Mother goes to jail for Parental Alienation
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- čas přidán 6. 05. 2017
- Healthy parents teach their children independence and self-reliance. But alienating parents foster dependency and vulnerability in their children. Alienators need to be needed.
Healthy parents love their children more than they need their children. But alienators need their children more than they love their children. In younger children alienators sow seeds of fear. In older children they sow seeds of hatred. This ensures the child's undivided love.
Healthy parents teach a child that the world is full of imperfect people who sometimes make mistakes and sometimes disappoint us. But alienators teach a child to see the world in black and white; people are either all-good or all-bad. Any real mistakes an "all-bad" person makes become the entirety of who they are.
Alienators are masters of manipulation, and there are two main subtypes.
Alienators with narcissistic traits (mostly men) are control freaks. They see themselves as perfect and anyone who dares to oppose them as inferior. They speak with charisma and conviction.
Alienators with borderline traits (mostly women) are sympathy freaks. They see themselves as victims and anyone who dares to oppose them as abusers. They speak with passion and drama.
Regardless of the subtype, alienators are very convincing. Most people are duped. And by most people I mean friends, family members, teachers, coaches, counselors, custody evaluators, guardians ad litem, and, of course, their own children.
The end result of all this manipulation is that the child aligns themself almost completely with the alienating parent. There are many reasons for this, and comparisons have been made to Stockholm syndrome/trauma bonding, but I believe a better analogy is that of cults. Whenever the child agrees with, or sympathizes with, or shows devotion to the alienator, then the alienator lavishes them with affection and makes them feel like a million dollars. But if the child ever falters in their devotion, then the alienator responds with the opposite extreme. This is exactly how cult leaders are able to manipulate adults over a period of months. Now imagine a vulnerable child, who has no escape, being conditioned like this their entire life.
The psychopathology underlying parental alienation has been referred to as pathological enmeshment, since the child's personality is basically subsumed by that of the alienator. It has also been called the gatekeeper phenomenon, since the alienator becomes the gatekeeper of the child's heart and mind. Whatever the alienator likes, the child reflexively likes; whatever the alienator hates, the child reflexively hates.
All of this happens long before the divorce, long before the actual alienation. And then, at the time of divorce, when the alienator feels rejected by their spouse, and the alienator fears they might lose the undivided devotion of their children, the actual alienation takes place surprisingly quickly. The gatekeeper simply closes the gate.
This is also why the mental health and legal professionals often get parental alienation cases wrong. They cannot imagine why a child would suddenly reject a normal, loving parent. They fail to recognize that what looks like a warm, close relationship between the child and the favored parent is actually a longstanding form of co-dependency. It's a folie à deux. It's emotional incest.
"Just listen to my child!" the alienator cries to the court. "They'll tell you how inferior/abusive the other parent is!" But it is no longer the child who speaks.
Alienated children grow up hating half of who they are. They are prone to a host of psychosocial problems later in life.
This is why Parental Alienation is NOT a child custody issue.
It's a child PROTECTION issue.
Video and audio of this public hearing was acquired by ABC news.
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Healthy parents teach their children independence and self-reliance. But alienating parents foster dependency and vulnerability in their children. Alienators need to be needed.
Healthy parents love their children more than they need their children. But alienators need their children more than they love their children. In younger children alienators sow seeds of fear. In older children they sow seeds of hatred. This ensures the child's undivided love.
Healthy parents teach a child that the world is full of imperfect people who sometimes make mistakes and sometimes disappoint us. But alienators teach a child to see the world in black and white; people are either all-good or all-bad. Any real mistakes an "all-bad" person makes become the entirety of who they are.
Alienators are masters of manipulation, and there are two main subtypes.
Alienators with narcissistic traits (mostly men) are control freaks. They see themselves as perfect and anyone who dares to oppose them as inferior. They speak with charisma and conviction.
Alienators with borderline traits (mostly women) are sympathy freaks. They see themselves as victims and anyone who dares to oppose them as abusers. They speak with passion and drama.
Regardless of the subtype, alienators are very convincing. Most people are duped. And by most people I mean friends, family members, teachers, coaches, counselors, custody evaluators, guardians ad litem, and, of course, their own children.
The end result of all this manipulation is that the child aligns themself almost completely with the alienating parent. There are many reasons for this, and comparisons have been made to Stockholm syndrome/trauma bonding, but I believe a better analogy is that of cults. Whenever the child agrees with, or sympathizes with, or shows devotion to the alienator, then the alienator lavishes them with affection and makes them feel like a million dollars. But if the child ever falters in their devotion, then the alienator responds with the opposite extreme. This is exactly how cult leaders are able to manipulate adults over a period of months. Now imagine a vulnerable child, who has no escape, being conditioned like this their entire life.
The psychopathology underlying parental alienation has been referred to as pathological enmeshment, since the child's personality is basically subsumed by that of the alienator. It has also been called the gatekeeper phenomenon, since the alienator becomes the gatekeeper of the child's heart and mind. Whatever the alienator likes, the child reflexively likes; whatever the alienator hates, the child reflexively hates.
All of this happens long before the divorce, long before the actual alienation. And then, at the time of divorce, when the alienator feels rejected by their spouse, and the alienator fears they might lose the undivided devotion of their children, the actual alienation takes place surprisingly quickly. The gatekeeper simply closes the gate.
This is also why the mental health and legal professionals often get parental alienation cases wrong. They cannot imagine why a child would suddenly reject a normal, loving parent. They fail to recognize that what looks like a warm, close relationship between the child and the favored parent is actually a longstanding form of co-dependency. It's a folie à deux. It's emotional incest.
"Just listen to my child!" the alienator cries to the court. "They'll tell you how inferior/abusive the other parent is!" But it is no longer the child who speaks.
Alienated children grow up hating half of who they are. They are prone to a host of psychosocial problems later in life.
This is why Parental Alienation is NOT a child custody issue.
It's a child PROTECTION issue.
Amen 2 tht‼️
What do I do to get my son back?
Very interesting read and I understood all of quite clear.
You must be a physcologist ?
I profoundly disagree about mostly men that alienated their children. It's obvious in this video that women can be nefarious.
I have dealt/ dealing with a narcissistic parental alienation ex. I have worked her out and by God I hope my children do too .
Courts cost money, I am spent emotionally, financially, spiritually and mentally.
Everything else you have said, "100% spot on the mark ".
@@martinspalding1662 man I feel your pain brother , trust me, I can relate to everything you said . I deal with the same thing and yeah the courts will drain you and leave you bankrupt.
The sad part about it all is it shouldn’t be that way but it is and it’s all for profit , the state government and private law firms. Children are used as commercial instruments to profit off of and the women are incentivized to behave poorly ; because the know they can run to the government and they will be protected and allowed to do as they please with your offspring.
If the dad did that, he would have gotten 15 years. Not 15 days.
Bruh, we don't come close to equality...
equality is not apart of our system. It discriminates in terms of gender and race on a daily basis. She should have gotten 1 day in jail for everyday that the father and child didnt see each other.
Did I not understand what the judge said correctly?? Because I calculated it to be 90 days over the course of 6 years. Which I agree it’s definitely a slap on the wrist and she deserves much more than that. But I’m just checking to see if I understood the time spent in jail correct or not
Goodim Glad I’m so sorry!!!😭
She should get 3 years in jail!
She got less than a year in jail for keeping the children away from Dad for 6 years. Unbelievable.
944 days
Outrageous...basically gave her the right to continue to abuse her children, and their Father. Feel so bad for the Father.
