Dr. Gabor Maté on "The Myth of Normal," Healing in a Toxic Culture & How Capitalism Fuels Addiction

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  • čas přidán 23. 11. 2022
  • In an extended interview, acclaimed physician and author Dr. Gabor Maté discusses his new book, "The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture." "The very values of a society are traumatizing for a lot of people," says Maté, who argues in his book that "psychological trauma, woundedness, underlies much of what we call disease." He says healing requires a reconnection between the mind and the body, which can be achieved through cultivating a sense of community, meaning, belonging and purpose. Maté also discusses how the healthcare system has harmfully promoted the "mechanization of birth," how the lack of social services for parents has led to "a massive abandonment of infants," and how capitalism has fueled addiction and the rise of youth suicide rates.
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Komentáře • 689

  • @jeremiahjoseph3973
    @jeremiahjoseph3973 Před rokem +49

    Dr. Matè has helped me so much in my life.. I spent a year in county jail and read “in the realm of hungry ghosts”. His teachings resonate so much within my own life.

    • @donHooligan
      @donHooligan Před rokem +3

      thank you for not being broken by the 'justice' system.
      you made some really good decisions, if you are here saying that.

    • @jeremiahjoseph3973
      @jeremiahjoseph3973 Před rokem +2

      @@donHooligan I’ve grown and ripened on the Paiute-Shoshone reservation, so his references to indigenous communities speaks to home.. I’ll listen to the same message he tells and learn something each time.

  • @stevevanleeuwen8815
    @stevevanleeuwen8815 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Dr. Mate, you are one of my True Heroes.

  • @jackthelid
    @jackthelid Před rokem +13

    He's an example of an enlightened human being

    • @cheri238
      @cheri238 Před rokem +1

      Thank you .♥️

    • @thecrazyisreal
      @thecrazyisreal Před 3 měsíci

      His son Aaron is the exact opposite of the healer, and it breaks my heart.

  • @Banana_Split_Cream_Buns
    @Banana_Split_Cream_Buns Před rokem +57

    Talking about addiction, I think this is timely that you posted this while I'm on a Gabor Maté binge. I can't afford a psychiatrist, psychologist or other therapist, so this man has really helped me a great deal to see my self, my life and how why/how I'm still suffering from past events, as well as some ways to heal to some level.

    • @GrimLocke161
      @GrimLocke161 Před rokem +1

      Gabor should investigate why his son Aaron is addicted to Fascist Conspiracy Theories 🤭

    • @Thecuriousincident1
      @Thecuriousincident1 Před rokem +1

      Is there no charities in your area you could go to for therapy?

    • @bjdefilippo447
      @bjdefilippo447 Před rokem +2

      There are some low cost online therapy providers who might be options for you. Hope the healing proceeds well.

    • @cheri238
      @cheri238 Před rokem +5

      May you all find truth and healing. EACH HAS THEIR WAYS. Happy Holidays.❤️

    • @federalreservebrown2507
      @federalreservebrown2507 Před rokem +1

      @@GrimLocke161 zionist conspiracy thoeries and wtc7 does that to anyone

  • @ernstthalmann4306
    @ernstthalmann4306 Před rokem +154

    I suffer from addiction and depression. Dr. Mate is a real treasure.

    • @sheilarobertson7310
      @sheilarobertson7310 Před rokem +7

      Holding space for you Ernst.

    • @sharpatite4684
      @sharpatite4684 Před rokem +3

      ​@@skyeblu817 I'd like u to know how useful I find this comment to be. I've shared it with another person who I guess will also find it "hits the spot". Thank you for it👍

    • @mandycote5662
      @mandycote5662 Před rokem +4

      babe ?
      That’s condescending in itself

    • @mandycote5662
      @mandycote5662 Před rokem +1

      Man needs Jesus
      You have NO authority to give this useless advice except what you gave yourself - perpetrated by Satan
      Mankind’s issues go back to ‘in the beginning’
      SELF governing
      God told to warn what would happen if they didn’t listen to Him
      the truth is God
      Only He is good

    • @howardcohen6817
      @howardcohen6817 Před rokem +3

      Love.

  • @kasondaleigh
    @kasondaleigh Před rokem +43

    He is so compassionate and intelligent in how he breaks down this subject. As a survivor of multiple childhood abuses, I have always had difficulty explaining myself. He helps me understand my mental state and why I am who I am.
    Thank you Dr.

    • @GrimLocke161
      @GrimLocke161 Před rokem +2

      It's funny how far his son Aaron has fallen from the tree 😏

    • @cheri238
      @cheri238 Před rokem +2

      You are fortunate as I am. May all find their own way for health and healing. HAPPY HOLIDAYS ❤️

    • @Picnuts
      @Picnuts Před rokem

      @@GrimLocke161 What is the value of a troll? Nothing, worthless, and angry at everyone. You are poor in spirit and intellect. Stay away from other humans because you are toxic and can only cause more harm. Useless af.

    • @GrimLocke161
      @GrimLocke161 Před rokem +2

      @@Picnuts Tell that to the man in the mirror, "picnuts," and say hi to Yevgeny Prigogzhin for me. 😉

  • @matthewatwood207
    @matthewatwood207 Před rokem +28

    If we pay attention to trauma, we have to pay attention to narcissistic abuse, and that's not something the narcissists who run our society want.

