Mom Chose My Step-siblings Over Me and Demanded to Share My Deceased Dad's College Fund or Move Out.
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- čas přidán 26. 04. 2024
- Mom Chose My Step-siblings Over Me and Demanded to Share My Deceased Dad's College Fund or Move Out in a Week.
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"If you're father had been alive, he would be disappointed!" That's a bold claim considering he's the one that left the money for her specifically!
The Father would be proud of daughter not to give away her rightful funds.
He DID NOT trust his wife AT ALL
@@JKGirl90sthey were not married thankfully
Deja que los hijastros se vayan a hacer su vida y ella envejezca a ver si alguno de ellos ve por ella
He literally put a stipulation in his will that not even the mom could touch the money! He’d be scandalized!
If your dad was alive he whould leave your mom and take you with him
I was going to say something similar. The dad would be probably be disgusted by his wife
If he was alive she might not have shown her true colors and kept faking being a good person.
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Based upon how manipulative her mother is, I wonder if it's not that her paternal family didn't want anything to do with her but her mother alienated them after her father's death and just told her they didn't want to know her.
I kind of wanted to suggest op to contact her dad's lawyer and ask whether or not he knew her dad's family and perhaps asked them whether or not they can meet.
I saw two reddit aita where parents alienate their children from their grandparents over petty/greedy reasons that ends with the grandparents finding out about their grandkids on deathbed.
I know it might be hard like they might be biased and judging, but they're probably op's only 'sane' blood relatives. So to say, just open the door, expect nothing nor accept any that are offered. Just talk.
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Yr mom is a BAD person. Just go NC n block her from yr life.
If op's father were still alive and witnessed op's mother's behavior, he would divorce op's mother in heartbeat
They weren't even married so..
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Finally a strory where OP has a spine. I am so glad that OP was able to put her foot down and stand her ground.
She almost faltered unfortunately
@@_juju_jojo_ So true but good thing that the reddit community guided her the correct way and she was able to see things for what they are.
I wish she had made the mother aware of how she felt in the family earlier, but that's about it
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I'm a mean petty person so I'd have posted screenshots of all the horrible messages the mom sent after the post went up online too, just to really hammer in for everyone how unforgivable and vile she is.
In a heart beat
Damn mother getting destroyed lol
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I would have posted the pictures with no context. People will get their own point from it.
Wow, the mom only kept her around as a piggy bank. Disgusting!
if a message from another person can ruin your life, that person didnt ruin your life, you did.
If a *true message. It's pretty easy to ruin someone's life with lies in the short-term
Well... what if it's a spouse that texts you that they're leaving you and your pre-teen child because they just met a lover who makes them feel young again and they are tired of being a responsible for a kid for a decade
@@mercuriallily this may sound harsh but still applies. Sounds like both people didn't do a proper screening of their chosen partner and their personalities/priorities on both sides before starting a family (if it's even biologically both of theirs). Sounds likely they were winging it and assuming any glaring issues they had in their relationship would be ignored for the sake of the kid/s (especially with the language being used in the comment, implying not being on the same page about raising children together in the first place). A proper foundation built on hard conversations and choosing the right partner is CRITICAL in anything long term.
It depends
Well.......
"when a child is rejected by the village they will burn it to feel its warmth"
Birthgiver ≠ mother
OP’s friend & her parents = FAMILY 💯🔥❤❤❤
she wasnt the opposite of the step dad's ex, it seems like they were pretty similar
💀
It's not your fault it's your step siblings and step mother's fault they're acting like that and they should pay for their actions for doing this to you.
Exactly. Go after the gold digging ex and leave poor op alone. Because it is all her fault she could of saved but didn't.
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I effing LOVE OP here. This is one endgame flex they should be proud of.
Mom’s one of those people who is going to show up and act like nothing ever happened because she needs something.
She has noticed, she just didn't care because it's all about her and her new family while pushing her son off to the side and use him as a financial saftey net when it's convenient.
Op doesn't owe her or her family anything. Move on and leave them behind like they did to op. What goes around comes around.
um , The op is a girl
Mom will come crawling back when Op becomes successful.
