The 4 Most Misunderstood Personality Disorders & How to Spot Them
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In this video, discover the 4 most misunderstood personality disorders and how to spot them. Cluster B personality disorders are highly misunderstood and stigmatized, so in this interview, psychologist and personality disorder expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula and MedCircle host Kyle Kittleson walk through the 4 personality disorders that fall under the "Cluster B" class in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM):
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD)
Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD)
In this discussion, they cover the signs and symptoms of each, why they are related and how they're different, how to spot the behaviors of each, and which cluster b personality disorders are the most treatable.
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So do I
Just wanted to share my experience. I was diagnosed with borderline at age 26. I have been working with mental health professionals since that time. I did a year of therapy for bpd and at age 37, I longer am considered borderline, I no longer meet the diagnostic criteria. I was told it gets better with age too. Regardless, with hard work you can get better. I feel for anyone dealing with bpd so wanted to offer you some hope. ❤️
Aren't you able to collect ssdi?
thank you for sharing !!
Bpd is lifelong neurological I dunno who told you it goes away
@Dryer Machine my neice is bpd an collects ssdi for her Disability
@Dryer Machine I've got Jesus Christ why would I need a doctor I'm fearfully and wonderfully made an of SOUNDMIND son get that control device on 😷🤫
As a clinical and forensic psychologist, I really respect and admire Dr. Ramani. There are a lot of "mental health professionals" on CZcams that have no idea what they are talking about, but she is truly a great resource, and I rarely say that.
Well when u got Tom Cruise telling Brook Shields to not take her meds acting like he knows anything about psychology period! He lives by L.Ron’s hate for psychology!
I second this, also being a clinical therapist. She is good
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@@adrianovalente4644 it’s trash
@@andrewwenner2781 his hate is for psychiatry which is a branch of medicine. Psychologists don’t prescribe medications or attend medical school.
I have BPD and definitely empathetic, there are a few bad people (like in every group of people) that give BPD a bad name. Plus there’s quiet BPD, where the rage is internal and the person takes it out on themselves, not others. I love Dr. Ramani as she gets the point across so well
I have quiet BPD. I'm also *overly* empathic & a bit of a people pleaser! I internalize everything from emotions to suicidal thoughts! I was called attention seeking & a bitch for mentioning when I was suicidal & because I'd also ask if the person would keep my meds for the night so I wouldn't have the opportunity to overdose if I became too suicidal because the last few times I overdosed, I had enough medication in my system to kill me. I was going to DBT group therapy & seeing a one on one therapist before COVID19 & the therapy has greatly helped my traits of BPD become more stable. I personally love DBT group therapy!
How the fuck do you give a personality disorder a bad name? You have fucking maladaptive behaviors. That’s like saying people with Autism who decide not to speak give autism a bad name. I’m not a fucking nice person. I don’t hurt myself as often as I hurt other people. I have a very limited ability to care about that. I live in a society that won’t let me die gracefully. Why the fuck do I have to take responsibility for that?
@@littlemonster2483 Aw thank you for sharing your experience, that's very brave of you. I relate with part of your experience. Not sure if I have BPD too, but I've dealt with suicidal thoughts and behaviors, so I understand the agony you must've been going through. I'm sorry you were called attention seeking and a bitch for opening up about something so personal. That's awful. But I'm glad to hear you benefited so much from DBT. Thank you for holding on. Stay strong and keep fighting.
Dr. Ramani is a living encyclopedia. She'll always be the smartest person in the room. Great interview. 🌻
Amen to that!!
Hmmm.....she might one of the smartest people in the room!
But not always! However, i do get your admiration.
'Always' statements are almost always wrong! Always is such a very, very high bar to jump over! As in impossible.
But every once in a while an always statement seems to be correct. But, again, very rarely.
@@paulortiz8063 😉 I stand by my original statement. There are several types of intelligence. She rates extremely high on them all. But I get what you meant, I think. In a room of world renowned mathematicians, she probably wouldn't be #1 in mathematics. However, put her in the exact same room with the same group and test them on four random subjects and she'll take the trophy.
It's a reason they call them fans 😂
Agreed! But to refer to Paul, I see your point! She is definitely bright though, and knowledgeable on her work! Best I have seen so far! And the free info she puts out to everyone bc she wants to share and help, just shows her passion for psychology. THAT is why she has my trust!
I’m a 41 yr old female from the Bronx. Around 2010 I became so suicidal n depressed but had a son to raise, so decided to start therapy because I didn’t know which other way to go. I couldn’t leave my baby in that way. I did the DBT!!!
It was the hardest thing in the world for me. I was super broke n got on that train without wanting too-daily. Five day’s a week, 2 or 3 hours every single morning for 6 months... If one was 5 minutes late u couldn’t enter.
It saved my life...
