I work in geriatrics and a good amount of people who suffer from Alzheimer's do this because it goes back to the basics that their minds have function of
Joe Battiloro you know my mom’s very last words were , thank you. It would have been her birthday yesterday and this bring all the love I feel full frontal for me. Take care.
She’s so sweet and polite saying things like “Pardon me, dear?” and “Well, thank you!”. It’s sad how these amazing people get taken from this disease .Yes, cause some can become aggressive .People who had aggressive personalities ,or do not know what is going on. I also knew of a guy who was a war vet,so he thought he was in the war.
Alzheimers is terrifying because the people are never really taken away like other forms of dementia. They're still themselves the whole time and are aware of their decline.
Spoder Gibbs Don’t tell me to shut up and call me an idiot you loser.You don’t have the intelligence to know how devistating the disease is and how it impacts family members. I wouldn’t wish it even on you.
jimgag2 it’s okay to be lighthearted about the situation. You guys seriously need to chill. Of course this disease is serious, this comment didn’t make it as if it wasn’t. I myself smiled when she said “that’s a good one” because I think even SHE was being at least somewhat lighthearted about it. You just want to attack people and make yourself feel like a better person lol
Almost everyone with Alzheimers will revert back to either their 20s or child years. As a Nurse, the most common "pattern" that I've noticed is this: The closer they were to dying, the more they would call out and/or ask for their mother. (90 years old calling out for "Mom!" ) It was heartbreaking. I would just sit with them holding their hands as long as time would allow. The only good part of the job that I felt true purpose in was simply being a comfort to them. Making them smile and laugh.
🤗Bless her heart ♥️! Wish I could give her a gentle hug. 😊. Christie Crawford ~ , You are a gift from God to your patients/residents! Ty! I've been visiting a relative[rip] who was Elderly and he would call out for his Mother too. :( . Nurses ARE the one's that keep our medical center's afloat! 😇🙏♥️✝️
Doesn't change the fact that she lived through them, and was happy during that exact moment! Memories may be forgotten, but once she remembered them, and she lived through them. That will never change.
exactly, join her journey. and I was cringing a little when he kept asking her questions with food in her mouth, people with dementia are at greater risk for choking. but his love for his mother is evident and he'll be glad he has this video to cherish
@@searobean You're so right. When she said she was 22, asking questions of what she experienced when she was 22 seemed the obvious choice to me. But I bow before this mans dedication to his mother. I'd be interested to know if she had any children at 22?
Hi Everyone. Thank you for the many kind comments about my mother. Of course there were a few snarky ones too. My mother loved these conversations, she found this a pleasant way to engage. Some people may find this frustrating - and eventually, impossible. The donuts were always a plus. For those that have wondered, she passed away. Like many older people, she had a fall and that just took her down fairly quickly. For those of you going through this now, please know your experience is unique to you and extremely challenging. Do your best to show your love and have little or no expectations. You are not alone.
Unfortunately, cruel reality doesn't care about your wishful thinking. Body without brain and the ability to process information is just soul-less pile of meat. The intricate neural connections in our prefrontal cortex is what makes us human, with those connections gone, soul vanishes as well...
The look of despair in her eyes while shes trying to find answers. It can actually scare a person with Alzheimers. Make her as comfortable as possible 🙏🏻
THANK YOU! Very few noticed it, bu you did. He certainly meant well, he obviously loved his mom deeply. But it's good to kind of badger someone with Alzheimer's, she doesn't know her last name, that's clear, why shame her over it? Rest in peace, dear lady.
She is such an angel, she reminds me of my grandma who had Alzheimers for as long as i could remember. During my late teens my younger sister and i spent most of our days talking with her and giving her company since my parents had her move in with us so she could be with family. I remember one day in particular she thought she was 20 and thought we were her friends whose house she came over to, she was 90 at the time. She asked us to call her boyfriend, my grandpa, so he could pick her up and take her home. He died about 10 years prior so it was heartbreaking, but we kept telling her he was on his way over and “should be here soon”. She sat down and waited for him, and forgot a couple minutes after. She died a couple years ago but i still think about our days together.
I really love to hear that you looked after her and told her that your grandpa was ‘on his way’, my grandma passed 3 months ago and also suffered from this terrible disease. Similar to yours, whenever we would show her pictures or tell her something she really liked then she would say ‘I can’t wait to tell Henry this he’ll love it as much as I do’. Sadly Henry is my grandad who passed around 2 years ago, I really don’t think anyone should have to suffer from this xD
I despise Alzheimer's disease. That disease killed my grandmother this past weekend. But I do know that making frequent visits with your loved ones with this disease helps out with them remembering you. It may not bring their memory of you back completely but it helps
1 second they know and remember everything, next second they don't. Typically asking multiple things in a row, wears them out and makes their brain go blanc.
@@reign6of6e6terror it is sad, because the largest part of the disease they will be very aware of it. Aware they forget stuff, forget how to do stuff, know they will forget who their partner and children are. It is devastating. The last period, yes, they are barely aware of themselves. But until then, it's heartbreaking.
