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In this clip, Matt Fradd and Jordan Peterson talk how to quit porn (and other addictive behaviors).
DISCLAIMER: Nothing in this video is meant as medical advice
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A week clean. Not much, but itâs a start. Believe it or not, a week is a big deal for me.
Iâm praying for you bro
@@Meyer-gp7nq week and a day
â@@davidr1620 we got this bro. Probably this will be the day I stop also.
You got this brother. Iâm praying for you. Please pray for me.
Good job, man!
Often the first steps are the most difficult to make, and you've done that. Keep it up. I'll pray for you also đ
read a book called 'Unveiling your hidden potential' by Bruce Thornwood, eye-opening for me
What's it about?
@@Dellen-Roger I think it's about unveiling your hidden potential but i'm not sure.
Haven't watched corn in 2 years, The key is to not fight your urges, but to instead just wait for them to pass like waves. Just take a 20 minute break from your computer/phone every time you have a sexual thought.
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Smart
Send the urges to Jesus.
Whatâs the difference between not fighting your urges and giving in??
@@YukonVaccepting the feeling and letting it pass without acting on it. In some cases resistance brings more focus to it and increases it, while accepting it lets it die down.
It was the same with my anxiety. Resisting anxiety makes you anxious about the anxiety. Accepting it means feeling it on one level and not letting it get to you, then it starts to go away.
I was addicted to porn since I was 11 years old. Iâve been clean for months since becoming Catholic. Therapy and constant prayer to Our Lady will help you. Pornography addiction is ruining lives and no one cares. Go to mass as much as possible too. Glory to Jesus Christ. I still get temptation, but we fight till death.
I love hearing this! Great job!!
Discern marriage and find real joy and meaning and that compulsion will be a long lost memory!
Rosary is amazing
I was addicted much younger than that
God bless you my friend.
How do you define porn addiction? I struggle with the occasional use of it, but I don't consider myself an addict đŹ
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.poras. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.poras.
No one quits anything. They replace it with something better. đ„ nuff said.
HmmmâŠtrue.
I quit a bunch of things So this claim is not true
replacing it with another thing is also quitting. wth hahaha
Pray for me. Iâm on the way out of this addiction, but I keep relapsing. I want to be free and accept the grace Christ gives
Same addiction here, the best way to desexualize our minds is to replace the idea of people as sexual objects, to pure beings who were made in the image of God and who have a purpose in life. Fighting temptation is useless because our flesh is weak, we need to change our mindset by genuinely believing Christ's words and we won't even feel attraction to sin
The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. Matt 6:22
May the Lord be with you
the more you fight it, the more your animal brain will crave it. Instead, shut down your animal brain first - start fasting, low-carb diet, work out more often. skip breakfast and only have protein shake for lunch. once you can shut down the animal brain's craving for nonsense, you will be free.
Revelation 3:20.
Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.
I was addicted to porn and masturbation for 15yrs, Iâd aways wanted to quit the destructive habit but I couldnât do it myself. One day I cried out to Jesus in prayer to deliver me and trust He did. There is power in the name of Jesus , all glory be to his name đđŸđđŸđđŸ
Amen blessings
When did this take place?
You mean God helped you. Not the humain prophet jesus.
@@anouarzin3 - Jesus was not a prophet. Jesus is God.
Wait what lol
Please pray for those who suffer addictions of any kind.
Like Matt and his nicotine addiction
Thanks
Addiction is indescribable when it has its hooks in you. It grips your soul.
That industry is evil evil evil!!!
And itâs run by a minority
They have essentially admitted that they know - and depend - on kids accessing it, AND that they send gay material to people to try and escalate their deviance and addiction.
Those that are hellbound are miserable but still seek to rationalize their pathetic lives, and want as much company as they can get in Hades.
@@madsocsci absolutely! I made another comment about that too. On a positive note I feel that the people who are becoming parents now are going to be more aware of the dangers and be more proactive in protecting children from it
@CherryDreamer96 Let's hope so. All my parents had to do was to hide the Sears catalog. đ
Simpler times, brother!
@@madsocsciMy dad likes to bring up that when I was a young lad he would catch me looking at the bra section of the Sears catalog. Those were the days!
