Mum And Me (Alzheimer's Documentary) | Real Stories
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- This powerful documentary, first broadcast in 2009, hit a chord with thousands of people - not just those who are dealing with a relative who has Alzheimer's. The film was an unusual departure from Sue Bourne’s normal approach because she turned the cameras on herself and her family to make the documentary. Sue’s mother Ethel has Alzheimer’s and lives in a nursing home in Scotland. For three years Sue and her daughter Holly filmed the time they spent together with Ethel. The reason Bourne wanted to make this film was that everything she had seen about Alzheimers had been terribly sad and depressing. Yet her experience with Holly and Ethel was that, in spite of her mother having Alzheimer’s, the three of them still managed to laugh and enjoy their time together.
The resulting film is an unusual portrait of living with Alzheimer’s - a funny, charming, quirky and sometimes harrowing record of how the family have managed to fumble along making the most of their time together in spite of the ravages of Alzheimer's. It is a simple story of love and laughter - and of trying to make the most of what you have. Made all the easier by the personality of Ethel who turns out to be the undoubted star of the film.
Winner: Best Documentary (Celtic Media Film Festival 2009)
Winner: Making A Difference Award (Mental Health Media)
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One thing I have learned about this doc is not to depress that person with bad news and remind them of their reality. Let them live with some of their alternate thoughts and show compassion. I don't judge these people though because they tried their best but it is worth learning from.
Couldn’t have said it better! Thank you.. a few times you could see the pain in the moms eyes and the next second she smiles for the camera. Broke my heart.
I have enjoyed this documentary so much. All i see is how much Sue loves her Mum Ethel. And , the grandaughter Holly loves her Grandma too. If you've never dealt with alzheimers then you really have no right to judge. I think Sue has done an amazing job with her Mum. Because , she has spent so much time with her mother, taken her there and everywhere, cared for her in the most amazing way, she will not have regrets. lots of people just dump their parents in nursing homes and forget them. These two embraced their loved one with Alzheimers and just loved her to bits. This documentary has really moved me. Especially the day she found her mother sad and then they both started crying. Thankyou so much Sue for creating this documentary. You've done an amazing job shedding light on a very difficult topic.
My Mom had a Beautiful Sense of humor when she developed dementia. It was like all her worries about responsibility and perfection vanished. She seemed happier than she ever had before. She passed on June 6,2021. I still miss her so Much.❤
I loved your Mom's personality. She still looked beautiful in her old age, I imagine in her younger days she was the life of the party, with many suitors!
To be able to look on the bright side of the dark, to be able to laugh while struggling is inspiring. If you're going to speak, speak sensibly, no truer words. Thank you for sharing the journey.
Love to see how much fun the three ladies are having. The daughter and grand daughter show much love for the sweet lady .
All of you need to stop complaining, many people just leave their parents in nursing homes and never visit them. This lady does what she can to help her mother, it might not be the best in your eyes but you're not living their lives.
jodian i think thats honestly coz this video shows mostly the positive times... they dont see the harsh reality behind that so much... in a way thats a bad thing coz when they have a family member with alzheimers they r gonna b shocked bigtime they arent funny n cheerful n just a lil dotty. beautiful story but it doesnt show so much of the terrible moments behind the scenes
jodian beckfored sadly people can be very judgmental.
Well said try walking in her shoes .. I think they were doing an amazing job all things considered ❤️💯
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I agree. I believe she did the best she could do. That's all anyone can expect under those circumstances.
I dont know how I stumbled upon this, but Im glad I did. It just shows how much laughter helps in times like these. Such a beautiful family.
Wonderful documentary, it was very real & not dressed up for the cameras. It us very evident that Grandmother, Daughter & granddaughter love each other. The grandmother is a lovely woman & would have been a very attractive woman in her youth, her good looks are still evident today, she is a Lady. I wish the daughter & all of them good health, laughter & Gods Blessings.
Anne Murphy I totally agree, a wonderful film.