“How old are you?” “22..” She’s such a gem! I would’ve played along like, “Well darling, you are only as old as you feel.” Lol! Seriously though, what a terrible illness. May God continue to bless, and guide you both along the journey. 💕
Oh she's such a Dear Lady. My Mom is 87. She lives in Portage, MI. I am blessed that she is extremely healthy, mobile, and very high functioning. We send you our hugs and much respect, Steve.
Her loving and nurturing energy is very much still there, I feel it intensely. I’ve worked with patients who share her diagnosis, and without a doubt, angry and narcissistic people deteriorated a lot faster and were miserable, whereas loving and caring people were happy till the end.
The most devastating thing I've ever experienced was the day I asked my mom "do you remember my name?" and she just stared at me. It's heartbreaking to see someone go through this, she seems very strong for how gentle she comes across, I wish you strength for whatever your future holds.
When she asked, "How old am I right here??" Pointing to her heart. She seems to have been saying, ' I am young-at-heart! Bless her heart. My Mother has Alhzheimers, now. 💔😭
During one of the most important times of my life, in regards to establishing a career, I took care of my Grandmother with Alzheimer's. No other family members offered to help, and they sure were happy that the grandson was taking care of it so they wouldn't have to. Upon her death, I was told to begin thinking about finding another home as they wanted to sell the house. It's 5 years later and the house still sits, showily degrading. I eventually got my Bachelor's degree to teach Spanish and lived/traveled throughout Latin America for several years. It's been hard getting back on track as I have nothing on my resume for those 5 years. I felt like I was in prison (because leaving her would mean the family would send her off to some nursing home), but I love my Grandma. It's been several years since and what I can say is this: I am happy that I was there for her and was the only face she recognized. When she was afraid, she would calm down by seeing me and knowing I was there. Although it was very difficult, I'll truly cherish those memories we shared together. I love you and miss you, Grandma. Although she became progressively worse, she never forgot how to play the piano and she remembered lyrics quite well!
The last time I visited my MIL with advanced Alzheimers she asked me if I would like a chocolate and it was just as lucid as she would have asked when she was well. It will stay with me forever. She had no idea who I was but still, she offered to share her chocolates... bless her heart. I think the lucid moments are the most difficult but also very special - just a small reminder of who they once were and how that person is ever present but in ever diminishing moments.
It's horrible for the observer, but a good percentage of sufferers are not unhappy at all. They just need to be very well cared for and every day is a happy day, much like being a child again. It's really a second childhood in some cases. We have to cling to the positives.
I LOVE how she says “thank-you” so sweetly after a bit of help remembering names and such! I can only hope to be like her if I follow the statistics of probability that I will develop a dying brain eventually. Is dementia, a dying brain, really worse than some other ways to end our time on earth, if we are surrounded by people who share their love with us? We have time to say goodbye while those who were estranged have a second chance, an opportunity to return like a prodigal child...
“How old am I here?” Very interesting way of phrasing for her. I’m intrigued on where else she goes when she’s not here. Hell knows I’d be reliving my 20’s if I was in her position
My grandfather just passed. We were very tight he raised me and was like my father. I’m 25, he was 88. He passed on Christmas Day. He was just like this. So polite and kind and such a pleasure to talk to. Thank you for the video. It really brightened my day. God bless you and Ms. Charlene.
My dad is about where this woman is. Very sad thing to go thru. Sorry about your Dad. My Dad came back for two minutes during a conversation. It was like he never had Alzheimer's, he asked if there was a pill that would let him just go to sleep and not wake up. At that moment he knew, but minutes later he had all forgotten.
To ANYONE affected by this, please try to remind yourself, LOVE is not a "thought" in one's mind but a "feeling" in one's heart! Alzheimer's may steal their memory BUT they will ALWAYS love you in their heart. That's a bond that NO ONE and NOTHING can steal. ❤
My mother has an Alzheimer and is 87 as well. Conversation with her looks just the same, and my mom is nice, warm, thankful and beautiful just like yours. She can’t name or remember anything, but I know that our presence feels good and special to her, just like when she was healthy, as I see it in her eyes and happy responses. She can’t find the words to say who I am but she feels who I am. . Thank you for sharing your conversation with your mother.
This reminds me so much of the last few years of my mother’s life. Pleasantly confused, but remained gentle and polite. So happy to see that she does not seem to be grieved at all by memory loss. My mom forgot that she couldn’t remember, which made her life so much calmer.
I wish my grandma was like this. She always gets annoyed when anyone implies she doesn't remember something and is really prideful about it. So it's hard to be around her because she's constantly complaining and getting irritated. But she's also really stressed out because she doens't know where she is. I feel really sorry for her and it's heartbreaking to visit. :(
Trust me dementia hits everyone differently and at different times. Your grandma's behaviors were caused by her illness and I am sure if she knew she was behaving like that, she wouldn't want to behave in that way to you. It's very hard, for both the person with dementia and the people around them. But know that even if she acts completely different than how she used to be, she's still your grandma on the inside. The one who you used to know when you were young.