Dr. Peterson is absolutely right. Religious transformation has freed me from my porn and cannabis addiction. The fear of god outweighs all other fears and desires within me.
People think fear of God is bad. We all fear something, and I'd rather fear the Almighty who has my back.
God is better than nothing but not the best there is.
Fearing an imaginary being is wild.
@@Youttubeuser20932 I used to think like you until my eyes were opened and now I see god in everything
@@Wildminecraftwolf there is something better than the almighty creator of the universe? Whats that?
I have been an addict since I was 16 or so. I hit rock bottom in every way until last year when I was baptized. I am now taking back what Satan took from me and am working on a children's book. For he took my adolescence and I will not have that happen to anybody else.
This is such a beautiful comment, it bought tears to my eyes....
you comment just made me realize why my music is so childlike - it's the purest state I want to achieve after all that darkness I was exposed to. Your comment is very beautiful, I wish you the best in life and that you may inspire generations to come with your work
I am 28, addicted since 13 and have quit 1000 times to no avail. My wonderful sexy girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me after I cheated on her one night. The perversion got the best of me - I didnât not love her, it was simply novelty that made me seek another person. Still very wrong. Porn will make you seek and do things that will destroy the blessings you do have.
Have you replaced it with worship, prayer, scripture memory, exercise etc? (Rhetorical question. You don't need to answer. ) Some people need deliverance. Isaiah Saldivar is on yt and he talks about deliverance.
God sees you fighting, not failing. There is hope â€
Kyrie Eleison (Lord have mercy). May God keep you by his grace, and redeem you from what you did. Live in daily repentance and tears, you will recover from this, amen.
Sorry to hear that mate
Good luck. Donât give up hope. Replace it with something better. Forgive yourself and surrender knowing that people are praying for you and that youâre making an effort.
Addiction is a powerful force. And corn is one of the most potent drugs.
Day by day. Build a healthy routine. Sometimes things like bacon/meat can be a factor.
But probably itâs the screen itself that needs to be distanced from.
I use pushups and weights as a quick fix
I don't want to say you're not taking accountability here but I would say that it sounds like you're blaming porn for your behaviour.
Addiction darkens the intellect and further weakens the will. Practicing the virtue of temperance combined with prudence is a good beginning. Serving others is key, especially if you're an atheist.
GET BEHIND US SATAN !!!
Ask yourself why serving others is key..that is the will and command of God! The porn industry is all about evil! Like it or not being an atheist or not it is fighting evil! Do yourself the best favor you ever have and take steps forward to learn more about God atleast! You won't be sorry!
Thye make people think that sex is a part of their identity, or the magazine sex, that has no intimacy value or emotional intimacy.
Yet with healthy sexual intimacy and healthy emotional intimacy, you amy
create your identity as well, and on top level of life....like holding hand with your partner etc, or loving hug, and small intimate gestures.
My husband quit when we started a romantic relationship 3 years ago. Though I was in love with him I told him I couldnât be with him unless he stopped watching porn. So he did. You can quit if you have enough motivation.
and this is why having a good community helps you in the process of getting better.
Most men I know, including me, end up with wives that won't have sex with them.
If you don't service him at least let him have his porn.
I don't think that's very helpful advice. It's difficult for people and the "you can do it if you try hard enough" just doesn't make people's path easier.
I think this is proof of the "you have to replace it with something greater".
It's not "try harder" it's finding a suitable concrete motivation and creating real consequences for relapse (the destruction of this relationship)
you didnt let JP interrupt you and talk over you, mad respect
Pretty inspiring to see the men in here encouraging one another and offering up prayers.
I finally saw how juvenile and weak an addition to porn is. That bugged me. I was tired of being a child. I wanted to mature, to grow up so to speak. One day the lightbulb came on and I realized that I wasn't putting any plan into action. I wasn't formulating concrete steps to avoid porn. I bought Covenant Eyes and confided in my wife who graciously agreed to be my accountability. Knowing my wife will see what I look at on line is a huge deterrent. I've lost track of how long it's been since I looked at porn.