Anne Murphy I will second that! Thats exactly how I feel about the film but couldn't put it into words so eloquently as you have.
unless you have taken care of a loved one with this horrible disease you have no idea how hard it is. There are times they seem normal, and other times they can be very mean and turn on you. It takes a lot out of you mentally and physically.
zitavldz57 those times when their behaviour changes is known as Sundowning Syndrome. At those times they need a calm environment without too much noise/stimulation because they can’t process as much information. They need to be made comfortable.
Sundowners are the worst. Breaks my heart with my mum.
Yea cause my grandmother had this disease and sometimes she was happy and laughing and the other times she was so mean
For many, yes, but some are Blessed with a lighter side...a more mellow soul and that's what I think has happened to her Mom here...that has to be a huge blessing to them, I'm sure.
ZITA303 She saw her once a month and complained and bitched about it and then abused her mum when she got there.
This is by far the best documentary I have ever seen, about dementia. It is so raw but it shows the incredible bond you all have. X
As someone who has had more than one relative and loved one with this disease, I truly appreciate how you didn't just show the negatives but bothered to show the beauty of the childlike innocence of those with Alzheimer's as well. God be with all three of your spirits regardless of where they may roam and best of recovery with your cancer and the emotional struggles you've faced due to both illnesses and other extraneous factors.
I'm a CNA for 40+ years in Wi USA. God bless you...your Mum and your daughter 💝 Beautiful documentary of true life...3 generations..and Alzheimer's 💝 truly..God bless you all !
My heart broke the minute she relived the sorrow of her dad having died. It's so devastating watching little pieces of people slip away as this terrible disease takes them. Making each day the best it can be is the best we can do
What an absolutely adorable lady and what a wonderful documentary.
A wonderful, generous portrayal of a very challenging time. Thank you for sharing your family. Your mother is so beautiful and her smile and laughter lights up the whole room ... thousands of miles away in California where I watch on CZcams. Yours is an honest portrayal of three dynamic, intelligent women in one family trying to cope with the unthinkable - Alzheimers. Big hugs to all three of you. xoxo
I think how common it is for documentaries to cut out the uglier bits of life, the parts where anger rises up, where voices are raised and frustrations peak, it's caused many people to become disillusioned with reality as others experience it. It's tiring, both physically and emotionally to care for people with advanced Alzheimer's. The ending reminds us of the complexities of coping with your own life in addition to someone else's declining health. We've all had moments where we said things out of anger only to regret it later on. The only difference is she showed it to the world. Overall, this was a wonderful documentary and the love between them all was very obvious.
Right, poor Sue was exhausted.
I also had to have a few talks with everybody and make myself perfectly clear NO MORE F. IATRIC character assassination comments from anyone, Mom years ago tried to make me out to be the family freak then gradually caught on the major trouble I had was indeed with her sister, hence the legal action. When Mom and my brother &Co. got out of that that damnable place and moved many years ago, hopefully the all pretty much changed from that mainstream lifestyle. From then on, fortunately, we could keep some semblance of relationships. I told folks the buck stopped a long time ago with me and my first husband but I don't mind "helping around the house". As she and everyone started hanging with a better class of people, I was respected for doing the right thing anyway. We did have a nice bonus for awhile. One of her friends was absolutely taking me in.
That was a wonderful story………..it left me wanting more!!!!
Bless the grandma, mother and daughter
my perspective is that the daughter has her own struggles with her battle with a frightening disease and so does her Mom - I do think that her Mom is trying very hard to keep her dignity and her daughter needs to see that - her Mom seems very embarrassed at times which must be very hard - but it is also difficult for her daughter who is still seeking some kind of validation and approval from her Mom which is also hard on her
What an honest and brave video. The struggles of the individual with dementia, especially the family’s struggles are so clearly captured. It’s so enlightening.
Obviously everyone who criticizes the daughter never had to take care of family member with Alzheimer's. My Dad passed away 2 months ago and he's been suffering from Alzheimer's for 3 years. My Mum was taking care of him and I've seen her shouting at him, angry with him and I always tried to calm her down, remind her it's all because of the disease. At first, I was angry at my Mum for treating Dad like this but then, one day, I lost control with my Dad and shouted at him for a small thing he did. I ended up crying and ashamed of myself but I realized how hard it is to be around someone with Alzheimer's and that I don't have the right to criticize my Mum. She was with him most of the time and it's hard sometimes to be patient and jolly.
