He Wants To Get In YOUR PANT. Men and Women can Never be Just BESTFRIENDS...Steve Harvey said so..

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Komentáře • 154

  • @oparachioma1899
    @oparachioma1899 Před 3 lety +20

    Emotional attachment doesn't mean you guys aren't just friends. Men and women can be friends and have nothing together

  • @ChibuikeUlasi
    @ChibuikeUlasi Před 3 lety +64

    A man and a woman can't be besties with no strings attached especially if married. It is a recipe for disaster. Don't do it. Thanks for an entertaining topic Adaeze and Nelo! Y'all are doing well ❤️.

    • @muoboentertainment
      @muoboentertainment Před 2 lety

      I've seen it work time and time again. You'll just have to exercise some caution to ensure you never cross that boundary.

  • @pacesetter7710
    @pacesetter7710 Před 3 lety +6

    I was once told that using this phrase that “you cannot keep a goat and yam in the same room” and Nelo you’re spot on, there will be emotions attached. You and Adaeze shared your opinions beautifully. Sometimes the feelings develop without either party realising it.

  • @AdaezesSpace
    @AdaezesSpace Před 3 lety +88

    Who are these beautiful damsels?😍😍

  • @juninhofreekick4912
    @juninhofreekick4912 Před 3 lety +4

    Not all women, though. I know ladies will be upset with this but, if you are ugly&unattractive, you can be a bestie-for-life, no shaking. Not every man wants to get into your pants, as long as you don't want to get into his pockets. Let's respect boundaries, and everyone will be okay. I enjoyed your vlog.

  • @thecharmedrealm6012
    @thecharmedrealm6012 Před 3 lety +14

    So as a married woman, a male bestie is a big No for me. And female bestie is a big no for hubby. For obvious reasons- emotional attachment. After all, it’s from forming bestie when I had bobo that I ended up dating and marrying my “bestie”🤣

  • @kelechinwaogu619
    @kelechinwaogu619 Před 3 lety +13

    Most of my best friends are males, just bcc I played ping pong a lot throughout my university years and they were intrigued by that. I was so close to a particular one that we were everywhere together but never had any sexual contact and for that reason, we’re still friends today. We both are married and lives in the states. We scheduled to meet each other again last year before covid struck. We will reschedule after covid wahala. Both his wife and my husband are now like family. So yes, there are male best friends that don’t have ulterior motives in mind, rare to find

  • @kopjinenshima2767
    @kopjinenshima2767 Před 3 lety +8

    Nevuuuuuuuurrrrrrr!!!! There’s nothing like a guy and a girl as best friends.... Somebody must catch feelings. I’ve been scammed with that lie before. It ended in premium tears
    BTW You guys are doing the lord’s work with these hot takes 😂😂😂

  • @ehima
    @ehima Před 3 lety +23

    You guys should make this a podcast

    • @crownb245
      @crownb245 Před 3 lety

      That will really make sense 👏

    • @chigbuchinasa3395
      @chigbuchinasa3395 Před 3 lety +2

      I'm sure they have bigger plans but let them start counting from 1 before 2 and then 3................

  • @somtosacademy.
    @somtosacademy. Před 3 lety +4

    Wow!!! When people say Ur are rude and difficult it means that they are not able to use you the way they want. EXACTLY 💯!!!

  • @kulous
    @kulous Před 3 lety +4

    Well... My bestie is female and we have been so since 2004 at the university, people thought we were dating but no strings have been attached ever since. Our partners in our relationships knew and we convinced them that nothing was going on between us. She's getting married in June and her fiancé knows me well. I'm even on the grooms men train. No strings attached.

  • @janeuc7814
    @janeuc7814 Před 3 lety +30

    I do have a Male best friend and there's never been any awkward conversation or moment between us serious. And we are both in our different relationships. So I think it all depends on your experience we been friends for 17yrs now.

    • @bekybeyon
      @bekybeyon Před 3 lety +1

      Are you married???

