Dad with dementia doesn't remember daughter but still feels the love
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- čas přidán 23. 10. 2022
- "There are feelings. I know this girl, this lady, she is important to me in life." This father with dementia doesn't remember being a dad - but the love he feels for his daughter hasn't faded at all.
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A lot of people do not know how to deal with this. I do because my mom had Alzheimer's.
Just go one day at a time. Love them while they're still with you.
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@@donnywenner4998 I lost my grandma to Alzheimer, and I gotta say, death is a relief next to this travesty.
bro is faking it
fake
Even with dementia, the intellegence is oozing out of him. What an amazing man.
his social intelligence is like 1000 levels above my own xD
@@henriksolgard5749 can you not tell by how articulated he is? He is suffering from a condition which has impared his ability to remember but his thoughts are very well put together despite that
@@henriksolgard5749for a man that is "confused"
He is very "logical" in his reasoning and very articulate at it too
So, yeah, he seems pretty intelligent to me
@@henriksolgard5749and the way he said "I dont want to hurt you" seems to show that at a certain level, he understands that he is under some condition which impairs him from truly remembering their relationship
@@pauljohnagustin237 Him not only having that raw empathy, but also being able to put that out front like that when you're in middle of your own 'crisis' n stuff is.... impressive. I don't know this guy, but, I love him too.
Logic and empathy remain. That must help him and his loved ones a lot, despite the circumstances.
Yes
Perfectly said, Dutch. Logic and empathy. Thank you.💚
@@jimmorgan6837 I read that in Arthur Morgan's voice.
Sadly the logic will fade away. But the emotions stay until his death.
Depends what you class as Logic. But the feelings remain, you just cant remember what those feelings are linked to.
“does that hurt?” he’s trying so hard. they all are. god bless them
God is always G capital
@@user-hk9kn7tm4p yes, they just werent typing with grammar is all
I would have burst into tears for 3 hours straight if i have to speak to my dad like this 😭
Or daughter
Sometimes you do when you live those kind of situations. But you do it in private, because the other person will have no idea why you are crying at all. It takes a lot of strength and love to hold it
@@camilobogado3331absolutely agree and you stated it well. It reminds me of speaking with a small child about something very difficult. The strength needed to hold in huge emotions for their sake takes serious strength!
Its why we have to share the love we have for them now, while we can. 🙏
@@novaa802because he doesn't recognize her as his daughter and that hurts him. But he remembers the feeling of love.
Even with a disease destroying his mind, he is still SO logical, calculating, and intelligent to be able to work out the current situation. What an absolutely incredible mind and heart he has.
Yesss :) God bless
Indeed!
That self awareness and empathy is astounding
Scary if you think about. People usually call me more logical person than feeling one and it's horrible to see that logic does nothing.
You just can't beat memory loss.
Of course you can place those stickers everywhere to tell you "hey your name is [..] and you are a dad to [..]! You have dementia!"
But these are all alien sources of info for you.
Just like in this video all that she says is alien info for her dad. Maybe he WISH to remember, to truly believe what she says but no, it's not that.
Imagine yourself now. You wake up one morning and some person in your house tells you "good mornin' mom/dad (depends on your gender, right)"
Your first thought would be "who are you and how did you get into my house??"
Reaction ofc depends on your memory loss. But any sticker you will read this day, any kind words you'll hear they all will be unnatural for you.
Implement logic all you want, draw connections, discover things you own, named jewelry, family photos...it all will be in vain.
I think people with such diseases constantly feel out of place. Always like they are new in their own family.
Sorry if my english is bad and you misunderstood something.
@@TylerWhitlock i think it is in all of us. but most peolpes mnds are not proseccing that way or never learned. But to be fair, a lot of people have developed to be trhis wonderful even without a conditon that slowly lets you degenerate.
How very sensitive of him, with dementia, to NOT want to hurt her feelings or upset her. It speaks beautifully as to who he is.. in his core. ❤
Yes. Even if he can’t remember who he is, it doesn’t stop him from being kind. I’m really so touched by these people 😢
@@wancheng89 , me too. Me too.
He probably doesn't have ftd and the part of the brain that regulates emotions etc hasn't been hit badly yet. Just wait..
@@chanabayla1823 , I know in the long-term, they can become shells of who they were. My Oma was governed by fear mainly. Afraid of everything and everyone. Was devastating to my mother. She had no idea is was her daughter that was always trying to improve her quality of life. Only feared she was somehow hurting her. Awful to watch. Let’s hope he stays like he is.
@It’sMe 100% this. I’ve seen patients go in either direction or stay consistent with who they were.
