The Toxic World of Self Help: Hustle Culture, Toxic Positivity, Addiction, and Fake Gurus.

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  • The toxic world of self help: a world surrounded by toxic positivity, self help addiction, fake gurus, and hustle culture.
    It’s the side of ‘self-development’ that is often overlooked by those on the outside, and even those who are avid consumers of the industry.
    In this video we take a dive into the dark side of self-help, and the traps that may lie in wait for those who enter this world.
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    Prologue - 00:00
    Part 1: Where it Begins - 02:13
    Part 2: Addiction - 04:26
    Part 3: The Sinister Business of Selling Hope - 07:39
    Part 4: Toxic Positivity - 10:41
    Part 5: Hustle Culture - 13:30
    Conclusion - 16:36

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  • @JamesJani
    @JamesJani  Před 4 lety +11360

    IMPORTANT CLARIFICATION/CORRECTIONS:
    I want to preface this by saying that I don’t think the entirety of the self-help industry is bad - and as some of you have rightly pointed out, not all the fault should be given to the industry itself, consumers of the industry need to take accountability for their actions as well.
    Self-help has benefited me greatly, but only when I approached it from a place of not using self-help as a “quick fix” for motivation and happiness -this video was intended to look at various traps that people can fall into if they use this industry in the wrong way, which I had been doing previously.
    I realise now that there must be a BALANCE - both your consumption and action must have a symbiotic relationship, and a combination of both can make self-help something that could prove to be genuinely useful.
    So with that in mind, see this video as a look into the aspects of self-help that have been taken and misused by both the producers and the consumers of the industry, but not a hit piece on the self-help industry as a whole.
    Hope this clarifies things!
    🙏
    Edit #1: Also, when I say “my first year in college” in this video I am referring to sixth form (US equivalent of grades 11/12) - we sometimes call this “college” in the UK.
    Edit #2: I was harsh when including clips of Gary Vaynerchuk in this video! - Although I didn't mention him by name specifically, I did imply that he was somehow a negative influence of the "self-help" community. Gary V is actually very outspoken against certain aspects of the self-help industry that I've referenced to in this video, and he is a legitimate entrepreneur who profits mostly from his media company, not from self-help. By no stretch of the imagination should he be pegged in the same category as "guru's" like Grant Cardone - this was definitely a mistake on my part.
    Edit #3: I recommended Echarte Tolle's "The Power of Now" book at the end of this video. I want to emphasise that whilst I enjoy this book for its philosophy on mindfulness, and bringing awareness to your thoughts, I do belive that are many elements of the book that are "woo-woo" and pseudoscience. Bare that in mind if you ever purchase his book.

    • @JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez
      @JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez Před 4 lety +258

      Gotta say that is kind of... A self consumption problem. Of course there s people selling self help. There's always someone who is going to benefit from everything (fitness, education, love, travel, art, food, etc).
      Is more about how you deal with that.
      Think that for example about Garyvee. The guy says literally that if you're happy, don't hustle, and that if you hustle is the wrong thing, you're not going to be successful, etc.
      The problem is that nobody teaches us how to consume that kind of content or how to deal with that.
      Of course there are bad ones, but IMO is about one self.

    • @JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez
      @JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez Před 4 lety +124

      But, gotta say it's a great video. I know a lot of people who would find it helpful.
      Keep going, great work!
      (The internet guru video was also fine AF)

    • @ERICACAMPBELLVIDEO
      @ERICACAMPBELLVIDEO Před 4 lety +173

      "both your consumption and action must have a symbiotic relationship, and a combination of both can make self-help something that could prove to be genuinely useful." - this I agree with 100%

    • @ashsqx3246
      @ashsqx3246 Před 4 lety +185

      Can you plz do one on 'law of attraction' ? That would be crazzyy lol

    • @JamesJani
      @JamesJani  Před 4 lety +144

      It’s in the ideas book 😉

  • @bahardan8544
    @bahardan8544 Před 4 lety +39069

    My father always says “If working hard was to make anyone rich, construction workers would be the richest men in the world”
    Edit: You really think the world consists of the 1st world country where you lay your comfortable asses at? People working at construction are suffering all around the world, stop saying “they make good money” etc. They work under minimum wage and even worse, there is still slavery in the world, did you know that?

    • @Lilbope
      @Lilbope Před 4 lety +1180

      Holy shit I love that

    • @MrVee24
      @MrVee24 Před 4 lety +1672

      Bahar Dan "Hard work alone doesn't protect your downside"
      Work smart, not hard. Being able to out hustle your rivals and life comes with being able to navigate yourself into certain positions.

    • @DariusKu
      @DariusKu Před 4 lety +135

      Amazing
      I always tell my friends same

    • @nikhilhumane5540
      @nikhilhumane5540 Před 4 lety +39

      Wow

    • @Tex200950
      @Tex200950 Před 4 lety +141

      WOW THAT IS A POWERFUL STATEMENT !!!!!!

  • @renepeterhans6225
    @renepeterhans6225 Před 2 lety +9254

    *Reading self-help books can be in itself a form of procrastination.*

    • @kyleerasmus5785
      @kyleerasmus5785 Před 2 lety +451

      My exact thoughts after a few years of reading book after book - not taking action.

    • @ant-mt9wk
      @ant-mt9wk Před 2 lety +56

      Definitelly.

    • @alaalfa8839
      @alaalfa8839 Před 2 lety +121

      Like watching a promenade of celebrities walking the red carpet....in dresses made by someone else., and never knowing the names of the designers.....Self-help books are the same, they put together info created by someone else, but spelled in a different way.

    • @massimodambrogio
      @massimodambrogio Před 2 lety +8

      Yeeep

    • @Childoftheking680
      @Childoftheking680 Před 2 lety +70

      So true bro so many people think they are getting ahead with this “success culture” but in fact they cannot take any action whatsoever. People are great at hiding behind this culture on the media smh

  • @eoaneu
    @eoaneu Před rokem +1376

    the self-help industry has led me to the point where i thought relaxing and having time for yourself is procrastination. i always felt so guilty for not doing something "productive" even tho i have been sudying most of the time. i have also started to have symptoms of neurosis. thank you self-help industry :)

    • @MasterOS
      @MasterOS Před rokem +6

      How are you relaxing and having time for yourself?

