😪sadly it does and it sets you up in who you choose as a partner , your career choices, finances, usually drug and or alcohol abuse to try and calm the trauma, nightmares etc...
I find it sad that a lot of the comments come from "older" women who did not realise that this was happening to them. I am one of these women and some of the 'revelations' in this video I was doing without realising this was because of the abuse. I still don't take compliments - thinking they are "after something", I still say sorry all the time and won't accept help. I now know why though and that has to be a 'first step'. Surviving is not immediate. Kudos to all the survivors you are not alone. ♥️🏴
Hmph! All FIVE points. And...I'm now 85 and just NOW am learning what I needed to know back when I was about 5 years. Parents, spouse, and too many more...all narcissists! A friend commented: "Knowing your parents, it is a wonder You turned out as well as you did!" ❤❤❤
I’m 70 and just now going through what you’re going through. I know it seems to us our time to heal is limited, but it’s about the journey, not the destination. A bit of improvement every day is what we need to aim for. And if we never reach perfection, NOBODY DOES!
I am 80 and learning! Had a narcissist husband for 32 years and God Saved me. I didn’t know what the heck was happening! I just felt bad..unsafe and not free. 😊❤
Thank you for the reminder. My wife drives me insane at times. I get frustrated. And she hits all of these points. Her father was abusive. Her mom wasn’t supportive. Her first husband was abusive. She never had anyone she could count on before me. I need to remember to have compassion. ❤
@@alycewich4472 I’m not perfect and it’s difficult at times. I definitely needed this reminder because I don’t always act with compassion for her. But thank you
Yes, yes, yes! Mother, then husband, and now children all latched onto the narcissism bandwagon. I spent most of my life alone now. At 76, I have had enough.
I was 3 years younger than my sister but I continually helped HER with her home work and she made deals with me that if I did her chores, she would play with me. Sometimes she did, sometimes she didn't. Decades went by and I never asked her for help despite me still doing sewing alterations and minor home repairs for her (family, right?) I bought a new home and asked if she would like to come over and help spackle before I painted. Would take less than an hour. She went ballistic! I had never asked her for help before. My gut instinct had been right. She was never there for me and I never asked help from her again. However, I also learned to not ask help from anybody else to spare me that kind of pain again.
Be kind to one another. Life is hard enough to get through without being hard on one another. Help a Veteran, a Senior or a Neighbor today. God Bless ❤
I didn't even realize I was being mentally abused until my mother in law brought it to my attention. I am 43 now and I still do not feel like enough or beautiful. Not sure I ever will.
Made me cry - I know that woman - intimately. I love her. And I'm trying to heal her from the inside. Bless you Anthony Hopkins for acknowledging those of us who recognise ourselves in this. We are truly not alone.
Victim or Survivor...what's the difference? If y9ure a a victim, you're not taking responsibility or accountability. If you're a Survivor, it just means that when you need support after giving it all away, there's NO ONEthere when you need them. And God forbid that it's a man. Because men are so stuck in their EGOS because they can SMELL IT on you ,that you have no self worth/esteem and you'll give that away too. Just to feel loved and appreciated. My dad told me I was a survivor and I thought that was a compliment. It wasn't. My dad is a drunk, left my mom and had another family. And had a bunch of drunks just like him. And I grew up on the outside looking in until Mother's Day when I told my youngest sister that her forgetting to call me then because she was drunk ? Yeah that ended up being My fault somehow too. I'm a survivor because I ended up a single parent just like my mother. Repeating the cycle. Only my child is a disabled adult. So not only do I have "baggage " in the eyes of the men in my age bracket, but I'm also Damaged Goods aren't I. But so are men. Because either their mom did a number on them, or they met their match with a woman just as narcissistic as they are. Fuck it. World's going to he'll in a hand basket anyway. As long I'm right with God, society can kiss my fat ass. But they'll just say I'm bitter.
Victim or Survivor...what's the difference? If y9ure a a victim, you're not taking responsibility or accountability. If you're a Survivor, it just means that when you need support after giving it all away, there's NO ONEthere when you need them. And God forbid that it's a man. Because men are so stuck in their EGOS because they can SMELL IT on you ,that you have no self worth/esteem and you'll give that away too. Just to feel loved and appreciated. My dad told me I was a survivor and I thought that was a compliment. It wasn't. My dad is a drunk, left my mom and had another family. And had a bunch of drunks just like him. And I grew up on the outside looking in until Mother's Day when I told my youngest sister that her forgetting to call me then because she was drunk ? Yeah that ended up being My fault somehow too. I'm a survivor because I ended up a single parent just like my mother. Repeating the cycle. Only my child is a disabled adult. So not only do I have "baggage " in the eyes of the men in my age bracket, but I'm also Damaged Goods aren't I. But so are men. Because either their mom did a number on them, or they met their match with a woman just as narcissistic as they are. Fuck it. World's going to he'll in a hand basket anyway. As long I'm right with God, society can kiss my fat ass. But they'll just say I'm bitter.
💔😢❤️ This was me. Meeting my husband was the best thing for me. He loved me completely and never ever gave up on me. He was patient and kind and helped me heal from my childhood and toxic family. I miss him everyday since he has passed, but he helped me to see the beauty in living.
I’m 59 and have been aware of what the video is saying for about 5 years. I’m going through what feels like rebellion something I should have done in my teens but I didn’t see the problem then. I’m sad but I mostly feel angry that my 94 year old father is still that same verbally abusive person. Which then sends me into feelings of guilt because he’s a short timer on this planet and my issues with him seem magnified now. I wish all the women and anyone affected peace and love
❤ I'm 62 very soon and this is me. I was never good enough for my family, everything was always my fault. I threw myself into my school work, even though I got good grades it didn't make any difference. My relationships have always been rubbish and made a decision to not be in a relationship again. I have learnt that I don't need one. I struggle all the time to stop saying sorry and not doubt myself. But I am alive and try to make a difference in the job that I do. 😊
I'm with you. The only difference being I was ignored. I am lonely and not accepting this stage of my life. I never expected to be here at 57. I have just started therapy again. My first therapy was when I left my parents home 35 years ago. I had a horrible time adjusting. I was afraid of everything and 100% responsible for my safety. Fortunately the US was still a safe place. It took me 30 years to realize my fear was due to my parents not raising me to be an adult. Add to that depression and anxiety, inherited from my mother. I've done okay with friends, a few boyfriends, work, college, vacations, parties, etc, but when everyone moves on and looks fade, it's absolute misery.❤
Lessons for all new mothers- treat you child well so that they don't have to live with memories of abuse and trauma all throughout their lives. May God protect every child. Very sad.
Lessons for all husbands- treat the mother of your children well, especially in front of them and don't put all the responsibility on her so that she can be healthy enough to be a good mother.
I broke down into tears as every single point hit home. Am so grateful for the compassionate man in my life who loves me truly. My ex divorced me *because* I had traumatic experiences, which hurt far more than the original traumas.