I am also glad that there is documentary like this. It doesn't only show that you can still have a laugh and enjoy your life with Alzheimer's but it shows how difficult the disease is for the loved ones. I think it's easier for professional carers - they are paid to do this and they have to do it every day for years and they attitude is not burdened with past quarrels etc. Let's not also forget that the care at many nursing homes is not the way it should be - there are many awful stories how the staff mistreats old, helpless people.
Michalina Prokop yeah well there’s lots of people in your position, myself included, but you’ve got to hold back your own feelings and think about the family member who has this horrible disease, and have patience , lots of it, it’s sheer selfish ignorance on this daughter’s part in this film that made her shout and say those horrid things to her mum in the car near the end of this , no excuse whatsoever
Michalina Prokop I took care of my mom for 5 years and never yelled at her.I t depends on lot of factors!
@@mirjanapucarevic2105 Sue had just found out she had breast cancer! She said all she wanted to do was tell her mum & have her mum hold her & tell her she'd be OK, but she couldn't. Her Child W/in, & eeryone has one, was hurting, felt cheated, felt anger! Her adult didn't feel that way, that's why she was w her mum before she had to go into surgery. She was taking care of her mum before she was taking care of herself.
When her mum started griping about something that Child W/in had a tempertantrum! She said things she didn't mean to say. Her Child was saying, "Mommy I'm sick! Why don't you see that I don't feel well?! Why don't you ask me?! Why don't you hold me!" Since she was angry that her mum couldn't do that she lashed out. She was going to help her mum into the van then close the door, but that Child was angry so she turned away as a way of saying, "You won't hold me, so you can get yourself in!" Even the name calling was that of a child.
She then had another burden of guilt that she put her frustrations of her problem & lashed that fear, anger (why me?), & all her other emotions out onto her mum who she so dearly loves.
Please don't judge Sue negatively. Traveling 800 miles round trip to put a smile on her mum's face. To take her mum out of the home for meals, movies, & so much more, is pretty amazing! She will miss her mum when she's gone.😿😸
@@mirjanapucarevic2105 ok miss perfect
Laura Hunter Yes - she only sees her monthly and I get the feeling that there has always been a personality clash. She didn’t have to remind her that she was the one in charge now. The nursing home are doing the main caring..The family do memory tests which confuses her and she tries to diffuse the situation with laughter.This film humiliated the mother. I’m ashamed to be Scottish- and yes , I did look after my mother.
Regardless of their difficulties, I love how they managed to find their peace together before alhzimers took that opportunity away.
I work with dementia patients. Please don’t judge the family. A lot of the time they leave crying due to guilt and sadness as their loved ones fade.
The relationship these two have is beautiful and her mums smile is just pure sunshine :)
However.... sometimes the way they spoke to her was so upsetting 😢
i can;t fault them for snapping a little and i think the old lady didn't shun the direct approach in her time so yeah. "If you're going to speak make some sens"
A really moving, yet funny real life film. Every family deals with things differently however underlying in the whole film is the amazing sense of humour they all have. Alzheimer's is cruel but if you don't laugh at the smaller things then you won't get through it and boy have the three generations laughed. Even when Ethel does not remember any of the them she still feels comfortable and safe enough to have a laugh with those around her. Good on you for being so honest.
Hope you and you mum are both bell xx
I love that she did not lose her magic of laughter.. xo
Everyone has their own experiences , all we can do is be compassionate and learn from them .
I Loved the documentary -the good -the bad and the ugly - I loved it all -thankyou!!!!!!
I’m a 21 year old CNA in nursing school. I work with dementia and hospice patients. Since I’m so young I was worried I wouldn’t find connections with my patients.
However, you do laugh with them, you want to hear their stories, you want them to show their pictures of their families to you. Even if the stories or other conversations is just a confused person speaking, seeing them happy truly makes such a difficult job so worth it. Even when you see them finally pass, you remember the good moments.
This documentary truly made me so happy. Thank you so much for sharing this.
