This should be REQUIRED viewing before graduating high school!
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Thank you for including me in this video, I really appreciate the awareness. ❤. You are doing good work here.
Thank you for letting me use your clips! Pinning this comment.
What did this mean?
@@kimberlymiller655 HaydenVio was the young woman in the video clip shown at the beginning - the one with the hoarder dad
@@kimberlymiller655 I was the girl in this tiktok he showed, he used my video
As a fellow adult child of hoarders, I want to give you a hug. I escaped it. My brother didn't. I'm proud of you for creating a better space for yourself.
All those times my dad screamed “you live like a pig, clean your room” I was what, six? No one showed me how. He acted like it was second nature. Thanks for this video, hon.
this is how my dad has acted with every single thing, he starts getting angry and screaming and yelling and threatening to call the police whenever I kindly ask for help
Sounds like a military guy. You figure it, just get it done asap!
mine always explained it, but in a way I struggled to understand. it was always too simply explained and I had to basically figure it out in spite of the instructions. it was miserable cuz it got me yelled at a lot for not getting it right, and he didn't like me veering away from doing it a specific way even if it was more comfortable for me.
as I got older I learned to ask him for details. and he still wouldn't explain it in more details, he'd just repeat the same instructions but in a different way. :/
Exactly! Even today I barely know how to organize my room
Comment and all these replies are relatable af. I’m thankful for people who actually care and who want to help people learn
With all the products I've bought, my house still doesn't clean itself, damn it.
That's the problem I have!!
Stoopid ungrateful house! *fake spits at it*
I need a Mr. Handy like in Fallout.
@@pixie3760 Can I be your friend?? I have all the things you need
Honestly I've had my eye on an automatic sweeper/mop for a while that is fully automated. Just need to find something that can put all the stuff away 😂
"I'm going to show you how to clean."
*Proceeds to aggressively throw multiple bottles on kitchen floor.*
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I got scared when that happened cus I was washing my dishes, I thought he forgot to edit that out so I had to rewind 😂
I love all these „Internet Mom“ and „Internet Dad“ type of videos, that just explain and teach useful everyday stuff, because there are just SO many people who do not have those in reallife.
Thanks for your work, be assured that this means a lot to many people! 🥰
A lot of people just expect this stuff to come naturally
Really appreciate seeing a normal house being cleaned, not a model show home that looks unlived in.
As a buddy of mine said when I told him that the house wasn't super clean because we'd been busy with something, "I'm asking to come over and see you, not your place. That's fine."
@@RandomPerson-nd2ey real homies don't judge✊️
"My wife has ADHD so we're going to leave her piles here, but I've made them organised & symmetrical" now that's a beautiful marital compromise if ever I saw one
Houses like that still look like mansions compared to our houses here in the Philippines
@@johnnye87This is how I clean for cluttered people. They love it.
I feel like I was raised by the internet, I learn the most basic stuff here, while my mom just humiliated me for not learning how to do it by aging.
"You're X years old, you have to know this!" :rolling_on_the_floor_laughing:
Thisssss
Your mom was probably repeating what was done to her too. Parenting doesn't come with a handbook, and most of us made countless regrettable mistakes trying our best to raise those we love the most. 💞
Yep. Was never made to cook, or clean, or anything, and then they got mad at me for.. y'know... not being able to cook, or clean, or anything. Parents can be loving but neglectful. It's still abuse, albeit a bit more unintentional.
Yep. I wasn't allowed to help with cleaning as a kid, because "there will be time enough when you are older" and when I was older she was shocked I didn't know how to clean anything. The internet has been a blessing teaching me all the little things my parents didn't.
My Mum didn't teach me to clean because she is a perfectionist and did it all herself. I learnt how to clean at my part time job. I worked at a fast food restaurant and learned how to clean a kitchen, dining room and bathrooms. I swept, mopped and washed dishes. I learnt safe food handling. I'm grateful for that experience.
This! My mom did literally everything for me. Didn’t let me do a single thing. Now I don’t know how to do stuff myself and they are a big headache of stress for me. If I point it was their own fault, you know what happens.
So I asked them to let me live alone for a while when I’ll be going for college. Just so I could be away from them and finally do things myself. And they are second thinking that because I don’t know how to do anything. These people never learn.
working in food is the best way because you encounter some horrific cleaning jobs. it toughens you.
Same actually. My first job at 16 at a fast food place taught me so many things that I still value today.
This is where many people learn the first things about cleaning! Being a lead in this business is really rewarding to me for being able to help kids and young adults with things that will serve them throughout their lives.
Wow this comment is weirdly 100% me. A perfect explanation of my own situation. You don't know me, but you get me. Take care, stranger.
Something that helped me was when I realized that decluttering, organizing, and cleaning are three different processes. When deciding on which one to do, I gave myself permission to not worry about the other two (for the time being). For example, if the kitchen really needs to be cleaned, then I just focus on cleaning (wiping out the stove, fridge, and sink, sanitizing surfaces, mopping the floor) and not worry about organizing (should the blender be stored in this cabinet or a different one?) or decluttering (I don't need three dozen dish rags; which ones should I toss?). Narrowing your focus like this can help minimize overwhelm, reduce indecision, and ultimately help you get done faster.
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Thanks for the video. We got this, friends.
Wow! Lightbulb moment! I often get overwhelmed because I feel like I have to get all three done at once. Thank you for this tip!
That's a great comment! I tend to be a "whole picture" person and would get so overwhelmed, l couldn't even manage to begin. It's really distressing and made me hate myself for years. Luckily l'm finally realising what was happening and have begun to find strategies, yours is another one to add. 😊
Yes and no. Oftentimes things can be brought into a logical order that makes each subsequent step easier. For instance: Declutter first. Things you don't need any more should be thrown out before you waste time on cleaning them. Once you got rid of the junk, tidy up. Cleaning surfaces is much easier when you don't have to move stuff around all the time. Once the place is in order, wiping down surfaces is hardly an effort any more.
Personally I find I have much less struggle motivating myself to clean when cleaning is actually easy. Which is why I have almost no stuff sitting on my kitchen tops.
This wonderful Comment was obviously written for people who don't already have things all together and who dont have the time or the executive function to "do them in the right order". When the kitchen needs cleaning, it needs to be clean. No amount of decluttering is going to make the dishes and surfaces any cleaner if I get sidetracked; I'd just have fewer dirty dishes in front of me and stuff will get moved around, but it'll still be dirty.
Times I've tried to go in a "logical order" i.e. Put away dishes first, then wash dishes and put them in the rack, etc. ended up with me frustrated while trying to put away the dishes "the right way", trying to find the best place so I won't lose it, and other organizational blunders, until I give up and the dishes don't even get washed at all. and since I gave up on the dishes I'm too frustrated to get to the stove or the floor, so the whole project feels like a wash, ... see what I did there? Sometimes I just let myself ONLY put the dishes away and not feel guilty about washing more. Also Life Happens. My sink is acting slow, so I can't wash how I want. So, some pans are still on the stove. When I want to cook, I clean the part of the stove I' use and can get to. The clutter is not to get "rid" of my pots, it's that I can't clean them all at once and also put them away. So why try? If I can do one pot now. and one pot later after the sink drains, that works too. waiting until everything is decluttered and tidy in order to clean will be a happy time for bugs, mold, and grime. It's okay to clean imperfectly between the clutter if it gets you closer to what you want and need to do. or as that FlyLady said "A done something is better than a perfect nothing." I need to keep reminding myself of that when I feel overwhelmed by life
@@nikiTricoteuseme too! Also, I just read a comment in one of his videos that if you do something "half-a••", you'll have it half-done!
I love videos that show people how to be adults without being condescending. Straightforward and educational.
Yes. Your kindness does so much good. As an adult I have discovered that there are a lot of things I "missed the memo on" your videos often bring me to tears with your kindness and compassion. Thank you. I hope you get your play button soon, you deserve it.
