5 practical steps to become less shy and more confident.
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 26. 06. 2024
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As someone who MASSIVELY overthinks everything, Social was not my first name in Year 7. There was a dreaded 40 minutes of small talk in the mornings and I would plan conversations in my head to no avail. Here are 5 steps that helped me become less shy, more extroverted and more social. I bloody love people now!! As I say in the video, introversion is not inferior to extraversion, but being more confident around people opens up options in life! At the end of the day, this world is one big human network. I hope this helps, especially post-covid and for the new school year.
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As I said in the video, I think it's sad that we often view introversion as inferior to extraversion. You don't need to change your whole personality! Most people are both anyway, it's context-dependent. However, in a world that's just one big human network, people skills help đ I hope this video helps someone like it would've helped me!! and check out the 36 Qs to fall in love!
Hi Jade!đ€
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I've always wondered what your MBTI type is - I feel like it could be ENFJ, but I could be wrong.
I really like learning about MBTI and cognitive functions, because it's enabled me to pinpoint my weaknesses and talk to similar-minded people about how to overcome them. It's also so cool how it allows you to see how everyone perceives the world differently. I feel like you'd really like learning about the different types, too!
Haha I'm wayyy too obsessed with it, though.
Jacket Potato same here, I canât help but try and analyse everyone I know to see which type they are .. Iâm and INFP, what about you
(Actually Iâm gonna take a guess and say you are INFJ đ)
Koko Flop Aha I'm also an INFP, but good guess! :)
Everyone has this mindset that introverts are always shy and quiet but it just depends on who you are with and sometimes it takes time to be comfortable around that person.
Yup, people conflate Introversion with social ineptitude, and extroversion with sociability/aptitude.
Charlotte Cooper thatâs so true. I always say that the people who are the quietest have the most to say
this is so true!
Yup people have so much misconceptions about introverts
yes! introversion isn't just being shy and quiet. im an introvert, but when im around my friends and the right people, i become more of an ambivert??
âCare about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.â
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this is so cool, tks
that's beautiful
wow
That's so deep, definitely gonna use this
Yes
Recap:
1) stop over thinking. (just breath in and breath out and go for it, start that conversation)
2) listen
3) Questions (small talk vs meaningful)
4) talk to strangers (get out of ur comfort zone)
5)energy (listening, upligting people, smile)
Thanks
I'm too lazy to finish this videođ
Thank you for this
@@filmspelis i feel you đ„ș
Thank you so much đ
In my early teens I used to overthink social interactions so much! Especially with older teens/young adults. I think what really helped is when I realised that no-one thinks about you as much as you think about you. Everyone else is probably thinking about how they appear/come across too! No-one's got the time or energy to be dissecting everything you do, and I realised it was sort of self-absorbed of me to assume they did (but of course natural, no judgement). Plus, do you dissect what others do? No, so it's safe to say they're not dissecting what you do either. When I realised that, I stopped caring so much.
@@qudsiyyahbrandt7463 thanksâșïž
Im an early teen..i like what you said...thank you
@@MilkyWay-vr7ku you're welcomeâșïž
@@qudsiyyahbrandt7463lol, i thought i m the only one who takes screenshots
One thing iâll never understand is how iâm supposed to transition from small talk to an actual meaningful conversation. Like I love deep talks but how do i go from oh hi howâs your day to whatâs your biggest fear?
gradually get deeper and deeper by giving slightly more personal info about the topic you are alreafdy talking about. (quote from a post)
'As you relate stories, ideas and experiences to one another, back and forth, you slowly make each of them more personal and vulnerable as you go along.
- A first conversational chunk may be about your job and what you like to do.
- A person responds with a story about their previous job and how much they didnât like it.
- You go a bit deeper by talking about how much you hate being stuck doing things you donât like to do, that you have a bit of a rebellious streak in you.
- They respond in how their brother is the same way.
- You ask them how their relationship with their brother is, if they get along.
- They answer and explain that yeah, for the most part they do, but itâs kind of complicated.
- You tell them a brief history of your relationship with your siblings and how much itâs grown and changed over the years.'
