How To Discipline A Teenager Who Doesn’t Care About Consequences
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- čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
- Disciplining your children definitely becomes more difficult as they grow older, especially when they hit their teen years. Get my advice on how to discipline a teenager who doesn't care about consequences by watching this video!
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Nicholeen Peck
Teaching Self-Government
Key Moments in this Episode
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00:00 Intro & Summary
01:21 What Troubled Teens Really Need
05:44 What Is Self-Government?
07:29 Important Tonal Elements In A Home
09:57 How To Teach Teens To Accept Consequences
12:09 How To Do Proper Corrections
13:59 Get The Calm Parenting Toolkit
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About Nicholeen Peck
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Despite your best efforts at raising children, is your family dysfunctional? Do your children set the rules and have control of your home instead of you? Are you looking for parenting skills that will help you create a united, happy family?
Then meet Nicholeen Peck, one of the world’s most effective parenting experts. Whether you want to fix child behavioral issues, create more unity in the home, or simply strengthen your family relationships, her proven system - Teaching Self-Government - can help you turn chaos into calm.
"People are starving for help to save their families," says Nicholeen.
Since 1999, her seminars, workshops, one-on-one training sessions, parenting videos and books have helped thousands of families worldwide regain peace, be happy and maintain unity in their home. The secret? Learning how to use effective family systems based on parenting that’s deliberate and pro-active (instead of reactive). It all starts with the principles of self-government. If you’re a family of faith, you’ll especially love how your faith and values can be woven into her parenting system.
In 2009, Nicholeen and her husband starred in the BBC reality TV show, “The World’s Strictest Parents” (watch here: bit.do/StrictestParents). She became an overnight sensation by turning around two out-of-control teenagers from England after just one week - without shouting, threats or manipulation. Her amazing success comes from the positive parenting techniques of using calmness, effective communication and principles of self-government.
Nicholeen Peck’s Accomplishments
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* Author of “Parenting: A House United,” “Popular Parenting Methods: Are They Really Working?,” “Roles: The Secret to Family, Business, and Social Success” and many other books and magazine articles.
* President of The Worldwide Organization for Women (WOW).
* Nicholeen regularly speaks at the United Nations and other congresses around the world as an advocate for strengthening families and motherhood.
* In 2009 her family was featured on the BBC reality show, “The World’s Strictest Parents.
* Trained as a foster parent for Utah Youth Village.
* Has parented many troubled foster children.
* Successfully raised (and raising) four children of her own.
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“Thank you for your insights and solutions. They have helped my family so much.”
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“My husband and I have started implementing some of your techniques, and our house has been so different!”
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“I feel that my children respect me more. I will be eternally grateful for what I have learned from Nicholeen Peck.”
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“If you want to forge the strongest family bonds possible, to repair damaged relationships, and redeem a child that seems completely lost, then this program IS for you.”
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So how do I do these things with someone who is also manipulating meaning she can go anywhere with anyone (but me) and does what she’s supposed to or act respectful but when it’s around me she actually hates me so she chooses to do everything but what I have set for rules mind you this is a sister who became my child
Yes, I feel like all we do is discipline . . . Consequences, consequences, consequences. It is miserable and kids and parents are not liking each other very much
I totally get that. If there isn't enough praise mixed in with the consequences, it can seem exhausting for both parties.
Here is a video that could help you with praising:
czcams.com/video/ePkx4zWdsNw/video.html
I hope this helps!
Wow I'm studying you so hard before my kids turn into teens this is FANTASTIC 🙏💖❣️
As a team leader youth worker, who looks after 10 troubled teens. This is a great start. It’s so true. Build a rapport with them, engage with them, get to know them. Always have a calm tone but stern when need to be, because cause this tactic doesn’t work over night like she said
You've got this! What a great outlet to use these skills and principles in!
This is very broad. It is not usually a given especially with teenagers with PDA to connect. Add autism into the mix and it’s even more complicated. This is a decent start with a regular rebellious teenager however won’t work on more difficult cases that are anxiety based.
Thank you for your thoughts. I do have to disagree with you, as I've seen this work with many teens who are anxious and some who have autism as well. The predictability is something autistic children latch on to and love!
Yessssssssss tone of trust!!! This is very good I'm even trying this on my 5 and 10 yr old !❣️
So valuable!!!! Thank you SO MUCH for this video!