Dad/Mom, How Do I? Are great channels for this too
My dad slipped an index card full of chores, under our doors, every Saturday. There were five of us, my dad, an elementary school principal, knew how to keep children busy. We hated it, couldn’t go anywhere or watch tv until our chore list was done. He itemized each chore with 1.) Clean sliding glass doors a.) Clean bottom after vacuuming dust out, b.) clean glass inside and out side. Each chore was explained in detail. I realize not everyone had a dad like mine, it definitely taught me how to clean. Love your channel.
I'm going to try this on my children.
@@taraquosame! Sounds great 😊
I was the only child of my single mom mom. I swear to god... Cleaning, cooking... We were a team of 2... It was what it was. To this day I hate any dust gathering rug sitting for nothing 😂😂😂😂
Our mom made each of us a list of chores with instructions every Saturday morning! Funny how that was such a drag as kids but is now a sweet memory. I’d give anything to have a list of chores from her now, miss her every single day. 😢
I had a single bio-mother, twin and half brother... After starting 4th grade, it became apparent that I was better at making sure my chores were done, done right, and done the first time around... so I became the maid. And because of that, "allowances" stopped for all 3 of us.
I hate doing dishes and folding clean laundry. Everything else goes fine... but I'm also disabled now, so being able to clean our whole apartment in one go. My partner works insane, unpredictable and random hours, so relying on her to be not completely exhausted by the time she gets home is like relying on a single nail in the wall to hold the 44" TV...
I know how to clean and organize better than my twin and half-brother, and essentially everyone in my friend group- and the only one who gets close (my partner) is mostly because of her job.
Surprisingly, a man explaining each step of cleaning was way more motivating than being yelled at haha thank you ❤
Weird huh!? 😅 😢
I like the fact that you have a regular looking house on the inside where people live. Majority of the cleaning vlogs look like people live in a showroom.
When my son finished his A levels and had a four month break before he went to university, I taught him how to wash and dry clothes. How to cook the meals he enjoys. How to clean. What products to buy. How to shop. I’d been teaching him how to budget since he was five and started getting pocket money. He’s now been at university 2 years almost, and often helps his friends out. The first weeks they didn’t even know how to use a washing machine. They didn’t realise you need to change bed sheets and wash them!😮. They couldn’t cook. He said it was actually quite shocking. So you can understand how some kids who’ve been brought up in certain situations don’t know how to manage. People blame them, but they haven’t been given the skills in life❤️
Aren't A levels taken at like 16 or 17 years old? It's awesome you taught him, but my mom had us learning those chores from age 7 or 8, with increasing skill and complexity so we could help and she didn't have to do it all herself! (Or with dad's help, because dad did clean) Whatever happened to childhood chores?
@@jenniferpearce1052 Divorced parents and working moms with ADHD and pretty unsupervised kids. I wasn't sh0own all the chores I was expected to do and then got in trouble for not completing them. I was ADHD and head strong and got by because my babysitter brought boys over, so I blackmailed her to do my chores to keep my mouth shut. I did gain some skills when I spent weekends and weeks during the summer with him, as he did show us and did not made sure we got it. It did not even care about clean after awhile. When I started caring I had an autistic legally blind daughter, who spent her first 10 days in NICU, had heart surgery at 6 weeks and had other anomalies at birth. At 29, I started learning to clean, care and do whatever it takes to raise my awesome daughter. I am still not very good at cleaning, but these videos are really helping me and inspiring me to be better, so I can help my daughter do better. She is now 32 and living independently in a special needs apartment complex with 2 roommates and caregiver support once a week, plus me until we can get more help or do better. I am 60 and still learning to keep my house, yet trying to teach my daughter too... talk about the blind leading the blind, but we manage even if e don't excel. I cannot tell you how happy I am that I found this awesome CZcams channel, as it is really helping us improve in both of our homes!
It seems I referred to my Dad as him. I think if I could have been raised by my dad, I would be a completely different person today. They did not do that is the late 60'sw, though
@@jenniferpearce1052 EXACTLY what I was thinking. Geeeez!
you were excellent parents!!
The "I SAID GET-EM OUTTA HERE" as if he's upset they didn't magically disappear made me fucking die laughing. Great video dude.
though it is funny he had to grab a couple of them back up cuz he actually used some :p
The attitude is great.
I got a panic attack cause it reminded me of my abusive parents and ex husband. 😔
That caught me off guard I was like “wtf”
@@makiisbro1129 same. i debated to not watch the video after
It’s so refreshing to see a how to video that’s not like “Oh my god you guys I have found the top five “secret” products that you NEED to have to keep your home clean!” He gave so many different options and kept acknowledging that there are those who can’t afford certain products and there’s still options and techniques that can help them keep their homes clean. I wish we had more content like this that pushes “here are some tips, do what works for you” instead of the constant “these specific products are the only thing that will fix your problems, link in bio” marketing that we see all the time. Such an awesome video 😌
one of my biggest goals when im a father in the future is to actually take the time to thoroughly explain how to do things. pretty crappy being yelled at for not doing something right when nobody bothers even attempting to teach you.
I'm actually gratified to hear a 6'4" tall dude say that scrubbing bathtubs takes a lot of effort, and he hates it. I'm a nearly 60 year old woman built like a garden rake and scrubbing the bathtub has been the bane of my existence. Until I realized that I could use a scraper, I avoided it like the plague, and the tub always ended up looking awful. It was only when I realized I could scrape it (mine has a smooth surface) that I realized my bathroom could look nice, and it motivated me to clean it every month, top to bottom. I'll give barkeeper's friend a shot, too.
You're absolutely right that cleaning isn't intuitive AT ALL. My mom's mom died just as my parents got married, so my mom never had the chance to lean on her mom's knowledge when she got her own home and family to maintain. It wasn't until I discovered Aurikaterina and you that I really got a full-on grip on how to get things clean, and it's a hell of a mood lifter to be in a clean home. After getting the entire bathroom sparkling, I even just like walking in there and looking at it. My mind and mood sees it as being in control of my environment rather than at the mercy of it.
Your last sentence sums it up perfectly! Thank you, I’m borrowing it for my new mantra!
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Finding Aurikateriina changed my life too. She was the gateway to my love of cleaning CZcams channels, including this one
oh I wish teaching kids to clean was all that was needed my Autistic son whose in his mid twenties to date does not matter how many times I stand with him and explain what is the process is, left to himself does not do even the basics.
If i say for example have youncleaned your room as asked reply yes. If I go up and look he may have for example picked up his dirty laundry and brought it down for the laundry fairy to process, or maybe he vaccummed the carpet. He will not have picked up the thrash (not much but some) he will not have wiped the sheleves over even if he split a drink on them.
He also knows if mum is out and he is home on his laptop when she returns she gets annoyed if the sink is filled with dishes especially if the dish washer is empty and yet any day I go out when I come home dishes in the sink. Does not matter how often I say to him please do not do this. In one ear out the other side.
I hate the tub cleaning too. I just tried a Chinese spin brush I charged it and voila where have you been all my life. I wish I would take more showers and use the spin brush more. Apparently I'm not evolving but there is a glimmer of hope now.
I adore how genuinely unbothered your animals are by the vacuum. Your dog just gets up and moves to a different room, and your cat just watches.
I struggle with my vacuum more than my cats do. They side eye it and one of them stalks it, but unless I'm using the small handheld one, I have earplugs in and can only do small areas at a time because the noise bothers me.
@@hattiecattieacoustic?
You can tell he actually uses his. Unlike me and my animals. 😅
@@StonedSammieSue I can't tell if you meant acoustic, or autocorrect got you and you meant autistic. Both of those fit except acoustic doesn't make sense as a question lol
@hunszaszist its a joke where people use Acoustic to refer to Autism
The premise of this video is so sad. When I lived in Oregon I ended up taking in this girl because she was homeless with an infant and had come from two generations of homeless parents, and about three months in she came home crying because she had bought dish soap and windex and she had never bought cleaning stuff before in her entire life. She was I think 25 at the time. Really eye opening.