That’s perfectly normal for your grandmother , they know somewhere in there that their not themselves and it’s very frustrating for them when they can’t remember. You really shouldn’t be asking them to remember, you have to enter their world now. ❤️
Nathan, I won't be able to keep visiting my Mum when she gets to that point. I'm very easily hurt and traumatized. When she gets to the point that she no longer recognizes me, I will say goodbye and then go no contact. What doesn't kill me traumatizes me and scars me for life. I've had enough hell in my life without having to see Mum not recognizing me. And when she gets to the point that she hallucinates I DEFINITELY don't want any more contact with her. (She's not there yet but I'm preparing myself to say goodbye to her soon and go no contact.) There's enough rubbish in the world without Mum going insane in front of me! I don't even have siblings to lean on. I wish Dad had had dementia instead, because he was a religious fanatic and I didn't like him much. He wasn't abusive, but he annoyed me. (God this, God that.) No, I didn't want to hear that, and I don't miss Dad. Good riddance, I prefer Mum and always did. I'm Mum's girl, not Daddy's girl. I'm sooooooooooo sorry Mum is not of sound mind. This ORDEAL (not "journey", doggone it) with my Mum is absolutely torturing me!!! I don't believe in being strong/positive/resilient. I believe in crying and having a pity party!!!😢😭💔
I tend to agree about the questioning, based on experience as a full-time caregiver to my mom. Each patient is different, so there is no "one size fits all" approach, but mom HATES being questioned, to the point of being nasty and then withdrawing. There's a lot of detective work that goes into reading and communicating with dementia patients, especially as the disease progresses. Mom will tolerate a maximum of three questions and then the excrement hits the fan. But again, every patient is different.
@Klaa2 Dementia is a syndrome, not a disease. ... Dementia is a group of symptoms that affects mental cognitive tasks such as memory and reasoning. Dementia is an umbrella term that Alzheimer's disease can fall under. It can occur due to a variety of conditions, the most common of which is Alzheimer's disease
Awww, your Mother is such a lovely, kind and beautiful lady! You are blessed to have grown up under her wing. So glad I stumbled upon your channel. God Bless You!
Kid I went to school with. His grandfather had alzheimers. He woke up one morning and had forgot he ever learned English. He spoke German only for the rest of his life. Eventually it erases your entire life.
It affects everyone differently. My grandmother had alzheimers for a long long time. It was very slow progression. She was happy for all of it, dancing, singing. It was only the last two weeks which were sad as her body began to fail, but she was almost 100 years old, so I don't even think she would have moaned about that.
My mother is 89 and even though mom has moments where she is in the wrong time (thinking her parents are alive or our cat is still alive when it isn't), she can remember everything from her past no matter how many times you ask her. Yet ask her what she did 2 hours ago, she can't remember. My father died at 97 and was still fixing lamps up until his death - sharp as a tack!
I had a man 73 with dementia and acted as if he was 17. He was healthy. People was always angry at him but he was good to me. His son treated me well. That is one memory I will keep for a long time. He even stood up for me when he thought I was wronged. He was a good man.
My Daddy had Alzheimer's and couldn't tell me what he had for breakfast but he could tell me about a day back in 1949 like it was yesterday. I stayed with him during the last 2 years of his life and I learned so much about family history, dates, uncles who were killed in WWII, jobs my Papa had, it was amazing what all I learned. As their caretaker and child, you just have to go back in time with them and have a conversation about the past and forget about current names and people and ages.
She's beautiful..enjoy every day with her! Mother's are such a blessing..I miss mine so much..what I wouldn't give for another day here with her! Best part is ..I'll see her when I meet up with her in heaven. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MOM!
What a sweetie she is.. I’m so glad she has you looking after her.. I work with older people and so many are simply forgotten about and never get any visits...
She's forgotten so much but her lovely personality shines through.
oh yes
I love this video so much. She is so much like my own mom who had dementia and was the same age. I miss my mom immensely
@@nbush9169 You obviously loved your mum very much. Try to hold on to that fact and also hold on to all the beautiful memories you have of her.
That’s really weird I guess it shows how the brain works
Gothic Grandma ... she is lovely.
She says "well thank you" each time he tells her the answer. What a doll!
Young at heart⚘
Thank u💕 a mam
I work in geriatrics and a good amount of people who suffer from Alzheimer's do this because it goes back to the basics that their minds have function of
Joe Battiloro you know my mom’s very last words were , thank you. It would have been her birthday yesterday and this bring all the love I feel full frontal for me. Take care.
You can tell she's a very sweet lady
She’s so sweet and polite saying things like “Pardon me, dear?” and “Well, thank you!”. It’s sad how these amazing people get taken from this disease.
No Dad and get called boomers, I would say 36/40/55 years old have a boomer personality
its sad
you revert to the best years in your life . If I could be stuck in my early 20s.
