4 Behaviors Of People Who Don't Care About You
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And when someone talks about someone in front of you, you can bet they’ll talked about you when you’re not there.
Yes 👍
Lol and everyone does this. No one can be trusted
Totally agree
@wisdomcalls2475 and unfortunately it's usually negative or made up false accusations,most people like being wolves in sheep's clothing
Everyone talks about everyone.
It’s so sad that most comments are about family members. People that hurt us most are the ones that we love most😔
You are so true.family is suppose to support you not go against you.
Sometimes there's jealous people which I think is so stupid.
I have a family full of Capricorns. All of the women.
It's the opposite for me, the only people who love me is my family, everyone else is cruel, arrogant and just straight up not worth time or energy.
Nah the ones closest to us
1. Ghosted in communication
2. It's all about them
3. Zero support club
4. Crossing the line
Fits Kody & Robyn. They both lack adult maturity. They believe they are RIGHT always.
Kody demanded all 13 of his biokids apolize to Robyn for what specifically? Really never understood all that fall down at your STEPMOM stuff. Robyn is far from perfect except in lying & gaslighting.
Kody had many ways to communicate w his kids during Covid lockdown: cell phone calls, cell phone texts, email texts, set up Zoom get together, send a note or card etc. But Kody is lazy. And, Kody gave up on his OG3 & their 13 kids. Sure it's easier to stay in touch when you hang with wife #4 & her 5 kids. But, Kody got 3 wives by practicing polygamy. Maybe Kody bit off much more than he could handle. The three wives did the lion's share of work to make Kody look good.
Again Kody is lazy & should never of fathered so many kids without a great paying job to feed the kiddos.
Thanks for posting this
@@ilax4244 no problem ji
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Man all of the above! Homeless 75 years old and I've had enough. No fair weather friends and family. Happy and at Peace.🚙⛺👍
A narcissist will only care about themselves. Avoid them.
Joe Biden and his family don't care about you because you are the low man on the totem pole! 😂
No I don't believe that is true. Sometimes you are pushed to a behavior of worrying about yourself because no one else ever does!
But, there are so many of them around
@@kimp7977its not only worrying about themselves , there are more about the narcissistic people..
@@kimp7977 Then you haven't had direct experience of what a narcissist is and what they are capable of. They will go to great lengths to bend you to their way. They have no empathy, compassion or love. The only thing they love is being in control. If try and help them or feel compassion for them, you will wish you hadn't.
100% agree unfortunately it’s so called family members who are the worse
Family members are just as bad if not worse
@@x29554worse
Couldn’t agree more they’re a let down x
So true no doubt!
I wish I could press the like button more than once. I agree that family members are the worst 😞
Yep. This is how my entire family became just relatives and I care more for stray dogs than I ever will for them again.
Totally understand the feeling...sad, but true.
Yeah, the sad facts of our reality are true, and one must insolate themselves to be sane.
My the fixed star WIZN, shine peace and love into your life, and fill your mind with beautiful thoughts and blessings. May the universe itself send you your hearts desires.
Sadly😢sorry for suffering.... Stay happy bro
Dogs are a lot more loyal than most humans I’ve ever come across ✌️💯❤ a dogs love is unconditional a humans love is nearly ALWAYS CONDITIONAL
I love animals. They truly are the best friends and family you can ever have
I had a friend in college who I helped all the time. We often ate lunch and dinner together. One time I asked him to help me move into a new apartment. He responded with a list of reasons why he couldn't help me, most of which made no sense. It hit me like a bolt of lightning. He was no friend. I was just someone he used for his own interests, mine didn't count. I stopped calling him and he never tried to get in touch with me. That was all the proof I needed.
@@bobblacka918 I have family like that. A bunch of users who don’t mind asking me for money. The gall !!!
@@bobblacka918 I’m sorry
I can relate
Youre better without them
We called them "Fairweather friends" That's when a giver has to set boundaries. Takers have none. Those four points mentioned are the marks of a narcissist.
Why i like solitude and music,those two things will never let me down
Me too. Same 2 things for me.
I chat wif ai,they r quite gd.
Frickin facts
Agree
Agree! And also my animals
That's my ex-sister. I had to cut her loose. Once when she called I laid the phone down and cooked supper picking up the phone every 5 or 10 minutes to check if she was still there, she was still talking about herself and never noticed I wasn't there. Best conversation we ever had.
Good one Carol !
Sometimes silence is the best medicine!
