How Bad Is Bullying In Korea? (feat. The Glory) | Street Interview
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If you're a fan of Korean dramas, chances are you've heard of the popular Netflix show "The Glory". In short, it tells the story of a woman seeking revenge on her high school bullies. But, how accurately does it depict the reality of bullying in Korea? Does it really get as violent in real life or does the show exaggerate the issue? We hit the streets of Seoul to hear directly from average Korean citizens about their experiences.
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0:00 - Intro
0:27 - Why is ‘The Glory’ so popular?
1:58 - Are the bullying scenes in ‘The Glory’ exaggerating real life in Korea?
4:09 - How common are bullying cases in Korea?
7:04 - Is psychological or physical bullying more common?
9:50 - Have you witnessed or experienced bullying yourself?
19:44 - Who do you think should be held responsible for school bullying?
21:55 - How can Korea’s school bullying issue be solved?
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The blonde girl and the guy with the black beanie.. their stories are so sad. Especially for the guy, you can tell his self esteem was really affected. I hope he is happier now that he’s out of those environments
Shame to those who did it to them...i feel their pain...
I knew they were bullied right away, it’s in the eyes😔
No fr tho i can relate to him.. bcs when i was bullied back in hs, although in the outside it seems that i don't care of what my bullies says but it really hit my self esteemed even until now and it really hard for me to make friends irl. Even when there's someone that approach me, there's will always this barrier that dont let them to get too close to me
@@SleepingLittleHedgehog I was bullied too and it affected my life heavily. These people have no idea how much they can affect someone’s life forever
Yeah, considering how sexual assault can be such a simple lie that can absolutely ruin someone's life. It requires no setup, nothing. And it also hurts real victims of sexual assault, it sows distrust everywhere.
My Korean-Filipino friend was a victim of bullying when he was in grade school in SK. At first it's just verbal abuse, mostly mocking him being half Filipino and having darker skin. Their teachers knew but they would just shrug it off. Then it started to become physical, that's when he had enough and finally told his parents. His filipina mother went berserk and threatened to file legal actions against all people involved including the whole school admin. She even said that she's gonna expose the bullying in national TV. The bullies got expelled, then he transferred in the philippines, and he said it's the best decision he ever made.
Btw, this incident(s) happened in early 2000's. And it lasted years from primary to middle school. Also, I am aware that bulllying happens globally, but the topic is about S. Korea; hence, I shared my friend's unfortunate story.
She’s a good mom. I read about a similar story of a boy who got bullied for having a Vietnamese mother in Korea.
Aren't Kopinos bullied in the Philippines?
I mean, they dare to mess with children of Filipino mom or in general Southeast Asian moms? They would actually go into tiger's den then hahaha. Rooting for her mom! 🔥
@@Orvvv200 seems the xenophobia against SEA people is still rampant in SK.
@@Orvvv200 Yes I heard about that with the mini Gangnam style boy who had a Vietnamese mom too.
My heart broke for the man in black. His school life was derailed, his fellow students talked behind his back constantly, the teachers sided with the majority sentiment, and even his parents thought that he had to deal with his "problem" all by himself. This is unbelievably cruel and unjust. I'm glad he found a reason to hang on, get his GED, and get into fashion school. I have so much respect for his inner strength, but it is clear that he still carries so much trauma in relation to what happened. I hope he finds healing in the days to come and rises higher than anyone who thought that bullying him was acceptable.
Yes I feel so bad for him. He is truly Moon Dong Eun in real life. I didn' t understand why the teachers cannot even listened to both sides and atleast tried to solve matter. To me, they are not even fit to become a teacher.
@@Nananana09174 Indeed. Thank you for sharing his name. I think some teachers may disbelieve their students when they report acts of bullying, try to downplay them, or could not care less that they happen. This is concerning because something should be done when a student communicates about abuse. It's disappointing that some teachers do not care at all about the welfare of some of their students.
Tbh he probably did harass someone
@@jinnamonroll5684 huh who harrass who?
@@Nananana09174 probably a girl
18:20 hats off to this courageous woman who persisted in standing up for herself and reporting the bullying despite the shameful gaslighting of the homeroom teacher, who needs to receive disciplinary action 🤬
"I hope we can all live our lives with strength. I'm a living example of that. You too, can live with courage and strength."
I'm so sorry for the young man whose parents didn't believe him 💔
In my opinion, the homeroom teacher is also bullying the girl mentally. Shame on her as a teacher.
I completely got chills when she looked into the camera. I’m so proud of victims of bullying who can speak about their experience in the hopes of helping others. I hope Korea will change its juvenile laws soon
omg me too 🥲
Fr
Hello, I'm the girl who stared at the camera at the end of this video. Please understand that English grammar may not be accurate because we are using a translator now. When you interviewed, you remembered the past, so you could hear your voice shaking a lot. I still feel scared and upset when I recall the memories of that time, but I have something to say to you who are reading this comment. Even if you haven't completely overcome the bad memories of the past, many of you in the past have endured and lived in that state, so you are living now. In my case, no matter how scary and shaky my voice was, I was able to confidently talk about my painful and difficult past in public, and because I saw people who were helped by me, I was able to think that I won my fight even if I didn't win my memory. The reason why I thought I should stare at the camera is also the courage according to them.
If anyone experiencing or experiencing various forms of violence sees this comment, please never suffer alone. Like my situation, I recommend that you ask for help from various people until you can get help by being more solid with it rather than despair even if you go through a rejection of help. I didn't know how to do that when I was young, so I chose to be solid on my own, but I hope you don't suffer alone and get help from various people. Thank you for reading the comments.
My CZcams handle is the same as my Instagram ID. If you need help, you can ask for advice with my ID.
@@mute.404 Thank you!
I haven't get passed the bullying that I experienced 2 decades ago, but your comment in the interview made me realized that I'm not alone.
I might still going to be scarred for decades to come, but at least now I know I'm not the only one that carry the scars.
@@mute.404 I’m very proud of you and how far you’ve come! Please stay strong and take care of your health! You have helped many people by speaking about your painful past. Thank you ❤
The poor guy who dropped out of high school… That sucks for him that someone’s lie screwed him over. That person will get what’s coming… But I am glad that continued to move forward with his life the best he could. Good on him.
Not to mention, what awful parents he has! How do you not believe your own kid? They clearly didn’t really care.
Life**
yeah wish him the best.
sorry to break this to you but that person will probably live a decent life. karma is not real and you need to stand up for yourself in any situations. being bullied means you are weak and don't have the guts to fight back.
@@JayPH found the bully
Korean rage is *real* . The only times in my life I was bullied was by my Korean mother who strongly believed in corporal punishment for things like losing a crayon. Her parents died in the war when she was 9 and she carried the war trauma with her her whole life. But that was no excuse to continue the generational trauma. I finally broke the cycle. I never once hit my children.
Due to my upbringing, I despise korean culture. And I never wished to meet my Korean grandparents who raised such evil.
How can you meet your grandparents if they died already
Hi INFJ, I imagine it must have been extremely difficult for you knowing your very sensitive temperament type. I read somewhere that Song Hye Ko is the same type, so maybe she was perfect for her role in Glory. Good for you so being different towards your children; it takes real strength and determination to end generational trauma.
@@Harry11endersoni think op meant they’re glad they never met their grandparents in the first place. Read.
Sometimes I wonder how much generational trauma impacted Korea, because like you said, a lot of older folks carry anger and trauma from when Korea suffered from the war and post-war famine. It wasn't that long ago, and middle aged Koreans will likely have memories of pre-hyper capitalist Korea
@The INFJ Channel I understand why you feel the way you do. And it's none of my business whether you despise Korean culture or not. However, I lived in Korea for a long time. Not Korean BTW. There are many things that infuriated me and at times made me feel as if I hated Korean culture. I now respect it deeply. Korea is a great country with deep flaws. Koreans are very cold to those outside of their in groups and deeply affectionate to those within their in groups. Not sure where I'm going with this diatribe other than to say that it must have been saddeining to feel that your mom bullied you. I know corporal punishment is very real in Korea. I'm guessing it was a sin to lose seemingly cheap objects like crayons due to the poverty levels Korea experienced not long ago. That doesn't excuse her behavior but is a realistic explanation I've heard before from Koreans. Long story short, it doesn't benefit you to hate your roots.
I feel like bullying is taken very lightly by the society not only in Korea but also globally. People seem think that bullying is just kids playing and teasing each other blah blah blah because if it is taken seriously then we have atleast rules and laws regarding with these. This world needs to recognize bullying as a one of the most dangerous trauma a person could ever have but they didn't act like it's that dangerous. Bullying is always overlooked, ALWAYS and I'm sick of that.
