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My mom had a VERY effective technique; which was to tell me the potential consequences of doing something she thought wasn't a good idea. Not her consequences, but the world's. The inconveniences that could be caused were usually enough to make me not do those things.
Could you give an example please?
U have one smart mom 😊
yes, if parents could all have the wisdom of teaching their children how predatory the opposite sex can be, and how fickle. Give them concrete reasons to maintain their purity and modesty. That should be a class in school, replacing sex ed.
My mom taught me the same thing. Most things are not worth the consequences 😂
@@jennifernorman2000 I know when I was underage talking to older guys and got caught, my dad sat me down and explained all the dangers and risks. And it was enough. A lot of parents would have shouted at their kids, hit them, taken all of their possessions. But he just talked and explained what could happen, not threaten me with consequences that he would come up with. I’m not sure if that’s how they meant it, but that’s how I took it and an example I had. Hope you both have an amazing day and life and if you’re going through something I know you will get through it ❤
When I was a single mom, there was no way in hell that I was going to provide my details on where I lived to someone I did not know well. Meaning: I drove myself, met the person there. I would limit myself to a drink, maybe two. My utmost top priority was to protect my child. Even the man who I eventually married did not know where I lived for a few months.
Love that! Gotta watch out for the kids, too..
Yeah I thought it was nuts she wanted to be picked up. I am not even a mom and I wouldn't do that on a first date.
YOU'RE A GOOD MOM!!🎉🎉
same. safety first, always. but she lost me when she said that her date should pay for a babysitter. uh, no. when my daughter was younger if i couldn't get or afford a babysitter then i didn't go out. thems the breaks. if she's expecting a date to bankroll her lifestyle off the bat then there's a reason she;s single.
Many years ago I was dating a single mom. She didn't talk about her 7-year-old for about 3 dates, then waited about a month more (and many more dates) before we were introduced. She wanted to keep her child safe, and I respected her for that.
*Edit* She had her own apartment. Her parents babysat at their place when we had dates.
I remember when I got a second piercing in one ear, and my mom couldn't understand how I could do that to her. To this day I'm fairly confident I didn't do anything "to her" 🤷
When I was in my early 30s, I didn't get my step-cousin a gift for their first Communion, and my stepmom said it made her look bad. I've never lived under her roof. Its always confused me.
Lol I remember feeling so rebellious getting my second ear piercing…jokes on me, my mom loved it. I was the reserved one in our dynamic
Single mom was definitely entitled. She did bring up good points about not being able to make plans at the drop of a hat, but you just ask that potential dates be planned ahead so you in turn can plan accordingly. You could also ask that grace be given if babysitting falls through and you have to cancel. Everything else is asking too much, especially from someone you haven't been with for very long.
She’s beyond. She don’t want to go get dinner and drinks; plan something because she’s taking time out her evening? Like the man’s not taking time out his. U won’t risk driving drunk ( then don’t get drunk) however it’s perfectly safe to give a stranger your address where you and your children sleep.
@@sanogene5698And have to pay for her to get there and back………. She’d be going to McDonald’s if she wanted everything else. She forgot to mention that she wants HIM to pay for a takeout dish for her kid!
Wow, next level entitlement. Dropping your kids off on a 14 year old to babysit on her bday. That is horrific.
At least they brought gifts!
My friend had a mom bring her kid to her son's 9th birthday party at her house, and ask if her 2 other kids could join too....
Age 12 and 6.....
Those kids ate cake, ice cream, hot dogs, hamburgers, chips, and soda...
not ONE gift between the 3 of them.
She also took off with a wave and said "I'll be back around 5" the party was supposed to be done by 3, it was 11am..... she didn't return until 6:30pm
She got 7 hours of free childcare on a Saturday afternoon complete with lunch AND dinner too!
The 6 year old was NOT well behaved at ALL!!!
I don’t understand why parents think dumping off their kids at a older kids party is a good idea. You are not going to be welcomed back anytime soon.
My aunt tried dropping my cousin off at another family member’s house when the cousin was 6. Came back to a “drunk” kid. I put drunk in quotation marks because they gave him schluer (fake wine) and didn’t tell the kid it was non alcoholic
@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast i think they slipped them under the radar. She said he mom called them right away. She said she was out on the back patio. Not answering the door. The 14 year old probably didn't know how to say NO.
@@cattherat-ss4kv lmao 🤣
As a single mom, if I couldn't afford a sitter, I would never go on a date. That person didn't get you pregnant, your kids are your responsibility. If you end up married, then it's shared. The entitlement is astonishing.
Literally!!!
Facts said it nicer than me
Keep having that attitude. And that's why you'll never find a good man for you or your children. Because if a man really likes you and cares about you and your child , he will pay for a babysitter that's not being entitled that's being smart and knowing you're worth and value. I hope you learn your worth and value and your childrens
As a parent with a learning disability, I feel like I have a pretty good grasp on what it was like being a kid, so when I talk to my sons about certain issues, I explain them thoroughly and logically, and answer any questions. I remember growing up that my parents never wanted to talk about sex. I wish they had. My parents are wonderful people, but they just felt awkward about certain topics, I guess. I was never allowed to call my breasts anything other than my chest, for example. The only “sex talk” my parents ever gave me was handing me a simplistic picture book called How Babies Are Made, or something like that. With my two sons, I don’t force any conversations, but when something comes up, or they ask me about something, I explain it as clearly as I can, because since I had a learning disability, if someone didn’t do that for me, I’d have no clue.
No idea if it’s the ideal parenting situation, but I’d prefer my boys be armed with knowledge, rather than shielded with ignorance.
You sound like a great mom!
You guys are so awesome! 😭 After a busy stressful day, seeing these comments lifted my spirits!❤️
Sounds to me like the perfect way to do it. That's how my mom did it. 😊
Same here. I was sheltered and had to learn stuff in not the best ways.
Now my kids know their body parts and we have age appropriate discussions about their bodies and sex
my parents philosophy was the harder you hold on to your kids, the harder they work to get free. my parents were extremely chill and barely asked questions, which took away the desire to try stupid stuff. the only appeal i feel like a lot of “bad” things have is that you’re not supposed to do them. take away the mystery and 🤷🏾♀️
I'm gonna use that.
That's how my parents were. My sister and I never really did anything stupid. We never felt the need to not tell them where we were going, or who we were going with. We didn't have the desire to do anything crazy. Since some our friend's parents were fairly strict, we always came in at a decent time.
Same! My parents allowed me to go out and drink. The only requirement was that I was honest with them where I was and with who and that I stayed safe. Now I don't party at all. It's not super exciting to me. My very sheltered friends however go crazy on parties and one even took drugs just because of social pressure. She didn't even know what drugs they were, she just went along with it...
My mother is very codependent and my father is basically a Narcissistic deadbeat. Though, they're very surprised when my 27 yr old brother and I--a 24 yr old--don't have careers where we're making money and don't even know how to drive.
They didn't teach us anything besides what a toxic marriage is. 😂
As a single mother I can promise you that we’re not all like that, I wouldn’t mind if someone took me out for dinner and drinks and gave me a ride but I certainly don’t feel entitled to it, I actually make sure I can cover my own expenses before I go out with anyone friends, dates or family. Times are tough and we all got to contribute and pay our own way
I’m not single, but as a mom I also agree. The only thing she said I fully agreed with was be willing to work around weekdays. If your kids are old enough to be in school and activities, weekdays can be quite hectic. However, I don’t think that’s just a mom/kids thing. If you like the person you should be willing to work around each of your schedules.
@@kelseyhayes4016 True that.