  • @ernstthalmann4306
    @ernstthalmann4306 Před rokem +24

    My therapist introduced me to Dr. Mate. Proof she's a keeper.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @cheri238
    @cheri238 Před rokem +19

    Thank you Amy, for having Dr. Mate Garbor, have listened to him for a while. He has helped me in my life, as long as millions of others. A compassionate , intelligent man. Happy Thanksgiving on this day to all. RESPECTFULLY ✨️

  • @vthilton
    @vthilton Před rokem +13

    Sharing, Justice and Peace for All - Save Our Planet

  • @sylviewalker7560
    @sylviewalker7560 Před rokem +26

    'Hurt people hurt people' break the cycle with support, help, community and compassion.

    • @bluefish-wc4ho
      @bluefish-wc4ho Před rokem +2

      EVERYONE gets hurt. Life is never ending suffering- for ALL of us. I hate this overused, idiotic refraine; it undermines the fact that we have free will Bad people hurt people.

    • @susanmercurio1060
      @susanmercurio1060 Před rokem +1

      You are repeating a comfortable platitude. HOW do you expect others to do this?

    • @sylviewalker7560
      @sylviewalker7560 Před rokem

      @@susanmercurio1060 with support, help, community and compassion.

    • @susanmercurio1060
      @susanmercurio1060 Před rokem +1

      @@sylviewalker7560 You still haven't said HOW you would implement this.

    • @sylviewalker7560
      @sylviewalker7560 Před rokem

      @@susanmercurio1060 pass Medicare4All, raise minimum wage, end Citizens United, pass nationwide Voting Rghts act, break up monopolies, reform corrupt DOJ, ensure Earth is 'too big to Fail'
      ...fix broken bodies and broken minds...get young, new leadership to replace geriatric Industrial Complex...impeach 3 corrupt Supreme Court Justices, free Julian Assange Australian Journalist for exposing US war crimes...that brought us here. All global Oligarchs have the exact same DNA...human greed. Outlaw Billionaires and their yachts in International waters unless they all have ankle GPS monitors. And return the Statue of Liberty to France. Its a joke...give us your poor and huddled masses...and we will exploit and abuse the heck out of paperless people. And get super rich doing it...Saudis, dictators, Putin, Zelensky, former US Presidents...non profit boards should be exposed...and ashamed. Gates, Musk, Bezos and ex wives are trying to whitewash their Billions.

  • @msmitchell236
    @msmitchell236 Před rokem +79

    This man makes so much sense. Im getting his book. Democracy Now! Is a much needed news broadcast. And I'm still asking...why don't we get Democracy Now on PBS anymore here in Idaho? Broadening too many minds? I'll bet.

    • @matthewingerson
      @matthewingerson Před rokem +10

      Just for reference, Democracy Now is live, every weekday at 8AM. And they stream the show live on their website, for free. And they usually upload the video clips from each show to CZcams by noon each day. :)

    • @eileenmc4746
      @eileenmc4746 Před rokem +12

      Corporate owned pbs and npr is why

    • @mischevious
      @mischevious Před rokem +1

      PBS is funded largely by “member stations”, largely for profit corporations under right wing ownership now- the result of decades of hard work on their part to take over the public broadcast network.
      Makes the continued public funding of PBS now quite repugnant.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

    • @Padraigp
      @Padraigp Před rokem

      So i cant see any specific reference to it but it seems they have had some issues with republicans trying to defund them because they are too left wing citing a handful of programs that had a lesbian (god forbid) encouraged conversation about white priveledge (never speak about that!) And so i suspect because it is considered to be very left wing and also is available freely on other platforms that most have acsess to they decided it best to not have too many lefty programs on there. Im just guessing. But if you want to see it back on air you can write to pbs and maybe create a petition to have it put back on your local station. As a public tv station they ahould serve both right wing and left wing issues or programmes. The right wing of course want to keep it purely right wing and not see anything ever that might burst their bubbles. But if it is to remain a public braodcaster then it should be there to serve the public. Although a lot of the funding is not from government especially the programmes being made whicha re fundned by colleges it looks like. It might also just be a scheduling issue or they have their own news prgramme they want to promote. Who knows.

  • @jamoR72
    @jamoR72 Před rokem +58

    Hearing this was life changing!
    You have my sincere gratitude as it permits me to review my own life

    • @mischevious
      @mischevious Před rokem +5

      I’ve never subjected myself to psychoanalysis, always knowing I probably should for what my childhood left me with, kidnapped at 2 by the quite literal evil stepmother just for starters.
      And now I don’t need to! Not that I didn’t understand what’s going on with me, I’ve spent my life self analyzing lol so I do know what’s up.
      But what I just got from Gabor was both validation and a much more thorough understanding.
      Most excellent!

    • @matthewingerson
      @matthewingerson Před rokem +6

      Welcome to a new world.😊Dr. Mate changed my life some years ago, too. He helped me to comprehend my trauma and the trauma of the people who inflicted trauma upon me. The most important thing I learned from him is how the wealthy-class causes the traumas of the working-class.
      Again, welcome to a new world.😊

    • @josephmorrell9954
      @josephmorrell9954 Před rokem

      oh and what a life, no doubt.

    • @matthewingerson
      @matthewingerson Před rokem

      josephmorrell9954 is another troll working on behalf of wealthy-class right-wingers. And, like other ignorant right-wing, working-class class-traitors, josephmorrell9954 is ( *at least* ) a week late catching up with reality. Block the account for josephmorrell9954.