    • @shepherdboy6492
      @shepherdboy6492 Před 3 lety +2

      I believe you 💯%, just that such is rarely seen, but very much possible

    • @janeuc7814
      @janeuc7814 Před 3 lety

      @@bekybeyon no, I'm Engaged

    • @janeuc7814
      @janeuc7814 Před 3 lety

      @@shepherdboy6492 yea

    • @nitasspace1332
      @nitasspace1332 Před 3 lety

      Yes i had one from high school to college we were best friends with nothing attached to it not until i got married, then we lost contact.

  • @nnamdiezeh1733
    @nnamdiezeh1733 Před 3 lety +3

    You guys are really impacting your generation with some good sense reasoning, kudos to both of you.

  • @dhoneyvlogs
    @dhoneyvlogs Před 3 lety +16

    It's difficult to have an opposite sex as your best friend and their won't be emotional feeling 😍😍. When I was in the Uni, I had two Male Close friends at different intervals and they both knew i was in a relationship(a distant one) . It took one of the guy two to three years to express his feelings and since "I see him often", "he's always there" to care for me and I started feeling the same way too. But i didn't accept to date him co's I knew the person I was in a relationship with then truely loves me and it was only the distance that wanted to put a barrier between us. Thank God we are happily married now with two children 💃💃💃

  • @TeewaiVlogs
    @TeewaiVlogs Před 3 lety +4

    Can I like this video 100times. Pure truth💯✅

  • @chijanechimaonyejiaka5776

    I love this video. So true.
    Better to be called rude and difficult than be an easy person

  • @shepherdboy6492
    @shepherdboy6492 Před 3 lety +13

    Adaeze said "What are you people besting there?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @thecharmedrealm6012
    @thecharmedrealm6012 Před 3 lety +8

    Wait, I’m just 14mins 33 secs in on the clip. And I actually disagree with Steve Harvey. I disagree cos he said “friends”. Not best friend. I think a married person can safely have friends of the opposite sex with zero intentions behind it. We meet pple all the time. I don’t know about best friend though. That maybe pushing it.

  • @amandachizoba6210
    @amandachizoba6210 Před 3 lety +1

    Godly women educating the younger generation while erring there opinion. Good job, Keep it up

  • @tonniegeorge321
    @tonniegeorge321 Před 3 lety +1

    U babes are killing it 👏

  • @nafisajingi2386
    @nafisajingi2386 Před 3 lety +2

    Nelo really looks pretty with the hair style 😍

  • @RoszeyBrowny
    @RoszeyBrowny Před 3 lety +5

    I am lover of SH and having watched this video, he’s 💯 right! It just doesn’t and can’t work. I have male friends but they can’t be that “best friends” just cos guys will always be guys and will wanna take any advantage so they are better kept at arms length.
    I love being called rude, unfriendly, Margaret thatcher, difficult and all I really don’t care!!! I have experienced a lot not to be a victim periodt!!

  • @4cubed22
    @4cubed22 Před 3 lety +3

    Steve is right most guys I've come across have even told me that if by any chance my husband doesn't take care of me or that we Divorce that they're here for me....I'm like you guys are weird...it's never happening......never....we are just friends nothing will ever happen. Guys will always be guys......that's why I don't have best male friends but I have male friends lol.

  • @GraceUkeni
    @GraceUkeni Před 3 lety +2

    Cheating most times happens because the room of access was left open !

  • @adelekeo.o1011
    @adelekeo.o1011 Před 3 lety +1

    He is speaking for himself. I have a female best friend and nothing has happened for years.

  • @Dekemifagbola
    @Dekemifagbola Před 3 lety +5

    Mindless flirting actually makes men catch feelings, I actually feel men catch feelings faster than women really.
    And truthfully men do flirting and extra care when they wanna enter your pant

  • @rachelidoko5444
    @rachelidoko5444 Před 3 lety

    I totally agree with you guys

  • @Toniawyt
    @Toniawyt Před 3 lety +4

    Well when i was still single I have had male best friends with no strings attached. But i agree that having someone as a bestie while married is a no no. Nice topic

    • @Garichooo
      @Garichooo Před 3 lety

      It was bestie till the end? Maybe there was no crack in the wall

  • @FranEJ
    @FranEJ Před 3 lety +1

    You guys work well together. Enjoying your show. To answer your question, it's a no for me. I've tried it and there are always feelings to navigate. If you are self aware and honest, you know. It can be ignored but then you leave yourself open to compromising situations.