My grandma became very sweet. (She always expressed herself as if she hated my brother and I for existing-we weren’t our dad’s first children and she wasn’t fond of my mom because my mom grew up poor) Anyway, as her dementia progressed, she became kind. We just never really know what we’re going to get with dementia.
Not only the father's understanding, but the daughter's complete willingness to change a small but vital part of their relationship so as to not make her dad uncomfortable at all. Clear evidence of a great dad.
It's not a small change at all. It may seem small as someone on the outside looking in, but I know that his daughter is in great, indescribable pain. She no longer has the choice of calling her dad; dad. It's a first name basis now. Which I know hurts, because my grandma suffers from severe dementia and if people call her mom or grandma she gets very, very upset. So I had to learn to call her by her first name for her comfort. I no longer understand her when she makes conversation, because there is no longer any structure in her speech.
Her sentences blend together much like her view of the world has. "I tell you that man in my life and the wall are like chickens!! I don't know what I'm going to do with them, they ---- uh and pretty girl I had to tell her she was a disgrace and shameful"
Is an example. Seems like it, but I'm not projecting. I just feel bad for this girl.
They say dementia is eternal youth for the patient, but a curse to those around them who love them.
My mom has dementia and has a lot of trouble if I refer to my dad as "Dad" to her, because she thinks I mean her dad (who is still alive at 90 and she gets super excited thinking he's come to visit ❤). So I've started referring to my dad by his name when talking to her. It feels odd but it avoids confusing her so it's worth it.
I sooo agree with you. The daughter is absolutely amazing. But it's also amazing to see the farther ask the daughter if it would hurt her if they just called each other just by first name. It tells me this man has always been thoughtful, compassionate and loving person. What a great supporting family.
He raised her well dad is the best
Crushing. He looks so young.
right? I hope I notice if anything like that happens to me when I get older, so I can go in peace instead of just disappearing slowly
That’s what I’m thinking. This guy can’t be much older than 45 right? Looks pretty healthy too.
Man this hurts to see. You can see so much compassion behind his confusion.
Yes. I cried for sure.
This is the only dementia video that has moved me so far.
he is so young... we are so fragile..
That's exactly what I thought too. It's heartbreaking :(
hate to see her treat him like a baby tho
He has lost his memory, but not his character.
He was a kind person, after loosing his memory he still is a kind person. And he successfully nurtured a daughter with such a kind heart too.
Best comment
Losing*
Thats my experience with dementia patients. A lot of them is lost, but there true character stays. There are people who have an inpolite character, but had Manners. They will become very inpolite people. This Gentleman Shows his sensitive, Carina true character
@@MrWeirdoh Are* lost
@@michael2113 School is in session everyone! Stop talking about the beautiful, moving video you just watched because it’s time to learn about grammar and spelling. How fun.
Even with dementia, he still communicates better than I do. He’s very articulate.
Said three normal sentences but ok
The maturity empathy patience and understanding from the daughter is next level incredible.
This man is reaping the benefits of raising a championship daughter. Much respect 🙏🏼🙏🏼🌹🌹
Im sure he did the time as a dad. Good for both of them.
@@aldof.2966 I have no clue on the specifics on how his daughter grew up with her dad.
All i know is, I wish my daughter would love me as much as this if i ever go down under…
She will @@CapoKabar
Unfortunately we "All" going under
impeccable daughter , eternal bondings
I would have broken down. But she handled that so well to keep composure in order not to freak her dad out. What a beautiful lady 💗💗xx
He's at least trying to absorb what she tells him. Not everyone does that.
It gets a little easier with practice unfortunately. But just when you start to get comfortable, they get worse. And you start over.
Been through it, it hurts but it feels better being able to even agree on feelings. She probably was just happy to have a connection. This may have been a good day, trust me the bad days are ones I wouldn't have wanted to record
I bet she bawled her eyes out later when she was on her own. I would have.
@@MrVariant well it’s not like they are not trying. I’m
Not sure if you are referring to people in general or to dementia patients. Those patients they are just not in control of their thoughts most of the time. It’s very heartbreaking. They don’t want to be this way. But they can’t control it.
My mum died last year from end stage dementia .
All her memories were gone.
I reminded her every day that she was my mother and I was her son and that I loved her very much. At the time of her death I held her hand and said I love you for the last time. She could no longer speak but she looked at me and smiled as she squeezed my hand then left this world.
I believe in that moment for however brief a time she remembered me and the love she had for me.
Imagine being in his shoes, he has really great presence of mind to realize his situation and think critically
He seems young to have that progressed level of dementia.... what a strong daughter and loving family, I know how hard these things truly can be.