Yes. Thank you and I'm sick of the victim blaming. I'm sick of hearing that kids just need to stand up for themselves, as if they weren't. I'm sick of the ignorance and ignorant comments and lack of accountability towards the abusers. Abuse of younger children by older children is often the case. Do you think a 4 year old girl can protect herself from a group of 10 year old boys? Do you think she has parents who care? You don't know the situation, but don't take it seriously and tell her to stand up for herself. Do you think a 4 year old even understands who's a bully and who's a friend? These kinds of things are happening and are serious, but who helps and even notices?
Thanks God you acknowledge that it's world problem, not just Korea problem like alot of this commenter.........
@@xafovod626abusers don’t get the benefit of doubt. Bad home life, not getting enough attention, loss, whatever it is that led them to being a bully, doesn’t excuse their actions. They need help. There’s also the reality that not every bully is going through something; kids and teens are assholes for no reason at times. Personally, it’s not my job to treat anyone that harms my children or myself with care. They’re aware enough to know what they’re doing is wrong.
And to make matters worse, we, at least in the US, tend to bring up anti-bullying programs and whatnot as if they would magically stop bullying, but it doesn't. It takes hella more to do at least alleviate the conflict rather than creating little-or-no change at all.
@@anubizz3in korea it is more severe that's a reason why you can see many bullying stuff in k drama in us too there is bullying but thats a different kind of bullying like nerds and jocks and all that stuff like that
As a teacher in Korea, and where teaching is my chosen profession, I feel teachers should bear responsibility for any bullying that takes place in their classroom. I have encountered mild forms of bullying and when I see it, I nip it in the bud real quick. It should never be brushed off. It angers me when I hear such bullying stories, like told here, where the teachers involved only made the situation worse and even tried to blame the victim.
Also, I have many Korean friends, as I've lived here for many years. And, although, physical punishment is outlawed by teachers today, 10-15 years ago it wasn't. I actually have a friend that was slapped by a teacher, like in The Glory. It really shocked and disgusted me to hear things like this actually happened, and they still happen today.
Yes!!! I remember when I was in my first year of school (which is 12-13years old here) the school had this anti bullying campaign and actually educating us kids before the bullying could even start. I think when you teach kids compassion and consequences and what impact they can have on a classmate with just a few words early on, it definitely decreases chances of it happening later. Ofcourse there have been incidents here and there, there was a girl who was ostracized by majority a little and in hindsight with my adult view on it I wish I had put in more effort to involve her with my friendgroup cause only now as an adult I realise she must’ve felt lonely. And the worst I ever experienced was a a few weeks of this one girl who didn’t like me for some reason she did a bunch of stuff, like throwing bits of paper against my back during class, following me outside the gates after school on my way home with her 3 friends and shouting at me calling me names (luckily I was also with my friend and she was rather tall and big so they never messed with her) and waiting for me by the bike racks in the morning to harass me. Then eventually it just stopped cause I guess she realized I didn’t portray that victim mentality that she wanted (I was a little scared tho but I never showed it) and years later sometime before graduation when we were like 17/18 she actually apologized to me & I remember being SO surprised that she actually remembered. She said “I’m so sorry for bullying you in year 1 that was really stupid and immature and you’re actually really cool you know” I was flabbergasted and it actually made me see her in a different light. Anyway point is I think you’re right as long as teachers but also the school curriculum are on top of it and make bullying a topic to be addressed instead of taboo I think a lot of kids can be saved and also redeemed. Nowadays kids here bring knifes to school claiming it’s for self protection for when they get attacked by a classmate…really sad
Thank you sincerely for your service towards your students. When I was beaten in school, nobody in my class bat an eye. When I told my teacher he didn't even care to ask my classmates, who all just watched, if the story was true, he brushed me off immediately and let it go on. Even my father at home ridiculed me and just laughed that I didn't defend myself. The fact that the responsible adult in this situation didn't care to listen hurt almost as badly as the bullying itself.
@@TJ-1234 My 2nd grade bully also apologized to me.
@@glittery8862 I am so sorry that happened to you. I sincerely love my students and never want any of my students to ever go through that. I don't want my students to feel alone or like they can't come to me with their problems.
Unless you want to lose your job as a teacher
The last woman survived the period and came out stronger, even stared at the camera confidently to give advice to those who need it. Admirable.
Korea is the best for bullying.
Better days for all the victims
For all bullies I wish
They will realise what they did
The guy in the black beanie....I just want to reach through the screen and hug him and tell him I'm proud of him! How sad that his own parents treated him horribly!! I hope he is able to find happiness in the path he has chosen! And such encouraging words from the blond girl! Glad to see that she was able to overcome what she went through! Psychological bullying leaves scars that no one sees. It took me decades to heal from being ostracized and ridiculed back in school!
I am incredibly proud that you're healed or healed by some percentage after enduring such painful feelings of being ostracized
The girl with the strawberry blonde hair telling her story, and her voice cracking up with tears, you can tell those memories are still with her, and will always affect her in some way when thinking or speaking about it. The strength and courage she has is incredible and I truly wish for her bullies to experience nothing but what they gave to her. To the young man too, he also kept his eyes down and spoke about the experience of bullying with trauma in his voice. I wish them success and happiness!
bro how can that lady say so confidently that the bullying cases shown in the media are exaggerated .....that is such a disrespect to the victims who have gone through so much and are now finally able to speak up about their mistreatments and injustice which helps to spread more awareness about the topic.....to even treat a topic like school bullying like its fickle and overdramatic is very questionable
Maybe she was once a bully
@@greentea8852 somehow I also felt Same..
It could be her lack of knowledge, but no one should judge someone based on one statement or just their face. You can't say she herself must be a bully
@@greentea8852 that's what I was thinking, she kinda changed her tune by the end of the video, but to say bullying is some kind of escalated conflict is absolutely insane. A conflict is two people going at each other, not a victim and a perpetrator. And that "conflict" concept is a way to gaslight the victim of bullying. I should know, I've experienced it at work.
It’s not and it is good to hear other perspectives. If you’re going to try and tackle any issue being overly emotional like you are is not helpful.
I have a few thoughts:
1) it's no longer considered bullying when their actions exceed a certain degree of violence. it's child abuse, period.
2) how many people have witnessed bullying, but choose not to intervene?
3) what some of them described was cyberbullying; a term I haven't lately been hearing about anymore.
Cyberbullying can ve very serious!
I know in america, they put laws in place to punish those who were guilty of doing the cyberbullying, especially if the victim (s) end up taking their own lives. But idk if it’s gone down though just because we haven’t really heard much about it.
@@anonnnymousthegreat They barely get punished. This is not true. In America, bullying is pretty bad, especially racialized bullying, however, I feel like our media doesn't talk about it enough. I think I saw a couple of stories in the news about kids that took their own lives here recently.
i think actually in general, calling it "bullying" minimizes the harm that is being done. Because in all cases it is an act of violence, no matter if it is psychological or physical, and it leaves real trauma for years to come on the victim.
in Korea, they refer to bullying as school violence
I hope the guy in the black beanie can live in peace knowing he’s never hurt another human like the way he was treated. Although i’ll never know what he really went through, i hope he doesnt let these negative experiences affect the rest of his life. He’s a fighter and much stronger than those bullies.
The guy at 13:37 is litteraly about to cry because she keeps asking about his trauma. Girl, you have to now where to stop. He even bowed his head to not letting to see his eyes.
Yes I felt so bad for him.
Its surprising how many hosts are pretty articulate but can barley read a persons body language..
The Glory series really messed me up.
I felt really miserable because the 13 people that hospitalized me, made me suicidal, made me living with psychological issues for 2 decades are still living their lives unbothered.
The series made me question myself why can't I have a revenge too.
I couldn't stop crying for weeks after I completed the series.
But thank you for this interview, it felt better knowing that I'm not alone and knowing that these interviewee are also don't get their justice.
I dont watxg stuff likke tgat cause ivwas also bullied :( i cant watcg it...i also dont like how kids watch it just cause its from korea i think it should be more age restricted
Also a song against bullying: babymetal- ijime dame zettai
I did not watch it as I think it would awaken my anger towards my bullies too. Bullies will get their punishment sooner or later.