❤ 38 year old mother of 3, in a very hard narcissistic relationship, full of lies, infidelity, gaslighting, abuse, totally dependent on him because he has full control over everything, trapped and isolated from everyone, no friends or family, been drugged, and the list of horrible things go on and on 😢 Im so trapped, exhausted and so beat down and have nothing or no one, and nowhere to go or i will be homeless and penniless and will lose my children 😢 My God, PLEASE HELP ME and my children 💔😭 been abused my WHOLE LIFE, I can't help but wonder if my life is only here to suffer no matter how hard I try, how much I pray and everything in between, I wish I knew what being happy and calm and safe and financially secure feels like for once in my life and to find and be myself so I could shine and share my love with someone who wants it and needs it when the time is right after I heal😢
❤❤❤ It's a vicious cycle that needs to end. I'm 33 and still working towards that self assurance and acceptance. It's a hard process that should not be needed but it is and it takes time. Just have to keep remembering that even though it may be hard it WILL get better. Stay strong and only YOUR opinion matters no one else's! ❤❤❤
❤ While healing with the kind hand of my husband of 23 years, I don't think i will ever be truly whole. And not for nothing, men who experience the same can behave in a lot of the same ways.
Find a support group for the abuse you suffered. You will find others that have experienced similar situations. If you haven't yet, ask Jesus Christ to come into your heart and heal you from the inside out. Find a church that will love and support you through your journey. There is help out here, but most times you need to be brave enough to find it.
💔 I will be 58 in September and am still healing from wounds inflicted by my mother, God Bless her soul, and a 26 year marriage. My late mother and my ex-husband, was and is respectively, a narcissist. To all the women in relationships reading this, do research on narcissists and learn all you can. Don't ever confront a narcissist, always clear your history and escape as soon as possible. If you don't have children yet don't because you will be trapped, to an extent, until the child/ren are 18. Thank you for sharing this information. Blessings of love and light to all. 💜💙🧡💛💚
❤ I just recently turned 64. I don't really want to admit this, but this is me to a tee. I have spent most of my life being treated like I don't matter. I was treated badly by my classmates all through school. When I graduated from high school I put in a lot of effort to be more confident in myself. I thought I had finally overcome much of my doubt and fears only to marry a man who emotionally abused me for the next 30+ years. I feel guilty because he also abused our children. I feel stupid because I didn't do something about it. I also feel rejected by my siblings. I am on my own and feeling very alone. I love my children and yet I feel guilty for their struggles.
I am on my own also and have generally accepted that being by myself is the best thing for me. One day you will get there too. Be kind to yourself. Power is in the hands of abusers as they know how hard it will be for their victim. Leaving a bad relationship is very hard and scary. I took 3 goes to leave mine. Learn to like you, to love you, to be happy as you not what someone else makes you be ❤
❤ my wife, my love, has all of these characteristics. So I promised her that she would never have to do it all on her own again. That she will never be alone or feel lonely. She will always be LOVED and reminded that she is beautiful each day. She will always be safe and protected. If she ever felt she needed to apologize, she should know she's already forgiven. It breaks my heart to know that someone could have ever treated the woman I know and love badly when she is the most kind, generous, beautiful soul and the best person. My life started when we met, and I treasure every day that I get to spend with you. Being your husband is my greatest honor, and my greatest pleasure. LOVE FOREVER!
❤ Turning 62 soon. Just found the strength to walk away from a covert narcissist, strangely the acknowledgment of who l have been dealing with was also a catalyst for getting the help l needed and for once to be able to fully stand up for myself. I refuse to be a victim, l am a SURVIVOR!
I left him 5 years ago after 26 years of trying to no end. Been the happiest 5 years of my life and looking forward to the future ahead. Lesson; Leave if you can and don’t ever look back.
@@Laurie81560 I'm in my 70's and started counseling over 30 years ago. Recovery can vacillate from very fast to watching paint dry. However, I have also found that when I find someone who has been damaged in some of the ways I had been, it helps to encourage them in their walk toward healing and it also helps me see more clearly the next step in my journey. In my case I'm thinking that I will be working on this until the day I die and go to be with Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior. And that is fine with me. I'm to the point where the past event triggers very seldom send me into a tailspin and every step of improvement gives me more peace and satisfaction with my life.
This is me. I was raised by a narcissistic mother who, hit me and put me down. I joined ASCA (Adult Survivors of Child Abuse) about a year ago, and it has helped tremendously. Through this program I have realized I do need people, so I have started reaching out trying to make friends. This has been especially difficult for me to make friends with women because I have trust issues. I am putting myself out there and I am hopeful. I am doing the recovery work because I am 45 years old and married for 5 years to my wonderful husband, and it is not right to put all of my emotional and socialization needs on to him. God bless you all❤
❤ to you from someone who understands. My husband is my only person in the world. Married him 13 yrs ago at the age of 44 after running away from my previous community to escape an abusive situation with family, not a romantic partner. I live in self-imposed isolation due to extreme ptsd and I too, struggle to make and keep friends. Especially women... If it weren't for my husband and my little farm and some new friends I've made is this medium, I'm afraid I'd be unmotivated to stay alive. I fight every day to keep my head above water. Thank you for sharing. I hope I didn't over share 😒 Sending 🫂 fr CB NS 🇨🇦 🍁
@@MurphyFarm2014 You are progressing, GOOD FOR YOU! 👏🙌 I''ve been dealing with these types of issues for over 30 years after I discovered that I had them. To me, until it was pointed out to me by a counselor, I thought it was normal. But with her help and Jesus Christ loving me even when I don't feel very lovable, I am making progress. I'm not sure I'll ever be completely healed, but making progress with friends who love me enough to stick with me when I struggle. 👏
❤ my heart breaks for all of us. What they do to children and good woman. The Japanese put gold on cracks to repair a beautiful and revered piece. We are the same. Know you are beautiful and worthy, someone sees your beauty.🙌
You are right on! I’m a clinical psychologist. I had my nose broken by my first husband. I am fine now But I’ve always been used to doing everything myself.
To feel this way it starts in childhood... Mothers themselves can be the abusers especially if she feels there is competition with her daughters... Our household was " speak when you are spoken too....if not you are an ornament............" Physical abuse and mental abuse is horrific and it happens in so many families....
You put into words for all that I had none... couldn't figure out how I'd changed so much when I finally left and returned to the place where I grew up...still can't believe that I'm not at all like the fearless wild person I was! Thank you for your words & the clarity it has given me❤ I know I now have a lot of work to do !
As one who was that woman the beautiful thing is it's possible to overcome. Not an easy or fun path but so worth all the tears. Coming out the other side confident, happy, peaceful and enjoying real relationships. You do not have to remain the victim or the survivor. Instead you can thrive and live life to the fullest.
I could never believe I was beautiful, even though I was often told I was. And I’ve gone through life practically apologising for being alive (I’m now 75).