She started out being normal, like "I'm busy, I have lots of responsibilities, I can't stay out late on a weeknight" I'm with you there, then she switched gears and was suddenly demanding creative activities, free babysitting, and a chauffeur. That's where she lost me. Like, I get that she doesn't want to drink and drive, totally respect that, but pay for your own Uber woman! 🤣
We're all entitled to humanity and respect, we aren't all entitled to other people's money!.
To ALL the single ladies......have backup on a date NO MATTER!!!! I typically would meet a gentleman at a restaurant over him picking me up, unless we had been on several dates....folks now days be crazy....and a man should not be paying for a ladies kids, her friends etc.....On dates, I always carried food money, uber app, my keys and moderate expectations!
OH and single moms....dont make a man jump through hoops for you just because you're a mother....especially if they are not his kids...if your expectations are like the lady in the vid...maybe youre not ready to date for awhile.....dinner and drinks is just fine...and you do not have to get smashed to the point you cannot drive.....you get to control how much you drink....she really thinks she did something there.....
I feel that as a mom, you would want to drive at the date. I would hate to be in a situation where the guy is a weirdo and knows where you live. (Don't want to put your children in a horrible situation.) Plus, you can leave the date in case of an emergency.
I had one strict parent and one chill parent. Dad was prone to panicking about my future, and Mum was all about teaching me self-sufficiency and how to make smart and informed choices. They were both kids in the 60s and 70s, but my Mum wore micro miniskirts in her teens while my Dad's sisters wore homemade sexless long sack dresses. When I was in my teens, Mum's view on clothes was: "At least with modern miniskirts you can't see people's butts." I wore a miniskirt to school for two years, but with booty shorts underneath so I could run around. Dad spent those two years, and several years afterwards, in the corner clutching his pearls. 😂
😂😂 clutching his pearls 😂😂 that reminds me of my parents, dad was a stickler for safety and rules. While mum was like fuck around and find out type, we got up to so much mischief with mum.
clutching his pearls🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣😂🤣
I had strict parents. It definitely does make for sneaky kids. Unfortunately, when you are super sneaky, things are less available. I wound up pregnant at 16 by my long-time boyfriend.
My parents also believed that if you knew about sex you were doing it and refused to discuss the subject so there was no education on that front
🤣🤣🤣 the pearls comment ☠️
Regarding the last story, which I relate to very much, I have come to the conclusion that if I ever get “roped” up into baby sitting again by they parents just dropping their kids off in my care suddenly, I’m calling cps and reporting abandonment and negligence
That's exactly what I said. Just bc my child babysat for the person doesn't mean it's an open invitation to drop the kids off without prior notice and my okay in the matter. Not cool at all.
We had an open house and invited family and neighbors. A couple a few houses away sent their son (4 years' old, very active and no boundaries) by himself with the message they would come soon. 2 hours of watching him while entertaining about 70 people, including other kids, stopping him from ransacking bedrooms upstairs, dropping things from upstairs hall to downstairs hall, etc. when they finally showed up. No apology. Clearly just wanted us to babysit while also hosting. Very deliberate. Just entitled. Our kids are now in their 20s. Charlotte's right - you never forget being taken advantage of.
My daughter had a friend who's mother was so strict that she had her phone linked to her phone so she could everything texted to her plus she was never allowed to stay with friends or do anything. That girl today is in her young 20s with tattoos all over including big ones on her face and has issues with drugs. My daughter and her lost touch a long time ago. Me and my daughter seen what was happening to her from miles away. It's so sad. My daughter was different than a lot of kids. She rather be home reading books than be out running around but if she did want to go out and about, I trusted her. She knew if she got in any trouble, I would be there for her without getting mad at her because I remember being young and dumb. I was just happy that she was never as bad as I was. I told her of the stuff I did, and she was shocked. She laughed at me and said, I could never do any of that. Me and her had a friendship like that when she was a teen.
Edit: I took everyone's advice and took my family off my phone plan. While we are still paying for phones because of the contract we were under, our phone bill went from 500 a month to 240 a month and will go down about $85 as soon as those phones are paid off. I knew I needed to do something about it and I'm grateful for everyone's insight and kindness to point out how toxic this was. Thank you.
My mom was really strict, too. I wasn't allowed to wear makeup until I was 17, when my sister in law bought me my first mascara. And when she did, I was told I looked like a clown. I wasn't allowed to hang out with a boy, even in a group, because that was considered a date and I wasn't allowed to date. I ended up sneaking out all the time, drinking, smoking, and messing around because I wanted to push things as far as I could. But my mom wasn't just super controlling, she was and still is super emotionally abusive. I gave her all the money I earned as an adult in her house, and I was never enough. I still pay for hers and my siblings phones because I'm so scared of her freaking out at me. Idk, strict parents don't just raise sneaky kids. They raise scared kids sometimes.
And ppl who feel that their only worth is to please others. I hope you find help and fully accept yourself! You are worthy of unconditional love! Good luck on your journey ❤
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Oh my god, if you don't live there anymore, stop paying for anything she asks you. There is no logical explanation for you to do that. If she wants to freak out on you just No Contact her for awhile, saying she pisses you off and you need to live by your own NORMAL rules. Please live free!!!!
@@cecilewac5778 I agree with you 💯
If she's still controlling you even at this age...a big red flag you need to block her and protect your siblings. Ik it's hard but it's worth. This is not strict but narcissistic traits.
I was a single mom with 2 kids. If some guy offered to pay for a sitter, I would have said no! That would have been very weird to me, and I would have probably assumed he would have expected 'something ' in return! Nope, not happening. My kids, my responsibility, period.
Completely agree.
Does she not have any self respect?
Very weird.
That last one. Those parents next door need to be investigated for child neglect/abandonment.
Feeling pretty vindicated by that last story. My daughter who is 5 went to a birthday party this summer. I figured she was too young to just leave there, so I stayed and hung out. Out of 10+ other kids the same age, I was the ONLY parent who stayed. I felt awkward at first, like maybe they'd think I was a helicopter mom or I didn't trust them (although I'd never met the mom before) but I chatted and helped clean up after games. This vid made me glad I stayed, for the party mom's sake 😄
I bet those parents were glad to have another adult around to help out, even if they didn't specifically ask for it in the party invite.
I still stay at birthday parties. I don't know these people and I am not leaving my kid alone with anyone I don't truly trust.
Low class behavior
I was left alone with 14 toddlers at my kids birthday. I was SO mad! But way too busy keeping them injury free and cleaning up to do anything about it. Not one parent stayed. That was not the plan, and I won't ever have a party again. I genuinely believed parents stayed at parties for young kids..I do.
As a single mom (whose sons are now grown) I chose not to date while they were young. I didn't want to bring a revolving door of men in and out of their lives, as well as the possibility that any man might feel that he had a right to remark on my parenting skills. It was not until my oldest was in his third or fourth year of high school and he said, "Mom, I think you should date" that I was willing to date again. No, I don't expect everyone to go single that long but to maybe prioritize smaller kids ahead of the partner search might end some of this entitlement nonsense
I did about the same. Would date when at their dad's house but did not bring anyone home and did not ever meet my kids. Their dad did it and it did confuse them.
You did it right. I don’t think single parents should date until the children are older. It doesn’t do the child any favors with the revolving door of adults, and there are some sickos out there that will hook up with the single parent to get access to the children.
My sister in law brings men in and out of her house with 4 daughters. It’s so uncomfortable and worrisome.
@@MrsJay820 Oh yes, I would be so worried about daughters!!
@janine...or...it's really cool that they get to see what it's actually like to date. And the kids get to meet new people. And they can receive even more love. Unless the kids are in danger, support your sister in law. Good for her for dating. Everyone wants to love and be loved.