Theres also Brain Tumor-Associated Dementia
He was an alcoholic and went through a failed suicide attempt resulting in him having brain damage and alcohol related early onset dementia that’s why he’s so young. His wife, the mother of the woman in the video, also has memory issues. She and her wife are full time care takers of her parents. It’s quite sad but most of her videos are very sweet and super informative
@@megan7292 - I see, thxs.
Thats sad I assume it runs in the family then? And he most have progressed it earlier with the brain damage
I worked in a dementia facility, and we had a woman who was 50 at the time with dementia. It just happens. No she never did drugs or drank excessively.
This makes me so sad, he is so young. Dementia is never easy, but "losing" your father so early on is heart-wrenching
Terribly sad. No words.
This can be reversed. It is cooked foods that are causing this. If the person still has his/her wits get them onto a 100% fruit diet specifically grapes, berries, citrus and melons to pull the acidic mucus out of the body and get the lymphatic system flowing again. It will take some time but it works.
If the person is too far gone and is angry and confused its over. Look up Dr Morse TV. The guy helped me cure my mum.
Yeah I know he looks so dang young
Covid jab does that
@@ilacallya324 definitely the shots are terrible
She is so strong. I can't imagine sitting in front of my father not know who am. Bless them both. The silver lining that I always notice is the heart always remembers.
Bailey - you are heroic. Your love and empathy has no bounds. Wishing you and your Daddy everlasting love and strength.
he must've really loved them to feel such emotions even though he doesn't remember
I have an uncle like that, it’s one of those bonds where he would take a bullet so I’ll live vice-versa
💗
its called instinct
@@escapeanimation Nope, Heart has neurons, it's like a peripheral memory.
She handled this exactly textbook. Someone with alzheimers or dementia sometimes cannot recognize family members for who they are. They just feel love and connection. Her willing to call him by his name to make him feel comfortable is absolutely correct in this situation. Trying to explain who you are to them is not going to help them remember. This makes me so happy to see how this was handled. This man is so lucky to have such a wonderful daughter who knows how to put his needs above her own.
You should never ever say a family member handled a situation with a parent correctly or believe that a healthcare provider is in any position to pass judgement.
You can pass judgement on us as staff but unless it's abusive don't alienate a parent's children by stating they are communicating properly with their parent.
Your probably going to see them a lot.
Many new nurses do and it invariably becomes an issue.
@@anklebiter9116 How is that alienating?
@@anklebiter9116you're*
oh god, no, if i ever suffer from dementia i don't want people around me to lie to me in order to make me comfortable.
if someone i have never seen before walked into my house and explained that i have dementia and handed me a DNA test that proves the connection, then all i would have to do is ask about something we did together. if they can come up with a highly detailed answer on the spot, then it would make logical sense that they're teling the truth and i do have dementia. im the type of person to consider the possibility that at any point, my mind could be cloned in the far future in a simulation and to not freak out if that happens.
however, if you talked to me in a wishy-washy way like the girl is here, it would probably just freak me out since it's weird that you lack certainty on our connection. everyone has different brains. i don't think there should be "textbook" guides for interacting with disabled human beings.
@@Test-tu9mb With all due respect, is it possible that we-able-body and able-minded people-can accurately predict how we would hypothetically process and respond to information in the event that we began to suffer from loss of cognitive functioning?
his heart knew yours that’s all he remembered 💜
You can see the soul of this man. He doesn't want to hurt the feelings of 'a stranger' which speaks volumes to his character.
sorry to tell you the 'soul' you can see is most likely the effect of the extremely potent medication he is on.
@@dd61125 Nasty people can't hide it when their memory goes. This man is worried about hurting the feelings of a woman he doesn't know.
@@dd61125 What medication is that?
The brain is a receiver/antenna, and the signal is consciousness.. for some reason this illness disrupts that signal. Once we understand consciousness we understand ourselves.
@@dd61125 you think that guy is on coke? No shot
So sad but very mature daughter who wants to do what is best for her dad. ❤️
Yes, you could really feel the pure love there.
Yes, really heartwarming
The apple falls ❤
@@stephaniesmith5793 My thoughts exactly.
@meh There's always gotta be one guy like you....
He must’ve been a wonderful Dad, based on this interaction this is a great man.
I follow they ttk account and all the videos are so sweet. It’s was cause by alcohol, so came really early, his dementia. He tried to k*** himself, she was the one that found him…and every time he ask her to tell what happened, why he doesn’t live in his own home anymore, she tell everything and he always apologised to her.
They relationship it’s amazing 😢❤
@@jacquelinealves1975Alcohol is such a dangerous drug.
