Observations of ENTJs as well as recommendations on how best to interact with them. This video doesn't cover all aspects of ENTJs, but it includes most observations passing my rule of threes.
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It’s not that they all hate us, it’s a 50/50, the ones that have seen our soft side love us but the ones that know our business only hate us with a passion, or the ones that got criticized by us
“All ENTJs are scared children” 🥺 “85% percent of ENTJs are dicks, 15% of ENTJs seem like dicks. Oh no-100% of ENTJs seem like dicks.” -Had me cracking so bad bro. I loved your content. I’ve never felt so attacked and understood at the same time. HAHAHAHA 💀🤣😩 Love, -Female ENTJ
As an ENTJ I greatly appreciated you analyzing the depths of my own personality. I have drop kicked it into the basement in the pursuit of ambition and now I am slurping up factoids about myself in a journey of self discovery. This has been amazing and INTPs are my favorite!
As a fellow entj, im also walking towards the same path you're trying to walk towards, we would make it one day, it's a tough battle but hardship is needed to become stronger.
"They feel completely unarmed fighting" you just described my entire existence. I went through three years of incredibly painful therapy to sort through my various issues. I'm a college professor, and at 35 years old after a failed marriage I decided that I was the one that needed help. I would not wish my monthly therapy sessions on my worst enemy. But finally, I will be 39 in April, I can say with confidence that I understand myself. Thank you so much for sharing this information. You impact more people than you know.
I’m proud you made the decision to work through therapy despite how painful it can be. Metamorphosis is never easy, but I think it’s worthwhile; hurting from progression beats suffering from stagnation any day.
@@camandalshamanayyy someone’s also late to the party 🎉 Also what makes you think you’re the arbiter of truth? It almost seems like you’re invalidating the experiences of ENTJs above us
51 year old ENTJ here and I relate to what you are saying. It is tough to become part of the 3%. Knowing that you are constantly being manipulated for the value you bring to the table, makes it hard not to be suspicious and paranoid about people. I found that by removing my added value and ambition I became less of a threat and less vulnerable to being hurt. Kind regards.
25 years old ENTJ and I kindly disagree. Although I have been wondering for quite some time whether the fact that I am very creative in the way I do my tasks and very insightful may be a reason for people who feel "less than" to try to bring me down, - at this moment I am kind of startled by the idea, especially since I struggle to accept that what I bring to the table is valuable, it would be much more easier for me to just do my tasks and everyone else let me do them without any comments on them, because my worth and my capabilities, and putting them on a scale and comparing them with anyone else's is something I much rather not do, so, as a side comment, the mere idea that people try to bring me down and lower my self esteem and profit off of me is not a problem for me in itself, at I face a moral dilemma about the reasons behind this behavior - anyways, firstly, this would happen to anyone who has capabilities when they encounter someone jealous of said capabilities (I have an ESFP cousin who faces the same struggles - incidentally I see ESFP and ENTJs have the same function stacks, this is interesting) and secondly, lowering your flame so as not to face snarky comments means accepting defeat. And I will not accept defeat. As of late I started to care less and less about what people would think of me when I say my opinion on things, and if they try to play mind games with me, I would just stick to my opinion and to the issue at hand, and if they have a problem with that, they can just beat it. People's opinion and words won't hurt you. But hiding yourself away will chip at your self esteem. The internet is full of resources on how to deal with and navigate dishonest and manipulative people, there are a lot of self help books available, therapy is also available, the more you invest in yourself and in your self worth and self esteem, the less you will care about what other people say or think. When there is a will, there is a way
@@ileanaprofeanu7626 You are still young with a very active Te, willing to go through each obstacle in your way. The more life becomes a struggle, the more your Fi will kick in. Fi has a much more gentle and less confrontational nature. If you look at the life of the late Steve Jobs, he lost control of Apple due to lack of Fi and thus support from the board. Those are tough events and life is just too short to get mixed up in these battles. Steve Jobs overcame them and grew stronger, but I wouldn't dare saying he had a happy life. Calm your Te and start thinking about your personal happiness, would be my advice to my younger me.
@@ileanaprofeanu7626 ENTJ female, older than you. I agree with the suggestion you got from Johan, it is so spot on. When you say "I struggle to accept that what I bring to the table is valuable": it is a punch I feel. You will not know you are being manipulated until you don't recognize your own value. I learned my value by starting actively listening to people, especially sensing people, you will see how other think, and how they fell differently. You can help them and they can help you finding value in yourself and your ideas. For example: I have a mentor who is ESFJ and he always tells me to modulate my TE (as Johan said) I help him with being objective :). Modulate TE makes you a Jedi ENTJ = you stop attracting the manipulators but you are very worthy to be around.
I finally understand myself and what I put my poor ENTP bf through. Just goes to show how much he studied me in order to be patient with me before I became self aware.
Last part doesn't sound like an ENTJ, the example of that girl, sounds more like a very paranoid ESTJ. ENTJs don't just argue and want to be mean because it makes them badasses, or because it just feeds off the ego, or because of whatever lust for aggression most talk about. And other people that feel that want to be the "bad boys" or "bad girls" and want to be typed ENTJ don't get it at all. This type may be quite "cold" at describing the state of a whole situation and show a way to move forward without taking much into account "other people's feelings". But usually what works has nothing to do with feelings for a situation. They can take criticism, they're not delicate in that sense, that's just absurd. But will explode if who they trust betray them, then that's when things get ugly.
I'm an ENTJ lady and I have to agree with this. When at work and someone needs to criticize something I've done or work on doing better they always assume I'll react negatively. I honestly have no problem people telling me what I can do that's easier or more productive. However if someone stabs me in the back or has an issue I'll address it and if they can't handle it or just dont like me I'll ignore them unless it's for work. How they feel about me is not my problem. That's something they have to work on. Usually I get along well with a majority of people. It's a very small amount of people who have an issue with me and it's usually because I'm happy and like to express my happiness.
@@Brxwn9 I'm just saying I don't see any other ENTJs or even in myself have those type of reactions for the situation described, and offered an example of a situation where we might become aggressive and nasty. I never said ENTJs don't react that way.
@@MrRockyVega i find that alot ppl get upset with me simply because i want to help them. Alot of type want be told there is nothing wrong with them. They just want us to hold there hand and guide the head banging into the wall over and over. Thats not how i roll. i want a solution. Solutions hurt sometime, but they dont get it at all. Pain is sometime the beginning to happiness!!!!
@@Acumen928 feelings r overrated!!! Feelings change like the wind but success is constant if u focus. I find that ppl r cry babies that don't want better 4 themselves.They just want so one to baby them, and let them fail for the sake of failing. Just so they repeat the same stupid elogical cycle over and over. The other types dont get it the world doesn't care u cause ur just a number.it only care do want something or not!!! Side note the world is a cold place. There good parts in it when work towards something.!!!
@@ledevingreen7920 All types? noooo WAAAYY. Maybe it's just you that noone likes (just feeding the inner paranoia troll), it's certainly not true for all ENTJs.
The structure and flow of these videos is like my internal monologue. It is like listening to my mind speak, but with new information, instead of re-combining and analysing things I am already familiar with.
Working with this one ENTJ doctor, in order to avoid trouble, I just play stupid all the time. I'm an INFP, so I'm good at it. I do everything I can to avoid conflict...although mistakes will crop up. And when they do, I try to get things on track as quickly as possible with no resistance. People who fight with him often get kicked out. He is kind of like a god amongst men. But I can see how the way he presents himself hides his delicate inner self. He jumps into conversations all the time. He loves talking to people about their lives; Their families, vacations, etc. He's very warm and welcoming on the surface (Although he almost seems like an introvert trying to force himself into conversation. It's that fake, exaggerated kind of reaction to every statement.) Eventually, something will go wrong; Perhaps something minute, or something that could jeopardize the whole case. It's always someone else's fault. And that's when he clings the most to the savior functions. Cut throat. No weakness. No mercy. Grill whoever is responsible. Don't let it happen again. And so, the warm light has been extinguished. But as things improve again, he tries to recover some of that warmth by being almost overly courteous. TONS of "please" and "thank you" statements. It doesn't help. It's too late. It's sad that the ultimate goal of the ENTJ is to be at harmony with the tribe, and yet they often push the tribe away. He wants to achieve so much, and to have such an effect on the communities around him. But in actuality, everyone around is seeing through façade, the peacocking, the warmth that is displayed. But they only see past that first layer, to the cold just beneath. It's just as false as what's on the outside. The true reality, the sensitive inner self, is lost to almost everyone, in the name of just getting the job done. Is it worth the sacrifice?
@@scarlett8123 Overlord INTJ? He reminds me a lot of my INTJ dad. But I don't think that inferior Se is his weakness. I think that he has inferior Fi and blindspot Fe, so he has to kind of emulate Fe through Te and Fi, and it seems very fake.
Fellow INFP, I love your comment. I'm watching these kinds of videos for research in writing an ENTJ character (yay fanfiction) and I'm straight up tempted to directly quote your insight. Much love 🤗💙
Im an ENTJ I have to say building up an base takes time but when it’s constructed it’s stable. As an ENTJ I’m really popular but bearly have an inner circle outside my family. Self-awareness is key to build an stable Base
I think I am a typical ENTJ. I had so many psy sessions to deal with emotions - childhood trauma, past emotional issues, current ones. Emotions are definitely my weakest weakness. I also see why a lot of people are intimidated by me (=dislike me) with all my good intentions. I don't Fxxx people or test people but I do have different small circles of friends like what is said in this video. Don't go against ENTJs; like other people, we are not monsters and we just try to be efficient in life.
"They cause the problems they think will happen, which makes them think they can predict the future, when in reality they caused the problem to begin with." That's a very accurate and painful way to put it - it totally makes sense when I look back to things that went south in my life. On the other hand, I needed some of them happening so I could test my strenght and become more mature. Either way, I'm making more time for paying attention to my weaker Fi (thank god I developed decent Se in the past 23 years), so hopefully I'll manage to clear the fog and stop seing myself as the sole responsible person for everything that crosses my way, which is never quite true.
Never stop fighting. And the balcony’s always there whenever you need to step out, take a breather, and survey everything/reflect before making your decisions.
2y later plot twist: big chance I typed as my shadow back then and am actually INTP. My diagnosis is that I tested Ne & Fe way more in 2020 and 2021 because of a career change, ultimately making me feel as a congregator/reformer type.
xSFP here. In love with an ENTJ. He's such a sweetheart. I can see him testing me since sometimes since we recently met each other, but I can deal with that and manage to reassure him. I bring him all the warmth and love I can, to make him feel secure, loved, and cherished. I think being with someone of your opposite type or at least someone who has your inferior functions as top functions can be really fulfilling and make you grow as a person. He helps me with my projects and it makes my heart melt. I feel really safe with him and I strive to make him feel safe and loved as well, to get rid of any paranoia. Sweet video.
This is a very critical video but pretty spot on, at least for me (I’m an ENTJ). I test people in relationships, I have a history of getting manipulated, I’m pretty paranoid, and I’m trying my best. I’m always impressed by how accurate INTPs are in their observations, even if they dont back up their claims with objective measures.
As an ENTJ female I think I know a way that can help other ENTJs that struggle with Fe. You'll have to use your Te to make sense of it,but look up psychology and how the brain works. Think of the type of people you want to be in your life. How do they think and how do they respond to different situations. Now when you go out and meet people you can talk to them and if they say or act in a way that doesn't fit what kind of people you're looking for. If they aren't then move on. They aren't worth being friends with. Hope this helped a little. It's helped me for the most part ,but it's hard to find good people who you can trust. This will at least help develop some Fe.
You realize the alpha/beta thinking is bullshit right? It's been disproven so many times. So stop throwing yourself under the bus and do your thing man. Be you, who cares what other's think. Be efficient, rule the world.
ENTJ here, 54 years old, male. After 40, there gradually emerged an increasing activity and involvement in self-discovery. By the age of 50-52, one can become a rather profound "philosopher" with a developed Fi (and consequently, a deep understanding of other people as well), while still remaining an active and pragmatic individual. The concept of happiness and sustainable inner well-being expands significantly. ENTJs are always oriented towards utility and efficiency from childhood, but with the activation of Fi after 40, the concept of "utility" gradually becomes deeper and broader. I believe wisdom and real depth come with it, harmonizing the entire integrity of one's character. At the same time, the activity and social engagement remain, and the ability to see the bigger picture becomes much broader.