Another example is starting by talking about a football game, someone mentions how good it felt for the team to win as they have a lot of memories watching it w their dad, another says they never had that with anyone and werent close with their dad. They start talking about difficult relationships with family members (deep). You could go even further by saying your parents never got over you dropping out of school, sparking a conversation about pressure or what you really want in life and that you admire the other person for taking a risk to do what they love. Sorry for the long message :)
@@luca77681 hey i just read your comment and i wanted to tell you that you shouldn't be sorry for your long text. I actually really enjoyed reading it and it gave me a lot of insights how to shift smalltalk to a meaningfull conversation. Thank you! Also i appreciate the time you took to answer the person because it shows that you genuinly wanted to help them :)
Laura R. No worries! Iâve struggled with this for years and only recently overcome it, so I wanted to share what I learnt :)
@@luca77681 thank you!đ definetely gonna try thisđ„ș i've been struggling to have small talks and i've screenshoted thisđ€Łđđđ»
Millie Owen-Jones WOW
Confidence and being more comfortable around people is a very important skill, and this was a really nice & inspiring video Jade!
I never really thought of it as a skill, more a talent but wow. I soo want to do it
is it just me but when in public or schl im the shyest i can be especially when having to speak out, but with family and friends im super confident and crazy like super super crazy lol
Nope, it's just practice.
all quiet people are like that
Haha me2, but im trying to be more social at school after the summer
Me too!
This used to be me. But when I realised that everyone else is the same as you with similar life experience and knowledge, and the fact that when I leave school most of these people I will never see again, I stopped caring so much about what others think. Just be kind, be understanding and be yourself. It takes time, but with practice and the right mindset you can learn to enjoy putting yourself out there. A few sayings that have helped me are: âAct confident and no one will question youâ and asking myself âwhatâs the worst that could happen? (Realistically - usually itâs slightly embarrassing yourself or not getting the desired answer you were hoping for. All of which are temporary and donât change anything in the long run).
something interesting I heard: focus on feelings not facts. For example, instead of asking what someone did on holiday, ask what they enjoyed the most, or found interesting, or if it was how they expected, or what they liked/ didnt like about the country etc. Ask about their emotions/ reflections not their actions
Thatâs a very good tip! Thank you for that... I havenât actually thought to do this before, Iâll start trying this out
Millie Owen-Jones Great đ
Millie Owen-Jones this is actually really helpful thank you!!
thanks for the tips!
I do this naturally
Being introvert doesn't mean being shy or no liking to talk with people, just mean that this interaction let introvert people really tired afterwards. Extrovert people can be shy and awkward but after talking to people, even if it's not the best conversation, let extrovert people extremely energetic. That's the difference.
Yep. I feel like jade still doesnât understand this distinction
While that's true, I feel like introverts are more shy than extroverts and extroverts are more outgoing than introverts
I agree with your point to an extent but shyness and introversion can be synchronous and it's more common for introverts to be shyer than extroverts.
@@adamlindeman523 just learnt a new word thx
Extroverts feel energetic after talking to people? Am i an extrovert??
I've always told myself and my friends that "it's only awkward, if u make it awkward". So I'm so happy to see that u think the same!!
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A friend of mine once told me "embarassed people are embarassing". I truly love how she casually said this and how true it is.
@@infoana7871Okay, and? So what if embarrassed people are embarrassing. Are we going to call call them out for it and make them feel guilty for their situation? Embarrassment is bound to happen we arenât all perfect human beings and will make a mistake once in a while.
@@yoonari9840 Pretty funny how you got that from my comment haha, especially with the context that it's a reply to the comment above.
Anyway, thanks, I had forgotten about this youtuber, gonna see where she's at now
ok but when u have social anxiety you know all these things in theory, yet u just physically can't execute them
right
practice. I also have social anxiety and the only way to get rid of it is to do the opposite of what your brain is telling you. If your brain tells you to run away from the situation, just face it.
I am diagnosed with social anxiety disorder but have gotten a lot better in social situations just with practice. Social anxiety definitely makes it harder, but not impossible. Medications and therapy really do work when you have the right ones. Getting in the mindset that you physically canât execute conversations just because you have social anxiety is just making the case worse. As with many mental illnesses, you have to want to get better before you actually can.
