Overcoming Bad Inner Voices
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- All of us have deeply unhelpful inner voices inside us, dragging us down with criticisms and unfair accusations. Wisdom involves learning how to replace them with more benevolent guides.
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'All inner voices used to be outer voices'
Mind. Blown.
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Yeah, I don't buy it. Inner voices can be completely irrational constructions of our own psyche, which aren't necessarily directly based on input from others.
Agreed, the voices come from ppl who said hurtful things to us as a child at least mine are
Inner voices aren't always from people that have said bad stuff to you, but probably from just indirect comments either to you or to others that are close to you. Sometimes it may just be trigger words themselves. I do believe that words of bad influence from others in your life does have a big part in it.
I think it's that and retaining bad experiences/failures that hurt us. We internalize them and let them take refuge instead of fending them or not believing in them. Hard to do as a child when everything is gospel. Possible to work on as an adult but takes a lot of work. My two cents after working on them for some time now. 🙏
One suggestion I would provide is, speak to yourself the same way as when you speak to your best friend; With kindness, understanding, and encouragement
Gabriel Medina THIS
This is great advice.
Gabriel Medina that's truly great advice !! thank you for that I'll always remember that 👍
Gabriel Medina what if me and my best friend are always being rude to each other, like we're fighting or something like it.
Gabriel Medina I never liked this advice. My friend bitches to me about something bad going on with her literally at least once a day. Many of these things are indeed shitty and I pity her. And I honestly don't know if things will look up for her. Do I tell her this? Of course not. I just tell her to hang in there but deep down I'm a lot more pessimistic about her situation. It's hard to talk to yourself objectively when you know the real deal of what's going on
hipnhappenin I think your taking the advice in the wrong context. ..the whole thing is about stopping negative /bad thoughts and replacing them with kind thoughts instead and it's a great concept to treat your own thoughts like how you would speak to your best friend...
I once heard that when we hear the negative voices in our minds, it’s helpful to try and identify whose voice it is. Is it your mother’s voice, or your boss’s voice. Try it, it’s amazing to be able to put a name to the voices going around in your head.
I tried it and I was shocked by how many other people’s voices had been internalised, and how much attention I paid to them.
Nowadays, I try to develop the habit of saying to myself, “ah, that’s my mum’s voice telling me I can’t do this because I’m not good enough.” Once I’ve identified the voice I respond with another voice, my own voice and say “no, mum, I get to decide what I can and can’t do, and for the record, I was always good enough, and I’m sorry that you never realised that.”
Excellent video 👏👏👏
Ruth Jones I imagine the voice to be some kind of shape shifter whose goal is to bring me down by shifting into people in my environment.
I know whose voice it is, but I canNOT counter it or withdraw attention from it - I’ve been trying that for at least 55 years (I’m 57). The mechanisms for doing so appear to be absent or at least completely inaccessible/unfindable. Please help.
I find it's my voice though
@@ThePartyProfessors me too. Triggers my anxiety
who's voice is telling me to kill myself, nobody has said it to me before
I don't even consider that option anymore, but there's a voice that constantly spams this idea, and I am in constant internal conflict with it..
Dear people who suffered emotional neglect in childhood and also everyone else,
You in no way were responsible for the fallacies of your parents. When we are abused as children we tend to think we don't deserve love and kindness from people around us and end up sabotaging their efforts. Remember that you are unique, you are beautiful, you are lovable. Love yourself unconditionally, shower yourself with love for being you. See you will make mistakes but if you love yourself you will find the strength to say "It's okay, its human nature to be like this". The assurance from yourself will give you joy even when things go very wrong. You will be your own lover, friend and parent, glowing with inner warmth, helping people discover their own glow and helping them love themselves. This will give you the zeal to live, and even in darkest times, you will be grateful for your existence.
Love yourself the way you want people to love you and never once will you feel that life is not worth living.
Keep glowing,
Love,
Human,
Earth,
2019
P.S: The message of self-love is urgent. It might prevent someone from committing suicide, it helped me.
Edit: Had a good happy cry after reading all your comments. You are all nice, kind and beautiful people. You deserve your own generosity. Love you all.😘
Thank you so so much for this comment that you wrote. I really needed that, you made me cried reading this.
Thank you.
Thank you
Thank you for helping me not to harm myself and stay on this planet. ❤️🥺🙏🏾🙌🏾
Helped me before and seeing it again now is so encouraging.
I was thinking bout it.. thank u
Another way of overcoming negative self talk is to assume that all criticisms and insults are questions rather than statements. For example, change "you are useless" to "are you useless?". Because the usefulness of a person can only be determined by them self, then other people do not have the power to determine your worth, therefore it was always a question, and not a fact.
