How Do I Get My Girlfriend's Son To Move Out? (We Live In Her House)
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The son is probably thinking the same thing about him.
It may be gf's son is secretly paying part of the household bills for his mother.
Son will stand his ground and the BF will be gone one day.
Yup they gonna wind up on Dateline. Get your popcorn ready
Right 😂😂
@@genxx2724 I agree, this guy is too beta for his mom. The son isn't going to be influenced by this snowflake even a little.
He’s been living in her house for two years and hasn’t proposed and wants to kick her son out. GOODBYE SIR. No way.
Rightly so. What some people don't realize is that if a man is that controlling before marriage, he's ten times worse after marriage. I would be scared to marry this jerk.
I'm trying to figure out why he didn't get on the lease when it renewed.
The son said he was going to move out. The son also said the girlfriend would move out it was temporary. He isn’t being controlling or want to kick the son out. He just wants the son to be his word.
he's a hobo
Trying to get husband privileges with boyfriend level commitment...
Yept he needs to dump her, get his own house, and marry a young 🔥 hot 25 year women with no kids 😎 😎
Husband or not he has no right to tell him to move out when u marry someone u get the whole package not what u want.he sounds like he wants something from her to get her son out the picture
@@queen.kristal8395 No, if they get married and move into a new house it will be THEIR house, not HER house and he will have every right to tell the kid he's not welcome to move in. If she doesn't like it then she shouldn't marry him because your husband/wife should come FIRST.
@@LG123ABC well that’s not what happening.and two as a woman I would not marry this man either if he can’t accept my son to be his step.
@@captainsisko7629 that’s one way to go but that comes with a price tag and doesn’t sound like it’s within his budget 😝
If the mum is allowing her adult working son to stay with her to save up his money and get ahead in life, her boyfriend has no say in any of this. Lol
For real this guy sucks
Exactly!
or enabling i know someone where the real dad cant get son and his girlfriend , daughter and her boyfriend and now grandid kid out the house they are very grown and and they clean up after them in all. mom wanted to help them now she regrets. they party and buy newer cars then they even drive . smh
@@taylamayde They reap what they've sown. Who raised that child?
@@susiex6669 well the mom(grandma) when she gets off after 10 hour shift they dont care if she tired as hell. they dont have em much if they are in day care most of the day. she always brags on what they go out and eat.
15 minutes later ... Dave, how do I get my mom's boyfriend to move out?
Lol
Touche!
🤣🤣🤣
LOL
Hahhaa....yep
I think we all agree that the son, while making $200k needs to get his own place, but you sir are a boyfriend. Wat power do you have? Her house, her rules.
It doesn't matter how much he can make, it's his mom's house he can stay there if he likes.
@@ASmith-jn7kf Like I said in my comment, "Her house, her rules". Although, I still think he should get his own place eventually.
@@ASmith-jn7kf Yeah, if he's a complete wuss.
What is being left out is if they are paying any rent though. Had a friend like this. Him and his gf paid parents rent and was able to save a hefty down payment on a VERY nice home. Way nicer than most of my friends. And if they are paying rent then it is probably helping mom pay off mortgage faster
His gf may be trying to help her son pay back student loans and get a financial foundation.
As a kid raised by a single mom, if any dude moves into our place and starts trying to mess with my living situation, being blood related to the owner of the house, and have lived there first, that guy is now my enemy. Dude needs to keep his opinions on her son to himself and mind his own business. If he wanted a say he should've gotten married first, THEN found a place to live together. Then it's his and her house, not the son's.
You problem need to move out lol and damn you get in your mom's business like that wtf. I don't have parents or family like that so I don't understand but wow
I've had to move back home after losing a job during the pandemic (I work now but remotely and it's not enough for rent or a mortgage) and even though I know it's probably annoying to them at times I'm grateful that my stepdad and mom have been so good about it. I help with rent and groceries but I wouldn't have had anywhere else to go if my stepdad was like this guy wanting to kick me out. Kids are forever and I'll help them when they're old but a significant other can change.