@@makesmewannadie647 🫂💖💖
I need to give you a hug 🫂 ❤
Wow, that was super powerful. I felt so sad for the man who was so obviously failed by all the people who were supposed to be taking care of him when he was younger. That was so heartbreaking. The young woman who spoke so articulately about her experience needs to be a spokesperson about bullying right now. The government needs to hire her.
I agree the two of them were very sad yet inspiring at the same time. And I love how the one girl who got bullied for her stutter spoke so well without it(from what it sounded like to me) I almost cried when she looked in the camera and gave her last words as a surviving and thriving victim
Yes it is heartbreaking! The girl will be a speaker for problematic things like this for sure !!
I got fed up with watching others getting bullied, especially my best friend so I became one and started to bully the bullies in my school. I'd ask them "do you like it?" I remember people calling me in the hallway near the lockers because they were being bullied. In my 40s now and still have zero tolerance. I'm the type of person who sits by the new kids and welcomes them. I'm an Asian raised in a western country.
yeah i banged ones head in the mirror once....
You’re awesome for that. Thank you for being the hero that we all need. I’m also against bullying and hard people that do it. You didn’t “became” a bully cause you confronted them for the people that didn’t have the strength to. I think a vigilante is a more respectable way to call it.
thank you
the sweetheart with the flower shirt and the beanie, i just want to give him a hug. not only was he bullied but not having the adults in his life believe him is psychological torture in itself. adults need to be more vigilant and open-minded when tasked with caring for minors.
This is why bullying accusations are taken very seriously in the Korean entertainment industry, it isn't just teasing or getting into a fight it's serious physical and mental torture.
the only reason it’s taken seriously in the entertainment industry is because it’s now global and they know the eyes of the world are seeing it
@@chezm356 No?? It has been like this for a long time
@pruit v3 no. Bullying in sk isn't called bullying, it's called school violence. When people in the entertainment industry are accused of school violence, it's usually extreme stuff. Hence why it's called violence and not bullying
@pruit v3 you know nothing about your idols beyond the facade they present to you so don't get worked up over them. I doubt that none of them have a shady past or bad personalities.
@pruit v3 u must be a hyunjin fan 😂 ur idol is hardcore bully who targeted women like u and disabled students, they don't need his fake apologies, he should deserve those pain he gave to his victims just like in the glory
When teachers turn a blind eye to bullying, they are simply enabling it. Disgusting.
The environment should be so that the students feel comfortable telling the teachers/someone, knowing that some action will happen to end the bullying.
I agree and it happened to me a lot but luckily I did have a few teachers who cared so I was luckier than most people.
Agree. I live in korea and have teacher friends. Trust me, the teachers get bullied too - mostly by other teachers/staff
I suffered from psychological bullying during elementary and middle school, it came and went from time to time. Since I didn't endure it and respondend to it teachers thought they were just fights, I was exaggerating or even that I was the problem. And they told me that to my face. Like "stop crying, we are trying to talk it out with your classmate, it wasn't even that bad". It was also hard to obtain evidence since it was subtle. And there was REALLY strong evidence one time and the teacher didn't say a thing since it was her last day with our class. She asked three girls to stay after classes and help decorate the classroom for the last schoolday. They were instructed to pin photos of every students on a cardboard. Next morning when I got to class I saw my photo with pin holes all over my face and the pin that kept it pasted was on my throat. I was 12. And I couldn't stop crying, the teacher so me, my picture, and kept quite.
Bullies will never learn not until it will cause their life if their victim fights back. But the problem is, once the victim fights back and end up the bully getting killed, the victim will be imprisoned. I hope that one day the government should take action of this and allow underaged bully to be imprisoned for atleast a year and get a permanent record. It's destroying someone's life and its not funny. Bullying should be considered as a crime.
At all the seven schools I’ve gone to in my life I haven’t seen ONE teacher or aide that took bullying seriously.
It's bad. I lived in Korea for a year and was even bullied as a teacher, by coworkers and the students. I remember I had an appointment somewhere (Samsung building), and even a random worker screamed at me in front of her coworkers; no one even looked up. I had a panic attack and asked to go to their office bathroom. With each incident, I remember feeling like a rock, an inanimate object...people treated me like I didn't have feelings. Felt like I was nothing. What's worse is that when I came back to the states, my next boss was...Korean born; I was bullied again. This boss was open about her hatred for her harsh mother/being abused, so if I had to guess maybe it's the same in the country - continuing a cycle of abuse. As a victim of it, I am beyond frozen in life. I'm afraid to make others angry and when they are I have massive panic attacks.
I feel so bad for you and I would have fought back or handled it a different way. I have been bullied a lot in my life and have learned ways to fight back even if it is in subtle ways.
I would fail those students who bullied me.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj Thank you - I did try standing up to my boss in the states, but was placed on a PIP. It's hard trying to stand up for yourself (at least for me), because I have a bad freeze response. Slowly learning how to do so.
@@Ali_delightful You are welcome and may I ask what ethnicity you are and how old were your students? I plan to come teach too and know I will face many things. I used to be scared but have learned to fight back. Hope you stay strong!
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj Thank you and I am mixed with white and black. If you are viet (assuming from your username) occasionally other Asians can suffer too. :( If you have a strong sense of self then I think it will be okay, especially if you are pretty/handsome according to Korean standards.
I want to hug the guy who dropped out of school because of bullying! My heart goes out to anyone who has to endure any level of psychological or physical bullying. He also had to endure it with his parents, at home, where a kid should feel is a safe space. Where was his safe space??? People suck so hard sometimes!!!😤🥺🥺
I had a boss that would scream and shout at me, follow me around and find things to shout at me for ., for hours and hours.., It was horrible..! One day I just snapped , I had endured so much misery and I was just tired of her bullying me..! So after she had shouted at me the whole shift and I was about to leave work and she came behind me and began yelling at me I began crying and began shouting back at her..! Told her to leave me the F alone .., that I have given 110% and if she didn’t like it she should go do it herself..! She was shocked that I had turned around and given her exactly what she has been giving me..! She had this look of disbelief and shock..! Needless to say she didn’t bother me again..! Had I known I needed to give her same treatment she been giving me and shout at her and put her in her place I would’ve done it earlier. Sometimes you are taught to respect older people, your bosses , your parents, etc etc but there comes a point where you learn that the only way you get respect is to stand your ground and push back against those bullies.
At times, some people need a taste of their own medicine.
You would be out of work fast here
@@katsmith8263 sad but true....sometimes you will get fired right away
I agree! I had an evil aunt that bullied me for years. I endured it for years but one day I snapped. After that she never bothered me again.
you're right. i used to just apologise and accept it when my boss went into flying rages and screamed at me. he liked to shift goalposts, gaslight people and manipulate facts. but one day i decided i didn't care about the job anymore and was ready to quit. that change in attitude meant i started talking back, and making him explain himself when he falsely accused me of doing things i never did, put him in an awkward position when he tried to blame me and rail at me. and now he's completely civil and polite to me lol. makes you realise doesn't it? bullies only respect people who are aggressive in return.
That's one of the things I find shocking about Korea. All forms of abuse are normalized. Not only at school, but I've heard real horror stories from men who go to the military and also from females who have been victims of sexual violence. Sadly, most of the times perpetrators get away with it.
trus me
you have never been to post USSR country school
spesificly russia
bullying there is also can get bad
but we had to learn how to defend ourselves
like I remember there was a one guy he was in 7th grade he was I parallel class with me and one day he beaten up 5th grade guy
and later they found him somewhere like 12 5 grade kids and they beaten him up so badly
like Jesus they broke his jaw , his ever were all purple his face was dismembered
it was a huge thing in my small town
but it teach you how to fight
@@allenk6373 bro we arent talking about you. we’re talking about how bullying is incredibly normalized in south korea.
@@eurydice72people are allowed to input they’re opinions or personal experiences tho
@@fairoadiary I mean korean have this ingrained victim mentality that its just crazy
SIC countries are not that good for raising child however it can teach you a lot go things
@@allenk6373 Honestly I was thinking that too, maybe it's just covered up but I feel like if bullying could never get this widespread in North America (specifically the US) because we have a stronger sense of justice with victims standing up for themselves sending the message that bullying can have severe consequences for everyone involved, dissuading it from getting this bad.
The hair straightner thing that was showed in Glory had happened actually to someone else, it was a real case. Which is extremely upsetting. That's why school bullying is not called school bullying in Korea but rather school violence, because that's what it usually is, violence.