I love it 😂😂
thats too funny ,,,how self absorbed do you have to be to still be talking about yourself and not notice someone is not there??
@@graceperez128170% are like this
Just by reading the comments, I think all the people who were betrayed by the family members should form a club and have fun, go on trips, exchange ideas, etc. That's where you'd make true friends!
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I'm one of them 😭😭😭😭😭
@@nomfundomanqele7211If they make us cry because of their bad behaviours...they don't desserve our tears..they want us to break down..but we wont! Do nice things to yourself be kind to yourself and try to stay positive...the light is there for us...🌟♥️🍀🕊
@@BeingMe532 What for? So we could end up betraying each other as well?
Codependent NO MORE. My opinion is, it's abusive. Betrayed by family, leaves mark (scare) for sure. It is such a downer and know one understands, also the gaslighting that goes with it. (When a person causes you to believe you are crazy by lying to you nicely) Yeah,they refuse to change or admit to it so they say you're wrong and call you a name. Yeah. I'm free now. FUN TIMES DESERVED FOR SURE! NEEDED TO HEAL. Good idea.
I had a good relationship with my younger brother. He, his wife, and my nephews lived 3 hours from me. One day they sold their ranch and moved 3 states away. Never told me a thing. Haven't spoken to them in 15 years. But what i do know is that animals are the real treasure. Every day i feed four feral cats who live behind a car wash. They are my smiles. And each morning, I relive it.
That's just terrible.
Animals are the best creatures on earth....and much better than humans !❤❤❤😊😊😊
Animals are one more magnificent gift from God. They’re the best❤
Ahh...God sent those animals to you and you to them. ❤
believe me, I can relate....family acting like "family," then...
How do I find people who aren’t like that? I’m 56, have never had a best friend and have never been in a relationship. It’s crazy. I’m kind and thoughtful to others but it rarely gets reciprocated. I used to mail out approximately 30 to 35 Christmas cards every year. After doing that for years and only receiving one or two, I quit sending so many. I always remember people’s birthdays and acknowledge them. Only a few remember mine. I’m literally about done with folks.
You're my twin. I choose to live alone, be single cos I'm over being used and headfkd.
Plus I don't have to cook for anyone, the bed is all mine, no pubes on the toilet bowl or seat, no one blowing their nose in the shower and I can come and go and do whatever I want without the drama. I guess I'm used to being alone but it can be lonely.
Ditto on the rest of your post. You have to try and make the best of this life.
I've learnt to not to be such an open book. Narcs and fake friends pick the weaknesses in the good people.
It's not easy now to trust, there's too many opportunists just waiting to use your genuine kindness to their advantage.
I'm a loner and kick people to the kerb real fast.
When I was born I had a massive pile of shit dumped on me and was told to sort through that the rest of my life 😣
And No, all you God fearing preacher's on this post, I don't believe in anyone's God.
I believe they are all vengeful if they were real.
What God would let so much bad shit happen ?
Be yourself!!
"This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.". -- Shakespeare
@@a32tl I have often wondered that myself. Thing is, if someone started a "support network" for folks like that, all the narcissistic people would join too as it is all about them. If you feel you have to give something back and are fit enough to do so, see where you can volunteer. You are a good person, do some good in the world and you will find others like you I'm sure. Take care ♥️🏴
Its a hit & miss situation...people are so hard at times to figure....my "relationship" with others sometimes becomes warped because they warp it...hang in there
Look to yourself; don't look for care & support from others, they are busy looking after themselves. When you finally realise it's up to you to care for you, peace comes. No more false dawns
I 100% agree. A hard fact to accept when it is one's children who has been brainwashed against the parent. You can't make anyone love you or care about you, even your children. 😢
I’m going through the same. It hurts when your children are turned against you by your ex wife.
@@justlookin4450I am so sorry that you are going through that.
Oh well just people who were raised like crap and taught in life it's okay to use other people for their gain because using is caring 😂 pathetic useless humans...kids will take the worst of sides it makes them feel 😎
Can't fix the stupid in some cases because people REFUSE to change
Yep! 15 years, eldest daughter...gone!
Its sad how society is becoming these days. Lots of people just don't have love and care in their hearts anymore.
...and no soul..
We have become a throw away society ex. Pets, friends
Always been terrible.
