how to DATE successfully for women | high value dating standards and how to get princess treatment
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- This is how you upgrade your dating life! This video covers how to raise your standards, how to communicate your standards, what the bare minimum REALLY IS, what you should do when he's not treating you right and how to fix your dating mindset. IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO RECIEVE THE ROMANTIC PRINCESS TREATMENT YOU DESERVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS SIS XOXO
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YOU KNOW I GOT YOUUUU 🤩 2023 is the year of princess treatment only! p.s. feel free to watch in 0.75x speed because I got wayyyy to passionate speaking on this topic lmao
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my whole life my family has told me “you are gonna end up alone if you act like that” (refering to me not tolerating X behaviors and having my standards clear, and ive always ignored them, now im happy with my bf who treats me amazing and they be like “be grateful there arent many like him, you are lucky” and im like ???? this is because i have standards for myself, not luck! Great video as alwayssss❤❤
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sis ate. Literally what i've been thinking over years but situation around me made me think i should lower my standards. Glad I came across you, not backing down now
He’s gonna eventually leave you when he realize his standards. Simpin’ ain’t easy…
😏 “Single” - Lil Wayne
i rewatch this everytime i catch myself getting flattered or excited over the bare minimum 😭
Yess! I've been watching her video after a guy I used to talk to is now with another girl and omg these videos have been helpful in seeing another perspective. 😊
@@Diary_101this is what I learned so far, simple gestures of kindness or attraction doesn’t mean shit, so don’t assume anything based on those things. Unless he approaches you in person and tells you that he wants to be with you, don’t even entertain the thought of being with him. Even when you are in a relationship, don’t let him consume to the point you lose yourself in him. Instead of getting emotionally attached, teat it like a business. If you are making more effort than him to make the relationship work, that means you are being robbed. So you should get away from him. Don’t let your emotions be the downfall of you. Prioritize logic over emotion ❤
yes!! let’s teach ourselves lol🙂
words to live by. well stated!👏👏👏
@@Diary_101 my condolences (onviously metaphorically only) to the other girl. bc he's no prize😌
Do remember ladies: In order for us to be deserving of a high-value man, we MUST be ourselves high-value women. You cannot just act as you please and not set high standards to abide by yourself, and then expect to be justified in having high standards in man. In addition, we cannot be upset or offended if good and high value men set high standards for us as women. We are NOT all just queens: we have to earn that status.
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Very importantly we have to raise our standards.... This actually saved my life.. I would have been depressed or dead. We have to be very careful. We can't wste our lives with a poor person who doesn't even have education and stable job
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“Low value men wants to take a lot, and high value men want to give a lot.” 👏 girl you speaking truth in so many ways! You’re so wise for your age! This is my first time watching your video & I just subscribed! 🤗
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wel said gal
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Lmao, classic woman logic. He is giving me a lot, he is high value. 😂😂 Now yall not even afraid of being called gold diggera
@@chaitanyagupta6668 why be afraid? bc he ain't afraid to expect &/or ask for s-ex on or before the 1 date😌.
The bare minimum
1) when he opens the door for you
2) when he is polite wd you and everyone
3) basic communication skill - listening what you said asking how was your day
4) when he response your text quickly
5) when he wants to spend a time wd you and initiate the plans to hang out
6) when he is kind, well mannered, well behaved and genuine and loyal
7) when he text you good morning
8) when he is patient wd you and don't over reactt in situations!!!
9) he don't like that you going upset on bed
Just got out of a Situationship. Walking away from a toxic relationship is something new for me because the old me would stay no matter what. But now that I discovered your channel, you’re like a bigger sister that I didn’t know I need. You inspire me in a lot of ways girl. Thank you :)
You choose who you open your legs for.
You're reckless with your vagina
i was LITERALLY talking about this today and the way people judge me so bad for never lowering my standards but i would rather die than settling for the bare minimum
PERIOD 💅💅💅
As you should 💅 keep them high
Hahahahaha yes a lot of girls with daddy issues will throw you a show if you speak about wanted to be treated with care and love by a guy
Standards for modern women is men need to make 6 figures and spend it on her.