    • @AlienAteIt.MyNoraTees
      @AlienAteIt.MyNoraTees Před rokem +35

      You have to know the difference of relaxing and wasting time. I used to spent whole days watching mindless tv, while knowing i need to move towards my goals.

    • @cloudonyt8886
      @cloudonyt8886 Před rokem

      You sound like you watch 15 hours of TV and complain about not making progress in life.

    • @sarvnn
      @sarvnn Před rokem +28

      I've been there fuck every content and don't get to much influence of anything and everything is about balance and they all say go all in and it doesn't work that way i learned it hard way

    • @dariomladenovski7047
      @dariomladenovski7047 Před 11 měsíci +10

      ​​​@@sarvnn yeah I tried to go all in a couple of times and it never worked for me, after a couple of days I start crumbling

  • @MitchDavis677
    @MitchDavis677 Před 2 měsíci +73

    The problem we have is because Most people always taught that " you only need a good job to become rich " . These billionaires are operating on a whole other playbook that many don't even know exists.

    • @AliceJudy062
      @AliceJudy062 Před 2 měsíci

      Money invested is far better than money saved , when you invest it gives you the opportunity to increase your financial worth.

    • @JeffreyAlice
      @JeffreyAlice Před 2 měsíci

      " It is remarkable how much long term advantage people like us have gotten by trying to be consistently not stupid , instead of trying to be very intelligent."

    • @AylaAzalea8
      @AylaAzalea8 Před 2 měsíci

      The wisest thing that should be on everyone mind currently should be to invest in different streams of income that doesn't depend on government paycheck, especially with the current economic crisis around the world. This is still a time to invest in Stocks, Forex and Digital currencies.

    • @GraceAmber369
      @GraceAmber369 Před 2 měsíci

      I also keep seeing lot's of people testifying about how they make money investing in Stock, Forex and Crypto Trade(Bitcoin) and I wonder why I keep loosing. Can anyone help me out or at least advice me on what to do.

    • @RobertDavid212
      @RobertDavid212 Před 2 měsíci

      Even with the right technique and assets some investors would still make more than others. As an investor, you should've known that by now that nothing beats experience and that's final. Personally I had to reach out to a stock expert for guidance which is how I was able to grow my account close to $35k, withdraw my profit right before the correction and now I'm buying again.

  • @inkdragon3455
    @inkdragon3455 Před 3 lety +8696

    “A patient healed is a customer lost.”
    This is the mindset of the self care industry.

    • @yasminas.3562
      @yasminas.3562 Před 3 lety +42

      can u explain the mindset?

    • @inkdragon3455
      @inkdragon3455 Před 3 lety +527

      @@yasminas.3562 Yeah!
      Self help companies don’t actually want you to get better and improve. Because if you do, you wont need their products (books, kits, seminars, podcasts, classes, etc). And If you don’t need these products, then you wont spend time/money on them. Therefore you are no longer a source of profit for the industry.
      So the saying goes “A Patient healed is a customer lost.” Because if you(the “patient”) is improving(“healed”) in your behaviors and life, then you no longer need to spend money on self help products (“a customer lost”)
      I hope I explained it ok!

    • @fernandorodriguez2124
      @fernandorodriguez2124 Před 3 lety +36

      Just stab them then they'll be in the hospital longer

    • @yasminas.3562
      @yasminas.3562 Před 3 lety +62

      @@inkdragon3455 I understand, thanks!

    • @triggerhxppy
      @triggerhxppy Před 3 lety +125

      ​@@inkdragon3455 hmmm seems similar to harmful beauty products that make your symptoms worse or do literally nothing, causing you to buy even more products and try many different ones. also, placebo effect.
      especially when the people advertising and praising them, do not have a single mark in their face, no scars and look like a perfect doll. in reality though, its make up, photo manipulation afterwards and a mass of camera equipment (and surgery on top of it.. lol)

  • @wuzumaki
    @wuzumaki Před 4 lety +8638

    After reading about a dozen self-help books you'll start to realize that they all pretty much consist of the same content.

    • @cryora
      @cryora Před 4 lety +206

      I'm reading "The Body Keeps the Score" and "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience" simultaneously right now, i.e. interleaving chapters from the different books, (also previewed "Healing The Shame That Binds You" as well as "The H-Factor of Personality") and they are each all quite different and very good in their own way. Maybe what a person need to do is be given a good reading list covering a breadth of subjects (and the suggested books being well-acclaimed, and best in their subjects), rather than relying on the Amazon recommendation algorithm (cause that is just going to recommend more of the same content, and those books may be sub-par). The Amazon ratings system can also be subjected to being gamed (or represent some sort of bias), so people relying on sheer number of reviews and number of stars should consider that those metrics alone may be misleading.

    • @allanbellemare1949
      @allanbellemare1949 Před 4 lety +672

      And you’ll also realize you already had the answers in your head

    • @a10goesbrrrrrrrrrrt52
      @a10goesbrrrrrrrrrrt52 Před 4 lety +234

      Yeah. You don't need magic to see what's wrong in your life and how to improve... Most of these books cover things very shallow instead of adopting psychology etc..

    • @fernandocamarillo3710
      @fernandocamarillo3710 Před 4 lety +66

      I'd say read David Goggins book

    • @manictiger
      @manictiger Před 4 lety +176

      I call it wantrepreneurship. People who want to read about things instead of doing them. I only needed 1 book: Rich Dad Poor Dad. Everything from that point was just trial and error and getting my hands dirty. You get rich by doing things. Spend as little as you can and generate as much as you can. And when you have a nice little USD hoard, convert it into real estate, precious metals and ammo-- things that keep their value. Then keep it going: more income than expenditure. Just plus and minus.
      It takes years, goals, a vision, strategic prowess, dedication, adaptability and grit. And, tbh, many people will never be able to do what I did. I've had to accept that not everyone is smart, imaginative, driven or strong-willed. If anyone was ever gullible enough to become a wantrepreneur, they very likely don't have what it takes to run a profitable business.

  • @quex213
    @quex213 Před rokem +45

    this comment section is more valuable than any self help book.

    • @camilohiche4475
      @camilohiche4475 Před měsícem

      Yes, so pay me $80 for the service. It's a bargain honestly.

  • @SaintVodou
    @SaintVodou Před 5 měsíci +172

    Life is so much better when your parents teach you early on how to detect BS before you’re standing in it. Mom, Dad-for the millionth time-thank you.