@@michaelmarquez6133He isn't messing with his mom's business. The guy moving in is. She is allowing him to stay there, so the boyfriend has no say. If SHE wants to tell him to leave, then sure. But that's not what he's talking about. He's talking about a freeloader moving in and trying to screw with him. In most of the world, families all live together so that they can pool their wealth. Only dumb westerners feel obligated to move out, thus splitting their wealth, which is exactly what the people at the top want you to do, stay separated and weak
@@michaelmarquez6133The mom is taking the side of the kids so its this guy getting in to other people's business.
But even then, it's her son. She makes the decisions regarding the son.
Love when a dude dates a girl then thinks he just has all kinds of control over the kids that arent his
Prime reason to not date single moms.
@@GamerNRetro prime reason not to date anyone if all you want is control. sheesh and ew
@@clarifyingquestions ok single mom.
@@clarifyingquestions Some men seek out single moms just so they can be taken care of. Hobosexuals.
That's why you don't date a girl with kids
The audacity and lack of self-awareness to call a show for advice on removing someone who "needs to stand on their own two feet" when the caller is in the same predicament and has less legal standing/influence as the boyfriend. Boy, bye. You are more of a freeloader than the son is. Boyfriend means nothing.
Right???
Absolutely 😅
Kids probably trying to save up for a house or paying off his student loans and this guys trying to push him out with no leverage to stand on... he's a bad step dad but thankfully one with no power in this situation.
@@crd9551 He’s not a stepdad. He’s just a boyfriend.
Men NEVER notice points like that.
Two years and he didn’t even propose to her but wants to act like the man of the house. You are not a Man until you start providing.
Period.
I love it. "...but I wouldn't wake up in your shoes". Savage, Dave.
So good!
🤣🤣
What is his income? He might be free loading himself. He has no power at all. Paint or get off the ladder bro.
haha i wonder if hes paying rent at all
I was waiting for them to ask that. I'd bet money this guy is perpetually "between jobs."
😂😂😂 stealing this saying "Paint or get off the ladder"
@@836dmar- If he paid, he would be glad to volunteer that information
I have never heard that saying before. I love it
very simple solution: the caller moves out.
They aren't married. It's her house. He has no say. Period. So many people do everything backwards. They start the relationship in the middle at the beginning. There is no solid foundation.
Some couples hook up on first date… move in together have a baby then years later get married then wonder why their marriage ends in divorce.
He has a massive say. He could always leave. Also he could be paying bills.
And no plan for the immediate future.
@@brendondowdy5651He didn't say that. He sounds like a freeloader who's too big for his britches.
He might have some say... for example, if the gal/sugar mama never added him to the lease as she most likely is required to do by her rental agreement. It would torpedo their relationship, but he could turn her in for a lease violation which could lead to her eviction. And he has to be evicted too. Most states define tenancy in their laws as a place a person has established their residency: if he's been there 2 years and is receiving mail, that would qualify. I know this because as a landlord I get tenants who move in "fiancés" and/or other people on occasion without permission, and when I evicted them we specific "tenant's name and all other residents". That way we can clear everyone out whether they are on the lease or not... or even if they are squatters.
Again, it would mean the end of their relationship, but TBH it doesn't sound like a very good one anyway. Caller guy is stuck in a dependent role with no real authority to act as a leader for the family. He needs to stop playing house for the free nookie and roof over his head, move out on his own, set himself up independently as a good man should, and then find himself a good woman who is more interested in making a life with him than keeping her kids in the nest long past the time when they should be soaring like eagles on their own.
Personally, I'd have a tough time if I ever had to remarry with a woman who already had kids and they were living with her. I know some people do it, but in almost every instance I've seen there's a lot of tension, and often mom sides with her kids when she should be presenting a united front with her husband.
Her house, her rules. This guy isn't even married to her. He has zero say in this. These stupid modern sensibilities are just exasperating sometimes. Courtship is dead in 2022. Instead, you just date for a little while and then move in together to get the benefits of marriage without the commitment.
Basically like 80% of modern children are raised by single moms with a string of "mom's boyfriends" moving in long enough to have secks with her until it gets boring, then he moves on. You got like 100million kids going "Father? Dad? huh? I don't know that word. My mom's boyfriend hangs out sometimes."
Ya um maybe he can propose to her? Free loader
Amen
@@koolaidman6251 its sooooo true
Deadbeat.
You move out. Simple solution.
this caller has some nerve--grown man moving in with gf and telling her to kick son out-WOOOWWW
So Dave says one freeloader shouldn't be telling another freeloader to move out?
