Rules, Boundaries and Consequences for Children!
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Thank you so much for this video, it was exactly what I needed. Right after watching, I went on my computer and typed up our house rules titled 'In Our Home'.
1. We NEVER hurt or hit
2. We use our inside voices
3. We make our bed each morning
4. We tidy up our toys after we have finished playing
5. We put our empty plate or bowl into the sink
6. We talk to each other using kind words
7. We listen to Daddy or Mummy the first time they tell us to do something
8. We don't purposely annoy or bother each other
9. We always tell the truth
10. We wait for our turn to talk, and don't interrupt others
I am looking forward to introducing them during our morning basket time tomorrow :)
love this!
Love. Whats morning basket time
@@mirrorclesmatures1833 it’s something homeschoolers do, before starting to work on core subjects some parents choose some books , activities, bible study even board games.You can look it up on CZcams, lots of videos about it.
Great, thank you!
This literally is right on time! I have been so discouraged this week with my 4 kids (5 and under)…. It’s become crazy in my home and it is disturbing. It’s nice to know even your beautiful family struggles too! Thank you so much for being so open and giving wonderful advice!!! I will implement all these rules (my exact problems) this weekend!
Also, I would love to see an updated video of your playroom!!! How do you manage toys with so much kids and so many gift giving holidays🙄. Stresses me out and I don’t want anymore toys!! Thank you Jady… you are a God given gift to me and my family!
The toys are driving me nuts too. I find that the toys quantity is equal to the behavior. More toys, worse behavior.
I wish all the toys would be replaced with books. Books are the greatest gifts❤❤❤
Awwh, I feel you momma! We have a 10 year old and 4 age 1-6 and we homeschool!
We offer coupons for good behavior! If they do good in school, finish their daily checklist or are super helpful etc...they pick from the "gold star" bag! It has coupons like "have a popsicle (then brush your teeth)", "watch one show when your stuff is done", "15 minutes of electronics", "pick a family game", "skip one checklist chore ", "skip one school subject (if you're not behind this week)" etc!!! And we also have a kindness bag.
Every coupon in there encourages them to share wjatever treat they get pr to watch a show with everyone or I offer to do things for them such as "I will make your bed for you." Or "share juice with a few friends" (that means their siblings lol) when we see nice, unprompted acts of kindness to husband or I or amongst themselves.
Also,, They each get ONE night a week to stay up for one hour after bedtime..they each have their OWN night to stay up so they get quality time with us or alone time to do a craft or whatever without being bothered.. but they MUST have a stay up late coupon and their checklist and school work for the day has to be complete or they go to bed as usual and have to wait until the next week. Weekends we all have family time all weekend so we get quality time but we don't always get one on one time so the stay up late coupons work wonders.
They usually buy those from the treasure box (they get 2 tickets a day if their school work is completed and most treasure box items are 10 tickets and we offer a few cool dollar tree items but mostly a sugary snack or treat and coupons because they don't get the treats throughout the week very much or at all) (even the 3 year old gets tickets and can count them and has an appropriate checklist!)
but they get the the stay up late coupons from the gold star bag too sometimes.
Oh & They can't choose the coupons from the bags.. its a surprise to keep it fair, they can only choose the ones they buy from the treasure box.
Coupons allow them to enjoy different things without us hearing "I want that too, no fair!", from everyone. They all know the coupons are earned. They don't watch any electronics or really get sweets otherwise unless it's a special occasion. Since coming up with these few systems...so much has changed. If they complete their daily checklist..they get a coupon. And it's fine if they use 2 or 3 in one day. It shows them hard work and kindness etc pays off and that the coupons actually hold value.