When I was a teen I was more eager to be honest with those close to me because thatâs how things worked and they worked to my good and the good of others,
then you get older and realize itâs more about saving face and being nosey and that being what people mostly care about đ but just yesterday I think I finally had enough about continuing addictions if we were honest stem out of pride, fear, and hate in a lot of ways. The trick will be to truly hand it over and not going around with a chip on my shoulder the size of a mountain.
@@Blake4625kHz Bro wtf? Don't use google translator.
@@UnlistedUP
I used google translator ?đ I wish that was the extent of my problems lmao
Getting a blocker on my phone, getting rid of everything that might cause a relapse and keeping myself busy has helped me massively.
Oh God how do I get this blocker and can I get a blocker that blocks all of my appliances. I'm totally overwhelmed and I can't afford a therapist. I'm not religious
@@lonewulfmo9128 any of them should do, there's loads, find one that suits you and your needs. You can customise on them too. And be busy so your not thinking about porn and if you do, w@nk, with your mind, not other stimulusbut your mind. Then your the star of the show at least.
@@rob_341 thanks
I did some buttons on my phone by watching a video; however, I still have it my laptop. When I bought a new phone, it transferred over on Android.
Christ is King.
He is also "only" an archetype of the self according to jungian psychology
The only way to get over this addiction is to be disgusted by it. Then and only then will you have a chance at overcoming it. The mind created the problem and the mind is how you get out of that problem.
it's funny you say it cuz that exactly what happened to me ,
I always liked it until I became extremly disgusted with myself but that's a bad thing too , without my health and sex drive is bigger part of health , it's too hard to live this way :(
@@roxas9571 I met a former heroin addict a while ago, and when I asked him how did you overcome it? He said the only way to get over it, the only way to beat it, is by being disgusted by it.
@@roxas9571 Disgust is a very powerful negative emotion. Itâs so powerful that it can overpower even the most extreme addictions.
So true. We cannot merely erase, we have to replace.
Physical removal of any open channels to unfiltered and unguarded internet access was an essential and very hard step for me. And even then, thats just the beginning. Got rid of my Xbox, got Covenant eyes for all computers and phones. LEAVE PHONE when going to restroom as much as you can! All this before I even became Catholic, and now through the grace of God imparted through our Ladyâs Rosary and the Eucharist, I have been sober for months. Saint Joseph, Pray for us!
Why pray to saints and not just to Jesus himself ? Where does it say in the bible to pray to saints or Mary ?
@@barrywhite36why should you pray for anyone else if they can just pray to Christ themselves?
I was raised Catholic. Alter boy etc. Sexually abused, used porn to cope. Beyond horrific childhood, no father. Came back to Catholic Church at 43 and I still have issues praying to Saints. Why not just pray to Jesus?
â@@noprint praying for and to someone are two different things
@@a-fp9dl praying to the Saints is literally asking them for prayer
Love your interviews!
1 month and going super strong. its too easy now
Read the book called easy peasy method it's free and on google just search for the easy peasy method ebook...Thank yourself later.
If you want to âquitâ and just canât seem to, you need to realize you canât on your own. You need some divine intervention to help you out of it. So pray for it every day. Every time you catch yourself in temptation, say a prayer to the Holy Spirit. Ask Mary, St. Joesph, and St. Michael to protect and pray for you. Get rid of social media if itâs what causes you to fall into temptation. And for Godâs sake, stop looking at women you see out in the world as objects because they are your sisters in Christ, even if they donât dress like it.
Women objectify themself.
@@AS-np3yq didnât say they didnât. Men objectify women too. Donât let the sins of the women you look at justify your sin of objectifying them.
â@@AS-np3yq though it is difficult we shouldn't objectify even those who objectify themselves
@@AS-np3yq âFather, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.â
Yes you can, you do not need any kind of intervention especially not divine, whatever that is.
Awesome clip, really got the mind going.
An avenue which Dr. Peterson should perhaps explore more is all the harm that one is inflicting on the women involved in the porn industry. It's quite terrifying when you think about the abuse you're participating in...
Yeah sure no doubt, but what about the slaves used to mine the cobalt in your phone you used to post that comment, its quite terrifying when you think about the abuse you're participating in...
Start thinking about men. Always "women women women" and their problems..