I know the feeling. I had never spent my own money on household supplies until the other day and I am 34 (bleach cleaner, garbage bags, TP, laundry soap, etc.). Once I quit using drugs/alcohol, I could actually afford it. I realize now it's all part of maturing into an adult.
@@13donstalosSimilar story. But I'm on the spectrum. My problem isn't drugs/alcohol. It's depression/mental illness. In all honesty, I never figured it would be a problem. Didn't think I'd still be here.
I grew up a slob. My mom and bros were slobs. My dad complained incessantly of the lack of cleanliness. It was the chief cause of strife between he and my mom in my younger years. When I married, I continued my slovenly ways. Then I joined a Bible study group that met at a different lady’s house the first Wednesday of each month and I was amazed at how clean and beautiful their homes were. at that point, I realized that they knew something I simply didn’t. They knew how to manage and clean their homes. So I went to the library and got an arm load of books about household management and cleaning. I’m happy to say when I got older, I was able to teach my children how to clean house. But it definitely did not come naturally, and it definitely took effort to learn. But it was also fun learning to master something that, up to that point, had been a complete mystery to me.
I remember having to explain to a friend of mine who couldn’t understand how a person’s house could get so messy. I pointed out she learned from her mom, but not all mom’s know how to clean and maintain a household. And some people were taught to clean but told so often “if you can’t do something right don’t do it at all” which when they’re older with their own place they think “Well, I don’t have time to mop the proper way so I can’t mop” even though there are countless methods and most of them are good enough! Also some people were raised with chores as punishment, so as they got older they think “why do I have to do the dishes? I’ve been good!” I had to make a drastic shift in my mind set before I could even begin to get a handle on cleaning regularly. Flylady helped, not so much her method but her mindset. Cleaning is blessing your home, it’s blessing your family. Sorry, I took the long rambling way to say what you’re doing is fantastic and your wife is 100% right, cleaning is not always intuitive. It’s something you learn.
I like FlyLady too. I learned to clean from her. Picking it up again to teach my kid, and get me out of the mess my back got us into.
Love FlyLady! “You can do anything for fifteen minutes” and “It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just have to get done” were a game changer for me, as were her routines.
I'm in the boat of having chores as punishment, not really ever been shown how to clean anything, and having ADHD. I've been watching this channel for awhile now and it's the only one I contribute monetarily to because I have found it lifechanging. I've cried more than once after watching a video. I struggle so much with cleaning and this channel helps me feel like I'm not a failure.
This is so true! Another example is when your room got messy when a kid and your mom cleaned it for you while you were away and then got the feeling of guilt and shame and the pressure in comments like now keep it clean! As my mental health is declining clean home gives me tremendous anxiety so as soon as I clean up, I feel awful and start to hoard everything back.
Yup, exactly this. I grew up with a combination of cleaning being a punishment and developing depression right when I'd really start to shape those habits.
So now I'm here at 23, I want a clean organized space but it feels so hard to maintain. So now I'm also reshaping how I think about things.
Dishes have gotten a lot better, I actually somewhat enjoy it if I have music going. The othere stuff, were still getting there
This video is so freaking wholesome. the lack of judgment, the empathic understanding and just clear intentions of wanting to help others just brings so much joy.
Right??? This sums up my impression just perfectly. what a genuine and friendly person he is. a real treasure.
Mack is the best! My favorite goofball full of kindness 💜
He’s my favorite teacher from CZcams helps me so much to understand ADHD /hoarders issues. My moms has these problems and it’s very difficult to help as I struggle with adhd and decisions too.
IT'S ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL.
Unconditional, IQ/EQ genuine love.
"Teach a Person HOW to Fish"
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I don’t know if you realize how important this video is and how your compassion and empathy has impacted so deeply on a subject normies see as simple and straightforward. Thank you.
Agreed!! Please do a basic cooking video; I have no clue I just put together basic stuff and can't follow a card recipe it takes me like an hour when the instructions say it should take five minutes. What am I doing wrong? I have a double oven, six gas burners and all the tools; knife set, measuring cups, nice cutting boards. I'm lost I just go for a protein shake and a protein bar and a chunk of cheese it's so exausting It's not fun
@@gigi9301 The best advice I have received in cooking is this: Pick _one dish_ you want to get good at.
Make it a bunch of times. Make it until you get comfortable with it. Make it until you can do it without the recipe. Then pick a second thing to get good at. Then pick a third. By the fourth meal you start regularly cooking, you'll realize that ingredient preparation is easier and cutting feels less awkward. You start getting a feel for how much of the two spices you've been working with is too much. Then start making a recipe with a new spice, and add that third one to the references you're building in your brain.
It's all about dipping your toes in a little at a time and building your knowledge and experience in chunks. Getting comfortable with _only one thing_ before moving on. Don't make everything in the book right away. Pick a meal you enjoy, get good at it, and then add more. And this also has the added benefit of appealing to picky eaters! You don't have to make everything. You only have to make the things _you_ like. As long as you're fed and happy, nothing else matters.
I hope this helps. :)
@@thetherrannative Very Much!! Thank you I'm not picky at all just don't like junk food . My mom was a single English Professor; always too busy working to teach/show me essential nice things. I know how to clean for sure; she had me scrubbing tile floors, the car, and bathrooms at eight years old... She knew how to cook Very Well, yet didn't have time or energy to show me; she would put out quite the spread for holidays/visitors, yet was too harried/busy to slow down and let me help. Thanks again. I'll try; I'm 57, although it's never to late to learn (I hope). Thanks!!
@@gigi9301 You know, neuroscientists and such did studies and disproved the myth that older people can't learn new things. Actually, learning new skills as you age is not only possible but very healthy for your brain! It's never too late.
@@thetherrannative Yes, thank you 1st of all for calling me older and well just thank you !! have a wonderful weekend!
I also love that the house looks like a lived in house. A lot of cleaning channels are cleaning already clean homes.
For those of us returning as we clean-
Timestamps:
1:36 Cleaning supplies
4:20 General surface cleaning
8:35 Toilet | Inside
9:31 Windows
11:58 Mirrors
13:07 Sinks
15:30 Bathtub & shower
19:30 Dusting
21:31 Vacuuming
26:03 Toilet continued | Outside
29:27 Dishes | Dealing with grease
31:05 Final thoughts
Thank you so much MMC!! This was so helpful!!
I appreciate you!
Underrated comment!
2:24 I SAID GET THEM OFF HERE!
Thank you
Thank you 🎉
I am an adult with autism, and growing up my sister and I had to do chores around the house. I always got in trouble because I wasn’t doing things “correctly” and my side of our bedroom was always messy. It wasn’t until I became an adult where I had a conversation with my mom and sister about it. I told them I don’t know how to clean my house. Every time I go to my sister’s house it’s immaculate, and I’m flabbergasted as to how. It’s a natural thing for her, so she was confused that I was confused. This was a longwinded comment to say this video was very helpful.
I identify exactly with this comment. Internet friend, thank you and you are not alone.
Also an adult wirh autism. My mother and older sisters akways get mad i don't know how to clean when they've never taught me once or left it to professionals. I need direct instructions, all their getting mad I never do it right makes me feel like never doing it.
do you and your sister learn differently? can you give an example of what would have helped? asking for my daughter - simple things are tough to explain to her (and make it stick) sometimes
@@MK-er7cx My sisters and mother were all raised with the expectations of doing household chores. Something that would have helped is Midwestern Magic Cleaning's thorough step by step explanations instead of just getting mad I can't do a thing they know, to their standard, without teaching me it ever.
ADHD is a comorbidity of autism too. Don't ask how I know.😅
It was extremely validating to hear someone who cleans professionally to admit they hate scrubbing bathtubs. On the weekend I was scrubbing the bathroom of the rental house we’d just moved out of. It clearly hadn’t been deep cleaned before we moved in, and eventually I just broke down in tears because I hate cleaning and I was mentally exhausted doing this on top of the move. I feel so much better knowing that even “clean people” find some of this stuff challenging.