@@robertyanes4751 If she does it again, it will be far worse for her next time, and easier to prove too as she has a history of it. My heart breaks for this father, and his children
No where near 6 years, there are 365 days a year and the judge clearly said she had kidnapped them for 944 days, that makes it just a little over 2 and a half years. Not that, that makes it much better, but no need to exaggerate.
Worst human to be in this world-
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She should have done a day in jail for every day she kept the kids from their father.
Parental alienation is massively difficult to prove. I'm glad this man was able to do this and protect his children.
No it’s not. If the mother makes a claim, it should be investigated. However, when they file false DV cases, the men roll over & say: ‘that’s my child’s mother & I don’t want to stress her anymore’. Notice she tried physical abuse, but was proven a liar. However, the Courts let the female maintain custody (the child will be irrevocably traumatized if they change school or daycare FOH) & this 💩 takes YEARS FOR TO MAKE HIM GIVE UP! They’ll fast track ANYTHING she wants though. It’s JUDICIAL OVERREACH
@@darylrichardson8567 you'll be alright bud.
I totally had a different experience with my case. My child was removed due to a false claim the father made. He was irreversibly traumatized by going from my care to his father's care. It took 9 months for a custody evaluation to be done and in that time my son suffered intense psychological, verbal and mental abuse. When I did get my son back into my care and the father was appropriately charged for his tall tale bullshit and he was required to pay back all the state benefits he stole while he had temporary custody, justice was served for me. But it does not only happen to men when females claim DV. It happens in reverse too.
@@darylrichardson8567 "that's my child's mother and I don't want to stress her anymore" 😂 I wish. My ex railroaded me and buried me to the best of his ability. I paid over 100k in court costs. NOTHING about my case was fast tracked. The whole thing took 3 years, 9 months and 2 weeks. Luckily they gave me my son back after the first 9ish months but the damage was done.
Kidnap is pretty conclusive evidence.
Not that hard. A tell-tell sign is when kids can’t tell you any details about what their parent is doing to them that is so bad. They can usually tell you why they hate the parent and they can usually tell you how they feel but they almost always struggle with providing any details that led to those feelings. Usually when you ask them enough questions, they’re unable to really describe anything. Or when they do describe it, it doesn’t sound like something that should warrant such a dramatic and emotional reaction.
*This "sentencing" is a slap on the wrist, and inappropriate to the severity of her acts.*
imagine if genders were reversed.
The state should’ve file criminal charges
Jail her for 6 YRS + sentence time. The same duration of time she alienated the father + time of the crime
The true punishment for her is: She has no family anymore.
And as J. C. pointed out: This is a family court. The judge didn't have the jurisdiction to impose higher sentences... But I bet, she would have, if she could.
should have gotten day-for-day that she deprived her husband of their children
When you hate the other parent more than you love your child. The suffering inflicted is a tragedy
It's very sad.
UM, wo-MEN do this to MEN, MEN do not do this to wo-MEN
@@josephesposito3499Men absolutely do it to women too 🙄 It’s not a gender issue.
@@jenshaw8085 Um, >NOPE! wo-MEN initiate 85% of divorce, wo-MEN have SEVEN TIMES more sexual partners than a MAN, by the age of 24, wo-MEN perpetrate 83% of child abuse, wo-MEN perpetrate TWICE as many child murders as MEN, and it is MOSTLY >wo-MEN who deny MEN axcess to their child, NOT MEN! Same with FALSE accusations, >mostly >wo-MEN who do this. Sorry, NOPE, YES it >IS a GENDER issue, mostly caused by>wo-MEN
LAUGH OUT LOUD! >YOU KNOW DAMM WELL IT IS MOSTLY >wo-MEN who do this to MEN! It is NOT equal, >MOSTLY the MOTHERS who do this! Bullshit on your post!
How lucky those children are to have a father who loves them enough to fight for them. And shame on any mother who would try and destroy that.
Mothers are not the only ones that do this stuff. My ex-boyfriend has not let me have my son in 1.5 years and only allows me to video chat 3 times a week. If they do answer on those days, they always have my son distracted. He lives states away.
My mum tried it I felt bad for my dad atfirst but after I saw how he was to me and my brother I didn’t feel any remorse for him she did it out of selfish reasons but I couldn’t imagine going sooner to my dads
She deserved the same time in jail that was stolen from the father. Shame on the judge and that state judicial system!!
I had the same thought. At the least, it should be one day served for each day the kids were missing. Maybe even multiply that by two since there were two children missing.
Female privilege bro
@@3adgamd3r not a bro!
@@user-peach408 okay sis
Typical Minnesota justice system results.
This man has gone through hell and back, parental alienation is a cancer in our society...
It is regarded as literal child abuse. As I tell people, I listened to my mother run down my father every chance she got (they stayed together for reasons only satan knows), and all it did was make me feel closer to him and more alienated from her. So to my bf's ex, "Keep up the good work, b."
Family loyalty is subversive to a state that demmands loyalty from its subjects.
Luckily the state found a way to destroy those bonds; the woman
yes it is and almost impossible to prove.
@@anitabonghit2758 exactly my man is dealing with this right now. He just filed contempt of court paperwork against both his son's moms. I let my ex see my kid every weekend. Parental alienation is evil. I wanna punch certain mother's in their faces for this. I wanna murder my boyfriend's exes.
@Chief Big Bob ok, boomer. You brainwashed idealogue piece of shit
Children grow into adults.
They remember everything!
Who’s good - who’s bad.
Thats what my mom should have thought about before almost killing me as a child cause of munchausen by proxy. Now im an adult and both her and her wallet are not enjoying my court case against her il tell u that!!! 😂
@@foreverchained9070 I can only imagine the well deserved smug grin on your face right now
Yeah if the child survives long enough. My son never got that chance. My son died Dec. 2nd 2017 from having a syringe shoved down his throat while in his mothers care. My son was 2 and a half years old.
@@thomasbushman6442 omg that is absolutely horrendous!!! I am so sorry for both you and your son having to go thru that. Just because someone is a woman doesnt mean they should be a mother, i strongly believe EVERYONE should have a psych evaluation before they are able to have and raise a child for the childs safety and it shocks me there still isnt something like that in place as a precaution. Sending love and healing prayers your way♥
@@thomasbushman6442 that is one of the most heartbreaking and infuriating things I have read in awhile. I am so sorry man.
My ex-wife hid our son from me for almost 9 years; he was 5 when I last saw him, and the next time she allowed me to see him (via a court order under threat of jail), he was an unrecognizable teenager of 14. The expression in his eyes when I first saw him again was unmistakable to everyone observing; "Why?" That was 20 years ago, and even though we have tried to heal our relationship, we are strangers and most likely always will be.
😢😢😢💔💔❤️🩹
my ex has ran off with my children as we speak, they had lived with me for the last 5 months she came to visit them 5 times for 20 mins a time then she turned up said "the girls are coming home with me now" she took them and ran away in the middle of the night
@@paulinthailand If "she took them and ran away in the middle of the night," inferring stealth, how was she able to say: "the girls are coming home with me now," or am I misunderstanding your statement?
Sorry brother. I've been though similar. I'm here for ya if you need to talk to someone that understands.
Love ya man
😭😭 I am so sorry, this is bringing a tear to my 👀
Parental alienation destroys people. It destroys the kids, for the rest of their lives. Its just so heartbreaking 💔 😢
The utter selfishness of any person who uses their child/children to punish their ex-partner is something I find inexcusable and reprehensible.
Linda C
Exactly! After all, women already have alimony laws to punish their ex-husbands, they don't need to use their children too.
Linda C I agree , this happens DAILY in the LATIN WORLD....
Not to mention psychotic.
The only reason women have kids is to get paid.