On her TikTok she says he wasn’t a nice man until the dementia.
You can tell just how sharp, insightful and emotionally intelligent he is/was.
She's a great daughter. She could've went with Dad, but respected her Dad's feelings more than her own.
No she’s not. Why is she putting this for the world to see. These people are scary. They cant even preserve their own parents dignity 🤮
@@cestbonbon5961 , Perhaps her father was an open person, and she takes after him. I understand your concern. But, on the flip side, too many people hide their loved ones like they're an outcast. She is giving him dignity by letting him share his emotions and not treating him like a child.
@@cestbonbon5961 she put it here for me , I needed it , so there's that
@@cestbonbon5961to show positivity with all the negative news. It’s really simple
@@cestbonbon5961she wanted to show the world it’s ok to struggle, ok to have dementia, ok to be forgotten by father, it’s nothing shameful but still can love each other. including for the people just like you
Scott's so articulate and knows exactly how he feels. Who would have thought that he's with dementia?! More love for this father and daughter duo
Dementia comes in an infinite amount of forms. Fronto-temporal dementia can start relatively early and doesn't impact your speech and motor functions as much as your memory or your verbal filter. This gentleman reminds me of a patient of mine who suffered from FTD. We've had some great talks over the years and his insults were always the most colorful 😂❤
@@teresawelter7530 I don't have much knowledge about the different forms of dementia. But I find it fascinating how this man is trying to logically and intelligently work out what he's struggling to remember or understand. And with empathy and compassion as well. I loved this interaction!
Yeahhhhh … more vids please because it’s beautiful tho heartbreaking!!
heroin or alcoholism has froze his brain no dementia.. he has the aggresion to git it.
@@Bert_de_Wit Parts of the brain can try to compensate in some ways, obviously not in a perfect way, that's why blind people have an extraordinary sense of hearing and touch
she’s so strong bc i’d be sobbing
Poor guy! But lucky to be surrounded with such love.
I think Bailey takes after her dad when it comes to straightforwardness and emotional intelligence. She knows how to deal with her Dad's personality
Definitely!
His mind has forgotten her but his soul knows they are family. That closeness goes beyond the body to spirit. This was so beautiful
@@eckankar7756 His soul knows? What does that mean? Don't be mawkish. Think of something that actually means something honest and real.
@@judithrandall4690 Oh stop being so superficial! You'd understand him if you tried a little harder.
@@judithrandall4690 what a buzzkiller!
This reminds me of my favourite quote from Maya Angelou "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel".
Great quote. One I think of often when I’m talking to strangers. I hope you have a lovely day and thank you for reminding me of such a great quote.
Maybe the most important quote that human beings could remember. The world would be so much better if everyone did
I had to write this quote down. Thanks for re-sharing it! It’s a beautiful QUOTE!
Amen.
@@NBC09 indeed. A beautiful quote that can help us in life
How this man is concerned about the well being of people around him just make me emotional.
Wow - what amazing insight into the mind of someone who is going through dementia! I wish my dad had been able to tell us that clearly what was going on in his head.
I work in dementia care. Peaks and valleys every day. Great job by the daughter to channel the discussion to a positive end. I wish this family nothing but happiness.
I've had family members with dementia and their significant others or adult children will argue with them and constantly correct them. It didn't seem like a great way to handle the situation when their memories were faltering. I get wanting them to remember moments they'd shared in the past down to every detail, but what do the details and semantics matter? If the feelings they had are still there, isn't fostering those positive feelings the most important thing?
So, they can 'feel' connected to family/friends, but not remember the who or how?
@@crystalcutch5569... apparently. What's important may last longer than we realized.
Do you know if patients with Frontotemporal Dementia like Bruce Willis lose their memory like in Alzheimer's Disease?
Any step to prevent dementia? My parents 71 & 74 i takes care of them they’re fine atm but interested in preventative caring
I sobbed. This man is a beautiful soul to his core. His daughter is awesome, her love for him shows in how she talks to him.
I agree. The way he tried to be careful not to upset anyone is incredibly empathetic.
You gotta get it together Usko.
@@rockscousteau its too close to home. My mother had dementia
Me too. Heartbreaking but the pure love is still there.
The moment you lose memory, you lose identity the only thing that remains is the core moral construct and character of you as a human. You can see one at that point if is a good person or not..
Father in law with dementia just passed away at 68. Rip to a great smart man who fought to his last breathe.
That's so... tender, caring, emotional, empathic... and someone here must be cutting onions in the end, I swear! He's so understanding, you are so understanding, and I know from experience how hard this can be. Good to know they may forget you - but not their feelings towards you. Thank you so much!