Here is the catch though - if I have to repeat myself more than twice on anything and I KNOW they heard me...or if for they break a rule they KNOW about (like not annoying a sibling or leaving germ x out or lying about doing a checklist chore etc)..they get a tally mark on the refrigerator board. I have each day of the week written up there and each child's name on it. If they get 3 tally marks in a day...they can't use ANY electronic related coupons..and they can't stay up late if it's their night to. If they get 4 in a day they are grounded aka they can't use ANY coupons and they go to bed 30 minutes early. No spanking. Hardly any yelling (I'm not perfect, I lose my cool at times but I'm learning) and LOADS of constant improvement from the kiddos.
I know this was long..but I wanted to share other options too with anyone who feels lost like I did for YEARS.
I'm a step mom of two and we have 5 total...and as I said, I homeschool them all &
I have the other mothers of our children in our lives to consider when it comes to discipline issues as well...but noone can deny our children are RESPECTFUL, KIND, and obedient. They get attitudes, leaves messes everywhere, are forgetful
..many days of the week. But they try their best 90% of the time and it's not stressful if IM being consistent and they will tell anyone we know that they LOVE their life and home because it's different. They tell me most every day and write me post it notes constantly.
We each have mailboxes to tell each other things and they fill each others boxes up eith their own versions of kindness coupons too. Its extraordinary.
And they know what it's like to EARN things they want even if it's a simple coupon. To them it's everything, especially on school days.
This doesn't address things like hitting, though. That's a case by case thing but typically they lose a privilege. And if someone breaks someone else's toy on purpose they have to ask the owner of they want then to replace the toy. If the answer is yes.. theyn they have to use THEIR earned money to help us replace the toy. This has only happened once but they ALL learned a lesson from it. It may seem harsh but we only have 15-20 short years to help them become the kind of people we want in the next generation so anything we can do to help each other figure it out...is worth it me. May God Bless you on your journey. I'm sure you're doing great. After all...you cared enough to watch this video and take action!! Xoxo-Vanessa
Please share consequences!! Especially for doing things that bother someone else (this is a big issue in our house!) and yelling/using ugly voices at others! Thanks for posting this - you have such great videos! 💙
yes please! i need help in the consequence area. not everything has the same one
Yess consequences! Please! Thank you, subscribed 🔥for me it’s listening comprehension
She said it's related to the offense (leave clay out, no clay) or be sent to room, no screen time, etc.
Time out . i learnt it from John gray book- children are from heaven
Hi, when my child bothers his or her siblings I give that child chores along side me. I can give them extra attention and guidance.
Your Video is the answer from God that I never knew I needed! My husband was forced to leave us because of visa problems and I am for the first time in our marriage alone with our 3 kids! Ages 7, 4 and 1! He‘s been gone for a while now and I have been struggling so much with my kids! Our life is in total chaos right now! I have the feeling that no matter what I say my kids just don’t do. I was just about to give up when your video was suggested to me! Thank you so much for your help! God bless you 🙏🏼
Hello sister, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. God’s grace is sufficient. May He give you all the strength, endurance, encouragement, comfort and guidance needed to get through this season. God is with you and you are never alone. May His will be done. Jesus is coming back very soon, be encouraged. God bless you and your family 🙏🏼
Discipline is so important for homeschoolers and non schoolers🙏. Thank you for this video and it nice hearing that we can't allow kids to do whatever they want to do. 🌸
Oh how I love the phrase “falling in love with boundaries” happy Thursday sweet mama ❤️
I was struggling so much with that!
I have 3 girls, 8 and under, and a newborn baby boy.
and I have been watching your videos since pregnant with baby number2!
Thank you so much Jady!
Thank you so much for this video! I’m a kindergarten teacher, and we deal with so many poor behaviors and lack of discipline that should have been taught at home long before they ever arrive in my classroom.
Your hair looks so good! And thanks for the great suggestions. 👍🏻
I also noticed the hair😍😍😍
Me too! I just commented this! ☺️
Agreed
I’ve noticed how much preparing kids ahead of time for things really helps. I stopped doing that for awhile I thought I was being too repetitive, but one of my children especially struggled when I stopped doing that.
I look forward to implementing this tomorrow. I will write out our family rules tonight and post it in prominent areas of the home, such as the fridge and the homeschool area.
