5 Stages of Being an Introvert
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- čas přidán 17. 05. 2024
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#introvertproblems #introvertcomedy #introvertmemes #introverts
What stage are you???
1
All of them...
Coz you just uploaded the vid...so idk the rest
None
Stage 1, 2, 3 and kind of 4
I feel very called out
Stage 6: Make funny youtube comments and pretend like it's social interaction.
That's actually pretty sad.
Y-You don't gotta call us out like that-
Ah yes
Wait, comments aren't social interaction ?
It's not social interaction?
Stage 7 : Read the comments as a social interaction
Hey oh! Smart!
@Hussain Hanif why would he care. It'll be a good idea not to. And a good excuse for him not to go.
YES.
That’s exactly what I do.. that and think of whole stories in my head then getting upset that my current life isn’t like that...
Bruh, ya got me.
Who needs human interaction when i can lay on my bed and imagine a whole fantasy story within my head for an hour?
Ikr?? It's so much more fun!
I know I’ve been doing that for 5 years and have made my own world with different reincarnations and genarations qnd magic system
Yeah... imagining a perfect life...
I have more intresting people in my head more than everyone in the street
WOW! I thought I was the only one that did this. I'm not crazy. Yeah!!!!!
only true introverts know you gotta come in at the same time as everyone so you dont get noticed. not early, not late.
Nervous breathing intensifies!
sometimes i come early then wait till everyone forgets about me then i leave.
I literally come outside the house and count the number of cars parked just to know that I am not going to be the first one there.
And if there are less than 3 cars, I hang around outside till many people come. Only then I enter.
Yes I’ll wait until some people come
a true introvert would not walk through that door, this is the best chance for one to have gone but leave early. you go so you can come home dressed up.
Stage 7: Due to the pandemic and the lack of human interaction, I begin to forget my native language.
same, I talk almost only in English both on the internet and in my mind, so randomly when I talk in French (my native language) I stop and just.. can't remember a really basic word that I was sure I knew 2 minutes ago.
@@ledocteur7701 Sameee... I forgot words and such. Even with the way that I talk, i get the grammars mixed up. XD
Haha same I'm Thai here and spend so mmuch time thinking and writing in English that I sometimes accidentally mix English words while talking Thai
👆If you can't understand what I just said, YOU NEED SOCIAL INTERACTION
Dude thats Mee. I watch a lot of English things and hardly interact with anyone. Now I talk to myself in English and not my mother tongue
*I’m on stage 5, human interaction is not necessary to me.*
@@ictoan5966 without it tho. We wouldnt be here
What is... human interaction?
@@wafflesofdivinity9273 well, you see, when two people love each other very much, they... interact😱
@@wafflesofdivinity9273 I think it’s like typing a CZcams comment but with your mouth and sounds outside
Same
I don't need to talk to other people I have the most interesting conversations with myself.
Yes.
Same.
And my cat
The shower is my favorite place to have conversations with myself
I do the same thing
"Who is it?!"
Uhm no... We crouch, crawl to the window and take a peak to see who it is 👁️👄👁️
actually we hide under our bed and wait for whoever it is to go away
@@bathcat56 Actually we disappear
@@bathcat56 I do. Unless this is a delivery I really need... then I struggle :)
Lmao same
Someone needs one of those video doorbell gadgets.
I have imaginary conversations with a non-existent therapist where I try to figure out what might be causing me to have imaginary conversations with therapists... What stage is that?
Idk but I'm on that stage with ya 😶
.....your stalking me aren't you
same
relating on a whole different level🤣
I'm on that stage too
I'm at the stage where imagining myself talking to people has become my way of social interaction
Same
Why is this so accurate?
Same
Same
@@lizkeen579 It is fifth stage
Level 8: Just imagining yourself talking to people is just as draining as actually talking to them
Well i don't think so 😄cuz if it would have been that much draining then i would have had died years ago becuz of how much i imagine and overthink about non-realistic conversation
@@janhvi_giri06 you’re just not at level 8 yet
So true 😂
As an INFJ that hasn't gone out in 2 weeks, I just want you people to know that I gave a successful interview in my living room this morning
😂
Me too bestie
2 weeks? Here I haven't gone out in 18 years😂
2 weeks? Rookie numbers. Wait until you start counting in decades.
