THE 5 SECRETS WHY INFJs GROW YOUNGER WITH AGE
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: INFJs are known to be old souls, but the truth is we have a secret weapon--if we focus on all the right things in life, then our entire being will glow with an almost magical youthfulness! Sure it takes some effort for INFJ's to stay young at heart --but thankfully you don't need to do everything. Just take care of those important aspects in your life and voila: no more aging blues as you'll soon feel like one happy kid again.
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This reminds me of what Jung said "Life really begins at 40. Up until then, you are just doing research." Because he's an INFJ and Se manifests fully for INFJs at their 40s.
This is my favorite comment...thanks !
This feels so true!! 👍🏾
Mine is beginning at 33
Makes sense. I've only just started as I creep toward 38.
It is weird isn't it but it is true. I love embracing my childish side. I laugh at kid's shows, old kids shows I grew up with, The Simpsons, any cartoons, anything childish and full of wonder and imagination. I actually wanted to have kids from the youngest age as I love their nativity and innocence. I find a lot of intellectual people secretly have a very childish level subconscious (just some expose it more than others). I always laugh at stupid things and have an immature sense of humour because I think life is so mundane I love to just make it a joke. It's like Picasso said "It took me till my teens to draw like Michelangelo but my lifetime to draw like a child".
It's almost like we know the happiest period of the human life is that of a child. A period of unknowing and excitement. Energy and imagination so we want to emulate this. Most stuff for kids is always exceptionally positive and happy so it's almost like we are trying to go back to these safer times hence want to relive them. Then, as you get older, adult life is preconditioned to be bleak, no fun, no imagination etc.
This is why I think it is imperative we do learn from our children. Not intellectually, necessarily but their outlook and approach on life. This is what we want continued throughout their lives. It's interesting to try to understand where this creativity and tenacity burns out (at school, work or human nature); it is odd. It's like children are cute and happy to get their parents to care for them but then we may all be secretly instinctively going to become less so.
I feel younger with age. As a teen I I had to keep myself small and sad to not make anybody uncomfortable.
When I expressed joy people were getting tensed and showing me my place. I am finally finding the personality I repressed bc it was "too much" for some. I feel like young teen cause I am only figuring out how to be myself and not buy anybody bs. No longer carrying the heavy burden of pleasing everyone around me.
Wow same.
Yaaaaas! Well said!
Yes when you smile, it's like it makes people upset. It's like coming back to who you really are and the person you've always been hidden underneath coping mechanisms and societal expectations and molds.
@@lettinggrace yes!!! Thank you for articulating it perfectly.
I so relate to what you said.
72 yo F INFJ. My husband of 45 yrs died 3 years ago and I now look 50-ish with the energy of a teen. The spiritual awakening that I had transformed me. I had a good marriage and solely cared for him for his final 3 years. An honor, but definitely a stressful time. I completed my soul contract with love, calmness and allowed him to die with dignity. I graduated to the next level and it changed me physically as well.
I just want to thank you for sharing this. I’ve realised due to my childhood with sick parents that I’ve been afraid of committing in case I would ‘end up’ a nurse and to see you writing that it was tough but also an honour - and you don’t regret anything - has actually lifted a burden a smidge enough so I can get my fingers in and lift it more.
So thank you so much for this and I wish you all the best 🙏♥️
Rubbish
Thanks for sharing, I was married 30 years , my husband passed 13 years ago , I cared for him until his passing due to cancer , I'm 56 now .
Respect ❤️
@nan robbins That is so beautiful. You deserve every good in this world and more. Thank you for sharing
I have been asked what my "secret" is. No secret. I'm me. You aren't. Count yourself lucky. It's a wicked trade-off.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Ain't that the truth.
Same, sun screen and sleep do wonders. Otherwise, I eat a lot of junk food, drink energy drinks, am naturally active. So, I tell them sunscreen and sleep, and the rest is genetic. I'm 56 and pretty solid musculature, running around, walk fast, trying to fit in everything I want to do for the day. It's a passion for life and living
I always tell people that I often lose track of time. And it makes sense to me that consequently, time loses track of me. Truth is, during my mid thirties, after 33, I started forgetting how old I was. If not for remembering my birthdate, I always had to count back from that whenever someone asked me how old I was. And I'd soon forget again.
