The 5 Surprising Differences of Weddings in CHINA & JAPAN Explained by a Transnational Couple
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- čas přidán 5. 08. 2024
- Today January 14th, is our 3rd wedding anniversary! Because Harumi is Chinese, and I am Japanese, we were lucky enough to celebrate both our weddings in each country 3 years ago.
Thankfully we have some videos left of how each wedding looked like.
So today, we are going to play the videos for you, so you can take a look at how different the weddings are like in China and Japan. A lot of people think that the cultures of China and Japan are basically the same, but for us, there are many interesting differences. After playing the videos, Harumi and I will countdown the 5 biggest differences that surprised us the most!
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1:21 The Japanese wedding
4:22 The Chinese wedding
8:16 No.5 Where your family will sit
10:01 No.4 How you handle money
12:17 No.3 Men have to overcome multiple obstacles
14:08 No.2 The clothes that the participants wear
15:48 No.1 When the staff will start cleaning the hall
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Thanks for sharing the video, this is very interesting to watch 😁👍
Man you both look good in those wedding attires!
Shogo... yes it might feel awkward, but i assure you..there is nothing embarrassing here. it's pure beauty. thank you so much for sharing this private moments. I hope Kyoto doesn't feel to.... empty these days
Isnt Harumi japanese name?
Your videos are very informative and fun to watch! Looking forward to part 2!
As a single Russian guy, I know 0 about weddings in my own culture. I've never even been to a Russian wedding (or any wedding, really). But when I was watching your wedding clips, I had the biggest grin. So happy and romantic. You both are very lucky comrades.
Go crash one😁
Can you help me learn Russian ?
I am Russian too, I haven't been to weddings either but from what I am told, they are very westernised. Usually there is way too much alcohol as well. I cannot stand drunk people and how they act, so surely if I had a wedding it would be nothing like those people's weddings, who told me about them
Another Russian here, I was on a wedding only once, and I was like 7 or so. I don't remember much but there were definitely several quests for my uncle to get to his future wife. I was kinda surprised that Chinese wedding was somehow similar in that matter
What about ortodoxian wedding ?
She had 3 different GORGEOUS outfits in the Japanese wedding!!
European dress is ugly.
The Asian dress is beautiful.
Every time Harumi cried during one of the weddings, I cried. Everything seemed so happy I just couldn't help it. Thank you both for sharing such a private moment with us and helping to educate us! You are both so amazing.
We Chinese have a saying called ‘husband-wife looks’ 夫婦相. It means that the couple’s looks or expressions are very similar. These kind of couples are meant to stay happily married forever.
I think Harumi and Shogo have ‘couple’s look’. Happy, kind and sweet! 🎊🎉💕💝
Both of your weddings looked beautiful. I also had two weddings. I'm Portuguese and my wife is Indian. Question? I find it interesting that Japan, who worked to westernize themselves, has kept their wedding ceremonies in tradition with Japanese culture. China however; who fought against westernization, has a very western styled wedding. From speeches, the seating arrangements to even your suit and gown. It was very reminiscent of my Portuguese/Western Wedding. I'm curious as to how/why this occurred.
Honestly thats a very interesting observation, never thought of that
not rlly
To be fair, not all Japanese weddings will be traditional. You have plenty of weddings that are done according to western style. Especially in Kobe where I used to live, they seem to really have a lot of venues and dress shops that are done in a western style. So it's probably more of a personal taste
Now I too wanna know about this
If I have to get married I’m doing a Viking wedding. Screw wings, exchange swords.
I love the gate crashing games! It’s suppose to be the final test to prove to her friends that you are worthy to marry her. That’s why they play games that have to do with declaring your love, strength, and also demand $$$. They honestly went super easy on you XD
I feel like this is something leftover from the tradition of bringing dowry and stuff to propose to a lady.
That’s to sweet!
The crashing gate thing is also practiced in other places too. For sure, it's still widely practiced, but we called in the Silver Gate Golden Gate. The richer the two families involved, the more gates there are, lots of cash going around and weird ridiculous games ranging from push ups to giving out gold necklaces to gatekeepers.
Sounds super fun would love to witness one of these in person haha
It is to show you are earnest and sincere to marry her. Therefore you are willing to go through all obstacles to obtain her hand.
@Space Ray Engine That’s so cool! I personally prefer the money though XD
I started crying when the sister wiped her tears while performing..
sheeeeeshhh, yeah thats the exact moment for me too lol
Hearing Harumi-san listen to you speaking English then replying in Japanese gives me the motivation I needed to study Japanese much harder
Now I'm curious how you two learned each others' native languages.