Cleaning tubs is the worst. If you have a ceramic tub or some hard material they have power brushes on a stick that work well. Mine is plastic so that would scratch it up so I end up neglecting it, then hurting myself when I have to go HAM on the gross tub.
Just that thumbnail has me in tears. The number of times I got yelled at for being lazy when I was just so damn confused… looking forward to watching the rest of this
My parents got arrested and they need to serve time. They left me with a hell hole of a room with so much clothes(washed and unwashed), dirty plates, rotting garbages and rotten wood boards. The aunt who is kind of the home owner(It's a family house) was getting on my nerves so being there to clean their mess up had been a dreadful thought to me because all of my life my parents had gaslit me into believing that I was a lazy, filthy child when 1. they've never taught me how to clean, 2. They're the one making messes, 3. I have undiagnosed chronic illnesses they refused to get check since I was 12.
I always put your video on whenever I need to clean up the place even before they got arrested, but I've never need to do it as throughly as this time, so this video is a life-saver to me, it relieved me so much fear and anxiety. You may not ever saw my comment, but I would like to tell you how you basically helped me dig myself out of my misery since I was a teen who has no way of escaping that hell of a family by giving me the push to clean up after myself and making me realize that I can make it in this life, despite everything.
Good luck
I think the hope in your last sentence is a great place to be. “I can make it in this life, despite everything.” You have already proven that you can do hard things. I have no doubt that you will succeed and have a better life than what your past would predict. Keep on going! ❤
I’m heartbroken when I hear of people thrown into awful situations like this. I’m sorry your parents left you in such a situation, but it also sounds like you’ve been incredibly resilient. Keep it up, you’re awesome.
I'm so proud of you kiddo. I came from similar neglect/abuse and it takes a lot of courage to learn new ways when the adults who made you didn't bother to raise you. ❤
God bless you Jesus loves you! You will make it keep going! I hope now that you are more in control of your space it helps your illnesses have a good day!
Added context below. Additional reminder that some people don't build habits at all, ever (thanks, neurodivergence!), so having the _bare minimum_ explained in a gentle way like this is incredibly helpful.
Editing to add: This comment has gotten a lot of traction, so I'm going to attempt (once) to add a bit of the context I initially tried to leave out for sensitivity.
The technical definition for "habit" is "any regularly repeated behaviour that requires *_little or no thought_* and is learned rather than innate" [emphasis added]. Those of us who cannot form habits require conscious thought for every decision train. We use coping mechanisms, systems, frameworks, labels, triggers, reminders, and organization (to name just the few I use myself) _instead of_ "thoughtless" habits. We may be very good at operating within these frameworks and from the outside it _looks like_ we've got habits, but I can say from personal experience that each one is an analogue to something I was "supposed to" have learned as a child and "should be able to" do without thinking about it as a result. I'll list them if you want me to, but seriously, it's endless.
I deliberately used the broad term "neurodivergence" because the inability to form habits applies to so, so many diagnosed and undiagnosed brainspaces (including ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, and executive function disorder, just to name a few I'm familiar with).
I deliberately used the term "inability" because I'm _not_ referring to lack of motivation, lack of repetition, or lack of guidance - I, for example, am autistic and cannot for the life of me remember to brush my teeth _even though_ my parents 100% taught me how and repeated the action with me throughout my childhood. I'd love to have fewer cavities.
I hope this helps explain a few of the misconceptions I've seen in the conversation below. And as always - if you know, you already know. *_*hug*_*
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That's usually stating it a bit strong, but there definitely are people that are resistant to forming habits in the first place and get off track almost immediately and have to start over if interrupted.
anyone can build habits unless they are functionally retarded and you may be retarded but you are definitely not functionally retarded it just takes more work and more time for some people
@SmallSpoonBrigade I'm in this comment. xD I'm ADHD inattentive, and cleaning falls into the "I generally know how, but always forget to do it until it's not easy anymore and gets overwhelming" category for me specifically because I have such a hard time building habits. The ones I have built have either been because they immediately impact my life, like knowing where my glasses are in the morning, or after multiple really bad experiences, like remembering my keys BEFORE I leave the house.
@@Xanthelei There's a reason why I said usually. In some ways I think the OCD and ASD tend to balance out my ADHD a bit in that regard. I prefer to have a set of keys and everything else that I take with me everyday either in my pants pockets or in a bag I take with me everywhere. It makes that a lot easier. And a check list of what goes in it can help do a quick check from time to time. In practice, I rarely need to check the bag.
I also grew up in a cluttered, dirty house. I clean a lot now but still have some clutter. When I was teaching my step kids how to clean, I taught them to start from high and then finish low. For anyone who hasn’t heard this before, you want to high dust and then work your way down so you don’t get cleaners, dust, or crumbs on a surface you just cleaned. In a bathroom for instance I would dust the light fixture, then spray and wipe the mirror, then do the sink and counter, then wipe the cabinets, the toilet, and finally the floor. I also taught them to try to put dishes into the dishwasher and tidy up while we cook together so the dishes don’t pile up and feel overwhelming. Thanks for making this video!
As someone who is self-taught for probably more things than I should be, the opening of this video gave me an incredibly enlightening realization: how many things am I doing incorrectly / wastefully simply because I was never taught (or was taught by someone who was also never taught).
Wow. Talk about a BIG lightbulb moment.
Thank you! 🙏🏽
To be honest the fact that you also leave some messes and explain that "it's my house, I can be lazy sometimes" really comforts me, you don't leave on a pristine spotless mansion, you live in a house with stuff in the middle you need to move to another spot to clean a space.
Really loved this video, really helped
Reassurance tip: the first time you clean properly around the outside of the toilet, you will be horrified at how cruddy it is. But, it will never be that bad again, because you will (hopefully) get into the habit of doing it regularly, and then it will be just be a "swoosh" clean every time. So much easier after it's done right once!
Some random guy at a party my roommate and I had in college said to me, I think that's the cleanest toilet I've ever peed in. I thought what a weird thing to say. Now that I'm older and seen how most toilets look I get it. I can't let my toilet get like that. Lol (no judgement, I just have a need to keep mine super clean)😊
I'll be honest: Once I understood what a poor job of cleaning I'd been doing since I didn't know better, I hired a professional to come in and deep clean some things. The toilet and tub were at the top of my list because I knew they'd be difficult to get to a clean state. I know that's not an option for everyone but it was money well spent. It was a lot easier to then clean properly once I had a "clean" slate to start.
My dad taught my brother and me how to clean the bathroom when we were first assigned it as a chore. He told my brother that no matter who had the toilet cleaning duty (we alternated) that it was HIS job to wipe of any splatter from the floor or wall because I wasn't responsible for peeing outside the toilet! Thanks, Dad! And I'm sure my sister in law thanks you too.
I just do enjoy seeing manly man do household cleaning. Honestly I've never seem such a thing...so satisfying.
But like, what's regularly? How many times is that
It always gives me a little bit of hope for humanity when I randomly come across videos like this on CZcams. You saw a problem that isn’t immediately obvious and decided you were going to do something to fix it.
Additional tip for the toilet cleaning step. When you flush after doing everything else, hold the flush for a few extra seconds. This ensures that any sediment buildup actually goes down the pipe instead of sitting in the bottom of your toilet.
Do I know how to clean? Yes. I have a blackbelt in cleaning and organization. Did I watch this whole video? Of course I did. Thank you for doing this. So many people don't know how to clean. I remember working a job and I cleaned and organized and my boss was stunned because they could never figure out how to do it. Someone showing you how (judgement free) is invaluable.
I'll sub if you teach ❤
I agree. Judgement free, it makes all the difference. No use in shaming anyone, we don’t know what we don’t know.
I know some of the basics but I was never properly taught because of some childhood issues so I just wanted to make sure I didn't miss anything important!
domestic work isn’t as valued as other types of work even tough it’s what keeps us healthy.