She’s so sweet and polite saying things like “Pardon me, dear?” and “Well, thank you!”. It’s sad how these amazing people get taken from this disease .Yes, cause some can become aggressive .People who had aggressive personalities ,or do not know what is going on. I also knew of a guy who was a war vet,so he thought he was in the war.
Alzheimers is terrifying because the people are never really taken away like other forms of dementia. They're still themselves the whole time and are aware of their decline.
She might have forgotten her age and her name but she hasn't forgotten her manners, she's so sweet!
She’s the sweetest, most polite little lady.
holdendmb shes beautiful
TBG this isnt about politics..please shut the fuck up, jesus christ trump supporters are so annoying
@@user-bt2tk2pm1g Ok pal. No one went that far
@TBG thank you for further proving what everyone with half a brain cell already knows about trump supporters
@TBG a fucking trump bootlicker....
“My last name?.. well now that’s a good one!” Hahah I love this woman
A man💕⚘
aembusiness It’s nothing to laugh at.
jimgag2 shut up idiot. Laugh or cry, take your pick. That’s all you can do.
Spoder Gibbs Don’t tell me to shut up and call me an idiot you loser.You don’t have the intelligence to know how devistating the disease is and how it impacts family members. I wouldn’t wish it even on you.
jimgag2 it’s okay to be lighthearted about the situation. You guys seriously need to chill. Of course this disease is serious, this comment didn’t make it as if it wasn’t. I myself smiled when she said “that’s a good one” because I think even SHE was being at least somewhat lighthearted about it. You just want to attack people and make yourself feel like a better person lol
Almost everyone with Alzheimers will revert back to either their 20s or child years. As a Nurse, the most common "pattern" that I've noticed is this: The closer they were to dying, the more they would call out and/or ask for their mother. (90 years old calling out for "Mom!" ) It was heartbreaking. I would just sit with them holding their hands as long as time would allow. The only good part of the job that I felt true purpose in was simply being a comfort to them. Making them smile and laugh.
you are an angel honey; thats a hard job i dont think i could do.. ill stick to working outside all summer :D
🤗Bless her heart ♥️! Wish I could give her a gentle hug. 😊. Christie Crawford ~ , You are a gift from God to your patients/residents! Ty! I've been visiting a relative[rip] who was Elderly and he would call out for his Mother too. :( . Nurses ARE the one's that keep our medical center's afloat! 😇🙏♥️✝️
😊 Ty! ♥️
God bless you🙏❤️🤙🏾
Yes I’m a nurse too and my heart is with the elderly. All you can do is love and be there for them and make them smile.
She is so gentle and polite, "Honey," and "Dear," and "Golly." And what a heartbreak to lose your mom that way.
This woma seems like such a pleasant woman. So sad that Alzheimer’s took away her memories.
Yes ☹❤
soon her life too :/
sad but true, this desease is the worst in terms of brain sickness :,(
She knows she's" losing" "it", that's why she responded with; that's a good one, when asked what her last name was.
Doesn't change the fact that she lived through them, and was happy during that exact moment! Memories may be forgotten, but once she remembered them, and she lived through them. That will never change.
When she said she was 22.... I would have said, YES.... Absolutely. You’re 22! She SO cute ❤️
exactly, join her journey. and I was cringing a little when he kept asking her questions with food in her mouth, people with dementia are at greater risk for choking. but his love for his mother is evident and he'll be glad he has this video to cherish
3O3 Brine Dude, calm down. He obviously still loves his mother very much. Just needs to learn how talk to someone with the disease
@@searobean You're so right. When she said she was 22, asking questions of what she experienced when she was 22 seemed the obvious choice to me. But I bow before this mans dedication to his mother. I'd be interested to know if she had any children at 22?
@@searobean I agree. You want to decipher the mental context that they are in, so the conversation is less Q&A and more like an actual conversation.
@@MrDarren690 Okay internet Psych
Hi Everyone. Thank you for the many kind comments about my mother. Of course there were a few snarky ones too. My mother loved these conversations, she found this a pleasant way to engage. Some people may find this frustrating - and eventually, impossible. The donuts were always a plus.
For those that have wondered, she passed away. Like many older people, she had a fall and that just took her down fairly quickly.
For those of you going through this now, please know your experience is unique to you and extremely challenging. Do your best to show your love and have little or no expectations.
You are not alone.
She would have been proud to know that you are helping others who must face this awful experience. Peace and love.
rest in peace
Your mom is/was lovely and I applaud your gentleness with her.
@@marciabrusberg4939 well said.
Sorry to hear that she is gone.
She seemed really sweet! 😊
*Sharlene Palmer* the way she says thank you after every correction is priceless...God bless her soul
Bro that’s crazy she thinks she’s 23 I didn’t know alzheimers was that severe
alternators
Attenuators
attivmetortos
Old timers disease
M.Z. Reynolds mate go take that topic somewhere else.
What a kind woman. Such class. I wish those manners were still a thing
They can, it starts with you.
When she said she was 22 and changed it to 23 I laughed... You're only as old as you feel.❤❤❤❤❤
She’s such a sweetheart, I can imagine her before this horrible disease took her.
