The Secret to Unlocking a Child's Potential | Samantha Ettus | TEDxLangleyED
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- Samantha Ettus focuses on human potential. In this provocative talk, she argues that going beyond pink and blue is essential to helping all children get from where they are today to what they could become tomorrow. At a time when princess, pink and pretty are marketed more heavily than ever before, gender stereotypes have become even more prevalent. Ettus passionately makes the case that it is only by removing gender bias from the home, the classroom, the toy stores and the media, that all children will have the opportunity to reach their full potential.
Samantha Ettus is a work/life wellness and parenting expert. She has worked with thousands of celebrities, CEOs and professionals who aim to perform at the highest levels in their professional and personal lives.
Since earning her undergraduate and MBA degrees from Harvard, Sam has become a bestselling author of four books, a writer for Forbes, a sought after speaker and host of a nationally syndicated call-in radio show. Sam's fifth book, The Pie Life: A Woman’s Recipe for Success and Satisfaction, will be published in September, 2016.
Sam has a powerful social media following and is consistently called on by traditional media outlets for her parenting and career advice. She makes regular national television appearances on shows including Access Hollywood, The Today Show, The Security Brief, Home and Family and Fox and Friends, among others.
Sam splits her time between Los Angeles and New York with her husband and three children.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
I was a junior high and high school English teacher for almost 40 years, and I NEVER favored the boys; I was extremely fair, and mostly the girls would come to me between classes and after school because they were having personal problems. I always said the same things you’re recommending. I always told every kid that he or she could make mistakes and it was ok! I actually had a young man who was “challenging” in the classroom, come back to see me after school a few years later dressed in Navy attire and decked out beautifully! I said he looked wonderful and asked him why he was back here at school (especially in MY classroom !), and he told me he was there to thank me. I asked him why. He said he was going to commit suicide one day and had it perfectly planned out, but apparently while I was milking around the classroom (I always made it a point to check in on each student and ask how he/she was.), I said something positive to him, that I didn’t and don’t even recall, to him that made him change his mind about his plan. He decided to make something of himself and joined the Navy. If I had that influence in one young man, and saved a life, my entire teaching career was worth it. 😊
Impressing!! Such a good story!!!! The world needs lots of teacher like you!!! ❤❤❤🌹🌹🌹
That’s a great story. I wish I had teacher like you in school
I think children need to be taught that failure is real, and how to grieve, change directions, and bounce back from it. I think they ought to be taught that they are loved unconditionally despite their mistakes.
I also think we are unintentionally teaching our girls that in order to be a success, you must have both a successful career and care for your children full time. For most situations, this is not possible with babies due to time constraints. I think it's important to prepare our children for the rigors of raising their own children.
I salute your statements ,because you have addressed such a big issue.I am from India .In India there are tons of gender stereotypes.The only way to eradicate this belief is giving proper education, for which teachers are main.So I request my teacher community to start to think at least now, that why only few girls are trying to be prove that they are equally capable of getting success as men. but many girls are still considering themselves as they borne to serve male society. if they go apposite to this, they will get hell after death(it is complete non science) .I am a teacher I am proud of myself,I never biased girls and boys.I call them with their universal identity i e kids, children, students.dear all.Thank you Samantha Ettus.
But we are also a society that has women deities, woman defense minster and woman president. Thats not necessarily the case worldwide. I know this bias you are talking about. But we are slowly getting there, towards betterment. I assure you that India's situation is not very different from United States.
I adore this speech- thank you!
Excellent speach. I agree completely.
Some excellent points....I would only add that we shouldn’t limit them either way- my girls love princesses and legos: they have Thomas the train, Frozen and Moana. I show them the options and let them choose.
I love so much of this talk and your work. As a mom who worked part time, full time and more as I raised kids (now 18and 21), I wish I recognized more of this as we were growing up. However, as a teacher, I cannot help but feel defensive. I have taught preschool through high school, trained hundreds of teachers and administrators in classroom management and social-emotional skills. I know the hard work and dedication teachers put into their classroom communities and into knowing each child. Like all other industries, I know this doesn't apply to all. Just as your statements about teachers looking at and calling on boys 2/3 of the time is a generalization. Yes, there is data to back that up. But there is data to back up much of what happens in the classroom. As I listened, I couldn't help but feel defensive as a teacher - "no! that's not what I do! that's not what I have witnessed other teachers doing." I hope that your viewers recognize this doesn't apply across the board and that many, if not most, teachers work diligently to help kids see humans as humans and not to foster - subtly nor overtly - stereotypes. It's our awareness, collective and individual, that helps create the shift - not sweeping generalizations.
Lisa Dewey Wells You said a mouthful! See my comment, please. You do great and admirable work! Hats off to you! 🙏💕
my girl, 10, told me that she doesn't want to watch princess movies because they are weak, always they Waite for a prince to rescue them
Shemsia Hussen Awesome!!!!
Oh dear, what will the future look like.
Not to offend anyone, this is a serious problem in society. Lots of children grow up in dysfunctional families because both sides are selfish. Both genders don’t know their roles anymore. It’s just a me me society filled with corrupt agendas that benefit the elites money making scam and depopulation.
Well spoken!