I love seeing other people’s methods, tips, and tricks! Sometimes we learn a new/better/different way to do things even if we’ve already been doing it.
You're the first person I've ever seen make a "cleaning for dummies" video. Thank you ❤
Well said heather 👍👍
I know huh?!! Embarrassing to admit, I am old ....I was never taught anything! You were very matter of fact... Not demeaning.
Hmm, not quite. There are PLENTY of ‘how to clean xyz quickly and easily’ videos available. Mac brings a fresh and fun perspective to doing house cleaning, that is a pleasure to watch. :)
@@annwilliams6438 they said “the first person I’VE seen” not “the only person to ever do it”..
Probably because there's more than one way to clean.
The respect and acceptance of his wife’s ADHD ❤️. I have it too so I can say that’s huge.
I'm a 38 year old homemaker and I still learned a couple things.
My mom was a spotless cleaner and housekeeper, but absolutely refused to give up control of anything in the house, so made a point not to teach me anything.
I moved out and got married young and we just spent a decade slowly figuring out what we could, but it was a way more painful process than it needed to be.
I call bs. Furris don't do cleaning.
I'm autistic so often "common sense" isn't common or sensical to me. People expect me to just know things, and this video helped a lot with me figuring out what the proper way is to clean something because I just do not learn in the same way a lot of people do. Having someone patiently explain it helps A LOT.
I wish I could just have someone explain everything to me in life because I’m not joking when I say I genuinely don’t understand a lot of things without help.
it's terrible how there's so many people who could thrive in society but don't simply because when growing up, their parents weren't patient or understanding, whether it be with explaining chores, self hygiene or homework.
That's not what autism is.
@davidrobinson7260 I think I'd know being that I have it? I'm speaking about my personal experience, not every autistic person in existence.
@@davidrobinson7260 ~ The arbiter of autism and who has it
Do you know I actually cried watching this??? I'm showing it to my teenage sons to help them out. I was raised by a perfectionist that never taught me anything because I wouldn't do it right. Thank you so much for sharing this video. We all have ADD or OCD in our family. I'm 50 yo now and still learning.
This is beautiful. You are an awesome mom. 👍💕
PS make sure to wipe off the flush handle on the toilet.
Yes.. What a good Man to show ppl, especially young ppl who may have never learned how to clean!
The perfectionist in me wants him to show how to air dry the toilet brush. But I'll bite my tongue haha.
My mom was also a perfectionist and she didn’t teach me how to clean either. It was hard for me when I had my own home.
Really appreciate when an actual person does actual cleaning in a real lived space
Yes, my table has a trays of random stuff, and there is a flipflop on the corner and a coat hanged on a chair. Lived space! Not everything is clean nor tidy, and doesn't have to be. What has to be is MANAGABLE, and that's enough.
Thank you, internet person, for showing actual tactics for keeping a nice clean home. Not a spotless recording studio, but an ACTUAL HOME
I'm a recovering(?) hoarder and I really appreciate this video, Ive never asked for help because I always felt stupid for not just knowing such basic skills
I come from an abusive home. One of the abuser tactics my dad used was demanding that my mother "relax and let the kids deal with it." Whenever she started to clean the house and then call my sisters and I lazy and incompetent when we did clean and he was extremely over critical so it felt like everything we did was wrong until we just gave up and began to feel like it was not worth it to even try.
We lived in disorder, chaos and clutter. We got food poisoning a lot because he wouldn't let our mother put food away in time but then insisted we eat it so it won't go to waste.
It was only when I was in my midtwenties did I start to feel like I was developing mediocre cleaning skills. I'm now in my 30's and I'm finally in a place where I do the dishes regularly. I honestly don't feel like this would have been possible had I not met my husband. He's so kind and gentle and he helped me make a home where we feel safe and loved. I don't feel stressed. Part of my cleaning journey was definitely deeply ingrained in the healing and recovery process.
It's sad hearing what you went through. But great that you are now in a good place. Breaking the chain of bad parenting.
Mine wasn't as bad, and it took me until my forties to even grasp that "abusive" might apply (as I do love my parents, they do love me, and the issues seem minor in comparison to so many people's), but I did have my dad constantly criticizing my cleaning attempts -- in ways that I only in the past five years have determined are related to my ADHD. I was always not cleaning in a timely manner, or cleaning the wrong location, or cleaning the wrong sublocation, or getting distracted and not completing the job, or cleaning it inadequately, and every time he would be like "why didn't you do it over here and this way" until I learned that it was easier to not do it at all in the first place, since I'd get criticized either way.
Digging yourself out of that sort of hole is tough. I've got a long way to go, but at least I understand better the roots of some of my issues. I'm glad you've found the resources and support you need to progress to a better stage of life.
Im glad to see how far you come and that you have support. I had a rough time as well growing up and had a similar situation and thoughts when I seen this video.
We had electrical, plumbing issues, no ac or heat, so much junk, and we were broke. Im not sure but i think my parents spent their money on the wrong things. I remember wanting to clean so bad too; my room was good but we never had stuff like garbage bags, towels, clean wash cloths . I'm glad I've come to learn most this video in my 20s like you did. I still feel like there's other basic stuff that I don't even realize I'm still doing wrong tho.
Do you have my dad???? Also I’m glad your out of that and healing, I can’t leave yet.
My dad made everyone clean. I knew how to do the dishes when i was like 7. He was an asshole.
As kids in the 70’s I know my cousin and I were shipped off to our grandparents for the summer. We were taught how to do all this stuff. I had my own cleaning business as a kid because of it.
My elderly neighbors used to hire me out, clean houses, yards, wash cars, walk dogs, etc.
I still do it today. What puzzles me, WHY was HOME EC cancelled in schools? EVERYBODY NEEDS TO LEARN THE BASICS!
I would actually teach my younger friends cooking, cleaning, sewing, clothing and beauty. Give the younger ones a chance! They’re eager to learn, then TEACH!
After showing this amazing duo how to make tacos at hime, I came home to find CLASS for 15-20 young girls from their church ALL LEARNING HOW TO MAKE TACOS! They were laughing and eating, having a ball!
I seriously have never been so proud in my life. They had it DOWN!
I am so thankful for Home Ec. I learned so much, and I still know all the different sewing stitches, cooking, baking. it was my favorite class ever. I ended up becoming a full-time homemaker. I homeschooled my kids and taught my kids all that I learned. Anything else they don't know, they have learned on their own. Home Ec. is so necessary to learn for life's basic survival. I'm so glad that there are channels like yours that teach cleaning. I love to watch them and pick up any tips that would make cleaning easier.
Canceling home ec made it easier to sell things to most people and manipulate others
No room in the school budget for anything other than required core classes. Even the teachers don't get paid enough to live indoors-- I had one teacher who lived in her car and slept in the classroom.
It’s a sad thing that home ec is no longer a thing. It absolutely should be as well as a course in managing your finances, how credit works, etc.
Education budgets suffer because America prioritizes subsidizing unhealthy food over all other expenses. Meatonomics will teach you all about it.
That alcohol and dish soap cleaning solution you show in this is A++. I was able to clean things that I could never get clean before. Thank you so much!
This is why I have taught my children from the time they could pic up a rag to clean and have family contributions!
Thank you for doing this! It’s so needed!!
When I worked as a nurse going to people's homes, I had one lady who complained about her vacuum cleaner not picking up. (Some people thought we were there to fix a variety of problems, not just health-related) I told her I'd take a look and when I did the canister was so full that it could not contain another speck of dirt. I showed her how to empty it and told her to empty it regularly. Enjoyed your video tonight.
I was a home health physical therapist assistant. Fixing things was part of the job!!
I helped an older lady I lived next too. Everyday I noticed her floors were dirty even after I'd just cleaned them the day before til I noticed her son coming in with his shoes on. Had to tell him he might as well take a load of dog shit and other crap and rub it into the carpets then pointed to the porch where everyone else had put their shoes.
