How to have More Meaningful Conversations. 💌
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- čas přidán 18. 06. 2024
- Hey guys! Welcome to Ep 3 of Summer of Self: How to Have More Meaningful, Deep and Interesting Conversations (especially for people who are more introverted, have social anxiety or are less confident in social situations; this has been me in the past!). I'm no expert, but these things have helped me connect more to people in my life and ask better questions. I hope this helps you have better conversations with your friends, family, boyfriend/girlfriend, spouse or back to school and uni! :)
My favourite framework to spark good questions:
36 Questions to Fall in Love: www.mindbodygreen.com/article...
Timestamps:
00:00 Intro: Small Talk vs Deep Conversations
00:58 What is the Summer of Self Series?
1:31 Loneliness from Shallow Conversations
2:28 What will we talk about in this video?
3:06 1. Setting the Tone: Body Language, Energy and Non-Judgement
7:33 2. The Flow of Conversation
10:24 3. Useful Frameworks for Conversation
11:53 Why our energy is so important.
13:18 Journal Prompts
14:16 Casual Magic! and what does a meaningful convo look like to you?
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How do you guys define a meaningful conversation? ✨🤔
Small talk is definitely still valuable and has its place, but it’s so cool when you leave conversations feeling inspired, reflective or like you learned something about the other person/yourself!
I'm so bad at conversation! I'm very shy and awkward and self conscious so making conversation is hard for me. One on one convos give me a lot of anxiety if I have to keep coming up with things to say. There's only a few people I can be myself around so this video is very helpful to me. Your energy is so calming and it's a pleasure to watch you!! Xx
For me, a conversation with a stranger has been meaningful if I leave feeling uplifted or just casually in love with the human race! I was in a local bookshop recently and had a short but lovely conversation with the shopkeeper about the copy of Wuthering Heights that I was buying and he told me about how much he loves the book - his passion was infectious and I left feeling so warm and inspired! Generally I’ve been trying to be more confident talking to strangers recently and I’ve noticed my anxiety around it decreases a bit more each time I have a conversation that has these kinds of positive vibes 💛 Thanks for another lovely video, hope you’re having a wonderful day! 💌
I define meaningful conversations as conversations which leave me feeling connected to the other participant(s). It doesn't have to be "deep", it just has to make me feel like I know someone a little bit better.
This is SO odd! I was just journalling about what I wanted from my life and meaningful conversations was high on my list.. (Synchronicity!? ...)
Meaningful conversations...when people have these kind of conversations they are less likely to drift apart with time...(it isn't like we are serving in the army and the hardships that we go through together in itself is sufficient, because in that situation, you know that they have got your back).. these people have got your back, emotionally...
I think meaningful conversations are those where you can wonder what "bravery" means to you and if you think you are brave... (Eg) where you think about the meanings and nuances of different feelings and experiences... where you can discuss your flaws and get constructive criticism... I have friends who joke about judging me in these situations, and that really makes the nervousness go away, because you don't joke about something if you are serious about it!...the conversations that help you mature and learn... The kinda conversations that you look back upon as some of the best spent time of your life.. (what is life, after all, without the joy of learning (about the self and others))
P.s. my casual magic today- This Synchronicity!
Jade I love these tips in this video!! Can you please make more videos about communication and speaking with others :)
The worst part of being an introvert is you love making friends but don't know how to initiate a conversation
That's so true
I hate it so much 😭
Yes so true
That doesn’t sound like introversion it sounds like social anxiety
I think people think they are introverted when they aren’t they are just a little anxious/lacking faith in their own social ability.
I relate to so many comments like this just not the part saying ‘I’m an introvert’.
“Most people don't listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
-Stephen R. Covey. One of my fav quotes.
Thanks for sharing, I think this can be an interesting journal prompt !
this shows so much in people, especially today. like the whole meaning behind people interrupting others is because they don’t care to understand, only to toss their two cents at the person in order to (for the most part) prove them wrong.
woa that is true
So true
When people think you're dying, they really, really listen to you, instead of just waiting for their turn to speak
― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club.
