4 Most Important Things I was Taught as a Child by My Japanese Parents | Kids Education in Japan
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- Although I grew up in America for 6 years, my parents and other relatives are all Japanese. My father was a president of a company, and my mother is from Kyoto. They were very very strict with manners, and how others would see me. I still have painful memories of being scolded, and sometimes even being beaten by my father when I failed to follow the rules.
So today, I will introduce 4 most important manners I was taught during my childhood by my parents. These 4 things are generally taught to most kids in Japan by their parents, so knowing them will help you to understand what kind of things are thought of as basic manners among Japanese people. But please note that the Yamaguchi household was particularly strict and not all homes are like this in Japan. I will be counting down the 4 things, so I hope you can stay tuned till the end!
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1:30 1.Putting shoes neatly together
3:01 2.Mottainai
5:04 3.Table manners
6:16 4.Greetings
7:42 Today’s conclusion
9:25 “Omake” talk
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Ironically, I was always taught to take responsibility for my actions. But what my parents really meant was take responsibility for theirs.
Same as your parents Shogo-san.
They taught everyting about manners, to be wise and honorable according to our customary norms
Everything you described, except that part about toilet paper. That is way too much, even for them.
"Your knowledge makes your value' and your morals make your charm".
My parents taught me a lot but the one that came to mind is speaking properly. If I used slang like "ain't" or " yo, what up?" Instead of "isnt" or " how are you?" I'd get a smack for that! Now, in my 30's, I say that stuff all the time lol. They were correct though. Speaking properly helps so much in job interviews. also just to seem more educated and respectable.
"My father was a president of a company, and my mother is from Kyoto."
Kyoto always lives up to the reputation.
@@thotslayer9914 More like "thought slayer"
I can relate with “save everything” and don’t waste resources because my grandparents lived in the Soviet Union, so my grandma is a big hoarder and nothing ever goes to waste. It’s a goldmine really, they still use plastic bags from 20 years ago
Holy crap I didn't know plastic bags lasted that long...
@@JariDawnchild well plastic in general can last a long time
@@JariDawnchild - Maybe the ones made 20 years ago. It's all about being cheap now.
One of the main problems with plastic bags is when sunlight comes in contact with the bags.
If you keep your bags away from the sun as much as possible, your bags should be able to last for much longer.
Another problem is heat. If you keep the bags at about room temperature, the bags will also last longer.
I have noticed that bags that are kept in the truck of a car tend to fall apart quicker than those that are kept in the house.
Also, if you clean your bags, then you might not even want to throw them away.
(Of course, I just use plastic bags as trash bags.)
Same with my parents from the Polish People's Republic
As far as I know, putting shoes neatly together facing forward towards the entrance comes from the old times when the houses were made of wood and paper and has a pure practical reason: in case of fire and earthquakes (usually followed by fires) one could get the shoes on and evacuate as quickly as possible.
This sounds crazy, but it really sounds like I should've gotten more of this when I was younger. Better manners means people also treat you better.
It's good to teach children to be considerate of other people. But if manners just become "rituals" just for the sake of looking good, people should consider if it's worth beating it into their kids...
@@kymo6343 Yea, whenever some people do it. It makes me think they're just on auto-pilot. They don't know the actual meaning of what they do.
That was smooth by the way, where did you learn It?
In Germany, we are also taught to be polite and respectful, especially to always say 'please' and 'thank you'.
All the acts with mottainai in mind makes sense but skip the worn out socks and especially the toothbrush part because they need to be replaced before the bristles splay. The rest reminds me of the very simple things I do to help prevent waste and needless expense.
My wife and I are Americans, but we still take off our shoes for cleanliness and comfort. Unfortunately, we don't keep them organized and often have to search for the matching pair we want to wear before going out! I've often thought about making a getabako for practicality (and because I'm so fond of many things Japanese:).
Same here; I always wear slippers indoors .However I don't like going completely barefoot since I always am banging my feet on something or stepping on painful. 😬
Do it!
Taking off shoes inside a home is universally an Asian thing. Not uniquely Japanese. I'm Filipino, And all of us here take off our shoes inside our homes.
I was fortunate to train in karate with roots in Shuri, Okinawa. We were taught much of what is described here. Manners are very important, as they show respect and self control. Greetings, in proper order, were important for similar reasons. We also placed shoes neatly. 😊
This video explains much, and is appreciated.
I'm Finnish and the things you explained with Mottanai feel very similar to what my family has taught me. But we aren't that strict on it.