Those Africans would be eating each other without Chinese overlords
@@YourStylesGeneric321Porn addict cope? Regardless, your argument is disingenuous. Because you donât get off to the idea of children mining cobalt. You get off to pornography. You directly participate in the filth every time you use it. More viewership. More exposure.
@@YourStylesGeneric321what aboutism
Peterson is always very succinct and accurate with his prescriptions for these problems. Having suffered like many men with porn addiction myself, I've come to the same conclusions time and time again. This will to act has to be present and you can't forget why.
God willing I will stop with this addiction.
God is willing, waiting with outstretched arms. We both have no excuse anymore. I've tried almost everything, except for confiding in God more. Let's change that?
@@chonk6683 Right on
@@andreasviken2949 Read your Bible every day it will change your life the washing of the word
Insightful approach to behavior change! Emphasizing both the fears of staying the same and the hopes of a better future can indeed create a powerful motivation to change. đ
I was blessed to stop drinking. It was a time I started to prioritize my health more and was on the path to isolating myself which has been a great thing. On a birthday, I said I'll go out and have a good time, and then I'm done. It's been 8 years since then.
This behavior does not glorify God. That is why I have to replace it with something that does glorify God. With God, anything is possible, so I have hope in a better future and to be a better person to the people around me. Never give up!
Sometimes an addiction can be the greatest thing to happen in your life, since in order to beat it you are forced to get EVERYTHING ELSE in your life in order.
Never forget that God punishes evil, the force that rebels against Him, by showing that it will always be nothing but a piece in His plan.
This is amazing advice! I love his honesty about his own issues with alcohol.
Interestingly he was also addicted to benzodiazepines a few years ago. Nearly killed him
Thank you for you time
Jordan is truly a great man. Truly.
What kind of great man supports a genocide?
I was approaching 160 lbs mid December 2023. I am 5'6", and 70 years old. I had been thin all my life, but I started gaining 20 years ago. Mid-December I was seeing some health consequences....higher blood pressure, etc. I didn't want to start down the pharmacological road, and so, I got pissed......really pissed. I have lost 20 lbs since then (about 4# a month), gradually reforming my dietary habits. Getting really PISSED, was ENORMOUSLY helpful....and, keeps me on the 'right' road.....
Good stuff mate.
Good luck. Hope you get on well.
Coincidentally I was listening to my physician yesterday who said that blood pressure increases naturally around your age.
So maybe itâs not much to worry about unless your diet and lifestyle are suboptimal
Awesome guest, thanks for inviting Dr P. to your show!
I thank YHW that he delivered me from this and I can happily say that am 4 years clean now
Most rich people stay rich by spending like the poor and investing without stopping then most poor people stay poor by spending like the rich yet not investing like the rich but impressing them
Exactly! My grandparents were so frugal but they had a TON of money on both sides. I remember my grandfather telling me "you want to make money while you sleep." And I guess that attitude passed down to my dad (RIP), because I remember going to his house one day and I had bought something I really liked, so I wanted to show it to him. So I said "Look at this!
Isn't it cute? It was on sale...I saved 50%!" My dad replied "Well, if you're spending, you're not saving." Obviously I had no retort, and that has always stuck with me.
Saving and investing wisely while prioritizing necessities and a few small luxuries in relation to one's total assets is a great approach. It helps ensure financial stability and I my for the enjoyment of life's little pleasures without compromising long-term financial goals. It's all about finding a balance that works for you!
very true, a huge part of my portfolio growth has come during this bear market. I've been able to scale from $180K to $572K in a short period of time.
How do you do that? I'm interested
1 operate a wide- range of Investments with help from My Financial Adviser. My advice is to get a professional who will help you, plan and enhance your management skills. For the record, working with Stephen Milne Ebert, has been an amazing experience.
Iâm here to hold myself accountable because itâs so challenging at times. I been clean from it for a few days now and donât to be done with it for good. I know it takes time and effort while not being too hard on yourself. I crave better for myself so thatâs exactly what ima do get better.
I come back to the post from time to time to see how far Iâve come. To all my fellas and even ladies out there its you vs old you donât allow the old version of yourself take you back to a place you outgrown.