When I read the articles and stuff the things in glory seemed to be even less worse than reality, the problem is the bullies know they victims are not protected by anybody, so it escaltes to violence very quickly since nobody watch them
they don't call it bullying, they call it 'school violence' in korea. the name they give is telling actually. bc bullying would be calling people names, and humiliating them but this.. this is pure assualt, harrasment and violence. their juvenile laws need to change. this is getting out of hand.
As an American who lived in Korea for several years, I've seen first hand things that truly turned my stomach while I was living in Seoul. One evening when I first arrived in Korea in 1997 I went out with friends to a nice restaurant (pricey). During the course of our meal I saw the restaurant manager verbally abuse a couple of waitresses for several minutes; after the encounter they ran crying into kitchen. I also saw him kick another waitress in the shins. I wanted to get up and kick him back, but my Korean friends told me to mind my own business. During my 2 years in Korea I frequently saw groups of young people being incredibly rude and obnoxious to other young Koreans who were walking down the street alone minding their own business. I would never raise a child in Korea.
That is horrible.
I feel like this "minding your own business" attitude is common in Korea. Why the hell does one not step in when one sees literal abuse?
@JuriK you're like the sheep in a herd wtf. why you taking a restaurant manager being abusive to his staff so personally??
@JuriK someone pointed out one experience they had, and you immediately tried to shut it down. and you retaliated in such an unhinged manner. korea being highly democratic literally has nothing to do with societal issues like work culture or bullying. are you even native korean or just some koreaboo because your comment literally reeks of one.
In America, shcool shootings occur so often and there is an english expressin, just off the boat.
When I was in NA, my Korean friend's kid was hit at the first day of the elementary school by his classmate.
I saw many Korean immigrants who grew up in the US and said later that they got beaten almost everyday by their classmates after school, they said those bullies were waiting for them in front of schools.
Bullying should be treated as a criminal offence. This video was very eye-opening, and I deeply sympathise with all the victims. Thank you for coming forward and sharing your story 🙏 Bringing awareness to this huge issue is incredibly important, so that our children could grow up to become decent human beings. Teachers especially should be made responsible for turning the blind eye to whatever has happened during school hours. Every child deserves to feel safe in school!
How do you criminalize a 10 year old if I may ask? I was bully when I was 10 ish and I don't think the police can come in and punish the kids.
@@sowhat1674 You can tell the parents and they punish the kids. I remember here in the US, a man’s daughter bullied someone and he made her walk to school as punishment. After that she never dared to bully anyone again. Another case was a girl who made fun of others clothing. Her stepmom then bought some very ugly clothes and made her wear it to school. Everyone made fun of her instead. She learned her lesson and never bullied anyone for what they wore again. Now if parents were like this it would make their bully children become better people.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj the problem is that you are bringing up isolated incident where adults were able to intervene. In real class/school you would shoved into a locker or tripped by bullies and they would just say sorry or they would start rumors about you. Bullies aren't all dumb and majority of parents would side with their children.
The age of criminal responsibility in the UK is 10 years old actually.
@@edithrum5783 so how does the police punish the 10 years old kid? Genuine question.
it’s crazy that bullying is often overlooked in school, no matter where you live.
I live in US, and my friend had to transfer because teachers didn’t really care about the seriousness of it. They only told the bullies to stop harassing her.
I got teary-eyed when the girl looked straight into the camera. I hope nobody else experiences these horrible things, Hopefully Korea and all other countries can take bullying more seriously and impose heavier punishments to the bullies. And teachers, please!! Help your students!! Don't make things worse!!
7:06 this girl was suspicious. she said its not bullying, its just conflict in a group.
I also thought she is suspicious ...she seems a bully herself but we shouldn't judge her without knowing...
Because her opinion is not the same as the others? It is called a conflict and it can happen in every environment. Not all ppl have gotten bullied so not all know how it is from the inside and to describe the severity from a personalized emotional view.
@@amimiami82 if you don't know how it is maybe don't make such broad statements? also "personalized emotional view" that phrase is like if someone who didn't know any buzzwords tried to piece together a sentence that made them sound smart
@@britneymybeloved2979 i dont want to bully u so ill say it nice i)what broad statement did she make, its her fcking opinion on the matter that she got asked ii) u got the point i was going for, what bs are u on? In a bullying video, projecting by mocking is not the best way to get going.
Exactly my thought, she seems to be one of those bullies herself.
There's a high possibility that some of these people were and are still bullies.😅
Sadly many bullies never change.
That one girl who said the cases are “exaggerated” and then goes on to say “if the victim dies”….. I think we might have landed a bully in the interview
I grew up in the UK and was bullied from primary school right through high school. I looked different, with bright red hair and very pale skin so I stood out, and not in a good way. I remember trying to tell my parents about it when I was little, and my mum asked me what I had done to the other kids to make them treat me like that - she always blamed me (in every other way I had a great relationship with my mum, I guess she was maybe feeling helpless about dealing with it). It would never have occurred to me to tell a teacher - much of the pushing, shoving, taunting, name calling, pinching, hair pulling etc happened in front of the teachers and no one seemed to see it - but my real ordeal happened once I left the school gates - I often got followed, beaten up, stomped on, kicked in the head, back, tummy - anywhere they could get me, and it was multiple kids, ganged up. I learned to be very quiet, and to try to make myself invisible, hoping and praying I would disappear. It makes me furious to know that kids are still going through this - when I was small, I would often dream of/fantasise about my own funeral, and how my parents, the teachers, maybe even the other kids would be sorry when I was dead. I never had the courage though, to do anything…Actually, it wasn’t courage, I think I always had hope that things would improve, that one day life would be enjoyable and fun, and that one day I would be free of this - and that’s why I’m still here - hope. No child or adult should ever have to go through this - ever. It’s time authorities took it more seriously, it’s time schools and communities took it more seriously too.
I am not sure if that's you in the profile picture but you're absolutely gorgeous!
And even if you weren't it's they have no right! It's crazy how cruel kids can be.
I would say bullying is less frequent nowadays in person but so severe online.
you have courage to continue to have hope... ❤
You are gorgeous!!
@@orcaboorish thank you for your kindness (yes, it’s me in the pic) - I have watched documentaries about online bullying and it seems horrendous, I wish people would just stop the cruelty and concentrate on their own lives, or maybe try to improve others social experience instead of being verbally vicious. 🙏❤️
@@munchiekins there comes a time when we all have to choose if we want to be happy or want to continue in everlasting misery - and if you choose happiness, a certain amount of positivity is necessary, hence, hope…🤗😁 I choose to believe the good outweighs the bad.
I love your username, btw 💜
I had to take my son’s bully to court (in the States). The teachers did nothing but witnessed it. The school did nothing. Plus, the schools ban recording so victims cannot obtain evidence.
Personally, throughout middle school and high school, you were either bullied or too cool to be bullied. Very few people can pass through untouched by bullying somehow. I received it and I saw others receive it; and they have mind control because even though the bully is outnumbered, everyone is afraid to tell!
I hope y’all received justice!
In Western world, girl love this bully. They are macho boy or strong girl..
@@anubizz3 is that a question or a statement? is that based on movies? have you attended school or taught school in the states? I’m not saying you’re wrong but that’s not ever been the case in my youth and I would suspect that something else is going on (like acceptable issues or fear) in those cases. I attended a lot of schools because I was forced to attend summer school every year and it wasn’t always at the same school or district. That “macho-idiot” persona is so 1980s and completely outdated. Cuteness and charm/confidence is what’s hot right now
@@Ang7.8 No I am not from States, but I am from Australia. Bully is not idiots anymore, they have good grades and from respected family, that's why they can get away with it.
So in states this bad boy persona do not exist anymore?
@@anubizz3 that bully persona is not “loved” and adored by school girls. Personally, I would say survey teachers on a forum like Reddit to get the inside scoop. But if you’re referencing that “James Dean” style of rebel without a cause, it’s popular in a very specific economic setting. I don’t want to say “poor” people because that’s not p.c. and would be a blanket statement
No doubt bullies exist. In this section of the Western hemisphere, it wouldn’t be correct to say girls “love” that persona. If the male is ugly and fits that persona, it’s a big no. If that same persona is physically attractive and charming, then you would be absolutely CORRECT; all logic is thrown out the window and I see adolescent females lose their minds over an obvious male bully persona
But it’s not the bully behavior that’s activating those hormones
wow the guy who was bullying by fake sexual harassment really got me, poor guy.
As an Indian, after watching the drama ..I thought the bullying is just exaggerated in the drama...like how can a high schooler be so cruel to a classmate
But seeing this interview just blew my mind🤯
Like I thought verbal bullying existed but never knew physical bullying is so common all over
Same here, although i'm Korean. I have never experienced bullying or saw somebody is bullied seriously. It seems it's a real problem in younger generation in South Korea.