About the single mom not wanting to have boring dates, pay for the babysitter or drink and drive:
1) Dinner is a safe option for both parties. Public place. No chaos, usually. It's a time to get to know each other.
2) If he didn't father your child, he is not responsible for any childcare. Period.
3) If you don't want to drink and drive, pay for your own Uber.
Or even don’t drink at all. It could be a coffee date, something short like 1-2 hours at most. I don’t think I would want a first date to be that long and I don’t think I would want to drink to the point I can’t drive around someone I’m just barely getting to know.
@@bingusdingus69 I'd rather spend too little time with someone than too much, especially for the first meet. Remaining of right mind, sober, is likely a good idea at this time too. If you're a mother, you've a lot to lose by being too risky.
The #1 thing I do when looking to court a potential partner is make sure its safe, they're safe. Dinner/coffee/walks its not exactly the most original meet but there's a reason its not original... because its safe for both parties. Its as long or as short as you want it to be.
@@bingusdingus69 Personally, I don't drink at all. I'm just saying if she's GOING to drink, she needs to pay for her own Uber. Along with that, I don't recommend relying on a first date to get you to and from your date. While both require you to trust a stranger to drive you, the Uber is probably a little bit safer.
@nails... you do you. She'll do her. It works best that way.
@@marniebirger4907 People can do whatever the hell they want. I'm just giving my opinion. 🤷😂🤣
As the baby of our family that was into a few things my sister was, I agree that the strict parents just raise sneaky children. My mom being highly religious has never allowed anything vampires or werewolves or anything horror. She thinks it's a sin to watch. When I in elementary school, I watched Buffy with my sister. My mother could never get my sister to do as she was told, so I think she gave up on punishments. Lol. In middle school, I silently was still a Buffy fan. When my sister moved out, she left all her VHS tapes in the garage in a box. I'd sneak into the garage when my mom was at work (I literally knew my mother's schedule every single day because it was the same). I'd watch Buffy, Charmed, and Silk Stalkings recorded VHS tapes until I knew it was getting close to her time of getting home. Then if I didn't have time to put it back, I had a secret place I hid the tape. Lol. 😂 As for my sister, the only thing I know that she hid from my mom was that she had Buffy and Angel books she owned and read (I borrowed one of them sometimes), and the biggest thing she hid from our mother was that she had Tarrot cards. That's a big no no. My mom doesn't even believe in ghosts, so if she had ever known, that would've been chaos. They were hiding under my sister's hoodie and my sister left her bedroom open. Knowing my sister didn't like cat hair on her clothes and my younger cat Midnight was lounging on her hoodie, I picked her up. That's when I saw them. I was trying to figure out what they were (clueless little girl that didn't know that ghosts existed or that there was such a thing as Tarrot cards or ouija boards). That's when my sister saw me with the box and told me not to tell our mother. Being the good little sister, I listened. Never told our mother. Until it somehow came up in a conversation a few years or so ago.
For my nieces birthday last year, she invited some of her friends from school for the first time, so they were children and parents that we didn’t know as well or at all. One of her best friends from school came with her mom and about 15 minutes into the party, we realized the mom was nowhere to be found. This crazy lady left her seven year old daughter at a party with no adults that she knew for six hours. All the other party goers were gone. She only answered the phone when we threaten to call the police if she did not come get her kid.
That single mom’s list of expectations are something she’s allowed to have, especially when she’s expressed that dating isn’t necessarily a priority to her. But as Charlotte said, I think she’ll miss out on a lot of opportunities by pushing her responsibilities onto the person approaching her. Because dating as a single parent IS more difficult, there are a lot of factors you need to work around that folks who aren’t yet parents often don’t think about. But a list of “you better be doing this for me” versus “hey, it’s not as simple as drop everything to go out” is a big difference.
I don't think so. It's also a way of saying, if you really want me, you have to want the whole package.
@@silkvelvet2616 - But I don’t think “you need to cover my babysitting costs” and “you better pay for my transportation to and from dates” qualify as being appropriate asks in a “package deal.” It’s not the same thing as saying “hey, if you wanna date me, we need to work together to make sure my daughter is taken care of during our date” or “here’s why a ‘meeting for drinks’ date won’t really work for me. Are there other options?”
It’s not pushing responsibility, it’s you want to badger me for a weekday date? Fine you pay the damn babysitter, you want to get drinks, fine you pay for the Uber. Otherwise I’m just going out when I have time
The fact that you need that spelled out is so sad. WEEKDAY she says it repeatedly. She says she’s busy on weekdays so she’s saying not to expect her to drop everything, try to find a sitter, get an Uber because you insist on a date on a Wednesday instead of waiting for the weekend
@@Nevertoleave - Whether you like it or not, it’s no one’s responsibility except hers to figure out child care and transportation, because she is the parent. Despite those being her responsibility, she is demanding the other person take them on. And you know what, that’s her prerogative to do. She clearly doesn’t care who that eliminates, and good for her then. Hope it works out for her.
One time my parents came over to my apartment and just so happened to see my new tattoo. I was 22 at the time. My mom really looked at me and told me to stop getting tattoos. I looked at her and laughed. I told her I am no longer under her roof and im 22 years old. You can't tell me what I can and can't do with my body. I was dying 😂😂 the look on her face lives rent free in my head!
The minute I left for college started my sleeve. Got some shoulder tats, rib cage, went the whole 9 lol 😂 My mom is mortified about my wedding photos and how they’ll turn out in the strapless dress I want to wear 🥰 28 now and best decision ever lmao
Was always open, fair & honest with my kids. Now that they're 17 & 19, they tell me EVERYTHING. Relationships, periods, mental health, worries/stresses & even when they had gotten drunk with their friends underage. They even called me that night they were drunk because they realised they were not fully in control of themselves & asked to be picked up. Please don't misunderstand me, i do not condone that in any way, but I'm super happy that they realised they'd screwed up & i was the 1st person they called, instead of staying out & possibly getting into trouble. Next day we talked about their actions & possible consequences.
My parents were super strict, my father back-handed me across the face the 1st time i went home drunk underage. Couldn't talk to them about anything. Anytime i was upset i was told i was stupid/being ridiculous etc. etc. I Just got really good at lying & hiding everything, ended up in some seriously dodgy/scary situations because of it, never spoke to them about anything, gave up trying.
That's why i decided to do things different with my own kids.
I've been a single mom for about 19 years now. I do agree that asking for a date during the week for me has always been nearly impossible, but if it happens I always make sure I can cover my own way before I go out with someone. If they offer to pay, then I will accept, but I don't expect that. A simple dinner with adult conversation is a nice time to me. I don't expect to be picked up by anyone and if I drive I won't drink. Simple as that.
My kids haven't been in grade/middle school in over a decade but that "Toxic Mom" struck a forgottern nerve. That was horrifically on point.
The "toxic mom" triggered me ugh It was literally every kid's mom where I grew up, and as a biracial below-the-poverty-line family surrounded by affluent families it was a weird dichotomy. The entitlement trickles down to the kids too, it's just too much
I am so glad I am not in that kind of environment and that I'm child free :3
Saw this great post earlier today.
Strict parents think they're teaching you to how to behave.
What they are teaching you:
How to listen for footsteps
How to appear busy
How to appease others to stop an argument
And lying. They teach you how to lie to them.
Creativity? Shocking! Yup, Gen Xer here…
But the real question is, what is that child being taught about consequences?
It depends on the kids and what you mean by strict
Exactly!!