I'm also diagnosed with social anxiety and I can't stress enough how helpfull therapy is. If it's too expencive to seek out a therapist there's really good workbooks out there that can act in the same way therapy does, with the addition being you doing the work alone. A year ago I suffered badly from this disorder, to a point where I barely left my appartment and felt like life was unbearable. Now I can socialise just like anyone else, feeling confident and safe in my own skin, feeling good in new situations and with new people... It takes hard work to get there but if I could do it so can you, and everyone else reading this
@@nowayjose6333 hello!! i was wondering what were some of the symptoms/what made you figure out you may have social anxiety before your diagnosis if you wouldnt mind saying?
(im currently struggling quite a bit with my mental health and wondering if i perhaps have social anxiety.)
So true about asking workers how their day is - I used to work as a cashier and every time someone asked a simple âhowâs your day?â was such a nice change to the usual transactional script! It did make my day sometimes! âșïž
This makes me so happy to know! it's always the little things which make a difference :)
What if you have like 2items xD ummm
Was it someone you saw often or just a stranger shopping?
I am an introvert. I come off as extrovert when talking to people, because I like basically adapted for survival
Same. Iâm definitely confident when talking to others and can be funny if I say so myself, but generally I prefer spending time by myself. I love learning about random stuff more than talking to others. However, I get super happy talking to super intelligent people about super philosophical ideas. So maybe I just havenât met the right people
@@putinsgaytwin4272 Same here! Good to know I'm not alone haha
Youâre completely right. It had never occurred to me that no one is naturally confident. I decided to like âfake it until I made itâ, but it did work. I realised no one knew what was going on in my head, if I decided to âpretendâ to be confident, I really just was and it felt more natural over time
Yeah.... The ' Fake it till u make it ' really works... It feels more natural after sometime.
Lol so how exactly do we do if tho x
Theres a book I read recently, "how to be yourself" by Ellen hendriksen. She covers all of the thing mentioned in this video, and a lot more. It focuses more on social anxiety, but it also helps for people who are just generally shy. It was SO good, it really does arm you with a bunch of tools to push against shyness. I'd absolutely recommend reading it.
I read that too, and it completely changed my social skills. I felt so much more confident and extroverted after reading it. Honestly 10/10
@@kailey3396 I'm glad you agree!
After reading your comments I think I'm actually gonna buy it
@@lise7158 I dont do it justice, it's better than I could probably ever explain! I hope you like it!!
Lise i hope you enjoy itđ
Does anyone else go bright red in the face when someone talks to them? I need more confidence! đâ€ïž
It happens to me sometimes, kind of randomly as well which doesn't make things better lol but what I usually do is just keep on going as if nothing happened, as Jade said you create the awkwardness so if you act like everything's alright then people will act like that too ! And if someone comments on it (i don't like it when that happens lol), i'd say humour is the greatest defense of all times ;-)
That used to happen to me for so many years. It was horrible tbh, I felt so anxious and just overall really shitty about myself. Over time I gained confidence and I learned to ignore it although it's easier said than done. It's been about a year now since I stopped blushing/flushing, so I can promise you it does get better. I know this is something I definitely needed to hear when I was going through it, but it will end!!
Yep yep and yep đ but over time Iâve found speaking to random people often and confidence in myself has helped.
All. The. Time. It is probably what has worsened my anxiety about social situations and the nausea I get
Yep that's me.
O gosh, I feel you! It's gonna be so weird to be surrounded by people again in September. Social contact, what is that???? REAL humans??? đŹ
haha lol just came across this comment again, I genuinely thought it was all gonna last till september đ€Ąđ
That ânot knowing what to do with my handsâ is too accurate
Iâm such a big overthinker but I really try and stop myself and notice when Iâm overthinking and Iâve found it helps so much, I ALWAYS think afterwards âwhy was I worried about thatâ and instead of thinking after I now think âwhy am I even worried about thisâ
I'm so introvert...i struggle a lot interacting with people. But actually when i find someone who can listen to me and not force me...nobody can stop me from talkingđđ
Btw a small youtuber here
True and very relatable
Same omg
SAME GIRL SAME
I wish... But even people I'm super comfortable around... I have no idea what to talk about with them.