Cant wait for that update 💯
It’s hard seeing stories about kids being disenfranchised when their parents get remarried. It makes me feel like remarrying (with dependent children) is just a bad idea.
Nta. Glad op has a spine of steel.
Spine of steel?
@@ianmoritzplatapino3684 she didn't bend to her crazy mother and had to guts to look out for herself without bs about family.
Nah she had spine of tungsten and guts of titanium
Tounge of Uranium @@DragonOfTheMortalKombat
DUDE HAD 18. YEARS ! DUDE HAS NEVER ! EVER ! GAVE A HOOT ABOUT THEIR COLLEGE ! FATHER DIDNT WORK ! SAVE ! SACRIFICE ! FOR ANOTHER MAN CHILDREN
correction, 19 years cuz the kid took a gap year. It's amazing how pathetic that is and he was prob banking on ops money
Why is a person choosing how they spend their money “selfish”? If mom wanted the step kids to have college funds… she and step-dad could have saved some money.
I have a feeling that OP would be kicked out at the age of 18 regardless of whether or not she gave away the college fund. Maybe the only reason why that monster of a mother kept OP under her roof all that time, aside from legal obligation, was to get her claws on that money.
op if you read this, your mother is dead, as a person ofc, consider her dead and move on, you dont own them anything, she only cares for herself, your dad truly did and is a shame that he passed away when you were young
Go no contact with your egg donor.You do not owe your sorry mother a thing nor do you owe HER family a thing. Move on and reach for your goals.
If your dad was still alive, your mother wouldn't have a life to begin with.
If your father was still here, he would have divorced. He put your name only on the fund for a good reason. He foresaw what would happen and prevented it altogether.
The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb
I’m always amazed by the partners who know their significant others will happily abandon their family after they pass. So they have to take such measures to make sure the money is t wasted or given away to someone else’s family. It reminds me of the mom who died and left everything to her child instead of her husband because she knew he’d give it all to his new wife and kids. And he surely tried. Tried to get his own child to give up house, trust fund, and all other personal items to give to his stepdaughters and wife. It’s crazy how quickly people switch up just so they don’t have to be alone.
Weekly shoutout on these kinda stories to remind people to pay attention to children when families blend. It's unfortunately quite common for one of the previous families kids or even both to get pushed out [ if the parents decide to have a new child together ]. This crap needs to be called out ASAP because even if it doesn't change the crappy attitude and lack of love, it can ensure the child(ren) get the required care and attention until they're able to leave.
I’ve been paying attention because it happened to both my husband and I. Disenfranchised as children from a previous marriage when parents remarry. It has forever changed how I view blended families and tainted my view of remarrying with dependant children. I have only seen it go well once. All other attempts have blown up spectacularly. Needless to say if my husband and I do not work out I have decided not to bring home dates or remarry until my daughter is grown up and out of the home. She should not be forced to be subjected to a new person in her life when she is still too young and naive to speak up for herself and defend herself. I have also heard of way too much sexual violence against girls in these situations as well.
lol well they didn’t treat her like family and now they’re surprised that she didn’t want to share what was rightfully hers to people who refused to treat her like family and her mother was manipulative enough to use her dead father as a weapon and I probably would have been crueller and say my father’s parents were right about you weren’t they
People that disregard their biological children to favor their new spouse or their kids disgust me to my core.
If OP's Father did passaway when she was so young I wonder if her Mother alienated her Father's family from her
Why are so many mothers so abusive? This is most likely a real story too. It's really getting alarming that so many kids go through mental abuse and end up broken because of it. Hope OP can get her life together and end up making her mom to beg for forgiveness on her knees
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be.
Op there’s a reason why your father never left the money to your mother before he died.
The most hypocritical thing they’ve said is for Op to give up her college fund and give it to their kids, but how would Op go to college then? It’s not like they’re going to pay for Op.
Eventually. She will realize those are not her kids.
I’m pretty sure if the dad were still alive he’d be disgusted with his wife and divorce her without even thinking twice. The fact she only kept her daughter around for the money is just disgusting.
