I'm The Mom Of An Addict ~ The Feeling Of Isolation
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- čas přidán 6. 05. 2024
- When you're a parent of an addict the feeling of being isolated is a real thing. But why?! Why do we feel like we can't talk about it?! We're dealing with a lot of trauma stemming from our child's addiction and society has made it to where we're not supposed to talk about it due to the fear of being retaliated against by some that don't even have a clue what goes on in the day to day life of an addict's parents. The fear, the hurt, the anger, the sadness, the loneliness, all the emotions that we go through every day can be overwhelming and stressful. Then add the negativity from people that have never lived in this hell and, well, it can make life even more painful. None of us should EVER feel isolated or lonely in this! This is a HUGE epidemic around the world and there are more of us than I could've ever imagined!! There is strength in numbers! We just have to come together and be a community of strength, love and support and it's beyond time we do just that.
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Hi, I'm Missy! I'm a wife, mom and Nanny to my favorite people in the world, and this is our story of how we're raising our 6-year-old grandson on our 2-acre homestead in a tiny blip on the map in East Tennessee. We're homeschooling, gardening, cooking up a storm and canning/freezing everything I can get my hands on to fill my prepper pantries and freezers and bringing y'all with us for the adventure!
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I have three out of five sons that are addicts one I'm not sure where he's at somewhere on the street and one in prison and one's about to be on the street very hard I just keep praying for them
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all that 💜 I'm here if you need a friend 🧡
I'm really sorry. 🌻
That is sad to hear.
You are so right. I was up all hours, arguing outloud "with" my addict daughter in my home while she was out getting high. Crying to her dad who is passed away to help me. Holding on to a piece of paper from the dr's office that showed she was "not pregnant" and praying on it obsessively that she wouldn't bring an innocent baby into the situation. I was losing my mind. And there was *nobody* to talk to without having them judge me or use it as gossip.
Omg I’m so sorry. I can fully relate.
I am a Christian and at 61 the mother of a 32 year old addict, have not seen him in 4 years, jail, rehab, stolen from, lied to, totaled 2 cars with me as a cosigner... one was a head on collision with a child and mother, never wanted to get with family starting at 16...on and on and on but once we found out he was a meth, heroin addict everything made sense. Last car reck 9 years ago toxicology report came back we read it, we read the police report, talked to his friends "also finding out they were addicts" THEEEEN everything made sense. Once we found I did everything wrong EVERYTHING. I finally gave it over to God the silence is terrible, he had a great fun big family but now the zero contact has been the best thing to have happened but why? God almighty had to scoot me out of the way so he could do a great work in him. Thanks to face book sometimes I can see if he's still alive somewhere. I've worked in a mortuary and I am braced to one day walk threw the doors of a morgue or whatever but I'm also braced for a complete turnaround. I know Satin hates the family unit and I know he hates me and why not use my own kids to demolish me along with them... but It has brought me closer to God, in this whole dope journey I thought I trusted God but I had no idea how much I did NOT. I finally get what it means to "trust God" it is extremely liberating but to be honest I hate the whispers from others and quote "for a Christian you sure have a lot of problems" oh how that stings...This comes from those who have nothing to do with God and I kid you not they are close to perfect it every way including all their kids. I was so humiliated and so ashamed for so long now I could less. As for my daughter well that's another dark road but all I can say is these kids know they chose this and how loved they are and always will be. Lastly I am not much of a Joyce Meyer fan who is a very well known Christian teacher and author who survived being raped from the crib by her real biological father while her mother knew and did nothing for all her years growing up in a true house of horrors is so encouraging ( beauty for ashes ) telling of how God can take the most horrible situation and work it for good...and tells all loud and clear stop being the victim... my son is one big manipulating victim and now I am no longer a witness to it and he knows I wont fall for his tricks "the gig is up" God knew before he was born this would happen so now what? Pray, watch for a breakthrough, forgive myself beats me but this is a monster and I only have my husband I mean it I have no one else...that's OK I'm use to it. Thank God my husband has his family but they are far away so praise God he is in control...and on the thrown soon to come back. Melissa
I type with tears in my eyes.. I am a mom of a addict...I understand the Isolation loneliness anger fear...you have come the closet to anyone understanding.. I so understand the glimpse... Then he gone..even when doing well you can't exhale...you hope pray and wait..I am so sorry...all I can offer from my keyboard is I understand your heard and not alone.
