TIM Vol.7: Baby Mom gets Upset with Baby Dad's Girlfriend for Wanting to do Her Daughter's Hair
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Why didnât the dad handle it with the mother directly?
Exactly, he should have made that call.
Too many entanglements
@@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537 I get that point. At the same time, he had the child with her and I believe he should try to lead so he current gf donât have to be in the middle to take the heat if he knows his BM can be unreasonable. Women can be just a territorial as men and if he already made a decision concerning their daughterâs hair, he should be able to take the heat.
Because that would've been too easy
Because he knew that woman don't allow anyone in her daughter's hair. It was not planned or they would have said something before. My mom did not allow anyone in me or my sisters hair. I was/am very tender headed, very thick, long hair as a child. It was no quick wash and ponytail
This kind of makes me understand why people don't date people with children.
Ok!!!
As long as you don't cut, color or perm my child's hair I'd be fine
She better not DARE do any of the 3
I agree. Don't do anything permanent and I'll be fine with it.
The girlfriend didnât need to have a back and forth. Donât fight other peopleâs battles. Whereâs the father?
The father should've been the one communicating with his child's mom... not the girlfriend.
I had a incident similar to this. My ex has 2 daughters that came over every weekend. We usually chilled at home but one weekend we decided to take the kids to do a bunch of fun stuff (the fair, movies, trampoline place etc.) I did my hair and my 2 daughters. My ex cut his and my son's hair. I had him ask his kids moms if I could do the girls hair, all of our daughters wanted the same hairstyle. One mom said it was cool and wanted to know what style and products I used, once I told her she was fine. The other mother said no, flat out. My ex told her I was a hairstylist, sent her pics of the other 3 girls hair and told her what products I used, she still said no. We didn't force the issue. His daughter however was upset. She wanted to be apart of the "twin" look all the girls had. We still went out and she was so unhappy, she couldn't really enjoy herself, it was bothering her to feel left out. Ultimately, she called her mom to come get her when we were out to lunch because she felt like she wasn't "pretty like the rest of y'all"( our other daughters). Shit broke my heart hearing that and seeing her cry. Her dad was so upset at her mom and when she picked her up, he let her know. The mom felt stupid. We were all pretty disappointed because no one wanted to see her leave or make her feel left out.
That's fucked up. Her mother should've felt like shit.
That was a set up ...Why ask my permission to then say you already have permission from the dad? The gf was clearly thirsty for attention đ If the dad wasn't bothered enough to contact the mum, it's obvious that the gf was the one with the issue with the daughters hair.
The dad is messy! This conversation should've been between the two PARENTS. That way the girlfriend wouldn't have been in the mix. Personally, I wouldn't touch her daughter's hair..all the drama ain't worth it.
If the dad was going to take the braids out anyway he should have just did it and the girlfriend should have stayed out of it. She unnecessarily inserted herself into the situation.
This story had me deadđđđđ I'm still stuck on "two braids already fail out" đđđđđđ
The2 she already took down
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Thatâs a conversation to be had between the mom and dad not the girlfriend and the mom. Why text and not a phone call? Something is not right.
Itâs just a textâŠ. At least she contacted her instead of just doing the girl hair. Thatâs more disrespectfulâŠ. Than a text
@@2Kewl4Ya101 Why ask to then say you'd do it anyway? Unless you just wanted to start trouble. The proper thing was to inform the mother of the photo shoot. The dad can't think every woman he lays with gets to dictate what the child's mother should and shouldn't accept.
@@Alexxluv where did I say the father did thatâŠ. I know that. I said a text is better than not telling her and I didnât catch the part in the convo where she said she was going to do it, she said she was given permissionâŠ. You can be given permission to do something and still not do itâŠ.
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My mom doesnât let anyone touch my head or do my hAir. AND IM 26!!! But she also wouldnât send me to my dads house with my hair not done!! EVER! In 26 years
My mom had me and my siblings dressed and hair done at all times. Even around the house. Sheâs the same way with my 2 year old niece.
I have a daughter and the girlfriend should have never contacted her the father should have. Also the girlfriend was aggravating the situation with the âfamily picturesââŠ. âWeâ and just her txting without prior communication I feel she was being passive aggressive and trying to exude superiority.
Do you allow others to do your daughter's hair? I am super picky with who touches my daughter hair and honestly that's only 2 other people
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Yeah I think it was the fam pics that sealed it.
But if they're taking "family pictures" they've been together for a while; so why would that be a problem? If he moved on she should be moving on too....is it because she's bitter that he has and she hasn't? (Serious questions) cause I don't have children.