Also: Geography (got to live as far away from them when you're older) and what is the worst nursing home to dump them in
Being a single mom for the last forever…. I’ve never expected anyone to pay my babysitter and I sure as hell never turned down dinner and drinks….. WTH is wrong with people 😮
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Watching these made me realize how much of an odd child/teen I was.
Never wanted to go out, didn't really have any friends. All I wanted to do was draw and play with my (bootleg)Pokémon miniature and figures, stay at home and play video games.
Was never into make-up, am 35 now, still don't wear make up nor care for it.
Still just wanna stay at home, draw and play video games
...are you me?
Rules without relationship leads to rebellion so talk with your young people and try to remember that you are not raising kids but adults currently in their younger forms. Start by finding out why they want to do something (try makeup, social media, certain clothing choices, etc) and actually listen to them. More often than not, our “fiercely independent” kids will be succumbing to peer pressure and unable to see that so discussing the subject from all angles will teach them how to consider much more than the superficial and raise truly independent thinkers.
My single parent, my father, was not strict. I was so very close to him, a good student and told him more than he probably really wanted to know. I always felt like he trusted me so I tried not to betray that. As a parent I am also not strict. My kids are now 17 & 19…hardworking, good students, kind people. They also often tell me more than I need to know but I love it💜 instead of hiding what they want to do, they ask for advice on it. You gotta pick your battles…hair color and makeup? Those aren’t ones I’d ever bother with. My daughter has purple hair that I paid for and she looks gorgeous. you don’t have to be super strict to raise well behaved amazing kids. Or maybe I’ve just been really lucky😂
This is how we were raised too. Trust between parties is important. Kids being aware of actions and consequences but also knowing that you're there for them too is just as important. Behavior, attitude, kindness, respect... Big ups to you and dad ❤
As a single dad of a strong girl, I encouraged colored hair and nails and made it clear that any hair or nails mistake would fix itself, but tattoos are forever. Won that one, without either of us dying on a hill that didn't matter.
You are lucky and absolutely correct in your proactive! Thank you for helping to break this toxic tradition of parenting. I came from a home of strict parents, couldn’t trust them to have open conversations. I’m lucky I’m alive today lol by the grace of some good friends and their mothers.
As someone who was a single mom, my child would go and visit his dad during the summer. That is when I would date. When I lived closer to his father, and dad had him on weekends, that is when I would date. On the rare occasions, I did go out when I had my son, I paid for my babysitter, I drove myself (because they don't need to come to my house and possibly meet my child), and I limited my drinks.
Charlotte! You hit the nail on the head with ‘strict parents make sneaky kids’ that is SO true lol my parents weren’t the most strict parents in the world, but I was the oldest and they were def stricter then any of my friends parents. So I had to learn to be REAL sneaky and be REAL good at it 😂😂 I of course got caught a few times which led my parents to take a lighter approach with my brother! And their parent/kid relationship was so much better then ours. It used to make me super jealous actually 😂
I remember I let my daughter die her blond hair blue the second year of secondary school (sophomore highschool?) a couple of years ago because the local sports team was in the final. Loads of other parents were stunned I let he. I mean, it DOES grow out eventually you know. She tried a couple of different colours but was back to blond before she started Uni. Parents need to CHILL.
My daughter went completely blue and has very long hair. I think people were speechless because they thought it was her "best feature"? (Her best feature is her mind and heart, but okay).
As a mother myself it's one thing for you to say I have a beautiful daughter but it's wholly and entirely another to look at me and say that I have somehow let her ruin something that they've deemed "her best feature"........ I'm sorry but that would make me feel just a little uncomfortable about the way that you are looking at my child....... I am so sorry that those people said that to you because that is incredibly rude you are very correct that hair does grow out and that teaching them their ability to be themselves is both better and more important than other people's nasty opinions.......
Love that! My mom was the same way. My mom has been dyin her hair my whole life. So at 15 when I asked if I could die my hair, she wasn’t that shaken up about it. She thought the same thing u did. It’s hair. It’ll grow out/grow back. I had my head every color of the rainbow pretty much lol and this is back in the early 2000s when coloring ur hair crazy colors wasnt in the norm 😂 but she always allowed me to express myself thru makeup and hair! Thanx mom. 😂
I had to beg my mom and finally she let me around that age but only blonde or dark brown or highlights lol that would have been cool if my mom let me do that
As someone who has strict and controlling parents this makes me cry, it's horrible to see those situations from another perspective cause when it happens to you you just get useed to it overtime and think of it as "normal". I'm currently working my ass off to settle somewhere far from my family after I finish my MA studies. I hope that everybody who's in a similar situation is gonna get their freedom and start living their best life without trauma 🫂
I had a similar experience with my 17th birthday party. My best friend's aunt foisted her two nasty children upon us. Here was a half dozen teens spending four hours dealing with screaming spoiled snots, breaking one of my GameCube controllers, smashing part of my Lego Hogwarts and trying to steal the video game I got as a gift.
For the parents: If you are going to have a kid that either gets in trouble, gets good at lying, or does stuff you don't like - PLEASE stress to them that regardless of what situation they are in, they can always call you for help. If they're scared, if they got in over their heads, if they're somewhere unsafe, if they are stranded, if they are inebriated, whatever, and you will HELP THEM with no argument (at the time, obviously punishment's later if applicable). If they know that the support is there, they are less likely to offend, but also much more likely to allow you to help them when they truly need it. Do not be the "I'm too scared to call my guardian" type parents, because that's how kids get very hurt.
One of my nieces got busted driving under the influence, underage, and the cop gave her the option of jail or calling her dad and she said "Take me to jail".
Right! Bc I didn't have the kind of mother that I could tell anything to. I'm excellent at lying bc of it.
I'm a mom. If there was a chill pill that I could take, I would take it in a heartbeat.
Me and you both huni!!🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️😂😂😂😂😂😂
Same.
I need a repeat prescription
LOL
Honestly, me too girl
Overly religious parents🤮 I had a friend who's parents were like that. The abuse was ridiculous. CPS did take her and her sister away, and they had a normal childhood after that. I was so happy for them because their life beforehand was so miserable!
I love your energy Charlotte! Thank you for always uploading and just being you!
My mom had me at 16 and I was raised by my grandparents and because of her they were super strict with me. It's true you lie so much that you lie about stupid stuff like I would say I was at McDonald's when I was at Wendy's just to feel a little freedom knowing she didn't know where I really was. Then of course she would find out and I'd be grounded. I couldn't wait till I was 18. I still to this day at 37 lie to her sometimes out of fear of getting in trouble 😂😂❤❤
My parents weren't overly strict, but I respected them bc they respected me. My husband and I raised 2 daughters. They had some rules and knew the consequences of breaking them. I was open with them, if they ask a question even a difficult one I answered it the best way I could. They are now adults and raising their own kids and we are very close.
There was a reddit story of a parent asking if they were the a-hole after belittling there child because they cried after there younger sibling blew out there birthday candles. They went on about how they don't throw the kids birthday parties after a certain age (13-14 I think) and that the oldest begged to have one, they agreed. But when it came to blowing out to blowing out the candles, one of the younger siblings blew them out first. And the oldest started to cry, and op was an a-hole and called them a crybaby, they received backlash for that by us confused on why.
Damn, I wish you had the name so I could look it up
The toxic mom meet the teacher...oh goodness, I have met so many individuals like this. I agree, too real.
YEAH!!!! That one with the eye brows... that's the key, the more strict the better you get at lying.
Funny enough, my mom and dad were super chill with me and I never went to parties, I was probably one of the few teenage girls in my classroom who didn't end up pregnant, never rebelled, never caused problems, I always told everything to my mom. We have a great relationship because they were not overbearing.