Sameee intj 😂
I’m at level 1000, like, my level is beyond human understanding
Imagine being social enough to comment electronically
If introversion was a video game, you probably would have maxed out
INFP?
Yeah INFP
Legendary status, a real life Greybeard from Skyrim 🤣🤣
Stages of being an introvert:
1) Alienation (I don't belong here!)
2) Confusion (Am I wierd or normal?)
3) Reconciliation (I'm ok with who I am!)
I'm out of this world 👽, but learned, after two awful bouts of depression, that it is okay because I shouldn't worry about something I can't control. I hope this helps someone. 💝
True
Im at stage 2 right now :)
@@chopi8072 May you discover your strengths soon! All the best for your future endeavours 👍🏻
@@starhairthetutor3765 You are right, thanks! 👌
At which stage are you when you really only have one friend you talk to comfortably and when they’re too busy to talk to you, you’ll just be interaction-less until they come back? 🙃
I'm with ya on that stage.😎
Yes
Im with you there
This is totally me
I understand. Even worse, what if the last face to face friend you ever had is dead? My friend no longer replies. I think she's dead. That's what happened to my other friend.
I'm stage five, like exactly: I don't have social media, barely go to school, I have one friend that I don't talk to, lets not talk about me and fashion and I have interviews with myself and for some reason I don't feel lonely. Sometimes I wonder whether I'm really human.
Barely go to school ? How does that work ? Are you homeschooled or skip classes for no reason and only scrap by exams ?
Dude, each and every point is same as mine, even I don't go to school, it just sacrifices few internal marks but after some begging they allow me to sit in exam which I give by studying on youtube
My life "improved" a lot when I found alcohol, my savior. This one helps during embarrassing conversations and stressful events, in fact it helps in any situation that you have to go out for.
Literally the same with me..
Barely go to school?
You forgot the introvert that, when push comes to shove, is super chatty and charismatic and sociable - for about 20 minutes, and then we crash hard and have to be dragged out of the safety of the bathroom and taken home. Nobody hears from us for a month.
So true. That's me when I'm stage 1, because as an INFJ I feel social responsibility - somebody might need to talk. If no-one need me, I do the stage 2 at the party. But must time I just have a good excuse
@@bluebellbell3725 I know! As an INFJ, I always feel so bad if I think people think I'm ignoring them. So then I interact with them and by the time I'm done, I can't do anything but lay down on the floor (what I'm doing now, actually)....
THIS. It makes me think of Goku when he uses Kaioken, and he fights really well until it starts fuckin' his body up. Then it's the full body cast lmao.
@@OctorokSushi and Deku using One for All
*DEKU X BROKEN FINGERS*
This sounds like me
"My friends stopped inviting me out which is nice" but it hurts also😂😂😂😭
@andrejagreen Really? Women are more social than men? Interesting.
Is this proven?
Lol this is me
@andrejagreen I've never thought about this. I'll read more on it. Seems interesting.
You guys do have friends? 😂😂😂😂
@andrejagreen I don't relate to this at ALL. 🤣 My dad is the outgoing socializer while my mom and I are the introverts who would rather stay home, getting things done, over caring for our social needs.
"I am from Norway, please do not call again"
As a Norwegian introvert, I can confirm that you don't get much more introverted than that
Hello fellow norwegian :)
@@akiratenshi7649 god kveld, god kveld :)
God morgen nå :), hvordan går det?
0:55 THIS. That’s totally me. 😂😂😂 (But thank God, my husband receives all my deliveries for me).
How could you even get a husband by being like that!
I have a monthly subscription you have to call to cancel so my plan is to just skip each month until i die. My girlfriend has asked multiple times if she can just call and cancel it for me.
@@AmielCetraro be a youtuber?
If you have a partner you're not an introvert. Stop trying to be cool by proclaiming to be one.