In the wild mother animals kill their child if they are in trouble to save themselves so you can see that the evolutionary system is such that mother's will hurt their children for their self gain
SALUTE TO THE FATHER FOR FIGHTING FOR HIS OWN
Stupid woman hated him more than she loved her children. She needs mental help.
@@asafaust8869 I agree. I hope she has to undergo psychiatric treatment during her probationary period.
@@asafaust8869 oooh you said a mouthful there
@playlists exactly
@@dominiquejenkins5495 what is parental alienation
Every thanksgiving for the next few year she will spend it alone. Absolutely stunning insight from the judge and a fabulous punishment
That evil woman got off light. The damage caused by parental alienation will last those kids a lifetime. As for dad, my heart breaks for him. All that time lost, all that misery. I've worn his shoes.
She’s punishing her kids more than her ex-husband. Shame on her.
And that sentence is ridiculous!!!
Don’t worry about my grammar, worry about those kids being punished for something that’s no fault of their own. Go troll somebody else cause I’m not the one. However , if you want to do this I most definitely have time for your shit.
@@adriannehubbert7825 I'm talking about the sentence passed by the judge 😒 it's too light
@UCkrKPpvp9o11SoA5x7LwPHg story of my life on Facebook lol I understand. No worries
Tyrone Huston and I was just a character in that story. On another note, that was F’d up what this lady did
Many, many more mothers should be going to jail for this.
My ex broke up with me mecause i told his mother that i dont want to move into the apartment next to hers so sh manipulated him against me.
My dad obliterated the relationship between me and my son. ANYONE who does this must be held accountable.
Amen
I agree with u it's high time they stopped turning kids against their daddy.parents dispute shouldnt be used to turn kids against their dads
Dads do it too. I think studies show it is almost equal. Many times stepparents play a big role in this also. My ex husband is a narcissist and has tried to do this, luckily I had a great attorney and custody evaluator who were able to show the judge what was really going on. He was a master at the smear campaign but when it came down to it, people figured it out. It cost me about $80k to fight his lies, but my child is worth it. This is so sick.
Fight back, dad's! Your children need you, you are needed to raise them. Don't give up on your children! You can hear the heartbreak in this man's voice, it's so sad.
I’m fighting right now I’ve had two hearings with ex girlfriend and she’s hasn’t shown up for none of them. The judge granted me split custody but I gotta bad she’s not going to show up with my daughter at the drop off 😢 we’re scheduled to meet this Sunday at 6pm
@@michaeljordan-xt9hk just call the police if she don't show and have a dashcamera when you do it and stand in front of the camera when you see her allegations can ruin someone's life also
Fight back, dads!
*There! I fixed it for you.😁
Not all children need their dads. I certainly didn't.
I just came from my ex house. She refused to give me my son. I called the police with court order in hand. They said there's nothing they can do and told me to go back to court. I have gone to court 3 times. She keeps disobeying court orders. Any help.
My cousin documented everything for 2 years. Calls , text messages, all times he couldn’t see his 3 boys. He sold his classic car, hired a good attorney got custody of his kids, his other child mother left him. He has 4 boys and doing great. Sad what parents do to their children.
My kids and I have been going through this for 9 YEARS. May God punish these malignant narcissist women/men who do these horrible things
I'm with you man. 10 years in
@@joeysprezza74 im with you. Im 6 years in.
Coming up on 6 years myself.
@@ChuckLilly it's almost 9 now... good luck brother and God bless you and yours
7 for me
As Judge Judy says, "you have to love your children more than you hate each other." End of
Don't pee and tell me it's raining, awesome woman, very logical. This judge is phenomenal also but should have given her a much longer sentence.
@@antoinettenovella1630there are sometimes good reasons why the sentence is shorter than expected.
Judith Sheindlin had a father she still looks up to, and made her very aware of the advantages given to children of having both parents.
I will never understand why anyone would do this to their children or the other parent. The amount of selfishness this act takes is just unbelievable!!! She deserves far more time than what she received.
She should have been locked up immediately, for a period no shorter than 944 days...
An example why a mother is not always the best parent.
Facts
Louder for the people at the back 🙌
@Be Frank most child abusers are the mother because mothers make up a significantly higher percentage of caregivers than fathers. The important statistic is as caregivers, are mothers or fathers more likely to commit abuse, and the answer is fathers. This article discusses the math www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/statistics.html
@Be Frank That said we shouldn't judge either group by a statistic. Both mothers and fathers can be amazing caregivers
@Be Frank I 100 percent agree with your first comment and that the father should have control in this case. Women do perpertrate more abuse, but if you adjust the numbers to make it equal amounts of male and female caregivers males are commiting more abuse. Numbers are difficult to interpret correctly until you do the correct statistical analysis and adjustments. I hope you have a nice day or night
Shame on parents who use their children as weapons against each other!
They need more than shame. They need to be held accountable.
Can't you afford to admit that it's women who handicap their children to tease their fathers? If fathers were given full parental rights and not mothers, the children would then have both parents. Fathers act for the good of their children and find meaning in their lives in this. They understand that children need contact with their mother. It's that simple, but impossible for female judges.
And sex!
Sorry but the system is very much AGAINST MEN.
In 99% of the cases IT'S THE MOTHER THAT DOES THIS.
NOT THE FATHER.
Because the mother, unless she's drinking hard and abusing drugs, she's always seen as the better parent.
My mother almost killed me.
Because this stupid system is designed for Women and not for Men.
Instead of supporting both and giving BOTH the same chances. Men do not get any chances.
It's not people. It's mothers destroying soooo many kids lifes and their Mens.
Seriously.
Every woman seems to say that until they are in the position of power
Oh, this hits me pretty squarely. I'm over 80 and seeing how my manipulative mother fits the example in the description. I was raised as her only child and groomed to meet her needs which haunt me to this day. Any time I try to step out of the mold, the mental pain and confusion are extremely painful. She's been deceased since 2010 but the wounds I find were all inserted during my formative years. I could see she was an ill person when I began my teens but it was no shield for what had already been done. My hope that others who encounter these highly disturbing demons can endure and realize what had been cast on them wasn't their fault which is one of the main crippling beliefs that come with it. I now have a better idea of what some elderly have been coping with that makes them look so socially awkward and some probably don't realize the source.
I'm pushing fifty and I can relate. I'm very sorry for what you've been through and I hope you're happy now.
You're exactly correct. Today we have a term for it, narcissistic abuse. It's a Cluster B personality disorder. And awareness of this type of abuse has been prevalent and is still increasing through social media with people across the world talking about it with each other. I wish you continued healing.
That was way too lenient of a punishment for the mother. She should’ve been sentenced for longer. This is one of many examples of where accountability in the American justice system has gone to shit.
Unfortunately our law makers are more concerned about their next vacation than they are children.😢
They can’t do sentencing any higher than that in family court, there’s still a chance for this to go to criminal proceedings
Dads don't usually get a whole lot of respect in family court so this was refreshing to see. What a horrible woman to do that to her family out of spite.
Alicia Green. Agreed. The mother was pure evil and a waste of a human life. I hope her children have a bright future knowing their father loves them and they don't have to deal with her again
Tons of women do this to men, there is literally millions of these cases.
I've never heard of a man doing it to a woman before though.
Not saying it doesn't happen, but I've never heard of it.
I’m going through something similar right now...so sad.
So true, sadly it takes such wicked women in order for courts to see good fathers.
Bobby Seale Junior wish you all the best.
She should’ve had to serve 940 days, no credit for time served
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Indeed.
940 days? Try 940 days + 15yrs.
@@libertywolf93 Thanks for this . Keep sharing his work. As much quality as Marc Rudov who prefers to hide his older work .