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i admire you so much for reaching out and getting help for the sake of yourself and your son. many parents dont get help and that can pass onto their children
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Man I wish I had the money for help man that's beautiful I'm tired if losing people from being sick
@@agawdsparadise3782 Stay strong my man, keep searching for solutions & you'll surely find one. I'm searching aswell. Take it day by day, you got this brother🙏🏾
Jenny,
So very proud of you! Tough choices, but you continually made the right choice. That, to me, is true courage! May God bless you & your son. Will pray for you.
It's disgusting how money can stand in the way of mental health, and it's even more disgusting that people say that that's just the way it is.
Yeah, itsbsad.
that’s capitalism babyyyyy 🧎🏽♀️
@@AfroGothixa I hope no one depends on you for emotional support.
@@danielgonzalez5787 i’m not being sarcastic or anything, i agree, that’s literally why healthcare and mental health is abysmal (particularly in the states) because _profit over health_ 🤷🏽♀️ it’s sick and twisted
@@AfroGothixa I apologize for my comment.
I have too much empathy. To the point I even feel sorry for assholes.
I have full BPD and I'm too empathetic. It's painful I feel everything.
I only lack it when I feel severely depressed or traumatized by someone.
Having feelings have nothing to do with having empathy. Empathy is not about you. That you believe that shows that you don´t have any.
Wow. You people sure sound mean and disordered for those responses.
@@Josec823 wtf? Feeling sorry for a person is empathy. you have to actually put yourself in someones shoes to feel sorry for them, hence why psychopaths born with no empathy have no remorse and dont feel sorry for their victims. what are you even talking about??
@@user-nu4gp3er4f I thought that for a long time but found out different when I stopped feeling sorry for myself. Feeling sorry for others is usually projection. And pity only makes people feel pathetic. Empathy knows what they need and does it.
Me too but I can't express it verbally so people assume I am a cold-hearted bitch and it sucks horribly.
Kyle has become such a GREAT interviewer. I hope he gets his own talk show on a network with a big contract.
I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and I am guilty of reacting via text messaging but I also do get highly emotional but I have not harmed myself in over a year to have myself sent to inpatient in well over a year and that's a amazing!
she’s definitely my favorite therapist on medcircle by far. everything she says resonates so deeply with me that it’s brought me to tears a couple times. i have borderline along with multiple other diagnoses and i’ve never watched anything that hits home and makes me feel understood like her and her words. she’s incredible and anyone that gets the privilege to work with her/be her patient should be very grateful.
Tears? Don't be dramatic. 😒
@laura the explorer
The privilege to be her patient comes with a price: 500 dollar per hour.
I love this woman. She is really born to be educator. I am responding not reactive 😀
“There is tremendous hope for people with borderline personality disorder” she says, with continued therapy, commitment to wellness, etc. the worst outcomes are with the group B folks who rank very low in morality or in even seeing that there’s any problem at all. Those things stand in the way.
@MedCircle Dr. Ramani is soooooo intelligent and doesn’t just explain topics without all the research, and why certain words are wrongly categorized- and she breaks down and explains these incredibly difficult topics in a layman form for people not of the medical world to understand. And she’s very humble and nonjudgmental. Love her.
I am always impressed and amazed how Dr. Ramani can discuss these complex ideas and topics so simply, like chatting with a long time friend! I feel like she could do it forward, backward, and standing on her head with no nites. Her warm yet strong delivery is so validating... love it!
Hmm love bombing? First sign of a psychopath.
i think she's just talking in general when she says that people diagnosed with one of personality disorders in Cluster B almost always lack empathy. We all know she always perfectly knows what she's talking about. She could have said it in a better way, yes, but it's obvious she's not referring to EVERY person diagnosed with BPD or whatever.
When they say lacks empathy they don't mean completely all the time. Its just that we can quickly get so angry our empahy goes out the door. At leaset thats the way it is for me. It comes back fuill force which is why i'm borderline and not a psychopath.. but when its gone its gone.. could be 5 minutes.. a few hours. Not much more.
@@overimagination2812 sorry if i ask, but your getting a lot angry is a "normal" reaction? i mean, anger is a common feeling but i feel like we don't experience anger the same you guys do.
I've noticed a tendency among the individuals with BPD in my own life, that they tend to exaggerate their empathic ability. It's part of the reason I don't trust the "empath" label, especially self-applied. They have affective empathy, meaning others' emotions infect their own, and then their insecurity exaserbates it. But they're terrible at cognitive empathy, understanding the relationship between mood and thought/ circumstance, due to the distortions of their disordered thinking. And their ability to access empathy fluctuates based on their level of and response to stress. When they learn to connect the dots on their own moods and triggers, they do get better at it, but it's a very slow process.
Yeah, she said 5 out of 9 is enough for clinical diagnosis.