Simple because you and alot of SK students never experience it themselves...... The fact they have the balls to make a drama out of it.. While we just throw judgement on SK society.
@@anubizz3no one is judging they are saying things as they are it is what it is. school violence is very common Korea and there is nothing to judge but rather it is sad and heartbreaking that someone has to go through that mental and physical pain. Many people have such a utopia view of korea with rose tinted glasses that even stating things as they are seems like judgment to them. Korea is amazing and beautiful and very advanced and developed nation and most Koreans are lovely and polite and warm hearted people but rotten potatoes are everywhere. Bullied are in us too in India too in every country ruch or not there are bullies and criminals and stating these things are not judgemental.
@@Seoyeaji921 Like you said it's EVERYWHERE it's not unique to SK, go to other comments and you will see the judging comments... I live in 3 countries, I alone experience it in every country I ever lived, luckily I know how to handle them.. That's why I hate when people judging country but in fact their country not much difference maybe worse.... Expecially heard from the country that I am from which have one of the worse bullying culture. I am not defending SK but hate when people say it's not in my country... Blablabla.. It happen everywhere actually in SK you need to be careful because your past can hunt you in the future and ruin your career while in plenty of this MY CULTURE IS BETTER country, nothing will happen.
@@anubizz3 past can hunt your future? So you mean people getting consequences of school violence is wrong? see korean people are very serious about these issues that's why when any korean idol bullying is exposed they take strict action but i agre e ruining their career for which they have worked so hard and built it is definitely too bad and sad and such things don't happen in other countries i remember a kpop idol whose carrier was ruined cause of what he did when he was teenager it's sad and heartbreaking but then you can see the exact happening to a pop singers and western celebrities too doga gets hate cause she uses vape Kendall gets hate even now cause of what she did to selena so many years ago same with hailey and justin Bieber Kardashians get hate cause they did cosmetic modifications but now coming back to bullies they should apologise and take accountability and parents need to discipline their child and should be more strict in such cases they should teach their children correctly
I am now 66 years old, and I can tell you that the bullies never remember, and the bullied never forget. I will forever remember the overt bullying and the exclusion I experienced all through public school. Thankfully, I had lots of siblings to play with, and I found friends in books. It affects me still. I am triggered when I hear these stories. It seems to me that the teachers need some serious education about bullying as if they do not validate and support bullied students, do not create a safe space for reporting, do not hold bullies accountable, then they are also bullies. Makes me so incensed!
I am feeling greatful that i didn't get bullied in my whole school and college life..I never see bullying in real life..only through news or shows/movies..and i can't imagine the lives of people who are victims of those stuff
You're very fortunate.
Same. I've never seen or heard about bullying and I feel lucky...
I had same thoughts, but then I realised, at some moments in my school life, without knowing much, I laughed together with the group of friends who singled out a girl and fatshamed her like its nothing:(... I never bullied anyone but now i feel bad that I saw it happening and never had the guts to stop them from this behaviour. I have to make sure that when I have kids, I teach them to speak up and help bullied people out
@Easy Peesy 🍇 you're just being rude. I just shared my experience. It was it think fourth or fifth grade. My friends were immature and i just feel bad for getting along with them. Being a shy kid I never had guts to speak up much. N for that I got bullied few times aswell. But ThankGod I'm confident enough now
@@exotic4048 me too
I was bullied consistently throughout my school years and to be honest it has made me into a rather ruthless person. Now, I take no s*it from anyone, some friends when they first met me thought I was scary (and to be honest) I prefer that than for them to think of me as a pushover, as people took advantage of me when I was nice and I promised myself I would never let that happen again. Bullying doesn't just stop in school it can continue into adulthood too. Everyone is responsible for calling out bullying, especially in a school setting where young people are so vulnerable. Teachers and faculty need to do more to protect students but they do the bare minimum, and in my opinion, they too should be punished for not protecting students. The laws in Korea need to change, they need to be harsher on juvenile crime, and on those in authority who do nothing to prevent it. I really hope those people in this video who were bullied are in a better place, and are able to heal from their trauma and I want them to know I BELIEVE YOU! ❤
same i'd rather be feared and have only 1 or 2 friends than be used by bitches who pretend to be my friend just so they can get something from me
You can still be kind and strong/firm. Dont need to have a cold appearance.
I was bullied when I was younger too because I've always been the type of person that hated fights and confusion; and in the neighborhood where I lived that was unheard of. I was bullied by my own family, and whenever I tried to assert myself and fight back I was accused of having an attitude! It's a no win for most.😕
It's sad bullying is such a universal problem yet not a single society has any solution. They just dismiss it even when it leads to it's victims taking their own lives.
After watching this video, it brought up a lot of horrific and sad memories from my school-days, I am from india and I studied in boarding school from 6-12th, and it was such a difficult period that I have become numb to it and I still feel my personality changed a lot due to those experiences, some of these bullying instances were, to clean and wash senior's clothes, become a lauging stock for them to have fun, dance in front of them, they used to beat us regularly and it was such a common occurrence that nobody thought it is wrong, even teachers used to hit us a lot, I remember specifically one of my teacher kicking me hitting me with his belt when I came late to a study session, once a senior kicked me so hard, I banged against a cot and fell down, Now I am 30 years and I fear how kids are now a days
Around the end of middle school, I became a victim of psychological bullying...Going to school was so painful. I ended up all alone and conveniently ostracized by my classmates. The worst part was that I couldn't figure out whether it was normal or my paranoia. I didn't tell any teachers or my parents because I thought I would be making a big issue out of nothing. It continued for several months. I can't remember a single night where I didn't cry. I was frustrated and often look out my anger on my loved ones. Looking back I really was a fool for not telling my parents back then. I haven't told them about it yet though because I'd like to think I've grown from that. I became reserved and introverted totally unlike my previous self. I now have trouble talking to classmates because my mind is always ridden with the thought of what others think about me. I rue my ruined time. The beautiful plans that I had for high school were all destroyed. I made some friends but they were circumstantial. They'll forget me. I skipped my graduation from high school because I had nobody to say goodbye to. I am not close enough to anyone for them to care.
Though what I faced is nothing too big. It has definitely impacted me. There are times that I'm depressed often thinking about how pathetic I am... In school, we are all young and stupid but I can only ask everyone to be aware of how they could affect someone.
Hey i love you! I would give you the biggest hug. Its Not your Fault! You are stronger than everyone Else. Only the weak ones are cruel, in this case the bullies. They are weak within themselves. They are the pathetic ones. Stay strong what doesnt kill you makes u stronger. Fight back dont be afraid. Love you. A song against bullying: babymetal - ijime dame zettai ❤
@@makesmewannadie647 Thank you so much for your kind reply love... It's my first time opening up about this... Thanks for your song recommendation too!!! I'll definitely look it up
@@vanillawrites9254 the song might be a bit shocking if you arent familar with rock/metal music but listening to it a few times in a row creates such an emotional experience at least that was my case im aware Not everyone has to like it but yeah hehe❤🫠
Also its in japanese but the lyrics are up in english online and its definitly ok if you dont like it i just thought of sharing 🫂🫂
I can relate to you as I hated school and was bullied too. I once got physical with this fat and smelly girl but the teacher came and it ended. I luckily did not get in trouble but from that day on, that fat girl did not bother me again. I only had one friend from high school that I still keep in touch with but the rest of the people are gone from my life.
My bullying cases were not bad as I would have fought back. I hope karma bites those sick bullies back eventually. What goes around comes around.
Sorry to hear about your bad experiences and hope you move on from them as life is short. It is hard but I hope you still try.
Last girl looking at the camera made me think of this. Last year we did the 40 years’ reunion Class. I was one of the Organizers. I found out one class mate did not feel like attending because she had been bullied. I began reflecting and realized it was true and I had been somehow part of it. Witnessing bullying and letting be is becoming part of it. I texted her to say sorry and encourage her to attend. She thanked me, did not attend, but agreed on attending next one.
That girl was soft. I'd have plotted a revenge that won't make you die but let you suffer mentally instead, Lol
That was why I never went to any reunions as I had no friends. I only had one that I still keep in touch with so there is not any reason to go to those reunions. They cost hundreds of dollars too. I am not going to spend time and money on people I don’t care about.
@@ymhktravel you don’t know what you would do until you’re actually in the situation, she’s not soft
Why did you ask her to come after she said she didn't want to. Her reason was enough so why are you encouraging her to eat and chat with her bullies???