You got this! Iâm 1 month PMO free and 1 year and 4 months sober from alcohol. Itâs true. You really got to replace it with something. So many people think that they have to replace with having a partner. Not for me. Iâm still single. I replaced it with being obsessed with studying, being proactive, building my desk setup, having a good housekeeping routine, being organized in my room, in my car, being punctual to work, being good at my job, steadily taking classes at my city college and getting good grades, saving my money, being organized with my digital documents, improving on my piano pieces, improving my typing, learning and studying on my Anki. Iâve replaced my alcohol addiction and PMO addiction with all that stuff. The rest of the dating stuff will figure itself out. Iâve become fulfilled in my own routines and projects, and find personal enjoyment in doing those things and living an honest life, a clean life where I have nothing to hide. Iâm preparing myself for when I do meet someone. If I never do, Iâm okay with that.
@@fadrian98 I appreciate your words of support and also congrats on 1 yr and 4 months of sobriety thatâs huge man. I appreciate you shedding light on the importance of replacing PMO with meaningful hobbies because I enjoy hiking, reading, working out, cleaning my car out, listening to music, traveling and just being a creative yk. I know im destined to do a whole lot of good in the more I just have to get out my own way and Iâm willing to do so to reach the best possible version of myself. I want to be PMO free for the rest of my life.
Read the book called easy peasy method it's free and on google just search for the easy peasy method ebook..Thank yourself later.
Doing the sign of the cross at the first sign of inappropriate thoughts has helped me immensely. Pray to God for strength!
Really helpful video. Visioning specifically picturing a heaven and a hell outcome. Very helpful.
Add a blocker to your phone and computer so not only it can block all the bad websites, but filter all social media as well. You have to block even the little cues that make you think about that stuff and unfortunately, social media is full of half naked people, which will make you relapse. Give full access to someone that you trust and make sure you tell them to never give you access. Its really tough and i still struggle, but as time goes on, the urges become less and less.
"But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Literally Jesus (Matthew 5:28)
Jesus said that for real? Does Jesus know we were born with natural desires that arise due to no fault of our own?
@@tristanblaze8238 Sad man
@@user-mh4vn4ic3y Iâm literally just asking. We are given human instincts and told that some of those instincts are wrong the minute they are triggered to no fault of our own
@@tristanblaze8238 I know that may have read mean, I am serious, Jesus did not give you or me a desire to lust after women, we can admire their beauty inward outward, character, praise God for it, if that is what you do then it is fine, lust is nasty and does not care for the individual, Jesus wants us to love our family, I got more to say so I will break it up in other comments but thank for reading, I am sorry if I was glib, I will try to say it better
â@@tristanblaze8238He gives us right uses and wrong uses for our impulses. He's very big on self-control, self sacrifice, self denial.
i gave up being an alchoholic and a pill addict and a lot of bad habbits by surrendering to faith and sacrificing all the things holding me back. been a proud regular non addicted person for a year and a half now and i can even go have a couple beers with a friend and its not a trigger. i havent touched pills since the day i quit and i have more discipline and work ethic and i have a better job and even have my own place now. i went through a breakup with a long term fiance and even that didnt trigger me back into addiction. ive been strong and really proud of who God has made me and the strength hes blessed me with. i couldnt do it on my own and the moment i truely surrendered and agreed to sacrifice the things hurting me, my entire life changed and i never turned back.. God can do anything for any of us
Thank you.
Iâve been trying to stop my addiction. Iâve found it comes from a place of childhood trauma. Iâve noticed my relationship with my Wife all circled around sex and MY needs. How selfish I was in our relationship. How mentally and emotionally damaging it was. How much happier and better I felt in longer bouts of not watching and taking part in it.
When I started trying to form a relationship with God, I saw how my actions against his creation hurt him. Through hurting myself. And to understand the fear I should have by not serving the Lord. How it hurts me in this life and will hurt me in eternity
Gabor Mate has some good stuff on this
Talking to a guy with a nicotine addiction about why people are addicted to porn? Tell Matt same reasonâŠthe dopamine rush from porn stimulation is like his dopamine rush from the nicotine he is addicted to. One may be worse spiritually, but Iâm pretty sure God doesnât love us intentionally causing harm to our bodies he so blessedly gave us
This is powerful
What a great suit jacket Jordan is wearing ahah, i love it!