Sometimes it’s okay to keep it at small talk, not every conversation has to be about something deep. Also, it can be draining to have deep conversations sometimes
For me small talk is the one draining and depressing
i get that if you have a ton of conversations of just small talk, it can be boring. but as someone who doesn’t have a ton of small talk, it’s pretty chill to just catch up sometimes on the small stuff :)
i personally find small talk more draining, i feel like i’m grasping straws with the person. i could see why deep conversations could get draining though if your introverted or have been having too many of them.
Totally agree. I used to have a best friend who was going through some mental health issues and I always tried to be there for her. But we were relatively young and EVERY SINGLE conversation was deep and emotional and later we drifted away because it became too much for me
If I can't have deep conversations every now and then, I feel like I don't really know the person even if we've been known each other for ages.
Most of my deep conversations are during the night. It is like the darkness makes us more vulnerable and reflective. And it also happens a lot with my brother. Sometimes one of us says to the other: "I have something to talk to you about." And other days we don't plan it, we just keep talking for hours. It is beautiful. I am so grateful for him :')
This made me smile :)
Beautiful
Oh lord I'd kill to a have a friend as sophisticated as I am. None of my friends want to have a deep conversation.. They either just talk about this one show they like or this one artist that released a new song
@@ziggyseyepatch9546 😂😂😂 I love ur selflove thu
@@emmahawking922 haha thanks
I'm really really introverted , but having deep chats with people i value are soooo important to me ,like it's just about finding the right people to talk to lol ,also been loving the ✨summer of self ✨ video's 💞
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I've just watched an amazing video on being an introvert by Lana Blakely called you're not an introvert. Changed my whole perspective on that topic, can only recommend✨
omg I just finished watching the video tooo ,also Lana is like one of my fav youtubers ever !! ,The video did really change my perspective of how I view myself and other introverts ,thank you for recommending it either way my friend 😊
@@irene_johnson oh I'm so glad you liked it! You're very welcome, have a lovely day✨
Let's be friends!!
i need this, i don't really like small talk, but i'm also afraid of coming of oversharing when i first meet someone
I love people who "overshare" because I think it's so mich more interesting to really get to know a person.
@@hannalunetta6766 yes! idc if it's considered "annoying" to overshare, if the conversation naturally flows there I don't see why you should hold back what you were gonna say because you don't know that person that well. If you find yourself wanting to share something personal that's probably because you already feel safe with that person and feel a connection, so I don't see how taking the conversation to the next level is a bad thing... (of course if you just go around dumping your problems onto people that's just rude lol, but as long as you find a balance I think it's fine to "overshare")
@@darkacadpresenceinblood also I think it is really beautiful to show a person who you are. ofc it wouldn't make any sense to show more than what you are comfortable with. I mean after you shared who you are the person can still decide wheter they like you and it's better to know from the start wheter they match your energy or not.
hi
"be interested without personal gain" ✨ that's the presence & intentionality i want to bring to every conversation that i enter into
Hi
Something I told a friend who really struggled talking to others was to avoid answering with just one word like yes or no. I said it was fine to answer with that as long as you follow it up with one more sentence. For example, someone would ask "are you into football?" and instead of just saying no and ending the convo I would encourage them to say "no but i really enjoy...". This also helps out the person asking the questions as it offers new topics for the conversation to naturally flow instead of them having to think of new questions to ask
Ohhh this is a good tip. I could use this. Thank you so much.