Sbeast thank u
Ah this is a nice idea :) thank you
Sbeast yes I find that identifying and questioning unhelpful thoughts is a very effective way to interrupt them. so often the thoughts that bring me down are not true. I have gotten better at stopping them from getting in the way using a very similar method to what you describe. it is slow and takes a lot of practice, but it's beginning to make a difference after many months.
Good tip. Thanks
Hey you. Thanks. (A real thanks)
I've noticed that when you lack sleep, it can get a bit more difficult to keep the inner voices under control (maybe? Or it's just me)
Just you
Weed will help with anxiety
Totally
It's the Arm e.
Lack of sleep, is like mild insanity
While it's interesting to think who's voice has been embedded in me, I think it's even more interesting to think who has MY voice inside their heads.
do you have children?
I like this .
True. We all need to be mindful of what we say to others
Now THAT‘S a truly terrifying thought...
Interesting question... but I have an answer to it for myself. Hope you find yours, Penguin.
"An inner voice was once an outer voice" - This line has changed my life. I first watched this video in 2016 while I was struggling with anxiety and insecurities. Upon watching this I was able to pinpoint exactly where my anxiety came from and was able to mentally detach myself from that. I started distracting myself from my anxiety with more productive habits and with the course of 3 months I was able to almost completely obliterate my insecurities and nearly all my anxiety both of which I had been struggling with for over 6 years. Thanks so much :)
I wish I could talk to you. I had a debacle in my studies in 2012. And it's now 2020 I still cry every night. I have tried committing things which I don't even wanna remember. But this detaching thing I have been trying since a few months watching Jordan Peterson videos. And now I find this and your comment. We share the same journey I feel. I wish I could talk to you.
Wherever you are... Know that you have inspired me! ❤
Wow! This is so encouraging, thanks for sharing your story❤️
Beautiful story! Happy to hear that.
You're comment was what I needed today, I'm now more motivated than ever!! We all will get through this as you did Congratulations 😊
This video finds me in a very hard time in my life, and I respect and thank you for it
Same had horrible night, still in bed in the afternoon, this video helped in some way of washing all that away.
+Kobi Tzarfati same
+Kobi Tzarfati I came here tosay the same. The video felt very close to home. I stopped watching it withing minutes, couldn't handle the emotions. I will watch it later when I am not this emotional.
+Kobi Tzarfati Life has a way of doing things like this, doesn't it ^^
+Kobi Tzarfati I don't know you Kobi Tzarfati, but I hope that everything turns out well for you, because you deserve a happy life in which you feel valued and contented with who you are and what you have.
This video made me realize that when I become a parent, I'll do anything in my powers to try and stress my kids as little as possible. Thank you for that
This will result in non-resilient, narcissistic children. Children need to learn to cope with stress and tackle difficulties in a healthy, encouraging way. Overprotection against stress will not do that for them. It will only teach them that everything will just come their way and once life hits them with unavoidable difficulties they won't know how to deal with them and will most likely resort to avoiding responsibility, blaming others, and possibly not taking feelings of and consequences for others into account.
Yo guys I said as little as possible. Being rough on the kids in just the right way is best. Every mature person knows that. Chill :D
I achieved it with my son. After a difficult and dysfunctional childhood I broke the chain and became the parent that I needed my parents to be. He is a very happy, stable, positive, successful, smart and caring individual. It can be done and it will make you proud.
@@annab8189 How old is him ?
Wait until they have to leave the house!
Porter Robinson fans will be rushing in soon.
Edit (4-26-21): This video was sampled by Porter Robinson in his track "Mirror", the sampled section in question is at 0:20 - 0:35.
We already here lol
Yup we are already here
Keep going, keep going, keep going, keep going
Why!? I wanna know! Haha
@@Sarafara7 Check out Porter's song "Mirror" - it uses samples from this video at the end and in general is themed around the idea of the inner voice.
The goal is clear: become that old dude on the bench who's chillin' in the chaos
@@zeviandavis6689 Everyone keeps mentioning that guy to me, I don't watch Avatar but I'm gonna have to watch a best of Uncle Iroh now.
@@leoisforevercool watch the whole show while you're at it, it's a good trip.
You, School of Life, are a good voice to have inside one's head.
Rum Ham no kidding :)
And the comments too.
Because guys have a right to hairy legs. I agree and shave daily!
I read this in the narrarators voice hahah
I feel like this channel is one of the most constructive and important channels on CZcams
Actualized.org is the most important for me followed by School of Life
I started "Why brains don't exist" on actualized.org. Stay away if you value rational thought. It is total woo woo for magical thinkers.
