I have been in a toxic marriage for the past 7 years..there was hardly any physical intimacy..I mean we had physical relations for maybe not even 7 times in these 7 years..he has an OCD for cleanliness..he used to yell at me if the house was not as clean or if I was not doing the house work according to him..this year I got my parents involved and told them everything..they came and spoke with him and told him he would have to work hard to get me to want to be with him..I want a divorce but he says he will try to be a better husband..I don’t love him ..I don’t think I ever loved him..he said he dint think things were this bad unless he spoke with my parents..I just want to be free but how do I get him to agree for the divorce as well..we have a 4 year old daughter.he loves her but I can’t base my life on just wanting a better life for my daughter..what about my feelings
Definitely.. divorce is not the answer most of the time and I hope people will choose deep love over their own selfish desires 🙏🏻 not easy to do, we need God/Jesus leading us
The fact we even have to make these videos is sad that so many don’t understand how basic relationships work and exist. That’s someone you love and have devoted your life to you can say they’re hurting with some things and the first thing out of their mouth is how they feel or a defensive response instead of, oh that’s not good tell me more so I can try to understand and see if there’s anything I or we could do differently that would ease that hurt……..can’t even have that conversation. Here I am take it all or nothing whether it’s conducive for a healthy relationship or not. Hard to love someone who doesn’t love themselves in a healthy way. This was a good rundown. Tired weak and weary of trying to win a loosing battle. Of course it’s all my fault because I couldn’t make her happy even though she can’t do that either except for checking out of life and into tv………..wish I was a better man or what they think a man should be I guess. Did I mention it was sad……
Divorce is hating the one you were meant to love and protect. Biblically it’s wrong (except under certain circumstances like infidelity - God loves and protects His children) and statistically most people regret their divorce. Hang in there - seek and cry out to Jesus, drop your sin and submit to Him, read your Bible, pray, live by his law of Love and see your marriage change. I know couples who went through extremely difficult years of marriage (including unfaithfulness and extreme immaturity) then started following Jesus and are still together and happy many years later 💖🙏🏻
Infidelity also includes sexual and physical abandonment and many even and especially in the church live silently in abandonment. God’s plan for us is union and intimacy on all levels through marriage but for many marriages end with no connection of intimacy.
I have been in a toxic marriage for the past 7 years..there was hardly any physical intimacy..I mean we had physical relations for maybe not even 7 times in these 7 years..he has an OCD for cleanliness..he used to yell at me if the house was not as clean or if I was not doing the house work according to him..this year I got my parents involved and told them everything..they came and spoke with him and told him he would have to work hard to get me to want to be with him..I want a divorce but he says he will try to be a better husband..I don’t love him ..I don’t think I ever loved him..he said he dint think things were this bad unless he spoke with my parents..I just want to be free but how do I get him to agree for the divorce as well..we have a 4 year old daughter.he loves her but I can’t base my life on just wanting a better life for my daughter..what about my feelings
Thank you so much! I'm in a "TOXIC" relationship which I've been going in circles to end it so this video is what I needed! 😭
I am so happy to hear you got something out of the video!
Thank you for the clarity that a person needs to move forward
Me too
Thanks the video is very clear . 👌 easy to understand. Unfortunately is the most difficult decision in somebody's life .
Definitely.. divorce is not the answer most of the time and I hope people will choose deep love over their own selfish desires 🙏🏻 not easy to do, we need God/Jesus leading us
I've done all these steps in my head already. I guess I am prepared.
The fact we even have to make these videos is sad that so many don’t understand how basic relationships work and exist. That’s someone you love and have devoted your life to you can say they’re hurting with some things and the first thing out of their mouth is how they feel or a defensive response instead of, oh that’s not good tell me more so I can try to understand and see if there’s anything I or we could do differently that would ease that hurt……..can’t even have that conversation. Here I am take it all or nothing whether it’s conducive for a healthy relationship or not. Hard to love someone who doesn’t love themselves in a healthy way. This was a good rundown. Tired weak and weary of trying to win a loosing battle. Of course it’s all my fault because I couldn’t make her happy even though she can’t do that either except for checking out of life and into tv………..wish I was a better man or what they think a man should be I guess. Did I mention it was sad……
she hits me😊
Divorce is hating the one you were meant to love and protect. Biblically it’s wrong (except under certain circumstances like infidelity - God loves and protects His children) and statistically most people regret their divorce.
Hang in there - seek and cry out to Jesus, drop your sin and submit to Him, read your Bible, pray, live by his law of Love and see your marriage change.
I know couples who went through extremely difficult years of marriage (including unfaithfulness and extreme immaturity) then started following Jesus and are still together and happy many years later 💖🙏🏻
Infidelity also includes sexual and physical abandonment and many even and especially in the church live silently in abandonment. God’s plan for us is union and intimacy on all levels through marriage but for many marriages end with no connection of intimacy.