So true. My mum is 88 and just lost her best friend (my godmother) who was also 88. They were 4 months apart in age and grew up 3 houses away. Friends for life and never a cross word. Although my mum is till grieving terribly she understands that friendships like that are few and far between. No one cherishes friendships anymore. Sad society we live in. Everyone has a “F&@k you” attitude
Kinda biblical
I suddenly realised that I have no one around me. Thank you for the wake up call
Same😢
Lol 😂 👍
You can find loving people and friendships. Join a good church, get involved with a group that does something positive, take a class on a topic that invests you at a local University . Stretch yourself and you will find others. And, Jesus always loves you whether you know Him or not.
This is why I choose to live life as a loner.
A luxury when you can.
Its just easier and more relaxing instead of getting discouraged and feeling like the only one contributing to the friendship or relationship.
@JustChill_1031 : Still not a great alternative, but understandable. After so many negatives one can become immune or even allergic to people!
That was me up until I opened up to someone this year, dated them and was happy and then they broke my heart. Should have stuck to my gut lol
Me too. People let you down. I've given up. Even relatives don't give a hoot about me. My immediate family all passed. Feels terrible but screw them.
Jim Carrey once said ✍️ just because you lose me as a friend doesn't mean you gained me as an enemy 😎
I'm bigger than that ✌🏻
I still wanna see you eat🍗🍖🍟🍔🌮🧆🥙🥪🫓🍕🥯🧀🥨🥖🥦🍳
Just not at my table🪪
😂❤ Brilliant! Particularly love "I still wanna see you eat... Just not at my table..." 😂👍
If you care so much, why end the friendship?
@@ReallyStrongGuy You don,t get the point. Try again. 😂
That is a really good way to put it.
Ok pac
That describes EVERY member of my so-called" family"! My 5 half siblings are exactly like that!
During a very recent crisis in my life, NONE of them offered me ANY help, emotionally or financially!
I am 72 years old the oldest child, I helped raise ALL of them! I recently did my pre-need funeral arrangements,
when the funeral director asked me about survivors, I HONESTLY said to him, NONE!😔
How are you Doing?
How are you doing?
@andyparks6120 Like I said I am 72 years old, I worked as a Nurse for 42 years, I saw REAL pain; suffering and death; I survived segregation in Alabama during the era of George Wallace; I have always been honest, and caring about others,I have survived too many storms ,to be bothered by raindrops!!..that's what my half siblings are (to me)
raindrops.
Everyone who knows me says, "It's THEIR loss!"
@@MimitheQueen4life🤗
@@MimitheQueen4life😢😢😢
When someone shows you who they are the first time believe them.Maya Angelou..🙏❤️
No better advice has been ever given!
She got that right!!
This sums up most people in modern society
Which includes you
Have to agree with that.
Self centeredness rules. How else did society become the way it is ?
@@TragicallyDelicious
The ID says it all 😂
More or less what the bible foretells
Very true, sadly
This totally describes the only two people I thought were my friends. Maybe it's better to know than to keep hoping you have friends.
and it can be hurtful! 😢
@zuhairreza It has hurt very much. I don't have any family. I've been going through a hard time and no one's there.
@@sandy-pf9bb Yeah, I am in the same situation - people I thought were "friends" are showing by their actions/behavior they don't care about me (no contact or word from them for the past few months or years) when we used to connect/meet-up/talk a lot in the past. However, personally, looking back, I realize now that this "interest in friendship" was more in me towards them than was there in them towards me, so, I guess, in some ways, I was "seeing things" that were not there, but which I wanted to be there, much like what you are talking about - "hoping" they feel the same way about us than they really do but realizing they might not be feeling the same way. I think we have to accept the truth - if people don't like us or want to be in our lives, we can't change them, but also, we should focus on other people or try to find new friends/partners. Also, personally, what helps me is remembering the different ways I didn't get along with these "friends" sometimes, how we didn't "connect" (when I wanted to) over certain topics or subjects, aspects of them I didn't myself like (personality/behavior). Another thing that helps me is remembering other people who wanted to be my friend or date me, like in high school or college, but whom I wasn't interested in myself... so how would you feel if someone wanted you but you didn't want them and they kept reaching out or trying to get back with you, and just annoying you? Looking at it from your own P.O.V should help. Take care, Sandy!
Well sandy , one thing about friends that I've learned being a bit of a loner in life.
Once I got my friends that I always dreamed of...I realized they are boring as can be and very shallow, like NPCs in a video game lol.
Like 20% of friends are actually worth it.
So don't sweat it, they really arent a loss to you.