I've never seen the penny drop so slowly in a 50 year old man. Then he started kicking the skirting boards to clean mud off his boots in the porch so I pointed to the massive rug and boot scraper outside and said you're supposed to do that out there I was at the point of thinking he must just hate his mother.
But still gave him the benefit and held my tongue. Until the day I cleaned out her bathroom and had it spotless, it didn't have running water so I left a bucket of water so you could fill up the tank after flushing because I'd already filled it. He took a shit in the bathroom and just left it.
So I told his mother and she told the rest of the family about all of it, including the time I caught him wiping snot somewhere. He's been on his best behaviour since, lets hope it stays that way.
"The dryer isn't working"
Have you checked the lint trap?
"The what?"
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@@valeriaswanne Or the water container for non-plumbed in dries is also a classic.
So comforting. No screaming, no shaming, just a man parenting all of us who were never taught but still shamed to hell and back. Only in my 20's did I realize that I only ever tried to figure it out on my own, but never actually knew how. My dad would scream and shout, but he wasn't that clean at all either. For the last few years, I've just been realizing all the stuff that I never even knew needed cleaning. I never saw it, I never looked at it, yet one day I'm like: shit, this can probably be cleaned, somehow. 🤦♀️
God the parent screaming and shouting and shaming is my mother to a t. Shes a borderline horder and “cleans” the dishes by still leaving all the shit on it
I got the yelling about cleaning my room. And I got my stuff taken away. But I was never taught how they expected me to clean my room. I thought it was clean. I had a farm toy set with LOTS of pieces that I played with every day. I left it out on the floor. Because I used it every day. I didn't want to put away the 100+ pieces every day just to get it out again the next. But apparently, that was wrong, in my parents eyes. I still do this. If it's something I use every day, I keep it out if it's something that takes forever to set back up (tools, hobby supplies for a project in progress, etc.). I'll put everything away when I'm done. If I put everything away every single day, nothing will ever get completed.
@@tricitymorte1 That's exactly how I work too. It just feels more intuitive to keep the things I will need for whatever I'm doing out until I'm done rather than to pick them up and put them away each and every day.
Like you said; If I put everything away every single day, nothing will ever get completed.
He did yell at the products in the beginning. 😂 "Get off!"
@@tricitymorte1 yelling and taking away a child's toy that they left in their room and doesn't bother anyone is so sad. Especially when it's not about hygiene, but just appearances :(
You taught me more in 20 minutes than my family taught me in 20 years. Step by step instructions like this are very helpful for people with executive dysfunction, so thank you. My house will be the cleanest it's ever been
No matter the experience level, EVERYONE should watch this video as s reminder to keep cleaning simple. THANK YOU for taking the time to do this.
It's very brave of you to show your home as it is and not bother prettyifying it just because it's on camera. You're showing us your real lived in home and demonstrating how cleaning works with your own stuff. This is very real and we see it and appreciate it.
You know I was thinking the same thing. I really like their simple home.
how’s teddy doing?
This should be shown in the middle and high schools! The kids need this training!!!
Schools should teach kids how to clean early, like in Japan. When their school day is done, they begin cleaning their classroom.
Home Ec should honestly be brought back, the expectation that all kids are taught to cook and clean is so stupid.
This! My middle school kids could barely sweep a floor when I assigned classroom jobs 😑
@@chillfactory9000 I totally agree! I think showing kids how to rent an apartment or enter a contract/agreement should be taught as well. Maybe a lesson on interest with credit cards too.
Elementary school, maybe 5th grade honestly. Early middle school or upper elementary. Cleaning should be added to health class, which encompases sex ed and mental health. But bodily and mental health are definitely affected by your home environment!!!
Having a long handled scrubber for the tub was a game changer for if you can’t reach or you have back issues. It has helped immensely.
Not only did you just teach people who don’t know how to clean, clean but you also created a video for those of us who need to clean but can’t get motivated!! Ty !! I am favoriting this and coming back to each week to do it again “with you!! TY ❤
I started watching this video and thought, “Who doesn’t know how to clean a counter?” I started reading the comments and realize how many people DON’T know. I also didn’t know how many people have triggering memories attached to cleaning. I certainly do. I had a mother who let dishes, pots and pans pile high. There was trash in the sink and old food. Then, she would pick a fight and punish me by telling me I had to wash the dishes. I have always had some lower back pain so the hour and a half it took would hurt me. When I moved out, I washed dishes immediately so I would never be at the sink for an extended period of time or see nasty dishes in the sink. Thank you for this video.
Same. Now I need to send this to my hubby because I'm realizing that maybe he doesn't know how to clean....
@@53jrodriguez awwww!
They know. They just are the typical conforming to whatever video they watch. You have to be short bus certified to not understand these basic tasks. It's really embarrassing looking at these comments. "I was never taught how to clean!" Nah, you are just lazy. Then again, it's very possible these people need their hand held still across the street. See short bus for more information.
@@ItIsYouAreNotYour Everything about your comment, even your username, reeks of arrogance
@@panic.betrayer They're a low effort troll, just ignore. Likely doesn't do anything worth while IRL and is upset at others being supported so they lash out online. Not worth the effort.
I have ADHD and it feels very soothing to hear someone feel empathy for how an ADHD brain functions.
Before I started to figure out my personally preferred method of cleaning, I… just didn’t do it. There were piles everywhere, because I was fearing to forget to do something with the content of those piles, or would forget (more like… erasing it from my radar) where I put it if I stored it somewhere out of sight.
Yet, I found out that my brain loves simplicity. Especially when my surrounding is as less taxing on my senses. It relaxes me, and gives me the option to start a day without stress.
I still work with the pile system, which is why a neurotypical person would most likely not find anything in my room suitable for themselves - for example, I have a “pile” for very important documents I need in the near future; all dates and labeled, but not related to one another at all.
Cleaning is tough with ADHD.
There’s almost no chance to find good and well-meant resources of how to keep your house with this condition.
I needed to figure out what my brain actually liked the hardest way: by suffering from endless times of failure.
Wouldn’t have happened if I found you earlier.
You’re a TREASURE.
I've been a window cleaner for 3 and 1/2 years, the things I've seen, the things ive learned...the title is NOT hyperbole, most real shi I've seen all week (it's Tuesday but still)
That tidbit about twisting the top knob on the vacuum to instantly unspool the power cable just changed my whole life
Hahaa, noooo!
Hilarious, I find that you have to be careful to not get the cord tangled, though when you do that
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Was new to me too :)
Yeah my chord tangles up every time though
“It’s gonna smell like alcohol.. because it’s alcohol”.. lol 😆
I love how he addresses people’s sheepish freak outs.
It's the same reaction you might get with spraying vinegar and water. Vinegar dries on it's own and doesn't smell or you can wipe it down.
Love the simplicity of this. Few tools, clear instructions, a realistic looking house.
i got scared when he suddenly switched to "GET EM OFF HERE" XD
It would be cool if you had starter gift sets for sale with the empty spray bottle, gloves, bar keepers friend.... and an encouraging outline of simple steps (moose jokes included). These could be great graduation gifts.
Cute! Great idea
Also loving this idea! ❤
heck, id buy it for myself when moving to a new place!
The irony of finding this video on Mother's Day. My mother was a perfectionist who never taught me any of this. Because I could never do it right. Thanks for this.
I don't think you understand how amazing this is. For you to take the time and make a video like this. People need to be more compassionate towards others, because not everyone comes from a living and caring family. Not everyone is talk this essential life lessons, these lessons others call 'common sense'. I really hate when people say condescending things such as 'common sense' isn't common anymore', because sometimes people need the 'basic' things explained because it was never taught to them. And if it was, it was taught in a condescending and abusive way, to the point where you think your effort is pointless. How about you grow up in a family where everything you did was rediculed? Where you were told that everything you did was wrong, even though you tried your best. That kind of 'teaching' really leaves people depressed and feeling worthless. So thank you for not being a condescending jackass, and explaining and realizing that we didn't all grow up in healthy environments that allowed us to grow and learn in a healthy way
I didn't expect a video like this to make me feel emotional, but lo and behold..
