😃
@cb LOL Tell me you haven't experienced what OP has without telling me.
Shave your head clean, hit the gym, grow a beard and line it up, always smile, and watch what happens
Lower your feminist-inflated standards. And it is not being a sociopath for not feeling sorry for pretentious women who feel sorry for themselves because of their own high standards.
Yep😎
Entitled narcissists..
The problem is, my fella, far too many men are cheating on their gfs, living double lives, doing questionable things and not meeting the bare minimum standards of being a boyfriend or husband. Not even the "average man" is of good quality. I've never been in a relationship and I'm scared to coz of what I've heard from other people.
@reginageorgetownuni women are cheating on their husbands/boyfriends at MUCH higher rates. You don't want to talk about that part tho, ain't that right
@@reginageorgetownuni First of all, the whole reason for this perception of men cheating, is because the top 20-30% of men are basically getting the attention of majority of women. So for every such man you have 3-4 women who want him, so he can pick and choose and cheat.
And your second perception of the "average man" not being of good quality is because of YOUR high standards. One which has been inflated by feminism.
The average man is 5'9, make 65k and average build. This is what most average women should be happy with but, since they can sleep with a high quality man, they think that man will commit to her. He won't.
Comment section group A
She's a feminist, but men want to be protectors and providers.
Comment sectipn group B
Women these days only want the money, She's picky and entitled.
Now which one is it?
A lot of people here like to cast stones based on their projections. You don't know her well enough. I'm glad Matt offered a constructive take on the matter. And that's why we love him.
I know you're a cat lady. Or soon to be.
@@pitchblack758
I'm a dog lady.
I have a ring on my finger.
I'm amazed how people beleive they know exactly what she did wrong based on a two min vid. She posted her rant, that's where she went wrong.
@@pitchblack758 Thebreason why you don't post such rants is because you're going to have to face a fartstorm on the net. Opinions are like axxholes, everbody has one. Apparently you too.
Someone needs to tell her that heterosexual relationships are frowned upon in today's world. This is evident in the court system, where it's bordering on the stage where a man can go to jail for holding a door open for a woman.
I think 1 of the problems is their social skills are zero. My eldest daughter got cheated on, came to live w me along w my 3 grandchildren. 21 gl, 18gl, 16boy. These children (I love dearly) have many problems w interacting w other humans! The 21 yr old, she can’t/won’t talk on the phone, gives her bad anxiety, she says. The 18yr old, started dating a guy about a year ago, daily screaming matches bc their looking at each others phones and seeing things they don’t like, he ghosted her. And my 15yr old grandson, is afraid of the dark, he and his friends act like soy drinking, gossiping 13 yr old girls, absolutely hates school, won’t play sports, won’t go to school functions, giggles, either on his phone, or Xbox. I’ve tried to steer my daughter and them to no avail. Their friends think / act same. It’s hard to witness without wanting to help. It’s like their socially, I want to use the “R” word, socially lacking? Idk
>>My eldest daughter got cheated on, came to live w me
"I'm a strong independant woman who don't need no man!"
You got what you wanted, deal with it.
Strong, independent men should deal with their loneliness too.
@@true0204 strong independent men lives in reality called adult life.
@True And how many of these men are making ticktock videos posting thier Ls? Hardly any. The same cannot be said for women.
@@fireinthenight9028 What's that? Playing video games, beating off to porn, and getting stoned everyday ,and all in your parents basement.
@true0204 strong independent men are rarely alone, that's the difference between men and women.
Where's Gloria Steinem to comfort these ladies?
Newsflash: you can do all the "right" things and they still will never "pay off." Accepting that fact is where true happiness lies.
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Mute the audio and watch the body language of the first woman.
Over 2 dozen punches and sharp slicing motions with her hands.
Massive anger issues.
Punching motions? Have you ever seen an actual punch?
@sammencia7945 you are a good observer
I did it, and it's hilarious. Thanks.
She's got big hands. Looks like that Snow White girl...
@@Meauss I have in the ring. And yes those were acting out punching motions.
She wants a man with a six figure income and a corvette.
Don’t forget 6 feet tall
Unless he doesn't want her, then she and her makeup, bleached hair, botox, breast implants, lip fillers, and $300 shoes will squawk that owning a Corvette means he's compensating for a small penis.
😂😂😂
i disagree. Doesnt have to be a corvette, could be a bentley
Pretty much.
100% guarantee that the comedy show chick would find some petty, ridiculous reason to reject me. I'm probably 95% of what she's looking for. But even 99% won't be enough for a woman like that. Hard pass.