@@AmielCetraro be human and without extreme disorders.
“You know, the ducks, they can just expire.”
-Frank James 2021
Expire lmaoo
Literally killed me with that word choice
Love it too :)
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was searching for this comment thank you 🤩
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀
“My house is just a green screen stock photo” lol caught 😂
Guess Frank is level 4 then.
So basically Frank's got his own "WandaVision" thing going on
@@veggiet2009 that's what I was thinking man.
Craaaasshh.. "What's that?... oh.. my fourth wall has just fallen down... damn, I just painted that..."
I'm at that level where even texting is WAY too much social interaction for me
"Oh, hey, yOu'rE tHE fIrSt OnE hErE."
I'm gonna scream into that uncaring void for a bit.
That one dislike is probably from delivery guy
Delivery person isn't allowed near us today because we are actually in level 2. I enjoy level 2 but 3 or 4 are over the top
the interviews i do with myself shall now be determined and classified as:
h u m a n i n t e r a c t i o n.
Do you really do that? I have since I was little! It's how my inner monologue works. As if I'm on a late night show or a podcast or something.
@@itsbecca the thing that I do which probably looks weird from another persons perspective is that i ask the question in my head and answer it out loud-
I liked this comment. 9/10 because it is 100% me; 1/10 because it turned the Like count to 225, which is 15^2, and I like square numbers :P
@@suharmanahmad7961 if you think that's weird I talk to my locker at school
What??? I thought only I do these things 🤣
"Why would I need to talk to someone when I've got several different persons WITHIN me all vying for attention" - Frank James the legend
I reached that stage at age 7. I have moved beyond the normals now.
(Maybe send help but... nah. I'm okay. Really.) - Lies in INFJ
(Edit: Three child therapists ruled out psychosis.)
I have had the best time during Covid, everyone is making sure to stay away and I ignore every single text that I get until I forget about them for several weeks or more. I have worn pajamas and stayed inside for several years because of my health condition and its more comfortable than putting on clothes for no valid reason. I have been prepared for this new era my entire life. Being an introvert has never been this useful.
Sometimes when I'm alone I start hypothetical "fights" with 'people' I don't like and I tell them off in a cool, nonchalant way... As opposed to real-life me who only knows how to breathe real heavy and sometimes cry when I'm too angry. 😂
Relatable!😂
I feel very called out right now
Dude why you gotta call me out like that? 🤣🤣🤣
Omg so me 🤣
Are we TWINS?!
Sometimes you miss the feeling, the memories, not the person.
Spot on.
Cringe
That's true. I got a lot of dope memories with people I'll never fuck with anymore
@@klounpound6945 And sadly they might not even remember it. The memory lives on for us at least.
Sometimes?
I'm so introvert I didn't notice there's wide-spread pandemic in the world
Yo you did NOT have to call me out like that with the fake interviews, everything was fine and then I choked on my coffee
- ‘What’s the worst that could happen?’
- ‘Oh hey, you’re the first one here!’
This brings back memories I'd rather forget. :D
This is how every horror movie should begin.
Being the first one to arrive is THE WORST.
That happen to me in high school and I wanted to just die it was sooo ackward
I remember doing it twice in a row with the same group of people at the same house and the second time was even more awkward
@@zhr171 How are you still alive?
final stage: no one knows them... Do they really exist or is it just a myth? They are in nowhere of time an space.
You don't even know whether they are alive or not... And if they weren't nobody would know for some time.
Like the movie "Lucy".😆
Deep
Kind of feel that way right now. I blew off all of my friends, deleted social media.. Do I exist??
@@vanessasmith6925 I see your message, so yes, I think you do :-)
1:57 stage 5 everyone in lockdown
“You know... they can just... expire”
I’m sorry but that got me
Stage 6: I have abandoned the English language entirely and now an the only one to speak a new language I invented-so no one will communicate with me ever again!
Sorry, I'm communicating with you, but's that's a good one!!😆
I've often felt like I'm heading the Nell route, good luck and Godspeed!