Someone might lose their memory but they never lose their soul
Lisa Kay that is beautifully said😊 and i think you might be right
That hit home for me so hard, thanks 🙏
Memory can came back with the right medication
Lisa Kay- what a nice statement. What else might you like to comment about?
Unfortunately, cruel reality doesn't care about your wishful thinking. Body without brain and the ability to process information is just soul-less pile of meat. The intricate neural connections in our prefrontal cortex is what makes us human, with those connections gone, soul vanishes as well...
The look of despair in her eyes while shes trying to find answers. It can actually scare a person with Alzheimers. Make her as comfortable as possible 🙏🏻
she didn't look scared to me
ShockBass they said despair
she obviously over with the being scared part and move on the that dream like state
THANK YOU! Very few noticed it, bu you did. He certainly meant well, he obviously loved his mom deeply. But it's good to kind of badger someone with Alzheimer's, she doesn't know her last name, that's clear, why shame her over it? Rest in peace, dear lady.
She is such an angel, she reminds me of my grandma who had Alzheimers for as long as i could remember. During my late teens my younger sister and i spent most of our days talking with her and giving her company since my parents had her move in with us so she could be with family. I remember one day in particular she thought she was 20 and thought we were her friends whose house she came over to, she was 90 at the time. She asked us to call her boyfriend, my grandpa, so he could pick her up and take her home. He died about 10 years prior so it was heartbreaking, but we kept telling her he was on his way over and “should be here soon”. She sat down and waited for him, and forgot a couple minutes after. She died a couple years ago but i still think about our days together.
I really love to hear that you looked after her and told her that your grandpa was ‘on his way’, my grandma passed 3 months ago and also suffered from this terrible disease. Similar to yours, whenever we would show her pictures or tell her something she really liked then she would say ‘I can’t wait to tell Henry this he’ll love it as much as I do’. Sadly Henry is my grandad who passed around 2 years ago, I really don’t think anyone should have to suffer from this xD
That’s such a lovely story-thank you for sharing!
What a kind soul you had. You had such a wisdom as a young person. God bless you.
She’s like, “leave me alone and let me eat this deliciousness.” What a sweetheart!
It's so sad how she remembers all her kids at first, and then she forgets at the end.
Its not sad
She will vorget that she is old
She vorget the world is dark
She vorget she die
I despise Alzheimer's disease. That disease killed my grandmother this past weekend. But I do know that making frequent visits with your loved ones with this disease helps out with them remembering you. It may not bring their memory of you back completely but it helps
1 second they know and remember everything, next second they don't. Typically asking multiple things in a row, wears them out and makes their brain go blanc.
@@reign6of6e6terror it is sad, because the largest part of the disease they will be very aware of it. Aware they forget stuff, forget how to do stuff, know they will forget who their partner and children are. It is devastating. The last period, yes, they are barely aware of themselves. But until then, it's heartbreaking.
@@ChallieWallie I was thinking the lady's brain was getting tired.
When she said 22 my heart just exploded...i personally feel we all think we are 16...its our bodies that just don't know
Same dude, I feel like nothings changed in the 2 years since I have been 16.
@@aleeoid3410 Same and I'm 19.
I’m 20 and definitely feel this way.
Forever 17 and I’m 27….our souls stay young…
Yep I'm about to turn 21 and mentally I've felt the same for the past 5 years
There is a reason she is talking so politely, She is 22 years old and talking like how people talked 60 years ago.
When she says "what honey?, what dear?" It makes me cry. Sweet lady. God bless her 🙌
God Bless her
Such A sweet lady
What a horrid disease. At least she doesn't appear to be in pain.
@Klaa2 I do and I'm not enjoying it.
she's not in pain, those that around her are. (not in a bad)
@@user-rr1ef3ne2s most hurtful to lose slowly
@Jeff Keeth thanks, unfortunately my grandfather has it.
That’s is the worse disease. These people are suffering there entire lives with this disease but no pain until the final stage
"I don't know the kids' names...I don't think I ever knew them."
😂😂😂😂😂
vex on this is not funny
@@smeno_4407 Well, too bad.
Heartbreaking
vex on ...if you think that is funny that’s really sad
She may forget but she hasn't forgotten gratitude and humility that's really beautiful
Bless her. She’s so kind and polite. I’m thankful Alzheimer’s hasn’t taken her sweet disposition away.
The way she thanks him after each time she gets or he tells her an answer in so sweet. I cants stop crying... My heart
I agree. She never forgot to say thank you!
I wish people didnt forget to say you’re welcome
“How old are you?” “22..” She’s such a gem! I would’ve played along like, “Well darling, you are only as old as you feel.” Lol! Seriously though, what a terrible illness. May God continue to bless, and guide you both along the journey. 💕
"God's plan" right?
@Dr T what?
@@Crazohz getting angry over a fairytale?
A horrible illness is cancer when you months crie in pain and you waite only of your end
@@reign6of6e6terror your opinion would be more credible if you could spell. And also there's a chance to cure cancer. Alzhiemers has no cure.