I'm sitting here with teary eyes as I realize, not only was I not properly educated on these sort of responsibilities, but MANY others share similar sentiments in the comments.
- I feel validated about the state I'm at
- Proud of the steps I'm taking to change it
- And most of all?
SO relieved that I'm not even close to being alone....
..My sincerest "Thank You"s, to both Midwest Magic Cleaning AND those that've shared their stories in the comment section.
Thank you all.
as an autistic adult, THANK YOU. i need things step by step explained to me, and when i was suddenly thrust into living on my own i had NO CLUE how to clean, how to maintain a space on my own, and i floundered. this is exactly the video i needed, i’m saving it to watch back cause i know i will. i’ve felt so guilty and shameful about my space and how dirty it is but i havent known the first step to cleaning it, or how to properly clean in general. thank you so much.
I LOVE the fact that you kept your wife’s items in the same areas because of her ADHD. It drives me bonkers when things I have on counters at home get put upstairs or shoved in a bag because I now have absolutely no clue where specific things like letters or bills are, but I get blamed for having a mess or get told I should have cleaned up and they wouldn’t have had to clear the table when they got tired of MY things being there. It is literally just how our brain works.
i can relate to u, i dont have adhd but even if my table's a mess, i know where my stuffs are. and it really bothers me when someone cleans it and misplaces everything
Or, just pick up after yourself. I have severe ADHD. The only mess I have is in my room. It’s not difficult.
@@SnailHatan If you have ADHD then I’m sure you’re 100% aware that it affects everyone differently. Glad you don’t have issues cleaning. Congrats on that 🎉 My ADHD, however, clearly affects me differently. It’s really not that difficult to understand.
also have ADHD, this problem can also be solved by indeed picking up after yourself instead of leaving your stuff all over shared living space
It think I'd they want to clean actually communicating to you that they are moving the stuff because of soemrhhjbg rh2y need to do there would be nice
ADHD wife here. Thank you for respecting the piles. My husband moves them or destroys them and then it takes me at least an hour to remember what the pile was, what was in it, and what I was saving it for. Lots of tears.
My husband reorganizes when he is stressed out and "undoes" my systems which is incredibly stressful. I feel you. *Hugs*
If you don't remember what the pile was for, why even make it?
@@TillyJones11 I could respond with the why and the how my brain works, but suffice it to say the piles are a part of an activity or chore I'm trying to finish but couldn't for whatever reason. When that pile is removed or destroyed, I have to remember what I was trying to accomplish, what tools are required for the job, and how I was going to accomplish it. Steps that would make sense to you and take a minute make no sense to me and take hours.
@@TillyJones11 The pile serves as the reminder, as well as a pitstop for everything needed to accomplish the task it's reminding you of.
"Doom piles", I've heard. It's hard to understand if your brain doesn't work that way, but makes perfect sense if it does.
This is one of the most educating life lesson videos i've seen in awhile. They should teach this kinda stuff in highschool home economics classes for sure. Thanks for sharing!
I am 21 and have no clue what I'm doing and this has frankly saved my life. Thank you man
When he said,"you don't need all of these so we're going to get'em off... Get'Em OFF!" And he tossed all the unnecessary cleaners in the floor, is the moment I gave my like!😂
This is the most compassionate, comprehensive, and thoughtful instruction of essential cleaning I’ve ever seen. A preteen, teen, or adult would equally be able to watch this video and feel capable of cleaning a home to a level of reasonable sanitation. This is such a good skill building video!
This is great. No tearing people down, just showing them the way so they can better their lives. We need more positive, helpful content like this. 👍
I really appreciate this video. Not only because of the use useful information, but also the non-judgmental approach. It's true that not everyone is taught what standards for cleanliness should be, what needs cleaned, and how to clean.
“Get em off here…”😂😂😂 BYEEEE SUPPLIES. I started on my Mom’s other rooms and have used your APC formula like crazy and the grid method. Truly works like “Magic” . I even found a baby Moose hiding under some doom piles of I don’t even know what! He was so happy to get cleaned!😂😂😂 I named him Mambo the Moose (it has been a long cleaning week😂). Happy Friday all….here is to “no special cleaners”!
I've used the APC mixture so much since learning about it, I now buy isotropy alcohol in 5 litre bottles. So many uses and kinder on lungs than other products.
Where I live his name would be Mardi Gras Mambo.
What a cute name for your little baby moose!
@@Hopischwopi awe thanks… wouldn’t it be awesome to actually find things like that in a pile of filth!!!😂
Those pesky mooses
15:30 for people who have bad backs and knees, cleaning the tub with a standing pole scrubber instead of using a handheld sponge can make a world of difference.
Such a good tip! Thank you
You should also look up the broom method. I know handicapped and wheel bound people that swear by it.
It's pretty easy, but kind of unintuitive.
I never would have thought of that in a million years! Thanks for sharing
@@InherentGloryyes glad you said it. Was just about to mention the broom method. It is shockingly simple and effective…saves the back and knees
i use a dollar store broom strictly for the tub / shower. and tilex !! takes stains / mold stains out QUICK !!
spray it let it sit then rinse it off. add a dash of dawn dish soap and scrub shower walls / tub. Never again will I EVER bend down and clean😅😂
Being able to keep your home clean/tidy, personal hygiene, washing your clothes/bedding & how to budget for bills/food/life should all be taught at school. It needs to be a compulsory class for everyone.
It starts in the home, 1st & always. Schools have way to much control already, they just need to be used as an extension of what children have already been taught at home . Parents can not be lazy though.
@@vivianp5962 agreed, but not every parent was taught these things either
People would lose their fucking shit if public schools "wasted their time" teaching this "woke shit"
@@vivianp5962this is your brain on dipshit conservative propaganda
@@laysdong Being taught how to look after yourself isn’t ‘woke’ - not everyone gets taught it at home. Basic life skills are part of education, these are basic life skills. Education isn’t/shouldn’t just be about passing exams and going to university. It’s not woke to want to see change in an education system that doesn’t actually work for all of its pupils, it’s equality.
I've been searching for a video like this for weeks because I still feel like I have no idea *how* to clean, what is *actually* necessary, and all my searches have come up with useless tips&tricks videos, "hacks", or really in-depth deep clean instructions for certain rooms. Thank you for this video!
Other than how informative it is, my favorite part of this video is how the green goblin occasionally takes over your body before you immediately convert to a professional demeanor.
I remember my mom literally yelled at me for using more than 7 squares of toilet paper to clean myself and later yelled at me for "living like a slob" when I was a pre-teen. I watched her clean a 1600 sq ft. property wide-eyed and panting because she was in her 50s. It wasn't until semi-recently, and I am 32, that I realized she never actually taught me to maintain and nurture my living space. I'm not being angry or pointing fingers at my momma but just making a realization. Thank you for making this video.
My mom was a housewife as well, but she never taught me a thing. I occasionally ironed my clothes and did some cleaning for fun. I probably watched a movie showing cleaning. I learned how to clean the first year I was married (23 at the time). I only cooked for fun before then, so I had to learn practical meals. My husband had a job where he needed to be at work by 5 am, so I needed to send him off with a lunch and breakfast.
Honestly, I hate washing dishes. It's the chore I dislike the most because I do a sanitation soak like in the restaurants to avoid getting sick. Our dishwasher broke down last year, but we're definitely going to get another one if we see a good deal. Technology exists to help us if we let it.
It took me years to realize you didn't need to feel upset while cleaning. The maintenance is a chore, of course, but it can be made fun or enjoyable. You don't have to feel bad when you're doing a good thing - it doesn't make the cleaning any better.
@@IlonaJuhanson Put on Music or some other thing like a Podcast and you do not notice the Time go By.. Best is when you do it with another Person..