@@courtneymeyers82 lmfaooo that’s so funny.
I believe we possess a childlike personal magnetism. We are sensitive, bookish, and creative; we don't get bored. I turned sixty-five last year. When I informed my pharmacy of the new health benefits status, the response was surprising. Apparently, they thought I was forty-ish. Stay safe and be well. Love from Canada. ♥
Yeah we don't get bored, everyday got new stuff.
Yes. 65 here, zero meds.
I always tell people that I am the only one who can bring your inner child out, and I love it because I can be a kid too. I have a mischievous side that I love to show people but it's heavily guarded.
Agreed. We don't get bored, there's always plenty to do in the mind 😂
Excercise makes you younger instantly
Yep. I think my mind is now younger than in my 20's. It has become more flexible and understanding than what it was before.
Love this! 😍
Same! 🤍
I don't feel 68. I am active, exercise 5 days a week, eat right, and have a positive attitude and enjoy my passions. Having an open mind, learning, and tapping into your own actions really helps a lot.
So true. I'm 49 and feel younger then ever in spirit despite my aches and pains from powerlifting for 30 years. I dance and sing in public everywhere I go in public and people look at me like I'm crazy and I'm thinking to myself why aren't they all dancing and singing. We feel our freest and youngest when we are dancing and singing so why not do it it's often as possible Everywhere You Are
Hopefully you can get past your pains from powerlifting.
Yes!!! This!!! Singing and dancing is life💃🏻 🕺
I've always done so I've been told I'm a walking musical. I've come to the realization that there is an outlook many in society seem to have concerning having this kind of childlike joy in life. As a child it's acceptable, as a teen it's become a given, if your a mother or someone taking care of children this too can be acceptable concidering there are children around. Yet for some odd reason once a person gets to adult stage if there no children there is this ridiculous idea that one must be drunk, high on drugs or crazy.... apparently adults cannot have true joy an enjoy simple life simply unless one of those factors applies.🤦. It's Not true.
It simply isn't as common in a society that seems to push negativity in one way or another.
I've always kept this free spirited childlike joy an appreciation of little things. We mature an grow yet we should not neglect our inner child.
@@GypsyDove yeah as of lately I think it's rubbing off on people because when you look around you the average person is severely depressed and they see me so independent always alone but so full of joy dancing and singing it intrigues them to want to know why I'm so happy. But they're also too intimidated to approach me which cracks me up because I have one of the most beautiful gentle Souls you could ever meet
I sing in my cubicle at work, sing in my car, sing in the shower...must be something to it, as a lot of folks are surprised by my actual age and I get hit on by younger guys, which is a good ego booster. 🤣
Do you feel you are growing younger as an INFJ?
YES!
Achieving growth isn't always that easy for everyone. It's a state of mind not everyone can achieve easily. Being a doer and taking action makes all the difference and half the battle. If that was that easy everyone would be doing it. ✌️
Absolutely!
We have the perfect recepie for this. I think that all begins from the sigma mentality. Being able to keep yourself out of hierarchy and out of the mainstream, that's the biggest secret. Mainstream isn't mant for you. It isn't made by you and for you and it's not ment for you. Mainstream is what keeps you limited, but Ni works by perspectives and possibilities. If it is a question that explains one of the key characteristics of Ni it's why and I will answer why not. You cannot get happy, younger and fulfiled if you are limiting your self in norms that are not made for you and can't fit to you. Money, fame, popularity, we don't care for them, they mean nothing to us without we knowing what we really want and what we are really good at. I don't build my self on promotions, I build my self on actions and objectives. As I look into some people I get terrified of how they are limiting themselfs in popular beliefes and emotional ignorance. We have to think more often of what we leave behind us. It's not about being №1 in the hierarchy, having last model Mercedes, profitable business and all the material good's you can imagine. You wont be rememberd for your money, car and fame, you will be remembered for your love and devotedness and in order to achive those you have to build your selfawareness first.