Dialogue with the Stars genuinely
Kurzgesag is as good
remember God loves you! and created you to do great things may it be well with u and may God be with u and us all in the mighty name of Jesus Amen! when I was down God brought me up to look up to Him for help! May we live for over a hundred years with long life, good health and prosperity to glorify the name of the Lord God in Jesus' mighty name Amen! remember u are loved! as God says: for I know the plans i have for you plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you plans to give you hope and a future, Thank God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
3:09 is where my tears start streaming down. I often push people away from me because my bad inner voice keep telling me that I have no one to hold on to. Believing that people only see my failures but that is not true at all. I do have real people that never gave up on me, no matter what. 😭💖 Im so happy it’s on my recommendation, thank youu 🥺
All the lines sampled by Porter Robinson:
0:21 - "Sometimes, the inner voice is encouraging, calling for you to run those final few yards, "You nearly there, keep going! Keep going!..""
0:32 - "...it will all be okay in the end."
2:21 - "They come to feel like things we are saying to ourselves."
4:45 - "Now, these voices have become our own..."
2:28 - "The best sort of inner voice speaks to us in a gentle, kind, and unhurried way..." -- Sampled in Porter's Secret Sky Set, Apr. 24, 2021
In Porter Robinson's Second Sky Festival 2022: Nurture Live, he added "and if it's not ok, then you are not done yet"
lol i thought i was the only one that noticed this xD
@@DaveEuson is that quote in this video?
@@DaveEuson "And if it isn't okay, then it isn't the end yet." and it is not in the video unfortunately
I used to draw and to paint. I made a self portrait impressionist style, at that time I was seeing someone. Then, it ended and that person told me that my painting was garbage that I didn't know how to paint and that person knew people that could paint a thousand times better than me. I got rid of the painting and my drawings. Every time that I tried to pick up the pencil all I could hear was that person's voice belittling my portrait. Then after years had passed, I saw an episode of Courage the Cowardly Dog titled "Perfect" and that fish's voice telling Courage that there is no such thing as "perfect" got me into drawing again, and every time I start to hear that person's voice the fish's voice drowns it. There is no such thing as "perfect."
oh, damn, sounds like i gotta watch that EP of Courage the Cowardly Dog...
(i have issues with perfectionism, it makes my ADHD life hell)
+marcy唯美 I have started drawing, then I feel like I have to stop because they don't look "perfect" but I continue to draw hearing that Fish's voice telling me that "there is no such thing as perfect." And my drawings have improved, watch that episode, practice makes perfect.
that is so cool. I have to watch that episode, maybe the fish will come to my aid as well haha. No, seriously, I completely understand what you mean. How it takes but one mean comment on a random day to hinder your belief system and fill you with crippling doubt. It's easy to say to "shake it off", but sometimes it cuts so deep that that is simply not possible. You're lucky you found a way out.
I was taught the same thing, except that other people will always be better, so that's why you should quit. It's taken me many years to overcome that voice. and sometimes it still gets the better of me.
Bacchanali remember that episode it a shame the show ended
Thanks mom for always being so negative around me, panic attacks and severe depression have ailed me since 4th grade
Don't worry, you're not alone. I feel that way too.
Same, my parents ruined me tbh but I am trying to be better.
I had my first panic attack in 2nd grade. I thought I was dying in the classroom. Didn’t know how to ask for help
My mom was a non caring person, she didnt give a damn
My mum did the same to me she shouldn't of had me, If you can't be a strong inspiration to your kids why have any. Selfish reasons probably just so I can run about after there selfish arses when there old
"All inner voices used to be outer voices" was like a lightning bolt in the darkness. A lot of things made sense in an instant.
2:28 Sad Machine (Nurture Live Edit) "The best sort of inner voice speaks to us in a gentle, kind and unhurried way. It should feel as if a sympathetic arm were being put around our shoulder, by someone who's lived long, and seen a great many sad things." speaking of someone who's lived a long time.. avanna! "The girl who's slept a hundred years" i find this so incredibly beautiful. its as if in porters struggle to differentiate from worlds, he found comfort in avanna. gosh T~T
I loved this line in the Sad Machine live edit! I was going to go to Nurture live in Seattle, but could not. But watching nurture live on CZcams still gives me an amazing feeling with that line
By watching this video i realised that my inner voice comes from my father, and that scares me a lot.
It should be the key to change, cut the strings.
And you can overcome them,you deserve so much better to live the life you suppose to live🤗
Me too, but my father voice in my head doesn't criticize me, it always tells me how good I am and how bad everything else are, told me to stopp caring and trying. The inner voice that always picks on me is my mother and my own. That sometimes make me wonder does his own voice in his head do the same thing to him.
i failed in something where i was admired bcs of my inner voice that was actually a voice of my father....now when i am awere how stupid it was and why i let myself to fail with doing nothing...i don’t know how to forgive myself, i really don’t know how to do that ...
SAME :( im literally just cried just now
My inner voice is asking why this artist has such an infatuation with leg hair.
+Sardonicous1 HAHAHA
same hahaha
It makes me uncomfortable 😨😥
lol maybe this artist loves cactus and wanted to show his love for them by putting them on a person. I show my love for German expressionism by creating a similar style in my videos when I animate certain things.
lmao, maybe because her inner voice is saying I like my natural legs but the media makes it out to be disgusting
So this was the voice clip in Porter Robinson's "Mirror", and it's quite a beautiful video.