@@ymhktravel yeahhh like do agree to you to some extent , but believe me it's not easy to speak up against your bullies , my guy classmate during the time in middle school, and my English teacher during the time of high school tried to bully me ,but they did succeeded in their plans since both of the time i took action against their stupid behaviour,let me tell you these people tried to pull all the strings to make me surrender, adding to that during both of these times no classmate actually came to help me out this was the sad part,some classmate even Said why r u over reacting, my teacher even accused me of being characterless my Calling my mom for being close with my guy classmate,but this trick didn't worked since my parents supported me instead!!
It is really hard to believe now in this era this type of criminal offences "bully" still happening. I think Korean Government should take very hard legal steps against those sinners who do such hellish thing to a person. And I really appreciate the black Benny guy and the girl with black mask cause they are courageous enough to say out loud publicly about their painfull days. It really break my heart when the black Bennie guy said "Everyone thinks I am the problem." I want to say him u are not the problem the people who turned a deaf ears and blind eyes are sinners who did such a heinous crime were the problem.
It's happen all over the world buddy... I am sure it happen in your own school to.... The fact that they willing to make drama out of it and appearing in the national news.. They have the balls to show it to the world they have problem.. While alot of other countries just hide it under a rock..
And what more ironic.. We judge them as barbaric countries......
and the fact that kids can commit literal crimes such as murder, but will only get max 2 years of juvi is sick 😢
Making a TV show about what actually happened to some extent in this global era, "The country that made this TV show must be a bad country!!" It's really dangerous to think in general. This TV show means to bring about consensus around the world and reduce school violence from small to large, so please don't try to witch hunt Korea
@@user-ir3xc9hf6yhow can you witch a entire country? Bullying happens in most countries. The point of people here stating things are there is need of strict punishment and no getting away with it and letting it slide.
I never went to Korea, but this country has already given me a sense of people filled with vanity and indifference. It’s painful to live in Korea especially for the young generation. Some parts of the culture are a little bit against humanity. That’s the impression I have by reading the news and watching their celebrities’ stories.
wow i hope the people in this vid who were bullied find peace and healing and have the most amazing lives full of love and support. if you're reading this and you've been bullied, im mentally holding your hand right now. its corny maybe but i am, i'm sorry no one stood up for you. but i'm glad youre still here, cause if you are that means youre giving yourself a chance to heal. thank you to those interviewed for being so candid and honest, these things arent easy to think about, let alone tell strangers.
Thank you for writing this msg❤you are very kind. Hope more ppl were like you
5:00 Why did she claim that the media was exaggerating despite the fact that there have been cases where the victims have ended up dead?
She is either that priveledged to not have seen bullying, part of the bullying or a hard core bystander
She was probably a bully as well.
I thought I was the only one to think that. Thank goodness, I found your comment. I felt like what she said was very ignorant. Not even on the level of being naive. We all grow up in a different environment, but being aware of it and acknowledging it is accepting that it happens and you're better prepared for the real world. There are so many cases. How can it be exaggerated if it actually happened? It's like turning a blind eye to the bigger picture. You can't shame people who actually went through it because you're basically telling the victims that they cried wolf and no one is going to believe it. Really upsetting.
As a Korean, I'd like to add that cases like The Glory are based on true stories, but it's never like normal schools have such incidents. These are the very few extreme cases that deserve to be in the news. In Korea, creative works that freely express sensitive topics such as social issues, history, and politics have been very popular in the film and drama industry. Through this, there are many cases in which social problems have received attention and been resolved. So, I am a bit worried that foreigners will generalize that Korean creators deal with social problems, and that all of Korea is the same. Fiction is just fiction. In Korea, as dramas such as The Glory receive national attention and social interest increases, stories of real victims begin to be publicized, and social interest in school violence is reaching an all-time high. So, in fact, prestigious universities are introducing a plan to suspend admission if there is a history of school violence. Even now, Korean society is awakening and making efforts to completely eradicate school violence. I think this is a positive function of a drama that deals with social messages, and I sincerely hope that hate crimes related to school violence will be completely eradicated in the future.
People in South America claim Racism is North American problem. So from this we can surmise denial ( The Nile ) isn't just a river in Egypt.
I faced bullying too when I was young, but it always ended up with a fight with the bullies. I always fought back aggressively till they gave up. Even when I grew up, I still do face bullying or let's say harsh criticism (which is bullying) from time to time and that's normal. Bullies at work, best friends turning into bullies, etc.... I guess most of us face bullying throughout our lives. That's why we have to learn to stand up for ourselves and fight back. What makes a bully stop is when you know how to return it back hard. They were rude to me, I will be rude too. They hit me, I will make sure to hit back hard. That's when they stopped bullying me. Most bullies don't stop till you give them a taste of their medicine. Again kids, a bully hit you, hit them back. Yes hit them back. Their parents didn't raise them right, so make sure you teach them some manners. I am a teacher saying this lol.😂 Also, as a teacher, if I realize any bullying between students, I prepare a great punishment for the bullies. Again someone needs to teach them manners. Talking to the bullies' parents is usually useless because most parents think their kids are angels. They're demons ruining other children's lives.
I think the main problem with Korea’s bullying problem is that it mainly goes unpunished and is always covered up by the staff. We still have that problem in America but kids actually get in trouble and the faculty don’t cover up for these kids the way I see in k dramas. For some reason they treat the kids of rich or powerful parents as if they are untouchable which creates more incentive for the bullying.
There’s a reason so many kdramas have bullying into it and the fact majority of the people interviewed experienced it or saw it happen confirms it. I feel so sad for that guy who dropped school cuz of it, he even asked help from teachers and family but everyone thought he was the problem… same for the last girl (I’m so angry even writing this!) and people get surprised if victims don’t talk about it, well that’s the reason why. No one believes them.
As a Korean, I'd like to add that cases like The Glory are based on true stories, but it's never like normal schools have such incidents. These are the very few extreme cases that deserve to be in the news. In Korea, creative works that freely express sensitive topics such as social issues, history, and politics have been very popular in the film and drama industry. Through this, there are many cases in which social problems have received attention and been resolved. So, I am a bit worried that foreigners will generalize that Korean creators deal with social problems, and that all of Korea is the same. Fiction is jusy fiction. In Korea, as dramas such as The Glory receive national attention and social interest increases, stories of real victims begin to be publicized, and social interest in school violence is reaching an all-time high. So, in fact, prestigious universities are introducing a plan to suspend admission if there is a history of school violence. Even now, Korean society is awakening and making efforts to completely eradicate school violence. I think this is a positive function of a drama that deals with social messages, and I sincerely hope that hate crimes related to school violence will be completely eradicated in the future.
@@user-sj8rl6rl6c I’m glad they’re now taking action against bullying, I hope the law will be harsher for these bullies but also teachers/school personal/directors who support it or close their eyes in front of it.
Thank you for shining a light on this. I was also bullied in school and it left a huge trauma in my life. Thankfully at the time, I had something to look forward to each week at church where there people were very kind. However, during the bad times, I felt like ending my life due to the loneliness and bullying. The thing that saved me was thinking that it would be a shame to end it so early and not see if my life gets better. Let me tell you it gets better. Don't stop fighting and see through it. Life does get better, school is just a small fraction of your life if you compare it to the whole grand scheme of things. Also if you need some type of support find something that interests you. For me it was a church but you can find something different. Keep looking and keep fighting.
It was church and God for me too. My bullying was so bad I'm still nervous when with groups of other girls. Thank you for your comment. I'd love to be a friend you can talk to about this stuff. You're going to go far in life with your attitude =] =]
I hope many bullying victims see your meesage. I was also bullied in school and I had all kinds of thoughts, from suicide to mass murder... But life does get better, it's all about our outlook and what we can do to break out of negative experiences. I wish everyone to eventually find their peace in life.
As a teacher, being aware of bullying and listening to students to create a safe environment for every student is part of my responsibilities. To here these stories, it breaks my heartfor those who are bullied. Nevershould a victim be victimized twice. Its up to parents to teach their children the correct way to conduct themselves. There is no place for it in society. But also, m9r than likely the bully is experiencing hardship and that should be addressed as well. Great topi c.