♥️ Mr. Hopkins, thank you for saying this out loud. I am 55 yrs old and all these points are true, trauma is heartbreaking and it takes a long time to overcome. I am finally healing and learning that I am beautiful and worthy.
❤ All save one. If you were not allowed to cry or show anything but happiness to protect the ones you love, you can never breakdown in an argument as an adult. You must leave and cry alone. Those who have been severely abused must protect and they are never wrong because they give all.theynhave to love even sacrificing every single bit of the life they dreamed of to save others from pain and ruin.
I’m going through a lot right now including being homeless. I have no one to turn to, no family, friends etc. I just escaped a dangerous and abusive situation and they’re still trying to ruin me by text messaging and harassment. The people that I’ve tried reaching out to for help, have ignored me or don’t care. I see all of these qualities in me because I’m scared to be honest and vulnerable… people take advantage of you or turn their backs on you when you’re down. 😢
❤❤❤ a survivor of physical and mental abuse from childhood n x partners. It's taken alot of tears n self-doubt but now I realised I'm worth it , beautiful n deserve better .
I am very sorry for the women I hurt emotionally or disrespected earlier in my life. I know better now but it still hurts me. I believe many men feel this way. Every person is a vessel of God and of immense worth.
Feeling hurt or feeling sorry won't do anything. Best thing is to actively tell the men and boys in your family and friendship circles to behave better. Or even random men you overhear. And to correct them when they say something disrespectful towards women. Or when they talk about things they are doing that hurts women. This will make a difference and will correct your wrongs. It will prove you are truly sorry because being truly sorry takes effort.
I appreciate your words...you are a true man. Just knowing that someone can recognize their own mistakes, fell badly, and then change, because you learned from those mistakes, means you are favored in God's eye's. Even if you wished you could just go back and apologize but can't...I believe you are forgiven. Please, my friend, say a prayer for me, I've been stuck and in fear in this marriage for 32 years, I am locked in my bedroom as I speak, I am trying to get out of this...FEAR is a very powerful thing, and people wonder how 6 million Jew's could just walk to their own death during the Holocaust...Knowing, yet still going, through that walk. I've learned to FEAR GOD, for his wrath is coming soon...but it means I'll be going HOME soon. Until then, I just need someone to say a Prayer for me for I can't even pray for myself, but I'm trying to gain some self-worth again, and my faith in Jesus is all that's getting me through at this point. I'm facing spinal surgery in a couple of weeks, alone...and will be recovering alone in my room. though my husband is still living under the same roof, he wants a girlfriend he says because I just broke one day and all feeling just stopped, and I am the blame for everything that ever went wrong, he's claims he did nothing, and I am in grama mode so to speak, I am emotionless , and everyday screams how much he hates me, horrific name-calling, just name it, it's every day, and I just sit there, I recently tried sticking up for myself but found out that it only doubled the attacks twofold. So, like in the video, I shut down due to fear. But during that time if recovering, I will be reaching out to legal aid for help for a divorce, my children are grown, but I'm raising a 12 yr old grandchild now, and I refuse to let her be a victim too...my son 30yrs old, has never left home because he has always worried about my wellbeing, he visits me at my bathroom window to check on me and take me to my doctors appt. , he lives on my property in a storage building....just recently have I been able to secretly document the abuse, and keep it safe. My daughter 28, feels the same for me, however, she is taken a different path and turned to paganism, yet she hates her father and he feels the same, it's her child have, and has been abandoned , so I have two people I know that depend on me, if I never could do it for myself before, I have to for them, I'm sorry for this long reply. It's just your honesty, openly...touched my heart, and gave me hope that some people can change.... some can not. I am going to make a BIG change forward. With or without fear, fear is losing it's grip more and more. Just know, you helped me. Because just commenting, I'm scared, but I'm sorry, you brought me to tears. Good luck in life my friend. God Bless you.ok
If you have the gift of gab, I’d add to the first comment that you take the initiative to start conversations wherever you are and teach your message to everyone you can. Best to you.
May I suggest that you contact the women you have treated badly and tell them how sorry you are and what you have done or are doing to make sure it doesn't happen again. If they're like me, their jaws would probably hit the ground. But they will remember that apology for the rest of their lives.
That was me. 1st marriage left its scars. I remarried, this time wisely and he noticed and was patient and kind and I learned I didn't have to walk on eggshells. But when he passed 3 years later, I began to go back to my defensive state. I am working on undoing those traits.
This hits hard. Jackpot. I was a child of an alcohol addicted parents. Living trough childhood with moody, whiny and abusive persons. Was in my midfourties when its finally breaks me. Depression and Panicattacks drrove me into suidal thoughts. But I have a understanding, loving husband and two wonderful childreen, then and now. So I seek for help and got some. Healing mentally was a long and sometimes bumbing road. The scars will be there forever, but I made it. At last step I broke up with my mother for my best and end to hate my late father. And yes, I will give ❤❤❤ with a smile on my face.
GOD BLESS ❤ GOD HAS SEPARATED YOU ; AND HAS PUT YOU IN A NEW SEASON-- GOD DOES NOT ALWAYS GIVE ; BUT DOES TAKE AWAY THE WRONG PEOPLE IN YR LIFE ; AS GOD HAS MADE YOU A CHOZEN ONE-- YOU STAND OUT FROM THE REST; AS YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THE BRIGHTEST LIGHT OF ALL --- GOD WANTS YOU TO DRAW CLOSER TO HIM ; AND HAVE A CLOSE RELATION SHIP WITH HIM ; AS GOD HAS BIGGER PLANS AHEAD FOR YOU!!! HAVE FAITH AND PRAY 🙏 AS ON THIS EARTH WE ARE CHALLENGED MANY OF STORMS ; BUT SOON THE STORMS WILL BE ALL OVER ; AND JUSES IS COMING BCK SOON---- WE ARE NOW LIVING IN OUR LAST DAYS IN TIMOTHY 2V3!!!!!! AND ALL THE SIGNS ARE ALREADY HERE--- GOD LOVES YOU AS HIS CHILD ; AND HES BEEN THERE ALL ALONG FOR YOU--- YOU HAVE GOT THIS FAR SO DONT GIVE UP; JUST BE PATIENT AND WAIT ON GODS TIMING!!!! GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU; AND THE REAL VICTORY IS IN CHRIST JUSES!!!! AMEN 🙏 ❤
💜 that's me to a T! Narc mother, second husband a psycho, I successfully manage PTSD for over 20 years, still apologise too much, will ask for help but hate it, bless all who've been abused🙏🇬🇧💜
Keep going, you're doing an amazing job in healing. Asking for help is my problem too, although I'm getting better at it and ask more frequently because I'm getting more comfortable with it. But it takes LOTS of practice!
