Bullying in Japanese Schools is NO Joke
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- čas přidán 11. 06. 2024
- I usually make videos about Japanese culture or trending news in Japan. But today, I want to tell you a story of my own life. I am a Japanese who used to live in Michigan, America for 6 years, so I have many people asking me this question: “Did you like Japan or America more?” This video will be an answer to this question. It is actually a pretty horrifying story after coming back from America to Japan.
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0:51 My happy days in America
2:13 The horror after coming back to Japan
6:19 How the bullying ended and the trauma today
10:18 Japanese bullying and the young committing suicide
12:00 The ending
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Do you have experience of being bullied in school?
I had lots of terrible experiences at elementary school that I don't even remember anymore, thankfully my highschool didn't have such bullying
Yes, but nothing quite as severe a what you presented. Mostly just your typical name calling, pushing, shoving, mostly because I was a quiet kid growing up and a unique home environment (I was adopted and raised by two mothers, so people assumed I was queer.) The worst I experienced was in Jr High where someone slammed my head into a locker and kicked me when I fell. I learned to defend myself and much like your experience once I retaliated once I was rarely bothered again.
I'm glad to see that you seem to be doing well and that you hold onto values of acceptance. I wish the best for you and your family :)
I’m so sorry u had to go through that 💕
Well i got bullied in my school in my elementary days and also its have fakes friends i kindly experience that i was shocked when i discovered it they are just using me anyways because i am a friendly person so it can't be help it but what i hates most is now my high school days cause my classmate are greenminded every time i am doing something they are such putting always in meaning way and someone perveted me as well its so unpleasant to me when i was grade 8 and my classmate in high school their attitude is always lovelife or boyfriend and lazy i mean it was so boring cause i am the only one different i am the only who's opposite to them thats why i rather than choose to bully me than to put my all actions in a greenminded way (yet greenminded means you are thinking a perverted way) so that's why i am modular today because i dont wanna see all of their faces and its irritating me but i hope next year in my grade 10 i hope i have an energetic and no lovelife interest and no greenminded classmates so for me so far I'd like my elementary most than this highschool year well my attitude was a very energetic person but for them its like they don't like my attitude and until i only chat is childhood bestfriend even though we are in the different school i mean i am sort of feel despression in this year actually its my first time i cant sleep i am always crying when its night i just wait to sleep my parents and my elder sister if they are already sleep my depression is getting started but thanks for help of my childhood bestfriend i chatted her and she advice me as well
Back in elementary school, i was the bully. But now, i just turned 17, i'm more cautious about the things i said and do.
The most absurd part is that they did so many things to you, but parents were only called to the office after you defended yourself.
That one punch really pales in comparison to what the bullies did.
Yes in Japan teachers sadly tend to "ignore" the bullying at best, and really most side with the bullies regardless of the good character and good results of the child being bullied. This is why there are so many suicides. I'll never forget I was explained that by a high school teacher, who regretted his behavior only way too late as usual, when said child had ended his life.
In many instances in Japan, if you find yourself a victim of something, the shame and the guilt is put on you. You've been either weak or irresponsible. For example if you catch a cold, you didn't pay enough attention to your health. If you're bullied, you weren't able to blend in... etc. That's the rule, and it's not even that "unspoken". I've been reproached these things by bosses, for example. The dynamics are similar to narcissistic behavior, with gaslighting and all, but on a mass scale.
In many ways, teacher are mostly utterly useless
I thought the same too. The bullying got severe coz the school didn't take action to ensure the bullying didn't happen.
the teachers are also bullies
USA and Japan are both on the extreme end on bullying, at least for a developed country. In USA kids would just shoot up their school. In Japan, kids commit suicide. In my "third world" country, well... we do both.
Let's face it, kids are mean. Every school should have systems that monitor these stuff to prevent tragedy.
“Violence isn’t the answer”..With Japanese bullies, who are more passive and sneaky with their bullying, it clearly is. They piss themselves as soon as you raise your hand to them,
FR 😒
Violence was the answer for me too. It seems like it is a viable option in certain scenarios. Neither does the guy in the video explain why this isn't a viable option except for common principles
And Dutch :3
Violence is a self defense when physically attacked & words are a self defense when verbally attacked.
@@qxujevozaeni1240 That's the excuse of the passive agressive agitator. When the agressor refuses to cease using words to enact psichological abuse by means of words, violence is justified.
The main problem here is that the school and the parents didn't recognize the warning signs of bullying. It is their job to recognize these in the first place.
I work in a school. It seems they have a zero tolerance policy to bullying. I was also wondering where the teachers were when Shogo was being bullied. There's usually a teacher with the class at all times. Did the teacher turn a blind eye?
Schools will start caring if something crazy happens
His mom realized and empowered him to stand up for himself. Her intervening directly especially if the school was not on board wouldn't necessarily be a better solution.
I think they don't want to see it and look away. Becausse I can understand that they don't see the signs. But in a lot of cases it happens right in front of them. And another thing... From what I heard, the mom of the bully is often quite a Karen, and the father is a bully too. But towards the schoolteacher and maybe even the principal. Like when the child is being punished for being a bully, which should happen. I don't understand how schools can even accept it when parents intimidate the teacher. But it happens more than we think.