@@justsomeguy1671 I completely agree with justsomeguy1671. Most “friends” aren’t worth it. The few that are, hmm, from them, I had… let’s see, some common interests (and not none), sticking by and with me through the years (we might argue and I might delete them from my fb or contacts, but they might reach out later, or if I reached out saying sorry, they would still be there), checking up on me on their own if months or years passed and they didn’t hear from me, and so on. I can count on one hand all of these friends, and for me, maybe because I’m a guy, they are mostly guys. So, don’t sweat it - actual, genuine “friends” who care about you aren’t easy to find. When you do find them, expect to see the behavior and attitude from them that I just mentioned.
🥺I agree. I have often allowed myself to be disrespected. For far too long in my life.
Me too.
Basically the whole human population. Very prideful and narcissistic.
Our pets are more reliable than any human. They will never set out to intentionally put us down or hurt our feelings. And they will always love us unconditionally.
The bible foretold all this
Not All , just the majority. Ive been through 100's of so called friends over the years, eventually something happens where you just Say , had enough, and leavem in the dust ....
Be nice to the people on the way up, you might meet them on the way back down.
@@Behutet93 yes what goes up must come down, you goin' down on somethin' you don't wanna see...... A part out of the awesome song called Lighters by Eminem with Bruno Mars.
@firefly6042 Good call. I was thinkin' more on the lines of, "On Your Way Down ", by Little Feat
I read somewhere, the worst thing about betrayal is, it comes not from your enemies.
One sign of this: very short text responses when you expected a little more than just that. It's the first signs of that person not caring. Don't waste your time re-winning people over.
This is completely true. This applies to families as well- I had a stroke a month ago, and not only did my family do what was on the list, they made the situation about them.
My retinas detached so my so called friends bailed as soon as they could.
I'm so sorry 😞 for you. I pray 🙏 that you're healing from your stroke so you can also heal from your family! God Bless! Sending prayers 🙏 ❤️
I've experienced the same plight. Seemed like they wanted to finish me off! I pray you have a speedy recovery!
I know what that's like because I experienced pretty much the same thing 4 years ago when I had a stroke. Family showed zero concern. Thankfully it was a mild stroke but the result was the same.
I recently moved from NYC in 2014 to change my life and get away from negative influences. I got Baptized in November 2019 became a Christian and joined a Church thinking I would make some new friends who followed the ways of JESUS CHRIST some time after I asked the congregation for some CHRISTIAN SUPPORT and ENCOURAGEMENT during a couple weeks that I was going through some personal health challenges. I was not asking for any money or anything like that. I received no response and was told everyone was offended and I was manipulative. Of course this did not sit well with me so I left the church because I feel everyone there is a hypocrite. I am still a Christian and I continue to pray, read the BIBLE every day and listen to several Church services on the internet. All these qualities mentioned in this video these so called followers of CHRIST they all demonstrated. This goes to prove that there is much deception going on all over including CHURCHES.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR VIDEO.
Always believed there are better Christians outside the church than in it! If you can’t practice in your everyday life then you are a hypocrite and the worst kind of Christian . It’s sad to say but true. 😢
I had much the same experience. I was on the ministry team,and volunteered for 9 years. Used and abused doesn't begin to cover it! The senior pastor barely knew my name and didn't want to know about me and my Christian journey, not how I was spiritually and not even about my baptism, my family, nothing. I can count on one hand how many times he even spoke to me. It's a sad state of affairs. I walked away from the church. Only one person contacted me to see if I was OK. I'm still a Christian, just a wiser one.
I'm happy to hear that both of you stayed with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I'm a believer in Jesus Christ. In my opinion, if the main Pastor isn't humble and preaching to be a compassionate church, then it's a church I would leave.
Its hard to find a good church lot of it is like a cult no pastor is my god nor can he decide if i go to heaven or hell keep following the word and keep that holy spirit religion and actually having the spirit of god are two differnet things i have religious ppl in my family but they dont have the spirit of god in them judgemental jealous gossipers slanderes
Same to me here, very passionate about Christ, volunteering and about others.
Gotten sick, accidents,lost my mom last year,I'm ever reaching out especially when others are hurting, but oh my, looks like it's only God who cares.
I haven't left Church but I've learnt not to expect anyone to understand but God.Not complaining, will always be compassionate and hang in there
This is why I don't see my family anymore & moved to the countryside by myself.