Oeh, I didn't know he made a new song. Thanks!
FELLOW GIORNO FAN AND PORTER FAN?? WOO
Who is the narrator? She has such a calming and mature voice.
@byyzgk 47...asmr'ish...lol. Thanks.
Did you ever find out who it is?
Sad is when the voice of the mother is the most mean, angry, hateful, mad one.
How to replace that?
+Isabelle Layla hang around nice people who appreciate you and learn to accept yourself for all your strengths and weaknesses. Push yourself to achieve things you never thought you could and do something that will help to build your confidense.
Yeah thank you. I am mostly ok and happy, only when I make mistakes even silly ones like dropping something from my hand or knocking down something is when that hateful voice comes out laughing at me telling me that I'm stupid or idiot or worthless and so on. I had two maternal figures in my childhood, both were hateful, mad, bitter and angry, super criticizing and judgmental pretty much hating everybody and everything including themselves.
+Isabelle Layla I'm sorry to hear that sounds awful
Thank you, me too.
+Isabelle Layla i kinda share the same Situation as you... just hang on and try to be independent asap and grow distance to toxic members of your daily life routine. surround yourself with people who makes you feel save and who heals you from the damage caused by the bad.
I have managed to rid my criticizing, mean and negative self voices with a diligent self-love and compassionate new mindset, self-awareness and patience. I mean, life is hard enough! Why should I contribute to that hardship? We should all be our own best friends :)
Seek & you shall Find I am currently in that process of self exploring and putting more love in my life. For several years I have forgotten myself, and little by little negative voices came. Now I’m nearly all good :) the power of the mind is amazing, especially when it’s based on a positive and loving energy.
I know it's been a year but it woupd be nice if you can help me with this process......
Well said! Oh, I am critical on myself but it's productive to me. It's constructive criticism. Just wailing away on negatives is what's useless. I've had some overbearingly blunt coaches that were professionals at colorful criticism. Strange to say, I love blunt coaches like this. I don't trust those that are way too flattering. If it's constructive criticism, it can be helpful. My nastiest of red-ink spilling teachers were strangely my favorite ones too. I took their remarks with a grain of salt. You can always ignore their opinion.
This hit so hard right now i‘m crying at 4am in my bed. But also I just love that this channel is so well loved and watched. Isn‘t it beautiful that we all share these emotions? That we all aren‘t all perfect? In this world full of hate, reading the comments of all of you just restores my faith in us humans. Thank you all ❤️
I miss real human interaction, which is very hard for me, being isolated is the worst thing... and to be unable to find a way out. This channel and comments helps, but still ... people seems so far away from each other. Maybe its just me.
This sample from Porter: so good. Good video as well
*It will all be okay in the end*
So perfectly appropriate to my situation right now. The hardest part is overcoming that overwhelming belief that the words of said positive voice are nothing more than wishful thinking at best and a boldfaced lie at worst. How on earth did I end up so far down here? Thank you for this.
What a splendid movie.
Ah, you have come to the nuance of the issue and seen the "happiness trap" before you fell in. The positive voices are no more or less real than the negative ones. Neither are of greater or worse value. Whenever you have a negative thought temper it and think about it rationally before believing it, but crucially do the same with any positive thoughts. A fantastic book with many practical tools in this area is called "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. I've found it to be very useful.
The bad inner voices in my case, are all my own voice. I have no memories of people being specially rude or mean at me, but I always have bad inner voices.
+Rarity Sparkle in my case, i am still not sure if it is my own voice or other's.
+Rarity Sparkle but i really want it to be my own voices
Ammar Hafiz Why? 0:
Rarity Sparkle i seriously think that the voices are from other's and myself ofcourse
nop there must be always an outer influence
Mirror by Porter Robinson lead me here, and I really needed this with my struggle
My inner voice tells me "I'm a loser, I hate myself, I wish I was dead, I want to die, I hate life" it's not fun.
“SOMETIMES EVEN TO LIVE IS AN ACT OF COURAGE.” ― SENECA
Just hang in there and don't give up. Learn to be your own best friend.
💝
You aren't the only one. Since oneself is the worst enemy.
I feel you, I hope we can all make it through, which will be a great deal of an achievement.
It's simply a thought. doesnt make it true.
Whenever I'm stressed, I always have both positive and negative voices at the same time, arguing constantly about everything, to the point where I can't focus on anything or even talk without a reason. It's never just the negative one keeping me down, but the dissonance of constant self-conflict that makes me want to cry or escape a situation to wait until I calm down.
Funny, I usually have negative and positive thoughts at different moments, but not long ago the inner critic said something with his scolding voice, when a sharpe, even angrierr new voice, made him shut up !