  • @madeidanimo8963
    @madeidanimo8963 Před 3 lety

    Beautiful topic..that's it! We get what we want and don't tell me I'm rude that's it.. you guys disected this topic so well👏👏👏👏

  • @johnaboshim9881
    @johnaboshim9881 Před 3 lety +1

    I'm so indifferent about this conversation because I have very close female friends that I've no feelings for. As for 'friends with benefits' and 'no strings attached,' I completely agree that one person is almost always in love.

  • @shepherdboy6492
    @shepherdboy6492 Před 3 lety +2

    If I don't have any attraction to a lady then I can be a very good friend with her, I have come across ladies that even if you give them to me for dash, I won't take for any reason, but their personality (skills, knowledge, attitudes, reasoning etc.) can make me want to have them as friends and associates. In that case, I can build a very good friendship with them without any strings, whatsoever, attached to it. Though I'm very much aware that even if I'm not thinking that way, she might possibly think, get emotional with me, by I am speaking about my own side.

  • @stellaonyang7609
    @stellaonyang7609 Před 3 lety

    Men and woman to be friends is not easy not until they discover their boundaries. Dog and meat can never be in the same room.

  • @imelda4jesus
    @imelda4jesus Před 3 lety +4

    Being friends in group activities is fine. I would get worried if your guy was off doing one-on-one stuff with a woman. That's a date."

  • @edangsandrine5830
    @edangsandrine5830 Před 3 lety

    in Ada's voice what you people besting there 😂😂😂 im still on the floor😂😂😂

  • @perryrand876
    @perryrand876 Před 3 lety +1

    Well I have a best friend I’ve been friends with since I was 10 years old and now I’m 30. And he got married yesterday, he never talks weird to me or anything. Well I can’t relate. I also know know my brother’s best friend who they have been friend with for so many years and even when the girl is married now they still remain friends and even the girl’s hubby is even now close to my brother. I Personally can’t be so close again to my own best friend who got married yesterday because I respect boundaries. But yeah people can literally be friends without feelings or anything it all depends on the individual mindset they both have

  • @hafsatuuibrahimu7934
    @hafsatuuibrahimu7934 Před 3 lety +6

    loving nelos braidsssss

  • @joysreality
    @joysreality Před 3 lety

    Nelo always saying my mind.We reason alike Nelo😍

  • @tangyzee
    @tangyzee Před 3 lety +1

    Male bestie gbakwa oku! 😂😂 All the ones i had were a messed up situation. Before you know it advances to emotional and then sexual feelings (either mutual or forced by one party).

  • @kendaddi5857
    @kendaddi5857 Před 3 lety +1

    Best friends? No. But friends without strings attached? Very possible. Am good friends with a married woman and we have absolutely no emotional feelings for each other. Our spouses know about our friendship which started when we were growing up as kids. And they are very okay with it. Some people just understand each other better in this life and this cuts across gender differences. Anyway it’s no use judging others based on our own weaknesses.

  • @NgoziAtitiVlogs
    @NgoziAtitiVlogs Před 3 lety +1

    Is just a no no ..... Steve just said it , ate it and left no crumbs

  • @anitaakhigbe2541
    @anitaakhigbe2541 Před 3 lety

    It will be nice if this can also be like a podcast. So we can listen while driving too. Maybe the audio version can be uploaded like a podcast. Thanks

  • @ogomsseries
    @ogomsseries Před 3 lety +3

    Beautiful ladles 😘😘😘

  • @p.e.opraiseosagie7808
    @p.e.opraiseosagie7808 Před 3 lety

    He is right......

  • @Nemyinspired
    @Nemyinspired Před 3 lety

    You babes are right ooo. Many men really meaning to nice gestures, that is why unnecessary chatting, calls should be avoided

  • @Glycam
    @Glycam Před 3 lety

    Yes men and women can be best friends. Tow of my best friends are men. Steve is right. I laid out boundaries from the onset.