MN state law mandates credit for time served (Minn. R. Crim. P. 27.03, subd 4(b))
This is intended to incentivize the government to ensure a speedy trial, and that poor defendants who can't afford bail don't get effectively harsher sentences.
Holy crap, there are judges that will actually do something about parental alienation?! Need one of those in my county.
Wow!!!! I know exactly how this man and family feel. Good job Judge, prosecutors and jury. Peace and Love be with that family and all the families suffering ❤️🙏
My ex did the same thing to me. I didn’t see my son for a very long time and I had to fight for him and won. I have my son five days a week and now she’s a weekend mom.
Teach me.
God bless you! Be better than her.
Karmas a bitch
I hope you and your family prosper. Good on you.
That kind of sucks. They’ll associate you with school and her with doing fun activities
I did a deep dive into this case after seeing this video. I am horrified by the mother and her gang of conspirators. Including her family attorney and friends. Her family attorney had her license suspended for at least 60 days and her crazy friend went to jail for 6 months. The Fox reporter and station never apologized. It’s scary how this so called mother was able to manipulate people. That so called boyfriend should run.
What was the family attorney doing to be considered a conspirator? (I realise this is two years old comment, but I want to know what sort of line was crossed from "a lawyer on your side in law" and "a lawyer on your side illegally"
Women are masters at emotional manipulation.
I grew up with 5 sisters....I know it well.
@@jamesyoung187I grew up with two older sisters, 4 and 5 years older respectively, they’re the primary reason I can’t trust women enough to be in long term stable relationships as an adult
After 16 years of it, you see all the sneaky shit women do and you learn it whilst they’re at their absolute worst, when they’re teenagers
Why wouldn't the Fox journalist be sued? I need to do a deep dive too it seems, first time I'm hearing about this case.. I had a similar upbringing with mommy dearest messing with my head, terrible and still impacts me decades later. Poor man and children. That bi@tch should get a lifetime restraining order.
It's so unfortunate that malignant narcissists can, & often DO quite successfully FOOL & MANIPULATE a large group of people to join them in their quest to destroy an innocent person, couple, or group of people. My husband & I have experienced this in our family. It profoundly shatters relationships & families. Ultimately, God will deal with people who have purposely caused such pervasive destruction.
My boyfriend is going thru this right now. Hope she gets her karma in court
Run away.
She won’t.
They are broken up already garanteed
This is so disgusting. I know both mothers and fathers who do this. Unfortunately it’s mostly mothers bc they usually are the primary residence. I have two boys and I have NEVER with held them and never would. When we split… and it was a bad one for me, I was devastated… It didn’t even cross my mind. I even agreed to pretty much 50/50 even though it literally sent me into a bad depression bc I wasn’t used to not being with my boys… the separation for me, was horrible. But it’s not about me… it’s about them. We suffer so they don’t. And we don’t let them see that suffering. We don’t put them in the middle. I explain to them that crying is ok, it’s ok to be sad bc I would cry and they would sometimes see… but I never tell him why. I never talk bad about their father. One of my friends almost died of a heart attack bc of the stress the mother put on him by withholding and threaten to, and honestly just being awful. I will never respect a parent who does this
A lot of fathers abuse their wives and children. I met a woman a few years ago who acted the same as you- holier than thou about how she would never separate the kid from the father. Meanwhile, the father literally beat her in front of the kid and emotional rages and outburst from him were a norm, including in front of the child. He was subjecting the child (4 years old at the time) to violence and emotional abuse regularly, and her Pick-Me mother thought she was a 'good person' for not thinking about trying to get sole custody. Both parents failed the child, the father for his violence and immaturity, and the mother for putting her obsession with appeasing him and society over protecting her daughter.
I feel as though 944 days in prison would've been a fair sentence.
@@miamyerssinger "custodial parent" can't be considered a kidnapper. Just the way the law is.
@@Hawaiiansky11 Did she have FULL custody or joint?
Same
all i heard was ,” ...a sentence will not heal the wounds , so as a judge there is no point in punishment even though you are guilty, female power . “ - judge karen asphaug
@@ashzole Marcus Garvey was wrong. RazorBladeKandy was white. Chinweizu synthesized both their ideas but it was Rollo Tomassi who perfected them. His text The Rational Male currently has far more appeal than the myriad of black nationalist literature already in circulation. It so happens that he published it the same year Tommy Curry challenged the fantasy of male privilege, referring to being a black male as a death sentence .
His The Man Not however was not the first text to address the shortcomings of fem-centric pan-africanism. Nor was his recent 'Decolonising the Intersection' despite highlighting his attempts to emphasise the role of misandry in black female thinking. Chinweizu (Anamtomy of female power) and Shahrazad Ali (The Black Mans Guide) also made similar efforts but it was George Subira (1992) who hit the mark .
Unlike Chinweizu, Subira did not draw upon Esther Vilar's 1976 classic, The Manipulated Man. Unlike most disciplined minds, Subira was an original thinker and one of the first to advocate a programme of economic leadership. Most modern black rhetoricians can offer no such programme or agenda because they are largely victims of black female programming. Their minds were long domesticated meaning they are reduced to reproducing aimless echo chambers almost every time they talk.
Neely Fuller (1957) was not hostage to such conditioning but his programme seems to have a key fault. Despite realising the incredible driving motivating force of sexual expression , he still managed to downplay it's role, especially how it compares to the larger logic of antiblackness and global white terror domination. Although Charles Mills (1997) did indirectly develop his ideas, he neglected to integrate the foundation his own work borrowed from, "The Sexual Contract." (1996)
Neil Postman, like Jeff Schmidtt, was one of the few people capable of making sense of these divergent ideas (much like John Gatto and Jan Matthews were two of those rare individuals with the pieces of the puzzle.) Conventional panafrikanism doesn't even realise there is a jigsaw to be solved. It has a distorted conception of itself because it views the world through a damaged lens incapable of accountability and self-reflection.
PanAfrikanism will not produce any quick results either because unlike Chinweizu, Subira and Curry, it still refuses the interrogate and recognise the role of women in sabotaging the afrikan agenda. Texts like Addicted to White work towards this, only, in this age of intersectional confusion and fragmented voices in the wind, it isn't necessary to silence this perspective; it is enough just to drown it out. Jacques Ellul and Guy Debord surely foresaw this tragic arrangement, when few others could.
Men have been fooled, black and white. It is no longer a question of race-first but male first, if not black-male first at the very least. Men are going to have to muster the clarity and courage to challenge the corporate-feminine regime dominating their "emptied" lives. If anything is to be redeemed black thinkers will need to prioritise the black pill and realise that the fundamental question of what it means to be a woman is as urgent as the need to ask what it means to be white.
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1. Attention to a woman is like a blowjob to a man
2. When a man's contempt for women surpasses his lust for them, only then shall he become wise
3. Women think all men are the same - that is their strength. Men think all women are different - that is their weakness
4. A man's facade of strength is his biggest weakness; a woman's facade of weakness is her biggest strength
5. Men fake interest, women fake orgasms
A. Women are not to be loved; they are to be handled
B. Women are not complicated; they are complicating
C. A man must value his time the same way women put premiums on their body
D. Men struggle for physical dominance but women opt for social domination
E. Men compete; women conspire
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My son turned 5 last week. His mother had pretended to be afraid of me and had refused to let me see him. I've been terminally ill since he was born. The pain had been unbearable. Now today I go to court because the mother wants to change his last name to hers. Please pray for me and him, and even her.
I pray you recover
God Bless you!
Mr Gunn I truly hope you have resolved with her before you are called. Bless you.
God bless you, sir.
Prayers your a strong great father.
The mother, the journalist, her attorneys, her co-conspirators, received nothing but a slap on the wrist… This is indicative of today’s not only acceptance, but encouragement of child abusers. This court failed terribly. Shame.