@@trishahardhearted its the same around the world
Funny how they laughed when someone is bullied but became silent when that person stands up for himself.
I guess they were in shock. Must be something that has never happened before.
because kids are cruel
or maybe they wonder who'll become the next bullying target.
That's exactly what I was thinking.
I took boiling water from the cafeteria and pour it on the bullies head lol
So sorry. Bullies are evil. I was bullied. I told my girls ..gave them permission actually...to punch any one in the face and to not take abuse from anyone. It worked. No bullying for them.
exactly if someone is trying to hit you to bully you don't be afraid to punch them in the nose stomach or jaw.
Scary thing is if the bully is a man, physical force is limited and especially female vs male. Punching someone right away isn’t the answer and should be a last resort but I am sure this is not your point and you are saying this in general. I’m sorry for your experience with bullies and I hope your wounds have healed.
I think the biggest thing about Japan and America is that both countries could learn from each other. Japan could learn to appreciate a little more individuality from person to person, while America could learn how to be a little more polite and less opinionated all the time. It seems hard to have conversations in both countries if you're visiting the other. As an American, I worry about being seen as too opinionated if I were to ever move to Japan.
Magnificent point.
Spot on
Somebody write to President Biden
Facts
that is nigh impossible ''just a dream'' , America was forced into open-mindedness because its a poly-ethnic country and that wasn't easy to achieve at all ( there is still racism in America to this day ) , as for japan they are one people under the same hierarchy system since ages ,they are the descendants of a bunch of people who once believed that they are the absolute race in the world (worse than the Nazis) , both systems have good and bad sides , they will coexist unless you build an entirely new nation of young ignorant people pure of hearts who never knew what racism and ethnicity are { So as long as the older generation still exists ,their legacy lives on }
In my school, I was a bully buster. If kids were being bullied they would come to me. After that, they were no longer bullied. You need to foster a sense of pride and honor amongst the students to protect those that are being bullied.
damn i wished you were at my school
Mad respect to you bro!
I stopped a bully once & it was a great feeling, helping someone like that.. :) :)
I was bullied in my first year of high-school, but there were these two older guys who noticed and defended me. They even beat up kids who bullied me without me asking them xD Sadly, I was also afraid of them, but they could have become my friends.
You sir, are a blessing to those kids.
r/iamverybadass
Sounds like violence worked just fine. Violence has its place in the world.
Amen. Sounds like what you did was justified; there's no such thing as "justice" without first an injustice (otherwise there "just is"); in this case, physical self-defense. His so-called 'rights' stop where your nose begins (however manors are another subject). He unjustly escalated his abusive aggression to physical violence, as to which you appropriately responded with a measured physical response, enough to stop his unjust actions; but not so much as to become the dominant aggressor, or to the point of deadly force. Glad you overcame this, short-term and long-term. Look into the Non-Aggression Principle (N.A.P.).
Yup! That's how we do things in America. The revolution, civil war, civil rights movement and BLM. Sometime violence is needed to wake up the public.
I was always taught violence as a last resort, and yes I was bullied from elementary right through to high school when I had enough like you and defended myself. It never happened again.
Wars happen for a reason
@@erikjj235 that's pathetic you can't compare the Civil Rights Movement with BLM.
"Relying on violence to solve a problem is not a good way at all" i would say that this is situational. It clearly solved your problem and mine when i was in my school days. Sometimes necessary evil is what is needed.
It seemed to solve everyone's problem in this comments section, actually.
Sometimes you have to fight to be a man...
👏👏👏 some pieces of shits can’t be fixed with just words.
It is necessary when to situation calls for it. I was bullied here in America beat up with field hockey sticks thrown down the bleachers. Even had notes in my locker that Iwas going to get hung by my neck from the flag pole. All the times I got beat up I was put in detention.
I also complated suicide.
The kids who bullied me were kids of school board members, so the school staff never punished them.
It only stopped when I kicked a bullies butt and my mom brought police to the school to press formal charges.
Violence is the abselute last resort people use it way to freely and grab to it as soon as they can
I remember i saw an indian kid being bullied. I felt sorry for him and i beat up the bullies. They never messed with him again.
Thank u so much for helping him As I'm Indian im very Thankful to u🙏🙏🙏
You are a hero, may shri ram be with you great man!
Good for you.
Respect.
To this day, he is still my friend
I understand bullying. Being too different can be really bad in the United States. In the 80s, I was regarded as a weird child because of my oddball behavior. Even the school system assumed I had some form of mental retardation. I remember them sending me to get CT scans on my brain. Obviously, I did not have mental retardation and my mother fought with them. I was bullied throughout school for being strange. I did try to speak up at times. One time was when I was in middle school, several boys teased me while the music teacher was out of the room. I told her what had happened. She questioned the boys, who denied everything. The teacher got angry at me and called me a 'Paranoid- schizophrenic' in front of the class. A few years later when I was in high school, I finally had enough after a boy harassed me in my English class. I grabbed him by the arm and was about to punch him when the teacher walked in. I started to cry. However, this teacher was more understanding about the situation and moved me to her morning class. I never flunked in school, but I didn't apply myself like I should due to little confidence. That would change after I took up karate and enrolled in college. I sometimes still suffer with confidence and loath bullying, but I believe I came out as a better person for it. As for my quirkiness as a child, I've never been diagnosed, but I may have mild Asperger's Syndrome. Even if I do, it should be considered a gift. I have a unique perspective on life and still maintain a vivid imagination.