You can tell he is an amazing dad by the way he raised his daughter. She is firm, loving and mature person, capable to be strong enough to carry that weight as if its nothing. For her dad.
And you know all that about her from a 2 minute clip? No wonder there is a mental health epidemic when people trivialize other people's personalities. As if that can be condensed into such a short video.
She's so strong. She is incredible. But you can tell he was an amazing strong and emotional man as well.
Probably took some time to get to that point.
@@RP-dy5mu He complimented them and you think thats mean?
@@RP-dy5mushe finished his sentences but regardless
This brought me to tears, but it’s good loving tears. I worked with many many dementia residents, patients and just plain friends…I was truly blessed. But, as a parent, I could never imagine not being able to remember my kiddos.
God bless Bailey for keeping her Dad, Mr Scott in a safe place….if only for a brief moment. And, for that brief moment…Mr Scott knew he was safe and loved. 🙏❤️
He’s so with it. Amazing.
Wow, he looks too young to be suffering from dementia. It sounds like he has some great care. Big props to his daughter for being so patient and caring.
If it’s prefrontal lobe dementia it can appears in adults in their 50s. It’s the same type Bruce Willis was just diagnosed with last week.
@momokoblue that and it might be alcohol induced dementia (yes its possible if you drink too much alcohol)
My Dad had dementia in his late 40's, which progressed until he passed away at 55 in 1995
@james lovitt I know it's been almost 30 years but I'm so sorry for your loss
Well sorry about the bad news but they recently just found a 18 year old with it so apparently age can't be the only factor
This is heartbreaking, he's completely aware of his condition so imagine the way he must feel :(
You cant miss what you cant remember. Thats a mercy at least.
@@tzimiable we'll have to agree to disagree 💔
@@tzimiable , I suffered from emotional neglect from my childhood. So you are saying I never missed emotional connection because there were no memories of it? BS
Early stages are the toughest for the sufferer, when they're aware they're losing themselves. Then it progresses to a point where they aren't aware but the family are, and that's where it seems to get less difficult for the individual but harder on the family
Non ce n’est pas navrant ,c’est douloureux et émouvant .pas navrant
The daughter dealt with this perfectly, she is a gem. Her mom should be very proud. Tim M. 3-20-2024
He is a very very sensible, intelligent guy.. hats off sir
"I'm obviously somebody because I have feelings for you!"
That gives me chills.
Wdym?
@@C-Jay_A113 what do I mean? is that really that diffucult to understand what i wrote?
@@francescacostantini7000 nah I understand you just fine, but why would that give you chills?
@@C-Jay_A113 if it was your parent you'd probably understand, even if you were a stone lmao
@@Depressed_until_dead mb, I completely misunderstood what this person meant by this comment. Sorry bout that
These is so depressing 😢I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years.
With so much anxiety Not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatmentPsilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean.
Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes, he is dr.porass.
Even though he can't remember her he still doesn't want to hurt her feelings and that is so amazing
He's seems very self aware of his dementia and that it could be impacting those around him. He doesn't know who she is, but he knows it's because of his disease. That level of selfishness is amazing
It is truly amazing
@@AlgaeEater09 i think you meant selflessness
You are a strong lady. i commend your words!
the fact he still knows that he loves her and tries not to hurt her feelings and he's still intelligent and logical about it despite the little information he has with his lost memory is honestly really cool
As a father who is older than the dad in this video, this is heartbreaking for me. Praying for him and his family
I was just thinking, isn't this guy too young for dementia? My God.
In Jesus Name, Amen 🙏
Praying won’t do anything, specially when you don’t mean it.
@@pandy__ Praying is Powerful!!!!!!
Don’t buy into a lie, it’ll cost you everything.
Pray in Jesus Name!!!!!!
I’m alive bc of prayer 🙏!!!!!
@@TermlessHGW my grandmother got dementia at age 52...she's 73 now and I believe it's caused by stress..but major stress..I won't get into details but mental health is everything! I love her to death and I'm glad she is still with us but it can be very hard sometimes..
I love this guy. You can tell he's got a heart of gold. He's worried about a person he doesn't know at the moment.
YES. This person gets it. Thank you for saying this.
Stop thinking we are blanks. My mother asked me to visit her friend from years before who had "dementia" and was put in a nursing home when her husband died. I brought her a small plant and sat with her, told her memories my Mom had of her friend helping her with first child during war. She was so happy. I didn't know she hadn't spoken in a couple years. I told her daughters at the husband's funeral and they looked at me like I was nuts.
The woman died the next day.