Same.
Saame, my mom and I are chill. Some of my friends always told me they were jealous of how chill she is.
I'm on the mom side whose son is now 25. Only things I was strict about was respect and honesty. Respect yourself and me and just tell me the truth. Everything else was pretty slack. Also open about my substance addiction. I was attacked the entire time by other parents about how awful I was as a mother
My son, no addictions, kids, or legal trouble, owns his own home free and clear. Awesome adult and still really close with me. Those other parents have very little interaction with their kids unless the kid is living off them, addiction, lots of criminal troubles.
Yeah my mom took all of the mystic from things like parties and drugs/alcohol. She trusted me enough to not do anything stupid, and when I inevitably did being a kid, I knew that she wouldn’t be mad and would help me out of it. (I never did anything that was actually bad just stupid like going out with a guy I didn’t know super well who ended up being a creep) She would always explain what I did wrong and how to fix as well as things that could happen if I did something. I will always remember her letting me drink alcohol and do weed as a first time with her supervision and guidance which really helped me understand what it did and how it worked while being safe.
My mother used fear to keep me and my siblings from doing drugs, drinking or getting pregnant. No she wasn't scary or yelled or beat us. No she was a fucking nurse and would tell us all the gruesome shit that happened to bodies topped off with pictures from her school books and the internet. But overall she was chill
Pay for your own damn babysitter...you're the one who chose to have a child.
She doesn’t want to date. Period. She’s saying her kid is the priority and if she’s gonna spend time with you instead of her kid, then those are her terms. I don’t see anything wrong with it. I’m in her shoes rn and I’d also rather not go on a date and save money on the babysitter.
@@alysemarie8313if you don't want to date, then don't tell people you'll ONLY date them IF they pay a sitter for YOUR child. The relationship is with YOU first and IF it goes well, THEN introduce the child (if they're willing). You say she doesn't want to date. Well if that's true, then WHY she is looking for one and asking for free sitters?? That's looking for freebies. It's not the same
She's not worth dating 😅
I'm sure there are tons of single moms and dads out there who'd be way more pleasant to spend time with.
@@cindypicadomolina7814 like she said “if she meets the right person” she wants to date then she goes on to describe the right person for her with where she’s at in life. I still don’t see the problem. 😂
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Dating is not the only type of relationship. People look for communication, online friends, romances, etc. And she was talking about going on a date, not dating.
She is not looking for freebies. Everyone makes their terms for meeting with other people - it's normal. You're not entitled to someone's time and money (it includes money they spend to meet with you - like on a babysitter), they can only spend them on free will and desire.
She is not forcing someone to meet and pay for her. Instead, she states her priorities.
Do you want her to go with you on a date? Then you make it possible. Otherwise, she will be deciding if she wants to go with you on a date. Do you want her to drink with you? Then you either drive or pay for a taxi.
It's not an entitlement to tell people the terms on which you're willing to change your mind about certain measures.
Everyone is free to find someone besides her. But if you want HER and you're not immediately interesting enough for that woman to arrange things on her end, then providing a solution is the only way you can get her to go on a date with you.
Moreover, she is not looking for anyone. She talks about people who don't understand that single parents have different priorities and you cannot expect them to just leave their kids to randomly go out.
My daughter was cursed with noticeable facial hair and she was very self conscious . We had talked about ways to deal with
it when she was ready, she was about 10 at the time. My FIL thought it was necessary to mention having something done about it at a family gathering! Needless to say she was very embarrassed and I know it was a turning point in their relationship. Shortly after, we both went to see an aesthetician and had appointments together. We continued going together until she was comfortable with gong on her own or with a friend.
As a mom I can tell you the less you try to control the more control and family happiness you will have.
I absolutely LOVE Screen Time. My oldest has *one whole chore* that he is required to do. When he doesn't do his one chore, he loses his Snapchat and Spotify and everything else until he does the one thing that he's supposed to do. He gets a warning, and if he gets the chore done, then he's fine. If he doesn't, then that's his punishment. Love it.
Absolutely.
Screen Time itself isn't the issue, it is how a parent uses it. Using it to prevent them from accessing certain apps or for a reasonable punishmebt isn't a problem. It becomes an issue when a parent uses the app to control their child's life. Considering the fact that the period tracker being blocked was viewed to be an issue i am guessing that this was a long term situation and blocking every app on your childs phone including the calculator and notekeeping apps and many other completely harmless non entertainment apps that they need for school is just straight up overbearing.
@@angrynoodletwentyfive6463 yeah...... That's exactly what I was thinking...... to an extent blocking things as punishment makes some explainable sense......... What on Earth makes it rational to block her school apps.....? Some of the things blocked were just plain dumb but some schools actually have things in the apps you need for classes or your grades........ She could have just got her kids grades screwed.......
@@angrynoodletwentyfive6463… you said the magic words. You are gassing. You have no idea what led the parents to this point. Could be valid could be nothing but a control freak. But you can’t judge if you don’t know. Ashley shouldn’t judge anyways, but you can definitely have an opinion.
@@shiramarie6770… ever hear of hiding apps under false shortcuts, false names, etc. Just saying, it’s easy to judge a parent based on what their child is telling you. And not necessarily the full story.
I feel the single mom. It’s very frustrating to set up a date with someone, rearrange the schedule, pay for a sitter (probably $60-100), just to get ghosted or rescheduled or have a guy show up who lied about his pics and spends the whole night perving.
Like we are just over here wasting money and time so you can try to hook up?
When my son was old enough to stay home I didnt ask but one of the guys I dated would always order him food when we went out so I wouldn’t have to cook separate for him.
Nice post. Yeah, I was a single dad, and it's expensive and it's complex. Your gentleman had a good idea, and I admire the grace. But accepting that kindness to a child - and offering it - is very very different from demanding cash up front for the evening.
Ooh didn’t even think bout all that. Yeah, big waste of money
@1:40 lmaoooooo RESPECT
Smart parenting is teaching your kid something and the REASON for it. Me and my parents get along well now, but in highschool they constantly slut shamed me sometimes for the weirdest things. We once got into a fight so big that they threatened to kick me out of the house for wanting to wear a crop top to a senior pool party (they know I wear bikinis too). When I graduated I moved in with my big sister in NY. She did a good job explaining things to me and keeping me safe without shaming me. When I went to a party or went out late in a cute fit she'd ask me to bring a sweater and maybe sweat pants for the subway ride or walk back because predators target women that are alone at night, look like they just came from a party, and could be intoxicated. And honestly slipping into sweat pants after a party does feel good 😅. When I started dating out there my sister asked me to tell her the name and number of the person I met and where I was meeting, not to stalk them or control me, but to be able to help me if anything went wrong. She was always very respectful of these things and they helpful.
Strict parents don’t always create sneaky kids. Case Study. My sister got caught every single time she did something she wasn’t supposed to. Not just with our parents either. Both grandparents. Older sister. Me. Other people’s parents. Teachers. She never got better at hiding what she was doing. 😅
She's probably a nice lady now!
Yeah, but that tends to create people perpetually stuck in Fawn response.
That was my brother.....he couldn't stop himself from telling on himself.