I always tell my granddaughter to look at people as if she were blind and just look at their souls. I ask her, if I’m putting her to bed, to think of 3 things she’s grateful for. I doubt her parents do that! They are both too materialistic, and her dad, who is a great dad, but doesn’t believe in anything but himself, would never do that. She actually told me at 3 years old that her dad, whom she lives dearly, doesn’t think she does anything right. I grew up with that same type of father, but he was an alcoholic. I have NO idea why I have good self-esteem now, but it took many years to get that!
I hope to God that my daughter can counteract that attitude.
Fantastic lesson.
We should stand up for ourselves .
thoughtful indeed!
Very well worded
Love the phrase of "media diet" A very good concept to develop upon
This speaker: Boys need to be exposed to art!
Next speaker: Men have dominated the art world for far too long!
Audience: Yes.
True, there are stereotypes. However, I do not agree that boys are encouraged to speak more than girls. I believe it depends on the teacher, parents, etc.. The education seems to want conformity & students who are well behaved, not to be curious & ask questions. Change begins with each one of us..
If there was "gender stereotyping in schools" and "bias in the classroom" that prefers boys and gives disadvantages to girls, then why are girls outperforming boys in PISA studies across the globe? No matter how (un)egalitarian a society, girls do better academically. How does this substantiate the theory of gender discrimination? Please explain.
school is designed for girls. boys do not learn on their asses. to teach both genders the same is our biggest failure.
Look at your children See their faces in golden rays Don't kid yourself they belong to you They're the start of a coming race
I have boy and girl and they both like a song I provide them "hall of fame "
Samantha? You make me believe that you are as sweet as a caramel!.
@8:14 i think it wasn't the case for the whole world. In my country, it is totaly working inversely.
Me realizing that my childhood was completely un-stereotyping :P (me playing with Lego and video games when I'm 4 years old
Jordan Peterson!
Exactly. I was hearing frustrated Kermit noises throughout this talk.
Today's media diet .... influencing stereotypes from early development & results are products of environment.
Thank you.
I disagree that you should teach your child that they can be anything. The perceived expectation is too much and it teaches them an unrealistic expectation. Never focus on the endgame just focus on the tools they will need to build their life and confidence with which are Empathy, Care, Love, Education & Respect.
This is a watered down version of jordon peterson talks about children. It's close but misses the point.
You are right we should unlock our children's potential, but I don't agree with people that don't understand that there are biological and psychological differences between men and women, each have their own advantages and disadvantages over each other and we should not try to raise them the same way, they should learn that even though there are differences between men and women there is nothing wrong with it, we should not fight nature we should embrace it!
I think your comment is utterly interesting! After having watched this video, I did think about whether there is an inevitable difference between the 2 genders. However, as a high school student, I haven't quite grasped what you meant by "biological and psychological differences". Am I right to suppose what you meant was girls have the tendency to be more compassionate and forgiving, and vice versa?
i agree!!
Absolutely right
Cesar you might have a point that we shouldn't try to raise boys and girls in the same way but in order to accept that we shouldn't fight nature we would have to pretend that the gender roles society has defined are perfect. That of course is false and I believe the presenter is trying to make the point that children would benefit from not being we pigeon holed into stereotypes.
What a bait and switch.
Saying 'you can be anything ' to your kids is just wrong and not true. It might be right if you were born in a developed country and you had a supporting family. For the rest of us It's less than 1% chance of becoming what we want in our life. There is so many factors to this. This talk is so oversimplified. I would rather say to my kids 'you can be happy in life no matter what'.
I think she shouldn’t says it stereotyping instead says that it is fake and made up by merchants for selling point.
Okay. Hard to take an advise from a woman who wears skirt, make up, long hair, burgundy (I guess) color blouse, high hills..you get the point. She herself is selling her point of view but she’s so stereotyping herself with fashion and accessories typically wear by women. So unlocking the children’s potential is by being gender neutral?
Meghan Markle is pretty busy but okay
What if her two girls grow up, and their biggest goal and dream for their lives is to be a stay-at-home wife and Mom? I’m sure this lady wouldn’t be okay with that.
And that’s very sad.
How old is your data? Girls and women have been outperforming boys and men academically for years and the disparity is only growing. Let’s agree that there are many issues for girls in self-image and role-modeling but let’s not presume that these things don’t exist or don’t, in other ways, disparage boys.
wtf is this?
VZNYC an educational video that apparently your small brain can’t put together.
This is also show strong stereotypes
based feminism
I dont agree with you :(
This is very female biased.
Definitely one of the worst ted talks ever
Fail!!!
The presentation was so promising at the start :/ Why is the presenter wearing a skirt, blouse, wedding band, long hair and make-up? I think she read a book that was written 100 years ago and decided to do a 15 minute TED talk in 2016. You're a little late my dear.
Weak presentation. There is no choice being given to the children to discover what they like... only being handed what "you" want them to try.... instead of going to the store and asking open ended questions and ask direct questions to which you want answer too... The very thing she doesn't want which is stereo typing... subconsciously she is doing it to her own children. Making them only see constantly questioning things... instead make them great observers and acknowledging and accepting that there will always be a change in perspective, and understanding.... the list can continue. However I also have to say that it would be of great value t further understand her context and decisions she took to make these choices. It's easy to sit and type here without understanding her perspective and the experiences life has given her. From the 11 min here I disagree with almost 90% or have additional questions to want to understand the reasoning process she took.