Dangerous to our lives to believe we have no thoughts or memories.
Awww what a sweet man, I’m balling my eyes out, thank God he has such a beautiful family
We're in the early stages of this with my mom right now and while it pains me to see it happen, I'm glad she has a wonderful group of support in place. Couldn't imagine having to go through this alone someday.
My grandfather had Alzheimer’s as well. I’ll be praying for you guys
I’m dealing with it with my 93 year old mother and even though I have a sister, I’m having to do it myself. Not fun.
@@jogordon1530 I know it doesn't mean much but I'll keep you in our thoughts today and wishing you the best on this journey - stay strong.
@@myrandom603 Thanks.
This video is so wholesome. The daughter was willing to meet her father on a level he could relate to. God bless the dad who was worried about hurting the daughter's feelings. She said all of the right things and dad was able to convey his love for his daughter. Dementia takes away so much from a person. They become a shell of the person they once were. I am glad daughter has this moment on video. She can look to it as things progress and know that she was always daddy's little girl
You can tell what a pure soul he is from how he communicates even with someone he "doesn't know". True testament of his character.
for him to go 'does that hurt your feelings' so much empathy for someone that must sound crazy to him... Such an amazing man...
I'm happy to see intelligence, logic and empathy are so ingrained in his character, that not even dementia could take them away. My dad isn't so lucky.
She handled it like a champ. I’m a grown man and I just broke down watching it. I’m also not sensitive either. I’m past 40 yrs old now and I wear my heart on my sleeve nowadays is all. Life’s to short! Give love! Show love! ✌🏼
right? I feel you there man.
Being sensitive gets a really bad rap because people typically only focus on the fact that sensitive people feel hurt deeply and easily but it also means that they feel love and all the other emotions deeply as well and are usually fine tuned to picking up energy that others give off and they can be very empathic. Being sensitive is not always "bad"
Don't fil bad I'm over 60 broke down right off the bat and you see this man's love by how his Daughter is interacting with him. That's love.✌️🙏😎
I’m not crying, we are crying 😢. The first thing I thought was they should both get a tiny tattoo on their little finger. There’s so many different ways dementia can affect memory
Me too brother x
When she said “I love you, Scott” I cried. His brain may not remember her but his heart will never forget his love for her 😢
Lucky dad to have daughter like that
Watching this hurts me beyond belief as my great grandmother got dementia around 2015 or 2014 I think. Yet, despite that, she always remembered one thing, and one thing only. She...only remembered.....me. I was the **only** person she remembered. She forgot my great grandpa, my parents, my grandparents, everyone. Everyone...except for me. She...even went as far as calling me her son. And...when she passed in 2016, I was completely devastated. My family knew I was special to her, so they let me carry her urn to the box she was placed in. And to this day, I still miss her greatly. And I long for the day when I can see her again when my time on this earth inevitably comes to an end in the distant future.
My grandfather had Alzheimer’s and towards the end of his life, he was always grumpy with adults but with us grandkids, he was always happy and he always loved us even though he didn’t remember our names. I loved him until his passing days in 2010. ❤️
Same Grandpa Esteban the 1st who was born in the late 40s and then his son Esteban the 2nd my dad born in the 60s! And in 2015 was the 3d Esteban to be Born! Hope this tradition keeps going
@@michaelmyyears4743 what are you on about?
@@BlackCheezit the fact that when ur in a position where ur mind wonders u still have a sense of being humble to those you seem to feel safe around like kids because everyone knows kids dont have agendas in life just have fun and live life. While adults grow out of it and have priorities and goals and agendas in bettering there life out of the expense of others. So thats why everyone in any condition or state knows or has an automatic response to being nice to children and can be goofy around them but when near someone ur age or older u seem to compose urself because you feel eyes are on you just analyzing you. But my point is everyone has this deep connection to feeling who u can trust and talk to openly the way this father is to his unknown child! But you can feel he feels a connection of trust! There are some things in this world u cant explain in words but just feel it in ur bones or gut! Thats why
@@BlackCheezit the fact that in no matter what state we might be in we love family unconditionally so much that i named my kids after my grandpa and dad to keep there MEMORY ALIVE! Even if they dont remember themselves is where i was trying to go towards to. Hope this helps in understanding how i see this video speak to me!!
@Alex Z, I'm sorry for your loss.
"if i don't know who i am, i must be" that gives me goosebumps.