ENTJ Male here- I used to see trying to move people to the plans I’d made in my head for them as a way of helping them aka- I see all this potential in you, and I know you can do it, and would be epic at it so let me help you there. This is reflective of what many of us want - someone to say they believe in us and this is where we can or should go especially immature ENTJs- we just want to win. I’ve seen this way more in Male than female entjs. And yes I’m a terrible judge of character which is why to help with this my two close friends are an infj and enfp. A hack for ENTJs is not to get butt hurt if you get ‘negative’ feed back. See it as data, incorporate it and use it to move forward and be better. We want to win after all, so your temporary butt hurt feelings do not matter. Incorporate, change, grow, become more and then you will win. This will make you a better friend, partner and leader. Which at the end of the day is what will fulfil you
The sentiment comes from kindness but where it trips people up is that you ignore two things: 1) their own vision for their lives 2) their own feelings about what they want to do. I know an ENTJ is gonna Tina Turner me here and be like "what's love got to do with it?" But that's kinda the point. Many entjs steamroll through life ignoring their own feeling an expecting others to do the same. But others know when you ignore your own feelings for too long life will punch you hard in the face and leave you bleeding. So most people take into consideration emotions in a way that ENTJs or ESTJs do not. Also, a lot of people hate being controlled... and this entjs can come off controlling with their own vision for your personal individual life. The key is to share strengths you see in people and be encouraging but back off and leave them be to chose their own path in life. -intj
As an ENTJ who spends a lot of time working on being able to sympathize and empathize with people, it's one of the most exhausting things, and the thing i crave the most is people who will take time to get to know me before making judgments, because I can promise you every judgment i make is initially wrong to some degree, so it needs to change constantly to better fit reality. ENTJ's are very sensitive and from experience I can't tell you how surprised i am at my own emotional responses. It has taken me years to even have a fraction of how i might feel about any situation, and it's more often than not in retrospect. Very observant.
How do you remain in touch with your “sympathy-empathy” objective when it becomes difficult? The Fe side of cluelessness feels equally blind and painful. Props to you for remaining dedicated to your connection with everyone.
@@Skimmerlit To be honest, I have to ground myself in facts and rationality. I remind myself peoples emotions matter, That other people will not be efficient or effective unless they feel cared for. I remind myself that people matter. From there I ask lots of questions, I have gotten okay at reading emotions of others, but i need to be patient and hear people out. I have some good infp and enfp friends who are very easy to talk to. Lastly I have to learn and understand psychology and healthy ways to deal with emotions for myself and others, I am still a problem solver at my core, and Empathy especially is for me a tool to solve peoples emotional distress. It's not an efficient process and it is not predictable and I absolutely hate it. That and my enfj mother has pretty much beaten value for people into my head, so while it happens it is hard to forget that people matter. It's taken my whole life and it will take even longer to get anywhere close to mastering it, I still tell my friend if he is prattling on about the details of his day that he is invested in, that i don't have the emotional capacity to deal with the topic. I am open about my preference for abstract and theoretical, because i don't care about the small details that triggered this feeling or that. But I do let him know, if he is emotionally distressed and if he need emotionals support, I will do the best I can, but I wont invest that energy into a random conversation he had or a trip to the store.
The thing is, we all get manipulated and manipulate others to a certain extent. Heck, we can even manipulate ourselves... You just gotta determine for yourself what you're willing to allow, and what you're unwilling to, that is, if you can recognize it to begin with. -INTP
Why do you believe ENTJ are the most easiest to be manipulated? What characteristics do they posses that makes them a target 🎯. I like to believe I’m a healthy 3% female ENTJ- It can be EXTREMELY difficult to overcome feelings 🤔🙃
I think we are the persons who manipulate ourself. Because we impregnated our positive or negative thoughts and feelings to everyone and to us too. We need to change our point of view about a lot of stuff and be more sensitive sometimes because is positive to us.
I've been married to an INTP for 22 years and for the past year I have believed I was INFJ. I was trying my hardest to be the best damn INFJ anyone had seen, a ray of light was going to be shinning out of my ass. I couldn't figure out why I was so angry all the time. All the things I thought I hated in other people was actually me too. Neither of us have been perfect but thank God he can take the punches and is loyal. Now that I don't have to pretend to be a nice guru hippie with all the answers I feel like I can breathe. I'm finding that the people who aren't used to your boundaries really don't like them and start name calling and shaming to get their way. It's hurtful for sure. Thanks for your video and kindness.
To "rationalize" means to justify an action whether or not it is true. It's job is to just give an explanation or a possible course of action to a situation. It has a lot of pros, i agree but it can become quite a problem when you start rationalizing a seemingly impossible thing to rationalize such as people's actions. We are still susceptible to mistakes and can overcalculate the capability of them, physically and even mentally. If we rationalize with only just the information provided to us, we wouldn't be able to make a sound judgement. Sometimes this ability can also help us to make excuses about things easier and let us not forget the biases that we hold in ourselves. Would love to hear your take on the matter, i might be wrong or there is a different perspective that i didn't cover.
@ur1simp893 It's been 2 years since to made your comment. I hope my response is rewarding despite the lapse in time. Wisdom is like the experience points to level up the skill of rationalism. You get greater insight to solve and create solutions, but the greatest way to resolve the complications of errorisms is just as you've stated: We can make mistakes. We can be wrong. The acceptance of this fact is the greatest lesson of all. To achieve knowing, understanding and truth, we must first accept we might be wrong. That is the success through failure epitomized in the most rewarding result.
Great work. You should do more ENTJ vids. I enjoyed having someone call us on our bs, while also understanding where it stems from. Overall, quite accurate. But @4:25 you're damn near word for word bang on lmao!!
I appreciate that. I'll absolutely make more ENTJ videos. I like ensuring my information's accurate and worth sharing, so, once I've gathered and proven enough info, I'll have another video out.
Hello! I am a fellow INTP and I have been extremely interested in and studying personality theory for many years, although my contributions are limited. I commend you on taking the initiative to create this MBTI content! You have a great understanding of this stuff, your contributions are valuable to this community! I can tell you have gotten influence from C.S. Joseph and I believe his theories are spot on, but your delivery is much softer, or less antagonistic rather, but just as technical and thorough, so I think you can reach a larger audience with this message. Your channel has great potential!
I have studied up a number of years. I find C.S. Joseph of waste of time on type theory. However, I do like this video channel with what I have seen so far.
I am an ENTJ female and yes I can be manipulated. I’m eager for progress and I have a strong belief in the potential of others. This combination can make me gullible so my only defense for a while was paranoia. I had to test people. It’s not nice. I am working on qualifying people a little better by asking more questions and observing behavior. It means I have to be patient which is not easy but it’s better than being a jerk.
It’s not our fault that we get manipulated. We are loyal people and expect the same from others we care about. That’s a good thing! We just need to be more discerning about who we trust. Also, keep in mind that people we grow up with might turn manipulative later on when they start to envy our growing success. That happened to me this year. Such a shock.
Thank you. I’m an INTJ female with an ENTJ father whom I adore. He really does try. I see it, poor guy. I’m extremely patient with him because I know he does his best. It’s like you don’t yell at a toddler for falling down when they’re trying to walk. You just find joy in the steps they DO take. ❤
@@Skimmerlit What? 😆I think you misunderstood me. You calling someone condescending is the pot calling the kettle black. 😂 He’s good, but as you stated, he struggles to share his feelings. While others can get annoyed with him, it just pulls at my heartstrings. I don’t see how that is condescending.
Thank you very much for making this video , makes me feel that I'm not alone , it's hard to be the way we are avoiding our emotions in order to follow the path of the most "rational" way and I hope this video makes people understand us better , again great content 🙏
Entj here. I have so called feminine Te so I will not attack people. My partners are INTP (very patient), ESFP (very caring for my Fi) and ENTP (both patient and caring). I am very delicate. But as you can imagine I an very lucky to have these people in my life. I work on being authentic and loving.
Honestly an interesting and a wonderful video that sums me up and the ENTJ inner dialogue/thought process in the daily, amazing and I can’t be grateful enough, this really has been eye opening video hearing it and getting to figure it all out better
We're not that bad at all! Yes the situations and the battles you described are true, but it literally makes no sense to say "85% aren't worthy of your time." Like wtf man?! You said it yourself, whenever we're interested in someone we try to improve them, because we want good for them, not because we need to feel in control. We try to help people around us, not bring them down. And I believe, an actual ENTJs work on themselves and try to improve, change their bad qualities to become more efficient. I don't think you understand that we want to be better as much as the people around us, and we're trying
I think ENTJ see that 85% of people are not worth the time. I have a lot of people in my life and I need constantly reject offered friendships as I just do not have the time. We have a lot of projects and so little time. And then there are 10% of people we see potential and we like to help them, like somebody helped us. I don't think I am the smartest, but I don't waste my time in here. So if I have something to say I hope you listen. Then there are 5% of people I listen. And it's not what they say, but how they live. And these are the people I have close relationships with. It is hard to manipulate us. When we are younger yes, but when we are older it is really hard. And we evolve. The older we get the more we see the game others are playing. So in my inner circle are people I admire. Look up to. And they can say to me anything they like and me also. Then there is another circle, people who work hard and deserve a little help. As we are helped on the same reason thru our life. The 85% they just did not see you in these two circles. And 15% saw. So I think he's right. But it is not like we are mean, it is more that we don't notice you and your feeling.
this video is scary. my best friend is an intp, I am an entj, and the self fulfilling prophecy you talked about is kind of correct, its happened to me, I worded what happened to me as my determination to make what i wanted to happen happen, but now that you’re putting it the way that you are, it makes much more sense. also, the paranoia thing you talked about, absolutely correct, mega paranoid all the time. it doesn’t have to be a negative however, positive things have happened because ive wanted them to happen so bad i worked my ass off to accomplish it, which is why i named it determination. really got goosebumps watching this up till 10:00.
also what you say around the eleven minute mark is true aswell, ive cycled through friends and people seeing if they were real or not... ive called someone’s whole friend group out and said they were all fake, and within 3 months that person lost each and every one of those “friends”, not because of me, just because of a series of events and arguements. i felt like a psychic honestly, I called a total of like 5 or 6 people out, and told just that one person about how fake they were... obviously they did not believe me at first but after those 3 months they had no clue how I did it, especially seeing as I had only met those people recently.
@@Paradigm_T33 ENTJ here. There is a Yin and a yang: we may at time self fulfill doom but also TE + NI brings innovation and ideas to life ; Our Ni is really good at prediction of the future (most people do not want to ear it).
Yes ! My lack of Si leaves me foundationless ! I just ordered a whole bunch of photos printed out of my past to look at every morning and remember who I am and what I’ve accomplished .
I'm an ENTJ, but I have a good distribution when it comes to the funktions. Most of the time I like being alone or with good friends, because I either work on something that is important to me or talk to a person that is important to me. If I get invited to a party though, it comes natural to me to talk to strangers. I don't have any big hurdles, in a social and strategic way, but the problem is always to find a goal that is important, but also doable. Then comes the question of what the important things are. Rounded up: No problem with strategizing or doing, problems when deciding what is worth of our limited time.
I’m an ENTJ. I’m in love. It’s hard. This’ll all just be from my perspective. The planning bit is pretty true, and in a way the testing too, but I’m just trying to find out what people are like so I don’t have to learn it the hard way. Now, what you said about thinking and visualizing our feelings out I can’t relate to, which probably means you’re right. I don’t feel like I have a core identity, I don’t know what I want, but on a day-to-day basis, that isn’t a problem for me. I’m not very problematic, depressed, anxious, angry, I’m just kinda empty? Also, I wouldn’t say I’m a horrible judge of character, but I *definitely* have been, to be fair. I can’t think of anyone I hate, either. I try to weigh things by merit and logic, which means there are some things I like less than others depending on the situation, and I apply the same principles to work relationships with people when it comes to delegation.
How dare you! But thank you for these videos. You articulate these things better than I do. I'm sure you put a lot of work into these videos, as they are well-structured and perfectly understandable - it's a nice system. I especially liked the part where you talked about foundations and compared us to an ESTJ. Anyone brave enough to love us despite our natural nature must be our constant, and shouldn't punish us for being 'assholes'. If we let you in, you're fully in, at every level. We are building with you. This is why some may perceive our nature as controlling and maybe even needy, like a child. It's hard to say out loud, but it's true. If you are part of our vision, we will ensure you have a comfortable place, and we will also build around your needs.
Thank you for this video. I've never felt more seen. Especially after just recently coming to the conclusion (after half a dozen of mistypes later) that I am an ENTJ. This video feels like the therapy that I've always needed but couldn't get for my episodes of Fi grip due to relationship trauma earlier in my teenage years. I went through a 5-year-long journey of self-discovery through MBTI, Enneagram, and Socionics because of that, and I can now proudly say that I might be a part of that 3%, as my past self could NEVER be more self-aware than I am today 😂 Cheers to you, my INTP friend!
why is this SO GOOD One part of me wishes that this channel got a larger audience, while the other is perfectly content with this knowledge being in my hands only
Very insightful and well thought out - also the ENTJ introverted video. I tried to explain to my INTP friend the introversion and the battle I'm going through on almost daily basis in regards what I feel and why. And how it is super difficult for me to be vulnerable, open and say what I feel any given time let alone show them (I'm also ashamed of my feelings at times, especially anger). This same INTP friend asked me the other day why I fuck with him. I was surprised (since I don't think I fuck with him) but I managed to mumble something along the lines: Maybe Because I like you and you should feel honored? But I don't think he does. Lol. Anyway you put it to words perfectly and pointed it out clearly, this was comforting. Thanks.