Fo me a deep conversation is when u talk with someone without filtering your thoughts and feelings just being in that moment no judging just going where it'll take and just being genuine and authentic and few jokes here and there haha love it 💙
It’s beautiful
same!
i once was on an abroad trip with uni and really struggling to find my niche in who to hang around with and felt like i’d had the same awkward small talk conversation with everyone and was feeling very insecure. i then came across this girl who instantly moved past the small talk and went on with really deep and interesting questions, and we very quickly became good friends. i can’t express how much she put me at ease and made the trip to much better for me. big talk people are genuinely the best 🥰
this is so great! also, if you don't mind, could you share the questions she asked? because often, i want to have deep convesations but i don't know what to ask lol. my deep questions are usually related to existential dread and idts that's the best way to start a convo
@@ayeshashaikh4433 she shares some great questions in the video !
Oh so true I love to meet people who are just super good at talking. They make me feel so much more comfortable and I always have such interesting converstions with them. I honestly wish I could be a person like that myself haha😅
@@bobsi_04 I always think I am annoying because I love to talk. Such comments make me feel less insecure about myself:)
Your explanation of why "Why?" can be a harsh counter response shows that you have great insight and sensitivity about social interactions.
Somtimes i am feeling like "this conversation is not going anywhere, what am i doing here" That was the thing that i need so much. THANK YOOUUUU JADEE!
I had the best conversation ever with a girl I met for the first time yesterday. An hour in and we were talking about healthy relationships, aspirations and also about what good conversations are to us. We then started going through the 36 questions. What a night, I think I made a new friend 😍
Ahhh i just love how you used the mosaic metaphor. I think about that a lot, how we all have an army of people standing behind us and making us who we are today. It's kind of amazing and beautiful
This is exactly what I need!! I find speaking to people so hard now I've been stuck inside doing nothing but living in my own world 🌎
I really struggle with this because I always feel like the only reason I am talking to someone is to please them, in the sense that most people simply can't seem to cope with "awkward silence" even though for me, it's not awkward, it makes me feel relaxed not to have to try and think about what to say. I love it when people talk at me. I guess I get that from how I grew up. My Dad would always talk and talk about things he found interesting, so nobody else could get a word in.
I resonate with this
really enjoyed this video!! 💞 i just want to add that if someone isn’t making eye contact / fidgeting it doesn’t have to mean they’re not paying attention, as an autistic person i can actually focus More on what the other is saying when i’m making little eye contact (its really hard for me to maintain long eye contact, and the difficulty distracts me from what the person is saying)!!
I’m going to be honest, when u said u were doing this series I thought it would be things like getting up early and exercising which of course is good advice but nothing new. This series is so insightful and helpful and specific to things I need. I’m LOVING IT! Thank u for this gift! ❤️ can’t wait for more! 😄
the themes of this series are wonderful!
Thank you so much! 🥰✨
@@UnJadedJade Thank you for an interesting and valuable topic to discuss.
When someone tells me about something, I sometimes find myself just replying with a related anecdote that's about me or my experience, like someone tells me their opinion on something and then I'll just say my opinion, but recently I've been trying to ask a question about what they told me. It's amazing how much people love that.
Often when I just reply with a personal anecdote they're not really that interested and the convo stays shallow, but a question tells the other person that you want to know more and it makes them feel so good. Then they'll feel more confident to talk more deeply about what they said because you showed interest.
Asking more questions in general, even simple ones, is such a powerful way to make a conversation so much better and it's very related to what Jade was saying in this video!
"I am just generally fascinated by people. I love how everyone is a mosaic of all the people in their lives. Like the reasons you do most things are because of someone you know, or someone you are close to. And I think that's really beautiful. Like all the people who have hurt you, challenged you, supported you, loved you, all of those people have helped create who you are."
-Jade
Absolutely love this! I have been trying to figure out how to eloquently word this idea for the past year, so thank you, and I feel the exact same way!
I'm in love with Comments Community, wish u are all my friends , I'm missing talking to people that we share the same interests a bit , that makes a huge difference
These comments make me feel so warm 🌸 thank you for being here!