This is such a beautifully done documentary I recently lost my mother she’s was 92yrs… please except my condolences for the loss of your lovely mother Ethal and again Thankyou for sharing your journey much love from Sydney Australia 🇦🇺
I totally understand that it's hard for them to deal with their loved one declining BUT saying things like "You're going to get a row now", criticising her, belittling her and laughing at her 🤦 is NOT helping and it's awful, maybe she needs some support because if someone was talking to my mother like this I wouldn't be happy.
My mother had a break down and was like a child, she lost her memory and literally reverted back to a child, I bathed her, cared for her but MOST IMPORTANTLY had patience with her.
I know it's hard, I get that but a little bit of comfort is what she needs, they can't be laughing in her face, telling her she's on her own etc 🤷
I ABSOLUTELY agree With you 100% ~ Broke my Heart😢
@Michelle Dewitt I've watched this for the 2nd time today, my 1st was when my mother was diagnosed and thought it was a good insight as to how alzheimers affects people. Today, after my mother passed away in July 2022 , I am sick that I thought thus was a good documentary after being muns official carer from her diagnoses, you nevercever try to tell a alzheimers person tgat they are wrong, they stink, they piss , and constantly try to make them as normal as they are, their brains are slowly switching off. They can never understand what they have forgotten. It's the illness, its not about upu keeping then as normal as possible, I was mums sole carer until the last 18 months. I had no personal time to myself, I couldn't get home help, apart from 2 x 30 minute visits to start washing mum as it was tough for me. Eventually she developed the habit of walking up and down stairs over 100 times per day, which made her fall numerous times, she had a falk, but it caused a little bleed in the head, nothing major, but tge hospital decoded she needed a care home , trained staff, etc . Luckily, they placed her in a superb home that only dementia residents were residents. Brilliant, her last 18 months were so happy for her. Especially as she made good friends, unfortunately, covid hit, si as an essential person, aka her official power if attorney, I could still visit but one on one, but lucky if she let me have 30 mins, as she wanted to be with her friends , I was so happy she was happy, but sad at the same time for her memory if me fading, but she knew me until the day she passed. So let them live as they become, they dint understand what rules or reminders or hygiene criticism that will be detrimental to their life ahead with their alzheimers . Lits of issues are created by tge family not the patient.
I agree. This all was cringy, unsettling & not professional. It's hard to watch. The granddaughter was obnoxious and aggressive
Ethel clearly had a sense of humour on par with sue and holly. Like sue said at the beginning, her mother has always had a sense of humour. So unless you are like that, including Ethel then obviously you won’t understand. There’s also a big difference between a nervous breakdown and Alzheimer’s. I know first hand what it’s like to care for those with Alzheimer’s and I can tell you now it’s not bloody easy. I don’t know of any other daughters who have drove miles to visit their loved one to then take them back for a few days and holidays away, days out. All while barrelling serious ill health. Sue did an amazing job of what she did for her mum. So how dare you say anything negative. She actually dealt very good in the stressful situations. And even if she did tell her mum in a joking way to shush, Ethel forgotten strait after. It’s not like it would of played on her mind. Anyway it was her mum, no one else’s business. I saw she was also an amazing mum to holly too. I’m so glad they have each other
Thank you for sharing this, warts and all. My sister took care of dad in her house a few years after mom died. There were days she was so frustrated (especially after he lost the use of his legs because he wouldn't do his exercises) that she would say she felt like pushing him down the stairs. We knew she'd never do it but could understand. They had a bit of a grumpy relationship at times but that's normal human interaction between people at times. When it came time for him to go into a home as she couldn't physically manage any longer she asked if we would be angry with her for doing it. We unanimously said it was her decision because she had been the one to take him on and we'd support her no matter what she did. She was lucky and got dad into a place very close to all of us so she could go over almost daily and the rest of us could go every couple days. You are doing/did an amazing job with your mom and you need to forgive yourself for not being a Saint but a human.
Thank you for sharing your story. You are all wonderful women. The daughter got disrespectful towards her mother at times and I sincerely hope my son doesn’t ever film me on the toilet and in the bath in my old age and then put it on the internet.
I have to say I thought this film was brilliant, it made me laugh and cry in equal measures. The three of you were a wonderful team, I hope everything turns out the way you want it too.