Instead of whining on tik tok, people who truly feel this distraught need to pray, reach out to a higher power, work on themselves and seek out the love they’re looking for. I also find it funny women like this are lying to themselves so hard. If she’s so happy why is she this upset ? Clearly she’s not actually happy
The first woman thinks way too highly of herself and would turn down a good man in a heartbeat. I don’t even think she knows what a good man is. The second one just seems crazy and probably scares a lot of guys off.
Yup. Crying online over a minor disappointment? She has issues.
I think must people in the USA think a person is good depending on how much that person has, in other places woman likes more or the character that material stuff.
@@alejandromazariegos9223 Is that really true? I know in many places of the world, like massive countries like China and India, people are consumed with keeping up with the Jones' and are obsessed with titles, degrees, and outward displays of wealth. Parents pressure kids for prestigious degrees do that the adults can brag amoung themselves.
I use to be her than I got with a man who I thought loved me he cheated and I could care less for love it has brought only pain in my life atleast being single I was happy with myself
@@HDGaminTutorials I think love and marriage is amazing for some, but we try to push everyone in this box and for many all it brings is grief and stress. People need to realize its perfectly fine to be single.
This is a full blown crisis that’s arguably the #1 problem in America right now. I’m a 6’0 white guy, well-paying corporate job, 180lbs, wear nice clothes, etc. and I’m still single at 29. I am not putting it all on women, though. I think social media, porn, and many other things are just contributing to setting an unrealistic beauty standard for women. And there are not enough of those women to go around for men. Similarly, men are less masculine with less testosterone than they used to be.
Ultimately, what I’ve realized, and it’s hard to fix it even though I know it… is that too many men act like women, and too many women act like men. Example: I tend to be very considerate of women, which on the surface is a good thing, but I often will be considerate to a fault and want to please them, so I will not be decisive and take charge, which is seen by woman as inadequately masculine. For women, I’ve seen it first hand women who try to go back and forth with a guy talking about her career and how she’s independent and whatnot, but almost all guys either don’t care about that or outright hate it. It’s not very feminine to be like that. There are not enough women who are comfortable being feminine and emotional and submissive, etc. because they think it’s wrong to show that, because they don’t want to see those traits in men. But as Matt pointed out, the qualities men and women are looking for are so different, so for whichever sex you are trying to attract, you need to make sure you are giving off the qualities consistent with what that sex naturally wants and needs - and not what you are looking for that person to give to you.
I liked your perspective, very compassionate. Men complain women want handsome men. But when you see the people they follow or the traits they look for in a partner beauty is the first one. Attraction is important, but not all women look like Instagram models. I am fit and healthy, but I feel like shit sometimes, because I look normal (not bad). I cant compare to those women, so I just lose hope and dont even try.
I am trying to change that tough, cause I want to build a family. Another thing, you said there are not women comfortable being emotional, it's because men complain about it. Just look at this comment section and you will see men laughing that women are not logical and too emotional, it doesn't make sense.
Anyway, just a rant haha. All the best for you! ;)
@@daniele1296 Agreed, both men and women of this generation need to do better when it comes to socializing and dating. Thanks for the reply, and good luck to you.
Best comment so far
Good points. I knew we were in trouble when all the girls were crazy for justin beber- A whimpy feminin skinny little girly boy
This is a very thoughtful comment. We all, men and women, have areas in our lives that need improvement. I’m so sick of reading comments here blaming all women and complaining about us for the woes in our society . The irony is they end up sounding like women, which is a huge turn off and actually goes with your comment about men turning into women
Hear how many times she says “me”, “I”, “myself”. She’s oblivious to how self centred she is and that’s why she’s alone. Good women think about others and want to give love and care for others, they often forget themselves actually. Good men see this and have a desire to protect them. This woman is self centred and wants a man like an accomplishment, a trophy. It’s disgusting
Physically attractive, trustworthy, and shares my fundamental values is literally my entire checklist. Feels impossible these days.
1. Are you are fit, feminine, cooperative, childless, no promiscuous past, 20’s (fertility), not in tons of debt/bad with money, conservative? If not, change.
2. Go on a dating app even if you don’t like them, swipe on 100 men just based on looks. If you only like 5-10 of the men looks wise, you’re being far too picky. I see your photo in your profile, you aren’t in the top 5-10% of women looks wise (no offense - I’m not either), so if you only go after men like that they will just sleep with you. If you sleep with them then you get used to that caliber of man looks wise and you don’t want a man on your level.
What r those fundamental values?