@Ti Klim same lol
Effort? Dedication? Discipline?
I knew an international couple who communicate only with English at first 😆
Wish them a good life together!!
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I loved learning about these two different ways to celebrate a wedding. Japanese wedding was very ceremonial and extremely elegant. Chinese wedding was very romantic and absolutely fun. You had it all between these two celebrations!
This is sooo cute and wholesome.
I'm Mexican American, and I must say that both cultures are extremely beautiful and learned a lot. I am a huge fan of your videos. 🤘🏼
Why do I have a feeling your name is Luis?
I was expecting the weddings to have a very stiff aura of tradition around them, but the mood was just so light and airy I almost cried over here. Being adopted from China has lead me to be very interested in it, and I’m so happy for you two even though this was a while ago. What a pretty venue
It’s so amazing to compare these traditions to American ceremonies and I can just tell from the footage everyone is having a great time
Thank you
I wonder if Harumi ever gets the language crossed when she visits family or vice versa? Her Japanese sounds so authentic 😍
Harumi was born and raised in Japan so no wonder her Japanese is really fluent.
They are so cute together xoxo
so both of them are trilingual aaaa... Thats so cool
Harumi is so beautiful! Princess like!! Best wishes to you and your family, Shogo!! :)
Harumi, you were one of the MOST beautiful brides I've ever seen!
Thank you, both, for taking the time to share these special events with us and explaining the differences.
Also, I love watching videos from earlier this year where you mention your goal of 100 thousand subscribers by January 2022 (while I see you are currently at 321k! That's so amazing! Congratulations!)
Shogo looks like a top student who gives an excellent speech at school and most of the lecturers love him! 😆
Great heartfelt video! I'm a Japanese-American living in Los Angeles and I have many Chinese friends and been to many Chinese weddings. My friends and I have laughed at these same differences. I feel like Japanese weddings separate the traditional and Western wedding cultures, but Chinese weddings integrate Western elements more. Thanks for the great video!
My grandma wore jeans to my wedding, granted, I wasn't about to give my grandma, in her 80's, a hard time.
i bet her drip was insane
It's for practical uses too. If u dictate on a dress code, guests will be too lazy to go to your wedding feast because they have to go to great lengths to buy formal dresses and it's an effort on their part. The result will be FEW PEOPLE might attend it and chinese don't want the party to look bleak and gloomy with few attendees. That's why there's not much dress code, only the wedding entourage observe this formality in wearing nice.
That's so cool, my grandma would never!
One of the best things about a national lockdown was finding Shogo's channel. 😊 ✌️
There was a kid who was our friend during our elementary school days...me and my friends made him marry a dead lizard. He and his wife(dead lizard) are happily married since 2014.
Aww that's so sweet.
The japanese wedding outfits looks amazing. Never saw what japanese people wearing at weddings, I'm jealous now.
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He had a traditional wedding. most Japanese now have Western style weddings with suits and wedding dresses.
Happy anniversary! At this rate, you’ll reach your 100K goal before the summer.
Happy anniversary ! Harumi looks so gorgeous in any dress she wore for the weddings. Keep up the good work Shogo :)
Mr. Shogo singing from his heart 😭👍!
IM NOT CRYING YOURE CRYING!!! That was beautiful both weddings
You guys had a lovely wedding! I think it's nice to wear traditional clothes. I live overseas and I want my children to have a piece of my heritage.
So cute!! ✨Happy anniversary!! Interesting enough where I come from we have similar obstacles for the groom and need to get through the bride’s friends and family by playing games and giving “bribes” in the form of money before he can take the bride with him ☺️
i always love watching wedding ceremony from two different sides of the couple. they're so interestig
Happy anniversary from Macedonia! 🇲🇰 Wish you all the best! You are both so cute together!
For me, there's always a big difference when the couple are genuinely smiling than being forced to smile. I couldn't be more happier for the two of you❣️
I went to a traditional Indian wedding as a child for our uncle in Lucknow. I cried, the wedding went past midnight and lasted for a few days. Somehow, everyone there still had the energy to keep dancing and setting off fireworks near our feet.
You look adorable together
Happy Anniversary Love Birds
お結婚記念日おめでとうございます！Traditional Japanese weddings are Shinto religion based.
Both cultures and their both peoples are amazing
I have to say that, as a Greek, the chinese wedding seems quite familiar. I'll address their points in the same order.