@@Gio-sx7kt The Nell route! 😆😂
Stare into the abyss long enough and that process happens naturally
I'm actually creating my own language so I can talk to myself without anyone understanding 👀
Im the introvert who has a friendgroup of 5 other introverts that interact w eachothers once a week by sending memes and personality tests🤠
Now that sounds doable!
sounds like heaven. where do i get myself such a friendgroup?
I've found my people🥺🥺
Same lol
that sounds relaxing hahaha
Ordering things then panicking because of the delivery is so relatable omg
Interview is so accurate. I do all of them I guess. I enjoy going out with my friends once in a while tho. Or i might go insane.
„Crap why is this happening“ - every unplanned human interaction in my life
💯
Stage 6: The climax of full-on isolation bliss. Until that damned phone rings again, at least.
Turn the fock it off - no one is gonna bother you ever again
Just silence it!
When you’re Stage 4 and the only thing holding you back is the loud family members you’re trapped with
Oh my goodness... I'm not the only one going over pretend interviews and different random dreams and situations in my head that end up spewing out of my mouth when no one is around? Shower, cooking, cleaning, driving... any and all the time!!?
CZcams’s keeping me in a loop, not letting me sleep this is my 7th “last video for tonight”
Mood.
I hope you got to sleep eventually 💞
Mood
This happens to me way too much.
Really...its like my 20th at least
Me Too.
My bf is INTP and he literally pretends he's being interviewed and answers... And talks to himself. He's level 5
He is lucky he has a "REAL" gf as you, most of us even have imaginary gf 😥😥
I'm an INTP too, and i often pretend someone interviewed me and like literally answers it too. Do all INTPS do that🤔
@@putrimonica3350 I don't imagine someone talking to me. I imagine I am giving speech to an invisible audience about topics like philosophy, science, social problems and so on. I feel like am an INTP but not quite sure about "I" part.
I don't do that, exactly (INFP). I pretend to myself that I'm explaining something to someone, or teaching a class about something. Lol
@@putrimonica3350 Well I'm an INTP and I do that more than I would like to
I just love how he puts on more layers for each level lol
you have an admirable eye for detail. INFJ?
@watchingthetimes INFJ or INFP, not quite sure tbh. Tried clover's test for a few times, still unsure lol
ohh damn! that's one of the greatest dilemmas. I had been into it to. Took so many tests, each one brought me more confusion. The videos weren't helpful either. But when I understood the cognitive functions, that helped a bit. But not directly, I observed myself first, then applied cognitive functions on me. Meditation helped a lot. So did astrology.
Then finally now I am sure I am an INFJ. But my extraversion is a little higher than most INFJs I talked to. Yet an overall introvert.
I hope to be enlightened one day too!
@@seymae.6657 lol, Seyma.. I am not enlightened. Btw if one considers self realisation a form of enlightenment, I don't think the self realised will be willing to classify oneself as INFJ, or ESTP or so. He will be more concerned about his nature of being, rather than how psychology or science evaluates her personality. Just a personal opinion.
I'm at the shut-in philosopher stage. Current plans do not include further progression towards Full Hermit.
But as my extrovert friends always say "eh. Plans change.")
I love how a piece of cloth is added as the stages advance 😂😂
A little bit close to home
You have an admirable eye for detail. INFJ?
Well, I guess that now we can all agree that Frank James is an introvert
Expected stage 5 to not show up for the interview but the fact that he's gone insane and is imagining it instead is chef's kiss.
Don't you just hate it when people don't take introversion seriously and think that it is only a stage in your life, not a personality trait, and that you'll overcome it as if it was a disease, and then they say "I used to be like you when I was your age, I hated everybody and was very anti social"
Omigee the "I used to be like you"s kill me. They do not understand. Those comments really made me feel like something was wrong with me :"(
There's healthy and "developed" introverts and unhealthy and undeveloped introversion. The first kind is functional, the second is dysfunctional. Part of growing up and maturing into a self responsible adult is becoming the first kind instead of staying in and getting worse in a state of devolving arrested development as the second kind.