Th BM was wrong. The new girlfriend was asking permission to be respectful. I understand the BM not wanting someone to touch her daughters hair . But her attitude was stank from the beginning of the conversation. Which tells me the issue is not really about the hair
Right! and i was wondering,. what's the real issue here? like is it that she just doesnt like her or doesnt like that her BD moved on
She isn't wrong about the hair. Now about her responses outside of NO yeah she definitely could've handled that differently. You have to remember most mothers don't want anyone doing their daughter's hair regardless of who they are.
@@naturallynailah6983 the dad gets no say?
The baby mom wasn't wrong and we don't know how text can come off I've had a few misunderstanding about text and only one person could touch our hair because they didn't know we would break out and needed special stuff so yeah don't touch her hair because the mom can sue and I will if it was my child
@@jeaninehicks2907 No he doesn't. When it comes to my daughter, her father understands this.
They both doing too much. She should've just left it up to the dad to handle. She overstepping and causing more friction. I wouldn't have reached out to the momma, they already knew what she was going to say.
I thought she was being respectful by approaching her but you have a point. The parents couldve talked and the probably already knew what she was going to say
I agree!
I feel as though if he knew they were taking family pictures before he got his daughter he should have told her mother so her mother could do her hair. Also the girlfriend overstepped just a bit because at the point where the mother said no she should had allowed her man the little girl's father to deal with the mother and have a conversation with her because clearly there was some miscommunication
Exactly
Since she is his daughter he should be asking the mother or take the child to the salon. That wasn't her placed.
I have a daughter, and I've never liked for anyone else to do her hair. However, when she went with family I sent her with everything that was needed to do her hair. If it were me, I would've went to do it, or they could bring her to me then come back for her. If, I'm unavailable then sure do her hair with these products (send a list).
This wasn't that serious and it wasn't about the hair. The BM is mad about other shit. Furthermore, I would've already had her number because if my daughter is with y'all and I can't reach her father...Sis, I'm calling your phone.
I think the Dad should have been doing the communicating with the Mom about the daughters hair not the girlfriend. Seems like the Mom had a attitude in the first place.
I donât want anyone in my daughterâs hair so I feel the mother, but I agree with you with the emojis the mother is coming off immature đ€·đœââïž
Once she said that baby hair was sensitive she should left it alone the mom must either know how to take care of her hair or have one stylist that does her hair the dad shouldâve planned ahead he bet not touch her hair either
Absolutely NOT. I do NOT allow anyone to touch my daughter's hair. Only I do her hair. I would have gone over there and did her hair myself, IF I had to be in that situation. But since I believe in having sole custody of my children, I would never have to deal with that bs. The "girlfriend" would never lay eyes on my child again.
I'm sorry but I'm with the bm on this. There was no prior communication as to what taking photographs etc, she probably thought it was going to be a low key time with her. I am going to assume that if the father had communicate about their weekend maybe she would have gotten the child ready. The gf aggravated the situation, the father should of had that conversation prior to the child coming. So honestly, this is all on him and the gf is just that a gf so until she's legal a part of this man's life she needs to reel it all the way back. Honestly of things did not end on understanding I can understand why the bm would feel like they both trying to test her. He should have been considerate and that's not too much to ask. I would like an update on this.
đŻ my spider senses tell me that dad didnât have the conversation with the mom prior to because she probably would have had something to say about them taking âfamilyâ pictures with her daughter and that wouldâve been an issue. I think these folks knew what they were doing playing with this lady like this and using her daughter in the middle of it. I think Thereâs a bigger game at play here
@@pinkbutterfly222 YES!!! IT'S THE "FAMILY" THING FOR ME!!! SIS IS NOT "MARRIED" TO THE CHILD'S FATHER! THE CHILD IS "HIS" FAMILY...NOT A "GIRLFRIEND'S" FAMILY! She Is The INTERLOPER In This Mess! The DAD Is WRONG!! He Should Have Informed The MOM Prior To The PHOTO SHOOT. GIRLFRIEND IS OVERSTEPPING HER BOUNDARIES!đ
Honestly as long as my kid hair isnât damaged I really donât care đ Iâll give you run down but at the same time I understand where sheâs coming from. ButâŠ.. I also wouldnât have my daughter looking like a mess if her braids are falling out đ€·đŸââïž
I understand both sides completely
@@2Kewl4Ya101 I Do Also. Especially If I Don't Know How Rough She Would Be. The Father Should Have Informed The Daughter's Mother Prior To Taking Her. I Think The Mother Was TRIGGERED When The GIRLFRIEND Said "FAMILY PHOTO" & She Is NOT His Wife. I AGREE WITH JAMIE ABOUT RESCHEDULING THE PHOTO SHOOT. The MOM Might Have Some UNRESOLVED ISSUES With The DAD.