Thanks for your videos, your my favorite INTP on youtube. My mom is an ISFP so i learned a little about self awearness, but with you, i came to another level! :)
I am just in awe at this title because my mom is an entj and is one of the most difficult, hot tempered, strong willed, impatient people I've ever met. And whatever you call people who do not care about your feelings most of the time. Lol
There might be a future video called “ENTJs are Fucking Insane.” I think quality ENTJs are worthwhile, but I totally understand having a less than favorable opinion of others.
There's no woman as sensitive as a man inside and no man as strong as a woman inside. (Dr. Pat Allen's work) Men have feminine souls, the anima. Women have masculine souls, the animus. (Emma and Carl Jung's work)
That's a perspective to offer 😂 I wonder how many mature/healthy ENTJs are in your interface databases. And, since ExTJs are 10 8% of the population (ESTJ @ 9.0%, ENTJ @ 1.8%, both the only Te-doms), I wonder how discerning the populace is at telling them apart. Finally, since you assess that 1.8%*3%= 0.05% of the population are "good ENTJs", I wonder if I might rank in that group via your wisdom... - ENTJ in 50's
My 3%'s more of an idea than a reality, and far more than 3% of ENTJs are "good" ENTJs. More than my 15%, too, because ENTJs act differently together than they do independently. 25% of ENTJs are probably worth getting to know, but that isn't static--it's more like you have a 1/4 chance of meeting any ENTJ at a good moment in their lives. 1/2 of the time they're in long-term drone-mode, so there's really nothing to befriend or learn. 1/4 of the time they're midway through a tailspin looking to drag anyone down with them. 1/4 of the time they're on the upswing, satisfied with work and life yet still reflective. The 3% comes from who I think are ENTJ 7w6s or 5w6s. They're difficult to type because although they use ENTJs' functions, their priorities are atypical and they leapfrog regular ENTJ pitfalls. They create their own new ones, sure, but lacking precedent means harder typing. These are the ENTJs with good access to both Se and Fi yet repressed Ni. They come off as perceivers, but their Te is too powerful and omnipresent--yet backgrounded--to be anyone but ENTJs. They aren't perceivers or ESFPs, but they aren't archetypal ENTJs, either. The ones I have in mind are Colin Quinn and Jim (IA/MM). One's a confirmed/self-typed ENTJ, and I'm almost certain the other is. I used the 3% statistic because if these two exist, others should exist too, like the way unknown elements were theorized then discovered. They're just too good at blending in. Most types are difficult to type the better or odder they use their functions. As for you: congrats on surviving this long. ENTJs older than 50 are either the most fulfilled people alive or the most depressed. I don't know you, so I can't say, but I'm a nobody on the internet whose opinion shouldn't matter or influence others, so keep doing you and being happy.
@@Skimmerlit i like this brutal honesty about ENTJ's. I think there's this stereotype that we're all out there kicking ass and taking names, but in reality the vast majority of life is exceedingly dull and repetitive and it used to feel like I was grinding my soul into dust. I almost took my own life a year ago, but having a colossal mid life crisis in your early 30's ruin everything you've ever worked for is *actually* a pretty sweet deal (as long as you don't go mad or die of stress related issues before you get through it) because then you'll hopefully get a few good years in before you conk out. I think I was the douchebag arrogant ENTJ that got his ego fix in all the wrong places, assumed that any of this shit even matters, but when you've pissed literally everyone off and as the last drop of hope drains from your body, suddenly you gain the ability to soberly and accurately self-assess honestly and that has already been life changing. My goal is to end up as the chill, internally validated ENTJ that can take it easy but I'm okay with whatever happens, I'm just lucky to be experiencing consciousness right now.
I'm glad you're around, and I'm glad you came out the other end changed for the better. Those lowest lows are traumatic. If you've survived one, I think the fact you're alive means you're alive for a reason. I hope you find what you're looking for. Keep fighting.
People say we are manipulative and it pisses me off because I've never had the necessity of manipulate nobody (definitely not my closest ones) to get what I want. In fact, I won't force you to do something you don't want to do, if it's really important to me I'll tell you "this is really important to me and I really need you to do this for me as a favor" but I don't fucking need to manipulate you
I think the thing that xntj like about xntp is that they are so gentle with us. It's a totally different experience then with everyone else because with everyone else we put up a strong front. - intj
I was listening to this yesterday, and have been pondering it since some. At first, I just kept wondering if I was of the 15%. I read somewhere that ENTJs struggle with feeling this sense of certainty that they are, in fact, good. I guess I've been fortunate to have many ENFJ relationshipsthat sort of impose feelingson me even when I can't hardly stand it. I started thinking back to the first time I found the MBTI stuff though, and remembered how upsetting it was. Truthfully, it's not the stereotypical girl archetype, which I already sort of knew about myself but maybe not to such an extreme. I've mostly tried to use it as a way to grow as a person and practice more self awareness. I find it a little alarming when I meet people who seem almost cocky about their type, usually INTJs in my experience. They often naturally want to confer their unflinching confidence unto me, as their slightly more Extroverted counterpart. I can't help but feel some sadness for them; one can not use this information to grow if one thinks themselves the best already. I haven't met another ENTJ, but I could see this playing out similarly here too. I can think back to a time when I lacked so much self awareness that I didn't even understand how I was making people upset. I was just being practical; didn't they want a solution? Why else complain? Anyway, all this is only to say that many people are kind of garbage until they start trying to develop themselves. I think both ENTJ and ESTJ types can just come across a little more... awful.. until they learn about how ineffective it is.
I’m a ENFJ and my Dear Heart is ENTJ. Gentleness 💜 he’s my Baby 100%. Love him dearly. Never too much for me. I’m a feeler, he’s technical. We balance each other in the best ways. We help each other grow where we lack with patience because I’ve shown him patience first He’s me internally, and I’m him internally. Definitely my twin and I love myself 💜
I definitely notice myself doing this, more so now that I'm hearing it from an outside perspective. When I was younger I used to 'test' people intentionally. Now I think it's coming out subconsciously. Perhaps related to development of feeling? Been struggling a lot lately. I feel like I have no tribe, nobody who values what I do, or is capable. I know that the best things are made with cooperation, and that some things have essentially no meaning without an attachment beyond the self. I can't help but notice things that validate feelings of not being liked or appreciated, and it makes me paranoid/distrustful of others. I feel like I can't rely on anyone, and it's maddening. I feel overwhelmed by what I see all the time, and it's been making me spiral. I so desperately want to fall back on achievement, but I've been in a pit of wasted time and it's just getting worse, and I really don't know what to do.
Speaking of self-awareness. I've realized some of these things before as well. Treating people like projects, having plans for others. I have to be careful not to overwhelm people with my energy, enthusiasm, cavalier-attitude. Can be 'indestructible' much of the time, and then the wrong thing gets through and it cripples me(usually blows to my confidence socially). I have a tendency to impress people 99% of the time, and sometimes I realize I can be extremely intense, annoying, irritating, insufferable(however you call it). I tell close friends I feel like a genie, can help anyone, but often fail miserably to do so for myself. Unless someone else makes it 'their' goal to help me, only then do I feel capable of helping them help me, but I find it so rare that someone not only cares, but knows me well enough to actually find a foundation to begin with(especially without driving me away with misjudging me inaccurately).
11:08 Okay first, this got me laughing but it's pretty accurate so good job ! Also i like the rain in the background, I've heard this like an evening podcast -ENTJ
I disagree with one thing you said. You brought up that ENTJs are horrible judges of character, that isn't necessarily true. ENTJs are amazing judges of character, however, we can only reach that once we have awareness of ourselves and our own short ability to learn who we are. Through that, we judge individuals almost perfectly because we are judging them based on our own internal conflicts and how we would choose to handle it and how it would make us feel about ourselves.
I love our analysees, especially the ones about entjs, this video is legendary. I just revisited it after a long time, thank you for sharing all of your thoughts.
Hi there! I’m an ENTJ female and I just posted a video that explains why I think INTP/ENTJ relationships are so rare. Take a look when you have a moment. I’d like to know what you think. Cheers!
I’d say my friendships are limited to people that love me the most. Admire me, and empathize with me . If I feel like someone doesn’t like me Or doesn’t want to be around me and cut them off . And I waste no time doing so. But the people that put in the effort to be with me have me completely .
As an entj, I do have a hard time with my feelings, and I certainly think angrily while trying to sort things out but I never show my anger to prople who ask. And most entj's I've talked(not many) to have been fairly good so Id say there is less than 85% mean ones. I also believe you underestimate the self awareness of the entj. I at least know I do slightly act a bit like people are projects, but on the inside, in the brain, I know your not a project but I want you to think thats what I think. Lots of entj's are as also some of the best judges of character. (Maybe you got unlucky) but they are pretty good due to their intuition and observation skill. Over all, entj's trick peope into making people think we are like this. (Also i know i sound like a self absorbed jerk, but i am just saying what I think. For all I know im one of the 85% stupid drones. Who knows) But other wise, this is the one of the best explanations (if not the best) I've seen. Thanks!
Exactly, I'm an ENTJ too and I never get manipulated, we see the bullshit a mile away, as INTJS do too. We just call them out,unlike the INTJ or let them think we get manipulated and have them into a trap. We are NTs so we do think ahead. Also, it may be me, but only let other people know my business when I want too, so they base their image off of that and that alone. Maybe hes just butthurt or naïve, but no one what my true intentions are. People are expendable it's like dead weight, theyll get dropped eventually- they can think as long as they want about me. It won't phase me as long as they don't get in the way of my goals.🤷🏾♂️
As an INTJ in a relationship with an ENTJ I can tell you there has been a lot of questioning from my side which made him absolutely crazy, while he is jumping to conclusions as well but doesn't like sharing them with me openly, which makes me even more paranoid. At the same time, we are both emotionally intelligent enough to communicate and make it work. Both of us want commit to our goals, which includes our relationship, and makes us both focussed on growth. We have our ways of clashing but in the end we are extremely loyal, caring (believe it or not) and push each other forward. While it may not always be easy, I would not choose anyone else to have by my side throughout life. We are made to achieve a lot of great things. 10/10 recommend the match when you're mature enough
“Be patient, gentle and kind with them” Most of the people adopt this strategy when they are with ENTJs. But not out of a deliberate judgement on their part but utter fear. That’s what basically turn ENTJs into an asshole in the first place. Teach them the right way to respect others. Rebuke them as much as possible. With enough mass scale peer pressure and environmental conditioning, we can help them evolve into something really beautiful or have them go extinct all together. . Kidding of course. 😊 ^INTJ
One thing i would like to say, knowing ourselves, im an entj and i think we dont need to know ourselves we just need to know what we need to do cuz basically knowing ourselves technically when u want to do something, u dont need to know like your personal feelings on the outcome, u just need to know what u innately do best basically i guess cuz for example a carpenter would not tell himself that his a professional carpenter before he does his job or does he have a degree in carpentry before he does anythin that correlates to the outcome of what he desires, cuz for example like if u are a carpenter and for example u want to save someones life in danger which u need to be a doctor first right, u only need to know u dont have the basic necessities to produce the outcome of the result knowing full well ur past experiences don't correlate to anythin that is happening currently so basically ur forethought should be to call an ambulance, u are basically entitled to know the things u dont know to these stuffs to immediately correlate everything to one outcome that this is an impossible job for a carpenter, although i guess u can say i can possibly try my best to save the guy even in my lack of experience but like it can cause more damage as well and if i can possibly save them with even any type of help like i feel personally it hurts alot to care for others in tht way, idk its just so illogical to me personally why i should like even in existence to me that i should be prior help to this guy. it hurts my brain alot, i think we are just physically inept to actually adjust to people adaptabilities in perceiving a certain event in simpler terms its just not in my "existence" i guess to prioritize this guy above me. I guess in tht regard we are narcissist i think so basically
What do you mean they will tell you they are tough but they aren't from inside and can't deal with resistance? Also being treated like a project is bad only if not done right! Don't you treat yourself as a project?We ARE a project to ourselves, one that we need to work on every day.We need to train our mind, physical skills and will in order to grow professionally and personally and to be fulfilled, so we are in fact a project to ourselves!If you are future-oriented like a ENTJ'S you know that if you invest your hard work and resources now, it will pay off later (if it something must have been done wrong)! This is the whole idea of investment so you need to seek opportunities to invest not only in the outer world but in yourself as well! It isn't only about what you are achieving, but also WHO are you become while achieving it! It is not only about power it is about using it for good! Mature ENTJ know how to motivate and inspire people, without having to be aggressive or controlling and they value your opinion as well! If you show resistance a mature ENTJ won't feel hurt, they will seek understand why are you resisting and to solve the problem in the best possible way for both parties like a problem-solver do! If you don't treat yourself as a project and don't want to progress, develop yourself,have no ambitions or dreams and no persistence and determination to follow them it is a problem for you! Not all ENTJ have problems with relationships and everybody (no matter the personality) is having problems with relationships sometimes, the important thing is for them not to be ignored!Delicate are only immature ENTJ who have a fragile ego and doubt themselves at the slightest mistake and can't accept criticism (which is necessary when it is constructive is highly necessary) or don't surround themselves with better in some way people(for ex.smarter), in order to learn from them like smart person would do, but instead feel irritated and intimidated by them ( just like all other people who feel intimidated by the more successful ones)! This aren't ENTJ, this are immature, insecure ENTJ, if they are trying to better themselves that is a good sign, but they need persistence, carefulness and possibly therapy and you need to be careful around them! I wouldn't suggest suffering a possibly abuse relationship that is holding you back instead of helping you grow! The idea of someone disrespecting you and excusing it as a ,,test"- is a HUGE red flag noone should ever ignore! Also the idea of noone being fair - everybody MUST be fair or there is no justice and no equality and no relationship! Also working relationships are a type of human connection, they are connection made by people, they just aren't personal, are formal, have more boundaries, are between workers, bosses etc. While personal relationships are with close friends, family and partners and are more close, with fewer boundaries, informal and personal! That is the difference but they are still both types are human relationships! Also I am not sure about the easily manipulated and awful judges of character thing, because firstly ENTJ are not highly emotional in front of people, which makes them less exposed to emotional manipulation, they are often smart and successful and you can't be all of this things and still be easily manipulated!About the scared little girls and boys thing, I don't think that its true for anyone except immature undeveloped ENTJ and people in general! There is an entire world of harmony and kindness"😂😂😂😂😂😂 - correction there are SMALL AMOUNT OF people who are sincerely kind, not because of wanting something for themselves nd there SHOULD be an entire world of harmony !😉😎 Normal ENTJ love people who are direct and logical, not people who beat around the bush or go behind their backs, in hope not to hurt their feelings! Be kind, but don't let people use or abuse you have healthy boundaries, be understanding but expect the same, be patient,but if you see that the other person isn't putting any effort in being better than don't feel guilty or afraid to leave!