Hats off to the kids that were brave enough to share their stories. So proud of you that you are able to get on with your lives, especially the young man who went on to get his GED and study further. To the young lady who was bullied, you radiate positivity. Sending you love and happiness. 💕💕🇿🇦
I was a tourist walking in Myeongdong when a loud noise caught my attention. A guy was slapping a girl a few times outside a shop and taunting her in Korean which I didn't understand. People were just walking by as if nothing was happening. I don't know whether it was bullying or domestic quarrel or whatever but please don't treat women and anyone like that.
I feel bad for all the victims here. The way they still remember clearly everything after all the years pass make me feel how painful for them to endure it. I hope that they can be better now and love themselves more. Because no one deserve to be bullied and everyone is beautiful in their way.
Bullying is so common in Asia that not only does it happen throughout school for students, but also in companies for adults. There are articles about employees killing themselves because of the bullying from their coworkers.
I was bullied in 7th grade, at first it was just psychological but then there were these "incidents" that happened as the school called them. Half of my class and half of the other class in my grade would gang up on me and insult and film me when i was just trying to read. I was punched in the face by a guy too. Those things kept happening. I realised i was being bullied and told my parents, they told the teacher (that didn't do anything), so they told the principal. The principal told me to meet the school counselor and she asked me "think about what you can change so that you will not be bullied", i was deeply hurt by that. As the school didn't deem it necessary for me to change schools as there was less than half a year until i would change school anyway (like moving up from middle school to highschool).
In the end all i got was trauma. No apology, they didn't even reprimand the students (not even the guy who punched me), and every time i see one of the people involved in that i start panicking and shaking in fear.
It's interesting that there isn't even a literal translation for "bullying" in Korean, it is called "school violence". And that really shows that this bullying simply is child abuse.
Eh… there is are a few literal words for bullying (왕따, 따돌림)
Making a TV show about what actually happened to some extent in this global era, "The country that made this TV show must be a bad country!!" It's really dangerous to think in general. This TV show means to bring about consensus around the world and reduce school violence from small to large, so please don't try to witch hunt Korea
@@human4666 왕따 isnt more like isolating a person from the group?
I was just reading a manhwa that starts with the MC killing himself because of bullying in a korean high school when this video dropped. It really do be that bad when a common motif in a lot of manhwa is bullying💀
There are so many webtoons and manhwa with school bullying themes it really makes you wonder xd
Which one were you reading?
what manhwa was it?
@@miecomari God of blackfield. im 18 chapters in
@@siri5784 Thanks, I'll check it out :D
Yeah... What is usually a common theme in their media is a reflection of real life problem..
Manhwas (Korean)= school bullying
Manhua (Chinese)= toxic family bonds, basically wanted one-up the other and a lot of backstabbing and being a fake to others, which ended up in chaos with them destroying each other..
Filipino dramas= Cheating... Men and women having affairs..
I was about to cry when the girl talked about how the teachers said such awful things to her. A lot needs to be changed to deal with and prevent bullying, but it comes down to this kids parents. How are they raising their kid that they bully others?
I really appreciate their honesty and willingness to share their experiences. Mad respect for that one girl who had the guts to keep reporting it. Brave.
I remember this quote form this person but don’t remember who “The bullies may forget the victims but the victims would always remember the bullies.” Being bullied can really hurt people even if it’s really long ago, like ptsd.
Best vid I’ve ever seen on this channel and bullying is so traumatic that even as adults it was very difficult for these people to speak on it and unfortunately I don’t think bullying will ever stop
The blond girl is so strong. Her final message hit me hard. Congrats to be a brighter person even after all horrible experiences
That boy that dropped out of high school, and is now in fashion school, my heart was so touched when you were speaking. I wish I would’ve been there to protect you. And I’m sorry for all the hardship you went through. I hope you can find joy in your future pursuits. And much love and healing to those that have been bullied. That makes me so sad. May the laws get tougher.
children and minors can absolutely be as cruel as adults. unfortunately, i don't think there's a lot that a victim can do for himself to stop the bullying. i think the responsibility needs to be on educators to teach all students what exactly bullying looks like and how to identify it. only then can bystanders know when to intervene and stand up for victims EARLY. bystander intervention is the best way to deter bullies. if you wait until all the bullying is done and then slap on some criminal charge, the damage is already done, a victim is traumatized for life.
In regards to the other lady talking about her experiences of reporting bullying to the teacher, that teacher was an idiot. Of course the bully is going to lie and deny doing anything to her. You have to do a better job at questioning people for information. Obviously the teacher wasn’t too concerned about the students’ safety.
it feels like the teacher felt it would be too troublesome to deal with if it were true so opted to believe the girl just made it all up. the heartlessness of some people is *sigh* depressing
Such an important video! Thankyou Asian Boss. More power to the victims of such shameful bullying. When on one side people like us are only aware of the fancy and magical portrayal of K-dramas and find comfort in them, topics and discussions like these make people uncomfortable but they do need to be spoken about, a 100%. Nothing in this world is as perfect as it looks from a distance.
Bullying happens all around the world but what I’ve heard from Korean friends it seems extreme in Korea. It’s not just one person picking on another for whatever reason but it’s a gang mentality. People talk about gangs in the American but what you’re hearing about is Korean gangs in school. It’s scary to be a child in school. What do the parents do? Isn’t there anyone they can turn to for help. Just the thought that they are enduring this alone makes me cry
The fact the they even bother reporting, punishing them years after it happen and make drama out of it show that the talking it seriously, while our country we just hide it under the rock..
Murica have bigger problem than kids bullying other...... And people other there just brush it aside until it happen again... Have discussion for 1 week and brushing it aside again.. And the cycle repeating endlessly..
What even more ironic is we say" yeah but it's happen years ago people change blablablabla" and later say"SK have bullying epidemic because I saw this kdrama"........
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Its crazy how much we don't know, I watch Korean drama and fantasy, I see Korea as a land of fantasy and beauty, yet I've never been. I can imagine if I went there to live I would forever be an outsider.
I can't imagine anyone who "enjoyed" this video. More like ~Hey bosses, hope you don't get a major depressive episode after watching this video! ~
Just want to say thank you to those who were honest about your bullying experiences. It couldn’t have been easy to be walking down the street then have to recount a bad experience from your past but you’re making a difference. I hope things have gotten better ❤
Enjoyed?💀
@@RickHawkDavison also korea is the most dog meat sellers in asia which a lot of people dont know cause no ones talks about it but animal activists like me know this from peta, HSI etc. We donate every year and the International organizors help get the dogs the life they deserve😊
I want to know what makes children so savage in East Asia. I live in South Asia and it’s nowhere near so bad.
Really..the only bullying incident we heard Is of medical colleges
Must be all the hyper competitive culture that’s cultivated from a young age: be the smartest in class, be the best looking, have the best looking boyfriend/girlfriend, have the most money, have the most beautiful children… Like… Damn… That is just a recipe for pent up frustration and passive aggression waiting to eventually explode.
Yea Ive never seen or experienced bullying where i live
The teachers here are also pretty strict bout things like bullying
Yeah, here in the Philippines, bullying is very seldom. I have yet to encounter that much in my experience, and bullying is actually taken seriously here. In fact, you will get looked down on instead if you were the one bullying someone.
Edit: Apparently I was in a religious school, but looks like it's actually happening in other schools.
@@koxonutboy your observation is true..i also believe in this theory
Most Koreans I have encountered actually bully people whom they think have a lower race than theirs. There was a time I taught ESL to Korean students here in the Philippines. Even middle-schoolers have no manners. There was one who called one Filipino teacher that she is like an Avatar straight to her face, others would say how ugly certain teachers were. They couldn't stop running their mouths around to defame filipinos' physical attributes because of darker skin color. Another one brutally asked and commanded one teacher like a slave. As teachers, at least you would expect them to have some basic respect to their teachers more so that they were staying in the Philippines to study English. These instances showed how ill-mannered they were. They might be used to this in Korea if they did bring this attitude to the Philippines.
I have great admiration for the lady with blonde hair. She is Strength! And it is wonderful how she faced the camera to encourage those who are victims or have been victims of bullying to fight and hold on as there will be better days.
Because of the culture of seniority and status hierarchy in Korea as well in Japan many bullying are happening there not just in schools but also at work, I mean its not just because of that many f*cked up people everywhere but I think it is one of the main reason for many cases in bullying
thats the truth
your wellbeing is your responsibility
and if you are to weak you have to form a group
I remember a guy rom parallel class robed and beaten up one 5th grade boy
they boy told that to fiss class and 12 5th grade boys found their guy and beaten him so badly that he could not walk for 4 mouth
his jaw was broken he could not eat anything solid food for like 2 mouth
his left eye did not see much like they beaten him very badly its crazy how much 5th grade boys can do
Of course bullying only the problem in Japan and Korea...... While in the rest of the world we live in harmony where schools shooting and killer children never exist....