I prayed someone would understand the glimpse part and that it wasn't just me that experienced that. I'm always here for you, Mama! You're not alone either 💜💜💜
We isolate because most people don’t understand the disease of addiction. People have told me to just tell my daughter to stop. No one wanted to stop more than she did. Like you my husband and I were raising her young son. Fortunately, she is currently sober and living with us. My PTSD is so bad because of the trauma we went through with her. My daughter has had mental health issues since she was little. When she found alcohol and drugs she self medicated. We will never give up on our daughter no matter what anyone else thinks. I’ve found most medical doctors don’t even understand addiction.
I totally agree with everything you said!!!
That's very true. Most, if not all, of us have felt that feeling of being the only one dealing with this issue and that there's not another person in this world that understands what we're going through. That's what's frustrating for me. There are thousands, if not millions, of us that are dealing with our child's addiction and we need each other 💜
I’m here for y’all always
If you don't think that Joe catches hell for Hunter than you are not paying attention. Look at what the Republican house of a representatives is doing to Hunter because he is an addict. All Joe and his family has done is try and love their child - warts and all. Same for parents of the lgbtq+ community. These people fear for their lives right now. Addiction is a disease and affects who it does - it doesn't discriminate. My spouse is an alcoholic from family riddled with addicts of all kinds - all are in denial though. My husband has cirrhosis and his family still doesn't not understand why I am furious that #1: he still drinks and #2: they offer him drinks when he is with them...what the hell! I have so many friends with grown children who are addicts. It is truly a family disease. I have 10 grandchildren and and ai worry that one or more of them may carry this addiction gene and the normal things that teenagers and young adults commonly do may ruin their entire lives.
My heart goes out to your family....addiction changes lives and it is never for the better. ❤ what I have come to understand is that most if not all addicts have some issue in their life that they are trying to escape from. Bipolar disease is one along with many other mental health issues...so we as a country need to prioritize mental health and addiction help for all who need it.
It’s very powerful to hear from you…keep sharing. Those of us dealing with addicted adult children need to share our stories..otherwise the isolation, shame, fear, chaos, etc. can be so debilitating that they affect everything mental and physical in our lives. I too hate my drug addict daughter…my real daughter was loving, kind, funny and my best friend. For now, she’s gone. And I miss her, but not enough to have a relationship with the addict. My firm boundaries are in place, as I raise my granddaughter.
How about AlAnon? Friends who drop you weren't friends at all. God bless.
Hi hun I don’t comment much but watch u every day, I’m a mom of an addict , my son lost his life 7 years ago from this, my son was a mechanical engineer with a 6 figure Jon , 4 beautiful children and a wife that is a model making big money! It shows everyone it can happen to anyone , I was there the first time my son died ,he was a body builder so the way he layer that hat to cut both arms and legs open to keep him from loosing them , he woke up and said i ruined his life , he came home with pain meds and o overdose again then last time he did he died!! I know it’s hard but just keep being there as if it’s his last day cause it could’ve. We may not understand what makes them do what they do but we can still love them pray for them and do what we can do to help them. I cry every day for my son. I truly pray u don’t have to go through what I did, but in saying this if u need to ever talk or cry or just blow off steam I’m here u can always email me your number and I will always be there for u that’s a promise , much much love and healing going your way from my heart to your , from a broken momma
I'm so sorry, Mama! My heart breaks for you. I'm always here for you too ❤️
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Hello I totally understand what you are going through. My son is sober now but, was doing drugs for 30 years. He is not well now because of his addictions, but he lives with me now. I been through the nights of not knowing where he was, or if he was even alive. It is a very hard, and sad life. God got me thru and he is there for you. God bless and I will keep you and your son in my prayers.