I was quite surprised, like Wow ! who's that one ?
Same I thought I was going crazy. Turns out it’s normal and you just have to learn to quiet your mind. I do mindfulness meditation every now and again
i felt that this video was made solely for me. :")
+The School of Life This was probably your best video ever!
right
+nu mi Same :)
+The School of Life What a truly beautiful video
nu mi i felt so too
Achievement is not synonymous with love.
How am I 41 and this is news
This reminds me of the section of Harry Potter where you have to develop powerful positive thoughts to help fend off the dementors.
Brian Daley I'm pretty sure JK Rowling created the Dementors as a symbol for her struggle with depression so yeah similar I guess
Wow that’s a perceptive interpretation of the dementors! I will use that next time I’m besieged by my inner demons. Thanks 😊
I love that
Yes, you're right. A Patronus. (TQ JK Rowling)
oh man i'd be so doomed if i encountered Dementors lol, i can't think of powerful enough memories other than bad ones
What I noticed, for me, is that I immediately started characterizing my parents as the people who had no faith in themselves, therefore couldn't have faith in me. But I need to remember that it's my influence that will affect others, including my kids. It's important to realise how I affect others.
this was helpful :) the voices hinder studies as exams are coming closer and closer. I will try to smother them with the the encouraging voices .
+kaustubh Good luck with your exams. You'll do your best.
+Mikarukaja! dunno, it was helpful with the question "What's a synonym for suicide?"
Got my exams coming up too - people always think that at a young age you don't have a care in the world, but it's not as if these exams determine if you get a good job which will lead on to better jobs and pretty much change the entire course of your life. Way too much pressure.
Yes! We all need the encouraging voice in our head to lead us. I can only hope the videos I create encourage people to live a more fulfilling life :)
Porter...
Thank you for leading me here.
This made me cry. I heard so much of my own inner voices in this. "You screw everything up. Why can't you make a right decision for once? This is what you get when you're stupid."
Thank you, Mrs. Miltemore. Your voice cuts to this day.
I really needed to see this video. My voices get so bad that they end up playing every mistake I make in my head over and over again. They even tell me to hit myself. I've created a nervous tick where I hit myself in the head whenever I feel like an idiot for something I did in the past or if I made a stupid mistake. It's difficult, and sometimes even unbearable, but this video helps me. Thank you for offering your voice to me. I'll be sure to use it in those situations.
Doing mistakes and getting rejected is a good thing, because you can trace those ass holes who do that, I personally do "mistakes" on purpose to lure the predators into fake weaknesses.
Sorry bro. That sucks.
Please call a doctor immediately. I'm not a doctor but your symptoms sound quite serious
Also the art of forgiveness includes forgiveness of self. I'm not kidding get help NOW.
BasedLink I don't think I do. It's not like I actually have voices in my head. I guess you could say it's more like I'm my own bully.
The voices that have help me lately, are the voices of this channel.
I love this channel it's a big big reason for who I am today , It literally saved my life when everything went to shit and actively thought me how to be a decent human when no one else including my parents did .
This is fascinating. I've thought about the fact that my negative inner voice literally speaks the way my older sibling talks to me.
Thank you for confirming this. Time to get some distance and re-frame everything.
Me, too! After 50 years of dealing with an older sibling who always put me down, minimized anything I did right and refused to respect my boundaries, I was forced to cut off contact. It's been almost 10 years now and finally, I no longer hear his voice screaming negativity when things go wrong...or that I'm an imposter when things go well. Sadly, we haven't been in contact for almost a decade and I still miss the big brother I wish I had had, but I know I'm much stronger and mentally healthy than I ever could have been with him in my life (and his voice in my head). I hope you can salvage some kind of relationship with your sibling, Leo, but don't feel guilty if you cannot. You must do what is most healthy for yourself!
@@jmccoomber1659 Thank you, I wish you the best as well! Maybe one day our siblings will do some reflection and work on themselves so we can regain contact with them. Sending love your way. :)
Just in time, I really need this video. Got a crapton of insecurities right now and its destroying me.
Try REBT therapy
I have been using youtube since ages but your channel, hands down, is my favourite one. Such amazing uplifting content! you guys deserve way way more views and likes.
I agree! I recently just discovered this channel and I love it. It's awesome that people out their put so much positive energy in this world. I can only hope the videos I create do the same thing one day :)
Nice video. Reduce overthinking to relax the mind. Feed trash and trash will come out. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself with others, avoid storing bottled up emotions, reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils and within the nostrils for 10-15 minutes or more. You can sit on a chair or lay down anywhere, be as still as possible, eyes closed but no deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. Make it a lifetime habit to observe your breath before sleep, when travelling, when reading, at the workplace etc, if needed with eyes open. Best wishes--Counsellor.
So that is why it is so important to surround yourself with kind and gentle speaking people..
This should be taught in school... Thank you! This is very helpful!