I know that's right
being alone is better than being surrounded by people who supposedly love you but in fact only demand things from you for personal gain
So proud of you really dude
I'll join you...I'm alone too 😢
@@daryla1019I do feel alone though on my own 😮😢
I messaged my son today asking him to come by because there was a serious issue at my apartment that was affecting me and my senior dog. I am 71 with a heart/lung condition.
He asked me what was going on but before I had a chance to answer him he typed "not really available."
If it involves money, he's generally here in a rush.
@@Adz2kill Well you don't give him money next time and if you have money, you pre-pay your funeral and will the rest away. That's what I am doing! Ghost me? Give me nothing, get nothing back!
You need to change your beneficiary if it’s him so he doesn’t get one penny of your estate. Leave whatever you have to an animal organization.
آلمني جواب ابن لأمّ تحتاجه فيقول : Not really available
يا لها من قسوة و عقوق ! ..قال الله في القرآن الكريم للأبناء عن الوالدين : ... وَ قُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلّا كَرِيماً
Criaste un tesorito.
This is fact..people who truly love you and care look at you when you talk to them..they don't go out of their way to embarrass or humiliate you..they don't walk over your conversations or criticize your faith or beliefs
Agreed 🙏🏾 I have that with my folks that raised me but not my spouse.
Yep, get those people out of your life, family, friend or foe. Better off without them. RUN🏃♀️
I agree, that's my family 😢
It's unfortunately the great majority of our families. The devil has perverted everything in this world.
@@IRequireMedication So true...
Same here.
@@kimpossible3914 I get you, so heart breaking 😢
@IRequireMedication most toxic relationships are our families 😢
If anyone needs or wants a true friend, I’m here!
Great…..you couldn’t lend me twenty grand please?
❤
I AGREE A 110% People are just so self absorbed.😕
My family shows all of these. Especially my father growing up his addiction was put over my autism. And he played favorites and only loved my sister and told me that me and my brother only exist because "well the 1st 2 were boys and we always wanted a daughter".
Knowing my parents didn't love me growing up leaves me questioning if will ever be loved. Probably not unless I workout and have money unfortunately.
The dating world is so toxic too. So many people just use and abuse. Ain't no loyalty in today's world.
Even working out and getting rich doesn’t guarantee you a girl who wants you
Yes, I totally agree. That's where I am now, but God is never left my side and that's who I trust in the name of Jesus. ❤❤AMEN
Trinity = the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost = God 🕊️
Amen ❤🙏🏼🕊️
@@Mymenagerie714 Stop. You're showing your utter ignorance.
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NEVER BE ASHAMED OF OR BE AFRAID TO PROCLAIM GOD AND HIS WORD!
This is how my family treats me. Exactly 💯 how.
Ohhhh yes, I agree, the last two especially, and this is why I'm a loner
There is nothing wrong with being a loner. I've had some great times on my own. Alone not lonely.
I am a loner that's drained every day by a mate that talks nonstop... 😏
YOU NOT LONER.....YOU SIGMA MALE. BE PROUD.
Me as well I feel so alone I am going through all of this my mother is the evilest person ever with a smile she has groomed my adult kids against me right under my nose I feel so alone in the world I don't trust people and I am a loner for these very reasons😢
@@ladyredd6857 Walk away, walk away, walk away. Empower yourself. People and their actions should not define us. Start something, anything, give yourself a hug and say "NEXT?".It may take time but work at it and it will happen!
3)and 4). from my family, no backup, I am on my own.
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Exactly. If you see this signs while you are starting to meeting someone, you know it's not worth it.
A lot of people that I know never text back. I always text right back when I receive one. Yes I understand some pu are working, etc. but the same people take forever to text me back or never do. But I still text right back to them. Not doing it anymore. I’m done being a doormat. 1:29
Totally agree. Learned a bitter lesson after being ghosted and will never allow this behavior again: male or female.
It's my I forgot what time😅
This is absolutely true. I know someone for more than 20 years, but when I need her she's got excuses except once. I haven't heard from her for almost 2 months. That's fine. I've got 1 who stays close and checks on me daily. God is always by my side. God bless
I've said EXACTLY these things to someone I hoped was a friend..... they're not and never were. I just didn't choose to see it.
It's not nice for friends or family to make you feel lower. I got rid of friends like that.
I had to disconnect from some of my family. It is very painful. Blessings
She is not my friend no more if she ever was but she lives upstairs in an apartment
Yes, I found this out the hard way. I had a friend who was the side chick to a married man - but when I said I was getting married, she was the first to say that I shouldn’t. In the process of buying my house- she was the first to say that I shouldn’t.