I watched this because it’s Anthony Hopkins .. but, no one who’s survived any form of abuse is a victim! The inner strength to survive..to get through it .. will always be your Super Power!! Learning to recover from it is the hard part n learning to trust others .. but, everyone on here.. ya all amazing!! Male n female.. ( not always bout females..) ❤
I love Anthony Hopkins, well what can I say he just described my life, but I will at that those experiences are the very reason why I love being alone. I carry on with my healing journey ❤.
❤ True for any person, if you treat someone like they are garbage all their life they are bound to feel broken, healing comes at the cost of being willing to face the pain and releasing it in forgivness ( in that to release the situation and not allow what happened to sap everything from you), i hope for all abuse victims that they find peace, in peculiar for women, i hope you who have been hurt by others find yourselves again, find the "who" you are, and find the love you desperatly crave from within not from without. may peace be with you.
IMO Better late than never. I've been working on these traits for over 30 years and will probably continue to do so until the day I die. But each step toward healing is another step toward peace.
Don't know how old your kids are, but when my adult sons were in elementary school they had a parenting class for any adults that wanted to, could attend for free. There were around a dozen that thought it could be useful. I found it amazing how much information I was able to glean from that class, which then led me to other books or classes. I also would ask my pediatrician about specific issues I was having. But that was decades ago and practices have changed. I'm sure CZcams has some helpful videos on this subject.
One other thing: she doesn’t feel like she belongs anywhere - always an outsider.
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Yep. That is #6 for sure !
all that he said & what you say here - that's me. through and through.
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Always.
It begins when you are young and it takes a lifetime to realize you are enough.
It takes a lifetime to realize what happened... or what didn't and that it's not your fault.❤
😪sadly it does and it sets you up in who you choose as a partner , your career choices, finances, usually drug and or alcohol abuse to try and calm the trauma, nightmares etc...
@@user-yn2to5dt5m that's very true.
True x
Damn. Sounds like me.😮
48 years old, survivor of a highly abusive marriage and childhood. This is 1000% spot on.
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60 and same ❤
Knowing Jesus is knowing peace, protection and provision ❤️
Jesus saves, Jesus heals, Jesus grants peace ❤️
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❤Absolutely correct. God bless all you beautiful women who have lived this. At 67, I am still working through it.
Knowing Jesus is knowing peace, protection and provision ❤️
Jesus saves, Jesus heals, Jesus grants peace ❤️
At 69 you and me both
Same here (55), TY and God bless you as well lovely lady!
I’m 53 and all of these were present in my childhood and much of my adulthood. I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor. 😊
Knowing Jesus is knowing peace, protection and provision ❤️
Jesus saves, Jesus heals, Jesus grants peace ❤️
it's not bad to be a victim. only in society stigma that blames victims
I find it sad that a lot of the comments come from "older" women who did not realise that this was happening to them. I am one of these women and some of the 'revelations' in this video I was doing without realising this was because of the abuse. I still don't take compliments - thinking they are "after something", I still say sorry all the time and won't accept help. I now know why though and that has to be a 'first step'. Surviving is not immediate. Kudos to all the survivors you are not alone. ♥️🏴
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Wow, me too! The "sorry" thing, and trying to convince people who pay compliments that they're wrong and just don't know me well ☹️
This is me too, I m 58.5, had a life of pure struggle and rejection. Still in that. Mind-blowing. 😢
@user-wb5wi2jd3b I'm 74 and still trying to overcome all of this. Good counseling helps.
I have the same experients. It is very hard to live with that experients.
❤ I'm 71, been through it all and I'm so much stronger now.
He’s doesn’t know me, but he describes me perfectly.😔💐
Criticism in childhood, always apologizing, never asking for help... That explains a lot
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Knowing Jesus is knowing peace, protection and provision ❤️
Jesus saves, Jesus heals, Jesus grants peace ❤️
Hmph! All FIVE points. And...I'm now 85 and just NOW am learning what I needed to know back when I was about 5 years. Parents, spouse, and too many more...all narcissists! A friend commented: "Knowing your parents, it is a wonder You turned out as well as you did!" ❤❤❤
I’m 70 and just now going through what you’re going through. I know it seems to us our time to heal is limited, but it’s about the journey, not the destination. A bit of improvement every day is what we need to aim for. And if we never reach perfection, NOBODY DOES!
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I am 80 and learning! Had a narcissist husband for 32 years and God Saved me. I didn’t know what the heck was happening! I just felt bad..unsafe and not free. 😊❤
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Go! Girl! You are Young! May God Bless You. 😇🥰
@@user-CABnope it does not seem that your time to heal is limited despite your age. Better late than never, right? 🫶
I'm 58 years old and realize that I am all 5 of these. But by the grace of God I'm trying to overcome .
Me too!
❤❤❤ I was both mentally and physically abused and everything you said is true.
Thank you for the reminder. My wife drives me insane at times. I get frustrated. And she hits all of these points.
Her father was abusive. Her mom wasn’t supportive. Her first husband was abusive.
She never had anyone she could count on before me. I need to remember to have compassion.
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GOOD FOR YOU for recognizing her woundedness and being willing to have compassion for her.
@@alycewich4472 I’m not perfect and it’s difficult at times. I definitely needed this reminder because I don’t always act with compassion for her. But thank you
Please do. I can assure you that she has a heart of gold
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Your a good man to realize this
Very compassionate insight. It does not mean she is damaged goods. She just needs care and compassion. ❤
Everyone needs care and compassion and then nobody would be abused or learn to be an abuser. ❤️
💔❤️🔥 this was my life for years. I finally have a great man
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You're so lucky.
I feel like I AM damaged goods.
You are a night in shining armor ready to rescue poor damaged damsel just needs care and compassion.
When Anthony Hopkins says these things-all true for me-something in his way of speaking makes me feel comforted, seen, and valued. Thank you!
Yes, yes, yes! Mother, then husband, and now children all latched onto the narcissism bandwagon. I spent most of my life alone now. At 76, I have had enough.
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I'm with you, sister!
Agree. The women who have been badly abused trust no one.
I learned as a young child that it is easier for me to do something alone than ask for help. That was a long time ago, and I still feel that way.
As the oldest child I was expected to know things by osmosis. I'm a senior citizen and it's still hard to ask for help.
@@alycewich4472 Exactly.
I was 3 years younger than my sister but I continually helped HER with her home work and she made deals with me that if I did her chores, she would play with me. Sometimes she did, sometimes she didn't. Decades went by and I never asked her for help despite me still doing sewing alterations and minor home repairs for her (family, right?) I bought a new home and asked if she would like to come over and help spackle before I painted. Would take less than an hour. She went ballistic! I had never asked her for help before. My gut instinct had been right. She was never there for me and I never asked help from her again. However, I also learned to not ask help from anybody else to spare me that kind of pain again.
@@ssweeny9415 Amen 🙏
But the strange thing is that when I do ask for help, nobody wants to help me.
Be kind to one another. Life is hard enough to get through without being hard on one another.