  • @john_dren
    @john_dren Před 4 lety +6396

    Toxic positivity is a huge one that in culture globally, people have now ended up shaming others for being *real* rather than _“positive”_ .

    • @Usammityduzntafraidofanythin
      @Usammityduzntafraidofanythin Před 4 lety +343

      I think progressive politics has a lot to do with that too. Positivity is becoming like the new religion.

    • @stevebean1234
      @stevebean1234 Před 4 lety +236

      My career just derailed because I took a job in one of these environments. If you want to read psychologists take on it, the term they use is blind optimism

    • @Usammityduzntafraidofanythin
      @Usammityduzntafraidofanythin Před 4 lety +34

      @poor man's rose Toxic positivity is much more specific to me. The term really only can concievably apply to the context of this video in my mind (motivation and life decisions), as well as maybe a little to do with political decision making.
      "How are you" is just small talk to me

    • @laadeeda
      @laadeeda Před 4 lety +75

      Now I know why I didn't like it when someone compliment me because I know the truth is I'm not really good at 'this'. She always said this is 'good'. Sometimes I need a criticism not a compliment. The old me traps in this toxic positivity and made me no progress.

    • @haniaboufadel309
      @haniaboufadel309 Před 4 lety +172

      I always see these people who keep posting positivity on their social medias are toxic people

  • @rossfordrock9018
    @rossfordrock9018 Před 3 lety +4839

    The biggest issue with self-help is it tend to make people believe they have issues that they really don't have.

    • @annaz2349
      @annaz2349 Před 3 lety +43

      Well said

    • @havoc8851
      @havoc8851 Před 3 lety +13

      👍👍👍👌👌

    • @Nyax4Real
      @Nyax4Real Před 3 lety +21

      On point.

    • @richhull7324
      @richhull7324 Před 3 lety +131

      Couldn’t agree more. Such a great point. After several years dominated by self help im just starting to realise this

    • @MUSICMUSIC-sb4ld
      @MUSICMUSIC-sb4ld Před 3 lety +4

      That is also my conclusion.

  • @maricarurmeneta6216
    @maricarurmeneta6216 Před 6 měsíci +116

    "Say no to Motion and say yes to Action." Indeed, I've heard this from other mentors as well. We can do things that feels like a progress but it wasn't. Like reading books, listening to podcast, watching educational videos is also a form of procrastination, because instead of putting your knowledge into action you get stuck doing these stuff. Very DANGEROUS and not everyone is aware of this.

    • @mepikapika
      @mepikapika Před 5 měsíci +4

      Well said!!

    • @maricarurmeneta6216
      @maricarurmeneta6216 Před 5 měsíci +3

      Thank you!@@mepikapika

    • @thedanespeaks
      @thedanespeaks Před 4 měsíci

      Nothing wrong with procrastinating it is fucking human. STFU and stop thinking you know fuck all about other humans

  • @bradbaker5707
    @bradbaker5707 Před 10 měsíci +78

    It took me being hospitalized, diagnosed Lyme disease, and shutting down the doors to my business to realize that I had been ignoring the "negative thoughts" and just needed to think more positively. In reality I was deeply trying to communicate with myself that I was unbearably unhappy doing what I was doing. I worked myself right into the ground at 29 and nearly lost everything. I think one of the main reasons that my body became susceptible to sickness is that I had drained the life out of it and was physically and emotionally exhausted. 18 months later and I'm still learning this difficult lesson. Self help obfuscates the work that needs to be done internally and makes it feel like you are doing inner work. That you are changing. You are not changing you are just becoming someone that you will recognize less and less.

    • @jennylynn82173
      @jennylynn82173 Před 9 měsíci +1

      This really resonates with me! Thank you for sharing!

    • @Kixaru
      @Kixaru Před 7 měsíci +1

      Good luck man

    • @GeoffreyMorrison-xh2eo
      @GeoffreyMorrison-xh2eo Před 5 měsíci

      If you can't function--then it can't work. What about the other facets of your life? I guess that you must manage those together.

    • @marvin2678
      @marvin2678 Před 4 měsíci

      lyme disease ?

  • @zatoby6705
    @zatoby6705 Před 3 lety +2200

    Advice from my father: "How you get good at something isn't what you do when you're motivated, it's how you persevere when you aren't."

    • @f.boogaloospook2318
      @f.boogaloospook2318 Před 3 lety +52

      Give our regards to your father hats off for respect

    • @cervixcrusader85
      @cervixcrusader85 Před 3 lety +34

      This. Grit is what gets you through the hardships and allows you to succeed.

    • @firdausm1695
      @firdausm1695 Před 3 lety +6

      damn, are you winning tho?

    • @owellhoot
      @owellhoot Před 3 lety +11

      A bow of respect for him

    • @samboyaus
      @samboyaus Před 3 lety +15

      That's actually a really good piece of self help advice.

  • @michaelrantanen4312
    @michaelrantanen4312 Před 4 lety +3257

    "If you want self help why would you read a book written by somebody else? That's not self help, that's help." Thanks George.

    • @michaelrantanen4312
      @michaelrantanen4312 Před 4 lety +61

      @maliziza1 r u questioning the great, late, George Carlin?!

    • @user-ws3sl9xi7y
      @user-ws3sl9xi7y Před 4 lety +39

      @maliziza1 Unfortunately, you're response is invalid. Please try again.

    • @michaelrantanen4312
      @michaelrantanen4312 Před 4 lety +7

      @maliziza1 I am**

    • @gingertravel2357
      @gingertravel2357 Před 4 lety +63

      You can learn something from this books, as the all have same core - you just have to filter out the bullshit usally the takeaways are:
      * Sleep long enough
      * Eat healthy
      * Lift weights
      * Define your goals and work on them
      and that's it.
      If you do this things you will be way better off than before, but you have to act on it.

    • @user-ws3sl9xi7y
      @user-ws3sl9xi7y Před 4 lety +39

      @maliziza1 Self help is when YOU change your lifestyle to help yourself. Taking advice from someone else is just plain old help.

  • @Altafzama
    @Altafzama Před 6 měsíci +68

    After consuming 3 years of self improvement I got understanding of this: i don't need 100 gurus, i need 1 guru, i don't need 100 books, i need 1 book, i have to take 100 actions, from that 1 book.