5. There are no rules about who sits where but usually there is a bride side and a groom side.
4. When it comes to money the couple pays for the ceremony and the celebrations afterwards (maybe with the help of the parents). The guests don't pay anything but they are expected to give gifts and/or money to the couple (the couple will have a gift list so the guests don't buy anything stupid).
3. There is nothing like that here.
2. There is no official dress code but people are expected to put on some nice clothes. As a rule of thump the older guests were more official attires than the younger ones.
1. The stuff cleans up when people leave.
Also I have to mention that the wedding itself is a seperate thing from the party. The wedding will happen first and sometime later the party starts. Some people even have two parties, one for relatives (old people) and another for friends and young relatives.
Shogo-sensei and Harumi are the greatest example of how we can move forward and come together despite our past mistakes 🇨🇳🇯🇵🇭🇰🇲🇴🇰🇷🇻🇳
CONGRATULATIONS! Looks like you have both found your soulmates. "MAZEL TOV"!
Lovely blend of cultures. Congrats on your anniversary
Harumi is such an elegant woman! Her face, smile and movements, she looks like a princess
I am currently studying in China I know those Red envelopes very well , you spent alot on those lol lots of love ♥️😊
Hi Shogo, hope you and your wife and babies are well. We really enjoyed these video's. We have been watching your video's for about two months and love your insights and helping people to understand the true Japan and it's history. We wish love and peace to you and your family.
Kate and John in England
I'm not much into weddings but I almost cry with you guys! you look so cute and happy I wish you a long and happy life!!!
I know for me at least growing up in western culture the way to dress at a wedding was usually your best clothes unless told otherwise by the bride and groom. One very big no-no for girls is to wear a white dress to a wedding like the groom or bride could kick you out for it.
The Chinese wedding seemed to have a bit more "Western" flavour to it. I found that quite interesting as I thought it would've been the Japanese one to seem more "western". A combination of some aspects of both weddings would be nice.
That secret money thing is also a cultural aspect in the Caribbean, especially among older ppl. You're grand parents especially, they would pretend they're giving you a handshake and when you pull you hand back, there is magically money in your hand. 🤣As younger ppl we always find it do funny.
Ahh.. so that's where the culture of the "birthday boy" who pay the bills, because here in Indonesia is also do the same.
in Russia - same
Same here in the Philippines
in my country the birthday boy receives a "birthday bash"
In the UK we take cakes into work for our collegues. When you're a kid your friends give you "birthday bumps" if you're in school on your birthday (and as long as they can catch you!)
same in germany (also taking a cake to work)
Shogo, thank you for sharing! One of the things I like most about your channel is the personal element that is lacking with many other CZcamsrs. Your focus on traditions and history is also very enjoyable. Keep up the good work!
My dude really can do push ups.. i cant even do one
Wow! Two beautiful ceremonies ! You are doubly blessed 😇
I loved this video. Seeing the differences was so entertaining and educational. You both looked fantastic, Harumi looked beautiful in both ceremonies.
Wholesome is immeasurable...Happy Anniversary to you
Happy Anniversary for you and your wife! May you have more prosperous years together! Both of you are so adorable ✨
You and your wife are adorable! I love the peak at your both weddings and the explanations about the cultural differences
All I can say is wow! Both weddings were so beautiful they brought tears to my eyes, and I am not one who tears up easily. Simply wonderful
Omg, I love this couple. Can we say soulmates!!!
So many outfit changes at one event - Harumi is a real trooper! I'd be exhausted just with the regular two wedding + reception outfits common over here. 😅
Moroccans: 7 outfits at one event 💀
Im crying this is so beautiful you both look so happy and both ceremonies were gorgeous. Smiles and tears. you both deserve happiness and I'm happy you were able to come together
I'm at 5:13 . I'm just amazed that a simple alteration in make up, attire and scenery can turn a very Japanese looking couple into a very Chinese looking couple! It is surreal!
I'm also very impressed with the level of attention to detail. The Qing Dynasty style details in your wife's Japanese regalia to point towards her origins from across the sea. This matches with your own family crest.
I've read a lot about Japanese being perfectionists. But looking at the way you correct yourself in the subtitles and the attention to detail you put into making sure everything is according to the respective cultures' traditions pretty much confirms how true it is. I wonder how many weddings in China keep as many Orthodoxies as you two observed? Maybe there is the general form there. But I would imagine with the chaotic political situation and the messy daily life, many details are likely to be omitted because people are more focused on their immediate best interests in that stage of their lives.