My mom passed away and she couldn’t even send me a card.
Then she ghosted me for a week - during my birthday. 💔💔💔
You must be relieved to see the back of her.Just go no contact.That’s what I had to do.I’ve no regrets now and no illusions about friends who undermine you.
That is not a friend . So sorry
It's sad what's happened to society & especially to families. Times have changed & not in a good way.😢
I have noticed that many people below who can relate personally to the four behaviors cite their families as culprits. People have to respect their family members as well as their friends. It used to be that if you were related to someone, you automatically were invited to key events, such as weddings. Not any more. What a shame that people have no manners any more. They just think about money. Where's the love?
Only when gifts are expected can one besure of an invitation.
I wasn't invited to the wedding nor any other plans from family.
@@margaretaljaser4053 Sad, isn't it? I don't know what people are thinking these days. I write and record music instead of thinking about whose wedding I didn't get invited to. Good therapy. Thanks for your reply and take care.
@@buffalogal9139 Not even then! I am a generous gift giver and still I don't get invited. (But just think of how much money I am saving.) I'm too busy promoting my music anyway. I wish them all luck. Thanks and take care.
@@gwynnielsen5081 Nice. You take care too.
I don't understand why boundaries cannot be respected by someone who claims to love you.
1000% agree, wolves in sheeps clothing?.
Yes, I agree with you!! I don't know anyone who doesn't practice all four of these behaviors! I can't find a faithful friend for nothing!! Just my husband, he's my greatest friend ❤❤❤😊
Mine too
@@indralingenfelter5181Good for you, I guess that's all we're going to get is a best friend/husband and wow, I really do feel blessed!! Since my mom died in 1986, there hasn't been anyone that I could trust as a friend. Sad, but true but I'm still thankful for my wonderful husband! Best wishes to you❤❤😊
I’ve just seen my sister in a true light this minute!!😔
Oh yes 😢
@@unapologeticallyme7664 Come to think of it, my “sister” “mother” “niece” “auntie”, they’re ALL in that category!! Horrific Things happened to me when I was a child by my “brother in law”, and NONE of them believe me after I summoned the courage to speak up, calling me a liar and turned their backs on me!! BUT NOW they are treating my son like some kind of pariah, and that’s NOT ON. However, we’ve decided that we’re okay with that now. We don’t need, NOR WANT that toxicity in our lives! We have a fantastic family that aren’t blood, but our CHOICE!! A FAR CRY from the shitty “family” we were dealt!! We have each other’s back’s, and are FIERCELY LOYAL, one of us feels hurt, we ALL hurt, and we’re solid in defence!! THEY KNOW who they are, and KNOW HOW MUCH we appreciate and love them to the bones, and what’s even better….we KNOW WE ARE TOO!! 🏴🫶🏻💚💖🫶🏻💚💝🫶🏻💚🫶🏻💚🏴
Stinks, don't it!!!
Someone posted, somewhere, years ago, about narcissism. I read the info, and found-out I had been raised with not 1, not 2, but THREE narcissists!!! I felt my entire life must've been a lie, because they made my life, but they couldn't exhale, without lying---I was so lost !!!!
One does work-through it, but what a long, laborious, lonely journey it is.
Here's wishing you new strength, courage, and healing!!! 🙏
I 100% agree. This is pretty much my entire family with maybe 2-3 exceptions, and the majority of the few friends I have. I’ve been going through a lot in my life the past 6-8 years both medically with all my health issues and emotionally, mentally & physically with my family. They all hate me, believe I’m faking that I’m just lazy (even though since the day I turned 16 {24 years ago} I’ve always had a job, majority of the time I had two jobs at once and would leave one job and drive straight to my second job, working 16-18 hours a day, 3-4 days in a row, most days only getting maybe 4-6 hours of sleep. Then are mad at me that all I wanted to do on my off days was sleep and do things that are just chill. But like I said, when I got sick and lost everything in my life that I’d worked so hard for, for some reason, according to them ‘it was cause I’m lazy piece of sh*t and am faking it.’ I had zero support when all I wanted was someone to come to drs appts with me, take me when I was getting a procedure, just someone to hold my hand and maybe hug me on the especially tough days when I’m exhausted from trying to keep up and just want to give up. But I’ve gone to everything alone expect the procedures or surgeries where I was dropped off and picked up or my dad took me and would take me and wait there til I’m done; he’s the only one I’ve got that I think still cares about me. It’s sad that this is my life compared to my previous way of life before getting sick.