Mental Illness in an adult child is the same. Feelings of isolation, loneliness, loss of friends. A support group is very helpful.
I'm familiar with this situation. It's no fun.
It is most necessary if YOU want to recover. You have no control over whether or not they do.
My heart breaks for you and the other family members of addicts. It isn't the parents fault. When we become adults we are responsible for our choices.....all of us. I haven't gone through this as a mom. As a Pastor's wife, I have seen families drastically hurt by their adult kids. I don't judge parents. I just encourage plarents not to enable their adult kids who are addicts. Tough love does help many. As a mom, i can't imagine giving up on my children. I am so sorry for the hurt you received. ❤
I understand. I have been dealing with addiction for 25 years now, my oldest step son and my oldest daughter. What helped me the most was turning to educational materials, either from the internet, book stores, and psychologists. It helped me help myself in understanding what they are going through, went through. It is a lonely time and I won't lie about that. I started having anxiety attacks, which I thought was high blood pressure. I got help for myself so that I could become stronger to deal with my kids addictions. I love how you are talking about it, that is self therapy! Keep it up girlfriend! We are here for you, to listen, lean on, gather advice, whatever you need, just ask.
I feel like I need to do this. I feel like there's a ton of other Mama's out there that are losing themselves, have a ton of questions and are wondering if there's anybody else in this world who feels like they do.
My son is 37 years and he been a attic since he was 20 years old put my trust in Jehovah God
My child has been an addict for 20 years now. I have been through this basically alone, having been divorced for many years. Everything you've said I've been through. I didn't let her live with me and basically she never asked to. I've been raising my grandchild for almost 14 years. Whenever my daughter was arrested, it was the only time I felt relief. Rehab, detoxing multiple times, jail only to relapse over and over. Now she's been in prison, July will be a year and she says it was the best thing to have happened to her. She will most likely be out in a few months. I'm praying this is going to be positive. For once I actually have real hope. Just know that there isn't anything you can do to make your son decide to stop, it can pnly come from him.
Hey sister.
So glad can vent and release your situation to us. Please keep us updated on his progress.
We as you tubers are here whenever you need us. Please don’t let the non understanding viewers get to you.
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Addicts suffer enough. Why make the parents of addicts suffer?
Sista you and on point. I have 4 sons all reared the same household same mom same dad for all 4. I've been married to my husband Thierry father for 44 years. And I have zero friends left. And I'm still on my knees praying for The One That Got Away to the addiction of drugs. I get so tired of people telling me just cut him off how do you cut off someone you loved and carried and birth into this world.? We hate the addiction and what it has caused our children and how it hurt them and us.I here for you too.
Hugs to you, sweet Mama 💜💜💜
Alanon. There is support, and a lot of tools there.
This 59yr old lady from Arkansas has walked in you shoes with my oldest son 14yrs now!!!! Much love and many 🙏🏻 for you gurl😘😘
Hugs and love for you ❤️
Addiction destroys everything and everyone in its path. It's a family disease. I lived and loved an addict for thirty plus years. He finally passed away. Find a support group like Alanon. It takes time but it helped me.
My heart is with you.
I'm Here Missy, walking the line with you, raising my grandkids. Hold the line sweetheart, and have no regrets. I don't regret on thing I did to pull my daughter out of addition. It was not going to have her, I wasn't going to let it. I have won.... so far. God give us the strength to raise these babies and keep them on a straight path. Keep pushing him, it will happen!
I know exactly what you are going through. I am living this cycle. Take Care of you!
Don't b ashamed....many many families have this in common
I just discovered your channel. My daughter is an addict. I am raising my 2 granddaughters. 14 years for me also. The isolation is real. Even your real friends cannot relate.