@Prey R Well I do wonder if her son is helping out financially. But the caller really isn't in much of a position to tell the son to move. Boyfriend either accepts things as they are or he should be looking for a new place to reside.
@Prey R the son does not make tha much it was combined with the girlfriend
The son is her forever family. The bf is just a bf. He says he's planning on marrying the mom, but he hasn't. A lot of men talk about it and never do it.
@Vydio,.. Yes. Her adult son and his girlfriend are also freeloaders.
how do you know he's a freeloader? maybe he contributes to the home
Sir? Sir...Lol. The house isn't yours, the son isn't yours not even your girlfriend is yours. Stop playing house. Marry the girlfriend, purchase a home TOGETHER. Next call please!
Not everyone wants to legally share all their assets. Marriage is a mess. You can be with someone for a lifetime and not get a piece of paper to prove it.
@@jondoe5305 And this situation is a mess, precisely because of the lack of that piece of paper... and all that piece of paper means.
@@johnc2438 Please tell these people...they need to go to la la land
Better yet, be a real man, purchase the house on your own, and thereby put a roof over your new wife’s head.
@@johnc2438 not really at all. He just needs to have a conversation and get everyone on the same page. Getting married just complicates things. Then if they break up they need lawyers and money instead of saying see you later.
Love how this guy can't / doesn't want to grasp that it's her house. Watching Dave back him into a corner to understand it was pretty hilarious to be honest. And it still sounded like he didn't want to admit it.
He’s a deadbeat. I was getting frustrated listening to him
He's probably jealous the young kids makes more money than him
Agreed. It makes me annoyed because I can understand kicking a bum kid out of the house if you, the adult, are being successful and hard-working… And on your own house… But this guy is living in his girlfriends house, and he won’t even marry her, so he has zero say about anything. If he wants the girlfriends kid to get his own place, then the boyfriend should move out and get his own place too. What a bum
We don't know that this guy is a deadbeat. He may have a good job and be paying half the bills. This part wasn't covered during the call. But he still needs to man up and marry her and preferably move into a new place that can be THEIR place instead of HER place.
I don’t think he ever understood. “I keep hearing conflicting stories“, so what?
What would be hilarious is if some guy calls in later asking how to deal with his mom’s parasitic boyfriend who just moved in and is trying to gaslight her into kicking him out.
That would be one for Doctor Laura. 😂
I don't think the boyfriend is paying any rent 😂😂😂😂😂
I love it when I hear Dave give that big old sigh... I know what he's thinking and he is trying so hard to come up with the words that don't rip the caller to shreds, lol
Lol.
I was truly thinking the same thing. LOL
😂😂😂
This man is not his father. He's not even the stepfather. He's not in a position to tell his (girlfriend's) son anything. This man got a lot of nerves.
This guy is learning a lesson.. blood is thicker then water!
No, single mothers are awful and will never put a man before their kids, that’s why you should never date one. Start your own family instead of putting your resources into someone else’s kid. (Not this case because he is grown) si gee mothers use their kids
he should be taking his own advice
Dave's response was perfect but the caller didn't want any parts of it.
The son is staying to make sure his mom is okay.
Ikr? This guy is all kinds of wrong. He's sending up red flags all over the place. I'd be scared to leave him alone with someone I loved.
@sct4040... No. He isn't.
He's just freeloading.
If his mother was his first priority, his girlfriend wouldn't also be freeloading in her house.
I think so too 😂
Boyfriends can be replaced & changed just like your changing clothes but your own biological children from your own blood & DNA, that family is forever.
How do you feel about husbands? Because your spouse should come first. Children come and go, but your spouse is supposed to be until one of you dies.
@@LG123ABC Children don’t come and go. Idk whether spouses should come first. When there was one marriage for life and the kids were the result of that marriage, yes. Because both spouses wanted what was best for the children. Now things are different. Second or third spouse takes priority over blameless, good children you had before? I don’t think so.
@@LG123ABC- This is not a husband so no need to even ask. He is just a boyfriend that moved into her house with her son that was already there and now he is jealous because the son has a higher income. This guy is a mess!
