Closure is a trap to promote "Toxic" behaviour
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- čas přidán 8. 08. 2024
- Yayyyyyy, the vlog of the week is back and on time, today let's talk about those people who ask to remain friends after they have ripped your heart out, all in the name of "Closure". I personally do not believe in Closure, I think people use this phrase to further explain to you why they hurt you hoping to relieve themselves of the guilt of their bad behaviour and then sprinkle it with a friendship offer, likeeeeeeee, I broke your heart but heyyyyy, we can still be good friends, sounds crazy right? Watch, like, subscribe and pls comment too. Let's have your thoughts, do you find closure helpful? Do you think it is healthy? Share this video with all your loved ones
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Everything Toke said is is what has happened to me just 2weeks ago after 7years of dating. Anyway I've been bold enough to delete and block his number. I hope I'm strong enough to face this new phase of my life
May God give you the strength you need in this phase of your life 🙏🏾
God would be by your side, because it's so unexplainable how 7years just goes down the drain
God help you Sis
It won't be easy dear, I went through it with a child s the only good thing to come out of it. Just hold on to your God, you will heal.
Sis a man knows within a few months of meeting you what he wants from you. Don’t date anyone for up to a year without a ring. Anything else is a lie
Sometimes you look back on the men you cried on and just laugh 😂😂😂.
Pelumi Labiyi love is really blind ooo. 🤣🤣
Am telling you
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I tell you sis, I only cried on three of them! I am 😂😂😂😀😁😀😀😂😂😂😂 at myself right now
Exactly, I look at some of my ex’s now and ask myself what the hell was I thinking?
SO MUCH FACTS on one table! This is so true!🤦🏾♀️
Diotuuuuu, hiii🧡✌️
Temitayo Fraser heyy Temi🥰🥰
I really needed this video. I still cried like a baby today when I remembered how I was treated. But after seeing this video, we move!!!!!!
Hit me up babe
Cry if you need to, you will be fine eventually. We move always!
Sorry sis
Go girl!!!! You are stronger than you think.
We meeuuve!! 🔥
1. Closure won’t change the current circumstances
2. usually many people aren’t honest when giving closure so it will rarely ever help
3. Closure hurts you the more because it takes you back to past ‘lovely’ facts while living current ‘Painful’ reality - in shorts it’s a completely unnecessary exercise closure then what?
4. God has the ultimate and final say - what man has to say is empty talk
By the time I am breaking things off with an EX I have done my closure. I just block, delete them and move on. I don't need to be friends with any ex, if things were that good and he was really a "Friend" he won't be an EX
Me too 💯 like you will never hear from me and I’ll never entertain you in future
Correct
My exact sentiments.
Exactly
What if you broke up for reasons beyond your control. For instance, your genotype won't permit you to be together
I don't care what people say about you Toke I would like to meet you one day... Your videos are very enlightening and I wish you can organise talk shows in universities where you meet young girls and tell them these things they cant discuss with their mothers. I'm a good christian but i feel these things arent said like this in churches. I have so much to say but i'd just stop here. Weldone Toke!
This just brings back so many memories... Closure made me buy ticket from Los Angeles to Ireland!😆😆😆
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I swearrrr the guy that ended things with me called after 7 months to apologize, we met up and he found out I didn’t do what he claimed I did. I told him we can’t even be friends, the guy kept looking at me😂😂😂🤣🤣 oga was thinking I’ll seek closure with him 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 wo a baby girl has moved on.
What me hit me more was the quote "Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could have been better". I really needed to hear this and I am confident that laslas I will be alright and I am making the right decisions in my life
My friends have always thought that I was crazy for saying I can never be friends with my ex. We move mahn!
This just proved I'm not mad after all.
I always say this to my friends. I used to believe in closure but the day it dawned on me eh, I'v been preaching the gospel since and looking like a mad person but thank God I'm not alone, although I thought of it differently.
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Don't waist your time dear some people actually need to figure it out on their own I'm just glad I learnt it early
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Mai CIA it's not I'm even trying to be n their own situation o, it's just classic me doing my thing and handling my shit and my friends are "you have mind oo" or "just listen to what they have to say" or "don't you think it's immature to act like a person doesn't exist just because you fell out?"