Bless your heart ❤️
It’s EVERYWHERE MY FRIEND MY ❤️ hurts daily as yours does!!!
Sad but true 😞
My daughter passed at 28 from an overdose. We dealt with her and her issues for 14 long years.
Sadly it seems drugs are “ok” in this society. So many communities are looking the other way and even passing out free drugs on the streets. I don’t understand it at all. Continued prayers for you all, especially for your son.
I truly feel blessed to have found you and this community. ❤
I feel the same about you 💜
I totally get this, the isolation is crippling, so sorry, been there for too long, wish I had had someone to confide in. Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
My email is in the description box and it's always open! I'm always here for anyone that wants to reach out, even if it's just to chat about our days 💜
Arkansas girl meant many prayers honey!! The isolation for us is awful🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing . I can totally understand everything you are saying.. My life for the last seven years has been like that . Waiting for the knock on the door, the phone calls, messages. Driving around looking for my son, day and night. Hospital visits every weekend.. Nobody knows how you feel until they experience it themselves. Im not sure how or why I've come across your videos, but boy, im glad i have. Thanks for your time, as i know it's so hard at times to function when everything is going so wrong. Sending prayers to you all 😇
I'm so glad we found each other, too! 💜💜
Oh my friend I’m so there with you. Haven’t seen my grandchild since October of 23. He just celebrated his 8th birthday and I couldn’t go. I’m not invited because of the anger at me because I tell them what they do isn’t right. Drugs and alcohol. I’ve cried so hard this week that my eyes are swollen shut. Been going thru this for over 20 years. I’m getting old now. Some mornings I don’t even want to get up or wake up. But God says my purpose isn’t done yet. I just sometimes don’t even think I have one. But you are not alone. We are here. We are warriors. We put on that armor every day and we fight that battle every day. To all my brothers and sisters in this battle I send all of you my love. And my prayers. 💕🫶
I've shed many tears since Thursday of last week. He needs to go back to jail!
Hi. I am so grateful to have your video come up today and to hear your words. Today was another "bad" day. My son, 34, has been a very bad addict and has been for 18 years. I am a single mom. My little boy, so beautiful, is now a monster. A Jekyll and Hyde. And everything you have said, everything, is the God's honest truth. When you said, "Its not your fault" the tears began. I am dying inside and heartbroken, and, well, just broken. Thank you and God Bless you. I'll be back and back.
Hugs, Mama! I'm here any time you need me ❤️
Thanks for allowing us to listen to your story, though its hard as a mom I can pray that The Lord be your strength n refuge , a present help in times of trouble.Do not despair but persevere .Iam a mom in Capetown , South Africa praying
Missy I'm always gonna be here for you no matter what you're going through
And I for you ❤️
@@FromtheHoller I had a cusion that was a addict and it wasn't pretty
I am going thru the same thing with a family member. No one understands the pain unless they have been there.pray without ceasing.
Amen! 💜💜
I got that call. My daughter overdosed and did March 17 of this years. She had been clean 12 months.
I'm so so sorry, Mama! I can't even begin to imagine 💔 😪
I am so sorry for your loss ❤️🌷
I dealt with my son for 20 years. All the pain of watching all this . I just prayed and prayed. I isolated. But my lord Jesus christ was with me all the way. We could be such good friends. Having friends helps so well but only if they were through the same thing. They don't understand. How many times I had wished I had someone to talk to. If you need a friend I'm here for you. Prayers for you and your son . Don't give up.❤
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I wish I could reach through this screen and give you a big hug! I know how isolation feels. I pray, all the time, that God will put a road block on my son's path to destruction. He has been on a free for all since he and his wife split up, two years ago.
Hi my heart goes out to you never give up on god he has been my refuge I’m proud of you for speaking to us I will lisen 😢❤
just remember God cares. he is there. he will listen.