"An inner voice always used to be an outer voice."
I honestly can't think of a single person who said any of the things my inner voices have said.
No one has ever said "you're ugly" or "you're pathetic" or "you can't do anything right" to me. At least, not to my face.
Same here, but I think we might have perceived others to think about us that way when we were younger, solely through their actions, so that it became a core belief nonetheless.
For example, I was very shy and insecure in school, so I never managed to find a girlfriend while others had it very easy to find one. That experience probably taught me that I'm ugly and inadequate and whatever, and shrank my self worth even more so that I had even less of a chance.
But it was probably not the reason why I didn't succeed...
Sometimes it is from mood disorders, like depression and anxiety, but sometimes, the bad voices are just based on feeling like the opposite of what is expected of you from society.
Sometimes seeing other people succeed based off of the things you've been told successful people do, or sometimes not being grounded in yourself, and making constant comparisons might cause you to internalize messages that are harmful to you.
The inner voice repeats what it feels outer voices meant and amplifies them.
littleblueclovers communication is a lot more then just words lol.
maybe it could be from what other people say to each other and you just compare yourself to those people
I promise to not become the people who were the harsh punitive outer voices that haunted me in the most critical years of my life.
"The best sort of inner voice speaks to us in a gentle, kind and unhurried way. It should feel as if a sympathetic arm were been put around our shoulder by someone who had lived long and seen a great many sad things, but wasn't enbittered of panicked by them."
So the inside voices come from outside. So all I need is someone to be positive/ loving to me? If that's the case I'm royally fucked.
The "voices" can be silenced. Used to had them. They've mostly gone now.
Actually, they can be silenced, but you should not try to do it consciously. You should not try to focus on negative thoughts and try to silence them. Instead, you should accept them as a part of your own inner self, and try to train them, to actually invoke them so at the end you will become numb to them. See ERP therapy and/or wiki on OCD for more info. The best way is, though, to see a therapist on your own and talk to him/her.
It helped me a lot to overcome instant raging thoughts... they are still there, but I can cope with them little bit more rationally then before. :)
I hear voices in my head and they are saying Fuck Chump ooops I mean Trump and the system is rigged against all of us.
First and easiest step in such a process: Look at who you know and if those people are the same people as the voices inside you, and check if anyone else you know also is bad for you.
Family are very often the bad voices inside, and they tend to still have contact with us beyond our inside voices.
Is being Royally Fucked a good or bad thing? I get it may be a subjective answer.
Along with "Why we hate cheap things", the one on being anxious, "In praise of the quiet life" and (last not least) the one rehabilitating "wisdom" are absolute keepers and should be pondered and listened to several times. This one is in that league. Many others are good but these are really excellent and essential (_I_ think).
I might not be the best, but I am the best I have
Franky Lee YES
Well said good one ♡
wow! I love it! it’s true 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
5:15 “Nothing of me is original. I am the combined effort of everyone I've ever known.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters
In hundred years videos of this kind may very well be placed in museums under " early 21. century art".
I was just thinking about that!
+Nidhi Ramakrishnan sure u was liar
vule92994 actually that will be memes
This...hit home harder than I was expecting. I'm finally coming to terms with myself and my attributes, and this is an important step for me to overcome to put myself back on track.
I can only sincerely thank the producers of this, you are truly amazing people.
I am going to listen to this everyday. Thank you, The School of Life!!
Sometimes, the inner voice is encouraging calling for you to run those final few yards. You’re nearly there - keep going keep going keep going keep going. It will all be okay in the end.
I really enjoy this woman's voice. It's so peaceful and loving. It's like a warm blanket to my cold thoughts. Thank you "The school of life".
The fact that this video is relatable to almost all of us goes to show how similar we are to each other. Yet, we keep dividing ourselves with gender, the color of our skin, race and what not.
+Nomad K We are the same but still unique. Not everyone wants friends, regardless of gender, the color of our skin, race and what not.
***** Thanks :)
I agree with you so much! We all go through so much. We all feel pain. We are all so similar yet for some reason the mind/ego separates us apart. I try to create positive animations to inspire people. Hopefully one day we do all get a long alot better :)
Beautiful narration of a timely narrative. And I LOVE the artwork; the hairy legs were just perfect 👌🏽 particularly in an era when regardless of gender, people are being shamed for having body hair! Like it’s the worse possible character flaw. The hairy legs really underscore the meanings of the story. Thank you 🙏
I remember watching this video years ago and being so impressed. Thank you School of Life
So within your head is the voice of every person you've ever know.
"quantum entanglement"
"Collective Unconscious" and Carl Jung
Adam Sanchez all's our brain does is store information, billions and trillions of terabytes stored in our DNA apparently. however most things are stored subconsciously which is like putting everything in a safe and forgetting the password. decipher your dreams to understand your subconscious... that's my opinion ,take it or leave it 😏😛
no bs I need a dream decoding video now.