    • @AnitaAndradeBuki
      @AnitaAndradeBuki Před 2 měsíci +3

      Yes. Same here! BUT to get to this very easy and seems to be simple understanding buddy, you needed to read those books and you needed to hear out the 100 gurus... that is why people do not get

    • @rockmanala
      @rockmanala Před 2 měsíci +4

      The Bible😁

    • @fraxizztv6433
      @fraxizztv6433 Před 2 měsíci +6

      ​@@rockmanalathe bible seems more about guilt tripping and worshipping, rather than personal development.

    • @BronzeDragon133
      @BronzeDragon133 Před 3 dny

      @@fraxizztv6433 And inconsistent at that. Plus, am I allowed shrimp or not, the great eternal question.

    • @BronzeDragon133
      @BronzeDragon133 Před 3 dny

      I find the great answer is, simply, get off one's butt and do something. Anything, really. As much as you can. During the pandemic, I got really bored and started to paint some watercolors. Which led to acrylics. Nowadays, in addition to my job, I'm a semi-pro artist.
      Not that everything needs to lead to being a pro. You can just like and enjoy doing it. Dyeing your own clothes? Great. Whatever.

  • @SunnyBeetle1922
    @SunnyBeetle1922 Před rokem +98

    It’s also occurred to me that the self help industry preys on people who don’t love or believe in themselves. They are trying to provide results and answers which an individual can only find in themselves. In other words, no one else can live your life for you. No one else outside you knows your needs or can fulfill them. Each persons truth comes from their own heart which cant be replaced by advice or instructions from anyone else. Intuition is free of charge✨💛💯💯

    • @placeholderdoe
      @placeholderdoe Před rokem +7

      On the path of self discovery one can be lead by others, but ultimately you need to travel a great distance by yourself.

    • @wkt2506
      @wkt2506 Před 7 měsíci +1

      But there are lots of self help books about self love. It's just a question of getting the right book or content! Maybe more of the wrong items are addressed at men and the good stuff is addressed at women.

    • @GeoffreyMorrison-xh2eo
      @GeoffreyMorrison-xh2eo Před 5 měsíci +1

      Some people need a "catalyst": That did work for me.
      People differ.

  • @newbloomwon
    @newbloomwon Před 2 lety +7312

    “If you’re looking for self-help, why would you read a book written by someone else?” -George Carlin

  • @KingMinos316
    @KingMinos316 Před 3 lety +3100

    "Sleeping eight hours a day? that's a third of your life!"
    Yes, but it's the best third dude!

    • @lunadacire7375
      @lunadacire7375 Před 3 lety +41

      😂😂👌

    • @cortezfilms8511
      @cortezfilms8511 Před 3 lety +61

      fuck yeah it is.

    • @sherryviera5696
      @sherryviera5696 Před 3 lety +49

      I like the cuddling with the puppers and falling asleep part best. Dreams are wierd, just sayin.

    • @notwerkinginthishouse8634
      @notwerkinginthishouse8634 Před 3 lety +22

      @Dududu also you can easily gain weight if you have a sleeping problem
      which i am battling

    • @MickeyAgyei
      @MickeyAgyei Před 3 lety +4

      @Dududu Jame Jani was up from 3am editing for the last 5 days (according to his Instagram story) in order to produce his next masterpiece. And looking at his work I can see that boy grinds. Now he's 20 years old with no wife and kids but still working through the night. Throw in a woman and 2 kids and you will have to cut down some sleep time to grind to success. Now do you think you can sleep your way to success?

  • @familyguysofunny1933
    @familyguysofunny1933 Před 7 měsíci +5

    I remember someone calling self help "motivation porn".

  • @BAARAKHOONI-PRODUCTION
    @BAARAKHOONI-PRODUCTION Před 5 měsíci +20

    "If truth Kills them ,let them die"
    Thank you Sir for this enlightenting video

  • @Sky_xjks
    @Sky_xjks Před 3 lety +4161

    Getting enough sleep is way more important than "hustling".

    • @jacobconcannon4677
      @jacobconcannon4677 Před 3 lety +107

      Not really, i would rather get less sleep and be wealthy then sleep a ton and be a bum

    • @Sky_xjks
      @Sky_xjks Před 3 lety +467

      Sleep is actually so important for overall health and mental function..if you would rather trade your health & time for money, go for it..I choose my internal peace and wellbeing..this allows me to function better, therefore, I'm more productive when it counts and am able to make money easily. 🦋🌼

    • @leotheleader_
      @leotheleader_ Před 3 lety +134

      It's a balance lol. It dosnt have to be one or the other. Make time to hustle and time to sleep. Pretty rigid circumstance you makin there

    • @Sky_xjks
      @Sky_xjks Před 3 lety +140

      I never said don't work..I said sleep is more important than the constant "hustle"..you can't work efficiently without sleep!! 🙄 disagree with me if you want doesn't concern me.

    • @Sky_xjks
      @Sky_xjks Před 3 lety +93

      "rigid circumstance"? All I'm saying is get at least 8 hours of sleep. Science proves this to be healing and necessary for the body.

  • @robertohosea
    @robertohosea Před 3 lety +1539

    "Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu.

    • @comradekenobi6908
      @comradekenobi6908 Před 3 lety +3

      @AP.17 from a certain point of view

    • @luscious_sky
      @luscious_sky Před 3 lety +22

      @AP.17 I'd say it's a spectrum. Most things in life are on a spectrum, and it applies to this as well.

    • @deepblue188
      @deepblue188 Před 3 lety +2

      As a matter of fact, I learned not to care a fuck about what other people thought after finishing college.

    • @Mich-jk2ze
      @Mich-jk2ze Před 3 lety +2

      Okay what about never care about what people say. Now your on a road to homelessness, inceldom, and being unhealthy.

    • @dutube99
      @dutube99 Před 3 lety +2

      Ya psychopaths and serial killers don't care what other people think either. Or do they?

  • @delicate._.blossom
    @delicate._.blossom Před 11 měsíci +21

    Thank you for exposing the world that we live in today. From your video, I've found words to express myself and thank you for bringing in the the new term ''toxic positivity'' we need to speak on that more.

