Marriage or Corn 🌽? Dealing with PMO
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- čas přidán 12. 04. 2024
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I agree 100%, marriage is part of the solution to this problem. Alhamdulillah when I got married and was able to be intimate with my wife I never even thought about porn but before marriage it was a big problem for me. May Allah make it easy for us all 🤲🏾
May Allah put barakah in your marriage and allow others to experience the same!
Alhamdullilah, may Allah bless your marriage and grant you Jannatul firdaus
I think that is the only solution for me but I can't get married.
If i can married my prob Is solved as I've tried ever other solution.
آمين @@alromaani
@AM-dn1iq
Assalamualaikum try fasting
i wish we could just get married honestly. its so hard to find someone or to be able to marry before your 30s. may Allah help us all ameen. its a horrible struggle
It is hard indeed, there are many services out there to help including this one which I've spoken about: nikkahgram.com/
@@alromaani JazakAllahu khairan
Man ur way of talking is just great,thanks for this video
Barak Allahu feek
Exactly Bother Gabriel.
JazakAllah khair for the video brother. I think I do disagree with a few things, though.
First of all, I think 2 months of abstinence is way too little time for proper recovery of the short dopamine mental pathways. Especially considering the fact that some people watch some very vile stuff. Secondly, PMO addiction is a dopamine addiction and has little to do with actual desire for sex, or as some people mistake it as, a high libido. Yes, marriage will help a lot of people quite a lot. But they will inevitably fall back to their old habits when things get stale in the bedroom since they still have a dopamine addiction (especially with short-form content and scrolling being a big thing in our day and age). A dopamine baseline reset is absolutely essential for anyone looking to get married. Anyways, I'd say your parallel method is a great idea that I haven't heard before, maybe adding a long dopamine fast to it would make it the ultimate way to prepare someone for marriage.
Sheikh, is it okay to marry a woman who is good in every aspect, also religious but just not as religious as the man ? Or vice versa ? And who(wife/husband) should be more religious for a successful happy marriage ? Is it a red flag if the woman is a lil bit less religious than the man ? Or is it a red flag if the man is a lil bit less religious than the woman ? Please make a whole video from both perspective. Or just answer my question, its very comcerning to me and others
I have a question. While you're further in the vetting process with a potential spouse and you have built trust with them, would it be okay to respectfully discuss that you have a corn addiction, you are taking a program to address the issue, and that you need your wife to help you? to me it seems vital to let a prospective know so they don't feel betrayed later or lose trust so early in a marriage. Jazakallah khair
@alromaani how can one write to you and do you personally respond
May Allah protect us from this trial. The more I hear about this stuff the more I appreciate the innocence of the women before social media.
For pied, can it be cured for 2-3 month of abstinence?
I think it would be a month I’m not sure I would check with a physician
They say u need 30 days to rewire ur brain - 30 days ur brain will rewire to basically become normal again, so after that be as productive as possible and find a partner
You should look Up Iggy semmelweis.
I have question. Someone that watches "corn" like 3 times a week. Is marriage the solution or does he need to fix it first before he gets married? If he gets married wont he just carry on?
He needs to do both at the same time. Get into programs to get rid of this addiction and also search for marriage. This urge is natural and marriage is the halal way to fulfil it while corn is the haram way to fulfil the same desire.
@@alromaani
Would getting married resolve it? I heard that some people who watch corn are married too
I think a big thing is how good intimacy is. If its not enjoyable most will fall back to corn. With intimacy the thing that defines how enjoyable it is, especially in the beginning is the man. The man needs to take charge and leas the way. Gabriel has a very good intimacy series which I would highly recommend to anyone
Just get married
@@AM-dn1iq
Aren't most corn watchers in a relationship
Alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, music, video games, bad friends= Easy to quit cold turkey for reverts. PMO and edging when marriage is off the table and cost of living causes reduced shelter space, like living in a car= bad news
Israel is there to stay! You can wear the scarf though 😊
Man, I've been married twice now, I'm not even sure I'm attracted to women anymore. Not in a gay way, but Subhan Allah when I think woman I think problems. I feel like I want nothing to do with the opposite gender EXCEPT when the feeling arises.
Don't even get me started with children life. When are you supposed to be intimate when children are around 24/7? Pfft I don't even think about what my wife is doing at night, just putting the kids to bed and falling asleep myself.. Then repeat next day
You both need to spice things up, women are sentimental and romance-centered creatures. A bouquet of flowers, a nice cake, whisper to her pleasing words and insha Allah this will trigger more intimacy.