It's true that you have to pray much to get off it, but what's not mentioned is that you also have to cooperate with the graces given through the prayer. It comes down to willingness to suffer. I think the only real way to cooperate, and get off of it completely is to decisively get rid of every avenue you would have to watch it again, and also harness a tremendous amount of courage and strength to resist the urges that will 100% follow for awhile. It needs an act of the will to say "I'd be willing to die, and even be tortured to death than ever watch even the smallest instant of this again......for love of you, Jesus" while really and truly meaning those words. Then, you forcefully avoid it when your appetites erupt again and tell you that you need it (they do eventually subside). You also need to be prepared for the new life you're going to have afterwards without it, and the freedom you're going to have, and the healing you're going to need. Those images are in your imagination and apart from a special grace they're going to stay there even while living a completely chaste life which is one (only one) of the reasons it's so destructive.
Hell does not exist on earth but you can certainly feel the flames.
Even the Bible says the same â 2 Timothy 2:22 KJV
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.â You donât just quit without replacing it with something better. So as one flees lust and all these demonic perversions, you gotta be pursuing righteousnessâŠ..â
Brilliant. Love Jordan Peterson. The very best of Canada's critical thinkers.
I've fallen again multiple times.after making progress during lent.
This is a great passion we must battle young men ĂČf this generation have been exposed to this evil from a young age.
It is a fight and a battle to remove it from ourselves with God's help and constant effort.
Watch our thoughts .
Our thoughts determine our lives
Being watchful is vital when fighting pornography! Keep praying. Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me a sinner.
Good luck.
Yea itâs the entertainment of thoughts that seems to be the key.
Where do we let one thought beget another
Hi, just wanted to say that - with all my appreciation in regards to the content - I think that giving the website name can work not as intended. Meaning that the people that didn't know it before - now they do. And also the sight of that can remind it to the people that have already got rid of this habit. Of course it is probably impossible to remove it now, so that is just a thought to think about :)
Had the same thought when I saw the thumbnail.
Well said.
Great title
I have never been on adult websites before and I plan for it to stay that way. It's rare for someone my age to have never been on those websites but it just feels wrong to go onto them which keeps me away from them.
Congrats buddy weâre all envious of you
The easy availability is also a big problem. Before high-speed internet porn became a thing, it was just so much harder to get your hands on any content. Like in the early 2000's you couldn't just access it like a regular tube site nowadays. That made it automatically impossible to even get addicted in the first place from a very young age.
Some people may need to get a dumb phone.
The divine mercy chaplet and rosary greatly helped me in this fight
Porn is extremely damaging and addictive. I remember seeing a smoking ad which advised to "never quit quitting." First, I thought it was stupid because if you're gonna quit then do it and move on. It was only once I began quitting porn that I realised the significance of the message.
You will want to quit, you will try to quit, but behavioural change takes time. The habit wont die just because you will for it to. It takes time and it helps to understand that if/when you have a lapse.
One of my biggest additions since 13
True.
Was also going to echo what a lot of other people are saying. Keeping my phone in a seperate room and going to Our Lady in the form of the rosay did more than years of programs ever did to be rid of pornography. It's easier than it might seem, but that's only because doing it wrong makes it hard.
Im 44 and ive been at is since i was 13. I want to quit this nasty habit. Please pray for me! Thank you kindly.
Just keep praying for strength and I promise you God will make it easy. Just know that it is impossible on your own
Hopefully this helps someone. I found this prayer and mindset was extremely helpful in countering my lust and desire for masturbation.
When I would feel that temptation beginning, I would clap my hands together and pray â God, I offer my sexuality to you. Do with it what you will, I will be patient and trust you to give me the pleasure I desire in your appointed time. I look forward to that day when you bless me in this way.â
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My pornography addiction turned into a sex addiction but it was ultimately fueled by my alcoholism and when I started getting help I found out that was rooted in awful things that happened to me when I was very young I won't talk about it in the comment section but I'm sure y'all can drive the comparison
There is no such a thing as "pornography addiction". You just had a pleasurable habit. An addiction is, when you cannot withdraw from a substance because of the painful physical reactions that ensue.