    • @mischevious
      @mischevious Před rokem

      @@matthewingerson More likely to block the only person being a presumptuous jerk here, you.

  • @Juan-ud3if
    @Juan-ud3if Před 9 měsíci

    Whst a Gem Dr. Gabor is.❤❤❤❤❤❤ Bless Such Compassionate, Humanely Sensitive People.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @DeathSpellXVI
    @DeathSpellXVI Před rokem +20

    Dr. Mates message is fantastic, we live in a sick society full of trauma.

    • @donHooligan
      @donHooligan Před rokem

      it's worse than you think.

    • @thisstillchangesnothing
      @thisstillchangesnothing Před rokem

      @@donHooligan say it then

    • @donHooligan
      @donHooligan Před rokem

      @@thisstillchangesnothing
      8 war criminal presidents in a row.
      over 40 years of war crimes/human rights violations.
      by every measure of reality (factually, historically, statistically) USA is 10 X worse than Nazi Germany ever was.
      6 million Jewish people pales in comparison to 60 million indigenous people. ....a genocide that continues, to this day!
      (genocide is killing a "people" ...a way of life...assimilation is genocide)

  • @debfugate4517
    @debfugate4517 Před rokem +28

    Excellent interview! Wonderful. Thank you for bringing us the Brilliant Dr. Mate. I love you Democracy Now.

    • @josephmorrell9954
      @josephmorrell9954 Před rokem

      and i love you, democracy now moaned.

    • @matthewingerson
      @matthewingerson Před rokem

      josephmorrell9954 is another troll working on behalf of wealthy-class right-wingers. And, like other ignorant right-wing, working-class class-traitors, josephmorrell9954 is ( *at least* ) a week late catching up with reality. Block the account for josephmorrell9954.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @hilpei3675
    @hilpei3675 Před rokem +21

    We need this understanding and healing more than ever. Thank you Dr. Mate.

    • @josephmorrell9954
      @josephmorrell9954 Před rokem

      you're welcome, honey bunny.

    • @matthewingerson
      @matthewingerson Před rokem

      josephmorrell9954 is another troll working on behalf of wealthy-class right-wingers. And, like other ignorant right-wing, working-class class-traitors, josephmorrell9954 is ( *at least* ) a week late catching up with reality. Block the account for josephmorrell9954.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @jenniferh8961
    @jenniferh8961 Před rokem +14

    He’s fantastic ❤

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @cgaltruist2938
    @cgaltruist2938 Před rokem +110

    And our society is getting even way more toxic with social media.

    • @moobrien1747
      @moobrien1747 Před rokem +3

      Fasho.
      I use it to try and educate/spread knowledge to my. FB. friends ....

    • @CrazyKazy
      @CrazyKazy Před rokem +11

      My 24 year old son says it's the worst thing that ever happened to us. I agree. Fakebook ruined my life

    • @alyciamarie4163
      @alyciamarie4163 Před rokem +4

      As they planned…

    • @advocacynaccountablity
      @advocacynaccountablity Před rokem +4

      We can refuse to participate. We *are* society, and if we refuse to participate in the toxic parts of social media, it loses it's grip.

    • @cgaltruist2938
      @cgaltruist2938 Před rokem +2

      @@advocacynaccountablity Totally, I have been out of facebook, for about 2 years already, I have never used tweeter and I will never use tiktok. Is like cigarettes or coca cola, poison crap, that are around but you choose not to consume them. The difficult part is, as most are addicted to social media, I do not know what my friends are doing as they do not reach individually anymore, so when I contact them directly, I have to remember them that I'm not updated to their life because I do not use social media, I do not see photos, news, etc. It's difficult when most people around you are behaving like crack addicts.

  • @therealatine
    @therealatine Před rokem +18

    Yes! I am so glad this is being highlighted. Gabor Mate is just amazing

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

  • @naturalview494
    @naturalview494 Před rokem +12

    My great-grandfather was Native American, my grandmother was so ashamed she would not talk about it much. I am a female with an autoimmune illness - Ankylosing Spondylitis which is related to arthritis ... I was told I had 40 years to deform. When I can live by myself with no one to take care of, I get better, well the white blood cell count is constantly high. Thank You for this interview!

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem +1

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

  • @claudiateve9559
    @claudiateve9559 Před rokem +4

    Thank you Dr Maté!
    Thank you DNow!

  • @laraoneal7284
    @laraoneal7284 Před rokem +36

    Being a survivor of childhood trauma I feel fortunate that I’ve known these facts for a very long time due to all the reading and workshops I’ve done on my own since the early 90s. When I’m new to a medical doctor I tell them I come from a trauma background. I try to educate them on my own how this has a huge impact on our health. It is very crucial that everyone examines their own family of origin dynamics so that you can consciously face any trauma we have experienced and then proactively work on a recovery process on ourselves. This will have a great impact on preventing illness in our physical health.

    • @urbansetter1
      @urbansetter1 Před rokem +6

      Me too
      I've been working on my trauma for years. There's mate, Richard Schwartz, Pete walker is a gem I do endr and ifs. I'm developing a rich sense of self and a huge spiritual connection
      I started in the 80s but really healed with all the trauma work. Our country is spiritually bankrupt and it's not just the internet. The American family has fallen apart. If you have a mother and father that love eachother and their kids it's a big deal.