"known"
ONE OF THE BEST VIDEOS OF ALL TIME
I agree! I love this video so much. School of Life has inspired me so much to create videos
+robertjames12 I'm really happy for you, but let me finish. But Beyonce has one of the best videos of AWL da timez!
+robertjames12 I agree. This one I could watch multiple times. I gets right to the nub.
What a sparkling gem of wisdom!
My inner voices are exhausting and debilitating. Glad I saw this video. Hope it sticks with me.
It's so easy to say such things, to offer assistance and compassion. You say it very nonchalant,
"We humbly offer this voice, as one of the more helpful ones we might take on board".
But it hits deep when you think about it. Whenever I'm in trouble, I can think of this stranger in CZcams, telling me tips on how to be better to myself.
Although it might seem like such things wouldn't carry much meaning with them, the fact that someone is willing to just give out empathy, and love in this place fills me with warmth.
For someone like me, who can be unbearably rough on myself, is beyond words.
Thank you, dear voice.
Thank you... I'm in tears... This made me accept myself(though not fully), and made me so comfortable and reduce the depression and anxiety I have... Thank you again...
this video was lovely and all but i dont know why im crying now
I cry after watching these videos sometimes too. Its ok :)
Same😢
You're a good person, that's why!
I wish I could cry over these videos. :(
you're grandma glasses and you😍😍😍
I cannot possibly comprehend how someone can dislike such videos...
Thank you for another marvellous post. 🙌🏼😌😊
The School of Life is one of my helpful voices! Thank you for making these videos, I can not begin to express how much they help me think critically about myself and others. Much love from Tennessee, USA!
I think one of the main causes is social media. if you try and cut back on it I'm sure it would help deeply.
Dave Smith personally I agree back when I was younger and didn't have it I was fine
Social Media is a cancer... Since I deactivated my Facebook profile, my overall mood has been more balanced. It's an experiment I thought would be the case for me. I'm very soon about to delete Facecrack completely.
@@cevisuals do it asap your real life awaits. I left facebook about 4 years ago. Never looked back. Im still stuck on instagram. Instagram has gotten worse as well. Very unhealthy and addicting.
I mean, I agree to an extent but I've hated myself my whole life, long before social media lol
@@MA-rn2xp you do know FB owns IG right?
This is hands down the best channel on youtube. I feel as if the people who create these videos actually care about our mental and physical well being as well as our knowledge and continued learning.
+The School of Life thank you this helped me so much, I've been depressed for a very long time and didn't know what to do now I do know
The best way i think I’ve said this in the past to make it clear is “the second we realize that people do what they do bc they hate themselves, is the second we will love ourselves and have compassion for others”. I came to this insight after a very hard 6 months search into psychology, philosophy, physics, religion and myself, combined with the 37 yrs of my life experience
Wow
Keep going, keep going, keep going, keep going,
*It will all be OK in the end*
I'd like to hear what you have to say about the larger system of the world and where it is going. I am dying inside everyday as I continue this worthless existence, excuse my drama, I've been thinking about poverty, politics and economy again.
You have to die as a child to become an adult, and one of the ways I have died is realising that good ideas and ideals are not enough to change the world, you need money, (even to run for offices!).
I start to feel like I understand Nietzsche and Nihilisim a bit, perhaps total annihilation is the best solution if it means that true justice will finally come about on this fucked earth. Why does thinking, knowledge, illumination make me so sad?? Why am I ranting now to people I have never met?? Why bother when I'll be relaxed and forgetful again soon?? I'll be spouting philosophical rhetoric to my walls again soon.
I'm so glad I found this channel, thank you for being you, can't talk to my parents, have no real friends currently and am pretty much nearly a wreck. But watching your videos, learning a bit more about philosophy is helping me a lot.
I feel much the same way. the difference being I find grace in the knowledge that God loves me, and eveyone else the same. Humanity is unified under the Creator's love. Also, I find solace in the comforts of daily visits back to childhood. This "s" is a symbol of HOPE, one that unites us, and tells us we can acomplish great things!
***** I've thought about that, and that is actually the natural conclusion, to just adapt as lazily as possible, do what everyone else is doing. But I can't stand to think about what part of myself I would have to give up to become that person who would be so rich, would that still be the same person who wishes to see change? I look at my father and say no. There's no middle ground, you have to choose your path in life, I think I've just about found mine, even though I might have to worry about my families financial health in the meantime, I think for myself, I want to become the change I want to see.
***** Word.
Try thinking of your life not as a thing a single individual has and experiences, but as a tool that you have to wield to make the world better for everyone. Put yourself in the larger context of human history and see the enormous time span over which societal changes occur: decades, centuries, and millenia. Don't think "my life is shitty now ND everything sucks" but think "I have the power the make positive changes in the world, but likely my actions will be a small force in a larger scale dynamic moving human civilization toward greater equity and peace that I won't enjoy in my lifetime but future generations will benefit from."