@@mrs.frazier1951 I agree
This is a very sensitive matter and he knows what was going to go down. He just wanted some conflict
I am the same way. NO ONE is allowed to do my daughter hair. NO ONE including my family is allowed to touch my daughter hair.
I do like that the girlfriend asked, her asking let me know the girlfriend is aware of how mothers feel about others doing their daughters hair.
I donât see the issue other than bitterness. Although I knew that my daughters father was picking her up every other weekend I was always prepared and her hair was done. I just donât get the motherâs reaction if the father doesnât mind and child is okay with it then I see no issue. Uhh đ
I agree. I donât see a problem with the GF reaching out. The bitterness from either side was unnecessary. If BM gave me tension then I would let father take care of BM and still make sure the girl looks presentable. As a BM I wouldnât have a problem with GF reaching out (if respectful) or changing hair (if reasonable)
JAMI!!!! HAH A "I ain't gotta send no money" LOL!!!!!
Jami you should copyright or trademark your "This Is Messy" phrase and segment. I think this could eventually pop off for you. Also you don't want anyone stealing your idea and profiting from it. Just my 2 cents. Now let me go enjoy the videođđ
They should had just paid for the hair to done
I wouldn't like anyone doing child's hair.
A step mom is something else, but a girl friend is something else.
There are co parenting issues and the BD did a disservice to his new GF by not handling this. He knows what his BM is like and how she would react to this situation. He shouldnât have even given the number to her especially since he already gave permission to do the childâs hair. Based on the first text the BM doesnât even seem to know this woman so yeah Iâm going to feel a way about you texting me inserting yourself into co-parenting business. I honestly wouldnât have engaged in the conversation and told her to have the BD reach out to me so the issue could be resolved.
Did they let the BM know ahead of time? Why not send a reminder the day before? Did she send her child with two braids coming out anyway? If dad said do it, why ask mom? Gf wanted to start something? Let mom come re-do her hair and leave.
11:00 she can't bounce over and take the child. That's a violation of a court order.
Sound like the dad didnât do his due diligence, the barest of bare minimum here. He shouldâve told the mom that he and the (assumed) stepmom were getting professional family pictures done from the get go. The childâs hair shouldâve been done accordingly, or the dad shouldâve been in contact when the childâs hair was falling apart. Now if the mom wasnât answering calls/texts from the dad, then (assumed) stepmom can jump in for permission to re-do or ask to be reimbursed for getting the childâs hair done.
No, I would not allow anyone in my child's hair. My sons babysitter cut my sons hair when he was about 1.5. I was livid. Never took my sons back
She shouldn't have said nothing if.she didn't already give plans for.pictures. Her reaching out was messy.
You have cracking up and rewinding when you spoke about you son. đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł "Do I have to pay for it?" đ
I can't choose a side on this one. đ€·đŸââïž Each of them have right And wrong in their story.
I was always careful with my child's hair . Protected her edges like they were gold , b/c I knew once they mess up , they are hell to get back to normal . Nope don't touch my baby's hair .
The girlfriend was in the wrong. She should have never contacted the mother. The girlfriend already had permission. The babies father should have had the conversation with the child's mother.
I think the GF messed up. I wouldn't have said anything. I would let the Dad handle it. If that means the GF took down the braids, washed and styled the child's hair so be it. There are plenty things else to get upset about. Its more than the hair but the BM should reach out to Dad.
BM would have took Frustration out on Girlfriend regardless of reaching out or not.
GF would have messed up if she didnât contact me. I would like to be aware of things like that beforehand from GF and Dad but say âOk thanks for reaching outâ as long as itâs reasonable or give some limitations/tips that my daughter and I already have for her hair. Communication (not necessarily permission) is important
"Go get it cut. Do I have to pay?"đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
As long as they donât cut it and it will last until her next appointment Iâm fine. Itâs other things to be worried about. Devin ass should of called me
The bm is not wrong, don't touch my baby hair...also the bd should have addressed this and never gave her number out.. HE is messy...and the girlfriend was being passive aggressive from the jump...., also if you don't have a daughter it's harder to understand not wanting someone to touch her hair....everyone doesn't have your childs best interests at heart.
She definitely donât like this girl!!đđ
The baby mother is innocent đ€Ł
I mean the gf was trying to be respectful because obviously the dad was going to do it regardless. I think they both just had a high and mighty attitude.
