3 Things To Never Say To A Guy - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy
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1. Don’t call important things “cute”
2. When he’s dancing don’t say he’s “funny”
3. Don’t make him feel like an idiot
I did three of these
@@crystalhe8170 lmao
Lesley Woo I thought cute and funny is good word tho
#3 Addendum: At least until you're married.
Frankly, it applies to everyone and every relationship
"You're short." "You're like a brother to me." "Let me tell you about this cute guy I met..."
I disagree. The "brother" -part, if said with sincerity to a guy you are dating is a very deep and powerful compliment. Of course maybe one needs to elaborate what it entails, for instance the feeling of being free and understood.
Gail Lewis and "oh, it's so small"
Not all heroes wear Capes
"I'm a feminist."
"ABORT MISSION!!"
@@Jesuslily won't make his dick hard
Whenever I text a guy I think "Would Matt approve this?" I have gotten so good at not being aggressive or emotional but playfully getting my point across all the while seeming unbothered. Thank you so much Matt, you have totally changed my perspective.
This is true for anyone who wants to build any kind of positive relationship. If a person wanted to impress a manager for a promotion, they would NEVER say any of these things. No one with tact and a heart would tell a child that, either because even they would feel demeaned. It's a sad day and age when we must advise adults against belittling someone's efforts, intellect, or abilities in order to have a healthy relationship.
I would agree. Today, common sense is not all that common. This is why people say the wrong things to each other all of the time.However, I do believe men and women have a difficult time communicating their needs and having the opposite sex get what they REALLy mean. I've had this happen on many occasions. My family was taught to be outspoken and unfortunately I put my foot in my mouth sometimes. Both men and women have to realize it's far better to speak in a kinder way than be blunt. Matthew has great suggestions that I am going to use for now on, especially with regard to answering text messages with a positive reply instead of being blunt. It's never too late to learn new tricks even at 57.
Thank you Matthew for the helpful suggestions. 👍👍😊
Just be thoughtful and kind as that would be enough to avoid these types of comments.
Growing up with only brothers, this is ALL true! Guys like teasing, but if you’re like straight up bullying them by emasculating them, they will sideline the heck out of you.
Pshhh, humor and sarcasm are my defense mechanisms. Teasing as flirting is basically the only game I've got xD;
ME
My best game? Xbox
Me too! that´s why I have eleven cats XD
It has to be the right kind of teasing, though. I don't think any man appreciates sarcasm.
+Karla Anaya you had me at 11 cats! I love cats *correction* obsessed with then! we should be friends haha
All these years of dating I tried different ways to change..but I guess when you meet Your right person you don't have to worry.the person stays and loves..there are no rules. Ive found my perfect one :)
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you need to give tips to men too cause ALOT of them be FUCKING UP ON A DAILY BASIS on dating or talking to girls or how to treat women smh.
YESSSSSSSSSS GURL YESSSSSS
He talked about this during the beginning of the video.
+Lisa Vega no it didn't he said "I could write a whole book about the things men do. but most of us females already know". No i want him to give tips to men on how to treat us better! instead of always pointing out the things we do as wrong. how about point out the things men do has wrong!
Tatiana Ragland You should make one. I would subscribe :)
He's a coach for woman not men
This makes good common sense. With whoever you are interacting with. No one wants something that is important to them to be belittled, no one wants to be teased about something like dancing, dancing is suppose to be fun, why make someone feel self conscious? and when someone doesn't know something and they are willing to admit and share that with you, they are being vulnerable, and honest, to which it is kind and considerate to respond by not making the other person feel stupid. It's not too sensitive to react to these things in this way, the way you respond says a lot about the kind of person you are. Wouldn't you want to show people that you are open, fun, kind, considerate, and interested in getting to know people and not make anyone feel small or stupid?
I’ve done #3 to my boyfriend on our first date and now I honestly feel bad. He was saying he’s never watched any animated Disney movies and I was so shocked. I was like, “You’ve never watched any Disney animated movies?! We’re going to have to fix that.” In my defence, I wasn’t trying to belittle him or make him feel bad. I was just genuinely surprised. But now I know it’s bad and I’m not going to make the same mistake again. Thank you so much for the video, Matt! ☺️
The important part of that is that you showed you wanted to fix that with him even if you were genuinely surprised. I tend to accept that I see more films than a lot of people I know. So long as I didn't meet a man who only liked horror films I would enjoy watching each other's favourite films together.
so basically don't attack his ego lol
Basically 🙄
+fiorezazur Obviously he didn't want a relation
I dunno if I would call it that... We think very highly of your opinion on us. We like to impress you and if we express something we are insecure about (such as our job or how we dance) and you react to it like how you would react to a 4 year old giving you a drawing. It just makes us feel more insecure and not worth your time. Men don't like to share their feelings and aren't as open as women so when a man opens up with something that he hopes to impress you with, then you should understand that he trusts you enough to share it with you.