Help a Veteran, a Senior or a Neighbor today. God Bless ❤
@@Bears-mhy888 god bless you too ty
@@Winterveile your welcome 🙏 God bless 🙌
@@Bears-mhy888 kindness begets a whole new world1
I didn't even realize I was being mentally abused until my mother in law brought it to my attention. I am 43 now and I still do not feel like enough or beautiful. Not sure I ever will.
❤Totally true. Lack of self worth, procrastination,sleepless nights too❤
💔 that's the story of every broken human 💔
True 😔
Too bad these broken women aren't attracted to nice guys.
it is also the story of every broken male.
@@jggrimm Nobody gives a phuck about us.
@jggrimm true......
"We're all in the same game, just different levels. Dealing with the same hell, just different devils"
Nailed it. lived it. living it.
Now: THRIVE ! Blessings!
Made me cry - I know that woman - intimately. I love her. And I'm trying to heal her from the inside. Bless you Anthony Hopkins for acknowledging those of us who recognise ourselves in this. We are truly not alone.
Thanks, Carla! NEVER give up! FEEL Blessed cuz it's True!
❤❤ God bless anyone reading this now. May you find healing and acceptance. ❤
Thank you and God bless you.
Wise lesson for all young parents: love and treat your daughters with respect and kindness so she grows up a strong woman ❤
Sons also need this type of care so they grow up to be a strong man.
@@alycewich4472 obviously..but this video is about women 🙄
❤yes❤
Give us hugs and smiles....the 'tough stuff' is TOO much and NOT necessary!
I agree with one, two, and five. I don’t argue with anybody because I’ve lived alone for years after years of abusive events. I love living alone!
❤ At 50 still struggling with all 5.
YOU CAN THRIVE! You are Enough!
35 years in a violent toxic marriage
Know all 5 signs
But I love my life
God gave me freedom and I will never again live without this freedom ❤❤❤❤❤
Me and my cat, Bob. 🐈
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Victim or Survivor...what's the difference? If y9ure a a victim, you're not taking responsibility or accountability. If you're a Survivor, it just means that when you need support after giving it all away, there's NO ONEthere when you need them. And God forbid that it's a man. Because men are so stuck in their EGOS because they can SMELL IT on you ,that you have no self worth/esteem and you'll give that away too. Just to feel loved and appreciated. My dad told me I was a survivor and I thought that was a compliment. It wasn't. My dad is a drunk, left my mom and had another family. And had a bunch of drunks just like him. And I grew up on the outside looking in until Mother's Day when I told my youngest sister that her forgetting to call me then because she was drunk ? Yeah that ended up being My fault somehow too. I'm a survivor because I ended up a single parent just like my mother. Repeating the cycle. Only my child is a disabled adult. So not only do I have "baggage " in the eyes of the men in my age bracket, but I'm also Damaged Goods aren't I. But so are men. Because either their mom did a number on them, or they met their match with a woman just as narcissistic as they are. Fuck it. World's going to he'll in a hand basket anyway. As long I'm right with God, society can kiss my fat ass. But they'll just say I'm bitter.
Victim or Survivor...what's the difference? If y9ure a a victim, you're not taking responsibility or accountability. If you're a Survivor, it just means that when you need support after giving it all away, there's NO ONEthere when you need them. And God forbid that it's a man. Because men are so stuck in their EGOS because they can SMELL IT on you ,that you have no self worth/esteem and you'll give that away too. Just to feel loved and appreciated. My dad told me I was a survivor and I thought that was a compliment. It wasn't. My dad is a drunk, left my mom and had another family. And had a bunch of drunks just like him. And I grew up on the outside looking in until Mother's Day when I told my youngest sister that her forgetting to call me then because she was drunk ? Yeah that ended up being My fault somehow too. I'm a survivor because I ended up a single parent just like my mother. Repeating the cycle. Only my child is a disabled adult. So not only do I have "baggage " in the eyes of the men in my age bracket, but I'm also Damaged Goods aren't I. But so are men. Because either their mom did a number on them, or they met their match with a woman just as narcissistic as they are. Fuck it. World's going to he'll in a hand basket anyway. As long I'm right with God, society can kiss my fat ass. But they'll just say I'm bitter.
💔😢❤️ This was me. Meeting my husband was the best thing for me. He loved me completely and never ever gave up on me. He was patient and kind and helped me heal from my childhood and toxic family. I miss him everyday since he has passed, but he helped me to see the beauty in living.
I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad he was able to help you and you can live everyday with love thanks to him.
Same!
It was family that did it. NOT a mate.
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Same. I’m sorry he’s not here with you now. Never forget how he loved you. 🙏🏻❤️
Same here. May I ask how old was yours when he died?
Omg, when I was criticized for saying I was sorry on a regular basis, it finally dawned on me why.
I’m 59 and have been aware of what the video is saying for about 5 years. I’m going through what feels like rebellion something I should have done in my teens but I didn’t see the problem then. I’m sad but I mostly feel angry that my 94 year old father is still that same verbally abusive person. Which then sends me into feelings of guilt because he’s a short timer on this planet and my issues with him seem magnified now. I wish all the women and anyone affected peace and love
❤ I'm 62 very soon and this is me. I was never good enough for my family, everything was always my fault. I threw myself into my school work, even though I got good grades it didn't make any difference. My relationships have always been rubbish and made a decision to not be in a relationship again. I have learnt that I don't need one. I struggle all the time to stop saying sorry and not doubt myself. But I am alive and try to make a difference in the job that I do. 😊
Absolutely true..lm living proof 😢
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I'm with you. The only difference being I was ignored. I am lonely and not accepting this stage of my life. I never expected to be here at 57. I have just started therapy again.
My first therapy was when I left my parents home 35 years ago. I had a horrible time adjusting. I was afraid of everything and 100% responsible for my safety. Fortunately the US was still a safe place. It took me 30 years to realize my fear was due to my parents not raising me to be an adult. Add to that depression and anxiety, inherited from my mother. I've done okay with friends, a few boyfriends, work, college, vacations, parties, etc, but when everyone moves on and looks fade, it's absolute misery.❤
Reading this bought tears to my eyes - 77 and I felt he was talking about me.
I’m 62… thank you for your words. They are mine as well
Lessons for all new mothers- treat you child well so that they don't have to live with memories of abuse and trauma all throughout their lives. May God protect every child. Very sad.
Or don’t have children at all..
Lesson for all new fathers-show up and BE THERE for your kids AND your partner.
Lessons for all husbands- treat the mother of your children well, especially in front of them and don't put all the responsibility on her so that she can be healthy enough to be a good mother.
So true, and many cultures already understand and practice this. My heart breaks for all the children being traumatised by war 💔💔💔
Very well said! It reminds me of the beautiful but bittersweet Carpenter's song, "Bless the Beasts and the Children".💗🕊️
I broke down into tears as every single point hit home.