Something I just know, while talking to most people, is that I am listening and being attentive to kind of everyone (I think) but not them. This just akes me feel like I am not an interesting person or worth listening to, which is probably true but you know, sometimes I wanna feel like I'm worth something. :(
I loved the switching from “ why” to “ what” part.💚
A meaningful conversation is one that makes me feel validated, appreciated and leaves me feeling great about my day ✨ I love learning about anything but its hard for me to get to that stage because I tend to overthink and get anxious about myself. I'm currently learning how to value expressing my voice and getting comfortable in a group setting :)
Hi! I completely relate to everything you’ve just said, especially about overthinking and getting anxious. Learning to value your voice in conversation and feeling comfortable around others are such difficult things to achieve but so important and so, so worth it. This comment really resonated with me and I hope you’re doing well and making good progress with your learning. Stay positive and remember that growth isn't always linear, they'll be bumps along the way that throw you off-guard and they'll be points where you may regress but you WILL achieve your goal, and when you do you'll be so proud :)
@@lyssgoescrazy Hello! Thank you for taking the time to reply and your encouragements :)) I've been quiet for so long I'm not even sure how/when to speak up or even what to say tbh but I've been trying! There have definitely been some hits and misses, so thanks for reminding me not to get too down about it and to keep powering on + growing 💞
I love this. Small talk is so superficial. My parents have had mental health problems my whole life and I live with my gran and my siblings. Personally, I have struggled to have meaningful conversations, but I’ve recognised they are important to build deep and meaningful relationships. Thank you, for highlighting ways to have these conversations.
I learnt all this in an optional communication class in school. People were like eww why are you taking that it’s not even a requirement. But I was just interested/ curious and I learnt so much from it. For example the thing that why is a harsh word. I’m just someone who is always very interested in the why and of course I never just asked ‘why?’ but it made me realise I may have phrased my questions a little too harshly in the past without even realising. I’m someone who is very direct and confident in my thoughts and opinions so I don’t mind such questions but in that class I realised it might make others feel uncomfortable. So yeah I learnt lots of new things and it also showed me my strengths in communication such as active listening. But even for the things I already subconsciously was good at, it was valuable to just get everything straight. If your school offers a communication class I would definitely recommend taking it!
A few years ago I was an absolute social disaster. I could not for the life of me keep a conversation going and these are exactly the things that I learned over the years that have helped me tremendously in social situations.
And knowing how to have deep conversations can even make you better at handling small talk and it just makes life more enjoyable
To me, meaningful conversation engages both my mind and my heart. Since I have mild ADHD and social anxiety, if a conversation feels boring or stale, I can very easily zone out or start fidgeting without realising. However, get me talking about something deep/interesting (even better if it's a recent hyperfixation lol) and I'll be chatting for hours! For example, talking about books/movies/music is always interesting since they can make you think/reflect but also engage your emotions and feelings. I've been on a gap year for covid reasons and I'm really missing deep conversation with people outside my family. I'm starting college next month, so hopefully I'll be able to put these tips into practice :) Anyway, loved the video Jade, and happy to see the plants thriving in the background. My casual magic today is this video :D xoxo
So how do you make convos about books or movies deep then?
@@nathalieenlisanne damn that was a smooth ass question I can't lie
The best way is to actually listen and understand what the other person is trying to say that way it’s easy to articulate your answers. I agree small talk is definitely unfulfilling!
I completely agree about the part where you mentioned 'energy'. When the vibe of the person clicks with me the conversation just flows and you feel like you've know them for a long time altho you've recently met them. The best part about conversations is when you find middle ground that both parties can contribute to...everyone has such different perspectives and that's very intriguing
In general, it really helps to use socratic questioning which are open ended questions that explore the topic of manner! (Ps: thanks for the inspiration to also create my YT channel 🤗)
Really interesting perspective on the word ''why''. It's kinda like my favorite word. I use it a lot talking with people and I feel they feel attacked and I don't understand why lmao. Going to try asking questions in another way :D
and yea most of the times when I use it it's because I don't understand their point of view. What it's wrong about they defend it me? It seems like I want them to prove me something that's it?