I’m an ENTJ and I love writing I find it helps me express wut I feel about things through poetry..also not one person in my life has understood me and at times I often confuse myself as well I love trying to figure myself out I’m constantly talking to my family about different theories about human psychology and behavior trying to pinpoint where things start from and how they develop later on in different situations. I remember one guy broke up with me cuz he said “uu treat me like a brain or a puzzle instead of a human”.
5:00 ahhh yes exactly how I feel, I get frustrated most of the time due to being constantly misunderstood and I don’t think I’ll ever truly be understood by the people around me especially during my hard times when I need the support and find that it’s nowhere to be seen (the kind of support I’m looking for I think¿the support that will work and end the cycle), during hard times/mental health and self doubt (constantly questioning) and trying to keep my life together and people especially people who I consider closest to me and I care for deeply, don’t see or get how hard it is and how desperate I get and feel for some cooperation to make it easier. And When I do ask for help (which is really hard to do and is rare especially for matters regrading mental health) they don’t comply and brush it off ( and that’s where my self doubt sprouted I believe , constant down playing and brushing off my suffering options goals/motives. Makes you wonder and question your sanity and thought process and think if the whole thing/me is wrong to begin w and I’m just imaging it etc). the struggle be real at times, especially when I feel like things could have been better if early action had been taken because I’m clearly facing the consequence of neglect so now I have another thing/baggage on my plate to handle..yay me!! But I gotta do what I can do and it’s definitely has and still is a valuable learning experience and something that I’ll be very mindful of when I have children one day, and make sure there needs are met, the whole experience and ongoing journey to reconnecting with myself, self discovery, coronation, understanding/empathy and healing just made me realize how incredibly fundamental and important it is to have a supportive, understanding/empathetic, and caring environment for children and the importance of the emotional side and emotion connection and nurturing that side because if it’s left empty or overlooked the child will grow with a missing piece that will show it’s effects later on in life, and no child should grow up feeling ashamed for asking the bare minimum/basic needs of human nature or feeling scared/insecure and unloved and undeserving of such simple basic/normal yet highly important and crucial things. Thank you for your video it was informative, and I truly believe entjs have a soft side to them and especially to their loved ones and as you said they’d throw themselves in a fire to help the person they care for, and I feel like I’ve don’t that a couple of times already for people I cared for but unfortunately didn’t see that I was being played/(it wasn’t mutual and the intentions of the other part was never pure and they never voiced it until they decided out of the blue to break it off/end it so I they didn’t give me a chance to realize the issue to be able work on it and fix it because the deliberately choose to hide that side of them, ah if I only trusted my intuition from the start but I was too young and naive to trust it also being the optimist/dreamer I am when it comes to friendships/relationships that brings connection understanding and sense of validation/care that I was deprived of verbally and action/physical wise), I felt betrayed and deviated and they apparently weren’t on the same Page as me after all that time and energy put in to it, but it is what it is.
Btw now looking back at my comment and the first minute of the video got me doubting my type (what he said is true I do get irritated or sometimes feel off and at a loss of words when I’m asked how I feel, I think it because im feeling many things but And don’t know how to express it, and do have difficulty naming what I’m feeling but now I got better at it after many hours of studying and researching symptoms scenarios terms etc) im and ENFJ ENTJ INTJ so does that explain why I opened up and explained(tried to explain) what I was feeling¿:) Because I’m starting to think it’s not something an ENTJ would do But it is and ENFJ thing maybe, I do/used to journal and write down whatever intense feeling I’d feel when it gets too much and draining and would help lift some eight off my shoulders and get a better understanding off he situation/cause etc after seeing it all out on paper But it’s been over a year since I had done such a thing and I’m trying to get back to it because I feel like it was a good way of handling it for me + if anyone knows a professional who could type me pls link me up I’d love to get this dilemma resolved once and for all
85% are not worth your time 85% of the 2-3% what a fuckin ratio 😂 Pro tip for people who live with us: if our rooms/houses is messy, chances are we're not in a good head space. That or being late or lifestyle is slowly unwinding is another indicators. TL;DR version: If there's structure in our lives we're good. If it's non present or fading not so good.
wtf how the fuck do u know jajjajahahahha... ive just recently transition away from the unstructured lifestyle... i think that happens when im in a new situation...
GJ. Very refreshing to hear someone speak about ENTJs accurately, rather than the stereotype BS, though I wonder what percentage of ENTJs will be seriously pissed off with you leaking their secret :D
Yeah, I can't explain what I feel. I always find my real self as monster, I tried to not showing how I think. People, every single people can be very very rude (something I learn) and it can hurt me so much and I feel like I can't fix anything. And soon I tried to follow the better way. "Maybe everyone can figure this one, I dont need to say it." Or "I see what will happen soon, but it's better if they figured it out themself"
Meyers Briggs is a nice way to quickly communicate what your personality type is like broadly speaking. I wouldn't put much thought into it above that.
As an ENTJ this hit pretty close to home. Especially unintentionally being a dick and subconsciously fucking with people. I’m talking with an INTJ girl right now and am recognizing this through her doing similar shit. Lucky me getting a taste of my own medicine lmao, recognizing this has made being patient with her much easier.
I was abit confused about my type until I stumbled upon your videos, thanks man you've really bestowed confidence in me that I'm ENTJ since I exhibit pretty much all of the behaviors you listed in your 2 vids about ENTJs.
The word hates us but loves us it’s so annoying sometimes…they expect ceo daddy dom sit at all times as soon as we showing feeling people look at us as if we are weak. I’ve gotten over 40 one nights stands and only two relationships as a man. I’m in my 20z and I’ve been told I can’t be with you you are too serious but I like how dominant and manly you are like huhhh? No wonder they always show the ceo as a bachelor. I guess I might as well get used to it.
Wow, this explains sooo many things. I know 2 ENTJs, and I thought they were unhealthy ENFJs because I didn't expect to see so much irrational behavior in a Thinking dominant tipe. Wow... This explains so many things... Is sad to see how many anger they can carry and spread in the people who is around them. It might not be intentional but they are truly damaging. One last thing that I dont understand is that even knowing this behaviors are wrong and that is not a good idea to be close to them ... I feel kinda attracted to this (I'm INTP) but that is so irrational that I just don't understand why happens to me. Sight
11:15 honestly testing someone's limits is something i love to do, im an entj and i do that cuz i wanna know what ur liability to me. I think whenever i do that is to show their inner emotions of what they actually feel about me being with them and then after the reaction i would guide them to their own wants and desires away from colluding to mine basically. Even if we have the same interests better safe than sorry i guess. I dont know i havent found anyone like i can trust in a way i can be so open to like tell them all my weaknesses and desires that they will collude with me to produce the outcome. Do i notice when i do that probably not its just a surge of adrenaline coursing through me (Now looking at it in 3rd perspective i think people think we are being rude at that point maybe because in my head i know what u like to do but u still need to work on it yourself like how we deal with ours basically, in my head if i can help u then i probably can help everyone but doesnt give me any time to do mine instead) i do say this but uhm sorry if we cant help goodluck on ur endeavors
As an ENTJ I love what your thinking of us. Just... Our predictions are perfectry tested to by the true way thats why ENTJ is the successful personality 🤣🤣🤣
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It’s not that they all hate us, it’s a 50/50, the ones that have seen our soft side love us but the ones that know our business only hate us with a passion, or the ones that got criticized by us
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“All ENTJs are scared children” 🥺
“85% percent of ENTJs are dicks, 15% of ENTJs seem like dicks. Oh no-100% of ENTJs seem like dicks.” -Had me cracking so bad bro. I loved your content. I’ve never felt so attacked and understood at the same time. HAHAHAHA 💀🤣😩
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-Female ENTJ
As an ENTJ I greatly appreciated you analyzing the depths of my own personality. I have drop kicked it into the basement in the pursuit of ambition and now I am slurping up factoids about myself in a journey of self discovery. This has been amazing and INTPs are my favorite!
As a fellow entj, im also walking towards the same path you're trying to walk towards, we would make it one day, it's a tough battle but hardship is needed to become stronger.
@@kevk4908 You both are the 3%, it's nice to see
"They feel completely unarmed fighting" you just described my entire existence. I went through three years of incredibly painful therapy to sort through my various issues. I'm a college professor, and at 35 years old after a failed marriage I decided that I was the one that needed help. I would not wish my monthly therapy sessions on my worst enemy. But finally, I will be 39 in April, I can say with confidence that I understand myself. Thank you so much for sharing this information. You impact more people than you know.
I’m proud you made the decision to work through therapy despite how painful it can be. Metamorphosis is never easy, but I think it’s worthwhile; hurting from progression beats suffering from stagnation any day.
Great job ENTJ!
You're my favorite type!
None of this is good information. None of this is true.
@@camandalshamanayyy someone’s also late to the party 🎉
Also what makes you think you’re the arbiter of truth? It almost seems like you’re invalidating the experiences of ENTJs above us
51 year old ENTJ here and I relate to what you are saying. It is tough to become part of the 3%. Knowing that you are constantly being manipulated for the value you bring to the table, makes it hard not to be suspicious and paranoid about people. I found that by removing my added value and ambition I became less of a threat and less vulnerable to being hurt. Kind regards.