@@godzilla400 my standards are literally just wanting a men to be a decent human being that is not a misogynist nor racist but for them that’s the craziest thing to want in a person
Remember ladies! These standards should apply even after you are married. If he does this things only in the beginning and not after you have been with him for some time. DROP HIM! . I have seen so many married men give princess treatment to their side chick and not to their wives. So please realize your self worth. Even if you are married for 10,20, 30 years if he forgets to cherish you, you need to find someone who does.
Yea 😔 I’ve given up completely
@@zara7276 Give up on him not on life sis! You need to cherish yourself, learn new stuff, watch new movies and take care of your own mental health.
👸yes! 100%agreed!👏👏👏
This is why men need to stop marrying. Both side wins that way.
Omg this made me remind of a boy I had a situationship with. I suddenly realized he was naturally trying to give me princess treatment without asking. But this idea of being an independent woman who doesn't need someone pays the bill for her and can do all by herself made me reject this actions the guy was willing to give. I regret it so much!
I used to make the same mistake 😭
Men should give themselves the Princess treatment. Work hard just to spoil a woman who will never do the same for him? I pity the fool. It’s like being royalty and servicing the help. 🤔
@@johnwise4341 The fact that you view women as the help . You should post in on all your socials and make it clear that is how you view women so that they can avoid you
@John Wise you hella need to seek help
@@sakuraesther6309 he just doesn't want to put effort into a relationship, but wants one.
So he thinks every girl should just want not even the bare minimum, so he would also get the chance.
Love this video. Living my Princess life with or without a man. I really think the main thing women need to master is being on their own and loving their own company, this is such a powerful place to be, if you’re starving - crumbs will look like a feast. A woman not scared to be on her own is a powerful thing to contend with.
I feel so scared to be on my own 😅 how to overcome this
Finally, I can stop feeling ashamed about my past relationships and feel proud about the things I learned from them.
okay, this is truly insane. I’ve watched this video like a week ago, agreed with the things you said and made a deal with myself not to date below my value. I had a first date coming up and in my head I’ve pictured him waiting for me with a flower. what can I say: the date came, he actually stood there waiting for me with a flower. he was a true gentleman. we’ve already had a couple more dates and he has been the sweetest. all the things I would have wanted him to do, he did. thank you so much for making me aware of what I deserve and what I want ♥️
Just asking hypothetically what if he didn't buy any flowers? Would you have rejected him?
probs yeah cause he didnt fit her high standards@@cyanidepills1262
Guys who bring flowers are so corny
This is by far the most realistic and very good dating advice I've heard in a long long time.
Yay 🥰💕✨
I have always had high standards and my whole life ppl have told me I am “too picky”. This is so validating that what I am doing is worth it!
When you said "Situationship" I bet we all had the same reaction 😭 I am currently trying to find the courage to leave one (my first one). Everything was fine initially, but there was no growth.
Questions from part two:
What shared interests do I want us to have- how do I see us spending time together? Pick the ones you’re really passionate about and will want to do with them. E.g. reading, museums, travel.
What makes me feel loved? E.g. surprises, vulnerability, deep conversations. What behaviours align with those? E.g. someone that’s caring, kind, cultured, emotionally mature etc
What are the dream romantic gestures that I want to experience ?
How do I want them to be when I’m sad? How do I want them to support me? What do our bad days look like together? How do I want them to communicate with me when shit goes wrong?
What do our weekends/ home life look like together?
What are they like as a person?
What are their goals/ values/ beliefs/ philosophies?
I love you! Thank you so much for doing thiss❤
@@AnaS-of8ri i love you more !
Thank you so much for this ❤
@@ananyagaur2412it’s okay❤❤
Thanks sis
Dating
- Bare minimum + setting high standards: set your standards so you don’t entertain anyone who doesn’t meet them.
They include: wine and dine, plan thoughtful and meaningful dates for you by making an effort to understand who you are so the dates align with who you are, emotionally mature, supportive, gentleman and chivalrous and opens every (car) door for you, wants u to be a part of his world by introducing to his fam & friends, intelligent, ambitious, financially stable, knows how to drive (passenger princess life), same values and morals, matches future ideal lifestyle and dreams you have envisioned for yourself and the places you wanna visit, values his self development and invested in each other grows, biggest supporter in (creative) endeavours and cheers you on, creates safe environment for communication of needs and healthy communication for issues, gives princess treatment, gives weekly flowers. NEVER ACCEPT 50/50
- Wait 1 week during talking stage, if they don’t ask out on date (and they don’t live far away otherwise FT / call) then move on
- Give people a chance to prove themselves: give them benefit of the doubt if in doubt and go on a 2nd date (1st date jitters). If 2nd date doesn’t go well, dismiss.