I'm simply replying with "I can't entertain what hurt me"
Sorry, now I get it....well some people will always see it as you been heartless but welcome to the club
The way girls break up with you is so apt. We don't want to waste anybody's time please.
Recently a friend was gisting mua about her breakup with her ex.....she had done introduction already but the guy went to the US meant another lady and you know the end of the story na...
Part 2..my babe also traveled to the US and somehow they meant....guess what this yeye guy was asking of my friend...he was like ,babe am sorry please can you be my girl...my friend was so upset!
I don't get it oooo, you broke up with a female by marrying another female now you are asking if she can be your sidechick???😔
Some guys are selfish sha.
My conclusion JUST KNOW YOUR WORTH AND KNOW WHEN ITS TIME TO QUIT.
I can totally relate. Honestly I don't think I can even be friends with an ex. It won't happen.. It is so unnecessary.
This is so true...closure is some crazy way of keeping you in the loop
That’s why we buy your micro bag to put our PATIENCE!!! 😂😂😂
Closure is a mind game people play. I agree with her, it is bad don’t seek for it.
So on point! Toke! Me! I block you and block your generation. Then cry for few days and move on. I even block friends in common join
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That's how we roll🤣🤣🤣 my block button is always activated ain't got time for nonsense
Ojo Olubunmi this is me😂
This is me
I'm just about 6mins in but Toke you nailed it. You've said it all.
But Toke, when I first saw the title I thought you were referring to weave closure 😂😂😂😂, that was literally the first thing that came to mind and I was like what is this that toke wants to talk about 😂😂😂😂😂.
But yeah girl... You're 💯 correct.
As a guy I was doing this without even knowing genuinely. Imma leave her alone and move on. Thank you so much Toke
Toke has shattered my table bayiiii.. im screaminggggg
Seeking closure it is a sign of lack of self love and self esteem
Toke you look like a Barbie Doll you look so amazing you’re such a summer type child !!!
The wisdom you're spitting out sha... tables are breaking. See me here remembering how one of my past toxic relationships entered into part two tori closure and the need to keep them as friends. Dude legit wrote a book about us and broke up with me in the book. "Closure is a bastard."
Singing Fireboy, "We can't be friends. It's too intense."
The accuracy of this video almost has me in tears, chai
The way I rush here whenever I get your notification 😂😂...is it even normal 😂😂 ... anyway you are my inspiration for my channel 🤗🥰
💯💯💯. Can I like this a hundred times? So true!
Thank you for adding subtitles when you speak In Youruba....
I noticed you were crying, you confirmed it. You're strong Toke!
Tokkks! Always spilling facts! 👌 I love you gurl 🥰
I really needed this 😭😭... Thank you Tokstarr👏👏
This is a frigging vibe, you’re a whole vibe. Love it!!!
Love you pieces!!!! Your thumbnails are always on point
Spilling facts...this table was worth visiting. 👌👏
I just found your channel today & you dropping so much golden nuggets… I remember when my ex -husband was about to break our family apart, he told me we can stay friends & I told him we will never be friends because friends don’t mistreat each!
😂😂😂 i'll never look at closure the same again
Really had to watch and hear this....thanks Tokstar you are indeed a star.....I really needed this today.....
Toke ooooo 😂😂😂😂..... I was laughing so hard while watching this😂😂
I almost used all of my savings to buy a flight ticket just to get closure, ehh my heart needs to chill.
I so love you Toke💖 this really assures me that not entertaining them is not "overdoing things"
“... we had this dream, you made me laugh...” when she demonstrated the laughing and crying 😂🤣🤣🤣 I had to pause the video to really laugh. 😂 I always tell people there’s really no need to be friends with your ex’s you won’t heal.
My girlll always spilling truth 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I love you Tokeeee
080 I’m a fool 😂😂😂😂
The truth in this aaah Toke you are soo real. Love the meaning of forgiveness there. Thats empowering😘😘
Wo, Toke, God bless you for this video. Hits right home. Ko ma ragba fun closure😂
You nailed this topic tokstarr they are always like it's not you but it's me, i need to work on myself and u will fall for it 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I watch yours vlogs and cry my eyes out. Solid life lessons!.