25 years old ENTJ and I kindly disagree. Although I have been wondering for quite some time whether the fact that I am very creative in the way I do my tasks and very insightful may be a reason for people who feel "less than" to try to bring me down, - at this moment I am kind of startled by the idea, especially since I struggle to accept that what I bring to the table is valuable, it would be much more easier for me to just do my tasks and everyone else let me do them without any comments on them, because my worth and my capabilities, and putting them on a scale and comparing them with anyone else's is something I much rather not do, so, as a side comment, the mere idea that people try to bring me down and lower my self esteem and profit off of me is not a problem for me in itself, at I face a moral dilemma about the reasons behind this behavior - anyways, firstly, this would happen to anyone who has capabilities when they encounter someone jealous of said capabilities (I have an ESFP cousin who faces the same struggles - incidentally I see ESFP and ENTJs have the same function stacks, this is interesting) and secondly, lowering your flame so as not to face snarky comments means accepting defeat. And I will not accept defeat. As of late I started to care less and less about what people would think of me when I say my opinion on things, and if they try to play mind games with me, I would just stick to my opinion and to the issue at hand, and if they have a problem with that, they can just beat it. People's opinion and words won't hurt you. But hiding yourself away will chip at your self esteem. The internet is full of resources on how to deal with and navigate dishonest and manipulative people, there are a lot of self help books available, therapy is also available, the more you invest in yourself and in your self worth and self esteem, the less you will care about what other people say or think. When there is a will, there is a way
@@ileanaprofeanu7626 You are still young with a very active Te, willing to go through each obstacle in your way. The more life becomes a struggle, the more your Fi will kick in. Fi has a much more gentle and less confrontational nature. If you look at the life of the late Steve Jobs, he lost control of Apple due to lack of Fi and thus support from the board. Those are tough events and life is just too short to get mixed up in these battles. Steve Jobs overcame them and grew stronger, but I wouldn't dare saying he had a happy life. Calm your Te and start thinking about your personal happiness, would be my advice to my younger me.
@@johanvandenbussche4479 thank you so much for your comment, I will keep what you said in mind
This is so true. Esp. in the romantic realm. Greetings, fellow entj
@@ileanaprofeanu7626 ENTJ female, older than you.
I agree with the suggestion you got from Johan, it is so spot on.
When you say "I struggle to accept that what I bring to the table is valuable": it is a punch I feel. You will not know you are being manipulated until you don't recognize your own value.
I learned my value by starting actively listening to people, especially sensing people, you will see how other think, and how they fell differently. You can help them and they can help you finding value in yourself and your ideas. For example: I have a mentor who is ESFJ and he always tells me to modulate my TE (as Johan said) I help him with being objective :). Modulate TE makes you a Jedi ENTJ = you stop attracting the manipulators but you are very worthy to be around.
I finally understand myself and what I put my poor ENTP bf through. Just goes to show how much he studied me in order to be patient with me before I became self aware.
Last part doesn't sound like an ENTJ, the example of that girl, sounds more like a very paranoid ESTJ. ENTJs don't just argue and want to be mean because it makes them badasses, or because it just feeds off the ego, or because of whatever lust for aggression most talk about. And other people that feel that want to be the "bad boys" or "bad girls" and want to be typed ENTJ don't get it at all. This type may be quite "cold" at describing the state of a whole situation and show a way to move forward without taking much into account "other people's feelings". But usually what works has nothing to do with feelings for a situation. They can take criticism, they're not delicate in that sense, that's just absurd. But will explode if who they trust betray them, then that's when things get ugly.
I'm an ENTJ lady and I have to agree with this. When at work and someone needs to criticize something I've done or work on doing better they always assume I'll react negatively. I honestly have no problem people telling me what I can do that's easier or more productive. However if someone stabs me in the back or has an issue I'll address it and if they can't handle it or just dont like me I'll ignore them unless it's for work. How they feel about me is not my problem. That's something they have to work on. Usually I get along well with a majority of people. It's a very small amount of people who have an issue with me and it's usually because I'm happy and like to express my happiness.
Don’t put this on ESTJs 🤣 own up you guys. We all have healthy and unhealthy versions of MBTI types.
@@Brxwn9 I'm just saying I don't see any other ENTJs or even in myself have those type of reactions for the situation described, and offered an example of a situation where we might become aggressive and nasty. I never said ENTJs don't react that way.
@@hungcapitalll Oh, I haven't heard that video in a while! Can't remember that part 😜
I am an entj and I watch a lot of videos. And I find it very funny how all the types dislike us. It's funny lol
From what I've seen, most people are going off what they READ about us and haven['t actually MET many of us.
@@MrRockyVega i find that alot ppl get upset with me simply because i want to help them. Alot of type want be told there is nothing wrong with them. They just want us to hold there hand and guide the head banging into the wall over and over. Thats not how i roll. i want a solution. Solutions hurt sometime, but they dont get it at all. Pain is sometime the beginning to happiness!!!!
@@Acumen928 feelings r overrated!!! Feelings change like the wind but success is constant if u focus. I find that ppl r cry babies that don't want better 4 themselves.They just want so one to baby them, and let them fail for the sake of failing. Just so they repeat the same stupid elogical cycle over and over. The other types dont get it the world doesn't care u cause ur just a number.it only care do want something or not!!! Side note the world is a cold place. There good parts in it when work towards something.!!!
I fuckin love the envy and hate 🤤
Also INTP/J are the homies
@@ledevingreen7920 All types? noooo WAAAYY. Maybe it's just you that noone likes (just feeding the inner paranoia troll), it's certainly not true for all ENTJs.
The structure and flow of these videos is like my internal monologue. It is like listening to my mind speak, but with new information, instead of re-combining and analysing things I am already familiar with.
Weltgeist imo intps are really good at explaining things in a monologue type of way :0
Ti buddiesss
I’m a INFJ and married 25 years to a ENTJ. I have a lot of patience and understanding and I love him with all my heart!❤️
Same here. They do take a lot of patience but he can be extremely kind, thoughtful and loyal
Your awareness of people who don't share your personality type is very impressive. I wish you were my friend.
-an ENTJ
Working with this one ENTJ doctor, in order to avoid trouble, I just play stupid all the time. I'm an INFP, so I'm good at it. I do everything I can to avoid conflict...although mistakes will crop up. And when they do, I try to get things on track as quickly as possible with no resistance. People who fight with him often get kicked out. He is kind of like a god amongst men. But I can see how the way he presents himself hides his delicate inner self. He jumps into conversations all the time. He loves talking to people about their lives; Their families, vacations, etc. He's very warm and welcoming on the surface (Although he almost seems like an introvert trying to force himself into conversation. It's that fake, exaggerated kind of reaction to every statement.) Eventually, something will go wrong; Perhaps something minute, or something that could jeopardize the whole case. It's always someone else's fault. And that's when he clings the most to the savior functions. Cut throat. No weakness. No mercy. Grill whoever is responsible. Don't let it happen again. And so, the warm light has been extinguished. But as things improve again, he tries to recover some of that warmth by being almost overly courteous. TONS of "please" and "thank you" statements. It doesn't help. It's too late.
It's sad that the ultimate goal of the ENTJ is to be at harmony with the tribe, and yet they often push the tribe away. He wants to achieve so much, and to have such an effect on the communities around him. But in actuality, everyone around is seeing through façade, the peacocking, the warmth that is displayed. But they only see past that first layer, to the cold just beneath. It's just as false as what's on the outside. The true reality, the sensitive inner self, is lost to almost everyone, in the name of just getting the job done. Is it worth the sacrifice?
Wow....what insight. Thank you.
It doesn't sound like ENTJ
@@scarlett8123 Overlord INTJ? He reminds me a lot of my INTJ dad. But I don't think that inferior Se is his weakness. I think that he has inferior Fi and blindspot Fe, so he has to kind of emulate Fe through Te and Fi, and it seems very fake.
Fellow INFP, I love your comment. I'm watching these kinds of videos for research in writing an ENTJ character (yay fanfiction) and I'm straight up tempted to directly quote your insight. Much love 🤗💙
@@CaveyMoth INTJs could never, even if they tried. That’s an ESTJ.
As I ENTJ I can tell you that you have created one of the most insightful and comprehensive ENTJ videos on youtube. Thank you very much!
That means a lot to me. Thank you.
Im an ENTJ I have to say building up an base takes time but when it’s constructed it’s stable.
As an ENTJ I’m really popular but bearly have an inner circle outside my family.
Self-awareness is key to build an stable Base
I think I am a typical ENTJ. I had so many psy sessions to deal with emotions - childhood trauma, past emotional issues, current ones. Emotions are definitely my weakest weakness. I also see why a lot of people are intimidated by me (=dislike me) with all my good intentions. I don't Fxxx people or test people but I do have different small circles of friends like what is said in this video. Don't go against ENTJs; like other people, we are not monsters and we just try to be efficient in life.
"They cause the problems they think will happen, which makes them think they can predict the future, when in reality they caused the problem to begin with."
That's a very accurate and painful way to put it - it totally makes sense when I look back to things that went south in my life. On the other hand, I needed some of them happening so I could test my strenght and become more mature. Either way, I'm making more time for paying attention to my weaker Fi (thank god I developed decent Se in the past 23 years), so hopefully I'll manage to clear the fog and stop seing myself as the sole responsible person for everything that crosses my way, which is never quite true.
Never stop fighting. And the balcony’s always there whenever you need to step out, take a breather, and survey everything/reflect before making your decisions.
I guess the problems are created to avoid this inner conflict of reflection and understand us better.
2y later plot twist: big chance I typed as my shadow back then and am actually INTP. My diagnosis is that I tested Ne & Fe way more in 2020 and 2021 because of a career change, ultimately making me feel as a congregator/reformer type.
'We're all anime girls on the inside" the most intp statement to make on humanity. And I'm a female intp so I would know.
12:28 They don’t do it consciously.
Thank you it makes me happy finding someone understands this without explaining it
xSFP here. In love with an ENTJ. He's such a sweetheart. I can see him testing me since sometimes since we recently met each other, but I can deal with that and manage to reassure him. I bring him all the warmth and love I can, to make him feel secure, loved, and cherished. I think being with someone of your opposite type or at least someone who has your inferior functions as top functions can be really fulfilling and make you grow as a person. He helps me with my projects and it makes my heart melt. I feel really safe with him and I strive to make him feel safe and loved as well, to get rid of any paranoia.
Sweet video.
This is a very critical video but pretty spot on, at least for me (I’m an ENTJ). I test people in relationships, I have a history of getting manipulated, I’m pretty paranoid, and I’m trying my best. I’m always impressed by how accurate INTPs are in their observations, even if they dont back up their claims with objective measures.
As an ENTJ female I think I know a way that can help other ENTJs that struggle with Fe. You'll have to use your Te to make sense of it,but look up psychology and how the brain works. Think of the type of people you want to be in your life. How do they think and how do they respond to different situations. Now when you go out and meet people you can talk to them and if they say or act in a way that doesn't fit what kind of people you're looking for. If they aren't then move on. They aren't worth being friends with. Hope this helped a little. It's helped me for the most part ,but it's hard to find good people who you can trust. This will at least help develop some Fe.
Dude calling myself an alpha male is the most beta thing to do. Lol
You realize the alpha/beta thinking is bullshit right? It's been disproven so many times. So stop throwing yourself under the bus and do your thing man. Be you, who cares what other's think. Be efficient, rule the world.
@@thebiggusdonnus8453 I know nerd. Ever heard of having a sense of humour.
Lmao.
@@_Cartographer_
Alpha moves.
@@thebiggusdonnus8453 I never believed it too, but I understand now it’s a scientific way of saying real men
ENTJ here, 54 years old, male. After 40, there gradually emerged an increasing activity and involvement in self-discovery. By the age of 50-52, one can become a rather profound "philosopher" with a developed Fi (and consequently, a deep understanding of other people as well), while still remaining an active and pragmatic individual. The concept of happiness and sustainable inner well-being expands significantly. ENTJs are always oriented towards utility and efficiency from childhood, but with the activation of Fi after 40, the concept of "utility" gradually becomes deeper and broader. I believe wisdom and real depth come with it, harmonizing the entire integrity of one's character. At the same time, the activity and social engagement remain, and the ability to see the bigger picture becomes much broader.
ENTJ Male here- I used to see trying to move people to the plans I’d made in my head for them as a way of helping them aka- I see all this potential in you, and I know you can do it, and would be epic at it so let me help you there. This is reflective of what many of us want - someone to say they believe in us and this is where we can or should go especially immature ENTJs- we just want to win. I’ve seen this way more in Male than female entjs. And yes I’m a terrible judge of character which is why to help with this my two close friends are an infj and enfp. A hack for ENTJs is not to get butt hurt if you get ‘negative’ feed back. See it as data, incorporate it and use it to move forward and be better. We want to win after all, so your temporary butt hurt feelings do not matter. Incorporate, change, grow, become more and then you will win. This will make you a better friend, partner and leader. Which at the end of the day is what will fulfil you
Damn that hit close to home and couldn’t summarize my drive to help people better. A reflection of myself wanting others to say it to me.