Nihilism isn't the answer, it's just defeatist and there are ways to effect change in society through activism, politics and business but you can't get discouraged when success seems so far out of your lifetimes. Fight for those generations to come and hopefully you'll find a drive and purpose that gives meaning for your life beyond just your own life. Hope you feel better, man.
Ryan Lacroix Thanks a lot man, that was really well said, and encouraging. You're right, keeping a level head is important, it's an uphill battle, but yes as part of a larger force, change will come.
I am amazed that so many other people have this brutal tendency like I do. For a long time I was aware of the voice and not being able to change it. What's helped me a bit is trying to internalize positive things more in general, since I readily absorb negative things. I have some great people in my life so I WRITE DOWN encouraging things they say and positive affirmations in general. I write them, and reread them, and try to internalize them. They're collected on little slips of paper in a box in my house though I'm sure a portable notebook would work fine as well.
The CBT method of recognizing the recurring negative thoughts of the voice, discrediting it, and trying something else (what would you say to a friend?) can be helpful. I put it in practice by writing the common negative thoughts down notecards and turning them over. I time myself and try to quickly flip it and write something more positive/constructive on the other side, drill-style. I guess for me I have to physically put it into practice. But they say of course neurons that fire together wire together, so putting it with something I enjoy (writing) has been helpful. Good luck to everyone else who's dealing with this issue.
I just made a video on this topic....maybe you'd be interested in seeing it?
rkgk1517 Thank you do much for the tips sir!
rkgk1517 A great idea! Thanks!
Thank you so much for making these. It's slowly brought me back from the edge. Thank you.
Thank you so much School of Life. Looking back a few months, this video literally changed my life I’m forever in your debt.
This....this video made me cry.
Well done.
It's the Arm e.
I was raised by quite nervous and stressed parents hovering around all the time making sure I never got hurt. They were doing their best, I'm sure but is has left me with quite little faith in myself. Having understood all these reasons recently and trying not to be so hard on myself, this video was so fantastic new point of view, thank you so much School of life:)
"Sometimes, the inner voice is encouraging. Calling for you to run those final few yards. You're nearly there. Keep going (keep going). It will all be ok in the end."
"Its not the voice of all the others, you've only said it to yourself. I dont know what you want from me."
What a way for porter to express his inner thoughts. Nurture told a really good story about learning how to overcome self doubt and explaining the self harming thoughts that go through the mind while also being an insanely good album production-wise.
So many truths in this video, getting into the positive mindset and staying there can be difficult when the voice of negativity arrives, telling you bad things will happen, fear can hold you back from doing things, most of the time those fears are unfounded though they come in and they stay there, you feel relief when you get through and see that nothing bad happened.
This made me cry because of the realisation of how I'm now able to help myself and others better with this information. I can't express my gratitude.. THANK YOU SO MUCH 💗💗💗💗
School of Life, you are one of my best inner voices.
This made me tear up a little. I've searched for approval and love within others that I forgot to find it within myself. It makes me wanna cry
This is so healing for me.. I have always wondered where these inner critics come from.. Thanks for this informative video
Can't thank you enough. This is a problem that has plagued me for years. Sometimes it's overwhelming and ends up exhausting me.
Did anyone else cry a little?
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Me:(
was about to
I'm so glad to know I'm not alone. My mind is almost never quiet and I've become aware of the voice and its really really helpful to realise that it's "just intrusive thoughts" or "not the real me. Don't listen." And that helps a lot.
I feel I just had a therapy session through my childhood’s trauma and how my parents had no faith in themselves. They worried so much about me that those voices became my own and clouded my own capabilities. This just exacerbated my anxiety so I can move forward.
Anxiety and depression which is induced by judgement and chronic loneliness is the worst scenario any human would want to escape. Hopefully the society will realise and help their fellow beings.
It's overwhelming sometimes how personal these messages feel.
Thank you School Of Life, Your videos helped me a lot during my worst times and they still do help me understand more and more about the psychology of life...
Thank you very much for this amazing video! Truly wonderful advice, very valuable to everyone on the planet.
I feel really happy and reassured seeing your content being spread and getting ever more popular around the globe, because I deeply care for people‘s inner sanity and personal growth.
You give a very rich basis to that, good job.
And I like your voice, really calm and collected, ideal for topics like these.
Can't thank the School of Life enough for being one of my better inner voices :)
+The School of Life Can you make a video on depression thanks. ☺
This video made me very emotional
You are not fooling anyone.
+SwordSkill2 amaterasu
Made me tear up that's for sure
I'd needed these videos 40 years ago... BUT it's never too late. Thanks so much!!!
So beautiful, the animation is so good, I have seen and listened this for many many times and am preparing to record it. You put so much work in it. Thanks a lot.