What, are you stupid? Where's your logic?
If you want to "attack his ego", you should elaborate in an actual conversation, not just throw a comment at him, since this would hurt anybody.
the sofa looks so comfy lol
sue lee lol right??? thank u sue. someone needed to say it
Now me the new student, your balls look comfy on the sofa😅
Right
😂
Hahahaha my first thought was wanting to jump on it 😂
*reads the caption* " yep, I probably have said all of those things to my crush!" *after watching the video* "yes, I've said all of em to my crush..."
Ana
Can you dance?
To be honest I love offending women with a feminazi mentality, but most of the time I don’t care about stuff like this! My ego isn’t that big!
I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years and we are doing just fine, he is a great guy! But I still find your videos so interesting because most of your advice can be applied to other areas of life and non-romantic relationships
Stop it scammer.
I MEAN FOR REAL! EXACTLY!
This is a great video about teasing and flirting, Matthew. Reading through the comments, it seems that a lot of persons (men and women ... possibly more women?) are quick to dismiss your advice. But what you're saying is that it's not just about the guy being overly sensitive or needing to have his ego stroked continuously. It's about becoming better at flirting and teasing. And this requires cultivating better emotional intelligence.
The thing is, flirting isn't just about how you feel while you're doing it. It's just as much about (maybe even more about) how it makes or encourages the other person to feel. He has to be enjoying the joke with you. If he's not laughing with you while you're having a bit of fun with him then of course it will feel like you're just having a laugh at his expense. And that's where the emotional intelligence comes in - knowing how and when to use that humor so he's playing along with you. If he likes you (even just a little bit), he wants to play with you. But it's just like most games - it's more fun to play when both sides have put in some practice and respect the 'rules'.
I'm a guy, by the way. I think Matthew gives good advice and want to understand not just how I can get better at dating but what ladies can do to get better at it, too.
is it bad that what i'm seeing here is an opportunity to get rid of a guy who are interested in you but won't take no for an answer? ^^
Lol, yes it could be. In saying that I am a guy and none of what he's said here would piss me off in the least.
SMC01ful but why? I think men are so cute (sorry about that) and attractive no matter how they look like! :D (just being honest :3)
I got interested for this reason too. And tried to implement them. But nothing works. He caught them right away that I am trying to chase him away and got more interested. It's really complicated
Banshee Queen there are two types of people...
Rezwana Nitu is it still like that? I’ve had this as well, really annoying.. Be ruthless (honest) and tell them you’re not interested in him
no girl want to hear she's cute too. call us beautiful or zip it.
Edit - there are all types of women of different ages and upbringing who appreciate being called whatever, so that's their choice. Personally I hate hot, hot stuff, sexy, cute. It's very superficial and physical.
I like like a deeper compliment like beautiful. If habits are cute then that's a whole diff compliment.
dbedazzling1 when a guy says im cute im like what am i a dog?
I'd prefer to be called adorable than cute which though means the same thing is somehow better for me?
Am I the only girl that likes it?
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Wouldn't it depend on the meaning of "cute" or how you take it?
okay.. but, can we just talk about your hair? because wauw! ;)
+Jamie Schou
looks cute???
+Nicole Green more like sexy ;)
Bahahahahahahaaa
No no no no no no no he needs a cut! Way better with short hair !!