@@amelialalllalala3914 yeah i can relate and sometimes I know its discouraging but we gotta learn for start doing it
They say quiet people have the loudest minds...
but I put my ear to my quiet friend's head and couldn't hear anything
Total bruh moment
I just laughed out loudđ
dude.....why
Iâve got a problem though - whenever iâm in a social situation i can never think of what to say next like i just have no ideas. E.g. if i did start asking the cashier âhows your day goingâ and they replied with something like ânot very wellâ then i wouldnât really know what to say and i feel like i would make it awkward and just make them feel worse. I would probably make it look like i thought i was superior to them but actually i just canât make myself seem genuine đ or maybe thatâs all in my head?? (this video was so helpful btw xxx)
I completely get what youâre saying! I find that in situations like this, saying what you think should be said (or the first thing that comes to mind) is the best answer you can give, even if it feels unnatural. Like if someone says âMy dayâs been horribleâ then the answer I think that person would want to hear is something like âOh gosh, Iâm really sorry to hear that! I hope it gets better!â Even though I wouldnât normally say things like this it does work and can brighten someoneâs day!
It does take practice as well but after a while it just becomes second nature đ
I completely relate to that! But I am trying my best and force me a little to just say what I think, maybe it won't come out exactly how I want to at first but with time it will get better, and I think it just makes you realize you're too much into your own head and that people outside don't scrutinize everything you say (as you do instead) â€ïž
Let's keep trying, what do we have to loose?
Hope you're having a wonderful day âš
"Better to trust the man who is frequently in error than the one who is never in doubt."
--Eric Sevareid
Extroversion is definitely more appreciated in society than introversion. I live in Greece and when I tell certain people (like my mom) that I enjoy doing things on my own, like go for long walks by myself, or I don't want to leave my house every day, it blows their little mind off, like it's something unnatural and I am weird, and for 18 years of my life I actually believed that there was something wrong with me. So I became a psychology student to figure out what's wrong with me, and realised that I'm just really cool.
Social skills are obviously crucial, and I've trained very hard to acquire them, but if I spend 24/7 with people for a period of time like when traveling, my fomo on the forefront and trying to make the most out of it (which kinda makes people think I'm the most extroverted person on earth), I legit need to sleep for like 2 whole days to recover. Then at times, when I spend too long inside my comfort zone in my house without really interacting with people, I genuinely feel I'm forgetting how to function and it makes me really anxious for the next time I am around people, and need a lot of time to mentally prepare to meet people again.
I think I'm thriving when I'm consistently interacting with people, but having enough time for my self to recharge, instead of doing it "in bulks".
And yeah if I'm spending one on one time with anyone, 36 questions to fall in love are always there to make up for any lack of communication skills.
I usually don't write comments, but it's sooo relatable! I thought that I am the only one like this, who has love and let's say "hate" relationship with people :D I like being alone, but after some time without interacting I start to feel so miserable and sad.. And it's even harder when you don't have friends ;(
I love this comment, itâs really relatable to me. I have always felt more introverted and calmer by myself. My friends would always want to go out after a long stressful school week to âfinally relaxâ I never understood that. Whenever I have a long day all I can think about it having alone time. My parents would always make me feel bad for it, they always make seem like people who are introverted are hermits, but just because our brains act different doesnât mean we should try to change them.
Yes, I'm exactly the same! I feel tired for days after spending too much time with people without recharging, but also, when I isolate myself for too long, I forget how to interact with others.
@@olanuvola yes, you need a good balance
Geia sou my Greek fellow! I agree with everything you mentioned, and I miss Greece so much! :|
Iâm an ambivert but my low confidence makes the shyness and introverted side jump out lmao if Iâm having a good day Iâll talk to anyone
i really hate when people think that being an introvert = being socially awkward and unable to go out and have some fun. you can be really talkative and social but still be an introvert. being an introvert just means that when youâre around a lot of people for too long, your energy drains and you have to take a break to ârechargeâ. thatâs literally it.
Adding onto small-talk with strangers: compliments!! If you like their jacket, say it. If their nails have a pretty design, smile andtell them you like it! It's only 2-3 sentences, and it'll make your day brighter, as well as theirs! :))
Itâs funny how Jade felt insecure about being a ânerdâ in school but at the same time watching her videos at that time made me feel more comfortable in my own skin at school and helped me own being a nerdđđ
I canât imagine you not being confident
I'm currently working at McDonald's and I love it when people as me how my day is! It happens so rarely, a woman asked me one day and she genuinely cared and I'd had a crap day that day and it made me feel so much better
Who else is loving how Jade has been uploading so much recently?! What a Queen đžđŒâš
I'm so shy I can't even have eye contact with people and I'm starting uni next month đđ
Aww....tats ok
Even I am shy but we have to accept tat we are shy and hopefully try to open up slowlyđ„șđ
hey! how is it going now?
