Is there a Correct Way to Tell Someone That They're Gaining Weight??
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That sounds like a bad pick up line 😂😂
i remember this quote from somewhere but cant put my finger on it lmao
@@reconquer5176 steins;gate maybe
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Its hard to strike that balance of " homie I care about you and you're slowly killing yourself" and " its your body its your choice what you wanna do" because both are valid. People just gotta find what works for them.
homie I care about you and you're slowly killing yourself.... THIS IS NEVER THE RIGHT WAY, this is being an asshole
No there's not. If it's not your underaged child, elderly parent, your partner, or you are a doctor and you're talking to a patient, someone's weight is none of your business.
Chances are if someone gained weight, they already know. But there’s something else going on in their life that is making it difficult to control, injury, depression, medication ect.
@@itsgonnabeanaurfromme When you're blocking the sidewalk or I have it pay for your healthcare then it becomes my business. Then again, if you wanna go by the logic of "It's none of your business" then you have no business telling other people that it's none of their business because it goes against the essence of what your trying to do.
Social pressure is a necessity and pressuring somebody not to be fat or obese is a good thing
If she or he is skinny as Fucc but still has a lot energy and strength then that’s just how they are
As someone whos been on both sides, bro, you don’t need to, I already know.
exactly, everyone is aware they're gaining weight and they don't need some people to state the obvious what you can already see with your own eyes or measure when you step on the scales. Instead of telling them they're gaining weight, be more subtle just be like "oh you wanna come for a walk or to gym with me today"
@@GrowingDownUnder I don't think that's particularly subtle, we know what you're saying when you say that.
If you want to help, ask how they are, the boys were right that usually its something else at play. And be prepared for all of this to happen, for them to have no desire to lose weight, you need to be OK with that. If you're worried about their health it's still ultimately their choice, like its their choice to smoke or ride motorcycles. If you find yourself still uncomfortable, you might just be upset about having a fat friend.
@@SuperFlamingTomato well considering as I used to be overweight and I lost 30kg, became underweight and now i'm back to being fat again my whole life has been constant weight issues. I know what to say and what people should say when you're in that position. Luckily for me fat shaming me helped me want to lose weight, I already knew I was fat but it got annoying having the negative comments all the time. But I also think it's more positive and you're more likely to actually get a person to change if you're encouraging them and not just encouraging them but offering them to join you in activities that are going to help them. Inviting them to the gym with you is a good idea, because it's hard for people to make that choice to go to the gym if they have no one maybe they are scared of going to the gym and it gives them more confidence going with someone. Or maybe it just makes you more motivated to have a workout partner. If it's not the gym you can still go for walks or play sports and do other stuff, like kicking the football or training some boxing
@@GrowingDownUnderIdk man, if it works for you then you should tell people. It's never worked for me like that, every time I've lost weight, the same amount, I've done it myself. Comments just make me more likely to put it off.
@@SuperFlamingTomato sure, you have to want to lose the weight yourself. Sometimes you just need the extra motivation or incentive to do so. Peer pressure can also make people want to lose weight but sometimes it can make people not want to lose weight. I guess it doesn't really work for everyone, reverse psychology actually is a thing some people will always do the opposite of what you say and sometimes trying to convince a person just makes them want to do it less. So that's why it's important to be indirect you don't want to necessarily tell them to do anything, you want to give them a choice so they're still deciding for themselves yes or not and not feel pressured to do it. Helping them make healthier choices is a good idea it starts with food and exercise, but also getting them in a better mental state too with good support system
I tapped my friends stomach once and said “daaaaaamn, how many months?” 😂
That sh*t's diabolical
Super creative...
@@Mujoujinsoku Did I ask you?
@@Mujoujinsokudamn you didn't have to destroy that man lmao. Props to you tho.
@@Mujoujinsoku are you his bitch to come in to defend him?