  • @animista9824
    @animista9824 Před 6 měsíci +16

    OH MY GOD, THE TRAPS YOU MENTIONED WERE EXACTLY THE ONE I WAS GOING THROUGH IN MY LIFE.
    This Video has CHANGED ME. Thank you for saving me and many years of my future! 😊

  • @bananamerchant6387
    @bananamerchant6387 Před 2 lety +3296

    My grandpa told me one thing that sticks with me to this day:
    "Always chase that next horizon, but don't stare directly into the sun." This means that, while you should strive for self improvement, do not lose yourself doing so. Stay true to who you are, even if everyone doesn't like you for it.

    • @edwardteach1992
      @edwardteach1992 Před 2 lety +33

      Is that a quote from a book your granpa read or something? Because it's really good

    • @AngelliaX
      @AngelliaX Před 2 lety +21

      your grandpa coined it so you can tag his name after the quote lul

    • @Nintendofan781
      @Nintendofan781 Před 2 lety +17

      your grandpa is a smart man

    • @qine6559
      @qine6559 Před 2 lety +8

      I would have guessed it meant «do step by step and not getting caught up in only looking at the end goal» Great saying!

    • @Gigachad-mc5qz
      @Gigachad-mc5qz Před 2 lety

      But being a modern day diogenes will get you arrested for some reason and then institutionalized

  • @starklelight5085
    @starklelight5085 Před 3 lety +2749

    The “working hard” message has become one of the most toxic for me. Because if you do something and it doesn’t work, it’s clearly not because it just doesn’t work for you, it means you just don’t work hard enough. Eventually you start to question your worth and it can go to a very unhealthy spiral. Realizing that I just need to figure out how things work for me has become one of the most important things in my life so far.

    • @starrystarrynight52
      @starrystarrynight52 Před 3 lety +157

      Not only is it bad for what you have mentioned. But working 80-hour weeks takes you away from the most important people in your life, your family and friends. It's a really horrible message that is being spread.

    • @MrBadintentionss
      @MrBadintentionss Před 3 lety +67

      work hard on your mind and body (good nutrition and regular exercise), and I guarantee you won't "question your worth and...go into a very unhealthy spiral". the idea that material things can bring us happiness ahead of our own physical and mental health shows how messed up people's worlds can become.

    • @purplekitti5784
      @purplekitti5784 Před 3 lety +36

      Somehow I never bought into this idea from self-help books or motivational speakers or even school or general culture... but when it came up directly from family, friends, and church, that's where it got into me, and to this day I still struggle with overworking myself. I think the worst part is that I don't approach it with the belief that only hard work will earn money, but the guilt that I would feel for working less than other people do - if other people work 50 hours a week to get their money, what right do I have to work less than that for myself? I prefer the "work smarter, not harder" approach, but then at some point I start blurring the lines between that and laziness and end up pushing myself into burnout. -.-

    • @purplekitti5784
      @purplekitti5784 Před 3 lety +19

      I also have multiple chronic illnesses and chronic fatigue, so fill in the blanks there. :P

    • @OnEEmONErD
      @OnEEmONErD Před 3 lety +21

      @@starrystarrynight52 I do agree that you need to work hard all the time if you want to achieve things. I don't agree with the gurus' regard what kind of work you're doing. You have to actively work to be the best family and friend. Working 80 hours a week for money does not equate to being a better person is what pisses me off about the gurus.

  • @tracydunn6469
    @tracydunn6469 Před 7 měsíci +19

    For being a young person you seem to be "awake!" Not necessarily pessimistic but more a realist. Lots of wisdom. I'm proud of you.

  • @sittingmadman
    @sittingmadman Před 8 měsíci +3

    "someone is profiting, but who?" Then a ad started to play, I laughed

  • @ALEJANDROGONZALEZ-hc6dy
    @ALEJANDROGONZALEZ-hc6dy Před 3 lety +1013

    The "Toxic Positivity" and "Hustle Culture" segments describe about 98% of social media posts nowadays.

    • @Serratosteven
      @Serratosteven Před 3 lety +9

      😂 everybody’s winning ig 🚶🏽 nawww they the 🐇 im the 🐢 i will prevail

    • @Aryanof99
      @Aryanof99 Před 3 lety +22

      Especially on instagram. Work hard, work hard, work hard, on what???
      Man, this video is a blast

    • @lovepreet0951
      @lovepreet0951 Před 3 lety

      I have come here ,after a financial page wrote about this industry and in the comments , someone write about this video on you tube

    • @notwerkinginthishouse8634
      @notwerkinginthishouse8634 Před 3 lety +5

      @I Coroa saying everything but not telling anything at all

    • @thelivesofmany7013
      @thelivesofmany7013 Před 3 lety +5

      Ikr i hate seeing ladies saying woman empowerment woo woo then you will see them judging other lady on what her skin is and body. Im sick of that kind of posts even the celeb in my country doing this thats why its so hard to not get heard of it

  • @ghvst8533
    @ghvst8533 Před 4 lety +462

    "Create more, consume less."

    • @stargemsoracle5320
      @stargemsoracle5320 Před 3 lety +4

      This.

    • @yentox
      @yentox Před 3 lety +4

      I love it!

    • @CloseThatBackdoor
      @CloseThatBackdoor Před 3 lety

      hmmm...

    • @Merido
      @Merido Před 3 lety +2

      When growing up I tried to figure out what the next step is, what are we supposed to do. I figured it's "become a producer more than a consumer", and "get into real estate" :'P

  • @ArmandoJacox
    @ArmandoJacox Před rokem +17

    Great video…I can relate a lot and when I gave up “self improvement” after ten years of “hustle” attempting to get rich and winding up with burnout and nearly coming close to a heart attack, I’ve never felt better about my life.

  • @gameplayseries3052
    @gameplayseries3052 Před 8 měsíci +3

    The greatest feel is to feel nothing neither positive or negative

    • @A_n_y_t_i_m_e
      @A_n_y_t_i_m_e Před 8 měsíci +1

      Content. World/life is not a dark place, it's also not all rainbows and butterflies. It's gray.

  • @akshayde
    @akshayde Před 4 lety +6914

    This video of self help being anti self help is actually self help too

    • @AkhileshKumar-xr6cj
      @AkhileshKumar-xr6cj Před 4 lety +207

      Lmaoo

    • @itsvmmc
      @itsvmmc Před 4 lety +75

      HMMM

    • @seanteng4313
      @seanteng4313 Před 4 lety +240

      Exactly 😊
      Blame no one.
      Be accountable for all our actions.