Except what people know as a disease is chronic meaning you can never overcome them
I'm Stage 0: no human interaction whatsoever
Rip
You mean 6
@@hel2727 00
arcane stage for me
you just broke that streak with this comment
I'm at stage 10 where the pandemic was a bliss due to no social interaction
Yep. Me.
Stage 1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000: Destroy the Earth so that you’re the only living human left.
Yes.
Me too! 😂
Not even gonna lie, I stayed inside for a full 6 months without going out once and it was amazing.
I literally never gave excuses or reasons when I didn't want to go. I just wouldn't go.
psychotherapist: "So am I seeing you again?"
"No; I'm going to stick with Frank James' video comments sections; I get more empathy out of those than I did for $200"
Stage 6: Being scared to come up to the McDonald's counter to ask for an extra spoon
I am scared to go to a Mc Donald's alone, and I am always alone, I hate to order and wait for my turn, I hate to eat in a crowd
being introverted doesnt mean you are afraid of everyhting,
SAME
Even if I know it's their job and that they won't be upset if I ask it's still scary to ask for stuff and not just at McDonald's
@@user-gq1ij I love eating alone but too many people are sited on there chairs as if looking at me I really dislike it so much
@@solidmusiclover9750 That is why I loved lockdown
I just want to say that the fact you said "the ducks can expire" instead of just "die" means the world to me.
still in stage 1-2 but with the "time has no meaning to me" always there. i'm just floating in life and people are making the structure for me to follow.
I enjoy hanging out with people. It's just when I finally get to see people are instantly don't talk and get super shy.
I thought everyone did fake interviews... 😅
I’ve convinced myself I’m in some sort of perpetual Q&A thing
Same though
Sometimes I have this weirdly specific question I want to be asked, but at the same I don’t want to be asked because that means social interaction
So I just ask myself. It’s a win-win situation
@@oxymoronic717 ah yes I do this too 😂 other times I ask myself these questions just in case I get asked them irl and then when I do I can’t remember what I said the first time 🤦🏾♀️
@@mauve9266 Aaaah I do that too XD
I think it’s because introverts get caught up in “self-therapy” and CBT techniques.
Then, due to total lack of human interaction, the brain just becomes addicted to talking to itself and you get stuck in that self-questioning loop.
Man, those fake interviews somehow very strong like it was actually happen, even though the truth it isn't
Frank: "What stage are you?"
Me: "Yes."
Stage 3 and loving it. Ironically, I've just finished putting my delivered groceries away. Feeling drained because I had to talk to the driver.
Getting close to Level 5. Have left the house twice since late November.
Dear Frank,I love your videos.I have not laughed this hard in quite some time. Keep going, the introverts need you.
Stage 6, How has lockdown affected you ? Wait, there's a lockdown ?
"I need a signature"
*true words of despair right there*
“Time is irrelevant to me”
oh gosh I didn’t notice that I’m already at stage 5
tbh i’m glad i stumbled upon this video. i’ve never felt so related in my life especially the philosophy talking and all the existential crisis. one moment i’m calming myself down and the next i’m thinking about what the world is and if everyone here isn’t real except for me. some times, you don’t need to interact to bond or relate with someone. just go watch a youtube video or something.
“The shut-in philosopher” I feel attacked
💯
"We've got a lot to catch up on."
Ok... I'm out
No, we don't. My life is exactly the same as when I talked to you last time ... 5 years ago.
When you're in that 'I lived a good life, I accept my fate' state.
Stage 5: Hermit is literally me. I do remeto work, don't talk to anyone, ever, nowadays. And I am perfectly fine with that.
A couple of times I tried socializing (just to see what will happen), but I found out that I am better all alone.
Interviews thing is too real also lol. But I interviewed myself since I was in high school, so it isn't necessarily connected though.
That Norwegian accent, wow. Is there anything this man can't do?
It's entirely possible that he can't tap dance... 🤔
Anyone know if Frank can tap dance? 🤣
Thinking of getting either android or google to introvert translate for me in various accents that take my fancy
I’m Norwegian and I agree, the accent totally works!