As a person who takes care of the elderly for a living, I will say, it seems like their are underlining issues they have that we are unaware of, however, I did cringe at some of what I heard and it's not good that the granddaughter is doing the same. There's no need for the constant reminders that people are dead or that they are incontinent, they forget 5 mins later and your only hurting their feelings, upsetting them, that's the only thing accomplished. It is admirable how she visits and does so much for her, I don't see family visiting their loved ones much, it's sad! So I give her that, 100%!
SueAnn I totally agree
I think she's doing the best you can. It's awful having a parent suffer from this and saying the exact right thing every time is nearly impossible. Plus, sometimes they remember and sometimes they don't. You're not sure which one it is until the words fly out.
Well said SueAnn! I completely agree. No idea of how to treat people with this awful disease.
I'm a carer and family member and I didnt like the way she talked about her Mum or how her teeth weren't in. We NEVER have their teeth in when residents are asleep. When family members know nothing and try to speak rudely it's so hard to have them around when they do come around then we take care of them the other 90% of the time and well.
yes i feel the same some comments was rude asf that is her mother she cant help it she constantly complained about going to see her once a month i cringed at the end when she went to hit her caling her useless all she did was sit there while she did everything like the mother did nothing for her in he life time then complain why come see someone who doesnt know me like wtf that is your mother😢made me happy an sad the whole video
"Do you love my visits?"
"God, I live for them!"
As do all of us mums 🙏
@Reginald Colt You're correct, no one cares. Wtf why even comment this here?
I love the smiles of these 3. They all have the same spirit and sense of humour. I totally understand the daughters frustration with the mum at times. It’s a difficult illness to deal with and the odd bad day is reflection of her care for her mum.. she’s only human and I respect and admire her commitment to her mum’s happiness ❤️
This brings back so many difficult memories of my mother & her struggle with dementia following several strokes. And also of my grandma, who had Alzheimer's. Having one's mind fail has got to be the worst thing a person can experience. It's horrible for all involved. I thank these women for sharing their story.
Oh my I just reached the filming about your breast cancer. I hope you are healing and the outcome looks promising. You are truly such a loving and respectful daughter. Loved your documentary. You are too hard on yourself. You took wonderful care of your mom and showed her alot of love during those years
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This documentary touched my heart in ways that it is hard to explain. I lost my precious grandfather to Alzheimer's and let me tell you...the last day I saw him, he still remembered who I was despite not remembering his own children or wife. I will have that memory and the joy it brought me for the rest of my life. Bless you for documenting your mothers journey with this devastatingly cruel disease. Her sense of humor was infectious and darling to watch. 💜
I love how they laugh together. My dad died with Alzheimer’s November 2016. He was sweet but he was worried and scared a lot.
I don't understand why so many bad comments about the daughter . I think she was very good to her mom
She was terrible to her mum, totally disrespectful, should be ashamed of herself.
I wonder why she didnt have her at a home in London?!
Renee Prosser I think we need to remember the stresses the daughter was personally dealing with. She was battling breast cancer after all.
@@karensmith7927 don't judge to be judged, judge first yourself if you'r perfect.
Etele von de Kleen well said
It was sad and lovely at the same time, it's a hard journey for anyone to go trough.
Very touching. I was bawling when you and your mum were crying together. What a wonderful documentary!
Every time i see people dumping their parents in ''care centers'', it hurts.
When my grandmother first started losing her memory my mother really struggled to come to terms with it. I'm not sure if she was initially in denial about the situation, but she too would often shout at my grandmother or correct her over certain things she said. She then went through a phase of treating my grandmother like a child which, naturally, resulted in her becoming frustrated and arguing with my mother! Its a very difficult sittuation for anybody concerned to come to terms with, but above all I think the most important thing is to keep the patient as calm and content as possible. I always try and talk to her the way I always have, never as though she were stupid or a child, and I never correct her: If she's happy thinking its 1948 why correct her? If she asks were my Grandad is I just tell her he's had to work late etc. As hard as it may seem, your own emotions really do need to be put to one side and the feelings of the patient have to be top concern.