I watched this 2 1/2 years ago when my daughter left. It’s now been a year since my son left. I pray for this every hour of every day. I just want my children back so badly and I desire nothing more than to be their mom again. I can’t even fathom what they were told to go from a loving relationship to absolutely blocked from their lives, overnight. I miss you and love you dearly, Emerson and Hudson. I’ll fight for forever if I have to
Sorry to hear. Don’t give up. Save up for her lawyer and get your rights for custody or joint custody
@@FUNNYMANERICWHITE I have joint custody
I am a victim of this behavior. It's been 4 years since I've heard from or seen my oldest daughter.
Praying the alienation ends quickly.
That's a shame. I feel for you.
Im sorry im going thru the same
We are victims too. Alienation is child abuse. But most courts seem just fine with that.
Crucible777 I feel you I have a son that his father kept from me years and until this day I’m still looking for him and he is 22 now he joined the army but still I can’t find him. 😭😭😭😭😭😭this hurts my heart ❤️ I did nothing wrong to deserve this!
My wife tried to turn our kids against me during our divorce, but it backfired. Ten years later, they hate her, but I have a great relationship with them. The irony of it is, while we were married, she would laugh at divorced women when they would try to turn the fathers against their kids, saying that it never works, and then she does the same thing. She was right; it never works.
Larkin Huey So ironical; she's living in the very situation she hated.
Sadly it does work. My Uncle's ex-wife has destroyed his relationship with his 3 children. They think of him as an abuser and a good-for-nothing. He pays/paid child support for decades and almost never got/gets to see or talk to his own children.
Your wrong: Thousands of target parents have had their children stolen emotionally if not physically by narcissistic attachment based parental alienation.
thank you for your testimony I am still wating to speak to my children after 11 years
It doesn't work in the end because when the kids become adults and flock from the alienating parents den then they can freely talk to their father/mother because the other is not around to stop them. It would however be hard since they have been taught for so long that he/she is the worst human possible.(It can come from both sides though men face it more often than woman obviously.)
It is wrong to hold the kids hostage like it until their adults and the parent deserves jail time for it ofcourse but she(ex-wife) is right in the end you can't keep him/her away forever.
My husband’s ex-wife was so toxic she managed to basically ruin any chance of a relationship with their dad. He was a great father too. His son is a liar, thief and stays in constant trouble with the police. He is 34 years old now and has nothing. His daughter decided to have nothing to do with her father after she grew up. Basically believed whatever lies her mother told her. Really tragic. I believe that God will hold these heartless people accountable for all of this.
This has happened to my husband. His ex wife has alienated all four of his children from him. It’s such a heartbreaking situation. We pray for them daily and hope they will wake up someday and see the truth that their father was not the villian their mother made him out to be.
she probably severed any relationship with her children. They could never trust her again, what a shame.
Well they really didn't lose anything
ulhurusurf club - I think you misunderstood what I was saying. She deserves as much time as they can give her. I was saying in addition to getting jail time she lost her children.
Honestly don’t think she received a harsh enough sentence
@Brad keeping that mindself is not only harmful to actual, kind woman but to yourself.
@Present Sort Of lol
I'm going through the same thing with my three children!! She is overseas and won't bring them back. Even though I have full and legal Custody!! Evil mother!!!
I pray every day for their safe return soon!!!
I know how this man feels, horrible feeling!!!! Trust me!!!!
Poor children... God bless you
I wish I could have had a little bit of justice like this in my children's and I's case. Imagine having to pay child support, while the alienating mother got away with alienating and manipulating your children, and you have a lot of evidence of it happening, but you could not afford an attorney to fight the mother and the case. I haven't seen my son since 2014. My daughter was turned against me two years later. All because I didn't want to continue being verbally or emotionally abused by my children's mother after already being with her for 8 years of torment. Now I sit with a monthly payment to remind me how much she got away with literal murder of the innocence of children.
It happened to me. I'm still suffering from the alienation. Her parents had a lot of money to get her a prominent lawyer in a place where everyone knew everyone. I wasn't from there, a small southern county in NC. I was from Charlotte, a pretty big city, but to them I was this city slicker, though I liked to hunt and do non city slicker things(go figure). I was 19, and intimidated. I could go on and on, but my point is don't give up. I became severely depressed and having debilitating anxiety attacks. I had to eventually back away which made me feel even worse. Get a lawyer if possible and let them handle it. Hang in there, and I really hope you get fair custody. Pray for favor in the courts. God speed.
Poor guy sounds like he's on the verge of drowning in his tears.
He almost had the skills of a trial lawyer, there is a method to tbe madness.
A ridiculously short sentence for a serious offense. I cannot begin to understand why this judge didn't impose a longer incarceration period. Another slap in this father's face, as well as the children's. UNBELIEVABLE!
Because she is a woman.
That’s not enough time!!!
Agreed!!!
State regulated maximums. It’s not all up to the judge
Typical Minnesota justice system results.
This is why child support should be optional.
Amen, Any parent who do what this mother did to their mutual children Should without a doubt serve time in jail.
34 days for a Woman..... 934 days for a Man
How could this situation be used to help other women prevent themselves from making similar mistakes?
@Angela Riendeau A male would be in prison for a long ass time compared to a female
Angela Riendeau why won’t she do all the time consecutively?
@Angela Riendeau thats still 574 days too few for her.
Doesn’t matter it’s recorded she’s was convicted
My mother had an ugly break up with my father, but never let her feelings of him stop him from seeing me and my siblings. What a terrible woman for not allowing this amazing father to see his OWN children.
same, my mom loathed my father but still would write him letters to come see us more than once a year and how important it was for us to see him and have a relationship with him... it's entirely true
Sounds like my own personal nightmare. I pray for anyone going through this and I pray for the courage to remain strong during this. Right now my kids are teens and they are using my position to extort me for anything they can get. This is something their mother encourages and tells them that I should have to pay for my actions through bribes and gifts. This is very difficult because I would give them the world. I am forced to say no alot of the time because I can't endorse this behavior because I think it will continue to carry on in how to view and treat the rest of the world.
Raising emotionally healthy children is extremely difficult. Learning to accept disappointment gracefully is one of the most important things to teach your children.
Please keep saying no and let them know why, without anger. It will be one of the best life lessons you can give them in position you find yourself in now. In the end, it may not pay off depending on how strongly your ex instills her hatred of you in them, but at least you'll know you did everything you were supposed to as a parent. Your children may not be able to understand the unconditional love of a parent because she is their primary model. It won't be until they become one themselves and can imagine the same happening to them and their own children that they really appreciate how difficult it has been for you to stand firm in fatherly love. Best wishes for continued strength and God's blessing for a healed relationship with your children.
People that weaponize their children... smh
ANd yet most judges empower the alienator. They claim there is no such thing as alienation. They are lawyers and know nothing abut chiild psychogy. They are not required to take one single class in child development. Because lawyers already know everything.
Not people....the mothers do. Why? Because they can and get away with it. Oh and please spare the old "but what about the physical harm that um...MEN do to the women?" Umm nope! Mostly men get abused from the women. Not my stats.
Oh and as far as "equality" goes, the father gets to go to jail if he doesn't "PAY" and if ever a mother doesn't pay, she gets counseling. Yup there is a wage gap.
sipo70 exactly. By “people” you mean “mothers”
@@chrisd4655 Almost always, yes
It's so backwards how we are so terrified and lately now practice for active shooters in our warped society when many of our children we dearly love are walking guns. God have mercy on us all!
A family member was in this situation. My brother-in-laws ex-wife never missed an opportunity to attempt to turn their daughter against him. He, on the other hand took the high road and refused to sink to her level. It took about 10 years for my niece to mature to the point that she saw her mom's behavior for what it was. She and her dad now have a very happy and loving relationship.