Aging backwards? INFJ guy here. Yes you get prettier every vid Wenzes!
Always been told I’m childlike even at 62, love this so much. Learning and growing into life as I was meant to.
So grateful for you … and all those who want to be the very best in all areas. 🐞
Love this. Gives me something to look forward to.🤍
I just want people to know life is hard but it can be easy if you see yourself through my eyes.
Life is tough for me, because I want the world to see the world through my eyes - because it's beautiful and the concept of time doesn't have to exist.
INFJ's shouldn't need makeup to look good if they're getting younger with age. They should just be confident in themselves as they are.
Absolutely effing true! Growing up, i had an old soul vibe in me and as i grow, i feel like a child. Its like magic and people around me are saying this as well. I used to doubt myself a lot, hide me, but now, i realize my power and value! I now have a youtube channel and actively pursuing my dream. Keep loving yourself, guys! ❤ B
67 yo and retired one year. Friends at work in their 40s used to say they wanted to be like me when they reach their 60s.
So often around people my age, I feel like Rip Van Winkle, I am 64, they want to play cards, go to the casino, I want to go hiking, learn something new, or just plain get out of the ruts too many people are content to live in.
Yep, I look 10 years younger since age 21 and I am about to be 31. I was much older looking in my early 20's, super weird but I am grateful lol!
Hey missy you seem to be having the same issue as - “ the miraculous life of Benjamin button “ … 💘
I wouldn't call it in an issue lol. I am grateful. I feel better too. @@byronryan4216
Kate Beckinsale is a physical proof to that… Can you believe she is almost 50? It’s not just her looks, she’s so witty, funny and playful, very young energy. Meanwhile, there‘re people who seem tired of life by the time they are 30
Kate Beckinsale is half-vampire so that's cheating lol
Yes I'm 58 and I've seen women in their 40s who look like they could be my mother. Keanu Reeve's current girlfriend is a good example of one. She looks like she could be HIS mother too! And he is 9 years older than her. His biological mother actually looks younger (and way prettier) than his girlfriend. What he sees in her is beyond me. She must have some kind of magnetism and personality!!
I told the admissions counselor that I’m the real life Benjamin Button. I started graduate school at the age of 43.
To regain the time lost from youth.
My dentist keeps asking me how my teeth are improving with age while her other patients are losing their teeth with the aging process. I told her that I don't give up on myself.
People think I am in my 20 s but I am 55 yrs old.
70 y/o INFJ assertive.. I tell everyone that I am 15 y/o right now… I just discovered K-HipHop… I’m blasting it from my car stereo and bopping to the music!!🤣🤣
People say I look so much younger than my age.. less wrinkles etc…. And I never took care of my skin over the years…😂😂😂
40 was the point that I started reading my book. I decided to complete it, study it and start writing my new one.
That's kind of strange. People are often surprised when they learn my age. Im 62 on the 4th but many say I look 20 year younger. Many older people can relate to my saying I more often feel 20 years older.
I am 65,people always guess I am 50+
Age 73 very happy alone. I wake up and get at it. Fun!
Not bragging. Just contributing. Approaching my 70s. My avatar pic was taken in 2020, falling hazard and burning trees in forest fires, 90 hours a week, 21 days on, 3 days off, camping at the fires. I've also practiced sexual retention for half a century.
As an INFJ, I'm a great believer in the saying 'If you want something done well, do it yourself!' So much so, that many times I end up with more work than what was given to me, and sometimes even other people's work - but I'd rather go through all that and do a good job, than accepting somebody else's half-assed shoddy work! Sigh...that's the price we pay, I guess...
Yes. Get your energy back.
Be your true self. 👍 we often get drained by others unless we ignore the inner empath to repair and refocus.
You get to the point you can
unwind and be yourself
Infjs have spent so much time understanding everything that they have developed an inner peace or nirvana, which is sense is In flow with the energy of the cosmic nature thru which they gain near immortality
INFP Here.