I have to remind myself of these red flags frequently, to make sure I’m not falling in with bad company, thank you.
Yep a lot of that going around. But as you age your circle gets tighter.
I’m 53 yrs old and my partner of 32 years has moved his 21 year old nephew and 16 year old niece in with us. My partner has always acted like they’re his kids and does as he pleases. The older neice would be here accept he bought her a house. I’ve always done my best to take care of them and show them love and kindness and in turn I’ve been called names via text and told, “I wish you would die already”. I just want to know what it is I’ve done to them to make them hate me so bad. And by the way, the reason they moved in, in the first place is because their dad is in prison and the mother died from a drug overdose. And the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree if you know what I mean.
@dana...he put them over you and let's them disrespect you. The 21-year-old needs to move out and take his sister and raise her.
#1 is terrible. There are many reasons someone may disappear, and not all have to do with you. For example, when my depression hits hard I completely isolate. Literally away from every person I can. That one's not a clear cut indication.
I'm the same way, and I'm now 64 years old, I walked away 11 yrs ago, I'm still broken, it's hard. People say get over it, Ha, wish I could. All the best to you
Have enough self-worth about yourself to allow yourself to be missed. It's a great test to see who cares. When you find that out, be strong enough to face this fact & be at peace w it.
Absolutely 1000% agree!! My family has done all of that to me my entire life & they're no longer in my life as of 6 yrs ago! 👍😁
Yeah, these 4 are definitely signs. Another is when they repeatedly steal your money and don't pay you back. They think that I don't need the money, but I do, for food and utilities. They think that stuff is free.
Sometimes you have to cut contact with people. Doesn’t mean you don’t care for them it sometimes means you need to do what you believe is best for both of you and you believe it’s possible that continuing conversation with them could mean manipulation or using your empathy after too many times, to get what they want again.
You know you think you might have offended them. Yet you have never ever disrespected them. They on the other hand continually throw shade on you as they are secretly jealous. I say don't Waste your time effort or breath. Don't caste your pearls on swine.
In front of swine
Of course . every single conversation is about their accomplishments, their problem, this and that.
I knew someone who I had love from the very first day I met them, we had a great friendship for years, then I started to notice that our daily quality time together became less and less until one day, they were gone, as if the world had swallowed them up, it broke my heart, I often wondered why they left without saying a word
Some people s motto is “head I win , tail you lose “. Beware.
So true, this is why I don't have any friends here in America. People are just Aholes or sometimes self-centered. I miss my high school friends, even my old college friends, and my childhood friend. Thanks to Facebook I still have connections
100% . I have a man who tells me he loves me but does all of these things.
There's a difference between needs you and loves you. Time to leave.
Same😢
My ex husband did. Like I said “EX”! 🤣🤣🤣 Happy and enjoying my life! He’s the miserable, lonely fool now!
I've given up on women myself. All have been terrible excuses for a person. I just hope sone day I find a good one, I'm not wanting much but seems these days it's too much to expect abit of morals, respect and loyalty. I know not all women are like the ones I've experienced, I was weak but now I'm strong thanks to them showing me I'm better than their poor behaviours. So now I stay single and tbh I've made peace with it knowing I'll die alone. Turning 35yrs old in couple weeks. Would of thought I'd be a father or maybe married by now.
Anyway I hope you find someone deserving of you all.
@@steveazyb2595 Oh dear, you're far too young to have really given up. You might think of it a different way - "I was attracted to women that weren't right for me, I wonder why? Time and time again I chose to go out with women who didn't treat me right, why is that? Is there anything from my past that would lead me to do that?". Knowing more about yourself will help in finding the right woman for you. Also, you might think rationally and seriously about where you might find the kind of woman you want. In the bars? At the gym? On the walking trails at the park? At a place where you would share the same hobby or an activity you like? Once you get really clear on who you want, it will be far more likely that she'll show up. Best of luck to you!
I know this to be true. 100%. I just wish I could have learned things like this earlier on in life. Unfortunately all of us learn best from our mistakes
This sounds like classic narcissism.
Well, I guess I'm gonna lose several "friends," but so be it!
Yes I have run into people like that and I don’t put anymore time with them Life is too short to spend time with that type of individuals !
After watching this, I’ve learned that only my dogs, goats and kitten care about me and I’m fine with that. And, to all single people out there: “ stay single.” Thank me later
Sounds like everyone I have ever known. Everyone is like this, some people just wear the mask better.