Thank god his daughter saw her mother for who she was, lots of times the kids are so mentally destroyed , the mother turns them against their dad that the fathers just walk away.
Exactly what happened to me. Taking the high road was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, but I did it for 18 years while having to share joint custody with a man who actively worked to alienate our daughter from me every day he spent time with her. When she reached about 14-15 she started to realize what he was doing. By 18 she was fully disgusted with him and has barely spoken to him in over 2 years. These psychos don’t realize that kids grow up and realize that you’ve used and manipulated them, instead of the being their protector and safe person. It’s disgusting.
It enraged me when I see a parent act this way. You are hurting your children!!!!
Thank you for posting, and I'm sorry you've gone through this too.
15 days each year. 😂😂 if it were the other way around the father would not see the light of day for a very long time.
Without ANY DOUBT.
45 day sentence is only 30 days for real because of 'good time'.
My mum did a number on alienating my 4 siblings and I from our dad. When I was in my late teens, I reached out to my dad. I needed to know if all she said was truth or lies. His side of the story was completely different. Everything, from trying to fight for visitation and custody of us. To what happened to Christmas, Birthday presents he had sent. letters, pictures etc...,
It took a few years of hard emotions to sort through it all from all 3 sides of this. My mum's, my dad and my own. My siblings, they will have to find their own truth in this mess.
I finally made peace with my dad and was rebuilding what was destroyed and lost. 2 years later he died of a stroke. I thank Lord JESUS for the time to make amends and to find peace through forgiveness. I will cherish the last years of his life as my dad.
What made you reach out to your dad? Did something specific happen that triggered the process?
Sad for u
@ amen it's the illiterate and the poor who have more children not the educated literate and well off ones
@@esmooth300 jesus christ dude. Let go of the anger. Men behave badly, women behave badly. The human race is selfish and fickle and hedonistic. Hating all or most women isn't going to make life easier though, it's just going to fuck up your interactions with 50% of your surrounding population.
Yes. Thank JESUS for people that alienate their children from loving patents. [Yawn]
Have not seen my son since May 10, 2023.
His mom moved him to Hawaii after me taking a job 15min from him in the city he was actually residing in.
He is 4,700 miles away from me now, and I’m still here.
I wish my parents were in jail for what they did to me but there is no justice in this world.
He had every right to rip into that woman and destroy her with words but he choose not to. Such a better person than I. You can tell he genuinely cares about his children. He's an amazing father.
You cant tell this by one speech. Anyone can talk like this. Yes his wife is horrible but this says nothing about him.
@@uk9383 I disagree. I think his words and actions speak a lot about him.
My sister and I were raised by our dad with my mothers blessing. He gained sole custody with her having reasonable&seasonable visitation. Even without the issue of an opposing parent society judged our father with no credible reason. "Why is a dad raising 2 girls" "my kids can't play over there there's no mom in that house" and all kinds of other weird misjudgments. He coached our soft ball teams. Worked 2 jobs outside our home as well as running a woodworking/carpentry business out of our home in his free time to provide for us. Sure,there are loads of deadbeat dads,and moms. But,this doesn't mean every man is irresponsible,doesn't want to raise their children or most important doesn't love their children. Lots of men are afraid to fight thinking its a lost cause. As a society we MUST do better and recognize a good,loving parent regardless of gender!!
That is very thoughtful and appreciated as a man that raised his daugtters
I hold you in esteem about your story and your son, the father made his future with his son by the past he led. I only have one problem and it isn't just yourself but many former spouses and their thought processes, it is this : " I always let him see our son when ever he wanted to." all too many Ex' s feel they are the arbiter or gate keeper of the former spouses access, that THEY control who does or does not see the child, some even use the child as a bargaining chip, with access granted only when they get what they want out of the former spouse. It does not appear you did this and I comment you.
But that sentence, that sentence, its heard all too often in and out of court....."she/he wouldn't let me see the kids unless....",".I let him/her see the kids when and how I felt like it....", "he/she didn't come up with the support check so he/she didn't get to see them...", " it wasn't their court ordered time, so I told them to piss off.." etc. It's not the former spouses (unless the court orders it so specifically) right to block the access to the children in common for ANY reason, the other spouse is the child's parent as much as the custodial parent, no matter how butt hurt or bad the divorce went, it is the custodial parents duty to allow (again, unless court says otherwise) full access to the other parent, it isn't about the other parent and "their rights" it's about the children's rights, they are entitled to the love, attention, support and care of the other parent to the extent that parent is able to do so.
@@mattstorey7256 yep your spot on Matt ....the one parent being the boss over another is the behavior of a dictator and very unhealthy and has a sickness behind it
It's a very confusing and disturbing environment we so often are forced to expiernce in today's society
Where so often woman abuse punish and run wild and pretend they have they right and power to do this and so often other woman agree and even cheer these woman on
Its flat out abuse of power and should be absolutely stooped
Society has allowed the feminists to paint men as inferior . Which is anything but correct
We are seeing the greatest generation of fathers all time not perfect but the most involved and supportive group of dads society has ever witnessed .....sadly we cant certainly present the current environment of mothers even close to the same
Yes I make that very blanket statement on it's own and do so because it's fair and accurate and can not be denied ....its fact
VERY, VERY WELL SAID! ❤️
Good words thanks
I am a victim of parental alienation. Ex hubby, my mother and sister are eyeballs deep in this.
No matter what your ex-husband has done to you, you have absolutely no right to decide for your children. As a matter of fact, it's your obligation as a mother to protectect your children from parental conflicts. If you include your children in the conflict, that alone is abuse.
Parental alienation isn't typically caused by what the ex did. In this case, I strongly believe it was caused by a mother who didn't love her children or anyone else because she is a pathological narcissist who didn't get her way. Narcissists' behaviors are what "evil" is based on in the movies. If a narcissist can't control you, they will try to control what everyone else thinks of you.
My mother tried this on me. I learned later how wrong she was, but the hardest part growing up was not knowing which parent was the good guy and which was the bad guy. Because that’s what my mother made me feel like.
Currently going through this right now
Because I lost out on so much and struggle so much mentally, financially and with making long lasting bonds. After I lost my daughter to a woman just like her, I almost lost myself. I let go of family bonds
So, there was no try, she straight up did this on you
If one parent seems to be respectful of the other parent not criticizing him or her, that may be the healthy parent.
The one criticizing the other parent in front of a child is more likely the messed up parent, even if there is some truth in what they are saying.
Why would a parent want to psychologically mess up their kid (just to win?)
The one who keep you from the other parent is the bad one. Selfish and evil
If the Reporter knew and didn't tell Law enforcement, It seems as though she should be charged. This is messed up. The dad said it could have ended 10 days after they went missing and all she had to do is tell them. Wth? I guess the Reporter only cared about the story, and her being able to cover the story, instead of the safety and well being of these children. She needs to be charged with Hindering a investigation and child endangerment. Anyone else would have been. That lady is heartless.
TOTALLY AGREE...…..
Unfortunately she is protected by the first amendment.
@@sniperdoug1969 uh, no. Sorry. People throw "First amendment" like they know what it means, and they dont. There are hundreds of exceptions. For example, it can be used in commission of a crime, libel / slander, fraud, false testimony, etc. This reporter was impeding an investigation and she absolutely could have been charged and absolutely was NOT protected under the 1st A. this has already been decided in Branzburg v. Hayes. Now the problem, is the bitch lied so much, they probably believed the father was abusive and that may have been why they didnt charge the reporter.