Exactly, but she is pretty much on target
I'm a antisocial with borderline traits suffering a lot from adhd symptoms.. this video made me feel very hopeless and alone
@@YugiohRules10001 ❤❤❤ I agree. I think she has her own bias but there are other videos from other people (wish I remembered names) that have less negative rhetoric. Don't give up
You'll find a safe and positive community for cluster B's over at Kanika Batra's channel, she also has ASPD ❤
Sorry
You gotta realize that the personality disorders make the social environment suffer - often more than the person themselves. This description of what it's like to deal with a cluster-b type of person at the worse times isn't is not an unfair judgemental condemnation, it's just straightforward. It makes sense that you would have those disorders but only suffer from the ADHD.
I am neurodivergent and for years people on the spectrum were made out to be these people that lacked empathy. It is totally not true and if anything they can be highly empathic once they learn how to analyze or 'read' situations. But the thing is...those misunderstandings that started in the psychiatric community WERE corrected but they can persist in pop culture.
I would say if you want to be your best self, it is going to be similar to what a person on the spectrum or ANYONE needs to do. Write down what areas you struggle in especially if they relate to social interaction. Get more objective feedback from friends. Make action plans. Get help for anything that seems enduring that you are struggling with from a therapist who you can connect with...
I feel like a lot of traits are not inherently bad or good either, they are helpful or unhelpful or harmful to others in excess etc. So sometimes it's about scaling things back.
Also if you find that you have tendencies that you dislike about yourself and want to work on...think of when and how you would be most open to sharing a new side of yourself.
What I find interesting is therapies with animals. Provided you like animals (and from your concern and interest in learning more likely a great deal of interest in doing the right thing) and are safe with them...animals are great across the board. There are tons of research articles about how learning to care for or tend to an animal can help with feelings related to connection/ peace / love. Animals have been shown to help a lot of people with personality disorders. And those on the spectrum.
Another idea is to be the person that defies the stereotypes of your diagnoses. If you are a patient that works at change, shows growth and counters their preconceptions with growth...it could change how they even look at the possibility of growth and change and thus alter how they see the condition itself.
I am trying to do the same by showing that not every neuroatypical person has a low EQ (emotional quotient) as that is largely something that can be learned :) (and we are good at categorization so now if we apply what we learn we can improve our lives and our relationships too.). Don't give up and know I hope you feel less alone soon and also feel this is possible.
Also...I don't think all therapists work the best with all clients. If you have a therapist who does seem judgmental or whatnot, try to find one who works for you. :)
Choosing a therapist carefully, is important, because some personality disorders are comorbid, but choosing a therapist is better than doing nothing.
The fact that she was so honest about the hope for these disorders makes me very happy. Professionals have told me in relation to my mental disorders that there is so much hope and it makes me feel bad cause I don’t feel like I’m getting better. I feel like I’m disappointing them and there is so much hope, yet not for me. I wish more people will real like she is.
In my country Portugal ive been to 3 different psychologists and no one ever told me whats the matter with me. With the years i calmed down but had strong bpd traits. I wonder if i had an explosive bpd that became quiet type. Or if im neurodivergent and have some kind of autism going on. Or both. Never got clarity. Just want to tell you...dont blame yourself...improvement takes many years...theres always ups and downs...theres events that trigger crisis moments. If your therapists are good they know about it. Dont beat yourself up, its already hard to open up and show up for an appointment.
People offended by her using the word hopeless.. I get that the people offended took it to a extreme personal level because they have that disorder but people shouldn’t be listening to the advice of someone who is offended and has a bias against these types of people who talk in depth about what it’s like being around these people. I get they feel exposed and are trying to make her use other words that are more “sensitive” but sometimes there is a harsh reality you’re not going to like. I respect her for being so honest even though people with BPD or narcissism try to attack her and build a group against her.
I have BPD unspecified. What you don’t understand is that’s condescending to people with personality disorders about accepting harsh realities is fucking annoying, reactive, and short sited. It’s a tell that your susceptible to manipulation and scared about it. You can not moment to moment understand why we’re so fucking extreme and that’s terrifying. It’s belittling to your own experiences. If you were healthy you would avoid that. When someone tells me they’re is no hope and yet there are wildly fucking disinteresting. Then I have to face a society that won’t allow me to die gracefully or punish me for “ abusive” behavior. It’s like ammunition, a lovely excuse not to regulate your aggression.
Should I plan to live near my alcoholic, anti social personality exhibiting, bipolar violent relative? Or is it really hopeless? I was probably aware already, it's hopeless! That's what all the grief over her is about, still it's important to know what others have found when they tried.
My ex did that to her psychiatrist. She used to go for her ADHD Meds and used to sit and ask the doctor how was she doing and othat was it. Stared at her. Expect her to give the prescription . The doctor just stopped returning her calls. Ghosted her. My ex was a narcissist
Good for you that you left
Welll
This was a seriously great interview. The host didn't interrupt and was able to really keep in mind how the audience was thinking, and Dr. Ramani is so good at explaining things in a way that's relevant to those seeking answers. She definitely has a lot to say. Thanks so much!
So grateful she addressed the social media aspect of reacting v responding at the end of this. So very true!