I'm so sorry, I hope you are in a support group.
bless you i have been in your shoes and sadly I lost my 34 year old son who was my baby in 2022 you are in my prayers
And you're in mine 💜💜💜
Thanks Missy- this is so needed for some of us!
It really is 💜💜
Your absolutely right they do judge and think somehow your to blame as the parent for your child's drug usage OR you not handling it the right way
I've even got that recently over taking care of my grandson.
It's just crazy to me
You're so right it don't matter how we raise them. Addiction has no remorse on who it is. It makes us feel like we're grieving missing our sons and whom we know they are underneath the addict. I love my son very much but I had to make the decision to let him go because I couldn't put myself through that anymore meaning opening my home up to him I can't do that anymore and won't the lies I can handle and the betrayal but I will not live with him ever again. A lot of people don't understand when we gotta walk away and let them make that decision he's been an addict for about 12 yrs estimated time. He's been in tons of rehabs had custody of his 3 boys before but lost them when he overdosed in front of them. Please reach out to me no judgement here. Only love and understanding ❤❤ he has overdosed 13 times and when I witnessed it one time it turned my mental health upside down. I keep telling God is keeping you alive not so much all the Narcan he has a purpose in your life
I totally understand all of that. Sounds like we've been down the same road. 💜
@@FromtheHoller yes I think we have been down the same road and I strongly believe God puts people in our paths for a reason. ❤️❤️
We raised three grandkids for 4 years their mom got on her feet and got them back my son never did he's the one that is on the street
Thank you for saying what needs to be said. ❤😊
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My heart goes out to you. You’re in a tough spot being the parent of an addict. At the end of the day he’s your son and you you’re doing the best you can with the cards you’ve been dealt. You’re a good mother. Keep doing what you’re doing. Im sure that your love and support make all the difference to him.
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Thank you for your touching video. ❤ We are not alone.
No we're not 💜
Well when you go anywhere all people talk about their children grandchildren etc. It is all very painful and the addiction drama gets very old to others not going through it and i feel people dont want to hear it or blame us as the parents for what is happening. I have two kids. One has passed from a drug overdose, one is in prison due to alcoholism. Each leaving 2 kids behind for the grandparents to raise. And the personal guilt is horrendous. We dont have a social life anymore. The shame is great.
Thank you for being there, my son is an addict and I understand everything you said and how you feel. My son makes me feel like I am the reason he uses. But I know I am not. My siblings have not been supportive throughout this, to the point we don’t speak. Thanks for this channel. Love to all of us going through this.
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I see your pain, I feel your pain but please try not to let it consume you, easier said than done, I know. Your health and life matters to you, your family and the grandson you're raising. I know it's hard to do, from my experience all of that anguish, daily worrying never changed a thing.
I'm so glad I found you.
Everything you feel I feel hon. My son passed away 14 yrs ago and it still hurts.
My son had a heart of gold, he was in and out of rehabs but he could never beat the addiction.Im glad for u my new friend
So interesting to hear your really valid points on how the ripple effects impact the whole family, affecting all the wider family dynamics.
It's a sad truth 💜
It's terrible - if you had cancer, there would be friends offering to help (for the most part) and people being supportive and calling after you. The disease of addiction is completely different and I liken it to what I went through as the caregiver for someone with dementia, but worse. Friends fell away, nobody understands how pervasive the disease is and how it affects EVERYTHING and EVERYONE. It really does show you who is a real friend and who isn't.
I truly believe, if your caregiving of your family allows, Al Anon would be a support for you, or if NA has a branch for those affected by the addict.
Exactly 💯
I think it's because addiction is a choice more or less. Cancer and dementia are not a choice. Even if the mind makes them use, it's possible to attempt to control it. Not that it's right but it's understandable that uneducated people might feel that way.