Dude, I don't know anyone talented, creative, and influencial exept that they have Asperger's.
I can relate as I grew up with severe ADHD
I hope those bullies are now homeless.
Violence is necessary when being bullied and words won't do anything. You shouldn't feel bad.
I had a similar experience. Those who started to bully me were my closest friends. It felt like a stab in the back. Worst thing is, I bullied my best friend with them so they don’t pick on me. It became so horrible that he had to move. I only realized my mistake when he was gone. Shortly after they picked on me. I always thought to myself that I deserved it because of how I treated my best friend and that this is my rightful punishment for it. They didn’t become an physically violent but used words and made me look bad to all others, who would start to pick on me to. I still had contact with my friend but our relationship was a little bit awkward. in 7th grate I made some friends, however they didn’t feel like real friends, I couldn’t talk to them about my problems. Then in 10th grade I finally apologized for everything I have done to my friend and swore that I would from now on stand with him if he had a hart time. We became best friends again. My situation was still bad. Not only at school but at home to. Details are to personal tho. Then one day as I and the bullied sat together, one of them picked on me again, but finally I screamed that he should stop this bullshit and that he is annoying. That shocked him so much that I was left alone by them. I still was depressed because of my situation at home, but over the years I got over that depression by simply telling myself everyday, that live is beautiful and happy. First it was just pretending but half a year later, I actually slowly started to become happier. I think I am a stronger person now and I definitely won’t let any of my friends down again.
You have to remember that children are under developed in empathy till late adolescence and in decision making till early adulthood. Don't beat yourself up over a situation that neither you nor the people around you had the right skills for.
@@victorc7421 yeah... I try to get over it, but sometimes I feel a little guilty still...
@@keto4366 You could just as easily feel proud about it. A superior version of yourself overcame a problem an inferior version created. You exhibited growth. Pride and guilt both require some amount of egotism. Can't feel guilty unless you think you had enough control in that situation. Would you have made the same mistake with the tools you have now? Should an adult feel guilty if they stabbed somebody as a baby?
@@victorc7421 an hard question indeed. I take that guild as an reminder to never do something like that again. I understand that, what I am right now is thanks to my past experiences, even if I can’t forgive myself for some mistakes, it made me a person I am more proud of
Dude got the silent voice treatment.
When I was in school, I got bullied a lot and teachers never cared since I never fought back. One day I snapped and punched the bully. Teacher punished me and said I would grow up and become a gangster. Thanks to my school days, my social life is nonexistent but I am happy.
Should've told her you'd "remember her".
@@Psychosmurf5471
make the enablers of bs "sleep in rivers" too
One day i snapped and sent one of my bullies to hospital. Police were called but i was left alone after that.
every bully deserves to go there.
@@PasscodeAdvance they deserve hell-
Police was called? what r u black?
@@dokidokitoki7429 LOL sometimes things go to far. My friends school a kid fell down the stairs and had a seizure after a single punch police were called.
@@michaeldunn8972 Exactly a minority was being oppressed
Bully doesn't realize that Shogo is the incarnation of Saitama and learns a painful lesson
you've become a strong man, strength comes from being torn apart.
Thank you so much for watching and leaving a comment!
I am very thankful for the experience now!
You are right. I had the same experience. While I never want to feel like that again it made me a stronger person
it is a miracle he is still hjere
Not always. It could go two ways. You could become stronger or become even more of a pussy
Unfortunately
You shamed him. He...touched...your...face. In...Japan! WTF? His was a disgraceful act. Your punch was warranted -- even though violence isn't the answer. It was fine, ... because of the shame. The US is guilt-driven. Japan is shame-driven. Very different societies. Very different expectations. You turned out great.
Violence is indeed the answer.
@@alexcarter8807 I would say violence is an answer, sure they are other more complicated ways of solving the issue. But violence is usually the simplest solution. KISS principal. I guess if you are weaker than your peers then it doesn't work that well unless you really commit to it.
In america it might just escalate things, but i suspect everyone in his school were trained to become NPC's and havn't been scripted to react when a 'victim' retaliates.
@@BSenta
Remember the adage, "Sometimes you have to fight to be a man."
@@BSenta violence isn't the answer, it's a question and the answer is yes.
I live in Germany and as a kid my Friend and I were being bullied. And it was very terrible. I don't want to explain what happened exactly because it was horrible.
At the age of 12 my Friend took his own life because of the bullying and I couldn't speak for 4 months.....
I'm now 21 years old and still fear the contact with people who I don't know. I would like to visit Japan but at the moment it's impossible for me....
I'm glad that your experience changed you to become a great person!
Greetingy from Germany
I'm sorry... So terrible. The trauma must be so severe, I can't even imagine. Hugs...
I am Sorry for you and your friend. I hope you will live your life happy and free and one day you will go to Japan and all countries you want visit
That is heart breaking..I hope you meet people that treat you with the respect you really deserve.