"This decision will cost you everything."
Yea, it could cost Op college and a good education that could give them a good job. While giving the step-siblings the money would just show to the step family they can exclude Op and make Op include them without repricussion.
"selfish ungrateful brats", as far as I am aware to be ungrateful you need something to be grateful for in the first place
Good thing your dad didn't leave her in charge, she probably would have given the money to the step siblings. Your dad wanted to provide for you so that money is yours to do with as you please.
Hope even enemies don't get a mother like some of these moms in reddit stories.
It's amazing how the OP's mom said that her decision could cost her everything. It's more amazing she never followed her own advice.
They never bothered to save up money because the mother already told the stepdad that there's money available for that purpose
10:01 Should have left a note saying "If you hadn't alienated me, you'd definitely have been seeing that money. Toodles!" Before leaving.
Apparently mom never thought about how disappointed her dead husband would be to know how she was treating his daughter.
Nearly 200 k subscribers telltales 😊😊
Honestly, if her father was alive then he would be disappointed in HER MOTHER instead of her
Getting some "...and then everyone clapped" energy from the confrontation at the friends house.
If she was my friend i would have lost it on her mom wtf!
Anyone else think that it sounds like the grandparents were right about the mom being awful & not wanting their son to be with such an awful woman?
OP should definitely reach out to them as it's more than likely the mom separated their connection & moved away to be sure
Parents actually often accidentally do this when they remarry… they tend to favor their step-children under the pretence that they dont wanna favour their biological child.
Im not saying it’s okay, but it’s quite common. OP is within her rights to be angry.
👏 YOU 👏 DONT 👏 HAVE 👏TO 👏 GO 👏 TO 👏 COLLEGE!!!
The fact that she said she raised you is crazy cause the way you described her it seemed like she didn’t even raise you
I would've emptied the trash bag and hand it back saying ''Here, have your dress back. You need it''
I would be taking pictures of the stuff I bought with my money and flaunt it all over social media just to even more annoying towards them
You made the right choices
fascinating how so many people feel entitled to your money
Hey atleast your dad's family was right about your mum
It should be against the law to take everything from the husband then leave them penniless then ontop of that giving the kids to someone who is penniless. Thats just awful
MOTHER PROMISED DUDE YOUR INHERITANCE IN ORDER 2. HOOK DUDE !
You don't owe them anything!!
gold digger ex wife but the father can't even have any funds nor the son wants to get loan for his own college? 🤨
Why does it sound like the ex wife was able to get away from a financially abusive household?
It always baffles me how some parents choose the new family than their own child.
Something tells me the father has an idea how things would turn out and that's why the financial set up was given like than. Kudos to the late father for planning ahead for his child.
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If this is in the US, the OP could get the law in most states to require her to support the OP until she was 18.
Moving out is way more better and cheap to get out then to pay someone's college money.
Another perfect example of cause and effect. Treat your child like crap, people find out and you get treated like crap. How do people not understand that your actions come back on you one way or another and you wont like it when it does.
One thing I can never understand why do people want to please they step kids so much they is not going to respect you as their parents😂😂😂
And if your dad was alive he should leave your mother and take you with him
Op's mom trying to steal money that is legally OP's and solely intended for OP and then saying she'd raised her to be more compassionate...? Where's your compassion to your own daughter?
The last thing your father gave you and they want you to give it away... not a great plan.
If OP's father was alive the egg donor would have taken a page out the the stepdad's ex wife's book. AKA abandoning OP
Your father knew what was coming. That's why his lawyer was in charge, not your mother. He could have put her over the find.
So the mom thought abandoning her child was raising her right? That choosing step siblings over her own child would make her a kind hearted person? What kind of delusion is this insane woman pulling?
“If your father had been alive, he would be disappointed”
“If dad was alive, you might have been a decent mom”
"If your father had been alive he'd be disapointed at you for your selfishness"
"No, if dad had been alive, he'd be disapointed at YOU for how you were treating me, and I'd chose to live with him full time as soon as I would be able to impact the custody by my decisions"
It's so sad that ur mom can ignore u we out thinking twice sometimes friends feel like family
Throw it back in her face. "If dad was alive, how disappointed will he be that you abandoned and hurt your daughter?"