I love how the topics of this series seem to perfectly match with what I need, thanks Jade :)
For me, a meaningful conversation makes me forget about the outside world. Its like when your finished from it, you realise that over2 hrs have passed or that you forget to even look at your phone bc that conversation was so engaging .
I was looking forward to this one, I hate having small talk and my social anxiety is on a whole another level, I know this will help me a lot.
This series is just incredible. Jade, you're such a beautiful human being
i have been searching for this, literally could not have been posted at a better time
This is such a perfect video for all us introverts! Thank you again Jade! ❤️❤️❤️✨
Jade, you are an amazing human! thank you for spreading so much love and positivity. I have always struggled with how to have a meaningful conversation, and it is a necessity for when I start university next month. Thank you for being you! :)
I literally needed this!!! I was wondering about this yesterday night after trying to talk to someone I find interesting at a meet up yesterday. This was super helpful! Thanks Jade 💚
I was just invited out by a few friends I haven’t seen in a few years. We get along great but living in different places and having such different lives has made us have less in common and know less about each other. This video is perfect timing!
I love your videos so much and how much work you put into them. But most of all, your thinking. I can relate with some of your thoughts so much and it just feels amazing to listen to you. Thanks! :)
hi jade! i just wanted to thank you for everything your videos have done for me over the past few years. a couple days ago i found out i got 10 9s on my GCSEs and i know there was absolutely no way i could have done that without you. not only did you give me the motivation and self-care advice i needed but you also taught be that studying can be cool, fun and something to find joy in - that’s something that will always stay with me.
I discovered your channel through this summer of self series, and I'm loving it! Can't wait for the next installment! 🧡
This acc made me think about why i am a deep person naturally so thank u for explaining this jade!
I feel this video came to me just when i needed it the most. God bless you Jade!! You‘re just an amazing human being❤️❤️❤️🙏
Her energy is so puree ✨
I'm really grateful i came across this video. I've been struggling with talking to people for a while and I felt like I had a eureka moment while watching this. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
OH MY GODDD
I just love the part where you said that people are a mosaic of all the people in their life; like people that've hurt them, loved them and everything
I just LOVE that! 🤭💓 We can also add books we've read, movie characters we like and generally other content we consume, what'd you think?✨
it’s crazy how every time i watch one of your videos, i feel like we would be best friends
I recently started following your work.
I consciously intend to appreciate the fact that you have such an organic and accepting vibe to you, you are truly blessed and I know you know it somewhere in your heart.
This intention of yours to have fun is all over your videos and definitely your smile just accents it all.
Keep on the good work..you genuinely inspire me to be a better version of myself:)
Thanks!
Okay, but Jade just did it - taught us how to communicate! I was needing this video for my entire life, THANK YOU!
I'm loving the topics you've been covering lately! Thank you very much!
Great video, glad to hear someone else talk about the loneliness from shallow conversation thing. Sometimes I can feel like others don't even want to have meaningful conversations.
I love so much this series of videos Jade! Keep going and take care of yourself ☺️✨
I really love these summer of self episodes! and I made sure to have a cup of tea while I watched today! ☺️
wow i hadn't really thought about this before! will definitely be applying it to some of my friendships :) it's so easy to talk to someone but not really feel like you're learning anything about them!
I just got into a new school where i didnt know anyone and i could find few people who felt like they could trust me. ike i really wanna be a safe space space for people so this makes me so happy. Trust means so much to me
Loving this series Jade, it’s soooo helpful❤️
Thanks for this! I’m usually a really extrovert person but I always feel so awkward when it comes to start conversation so I let the others do that for me and then we speak a lot. With this video I gained more confidence and now I will start more conversation without feeling stupid or something like that
I definitely need to work on understanding and implementing the fact that it’s not always ideal to thrust into a deep conversation in certain environments. Too many times have I instigated more thought-provoking questions at the wrong moment that just resulted in more awkwardness lol
Same i love deep conversations but when i try to ask a question some ppl just close me off or give a short answer to which im like ok that didnt work...