@@notcountingsheep3361It’s a choice to begin with. Then when they become addicted they need to use to avoid the withdrawal. Good people make bad choices. It doesn’t make them bad. It makes them human. Some folk see things in black or white. As I’ve got older and wiser I see there’s lots of shades of grey. My heart goes out to any parent going through this. Lots of love sent. 💙💙💙💙
Thank you I needed this
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Keep being strong and enjoy your grandson. Prayers for peace.
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I TOTALLY KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. IT'S BEEN A CRAZY RIDE IN THIS LIFE. I HOPE THAT MEANS WE'LL HAVE PEACE IN THE NEXT LIFE.
Missy, you are so right on the good parent/ crappy parent thing. You are a good momma, and I applaud you for raising Aiden and loving your son. Im so sorry you and Aiden had to see the relapse that day. You did what you had to do that day. I continue prayers for yall. You are not alone, I am standing in your corner praying to the Father for you!!❤❤❤
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You are an amazing Mom. Many years ago my then 16 year old son told me he had a drug problem and needed help. I thank God that he came through it pretty easily, and has been clean for 19 years now, however, I understand what you are going through. God bless you
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Tyfs❤ appreciate you ❤
I also agree most people do not care about the situation. It is just gossip fodder.
My ex husband is an alcoholic so I understand to an extent. I have been a member of Alanon for years and sponsor so many. Isolation is a big thing and the anger too. They call addiction the ghost disease because the person in front of us is not who we know- they are a ghost - a whisper of who they were. We as family members become addicted to the ups and downs of the addict. I have taught my sons that we love their dad but we can have boundaries and understand that the only change will come from him. There is hope - my fiancée had 37 years of continuous sobriety through the rooms of AA - still does 3 meetings a week and sponsors others.⬇️
You are a sweet woman and of course you love your son! It’s a very difficult road for you. Just know there are those of us the stand with you and fully understand. We can’t change or love and addict out of it. We can let go with love and boundaries.
I know exactly how you feel!!!!! I had all those feelings! My husband & I aged alot!!!!!!
This just breaks my heart. I have never walked in your shoes and it would be easy for others to say what they think you should do but they do not know what they would do if their child was struggling with addiction. I will keep you in my prayers and if I can ever help you in any way, please please let me know.
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Very wish words. It is an epidemic. Please know that I'm holding you in my Prayers. I know that some Addicts wake up before it's too late...others never wake up. The suffering of family and Loved ones is so tremendous. Sweet lady the Guilt is so very real yet, there is nothing we can say or do to get through to the Active Addict. God Love you. I Love you. Christ Name be the Glory.❤🙏🏼🫶🥰
Just found your channel, im also a mom of a addict son who lives on the street by choice all over the country
I'm so glad to have you here! 💓
Nailed it!
Well explained
Love the baby, hate the addiction. ❤🙏🏻❤️
You are speaking the truth I'm a mom of 3 addicts been and still were you are i agree unless you've been there you dont know the feeling good luck to you
Oh bless your heart, Mama! 3?! I can't imagine. Much love to you ❤️
Sending you lots of love.
I don’t really have any friends either and it hurts. Once I stop checking on people, I don’t hear from them again. This happens time and time again.
Some people love ‘easy targets’ and think it will never happen to them! Sitting up in their ivory towers!!
You've always got me! 💜💜
And you’ve always got me 💛💛
I never get lonely with my cat, Miss Bella. Holidays can be sort of tuff.
Holidays are very tough for me 💜
You are so right
I agree with the loneliness. because of our children. its like a mind game. what did we do wrong. how could i have done better. it stinks. also i am commenting as i watch.