Haters gonna hate, Jackie. I love the realness and the emotion. It shows the passion and how much you care. I’m sorry this wasn’t easy and you aren’t winning every race, but this was a great video.
gosh you can tell Dad has a VERY sharp mind and it's just so unfair that someone with the depth of perception that he does gets this horrid disease. His daughter is a gem too...i'm sure it takes a lot of grace and strength to see that happen to the man who was your protector as a child
Man he’s young for such a diagnosis. Both of them are very strong. ❤
I said the exact thing out loud, then read your comment. He seems so young.
There are forms of dementia or Alzheimer’s you can get really young. the father of one of my best friends got it in his late 40s. It’s rare but it’s super scary. Can’t imagine the pain that comes with such an illness. just horrible 💔
Bruce Willis’ diagnosis was surprising to me for this reason as well. It’s crazy how little is taught to us in school for example, when it comes to different types of dementia :/
I just can’t believe this disease is having such an effect on human beings. How the heck do we care this?
8 thousand of our military now have a dementia brain fog bad enough to be on leave from their job since they were forced to take the safe and effective .
The way he said "I don't know", hit hard.
What a kind, selfless daughter. This made me cry. I cannot imagine slowly losing someone you love mentally like this. But she handles it beautifully.
Yes! She also cares for her mom who has a traumatic brain injury. Two parents who aren’t fully there in the mind and also have health issues. Whew it’s a lot. On top of that, her father used to be abusive. So has a heart of gold.
@@SickandTired95i actually thought i noticed a gleam of abusiveness when he said "how does that make you feel?"
Im glad that my intuition was confirmed.
Selfless? All her conversation was revolved around her
Dementia or not, this is a good man. He was deeply worried about hurting her feelings and still felt a close bond despite not knowing their relationship.
JESUS! This is both heartbreaking and heartwarming.
He’s so worried he’s hurting you 😭😭 this is so beautiful, humans man
The level of empathy and emotional intelligence is out of this world ❤️
"Emotional intelligence". Now that's the exact perfect way to describe his approach. 5/5! 😊
@@Bert_de_Wit emotional inteligence Is not a real psychologycal construct like IQ por personality
@@nowayjose2082 Thank you for your correct scientific observation. However, "emotional intelligence" is a figure of speech, and not a scientific analysis.
@@Bert_de_Witim glad mate, some people think its an actual psychologycal construct that you can measure
This is so humbling, sad and bittersweet but at the same humbling.
I'm a black guy and I'm 47 years old at the time that I'm writing this. I don't care about your race or age. I love you guys out there. I'm glad that I'm in the world with you. We've got a lot of things to fix... but you are all my family. Take care of yourself.
I agree. Watching something like this just goes to show how little color or any of that stuff matters. This guy can’t member what color he is who is his family but you can still tell he has a good soul. Individually our soul is what matters. Not our color. This is heartbreaking. She was with important in life.
@@bobbystillz222 My only point is that I'm black and HIS color doesn't matter to me. Color matters very much in this country and in this world because racists have made it so. They did hundreds of years of hard work to make it so and that won't be fixed in the 40 years that anyone has been doing anything about it. But I can tell that THIS man has a good soul. Maybe that's because he's not interacting as much with this country and all of it's racial problems. I wouldn't either if I didn't have to.
@@bobbystillz222 I mean like you said, "He can't remember what color he is." That automatically removes you from racism.
Why bring it up then? Odd
Its kinda weird and self centered you turned all of this into something about race and racism.
“In my heart we are.”
“And that’s what we are in my heart too. Family.”
I felt that :) That’s nice to see that the father still feels love of his daughter.
this part broke me... He's conveying his love for his daughter but speaks like he's expressing that love towards a stranger. Either way, the love knows.
Oh my goodness, the way his daughter handles this is so considerate and loving 😢. I just want to give her a hug ❤
Probably the 270th time they had this conversation
He's so so empathetic what a wonderful considerate articulate man
My dad passed away with dementia... Breaks my heart see things like this, but remember always: No matter if he doesnt remember who you are. Remember always who he is. May god bless you.
- "He doesnt even know that you are his son!"
- "But I know that he is my father."
So true
My grandpa had dementia and had been unable to remember any of us for a while. At one of his last birthday parties I came in wearing one of his old shirts and he said 'nice shirt' and everyone was in shock bc he had been unable to speak for quite a while. Later on I gave him a hug and he said 'Jenna Jen' (what he used to call me when I was a kid). I'll never forget it.
I flew cross country several times a year to see my mom. People asked why, because she didn't know me. I'd just reply that I know her.
I miss her so much now...
@soozkoozhooz5902 that comment slammed me with emotions
Ohh man. This one making me cry like a little boy. This is soul crushing in a way. On the other hand is...beautiful.