@@1tommyday she’s MUCH better now. Still terrible at being covert though. 😂
@@myhvKun Luckily not in this case. ❤️
Daily Therapy Time!!!! Thanks for being a distraction from this BS day..lol. 🥰
My mother is/was strict and invasive. So much to the point that I got hella sick a few years ago and couldn't clean my apartment or drive longer than 5 minutes at a time. She begged me to tell her what was wrong. We had a conversation about month two of me struggling and I said out loud that I don't want her help because I'd rather pass away in this apartment than live with her overbearing self. She was immediately sorry because all she wanted was to be the person I came to for help. And I avoided her help at all costs. Of course I'm alive now because she helped get me to doctors appointments and they figured out what was causing me to be disabled. I do live with her as of now. She has calmed down a bit but still very invasive and always trying to listen to my conversations. So I purposely learned three other languages and have conversations with my friends in those languages. I even text them in said languages. 😁 it pisses her off.
My mom wasn't super strict but I still had rules to follow. I'm 27 and finally broke her biggest rule. I was NOT allowed to get tattoos while living at home. She decided to sell the house earlier this year and I secretly got my first tattoo before the for sale sign even went up. She found out shortly after but let it go cause I was moving out anyway. 😂
I hope you ended up getting more tattoos. Mine said the same thing and I have both of my arms done and working on my legs. Hehehe revenge is a bitch!
The moment I moved out of my Hispanic household and went to college, I got nose piercings, dyed my hair blue, and got two tattoos lol.
I was a single mom for years and this person comes off a little entitled. She should definitely have standards but I think she is pushing them too far. Dinner/drinks is a perfect way to get to know someone on the first couple of dates or else how will you know if you guys are compatible. I do agree that a lot of men I encountered would get mad if I didn't drop everything to go hang with them but as a single mom who had her kid 100% of the time (father wasn't in picture at all including financially) that obviously wasn't feasible. And if it was that big of a deal I decided to we weren't right for each other. But if I wanted to go out I made the arrangements for my son and didn't expect them to pay. If they offered once we were seriously dating I would consider it but it wasn't expected and especially not in the beginning. Also for mine and my child's safety I would meet the dates at the place the date was happening until I was dating them for awhile because I also encountered many unstable men that I wouldn't want to know my address from jump.
@felinemoonchild I realize now years later I had a lot of bad first dates. Thank goodness I didn't date anyone that wasn't right for me for too long.
My grandma raised me, and was very strict, but I think the funniest thing I ever got in trouble for was that she wouldn’t let me wear hip huggers, and wanted me to wear these hideous pleated 90’s mom style slacks to school. So a friend gave me some hip huggers and I put them on under the hideous ones. What I didn’t realize is that the pants leg was sticking out from underneath the ugly ones🙈😂 I got grounded for a month for that🤦🏻♀️🙄
My folks were super strict, one time I was busted breaking a rule, Dad called me "sly fox" and I took it as a compliment. Got grounded for that one.
For the single mom, the first point was fair enough. If you know the single mom (single parent, to be honest) is a single parent, don't try to plan a date in the middle of the week. I remember when my dad was dating around trying to find a mother for me and my brother (Dad is also a hopeless romantic, so this took a while lol), we had real good baby sitters that we were cool with, and it was always like a Friday or Saturday night. As we got older, we were just left behind. Lol. But he knew we were his responsibility. He found ways and people to help take care of us. Had a whole squadron that helped raise us too, cuz being in the military is…a lot as a single parent.
This single mother sounds bitter about being single, and wants that support without having to put in as much of the work as she needs to. Which is a lot of work, but like…still.
My big thing with my insanely strict parents was letting me shave my (very) hairy legs -not even for elementary school graduation. I had to wear stockings and the hair was smushed down under my stockings. It looked awful. The boys in the class made some rude comments and I was terribly embarrassed.
I went home, locked the bathroom door, took my dad's double edge razor and cut my legs to shreds- especially along the shin. The bleeding stopped before the graduation. It was worth the scolding I got for using my dads razor!
I did the same! I have very dark and thick body hair, being of southern European descent. My mother wasn't going to let me shave my legs until I was 16, because that is a grown up thing to do and kids shouldn't be doing it. I was literally the only kid in my class that didn't shave, regularly pretended to forget my gym shorts, wore pants on sweltering hot days, and got made fun of. I finally got fed up around 13 years old and took the razor my mom kept in the shower and shaved my legs. Ended up shredding myself as well, but didn't care. I only did up to the knee because it was so much work I just quit there that day, and after the huge scolding i got my mom then told me never to shave above the knee because THAT is too grown up. FFS. But it looked absolutely ridiculous having half shaved legs, especially in a swimsuit, so I continued to shave what I wanted and stopped caring what my mom wanted. That as like 25 years ago and still can't believe she wanted me to look like a hairy clown.
The mom going off about LMAO is one that the kids will move out and NEVER visit. She’ll not understand why.
My parents were strict, but encouraged us to negotiate. So if we wanted a curfew extension all we had to do was to come up with a really good reason why we deserved it. (Like “my math grade has come up from a C to a B- and I haven’t been grounded in months.”) They would usually let us. I feel like it’s made me a great negotiator.
I read that this leads to people negotiate in love relationships even in toxic ways (like A behaves in someway B rewards them), but I think is a good skill to train while growing up
Very beneficial for work relationships
@@amandaconstanzawe weren’t negotiating for their love; we were negotiating privileges or raises in our allowances.
My parents wasn’t a fan of me and my sisters drinking, but knew we did anyway. Their rule was no matter how drunk we got, don’t be afraid/ashamed to call for them to pick us up.
That Memoji one was hilarious to me, the face expressions
I've never understood the messing with/controlling a child's bodily autonomy for innocuous things. Like, my daddy wouldn't let me get my hair cut/trimmed (besides bangs trims) for like ever- I was so excited about my "haircut" when he trimmed my hair when I was ~6. He also wouldn't let me have my nails painted or wear/play with makeup for years. My aunt would paint them for me and remove my nail polish if my daddy was coming over (lived with my momma and stayed with my aunt a lot growing up). I wasn't allowed to have temporary tattoos either. Still no idea why but everyone else let me do that stuff away from him. 🤷🏻♀️
Yeah as a single mom I never dated. For six years I didn’t date because I didn’t have time or energy for someone who isn’t invested in me. And it’s easy to get stood up because you asked to to take me out And I asked to reschedule (while being asked, never was it after I agreed to the date). And I never asked for babysitting payment. I would ask if I can take a meal home, and if not, I just made sure my daughter got most of my meal. But I would never ask a 1st or 2nd date. Always an established date. And if they said no, I never got upset. Boundaries keep us safe.
The date would have to pay for a 3rd meal for you to take home? 🤔
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I would ask for a small meal something inexpensive. Only after a few dates and we were established. If no, then no means no, and it’s fine. I would just save some of my meal for her. I always made food from scratch for her so good food was kinda our thing. Still is. But again, boundaries keep us safe. And there’s no harm in asking what another person is comfortable with. I would even ask just like that. And be adamant that no can be an answer. Most guys said no, but some would absolutely do it. It just depends on the time, situation, and the person. You don’t know until you know.
@@victoriaalicewestwood3558 she literally said if they said no she would just take her own food home for daughter........ And also not on the first or second date....... I'm not sure what you're seeing as offensive or upsetting here...... That is just simply her as a single parent finding a way to put her child first without causing trouble
My parents didn’t let me date until I was 18, so I was super naive. My first boyfriend was awful but I had no experience so I thought he was great. My parents couldn’t understand why I was with him, but it was because I followed their rules 🤦♀️
I had a friend with parents like that. She was caught dating at 17. She married him at 18, my mom even sewed her dress. She's still married to him after 30 years.