Oh she's such a Dear Lady. My Mom is 87. She lives in Portage, MI. I am blessed that she is extremely healthy, mobile, and very high functioning. We send you our hugs and much respect, Steve.
She's lovely. Her kind soul is shining.
She’s a sweetheart. And that’s a horrendous disease.
Hi Julie, how's your day going with you?
What a gem she is, so very well mannered.
She's a bitch
Her loving and nurturing energy is very much still there, I feel it intensely. I’ve worked with patients who share her diagnosis, and without a doubt, angry and narcissistic people deteriorated a lot faster and were miserable, whereas loving and caring people were happy till the end.
The most devastating thing I've ever experienced was the day I asked my mom "do you remember my name?" and she just stared at me. It's heartbreaking to see someone go through this, she seems very strong for how gentle she comes across, I wish you strength for whatever your future holds.
You can tell she has always been a sweet soul
When she asked, "How old am I right here??" Pointing to her heart. She seems to have been saying, ' I am young-at-heart! Bless her heart. My Mother has Alhzheimers, now. 💔😭
"That's almost more than I am right here.". 😥
Oh, thank you. I could hear her well enough. 😢
During one of the most important times of my life, in regards to establishing a career, I took care of my Grandmother with Alzheimer's. No other family members offered to help, and they sure were happy that the grandson was taking care of it so they wouldn't have to. Upon her death, I was told to begin thinking about finding another home as they wanted to sell the house. It's 5 years later and the house still sits, showily degrading.
I eventually got my Bachelor's degree to teach Spanish and lived/traveled throughout Latin America for several years.
It's been hard getting back on track as I have nothing on my resume for those 5 years. I felt like I was in prison (because leaving her would mean the family would send her off to some nursing home), but I love my Grandma.
It's been several years since and what I can say is this:
I am happy that I was there for her and was the only face she recognized. When she was afraid, she would calm down by seeing me and knowing I was there. Although it was very difficult, I'll truly cherish those memories we shared together.
I love you and miss you, Grandma.
Although she became progressively worse, she never forgot how to play the piano and she remembered lyrics quite well!
The last time I visited my MIL with advanced Alzheimers she asked me if I would like a chocolate and it was just as lucid as she would have asked when she was well. It will stay with me forever. She had no idea who I was but still, she offered to share her chocolates... bless her heart. I think the lucid moments are the most difficult but also very special - just a small reminder of who they once were and how that person is ever present but in ever diminishing moments.
What a beautiful lady, inside and out. So kind and sweet!
funny too. I bet she had a fabulous sense of humor before he memory got scrambled.
She is so sweet lady. We love u take care⚘
She still has the most lovely manners.
I’m seeing this 6 years after it was posted. This woman is so pleasant and polite. “Thank you.” “Very nice.” I just love her.
Alzheimer's is horrible! She seems like such a sweet person!
It's horrible for the observer, but a good percentage of sufferers are not unhappy at all. They just need to be very well cared for and every day is a happy day, much like being a child again. It's really a second childhood in some cases. We have to cling to the positives.
It's a cruel disease ..bless her
She is 21..22 and in her mind
Bringing up family erased
I LOVE how she says “thank-you” so sweetly after a bit of help remembering names and such!
I can only hope to be like her if I follow the statistics of probability that I will develop a dying brain eventually.
Is dementia, a dying brain, really worse than some other ways to end our time on earth, if we are surrounded by people who share their love with us? We have time to say goodbye while those who were estranged have a second chance, an opportunity to return like a prodigal child...
She may have forgotten many things but her sweet polite soul shines bright.
“How old am I here?” Very interesting way of phrasing for her. I’m intrigued on where else she goes when she’s not here. Hell knows I’d be reliving my 20’s if I was in her position
She’s so sweet and polite. She’s a gem. God bless her!
My grandmother had Alzheimer’s disease. It was very difficult watching her slowly lose all of her memories. God bless this woman and her family.
My grandfather just passed. We were very tight he raised me and was like my father. I’m 25, he was 88. He passed on Christmas Day. He was just like this. So polite and kind and such a pleasure to talk to. Thank you for the video. It really brightened my day. God bless you and Ms. Charlene.
What a beautiful lady! So sweet and polite- God Bless your MOTHER and family knowing God is with you on this journey
"God's plan" right?
So god blessed her with dementia..?
@@user-vz3ms7fj1v obviously. This shows how stupid these god fearing retards are.
@@locsrob again, evolution is bull shit fuck face.
Jan Delisle did God "bless" her with Alzheimer's? Should be named Godzheimer's then shouldn't it?
My Dad got this and past away, it’s a horrible thing to go through
Big hugs for you xoxo
All we can do is be thear for theam and love theam💕
My dad is about where this woman is. Very sad thing to go thru. Sorry about your Dad. My Dad came back for two minutes during a conversation. It was like he never had Alzheimer's, he asked if there was a pill that would let him just go to sleep and not wake up. At that moment he knew, but minutes later he had all forgotten.