7:08 I can understand. The more an activity is related with violence and/or competition, the more politeness is important to avoid conflicts. Even gamers have politeness codes like glhf and gg
Even dogs have a method of politeness for this. It's called the "play bow", and it's a very clear signal that the dog is engaging in play and not actually viciously attacking their buddy. It's different from human bows, though. So politeness during violence among friends goes way back.
And I thought Crayon Shin-chan is slice of life, while it is fantasy.
Another series to check out is Atashin'chi it's slice-of-life with some gentle and humorous moralizing, I'm really addicted to it.
In Uruguay many parents teach their children to be humble while teaching them not to let people walk over them by telling them "you don't matter more than anyone, bot no one matters more than you"
In California my father taught me to be very frugal scolding me as a small child over wastefulness I can relate
Congratulations on your 2nd child!🤗😊💕
"Manners Maketh Man" indeed
"do you know what that means? well, let me teach it to you"
4:20 That's actually rather unhealthy. You should replace your toothbrush at least every 6 months regardless of how nice it looks. All that grime adds up.
Also should soak it in mouthwash about once a week or so.
Omg my parents used the hard toothbrushes thinking it would last longer but now dentists tell you to use the soft ones for better gums. I also noticed toothbrushes lack effectiveness when splayed out from overuse.
@@WokOverEasy how long did it take you to notice that? LOL
My dentist says 3mos and i clean them with salt and baking soda sometimes
They all good manners,
I cam from a big family we were taught manners mainly by my mother of course saying a prayer before start eating and give thanks after we were done it was a must, one more thing we were taught as kids when sit with adults you listen more than you talk so you could learn wisdom from adults.n
not all the tooth brish is not healthy
What was the most devastating consequence of my own breaking of the rules while growing up was getting disapproval from my father. In some cases that was devastating enough, even without words.
Most of these rules and manners are also important for me and I tried to teach them to my children and now to my students too
I'm a Filipino and I was also taught about these in a way; except for the first one, though.
so interesting. I also had a strict family but from a different culture, greetings, please may I , thank you , excuse me and very strict table manners were all enforced. I really enjoy your content! I am sub and happy to share your vids with others!
Parenting: the sharpest double edge. A nice balance is needed. Dont spoil and dont neglect. Teach em respect and to be respected.
I like watching you gesticulate, it really helps get what you're saying across
Manner no.2 really suprise me in a positive way! Looking forward for next video!😄
#1 - I grew up in Hawaii where it's customary to take your shoes off before going in the house .... well, it's most often zori, at least in the old days and a lot of people might have zori that look the same. You might walk home in someone else's shoes! Or with one of yours and one of theirs because the color is similar and it's late at night etc. So I learned early to put my shoes together neatly so I could find them again, no one else would get them mistaken for theirs, etc. It's just common sense!
You are so kind and descent....i wish I could bless father like you
Hi Shogo, I love your channel and all the information! And also that video. Please consider that the consumerism of our generation is the cause for all our environmental problems, so the thought of もったいない is more important than ever.
Looking forward to your next video!
In my aikido dojo, if I enter on gym mat without permission or without bow I have to do 100 push ups
Haha that is a common thing... Did you get also like 50 for being late?
@@hollistantang9469 It depends how much, but yes. 50 is minimum.
@@Jimmystrzelczyk ahh interesting.. Fortunately, in my old dojo, the punishment was like only 20-50... Well I hope I would get to visit that place again sometime in the future. I somehow miss the sensei and the friends I had back then...
I always hate that because, practicing martial arts doesn't mean you have to believe in ghosts or spirit... so what is the point of bowing to something you don't necessarly believe or non physicaly existing ?
I find that as much bothersome and annoying as praying before eating when you're atheist for example. when believing are mixing with "manners" it's becoming annoying.
My grandparents spent their childhood in the post war era, so they suffered famine and lack of basically everything. So, they taught their children and grandchildren the "mottainai" of our country (that is basically what you explained in the video, but with a lot of leftovers recipes).
I remember my grandmother praising us for finishing our share, and taking any leftovers to the fridge for the next meal. Sometimes, she froze it and appeared days later, when we (in theory) had forgotten that one meal.
Nowadays, I try to plan the meals so no food is wasted (I still fail sometimes) and I really regret having food spoiled, although I only experienced hunger when on a diet XD.