Am so grateful for the compassionate man in my life who loves me truly.
My ex divorced me *because* I had traumatic experiences, which hurt far more than the original traumas.
❤ 38 year old mother of 3, in a very hard narcissistic relationship, full of lies, infidelity, gaslighting, abuse, totally dependent on him because he has full control over everything, trapped and isolated from everyone, no friends or family, been drugged, and the list of horrible things go on and on 😢 Im so trapped, exhausted and so beat down and have nothing or no one, and nowhere to go or i will be homeless and penniless and will lose my children 😢 My God, PLEASE HELP ME and my children 💔😭 been abused my WHOLE LIFE, I can't help but wonder if my life is only here to suffer no matter how hard I try, how much I pray and everything in between, I wish I knew what being happy and calm and safe and financially secure feels like for once in my life and to find and be myself so I could shine and share my love with someone who wants it and needs it when the time is right after I heal😢
I'm mother of 5; YOU CAN survive....then THRIVE.....Choose it!
I’ve experienced all these. It was comforting to hear Sir Anthony Hopkins’ voice. ❤
When no value is placed on me, I learn not to value myself. It is learned behavior. I'm a female...
@@lesawilkes5673 so true😢
❤❤❤ It's a vicious cycle that needs to end. I'm 33 and still working towards that self assurance and acceptance. It's a hard process that should not be needed but it is and it takes time. Just have to keep remembering that even though it may be hard it WILL get better. Stay strong and only YOUR opinion matters no one else's! ❤❤❤
❤ While healing with the kind hand of my husband of 23 years, I don't think i will ever be truly whole.
And not for nothing, men who experience the same can behave in a lot of the same ways.
Short, uncomplicated and straight to the point.
Present
❤️❤️ crying as I write this. 100% me ❤️❤️ I feel for everyone who has struggle through and endure it. Loneliness and depression is where I live now.
Find a support group for the abuse you suffered. You will find others that have experienced similar situations. If you haven't yet, ask Jesus Christ to come into your heart and heal you from the inside out. Find a church that will love and support you through your journey. There is help out here, but most times you need to be brave enough to find it.
Sister in pain, know that you never deserved any of that.
Check out Adult Survivors of Child Abuse online. It’s a safe place to begin.
It gets better. Keep an eye toward the end of the tunnel. Like the stages of grief. There are stages of realization and healing.
When you accept that as an endstage, then they still have you by the b.lls. Allow yourself to be sad, but just not as a way of life. ❤
I love you because I AM YOU. You never stand alone to face this storm.
💜💙💚💛🧡❤🤎🖤🤍💟❣ to all the people out there who have experienced mental abuse.
May we pour our love on ourselves. Our paths forged us into the strong, observant, compassionate people we became. Grateful and receptive💪❤️✨🌎
The love of my life is exactly like that. Her previous relationships were trash. I’m always supportive and with patience towards her.
Hm, applies to my love (my wife) as well. Sadly she was abused by her parents
I am happy to hear healing stories ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
How sweet ❤
Love you for that she's blessed
You are a blessing ❤
💔 I will be 58 in September and am still healing from wounds inflicted by my mother, God Bless her soul, and a 26 year marriage. My late mother and my ex-husband, was and is respectively, a narcissist. To all the women in relationships reading this, do research on narcissists and learn all you can. Don't ever confront a narcissist, always clear your history and escape as soon as possible. If you don't have children yet don't because you will be trapped, to an extent, until the child/ren are 18. Thank you for sharing this information. Blessings of love and light to all. 💜💙🧡💛💚
he is correct...he just told my story, Good Bless all of us. NOW is the time to come together and be strong!
❤ I can’t believe someone I don’t know and will never meet could describe me perfectly enough to make me cry. 😢
That’s me too 😢😊
I give YOU blessings and hugs and a good sense of Humor!
❤ I just recently turned 64. I don't really want to admit this, but this is me to a tee. I have spent most of my life being treated like I don't matter. I was treated badly by my classmates all through school. When I graduated from high school I put in a lot of effort to be more confident in myself. I thought I had finally overcome much of my doubt and fears only to marry a man who emotionally abused me for the next 30+ years. I feel guilty because he also abused our children. I feel stupid because I didn't do something about it. I also feel rejected by my siblings. I am on my own and feeling very alone. I love my children and yet I feel guilty for their struggles.
You will heal. The fact you are able to reflect so deeply proves it. 🫶
🙏✝️🙏 GOD bless, comfort you and give you peace!
You are most incredible and positive person ive ever met.
I am on my own also and have generally accepted that being by myself is the best thing for me. One day you will get there too. Be kind to yourself. Power is in the hands of abusers as they know how hard it will be for their victim. Leaving a bad relationship is very hard and scary. I took 3 goes to leave mine. Learn to like you, to love you, to be happy as you not what someone else makes you be ❤
Absolutely can relate to your story, your not alone. ❤️
❤ my wife, my love, has all of these characteristics. So I promised her that she would never have to do it all on her own again. That she will never be alone or feel lonely. She will always be LOVED and reminded that she is beautiful each day. She will always be safe and protected. If she ever felt she needed to apologize, she should know she's already forgiven. It breaks my heart to know that someone could have ever treated the woman I know and love badly when she is the most kind, generous, beautiful soul and the best person. My life started when we met, and I treasure every day that I get to spend with you. Being your husband is my greatest honor, and my greatest pleasure. LOVE FOREVER!
Husband, I thank and bless YOU for your great understanding! Your wife-Love is precious, and so are YOU!!!
Right on ! I always felt like I wasn't good enough. 74 now...still do everything myself. I feel like a pioneer woman.🏵♥️
❤REMEMBER !!!WITH OUT PAIN WE DONT GROW!!!! AMEN 🙏
A woman who have been mentally abused does this, but when she has finally healed she does not anymore ❤
❤ Turning 62 soon. Just found the strength to walk away from a covert narcissist, strangely the acknowledgment of who l have been dealing with was also a catalyst for getting the help l needed and for once to be able to fully stand up for myself. I refuse to be a victim, l am a SURVIVOR!
I walked away 8 years ago on Independence Day! Now I can breathe, however, recovery is very slow.
I left him 5 years ago after 26 years of trying to no end. Been the happiest 5 years of my life and looking forward to the future ahead. Lesson; Leave if you can and don’t ever look back.
Very Proud of you Beautiful Person.❤❤
@@Laurie81560 I'm in my 70's and started counseling over 30 years ago. Recovery can vacillate from very fast to watching paint dry. However, I have also found that when I find someone who has been damaged in some of the ways I had been, it helps to encourage them in their walk toward healing and it also helps me see more clearly the next step in my journey.
In my case I'm thinking that I will be working on this until the day I die and go to be with Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior. And that is fine with me. I'm to the point where the past event triggers very seldom send me into a tailspin and every step of improvement gives me more peace and satisfaction with my life.