As someone who has had body image issues in the past, I agree with the comments saying you don't need to tell anyone that they are gaining weight. People who are gaining weight or have gained weight are aware of the weight gain. The only exception is when the person asked you directly and that is the only acceptable time to say to someone politely that they are gaining weight. I, too, appreciate directness when I ask for it though. Unsolicited advice or comments are rude and not at all appreciated.
time to man up and not let a number affect you in such ways. Sounds more like because YOU have a problem, others need to be carefull around you. Just, no. Respectfully, telling someone they have gained weight in a nice way can be very important and an eye opener. Obviously this should be done with close friends/family and not just acquaintances or anybody
Rudeness doesn't change the truth but a truth but a truth unswallowed has little value
Drip service…. So… a stylist? 💀
Yeah. You just say, "110% honesty, brudda, you're getting chubby. The cut'll go craaazy though."
"bulking season?"
Did they ask for your honesty?
@@itsgonnabeanaurfrommeI did!
@@itsgonnabeanaurfromme Honesty doesn't need permisson
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We had a cold front last week and everybody busted out all these sweaters and coats like we're in Siberia.
It's been hilarious bc this time of year it's cool in the shade but the sun is still really hot
People who are gaining weight know they are. They're not blind or mentally disabled. You don't need to tell them.
Some are 😅
But aside from that, I'd say there are situations where you can tell someone stops taking care of themselves (in several ways usually) and it can be good if you ask about it. Sometimes people are happy about help and motivation, I wouldn't say there is totally no merit in talking with someone about their weight
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You need to tell them so they come back to their senses and realize what they doing is unhealthy af. You do this as A FRIEND, not to a stranger duh.
People also know about any problems they have like drinking and gambling, etc. So you don’t talk about anything with your friends? What the fuck good are you.
@@Mara_1337 but telling someone they've gained weight is not "help and motivation"
them being dumbfounded by like.. a personal stylist lol
Absolutely not haha, my weight is something I’ve constantly struggled to maintain my entire life. I’ve been where I got super obese and I’ve also lost 120+ pounds, trust me we know but the only thing that’ll change is if the person is actually willing to put in the effort or have admitted they want to change
I lost a lot of weight a few years ago & have been struggling to keep it off.
Weight loss improved my life in so many ways. I'm terrified of going back to being a fatass.
If I'm actually gaining I want my loved ones to be straight up with me. Don't sugar coat it.
I have a very supportive family & amazing friends....which means I often struggle to find people who will give me harsh truths. So I appreciate people who will.
watching this while eating pancakes
Even if you do care, it's kind of hard to straight up tell them unless you're close enough to do so. I don't think they take it seriously either unless you have a doctor's degree or something. At least the people I know who have weight problems acknowledge it, but can't seem to get out of the cycle of gaining it.
You don't. You just ask how they are. Generally care for them
8:34 I always thought garnt had the best drip lol
I think it rlly rlly depends on the person…… I grew up in a house were food was villainized so obviously I pigged tf out the second I turned 18. You don’t have to tell me if I’ve gained weight or not because ik already. But if it’s someone whom is pretty good abt maintaining their physique and pride themselves on their healthy lifestyle who is gaining the weight, maybe that calls for a check-in
"are you bulking?"
As a person who never had a stable weight (dropping and gaining 5-7 kg constantly through a year) I hate any comments about my weight. Phrases like "oh you're looking skinnier" frustrate me as same as "you kinda gain a little bit of weight"
So I would never comment on anyone, even to the closest friend, about their weight. And I don't think there is a correct way to tell someone that they're gaining/losing weight, cause telling smth like this is already not correct
Nah, that's a "you problem ". Nothing wrong on being worried about the people you care, as long as you're polite about it.
I get it when it's a case like yours where people close to you should kinda already realise you are regularly going a bit up and down. I have a friend where I know he also yoyo's a bit and he also has depression so I'm thinking "ok, that's normal for him". He might mention later like "ah that time I was a bit too overweight" and then one might say "yeeaaah you were gaining a bit, how are you doing now?" And stuff.
But if it's not someone you are really close with, what even is the point. Like, i don't care about them enough to care about their health. I don't even know what is normal for them.
Another friend of mine, I already met them when they were overweight. I'd never comment on that when I meet them, and it's not like they are gaining anything either. But then when they bring up topics of like wanting to work out or whatever come up, you can talk about it.