I freaking love this!I think I need to rewatch it the next time I go to a social event., I’m so chatty but hate small talk! Sometimes I love meeting people and sometimes I hate it!
hey jade! I am big fan of you, I love your content. I love your styles and aesthetic. and I have to say you literally look like real-life Cinderella right now.
You seem so warm and easy to talk to. Thanks for the helpful advice
JADE! You are one of the only CZcamsrs I've came across that I actually enjoy listening to and watching. Although your on my screen, I feel like I relate to you and I'm with you😂🤷♀️ I appreciate all your videos, and the thought and hard work you put into it all, aswell as studying etc. You really encourage me, thank you🥰💖
when you said be vulnerable first for a conversation to be vulnerable that made so much sense to me...when the other person is vulnerable and honest it just also gives you the power to be more vulnerable and express your real emotions instead of just saying i am good when someone asks how are you?
Me and my complete lack of social skills NEED these videos
Glad that youtube recommend this video for me. Tbh I'm really shy and awkward around new people and have no idea how to talk with them especially if they didn't match my energy and vibe.
when i try to start a deeper conversation i often ask about people's favourite travel experience. this always leads to fun conversations that don't feel very serious. but i guess it really depends on who you're talking to. people around me just tend to be travelers. (it's definitely my go-to topic in a hostel when I solo travel)
This is so sweet and helpful, thank you Jade
Jade you are a star🌟
This is such an important video.
Thank you so much❤️
I really love deep meaningful conversations. I want to know how people are truly feeling, what’s making them happy or sad or anxious, I love knowing it all.
It helps me understand the person’s actions better and always brings me closer to the person.
I highly recommend the Were Not Really Strangers card game! It’s amazing for vulnerability, connection and really learning something about people you love - and realising we are more similar than we think, and just human experience alone brings us together. The best thing is that it’s allowed to feel forced and a little uncomfortable at first because it’s part of the game but gradually the conversation becomes more natural for all people and I always feel a little lighter and a little closer to my friends after consciously opening up to them
This is an amazing video! our society often lacks deep conversation and it is something I struggle with to get to know people deeper than small talk. Thank you!
We love you, Jade! Thank you for being our casual magic
Awwww, Omg, Thank you soo much for this beautiful video, My Lovee !! I’m an Introvert and I LOVE DEEP TALKS SOO MUCHH !! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS AND I LOVE YOU SOO MUCH MY ANGELLL !! SENDING YOU LOADS OF LOVEE, BLESSINGS, POSITIVE ENERGY AND BIGG HUGSS !! ❤️❤️❤️🥺✨
i don't speak English well, so i haven't understood mostly part of this video, but i feel u say inspiring words, that help to people.
You are the most amazing person ever, I overly fond of you 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for sharing this video, I was recently having issues finding myself having more meaningful conversations and this video brought peace to my heart ❤️. This is beautiful.
Hey Jade. I am loving this series. Can you please make a video on self care? Like how to be more mindful on things related to yourself, how to learn to love yourself and be there for yourself. IDK If I was able to explain my point to you, but I really hope you did!! Much Love!
I like these 36 questions as an opener to meaningful conversations! With my boyfriend I have a ritual that every year on our anniversary we ask each other these questions and it's also nice to see how the answers differ and evolve. But the funny thing is that on our last anniversary in October, we were in a nice rooftop bar in Berlin, asked each other the questions and I spotted you in the same bar!! For me it was really a conquest to speak to you because I'm not so self confident, but I did it and told you that you inspire me with every video 🌞 and I was so proud of myself and smiled so much. And the learning for me was definitely: you regret only what you have NOT done and not what you have done. PS: you still inspire me with every video ✨
I love deep chats but I really struggle with eye contact and I have ADHD so being overly fidgety is not necessarily something I can change. My advice for anyone struggling in this way is to go on a walk or talk whilst doing something - that way eye contact isn't normally expected as often and movement is natural which helps me stay focused. Lovely video Jade! Thanks for your content :)
this is a really good idea! i have adhd as well and i wasn’t sure what to do as i fidget a lot as well. do you have any ideas for this when going on a walk isn’t possible?