@lg123a- children are forever. Marriages don’t alway work out
This is why marriage is so important. From the moms perspective, a boyfriend is temporary and a son is permanent. She can bank on her son taking her in when she’s elderly and in need. She can’t bank on boyfriend for anything. Having a husband would change the dynamic completely.
Yes great point
Yes because single mothers count on it which is disgusting to do to your kid. You should be able to take care of yourself and not depend on him especially financially but we all know how single mothers roll.
right, because husbands never leave. how people treat their relationship is important, whether they're married or not
Even if they married the result would be the same. Women will always choose their kids over the spouse, especially if it’s not the biological father.
You can do all that without a piece of paper.
Biggest issue here is the caller’s entitlement mentality.
Exactly how can I get rid of her kids YOU CAN'T
Guy shacked up with his girlfriend, does he really even have any room to say anything to the son, relational issues aside? 😂
"WE are renting the house."
. .
"ok, well actually she's the only one on the lease." LOL so he's the freeloader mad at another freeloader in the house.
@@koolaidman6251 lol..😂
Y’all either get on board and be adults and make a decision together or depart. Her 26 year old son is trying to figure it out. You’re a boyfriend not a father figure. Play your role.
Trying to figure it out at 26?
@@theworkingmanpodcast the guy lives in her house tbh, not winning too much as it is
Figure what out exactly?
Imagine being kicked out by a single mother.
@@MrJimmy3459 career, how to make a living and be independent..
You are not the Dad, therefore, you have absolutely no say in this matter. Maybe it's you who should move out...
He is a doyfrirnd who moved into his girlfriends home and then talk about kicking her kids out. He's not even ashamed of himself. Her kids should have lucked him out until he marries their mother!!!!
What delusions!!!
right!!
@@twincherry4958 the boyfriend wants the girlfriend and the sons mustard without bringing any mustard to the table him self
Yep, he needs to put a ring on it or walk away.
This guy didn't even pretend that the son and the girlfriend were costing so much that it was hindering their efforts at baby steps! Id be willing to bet that the son and girlfriend probably contribute more to the household budget than the boyfriend.
If you pick a single woman to date, their children often come as part of the package. That's the deal. When I was divorced and single again, I only dated men with grown children. I had already raised my own two son's and while I love children, I just did not want to go back to raising children once again. I was ready to focus on and building my career.
Divorced is divorced. There’s no such thing as “divorced and single again.”
@@genxx2724 ???? v. divorced and married again
@@Austenfan177 What if you have re-married?
divorced and married again
And because of that
divorced and single again is valid
@@Austenfan177 the son had moved in before the boyfriend he has no stand in this situation
@@Austenfan177 So, divorced and unremarried?
Caller is more a houseguest than a trespasser. But still a guest. Day to day arrangement. Even if it has a lot of days of history.
The entitlement...smh
Get rid of boyfriend, he doesn’t like her son. Period.
Caller is extremely jealous of son's salary, that will not change because son's salary will keep going up, so even more jealousy. I would not be surprised if son is secretly helping his mother with household bills, unlike freeloading boyfriend.
@@jeromehenry4484 You don't know that. You're just assuming and you know what happens when we assume.
@@jeromehenry4484 I agree with that. I knew as soon as he said “girlfriends house” he was done with as far as Dave goes. Boyfriend expected Dave to go along with him, and clearly he didn’t.
@@DorothyM45 Caller tried so hard to evade Mr. Ramsey's questions, but Mr. Ramsey was like a hound dog catching a whiff & in hot pursuit until he caught that rabbit! LOL
@@jeromehenry4484 You got that right! 😂
This epidemic of everyone shacking up & not getting married does a lot of harm to our society. 👎👎
True: there is a book called The Ring Makes all The Difference. So many stats on the impact of marriage vrs shacking up
My personal experience. I moved in with a man who owned his own house and within a short period of time he had expanded his home-based PC business to where there were people coming in and out of the house up until midnight, nearly every night, even on work nights. After a while I decided I couldn't stand this because there was no privacy with strangers coming and going, so I went to him and said look I'm going to go get an apartment somewhere because I really don't like this arrangement and I have a day job too. To my surprise he cut out the late night visitations. This guy can't dictate anything but he can communicate that this isn't working for him and offer to move out.
Your story is why I believe that newly married couples should move into a new house/apartment that didn't belong to either one of them before the marriage. When you move into someone's existing place it's always going to be THEIR place. If you move into a place that's new to both of you then it can be OUR place.