    • @roxys6562
      @roxys6562 Před 4 lety +73

      Ironic

    • @varunbhati1083
      @varunbhati1083 Před 4 lety +312

      I beg to differ that this is self help video in disguise because this is the truth and someone has got to tell this. He has simply attempted to show the real nature of the self help 'sector'.

  • @louisgrayson9057
    @louisgrayson9057 Před 3 lety +624

    “ I went to a bookstore and asked the saleswoman, 'Where's the self-help section?' She said if she told me, it would defeat the purpose.” - George Carlin

    • @miriamllamas224
      @miriamllamas224 Před 3 lety +19

      😂😂

    • @violetgirl1996
      @violetgirl1996 Před 3 lety +9

      @@miriamllamas224 At first, I thought, why is she laughing emoji?? However, now I laff as I find it funny. As much as their comment is meaningful, it also sounds like a joke. Hehe

    • @RendezvouDoo
      @RendezvouDoo Před 3 lety +1

      Haha crazy.

    • @pointa2b388
      @pointa2b388 Před 3 lety

      😂😂😂

    • @vozamaraktv-art5595
      @vozamaraktv-art5595 Před 3 lety +3

      I see what you did there, lol

  • @horsepower33
    @horsepower33 Před 10 měsíci +20

    This year is when I realized that nothing has changed. Also, you are my favorite CZcamsr. This video was me. my gosh. Waking up at 2am. Running on 4 hours of sleep. Because I am creating a better version of myself. I isolated myself from 'losers', read a shit ton of books, personal development videos, working out, eating right, living on a schedule. Man it makes no sense me saying it all because you laid it all out in this video. Just like your LOA videos, its me. You are quality over quantity. I even quit my job back in 2019, to "be my own boss" following many of this self help bullshit. The second worst decision ever. I am so happy I finally caught sense. It may take me awhile to build up a momentum. But now I have the sense to leave these things behind and start my life a new, from scratch.
    My LOA/spiritual/metaphysical/pseudoscience journey lasted from 2009 - June 2023, 14 painful disappointing, heartbreaking, failure years.
    My self help journey lasted from 2017-2022, 5 years of burn out, being busy but achieving nothing.
    I also use to think what hard work(80+ hours) is Elon Musk talking about when he has a team/staff/employees working for him.
    Grant Cardone, Dan Lok, Dan Pena, Gary Vee, Tony Robbins. It was always something about these guys that seemed off to me. I saw them more as marketers than people who actually wanted to help. I was watching a Dan Pena seminar on YT a few years ago when he dropped the bomb that Napoleon Hill was a con man and failed businessman. Fact check and it was true.
    The only person I turn on from time to time and listen to is David Goggins... but I dont get caught up in following him or anyone else anymore.
    To conclude, thank you for another amazing video. There is nothing like personal experience.

    • @070erwin
      @070erwin Před 7 měsíci +2

      I hope that you've been doing a lot better ever since you came to that realization man, I'm sure that life ahead of you will be filled with good fortunes and happier moments :) Good luck in everything that you do and/or will be doing in life !

    • @horsepower33
      @horsepower33 Před 7 měsíci

      @070erwin Thank you. It has gotten a lot better since writing this post. All the best to you 🙂

    • @thevisitor1012
      @thevisitor1012 Před 2 měsíci +1

      I feel like what sets Goggins from the rest is that you can be 100% certain that he practices what he preaches lol. He's a useful ideal to keep in mind, whenever I feel like giving up.

  • @elahaber5359
    @elahaber5359 Před 6 měsíci +5

    Thank you, that's all I can say.
    Thank you so much.
    I've been there, and you put it in words that I struggled to find.
    I encourage you to keep doing what you're doing!

  • @LyricsByANAS
    @LyricsByANAS Před 3 lety +6161

    It's so comforting to see finally people have started talking about this toxic hustle culture, fake motivation, worthless motivational gurus, false self help & all.

    • @campkira
      @campkira Před 3 lety +121

      those people are there to sell book and made you to had gym membership and end up with student loan and made your head ful with shit.while sometime it is better just doing nothing and be happy since we all died at the end... look at 1 million death people form cov19... those people dont expect to died but they did...

    • @vukhiempham7213
      @vukhiempham7213 Před 3 lety +90

      yeah it is super rare to have someone pointed out this fake motivational scheme (except David Goggins) and fake hustle culture b.s I know deep down there was not something quite right about it before.

    • @kaanapan1183
      @kaanapan1183 Před 3 lety +31

      Now, all those called “gurus” will start saying this and this will again hook us.. I dont see anything wrong if someone tells you the truth whether he is self-help guru or not. As this video stated this is becoming addiction. Like everything else in life too much of it is not good

    • @ramsy4205
      @ramsy4205 Před 3 lety +24

      Make no mistake about it. This is all fueled by stupidity

    • @Bdb83
      @Bdb83 Před 3 lety +79

      Not sure what fake motivation means ...if you have a guy telling you to get up off your ass and it motivates you to do so then it's serves it's purpose ...sometimes that's all people need is a little nudge...i love those motivational videos here o. CZcams telling me I'm a beast . Telling me the world is mine for the taking...It really does motivate you to have a go at it and we all know you can't succeed until you try but you can fail by not trying at all

  • @1God1Christ
    @1God1Christ Před 4 lety +2033

    People who actually work hard don’t have time to tell everyone how hard they’re working.

    • @thoughtgains6959
      @thoughtgains6959 Před 4 lety +5

      Atfu

    • @colin689
      @colin689 Před 4 lety +86

      @@thoughtgains6959 spell it right poopie

    • @armandocastro6914
      @armandocastro6914 Před 4 lety +7

      But Elon Musk said it in-the-video

    • @arthurgeier2545
      @arthurgeier2545 Před 4 lety +140

      @@armandocastro6914You probably worship Elon Musk for no reason. Open your eyes. He is just a business man and nothing else. The real work is being done by other people.

    • @iliveinsideyourhouse3943
      @iliveinsideyourhouse3943 Před 4 lety +1

      I had nothing to talk about because I'm still a failure lol.