I love this! This can also be applied in the classroom. Thank you Jada!
I'm enjoying every single video of this serie. I have older kids and will apply these advises with them. God bless you!
This came at such a good time. I really needed this
Thank you for sharing! This is exactly how I want to raise my children.
Yes. Boundaries are so important and healthy. Thank you for sharing your advice!
Love your content, it has been a great support since we had our first baby 5 years ago. This video was confirming ty!
I love these types of videos, I am wanting to build my children’s character. Thanks Jady :)
Thank you Jady! Your videos are truly a blessing to all!
Great video Jady! You are an inspiration God bless you for sharing all your wisdom.
Jady, your kids are so happy having such a cleaver and loving mother. I would like to be like you for all of my children! Thank you so much!
Great reminders. Thank you, Jady! Looking forward to the character development videos.
I love this video!! This is how I want to raise my kids. I’m a nanny so these tips are very helpful and good for healthy boundary setting. Please keep them coming! Thank you 🙏
Thank you very much Jady A. We as parents should be a mirror to our children since they emulate a lot from us. Thats what I do with my children. We parents are the first teachers.
What a blessing this is to my life. Thank you so much!
Jady I have just come across your channel and website and to say that I am totally in love with your work it's an understatement! What a blessing and an inspiration to us mommas! 🙏🏼❤️
Thank you sweet lady for this very helpful video. I've shared it with my daughter to help her with my grandson.
Thank you for this. So helpful!
Thanks Jady for the suggestions♥️
Thank you so much for this video Jady. I struggle with consequences/follow through. When my 9 & 7 year are hitting each other, that’s where I struggle with is finding the right consequence for that action. I would say I am not too consistent as a parent and not always good at following through. Have so many good intentions/ideas, just don’t do them.
Yesss this is exactly what I needed!! Thank you❤ God Bless you Too
Thank you Jady, very helpful. Came at the perfect time. May God bless and keep your family 🙏🏼
As always you been doing GREAT videos and i admire you for having such wide, clear mindset and understanding. GOD bless you and your family. Be safe.
💖Jady I wach yout videos for ,I think,4 years now...you change my life,my parenting,everything. You are a big blessing! Kepp up with videos like this. For me it came in right time! Big hug from Serbia!!!💞
Bless you Jady
Oh my my my..... I am sooo thankful that I found your channel, because it has helped me understand what has probably contributed to my young adult listening to her friends instead of me. I literally cried as I listened to your video on difficult kids and thought of the mistakes I made with my difficult child. She is grown now and off to school but I know that we did not have that bond that made her want to listen to me instead of her friends now that she is a young adult (18). Thank you so very much Jada.💕
Simply AMAZING!!! Thank you very much for sharing❤❤❤
I seen this tonight for a reason trying to raise upright and obedient children in Jesus. Homeschool mom 4 children 6,5,2, and 6 months needed this as a refresher . Thank you praise Jesus
Thank you for this video!
Thank you a million times over! You are amazing 👏 ❤️
I so needed this video. I was thinking of making a chart with rules for my 5 years old toddler but wasn't sure what to do. Thank you Jady❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for making these videos I definitely want to see more!
Indeed they very educative
Perfect time for this video. I have a 4 year old and 2 year old and it’s getting crazy alley with the running and screaming and new attitudes and not sitting down.
I’m going to start writing down rules.
P.s. my 4 year old just finished both your math and lit workbooks. They were awesome . Your channel really helped me with starting pre k home schooling
I AM IN LOVE WITH YOUR MANAGEMENT STRATEGIES FOR YOUR CHILDREN! I have a 6 year old and have similar rules for her. Sometimes it’s a bit challenging to follow through but I push myself to do it! I used to
Think I’m a “bad” mother for dealing with her this way but later on realized it’s the best way to raise children and give them a good foundation!! Keep up the good
Work!!! Love it!!!
You are so awesome and thank you!