- Communicate ur standards during dating in a chill polite way when the person has already proven themselves to you and it is getting serious. “How do you feel about X? Bc this is how I feel about it, these are my values and what is important to me when I’m dating somebody and how do you feel about it?” -> then you can reevaluate if you wanna keep dating this person.
- Communicate ur standards in relationship: use positive reinforcement by praising, don’t nag. Show how grateful you are and be appreciative so he naturally will keep doing that.
- If they’re not meeting your standards: leave. You can’t change a man and their actions/feelings towards you. You don’t need to put up with it, don’t come up with strategies to change them (otherwise ur operating masculine energy, feminine energy is open to receive). Men are an addition to your life, he’s not good enough if he’s not good enough.
- Fix your mindset: self-love journey, solo dating, you have yourself and you’re not alone/lonely, you’re simply by yourself and enjoying your own company and self growth.
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ivd always watched videos to improve myself and i wake up but forgot but you REALLY WOKE ME UP im super inspired !! keep making videos xoxo loveyouuu
this literally knocked all the sense into me I have been needing and craving. You have a new subscriber ❤
how do I superlike this 🥺 love how you always know how we think and teach us how to rewire it so we hold our self worth 🤲🏻
you put this all together so perfectly. such a huge reminder to me to raise my standards
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Started a day with your video ❤ this was exactly what I was looking for. I really appreciate your energy.
it's crazy how sometimes people can make me feel like I'm asking for too much. The things u said your partner does for u are literally the things I want for myself and people always say that I want too much or my standards are too high and that I'll never be in a relationship (I've never been in one before). I do know that they are things that I need to work on right now but I will never ever lower my standards again cause I know what I want and I'm not tryna be in a lot of dysfunctional relationships before I settle down. So thank you♥
gurl i love you and i feel like i have learned so much about myself just by watching you, you feel like the big sister we never had and i am so thankful for you and your time❤️omw to evolve!!
oh my god, this is so timely! thanks for the video, tam! really needed this, especially with relapses happening.
Very well articulated! I love the way that this content has been set out. This advice is 100% true x
TAM everytime i open yt you literally bless my feed
I ❤️ u! I just started dating again after a relationship that did not meet the bare minimum, so this really came in at the right time for me!
Girl, you have been helping me out so much. I'm glad that you are telling everyone that THEY deserved an amazing partner! NO MATTER WHAT in LIFE! I hope you have an amazing day and deserved happiness💕❤
it makes my heart so full that i am doing so many things for my growth, like for a long time i have this hole inside my heart and now i realized that all i need to do is just show up for myself and love myself.
it's an honor for me to can hear this, i felt so grateful😭💛 thank youuu!!
I am just blown by your ideas. Writing down pros n cons of exs to figure out personal likes and dislikes is such an awesome advice .. you are my favourite.. lots of love ❤️
Oh my god!! Never thought that you’re in a long term relationship!! The moment I saw your self love videos, I started to follow you in all your social media platforms! You really helped me to raise my standards and love myself more!! I hope you continue spreading your positive energy 🫶✨
usually I put the videos on a speed 1.5 but I LOVE that you have so good communication skills that the normal speed is like music to my ears! Love you already
OMG, I was seriously waiting for you dude and you always give a productive and motivational vibe which I really like.I checked out your brand it was so good like seriously dude keep it up .