  • @ShalouCuisine
    @ShalouCuisine Před 3 lety

    Steve Harvey is right ooo.

  • @Geeconcept1
    @Geeconcept1 Před 3 lety

    The truth is that Being Married with a Bestie male or female is a recipe for disaster because when you open up for your bestie an issue between you and your spouse, he/she might take advantage of it and later it will all end up with regrets. So stay off any bestie stuff if you are married. Those that are single and still can control themselves as they claim, congratulations!!!

  • @nghoninjibenezet
    @nghoninjibenezet Před 3 lety

    We are here💃💃💃

  • @muoboentertainment
    @muoboentertainment Před 2 lety

    Well... I don't know how true this claim is. I have been "just friends" with a guy for 21 years since we both were 17.
    And while I crushed on him briefly at some point (dunno if he ever did), he never once tried to get in my pants.

  • @adegbenrofadare5214
    @adegbenrofadare5214 Před 3 lety

    I HAVE WOMEN FRIENDS. NO STRINGS ATTACHED. 15 TO 30 YRS AGO. IT WILL BE DILFICULT. BUT NOW, AM 58,A FATHER AND GRAND DAD. AM ABOVE MANY WORLDLY THINGS

  • @Udjene
    @Udjene Před 3 lety

    It is True for majority of men
    but there are few Men who still have Ladies as bestie without any emotional attachments.
    I used have Lady Friends of which 2 used to even Lived with me between 6months to One Year.
    I never Touched them at anytime but only advised them not to Jump into bed with them and always see them as Sisters and I never wanted it to be that I took advantage of them in their Time of Need.
    I have a personal Policy not to Use my help of a girls as Yastic to get her into Relationship.
    It makes it difficult for the lady and also make her feel Like ungrateful in her Eyes.
    But people say It is better to Marry your best Friend and it is the best for marriage.
    This two are married now and we are still good friends their new family but not close as we used to be because I know they are married and they need full commitment to the Marriage.

  • @agnesspace1460
    @agnesspace1460 Před 3 lety

    Nice job beautiful People

  • @cescfaby3782
    @cescfaby3782 Před 3 lety

    I love u gals😘😘

  • @xeelvya
    @xeelvya Před 3 lety +2

    Married men and women should not even bother having "best friends" of the opposite sex.
    What's your spouse there for? Have friends o have a social life and all that but not one special opposite sex bestie....Nah don't do it it's just a recipe for disaster.

  • @feliciadakwa1403
    @feliciadakwa1403 Před 3 lety

    One must definitely catch feelings 😉😉

  • @chijanechimaonyejiaka5776

    If I am married I can't have a guy best friend. If I'm not married, I can surely do with no strings attached. N if he like he should fall after he go stand up

  • @greatnessinyou.1654
    @greatnessinyou.1654 Před 3 lety +1

    Well done ladies, I would say the lack of fear of God in the world today has brought about human race producing seeds that are unholy/evil. we are all created to have self control and discipline in life but the world today have chosen to lack self control and self discipline. hence, the reason why it seems like a man or a woman is incapable of having a positive platonic friendship without strings attached or unwanted or unholy thoughts and feelings developing along the line.. I would say it all has to do with ones mindset and self discipline.

  • @IjeomaGloriaAnopueme
    @IjeomaGloriaAnopueme Před 3 lety +1

    For me, it's a NO....

  • @malusisarahmulola
    @malusisarahmulola Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks for the reminder when it comes to being close with Guy's when am not interested in them..this Mindless flirting can seriously cost you....I now Fear God😂
    And I totally disagree with having a male Bestie..

  • @awuladede2564
    @awuladede2564 Před 3 lety +5

    I personally think males and females can be best friends with absolutely no strings attached.

  • @Lavishlywendy
    @Lavishlywendy Před 3 lety +4

    My Daddy (Rip to him) always told me that A man and a Woman cannot be just friend ...

  • @ikwere
    @ikwere Před 3 lety

    I have a lot of female friends but not thought of them that way and this include a lot of my exes

  • @RachythePerfumegal
    @RachythePerfumegal Před 3 lety

    It's not impossible. But not advisable for married couples.