@@Joe-hz1nwyes to everything in number one. Maybe more moderate but conservative leaning. I’m not overly picky about looks at all. Truthfully, I could’ve been married a few times by now if I took any offer that was available. I just can’t seem to find a man with matching values. Willingness to delay gratification has been the hardest thing to find in a man in his early-mid twenties for me.
@@dannisunshine7228 maybe date older then. Odds are higher you’ll find more mature men that way who are willing to wait.
Also, if you aren’t a virgin and even more so if you have hooked up with men in the past, and now you want to make a guy wait a long time, I can guarantee you that most men will find that hypocritical and irritating. The whole “so you gave it up to Tom and Frank 3 years and 20lbs ago night one but I have to wait?” Thought process. Men don’t like to feel like the smuck.
@@Joe-hz1nwhow long have you been married?
Im 32. Male. Ive never dated anyone. Ever.
Tell me again how hard your life is.
Same. 32. Never dated anybody.
You two should date each other
@@jayv7006😂😂😂
@@jayv7006 cringe
@@jayv7006I agree with u totally 😅😅😅😅😅 Or they both should try contact those two pitiful ladies.
Once you hit that level of desperation for anything, you WON'T get it.
It's when you aren't looking for something specific, and are relaxed, you find it.
Agreed. No one is perfect. As long he's Loyal, kind, soft spoken and gets along with your family, that's all that matters.
The standards Matt suggested for men to date a woman are a luxury nowadays.
The answer to her question was in her rant. I heard words, my therapist ?!?!
Ladies, real genuine men want one thing from a woman and in life " PEACE OF MIND " . we don't like drama. We get enough shit from the world, we don't need it at home.
“Stop telling me I’m wrong.” If everyone is telling you you’re wrong, you’re probably wrong.
“I genuinely just want love in my life so badly: it’s literally not about anyone else, it’s just about me.” That’s the antithesis of love: selfishness.
“I have built a beautiful life for myself: I’m happy.” You clearly aren’t.
“I’m successful. I’m independent.” You’re truly independent? Guess you don’t need anyone else.
“I’m healthier than I’ve ever been.” Not emotionally. Probably stacked too many bodies for that to ever heal.
“I’m not someone that posts or cries or anything on the internet.” Yes, you are.
“I’ve been trying to meet someone, just anybody worth my time for years.” There are plenty of men good enough for you: you just think you’re too good for them. That’s why you’re in this position.
“(middle fingers)” I appreciate that you understand how dire the situation is, but you aren’t exactly handling it in a classy way.
“There’s such a thing as people that just don’t find their person…don’t get married…The realist in me is starting to think that’s going to be me.” Props for the realism. I’m glad you’re not deluding yourself. That said, you could still find someone who would commit to you: it just wouldn’t be the kind of man you could have attracted in this past. Since you’re okay with brutal realism, your options are keep your standards and stay alone or lower them and find someone, but you’d probably just divorce a man you felt you “settled” for, so I doubt your story has a happy ending.
What if a woman just can't find a trustworthy man? Surely finding someone who is baseline trustworthy is not a ridiculous criterion?
@@ems3991, there's loads of trustworthy men. They just aren't interested in the neurotic selfishness displayed by the town bicycle!
@@ems3991 That's not at all a ridiculous criterion, but the unfortunate reality is that many women find stable men (the kind most likely to be trustworthy) boring. Uncertainty? Unpredictability? "Bad boy" vibes? These are all things women tend to find exciting, even if they don't want to, and it's probably why so many cultures had longstanding traditions of a man needing to obtain a father's permission before marrying his daughter.
@@ems3991 Again, you say trustworthy man but what you really mean is a high tier trustworthy man. There are plenty average men who are trustworthy but they are invisible to modern women.
Just a thought… but it could have something to do with the fact that these women are posting their shit online for everyone to see?
You will just become "content" for them.
My twenties were filled with working, paying off debt, paying bills, being given the worst jobs and being afraid of being fired from them because If it happened I would not be able to pay off all of the debt and bills. What person in their 20s had leisure and fun the whole time? Please share.
Don't just look at her/him
...but look hard at her family. If it's disfunctional, there are issues, abusive etc...walk away.
This is the result of years of telling women they can do it all and don't need men. They convinced women to work outside the home and that motherhood is unnecessary and denigrated. Women in the past who made a home and supported a man were put on a pedestal. And then they utterly destroyed men. Here is the result.
🎯 - And the cold hard truth is, it's going to take as long to roll it back as it took to get here (several generations).
If we're lucky.