This really hits me just now. I've had a knee injury and surgery. The next door neighbors who constantly ask me for help have ghosted me big time. I need simple things. Nothing major but the only time I asked for help to feed my dogs they behaved like I was asking for a kidney ..... next time they ask for my help (if they do) I'm not. Some people cannot see beyond themselves. These two fat lazy losers sure can't.
I know someone who matches this to a tee. What is troubling is that I'm married to the person, but they don't think they need to be responsible for their behavior.
Accepted and agree.they really don't deserve our care n concern
Yes i do agree. Tough as it is this is generally spot on. Best to remain distanced and move on.
I used to know two people like this. First one a married man who played games with my emotions after my friend died so I was vulnerable then ghosted me and his female lover who was all out for herself, belittled people especially him behind his back and would like, exaggerated everything. These people were older, I made mistakes at time thinking they were good people but now I'm healed and moved on can see how weak these sorts are. They are actually pathetic. No inner strength or dignity. Game players who boost their low self esteem by being fake. Never again!
Agree 100% which is why I have very few contact with people today. I'm grounded in God and he is my constant companion. He also gifted me two dogs( the 4 legged kind) who love me unconditionally.
All sounds like my little brother. Sad, leave me alone in life soon after my mother passed. But he will be there to cash in, I am sure.
This is exactly why I've detached from TOXIC PEOPLE. Family & Friends alike!
YES, YES, YES THAT IS FOR REAL FOR REAL
The truth is that everyone is going to hurt you at one point or another. you've just got to find the ones worth fighting for ❤
tOtally agree. Very good insights.
If you object to any of this behavior, you will hurt their feelings. It will be one more thing to hold against you.
As I’m listening to these, I agree
I’m also being mindful of any times that I might’ve historically done any of these to someone and how that might’ve made them feel
Yeah,sometimes hard to excepted,especially when lonely. But,that's life! 🤷♂️
Welp... you've also confirmed a couple of so called "friends"...
One has ghosted me so much tha5 she won't even say hello to me when she's standing right near me. and giving no reason why ... she's heavily judgmental.
The other one is just nasty at the flip of a coin, ghosts me for like what seems forever ( ayear, 2 even 3 yrs) and I know she's talking junk behind my back. I've come to realize that these woman are not worth my time anymore. I.keep my distance.
So true… mostly family members
Excellent & very true. I look forward to more. Liked & subscribed. Greetings & best wishes from Ireland 👍🇮🇪
No. 1 My family treats me that way. No 3 I had a friend shuns me since I was diagnosed with cancer. My brother ignores me as well.
Sorry to hear about that.I hope things get better for you.
@@machector892 I'm working at it.
Awful. So sad. I know the pain. I hope for the best for your health. Big virtual hug from California.
From evil wicked step daughters, work associates, family members, and husband… I’d say yep. Sounds sadly familiar.
I agree completely
I have family members who care only when they need something
You got this 100 percent right! My husband and my kids don't care about me. There's no point discussing it either cause number one, I shouldn't have to in the first place and no two, they wouldn't admit it anyway!
Yep. Sometimes you've hot to smoke em out with interference and then be prepared for the results which may be surprising.
All these apply to to friends, family and two husbands. Yikes! It makes me question whether I’m lovable. I love them with all my heart but I don’t attract the same love and devotion.
same here. if you grow up in a home where you are unloved or even made the family scapegoat, then you attract abusive or unloving people. the husbands get the signal also, and even your children. it is tragic. you are not unlovable, you just started off in a bad place. it is hard to turn things around.
True. It works both ways - you have to extend yourself if you want to have a good friend but we only have the time today to manage a few close relationships. We are not machines. I do not keep in contact with a lot of previous friends and family, for example, because I have grandkids now including a handicapped one that require my time. Not personal - I love them but I have other more important priorities.
I agree with you 100% I'm going through this now with a best friend I'm there for her all the time and I've been there for her for the past 3 weeks when my mom was dying just me and my nature and I don't mind it but I'll Always Love my best friend no matter what we were friends for like over 38 years but this video is so true and God bless❤
It can be very difficult to notice the signs of someone who is about to betray you until it is too late. Most people that have betrayed me have been really good at masking - that is keeping their inner most feelings about either me or something to do with me bottled up inside of themselves. When they reveal them it seems totally unexpected. And it isn't usually them who is upfront and honest with you about it either. People who betray you often get others to do their dirty work for them. They are deceitful, cowardly, and gutless.