@@emmalynmaguire Hey! So great to hear from a fellow ADHDer! Yeah if I can't go on a walk I often try and talk while doing something like washing up or cooking as again this removes the expectation for lots of eye contact and also allows natural movement. But if all else fails sometimes I will just be honest with the person if I feel like I can trust them. I'll just say something like "hey I find it tricky to make eye-contact and listen at the same time and I tend to move/fidget a lot I hope that's okay - please don't think I'm not listening." Then the key is not to look at a phone or TV or anything too distracting and to try and fidget with something quiet so that they aren't put off by the noise. That's what works for me anyway - hope it helps :)
@@naomiworth4551 Those are some good ideas, thank you! I’ve been looking for quiet things I can fidget with that won’t be distracting, and I stumbled upon a phone case with little bubbles on it that you can press. I’m excited to try it out and see if it helps. Something I’ve also found is that some of the tips you mentioned work in reverse as well, like being able to focus on doing dishes/chores better if I’m talking to someone while doing it. Thankfully I find I don’t have to explain myself too often, as most of my friends are neurodivergent or have ADHD as well, but when I do people have understanding. Thank you again for the advice!
@@emmalynmaguire that's so true! I hadn't thought about them working in reverse like that. Also the phone case sounds cool. Yeah people seem to be really understanding which is lovely. Glad you liked the advice :) So nice chatting to you!
I know this is late, but one thing I’ve found that works is just to look at the spot between their eyes. It’s less direct for you and the person feels like you are looking at them, so you’re still “making eye contact” with them. I’m not sure if it works for you, but this is just something I’ve found useful myself! I hope you’re doing well! Have an amazing day ❤️
Loving this series so far!
The problem is that most of the times when I tend to have a meaningful conversation people share the dark and negative side in themselves and this sucks my energy, so I stick to small talks so that my energy remains and my positivity not being affected by people's negativity 😕
that means they trust u , try to see the positive lessons behind it ^^ , u will never find a person without a dark side , try to share yours and help them move on
I understand you and this happens to me so much. I'm known for being comforting and giving the best advices in my friend circle so people often come to me and discuss their matters but no one hardly asks me about my day. I love being helpful but it sort of gets a lil tiring at one point and I'm a sensitive person too so I absorb all their negative feelings and then I'm left alone afterwards. I need people who would look after me and care as much as I do so I can feel what it's like to be on the receiving end. You feel me?
@@ayeshamoeen6432 I get you. I feel like they think you don’t have ur own problems cos u seem to help everyone else with theirs.
@@ayeshamoeen6432 wow beautiful , I see it more now thank you
@@ayeshamoeen6432 yes oh my God that is exactly how I feel, I listen to everyone but no one listen to me and this is exhausting
That's why my circle is becoming more and more smaller because I realized that non of the people I helped actually cares about me🤷🏻♀️
I AM LIT OBSESSED WITH YOUR ENERGY
Thank you so much, this video is so useful! I'd love to deepen my conversations with people! Love your content❤️
I love this series Jade especially this video! Thank you thank uuuu
I'm returning to the office one day a week now so this was perfectly timed! 💞
I LOVE YOU :D thank you so much, I needed this!!!
This video was a reminder to text a dear friend i haven't connected with in weeks.❤
i just made a new friend and i’m terrible at conversations so this will be very helpful!
I lovee yourrr summer of self seriess!!
I love the way you talk about different things 💙
THIS WAS BEAUTIFUL!
Jade is really helping me to grow in life...and I just discovered her channel 15 mins ago.😎
I love deep meaningful conversations over small talk anyday!
That might be the most helpful video I really needed that. Wow.
lOOk at all the beautiful plants in the background. LOVVEEEE