Agree, best to get a new place together
Good decision for the two of you but was it better than what the PC customers deserved? 🤔 Some of them would have really needed the after hours support. 😢
@@LG123ABC- I agree. Couples should move into a neutral place
“I don’t like it when I’m not the only moocher”. LoL 😂
Brutal honesty. One of the few shows on earth where you can get it free.
I was unclear as to how the bills are being split up. Caller didn't say he was paying half and supporting two freeloaders. He just complained about them living there while pulling down $200K.
Highly suspicious don't you think? Son was living there BEFORE caller, so it's more likely son was contributing to household, enough to justify allowing son's girlfriend to move in later. Amazing how caller didn't divulge his own salary nor financial contribution to household expenses. Wouldn't it be funny if son is actually subsidizing caller's stay, and caller wants to squeeze out his benefactor?
Great point. Why doesn't he get his own place and have her move in with him? That would be more reasonable. Then the son can choose to stay on the lease or move to another place.
Good point. If he was contributing half the rent and other living expenses pretty sure he would have brought it up. The fact he didn't means he is most likely the freeloader.
I really want to know if she is paying all the rent. Dave is making it sound like caller is a freeloader. But that might not be true.
@@maureenogorman8740Then the guy should have brought it up to bolster his argument. But he didn't.
Based on this call, I have no idea if this guy is contributing to the household at all.
I was wondering the same thing the whole time 🤔
Probably not; otherwise, given his entitlement mentality, he’d likely said something to Dave’s suspicion that it’s the gf’s house and the guy is being allowed to live there.
We don't know if he's paying any of the bills because they didn't cover it during the call. We shouldn't assume!
@@LG123ABC Mr. Ramsey handled this caller perfectly! Caller tried to evade & play dumb to Mr. Ramsey's questions, but he failed miserably! Caller is broke as joke!
We also don't know if the son is contributing either.
My step father rebuilt my mothers house which me brother, sister, and myself all lived. The house was sold then moved all of us into his house. He’s a good man but what Dave is saying with position of power in relationships is so crucial. Once that transition occurred it was his way or the highway and he started dictating how our mother treated us. Before the move he really never stepped on toes at all because he knew it was my mothers house and he had no say in anything. The more I think about it now he really played his cards right to call the shots.
Relationship is everything. Not rules
If he was providing for everyone, he should call the shots. He played his cards correctly.
Sounds fair. Similar to how parents dictate how kids will live in the house because they provide the home, your step-father abided by the rules your mother set forth while he lived in her house and in his house he sets the rules. Since no one is a prisoner, anyone that disagrees with those rules is welcome to move out. If others are renters, they gain rights that they paid for.
@@csx6910 you missed the part how the renovated house was sold. Sure he increased the value, but the money went somewhere. This was a common family home before and the new house he (he ? with what money) bought was again a common family home. There should not have been a change of rules. Why would it matter. Even if the apartment / home was rented and both parents contributed equally, they should find a set of rules (that also consider his views - but not only ! his views).
@@franziskani It matters because the person sacrificing the most has the power and only narcissists would expect that person to be their slave.
If I had a home that I allowed others to live in for little to nothing, know what that's called? A benevolent dictatorship. I call the shots and they benefit from my sacrifices. I make the rules. If the situation was reversed, they would make the rules and if I didn't like it, I could pound sand.
The last scenario you mentioned is entirely different. Both contributing equally? Then each gets to negotiate. If one of them has kids and wants to allow them to behave in a way the other doesn't like? They have to pay for the privilege of allowing them by taking on a greater personal burden. And that cost fluctuates based on how incongruent the lifestyles. Because, presumably, there's more about them being together than simple money. So you like the other person _and_ you make their life harder to enjoy because of x, y, or z, you're gonna have to sweeten the pot to get them to stay.
This is the real world. Not the fantasy b.s. people see in movies.
The boyfriend needs to grow up and move out himself.
Or pull the trigger and get married to her.
😅the freeloader complaining about an actual family member is wild
How do get him to move out, you move out, LOL!!!😂😂😂
How much does he contribute to the household
gotta give this guy credit for nerve lol
She will never get on board with him.
Its her home.
Not married to her.