Imagine if every doctor had her communication skills
Communication skill is rational for a psychologist
I beg to differ with one point. People with BPD do NOT necessarily lack empathy.
Listen to it again.
Don’t worry I’ve seen tons of her vids & she definitely does not ever say that; she is talking about Antisocial PD
Oh yes they do. They may appear to have empathy but it's an act to get what they want. To anyone with a BPD partner, run.
@@rcfreaks6281 wrong. Not all people with BPD have every single symptom. I've never had issues with empathy. I'm saying this because I've been through therapy with a partner and my parents. So, not all lack empathy.
RC Freaks you anger me because people with BPD absolutely have empathy. And also because with DBT and with proper medication you can absolutely get better. Look at Sammi Grimm she’s had a boyfriend for years and she says she doesn’t even get mad at him.
As a diagnosed histrionic, I‘d love to see a video where Dr. Ramani talks about histrionic personality disorder!
She does have one, it is excellent
Looking forward to watching it. Met someone online that I suspect may be histrionic. Very interesting and unusual person, but very kind (and self-conscious enough she seems to think she has to remind others of that rather than letting her actions speak for themselves).
We met because out of the blue, she decided to ask me (a random stranger at the time) if I was interested in NSFW RP. Like I said, very interesting and unusual person, but very friendly and nice.
@@101jir it seems hpd dx people are nice and friendly. This disorder may be dropped from the DSM. If it is co morbid with another cluster B, then you have a different situation. I could be wrong, just my observation
Love these two together! I’ve watched many of their MedCircle interviews and they work very well together. Such interesting topics and very informative as well.
I gotta say, Dr. Ramani, you are the awesomest !! You explain so clearly, I feel like I'm taking psy 101 in uni listening to you. Seriously I have grown exponentially in 1 year, listening to your channels. And Kyle, you're a great interviewer, very thoughtful, so well prepared, asking key questions, serious yet kindly mannered. Thank you to both of you.
Her English language & knowledge combined makes her the top 1% of all psychotherapists. I think. Bless xo
“Nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. That is the way we all see ...each other in life. Vanity, fear, desire, competition-- all such distortions within our own egos-- condition our vision of those in relation to us. Add to those distortions to our own egos the corresponding distortions in the egos of others, and you see how cloudy the glass must become through which we look at each other. That's how it is in all living relationships except when there is that rare case of two people who love intensely enough to burn through all those layers of opacity and see each other's naked hearts.”
― Tennessee Williams
it is wonderful that someone explains these. because if you try to tell people what happened to you , they pretend like they do not believe you.
This woman is wounderful!
I have BPD, and appreciate the help and talk about dbt therapy 😊
@@kmrnnj1 Completely unnecessary and rude. What the hell is wrong with you?
I have BPD, and remember my first therapist at psychiatric hospital started to cry on our session… I didn’t see it for some time because I was looking at my hands. Looked up and she was silently trying to calm down, but couldn’t help it, she was fully crying: eyes, nose, everything. So yeah, I guess therapist should be really trained in cluster B, if you treat one. I remember thinking "I’m doomed. Even she can’t handle it".
I was listening to another psychologist talk about how one time he was in a session with a BPD and they went off on him and he had a total panic attack. Something that he’s not used to. It was bad enough where the patient realized they caused it and they back tracked and chilled out because they felt so bad. I’d imagine that therapy for the professionals must be akin to police work where you can train till the cows come home but until you’ve been emotionally abused by a cluster B- (or in a shoot out with a criminal) you may not really be prepared for the overwhelming rush and panic that situation can bring.
And that is why cluster B people are a Danger to Everybody around them. They are mean and downright criminals. If you are diagnosed with cluster B and realise it, don't have contact with other people please
This was an EXCELLENT, very informative video about Cluster B disorders! I LOVE listening to Dr. Ramani speak & explain.
This is a reupload right? Lol I enjoyed watching it the second time around. Something new sticks out to me each time I watch a video with Dr. Ramani. Thank You Med Circle and Dr. Ramani!
Excellent discussion. Responding vs reacting and mindfulness. ❤️
WHAT AN AMAZING INTERVIEW/ VIDEO!!!
Thank you so much for organizing (by explaining in a very clear way) all the types into groups that sounds way more understandable. Finally! I was very confused.
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Such a great Doctor she is! I have so much of appreciation towards her and her contributions in this field.
There needs to be informative, creditable material regarding personality disorders, specifically ASPD, and the impact on parenting. I haven’t been able to find any research on how it impacts parenting and the trauma and damage done to the child to support my own situation.
My child’s father has a textbook case of ASPD, and it is absolute hell. Regardless of evidence, the court system continues to support these parents. Victims escape and then family court creates a legal revenue so their manipulation, abuse, and control can continue.
This lady is soooo intelligent...it is mind blowing 🤯
What happens if you were fine for the first half of your life but after being screwed over so many times, you become cluster B, and that in turn causes people to make life difficult for you because THEY'RE the ones who are cluster B?