emma Woods I know!!! And that lil bit of facial hair... *swoons*
Thank you for reiterating my thoughts on this, Matthew. I just imagined putting myself in the guys shoes, and thinking, that if a guy said to me that my career choice or something I take seriously, is cute, or if I was told I dance funny, or if the guy tried to make me feel “out of the loop”, or “uncool” because I hadn’t seen or done certain things that most people have experienced, etc, then I would get my feelings hurt, or irritated, because I would really feel “put down”. I don’t blame them at all for losing interest. I would lose interest, on the spot, too! Nobody likes to be not taken seriously, ‘put down’ and made to feel ‘less than’. People naturally want to feel good around a person and naturally gravitate towards people who build them up, not tear them down, and just feel good when they are with that person. No one wants to walk on eggshells, worrying if they’re living up to a certain person’s expectations. I have even ended friendships with female friends, also, who have done this type of thing. No one likes to feel degraded… by ANYONE! They say that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit,.. but, in all actuality, it is not funny at all. It’s a well known fact that sarcastic stand up comics do not do nearly as well as other ones. Sarcasm itself isn’t cute; it’s actually a deflection of the person’s own insecurities, onto someone else. In retrospect, a person’s expectations of us are not our obligation to live up to. Life is too short to have friends or a significant other, such as these. These people are in actuality, not very happy with themselves, to even need to be sarcastic, whether trying to be funny or not. Read between the lines, and you will see a frustrated, disgruntled human being, in an attempt to be witty, or intelligent,… but realistically, it’s just an epic fail. 😊👌
Actually if a guy said any of those things to me I'd just laugh and joke with him. Then too I'd likely not say those things to him. If I it would be because we would laugh, joke and clown around about all of it.
add never saying "oh i thought you were gay before I started talking to you" to that list
I'm a man and that made me laugh.
😂😂😂😂😂
😳
Shit I did all of these things so much...
Keep doing them I am a guy and a real man wouldn't give a shit. None of what was said here would worry me in the slightest.
yeah, these only apply to overly judgemental and sensitive/easily offended guys (like matthew hussey) I wouldn't take everything he says seriously considering that he cheats quite a bit.
SMC01ful well that's your definition of a "real man" that term is extremely subjective now and if you think other wise then you're kind of an idiot
a ''REAL MAN'' lol :D you must be an ''ALPHA'' then.. clearly you havent learned your lesson from his other videos.
1. "Be a man OR man up"
2. "Is it in?"
😂😂😂
Feminists don't say that ? Do they ?
I have said that to someone who was abusive......
I am a woman and I don't want to be told those things. :/
I completely agree!
+rastafarian1112 there's no need to be rude
+rastafarian1112 EXCUSE YOU?
Same
+NightCore WolfSpirit lol funny he deleted his comment
Matthew,
I want to thank you for the precious advice not only on relationships, but on life.
From my perspective, your videos talk both about relationship wisdom and life wisdom. Self-respect, inoffensive form of teasing, support, and etc. is how we should behave in general, not exclusively with guys, imo.
I learn to be a better person from your videos and that's why I find them especially helpful!!
Thank you so much for your free book.I just read it and I am ready to try the point you suggested.I come from a very conserved place and so I have a huge problem with interacting with guys.This is my first time watching your video but I am already seriously thinking of subscribing.
@@yunishella2206 wait hold up you referring to her or Matthew ?
Hello 👋
When my girlfriend said that I'm immature it really made me feel like " ok then I'm letting you go find a mature one " .. this really gave me high blood pressure. When all I was doing is to keep telling her things that would be better for us like if theres a problem she shud speak up and yet she told me this.... woooohw,...
Maybe she wanted you to speak up for her, you be her lawyer her guard
She wanted to have a “daddy” so bad. U did right to break up with her
This is not a guy thing it's a human thing.✌🏻️
JustCallMeKat *cough* more aimed at women *cough*
Not really. Only those who care about inage or what others think; and those with fragile, insecure egos
Heather H you just summed up humans 😂
@@heatherh7946 most humans have fragile egos. If you have a strong one? Either its really strong(good), or you havent realized how fragile it is. And you dont poke at fragile things
Yea but beleive it or not men are more sensitive. They just act like they are not but it's all a front cause it makes people question his masculinity and they are bullied more on it than females. Females could get away with alot but when a guy does it... its gay. That's exhausting
All these three things can also be offensive to a woman coming from a man.
I agree!!
Which is why it's aimed at men, not women.. :P And it depends on how you take it, if you take everything so seriously yes, if you can take a little joke i'd personally not mind at all.
+Zoë Maxime Yes. That goes for men as well..they should take it as a joke ( and it still depends on HOW things are said, regardless the gender)
Yes, I agree with you on that. Though Men tend to think the same about things, they want to feel manly. Though you obviously have exceptions there too. :)
Or a man coming from a man; or a woman coming from a woman
😁 #3 is sooo me! Guilty 🙋
ik, me too lol thats exactly what i said that when he told me he's never seen The Godfather :O
meeee too, very guilty... hahahaha
Lol me too and its never bothered me in the slightest when people have done it to me. I haven't ever taken it as an insult or anything.. Personally when I do it it is because its something that I really enjoyed and also very common so when I learn.. Say my husband... Has never seen it/done it I'm suprised by that and get excited that I get to be the one to introduce it to him and see him experience it for the first time.