Do I feel I am growing younger as an INFJ? Yes. Personal development. I like to know more about myself and my capabilities. Remaining ambitious is good and something I am currently doing in both my career and hobby as a mechanic. Also, taking good care of myself physically is helpful in all this.
For a good while now ( I just turned 69...02-02)...when I hear others say " oh getting old is a bitch" or " you wait you'll see getting older is no fun" blah blah blah...my happy response all ways is "not me I'm getting younger....!"... and I AM..🤩
Now that I have worked on being better and understanding myself ngl I feel so young lol. I laugh more, i smile more, I live in and suck up the present as much i can. These are things I did as a little girl many years ago. Its crazy how easy it is for me to not be so hurt by different things today. I just let things roll of my shoulder and detach. My friends noticed, and brought it to my attention that ive been a lot happier than usual. Yeah increasing Se has helped me a lot. I feel happier and more accomplished just by changing that one thing
How have you actually accomplished this? Like what are the actual practical steps you took to doing this? Curious INFJ stuck in a rut here
@@liaduriez9531 sorry you’re going through this girl but you’ll come out of it stronger! the last thing we want as infjs is to grow old and realize that we lived our lives and spent our years months even days planning, overthinking, and daydreaming of the future and what could be without ever stopping to enjoy the present live in the moment or take the time time to act and not just dream. With doing shadow work I didn’t have a set of steps planned out it happened because I was in a rut and decided to find out why I felt so empty. That’s how I found I was a INJF and looking into it I saw that I was low on Se. And that was the one thing that infj youtuber I watched explained that resonated with me because I always saw it myself staying away from people as being cautious and unproblematic but truth is I was very scared to live unapologetically and I was crushed by people’s expectations and views of me. I slowly stopped attending social events I only went out for groceries. I stopped taking care of my body my diet was bad I stayed home all day not doing anything while I had things on my todo list pile up. I always said id get to it and never did because I was stuck in a rut and a rabbit hole of self doubt. The first step to getting out is knowing that you are an infj and understanding how Se and Si work. Identify what times of your life you kept to yourself because you wanted to minimize interaction with the outside world because you’re in a bad mood or dont want to deal with something out there. Once that’s done you will slowly start to notice the times of your life where you kept to yourself for the right reasons because you wanted to work on a project, because you wanted some you time, because you wanted to spend your energy on something that brought you joy. If you don’t notice that You will at least notice the unhealthy patterns (we’re good at that lol) in your life and in your interactions with others. Especially those who are toxic, or emotionally abusive around you, there will be more friction between you and them and you will be more sensitive to the things they do that are “violating “ to you be it violating meaning they abuse you emotionally or violating meaning they pour their trauma on you. You will realize even your patterns of enabling these people by not saying anything or consoling them when you know its not your job to. To increase Se you will have to get away or at least keep a distance from these people who drain you and figure out where your boundaries have been crossed. Get awareness of your own triggers and trauma and work on healing you could be stuck running away from your emotions and past. You are not a well that constantly pours out you have to understand that in order to help others you have to be your best self to begin with. If you are empty, drained, low on energy you wont be able to help anyone not even yourself. The way you get energy as an infj is by doing those thing that bring you joy as well as things you have on your todo list. You’re probably in a rut rn because you have thoughts and feelings of not being good enough to accomplish the goals you have in mind. And because you dont think your person is able to achieve it you resolve to dreaming of it without ever actually taking action. Or you started taking action but you feel discouraged easily because the road is long and you have a hard time seeing the good things on the way to the destination. You only focus on the destination, the final product. It takes a lot to get up and do the same boring things everyday without seeing progress and thats what us infj are not good that. Se. doing the things you know you have to do at the time it needs to be done so that the feeling of not showing up for yourself or trusting your word does not surface. Declutter, in every area of your life if you have friends and family you lost touch with that u Miss contact them, if you have hobbies that you use to do as a child or any age for me it was sketching clothes and sewing. I had not done that in almost ten years doing it again recently gave me a surge of energy and mande me happier. If you have being wanting to make changes to your diet do it, if you’ve been wanting to take yourself out more do it whether or not you have a friend to go it. The key is to do those things that you constantly tell yourself you will do but never