There was a very similar case in Australia last year, where a woman ran off with her two kids (making the usual abuse allegations against the father) and stayed in hiding for 3 years. She was eventually discovered living at her mother's place, having moved back when her mother developed cancer. The law charged the older woman for subverting the course of justice by hiding her daughter and grandchildren and both women were arrested and charged. The grandmother got 1 year in jail and the mother is serving 3 years. The children now live with their father. That's justice.
wandawoman but was abuse charges true???
My ex-husband and i never did this crap to him, nor he to i, he never paid a cent towards raising them either but i still allowed him to see their Dad. How horrific for this Dad and his children, she is a despicable person who obviously needs help, praying for you all!
This happened to my ex-husband as a young child. He was kidnapped to another state by his bio mom. Then when they were found, his mom cried “abuse” and had her other children lie about it to justify her actions. My ex-husband got put into foster care and an orphanage while they fought it out for an entire year. Absolutely nothing happen to the woman for kidnapping him and abusing him. Then, she repeated the same thing with 2 other men and 2 other sets of children. There needs to be MUCH MUCH harsher punishment for this type of crap. The damage inflicted on children who are kidnapped and hidden is lifelong. And they get nothing or a slap on the wrist! Ridiculous.
That reporter belongs in jail.
If it was the other way around would she do the same?
It is called "Obstruction of Justice" and is good for a vacation in the slammer.
Unfortunately she's protected under the bill of right freedom of the press. The girls are a source and are protected by law. The reporter must decide what to do. If she promised to keep their location a secret, she has to decide if contact information should be shared. She could have given him the option of writing or recording a message for them and giving them the message and contact information and allow them to decide whether to contact him. We don't know how badly they were affected by events. Psychological damage is hard to repair.
@@drmayeda1930 uh, no. Sorry. the reporter is NOT protected by law.. Check out Branzburg V. Hayes. - Courts have already said you cannot hide behind the 1st amend as a defense in all cases. There are hundreds of exceptions. For example, it can be used in commission of a crime, libel / slander, fraud, false testimony, etc.
This reporter was impeding an investigation and she absolutely could have been charged and absolutely was NOT protected under the 1st A. Now the problem, is the bitch mother lied so much, they probably believed the father was abusive and that may have been why they didnt charge the reporter or force her to disclose the location of the girls. However, now that the truth has come out (and barring statute of limitations) the reporter absolutely can be charged.
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Holy hell, I've seen everything. A mother ACTUALLY HELD ACCOUNTABLE for parental alienation!
I dont think its gender specific. My sons dad alienates me. I would like to see him get a jail sentence for his actions
Amen
Eeeeehhhh kinda. Slap on the wrist, which is, granted, more than women usually get.
Erica Taylor Please... It’s absolutely gender biased.
I know right!
This is how bad things have to get for A father to even be heard in family court.
I experienced this as a child of divorced parents. It created a ton of fear, anger, and resentment that took me a very, very long time to process and heal from. I think judges in family court cases should really pay attention to each of the parents intentions. If either one is filled with anger and vengeance, that parent should not have custody. Kids are a product of both parents, and it's too easy for the vengeful parent to obliterate that child's self esteem and spirit for every little commonality the child shares with the other parent.
How the hell can any parent deliberately hurt their child/children?!? This is utter insanity and truly incredible cruelty from this so called mother...
Because the parent only cares about themselves. Not their children. Which is absolutely sick
Because their narcissistic lust for revenge & having to win at all cost outweighs any consideration for the wellbeing of their children. The kids are just pawns in the game. My story.
Let me explain...
A bitchy wife knows that divorce is evil act against God. She may have been 'forced' to have an affair with another guy because of sth (but she won't admit that). She is full of guilt.
She is alienating the child so it doesn't find out the truth about the divorce and evil mother.
Another reason ~ revenge on husband for 'being forced" to file a divorce or have an affair. Pure hate.
a mother needs to learn not the judge
Going through this right now. Been 2 years and I’ve found out that the woman is always right and a father has to fight for every second of time with his children.
@Kitten Lyric You're obviously a young kid.
Troy Peck Hope things worked out for you...
My son is turning 14 tomorrow. This video applies to Maria. My daughter is turning 8. This video applies to Francine. Two children I miss dearly, but must pay child support. I am a victim of a dysfunctional family also. Homeless, living in my suv. Justice is served! The dysfunction is all over the USA 🇺🇸.
Sorry Victor I had went down the same road.
I’ll never understand how TRUE, CARING, CHILDREN FIRST, parents can do this….I am divorced and told the children and the father that this was a divorce of a marriage not a divorce of parental rights. My ex and I agreed that we would work to make sure the kids did not go through it..and to this day they thank us for not making them feel guilty for loving the other parent or making them nervous when two parents were together at an event as they saw with friends of theirs going through the same thing.❤️
The law is always on the mothers side even when they are guilty...appalling
What is parental alienation
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Not true. I have known both dads and moms who have gotten their children despite their history of manipulation and abuse. Those evil people who have made lifelong careers of manipulation and lies are extremely good at what they do and often pull the wool over the judge's eyes. This is done easily because the offending parent doesn't care about the long term effects it may have on their children, so they hold back nothing and spare no tricks. It seems that the people who are willing to do these thing, whether male or female are generally the ones who win.
@@carbonf2051 I agree with you.. I was this child, My mother did not receive custody in the divorce, and she was very bitter because of it. She ended up taking me and my sister to Colorado for about six months alienating us completely from my father. She would always tell us that my father chose my brother over the two of us, but the reality is, she took us when we got out from school without notifying my father. The only reason she did not take my brother was because He usually got home about the same time as my father and he would’ve already picked up on her idea by then. Well about six months after we left Texas my father had invested thousands of dollars into private investigators to find us. The only way they found us was because at the time we were at my aunt and uncle house and My dad got in contact with my uncle. He threatened to press charges against them for knowing we were being withheld from him and choosing to let it happen. So they gave him their address and the next day my father was there. I can honestly say that was the happiest day of my life. I thought my father had given up on me, little did I know he could hardly sleep every night not knowing his children were safe. He worked everything out, and I can not ask for a better father. But, in the end my mother lost everything. Not only did she lose her connection with her children, but she was charged just like this woman and it will be on her record for the rest of her life. I am now 23, it has been about 11 years since all of this occurred. My mother calls me maybe twice a year.. but I’ve ignored her ever since. The only time I speak to her is when I am forced to by dad. A lot of people tell me I need to let it go, find peace with it. Much easier said than done. As far as I’m concerned, she was never a mother to me. She always had her self interest above ours and it seems the only reason she reaches out so that she could know that we are not mad about it anymore. Well I am, and I will never forgive her.
Sorry I know this is a lot I just haven’t vented about this situation an it builds up.
@@carbonf2051 either way, that doesn’t dispel the fact that the law sides with mothers as a default and it’s always the dad’s fight to prove they are worthy
“Family is the cornerstone of our community.” Love that judge.
I have 2 sisters that are divorced-both have exes that are jerks. Neither sister ever said a bad word about their fathers in front of them or tried to keep him out of their lives. I have such respect for parents like this because kids need parents that love them and are actively involved in their lives.
great Judge wish there were more like her.
These judges deliberately destroy this family and most families for money. Dakota county court allowed Sandra to have sole custody for more than 1 year after reports of parental alienation. Years later, Judge Asphaug was forced to punish Sandra, only because this woman's kidnapping actions made it to the national news. See the details in the larger comment posted.
+John W It's very real.
THE 1, amen!