I think the people where I would actively ask about it is the ones I know are sporty or super thin, and I've never known them any other way. Then I'd probably ask like what has changed in their lifes.
The bois here were talking about someone going from medium skinny to nicacado avocado level and yes, if one of my friends or siblings who's been skinny for all their life would actually get into not just medium but fat territory, I'd ask them about it. Because if it has never happened, I am converned about what changed.
@@samuelfvalim7418I’ve found that people tend to dislike comments on things that don’t have direct agency over. (Key word is “*direct*” agency.)
Like asking someone if they’ve been working out is different than asking them if they’ve lost weight.
"Holy shit bro"
Your existence is abundant as of late
I had the opposite where people around me started to point out that I lost a lot of weight. I honestly don't know how of even realized until my sister mentioned it. My aunt asked if I exercised or something and I have not, my diet was the same and all I did during that time was sitting and game all day. She got jealous of the fact that I lost weight by not doing much work into it. There was also a bit of miscommunication with my grandaunt where she thought I've been throwing up a lot to lose weight when what was told to her was that my niece recently started throwing up because she overate.
Ngl the thumbnail got me in a Wendy's drive through rn..
Idk whether this is an Asian thing but I've been told to not be too thin.
All I did was slim down from around 80kg to 70kg in a few months and I've been told to not be too thin by my parents and even my school teacher.
My best guess is that they believe being not thin means you are well off; that you have no problem with food which is why I don't dismiss them but I still believe I want to remain around 70kg as before I was under the overweight category with the BMI scale and now I'm under normal
Unless a bro has gained/lost a ton of weight rapidly, I feel like it's fairly easy to let him know that he's gained weight. But when it comes to women (especially a significant other), that's incredibly hard to bring it up tactfully.
I don't think that it's ever really necessary.
I think people notice when they're gaining weight.
And we don't know why people are gaining weight. I know people who have gained weight because they're on antidepressants and taking care of themselves.
It's better not to make comments like that. If you see that your friend eats bad or doesn't move enough, you could just say it, it would sound more like you actually care.
I think the boys grew into themselves.
Seeing the old footage I was like HUH that's what they looked like?? So young in comparison. Now they look like regular adults, I think they look better than ever for sure!
You don’t say anything. They probably already now! If it’s getting very serious best way to approach is ask them overall if they are okay because weight gain is a symptom of another underlying issue.
80% of good drip is confidence in what you are wearing, 10% is fit (wear the proper size and cut for your body) 10% quality BASICS!
all these comments saying things like "dont say anything" really wont make anything better. Y'all wait till your friend gets diabetes or what?
@@reflectlight1368the arrogance to think the person themselves dont realize they are gaining weight. And the stupidity to assume that any weight gain will always mean they will get diabetes. 1+1=fish. Your "concern" isnt helping anyone.
@@reflectlight1368simple talk about food habits and not the weight gain.
“Did you come from the dentist?”
The best for me is telling themis that their bulk is going good
Fashion is def back and forth, ppl say it looks good on you, and then if youre open enough it gains confidence to like it, or you just dont like it even if other ppl thinks it looks good on you
The correct way, is when they ask, AND if it's clearly affecting their health (symptoms etc), and even then you talk about the sickness and not the weight gain. Otherwise they themselves probably already know and i dont feel the need to hammer it more
most people are aware which makes them more stressed
That’s crazy I lose weight when I travel because I walk more compared to being at home especially since it’s cold country
Insane that anyone would think that it’s appropriate to comment on someone else’s weight.
It's fine, stop being a little 🐱
I'm so glad that even though I'm like... 230 lbs/105 kg ish, I'm still healthy and happy in my body. I've had family members fat shame me or try to subtly tell me xyz. I know. I always already know, it's literally my body, I just don't care because I still eat relatively healthy, do what exercises I need to, I don't wanna be mega skinny and I don't need anyone to comment on my weight cuz it's more annoying than anything.
Telling Bros they're getting fat isn't a problem. Telling your GF or wife they're getting fat is the real challenge.
Misogyny at its finest
It shouldn't be. Not just weight and not just male vs. female. Your partner is someone you should always be honest with and you should let them know when things aren't going right.