@@purewhite9571 thank you for your kind words :) Im still fighting with myself but it gradually gets better :)
I'm sorry too, i hope you are doing fine
this is the opposite for me. When i was in school in vietnam, i was praise by my teachers and looked up by my friends for getting best grades. But when i move to usa, lived in texas, i was bullied for getting best grades. My classmates would called me a nerd and make me do their homeworks or make me show them my answer during tests. If i don't do what they said, they pinch me all day. After i told the teacher i was getting bullied, all the teacher did was called up those kids parents. But it made things worst for me, instead of pinching me like before, they started pushing me any chance they get. I couldn't fight them like you because i was just a skinny short asian girl, and they were HUGE. I never told my parents because i didnt want them to worried. So i decided on a long term strategy , i obediently did their homeworks until the final exam day, when everyone had to sit further apart, they failed on their own. 🤪🤪
What the fuck, I hope your school in texas grows out of that mindset, I always wanted to take school in there
this is terrible wtf, I hope you recovered from these assholes and they learn their lesson
Yeah there are some great schools, and really shitty ones, here. All you can do is stay on track and succeed where they failed. Just remember--all the nerds from back then are making bank from developing tech that bullies can't live without.
America is a ghetto country that’s why.
@@12degreesnowman11 wait wha-
When you fighted back that day, you proved one of America's most popular omens about bullies. Deep down, they're just cowards. Glad you're now okay and I hope Japan's system changes soon.
Shogo, this video is the mouthpiece of a silent suffering crowd of young vulnerable students.
I teach in the public school system in Japan and so I have a firm understanding of the picture you’re painting.
Generally, the school system is good, but this aspect needs to be looked into more closely.
I’ll recommend this video to all senseis and Kyotosenseis with the anticipation of reviewing physical abuse cases in schools.
When I heard your story, Oda Nobunaga came to my mind! I read he was different, and people used to give him a hard time growing up. He was a Hornet among ants! Glad you are now successful & happy!
Thank you so much for leaving such a nice comment! Yes I live a very happy life now!
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” -
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I'm a hafu that lived 23 out of 25 years of my life outside Japan. When I was in elementary school, I was outside Japan and had never really been to Japan. All I knew about Japan was the delicious sweets my friends in Japanese school would bring and share with me, and how orderly everything seemed, and all the gadgets and technology they had in Japan. I idolized Japan as the best country in the world, and always wanted to go there. I finally visited Japan once when I was about 10 years old, and loved it so much because everything was as I had dreamed it would be. I wanted to live there, but at the time it seemed highly unlikely.
Turns out it wasn't unlikely at all. When I was 12 or 13, my dad was transferred back to Japan and so that meant I'd finally get to live in Japan for an undetermined time. Unlike Shogo, I wasn't put in a public school, but in a half-international school, so obviously I didn't face discrimination from the beginning (the kids that went to my school expected to see foreigners and returning-Japanese). The first year went well. I had many friends and wanted to live in Japan forever. The second year is where everything went down hill. I can't place the cause of it, but I'd say it was a mixture of my asexualness (everyone was kinda horny and looking for relationships? but since I couldn't really "get" it, they didn't think I was cool enough) and lack of air-reading skills (I'm dense/literal, so I can't get things that are just implied- I think autistic peeps can relate to this. I don't have autism but if it's a spectrum disorder, there's definitely a tiny bit of that in me). Anyway, I'm a girl so the bullying I experienced wasn't physical like Shogo's. The girls would isolate me and laugh at me from afar, do passive aggressive things like look disgusted when they had to hand me something, and kinda damage my things when I wasn't looking.
I wasn't as strong as Shogo, so my personality took a severe hit from this. I was a vocal, outgoing person, but now, even 10+ years later, I'm shy and quiet. I tend to go with the flow more than I'd like. I now live in the US, been here for 7 years now, and it's been a slow process trying to recover my confidence and myself in general.
This level of violence in young boys is crazy...
Enter the feminist nutj0b.
Why women live longer
@@intermilan9731 huh??
Actual reason why using violence against violence when your a kid is completely understandable. Kids are kids
Mean girls exist too. Sometimes the violence is not exactly physical (sometimes yes) but they can make someone's life miserable.
so my brother had his first daughter a little half Japanese girl named Seira. I think it was that his wife wanted to give her a Japanese name that he said sounds like that. Now I am worried that my brother and his wife will move to Japan and she will get picked on for being American. So should I start teaching her to stand up for her self?
Thank you so much for leaving a comment!
That’s a very difficult question... it really is up to that person and the environment. Even if you were bullied, boys and girls will be bullied in different ways.
But my brother that’s seven years younger than me, did learn karate from when he was three years old, so he can overcome bullying just in case!
@@LetsaskShogo Thank you for this comment. It's interesting to know some Japanese people anticipate all the bullying that is indeed a common threat. I've left many messages under videos and contacted you. Your channel is exactly what I was waiting for. Thank you very much.
@@LetsaskShogo Sounds like my nephew, he in school in the 90s with a Japanese boy named Tsubasa who had a 4 year old brother Eo, and he said it was a lot easier for Eo when they returned home. So glad you had a better high school experience, an international school would've been better for you from the beginning.
Yes
Maybe your brother should look at this video.