The sentiment comes from kindness but where it trips people up is that you ignore two things: 1) their own vision for their lives 2) their own feelings about what they want to do. I know an ENTJ is gonna Tina Turner me here and be like "what's love got to do with it?" But that's kinda the point. Many entjs steamroll through life ignoring their own feeling an expecting others to do the same. But others know when you ignore your own feelings for too long life will punch you hard in the face and leave you bleeding. So most people take into consideration emotions in a way that ENTJs or ESTJs do not. Also, a lot of people hate being controlled... and this entjs can come off controlling with their own vision for your personal individual life. The key is to share strengths you see in people and be encouraging but back off and leave them be to chose their own path in life. -intj
As an ENTJ who spends a lot of time working on being able to sympathize and empathize with people, it's one of the most exhausting things, and the thing i crave the most is people who will take time to get to know me before making judgments, because I can promise you every judgment i make is initially wrong to some degree, so it needs to change constantly to better fit reality. ENTJ's are very sensitive and from experience I can't tell you how surprised i am at my own emotional responses. It has taken me years to even have a fraction of how i might feel about any situation, and it's more often than not in retrospect. Very observant.
How do you remain in touch with your “sympathy-empathy” objective when it becomes difficult?
The Fe side of cluelessness feels equally blind and painful. Props to you for remaining dedicated to your connection with everyone.
@@Skimmerlit To be honest, I have to ground myself in facts and rationality. I remind myself peoples emotions matter, That other people will not be efficient or effective unless they feel cared for. I remind myself that people matter.
From there I ask lots of questions, I have gotten okay at reading emotions of others, but i need to be patient and hear people out. I have some good infp and enfp friends who are very easy to talk to.
Lastly I have to learn and understand psychology and healthy ways to deal with emotions for myself and others, I am still a problem solver at my core, and Empathy especially is for me a tool to solve peoples emotional distress. It's not an efficient process and it is not predictable and I absolutely hate it.
That and my enfj mother has pretty much beaten value for people into my head, so while it happens it is hard to forget that people matter.
It's taken my whole life and it will take even longer to get anywhere close to mastering it, I still tell my friend if he is prattling on about the details of his day that he is invested in, that i don't have the emotional capacity to deal with the topic. I am open about my preference for abstract and theoretical, because i don't care about the small details that triggered this feeling or that.
But I do let him know, if he is emotionally distressed and if he need emotionals support, I will do the best I can, but I wont invest that energy into a random conversation he had or a trip to the store.
How not to get manipulated? -ENTJ
The thing is, we all get manipulated and manipulate others to a certain extent. Heck, we can even manipulate ourselves...
You just gotta determine for yourself what you're willing to allow, and what you're unwilling to, that is, if you can recognize it to begin with. -INTP
Why do you believe ENTJ are the most easiest to be manipulated? What characteristics do they posses that makes them a target 🎯. I like to believe I’m a healthy 3% female ENTJ- It can be EXTREMELY difficult to overcome feelings 🤔🙃
Judge people based on their character and not based on their productivity, skills or status.
I think we are the persons who manipulate ourself. Because we impregnated our positive or negative thoughts and feelings to everyone and to us too. We need to change our point of view about a lot of stuff and be more sensitive sometimes because is positive to us.
@@izzy31337 My dad, bff and an old girlfriend are entjs. When they make false assumptions about people it's because of these reasons.
I've been married to an INTP for 22 years and for the past year I have believed I was INFJ. I was trying my hardest to be the best damn INFJ anyone had seen, a ray of light was going to be shinning out of my ass. I couldn't figure out why I was so angry all the time. All the things I thought I hated in other people was actually me too. Neither of us have been perfect but thank God he can take the punches and is loyal. Now that I don't have to pretend to be a nice guru hippie with all the answers I feel like I can breathe. I'm finding that the people who aren't used to your boundaries really don't like them and start name calling and shaming to get their way. It's hurtful for sure. Thanks for your video and kindness.
ENTJ's can rationalize most any issue.
And I think that's part of the problem
@@ur1simp893 It has its cons, no doubt.
What areas do you see it being the most problematic?
To "rationalize" means to justify an action whether or not it is true. It's job is to just give an explanation or a possible course of action to a situation. It has a lot of pros, i agree but it can become quite a problem when you start rationalizing a seemingly impossible thing to rationalize such as people's actions. We are still susceptible to mistakes and can overcalculate the capability of them, physically and even mentally. If we rationalize with only just the information provided to us, we wouldn't be able to make a sound judgement. Sometimes this ability can also help us to make excuses about things easier and let us not forget the biases that we hold in ourselves.
Would love to hear your take on the matter, i might be wrong or there is a different perspective that i didn't cover.
@ur1simp893 It's been 2 years since to made your comment. I hope my response is rewarding despite the lapse in time.
Wisdom is like the experience points to level up the skill of rationalism. You get greater insight to solve and create solutions, but the greatest way to resolve the complications of errorisms is just as you've stated:
We can make mistakes. We can be wrong.
The acceptance of this fact is the greatest lesson of all.
To achieve knowing, understanding and truth, we must first accept we might be wrong.
That is the success through failure epitomized in the most rewarding result.
Great work. You should do more ENTJ vids. I enjoyed having someone call us on our bs, while also understanding where it stems from. Overall, quite accurate. But @4:25 you're damn near word for word bang on lmao!!
I appreciate that. I'll absolutely make more ENTJ videos. I like ensuring my information's accurate and worth sharing, so, once I've gathered and proven enough info, I'll have another video out.
Hello! I am a fellow INTP and I have been extremely interested in and studying personality theory for many years, although my contributions are limited. I commend you on taking the initiative to create this MBTI content! You have a great understanding of this stuff, your contributions are valuable to this community! I can tell you have gotten influence from C.S. Joseph and I believe his theories are spot on, but your delivery is much softer, or less antagonistic rather, but just as technical and thorough, so I think you can reach a larger audience with this message. Your channel has great potential!
I have studied up a number of years. I find C.S. Joseph of waste of time on type theory. However, I do like this video channel with what I have seen so far.
As a fellow INTP, I must ask...do you really believe the theories are spot on? Shant we make them better? 🤔
@@dunebuggy1292how? Through statistics perhaps?
I am an ENTJ female and yes I can be manipulated. I’m eager for progress and I have a strong belief in the potential of others. This combination can make me gullible so my only defense for a while was paranoia. I had to test people. It’s not nice. I am working on qualifying people a little better by asking more questions and observing behavior. It means I have to be patient which is not easy but it’s better than being a jerk.
@PhasedPlasmaRifle InThe40WattRange fr couldn’t have said it better
It’s not our fault that we get manipulated. We are loyal people and expect the same from others we care about. That’s a good thing! We just need to be more discerning about who we trust.
Also, keep in mind that people we grow up with might turn manipulative later on when they start to envy our growing success. That happened to me this year. Such a shock.
Thank you. I’m an INTJ female with an ENTJ father whom I adore. He really does try. I see it, poor guy. I’m extremely patient with him because I know he does his best. It’s like you don’t yell at a toddler for falling down when they’re trying to walk. You just find joy in the steps they DO take. ❤
That is appropriately, correctly, and warmly condescending. I hope your father's well.
@@Skimmerlit What? 😆I think you misunderstood me. You calling someone condescending is the pot calling the kettle black. 😂 He’s good, but as you stated, he struggles to share his feelings. While others can get annoyed with him, it just pulls at my heartstrings. I don’t see how that is condescending.
Thank you very much for making this video , makes me feel that I'm not alone , it's hard to be the way we are avoiding our emotions in order to follow the path of the most "rational" way and I hope this video makes people understand us better , again great content 🙏
Entj here. I have so called feminine Te so I will not attack people. My partners are INTP (very patient), ESFP (very caring for my Fi) and ENTP (both patient and caring). I am very delicate. But as you can imagine I an very lucky to have these people in my life. I work on being authentic and loving.
Sounds like you're definitely working on something
Honestly an interesting and a wonderful video that sums me up and the ENTJ inner dialogue/thought process in the daily, amazing and I can’t be grateful enough, this really has been eye opening video hearing it and getting to figure it all out better
Love the style, it takes a lot to keep me engaged throughout CZcams video without any visuals but somehow you managed!
We're not that bad at all! Yes the situations and the battles you described are true, but it literally makes no sense to say "85% aren't worthy of your time." Like wtf man?! You said it yourself, whenever we're interested in someone we try to improve them, because we want good for them, not because we need to feel in control. We try to help people around us, not bring them down. And I believe, an actual ENTJs work on themselves and try to improve, change their bad qualities to become more efficient. I don't think you understand that we want to be better as much as the people around us, and we're trying
Yeah, I'm an INTP and I'm not sure why he gave such a ridiculously high number like 85. He must have had a bad encounter with an ENTJ, I guess.
So true
I think ENTJ see that 85% of people are not worth the time. I have a lot of people in my life and I need constantly reject offered friendships as I just do not have the time. We have a lot of projects and so little time. And then there are 10% of people we see potential and we like to help them, like somebody helped us. I don't think I am the smartest, but I don't waste my time in here. So if I have something to say I hope you listen.
Then there are 5% of people I listen. And it's not what they say, but how they live. And these are the people I have close relationships with.
It is hard to manipulate us. When we are younger yes, but when we are older it is really hard. And we evolve. The older we get the more we see the game others are playing. So in my inner circle are people I admire. Look up to. And they can say to me anything they like and me also. Then there is another circle, people who work hard and deserve a little help. As we are helped on the same reason thru our life. The 85% they just did not see you in these two circles. And 15% saw. So I think he's right. But it is not like we are mean, it is more that we don't notice you and your feeling.
this video is scary. my best friend is an intp, I am an entj, and the self fulfilling prophecy you talked about is kind of correct, its happened to me, I worded what happened to me as my determination to make what i wanted to happen happen, but now that you’re putting it the way that you are, it makes much more sense. also, the paranoia thing you talked about, absolutely correct, mega paranoid all the time. it doesn’t have to be a negative however, positive things have happened because ive wanted them to happen so bad i worked my ass off to accomplish it, which is why i named it determination. really got goosebumps watching this up till 10:00.
also what you say around the eleven minute mark is true aswell, ive cycled through friends and people seeing if they were real or not... ive called someone’s whole friend group out and said they were all fake, and within 3 months that person lost each and every one of those “friends”, not because of me, just because of a series of events and arguements. i felt like a psychic honestly, I called a total of like 5 or 6 people out, and told just that one person about how fake they were... obviously they did not believe me at first but after those 3 months they had no clue how I did it, especially seeing as I had only met those people recently.
also yes, incredibily slow at figuring myself out, like how i feel about things. i often find myself asking others for help about many things.
@@Paradigm_T33 ENTJ here. There is a Yin and a yang:
we may at time self fulfill doom but also TE + NI brings innovation and ideas to life ; Our Ni is really good at prediction of the future (most people do not want to ear it).
Yes ! My lack of Si leaves me foundationless ! I just ordered a whole bunch of photos printed out of my past to look at every morning and remember who I am and what I’ve accomplished .
I'm an ENTJ, but I have a good distribution when it comes to the funktions. Most of the time I like being alone or with good friends, because I either work on something that is important to me or talk to a person that is important to me. If I get invited to a party though, it comes natural to me to talk to strangers. I don't have any big hurdles, in a social and strategic way, but the problem is always to find a goal that is important, but also doable. Then comes the question of what the important things are.
Rounded up:
No problem with strategizing or doing, problems when deciding what is worth of our limited time.
As an ENTJ, I can 100% agree with this.
I’m an ENTJ. I’m in love. It’s hard. This’ll all just be from my perspective. The planning bit is pretty true, and in a way the testing too, but I’m just trying to find out what people are like so I don’t have to learn it the hard way. Now, what you said about thinking and visualizing our feelings out I can’t relate to, which probably means you’re right. I don’t feel like I have a core identity, I don’t know what I want, but on a day-to-day basis, that isn’t a problem for me. I’m not very problematic, depressed, anxious, angry, I’m just kinda empty? Also, I wouldn’t say I’m a horrible judge of character, but I *definitely* have been, to be fair. I can’t think of anyone I hate, either. I try to weigh things by merit and logic, which means there are some things I like less than others depending on the situation, and I apply the same principles to work relationships with people when it comes to delegation.
they throw a tantrum every time theres conflict in their emotion
How dare you! But thank you for these videos. You articulate these things better than I do. I'm sure you put a lot of work into these videos, as they are well-structured and perfectly understandable - it's a nice system.
I especially liked the part where you talked about foundations and compared us to an ESTJ. Anyone brave enough to love us despite our natural nature must be our constant, and shouldn't punish us for being 'assholes'. If we let you in, you're fully in, at every level. We are building with you. This is why some may perceive our nature as controlling and maybe even needy, like a child. It's hard to say out loud, but it's true. If you are part of our vision, we will ensure you have a comfortable place, and we will also build around your needs.