Sorry for the late response. You're most welcome! I'm glad it was helpful for you!
Hey Nicholeen, great content. Great advice. But more importantly, you truly deserve a compliment for your transformation. Great job
Thank you so much! It was a long process and is still a big part of my personal self-government each day.
Thinking through how these principles apply to our 3 young ones under 6 years old. I took your free course this week and hope to take your full course in the near future. 🙏
That's amazing! You totally should. If you'd like more information, here's the link to the TSG Parenting Course:
teachingselfgovernment.com/tsg-parenting-course/
It sounds like you're headed in a great direction! Keep it up!
Omg 😱 and showing calmness I have been failing on my tone of voice 😩
Great self-analysis! That's the first step to a change of heart!
Looking amazing Nicholleen😘thank you for sharing
Sorry for the late response! Thank you! And you're very welcome.
I'm so grateful my husband found this video. I wish we had found this program earlier. I'm excited to check out the start program and register for the full one. We need help with our teen.
It's never too late to start! I'm excited to see you in the Teaching Self-Government community!
This title sure caught my eye!!! Whooohoooo!
I do my best! :)
Thank you! You are amazing 😊 I’m grateful that I came across your channel
Sorry for the late response! You're most welcome! I'm glad you're here!
Why am I still not seeing any results
Exactly the own words of my teen.
I have been working as a Drill Instructor at an alternative education military school for at-risk youth for the past twelve years. During my tenure, I have encountered a number of students who exhibit the same behavioral problems you discussed in your video.
Many parents have high expectations for their children's improvement, and as a Drill Instructor, I have found it challenging to develop a rapport with students who are resistant to the military structure. While some students have responded positively to my strict approach, many do not share the same level of enthusiasm.
I would appreciate any suggestions you might have to improve my instructional approach in this context.
That is a great thought! The full answer to your situation is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about it and have the opportunity to answer your question on my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
Hi! I would like to sign up for the TSG Parenting Course. Where can I purchase the class?
Great question! Here's the link:
teachingselfgovernment.com/tsg-parenting-course/
Any suggestions for teaching calmness to high strung/anxious reactive preteens and parents with panic disorders/ADHD?
That is a great question! The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
0:44 Was this woman now. I used to have patience, but it’s gotten to be so much as he’s gotten older and now scary.
I don't know enough about your situation (family culture, social culture, etc.) to give you specific advice, but I can tell you one thing: the only person you can control is yourself, which means you can choose calmness and maturity. You can choose to show love for someone, even if they are choosing not to show it to you. You can decide that you aren't going to continue with the same behaviors that you're surrounded with if they don't match what you feel is best for you and your family. You can choose to improve yourself by deliberately learning skills and principles that will help you become a better, more well-rounded person. There are lots of options, even if it seems like there aren't. This option that I offer for free has been a huge blessing for many people, whether they have children or not:
teachingselfgovernment.com/calm-parenting-toolkit/
I hope that helps some!
Hi do you have a video about illicit drugs? What to do
Not that I'm aware of, but I've added it to my list of video topics! Thanks for the suggestion!
After using these new skills will intrinsic motivation begin to emerge??
How do you build a relationship with a 15 yr old boy, hes been through alot, has alot of trust issues,
God bless you !!!! True light in this world 🌎 ❤️
Thank you so much! God bless YOU!
What if your teen wants their boyfriend to live with you and won’t take him home
What if your kid says “this is stupid” when you try to use this new way of speaking?
That is a great question! Short answer: don't respond to it in the moment, but address it later when it's not an issue at the time. The full response to your question is too long to type up here, but I'd love to learn more about your situation and have the opportunity to answer your question on my weekly Support Group calls that happen Wednesday mornings at 8am MST. That way, other people that have similar questions and concerns to yours can hear the answer too!
If you’re interested in talking with me more about it, check out the link for more information:
teachingselfgovernment.com/store/support-group/
I hope this helps!
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Kids that don't care @all may have depression...a military summer camp will help
Thank you for your thoughts.
Im an adult who doesnt care about consequences either and still other people try to punish and discipline me 😅 im 45...like that didnt work with my parents...why would that work with me 😂
On the other hand i drove a school bus for 2 years with 50 teens and preteens. Never had any issues with them because i cared to listen to their issues and i was fair with them and adressed issues on a personal level rather than just writing them up and complaining to their parents.