He can make no decisions in the home.
Yep, get married and buy/rent a new home or walk away. It's time to fish or cut bait.
Imagine the nerve of trying to kick a child out of their home by a shameless guest? Like what? 😂
You should actually be the one moving out and getting your own place, SIR!!! Shame on you
A child? He’s 26 years old.
@LadyCaroline123 Even if he's 50, he will always be his mother's child. That was my point.
I think this woman should be thinking about an "exit plan" for this guy.
I love how Dave's metaphors are intented to be gentle but eventually come out as a jab: "You can't carry a newborn down the stairs if you're a newborn yourself" Dave tried so hard not to say quit acting like a child! 😂😂😂
Dudes are out here calling national radio shows asking for advice on how their 40+ year old girlfriend should kick out her own son out of the house 😆😂😪
Men are DOWN BAD.
What does the son make ? 200 k ! Keep him 😃lol kick the boyfriend out 😂
I can tell Dave has lived through many trying mustard-based conflicts.
That tells me his kids did NOT have a rosy time in college. They had aggravating, time and emotion-wasting roommate issues.
lol right?! Always cracks me up when he says that. I’ve had many roommates and multiple live in partners over the years and have never once fought over mustard or any other food/household supplies…. Y’all must be picking bad roommates/partners lol
This guy doesn't have a horse in the race!
Yeah, he’s not going to win that battle right now…he’s still just the boyfriend.
I spent 20 seconds rereading the title making sure I read it correctly and I'm still in disbelief. This is gonna be good.
You never move into “his” or “her” house. You move into “our” house. The caller should have waited until the lease was up then looked for a place to live with the girlfriend and set boundaries that extended family is not moving into the new house.
Yes exactly and her BF let her sign a second year lease without being on it, while living there... yet wants the son to leave. 😂 Where I live, anyonover t 18 must be listed on a lease.
True true
Something tells me he is not in a position to pay and he is jealous of the sons high income
He sounds like the guy in the room who shares his opinion and everyone looks at eachother like, “Who asked you for your opinion?” 😂
Multi generational households is not uncommon in Southern California. Just about every house on my block has two and three generations.
I agree. Although It is better to have your own space, housing costs especially in California is so expensive. As a result many people do share multi- generational households.
poor people
@@Slam- bb
biden’s America - people can’t afford to buy a house
It's her house, her son, and her say!
Mr. "Boyfriend" doesn't have a leg to stand on. My guess is he wanted a "relationship " with her because she has a giving and loving disposition. He's a taker, she's a giver! Her son knows as well but has actual rights to said girlfriend's giving because that's his MOTHER! Boyfriend is butt-hurt because he can't receive 100% of the giving because the son is around but wants the son gone!
There! Called it!!
Thank you! That was my instinct, as well.
You are just a roommate. Put a ring on that finger or shut up.
And this is what you run into when you “ shack up” instead of getting married. You can’t say squat and are getting what you deserve...🤦♂️🤦♂️
Sounds like the boyfriend is jealous
Typical step parent
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Thanks for the efforts you put in these. I found her and i leave her a message i await a response
Dave, you get a 10 for trying really hard to search for your kind words, but as you already know, sometimes the truth is not kind, IT IS WHAT IT IS!!! Love the advice.
Jason... you have no say here. She is on the lease you are not. You are a roommate that's about it. She can tell you to pound sand.
Our son can live in my husband and my home until he is able to buy his own home. It's wasteful for him to rent. I want to have advantages that my husband and did not have. My husband's and my family are millionaires, but they never helped us financially when we were young.
He doesn’t understand that he has equal status with the son. Both are only there as long as she consents. So, it doesn’t matter if he wants the son to leave. And it doesn’t matter if the son wants the boyfriend to leave. In fact, the son has more legal rights if there is no will at death and his relationship is permanent, while boyfriend is a temporary title.
It is her house. She can have anyone that she wants there. If the boyfriend doesn't like it, leave
The woman is a package deal. Stop being selfish. If you don’t want your partner’s kids around &/or don’t get along with them, find someone who doesn’t have children. Expecting someone else’s kids to conform to you is unrealistic.
26 isn't a "kid".
Doesn’t matter how old he is. A parent will alway want to help their kids. Expecting someone else’s kid to conform to your own beliefs/standards is unrealistic.