Amazing Dhar Mann script.
That’s like asking for rent which is only fair if they ask it from the rest of the kids
I would have told her bye!
If the dad wanted his money to ve used for anything else than the OP's benefit, he would have just given the money to mother with wish that she would use them as she saw best, but he didn't
Time to start packing all of your stuff and move out BIG TIME NTA!!!! Your Mom moved to get away from the people that could hold her accountable for her actions. THis is what she created and SHE can just live with her actions.
Why I have a feeling op's dad has a hunch or knew his wife would do that to his kid so made sure she has no hand on his money.
the step dads ex wife was supposedly a gold digger but the mum, stepdad and his kid wanted to steal the inheritance.. who are the gold diggers again?
If her dad resurrected right now, he'd definitely be disappointed... in himself for being with such a heartless woman.
Even giving the leniency of thinking that the mom's actions are due to grief seeing her late husband in her daughter, I cannot find it in myself to excuse the mom's actions.
Resurrected*
@@taneeshajackson1817 thanks
W op's friends and W friend's parents
boo hoo for the mom. like her feelings are the only thing that mattered. makes you think why he left all of it to OP.
How can you raise someone to be kind and compassionate when you have no idea what those words even mean or how to apply them in your own life? 😂
In my experience, only 1 of 2 things happens when you are abused by a parent. You gaslight yourself to hell and eventually become the parent, or you can't unsee that your parents are monsters and you leave in pieces but not a monster. You might even be more empathetic and considerate of others because you've seen the dark side. OP is obviously the second option. Mom (who likely had bad parents herself) is the first one.
I know a couple of friends who are therapist and your mother has shown mad signs of narcissism because honestly she focuses more on her step siblings which is a big problem instead of you sometimes because the way you explain it sounds like she doesn't even care for you anymore and she doesn't even show a bit of sympathy
why is it so common in these reedit stories when a parent remarries, the original kids are treated like shit
The best thing to do is to ignore all the messages and Mom is giving you and whenever if you believe in God whenever you just need help just take it to the Lord and do not share your college funds with any anyone unless you trust them but
Fuck no, your mom is gaslighting you. She is manipulating you to do what she wants. If your dad was alive this wouldn’t have been an issue, but even so he would be ashamed of her behavior I’m positive. There is no way in hell that he would approve of her treating his child like this.
good. because youre rich that will play out best for you.
The mom:If you father was here he would be disappointed with you!
Me: if dad was still here than you would be single and I'd be with him.
let see the post starts with my dad and mom never married because his family hated her I can see why they saw her for who she was and dad didn't because she put on a show then OP says they didn't want anything to do with her so I'll guess that was just mom saying it I'll bet OP was never given the opportunity to be with them because mom knew they'd expose her faster than anything plus depending where OP would possibly get survivors benefits if dad died in an accident or something.
My stepfather did the same thing to his biological children
Hypothetical future update "mom's new family has abandoned her and she has tried reaching out. I still have her blocked. She showed up at my school to see and speak with me, I let the campus know that my mother passed away long ago and I had no idea who that was. She was escorted out by security".... not real but I'd love it of that happened
Pls don’t give up
OP, if you read this, your mother is living in a world of her own. You're certainly not in it, which is good for you. Knowing how unrealistic and delusional she was for claiming something that isn't hers, it's mind boggling.
Also, I think you should contact your dad's lawyer and see if he could connect you to your paternal family. Knowing how your mom being that unreasonable and petty, I bet she lied on some part. I suggest you this because they might as well be the only 'sane' blood relatives you have. And sure, they might be biased and judging because you're your mother's daughter, but tell them that you only want to know your dad and to clear things up, get to know, probably over some coffee.
No money/help asked. Just talk.
You're good look out for you. You're dad left it for you. That was the only way he was looking at his end and he wonts to be a part of your life