  • @bellznjollz80
    @bellznjollz80 Před 3 lety +2

    1 day the man will eat the pet

  • @bosslady_bee3317
    @bosslady_bee3317 Před 3 lety +1

    Hmmm this issue I don’t even know where l should start mine from oooh

  • @NgoziAtitiVlogs
    @NgoziAtitiVlogs Před 3 lety +1

    It leads to soul ties

  • @nazomumoh93
    @nazomumoh93 Před 3 lety +1

    I agree with Steve, I remember being besties with a certain guy for 7 freaking years! Long story short, we've been married for 2 years

  • @gilsunsoonnysoonny8269

    It's very difficult and possibly impossible

  • @ailojeaigboje5444
    @ailojeaigboje5444 Před 3 lety

    Actually, it possible to have a woman as your best friend who is not sexually attractive to you. It depends both parties.

  • @chinedumigbonagwam1358

    That why we love our Play Station 5, it helps us not get too bored, lol

    • @diplomatdiplomat2800
      @diplomatdiplomat2800 Před 3 lety

      Get a job too. It helps to keep you busy and have some money in your pocket

    • @chinedumigbonagwam1358
      @chinedumigbonagwam1358 Před 3 lety

      @@diplomatdiplomat2800 is that a general advice or directed to me, if it’s Directed to me, just know I am a Data Analyst well educated with 2 masters, working and married with kids for some years now, but if it’s a general advice then that’s nice to say .

  • @odeyobuotv8031
    @odeyobuotv8031 Před 3 lety

    Nelo,I want you to be my best friend.
    See, we can without any sin attached.
    I love you all.

  • @vincechassis3933
    @vincechassis3933 Před 2 lety

    Mostly men do catch feelings in that Bestie stuff but me I believe they just wanna sleep with the person

  • @aliceokyere7037
    @aliceokyere7037 Před 3 lety

    I believe you’re mixing things up. Some men become your friend cause they are attracted to you, trying to get to know you and probably make their feelings known as time goes on. Some are just opportunists waiting for the right time to strike. A few are genuine friends who just want to be there for you as you are there for them and they trust you. If you have boundaries then you can have opposite sex friends. I don’t understand how we think opposite sexes can’t be best friends, you can fall for anybody at any point in time. Even same sex friends still go down on each other so why make a big deal out of opposite sex? So my point is, it’s not about the person being an opposite sex, it’s about self control and boundaries. Thanks 🙏

  • @abigailmarughu3403
    @abigailmarughu3403 Před 3 lety +1

    What if I'm the one that wants to get in his pants???
    Ya'll may be in your 30s but still...🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️
    Also,Women and men can be just friends.

  • @adedotunilori7788
    @adedotunilori7788 Před 3 lety

    And there was no emotions but as a married man or woman, it's wrong to have the opposite sex as best friend

  • @jennysoutlet
    @jennysoutlet Před 3 lety

    Lol. It is serious oo

  • @nkemscornerSpace
    @nkemscornerSpace Před 3 lety

    That bestie nor work o

  • @deidonekoffi2446
    @deidonekoffi2446 Před 3 lety +1

    When 2oposite sex spend more time Bonds, sparks feelxs starts developx dats nature. No matter de maturity hormones will blow off smday

  • @negrodarlin
    @negrodarlin Před 3 lety

    I'm here

  • @christabelonitiri6522
    @christabelonitiri6522 Před 3 lety

    My best friend is a guy..
    I feel attacked..lol

  • @ojibechinecherem8485
    @ojibechinecherem8485 Před 3 lety

    A BIG NO TO DAT BESTIE THING. I have had d experience n bliv it dint end well.

  • @Dailycatholicprayers
    @Dailycatholicprayers Před 3 lety

    I have had male besties . But from the man's angle , he'll stick around in hope. I have a video on lies men tell women, and one on lies women tell men. one of the lies is 'there's nothing going on between us'
    the bestie is in a friend zone and waiting for the main guy to f..k up so that he can step in

  • @gospeldeekor3597
    @gospeldeekor3597 Před 3 lety

    It is possible for a man and woman to be friends nothing attached in fact my best friends are women beautiful ones at that but........