get to it. Be it in your career, relationships, social life, mental heath, or even leisure, start to do those things you can start with getting one thing off your todo list done. if you are stuck in a pattern to constant self gratification to avoid dealing with your everyday life you can try to start by planning your days, and each day in the morning you knock out two of the most important things you have to do that day. The afternoons and evenings you can use to relax and indulge in your hobbies, get acquainted with them again (the ones youve forgotten). Slowly you will get your mind used to the pattern of doing something serious and doing something for fun. I promise you once you start working on yourself and your goals in reality your mood and view if things around you and of you will change and you will feel more accomplished and self assured. The importance of Se and taking action as an infj is not that you get to not feel like you can’t believe in yourself anymore (its a reason) it’s that taking action is what fuels you to take even more action everyday. It gives you a “surge” of energy knowing that you have a vision and are working on it while also being the most authentic and best version of yourself. Even when it comes to relationships and friendships once you know that it is okay to feel different and think differently from everyone and you are doing your best to advance (thats it do something little everyday) every department of your life and being unapologetic you you will feel way more secure in your ability to get that career and the partner you desire. You can be a blessing to someone out there if only you would give 100% of Lia to the world in every area of your life and might I say dare to impose yourself unapologetically. Hope this helps!
@@erinak7008wow that’s exactly how I feel 💯 thank u for ur detailed reply; u’ve really just helped me understand my pattern; I’m gonna screenshot this to help me take action! Bless u ❤
Definitely happened with me. At 60 I look and feel younger than the last 35 years.
Especially the bit about the people closest to me not liking when I prioritized myself and expressed my true self.
I think it makes dating and finding a relationship at 55 much more difficult though, the combination of that, the childlike enthusiasm and excitement, and the analytical thoroughness stresses people out, and they find you too intense on every level.
I never felt young in my soul and in my body, always old. Now I see that I have been always the youngest regarding my mind and way of thinking. Innovative, creative, and always excited about new ideas. As getting mature as an INFJ I feel younger in my soul too. It is fun to be INFJ once you learn how to handle it. Until that it was like a punishment, a curse. Good luck ;)
All totally true. I am an INFJ and I am told I look much younger than my years all the time. My life really started to kick in at 40! Great content, love it! Thank you
Same! I was just saying today how the 40’s feel so young!
I am INFJ too! And C.G. Jung was right! The real life starts only after 40~!
Getting a lot done in a short time which amazes people when I call it is proper use of time management. Using all of my senses and proper time management to get things done and prioritizing
#3 was a big one for me. Learning to respect my boundaries and not take on others pain as my responsibility has been a huge lesson. #4 is interesting... and totally pertinent to my life right now. I'm currently on that path to breakthrough. So excited because I can actually already feel the energy about to be available to me. Very glad I checked in!!
My personal development has been my major focus for decades. I'm a Capricorn, and people say we are old when we are young and young when we are old. I am in my '70s and people say I look like a child. I am pretty funny. I smile a lot. As a child I was serious!
I feel the same way. I was extremely serious as a child/adolescent.
Same Capricorn moon
Most of my “friends” can’t figure me out. One brother could. I took up tango, learned to play an instrument(s) as younger I took everything so seriously and focused on just a few things. Now the world is wide open and exciting to me. I feel like my twenties health wise and now Have a good bit more wisdom to go along with.
I also feel like I'm growing backwards. Just like in that movie were the baby was born as an old man👴, and gradually became younger until he died as a baby👼.
Sometimes I call myself a vampire🧛♂️🧛♀️, because I love to stay up late and also because everyone around me seems to be getting older but somehow time has stopped for me in regards to how I look and act 😅.
This is such a revelatory presentation. I have felt this phenomenon but it’s reassuring to have my perceptions and feelings confirmed.
I am turning 28 soon, and already really enjoying my personal development journey. This makes me even more excited for the aging process that comes along with wisdom. ❤
I very much liked when you stated that the INFJ (and yes I am a flaming INFJ myself, for better or for worse) needs to attend to their own needs in order the recover the energy lost from empathizing with other people's pain. I would have perhaps stated this important insight in such a way that a typical INFJ would be that much more motivated to pursue it: you, as an INFJ, cannot be a good and effective friend and caregiver to someone else going through pain unless you take care of your *own* needs first. It is a lesson that has taken most of my life to learn and even then I still sometimes have to remind myself to do this.