The fact that the abuse stopped when you stood up for yourself is proof that violence can work and can be the answer. I am tired of people letting horrible things happen and not doing anything about it. If our superiors actually went out of their way to help us, violence would not be necessary at all. I am seeing parallels between both our cultures and it sickens me. (I was bullied harshly growing up for an unusual seizure disorder and it's fallout from elementary school all the way through high school.)
Thank you so much for sharing your story, and I am glad you survived your bullying. Honestly those statistics are horrifying, but even I thought about suicide during middle school. It’s so sad to think that children of all people would think about something so dark and terrible. I really hope Japan and the rest of the world are going towards a more positive future.
Thank you so much for watching and leaving a comment, it’s nice to know about your experience to!
And yes I really hope for a brighter future as well. I am willing to do what I can!
Honestly, there's a good reason why Asians come to the west
But, I'm not gonna go there
Bullying is a worldwide occurence. I say: In the wind a blade of grass bends but does not brake. Violence is not the answer but it sometimes gets a message accross.
Violence is not the answer except when it is.
I’m unable to watch A Silent Voice because of the topic of bullying. I really enjoy your videos but I’m going to skip this one. Kids are horrible sometimes.
As someone who's friends with a zainichi, I can somewhat imagine what you're going through. He shared the kind of bullyng he went through. He couldn't take it and ended up moving overseas, permanently. You're strong bruh.
❤️ thank you very much for the video
Once there was a little girl, and a much bigger older girl that kicked the little girl's butt every day before elementary school starts. She had bruises every day and other girls asked her about those bruises when they were swimming together in the pool. One day that little girl took all her courage, caught the bigger girl's foot when she was about to kick her again, and pulled it up high in the air. The big girl lost balance, fell on her back and hit her head. The young girl was frightened to death 😱 and her parents were called to school because of the incident. From this day, the big girl didn't kick younger girls anymore. There will be lots of other bitter experiences in life. To keep one's soft heart is the most important thing.
People that are ill:I still want to live
Young healthy people: I wanna die
SAD
I was shaking in Fear and Anger when you share your testimony about bullying because I too experienced severe bullying during my elementary and especially high school times. 😢😢 Punching and slapping you for fun, making fun of you with weird nicknames, locking you in the toilet, putting trash on your bag, betrayal of whom you think is a friend and even my teachers making fun of me too. The worse is I didn't fight back because they are many and teachers will never listen to me anyway and my parents didn't listen to me too 😭 That's why until now i'm still having a trauma 💔
you parents didn't believe you ?
Parents or family sometime live in other world,or barely put food on the table like in old days. Takes time your life it's in your hands ..take care of yor body and soul...
I’m sorry for what you had been through
It's almost as if Japan condones bullying as long as the bully is considered "normal".
When your society is based on hierarchy and conformity, it only makes sense that the societal expectation is such.
This kinda reminded me of "A Silent Voice" anime movie
I watched the whole vidoe thinking about March Comes in Like a Lion second season.
I experienced bullying when I was in lower secondary to the first year of upper secondary school, mostly from my female classmates. They would comment on my weight (even though I was actually a normal weight and they were underweight, which I later came to realise), and my mixed ethnicity a lot, and say that I behaved "strangely" because I have three different cultural backgrounds. This made a permanent dent in my confidence, so I wasn't really able to enjoy my teenage years at all. Thankfully I was able to change schools and I was able to move on. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I'm so sorry you went through this. I'm a Master's student in International Education currently studying the experiences of Kikokushijo, Haafu and other non-typical Japanese in the public education system. Of course, in any country children will bully those who are different, but I think the lack of diversity in Japan left a lack of awareness with a lot of teachers about how to handle different students and encourage tolerance. I hope things are changing, and I hope to dedicate my career to researching how it can change. Sending much love, and how strong you are to share your story! よろしくお願いします!
I am cheering you on! Please, help the young ones of Japan.
Hello, Kim North san! I'm a foreigner mom living in Japan with an autism 小学校１年生's kid. He also being diagnosed with borderline intellectual functioning (IQ below normal). Besides of his condition, he insists to go to school by himself and always happy going to school. Unfortunately, group of kid whose living in the same apartment with us are bullies. They always mock on my son, kick him, punch him, throw his cap and shoes. And their mothers never thought their children do bully. They always think it's normal for kid to play like that. Atarimae. It was crazy and it stressed me a lot. What should I do? Since teacher seems not care to much too 😭
@@dailyaryanti6347 its not normal. The best answer if you must live in japan is to move your child to an international school where Japanese and foreign children mix. Those places will save your child a lot of stress.
@@quattro4468 how about
force him learn to defend himself?
like boxing school or buy Thai or krav maga
not karate its too long
i had same experience! there was this group in elementary school that would bully me, and one day i just snapped, pushed them to the floor and started kicking. there was no bullying after that. i think now its healthy to assert yourself, becausd if not youre kinda inviting people to be mean
for me it was never fun for the bullies because everybody knew not to attack me because bad things would happen and words did not bother me like 90% of the time my mind was somewhere else
I really remember that moment when I snapped to... it was a very stressful moment! But as you say I guess it is important to express your feelings to overcome bullying!
Inviting is not fitting I think. Neither is letting.
Maybe one can say they won't stop unless forcibly stopped.