    • @xonerate371
      @xonerate371 Před rokem +3

      @@urbansetter1 The financialised economic system and corporatisation itself will corrupt a community and society; to the point where its so unfamiliar and alien; that it will traumatise all humans who grow up in it; some may still function; but depression and narcissism will become the norm. Like all life; We are a product of our environment.

    • @mischevious
      @mischevious Před rokem +6

      How can you educate a doctor on anything anymore when they can’t even get past their own ego to provide decent treatment?!
      The younger they are the larger the ego, I find it rather impossible to tell them anything now. Doctors half my age, too busy insulting me by treating me like an ignorant child to listen.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem +1

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

    • @Earl_E_Burd
      @Earl_E_Burd Před rokem

      @@urbansetter1 Daniel Mackler, too.

  • @gardenboydon
    @gardenboydon Před rokem +7

    This is a profound interview.. thank you. Trauma really does shape our entire existence

  • @patriciabryden2429
    @patriciabryden2429 Před rokem +20

    This has so many implications - My mind is blown and am so grateful to have heard this. Thank you!

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

  • @sharonallison9922
    @sharonallison9922 Před rokem +1

    DR. GABOR IS AWESOME 😇🙏💖🌈

  • @maiqueashworth
    @maiqueashworth Před rokem +21

    It's so easy just to get annoyed at people with problems. We have a myriad of ways of saying "sort yourself out!". When you realise people are traumatized, you have a lot more compassion. You never really know what people have gone through. Actually often I don't think you realise what you yourself have gone through. It's only recently that I've begun to look back at the violence and trivialising of problems I underwent as a child, and better understand why I was so messed up. These things are so normal that we don't even realise they're wrong. Funnily enough, it's also allowed me to understand my parents' behaviour, reflecting that they were brought up in a similar way. We need to sort ourselves out to help other people.

    • @mischevious
      @mischevious Před rokem +7

      “Stay positive!”
      “Don’t stress!”
      Our society has developed a zero tolerance policy toward disharmony or negative emotions of any kind.
      Exactly why we’re headed off the climate cliff full speed ahead with a smile.
      “Everything will be just fine!”

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

    • @dragonsbreathraku8424
      @dragonsbreathraku8424 Před rokem +1

      Have you read " thou shall not be aware"..I can't remember the authors name..

    • @ritakendall5755
      @ritakendall5755 Před rokem +1

      How beautifully said.I was looking for the words to explain how despite loving our children we dont always do things we are proud of or we are in the moment when we were being traumatized. You are 100% percent right we dont realize what was going on wasn't normal our parents experienced the same thing. Throw in alcholism ,trying to figure how to feed 5kids without enough money at times just to mention a few,its a wonder we all ever survived. I loved my parents and my sisters and brothers. I know for a fact I would not be who I am today or would ever have been able to raise 3 children when my husband left. I have been told I have tremendous coping skills . Again beautifully said. You said it all ,thank you.

  • @Learning-differently
    @Learning-differently Před rokem +16

    This is so moving ! I stand for this whole movement

  • @sherriolson5033
    @sherriolson5033 Před 7 měsíci

    Thank you DN for this interview.

  • @williamdillon7708
    @williamdillon7708 Před rokem +28

    Hi Amy and Democracy Now for this interview!
    I discovered Dr Mate' over two years ago and when I share his videos with friends I tell them he is the first "Human Whisper" I have ever found.
    I've got lots of positive feedback from people who have connected with his message,: )

    • @fatumataholloway4897
      @fatumataholloway4897 Před rokem

      What democracy have to do with this?

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

    • @StephieGsrEvolution
      @StephieGsrEvolution Před rokem

      @@fatumataholloway4897 everything! 💙

  • @urbansetter1
    @urbansetter1 Před rokem +3

    Love how she has him on. He is amazing and needs to get out to mainstream media

  • @nextabe1
    @nextabe1 Před rokem +19

    Currently reading his book "In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts." Amazing work. Can't wait to see more from him.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

  • @myralhf
    @myralhf Před 10 měsíci

    Love Gabor Mate nd his teaching is profound! Listen...

  • @michaelwagner8859
    @michaelwagner8859 Před rokem +19

    Such deep and profound wisdom! Thank you for this amazing message & guest.

    • @josephmorrell9954
      @josephmorrell9954 Před rokem

      wagit wagner

    • @matthewingerson
      @matthewingerson Před rokem

      josephmorrell9954 is another troll working on behalf of wealthy-class right-wingers. And, like other ignorant right-wing, working-class class-traitors, josephmorrell9954 is ( *at least* ) a week late catching up with reality. Block the account for josephmorrell9954.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

  • @dsantamaria713
    @dsantamaria713 Před rokem +9

    Utterly brilliant Man!
    Wisdom, can't get enough of it!

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @rxnlfr7664
    @rxnlfr7664 Před rokem +1

    Una luz en la oscuridad occidental.gracias .

  • @dulynoted2427
    @dulynoted2427 Před rokem +9

    I was fortunate to have been reered and raised by 2 wonderful people. I also have the ability to remember moments as a small child even one as a baby being nursed by my mother. I can attest to how it has impacted my life. One particular memory I have, is of my father telling us not to take our problems out on our brothers and sisters.
    From then on, it has challenged me to not only think about my reactions to take a step back and wonder what motivates me in everyday conversation, but also think about those who may have their own demons they're dealing with and listen intently to what and more importantly, why they're saying what they're saying. Patience and understanding, I have come to realize, is harder and more time consuming in this day and age of the abundance of social media and making real connections with people. But, it still proves to be a very important aspect to our own growth in understanding ourselves and coming closer to an inner peace.