I am a fighter, even though I am 67, I still do reaserch. Things change, I need to keep up with new laws and trends. I choose to make myself more knowledgeable. Seems nobody like what i have to say, I dont care that much. I have been ignored too long.
I think that's true always have a child's heart can be a total strong standing adult but my inner child always comes out
Thank you Wenzes! Personal development is ongoing. It’s fun too! My door gets locked at 500pm and phone calls stop. I give energy to family and hobbies. I must say recliners should come with warning labels. Sitting in recliners slows the body down. I need my old body to keep up with my 19 year old mind. I go on my own. It’s a hoot. Less responsibility is wonderful. I have to declutter too. It will get done. Do three extra things a day.
I’m glad that I’m here, youthful at heart, amongst (virtually) my people!
I’m turning 36 this summer and during childhood+teenage years and my 20s everyone thought I was much older (like at least 10+ years older than my actual age. Sometimes it was actually uncomfortable😢) and I am an old soul but now it has shifted to people thinking I’m younger! (Tbf it’s better in ‘this economy’ to look younger as older lol 😅)
But just as you say in your video, I’ve started to focus on myself more and honour my boundaries in everything.
Actually letting my inner child out which was always there but I didn’t feel safe to share. I’m starting to do now because I’m starting to learn that I can protect myself 🙏🌟🦁
I m 33 iNFJ female, and people often thought Im 23.
I've always felt like i'm twelve. Yet, I've been responsible since I was three. It is a belief and a feeling. My mother was the same. She looked amazing till 86, she's gone.
I truly am the epitome of this youthful progression at this time in my life. I get younger in all ways - looks, energy, playfulness, etc - finding a space to share all my lifetime of lessons learned so others can benefit from all my wisdom that I have garnered over my lifetime and being super excited to share it. I was told I was too mature when I was younger and now that I am older, it's a tiny bit more acceptable but still, many ppl find themselves jealous of my having a young heart and an old soul b/c most ppl have the opposite - an old jaded heart and a young baby soul where they live as hipsters chasing the latest trends to be enslaved to.
Indie INFJ's don't follow - we lead and also why we're so hated by so many ppl. You have to rise above all that hate though and just do you. As an empath, I got too involved w/ trying to help others - esp mentally ill ppl in my own family. However, I esp had to learn and have learned how to go NO CONTACT w/ narcs and that is a specialty we types know how to navigate b/c we have to run away from all the envious haters and abusers who hate our independence b/c most ppl want to control us BUT we are good runners - always running from controllers. We are skilled and clever at dodging the bullets and the narcs, immature hipsters and tyrants hate us more than they hate anyone else b/c of this!
You are spot on.! .thank you for your deep insights..Aloha from an infj Big island..❤
I'm curious how you became so in tune and familiar with all these characteristics of an ifnj. I feel like I'm always learning myself and could never have the ability to reflect and articulate all these observations let alone have a good understanding of it all.
My first word was "We can go in the car"
I mightve said something earlier but nobody was paying attention cuz, yanno lol. But I'm 34 and started opening up to my 3 widdled down decade(s) tested double blind placebo controlled friends about my personailty, what i valued about their friendship and what i was wrong about im the past.
Turns out the overly rigorous method worked and was received well. They also let loose some baggage and it was all very unencumbering. One of them turned out to also be an INFJ. This is all more evidence that this Meyers-Briggs stuff has real utility and can help non neurotypical personalities function.
"Being ourselves is not acceptable." I just tweeted about this today. The worthy people will support you while the unworthy people will either grow from your example or they will wither and leave your orbit.
What's a child mind? Freedom of the imagination, a good balance about not worrying what he/she can't control, easy to laugh, being fascinated ... the best state of being. Beats being a fearful, burnt out, robot controlled by the forces at large who don't want you do do nothing else but to have you make them look good, make them richer, secure their job and "move stones for the Pharaoh."
