Personally I do not think that people should go to 90 meetings in 90 days because they're going to be told they are powerless over and over and I think that's the last thing anyone needs to hear when they're trying to overcome alcohol. That is precisely the reason I like you Annie Grace because your method did not leave the drinker powerless.
I think when you’re drinking it’s easy to blame every negative thing on the drinking. Feel lousy? It’s the alcohol. Procrastinating? It’s the alcohol. Relationship issues? The alcohol. I think sometimes one of the reasons people hold on to the alcohol is as a weird way to avoid facing their problems. Stop drinking and your scapegoat is gone. Without alcohol to blame, you’re responsible for your choices, you’re responsible for the things you do and say. Hopefully you’ll find you’re actually making better choices without the booze, but, if you’ve been drinking for a while, it could be scary. “What if I’m a jerk even without the booze?” The good news is, that’s highly unlikely.
I read Allen Carr's book and visited your CZcams videos and read excerpts of your book (Allen Carr does good work, so I didn't need much beyond that). I felt the same way - an unconscious switch had been turned off and I saw alcohol in a totally different light. I was happily alcohol free for several months before the nightmare of 2020 and quarantine boredom had set in. I started just having a few beers, then I'd find myself almost unconsciously biking/driving to the liquor store every weekend, then every other day... and before I knew it, I was right back in it. I like your perspective of not guilting/shaming yourself. It's easy to say "wow, I've proven I can control it. Let's try it again." However, I'm back off the wagon again and I feel really good about it. I'm re-reading the books and resources that caused me to dramatically change my relationship with alcohol in the first place. For me - I just needed a reminder and to re-read. Maybe it will work for others?
Absolute best vid... thanks for this... so much great stuff to think about. Thanks for all your hard work :) much appreciated.. Have purchased your audio book and listen to it every night. :)
Annie. I love your videos. I'm a drinker. I can go 3-4 days then the cravings come. I cave in then drink. I drink alone. Do you think you can be genetically prone to drinking? I had relatives who drank alot. Keep on doing what your doing. I have tried to quit 100 times. I also drink because I suffer from anxiety and depression. You have been right on about everything! :)
AA is the worst made me want to drink--their stories and reading of repettitous boring material was not social! I do not want to hear stories of past I moved forward-- Craig Beck helped me and now I am feeling better and better and changed everything
Think I liked all your vids thanks, alcohol makes me feel embarrassed and stupid. Well the hangover does. This weekend I flashed my underwear I'm 39 it's not even funny especially being recorded and put on Facebook. At the time I thought was super funny I just looked like a drunk fool.
Personally I do not think that people should go to 90 meetings in 90 days because they're going to be told they are powerless over and over and I think that's the last thing anyone needs to hear when they're trying to overcome alcohol. That is precisely the reason I like you Annie Grace because your method did not leave the drinker powerless.
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TY, Annie Grace for your answer to this question. For not making me feel like a failure. You give me strength and hope that I can beat this challenge!
Never a failure! Always learning!!
Love Annie Grace ... she makes so much sense.
I paid for and printed your journal this time. I spent 29.00 at fed ex. They bound it for me. I started again today day 1 July 18, 2020 amen!!
Hope you're doing well!
I think when you’re drinking it’s easy to blame every negative thing on the drinking. Feel lousy? It’s the alcohol. Procrastinating? It’s the alcohol. Relationship issues? The alcohol. I think sometimes one of the reasons people hold on to the alcohol is as a weird way to avoid facing their problems. Stop drinking and your scapegoat is gone. Without alcohol to blame, you’re responsible for your choices, you’re responsible for the things you do and say. Hopefully you’ll find you’re actually making better choices without the booze, but, if you’ve been drinking for a while, it could be scary. “What if I’m a jerk even without the booze?” The good news is, that’s highly unlikely.
The newfound awareness can be challenging but it does ultimately bring freedom.
I went to treatment for alcohol myself, aa and the works. This information is so valuable and is taking me to the next level of awareness. Thanks!
I had seven months and I just drank last night feel so terrible but I have to start over
You can do it!
@@ThisNakedMind ty
Boredom is the key!! Keep that Brain busy.
I read Allen Carr's book and visited your CZcams videos and read excerpts of your book (Allen Carr does good work, so I didn't need much beyond that). I felt the same way - an unconscious switch had been turned off and I saw alcohol in a totally different light. I was happily alcohol free for several months before the nightmare of 2020 and quarantine boredom had set in. I started just having a few beers, then I'd find myself almost unconsciously biking/driving to the liquor store every weekend, then every other day... and before I knew it, I was right back in it.
I like your perspective of not guilting/shaming yourself. It's easy to say "wow, I've proven I can control it. Let's try it again."
However, I'm back off the wagon again and I feel really good about it. I'm re-reading the books and resources that caused me to dramatically change my relationship with alcohol in the first place.
For me - I just needed a reminder and to re-read. Maybe it will work for others?
Hope that you find your balance again!
Absolute best vid... thanks for this... so much great stuff to think about. Thanks for all your hard work :) much appreciated.. Have purchased your audio book and listen to it every night. :)
Thank you so much!
You are the best! Thanks so much for all your help.
Happy to help!
Thank you Annie!
You are so welcome!
I needed to hear this after a slip thank you great advice annie. Thank you so much
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you Annie for sharing your knowledge. Makes alot of sense!
Annie. I love your videos. I'm a drinker. I can go 3-4 days then the cravings come. I cave in then drink. I drink alone. Do you think you can be genetically prone to drinking? I had relatives who drank alot. Keep on doing what your doing. I have tried to quit 100 times. I also drink because I suffer from anxiety and depression. You have been right on about everything! :)
Funny you should ask - I actually have a video on that question! czcams.com/video/OZaKBXOIuJk/video.html
How you only have 75 likes its strange to me! your videos are very informative
Thank you!
AA is the worst made me want to drink--their stories and reading of repettitous boring material was not social! I do not want to hear stories of past I moved forward-- Craig Beck helped me and now I am feeling better and better and changed everything
Glad you found what helped you find freedom!
This is,totally me
Think I liked all your vids thanks, alcohol makes me feel embarrassed and stupid. Well the hangover does. This weekend I flashed my underwear I'm 39 it's not even funny especially being recorded and put on Facebook. At the time I thought was super funny I just looked like a drunk fool.
Hope you can find freedom from alcohol.