My ex husband had a nephew that I loved too. He had an addiction problem. He had some good jobs and lost them because he would steal from them. I talked to my then husband that I would help him. His parents agreed that he would stay with us and I would help them because I didn’t work.. I was up with him day and night and clean him up when he got sick. I did it 3 times and every time he went home his parents and grandma would give him money because they were proud that he beat his addiction.. When he got the chance he would go back to his old ways. My husband and I got a divorce (not because of his nephew) and I didn’t get the 4th chance because while his parents were out of town he overdosed at the age of 31.. If I had known that he was back to his old ways I would have brought him to stay with me but I would have let him live with me and when his parents wanted him to come back to would to them no.. Sending prayers to you and your son.. 🙏❤️🙏❤️
I’m so sorry for your suffering and your son’s suffering. A lot of us understand and don’t judge. Life is hard and this govt failure to address and provide aid unlike they do with other countries problems or their pet projects is intolerable. I know the anguish and aloneness but in a different way. I was a caretaker for my husband and had absolutely no one to help me through it. Now I’m completely alone - so I understand. One more thing you are helping by speaking about it! Best wishes
I understand.
You’re absolutely right! I don’t think there is enough help for the parents of addicted children. Your right momma, this is not your fault what so ever no matter what happens. My mom to this day feels guilty, no…it’s not her fault or yours and yes they make their own choices.
I don’t know what all I said in my comments I wrote you from your last video…please know if I said anything to upset you, my apologies…I think I mentioned I was commenting before I listened to your whole story of the day. I have a bad habit about doing that.
Anywho, just like this comment…I’ve not listened to the whole video yet but I had to write this because I’m getting on the road now. P.S. If anyone ever calls you an enabler, tell them don’t let the door hit them when the sun don’t shine. If they haven’t lived a day in your life, they have no idea!
Another P.S. I can’t imagine if it were my son, so I hear you loud and clear and I understand…that’s your son, your boy…Your love is so strong! I can’t imagine😢 I lived like I said with a sister, but I have no idea what I would do if it were my boy, it would kill me im sure and I’m so sorry if I said anything to upset you!
Girl, you've said nothing to upset me. I appreciate you 💜💜
I new one day i would get that call. or knock on the door. and one day on a Sunday 2 am by 2 cops. my heart sank because all they could tell me is my daughter was at the emergency room. I tell you what I was scared.
I have a brother that is a addict and a nephew my mother goes through a lot with my brother but she not once has given up my brother is 50 years old and she is still dealing with the same attic that he was 20 years ago but I understand you cannot close your doors you could not turn your back because you know that the person you love with all your heart is still in that person but the drug has just taken over I really commend you for still being there for your son and loving your son you're a good mother God bless you and hopefully soon your son will no longer ever crave the drug again
I pray for that day to come sooner rather than later 🙏 🙌 💜
I love your doing this please reach out I’m here for y’all always as I’m the momma that lost her so I want to help u save yours ❤️❤️❤️😢
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Hello your chat is very helpful. Thank you. 💕NonnaGrace 🐓
I totally get u everything you said l went through and at the end l lost my son now my remaining son only child/son is an alcholic it's breaking my heart and soul destroying it's beyond hard lm still.going through ur so on point ur right only us mothers who have and still are going through understands my son's 31 yrs going through yrs of suffering now l feel sometimes despair depressed it's no greater pain than watching it child self destruct my God it's torture
Hugs, Mama! I know your heart and your heartbreak. We'll get through this together ❤️
I just stumbled onto your channel and I am sorry you are going thru this. Can I ask where your grandson’s mom is and why isn’t he her? Is/was she an addict too? Keep talking on here as I am sure you will find healing and others in your same boat and to help change the narrative to make this subject not taboo anymore.
I agree,,kids make their own decisions,,,even when taught different
Your nails look so nice love that color
God bless u
Love you and god bless you! Your friend Deb
Love you 💜
I get it
I really understand what you are going through. It's a lonely journey we walk with our children who have fallen victims to these horrible drugs. Sadly, I lost my much loved son to an overdose.
We have a government phone service here in Australia that you can ring to talk to a trained volunteer parent who has, or had, a child with addiction issues. Is there no such service available to parents in the USA?