@@ingibjorg395 it's going well thank you! I haven't really met a lot of new people because it's all been online, but going to a new place has helped bring out my confidence! âșïž
@@kayleigh.b7714 That's amazing! I'm so glad. So it wasn't as scary as you thought it would be?
@@ingibjorg395 no I was just making everything seem worse than it was đ I'm training to be a paramedic so will definitely need to build up my confidence! But off to a good start đ
One thing that helped me was imagining I was an interviewer. So asking questions and letting other people talk while also steering the conversation if need be. Watch talk shows and see how the hosts carry the conversation, it helps so much.
I'm going to sixth form in september with no friends except one. I'm sooo sooo nervous, thank you for this video!!
same here!
Youâll be fine! Just be yourself xx youâll will automatically make friends with people in your classes x
Book recommendation đ "Sorry I'm late, I didn't want to come"
About an introvert who extroverts (is that a verb) for a year as a social experiment.
This book is being passed around my friends group and everyone loves it â€ïž
Oh that books sounds interesting! Iâm gonna check it out
I feel so greatful because I find you on social media. In all these toxic things on this platform you making me so inspired about life and motivated about things I wanna achieve. Thank you so much for being you and make me wanna be me
Jade *talking about being an introvert and extrovert* me: *ambiverted confusion*
V relatable
Truueee
Now I feel motivated to socialise but we're social distancingđ
Jade coming THROUGH with the life advice we all need rn đ©â€ïž
Big love from a v small youtuber đ
this uploading schedule is insane Jade props to you for editing and filming that much so that you can bless us with good vibes on the daily
Jade seems like someone who would make the BEST bff ever, her personality is just magnetic and her outlook on life is so heartwarming
that last bit about the zoom calls, is EXACTLY how I feel... I had a pretty tough last term of school and I thought that's what was making me kind of nervous/ less social and extroverted- that's what made me click on the video in the first place! now I realize that, like Jade, I just really prefer being around people in a physical atmosphere.. THANKS JADE
iâm literally crying because this made me feel so understood. thank you so muchđ„șđŠ
Iâm starting a new job tomorrow and Iâve been feeling super nervous, so this has really helped me. Iâm going to try to focus on feeling less anxious about what people think of me. Thanks!
JADE YOU'RE THRIVING!! I feel like you're uploading new videos every day! And they're content is soo good but don't forget to take a break tho!
Yayy just when I thought "I need to stop isolating myself and be more social ". You are the big sis we all need. Thankyou gal!Hope you are doing great,love you!!â€
This is so refreshing to hear. I always looked at you as my kind of âconfidence goalâ, so itâs nice to hear youâve grown and worked on your confidence over the years!
I haven't finished it yet but I'm so thankful for having you in this world!! I always have so much energy after I watch your videos, thank youâ€ïž
I love your confidence. I also love that you are younger than me and I can still learn things from you! Keep being inspirational â€ïž
thank you so much for this video - Iâve felt exactly like this since lockdown, like my awkwardness and uncomfortable vibes has come back, like Iâve regressed. but I just keep reminding myself that if I adapted to social isolation in only a couple of weeks, I will soon adapt back to social life! we havenât forgotten how to be comfortable around people, itâll become natural quicker than we think. plus, a lotttt of people are in the same situation and will understandâšâš
âi love people nowâ that definitely made me wanted to watch the video even tho i was tired at 2am!!
Thank youu
I am grateful for being alive and having the chance to do wathever I want in life, at any moment.
I have to remind myself so often that I actually can do whatever I want (within legal and ethical limits of course) and it always blows my mind.
I moved out from home last year and sometimes I just forget that I am allowed to live by my one rules.
Sometimes it's the small things like having chocolate for lunch or just walking through the rain.
It's quite amazing the amount of freedom that is just waiting for me.