In the present time, trying to reduce consumption of items and recourses is a good thing in the global scheme, so there are a lot of different "mottainai" approaches taking place at once.
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Dang Shogo, that whole toilet paper thing would have ended me as a kid. I would spin out the paper like I was making tails for dragon kites.
Great video guys. You should put a series together just on the Omake talks. Its good to hear your personal perspective.
Lol! Great one! and the images you chose to illustrate the video make it even greater
Just found your channel. Thank you for all the well produced and very interesting content 😊🙏 And you are such a nice family 😍🥰❤️
All the best greetings to Japan from Denmark 🇯🇵🇩🇰
Congratulations for your second child!
Mostly, it's the same rules that I grew up with. My parents were very strict too. Often the punishment didn't march the degree of our behavior. Mottainai... If we left a single grain of rice in the bowl, he would lecture us how a single grain would turn into multiple amount of rice every time. As an old weman I am today, I still practice all those. I didn't beat my kids to teach the manners like my parents did, but I taught my kids by examples, and they are great.
Thanks Shogo, will use these tips wisely.
thanks this video helped me read those weird forms of hiragana writing i couldnt decipher them in the past :D
Love your videos Shogo-san! You have a new subscriber and I am happy to reconnect with Japan through you after an absence of 30 years. Kore kara mo gambatte kudasai! 🙏🌸
Great video!
Can you make a video of how dating is in Japan? I heard that you can’t meet the parents not til the guy is serious to introduce you for marriage. In other culture, you can meet the bf or gf and introduce to the family.
Hello Shogo, I'm from Germany and I was taught as a kid to be honest, mostly independent and that rights and duties come as the two sides of the same coin. A person can't have one while disregarding the other. In my family, politeness, whether table manners or greetings, or just respect for others, was not taught as much as it probably should have been. School does cover it a bit. But it's more of "get along with each other and listen to the teacher" than making someone look noble or well-raised. Mottainai wasn't exactly taught in my family either. It was more like "if you don't look after your stuff, you won't have as much". Most of my family do put the shoes neatly together unless they are in a hurry, but it was never considered important. Just practical. It's interesting to see what is different in another culture.
Great points, I had to laugh at pulling out the plugs from the walls on appliances or electronics not in use. They have a bypass within the machine when not in use and doesn't use any electricity. My grandfather was very strict on water, because water heater wastes heat. The water would always turn freezing half way into filling up the tub for a bath. 🥶
As an exchange student in Japan I was treated with utmost courtesy, above and beyond. It changed me forever.
Very similar to Yorkshire in the UK.
All those manners are exacly the same manners we have in Greece and mym other she was super strict to that ether.
Is just me or the "don't waste anything" isn't just for Japan but for other nationalities too. I am Pilipino and i can relate with that.
Very nice Manners. It gives me the possibility to make a good impression. 😊
Bless you shogo blessing you and your family
Thank you
I think the shoe thing is situation dependant.
I also have a no-shoe rule in my home. However, I live alone and very rarely have guests. Therefore, only 1 or 2 pairs of shoes are at the doorway at any given time. In this situation, I've found that switching between house sandals and outdoor shoes is FAR more efficient if all pairs face one side, rather than forward or backward. Stepping to the side is less of a awkward balancing act.
Bonus: no rotating needed
I can understand though that in other situations, in which multiple people live in (or visit) a building, that facing shoes forward is more orderly and would look nicer. :)
Polish American households also take off shoes before entering the house. It irks me when friends walk around their houses with shoes.
Great video!
Very cool!
So after watching this, suddenly I wonder how much my grandfather was influenced by being a practicioner of Judo. This is all pretty common in my household as well, even from a european background. Its nice to see when cultures collide like this.
This was interesting. So, if I were to visit your house I couldn't kick my shoes off across the room, be wasteful, my table manners would have to change dramatically and I'd have to be respectful. Ok, I have to work on these things.
Many of these ‘ don’t waste ‘ rules are common in countries that suffered through WW II and the lack of supplies ( at least the older Generation ) I still see my Dad use the back side of his comb to empty out toothpaste tubes etc. my mom had several little devices that would roll up tubes so they could be emptied completely
I still use them out of respect for nature’s gifts ( or am I allowed to say out of respect for the kami of food / condiments )
Idk how or why this is in my reccomondations, but I like it!
That strangely also summed up the household I grew in myself as well...
that lil sis is lovely 😊👼🏻
I would say my parents taught me almost all the manners you mentioned. They're the basics and I would say everyone should atleast be taught these. Especially the resources one, it will eventually become a habit with everything.