No. There is no late onset personality disorder.
You don't "BECOME" cluster b later in life. It happens either genetically or by childhood trauma.
That's either an undiagnosed personality disorder that's been there all along or possibly cptsd setting in
I have listened to this countless times and each time, I learn something new and come to a clearer understanding these disorders. Dr. Ramani is so amazing.
As she mentioned in the video having a cluster B disorder and these other things can be quite difficult because you are constantly fighting two battles at the same time and that can be very difficult.
I lived with at least one if not more than one in my home for the first probably 33 years of my life. I am 34, and my nerves are shot to hell.
As a medical doc, I believe so much that every doc from different specialities have to learn these personality disorders! It’s so important to help you understand patients!
I really liked this video i have bpd and i got angry with Dr Ramani and posted some comments on a video she did on covert narrcsssim i was upset because i felt like she wasn't giving a balanced opinion on her channel. This is exactly what I needed her to say so that people aren't automatically demonizing cluster b personality without having a balanced explanation. Thanks to her for doing it when she did.
I talk about my experience with BPD on my channel and instagram because of the stigma around us being difficult! But I agree the majority of us with BPD want help so badly. Sometimes we can be too empathetic it can come across as sarcastic and that we don’t really care. The truth is that we do soo much.
Aha...so and how does it help your victims when they know you treated them badly because you felt too much? Just stupid! Just do your therapy or keep away from people. These are the only empathic and decent things you can do!!!
@@PhoebeJaneway you are stereotyping and stigmatising. You sound mean and awful.
I am an empath. I feel others sufferings, even insects.
Gold Vogel It’s hardly empathic to berate a stranger that viciously.
Gold Vogel this is disgusting behaviour, at the end of the day it’s still an illness that needs treatment. Unfortunately there is no treatment for a jackass like you. So if you can’t be kind, get out of here!
Absolutely every word resonates in my mind. Thank you for making this video and others. You help. This is both my reaction and considered, thankful response.
@Cocain from Jesus
It is true...
You learn a lot.
Another woman to be very guenuine is on youtube.
Susan Winter on all kind of men/woman & dating & relationship issues.
I think another good youtube videos are from.
Susan Winter
Tony Gaskins
Derrick Jaxn
R.C. Blakes jr.
Sam Vaknin
John Gottman
The attachment theory
The 5 love languages
Bless you and good luck to understand human behavior and their needs.
And take good care🌹
@Cocain from Jesus get help.
@Cocain from Jesus Are you ok or is english a bad language for you?
The very fact that the comment section is full of people with BPD is testament that she right that they are the only one's who feel misunderstood and want help. I don't see anyone in the comments saying they have NPD or APD and feel "stigmatised" lol You go BPD!!!!
You make so much sense, thank you Dr Ramani!
Dr. Ramen is right on. An individual with a personality disorder has substantial difficulties in all areas in life. Not just work or relationships. I do wish there was more research in regards to how to cope with individuals with these disorders, rather than listing their characteristics.
How about more info how to cope for individuals with these disorders.
@@rayharris1093 In my views, only a Therapist can assist individuals with personality disorders. He/she has to be diagnosed with the specific disorder. Personally, I hold a B.S. in Psychology. My job is completely different and not related to PSY. I do watch tons of PSY related YT since that was my interest in college many years ago.
I looooove Dr. Ramani and she knows so much! I just dont understand why she says people with BPD lack empathy cuz its just not true in mine and others experience. In certain situations I can lack empathy but I definitely have a huge capacity to feel empathy and a lot of other people with BPD do too.
I don’t think she said that; she specifically was talking about Antisocial & maybe Narcissism then
Ambrosia she said cluster b personality disorders, and shes said it in another video about bpd
I think she's painting with too wide a brush, and is allowing the overgeneralization wrt BPD, because *sometimes* BPD people are so wrapped up in *their* issues, that they do kind of lack empathy for those they are hurting by being so
Narc Helsin i agree, shes just overgeneralizing, its understandable though, she has to get such a large amount of info out in such a small time so she cant entirely specify everything. i just hope people dont think we dont have the capacity for empathy. of course we can lack empathy sometimes, i think everyone does, but i just think when a psychologist says "people with bpd lack empathy" more people interpret that as "unable to feel empathy" like what people think about sociopaths or something
Both narcissists and BPD are very poor at judging their empathy. Even narcissists think they have empathy when they only care about themselves.
Awesome video! I have BPD, and I found this video very interesting. Keep up the good work!