I like you
In my defense, he has never seen any film of Harry Potter. #fuckthis
I had an ex who used to do that last thing to me, it was so condescending! We had knowledge on vastly different topics but because we mostly spent time with his friends or housemates over mine the conversations I had a lot of input in rarely came up around them so I eventually became afraid of saying anything I wasn't certain of around them, eventually leading to me retreating and eventually ending it. Don't make the same mistake as him ladies!
I love how fair Matthew is. Instead of just saying "this is something that will kill a man's attraction to you" and leaving him at that, he adds that there are lots of things men say that kill our attraction towards that guy. I hear too many guys pointing fingers at girls acting like men are perfect.
He adds that because otherwise people like you would start complaining. Don't expect a video from a man's perspective to hold the perspective of a girl.
To be fair, I would be perfectly happy for him to do a series aimed at a male audience exploring things men do that women don't like. He could interview women to help with that. But there's no point explaining to women what puts them off certain men. The videos of his I have seen are obviously mainly for women, but men are free to watch to see if they agree with him.
would a confident man really be affected by these 3 things? i dont want a guy who is that sensitive
+Iqra Ahmed How confident they are can influence how much they are affected, so I'm sure there are people who would be "okay" with them.
But the respect and kindness you can communicate with better answers will always make you look like a much better and more attractive person. In the eyes of confident men too. And that's the goal, isn't it? :)
+Elle L Take a step back, dear.
I definitely agree with being yourself.
There's still ways that are more a matter of habit, not necessarily part of your personality.
For how I roll that comes naturally. For me, language is also a matter of habit and a powerful tool. If I wanna compliment a guy, I'll compliment him. But might as well make it a habit to be clear in communication. I.e pick the best compliments from the many things floating my mind. (I would hate to have serious investments be called cute myself anyway)
That's what it is for me, so if that isn't how it works for you, then by all means, go do your thing and rock it ;)
***** Seems I got you on the wrong foot. Was surprised by your reaction, actually.
That makes more sense. But I am thinking you are an attractive and kind person at heart, and it's good to SHOW that. So, just saying what you actually feel and are. NOT making anything up. That's death to any communication or bond.
Like, for the first part, if you respond with that's cute - that doesn't mean you don't have any respect for his passion. If you do, it's good showing that because people might assume otherwise (which is where the felt offense comes from)
If you don't .. well, then of course, don't.
That's the position I was speaking from. Sorry if it seemed like I was suggesting to make stuff up.
ikr. i wouldnt be offended my any of those so i dont want a man thats more sensitive than me
my thoughts exactly who wants a fragile little boy you have to tiptoe around...
The way he says "dance"...
I had an aussie friend back in high school who said that dance is one word she will never ever say the aussie/british way. She told me this nearly 10 years ago but I still don't get it, probably because I am not a native speaker of English. How does it sound to native speakers? Is it weird to hear the word dance pronounced 'd-ah-n-ce'?
+lola J I think the way he speaks is sexy! I call it an accent but I guess we all have "accents" to someone who speaks differently than ourselves
Bruh, im a dancer myself and it is VERY common to hear a teacher pronounce it like that, many ballet teachers are brittish or Russian.
I love teasing soo much.. It basically keeps me going 😂..and that's where I love about what Matthew said in this video, doing it well and at the right time is key.
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How do you mean you love teasing people ?? How
I love when guys are able to laugh about themselves. The guy I'm dating confused Star Wars with Jurrassic park and he turned so red. He also tends to not read signs all the way through (in traffic) which led to funny misunderstanding but he is okay with me joking about it.
In my humble opinion, if I communicate strong interest in someone he should be able to take a joke light-hearted.
Just by reading this made me laugh it is funny😂
He’s so adorable and now all I want is to see Mathew dance
this video sounds personal. did yo many girls say this to you Matt?
agree
+olioneoriginal True! Something might have inspired him to make this video... Maybe too many of his clients are trying the "I'll knock you down a peg to see if you will chase me" tactic... LOL!