💜That was me. But now I'm a survivor!
❤❤❤❤❤All 5 hearts, all five points
This is me. I was raised by a narcissistic mother who, hit me and put me down. I joined ASCA (Adult Survivors of Child Abuse) about a year ago, and it has helped tremendously. Through this program I have realized I do need people, so I have started reaching out trying to make friends. This has been especially difficult for me to make friends with women because I have trust issues. I am putting myself out there and I am hopeful. I am doing the recovery work because I am 45 years old and married for 5 years to my wonderful husband, and it is not right to put all of my emotional and socialization needs on to him. God bless you all❤
I am here for you, my sweet Amanda. I know you have been through a lot, and I will be with you til the bitter end and then some. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
❤ to you from someone who understands. My husband is my only person in the world. Married him 13 yrs ago at the age of 44 after running away from my previous community to escape an abusive situation with family, not a romantic partner.
I live in self-imposed isolation due to extreme ptsd and I too, struggle to make and keep friends. Especially women...
If it weren't for my husband and my little farm and some new friends I've made is this medium, I'm afraid I'd be unmotivated to stay alive. I fight every day to keep my head above water. Thank you for sharing. I hope I didn't over share 😒
Sending 🫂 fr CB NS 🇨🇦 🍁
@@MurphyFarm2014 You are progressing, GOOD FOR YOU! 👏🙌
I''ve been dealing with these types of issues for over 30 years after I discovered that I had them. To me, until it was pointed out to me by a counselor, I thought it was normal. But with her help and Jesus Christ loving me even when I don't feel very lovable, I am making progress.
I'm not sure I'll ever be completely healed, but making progress with friends who love me enough to stick with me when I struggle.
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@@alycewich4472 🤗
@@alycewich4472 Thank you so much!!! 🇨🇦🍁🫠🤗
❤ my heart breaks for all of us. What they do to children and good woman. The Japanese put gold on cracks to repair a beautiful and revered piece. We are the same. Know you are beautiful and worthy, someone sees your beauty.🙌
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No one sees my beauty
And the right person finds you the most beautiful person ever
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@@WhirledPublishing❤
You are right on! I’m a clinical psychologist. I had my nose broken by my first husband. I am fine now
But I’ve always been used to doing everything myself.
To feel this way it starts in childhood... Mothers themselves can be the abusers especially if she feels there is competition with her daughters... Our household was " speak when you are spoken too....if not you are an ornament............" Physical abuse and mental abuse is horrific and it happens in so many families....
I wish more people understood this.
❤ I wish there was someone who knew that was me.
💔💔💔 God knows beloved. I am this woman too. But I no longer am because I have Jesus.
We know. ❤️
@@laurencastillo9741 💯✝
Now...I know. Blessings!
You put into words for all that I had none... couldn't figure out how I'd changed so much when I finally left and returned to the place where I grew up...still can't believe that I'm not at all like the fearless wild person I was! Thank you for your words & the clarity it has given me❤
I know I now have a lot of work to do !
As one who was that woman the beautiful thing is it's possible to overcome. Not an easy or fun path but so worth all the tears. Coming out the other side confident, happy, peaceful and enjoying real relationships. You do not have to remain the victim or the survivor. Instead you can thrive and live life to the fullest.
I could never believe I was beautiful, even though I was often told I was. And I’ve gone through life practically apologising for being alive (I’m now 75).
♥️ Mr. Hopkins, thank you for saying this out loud. I am 55 yrs old and all these points are true, trauma is heartbreaking and it takes a long time to overcome. I am finally healing and learning that I am beautiful and worthy.
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All save one.
If you were not allowed to cry or show anything but happiness to protect the ones you love, you can never breakdown in an argument as an adult. You must leave and cry alone.
Those who have been severely abused must protect and they are never wrong because they give all.theynhave to love even sacrificing every single bit of the life they dreamed of to save others from pain and ruin.
I’m going through a lot right now including being homeless. I have no one to turn to, no family, friends etc. I just escaped a dangerous and abusive situation and they’re still trying to ruin me by text messaging and harassment. The people that I’ve tried reaching out to for help, have ignored me or don’t care. I see all of these qualities in me because I’m scared to be honest and vulnerable… people take advantage of you or turn their backs on you when you’re down. 😢
❤❤❤ for myself and many many others . . .
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❤❤❤❤❤God Bless a real man like Anthony Hopkins to look out for us women!
I’m 65, I don’t care about me anymore, it’s what others expect ❣️❤️
YOU get to experience YOU! You ARE just FINE! AS IS!
❤❤❤ a survivor of physical and mental abuse from childhood n x partners. It's taken alot of tears n self-doubt but now I realised I'm worth it , beautiful n deserve better .
I am very sorry for the women I hurt emotionally or disrespected earlier in my life. I know better now but it still hurts me. I believe many men feel this way. Every person is a vessel of God and of immense worth.
Feeling hurt or feeling sorry won't do anything. Best thing is to actively tell the men and boys in your family and friendship circles to behave better. Or even random men you overhear. And to correct them when they say something disrespectful towards women. Or when they talk about things they are doing that hurts women. This will make a difference and will correct your wrongs. It will prove you are truly sorry because being truly sorry takes effort.
I appreciate your words...you are a true man. Just knowing that someone can recognize their own mistakes, fell badly, and then change, because you learned from those mistakes, means you are favored in God's eye's. Even if you wished you could just go back and apologize but can't...I believe you are forgiven. Please, my friend, say a prayer for me, I've been stuck and in fear in this marriage for 32 years, I am locked in my bedroom as I speak, I am trying to get out of this...FEAR is a very powerful thing, and people wonder how 6 million Jew's could just walk to their own death during the Holocaust...Knowing, yet still going, through that walk. I've learned to FEAR GOD, for his wrath is coming soon...but it means I'll be going HOME soon. Until then, I just need someone to say a Prayer for me for I can't even pray for myself, but I'm trying to gain some self-worth again, and my faith in Jesus is all that's getting me through at this point. I'm facing spinal surgery in a couple of weeks, alone...and will be recovering alone in my room. though my husband is still living under the same roof, he wants a girlfriend he says because I just broke one day and all feeling just stopped, and I am the blame for everything that ever went wrong, he's claims he did nothing, and I am in grama mode so to speak, I am emotionless , and everyday screams how much he hates me, horrific name-calling, just name it, it's every day, and I just sit there, I recently tried sticking up for myself but found out that it only doubled the attacks twofold. So, like in the video, I shut down due to fear. But during that time if recovering, I will be reaching out to legal aid for help for a divorce, my children are grown, but I'm raising a 12 yr old grandchild now, and I refuse to let her be a victim too...my son 30yrs old, has never left home because he has always worried about my wellbeing, he visits me at my bathroom window to check on me and take me to my doctors appt. , he lives on my property in a storage building....just recently have I been able to secretly document the abuse, and keep it safe. My daughter 28, feels the same for me, however, she is taken a different path and turned to paganism, yet she hates her father and he feels the same, it's her child have, and has been abandoned , so I have two people I know that depend on me, if I never could do it for myself before, I have to for them, I'm sorry for this long reply. It's just your honesty, openly...touched my heart, and gave me hope that some people can change.... some can not. I am going to make a BIG change forward. With or without fear, fear is losing it's grip more and more. Just know, you helped me. Because just commenting, I'm scared, but I'm sorry, you brought me to tears. Good luck in life my friend. God Bless you.ok
If you have the gift of gab, I’d add to the first comment that you take the initiative to start conversations wherever you are and teach your message to everyone you can. Best to you.