@@felixbrandt6419 armchair nonsense but I'm sure you're quite the sweetheart with the best of intentions what you should probably realize is it not the kids in your youth group I can spot a liar when I read one granted good intentions sweet guy but the back hand still strong now move along God bless you đ
@@eternallife9786 I am not your sweetheart. The rest of your answer is mostly hard to understand... And: Why should I lie to you? I think you are offended because I have contradicted your opinions about yourself.
@@felixbrandt6419 because you believe your own lies and you actually think you're helping by feeding me some nonsense definition about addiction and you're definitely a sweetheart like you thought feeding me your bullshit definition of addiction was actually helping me but I'm going to repeat it again I'm not the kids in your youth group you can't feed me some home spun definition about addiction any other reason you feel comfortable even doing that is cuz you're anonymous on the internet you and I both know if you tried this in real life you would get your teeth put on the curb of the sidewalk remember remember this I'm not Catholic I'm not Christian fradd make solid points about pornography being a problem that I absolutely agree with other than that all this good Catholic boy in nonsense is for the birds enjoy being anonymous on the internet though it's really saving you some dental bills
@@felixbrandt6419 plus you're thinking of the term withdrawal addiction is many things if you had any brains in your head you would realize there's a thing called addiction personality disorder where you can quite literally be addicted to anything but I wouldn't expect you to know anything about this
CATECHISM OF THE CATHOLIC CHURCH: âResponsibility for an action can be diminished or even nullified by immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety, or other psychological or social forces.â
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How come the church doesnât talk about deliverance from addiction to watching violent or horror movies?
They do at my church group.
Never!! Do what you enjoy fellas. Stop listening to people on how to live YOUR life
There is some truth here, but there is wisdom in understanding that pleasure does not equal a well-lived life. Some things take more than they give. Everyone gets to decide for themselves, but the consensus is clearly that corn is not a well-adjusted long term path. Nice in the very short term, sure. But I want more from life than that.
A mark of maturity is the ability to delay gratification. We all need to grow up.
Bro is swagged up for real I dig
Addictions truly make you weak and turns you into a pathetic slave. You wonât be able to stop until you truly want to stop, and then itâs easy.
In the old days it was called masturbation. Now it's called self-pleasuring. Sounds nice and pleasant doesn't it. Hard to find harm in such a harmless sounding behaviour. Oh the cynicism of word smiths and the danger of reordering words so they disguise the danger of certain behaviours.
Actually before "masturbation", the name was "mastupration". "Stupration" is an old synonym of rape. Basically "ma(nu(s)) + stupration" means "rape by hand"
@@MassimoPiacerewow đźrape by hand??! Fascinating. Thanks for sharing
Yes itâs interesting how they have done that over time.
Same thing for idiots who became retards and now something else.
Same with shell shock is now PTSD
I need to finish the self-authoring paper.
What worked Perfect for me was just being in a situation when I had no internet, keep yourself without internet during the evenings
It's incredibly sad to see people justify their own addictions in the comments. That's the difference between the content sinner and the repentant sinner. The repentant sinner understands he needs help and pursues remedial avenues. The content sinner either suppresses the shame so that he doesn't have to deal w/ the discomfort within, or he simply lies to himself and perpetuates an ever-growing snowball that'll eventually destroy him and potentially others who are close to him (e.g. family). Pray for everyone who's still lost in the dark. We were not designed to dehumanize others by treating them as sexual objects to gratify our lust. And all you have to do, in my opinion, to realize that truth is by thinking hypothetically about how you would feel, truly feel, if you knew your mom, sister, or god forbid daughter, were involved with porn. Innately, we would all react with revulsion.
Well and accurately stated.
"You want Satan behind you pushing you forward not in front of you barring your way." This is good.
Just stop.
Your brain will lie to you and tell you you need to do it.
Understand it's a lie, make yourself do something productive and the urges will pass.
There's nothing better for your life and self esteem than exercising self and impulse control.
If I can do it you can- I'm rooting for you.