    • @bonniewatt
      @bonniewatt Před rokem +2

      I wish I had parents like yours. You were very blessed and sounds like they were too.

  • @thecatsbackyard4833
    @thecatsbackyard4833 Před rokem +16

    Glad I bought the book on Audible. Listening for second time. It is heavy with useful info. It is emotional.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem +1

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @fatemaalbalooshi1980
    @fatemaalbalooshi1980 Před rokem +1

    Brilliant man , wonderful episode 👍

  • @harper7509
    @harper7509 Před rokem

    Doc gets FLUSHED

  • @moobrien1747
    @moobrien1747 Před rokem +9

    Abandonment issues are deep on our society.

    • @sylviewalker7560
      @sylviewalker7560 Před rokem +1

      We are all historically 'translocated" in the US...unless we are native American people (which of course is also horribly traumatized history)

  • @laraoneal7284
    @laraoneal7284 Před rokem +5

    Dr Mate’ says also that the medical professionals are Trauma phobic. They simply do not want to look at how this affects all of our health.

  • @theminer49erz
    @theminer49erz Před rokem +22

    One of my favorite parts of being a parent of a baby was when my girls would wake up and I would go pick them up, sit them down on my left arm with their back against my chest and my right arm across their's and just walk around the house/warm a bottle and feed them. It worked really well as far as getting them back to sleep. I get the feeling many parents treat being one as a chore and want it to be as little of a burden on them as possible. That is also usually coupled with some sort of expectation that their child then owes them for not letting them die. If anything a parent owes the child. They didn't ask to be in this BS world. We chose for them even if it wasn't planned or if it "ruined" their career etc., that's on the parent!! I couldn't imagine just leaving them there to eventually give up on receiving the comfort their instincts are telling them they need and just pass back out. They are not a puppy in their kennel for being bad, there are better ways to deal with that even. The acceptance of half assed, do as little as possible and still recive "reward" as a lifestyle is not only very sad, it is dangerous! Especially on a long timeline. The effects will compound and grow exponentially....and have already begun to. I have a strong feeling this guy is spot on!

    • @unawild7186
      @unawild7186 Před rokem

      I totally agree hun I was the same with my daughter & our bond is so strong. X I thought I would have it all figured out by now, I really did. The more I learn about WEF, Who & the self appointed twisted evil maniacs that run these various ABC agencies the more horrified I become. X

    • @susanmercurio1060
      @susanmercurio1060 Před rokem

      I breastfed my babies. I could put them right into the bed with me.

    • @cgaltruist2938
      @cgaltruist2938 Před rokem +4

      He is.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

    • @joanniemuskett3266
      @joanniemuskett3266 Před rokem +4

      Might be worth looking at the same compassion for the puppy too.. my sister is a wolf and dog behaviour 'person', she tells me that there is no such thing as 'naughty' when you understand the needs of the dog...🥰

  • @user-vk7cp1op9p
    @user-vk7cp1op9p Před 11 měsíci +1

    Excellent speaker and ideas on the video! Thank you!
    I love his idea of only one spectrum of people, differing in states of woundedness.

  • @francoislatreille6068
    @francoislatreille6068 Před rokem +11

    thank you for communicating what you've come to realize Dr Maté, thank you for being consistent, your message has always resonated with me but I haven't always been able to click with your messaging, but you've pushed on, and what you're breathing into the collective awareness is so healing!

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

  • @olganan3023
    @olganan3023 Před rokem +2

    Thank you & bless you kind soul for helping everyone that hears your words 🙏🏾❤️

  • @anucreation6547
    @anucreation6547 Před rokem +9

    Brilliant, I will look for the book and documentary. Thank you Dr.

  • @innerlocus
    @innerlocus Před rokem +20

    Life is about learning to survive the nightmare we call childhood, why do we insist that the baby be taken away from the mother after childbirth and put in a room with other crying babies?

    • @donHooligan
      @donHooligan Před rokem +11

      the first day of school is an insane tradition.
      all those crying, confused kids....
      all those crying, confused adults...
      i'm "supposed to" do something completely unnatural....Mammon dictates this...i must comply or be an outcast.

    • @jamalzaggout4662
      @jamalzaggout4662 Před rokem +8

      Just figured out why my 7 year old daughter panicks when we leave her with friends, family, or even in her own room. When she was born they ripped her away and didn't let us see her for 3 days in the hospital! She is afraid of being abandoned. Thanks Modern medicine.

    • @anderseckstrand7033
      @anderseckstrand7033 Před rokem +5

      @Jamal Zaggout.......But she and you can heal together knowing what you know now. Together you can reaffirm that love and hold each other tightly. To forgive yourselves and to recognize your trauma so that you can change how it effects you.
      You must love yourself going forward and always hold your loved ones close. 🙏

    • @wallaceahtone6149
      @wallaceahtone6149 Před rokem +4

      @@donHooliganI still remember that day!
      I tell you what else I remember quite well, and thats HS. Im 38, a racial minority, with a working class background. I've lived my fair share of life since then, but I don't miss those high school days whatsoever! Some people have nostalgia for HS, but I have no warm feelings for it. I dropped out after my tenth grade year, and I can't say I regret it!