  • @arapdibari7104
    @arapdibari7104 Před 3 lety

    BE AWARE AND KNOW YOUR FEELINGS. WHO IS IT THAT DISRUPT YOUR EMOTIONS WHEN YOU SIT NEXT TO HIM OR HER, WHO ,HOW STRONG IS THE FEELING. WHERE DO YOU FEEL IT. IN YOUR SHOULDER. WE CAN STILL HAVE THE BEST CLOSE FEMALE OR MALE FRIENDS WITH NO STRING ATTACHED.

  • @adedotunilori7788
    @adedotunilori7788 Před 3 lety

    As a single you can have a female best friend

  • @alheri_ebenezer
    @alheri_ebenezer Před 3 lety +1

    Sincerely, Relationship can be Complicated,
    I can't have or Keep a Male best friend as a Married Woman,
    I want my husband to be my best and same with him too
    Lovely video I really enjoyed watching 🥰

  • @iluobeosazemhen507
    @iluobeosazemhen507 Před 3 lety

    I think I will disagree with what Steve said, 99%?? ... haba .... i like the fact he said it applies both ways but I feel if that sexual attraction is not there by at least one of them .... you can still be best friends with no strings attached. but personally ...... i wont want to try it

  • @Onyi810
    @Onyi810 Před 3 lety +2

    Men and women can be best friends I think it’s our mentality in Nigeria and also when you cross the line. Focus on the friendship and leave dirty thoughts and dirty ideas just friendship. Will there be over protection or jealousy atimes oh yes. I have never kept close female friends especially growing up without sisters it’s easier dealing with makes take it from me. Even till now I still keep make friends more than female friends. In the world today with so much lesbianism going on wether male or female best friends cheating and sex Can still happen

  • @godwin_rl
    @godwin_rl Před 3 lety +1

    Is it just me or does Nelo kind of look like Jill Scott...? 🤔

  • @johannaaguh4438
    @johannaaguh4438 Před 3 lety

    Honestly I don't understand this "best friend thing" I guess because I have seasonal friends 😁. I am my husband's best friend and vise versa. Most times, these so called best friends catch feelings at different times (it could be the guy first then later the lady) and it could also ruin their relationship. Single ladies, if a guy is your best friend, then marry him and have him for life 😁😁.

  • @justiceemmanuel1391
    @justiceemmanuel1391 Před 3 lety

    No woman should be my best friend, except my Wife.

  • @sharonsport6161
    @sharonsport6161 Před 3 lety

    Nelo you always drink ,why Ada not drinking

  • @davidmbah89
    @davidmbah89 Před 3 lety

    Absolutely wrong. If you guys can't keep such a relationship it doesn't mean others can't keep it. His point is subjective and personal.

  • @adaezeokafor4331
    @adaezeokafor4331 Před 3 lety

    A man and woman can be best friends with no strings attached. I have witnessed it. It not a good idea of male or female best friends when you are married. Male or female friends when married should be formal/social friends. Also dish out least minimum information

  • @peacepatricks612
    @peacepatricks612 Před 3 lety

    Where is self descipline and maturity and self worth

  • @nurudeenakanni6001
    @nurudeenakanni6001 Před 3 lety

    No&NO

  • @ogechiarase7011
    @ogechiarase7011 Před 3 lety

    How can a full grown woman have a man as her best friend? If you are a married woman you will now tell your husband that that man is your best friend, it is not good at all Man your best friend, no no, it has to stop

  • @amahdesmond253
    @amahdesmond253 Před 3 lety

    I cant have a guy as beestie cos by the time i complain somethings to him about my MAN, oneday we will do the do..

  • @milsordam5362
    @milsordam5362 Před 3 lety

    Disagree, you can have a malefried, without any string attach. I'm a senior and have longtime malefriends without any problem or sexual feeling.

    • @ezinneibeh9717
      @ezinneibeh9717 Před 3 lety

      You’re speaking for yourself, I’ll like to hear from the male best friend.