  • @aliakseiivanov7923
    @aliakseiivanov7923 Před rokem +21

    Strange how many books we are ready to read about self improving, but very few (if any) how science work or (and) how to do real staff around the house (changing sockets, fixing plumbing etc). The worst thing these self improving gurus steal from a person is time; time wasted which cannot be purchased back.

  • @itsacowboysway
    @itsacowboysway Před rokem +25

    I see I’m a little late to the party given that this was made two years ago, but, thank you for making this video exposing the truth about the self-help industry. 🙏
    I’ve gotten caught up in it too, and had pretty much the same experience, and I’m glad to find out that I’m not the only one,that I’m not crazy, just a normal person trying to navigate this thing we call life.

  • @luavasconcelos1637
    @luavasconcelos1637 Před 4 lety +1558

    That is why minimalism and stoicism saved my life.

    • @brianrandall3795
      @brianrandall3795 Před 3 lety +88

      Peep taoism, stoicism might prove to be a roadblock later. Minimalism is the tits, though.

    • @skojoy7074
      @skojoy7074 Před 3 lety +11

      Brian Randall why Taoism, all I’ve learned is the belief that people can become dieties through ritual

    • @brianrandall3795
      @brianrandall3795 Před 3 lety +39

      @@skojoy7074 i dont know anything about that deities stuff, but Taoism is a great path to acceptance of the world around you. Which in turn helps you to feel better about anything and everything. But hey, the Tao that can be spoken is not the true Tao (ch.1, tao te ching), so go figure it out yourself. :)

    • @ethanol8312
      @ethanol8312 Před 3 lety +65

      @@brianrandall3795 Wait, im confused. How can stoicism be a roadblock when it's literally about accepting roadblocks

    • @brianrandall3795
      @brianrandall3795 Před 3 lety +87

      @@ethanol8312 There's a lot more to it than that. A perfect stoic doesn't feel like a normal person. Because they have accepted everything in sich a light, they tend to become apathetic and lose relations with those close to them. They won't feel sad about the ordeal, but just sort of exist within it. Stoicism gets dangerous, so use it in moderation.

  • @dominickray5103
    @dominickray5103 Před 4 lety +674

    When you need help because you can’t stop helping yourself.

    • @blade837371
      @blade837371 Před 4 lety +9

      💀

    • @affanakhter8300
      @affanakhter8300 Před 4 lety +16

      It's a paradox 😂

    • @breh9243
      @breh9243 Před 4 lety +1

      Lol

    • @Danqz97
      @Danqz97 Před 4 lety +6

      Jesus Christ is alive and wants a relationship with you. God sent his only Begotten Son, that whosoever believed in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Life as a Christian is hard but you will receive Blessings from God that will change your life completely, you will feel at peace in the Lord Presence. The devil will do everything he can to disrupt your peace but he will fail but Jesus is mightier then He is. Please if you haven’t accepted him as your personal Lord and Saviour, I hope you make the right decision for yourself. He died for us on the Cross for our sins so we wouldn’t have to face God’s wrath. He took it all in that Cross. He died for people knowing they might never love him back. He’s real. I and many people have felt his Spirit of love and peace and many have seen dreams of heaven and hell and many people are in hell suffering. People who reject Jesus Christ automatically live for satan and hell for eternity is not a joke. God doesn’t want this on us at all. Don’t be scared, make the right decision and accept Jesus Christ. He doesn’t condemn anyone of their sins, he wants us to repent, meaning confessing our sins to Jesus and to try with everything to turn away from them. Blessings 🙏🏾❤️✝️

    • @TREVASLARK
      @TREVASLARK Před 4 lety

      LMAO - seriously !!!

  • @AnkaAneczka_
    @AnkaAneczka_ Před 11 měsíci +22

    Absolutely agree, both new age industry and self improvement industry are pretty much scam based. You cannot proove right or wrong on energy healing or self improvement. In both cases it's power of suggestion that you buy not the result you hope for.

    • @CiceWYZ
      @CiceWYZ Před 10 měsíci

      Self improvement is real, cope harder with your miserable life. You can literally see it as the more the times goes, but I don't expect some loser to go through it fully.

  • @walterteunzac179
    @walterteunzac179 Před 6 měsíci +6

    I am from a developing country so very new to many of the ideas of self help. I was wondering about the new hype taking over me as I got exposed to the world of self help. I felt the sense of losing control unaware of the other side of the subject. Thank you for the enlightenment!

  • @HamzaAli-pl6os
    @HamzaAli-pl6os Před 3 lety +842

    "If you are motivated to go to the store to buy a motivational book, aren't you motivated enough?"
    - George Carlin

    • @ninevehbarriga1780
      @ninevehbarriga1780 Před 3 lety +32

      Even if I am motivated enough, I don't have good enough skills, I don't love myself and I'm not confident I can achieve what I desire within a time limit. That's why I'm gonna take a break from school to work on myself without the pressure of grades and deadlines. As soon as I've leveled up, then I'm sure that I will be ready to go back to school.

    • @sadikasultana7198
      @sadikasultana7198 Před 3 lety +5

      @@ninevehbarriga1780 good choice

    • @sessionswithseon3653
      @sessionswithseon3653 Před 3 lety

      Miss Him So Much

    • @wannabeskinnylegend5645
      @wannabeskinnylegend5645 Před 3 lety +2

      damn i really needed to hear that

    • @batman6540
      @batman6540 Před 3 lety +1

      I miss his rants!! :D

  • @sudeshna2983
    @sudeshna2983 Před 2 lety +1905

    Whenever I felt unmotivated I used to watch these motivational videos on CZcams where they say “you gotta be the hardest working person in the room and if you aren’t, someone else will be” and I felt really motivated…for like 15 minutes and in those 15 minutes all I did was make a schedule. The rest of the day I daydreamed about how great my life would be if I become the hardest working person in the room.
    That’s it. Nothing really happened. I was back at procrastinating the next day, now with a crippling sense of incompetence.

    • @aka74459
      @aka74459 Před 2 lety +14

      I hope this vid helped you now

    • @armsaroundyou2352
      @armsaroundyou2352 Před 2 lety +31

      @Sudeshna Discipline.Taking Action is the solution.But here you're consuming things again.