Thank you for this video. I've never felt more seen. Especially after just recently coming to the conclusion (after half a dozen of mistypes later) that I am an ENTJ. This video feels like the therapy that I've always needed but couldn't get for my episodes of Fi grip due to relationship trauma earlier in my teenage years. I went through a 5-year-long journey of self-discovery through MBTI, Enneagram, and Socionics because of that, and I can now proudly say that I might be a part of that 3%, as my past self could NEVER be more self-aware than I am today 😂 Cheers to you, my INTP friend!
why is this SO GOOD
One part of me wishes that this channel got a larger audience, while the other is perfectly content with this knowledge being in my hands only
Very insightful and well thought out - also the ENTJ introverted video. I tried to explain to my INTP friend the introversion and the battle I'm going through on almost daily basis in regards what I feel and why. And how it is super difficult for me to be vulnerable, open and say what I feel any given time let alone show them (I'm also ashamed of my feelings at times, especially anger).
This same INTP friend asked me the other day why I fuck with him. I was surprised (since I don't think I fuck with him) but I managed to mumble something along the lines: Maybe Because I like you and you should feel honored? But I don't think he does. Lol.
Anyway you put it to words perfectly and pointed it out clearly, this was comforting. Thanks.
A video on meeting INTPs (ENTJ) would be profound
I can't offer an ENTJ's perspective, but a video on meeting INTP's on the way.
ENTJs dont pay enough attention to give a profound analysis on someones pysche.
Thanks for your videos, your my favorite INTP on youtube. My mom is an ISFP so i learned a little about self awearness, but with you, i came to another level! :)
I am just in awe at this title because my mom is an entj and is one of the most difficult, hot tempered, strong willed, impatient people I've ever met. And whatever you call people who do not care about your feelings most of the time. Lol
There might be a future video called “ENTJs are Fucking Insane.” I think quality ENTJs are worthwhile, but I totally understand having a less than favorable opinion of others.
Please, do that video
There's no woman as sensitive as a man inside and no man as strong as a woman inside. (Dr. Pat Allen's work)
Men have feminine souls, the anima. Women have masculine souls, the animus. (Emma and Carl Jung's work)
Feels so good to know someone understands. We're not robots
I've never been this exposed and actually seen. This video is spot on, coming from ENTJ female.
Loving the MBTI videos. Wish I'd heard this one before my INTP-ENTJ relationship blew up in an absolute ball of hate and pettiness :D
That's a perspective to offer 😂 I wonder how many mature/healthy ENTJs are in your interface databases. And, since ExTJs are 10 8% of the population (ESTJ @ 9.0%, ENTJ @ 1.8%, both the only Te-doms), I wonder how discerning the populace is at telling them apart. Finally, since you assess that 1.8%*3%= 0.05% of the population are "good ENTJs", I wonder if I might rank in that group via your wisdom...
- ENTJ in 50's
My 3%'s more of an idea than a reality, and far more than 3% of ENTJs are "good" ENTJs. More than my 15%, too, because ENTJs act differently together than they do independently.
25% of ENTJs are probably worth getting to know, but that isn't static--it's more like you have a 1/4 chance of meeting any ENTJ at a good moment in their lives. 1/2 of the time they're in long-term drone-mode, so there's really nothing to befriend or learn. 1/4 of the time they're midway through a tailspin looking to drag anyone down with them. 1/4 of the time they're on the upswing, satisfied with work and life yet still reflective.
The 3% comes from who I think are ENTJ 7w6s or 5w6s. They're difficult to type because although they use ENTJs' functions, their priorities are atypical and they leapfrog regular ENTJ pitfalls. They create their own new ones, sure, but lacking precedent means harder typing. These are the ENTJs with good access to both Se and Fi yet repressed Ni. They come off as perceivers, but their Te is too powerful and omnipresent--yet backgrounded--to be anyone but ENTJs. They aren't perceivers or ESFPs, but they aren't archetypal ENTJs, either.
The ones I have in mind are Colin Quinn and Jim (IA/MM). One's a confirmed/self-typed ENTJ, and I'm almost certain the other is. I used the 3% statistic because if these two exist, others should exist too, like the way unknown elements were theorized then discovered. They're just too good at blending in. Most types are difficult to type the better or odder they use their functions.
As for you: congrats on surviving this long. ENTJs older than 50 are either the most fulfilled people alive or the most depressed. I don't know you, so I can't say, but I'm a nobody on the internet whose opinion shouldn't matter or influence others, so keep doing you and being happy.
@@Skimmerlit i like this brutal honesty about ENTJ's. I think there's this stereotype that we're all out there kicking ass and taking names, but in reality the vast majority of life is exceedingly dull and repetitive and it used to feel like I was grinding my soul into dust. I almost took my own life a year ago, but having a colossal mid life crisis in your early 30's ruin everything you've ever worked for is *actually* a pretty sweet deal (as long as you don't go mad or die of stress related issues before you get through it) because then you'll hopefully get a few good years in before you conk out. I think I was the douchebag arrogant ENTJ that got his ego fix in all the wrong places, assumed that any of this shit even matters, but when you've pissed literally everyone off and as the last drop of hope drains from your body, suddenly you gain the ability to soberly and accurately self-assess honestly and that has already been life changing. My goal is to end up as the chill, internally validated ENTJ that can take it easy but I'm okay with whatever happens, I'm just lucky to be experiencing consciousness right now.
I'm glad you're around, and I'm glad you came out the other end changed for the better. Those lowest lows are traumatic. If you've survived one, I think the fact you're alive means you're alive for a reason.
I hope you find what you're looking for. Keep fighting.
Video in one sentence- be PATIENT WITH THEM😂😂😂😂
A very good friend of mine died of a kratom overdose November 3rd. He was an alcoholic and using it to stay sober. Be careful. - ENTJ.
Sounds familiar. I’ll be careful. Thank you.
People say we are manipulative and it pisses me off because I've never had the necessity of manipulate nobody (definitely not my closest ones) to get what I want. In fact, I won't force you to do something you don't want to do, if it's really important to me I'll tell you "this is really important to me and I really need you to do this for me as a favor" but I don't fucking need to manipulate you
I think the thing that xntj like about xntp is that they are so gentle with us. It's a totally different experience then with everyone else because with everyone else we put up a strong front. - intj
Kinda diggin the thunderstorm in the background though.
I was listening to this yesterday, and have been pondering it since some. At first, I just kept wondering if I was of the 15%. I read somewhere that ENTJs struggle with feeling this sense of certainty that they are, in fact, good. I guess I've been fortunate to have many ENFJ relationshipsthat sort of impose feelingson me even when I can't hardly stand it. I started thinking back to the first time I found the MBTI stuff though, and remembered how upsetting it was. Truthfully, it's not the stereotypical girl archetype, which I already sort of knew about myself but maybe not to such an extreme. I've mostly tried to use it as a way to grow as a person and practice more self awareness. I find it a little alarming when I meet people who seem almost cocky about their type, usually INTJs in my experience. They often naturally want to confer their unflinching confidence unto me, as their slightly more Extroverted counterpart. I can't help but feel some sadness for them; one can not use this information to grow if one thinks themselves the best already. I haven't met another ENTJ, but I could see this playing out similarly here too. I can think back to a time when I lacked so much self awareness that I didn't even understand how I was making people upset. I was just being practical; didn't they want a solution? Why else complain? Anyway, all this is only to say that many people are kind of garbage until they start trying to develop themselves. I think both ENTJ and ESTJ types can just come across a little more... awful.. until they learn about how ineffective it is.
It is my experience that INFJs and youth in general are also associated with cockiness.... youth as much type development has yet to transpire.
~iNTx
As another female ENTJ, I can relate!
I’m a ENFJ and my Dear Heart is ENTJ. Gentleness 💜 he’s my Baby 100%. Love him dearly. Never too much for me. I’m a feeler, he’s technical. We balance each other in the best ways. We help each other grow where we lack with patience because I’ve shown him patience first
He’s me internally, and I’m him internally. Definitely my twin and I love myself 💜
Are you sure he's not ESTJ or you're not ESFJ?
I definitely notice myself doing this, more so now that I'm hearing it from an outside perspective. When I was younger I used to 'test' people intentionally. Now I think it's coming out subconsciously. Perhaps related to development of feeling?
Been struggling a lot lately. I feel like I have no tribe, nobody who values what I do, or is capable. I know that the best things are made with cooperation, and that some things have essentially no meaning without an attachment beyond the self.
I can't help but notice things that validate feelings of not being liked or appreciated, and it makes me paranoid/distrustful of others. I feel like I can't rely on anyone, and it's maddening.
I feel overwhelmed by what I see all the time, and it's been making me spiral. I so desperately want to fall back on achievement, but I've been in a pit of wasted time and it's just getting worse, and I really don't know what to do.
Speaking of self-awareness. I've realized some of these things before as well. Treating people like projects, having plans for others. I have to be careful not to overwhelm people with my energy, enthusiasm, cavalier-attitude. Can be 'indestructible' much of the time, and then the wrong thing gets through and it cripples me(usually blows to my confidence socially). I have a tendency to impress people 99% of the time, and sometimes I realize I can be extremely intense, annoying, irritating, insufferable(however you call it).
I tell close friends I feel like a genie, can help anyone, but often fail miserably to do so for myself. Unless someone else makes it 'their' goal to help me, only then do I feel capable of helping them help me, but I find it so rare that someone not only cares, but knows me well enough to actually find a foundation to begin with(especially without driving me away with misjudging me inaccurately).
11:08 Okay first, this got me laughing but it's pretty accurate so good job ! Also i like the rain in the background, I've heard this like an evening podcast
-ENTJ
Entjs might treat you (intp) a certain way, but other types differently
This channel makes a great podcast, so I've subscribed. I like the depth. Cheers!
I disagree with one thing you said. You brought up that ENTJs are horrible judges of character, that isn't necessarily true. ENTJs are amazing judges of character, however, we can only reach that once we have awareness of ourselves and our own short ability to learn who we are. Through that, we judge individuals almost perfectly because we are judging them based on our own internal conflicts and how we would choose to handle it and how it would make us feel about ourselves.
yooo imagine needing patience from other people in actual human relationships and not having it ourselves. unless we work with ourselves ofc
I love our analysees, especially the ones about entjs, this video is legendary. I just revisited it after a long time, thank you for sharing all of your thoughts.
Hi there! I’m an ENTJ female and I just posted a video that explains why I think INTP/ENTJ relationships are so rare. Take a look when you have a moment. I’d like to know what you think. Cheers!
Hi can you do a video on Entj and Intp women friendships? I was wondering if as friends how would it be.
I’d say my friendships are limited to people that love me the most. Admire me, and empathize with me . If I feel like someone doesn’t like me Or doesn’t want to be around me and cut them off . And I waste no time doing so. But the people that put in the effort to be with me have me completely .
As an entj, I do have a hard time with my feelings, and I certainly think angrily while trying to sort things out but I never show my anger to prople who ask.
And most entj's I've talked(not many) to have been fairly good so Id say there is less than 85% mean ones.
I also believe you underestimate the self awareness of the entj. I at least know I do slightly act a bit like people are projects, but on the inside, in the brain, I know your not a project but I want you to think thats what I think.
Lots of entj's are as also some of the best judges of character. (Maybe you got unlucky) but they are pretty good due to their intuition and observation skill.
Over all, entj's trick peope into making people think we are like this.
(Also i know i sound like a self absorbed jerk, but i am just saying what I think. For all I know im one of the 85% stupid drones. Who knows)
But other wise, this is the one of the best explanations (if not the best) I've seen. Thanks!
Exactly, I'm an ENTJ too and I never get manipulated, we see the bullshit a mile away, as INTJS do too. We just call them out,unlike the INTJ or let them think we get manipulated and have them into a trap. We are NTs so we do think ahead. Also, it may be me, but only let other people know my business when I want too, so they base their image off of that and that alone. Maybe hes just butthurt or naïve, but no one what my true intentions are. People are expendable it's like dead weight, theyll get dropped eventually- they can think as long as they want about me. It won't phase me as long as they don't get in the way of my goals.🤷🏾♂️
As an INTJ in a relationship with an ENTJ I can tell you there has been a lot of questioning from my side which made him absolutely crazy, while he is jumping to conclusions as well but doesn't like sharing them with me openly, which makes me even more paranoid.
At the same time, we are both emotionally intelligent enough to communicate and make it work. Both of us want commit to our goals, which includes our relationship, and makes us both focussed on growth. We have our ways of clashing but in the end we are extremely loyal, caring (believe it or not) and push each other forward. While it may not always be easy, I would not choose anyone else to have by my side throughout life. We are made to achieve a lot of great things. 10/10 recommend the match when you're mature enough
I think people don't like us cuz we try to fix there problems that they don't realize they have
It’s really the way in which it’s enforced. Not the intention.
“Be patient, gentle and kind with them”
Most of the people adopt this strategy when they are with ENTJs. But not out of a deliberate judgement on their part but utter fear.