KidsNeed ParentsEqually ¡ WRONG ! She VIOLATED THE LAW !! Women( not all but MAJORITY) invest their beautiful lives and time to HATE the men they sleep, marry and choose to have babies with. The manipulation, bullying and the practice of not following the sentencing of the court's ruling is why children TODAY are DISFUNTIONAL. The judge didnt give a rats ass about the father or the mother's feelings or believes but only the welfare of those children. Eventually, those children will see with their own eyes the truth of it all and as s divorced father of a 28 year old son. I WILL PROMISE YOU, those children will EVENTUALLY HATE their mother....Do you get it ? DO YOU GET IT ? So before you write gibberish on social media that this judge separates families, just realize that CHILDREN are not negotiable regards who the mothrrs are. PERIOD ! And if this case went to the news THEN GOOD......It was the mothers fault for having bad choices and its why the Judge made her decision. This is a wakeup call for all custodial mothers who think they may have the write to control, mistreat the father of their children buy manipulating the society and by using the children to get what she wants illegally. AMERICA needs more strick Judges as this Judge is.
Randy Boone exactly
I love that she has a yearly reminder of her mistakes!
Yes, a minor inconvenience, boo hood, she sure learned her lesson.
You do realize why right?
In the event during those years she is just one minute late returning those kids she will be in contempt of court & serve years. So this keeps her from any shenanigans. 👍👏
@@Rich-yj4ub are you reading tea leaves? Where are you getting that?
My mother did this to me! I wish she had gone to jail!
Needed this today, "truer words have never been spoken"
This is a tragic case of extreme parental alienation. Parents who steal away their kids have mental and emotional problems.
"Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn".
Nee, ze zijn egoïstische monsters.
Yay!! Finally! My sweet husband lost 10 years with his children from alienation & permanently lost his eldest daughter to suicide... parental alienation is extreme child abuse & the abusers must be held accountable. Thank you so much Judge!!♡♡♡
My heart hurts for your daughter's lost life, the grief and deep, deep pain of knowing her hopelessness. And yes, Judge Asphaug did the right thing. A true pioneer in her profession.
Valerie Gray omg! thats the worst :'(
Valerie Gray that bitch should never be allowed to be released prison, until she dies.
Hearts go out to you and your Husband. Will you go to London and testify in UK Supreme Court?
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Listen to how hurt this dad is its so sad it's awful.
Knowing first hand what this dad is going through just shatters me.
GOD please help this man and his children.
If there’s any kids reading this please know your mommy or daddy who was Alienated loves you more than you can ever know and feels you in their heart so strongly and misses you every second of the day
*Even when there were voices in the house, two were missing. Even when the house was full, two were missing.*
Hi
"Blessed is the man who does not walk in step with the wicked, nor stand in the way sinners do, nor sit in the company of mockers...." -- Psalm 1:1
I remember this as I live in the Lakeville area. So sad. I hugged my kids more and thanked my husband.
My mom did this to me and my siblings. It's hard, cus now I feel alienated from my dad even though he's not a bad person. She's narcissistic and I fear for my youngest sister who's still to young to escape her psychological abuse. :(
WatermelonPeppermint praying for healing and protection🙏🏽
But she still loves you. Maybe she is mentally unstable but she loves you.
Reach out to your dad.....
So sorry you went through that.unfortunatly people that are narcissistic dont change for the better.theyre main goal is to act like the victim and to cause drama.i say this cause I've had people like this in my life.
WatermelonPeppermint • You wrote this comment almost a year ago. Have things changed for the better? You didn’t mention you and your siblings’ ages - nowadays there are a lot of support services that might be able to help. If you’re in school, talk to your guidance counselor. He or she will be able to offer some contacts for you. Please check in and let us know how you’re doing! Praying for you.
About time a woman is held accountable for her bad behavior.
About time you learned woman is singular (one adult female) and women is plural (more than one adult female.) Anyone who causes parental alienation is reprehensible, regardless of gender.
Agree. Way too many shitty mothers out there
@@jeaninepetty4923 It's so common these days to read women instead of woman. And irritating too.
@@jeaninepetty4923 Typo. I still stand by my statement. Women have been doing this for decades. Most often they don't think about the long term effect it has on a child.
@TheMrMarple very true
The judge has such a nice voice, and made her points so clearly.
She literally hates her ex more than she loves her children. Absolutely despicable and vile
Inkedmom Blu, Sounds like my ex husband. He groomed our Son from the age of 7 until he was 23. He passed away June 1, 2020 from heroin. 😪
My ex alienated my Son from me, his brother and my entire family. He allowed him to drop out of school while in the 6th grade. I went to hell and back, felt like 3-4 times. He called me to tell me to go to the hospital because our Son was dieing but when I arrived my Son had already passed away 😢 😪.
KARMA/GOD will never allow my ex come close to the Pearly White Gates 😤
(In 2 days it will be my Son, Sergio's, 3 year Anniversary Of his passing 💜)
Very sad, I’m and adult now of a mother who did this and the pain she caused me and my siblings has been life lasting. I was 4 when this happened and I’m 53 now, sadly the pain never ends. My mother stole a relationship with my father I can never get back. Shame on parents who do things like this!
doriestes2468 : I hope you can regain a relationship. It can never go back... So, I pray that you can forge a new, deep relationship with your family. It's never to late. I wish the best for you.
The family court system encourages father-child alienation.
Fathers - blokes generally - get a rough deal in family courts. It's heartening to see that there are judges - female judges indeed - who get what fathers mean to their children.
splodgenessabounds In America, the present court system allows for 50/50 custody in most cases. The party making the highest salary is generally mandated to pay child support. Many times, that is the female. So, in America it has become advantageous for the man to be the alienator. Either way...male or female...it is abusive.
I've seen court decisions that appear fair and unbiased but the enforcement of the ruling and the protection of the father's legal rights are often times lacking unless he pressures the system (at great personal expense) to grant him equal protection not only on paper but in practice. The system often times does not care if the mother defies court orders. Enforcement of those orders will only be enacted if the father pushes hard for it. I would wager that was the case for this Zucki family. I'd guess she would have gotten away with it if the father hadn't pressured the court to enforce it's own laws.
procrastinator9. I saw first hand what you're talking about with my cousin. He would go to his kid's house (she had custody) on his day. He would drive 75 miles, get there at 9 a.m. Saturday morning as agreed upon but no one would be home. His ex would take the kids out for breakfast and shopping and video games or even a movie. They would get back at noon or after, and my cousin waited outside the entire time. His ex came to his door with a police officer once because she wanted to tuck the kids in, at his house. But in reality she wanted to "take a look" at what he had. During his scheduled 2 weeks in the summer is when his ex would schedule his son and daughter to go to summer camp, so he only got one week with them. When he was finally fed up, he took her back to court. The outcome was the judge finally told his ex that if she didn't abide by both the letter and spirit of the custody agreement, then my cousin would get custody, and she would be paying him child support. The ex-wife caused an outburst over this and the judge told her to sit down or he would find her in contempt. The ex-wife's Lutheran minister dad told her in open court to "sit down and shut-up".
This kind of thing happens all the time, and rarely do the mom's have to answer for it. But let that child support the dad's have to pay be one day late and all hell breaks lose......
All of them should take it to court and if it is not recorded have it be on tape themselves just to be sure. If you are a parent who is being alienated, on either side. You should drag their ass to court and if they delay and constantly make up excuses take action. Preferably by seeking help from organisations that work to help fight alienating parents.
Parental Alienation does not get the attention it deserves in courts! It's only used when the duration last many months or even years. Parental Alienation should be considered by courts for as little as 1 lost day of visitation and after a warning a second offense should require mandatory community service or a night in jail. The only acceptable reason to not allow visitation is when the child would be in danger and should require a report to child protective services or police if the parent does not allow visitation based on safety for child. Without filing a report they should always be found in contempt and face a punishment.