I've never been married myself, but just to give my thoughts on this, I think you've not really been in good marriages since this is not a normal feeling to have. Marriage should be a form of great relief, mercy, and happiness for both men and woman. There's definitely work and effort you need to put into any relationship, but then the benefits that come after are quite heavy. Having someone who you can share life experiences with is also very fulfilling as well. Children can take care of you when you get older and they can even make dua for you. Also, if you want to be more intimate with your wife after having children, why not let your parents, siblings, or other relatives babysit your children for some time so you can and your wife can spend time with each other more? Your wife should be someone who comforts you and helps you get through your personal life problems as long as she is understanding and patient enough. I pray that you find happiness in your marriage life, because surely its a big blessing that not everyone gets to experience in life.
You attend on Ali Dawahs free mixing show and then preach Sunnah. CZcams sheikhs 🤮
Let's try to hear out both sides. I disagree with that show but I'm interested to hear the other side.
CZcams sheikhs still better than CZcams trolls in the comments.
Marriage is the best solution to porn, why would you watch porn if you are married? Unless you are an addict.
When people ask this question, its about those WITH addiction.
I’m 30 year old Muslim man. I’ve been rejected for marriage at every single opportunity and have given up and unfortunately fallen into this addiction and I’m stuck and marriage isn’t an option, as a 5’1 man no sister desires me and I’m constantly rejected. Alhamdulillah I have most things ticked off, but the reality is I’m short and I’m not masculine enough I think an entire life of constant rejection has broken Me I don’t have confidence in me. Is it allowed for me to use chemical castration to get rid of my sexual desires. If not, why not, am I meant to suffer for the rest of my life
Brother you say that you have the other things in order., probably referring to income. Your height is only a problem when you mentally let it be an obstacle. If you have the right mindset and confidence in the way you talk, take up space in the room, and the way you sit/stand - it will translate into women being attracted to you. Don’t let height get to your head to the point where you get these thoughts brother. May Allah bless you with a pious wife.
There are a number of short men who are able to find wives that are taller than them. Sure, it’s rare but not impossible. Just know that women appreciate men who are comfortable with who they are. But to be comfortable with who you are requires that you be mentally strong and confident in that you are good at taking care of things and getting things done. In other words be attractive to everyone, not just women. When you get there the women will look for you.
@@didyouprayyour5prayers996brother unfortunately this isn’t true practically. There are two ways to find a woman to marry, organic and inorganic. Organic meaning you meet someone naturally, inorganic meaning you meet someone with the intention of seeing if you like eachother for marriage, such as referrals, arranged through parents, apps etc.
the organic method is really the only way to display confidence to a woman to generate some attraction to you, since you’re around her long enough for your confidence and personality to grow on her.
However, practically, the only way to get married now is the inorganic method, as I’m not around pool of Muslim women and gender segregation. I go to work come home go masjid go gym that’s it. The issue with the inorganic method is she has no attraction to you to begin with, so she has to “screen” you to see if there’s some attraction to you, that involve seeing pics exchanging profiles, and this basically means I get ruled out. It isn’t surprising , why would a quality woman who has options choose a 5’2 balding guy. It doesn’t make sense.
Everytime I’ve proposed to a woman I’ve desired I have been rejected, ironically even women I didn’t really want but was open to getting to know and forcing myself to desire rejected me, it seems I have two choices, either stay single or settle for someone I completely dont desire at all. Either way I’m miserable
Don't give up akhi. Work on your finances, fitness and increase in ibadah. Keep making dua and keep trying bro. You got this man.
If you are Muslim, giving up isn't even in the list. Castrating isn't allowed there's a riwayah regarding a sahabi asking it because of being away from home at a war I believe wasn't allowed, firstly fastings required that kinda diminishes.
Secondly bro it's not about 5'1", there are ukhtis who are 4'5" or above they're suffering the same bottlenecks yani coz of heights guys aren't marrying them, so I believe you do have chances, if you are in a particular locality where woman are taller than you and think it's not appropriate to marry than look for no.1 places where taller woman short man ain't a taboo, no.2 where woman aren't taller. This kinda address the height bottleneck.
And when you really feel this pressed I think it's best that you turn the problems to solution with supplications, keep doing salatulhajjat. I'm sure INSHA'ALLAH ALLAH SWT is gonna make things easier.