Of course this should be done without insults, ridicule, or passive aggressiveness
@@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid You really are telling me it's harder to talk with a woman about their weight and body?
Oh...
You just can't communicate healthily lol
"You are two of my best friend"
A hack for dressing well is actually getting fit. If you're decently fit (slim with muscle definition but not necessarily big), even simple clothes will look good on you
Plus pairing neutral colours with whatever helps with colour coordination
Oh really? So being physically attractive means you will look more attractive? Wow. 1000 IQ over here
@@itsgonnabeanaurfrommeI wondered why I didn't look good in basic clothes until I realised I was skinny fat. With a little bit of effort even basic clothes looked way better on me.
It's more advice for people that want to look better but learning fashion is a steep curve for them. You don't need to know colour theory and other fashion concepts to look good
Plus I don't want people to think you need to buy nice clothes to look good in them
"you are gaining weight"
If they balloon to something crazy in a year's time, I'd probably ask about it.
"Yo, you're getting fat."
I've been a skinny boy most of my life late 20's hit different and i know i gained weight. Hopefully early 30's I'll change that
Guys especially if they are good friends there will be no hesitation and just tell each other with no bs you are getting f'n fat!
Telling someone they're gaining weight isn't bad. The worst is trying to convince someone that's internalized that they can't lose weight
If its hard to convince someone.... its cause you and everyone else are bullying/harassing them...... it NEVER works
@@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaid That's not what I'm referring to. I mean someone that wants to lose weight and is ashamed of it but because they've been big for so long they feel like it's impossible.
Especially when they're unfit and pretty much diabetic
@@Ash_Wen-li What a perfect example of a contradiction.
""Telling someone they're gaining weight isn't bad. "" VS ""I mean someone that wants to lose weight and is ashamed of it""........ if someone wants to lose weight, that means they are aware of it, meaning you don't need to tell them, and by constantly telling them you are being a bully
@@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaidIt's not like I go around trying to convince a person all the time that they should lose weight. In the 15 years I've known them we've only talked about their weight once. And they've basically given up on a lot of things. They've internalized their health as a representation. Of who they are and think it's impossible for them to change. It's not about calling attention to them being big. Everyone knows that. It's about showing them they can still improve themselves in life and be happy. It sucks to realize, at the end of the day you are powerless to help your friends sometimes
And that "contradiction" refers to two different situations. One where the person has let themselves go a little bit and the other where they want to change but feel psychologically trapped. Obviously with the latter you don't need to tell them they're big. But with the former they may need a wake up call
Them Love Handles… they be slowly swallowing up that Waistline, don’t ya think?
My fat ass did nothing but eat during my winter break so I gained around 4 kgs during that time. When I went back to college, one of my friends said (this is a literal translation), "Fatty, you return after a month looking like an elephant"
ohhh thats diabolical 😭😭💀 im sorry they said that
as an asian kid that’s true asian parents and uncles tell you
i gained a ton of weight in 6th grade, lost it all in 9th grade, now im skinny bc i dont enjoy eating food and have allergies
I think it’s bad to tell them if their weight hasn’t become like dangerous. There’s nothing wrong with being heavier, and i don’t think you should comment on weight at all until it gets actually worrying.
I disagree because some will actually appreciate the reality check. Just let them know in a way that's not rude. And if they don't mind, then leave it at that
@@Ash_Wen-li As from someone who has been there, there is no nice way to "tell" people something they already know and feel shitty about, but you telling them will make them feel more shitty
@@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaidIt definitely requires tact. And requires you to have knowledge of whom you're talking to but some people let themselves go for a bit and need a little push. You see yourself every day so it may be harder to notice the small changes in your body. But insight from someone else can be valuable.
Obviously it doesn't feel good when someone comments negatively about you but if it's coming from a good place, most people can use it to improve themselves.
@@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaidtough love is a thing especially when you know the person will feel better about themselves if they lost a bit of weight
@@bigdawg8875so did you help them lose weight? No. You just pointed out that they gained weight. Added to their insecurity. You don't know about their health. What if they're unhealthier before when they were too skinny but gained weight and actually improved their HDL and LDL?
a Drip expert lol? I think that is just called a stylist.