  • @deelavita4955
    @deelavita4955 Před rokem +1

    This is why so many people are becoming wellness/ spiritual healers.

  • @angelikalindenau943
    @angelikalindenau943 Před rokem +3

    Deep wisdom, if we want to make life better for societies, we will benefit from taking note of Dr Mate's findings. Each person and all together.

  • @ericadenison1019
    @ericadenison1019 Před rokem +2

    Self love, self compassion, dedication to one's authenticity fills the void, and people with higher self love buy less too, and choose truly fulfilling and purposeful work, which adds true benevolence and goodness to others lives. So lets all continue to grow in ourself love, deeply love and treasure yourself.

  • @cherrykindstedt7051
    @cherrykindstedt7051 Před rokem

    Thank you so much for letting him talk without interrupting!! ❤

  • @michellecd4722
    @michellecd4722 Před rokem +1

    "The Mass Engineering of Addiction" brilliant!

  • @Protomango
    @Protomango Před rokem +2

    "If trauma is a split from ourselves, for example, a disconnect from our bodies, then healing is that reconnection with ourselves. Trauma is not the terrible thing that happened to us, but trauma is the wound that we sustained and are carrying. This is a wonderful message, because it means trauma can be healed at any time." -Dr. Gabor Maté

  • @Theballonist
    @Theballonist Před 10 měsíci

    His work is so important.

  • @anderseckstrand7033
    @anderseckstrand7033 Před rokem +15

    This man understands that we are fundamentally all apart of the same community.
    If the community is damaged, sick, or fractured......so too are it’s individual members.
    This is why I say capitalism is literally killing us. Food and healthcare should be focused on healing, instead it’s based around a “for profit” motive. Which is neither human nor natural. 🙏

  • @maratford9873
    @maratford9873 Před rokem +5

    Nobody is unique, except for our Mom.

  • @fatumataholloway4897
    @fatumataholloway4897 Před rokem +6

    This is how I live my life. This behavior is good to learn it from the beginning . Learn how to deal with emotional issues before it gets too late.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @twistedoperator4422
    @twistedoperator4422 Před rokem +5

    Love this man

  • @marycollins8215
    @marycollins8215 Před rokem +2

    I admire your service and this guest.

  • @hogey74
    @hogey74 Před rokem +11

    Thanks for this interview. I first heard Gabor being interviewed by Tim Ferris and it was both a relief and also exciting. His work and willingness to speak had helped me greatly. His perspective was badly lacking in the wider conversation but he also too absolute. There are significant genetic aspects to trauma including ASD and the PDs. ADHD for eg is predicted by genetics to the same extent as height. But Gabor is I think the first person to properly discuss the nurture side in a way that I could understand.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

  • @Fashitecture
    @Fashitecture Před rokem +7

    All of the things I’ve known and have been telling people for decades.
    Love him! ❤

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @claireemmakirk-c964
    @claireemmakirk-c964 Před rokem +11

    This is great stuff.

  • @cruella5521
    @cruella5521 Před rokem +15

    yes! there is just as much trauma living with social economic restraints as there is trauma received in wartime. Thank you!

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @maominevendumont9332
    @maominevendumont9332 Před rokem +7

    OH, MAN! I HEAR YOU! Thank you. I am getting your book for my whole family to read.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @juliahenriques210
    @juliahenriques210 Před rokem +2

    Amy, please, please, call in dr Sapolsky from Stanford. If possible, mediate a talk between him and dr Maté. The world needs this kind of conversation.

  • @emefreeman1905
    @emefreeman1905 Před rokem +3

    OMG so glad Dr. Mate' is on the job. I needed ALL of this EXACTLY today.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @handthefs8197
    @handthefs8197 Před rokem +5

    Very important things for all of us to hear! Excellent work!

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @bethmoore7722
    @bethmoore7722 Před rokem +4

    As William Faulkner said, “The past is never dead. It is not even past”. Trauma lives in our brains and bodies forever. It is a risk factor for fibromyalgia, which the therapist who taught me CBT said it seems like a physical manifestation of hyper-vigilance. That is exactly the truth. It’s a hypersensitization syndrome, and 90% of those who have it are women. The majority can report at least one, if not many, ACEs and other instances of trauma, usually from abuse.
    I believe all auto-immune diseases stem from trauma, anxiety, & depression. We live in a transactional, zero/sum society. Children, and others incapable of producing profit are afterthoughts, if they are considered, at all. The traits that would enable success in this society do not include kindness, generosity, or compassion. In fact, those traits are roundly ridiculed. “Goody-two-shoes”, “bleeding heart,” and the newest addition to the collection, the despicable SJWs, are reactions to what they consider weakness. Once again, in a wealthy, capitalist country like ours, it’s always opposites day.
    Edit to add that dissociation is one of the most difficult things to manage. I wonder how many people, besides me, have experienced dissociative amnesia. A lot of behaviors people struggle with stem from the need to dissociate.

  • @robertafierro5592
    @robertafierro5592 Před rokem +7

    Second time I watch and listen to this episode!

  • @carmengoldilla554
    @carmengoldilla554 Před 10 měsíci

    Powerful talk and brakes down trauma so well

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Gabor mentions the "three brains": gut, heart, brain, in his latest masterpiece. He is on the money on this. I have the book The Three Brains, which I recommend after reading The Myth of Normal.