I have BPD and I feel no empathy when I am angry and I say things that when I calm down I absolutely hate myself and feel so upset and sad and hurt to the point it is physically painful. When I'm happy I feel like I can take on the world and that I can accomplish anything and the world is my oyster, I make rash decisions and don't think things through which puts me in bad/uncomfortable/dangerous/vulnerable and a lot of the time regretful situations. I can go from wanting to hang out with someone and talk with them for weeks beforehand and then when I have led them on I clam up and cut them off. I do this with no restraint and almost with no feelings or cares about how the other person is affected. I don't trust anyone, so it is hard for me to give anyone a chance. I feel like I always go back to abusive relationships or ex partners that have done horrific things to me instead of getting into a new relationship with someone I don't know as well in fear that they will see some kind of neediness in me, or that I'm too wild, too opinionated, or too much to handle, or not enough. I would rather be potentially hurt or even killed by someone I have been with for years because I know they won't leave me (I know I can leave them and that gives me a sence of power) instead of taking a leap of faith and really finding true love and being happy and treated like I'm loved... that is nuts. I'm also afraid that if I do find that, they will leave me and trust me when I say when I've been abandoned or even feel like someone would potentially do that to me I will cut them off in a second because that feeling is the most gut wrenching heart breaking emotionally draining hurtful most lonely and empty and just such a dark place to be and I am absolutley terrified of that to the point I will put my own life at risk to not go through that ever again... I need and want help... No one will because I can't afford it and the stigma that BPD carries makes everyone treat me like a freak and they think I will be too much to handle, yet again. FML.
holotropic breathwork cuts right through the subconcious pain causing disorders. Gets the thinking brain ouut of the way and releases deep conflicting emotions.
Absolutely love listening to you teach... thank you 🙏🏼
Just don't forget that the DBT was created by someone that had a BPD
It takes one to know one?
I can listen to both of them for hours. Thanks you 2!
i love dr ramani. she's so passionate about spreading awareness and also just her field of study its inspiring and so extremely helpful
Great info ! Respond vs react ...whoa. That was meant for me
Dr. Ramani... you have so inspired me. I have Aspburgers, but knew there was something else broken inside me. Watching your interviews I am now certain I am type 4 BPD. Inspired by your brilliance I am writing a book/screenplay giving the protagonist type 1 BPD. I want the world to know more about mental illness. So if “the mulberry man” is a big hit then I hope it can make a difference. Anyways thx so much for all your help!
I'm BPD and Asperger's too.
I could listen to Dr. Ramani for days...🥰
Thank you for these interviews! 🙏
Dr R is a gift for new therapists! Many thanks!
Dr Ramani is my new hero 😍 I just started my bachelors degree in Psychology so I'm watching these to get an overall idea of personality disorders and treatment modalities and I've learned so much!
This is the most amazing video I have seen thus far. I am going to show this to my boyfriend because I want him to have a better understanding of my BPD diagnosis.
Shit, I forgot people in the US have to pay for healthcare. That sucks so unbelievably much that you might have all the things you need laid out in front of you for treatment, but you just...can't afford it. That is ridiculous.
I love this presentation, full explained
I come to this team to help me understand the DSM5. I’ve also learned to be more compassionate and understand my self♥️thank you for another wonderful session Dr. Durvasula and Kyle
Communication on both sides of this interview is clear and concise, to the point and informative. You both are interesting to listen to. Thank you
Love Dr. Ramani ♡
👏👏👏👏👏👏 Excellent explanations, easy to comprehend.
I'm bipolar and go from full mania to phycosis at times and then spiral to depression very quickly. I also have BPD and I do have a very empathetic nature. My care co-ordinaters upon leaving always say I've been great to work with and are always sad to say goodbye. I've recently become aware that I attract narssists and have family members who have narsistic traits and I find them so difficult to be around. I'm always trying to self educate and evolve as a person - mentally and spiritually. I'm a gay male 37 and have not been in a relationship for 5 years and hoping I can find somebody who is healthy minded. I'm actually very self reliant and am happy with my own company (and my cats :))! ) I also have epilepsy and thyroid disease. I have met many BPD people who I find very difficult and I try to avoid people with this illness - even though I have it myself.
I’m here because I think my younger brother has HPD. What she said about living with them is so true, it really does feel like I’m walking on eggshells when I interact with him. Say or do the wrong thing and he might pop off in an instant.
He’s super self consumed in how he looks and what he owns. He carries himself in an aggressive and intimidating manner. Is SUPER easily influenced (at a time almost ended up dead cause he was super addicted to xanx because his idol lil peep was) he drives super aggressive and fast especially if a car “slower” than his tries to pass him up.
If you try to have an intelligent conversation with him he’ll do everything he can to belittle your stance, which often ends up in arguments.
I used to think he was just a weirdo douche bag but I decided to google what a word for people like him was and hpd came up and all I gotta say is damn, knew something was wrong with the kid. He seriously needs therapy. He’s all alone in this world (besides our family) and I want him to be able to have healthy relationships and not look down on everyone.
Sound like my ex husband
MariaEsthter Buenrostro Salcedo Im so sorry you had to experience living with someone like that. Hope you’ve healed from it 🤍
Ruuuuun 😮
I did feel guilty for a long time. Then I realized that putting someone in quarantine when they are ill is an act of LOVE. Love for both sides. No contact is an act of love because the person struggled with keeping themselves from lashing out and I struggle with my own reactionary actions. I try and stop and sort stuff and respond. Even to my own inner voices. Gently guiding them to reparenting helped me calm and sort myself.