There is no correct way to tell someone because theyare the first one to tell. No one needs anyone telling anyone they are gaining weight. They know cause when they wear clothes and its tighter they are the first to know This conversation is so vapid and you shouldnt do it. Youre not helping anyone with your concern of "youre gaining weight"
"You're too fat for your armor"
I mean…you don’t…
Instead of telling them they're gaining weight, be more subtle and helpful you say "do you want to come for a walk or to gym with me today"....and you try get them being more active without actually telling them. You can be like I made this salad do you want to try some?...or you can be like are you thirsty i'll grab you a bottle of water.... You can encourage good habits such as eating well, exercising and drinking water
Terrible idea 😴
Just tell them. If it's because they're eating great, healthy food that's amazing for them and a bit of weight gain is ok. If they're eating terribly, not drinking water, or exercising and gaining weight, a good way to say you're gaining weight is to tell them they need to eat better. Chances are they aren't stupid and are like yeah I'm eating a fuck ton of junk food
The thing is, you can't tell by looking at someone, on how "well" they eat. I know many women who eat healthy and are heavy and I know many who are skinny who eat nothing but junk food
@@MyLittleGreenHairdedMermaidYou are just lazy that's why you are fat... It's got nothing to do with hormones... Calories in and calories out... You can't defeat law of thermodynamics lol
Telling someone they need to eat better is a good way to make your friends feel judged and inferior. I’m not sure why anyone thinks that someone needs to be told they are gaining weight (they know) or that they don’t already fully have their own opinions about it (they do.) Let people deal with their own bodies and the ways they will inevitably change throughout life without having to also realize that your “friends” are also judging you for it.
@@neonmellow people are so sensitive nowadays. Seems like to you people there's no way at all to let your friends know they're gaining weight. And yeah, like I'd be ok with watching my friends eat nothing by McDonald's while they complain to me they're sick all the time. I'm not just gonna sit there and be like you'll be ok if it's pretty obvious it's cuz you eat too much junk food. If eating like shit strikes a sore spot and you're not even my friend maybe that's a good sign that you need to eat some real food. Don't come to me with that "it's judging" bullshit cuz when ur eating too much junk that's an observation and out of care and not an insult. Soft ass
@@neonmellow yeah and some drugs make you gain weight too, but should I not mention they need to stop doing drugs because it makes them feel insecure? Pls shut up. If I was worried the little things I say make my friends insecure I won't have them as a friend anymore. Sounds like they wanna be around someone that enables all their unhealthy behaviors and won't even help them try and get better. That's not a friend. Someone who watches you go down a path that's not good.
You don’t need to tell anyone because they know, and you don’t know what they want or need in their own body. If we are talking beyond cosmetics, like, someone’s health or mobility is impacted, they also probably know, and being supportive and there for them to talk to is probably more helpful than shame
Nice hustle tons of fun, next time eat a salad
I look pregnant after every meal thanks to my endometriosis. Fml.
Step 1: Unless you are that persons spouse or immediate family member, you mind your own business. Step 2: Unless you are that persons doctor, you mind your own buisness. All steps complete in telling someone they are gaining weight.
I just say " are you bulking " and thats it lol
If it's a guy you just tell him that he's fat.
nah,be nice
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My brother will turn an anime off after 5 minutes if it’s not even going in any direction he doesn’t like. Yet the 2 anime on his and my mom’s top lists he had done that and then came back to later. One of those two is Higehiro. Which he’s watched 5 times since. But he never listens to me when I tell him “3-5 episode rule”. Give it a chance and if it really is one way then okay. But sometimes it’s where it pretends to be something bad and then turns good.
Are all your comments the most banal basic, capt obvious things? Like honestly
@@itsgonnabeanaurfrommeSometimes obvious truths aren't obvious for everyone. Everyone has different experiences in life so they may not have learned the same things as you. Especially when they are younger.
Hit them with the truth if it hurts their proving ur right
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My First thought was Chris
You don't tell them, you just make up excuses why you can't have sex anymore
Wait till they do something repetitive, stand behind and to the left if them, and shout, "1 tubby tubby, 2 tubby tubby." Gets the message across.