The accent passed the standards of being norwegian with bad English.
Stage 6 is when you get exhausted from talking to the several different persons inside of you...😂
It is so much harder for introvert during quarantine because now everyone in the house is always there!
THE INTERVIEW- SO ACCURATE
Missed opportunity not having a Stage 6 who is so introverted they refused to even be filmed because that means people get to look at them
That’s more like stage 0
Yeah... I was ones dragged to a radio program which I managed. But I had to put an end to it when asked to appear on TV. No one could drag me to that!
0:46 Noooo don’t let those ducks expire!
How did I miss this? 😂
@@luminoustorus548 Lol
I m in the stage where I m the main lead of a reality show in my head where I interact with God knows how many people and make silly convos while staying locked up in my room ALONE.
That was fun 🤠
These stages are like the stages of the Kübler-Ross grief cycle - I go through them over and over again, sometimes I'm a stage 1, the next day I could be a stage 5. Yes, my life is exhilarating.
I'm at the stage where my Netflix checks on me more than my friends and family
You probably like that anyways
Lockdown being the ultimate level up 😂
Stage 10: talking to myself to the point i start to have a full on conversation with myself, and asking myself questions that i can answer, with the ability to just read my mind whatever im thinking i just say it
I think im having mental issues not sure
Im on that stage too, talking to myself to the point myself is my best friend
Yesssssssa delivery is the best
When your friends just stop inviting you out- not gonna lie, that hurts. Would I have made up a dumb excuse to get out of it? Maybe. But I still would like to know that you care.
Oooooo Mmmmmm Gggggggg
I never thought of it like that but it seems so true, I myself left my friends with those excuses, you are right
Here’s me : I am comfortable with people that are close to me but I don’t like going anywhere new or else I basically break down and feel nervous and cry . I don’t really talk to people unless I am forced to unless they are close friends . I like to go to places like Walmart but not to socialize, I just want to be doing something and I only really use self checkouts to avoid interaction . I am afraid I am constantly being judged . One of the most terrifying things to me is the McDonald’s checkout . I want to have interactions with people and go places but ONLY with people who are close . I don’t like to be with people I don’t know. I also can sit around for hours making up scenarios in my head .
0:55 as a norwegian, I love that you said Norway, as we're some of the most introverted societies out there, but also, that sounded nothing like a norwegian accent :)
Your “Norwegian” accent. 😂🤣
Reminded me so hard of the Trading Places movie XD
*Level 7: The Try to Fit in Again.* You realize you've gone insane being alone for so long, circle back to trying to engage socially and stand there awkwardly as everyone makes in jokes that you "had to be there for" 😢 Then you go back home and realize stage 3 was your sweat spot and work up a nice rapport with the delivery guy.
Dear God I feel that I just want to be loved
Omg same get out of my head
Very sad
When I'm feeling sad or I want to express my feelings I will imagine like different versions of me
( Emotional one, the blame yourself one, mad one, the facts only one, etc )
And then I just talk to them.
I also have different stories of series in my head
Just entering stage 3 and it feels so GOOOOD. Contactless delivery for the win!!!
I'm stressed about even going into my voicemail
I'm at the stage where instead of talking to people I just talk to myself in my mind
Turned off the phone ringer long ago. I hated the adrenaline hit when it rang. Always a spam call, but still....!
Soo freaking funny, i have yet to watch a short Frank James video and not bust out laughing. Spot on bro
My Parents invited our Relatives over, I guess I blended in the background perfectly...
since Even my parents forgot I existed.
That's amazing. I try so hard, but it never works unless I never leave my room.
To all my hermit level 100s out there. Look into permaculture. Guarantee you'll love it.
Hi, Frank. Thanks for your videos. They are super clever and funny. It is amazing how relatable it is for me. Please keep it up, and best wishes!
So spot on. Prepandemic if I had to go out socially, always 15 min early to scope out the place and get a place near the exit, and did the old irish exit, leaving early without saying a word. Now yes, in the pandemic, never liked the phone ever, but now the phone rings and it actually does set me off for days. I put it on mute a lot.