The people around me must grow. Otherwise they will not be in my life. More True as time passes.
Thank you for the videos Wenzes!
My profile pic his from the summer that I turned 70. Well? By the end of this summer I will be 75, and I don't know what I'm going to be when I grow up yet.
I look very young for my age. A patient I once worked with said it’s probably from a good attitude and that is “serum” that no skincare influencer can get. Blessing but curse. No one takes me seriously or wants to help in the corporate world, no matter how much I adjust my looks
Truth... as an INFJ, I feel younger and more eager to take on life now in my 40's then I did in some previous chapters of my earlier adult life.
I'm regularly surprised how much most people care about what other people think !! Why ?? They don't know who you really are, do what feels right to YOU !!!
#3.. I struggle with this the most. It's like I can't turn it off. If I'm around others at all, I'm immediately tuned in to them and feeling their emotions and thoughts and then yes I get drained and feel low. I wish I could block it sometimes.
I was really serious when I was young and learned to just go with the moment and have fun. I can still get in my head a lot but not like I used to and I am definitely not ready for porch sitting, potluck suppers and talking about the grandkids. It is so hard to find people as you get older who still want to travel, explore, go on adventures and have fun.
Your real friends won't leave your life even if you are trying to be growth minded something to keep in mind .
My hair was receding turning gray ....... been with u about 2 years and ive transformed my self 2 xxxx because of needs ...... 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Ohhhh, now I know why. People do comment that I look younger at 25 than I was at 17 like wtf. That's just appearance-wise.
Thank you for imparting confidence for us INFJs. For me personally I was such a people pleaser, sacrificing my own needs for narcissistic people in my life and caring so much about what other people think and feeling like I can't do it on my own. Over the last few years, I've been focusing more on caring for myself and being true to myself and prioritizing what I want and I feel less perfectionism
I felt older when I was kid, now feeling like kid as I dropped lots trauma.
I'm in Senior housing for 2 1/2 years now. I keep getting asked who I'm visiting. The Security Guard just can't remember that I'm a resident !! I move quicker than anyone in the building.
I’ve always been told I have a grandma spirit…but, I also have a childlike spirit, too. So everything you are saying makes sense!☺️
really needed this…especially the part about not having to carry everyone else’s pain.❤
Wow this is amazing. I'm so sad I didn't discover you in my journey. I only recently found out and it's crazy how much of my life was just scripted. Like the Oracle (also INFJ) in the Matrix said "You're not here to make the decision, you've already done that. You are here to understand 'why' you made it"
Right things are more right when you explain.
When I first realized that others approval or disapproval would not change what I would do, that I would do what I wanted regardless , it no longer occurred to me to wonder. The outcome was already decided.
Thanks for such an insightful video especially about not taking other people's pain.
Yes! This! My boss jokes around and calls me a teenybopper…I’m almost 53
Head above water. That sounds like me, even after 3 years alcohol-free. This is helpful, thanks
This INFJ is also a Twin Flame. I have a very deep Spiritual connection to my male counterpart. We can talk telepathically, and even feel each other from anywhere in the world. I feel very privileged to be the rarest of the rare, with a true Divine Mission.
No one believes me when I tell them I am 47. Thankfully I don't look like what I have been through. 😆
That’s a really interesting fact. I’m 39 now. Sometimes when I meet old classmates it’s so strange, because some of them look so old, and dress like an old person, even some of the interests. I like lots of different music and I’m pretty sure, no one of them listens to some of my favorite ones 😉.
Didn’t know that this has something to do with being and INFJ.
I'm seventy years old and I am having a great time. In fact I was ask by a nice lady, who is some where around maybe forty years old. To go on a date with her. Nice compliment. Very nice.. and I declined. as a gentleman should. And she that because I was so happy all the time that she really thought that I was much younger. Yes the couple of intjs that I know said that we do become younger. Because of how we view the world.
Nice. You should have dated her.