1. Back handed compliment; 2. making fun (is it really a joke or passive agressive abuse?); 3. thinly veiled contempt... Those are not good, whether a man or a woman says it. Also true in new "friendships"...
It sounds condescending or passive-agressive, or something!!!! Like Matthew says, sometimes people might not realize they are engaging in levelling. They are on automatic pilot.
olioneoriginal lmao I'm laughing so hard rn
olioneoriginal Here we go-_-
Cut the crap.....
make a video for what girls should say 🙆
Yeah....... and make a video about the best way, short of hiring a P.I., to learn the real background of a potential boyfriend. Thanks
Most of his other videos are just that, haha. :P
Nothing you say can change that fact that if you're trying to manipulate someone into behaving the way that YOU desire, spinning your words in no way makes the manipulation process BETTER & once he catches on to what you're doing he will resent you for it & the relationship will enviably crash & burn.
Think of how you react to men who intentionally 'program' their spouses to become 'Stepford Wives'. Why is it in anyway more acceptable if women are the perpetrators?. As comedian Bill Maher once said: "Women should stop complaining about men, til they start picking better ones".
+Sledge
ummm...okay??
+92Moo
yea I noticed
Give full respect to a man and do not put him under yourself at any time or you’ll have lots of issues in the relationship.
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1. Im a single mum
2. Iv had my fun and now looking to settle down
3. What car do you drive?
this applies to every other person in your life. nobody wants to be devalued in someone's competition or have important things called cute or being made fun of. it's plain rude.
Hey Matt I've been watching your videos for a while now I can see that your passionate in what you do and that you genuinely care. Your videos have been very helpful keep it up and thank you
Dude here. Matthew is your digital boyfriend. This is pile of fake advice and the crap you want to hear.
Actually, just treat me like a human being with thoughts and feelings, and we will get along great. Have some god damned empathy
sure, if they reciprocate 😎
Cant believe a man wrote this comment. Sounds like you do not need any dating advice!
Having too much emapthy is a magnetic force for narsisitist
I’ve never seen pulp fiction, gonna go watch it now so I can talk shit to my man in the future.
YESSSSS BITCH YESSS
That's exactly what I thought lol
I get that. I think all people want to be respected. Anyone dismissing, minimizing, or devaluing someone else will feel disrespected and shut down.
But also, some people are just too sensitive. If you take every single thing seriously, you’re always going to feel hurt.
This is so true. If the guy doesn't say the right things in the beginning stay away from him. Listen to what he wants and don't gloss it over. That's what I learnt myself.
Okay can I know you better ?
I feel like the second one especially was just something personal 😂
Hey Mat, you should do aTed talk.
Um timo
Only of it was an all female audience because all the men in the audience would be trying really hard to stop sniggering - out
Loud
Not sure I want to be attracted to someone who’s sensitive about how he dances lol
Like he stepped on a electric wire.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@mashermta hahaha 🤣
If I had to watch the way I talk to massage his ego for him to like me, then I’m not being myself. Then what’s the point?! A strong confident man doesn’t need a woman to do that. And a strong woman doesn’t need a man who’s incapable of accepting a woman like that.
Teasing is the best and I love banter, but you also need to offer a way out, in other words let a man know he’s lost (tease) but then offer a way out (invitation)
I totally get that men hate being referred to as cute because I hate being called cute too. I'm 23, but 5'1 and I look and sound younger than I am so I hate it when people say "Aw, you're so cute!" it's like 'cute' is what you call a baby or a kitten. i'm a grown ass woman, take me seriously god damn it! lol
The point is not to diminish something that is important to him and that he takes seriously, like his work. Nothing to do with looks.
b dal I know what he meant I was just giving an example of how I could relate.
aww, how adorable
Aqua 93 same here
A man that takes a woman seriously is either lying or not a man yet. lmao
me taking notes to do all of these things
When my guy hasn't seen a movie I first gasp, shake my head disappoing and then tell him that we are gonna watch it together.
I have never seen anyone, not even actors, who show certain emotions and impressions so well, just with a facial expression, as this guy. Sometimes I catch myself that, half of what he says, I don't listen, because I'm just watching him. But at the end, I get everything.
I ask my boyfriend to give me fairytale stories.My lawyer boyfriend is very happy giving storytelling about love stories, loyalty stories,fairy tale stories with lessons and wisdom to learn and I cry cry for joy.He told me love is not all sex.