That's why I run from single mothers
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@@macneoh7418 Same but for single dads.
Lol when he said you’re just a trespasser
Dating someone with kids is challenging…i stay clear.
Yea I shy away from single fathers for the same reason.
26 years old really isn't a "kid".
I used to not date anyone that had children, problem is a lot of them don't have children because they are a child themselves and extremely self absorbed. At least when they have kids, you already have a snapshot of how they are as a father instead of hoping or guessing how they will behave.
It's hard to find men (people) without kids. Good luck!!
Dating someone who can't afford his own place is challenging. Stay clear.
This small man has a TON OF NERVE. GET OUT
This is why you have to be honest about dating someone with kids...If you can't do it, don't.
But the “kid” is 26. She wasn’t exactly a single mom with a 5 year old 😂
@@gmarie3053 agreed! AND a parent's kids are ALWAYS their "kids". FOR 👏🏾 EV 👏🏾 ER!
No. This is why you need to be honest about not being able to affird your own place
It's her house. You have no say. What makes you think you do?? Why don't you get out?
My son lived with my now spouse and I until he was 24. Such comments coming from her would have meant instant breakup.
You don't get between parents and children it's a no no to me.
She will always pick the son over you.
Either shut up about it or give her an ultimatum and, if she chooses the son (she will), then leave.
Having known jerks like this, it sounds to me like he doesn't have money of his own and he's a leech. He's just mad that the grown son is around to make it hard for his controlling patooty.
If you want your gf's grown children out of the house, rent your own house... And invite your gf to move in.
Mmmk hahaha perfect cartman voice.
Hes asking her son to man up and move out, and he needs to man up and decide to pop or get out of the stall... lol
Just SMDH at this caller…really? You have ZERO, repeat ZERO, say in who she allows to stay there. It’s not your home, you’re not married, and you came after the son LOL. If I was your girlfriend, I wouldn’t even argue with you about letting my son live with me - I’d suggest you get your own place quickly until I figure out the living situation.
There are just so many things wrong here. I just can't.
Your wisdom, both of you, is cross-applicable in SO many circumstances. Thank you.
It will never work, likely to get worse.. way to many egos.. they will never fully respect Jason
LOL... Jason got ripped a new one. It's her house, Jason.
The boyfriend ends up getting the lesson. Imagine that. The guy needs to be a man, not some beta male.
How do you know that he's not the one paying the bills? It was never discussed during the call.
@@LG123ABC he’s living with a woman he’s not married to and taking care of another man’s child. He’s a BETA
45 seconds in and I'm like "Weeeeeirdd...."
As my mom might say you are all living in sin .
Dude that isn't committed wants someone else to commit lol!
The girlfriend enjoys the company and being the Mom figure. She wants this.
That makes sense.
I don’t think the answer is to get married. This guy doesn’t care about her son. He’s just taking advantage of his girlfriend.
It's not the caller's house and the mom is okay with her son living there so his opinion doesn't matter. End of story.
I agree with Dave. This is why is best to not move in with anybody until marriage happens. It may be old school but it works. There is no reason until there is a marriage certificate. Promises and thoughts of marriage don't count. It's way less problems.
This guy sounds like my step mom. I’m 24 and still live with my father (sort of). I’m an otr trucker so I’m barely ever home anyway. My income is too low and I have enough debt as is. Buying a house isn’t possible for me yet and I don’t want to rent because it’s a waste of money. My father not only allows me to stay but wants me to. After I pay off my current debt and have a better income I will gladly move out but for now I don’t really have options.
bruh otr truck drivers make at least 75k a year what are you doing ?
@@Chiefmane1 maybe others do but I don’t
@Jacob-wr7ch... Sone of us were once homeless (not always by choice).
Most people have options.
They just don't want it to cost them too much. 🙄
Oooo this comment section is going to be lit
As it should be
Dave literally said I can give you advice on what I would do in this situation, but personally this could never be me 😭
That's why I refuse to live with another person again or date a single dad. Dads are equally as bad when it comes to their kids.
The new partner is always second to kids.
So everybody shacking up and he mad 😂😂
I think this guy meant to call jerry springer and dialed the wrong number
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Theres always someone in every show just listening with a pen. Smiling. Duh. 😂😂😂
And smiling.