To ANYONE affected by this, please try to remind yourself, LOVE is not a "thought" in one's mind but a "feeling" in one's heart! Alzheimer's may steal their memory BUT they will ALWAYS love you in their heart. That's a bond that NO ONE and NOTHING can steal. ❤
Nikki B except for death, sadly :(
My mother has an Alzheimer and is 87 as well. Conversation with her looks just the same, and my mom is nice, warm, thankful and beautiful just like yours. She can’t name or remember anything, but I know that our presence feels good and special to her, just like when she was healthy, as I see it in her eyes and happy responses. She can’t find the words to say who I am but she feels who I am. . Thank you for sharing your conversation with your mother.
This reminds me so much of the last few years of my mother’s life. Pleasantly confused, but remained gentle and polite. So happy to see that she does not seem to be grieved at all by memory loss. My mom forgot that she couldn’t remember, which made her life so much calmer.
She is so cute. God bless her and the family. Alzheimer's is such a terrible disease. Treasure your momma. She is a gift.
What a wonderfully sweet woman! The smile in her eyes as she says “thank you” after he tells her stuff she has forgotten. I bet she is a sweet woman.
I wish my grandma was like this. She always gets annoyed when anyone implies she doesn't remember something and is really prideful about it. So it's hard to be around her because she's constantly complaining and getting irritated. But she's also really stressed out because she doens't know where she is. I feel really sorry for her and it's heartbreaking to visit. :(
You shouldn't correct people with dementia. Whatever answer she gives just roll with it
NathanRW Keep strong and keep visiting her because as frustrating as it is for you, imagine what it feels like for her.
Trust me dementia hits everyone differently and at different times. Your grandma's behaviors were caused by her illness and I am sure if she knew she was behaving like that, she wouldn't want to behave in that way to you. It's very hard, for both the person with dementia and the people around them. But know that even if she acts completely different than how she used to be, she's still your grandma on the inside. The one who you used to know when you were young.
That’s perfectly normal for your grandmother , they know somewhere in there that their not themselves and it’s very frustrating for them when they can’t remember. You really shouldn’t be asking them to remember, you have to enter their world now. ❤️
Nathan, I won't be able to keep visiting my Mum when she gets to that point. I'm very easily hurt and traumatized. When she gets to the point that she no longer recognizes me, I will say goodbye and then go no contact. What doesn't kill me traumatizes me and scars me for life. I've had enough hell in my life without having to see Mum not recognizing me. And when she gets to the point that she hallucinates I DEFINITELY don't want any more contact with her. (She's not there yet but I'm preparing myself to say goodbye to her soon and go no contact.)
There's enough rubbish in the world without Mum going insane in front of me! I don't even have siblings to lean on.
I wish Dad had had dementia instead, because he was a religious fanatic and I didn't like him much. He wasn't abusive, but he annoyed me. (God this, God that.) No, I didn't want to hear that, and I don't miss Dad. Good riddance, I prefer Mum and always did. I'm Mum's girl, not Daddy's girl. I'm sooooooooooo sorry Mum is not of sound mind. This ORDEAL (not "journey", doggone it) with my Mum is absolutely torturing me!!! I don't believe in being strong/positive/resilient. I believe in crying and having a pity party!!!😢😭💔
As long as she doesn’t get distressed with questions. You really shouldn’t quiz a person if they have dementia.
I tend to agree about the questioning, based on experience as a full-time caregiver to my mom. Each patient is different, so there is no "one size fits all" approach, but mom HATES being questioned, to the point of being nasty and then withdrawing. There's a lot of detective work that goes into reading and communicating with dementia patients, especially as the disease progresses. Mom will tolerate a maximum of three questions and then the excrement hits the fan. But again, every patient is different.
insideout they’re called people . People with dementia. Sincerely an RN..
@@missjojo184, news flash! Patients are people. What type of species do you think the word "patient " refers to? Never thought about that one, huh?
@@missjojo184 in a healthcare setting we're all patients
@Klaa2 Dementia is a syndrome, not a disease. ... Dementia is a group of symptoms that affects mental cognitive tasks such as memory and reasoning. Dementia is an umbrella term that Alzheimer's disease can fall under. It can occur due to a variety of conditions, the most common of which is Alzheimer's disease
Q: What City do you live in?
A: It's a nice one. That's for sure. We get along well.
Note: The correct answer is irrelevant.
Don't we all wished we lived in a nice city where everyone got along.
@@willoughby1888 and then there's Detroit...
Yes! The correct answer is not relevant. It' snot necessary to badger her. (Though I'm sure he didn't mean to.)
She is a sweet, gentle soul. "They may not remember what you did, but they remember how you made them feel."
Your mom is a sweetheart. She is so positive and loving and gentle. Peace, Stephen. Thank you for this!!
There is nothing more beautiful than the motherly smile.
My daughter's name is Charlene, she just turned 8. I hope she's as strong as this lady 🖤
this woman's name is shirley not charlene.