It's heartbreaking for the victims. My son was also bullied in secondary school. I found out one day when I picked him up from school and he was sad and quiet inside the car. I asked him and he finally told me. The next morning after going to my doctor's appointment, I went back to school to check and it happened again that morning and I approached the school to sought out the case and 4 of the bullies were called in to the principal's office with their parent called in too with my son. I went in and I got so furious that I called all the students to go out and fight against me. Of course the principal calm me down with warning. One of the parent even asked me to report his son to the Police or beat him up as he also cannot control his son. Things was settled after that. God Bless and take care. Sometimes parents have to step in to help.
Mannnn that dad must of been fed up with his son to want you to beat his ass or call the police.
Because it’s so prevalent in Korea, they probably think it’s everywhere, no, this issue is unique to Korea, even their celebrities get bullied and have their lives destroyed over the dumbest things. THIS NEEDS TO STOP!!! Something seriously needs to be done. I couldn’t even stomach my food while watching the glory, and often times in these dramas, the perpetrators don’t even get what they deserve, their punishment is always a slap on the wrist, and they get away with their evil, only to find another victim.
The ending brought tears to my eyes. So much sadness wrapped up in courage.
Bullying speaks volumes about the bullies rather than the victims.
Bullying is a problem everywhere not just in Korea but seems extremely serious in Korea and Japan too. Many of the stories sound more like assault rather than bullying. The government needs to pass anti bullying laws which hopefully may help at least somewhat. I was bullied here in the US too,but it was not this bad or I would have fought back. Or my family would have attacked the bullies. It is sad that many teachers turned a blind eye to it all and only show some concern after someone takes their own life. Something needs to done before more people are hurt and with the low birth rate, Korea’s society and everything will collapse.
I feel so bad for all the victims and hope that they all find the strength to fight back. That was what I did and regret not fighting back sooner… Bullies will not back down until you fight back.
Everyone should listen to the song Mei GUI Shao Nian Womxnly by Jolin Tsai. It is a song dedicated to a young man who died as a result of bullying. She is one of the top artists in Taiwan and uses her star power to fight against bullying, the rights of the LGBT community and many other social issues. I hope Korea does things to solve these problems before it is too late.
Man bullying is everywhere. I live in the states and my whoooole elementary experience is the worst for me because I was bullied all because I was Asian. I’m half Korean and half Cuban I was born in Seoul then moved to Miami and lived there from i was 3 years old -17 years. I was bullied so bad I stopped claiming I was Korean till I hit high school then moved to Tampa where Asians were a little more accepted lol so by the time I was 18 I was confident to claim my half Korean side. Bullying is bad everywhere I hate it
I’m half black and Korean and I lived in the hood so I was bullied for being Asian (or what they called “Chinese”) by students, teachers, neighbors…literally everyone from the time I started school until high school. I ended up going to a more diverse high school with other Asians, so it didn’t happen as much, but it still did. I found out on graduation that one of the popular “Puerto Rican” girls was actually half white and Korean, but lied to fit in…smdh
@@DeLaBoughetto wow we went thru similar experiences. I’ll tell you what tho it has made me strong today.
Huss. Keep it quiet, don't intervine this people bashing SK society to make themselves feel better...
I studied abroad in Seoul and i was there for over 3 months this past fall and it was one of the most intense experiences of Bullying i had faced . Super aggressive.
What happened?
I love that Asian Boss brought forth this topic! I have to wonder watching this, how many of the people they interviewed were bullies themselves?
But mad respect to the ones who shared their personal stories with bullying to all of us. It’s a traumatic experience and I’m sure it wasn’t easy for them to relive and talk about it. My heart goes out to everyone who’s been a victim of bullying, you were not to blame and you did not deserve it. Just remember that you are important!!!
Great interviews again Asian Boss, well done. School bullying I think is a problem everywhere... only once when I was in middle school, I was told someone was trying to start trouble with me behind my back and I made a point to look for him and confront him in front of his friends...he immediately backed down... after that he was silent. Many times I think bullies will push as far as they think they can until they are stopped... I feel terrible for all those that were interviewed, but can see the young man with the black headwrap was traumatized....this should never happen if in school when most are there to study..
I am so sorry for what happened to the victims. And thank you for sharing. We must speak out to stop the bullying.
The guy in the beanie broke my heart. I wish I could give him a hug and I truly hope he is able to get over the past and find happiness.
Sometimes I wonder, why Korean dramas often glorify bullying in almost all the dramas they make. Was the bullying there so bad that they had to make it to the government's attention? You'll sure remember how movie "Silent" changed the education system in South Korea, especially sexual abuse.
As a Korean, I'd like to add that cases like The Glory are based on true stories, but it's never like normal schools have such incidents. These are the very few extreme cases that deserve to be in the news. In Korea, creative works that freely express sensitive topics such as social issues, history, and politics have been very popular in the film and drama industry. Through this, there are many cases in which social problems have received attention and been resolved. So, I am a bit worried that foreigners will generalize that Korean creators deal with social problems, and that all of Korea is the same. Fiction is jusy fiction. In Korea, as dramas such as The Glory receive national attention and social interest increases, stories of real victims begin to be publicized, and social interest in school violence is reaching an all-time high. So, in fact, prestigious universities are introducing a plan to suspend admission if there is a history of school violence. Even now, Korean society is awakening and making efforts to completely eradicate school violence. I think this is a positive function of a drama that deals with social messages, and I sincerely hope that hate crimes related to school violence will be completely eradicated in the future.
My heart pours to all victims and the ones who were brave to share their stories in this video! I hope their lives are more kind and at peace now even though they still suffer ptsd
This is really shocking to hear that bullying to that extreme extent is actually so common and even worse in Korea... I really did not expect it to be this severe. Thank you Asian Boss, for raising more awareness about the problem.
As a Korean, I'd like to add that cases like The Glory are based on true stories, but it's never like normal schools have such incidents. These are the very few extreme cases that deserve to be in the news. In Korea, creative works that freely express sensitive topics such as social issues, history, and politics have been very popular in the film and drama industry. Through this, there are many cases in which social problems have received attention and been resolved. So, I am a bit worried that foreigners will generalize that Korean creators deal with social problems, and that all of Korea is the same. Fiction is jusy fiction. In Korea, as dramas such as The Glory receive national attention and social interest increases, stories of real victims begin to be publicized, and social interest in school violence is reaching an all-time high. So, in fact, prestigious universities are introducing a plan to suspend admission if there is a history of school violence. Even now, Korean society is awakening and making efforts to completely eradicate school violence. I think this is a positive function of a drama that deals with social messages, and I sincerely hope that hate crimes related to school violence will be completely eradicated in the future.
before I was fascinated about Korea, but watching a lot of Korean dramas that are based on bullying and witnessing how bully young KOrean students are with their fellow classmates/students. Im skeptical about their society now.
Was not ready for 24:47
But on the real I hope and wish the best for all to learn and grow to become better humans
Wow. My heart just breaks for all the victims of bullying. These people were very brave to share their stories about bullying and I am happy that they have moved on to better things in life.
For those suffering from bullying: FIGHT BACK. Don't expect other people to help you. Fight back and they'll think twice when bullying someone.
It is difficult when the bully is older than you, larger stature than you, and you're outnumbered.. But that's exactly why you need to fight back. I say that because I didn't fight back.. I was scared. But you look back in time and you see how all of it has affected your life. You don't want to do that..
I really feel sorry for the guy. Being bullied in school already so bad but even your parents think you're the problem is much worse..
Im an American and i can say bully is every where. We have it here. Columbine shooting was done by two out cast kids who were bullied. A few years back a young middle school girl climbed up a tower in an abandoned building and jumped off cause she was being cyber bullied by the girls at her school. People need to teach their kids better. Start taking it serious cause your kids actions can destroy peoples lives
I’m really glad I stumbled upon this video, this is really heartbreaking to hear about and I really wished this wasn’t real and people didn’t have to go through this. Praying for kids and teens out there who don’t have the strength or voice to speak up and hoping that the teachers will actually have accountability and listen to those students.
Thanks to the informative subject matter. As a teacher this is something that I see from time to time and it's important to hear all sides as well as keep your eyes and ears open to anything that might be said 8n the hallways. People that are victims will have a hard time expressing themselves if they believe that no one even bothers the to see it. Always best to speak up when you see signs of bullying