Wow! That was tough. First of all I thank you for being so brave and show us how it’s actually like and most of all the good times. Many people will criticise you, but I think you’re a lovely woman. I’m a hca and I know exactly how it is to look after patients with Alzheimer’s. While they criticise you, they won’t even realise that you have yourself to look after, and it actually touches my heart to see that you’re making memories of your mother and daughter at the same time, someday your daughter will show that to her own family and it’ll keep going on like that and your mum will not be forgotten. Well done once again and I hope to God almighty that you e fully recovered. Please let me know how your precious mother is doing. 👍🏾🤗😘
Such an awesome documentary. Loved the spirits of all three beautiful ladies. May God bless you all
One of the best documentaries I have ever seen. ☺️
This is a lovely documentary. You captured what moments you had left with your mom. So sweet that your daughter participated as well. Wish I had videoed my moms last years.
A very sad and thought provoking documentary, and at 64 thoughts turn to my own future,we never know what other people suffer unless we walk a mile in there shoes...and although these ladies are fiery there is a lot of love and laughter and im sure it is needed in this situation, thank you for uploading
Was such a lovely experience to watch this and share this with the world. As care assistant myself I find it overwhelming for patients who suffer this disease but there is still some of their own character there even if a lot of them is missing. Was sobbing when she was having a bad day and was so upset and crying, lovely family ❤️
I can't tell you how much I appreciate your film....done wonderfully. I love it. THANKS ❤️
Such a touching, honest and very moving film. Thank you for sharing such a private and personal time in your lives.
Thanks for uploading this fantastic documentary! It was both charming and bittersweet, and perfectly captured a very difficult time in this lovely families life. Not only was it an honest and funny look at someone living with Alzheimer's, but often a terribly sad one too. I thought it was incredibly brave of Sue, Holly and of course Edith, to allow people this rare glimpse into their lives and I'm quite shocked and confused by all the negative, judgemental and hurtful comments on here, it really seems like they must have watched a completely different documentary to the one that I did! I'm beginning to think that nuance isn't too common a trait amongst CZcams viewers, or maybe the self-deprecating dry wit and sarcasm that us Scots are known for somehow got lost in translation! In this type of situation, if you don't laugh, you'll inevitably cry, and I laughed and cried my way through the entire film! Very well done indeed!
She is so beautiful when she smile
"You're Holly my granddaughter and you're . . . My grandmother!!" HAHAHAHA!! This is fantastic!
Wouldn't it be wonderful if all patients had such a wonderful family.
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Thank you so much for sharing such real footage!!! This is an awful disease that's slowly taking my favorite Aunty. Much love to your family!!
Amazing beautiful documentary of what life is really like. All three are doing there best and doing it well.
Thanks. 🐨😀🐨😀
I went through this with my mom and she passed away last August. I think the daughter and granddaughter did a great job with her mom. I don't understand the negative comments. My mother got very angry and mean with me at times for no reason, and other times she would be very nice. You never knew what to expect. She would insist it was 12 p.m. lunch time and light out, and when you would show her it was dark out and 12 midnight, she would get furious and insist it wasn't. Later she called me Mom every now and then. You learn to just agree with everything they say even if they are wrong. But like the daughter said, the hardest part is not being able to talk to them and tell them what hardship you are going through as I was always able to confide in my mom and I missed that part more than anything. I still do. People don't understand the myriad of obstacles caretakers face every hour. Phone calls all hours of the night. My mom calling 911 constantly because of hallucinations, etc. She would be furious because she couldn't remember how to use the microwave, coffee maker, t.v., and insist they are all broken and I should go buy more, then get furious when I would show her how they worked. People should try to be more understanding of the daughter and understand that there is a whole lot more going on in the background when it comes to taking care of her mom. Not to mention taking care of their finances. I had to sell my mother's huge house and everything in it. Etc., Etc. Her daughter did a fabulous job.
Yes, exactly MiamiMom63. Poor Sue just flat out missed her mum in the process of that Long Goodbye.
A brave and courageous insight - thank you so much for sharing. Your love shines through the frustration, the travelling, the intense focus ensuring Ethel's happiness and wellbeing. Sue and Holly - you are both legends and Ethel is the bright shining star. I am so grateful to see this documentary warts and all, because the moments of brightness that came through far outweighed the witnessing of a sad plight. Chick power!!!