Because in bullying, the one doing is the culprit, not the receiver. In the normal everyday use of inviting, though yes is a frequently used thing, assumes responsibility on the party that's being wronged. And assumes that party knows! how to defend, and is capable of doing it at any time. Having the strength to do so doesn't equate to being able to.
im so happy that you where able to pass by it.
when i meet you back at funairi you thrully seem really happy and made my time there so much better
Thank you so much for watching and leaving a comment!
Yes I remember the time I spent with you at high school, it was a lot of fun and a great memory of my life!
@@LetsaskShogo i thought i was being sneaky, but when i heard your story i couldnt hold it any more
My expirience with you at high school was one of my most precious memories
To the point that i still have all the letters you guys gave me
So proud of you.
I am very proud of you too.
I am going to teach english in Japan for a while as an ALT, just for the experience, and I want to be fluent enough so that if i ever saw anything like what you went through I could stop it. I sincerely hope that the Japanese education system will grow to stop these prejudices continuing
im fluent, i teach in japan and i’ve stepped in several times in the case of bullies and kids taking advantage of other kids. I detest how passive the teachers tend to be about it but I speak up regardless, and I encourage you to do the same!
Bro I’m so sorry that happened to you. My gf is Japanese so I’m eventually gonna move over there. We had this talk about bullying in Japan and I’m seriously worried about our future kids since they’re gonna be mixed and easy targets for bullying. I told her I’m teaching our kids how to fight idgaf. I’m a strong believer of an eye for an eye bc it’s the only way most times.
I heard in some Asian countries school is seriously tougher than in America. Higher competition and higher bullying (Leading to serious physical abuse) and can lead to suicide. I hope your future kids won't have to go through that
mixed hafus are popular in japan
Plot twist: Your kids gonna be the bully
@@jameswoods832 From an article. Posted in 2019
So, i guess it all depends on where you are going to live. Some communities will be more accepting than some. If you’re going to be in cities, it will be easier. If it’s out in the country, they may have a tougher time. Everyone is just going to have to put their heads up high and keep moving forward. That’s if they want a life in Japan. Japan is great but of course have some issues. But that’s almost every country in the world.
SAVE UP FOR THOSE INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL FEES NOW. Seriously, bro.
not a lot of people talk about this aspect of japan. Even their politicians vehemently deny bullying happen in schools despite the data. Thank you for this eye-opening video.
Thank you for telling your story. I live in the US, and was bullied in elementary school and middle school. In my case it was because of my disability. It took untill my mid 20's to put most of the negative consequences of that behind me. I'm glad you have been able to put it behind you as well.
This was a deep video, thanks for sharing your story!
Thank you for always watching and leaving comments! I appreciate it very much!
Interesting, the same happened to me on my school days in Brazil. Pretty much for the same reasons. In Brazil all that matters at school is passing the exams. I was very bullied at school until the day I stood up and trowed my desk across the room on the the bully. She never even looked at me again.
You’re such a charming and poised presenter. From one customer service to another, props!
I had a bully in Elementary school. He started out pretending to be my friend, but demanding that I give him my free lunch ticket everyday. When I called him out on using me for my lunch ticket, that's when he turned hostile towards me, often shoving me around and calling me names, and often waiting by the bike racks after school to punch me when I came to get my bike. One time after school, when I was walking home with my sisters, he cornered us in a park and started to threaten one of my sisters with a knife. Thankfully, we escaped physically unharmed, and I transferred schools soon after. I haven't run into him again since then.
LOOOL
I have to say, my jaw was actually wide-open for most of your bullying story. I absolutely cannot believe what you had to go through and can’t imagine how many kids suffer like that.
This is a huge problem in Japan. All my half Japanese/Japanese friends who lived abroad were bullied. I know some that were bullied out of the country
I am deeply sorry for what you had experienced. I myself know and understand what bullying is like. Among psychologists, there is a saying, it often takes a broken person to be a good psychologist, as this allows us to understand how it feels, and how to respond in help.
Violence did help you back then, how did you learn that it wasn't a solution? (But I agree of course)
Thank you for sharing this story, I was surprised how different the schools in Japan and USA are.
As a german student, I find it hard to say my opinion (only in class, anywhere else I'm too honest), but I'm always supposed to. Still didn't think in a country where good manners are important, that such incidents happen and so many. I'm very sorry for all these young kids who take their life's because of social pressure, it's not so brutal where I live (it depends which school you attend. I heard many bad stories from comprehensive school) although I was bullied in elementary school and highschool aswell, didn't want to go to school and wanted to do suicide aswell, but it all stopped suddenly and I became friends with people I had a fight with.
But it seems you live a happy life now! I hope to achieve that aswell
Thank you for leaving a comment!
I guess I just simply news inside my heart that violence is not a good answer, a good way to communicate. I mean I didn’t want to hurt anyone if I could.
And thank you so much for sharing your experience too!
Well, violence may not be a solution, but sometimes it can sure recontextualize how worth it it is for someone to have a *problem* with you. Especially if it can punctuate you've been showing *restraint* all along rather than just being an easy target cause you're 'afraid' or something.