Awww, your Mother is such a lovely, kind and beautiful lady! You are blessed to have grown up under her wing. So glad I stumbled upon your channel. God Bless You!
What a lovely woman, this disease is so terrible i wish her and every other person Who shares this disease the best, what an absolute gem she is
What a beautiful sweet soul is your lovely Mom. God bless both of you guys.
She is a veary sweet lady in my eye.💕 god blass her💕💕💕💕💕
@@deborahuntermeyer1158 bless her with what? Alzheimer's?
@@thebipedCentaur thank u. She is a sweet angel
Aman💕
Her face lit up when she asked „Do you know my kids names“ and you answered with „yes“🥰
Kid I went to school with. His grandfather had alzheimers. He woke up one morning and had forgot he ever learned English. He spoke German only for the rest of his life. Eventually it erases your entire life.
Bless her heart
She's 22.
Damnit Bobby she wouldn't be 87 if she was born in 1923
A rough 22.
This made me tear up - she's such a sweet old lady (saying things like 'what hunny'?). If she thinks she is 22 or 23 tho she can't be feeling too bad!
Qué bueno que se sienta feliz "en su mundo". Que no los veamos sufrir es lo más importante.
She's so sweet!! I love how she says thank you for everything he tells her.
My grandma is 93 and she has an amazing memory. She remembers so many dates, who and when was born and even died. Amazing brain.
What a sweetheart ❤ so kind in her responses and gratitude for his help with remembering.
How precious. She is so soft spoken & cordial.... wish I would have had a sweet mom like her. 💜
When he told her full name she said "God, I hope I can remember that". Godbless.
She’s seems so sweet, I can imagine what kind of person she was before this devastating illness
I have never seen someone so upbeat that has Alzheimer’s.
It affects everyone differently. My grandmother had alzheimers for a long long time. It was very slow progression. She was happy for all of it, dancing, singing. It was only the last two weeks which were sad as her body began to fail, but she was almost 100 years old, so I don't even think she would have moaned about that.
Dementia runs in my family and I really hope I can be this polite if I lose my memory! What a lovely woman
My mother is 89 and even though mom has moments where she is in the wrong time (thinking her parents are alive or our cat is still alive when it isn't), she can remember everything from her past no matter how many times you ask her. Yet ask her what she did 2 hours ago, she can't remember. My father died at 97 and was still fixing lamps up until his death - sharp as a tack!
I had a man 73 with dementia and acted as if he was 17. He was healthy. People was always angry at him but he was good to me. His son treated me well. That is one memory I will keep for a long time. He even stood up for me when he thought I was wronged. He was a good man.
Bless her heart. She seems like she’s such a sweet woman and wonderful mother
What a beautiful lady, she's got a wonderful grace about her. God bless 😘
This is part of "gods plan" right?
@@locsrob it's because of things like this that I have become an agnostic.
@@locsrob this is a result of sin in the world until Jesus returns, it is all in the Bible, p.s we have an enemy too
@@corywiedenbeck1562 lmfao biblehumper please dont respond.
@@corywiedenbeck1562 lmao Bible is a fictional book with 0 proof go sleep now
My Daddy had Alzheimer's and couldn't tell me what he had for breakfast but he could tell me about a day back in 1949 like it was yesterday. I stayed with him during the last 2 years of his life and I learned so much about family history, dates, uncles who were killed in WWII, jobs my Papa had, it was amazing what all I learned. As their caretaker and child, you just have to go back in time with them and have a conversation about the past and forget about current names and people and ages.
Its good she is not terribly distressed and distraught that she cannot remember. She seems calm and contented ❤
She is so kind and thoughtful. Saying thanks after getting an answer. How could you help but love her.❤️
Awe she’s such a positive person and seems like a lovely women. God bless.
What a sweet heart... My husband suffered from this but did remember who I was until he died.
Oh my gosh, I love her so much, her personality is SO lovely 🥺🤍
Beautiful mom I wish you would have continued more videos with her. What a lesson in unconditional love. God bless ALL of you.
God blesses you for your patience. Thanks for sharing this video, that helps us to understand the effects of Alzheimer.
She's beautiful..enjoy every day with her! Mother's are such a blessing..I miss mine so much..what I wouldn't give for another day here with her! Best part is ..I'll see her when I meet up with her in heaven. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MOM!
Your mum is beautiful inside and out. Her light shines through. Bless her. Xx
What a sweetie she is.. I’m so glad she has you looking after her.. I work with older people and so many are simply forgotten about and never get any visits...
I miss working in senior care! You’re mother is the ones that always made my job amazing and proud of what I was doing for them
My grandmother is 93 now, she doesn't remember me, she asked me who I am every day but I love her so much... bless all of them elders.
She’s so cuuuuute! Good job being patient with her. It’s heartwarming ☺️
I want to hug this beautiful lady. My heart broke watching this...❤️❤️
She's so sweet.
I love her semi-badass attitude. It's like, "no, I don't remember. And I don't really care, either." ❤️