needed this reality check THANK YOU
can i just say that ponytail looks so good on you
btw love you sm tam
okay so I’m convinced that you are making videos specifically for me 😭 like these past 10 videos you made all related to problems I was having at the moment and now this video is relating to what I’m going through rn . I love listening to your videos while I’m at work thank you Tam ❤
Girl, you are so gorgeous, so smart and I love your energy. I learned a lot from this video and just subscribed! Thank you so much 🙏
Girl you stay killing it
I needed this when I started my self love journey a yr ago
But I’m glad I can check things off with the things you listed
Your POV is what I truly believe in
Love it ❤
You deserve your blessings too with all the work you do on social media !! 🌷
This is so niceeee since those standards couldn't just be applied to love and relationships. I can apply it to my career, too. ❤️ People are telling me to find a 9-5 job in a company but I like to pursue my passion more-writing and gain freedom in my crafts. Thank you so much for this! I've been watching your vlogs now and it helps me so much on my self-love journey ❤️❤️❤️
I finally did it! I stood up for myself and feel way more powerful than I did trying to beg someone who didn’t care to care. Thank you Tam❤️❤️
I LITERALLY need this advise. The timing that this video pop up in my feed is just amazing ✨ OMG I'M IN MY HEALING JOURNEY and you're contributing to that A LOT, thank you Tam 😭
First I used to skip her videos on YT then I observe YT constantly showing me her different videos again n again n again. So I watched one , now I am Grateful for YT suggestion and For Her Choosing YT.
Thank you Tam , You are saviour 🙏♥️
Your channel popped up on my feed and I wanted to express so much gratitude to you and all that you do!! ❤New subscriber!! ☺
Tam is an absolute blessing to all of us. Love you Tam
Hey, girl! I’m 30 years old and I felt really happy about listening you! You are beautiful and full of energy! ❤ I adore the way you explain important things!
i literally love everything you post i’ve been through all your content since i found you the other day. thank you for being you ❤
I've been getting Royal Treatment since I was 17 years of age as my dad and aunt taught me this and my dad built my self esteem and plus I went to acting and modeling school it seriously helped me be confident and a leader. Thanks to God I never had self esteem issue and that I'm not stupid I choose to wisely who I date as I am very picky.
OMG 😳 this is exactly what Every girls need to see for dating this is just so wholesome, detailed & perfect as possible ❤ 😊 now I gotta work do the homework for dating 🎉
Thank you, truly. This video empowered me to realise the guy I've been dating isn't matching my high value energy 🙏🏻
I come back to this video everyday. After 3 failed relationships and LOADS of situationships, i really needed this. This is like my daily motivation. Thanks queen 🥰
YOU ARE THEEE BEST !
preach sister! i‘m gonna listen to this on every morning i needed this so bad ❤
Such a compassionate queen.
Gurrrrllll I'm so happy I found u here..... this is so timely in my current dating stage now! Thank you for all these gold advices ey!
I have finally found my favorite CZcamsr for life. ❤ love ya
I had fear of keeping my standards high,But You gave me clarity 🙌 I think this is universe's sign for me❤️🥰
Thesee videos are so fulfilling that I feel like watching them all over again and I am gonna do it and take the note of it the next time i do it❤ Thank you Girl you're really a sweetheart ❤
The best teacher for self love, and only accepting the best. You have truly changed my life, and transformed my mindset, thank you
This is a piece of art, THANK YOU
THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR THE GOATED ADVICE DIDI!!
Oh my gosh, thank you for this video! ❤ I've known the principles but you've answered all my practical questions ❤
I really really appreciate you for making this video. I'm surrounded by people who have poor behaviour and they said that i'm not deserved with high standard. Thank you so much for this video , it motivates me to level up ❤
This is so helpful! I have high standards and low tolerance for men not meeting that, and this helped me refine my approach. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
@@tamkaur and congratulations on your healthy long-term relationship! You're a walking proof of your talk.
When women use the term low tolerance it just says 🚩
@@daniellecharming what proof? it's been 4 months. come back in 40 years married to the same person and tell me this is realistic advice to women. this is fairytale stuff.
Much love from Nairobi Kenya am 45yrs plus gals if you could listen to this gal and do as she says your love life will be amazing DONT SETTLE FOR MEDIOCTRITY. you deserve better trust me
i think this should be for everyone who wants a relashionship, that all is needed in both sides
Not only was I loving everything you’re saying, I’m also loving the energy and vibe! New follower ❤
Yay! Thank you!
Hi Tam, Your videos are helping me so much to heal my past wounds and build a fresh new mindset in all areas of my life. whether it maybe love, relationships, friendship, femininity you have covered it all. you are a blessing. Thank you so so so much. I want to request you, can you make a video on how to be consistent in the self love journey or career? because I find myself shifting things but sliding into the old toxic self sabotaging patterns again.