Lost my grandpa to dementia. An amazing human being , could not recognise most of us. But ask him multiplication table he would promptly answer. He slipped and broke his hip, I carried him to hospital in arms and this is when the memory somehow misplaced and He believed from his misplaced memory I dropped him that’s how his hi was broken.He was never mad even though he believed I dropped him.
Rest in peace grandpa.
What an incredible daughter & human being! How did she not burst into tears?!! That got to me! ❤😢
I just felt my heart breaking and being put back together in one fell swoop. Much love to this family
And all the others in the comments experiencing something similar
This absolutely breaks my heart in two. I watched my grandmother lose her memory to Alzheimer’s. Seeing what it did to people she loves was gut wrenching. She would forget my grandpa and be afraid of him sometimes. It hurt him so much to see her be afraid of him. Their romance and marriage is truly something special. When she dies I know he will follow her shortly after. He won’t survive with her not in this world.
I was a CNA in the past and felt with dementia patients and I can say she handled that beautifully as well…shout out to the both of them
Bailey, you are an awesome daughter! You handled your father and his illness perfectly. I was my mommy’s caretaker for 4 yrs as she had dementia. I learned to never argue over facts of truth bc it upset her and made her disease worse. You are showing your dad unconditional love! Thank you for putting this out for all to see. It brought memories of my sweet momma back to the forefront…….it’s only been 10 yrs since she passed but some days it still feels like yesterday.
My father passed last month, he also suffered from dementia, yet he always felt comfortable and safe around his family despite not recognizing them, he did feel scared of strangers, doctors and nurses in particular, he always called on to us even though he didn’t know who we were… may God bless you and your family. ❤
Stay strong bud 💕🤴
Did he really have dementia or are you a body snatcher? You could be a double too. May he rest in peace.
So sorry, nothing else to say, I can't imagine your loss. Bless you and your family as well.
My condolences to you. You will heal and you will get better. Allow yourself to grieve, take all the time you need, but grieve and let it be. You will heal.
It's a horrible disease. The one that I'm scared of the most by far. Losing my mind. I am 37 right now and if we're lucky, we're not going to have to worry about anything like this when we reach that age. But it is still pretty sad for those who weren't that lucky...
The disease is awful! I’m glad he can talk. My sister has Frontotemporal dementia and aphasia. She hasn’t been able to communicate for over a year and a half. She is 65 and in memory care. The lack of communication is so hard.
This makes me appreciate my brain and my body even more. The things we take for granted even memory!!!. Thank god.
I am a 57 year old man, and I cried like a baby watching this ! My mom, who is 84 years young now, has this disease and it is TERRIBLE ! Your dad looks to be about my age and it really makes my heart hurt to see someone else going through this. Looks like you have a wonderful relationship with him and the way you handle the tough times is really remarkable ! I pray for you and him and just hope that maybe soon, before it's too late, they will find a cure...
Yuck
@@jcc4543why mean?
@@GeorgeSupremu I'm always mean so get lost.
@GeorgeSupremu jcc4543 is a kid , he has videogames streaming, don't consider kiddies on grown up talks . i mean he goes "pew pew" on a screen . would you care for a chimp opinion? let the kid be mean in his room with his red face , rofl. watch us care about you being mean while we know how shy and polite you are out there in the street little mommaboy :D
@@KaliYugeraffected and mad xD and talks like a mad Karen, you need to take your medicine.
She is so loving with him and he is so loving to her, asking her if that hurts her feelings. So fantastic.
You’re so kind to your dad. You’re doing great. I love how he still knows that he loves you and trusts you.❤
A love that strong reaches through everything, like sun through the clouds.
My extremely intelligent mom, developed dementia. As confused and forgetful as she got, and how destructive the disease was, she always greeted me with a smile and her last words were "I love you".
Very professional approach towards her father! Can’t imagine the amount of pain she felt deep in her heart, hence she handled the conversation like a pro, respecting her dad’s opinion, making him feeling valued! Great daughter!
A heart-warming video. Love for Scott and Bailey... and we can't forget you mom!!
Poor Man, he is worthy to be cared till the end...
He raised Bailey for a time such as this. Her understanding, love and compassion towards her father is pure and genuine. He raised an angel of a daughter.
You're forgetting the mother in this equation for some reason. They both raised her.
@@captainobvious6070 The reason is that the context of this situation is him and his daughter. That's why they left out the mother. Obviously, captain obvious.
You sure that's a girl behind the camera? Sounds like a guy
Actually no he didn’t. He was an abusive alcoholic. Yet she still cares for him in his time of need.
@@captainobvious6070 Her father was an abusive alcoholic. Mom raised her. She is also taking care of her mom who suffers from a TBI.