Thanks a ton. This video gives a good number of information about how and when to put boundaries. It is really really helpful.
Thank you💕
This is awesome! Thank you.
Thank you for these videos! I hope the mother that came to your house watches these
Thank you.
Thank you for this Jady A. I've been following you and your approaches since my toddler was 2yrs old. You've helped me a lot. ♥️
Thank you
God's been speaking to me about setting boundaries and discipline and he used your video. thank you for sharing.
Thanks for the video Jady! I just wanted to add that things may be completely different for teenagers because they outgrew these disciplinary years. The only thing we can do with teenagers is just strengthening our relationship with them, so they can take our advice and pray for them!
Brilliant! This couldn’t have come at a better time as we have noticed our 4 year really pushing the boundaries lately and even our 7year old not speaking respectfully.
What would your consequences be for hurting a sibling? Taking away privileges? This doesn’t seem to sink in with our 4 year old :-(
Look forward to the series
This is very helpful Jady, thank you!
I like ur all videos being a grandmother in India I learn so many things from u gbu dear
This may seem so basic to some BUT THIS IS SOOOOOO AMAZINGLY HELPFUL FOR OUR FAMILY!!!!
REINSTILED my faith in our homeschoolimg
Thank you so much! 😆
Wonderful content! Thanks for sharing!
Jady A you are changing peoples lives for the better. May God bless you and your family, more and more. Ameen , love from Italy
Wonderful video, Jada! Than you so much!
Thank you so much ...I am so grateful...I have been trying to figure out how I can help my children be the best version of themselves and have been researching for a while and your videos have made things so clear for me and have given me hope in my capabilities of being a good mother again!
Loved this series!
Thank you🙌
Thank you dear, God bless you
Thank you. 😁❤🙏🏽
Thank só much
Good day, thank you for your advice. The information provided was very helpful.
Thanks 😊
This was very helpful my sister. I really would be definitely be interested in learning more about these kinds of topics. - Michelle ❤️
Loves these ideas
I do horrible job. I should have watched this long time ago. You are amazing.
I feel the same way.
I always look up to you for ideas regarding parenting.. I follow them too.. Thank you Jady.. love from Tamilnadu India ❤️👍👍
Love to watch your videos 😍❤️
Excellent
I just love you and your videos and every word you say. ❤ I am struggling with disciplining my two very young boys and your videos give me a lot of great ideas that will change mine and my kids life if I apply them correctly. Thank you. God bless you and your family.
Great topic...
You look so pretty! Thank you so much for this!
Thank you just started following you I will definitely apply it
Thank you I love your videos especially this one my 2 year old needs boundaries
Very infrmative thx jady
We love you 💜💜💜
Yes please thankyou
A very important video.
God bless
Great video thank you for sharing.
Thanxxx jady i realy dont know how to thanks u u changed my life
I really enjoyed this video Jady, thank you. I liked your comment on if children are to become good leaders they know how to be led. I have been struggling with the line between parenting gently & just being a pushover. Thanks again :)
I know this is random but this haircut looks really good on you. It really suits you. Thank you for all of your wisdom! It is really helping our family!!
Indeed we are raising the next generation.
I have been working on managing my daughter’s behavior…she’s a good kid but she still gets moments when she tries to control us and wants to get her way…she’s 3 and pretty smart..maybe a board like that will help,,I will give it a try…thanks for sharing..😊💕
Very nice and helpful
I always watch your video ma'am. 🥰
Thank you 😊from India
This was a great video. I reallly enjoyed it.
Thank you Jady, I'm Twyla Ned from the Marshall Islands. I have watching your videos, and have been learning alot from you!
Great advice! If my child speaks disrespectfully, I simply say, “Try again”. If they are not sure how to correct how they’ve said it, we practice and then “try again”. We will keep trying until it is corrected.
I will do that as the parent as well. If I have spoken with a bad tone, I’ll say, “I should not have used that tone.”
You make such useful and applicable content!
Very nice