Needed this video so badly❤❤ Thanks a lot
This video was everything, you have it all down & i just adore you! 🥰
Thank you for your videos❤️. I'm from Bucha, Ukraine 🇺🇦 and you breathe in feminine energy in me. So needed right now
i swear to god tam every single time im worrying about something you release a video addressing my concerns i love u sm
Ilyyyyy ❤️
Thank you, I was really needing listen to something like that ♥️
omg congrats ❤ so happy for u!
Girl, you’re amazing! Thank you so much ❤
Just woke up to this video being posted. I’m so happy!!
Thank you for this video. You’ve got a lot of great wisdom to share! Would you be willing to share more about your standards around how long to wait for intimacy? I know it’s different for everyone. I am just gathering information to decide where I stand.
Love your energy ! Love how you jumped into it video 🔥😊
It is so nice to have such you tubers who are life changing thank so much for your advice I love your videos I this one I watched at a perfect time thank you so much continue with the great work
WOW!!!! This is the best dating advice video I've EVER seen!!!!!!! I finally get it. Everything. Thank you!
You are such a positive energy Tum❤
tam please please please do a video on how you do your hair it's beautiful you always look so put together!!! That would be so helpful for us girls , we love you so much!!!!❤
Oh my gosh!!! I’m watching your videos and trying to improve myself and you use the name Athena, that is literally my name! I’m going to manifest the best life possible through your tips and guidance! Thank you❤️
Finding your channal was the biggest blessing in my life ❤
I have been there and done that,it wasn't a good situation to be in,I am dating myself and learning what makes me happy. I love ur content ❤
Could you do a video about how to START dating? As for someone, who's shy and a bit self-conscious I would love to hear your tips about how to start conversations with men etc.
you really cover everything ! i feel like a lot of people talk about this “high value” stuff in a way that presses gender roles and shames people and is kinda toxic but you cover everything and just reminded me that i deserve so more more than i’ve settled for before
also All About Love is amazing!
Man is still in his gender role. Defending you, providing for you, chivalry, paying YOUR bills, planning and taking you on dates. Being rich and ambitious.
It is only you that doesn't wish to do the same for the guy and hate your own gender roles that he might also expect. Because how dare he expect anything from his girlfriend right?
@@rickycool6083 I don't have a boyfriend and no man has ever offered to do any of this for me as I'm only 22. Doesn't mean that there isn't one out there that will! I would just prefer to be able to rely on myself first and if a man wants to take care of me that's great. Just how I was raised and everyone is different. Would rather not be put in a box just cause I'm a woman and when I am in a relationship I'll communicate my needs/wants then and listen to his.
@@rickycool6083sadly it is like this. They expect everything, set their standandarts so high while bringing nothing in return and wonder why the "high value men" don't want them
You literally opened my eyes ily
I super needed this video, thank you so much💗
I am literally crying while listening to this
Hi! I really wanted to say that you helped me realize the thing that I didn't want to recognize. When I first saw this video I felt uncomfortable, so I put off watching it. After I had a conversation w my boyfriend (he’s nice and kind but is shy w money) I came back to this video.
I think I realized that I liked the bare minimum cuz I never got the bare minimum ever in my life before. (This is my second time dating so it’s kinda obvious).
Thanks to you I got the chance to recognize my standards and what I want in dating. Also I feel like this video gave me permission to cut him off without guilt. We were not a match, that’s all.
So I really wanted to say, thank you so much for helping me and other people.
I love you and your videos 😭💖 Keep going goddess🙌✨️
Thank you sooo much for saying it about situationship. Sometimes men would convince you into one. I have done that once and felt very empty ever second after it.
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It's so awesome and so constructive development content sharing on the Internet. I love your authenticity truly powerful.
Girl ive litterally been in a relationship with this guy for 3 years and for a year and some we've been in a situationship 😭 i love your videos babe thank you soooo mucchhh your the best babe sendinfmg much love!!!
you girl with thick eyeliner, i love you sm! thank you so much for your words. i badly needed this. i'm here til you get 10M subs
UR THE BEST🥺🥰
@@tamkaur you are the big sister i never had. bless your radiating soul
Always learning something with you - so so grateful for these videos!