I'm not aware of a service like that but it would be nice to have 💜💜💜
@@FromtheHollerIt's run by the Health Department here...great service! ❤
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I was raised around a bunch of addicts, my dad and stepdad were alcoholics, my two uncles was alcoholics, my mom did her pills, my aunt was addicted to food, then came my other sisters, the one next to me ( in age ) was addicted to meth , lost her 4 kids, they didn't contact me to see if I'd take her kids, so they were put into the foster system and later adopted by the lady who took them in. Then my sister Melisa was addicted to pills and I'm not sure what else, because she shot up, she was murdered 18 years ago by her husband, we will never know why. I'm sure either another man or drugs were involved.
Then Brandi the baby got addicted to everything under the sun, she lost custody to her 4 kids, but her mom took them in. My oldest sibling, LaVaughn is still an addict, I think my sisters are clean, everyone else is dead, daddy, mom, one of my uncles, my sister and stepdad....
My brother is addicted to meth and pot. He and my sister who's dead stole from me more than once ! I hated when they'd call and needed to come stay with me because I knew I had to hide anything worth value if I wanted to keep it. My brother dropped so low that he stole the money out of my son's , his first and only nephew piggy bank ! He stole jewelry, my Grannie's purse and all her money, tools off of my late husband ! He would steal money from the neighbors when we were kids. So I know how you feel. Oh my mom would get credit cards in my dad's name and max them out without him even knowing ! By the way my dad gave up drinking and was going to church when he found out he had cancer.
I've lost friends over my family's addictions, yes,, I can say what I want about them, but no one else was going to bad mouth them , when they had the same thing going on and thought they had it hid !
I'll be praying for you and your family, please remember me, after loosing my husband 6 years ago, I got with Jeff, my boyfriend of 4.6 years and he's a very bad alcoholic and has dementia, so he's not easy to take care of, plus he has seizures. I'd move back home, but he has no one to take care of him.😢 His only child, Karlee has NOTHING to do with him, his brother wants to stick him in a nursing home 😭, so I feel stuck with him 😭😭😭😭
Girl, you got a lot on you! You've got to take care of yourself too. You can't fill from an empty cup, babe. I'm here if you want to talk 💜💜
Aman about Bidin. Good momma 💕 baby girl, you have a friend in me. I wish I had a mom like u❤
Thank you 💜
I have been there. I do no longer support Dare I went to all and I do mean all police asking for help. The most they offered was to talk to him.I feel for you more than I can say, I agree I will always love my son. My son started his addiction almost 20 years ago, I couldn’t even talk to my family, they seen the hatefulness but never connected it to what was happening
I've begged several to help him get help when he was asking for it. So many said they'd do whatever was necessary but then when it came time to do it they ghosted us. I'll remember that and their names forever
I’m with you. I have a story too. 😢
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am so sorry for u am hart goses out to u
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After being clean for 12 months, I wonder why he chose to bust on a day when his son is visiting?
Are you sure it was his bust?
Either way I'm really sorry that it happened. It must have been devastating for you.
You either have an addictive personality or you don't, there's a gene that they found. As long as there's a positive association with the addiction, whether its stress relief, social fun, boredom, etc., they will not get sober. There has to be ZERO benefit to them. Addicts lack the self perseverance that we have, all they know is self sabotage which in turn destroys their family. Just wait, when they die, its pure anger.
Don't b silent
I will never be silent again. I promise you that 💜
Find a sponsor that will understand you. My son is an addict and he is older than your son.
Where do we find these sponsors, thank you ❤
I got angry too. but i got angry at SATAN. i will tell you what i yelled at him and told him he can't have my daughter and i will fight tooth and nail for her. i was driving. i was angry. i think i was going to work i don't remember it's been so long ago. but one thing i will never forget that night. I felt Satan in that car with me and it scared me so bad. I had to pray to our father in heaven to remove him. and he did.
I agree w u
I care
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when i was little my dad was a drunk and loved his beer and sometimes my dad said he was going to end it with his family
Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry 💜💜
@@FromtheHoller would love you to to be my nanna but i am in england lol your a brilliant mamma and nan