@Aryan Azeem đđ not on a regular basis, no
might have been a bad example... đ
This video is very helpful. I really needed it now as a quiet individual my whole life I will be starting uni this September and am such a awkward person to speak to. This year I'm challenging myself to speak and gain friends ( which I don't have now just because I push away people due to my introversion)
Thanks for your videos they have been so empowering and helpful through lockdown. đ€đ
"Stop overthinking"
Me: *over thinking intensifies*
i love how you took the time to reflect on how society values introversion less compared to extraversion. i'd probably consider myself to be an "extraverted introvert" in that at heart i do need my alone time to recharge and i do value it a lot, however i also love to be around people and be social which is something i've developed and worked on a lot more in the last few years
I think it's called being a "ambivert"
I don't know how you do it but every single video is so on point. No matter how down or unmotivated I feel, you always manage to make me feel better. I am so grateful for your existence :)
Thank you so much for making these amazing videos Jade âșïž I've struggled with this in recent years, but these last few weeks have been much better. A couple more things that have helped me have been having good role models in my life and also accepting that my confidence varies each day, but I have ultimate control of how I want the situation to go on my part - if I mess up, then that was just a mistake and I'll keep trying. It's easy to spiral down after mistakes when it's to do with your actual personality and identity like that.
since I started asking baristas about their upbringing I no longer need to take diazepam. thanks jade, this was the best ad for uni accomodation i have ever seen
I love how someone can change your mindset about sth. Jade, i am so thankful that I had found you and as a introvert I always struggle with society.. But your video made me feel powerful and never forget that everything can change. đ»â€
thank you for another wonderful video Jade! after five months of isolation and awkward interactions over zoom, i've had a bit of a social setback. this was very reassuring and came at the perfect time! hope everyone who sees this is having a good day!
I'm going to a new sixth form in September, without anyone that I know. The introvert in me is terrified and anxious, but equally I'm so excited to try and make new friends
good luck!
Youâve got this!! â„ïž
good luck! i started sixth form last year and my best advice would be talk to people and be kind to everyone :)
I started at a sixth form where I knew no one last year, honestly on the first day just try to be friendly! Thereâll be other people in the same position as you.
Iâm in the exact same boat! Iâm so excited to meet new friends but I just have no idea what will happen
I NEEDED THIS , LOVE YOU JADE !!! â„
omg I am so early but yasss I love this new series where Jade is basically the big sister we'll all need, and all the healthy advice we need :)
I love this video so much! As someone who wants to get out there and speak to new people - I always worry 'why would anyone want to hear what I have to say' which leads to overthinking. Your advice is the perfect antidote.
Being self confident requires a lot of practice and the all way to be best at is to put yourself continually out thereâ€đ.
Any fellow INFPs here? We tend to reallyyyy struggle with social interactions. :/
I am! Well that is how we are I just need another best friend who actually lives in the same town, my boyfriend won't be there anymore.. I'm already feeling alone
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Intp with social anxiety i feel youuhh
@@aurelia8436 With efforts life is easier ! Try to get out of your comfort zone !
Infp here đđœââïž
Iâve been watching your videos for over 2 years after I found out about you while revising for my GCSEs. I remember binge watching your videos that have motivated me to try out the pomodoro technique, waking up at 5am (which before I found absolutely INSANE), and just try out different ways to prepare for my exams... I have now finished school and want to say a big THANK YOU for making such meaningful videos that can truly help people no matter what the topic is. And this video? It is the best one yet, keep it up Jade! xxxđ»
SUCH a great topic to talk about!! đđŒSometimes I like to reflect on my past self and itâs crazy to think how a few years ago I would have been nervous to do the simplest of things like buy something from a shop because I dreaded the small talk. Now Iâve grown so much confidence in myself and live for getting to know new people just to hear their story because you can guarantee that every one of them is different and interesting in itâs own way. Ah what a wonderful thing retrospect is!! âšđ
LIVING FOR all the new videos! Love this so relatable and honestly amazing đ
This was probably the one of the most worthwhile 15 minutes of my life thank you Jade :)
Jade you always put soo much effort in your description under your videos so i would just like to say im very grateful and proud of your hard work! Your doing great!
Loved this video, really admire your capacity to talk to people and make friends easily since itâs something I really struggle with... I just donât know how to start a conversation but oh well, really need that courage
Agh so much uploads, the positive energy is infectious đđâŁ
Youâre the role model Iâve been looking for ! Iâve only seen a handful of your videos but each one that I have watched is important to me and is the kind of advice that I have been looking for my own development as a 21 year old in San Francisco. Please keep making these videos. They are incredibly helpful!