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Před 7 měsíci +1

    He says in Myth that if you're filled with hatred or resentment, one can still find acceptance. I wish I knew how to do that. It seems counterintuitive to embrace something you hate, which is what acceptance is. How do u accept the unacceptable?

  • @starcrib
    @starcrib Před rokem +6

    Dr. Mate's has targeted the code of addiction and other traumatizing origins -
    Some people have other worldly knowledge of human frailty and the skills needed to regain control of their own minds, emotions, and physical bodies. Dr. MATE' is now need MORE NOW THAN EVER. 🌿♾️🌿

    • @alyciamarie4163
      @alyciamarie4163 Před rokem

      What is terrible is that the powers that he know all of this as well but they don’t want us healthy

  • @dav220
    @dav220 Před rokem +5

    So much wisdom. I'm gay and have suffered a lot in my early years and then HIV+ showed up... I wonder...

  • @sandycares2995
    @sandycares2995 Před rokem +1

    I was laying awake last night thinking about how society expects perfect bodies now and then realized millenials also demand perfect minds. No patience for any mental struggles in parents etc. Ei. Get out and exercise more, eat right, do this do that, whatever, to FIX yourself. Total impatience and then often rejection.
    My goodness it puts you in the pit more. Like I'm trying here.
    This morning my friend , without prompting or anything, send me the title of this book.
    This summary of book says it all. I will be excited to read it when I get it.
    Sincerely
    A 70 year old baby boomer with mental struggles ;)

  • @harveywitt5307
    @harveywitt5307 Před 10 měsíci

    This interview was very educational and insightful. Dr. Mat'e is a very brilliant physician with penetrating insight into the subtilties of how traumatic experiences impact the physiology of humanity. I must purchase this book. The Myth of Normal .

  • @laurenj6771
    @laurenj6771 Před rokem +27

    It’s still mind boggling to me how he went from an angry father who used to hit his 3 year old son, to someone who is so self aware sensitive to the world and cares deeply about children.

    • @MommaLousKitchen
      @MommaLousKitchen Před rokem +2

      Three year old!?!? WTF

    • @laurenj6771
      @laurenj6771 Před rokem +5

      Yeah I forget the name of the video where he said it, but it was something about how his son’s behaviors used to trigger his flght or flight reaction. Like one time his son was throwing a fit and refused to sing happy birthday so he slapped him.

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams.,,.

    • @Shaara1
      @Shaara1 Před rokem +5

      @@laurenj6771 Now that's a different story from "he used to hit his 3 year old child" you wrote above.
      He slapped him once and regretting it til today.

    • @Shaara1
      @Shaara1 Před rokem +2

      @@Fx_- According to what he said, his son angered him at that particular time and he slapped him.
      He also said he was reactive, by the way.
      But he didn't say he was reactive by nature and he used to hit the kids. If he is honest about his behaviour and that one occasion, I feel, he would admit if this was regular.

  • @gloriaharrison7616
    @gloriaharrison7616 Před rokem +1

    I always read this news paper and watch her show .
    She is a outstanding reporter .

  • @erwin643
    @erwin643 Před rokem +7

    These two pre-recorded segments reserved for Thanksgiving Day (this one, and the other one on indigenous issues) are appropriate, compared to the commercialized crap we normally get, in our decaying society.

  • @A.Rose.G
    @A.Rose.G Před rokem +4

    We know this as kids as there is an internal conflict, confusion and trauma from having natural expectations of goodness periodically crushed inconsistently. We call this learning reality but sadly it is learning to accept the wrongness of our world.

  • @virgilwilliams2378
    @virgilwilliams2378 Před rokem +1

    I'm glad my father told not to play with my sanity. Glad i listen.

  • @j.w.2391
    @j.w.2391 Před rokem +12

    Social Media, Celebrity Culture, and Amazon Consumerism exacerbate Trauma and Addiction, Unattainable Desires and Resentments. Will definitely seek out this book by a fellow Canadian. I am pleased that Mata didnt approach his theories in a simplistic " Colorblind" way but interrogates Racism / Oppression as part of this Trauma phenomenon.

    • @j.w.2391
      @j.w.2391 Před rokem +3

      I think Cannabis use and the now easy access to it, was the worst things that happened. We have created a society that just wants to "Escape" or "Self-Medicate" their way out of problems. Anytime Im exhausted or stressed out, I have some Pepper Mint Tea...and I would hardly call this an "Addiction".

    • @anderseckstrand7033
      @anderseckstrand7033 Před rokem +3

      @J. W.........I agree. Good observation indeed. The addiction isn’t the root cause, but more of an escape from a sick society run by a very heartless and corrupt group of megalomaniacs. 🙏

    • @sheilascanlon4928
      @sheilascanlon4928 Před rokem

      @@j.w.2391
      Who are you like some expert when a natural substance also provable relieves pain.
      Come on & get real question your opinions based on an individual experience.

    • @TheDmonet
      @TheDmonet Před rokem

      @@sheilascanlon4928 I was wondering how long it would take someone to attack anyone who questioned the oh so holy leaf so many people can't survive without and are so scarily defensive about it. In 20 years when so many people who are is smoking thc 24/7...in their cars, in their homes, etc..have serious psychological and physical issues, we will look back at this time and wonder why society was so stupid the same way it was with cigarettes.