When I was younger I looked older than the other kids in demeanor
The title of this one caught my attention immediately. Knowledge, discernment and wisdom (also known as spiritual gifts) enriches your life as much as any amount of wealth you attain in your working years. And that makes for a much younger altitude. Yes, altitude. Finally....as I've gotten older and done with work, I can look back and realize fully how unfulfilled some folks were in their job. They weren't suited for it. The old adage is...be careful what you wish for.... unless you like being miserable.
I don't think I am an INFJ. However There is this sort of feeling that I am living my life backwards and Even though I look older people always give me an double take when I tell them how old I am. It's weird. I look back as far as I can remember and the feeling I never died Hunts me to this day. It's sad that we have to leave the people we become to love. Some how they to always come back and we happen to find each other. It's funny but people started saying your how old from when I was a teen. a lot at 50. If you think young you remain young and the outside shows. Just my feelings on this. I have a few friends that think they are INFJs We get along because I am a solitary person myself. we don't force each other to hang out. I have to look at the rest of this another time. Thank you for sharing. c]8-)
Thank you Wenzes! Wow! I understand a little more. Having raised three kids, ministry, hospice volunteer, prison ministry, worked 2and3 jobs and household chores. I did the best with what I had. Some clutter didn’t live in a museum. Dogs running around. Kids were in no need or want. Bills paid. Loved my neighbors. Pulpit supply. Missionary, being a dad (greatest gift in the world to me), and wage earner. Still don’t know how I did it all but the Grace of God. Now retired relaxing enjoying hobbies. Success! Still feel like I have an 18 year old mind in a 68 year old body. Hahaha 🤣
I've always felt old from a young age and only feel even older as I get older. I've always felt 15 to 20 years older than my chronological age. What's the meaning of that?
I'm so grateful for your videos 🙏🏾💜💯
Very helpful. I found a meme on Reddit that showed a YOUNG INFJ as a beautiful Unicorn and an OLD INFJ as a burned out hag of a Unicorn. I feel that way. So your video is helping me to throw off the carnage and heal.
We got a motorcycle for our 62 year old retirement plan. 2 weeks later my husband of 55 years hit a stray dog. I said to him when we left the driveway " GO REALLY SLOW DOWN THIS ROAD" our road. He NEVER listened to me and this was no different. Bang!! 45 miles and hour is SLOW?? Well after years of recovery i am able to walk, talk, eat, even seem kind of normal. The point is I'm 75 and nothing will kill me. So many times the doctor says he doesn't know how i lived thru this or that. My husband got a scratch on his left side of his face. I'm sick and in the hospital alot!! I lived since i was 12 always exercising, holding my stomach in and walking straight. I find myself still angry at him for not listening to what i said. I had that feeling something was going to go wrong. One second turning his head and my life would have been totally different!! I do blame him. He's a narcissist but i made a vow 55 years before and would never break that. I cried the day i was going to marry him...wish I'd not been so aware of not wanting to hurt him. He NEVER said he was sorry. He said it wasn't his fault it was the dogs. Well i didn't talk to the dog before the accident. Make sense?? I don't know. My energy is used trying to stay well. 😪
Great video Wenzes 🙏🏼💕
OUT- Standing! Thank you!
Brilliant! This content is so helpful. Thank you for sharing this with us all 💕
Beautifully explained per usual, Wenzes
So GRATEFUL TO HAVE FOUND YOU BEAUTIFUL 👸🏼 From the inside out have a very beautiful day and a happy new year #SmileYouHaveABeautifulOne
My teen tells me all the time I'm turning into a child. Told him to get used to it because I wasn't able to be a child the first time around. Lol. I'm in my 50s.
Wow, thank you so much for this video and creating this channel! I have so much to learn, understand, and embrace about myself. Subscribed.
This is so true it’s scary, I am really enjoying my teen daughter and relate to her well, we have so much fun😀. I’m mid 50’s, and I’m trying to keep life lighter. I can be more myself with her than with anyone else, I hide less with her. She is an INFP and struggles herself in ‘finding her people’.
Love love love all this good stuff! 🎉❤
Very well spoken, and great thoughts. Thank you for this.
Guilty I've melted the years off