Anyway, good job!
China never sleeps, but you managed to somehow jump into the party and fit in! Very impressive!
My fiancé and I are planning out wedding so this is so enjoyable for us to watch! Thank you!
Congratulations! You two are an inspiration on so many levels
Happy anniversary you two, cheers to many more in the future!
no wonder Harumi's sister looked familiar to me-
she's a professional singer :OOO
Anyway, I'm so glad you two came together! despite all the hardships you two went through uwu
Happy anniversary Shogo! I’m glad I found your channel in time to celebrate this with you!
Happy wedding anniversary!
This video is so informative, can't wait for part 2 ^^
This was super wholesome, thank you for sharing!
Beautiful couple. Congratulation.
Happy anniversary to you two!
Thank you for the knowledge this is my first time knowing the difference of japan and china's wedding
Thank you for sharing the two weddings and your comments. So touching it brought a tear to my eye.
Congratulations and well deserved Kudos to both of you for your Anniversary !!!!
Thank You so very much for all that you do and for sharing a bit of your personal lives with us ,,,,,
Both ceremonies were equally beautiful. Harumi looked absolutely stunning ❤
Such a very personal yet informative video. Thanks for sharing, Shogo!
I loved getting to know about different cultures and traditions. Thanks for sharing! Happy anniversary.....
10:50 in iran guests throw money bills to the spot that the bride and usually minors in the wedding are dancing around the bride and the groom. We call it "sha-bash" its so fun
I love your videos, it’s so interesting to hear your understanding /perspective of culture. I don’t know if it’s everywhere that staff would take down a party while guests were still there. As a person with Chinese ancestry, I would be horrified if the wait staff started taking down my decorations during my wedding.
The staff did the same when I went to my friend's wedding in Japan. She wasn't even allowed to take the leftovers either despite how expensive it was (could have fed ~25 people with those leftovers).
One observation from someone very new to the channel, you both converse like best friends...gives me genuine insight on the strength of the love you have for each other. Thank you for sharing this important moment in your lives.
Happy Anniversary you guys I just found your channel a few days ago and it’s helped me learn a lot more about Japanese culture thank you!
Happy Anniversary! You two look so beautiful and so happy together! I love seeing how much you both light up when you look at each other.
Happy Anniversary and Congratulations! It was such a great experience to witness the wedding traditions in both cultures! Thank you for sharing something so private and wishing you all the best in your lives!
Belated congratulations on your third anniversary!!!! May you be happy and healthy for many years to come.
aw, this is so precious! thank you for sharing. ☺️
I’ve been watching your videos enjoying them so much that when I saw your wedding I felt two friends had finally made their dream come true and I had to smile and cry of happiness ❤️
Many many blessings on your wedding anniversary may it bring you much prosperity, love and happiness. Arigatu O for sharing these beautiful videos of the two different ceremonies for your wedding. I immediately started noticing the differences. Both of you looked absolutely stunning.
I cannot wait for part 2.
Congratulations to you both on your anniversary. Thank you so much for sharing the beautiful videos and explaining the differences.
Happy anniversary 🎉.
Both weddings were beautiful! Really interesting. Thank you for sharing your special times.
Thank you!! your weddings were so lovely. I truely enjoyed seeing them and the differences in cultures. Very interesting!
I was so happy watching their two weddings I forgot I was watching a video about "surprising differences" or their reactions at all! I totalllyyy forgot everything~ It was just soo sweet and romantic it was like I was at their wedding! I was so so happy for the both of them!
Love this couple, they are so loving and caring
How beautiful! What an amaizing wedding 😊
Thank you for sharing this special day through your channel Shogo and Harumi!
Both ceremonies were absolutely beautiful! Thank you for sharing this part of your journey with us! You are both such an inspiration.
the videos you showed were so beautiful i almost teared up, wonderful two wedding ceremonies
Thank you so much!
This is a such a wonderful presentation, even had cupcakes!
And Shogo, you are beyond blessed to have such a wonderful wife and family. Doomo arigato gozaimasu!
So beautiful! 🙏🏾 thank you so much for sharing your special day with us 🙏🏾
Congratulations! Many years of love and many beautiful children
They really do seem like a beautiful couple! I wish them all possible happiness!
I fairly appreciated this video a lot hahah happy anniversary to you guys too!
Congratulations, Harumi and Shogo! Best wishes from Brazil