It goes both ways. I knew a guy who was exactly like this...he's just too snarky and sarcastic and it's so friggin annoying. I ghosted him after our 2 lunch dates. He begged to know why I was avoiding him and I told him the truth...then he called me a psycho lol. Whatever.
Leo Loner what does ghosting mean?!
@@astrid-marieschwarz6302 stopping comunication like on texts or phone calls
I hate the psycho part. People like him are part of the reason why women don't bother to answer such questions, but I could use that as valuable feedback.
I went on a date with a guy recently and literally did the third one with the same movie pulp fiction. Feel so bad now aha 😂😂
these all three thibgs can go both ways for men and women.
yes I'm an female but I wouldn't like it if people said any of the 3 things he listed to me. ☺
Nearly every good man I know loves it when I tell them they are cute. Just because you don't like it does not mean every other man has the same hang up.
Thank you for the video, though! I do value your work here
That's so interesting. It works both ways, I had a guy do all three of those things to me and yes I lost interest and just found him annoying after that.
I've seen several videos of this gorgeous, awesome, intelligent, handsome man called Matthew and... is it just me, or men are becoming more emotional than women?
Well it's your pick. You can choose men who deny and ignore their feelings. And maybe it works out. But maybe it also implodes in an icy pit of resentment.
A healthy man isn't always butthurt if everything is going great and you make a little joke. But he also acknowledges his emotions and guards them. If that means separating from a woman who thinks it's okay for her to rip joke after joke aimed at the things he cares about and his insecurities, so be it.
"I went out with someone else." BIG EGO BOOST. I told a guy this one time because he hurt me so bad. It was a lie but I wanted to hurt him..... I never saw him again.
This was very informative, but I stared at his crouch the inter time 👀
Double standard right here. Fuckin bitches lmfao
Haha scrolled comments just to see who else noticed it 😛
I'm a candid person what he sees is what he gets I will not change a thing to keep him take or leave next!
why is this guy so brilliant among of all the people i heared so far this guy is the most brilliant so true each and every word
haha the "cute" reply is very accurate.. if I wanna piss off my guy, I tell hime how this or that is cute.. LOL
I'm proud of you man for keeping our secret! And never let them know the truth
Ha ha ha
My list of what never to say to a guy:
1) Are you are all inside me yet? When he is already....Sorry a bit crude)
2) I've never dated a guy shorter than me
3) You look nothing like your POF photo
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Im a bit uneasy with taller women
Totally true as always... girls and immature women (men too) don't realise how rude they can be sometimes. We should never belittle another human being. It mostly stems from our fragile ego too. We wouldn't like to hear it if we were spoken to like that. It comes over patronising and judgemental.
All of these apply to friendships too!
how is dating hard for woman, just treat him like your best friend and don't be shy to say what you want. something all guys agree with is, we are simple. just be kind and communicate.
Great tips!! Thank you for all you are doing for the dating world!
Hi,
I know it's been stressful but I hope your doing great .
Don't make him feel less of a man, don't attack him with verbal put downs, and don't ever say anything bad about his mother.
I did the third one, not in a teasing way but surprised that someone who is as intelligent as him does not know a fact. I have high hope for him and even praised his intelligence many times.
Women are all on this self improvement journey to figure men out but seems like so many men operate just from instinct and doesn’t do any self improvement and self awareness training. So you did all the work you run in to an oblivious guy and then he drags you back to the primal level.
These all seem like common sense to me hahaha.
Yes they are to me as well.
I am a woman and don't like being these things.
I know right?
they aren't common sense to a lot of women, trust me
Some people lack common sense
“You’re so funny when you dance.” *LOWKEY FCKING SNORT*
Also thank you for sharing your chapter with us that is greatly appreciated!! 💋
My opinion is that this goes for both ADULT men AND women. Most people want to be taken seriously and validated.
He is saying 1) Don’t say ‘ that’s cute’ to anything that the guy you like does. 2) Don’t say ‘it’s funny’ for example at his dancing. 3) Don’t criticise him for not watching a film you watched. Too many ‘don’t’. I did all 3 and still do. Been with my hubby for nearly 6 years! Bless! We both poke fun at each other and we watch films together that the other hasn’t watched! Also, we both dance in a funny way. All us ladies have to do is be ourselves. If he doesn’t like it then someone else will. Just chill!
I hate it when people make us go to a website or a book.