I love the dynamic between these two!
(Deanne) I am not diagnosed with pd, but lately I sense that I am being ultra selfish, and being told so. All your information is helping me see what I need to correct or change, I think being autistic leads my imperfect perceptions of my world or circumstances and is hugely challenging to correct my bad habits or patterns of behavior. Thank you for your insight!
If you're autistic, that can actually help the brain-changing process due to high plasticity. It's never too late to learn something.
I really liked the doctor and Kyle. They are doing a great job. I finally have understood the different personality disoeders. I am emotionally supporting a family member with these type of problems. I could hear the doctor all day long. Thank you for doing this and helping others.
I like to listen to you for days!!
Loved This.
Have you heard about C-PTSD? There's been some discussion that some people with ASD or BPD may infact have C-PTSD. I'd be interested in your thoughts.
If I could actually afford to pay for therapy I would love to have Dr. Ramani as my therapist. I have been diagnosed Bipolar 1 and there's a string chance of a diagnosis of BPD. There is also a chance of being on the Autism Spectrum. I feel like she is just so experienced that she could tell me what my problem is for sure
I can listen to her forever. She loves what she does.
I feel like I was with someone with bpd. I think he’s got every cluster. He goes to extremes on all levels. He’s very empathetic & good as gold. He jumped into a lake & opened his eyes to find some old guys glasses. Then he ended up getting his own eyes infected & now he has to wear glasses. Then, he gets so angry. He’s always gets into fights. He’ll beat up a whole group of guys by himself. He’s a really good & skilled fighter. He’s extremely good at every single thing he does & he’s a bit cocky cause he knows it. He’s good-looking & very likable. He’s super funny & helpful. Then, he starts getting mad & wants to fight the world. His tone of voice turns cold & black. I would describe his aura from going from the purest white to the darkest black. You never know what he’ll do. I think he’s capable of doing anything. I don’t think he even knows what he’ll do. Then, he starts crying & turns into a little boy. It’s crazy cause he’s like real manly, then to see him cry like a little boy is unreal. He starts drinking alcohol & starts hitting himself. Then he goes back to being loving & charming within an hour. Lol. Then he goes from being loving to saying the most hurtful things. I won’t even see it coming. I feel so confused of what’s going on. He’ll change the subject & start telling bogus lies. Then I’m mad cause I’m like do you really think I’m so stupid that I would believe that. Then in his little kid manner he’s like I’m not lying. Why do you think I’m lying. 🤦♀️ He doesn’t seem to hold onto jobs even though he’s always the best at whatever he does. That guy can even cook good but something always happens & he’s looking for any job again. I love him but he wears me out. I don’t want to give up on him especially since he don’t do good with abandonment. His dad didn’t believe he was his real son & would beat him since he was real young. Then at age 14 his mom moved him out to live by himself in an apartment like 2 hours away. She would fill up his fridge with beer & food every Sunday, then she would leave. He really loved his mom then she later died of cancer. He had a sister die from narcotics, & a son die at birth from a previous gf. I want to help him so bad, but I’m not strong enough. I can’t give him the help he needs. He was super good when I got with him. He would go to church with me. On Sunday’s that I worked he would go to church with my brother & family. They all loved him which is a very rare thing to happen. I love him but he causes me problems. Like he causes me to be late for work. Then I speed trying to make it to work on time. I get a speeding ticket & am late for work. I’ve never been late for work. Then I’m tired at work & have accidents with equipment. I feel bad bc I feel like ppl are more important than work but I’ve got to take care of me too especially since he can’t keep a job. Idk why I even put this all on here. I just mainly meant to say I think he has every trait from every cluster. He even does the isolation bit.
Thank you for sharing
She is amazing.
I lived with suicidal ideation for nearly 17 years and haven't had an attempt in almost 2 years (bc of how close it was). I was misdiagnosed bipolar 2 about six years ago and my family couldn't fully understand it and just thought it was depression and Bipolar when ALOT of my symptoms fell under BPD. I met with another psychiatrist a year ago and she confirmed I had BPD so now I've begun my process of DBT and trying intense therapy, it's been very helpful so far.
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I am disappointed by some of the language used. You have definitely made something sensationalistic out of something that is supposed to be educational. Although, there were some redeeming points about BPD that you did not say previously. "Hopeless" seems like an inappropriate word to use for anyone. All of these diagnoses are people too.
Thank you very much. Didn't she pledge the hippocratic oath? She is completely neglecting their humanity and stigmatising/ antagonising them. I support a lot of what she is doing. But not the way she's doing it (sensationalising). I honestly think that she has her own set of issues and therefore unaware of the harm that she's doing.
You'll notice it allot with these CZcams phychologists . Take what they say with a pinch of salt and do your own research.