Beautifully honest and insightful. Not all mother/ daughter relationships are idyllic and i could relate to much of the dynamics with Sue and Ethel. Any negativity in the comments in my opinion comes from people unable to relate to this families relationships, walk a day in someones shoes before judging.
I have so I totally understand, she was dealing with issues, but they laughed ~ no respect at Times~ Just say it’s ok Mom and if she thinks she’s 18 , let Her!!!!❤
Great job! Such a sweet and honest look at a families journey.
I was sobbing by the end of this. What a beautiful and important documentary, full of love. I love the honest portrayal of taking care of a parent and the emotional toll this can take on someone. Thank you for sharing the highs and the lows.
A beautifully funny and sad film .well done !!
I'm not sure the people saying bad comments understand how difficult caring for a person with Alzheimer's actually is. And having a grandmother with Dementia myself I totally understand, how truly upsetting it is being unrecognisable to a family member. You know what I think is disgusting, you lot saying the Daughter is mean, this is there family relationship how they talk to each other, and how they have a laugh. I think there relationship and attitude towards the Alzheimer's is their way of coping with it, and honestly I think it's great. Understand people that every family is different, and each and every one would deal with this heartbreaking disease in there own way.
Grace Louise Williams There was a photo of her when young. She looked very attractive in it.
Right, Grace. People soon cracked up with us on the airplane when we weren't seated together and we were going back and forth with the double finger wiggle and sticking out our tongues, five rows apart. We had a gas making faces at each other. Pretty soon our fellow passengers caught on. Before long we were "passing notes in class" via the flight attendants writing each other jokes.
I loved every moment of this film! I laughed, I cried, and I even held my hands together under my chin sobbing and laughing and crying! Thank you so much!
What a beautiful and truly honest documentary. Love, laughter and tears. That is reality.
That was a beautiful piece , my father died having Alzheimer’s so I have experienced much of what I saw in your film. God bless you all for your kindness , love , and humor on your lives path. The laughter touched my heart and I smiled and laughed so during your travels. Prayers of good health to all you love!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
what a beautiful film sad but funny. it was wonderful to see a daughter trying so hard to love her mum. wonderful laughs and real joy and for her l hope she lives forever .l know this is my future l hate getting old its heart breaking as my back doesn't work my hand are failing my mind is foggy and and and the list goes on sadly. l truely hope l pass away before l'm totally barny
I could not agree more. My mother is going through it. I refuse.
Loved this!
Winnie Wallace... This is both heartworming and sad to watch..But it shows us what a strong and courageous family they are. Much respect to all of them, and the difficulties that they faced while making this film.
I made this same journey with my own mother. She has been gone two years now. I miss her dreadfully. I just want to say that anyone who is caring for a loved one deserves our understanding and support. And also, that caring for a loved one suffering from dementia is an act of great love. It is hard and so heartbreaking but so worth the effort.
The poor old girl being talked to like that, never would I ever tell my mother to shut up.
Lu-Lu-LuvU Neither would I and my mum had dementia. I was disgusted with the daughter
My grandma has Alzheimer's, I visited her at the rest home when she was there for a short stay to give my grandfather a break since he is her carer. She asked me when Missy was going to visit, I am Missy. It's horrible when your grandma doesn't recognize you, but she always is smiling so I can take some comfort in that she is happy.
Same with my mother. She will look at me her daughter and say who are you? I see her every week. The most important thing is that you know who she is and love her even as she does not remember you. But there are moments when she has a bit of clarity and remembers a bit. Old memories. She does not know who her grandchildren and great grandchildren are. she thinks they are still babies. Sometimes not to make her confused, just go along with it. The best thing is that every day is a new day and you can start anew.
Beautifully Honest. Well done.
Such a beautiful family full of love for each other. I so enjoyed this documentary about your mum.
Memories. I relived all of them. My mum passed at 93. If I had known then, what I know now, I would have done things differently Im sure. The last 3 years were volatile, aggression was a daily thing, the violence frightening at times. Thank you for your video and some of the realism we dont or cant often talk about when you are the sole carer. The guilt stays, always feeling, I should have done better.