Shogo, thanks for sharing this story. My heart breaks and weeps for you and the people in the comments who have endured this kind of horrible abuse. Seeing you now is an inspiration. I'm so glad you were able to change your situation through your own will and build a happy and successful life. I was too weak back then and didn't stand up for myself. I wanted to die everyday. My mother, she didn't have encouraging words. She was part of the trauma. The more broken I was, the easier of a target I became. I endured the bullying for nearly two decades while suffering from extreme depression. Eventually, I decided to leverage the emotional anguish in a blunt way against the difficulty of brutal, intense physical training. Nothing could hurt me as much as I was already hurting inside. I tried turning into a monster. It mostly worked. However, the timid, weak and frightened child was still underneath. It kept me humble, kind and considerate but also still somewhat scared of others. Over the years, people asked me many times how I stayed so "motivated" with my training goals. I never told anyone what I described above. As disappointing as it is to admit, although I'm an adult now and made progress towards a healthier state of mind, I recognize that I still have some recovering to do. I just want to be happy and see others happy. Still working on it. I hope the people that are suffering can find the strength to persevere and keep striving towards success and happiness.
Well, as we say in Brazil: respeito é bom e mantem os dentes na boca: "It's great to show respect. It keeps your teeth on your mouth". Unfortunally, sometimes, bullies will respect you only when you put'em in place by being violent. School and their mothers will, finally, try to solve the situation when their precious tyny bully gets beaten.
School: You leave this poor bully alone!
Bruh, i can't imagine how you cope with such horrible bullying. You've got a good heart
Your story sent chills down my spine, I have experienced something similar. I admire your courage!
I was almost killed by school bullies.
Thank you for bringing awareness to this social issue. ☀️
I feel compassion for your young self. You are very brave. Instead of being destroyed by sadistic cruelty, you endured, and then took a high-level lesson from it: understanding of the oppressed, and empathy. How beautiful and powerful this is!❤🎉thank you very much for sharing🤗
I love how calm and soothing his voice is, and I also love his subtle japanese accent
Same!!
i really love how clear you speak and the way you create content. keep em coming!
I'm experiencing bullying and all sorts of things at school too. I hope everyone who's experiencing bullying will find a way out. Thanks for sharing Shogo.
As a bullying survivor myself, i want to give you a big pat at the back. You’re so strong, bro. Thank you for surviving🙆🏻♀️🙏🏻
When will the Japanese people and politicians decide to make bullying a crime? With the Japan population falling yearly it can no longer afford to lose its youth needlessly.
In my country bulling literally almost doesn't exist, and I'm so saddened and disgusted by the fact that bullying can get so much serious and nasty in other places in the world. It's completely inimaginable to me that such terrible things do happen.
what country?
@@lyhthegreat Serbia
You didn't experience it, you mean
I’m shocked that you don’t have more subscribers since your videos are well done and you are such a great presenter.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. My heart aches hearing what you’ve been through because I can relate to some of it. The cultural clash that you had to deal with in a learning environment must have been unreal to adjust to + the bullying!
I wish that I’d had half of your bravery when I was being bullied. Your mother gave you such great advice and a kind ear. ♥️
I am so sorry you were bullied in school in Japan! I was bullied here in the United States from kindergarten all the way through High School! I loved school but hated the people!
It is so sad to hear that bullying is so rampant. I am glad that you managed to overcome it 👍
Thank you for sharing a personal experience. I also have experienced bullying when I was a child, people have tried even as an adult. I'm glad that you overcame your experience. It is very sad to witness or hear about this type of thing ever. We should all stand against this behaviour and support each other I agree. Talking to someone you trust is a very important step.
loving your videos looking forward to the next one, you are a very nice guy I enjoyed the day I spent with you at the samurai experience so polite. Have a great day.
p.s. your ramen video made me so hungry.
Thank you so much for watching and leaving such a kind comment!
As you say being able to talk about your experience is definitely one of the best ways to solve bullying. So I am very thankful for my mother to help me out in the darkest times of my life.
Right now I am happy enough to say that my life has always been perfect including this experience.
PS Please come to Kyoto again so you can enjoy the Ramen haha
Thank you Shogo for sharing your story! I respect how you dealt with the bullies. Like you said, violence isn’t the best solution, but sometimes I think in situations like bullying, it is the solution. I regret not fighting for myself and remaining passive.
I really hope that children in Japan, South Korea, U.S. and in every country of the world realize that they are not the problems - the bullies are. And they have all the right in the world to stand up and fight back and protect themselves from unreasonable, inexcusable acts of hatred, violence and exclusion.
Standing up for yourself stops bullying. There are times when violence is the best solution. The 12-yr old Shogo demonstrated it when he punched his bully. The bullying immediately stopped.
Sharing your experience of bullying & the serious effect on mental health is such an important step. Have you done this for a young Japanese audience? Many could benefit & feel less isolated...thank you for sharing Shogo.
This video made me sad. I myself expereanced bullying for years and I feel sad for everyone that had to go through it too.
I really hope that this bad condition of suicide in Japan will become better. I really hope schools, goverment and citizens will take actions against it for the health of their children.
Just as you said, even when you stay strong and pass these horrorfing years of school it will never fade away completly, espacialy if you became a parent already.