Brilliant
Its interesting the people who talk about toxic masculinity are dead silent on the topic of pornography
This comment section is utterly depressing. Please pray for me, i am not a pr0n addict but it played a big role in the sexual abuse I endured. Ive spent alot of my adult life researching it and the horrendous effect it has had on society... Sometimes I get ao frustrated when I see people trying to justify...
I can't quite remember who it was but a renowned rapist and murderer said himself.... People buy magazines to look at the same stuff I have done... your children are watching it...
Give the feelings to Jesus, go to confession and confess it every time. Go to church
@@AS-np3yqConfess what? Anger? Anger is not a sin in itself.
do not think he or she understood your comment, your comment reminds me of the movie 8mm. Hollywood throws the plan in our face constantly, I guess so when it happens some are acclimatedâŠ
â@@AndrewTheMandrew531 Anger is a Sin when it leads to Resentment.
Did you see JP s wife's recent interview with a woman who has helped make life very difficult fir kornhub? I can't remember her name, but JP s wife's name is Tammy Peterson.
I don't think I fully agree with JP when he says you have to replace these bad addictions with different things. I think that happens naturally when you fix the root issue, but that's not how you fix the addiction. All addiction comes from a source of pain, a bad relationship, bad parents, being bullied, trauma, difficulty at work - whatever it may be. And once you fix the painful aspect of your life, (letting go of control of something, setting up boundaries, w/e) you will no longer need to numb yourself with substances, porn, food, etc.
Exactly, JBP sounds like a caricature of himself here, overconfident but ultimately just rambling blabla
Your Life ends, when addiction begins. I only watched it once or twice a week, and still recognized the damage it was doing. Watching my roommate feverishly chase his sex addiction for 16 hours a day, was the deciding factor for me.
My wife is my ally on Covenant Eyes.
Quit playing with yourself. What about playing with other people?
If you're not married to that person then go ahead and quit that also.
Corn hurts you, those in the video, and your relationships and feelings with those around you. It hurts everyone.
When you have a kid and realize what it's all actually for, you also realize (especially if you're a guy) that you've not only been wasting your time, but hurting a lot of people
I was in that place for way too long so I'm not judging, but I'm telling you from the other side that there's no reason to dwell there. Even from a purely selfish point, looking back I'm like, "why did I waste so much time on deez h0s".
Thatâs carrying your porn addiction to the community. You heard of STDâs? Whether you go solo or with many others itâs bad. Sex is the act of marriage, stop being perverse. Andrew Tate is the weak manâs idea of a strong man.
@@daviddorfđ nice way to put it
At 26 I stopped for 7yrs, cold turkey (Married after that). I wanted to die, but I fkn did it. I am master over all my emotions now.
Desiring God, the Pleasures of God, Joe Rigneyâs The Things of Earth, and a rhythm of confessing sins, conscious putting off of sins at low levels of violations in the mind, and putting on of Christ and his promises in Scripture, are so good.
Really staring at yourself, and using your imagination to see the torment of Godâs wrath aimed at you in conscious torment, and to really see Godâs love in the icon of Christâs enduring your due penalty in his death, and his vindication of human nature thatâs yours by faith and by your baptism and consuming of the Supper, really helps.
Regular confession, regular faith in promises, regular participation in the Body.
The reason you should quit porn is simple: as long as you don't quit, you'll be unable to love. You're not capable of loving when your mind is busy thinking about sex and pleasure.
I too write things that don't make any sense.
Handsome Tintin and Skull Man make some good points.
What about riding a motorcycle instead of driving a car? you gotta get rid of all your friends. Is the same answer because they will try and persuade you not to get a bike because, its the same way as drinking. But Peter didnt think of it like that I bet. Warrior men where risk takers in the historic years. Motorcycles has giving me confidence.
Should be put in schools. Homes actually. Parents neglecting their family, spouses, horror story.
but pp feel gud?
So whereâs the âcontext bannerâ from YT, since they seem to feel the need to do it on every other video? đ
Convenient, right ?
Only on subjects they deem "problematic"
You don't realise how much clearer your life is until you commit to the battle against porn and masturbation. You wonder why the media never promotes the negative towards porn.
11 days clean the rosary and Jesus prayer and reading scripture is what is helping me and renewing my mind
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