My mother was the eldest of 5 in the 1950's to a single mom who was autistic enough some kids were taken away for neglect. For my mother the topics of food and cleaning are emotionally charged to the point she drives herself, solely by her own actions, to hysterics. So I couldn't learn from example, and as a child became a keen observer of other peoples' domestic habits. Why I watch videos like this.
So what you're saying is that you spent years watching her do these cleaning tasks and never thought to copy her actions?
People are terrifying.
I love your videos so much. I’m 17 and have diagnosed OCD and a hoarding disorder. My house growing up has always been messy but at times it’s been GROSS and I was never taught how to clean. Living with OCD and a hoarding disorder is like a battle inside my own head and yet I’m the cleanest person in my own home despite the disfunction. Thank you so much for your videos. I absolutely love watching you clean and it’s such good motivation!!
I love what you said about hating to clean the bathtub and that you avoid showering so you don’t have to look at the dirty tub and feel bad that you didn’t clean it. So relatable because I do the same thing!!
My parents only taught me how to clean and organize after getting frustrated that I didn’t just magically know when they’d only tell me to go do a chore. Too often they (especially my dad) would get annoyed because I was “doing it wrong” or “not fast enough” and they’d just grab the cleaner/brush/etc. out of my hand and tell me to watch so I could learn how to do it right. Made me HATE cleaning and now I always hear their voices yelling at me anytime I see something dirty in my home or a cluttered space.
Seriously though-Thank you so much for making a video like this and not being judgmental in any way ❤ You’re doing the Lord’s work
Thank you for distinguishing that you don't need super expensive cleaners and can clean with a few simple things you probably already have lying around the house. That's really important to hear, especially considering most cleaning channels swear by a million products that not everyone can afford.
Hi Mac, I'm very lucky that my mum taught me all of this. The one thing I keep in mind is this "if it cleans for you, you must clean it" washing machines, dishwashers, vacuum cleaners etc., I'm watching from Scotland and I love your videos. xx
Hello fellow Scot!
This is so important!
I have to look up how to clean a washing machine. Embarrassed to say I never thought about cleaning mine
@@davinaz6885 This channel has shown that on another video where he used vinegar and the hot cycle and showed that it can be very easy if you do it that way 😊
@@davinaz6885 I actually just did this yesterday! I just ran an empty load on hot and used the built in bleach pouring funnel and did two full measures of bleach.
Ideally you shouldn't have to do anything too crazy to clean a washing machine, as long as it's functioning properly, but if you mostly run cold water loads it's a good idea to occasionally run a hot load with some sort of cleaner, because otherwise it can harbor mildew or mold.
I cannot express enough how encouraging it is to see a person showing this information in such a compassionate non-judgemental way. Also, seeing a home with things that actually *need* cleaning makes me feel connected as a human and not feel like I am failing at life. Thank you for sharing your home and your knowledge.
I am one of the people who desperately needed this. My partner does all of the cleaning now, because i just…genuinely dont know how and struggle to do it without breaking down. I want to learn, and this will help.
Emily is right. It's not always intuitive. Ive watched you clean just about everything, but the "showing and explaining " really does help. That Emily is a keeper. ❤
This is such a great video. You’re not gatekeeping valuable information behind a paywall of affiliate links and ridiculous, unnecessary, consumerism-minded products. You have such respect for human kind. Thanks for all you do!
I think it's great that you don't assume someone knows things, even if they seem simple, and you don't judge. You just go, "here's how you do it" and you thoroughly explain it. Great video.
I learned to clean by myself because I didn't have any teacher or example to follow, there are people like me out there..This is very helpful, I found out that even if you have an idea in how to do something, another person might have found another way to do it and we can make our own way better.
I watched the video with that purpose and I still learned a lot, I've never seen a vacuum cleaner in person in my life and only used all purpose cleaners...water and rags, I got many Ideas now, thanks man
I'm definitely not crying over someone explaining cleaning to me non-judgementally. Thank you ❤️
My mom has ADHD and my dad's autistic, so I grew up in a dirty house that we manically cleaned the morning of having people over every time. And every time, my parents would fight with each other and yell at us and tell us we were doing it wrong. I'd get handed a cleaning product and was expected to just know what to do with it. I'm autistic, so I did what made sense to me, which was, of course, not "correct".
Aww, baby, I hope you’re good now! My kids are grown and newly married. I’m looking at this and hoping I did a good job with them. Sometimes we fail, but I hope you felt loved because you wrote a great letter that I’m certain made this man feel much better. Stay strong and be happy on your own- you can do it! 😊
Wow this is my exact life. Except they’re both adhd and autistic. It kind of feels nice to know I’m not alone in this but im sorry you had/have to live through this too
Same but my dad has ADHD and my mom is autistic. I have ADHD, and my husband has both ADHD and autism, and we’re both learning how to keep a clean house.
He’s better at it than me because I either am blind to the clutter or it is so overwhelming that I can’t act. I find that cleaning by 1 metre squared section can be helpful when I get overwhelmed, but it’s honestly hard to remember to clean. I want to have a clean house though so I’m going to keep trying!
I grew up in a hoarded house. Level 4/5. I’m an adult and I absolutely have no idea how to maintain my house. I have a housekeeper that comes every 2 weeks and resets me. I feel for that girl.
I really respect that you recognize that you need a housekeeper and do your part to hire one! My dad was a craftsman and could fix anything and he never once disrespected his father-in-law who couldn’t repair a lightbulb if he needed to, because his father-in-law was man enough to admit it and hire out anything that needed to get done and nothing was put aside or procrastinated on and every thing was maintained meticulously. As long as you get the job taken care of one way or another is all that matters!
I'm a young adult that actually started a housecleaning business to pay for my college. I don't necessarily *enjoy* cleaning, but many of my clients are seniors who need some help, or folks who just can't keep up with it due to their life circumstances, and I love giving them a cleaner, happier home to live in! Some folks act as though not being able to clean the home is some kind of personal failing, but it's really really not. (Especially with the busy lives people live nowadays!) Anyway, I'm glad you found someone to help you and you see the value in it - because Im sure she appreciates that too!
I feel you and I do the same but in my case it is more because I am autistic and no one taught me this stuff
There's no shame in that. She is hired to do so and likely appreciates that you need the help.
@@sydneyl.4666 they are lucky to have you! I know they are grateful to you. ❤️
Love this! I'd also suggest explaining how to be careful about which cleaning materials (chemicals) NOT to mix! So important.
This makes so much sense! I never thought about how we learn how to clean from what we see others doing (I.e.: while growing up). Some people don’t have that! Thank you so much for doing this!!
I was a profesional cleaner, why am I watching this video i dont know but you are good for my mental health ❤
Well dang, you answered your own question, LOL.
I clean every day and come home and watch him lol 😂
I used to work as a cleaner too, but I am hopeless when it comes to cleaning my own house. No problem when it is someone else's clutter to deal with 😅
"This does take some effort, I hate doing it." Thanks sir, I'm still learning how to keep a house clean and sometimes it ain't easy 😊
For bathtubs, I highly recommend looking into a brush head drill attachment. They sell them at lowes or home depot, its easy to set up, and it finally got the nasty out of the popcorn bottom of the tub.
This may be slightly unrelated, but your video has really helped me feel less self critical for not being able to drive yet at 17 because I simply have not been taught and it is a skill, not an innate ability. Thank you for your video.
I didn’t learn until I was 21 and couldn’t carpool to work anymore. I paid for classes and slowly got over the anxiety. My instructor would bring lifesavers candy as a way to make me laugh when the panic started to kick in 😂
I didn't learn to drive til 23. I had a phobia and wasn't ready yet.
I was 21 and already had a kid before I got my license and a car. It’s ok, you’ll catch up. Don’t be hard on yourself
@@lillynevers7305 What an incredible instructor!! I’m saving up to take a driving class this summer and I can only hope my instructor is as considerate and understanding as yours. :)
@@ninaharper2294 Thank you so much for your reassurance! It’s so comforting to know that I’m not the only one who hasn’t gotten a license at the expected age. :))