Guilt and Grief
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- čas přidán 26. 01. 2022
- Guilt is the unwanted companion of grief and is something that shows up for so many of us in our grieving journeys.
We feel guilty for what we did or didn’t do.
what we said or didn’t say.
For not being enough.
For surviving.
For life
We feel guilty for feeling guilty….
It’s endless.
In this episode we explore guilt and why we find it easier to feel guilt than we do to feel powerless. I want to help you understand that it is common, and a natural part of the grieving process, to explore all the shoulda, woulda, couldas, within your loss, you are not alone and nor are you going mad. However, by understanding a little more about it we are able to shift our perspective and change our thought patterns enabling us to take back some control and reduce our suffering.
Making sense of death is hard, trying to fathom the enormity of the loss leaves us with the realisation that the world is unpredictable and chaotic, and that’s uncomfortable, so we invite guilt in instead, it’s still uncomfortable but it allows us to feel we have some control.
Have a listen and let's explore this subject a little more and help you free yourself of some of the guilt.
Thank you for these videos, loss of my wife 8 1 23 to cervix cancer tumor thinking it was menopause n butt pain in 3 months didn't make it to chemo was only 50 :(... you're enough, thanks
I lost my wife to aggressive cancer and the sense of guilt has been one of the most overwhelming feelings I have had. This is all very relatable!
I am so sorry to hear about your wife, guilt is huge in grief and i do hope you are able to work through it and see that you were doing your absolute best, and that was good enough. Sending love 🌻
Karen you have helped me so much, I'm a new widow,and felt so alone keeping things to myself.forfear of being a wimp,not being able to handle things. Look forward to the next one. June.
Ah June, i'm sending you so much love. You are not a wimp at all, be gentle with yourself, the loss of a life partner is huge and it's so hard for us to navigate everything it brings with it. Sending love. Karen xx
My guilt is more moving on without him and thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
God bless you Karen. You are so full of wisdom in your young life. You have addressed every feeling I've had. I'm 73 and lost my husband 3 months ago. I will continue to listen to your advice.
Hi my husband Amos die 3 months now I feel guilty because my husband had a stroke I used to see about him and I got covid19 and I didn't know I had it and my husband Amos get it from me and die so I am blaming my self for his death we were married for 40 year's
Hi Karen,
Thank you for this video.i can relate to this so much.my wife died suddenly and the what ifs and buts are very real.
I'm so sorry to hear about your wife, I do hope you find these videos helpful in your journey. Sending love and strength. 🌻
im so sorry forthis immense loss you are facing i lost my mum a month back and itoo have these ifs n buts.
The guilt is real. Oh the would've, could've, should've of his last day on earth. While this video brought up memories and brought me to tears, I believe I needed it at this time as part of the healing process. Coming up on the one year mark in a few weeks so I think it makes me more reflective of that last week of his life. I had to make the decision of taking him off life support without the ability to have a conversation with him. I still talked to him as if he could hear me but he was not able to respond with even a hand squeeze or eye blink.
Ah Lenette, I am so sorry, that all must have been so very hard for you, and like you say is still something you are working through. Please do come and join u in my free Facebook Support group 'Widowed and Rising' and be with people who get it. Huge love, Karen xx
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I lost my husband about 3 weeks ago. I am trying to figure things out. Because he died next to me while we slept I can’t even sleep in that room right now
Savannah, I am so very sorry for you, it is awful. It is such early days, do what you ned to do to get through, the rest will come lovely. Huge love,
Karen xxx