@@jacklight4721 a lot of them seem like they have NPD themselves. I guess that’s why the make videos daily with ads in them 🙄
If you knew anyone with BPD, you'd know that she's not sensationalizing anything lmaoo. It is a highly treatment resistant disorder and it takes so much work and mental upkeep that even the slightest deviation from treatment can cause the person to revert to their maladaptive habits. While not everyone with BPD is a threat to society, they are still often emotionally unstable, making it hard for those around them to know how to approach them. Hopeless isn't a great word, but if you understand the disorder then you understand where she's coming from.
I've seen some of her other videos and she really has a bone to pick with NPD people. NPD can be extremely cruel but they can also be genuinely sweet. I also don't like that she dismisses HPD as not real. There's some debate about it maybe being a subcategory of NPD, but it's certainly real in that the set of traits are real albeit uncommon.
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Thank you!
I just would like to express my deepest gratitude for the enlightening work that your channel is doing in removing the veil of occult from these so urgent issues, as the world spins in psychiatric epidemic. Your channel and the wonderful speakers that are invited are giving us necessary skills to navigate in our more insane, difficult, and turbulent world. Thank you very much.
Thank You Kyle and Doctor Ramani! This was powerful and informative!
Perhaps our world of high tech has implication in these disorders, and prevents many from being Mindful and Consciously aware of the world and humans around them. Cut off from nature and through social media etc., kept in a bubble of narcissistic behavior... ?
Pulling together a training on Cluster A, B and C...LOVE this video!!!
I enjoy listening to her all day as she is honest a kind therapist are not they think in terms of code
When you get a label , the treatment becomes narrow and inaffective
U mean diagnosis? My therapist said the same thing that it doesnt really matter cuz it all comes down to similar treatment. There is no specific treatment for every illness its mostly cognitive challenging ur thoughts and nothing taking everything srs and personal. Practicing empathy and questioning people's intentions instead of assuming and feeling betrayed and hurt
@SVG At last yeah i guess haha thats whats so scary about personality disorders. Some people r experts at deception its terrifying haha. They can really convince u of their innocence. Masters of manipulation. Where does one learn how to manipulate in the first place its very disturbing haha. They literally seem possessed. No conscious or guilt whatsoever
Maybe for some people, but when I got my aspd and npd diagnoses I was able to go to pd specialists and get proper treatment. It's helping me manage my impulses so I can stay out of jail and still have the life I want.
I’d love to see a video on cluster A, the schizo-affective disorders. I have a brother who is schizophrenic, but I struggle to understand this diagnosis!
Schizophrenia is not a personality disorder. It's a serious psychiatric illness. Schizoid and Schizotypal are personality disorders in the cluster A.
What you have mentioned are tow totally different illnesses. I am a mental health professional I am happy to chat, please ask any questions.
Schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder are not considered personality disorders. But schizoid and schizotypal are considered personality disorders...
So Interesting.
That last part reacting and responding... I'm a tool. Thanks for the video info
Mindfulness lets you connect to the beginning, be thankful for the present and be "patiently" hopeful for the future.
Please stop the continued stigma surrounding anti-social personality disorders.
I have ASPD. Not all of us are evil, horrid people. The majority of my friends have said multiple times that I'm the nicest person they know.
That said, I've been in therapy and seen a psychiatrist 17 years.
Bruh fr. I had to say something similar to this other page in here.
Amazing you get help that proves not all anti social types are evil.Possibly it's much more complex than assumed.
I wish there was a way to get through the types that are completely convinced they are absolutely fine the way they are.It seems impossible because when someone decides hurting you works for them where do you go from there? LOL!!!
Well because you're their friend. But to those who you don't like for what ever fabricated excuse you choose, aspd are ruthless, and sadist.
@@hesterp7089 People I don't like for whatever reason I've fabricated... don't you think you're making some huge assumptions about me? Well, people with ASPD in general? Have you ever stopped to think that making such broad assumptions that all people with ASPD pick random people and are sadistic and evil towards them for no reason, is just as bad and horrible as the people you're generalizing? Were you hurt or traumatized by someone with ASPD? Guess what- so was I. It's all that cruelty and abuse that caused me to develop ASPD. People have all sorts of different reactions to being abused their whole life, and this was mine.
But I don't want to hurt people. I genuinely love people. I would rather be friends over enemies with someone. I got help, and with continued medication and other treatment, I'm able to manage my symptoms. You think we just pick someone out, make up a reason to hate them and prey on them, and that's just not how that works. That's a pretty childish view of how someone with ASPD is in everyday life.
@@ices3456 Yeah- the types out there that are convinced that they're fine, don't need help, ectera- those people can be frightening. They go through life not understanding how much destruction and chaos they cause in people's lives.
ASPD has a good outcome long term, as long as they get treatment. But if you're diagnosed with ASPD, you HAVE to get treatment. Continued treatment.
Dr. Ramani is the GOAT
This was SO helpful🙆♀️