Father shouldâve called or texted the mother, not the girlfriend
As I person with a lioness who didn't allow people in my head till the point I dnt allow people in my hair to this day. I understand both sides. The thing is she was understanding n just asked that all needs when it comes to my hair was stated n my mother would make sure it looked nice n lasted for time I'm away from home. But I can c how this is touchy.
I don't like it when the daddy don't consult with the baby momma
He should had called or text the baby momma. This would had been avoided.
I agree, the momma was right.
When my child steps out of the door he is presentable- photo ready at all times, lol - now me, I may look like the help, but that's my business. Anyway, If my child needed to be spruced up for whatever reason, I'd allow it. If there was special care to be taken I would just make it known. I would have definitely allowed my daughters hair to be done.
She didnât want that baby in them family pictures
No indeed , men don't have any ideal what we go through to protect our children's hair .One false move & she could mess up the little girl edges . Nope , reschedule like you said & I will take care of my child's hair . Then , I will deal with the Dad .
Questions are: How old is the child? Did the dad speak to the mom? What kind of relationship does the parents have in co-parenting the daughter. Finally, the mother has a problem with the father's new woman!
My daughter had long thick hair . When she was 10 , I was going to just clip the edges . Her cousin the beautician was home , she said I will do it . I told her just a little , I know better , but I didn't think her own cousin would do wrong Girl when I returned& seen my daughter 's hair was barely to her shoulders . That bish cut 4 or more inches , I wanted to pass out , I didn't curse everyone out b/c grandmom was there .There was nothing I could do , but take the L . So , no don't let people touch your kids hair .đĄđ
A lot of these people are too invested in their bd & bm love life.. cause this is literally not a big deal at all
The girlfriend was wrong from the jump. This was a flex by the girlfriend.
This whole thing is giving that the baby mama is bitter. Who cares if it's coming out let her take it out it's not that big of a deal, some people is just so freaking petty over the smallest things.
Well said. If the child is not being abused, I see no problem with doing the child there. Some mother make things to deep when it shouldn't have to be.
The mom sent her child over looking a mess. If the braids were so old they were falling out that is very neglectful. This shows the mom doesn't care about how her child looks. This reminds me of the lady that cut off all her daughters hair on video because that father's GF braided it the baby girl was so traumatized. The mother is clearly bitter AF. Last minute pictures or not my daughter never left the house unkept.
I love the girlfriends response it was very respectful but no nonsense at the same time. I am sure she reached out not thinking she was going to get met with such attitude. If her daughter's scalp was so sensitive, she should not be using braiding hair laced in chemicals.
I think she was mad that she reached out instead of the daddy
7:45 come over and get locked up. đ
It's easier to ask for forgiveness thn to ask for permission.....Dad has said ok so...moving rght along.
It is disrespectful to touch another woman's child head. You are not supposed to let everyone do your hair. Growing up my momma always told me don't let everyone in your head not everyone have growing hands.
Jami it's all communication. I'm very particular about my daughter's hair, no one touches it but me. This whole thing is just wrong, this conversation should be the parents communicating and why did the mother know about the photo shoot ahead of time.
Both of them overstepped.
Understandable that the BM doesn't want anyone on their child's hair. But the immediate attitude gave off a negative energy and one of bitterness. She didn't even inquire about who this woman was and how long they were together. She was just mad about someone potentially touching her child's head. And then to get buck? What's the real issue here? The immediate need to get buck tells me a little more about the BM than this whole situation does about the GF.
The GF overstepped by contacting short notice about the event and not making it clear who she was and how long she's been in the daughter's life.
Bonus: The BD also fumbled the ball by not asking the BM or informing her that the daughter is getting her hair done.
I was very particular about my girls hair as well BUT when they went with their dad and his girlfriend, their hair was done for the weekend and only needed to be tied up at night!
How much damage can be caused from a wash & ponytail...Bitter BM
New Subscriber â€ïž. I enjoyed it Soror đ
I think the baby momma being petty. I also feel like the BM could have been raised by black parents who don't play that letting anybody in their child hair.
That's part
I really don't see the petty part.
The mom is so wrong, if the braids are falling out that means it needs to be done anyway so why she didn't do it before she took her over there smh
I do feel like the mom was a little childish with Emojis. But I feel as though she was not notified ahead I'm sure if she was her daughter's hair would have been combed
5:31 fathers have the right to get her hair done. So she brought his daughter over with her hair unkempt? Hmm.
đ¶what's her name? PETTY! PETTY! đ¶
The only reason bm is upset is because the gf said SHE was going to do it. If they had taken baby girl to a beauty shop and got her hair done, she most likely wouldn't have had an issue which means bm is just being petty.