    • @TheDmonet
      @TheDmonet Před rokem

      He's a smart businessman who knows what appeals to the under 35's.

  • @deeone5326
    @deeone5326 Před rokem +1

    Thank you so much! a Broken Lover of Humanity! Sending love, please share.❤🎉 Stop the hate please, it’s not normal.😢

  • @claudebourque8882
    @claudebourque8882 Před rokem +5

    A REALITY CHECK POINT!
    IT IS ALL around US...
    People need to get REAL....Real fast.
    Love this man for his deep inquest on how we live.
    Let us us get toghether and FIX this problem of social disconnectness...
    Get real guys....
    Thank you ...

    • @anderseckstrand7033
      @anderseckstrand7033 Před rokem

      Community love heals the individuals that make up that community because we are all one! 🙏

  • @spirit2600
    @spirit2600 Před rokem +1

    Great Interview thank you Democracy Now
    Dr. Mate Huge Gratitude for Your Knowledge, Insights, Wisdom, and All that You do to Help Others .... Bless You Sir

  • @phyllisjohnson6442
    @phyllisjohnson6442 Před rokem +1

    I love this!😊

  • @ravindertalwar553
    @ravindertalwar553 Před rokem +1

    Congratulations 👏👏 And Prayers 🙏🙏💘💘💘

  • @jackiewiliams1510
    @jackiewiliams1510 Před rokem +3

    What amazing insight Dr Gabor Mate has....

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻.

  • @user-we6rk2ys3e
    @user-we6rk2ys3e Před 9 měsíci

    Extremely wisdomful dr. Gabor mate is gem he knows more than scientist and spiritual leaders 😢😢😢. Neither science and relegion ir spirituality can give us whole life .Both failed to do so

  • @chrysteller7462
    @chrysteller7462 Před rokem +3

    Excellent analysis.....

  • @mework4116
    @mework4116 Před 11 měsíci

    Such a beautiful human being.

  • @ripadipaflipa4672
    @ripadipaflipa4672 Před rokem +14

    It is truly a waste that Covid wasn’t our wake up call. We r heading down a dark path in the states. Our ignorance and inability to look inward is killing us.

    • @ripadipaflipa4672
      @ripadipaflipa4672 Před rokem +3

      Sadly if we were able to learn from the Native American cultures around mental and physical health instead of forcing them to be more like the European’s we would have been in a very different environment.

  • @carmenbrown3437
    @carmenbrown3437 Před rokem +1

    Gabor mate makes the most sense.

  • @cowboysfan782008
    @cowboysfan782008 Před rokem +6

    By the time I was 9 I had lived in 4 states, new schools/friends, etc, and just before I turned 12 my parents split, dad moved out and only saw him every other weekend. I never even witnessed an argument between my parents, so this came out of left field, but my dad was always gone on business since we left Milwaukee WI 6-7 years prior, so I was used to being the man of the house, with my mom who was great and nurturing but not all that tough, and my sister was quiet and 3 yrs younger. I was a pretty good BB and FB player and my 1st yr in little league was 1976 in Dallas Tx. This was the same year the 1st Bad News Bears movie came out, and I've often used that film as a reference, because to me the back and fourth between the kids and the parents in that movie opitimizes what it was like being a kid in the 70s. (It Was A Very "Tough Love" Environment Then). Although I agree with a lot of this in the video, I feel that there is a happy medium between the harshness in the way many of my generation were raised as kids in the 70s, and the softness of the last 30 years. One of the purposes of learning history, is to give the ppl of today a better perspective of just how difficult it was (just surviving) for so many ppl that came before us, and another thing that IMO kid's today are not taught enough of, is personal accountability, to help them in being better, and more well rounded adults. I get it, but feel there is just too much focus on the negatives today, and not enough focus on just how good we have it compared to so many other areas of the world. Almost everything regarding society in the news today is about how someone or some thing is not being treated right, and we wonder why so many young ppl are lost, angry, on drugs etc. It makes me sad, becomes the vast majority of humans are good people, but too many today are miss-directed!

    • @jasonsoulie1337
      @jasonsoulie1337 Před rokem +2

      Paragraphs are your friend

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

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  • @ekn8928
    @ekn8928 Před rokem +1

    Thank you Amy for pronouncing his name correctly! 😊

  • @stanleyhall6801
    @stanleyhall6801 Před rokem +3

    Beautiful blessings to you guys for this kinda knowledge 🙏

    • @harisuladan5475
      @harisuladan5475 Před rokem

      Thank goodness for Giving me a Quick Recovery From Diabetes and / Arthritis Disease, Thank you Drdodoyi On CZcams🌻

  • @joanniemuskett3266
    @joanniemuskett3266 Před rokem +17

    The 'covid' event has woken many money people up!
    the conditioning is being broken through, have faith, it's people like you, Gabor that are doing the path finding and people are following and learning and healing.
    You've changed my life, and I'm sure you have changed many many others' too.

  • @karensanders6728
    @karensanders6728 Před rokem

    At 35 minutes...the Lakota way...amazing! I love you Dr. Mate. ..I wish for your voice and wisdom to be spread to everyone in this world!!❤

  • @homosapien0000
    @homosapien0000 Před rokem +7

    Absolutely the best interview ever on here. Everyone needs to hear these things.