May I suggest that you contact the women you have treated badly and tell them how sorry you are and what you have done or are doing to make sure it doesn't happen again. If they're like me, their jaws would probably hit the ground. But they will remember that apology for the rest of their lives.
@@alycewich4472 Consider that not all people would respond like you and be open to being contacted.
That was me. 1st marriage left its scars. I remarried, this time wisely and he noticed and was patient and kind and I learned I didn't have to walk on eggshells. But when he passed 3 years later, I began to go back to my defensive state. I am working on undoing those traits.
Good for you! You can do it!
Healing is a journey, I'm finding that it will more than likely last until I take my last breath.
Made me cry instantly.... Then more and more with each point.
Now: Smile, by your own Choice!
This hits hard. Jackpot. I was a child of an alcohol addicted parents. Living trough childhood with moody, whiny and abusive persons. Was in my midfourties when its finally breaks me. Depression and Panicattacks drrove me into suidal thoughts. But I have a understanding, loving husband and two wonderful childreen, then and now. So I seek for help and got some. Healing mentally was a long and sometimes bumbing road. The scars will be there forever, but I made it. At last step I broke up with my mother for my best and end to hate my late father. And yes, I will give ❤❤❤ with a smile on my face.
😢62, grateful for my husband who tries so hard to help me heal.
Yesss that’s definitely me. I’ve learned to take care of myself. I don’t know what it’s like to have anyone take care of me.
We can if we heal enough to allow it to happen. I'm learning because it is now a necessity...
No. 5 is spot on. I do everything while at work. I always have. I never ask for help. I never have.
Anger hides pain. It took a long time for this to become clear.
❤ I Never Felt Like Belonged Here , I Don’t Fit in anywhere 😢Always an outsider
GOD BLESS ❤ GOD HAS SEPARATED YOU ; AND HAS PUT YOU IN A NEW SEASON-- GOD DOES NOT ALWAYS GIVE ; BUT DOES TAKE AWAY THE WRONG PEOPLE IN YR LIFE ; AS GOD HAS MADE YOU A CHOZEN ONE-- YOU STAND OUT FROM THE REST; AS YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THE BRIGHTEST LIGHT OF ALL --- GOD WANTS YOU TO DRAW CLOSER TO HIM ; AND HAVE A CLOSE RELATION SHIP WITH HIM ; AS GOD HAS BIGGER PLANS AHEAD FOR YOU!!! HAVE FAITH AND PRAY 🙏 AS ON THIS EARTH WE ARE CHALLENGED MANY OF STORMS ; BUT SOON THE STORMS WILL BE ALL OVER ; AND JUSES IS COMING BCK SOON---- WE ARE NOW LIVING IN OUR LAST DAYS IN TIMOTHY 2V3!!!!!! AND ALL THE SIGNS ARE ALREADY HERE--- GOD LOVES YOU AS HIS CHILD ; AND HES BEEN THERE ALL ALONG FOR YOU--- YOU HAVE GOT THIS FAR SO DONT GIVE UP; JUST BE PATIENT AND WAIT ON GODS TIMING!!!! GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU; AND THE REAL VICTORY IS IN CHRIST JUSES!!!! AMEN 🙏 ❤
💜 that's me to a T! Narc mother, second husband a psycho, I successfully manage PTSD for over 20 years, still apologise too much, will ask for help but hate it, bless all who've been abused🙏🇬🇧💜
Bless you to. Your a surviver, be proud on yourself. ❤
Keep going, you're doing an amazing job in healing. Asking for help is my problem too, although I'm getting better at it and ask more frequently because I'm getting more comfortable with it. But it takes LOTS of practice!
❤❤❤. Oh my God! This is unbelievable how accurate in this short video my whole life was explained.
Yes, it’s like you read my life. I’ve been in Counselling for years but the scars remain. You didn’t mention the persistent depression and adohenia ❤
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I haven’t been abused, but I was always left out of groups at school and told I wasn’t good enough
That was emotional abuse, my friend.
@@kjbdn AMEN and as far as I'm concerned the hardest to heal from.
I watched this because it’s Anthony Hopkins .. but, no one who’s survived any form of abuse is a victim! The inner strength to survive..to get through it .. will always be your Super Power!! Learning to recover from it is the hard part n learning to trust others .. but, everyone on here.. ya all amazing!! Male n female.. ( not always bout females..) ❤
I love Anthony Hopkins, well what can I say he just described my life, but I will at that those experiences are the very reason why I love being alone. I carry on with my healing journey ❤.
Thank you! ❤🌻🌻🌻
❤ True for any person, if you treat someone like they are garbage all their life they are bound to feel broken, healing comes at the cost of being willing to face the pain and releasing it in forgivness ( in that to release the situation and not allow what happened to sap everything from you), i hope for all abuse victims that they find peace, in peculiar for women, i hope you who have been hurt by others find yourselves again, find the "who" you are, and find the love you desperatly crave from within not from without. may peace be with you.
My ❤ hurts. You were singing my life with your words.
You understand a woman. God bless you, Anthony Hopkins. This is why I prefer older men who understand us.
❤❤❤ my grandma, my mom, me.., I'm 34 now. I've seen and been through it; and now, healing myself...
❤ oh dear, you just spelt out the five signs of my life, I'm 70 and just learning this too!
IMO Better late than never. I've been working on these traits for over 30 years and will probably continue to do so until the day I die. But each step toward healing is another step toward peace.
My parents did this to me. I’m constantly worrying that I’m doing it to my kids.
Don't know how old your kids are, but when my adult sons were in elementary school they had a parenting class for any adults that wanted to, could attend for free. There were around a dozen that thought it could be useful. I found it amazing how much information I was able to glean from that class, which then led me to other books or classes. I also would ask my pediatrician about specific issues I was having. But that was decades ago and practices have changed. I'm sure CZcams has some helpful videos on this subject.
❤ that's me. bf of 10 years can't handle me anymore. I'm so lost. and hurts like no other.
You have my heart! God bless!
❤️ This is me..emotional neglect from my mother..criticism...all the things. Age 58.
The same applies to a mentally abused man as well 😅
Agree, its hard to shake it off even when you have done the work on yourself.
❤ Spot on. You are very right.