Congratulations on the impending birth of your second child!
In regards to rules & regulations, I like the Viking approach, embracing my inner barbarian...
ありがとございます。：）
I was taught these things too
But I'm not from Japan :'D
Was scolded and sometimes beaten too
This is so relatable video :'D
Thank you Shogo!
Strangely interesting video.
By not following your parents on how you pass their lessons to your children, you are effectively showing that people can make progress DESPITE 'education'.
I’m waiting for your vdo^^
In Malaysia we also were taught not to waste things and resources like foods or electricity.
Well, for electricity, here we use British Type G plug (and 240V/50Hz) that's infamous for its bulky design but this Type G plug is I'm grateful for. We have switches for plugs so if we don't wanna use any particular devices or appliances, we would just switch them off. There's no need to plug and unplug every single goddamn time. If there're multiple plugs connected to an extension, we can just switch off the extension's plug switch that we connected to. Ezpz.
Not being wasteful was and continues to be a big rule for both my husband and myself. For him he was raised as it being respectful, for me I had a rough childhood and was kicked out at 17, so was very poor and see it as part of being resourceful.
domo arigato gozaimazu for your explanations sir..
I think that the shoe rule could also be consider a safety rule in case you need to flee your home quickly. Using a toothbrush too long is just unsanitary. In the Southern US, manners are also considered a clue to how vulgar or educated a person is.
To be honest, except the use of chopsticks, I follow this rules unconsciously. I can't explain how, but I do 😂
Didn't know you're a saiyan...
and a titan...
Watching these makes me think I must be seen as very uncouth while in Japan! Lol!
Thank you so much for these cultural lessons. These help me avoid making faux pas in Japanese households and alienating my hosts.
Thanks for the informative video! I have a question about the first one: would it be considered rude to turn around to face the door WHILE taking your shoes off, instead of taking your shoes off while facing into the home, and then turning your shoes to face the door afterwards?
Good stuff 🐲
Tip: cut the toothpaste tube, to scoop out the last drop.
All the best God bless you
ありがとうございました
1:30 Here in the USA, for decades I take off my shoes when entering my apartment or home (shoes are dirty, y'all), but I do this sideways to the entrance so I don't have to turn them around to put them on. Simple!
O, how many thousand times did I hear "Turn out the light!" growing up?
4:15 I've got the same situation over here bro 🥲
If you consider a friend by how neat he puts his shoes in the entrance, that you must consider me as a hater by me walking WITH MY SHOES into the house...
I'm ashamed to say growing up in the US, my parents only rule was pretty much "don't embarrass us too badly", shoes got flung wherever they landed if I bothered to take them off at all, and table manners? I sat in front of the TV in the living room to eat, except perhaps on Thanksgiving or some other holiday.
Make sense
Americans don't properly discipline their kids and those who try to do it poorly
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I find myself empathizing with your list. I was raised by my parents and by extension my culture) with very similar principles.
Half of these kinda make sense to me, I’m not from japan but was also taught this.
in phillipines ...just like you master shogo ..we even to punishment in our parent but after punishment they explain why there doing this because they love us ......( you know waht i mean )
My Sensei taught me some of these etiquette
The Japanese culture also teach us great discipline.🙂👍
In France too these points are very important and we are strictly educated that way. I scold my children if they do not respect it. Showing exampke is a key. I do not beat ar all my 4 children and they are kind children and respectfull. We are very stricts about mottainai aswell.
I’ve learned a lot about japan from this channel, but the one thing I can’t figure out is what that Japanese phrase shogo says at the end of his intro means. My theory is it roughly translates to “enjoy the video”
My mom is Japanese but my (mildly) obsessive need to use every last bit of toothpaste, shampoo, etc. comes from me being me. 😂 My mom isn’t as strict compared to some parents so technically I was self-taught this. As for food though, I save leftovers in the fridge and eat it the next day.
Number 1 is the most reasonable one.
4:32 Darning socks used to be a common skill.
My dai sensei also talked on that when I was yuang
Raised in Hiroshima? If it's no longer radioactive, that's pleasing to hear.
Given the pollution problems we are facing mattanai, may be very necessary.
Itadakimas!
Yes. They taught you well. Be glad you have them.
shogo, if "you cannot live alone" how, in great detail, do you explain the FACTUAL existence of hermits and monks?
Yea and hikicomouri