I think the girlfriend is wrong. If the Mama wants her to look busted in the pic, let her? Why do you care againâŠas the Mama saidâŠ..Not Your Child
Loving this new segment on your channel Jami!! Also where are your glasses from? They are so dope! đđđ€
I believe the girlfriend over step
The BM probably knew about the pics and did that on purpose cause that was too much. The GF was at least trying to be nice by letting her know instead of just doing it. If that were me I would let her know what products to use or I wouldâve came over and did it myself. BM was being petty by saying Iâll take it out when she gets back knowing they taking pics. She mad he moved on.
This is a lot of assumptions. If Devon was going to take braids out anyone he could have just done that. This was unnecessary communication.
Why don't he take her to a hair Dresser.
Kinda sounds like the pictures were already planned and the hair was rushed and not properly handled prior to drop off. If it was such a big deal, then she should have asked when are they coming back home so she could stop by and touch up the little girlâs head. I think the gf was just trying to have an open dialog with the mom and it got out of hand.
The bm is right
I'm sorry but only one person is aloud to do my daughter's hair and it isn't me it's her nana cause she has a very sensitive head and other things and her nana knows exactly what to do to not damage it the first time I let's someone else do it was the last cause my baby hair was literally falling out with the braids cause the lady didn't properly condition and braided it toO tight I even told the lady don't braid too tight and idc if the braid comes down from the loose braiding I will get it redone doesn't matter if it was within a week.
Why wait until 1 to 2 days before. The hairstyle was fine all week, now it's not?
Sis seem like she wanna sabotage their family pictures, but she doesnât realize sheâs hurting her daughter cause if they took pictures with the daughterâs hair not done the lil girl would probably feel bad and if they took pics without her the mama would be mad
How old is the child to have extensions to begin with
Why didnât they been let her know tho so they culd plan properly if he need to give money so the mom cn get it dne or the dad cn tell her heâs getting her hair dne her responses after no was childish bt I get the mom
Idk cause if she wit the dad n her braids falling out I'd be fine wit the GF saying somethin so tips can be given on what not to do n what works for the child. I've seen girls wait linty hair cause the mom has a timeline for redoing it n the kid look crazy đ but for pics she just want the kid to look fresh. I'm not sending my son nowhere without a fresh lineup so there's that đ
This is a girlfriend! Sheâs not a fiancĂ©. Why are they taking family photos?!
Some BM be doing THEE most sometimes lmaoo. Like all that âMY daughter â was messy. Like girl chill
The BM to me sounds very immature.
Saying MY DAUGHTER, EMOJIS & I'm coming over there. Girl why was your daughter hair looking a mess anyway???
When my daughters were younger & had to go over there dad's house for the weekend there's hair was always done & on point. I thought the girlfriend was being respectful by texting her ahead of time. Even if the dad said it was ok she still took the initiative to contact her. The BM sounds bitter to me. I think it's was most likely because she told her they were getting family photo. I'm sure that why the dad didn't say anything to the BM in first place.
I just donât know on this one
đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł This is sooo funny to me because I felt the same wayyy
This is why I canât always the BM you want him to be active in the childâs life so why are you getting mad when he wants to do nice for the child whatâs the real reason be honest
See Iâm with the bm. 1- How long have they even been together? We need to know. âWeâ will have her for the weekend. âFamilyâ pictures. Her daughter is not that ladyâs family. Iâve dealt with a B-I-T overstepping her boundaries as the new chick my bd is humping on and using. She was never bold enough to do come at me like this tho. Refuses to communicate with or meet me. She played in my childâs head once and her man got cussed out and she never did it again. This shouldâve been a convo between the PARENTS. Miss girl is overstepping and trying to play a dangerous game. A game it is. Miss Alicia saying she has âpermissionâ means nothing because sheâs not a parent. To all of them- GOOD LUCKKKKKKKKK
Good point! Yea the parents could've communicated that, but I wonder if she was trying to bridge a gap between them or something by reaching out to her directly.
@@JamiThatsMe I like that she asked her but here's the issue the daughter's mother clearly doesn't have a relationship with the girlfriend. So the GF asking to do the child hair was BOLD. We have to remember most black mothers don't allow just anyone to touch their daughter's hair regardless of who the person is.
@@JamiThatsMe hey Ms. Jamiđ!!! That is also a point, giving the gf the benefit of the doubt. (Iâm not inclined to đč these new girls be getting froggy and jumping outta place) Thereâs so much at play in these types of situations. We really need a full backstory from all tree of em (birdman voice)
Alicia better than me Chile lol