I loved your study videos but I love your lifestyle videos SO much! They have really helped me become a better person and push myself! I love how realistic and down to earth you are and yet so talented! Love you so much â€ïž
i act like an introvert around my friends that I donât know very well, but when Iâm with my close friends, i act like an extrovert. i wish that I could always act like that because I feel like Iâd be able to make so many more friends that way
Working in retail, it is so lovely when people ask you how your day is!!
I'm so here for you posting so much content ,honestly a blessing
you didn't make the distinction between 'thinking ahead' and 'overthinking'. The definition of overthinking is thinking over something more than you should. Planning ahead is what you just described. When you think ahead about what you are going to say is perfectly fine and if it will leave you with no awkward silence, then all the better!
your new uploads just make me happyy
I just want to appreciate the fact that I'm probably ten years older than you and still find your videos extremely inspiring and uplifting. You are a joy to watch/listen to and I think your content is super important - for people of every age struggling to find their way in life. Thank you :-).
what have we done to deserve these 2 videos in 2 days!! xx
This is a video that I really needed. Thank you so much Jade. Plus isn't it crazy how much the 'school' dynamic shapes you as a person? You are right, being 'cool' is defiantly what you make of it and how you define it in relation to yourself. For sure! x
this video really inspired me, thank you so much !! I'm an introvert and very bad at social cues and I always viewed it as a bad thing. though now I'm slowly learning to love it because I am really good at listening and making people feel comfortable when they talk to me :)
so I really needed this... i try to be confident then the social anxiety wins. thank you for sharing this and starting a conversation about this. to anyone reading this, I believe in you â„ïžđ„șâš
Wow Jade this is awesome!! Defo defo when having deeper chats online you forget about the screen.. truly listening to people and responding without overthinking can help get to those meaningful chats waaay more easily online đ«
YOU have been a massive part of my confidence journey Jade!! âš
omg when you said the zoom thing I felt like I couldnât agree more with you!! Ive talked to lots of my friends but no one said that they were going throw something similar soo I guess I feel less alone/weird right now. Also I ve just found you and I am loving every single one of you videos!! Good luck from Argentina!!!
I'm so grateful that I've found your channelđđđ
Jade you should watch "Anne with an E" the protagonist is so you!!!
OHH YES
Thank you for this - i related to this on a massive level
Your content is so helpful! I feel like as each advice video comes, I am finding it easier and easier to develop and with this helping hand I feel like Iâm really finding myself xx
Thanks for making this Jade! I definitely feel as if I've also gone backwards slightly with my social skills because of all the social isolation, but I'll just have to keep pushing myself where I can and work on getting more confident again - and this video has definitely inspired me to do just that! :)
I used to be so confident and loud and all that but one day, I was giving a speech and loads of people started teasing about how I was speaking and how I was moving my hands and ever since then I've been so scared to speak and shy. So all I'm gonna say I know it might seem funny or might not seem like a lot but please, don't tease and laugh at people like that because it can do a lot more damage to someone than you think.
this!!!! i relate to this so much. after a while with all the teasing that I was receiving it seriously does affect you and drains you out.
Jade really do be out here genuinely ALWAYS helping us
Jade youâre spoiling us with this many uploads! Stay well đ»
Literally jade's blessings me with all her uploads! âšâ€ïž
Love this video ! Iâm 20 from Ireland so weâre probably similar ages and I also struggled so much with my self-esteem and shyness when I was in my teens. Only getting out of secondary school and building my mental health has help so much with shyness. But social anxiety hit me pretty hard in university because it contrasted to secondary school where I had a small bubble of people. Growing through that at the moment too so this video is such a help! I feel like more than ever your videos speak to the journey Iâm going through, which probably is the same for lots of people or women watching our age. Especially the one about not having your 10 year career plan to a tee, because itâs not how the world works anymore - I found it so inspiring đ„°
One tip I have that I have been trying to work on is to try to talk to everyone like u would talk to ur family or whoever ur most comfortable with. I am very comfortable with my family so I try to talk to other people as if I am just talking to my family. Idk if this makes sense but hopefully itâs helpful to some :)))