@@louizsmith1386 no what’s app is what the scammers use.
this guy is a guide on how to avoid bruising men's fragile ego. I'll admit he has some spot on shit but most of it is just women being assertive (which is awesome for sure) but at the same time teaching to dance around situations to avoid bruising a mans ego. it wouldn't be a problem but he makes it sound like most of us are made of glass. I've never been phased by any of those things. or half the stuff in his videos that are "don'ts" against men. Maybe I just dont give a shit idk. my girlfriend who can't dance told me I can't dance. so we both danced like idiots. maybe I'm a sap who's in love and cant be bothered with the dating part. oh well. i'll be back here when I get gutted
1:38 he starts to sound like Stewie from family Guy hahah
I would never say those ridiculous things to anyone, much less the man I'm interested in. The way I work it is,
1) How would it make me feel if he (or anyone else) were to say that to me?
2). From a masculine perspective, how would it make him feel if I were to say that thing to him?
It's all a matter of putting your self in the other person's shoes and asking yourself how you would feel if you were told what you're telling them
If your a kind person, these things are just common sense.
I say ‘cute’ because I don’t have another word. It’s my safe word. Need to change it
when i tease him with his dancing hed just laugh, buit dont he dare tease me with my dancing looool :))
I met s guy i was kind of interested in. i finished my temporary job. One day later he texted asking me why i was sad, i replied i liked it there i wish i could work there. And he texted back . hahaha.
It's been months he's still asking what did he do wrong and why i don't talk to him anymore. That one insensitive text was enough for me to view him as a douche.
@pretentious goat Sorry you ARE a whole box of tools short of a tool box. THERE WAS NOTHING funny about it. He and you are a douche.
That was awful of him. Then he doesn't even know why? I would tell him that was very insensitive, and what kind of response is that when you're feeling down? He should know, maybe it'll be lesson learned although I doubt it.
as a man, THIS IS ALL TRUE. What Matt said is all true. This is how women shut men down and men stop being attracted to women. Absolutely. Matt is right on this one
The second and third point is true about a friend too, I'd say. No one is deserves to be made fun of like that.
they kinda seem like your own pet peeves
hahahahah
You're right - no one has ever said these things to any guy.
+Crafty Caity totally!!
+Crafty Caity A guy say #1 to me!!.. "That's so cute!" I wanted to kill him dead. The second one just means don't criticize them, especially if they are trying. The third, when I told a guy I was a part time nanny he said "Seriously? are you joking?" that was the end!
+kterbo it depends on the person these things don't bother every guy. some things are common sense also i was thinking it waa actually going to be something helpful
I would really like to meet this mysterious Jameson in the background lol
"My ex... my ex... my ex..." Just no! And when we've been to the shops for you and come back with cleaning products but no food, be grateful. We mean well.
These examples you mentioned are just about being a decent and compassionate human being. No one likes to be mocked and devalued, male or female.
I think the first two things mentioned are OK to use, but one must read the context first. This applies to both, men and women.
The third thing, it's not OK to bully someone because they don't know something. I mean, no human on Earth knows everything so before doing that put yourself in their shoes with something you don't know and see how you would react in that situation.
My take on this is be kind, but firm when needed and always respect yourself by respecting your moral values and principles no matter how attractive the other one is.
Do a video on how to be a good kisser!
Matt is usually more on the talking side of things ;)
There are tons of videos on youtube teaching how to kiss
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I have really never had an issue with the male gender and talking to them, lol. My female friends tell me I'm a good listener and a good friend. I treat people how I want to be treated. I think that's a fair way to live. Be honest but do it with tact and you don't always have to have something to say....sometimes it's best to keep some things to yourself. Just saying. 🤐
Oh gawd, so tired of having to learn how to manipulate men. How about just some honesty and kindness?
Actually. That doesn't work. There are Rules...until he's in Love to follow. First. Stop waiting. For his Texts, calls, to ask you out!
Crystal Dating Coach and then?
@@monicawerner5762 Get a life! Don't respond to text after One Second! Don't always be available for his dates. Example. "I love to see you Thursday but I've been invited to a Dinner. Let's do it Friday."
Just curious...Crystal, r u like a Suri or a real person? I actually have a life btw, but thanks for assuming I don’t.
You work so hard to make the videos...it reflects on your work...i love your videos...truly helping.thank you
my "best friend" abandoned and betrayed me.
he truly violently and viciously raped my soul
with what he's done to me.
I am breathless in my grief and in my agony.
he's all I had. now I'm left all alone: to suffer endlessly.