I’m confused about the point you’re making. If you were naive at 18, surely you’d be even more naive at 15/16. Why would dating at an even more immature age be the answer to this problem? I was allowed to date at 15 (with restrictions) and I’ll tell you right now, I probably shouldn’t have been allowed til I was 18. I married the boyfriend I started dating at 15 (married at 25 and still together to this day) but boy did I make some big mistakes along the way and so did he. Would’ve been significantly better if we started dating at 18 instead. I’m not trying to be snarky - I’m actually asking that question. To me, it seems like waiting til at least 17/18 is a lot healthier for everyone involved because infatuation, inexperience, and not recognizing red flags is even more common in youth.
I wasn’t allowed to date till around that age too.. it was so strange though.. I was freaking out when i introduced my first boyfriend to my dad.. it went well my dad kinda just glanced at him semi acknowledged us and went inside the house lol.. a few weeks later I was outside and a guy friend had pulled up to say hi and when my dad saw he said ‘don’t you have a boyfriend? Get your ass inside.. now!’ I was shocked and I remember thinking ‘wth wasn’t like I was inside the car or anything ‘ lol.. but I guess he was teaching me to respect my relationship.. it just felt so conflicting
@@cc1526it's called a learning expirence if you stop people learning things because crazy parents people can end up in bad relationships. If that makes sense.
I wasn't allowed to date until 18 either. I don't feel like I made any bad decisions, but my parents also instilled in me the kind of guy to look for. We were told to think about our future, and what qualities we wanted in a future partner. Why would we want to date someone who didn't have those qualities?
As someone who wants to adopt older kids. Communication is key for me. I will make sure that if my kid wants to do something dangerous or rebellious then we talk it out and I tell them the dangers of it and if they wanna sneak out for the night. They GOTTA take pepper spray or one of my knives.
How refreshing to hear someone wants to adopt.
Good for you and good luck 😊
For the one about the 14 yr old's birthday party. If I was the mom. As soon as they refused to answer the phone I'd be leaving them a voice mail by the second or third call letting them know I'll be calling CPS or 911 and reporting the children as being abandoned if they don't call back. You do not have the right to drop your child off at someone's house without their permission. They clearly did not have permission.
Exactly 💯
So I am a mother of 4 girls... Following the footsteps of my own mother who also had 4 daughters... I'm strict to an extent. But... Realizing when to be mad when not to be is key... Are all still young so they can't technically go out by themselves they all have to stay in a group... Don't talk to strangers... Ya know the real problems, but makeup? Go ahead and practice. Have fun. Just don't go overboard!
I agree with you on that but don't go overboard. But as for little missy with all her tata's out, wearing no bra ABSOLUTELY not! No sushi for you. You can be sexy without showing all the goodies my dear.
We have to let our children decide for themselves who they want to be. My youngest is 19 and my oldest is 23. They are amazing girls and they were always so good for me. I had no problems trusting them to make good choices and to practice safe decisions. An integral part of being a supportive parent is trusting your children even when you aren’t around to catch them when they fall. Not trying to stunt their growth or shape them into who you want them to be. You have to allow kids to just be kids. And the main thing I learned from my boomer parent is strict parents absolutely make sneaky manipulative people. And your children are not you. My mother was super authoritarian and didn’t trust me to be a single mom in my 20s. She thought I would be out partying all the time and shoving druügs up my nose and smoking meh like she did my whole childhood. She couldn’t just trust me to be a good mom. We’ve healed from that part of our lives, it’s been 15 years since then. But it still hurt our relationship and we didn’t get close again until I was well into my 30s. I’m 39 now so it’s been 6 years of her being supportive and healthy (she had tumors on her brain that were brought on by an over production of estrogen, so she had to have her stomach removed. But she’s amazing now and back to being the mom I had in my young life before all the unhealthy choices.). I love my mom and we’re super close today, but the last time I was able to be honest and open with her before I became a mom, was in my early teens. She allowed me to be a teenager. But I also had a ton of siblings and we all went out together or looked out for each other. 15 total after adoptions. My mom really is amazing. But we all have our shortcomings. Much love to you bestie. From one (the prior 15 years) single momma to another. ❤❤❤
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My 23 yo dresses that way. She always dressed conservatively until she got comfortable in her own body. She showed up thanksgiving and was wearing a crop top and booty shorts with torn tights. I told her she looked amazing. Sometimes, we just have to be supportive. I’m sure my girl will grow out of it. Ik I did.
I feel like it is a bit different now versus when I was a kid. I was a wild kid with old parents ( i was a late in life baby) who felt they were done parenting. Fast forward, I'm a mom and my daughter is now 22. She was a boring teen in comparison. Just wanted to play video games and dress in anime cosplay and she found her ppl. I feel like this younger generation didnt really grow up with the pressure many of us had to date and party and "be a cool kid" so it was easier for them to find out who they are.
@@erikarussell1142 I bet she did look awesome! That sounds like a cute outfit.
I was a fat child and hated having to wear clothes that were "Chubbies". Going to Sears to clothes shop for school was humiliating because I had to choose from the ugly stuff in the corner that had a big sign overhead that said "CHUBBIES".
That lead to eating disorders that did cause me to lose the excess weight, along with exercising hours a day. Mom told me she was proud of me, but then she shocked me by buying me a bikini! She told me I worked hard to overcome obesity and I should show off the result. It was such a cute bathing suit, I still have the top! It's almost 50 years old.
As a teen, I was passionate about learning to sew, and made almost all my clothes during high school in the 1970s. Since I was putting the work and creativity into it, I didn't want to look like everyone else... except maybe my idols; Elton John and David Bowie, so I made a lot of unusual clothes. I loved their style so they inspired me to make a statement!
While shopping for beautiful silk fabric at a sari shop, I found some henna hair color that was a purple-burgundy color. "Purple hair? Yes please!"
I went to school the next Monday sporting purple hair and a black velvet cape lined in silver lamé, and purple crushed-velvet bell bottoms. Mom looked at me with raised eyebrows, but then she just shrugged and said, "Hey, you're the one who's going to be wearing it all day!" She actually helped me apply the henna. She'd never seen that kind of dye before so she was curious.
The single mom definitely sounds entitled (and was for sure trying to not sound entitled). At first I thought she was going to say "dont get upset if I'm too tired to go out on a week day or be understanding when I cant find a sitter, or even dont expect me to pay because money's tight (because that's fair to at least say)... things like that... but then she had to say selfish crap like pay my sitter, pay my uber, and make it worth my while.
Maybe she should just go pro and ask for cash up front. 🤔
That first mum knows what’s up! 🙌🏻👍🏻
Charlotte, your commentary is ALWAYS hilarious and massive kudos to your editor. Perfectly in tune! Your content is 🔥 🔥 🔥
I can relate to some of these, my parents were super strict - Dad was a minister. I remember arguing with them about a LOT!! When asking "why?" Wanting an explanation for their NO or decision on something, i was always told "Because I said so" - my sister and I even bought my dad a shirt one Fathers day that said "Because I Said So!!!" 😂
I was a single mom in the early 80s and, even though I was very pretty and in the military, I felt like men just did not think I deserved to be wined and dined or helping plan around my young baby(newly divorced). No, they expected to come to my place at my expense with me providing the food and entertainment. No flowers, no special gifts. One guy got me a crockpot for my birthday so (he said) I could cook him more meals (he became my 2nd ex). My self esteem was so low. I know my morals were intact but I was treated as less than other childless (though not prettier or more virginal) young women. I now wish I would have just focused on my baby and my career in the military and lived my best life as a single mom. Truthfully, I think I rushed into that 2nd marriage just to avoid the sexual harrassment from these judgemental men.
40 years later, I know I would never even consider any of those men now, who judged me so poorly back then. I stayed single and celibate since 1991/2. I am happy, healthy and thriving and I no longer believe in true love. It is as rare as winning the Powerball Lottery.