Thank you for sharing this story. I am glad that you have overcome your past and grew into a good person. It's so easy to succumb to bullying. I was bullied as a child too, and I have some bad moments from time to time still (I am now 52 years old). I'm glad I found your channel, because you are very engaging and entertaining. I'm learning a lot from your videos.
you’re story is incredible thank you for being so strong and sharing 🙏
You look like you are drunk
Very brave of you of sharing your story.
Dear Shogo, while I believe in learning from a teacher I find myself in the situation where I live thousands of miles away from anyone who could teach me the way of the tea ceremony. I live in Baghdad, I have Japanese raku bowls, matcha tea, bambo whisks and bamboo spoons. Are there any resources for me to train in the basics of the ceremony. Your channel is wonderful and I really like your passion for tradition. Much love from Baghdad.
I am 胡安, studied with you some years ago in 北大。 Your video touched me very much. I was also bullied during almost all my school life (it happens also a lot in Europe). Unluckily for me at that time -I'm a bit older than you- most people thought it was "normal things of children, it will go away". However the fears and anxiety have stayed with me for many years after, one never recovers completely, but I keep trying to overcome them. I wish we could've talked about this topic when we were studying together! Anyway thank you for making this problem more visible, this is the only way to reduce it and help the poor children who still suffer it. Don't suffer for your daughter, she has a supportive father who is very aware and I'm sure she will grow up very happy! Hugs from 北京!!!
This is awful to hear. I, too, was bullied and suicidal, and although I made some attempts, I'm glad I survived. Teachers should learn about bullying as a part of their education, because I feel like most of them just aren't aware of what to do and there arent any strict rules about it.
Thank you for having the courage to speak out about this and so many topics.
Thank you Shogo. This is very enlightening!
8:45 I wouldn’t say you “relied on violence”. You used it once though and it had favorable results.
Hi, Shogo! I felt so identified with your story and how you felt, since I went through the same. So glad that you pulled through those hard times and have become who you are. Love your content.
Thank you for sharing your story ♥️
I was also bullied very badly in school. It’s something that stays with you for the rest of your life, even if, like you, you refuse to allow it to define you.
Keeping being an example of hope for young people
Thank you for sharing. I'm glad that you survived that experience and became stronger.❤
That's brutal, I'm glad you're okay now.
I’m so happy that your still here to this day I appreciate every video you make
Your story was inspiring, very touching, and made me tear up a bit, both tears of joy when you were recounting your experience in the US, as I was so happy that you had a good impression of my country, and also of sadness about your horrible experiences when returning to Japan.
Sometimes the only thing a bully understands is a beating
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I personally appreciate your openness and sincerity. For me, that is the characteristic of a man of true strength and courage: One who can look back, smile and move on, always ahead,
leaving resentment behind and taking the best, even from the worst situations.
On the other hand, I find it *incredible* that a country as advanced as Japan, in which its people _always_ emphasize the importance of politeness, decency and harmony, neglect their emotional aspect, which is a vital element to lead a healthy and stable life at any stage of it. It really saddens me how little attention is paid to that great pain that children suffer, it is really bad and very... disappointing.
Nevertheless, I wish you the best of life always Shogo, you make great content. Cheers and kept going!
Your story hits so hard. You are a strong man Mr. Shogo, I teared up a bit when you mentioned your mother telling you words of wisdom which also gives you courage. Family relationships is very important, you're very fortunate that your family was there with you in your darkest times, but some didn't have those support and it's also one of the reasons why they feel more and more depress.
Japan really should focus on the mental health more, it's getting worse and worse each passing year. It's a very beautiful country, the nature and its historical culture. I hope Japan will change for the better.
And Mr. Shogo you earned a new subscriber, me! 🎉☺️
I am so sorry that you had to go through that awful experience! I am crying after watching your video! I am so happy that you were able to find happiness in a new place with great friends!!
Bullying is a global issue, its horrible but i think the bullies teach us to be stronger, i myself went through a lot of bullying but after you start fighting the bullies they stop bothering you, violence isn’t always the answer but it’s necessary to learn to stand up for yourself.
It was painful to tap like for this video.
I was one who opposed bullies from my first year in secondary school (high school, 11 - 16 year olds in Britain). Because of this I ended up with a small group of friends who benefited from my presence. My aim was not to win fights, just to make sure that whoever had decided to get physical with me or any of my friends would think very carefully before trying to do the same again.
I love your videos, but this was particularly moving. I am so grateful for your mother's words, for your high school classmates, and for your own personal strength. I grieve and am surprised that bullying is such a problem in Japan.
Thanks for sharing your story Shogo. It made me so sad for you, but also inspired by what you took from it.
Now I wonder.
They bully others because "you must blend in".
But isn't bullying the opposite thing?..
Like, it's not a normal thing to do... Or I am mistaken?
I also was a victim of bullies in a middle school. I being hit many times, I even tied in an empty room for hours. Luckily someone found me and released me. Ironically I'm a discipline teacher now and this time the bullies scared of me
you are so brave for sharing this and being thankful of these horrific experiences, and your video editing style is so entertaining! I'm really touched by how you stood up for yourself, and how your mother encouraged you to do so❤️. Your video really sheds light on Japanese conformist culture!
geez man, you went through serious stuff man
really glad you`re still with us, making great and wonderful videos :)