Such a wonderful documentary, So much love and joy between granddaughter, mum, and Granny,. So blessed,
Gosh ur Scottish sense of humor is beautiful..ur a great daughter as sometimes it's safer they are in a home as they can wander the streets and get hurt. What a beautiful day. Thanks for sharing and ur mum is such fun and certainly smart. 🤗🌸💮💚keep smiling.
Beautiful movie, awesome grandma and wonderful family. Made me tear up! Thumbs up.
Your Mother is a lovely person. Your film brought back so many memories of my loving father until that awful disease stole him away from me bit by bit. At least we had lots of time to laugh and fun together. I'm blessed to know that at the end of his life he still knew me and his transition was peaceful.
Thank you sharing your life with us!!
My dad died of this wicked illness and seeing this is harrowing my mum is 84 and iam disabled iam left struggling to do a million things now she is getting older i have 2 older sisters who do not even visit her yet I imagine if any thing happens to her they will crawl out of the woodwork iam times in total despair i have no support no family andviam so lonelyvi can not describe it
It reminded me so much of me and my mum, I cried and laughed so much all the way through. Thank you for sharing x
That was lovely. Thank you
Your mother was a beautiful woman ❤️❤️❤️ she had such a bright look on life despite dealing with a horrendous disease. I love your laughs with your mom and daughter ❤️❤️ she had an incredible relationship with her granddaughter, so sweet . Bless you going through something so hard and not being able to share that with her ... I pray you’re doing ok. 🙏❤️. I love remembering her looking so happy to see you when you walked in “ Hello Darling”❤️❤️❤️
This documentary totally inspired me. Thanks!
From the get go, I was weepy watching it. Not just sad, but you all made my heart smile. One of the best docs I’ve seen, for reals. And I too, have EOAD. I’m 59 now. Thanks for showing my soul there is hope. ❤️
to contine....................i want to say thank you for the video and its honesty. Your mother is very charming and I think that all 3 or you do remarkably well in handling a challenging situation. Its great that you and your daughter have worked
It’s Beautiful to watch the three of them. She was so happy.❤
Thank you so much for sharing and making this video! This was so beautiful and also raw it’s shows all true emotions that both of you guys go thru. Thank you so much🙏🏻
I enjoyed this mini docu, i felt the sad moments and laughed with them in the funny ones!!
Love the pic they were able to get due to a kind bus driver stopping in the middle of the road and offering to take one of them all together.
Wonderful documentary, and very familiar for people who take care of one or both parents who can't look after themselves anymore (or partially). Lots of respect to the daughter and granddaughter! Nice to see not all Alzheimer's is 100% bad, negative or sad.
Absolutely loved it, what a beautiful doco. Good times and bad. Reality.
You guys are just the lucky People a live , thank you for shearing your story
Your documentary made me sob. My mum has the early signs of Alzheimer's Disease although she hasn't been officially diagnosed. I was a mental health nurse for 32 years so I know she has it. I'm an only child and my mum lives with me. She refuses to go to her doctor to be checked for the disease and I don't wish to force her in case it makes her worse. I can relate fully to you. I have the same arguments with my mother and then feel totally miserable and guilty but as you said it's so hard not to say things to her. You just want your mother to behave like she used to. You are mourning for the mother you have lost. Ive always done my best for her. We travelled the world together and are very close as my father died when I was a baby. The most difficult thing is telling other people that she has Alzheimers. It feels like I am betraying her. It becomes very embarrassing when she looses the thread talking to people and can't hold a proper conversation. I too have been diagnosed with a serious illness. I told my mum but I think she's already forgotten about it. It's a very lonely life sometimes.
I appreciate the film you've made so much. At least I know Im not abnormal and I know other people are struggling the same as I am. I don't know if your mum is still alive but I hope she is and would like you to give her my love. Lots of love to you also. You are a wonderful daughter and are doing an amazing job. You shouldn't feel guilty at all. You can see your mum adores you. Love Jennyxxx
Its bittersweet..brought tears to my eyes..good filming!
I laughed. I cried. I got angry. This has been the best one I have watched 💞
What an absolutely beautiful documentary 👏❤️❤️