I ended up with a 2nd divorce the same way too. 😆 I also had a 9 yr old daughter at the time. I had a similar story accept I was finishing college. It's funny how we just need to find our confidence and self esteem. Basically find out who we are! I live the same as you. Happily single ☺ and not looking. The lottery would be awesome wouldn't it but it is easier than finding true love! 💜✌
yes, indeed!@@crimsonfirelily
My dad was always cool about my curfew and hanging with friends, as long as I kept in touch. If I moved locations, I would call real quick and let him know. If I was running late past curfew, I’d just call and he’d be fine. Love my dad!!! He’s the best! Also, my kids can talk to me about anything! They can give their opinion about the things that affect them. There are a few things that I put my foot down about, but I don’t care about the small stuff. Like my son wanted blue hair when he was 11. Cool my guy. It’s just hair. I have no interest in squashing my kids self expression!
My grown children have always been honest, good kids! Because they didn’t fear some insane punishment, or expect a reward. They were good kids, and are great adults, because I taught them to be that way. They know life is better when you’re a good person. I showed them love, and respect, and gave them their privacy, and because of that they never kept secrets, or tried to sneak out, or anything like that. On Prom night, my son went with his friends to a hotel. He texted when they left prom, “Hey ma, we’re all going to hang out and get some food, and then going to party at the hotel, see you in the morning” when he got home, Ya’ll he was giving me every little detail of them driving around, and drinking in the park, and skinny dipping and all the stuff that happened at the hotel, and I was like, I love you, but I don’t need ALL the deets! 🤣🤣
I'm so laughing at the strict parents. I'm a very relaxed, easygoing parent, and as a consequence, my son is one of the most straightlaced kids. LOL It's like he's rebelling by being MORE strict on himself than I would be. Too funny!
The only thing i feel entitled...is to say that Charlotte is an amazing person who makes our days better because of her fabulous laugh, great jokes, and overall adorable personality. Thank God for Charlotte. ♥️👑
Thank God for amazing Charlotte. This world would be a much sadder place without her in it.
@@erikarussell1142 so true, actually this world needs more people like her.
Absolutely! 💜💜💜
💯 agree 🫂 ❤
My dad was mean if you said or did the wrong thing, you would get the belt and other things. I've had serious PTSD which when I was a kid didn't really exist
Worse was at certain age they really care what I did or where I went one extreme to another. My Dad is and was the only man I've been afraid of
Love you charlotte for all your great videos your beautiful personality loving ❤️
I hope you got the birthday presents I sent you
Thank you for just being you 🫂 ❤
Single Mom super entitlement.
If you are too busy to date, that doesn’t make it the guy’s responsibility to manage your messes.
This 100%.
8:14 Have fun staying single lol😂😂😂😂
Strict parents raise devious children 💯💯
I feel like the more rules the worse the child will be. My daughter is 16 and she is a straight A student. She’s allowed to be her. I’m the type of mom where I feel the child needs to learn themselves in order to understand. I’ll always be there for her and support her.
I left home just before I was 16 in a fit of rebellion (you're not having that nose ring under my roof - ok), regretted it a few times especially when cold and hungry... parents might come across as too much sometimes but I'm living proof that teenagers are really good at making bad decisions so maybe they're right to be 😂
There is a big difference between telling your kid they can’t have nose ring and taking the door off their bedroom, tracking their location constantly and not allowing them to develop basic life skills.
@@samday414 agreed! Or locking them in a basement, denying them basic needs such as food and a shower, calling them a tenant and making them pay rent before they are even 18(and there's a difference between letting your child get a job and encouraging them to pay for their own things to learn and literally forcing them to pay you rent). Also pretty sure drugging them like the girl in the last video should probably go on that list....... 🤔 With both the people have known and the comments that I've seen all under Charlotte's videos I'm just surprised people actually make it to adulthood functioning at all anymore........
“Strict parents make sneaky kids” TRUTH
Damn, I am totally addicted to this channel. I live for that delightfully obnoxious "Subscribe!" at the end. 😆
I had my son’s birthday 8th party at a local roller skating rink. One mom showed with her kids. One was invited-he was in my son’s class. She waved a left as that kid came up…and then a 3 year old came running up. I tried to catch the mom but she was gone. The 3 year old couldn’t skate and cried when she didn’t get a goody bag-I only made enough for the invited kids. The mom came to pick them up and got mad at me that the 3 year old didn’t get a goody bag!
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I’ve never commented on any of your videos but I wanted to say I appreciate you so much! You know life sucks sometimes, but your videos never fail to make me feel happy. They remind me that what I think are huge life-changing problems, usually aren’t. Also long live petty!
She has a way about her that really helps put things in perspective. She is amazingness.
100%!
The audacity of entitled people never ceases to amaze me! 🤷🏼♀️
Lol everytime I went to a birthday party my dad would always stay with me unless he really knew and trusted the parents, and he really had to go do something. I will never forget him asking me if I wanted to leave early and go get icecream cause he noticed I was getting ignored or bullied by the other kids. I could go on about how my Dad is the frickin best and is still my best friend. I never kept a secret from him cause I never needed to. He trusted me and he raised me to be cautious, caring, and responsible.
For the single mom, I think it's more of a risk to have a stranger pick you up at the home you share with your kids rather than meeting someone at an agreed upon location. Also, yes you have kids and yes you're taking time away to meet with someone but so is the other person. It's a little Delulu booboo.
Agreed! Why are you handing out your address to some rando you met??
Right! And how do you know the guy you’re going out with isn’t a single dad? Where do you get the audacity to assume he also doesn’t have a lot on his plate and is also making sacrifices to spend time with you?
Dropping the kids off at the party vs staying there with them…it usually depends on the party, the age of the kids etc…but they/you are usually INVITED to the party, you don’t just decide your kids are welcome and then leave.
My 13 year old granddaughter loves makeup, we haven’t discouraged her we’ve taught her the basics and taught her the mantra that in most situations is less is more
I love how it gives me the Tidepod commercial after Charlotte says "okay listen" then the commercial says "life is messy" 😂😂😂 it was just such perfect timing
I've been wanting to say for a while now... Charlotte you read very well. Thank you so much for your channel.. Completely addicted
We decided to not baptize our children and let them choose when they're adults if they want it or not. We don't go to church or practice so we thought it would be hypocritical. My Grandma told us they were going to hell every time we visited😂 she wasn't being mean it was very logical to her. She was an amazing beautiful woman. My husband and I would just giggle and wink at each other.
OMG the mimosa mom is giving me flash backs!
So, Charlotte, do those earrings have removable links? That’s cool! 😎.
And yes, that woman expressed her entitled standards 😂. It was the “pay for my babysitter” for me! 😮😮😮
No but what did she do to have her mom block everything. Little girl crossed the line!!
IKR? Like no matter what she did....why is her period tracking app and her school related apps also blocked? LMAO!!!!
She ABSOLUTELY did something wrong. If the only thing she has access to is the holy Bible..she done messed up BIG time!
I wasn’t allowed to even HAVE a cell phone till I was 18. Even when I got a cell phone it was a pathetic flip phone from tracfone, I kid you not. At 20 I got a job that required me to have a smart phone, so my parents bought me a smart phone that was also still a tracfone, and it had to be locked up in the garage every night when I got home. They knew the passwords, I wasn’t allowed to have any apps on it. And I never did a DAMN thing. How could I??? I was homeschooled my whole education and my only social life was church and I wasn’t allowed to get a job or drive until I was 18. Some parents are just wild, ya know? 😂