Love you so much for this Toke❤️
This soo good..we all need to listen to this...love it!😍😍😍
i love you gurl, so authentic and amazing
Tokstarrrrrr. This is so apt!!!! Thanks mama 🤎 So many facts!!
Damn I love you, so much Gold in this!!!🔥❤️🙌🏾
Okay! This was what I needed to watch to block my toxic ex! Thanks Toke
Tokeeee😭❤️❤️ this has to be the besttttttttttt💙💙💙
Oh my God this hit me different I love you sis thank you thank you thank you ❤️💋
You hit the nail on the head in a very hilarious way.
I really Enjoyed this Video. Thanks Toke🙏
I like this advice paaa. Enjoying from Ghana 🇬🇭
I love every second of this video 🔥🔥🔥
Well said momma😍😍😍 And I agree with you. No long talk.
I had similar experience after he engaged someone else and he kept telling me he loves me ...I immediately stopped talking to him
He is a selfish person.
Hmmm Aunty Toke just killed it..... This is so right from Start to finish 😂
Toke always spilling out the TRUTH....Love you ❣️❣️❣️
I really enjoyed this😂😂🔥🔥💯💯
I loved this Video so much, you’re actually very funny, I love you
Aunty Toke you are glowing ooo, love u.
I have a friend that has a crush on another friend! And he showed signs of flirting but never asked her out she wanted closure I said heyyyy YOU BE FOOL, UNNECESSARY THING
This is a great antidote. Thanks alot
I feel attacked. loool. Love how you say "Closure is a BASTARD"
Toke star🥰🥰🥰🥰this video got me laffing
This is ur best so far!!!!
The Oprah Winfrey quote was deep. Nice one Toke
Kia I've been delivered from closure. Any EX that calls me after now God will punish you.
Hallelujah
Lol yess
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Don't wait for them to even bother calling, block delete and move on...better dey front
Amen! 😄
Aunty T I am addicted to watching you my life is improving on different levels 💖
You such a vibe. ❤️💋🥺
Inspirational Message Preach.
TokStarr
I enjoyed all u said but your smile n laugher makes the whole video unique
Hmmm, this is a tricky one for me. Hopefully we all get it right when found in these situations.
I love u sis 💓😘😘...💯💯 Correct...me once I break up with anyone,I don't mind them for life...
This one hit well o God bless you tokstarr
I swear, you are so true. This is the truest thing ever
OMG...TOKE😭😭😭 STORY OF MY LIFE RN...🤣🤣🤣...after 7 years I'm hearing I'm full of guilt, I have commitments issues...need to shut my emotions n work on myself..you deserve better..bla bla bla...still hurts tho but after watching this I feel so happy
Every now and then, I came back to this video to remind myself what’s what😊
Code for 2020.
Dey for who dey for you
If they no ask u, no involve yourself
You are such a real person. Honestly I love this topic. True talk. Love your skin. What cream are you using. Keep up the good work. Xoxo
Girrrrrl I Love You! Like OMG!!!! TOTALLY!
That is so true Toke. You know this thing.
Thanks for sharing Big sis!
This is so good ♥️
I love you so so much ❤️♥️ TOKE !!!
A friend advised I go and ask for closure.
I said it's not necessary.
And be insulted and made to feel like a fool?
We MEUVE!!
Cry, write in a diary, spend money, pray and be positive about the present and future.
Toke I love the Truth and you are so!!! right and you said it in igbo " you are a beautiful child" 😊
Toke I love you, you hit the nail on the head.
An eye opening. Ain't looking for closure no more
Here before the first 10 comment! Notification Gangggggg! 💖💖💖💖
TM issa vibe for life✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
M watching over and over again❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺...
Can't stop crying 😢
Love you momma, always looking out for video.
I must say you always come up with invaluable content.
sarah chisom He’s complimenting her content. He means it is priceless
Thank you toke for this , I love you 💕😘
Wow Toke I ❤️ ur take on stuff nyce