That’s what basically turn ENTJs into an asshole in the first place.
Teach them the right way to respect others. Rebuke them as much as possible. With enough mass scale peer pressure and environmental conditioning, we can help them evolve into something really beautiful or have them go extinct all together.
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Kidding of course. 😊
^INTJ
One thing i would like to say, knowing ourselves, im an entj and i think we dont need to know ourselves we just need to know what we need to do cuz basically knowing ourselves technically when u want to do something, u dont need to know like your personal feelings on the outcome, u just need to know what u innately do best basically i guess cuz for example a carpenter would not tell himself that his a professional carpenter before he does his job or does he have a degree in carpentry before he does anythin that correlates to the outcome of what he desires, cuz for example like if u are a carpenter and for example u want to save someones life in danger which u need to be a doctor first right, u only need to know u dont have the basic necessities to produce the outcome of the result knowing full well ur past experiences don't correlate to anythin that is happening currently so basically ur forethought should be to call an ambulance, u are basically entitled to know the things u dont know to these stuffs to immediately correlate everything to one outcome that this is an impossible job for a carpenter, although i guess u can say i can possibly try my best to save the guy even in my lack of experience but like it can cause more damage as well and if i can possibly save them with even any type of help like i feel personally it hurts alot to care for others in tht way, idk its just so illogical to me personally why i should like even in existence to me that i should be prior help to this guy. it hurts my brain alot, i think we are just physically inept to actually adjust to people adaptabilities in perceiving a certain event in simpler terms its just not in my "existence" i guess to prioritize this guy above me. I guess in tht regard we are narcissist i think so basically
What do you mean they will tell you they are tough but they aren't from inside and can't deal with resistance? Also being treated like a project is bad only if not done right!
Don't you treat yourself as a project?We ARE a project to ourselves, one that we need to work on every day.We need to train our mind, physical skills and will in order to grow professionally and personally and to be fulfilled, so we are in fact a project to ourselves!If you are future-oriented like a ENTJ'S you know that if you invest your hard work and resources now, it will pay off later (if it something must have been done wrong)! This is the whole idea of investment so you need to seek opportunities to invest not only in the outer world but in yourself as well! It isn't only about what you are achieving, but also WHO are you become while achieving it! It is not only about power it is about using it for good! Mature ENTJ know how to motivate and inspire people, without having to be aggressive or controlling and they value your opinion as well! If you show resistance a mature ENTJ won't feel hurt, they will seek understand why are you resisting and to solve the problem in the best possible way for both parties like a problem-solver do! If you don't treat yourself as a project and don't want to progress, develop yourself,have no ambitions or dreams and no persistence and determination to follow them it is a problem for you! Not all ENTJ have problems with relationships and everybody (no matter the personality) is having problems with relationships sometimes, the important thing is for them not to be ignored!Delicate are only immature ENTJ who have a fragile ego and doubt themselves at the slightest mistake and can't accept criticism (which is necessary when it is constructive is highly necessary) or don't surround themselves with better in some way people(for ex.smarter), in order to learn from them like smart person would do, but instead feel irritated and intimidated by them ( just like all other people who feel intimidated by the more successful ones)! This aren't ENTJ, this are immature, insecure ENTJ, if they are trying to better themselves that is a good sign, but they need persistence, carefulness and possibly therapy and you need to be careful around them! I wouldn't suggest suffering a possibly abuse relationship that is holding you back instead of helping you grow! The idea of someone disrespecting you and excusing it as a ,,test"- is a HUGE red flag noone should ever ignore! Also the idea of noone being fair - everybody MUST be fair or there is no justice and no equality and no relationship! Also working relationships are a type of human connection, they are connection made by people, they just aren't personal, are formal, have more boundaries, are between workers, bosses etc. While personal relationships are with close friends, family and partners and are more close, with fewer boundaries, informal and personal! That is the difference but they are still both types are human relationships! Also I am not sure about the easily manipulated and awful judges of character thing, because firstly ENTJ are not highly emotional in front of people, which makes them less exposed to emotional manipulation, they are often smart and successful and you can't be all of this things and still be easily manipulated!About the scared little girls and boys thing, I don't think that its true for anyone except immature undeveloped ENTJ and people in general! There is an entire world of harmony and kindness"😂😂😂😂😂😂 - correction there are SMALL AMOUNT OF people who are sincerely kind, not because of wanting something for themselves nd there SHOULD be an entire world of harmony !😉😎 Normal ENTJ love people who are direct and logical, not people who beat around the bush or go behind their backs, in hope not to hurt their feelings! Be kind, but don't let people use or abuse you have healthy boundaries, be understanding but expect the same, be patient,but if you see that the other person isn't putting any effort in being better than don't feel guilty or afraid to leave!
PLEASE MORE ENTJ VIDEOS I BEGG U
This is already so good, the thunder in the background is lovely
As an ENTJ, I can explain how we view this points being made if you would like and expand upon them.
Your INTP ass being like ENTJ's are better INTJs
Meanwhile my ENTP ass like "Why would you want an ENTJ when you could have an INTJ?"
Lol
I am the creative subset of ENTJ. I think this 85% are the dominant subset. I like to help people above myself which isn't always a good thing, lol.
Thank you! I loved each minute. ❤️
I’m an ENTJ and I love writing I find it helps me express wut I feel about things through poetry..also not one person in my life has understood me and at times I often confuse myself as well I love trying to figure myself out I’m constantly talking to my family about different theories about human psychology and behavior trying to pinpoint where things start from and how they develop later on in different situations. I remember one guy broke up with me cuz he said “uu treat me like a brain or a puzzle instead of a human”.
"85% are assholes and aren't worth your time" God I hope I'm part of the 15%
This is very accurate to someone that I know. Definitely big ups and downs in that friendship, but still friends. I stay put, they come and go lol.
5:00 ahhh yes exactly how I feel, I get frustrated most of the time due to being constantly misunderstood and I don’t think I’ll ever truly be understood by the people around me especially during my hard times when I need the support and find that it’s nowhere to be seen (the kind of support I’m looking for I think¿the support that will work and end the cycle), during hard times/mental health and self doubt (constantly questioning) and trying to keep my life together and people especially people who I consider closest to me and I care for deeply, don’t see or get how hard it is and how desperate I get and feel for some cooperation to make it easier. And When I do ask for help (which is really hard to do and is rare especially for matters regrading mental health) they don’t comply and brush it off ( and that’s where my self doubt sprouted I believe , constant down playing and brushing off my suffering options goals/motives. Makes you wonder and question your sanity and thought process and think if the whole thing/me is wrong to begin w and I’m just imaging it etc).
the struggle be real at times, especially when I feel like things could have been better if early action had been taken because I’m clearly facing the consequence of neglect so now I have another thing/baggage on my plate to handle..yay me!! But I gotta do what I can do and it’s definitely has and still is a valuable learning experience and something that I’ll be very mindful of when I have children one day, and make sure there needs are met, the whole experience and ongoing journey to reconnecting with myself, self discovery, coronation, understanding/empathy and healing just made me realize how incredibly fundamental and important it is to have a supportive, understanding/empathetic, and caring environment for children and the importance of the emotional side and emotion connection and nurturing that side because if it’s left empty or overlooked the child will grow with a missing piece that will show it’s effects later on in life, and no child should grow up feeling ashamed for asking the bare minimum/basic needs of human nature or feeling scared/insecure and unloved and undeserving of such simple basic/normal yet highly important and crucial things.
Thank you for your video it was informative, and I truly believe entjs have a soft side to them and especially to their loved ones and as you said they’d throw themselves in a fire to help the person they care for, and I feel like I’ve don’t that a couple of times already for people I cared for but unfortunately didn’t see that I was being played/(it wasn’t mutual and the intentions of the other part was never pure and they never voiced it until they decided out of the blue to break it off/end it so I they didn’t give me a chance to realize the issue to be able work on it and fix it because the deliberately choose to hide that side of them, ah if I only trusted my intuition from the start but I was too young and naive to trust it also being the optimist/dreamer I am when it comes to friendships/relationships that brings connection understanding and sense of validation/care that I was deprived of verbally and action/physical wise),
I felt betrayed and deviated and they apparently weren’t on the same
Page as me after all that time and energy put in to it, but it is what it is.
Btw now looking back at my comment and the first minute of the video got me doubting my type (what he said is true I do get irritated or sometimes feel off and at a loss of words when I’m asked how I feel, I think it because im feeling many things but And don’t know how to express it, and do have difficulty naming what I’m feeling but now I got better at it after many hours of studying and researching symptoms scenarios terms etc) im and ENFJ ENTJ INTJ so does that explain why I opened up and explained(tried to explain) what I was feeling¿:)
Because I’m starting to think it’s not something an ENTJ would do
But it is and ENFJ thing maybe, I do/used to journal and write down whatever intense feeling I’d feel when it gets too much and draining and would help lift some eight off my shoulders and get a better understanding off he situation/cause etc after seeing it all out on paper
But it’s been over a year since I had done such a thing and I’m trying to get back to it because I feel like it was a good way of handling it for me
+ if anyone knows a professional who could type me pls link me up I’d love to get this dilemma resolved once and for all
85% are not worth your time
85% of the 2-3% what a fuckin ratio 😂
Pro tip for people who live with us: if our rooms/houses is messy, chances are we're not in a good head space. That or being late or lifestyle is slowly unwinding is another indicators.
TL;DR version: If there's structure in our lives we're good. If it's non present or fading not so good.
SOMEBODY FINALLY SAID IT!
wtf how the fuck do u know jajjajahahahha... ive just recently transition away from the unstructured lifestyle... i think that happens when im in a new situation...
GJ. Very refreshing to hear someone speak about ENTJs accurately, rather than the stereotype BS, though I wonder what percentage of ENTJs will be seriously pissed off with you leaking their secret :D
Yeah, I can't explain what I feel. I always find my real self as monster, I tried to not showing how I think.
People, every single people can be very very rude (something I learn) and it can hurt me so much and I feel like I can't fix anything. And soon I tried to follow the better way.
"Maybe everyone can figure this one, I dont need to say it." Or "I see what will happen soon, but it's better if they figured it out themself"
Meyers Briggs is a nice way to quickly communicate what your personality type is like broadly speaking. I wouldn't put much thought into it above that.
As an ENTJ this hit pretty close to home. Especially unintentionally being a dick and subconsciously fucking with people. I’m talking with an INTJ girl right now and am recognizing this through her doing similar shit. Lucky me getting a taste of my own medicine lmao, recognizing this has made being patient with her much easier.
I love your voice it’s so earnest soft and vulnerable
I'm feeling so called out right now, why did I thought I was an infp
I was abit confused about my type until I stumbled upon your videos, thanks man you've really bestowed confidence in me that I'm ENTJ since I exhibit pretty much all of the behaviors you listed in your 2 vids about ENTJs.
The word hates us but loves us it’s so annoying sometimes…they expect ceo daddy dom sit at all times as soon as we showing feeling people look at us as if we are weak. I’ve gotten over 40 one nights stands and only two relationships as a man. I’m in my 20z and I’ve been told I can’t be with you you are too serious but I like how dominant and manly you are like huhhh? No wonder they always show the ceo as a bachelor. I guess I might as well get used to it.
Wow, this explains sooo many things. I know 2 ENTJs, and I thought they were unhealthy ENFJs because I didn't expect to see so much irrational behavior in a Thinking dominant tipe. Wow... This explains so many things... Is sad to see how many anger they can carry and spread in the people who is around them. It might not be intentional but they are truly damaging. One last thing that I dont understand is that even knowing this behaviors are wrong and that is not a good idea to be close to them ... I feel kinda attracted to this (I'm INTP) but that is so irrational that I just don't understand why happens to me. Sight
I know exactly what you mean. Love is irrational, but/and that keeps it interesting.
11:15 honestly testing someone's limits is something i love to do, im an entj and i do that cuz i wanna know what ur liability to me. I think whenever i do that is to show their inner emotions of what they actually feel about me being with them and then after the reaction i would guide them to their own wants and desires away from colluding to mine basically. Even if we have the same interests better safe than sorry i guess. I dont know i havent found anyone like i can trust in a way i can be so open to like tell them all my weaknesses and desires that they will collude with me to produce the outcome. Do i notice when i do that probably not its just a surge of adrenaline coursing through me (Now looking at it in 3rd perspective i think people think we are being rude at that point maybe because in my head i know what u like to do but u still need to work on it yourself like how we deal with ours basically, in my head if i can help u then i probably can help everyone but doesnt give me any time to do mine instead) i do say this but uhm sorry if we cant help goodluck on ur endeavors
As an ENTJ I love what your thinking of us.
Just... Our predictions are perfectry tested to by the true way thats why ENTJ is the successful personality 🤣🤣🤣