    • @user-gb9px4bu8f
      @user-gb9px4bu8f Před 2 lety +114

      There's no point on doing self development if you didn't take actions, even if its a bit. The reason we read a book is to get a good points from it and use it for our life. Its useless if we didnt take actions for what we have learned!
      You can start doing something by using the 20 second rule. For example, you want to exercise in the morning but you are very lazy, even though the weather is great. What you need to do now is tell your body to do the thing only for 20 second, and then you can relax if you want.
      Start by wearing shoes, open the door, get out and close the door. You can open the door back if you dont want to.
      "but it is worth it? I already put on my shoes and the weather is great! I should just go and walk a bit..."
      Once you did something that push you towards the action you wanted to do although you totally dont want to do them, you will eventually do the action and somehow motivated to do them.
      Hope this helps :)

    • @katobrucelee08
      @katobrucelee08 Před 2 lety +3

      @@user-gb9px4bu8f thank you!

    • @karamad2847
      @karamad2847 Před 2 lety +15

      Your comment has no point. They are not wrong telling you what to do if you're unable to do it it's your fault

  • @louisecarter7303
    @louisecarter7303 Před rokem +13

    I would like to say thank you for this video. It has brought awareness to how much I consume and not enough action. All the while thinking I'm being productive with my time. But not actually achieving anything. Also I felt really happy for you at the end of the video because although you didn't pursue acting your now doing this and I think your really good at it. Good for you well done 👏🙂

  • @RodeoDogLover
    @RodeoDogLover Před 5 měsíci +6

    Painfully relatable. Going through a self help detox and really appreciate this video. ❤

  • @joeyfajardo8738
    @joeyfajardo8738 Před 3 lety +8318

    You know what's better than reading self help books?
    Reading things you actually genuinely like.
    Edit: I see this has become a controversial take

    • @itsiwhatitsi
      @itsiwhatitsi Před 3 lety +213

      Simple but so right

    • @crismonmoon332
      @crismonmoon332 Před 3 lety +32

      Yes!!

    • @f.boogaloospook2318
      @f.boogaloospook2318 Před 3 lety +41

      Words to the wise

    • @XAE_A_Xii
      @XAE_A_Xii Před 3 lety +181

      best self-development books are classics. they teach you morale, history, language.

    • @RC-ld3cn
      @RC-ld3cn Před 3 lety +117

      People have been so programmed by society, most people don't really know what they truly like to read.

  • @Finic
    @Finic Před 4 lety +765

    i wish more people said “hard work is important for success” rather than “hard work is KEY to success”

    • @l_m_a_o_
      @l_m_a_o_ Před 4 lety +14

      Through many experiences I can say hard work is not at all important for success. If that were true I would have completely failed everything in school. xl

    • @darthmath1071
      @darthmath1071 Před 4 lety +1

      @@l_m_a_o_ how far did you make it in school ? also if you like school topics and like to learn in general you may not realise you're "working" in some way because it's fun

    • @LessSuspect
      @LessSuspect Před 4 lety +13

      There's a saying here that roughly translates to "work makes a man shine" (as opposed to laziness). I dislike that statement. Results make a man shine. Anyone is capable of working, that does not mean that you're doing anything worthwhile. Work is the unfortunate side effect of getting results and should me minimised.

    • @imretoth9925
      @imretoth9925 Před 4 lety +1

      @@LessSuspect Couldn't aggree more, but these "gurus" suggest that if you not work 100+ hours/week you are norhing and will achieve nothing.

    • @l_m_a_o_
      @l_m_a_o_ Před 4 lety +1

      I am a minor in the IB diploma program at my school and let
      me tell you that HL English and the IAs are not fun I don't like learning unless it's music theory (´-﹏-`;)
      School basically just teaches you how to suck up to people and make crap look good as if it deserves an award
      I'm still surprised I was chosen to get the scholarship I wanted
      I mean sure you have to work but not hard you have to work fast and efficient at the highest quality humanly possible cramming everything into a 24hr day including work
      I'm that student who hates work (but you have to do it) and knows how toxic some of the "good kids" in the leadership and student council actually are for some people life can be pretty hard there are times when people retake courses in summer because they ONLY got a %96.2
      I still haven't fixed my habit of procrastinating . . .

  • @SpadesLounge626
    @SpadesLounge626 Před 5 měsíci +13

    Power of Now is an amazing book! One of my favorites. Most people tend to suggest things like "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" which I feel like is just a piece of sales material. It has a lot of good concepts, but the overall intention is not to help, but to addict the reader to the consumption of self help.

  • @adityagarg5083
    @adityagarg5083 Před 10 měsíci +6

    I appreciate this video because it shows the other side of the self help world and deep down we know that this theory's are true. Balance and not getting blind by one type of thinking is important.

  • @jlrob85
    @jlrob85 Před 2 lety +680

    Self Help: Work 90 hour weeks, work from 7pm - 2am on a side gig
    Also Self Help: 8-9 hours sleep is key to productivity

    • @NotAn_NPC
      @NotAn_NPC Před 2 lety +21

      Actually it's more like this: "Value your time, don't waste it. Be Productive, don't just get to know the advice and think you accomplished something, you need to actually get up and get moving"

    • @julianlim8692
      @julianlim8692 Před 2 lety +5

      I pick choice 2

    • @richardesponja693
      @richardesponja693 Před rokem +1

      Actually yes, for example, I learnt prgramming and investing but you have to be fresh to make both, so I always take care to sleep enough. You just have to make realistic goals, that it takes time to reach them. I advanced my carrer a little bit, but since I know my long term goal, I worry less and take also more time for family, friends and sports. Unfortunately the harder you try, the less it will work, so yeah, enjoy more your time

  • @syndrome3215
    @syndrome3215 Před 3 lety +1527

    The irony is that by watching this video I also felt like I've accomplished something.

    • @supa7853
      @supa7853 Před 3 lety +37

      I mean it depends on how you take it, you could either learn from it, or pretend that not trusting guru's is a viable option.

    • @StarBrlight
      @StarBrlight Před 3 lety +14

      it technically is because we have learnt something new

    • @joffre55
      @joffre55 Před 3 lety +7

      @@supa7853 How is trusting guru's ever a viable option?

    • @lovingatlanta
      @lovingatlanta Před 3 lety +7

      👍He’s offering “self help”. 💝

    • @kaoutar6921
      @kaoutar6921 Před 3 lety +1

      same

  • @marklastname373
    @marklastname373 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you for making this, I hope it reaches as many people that need to hear it as possible ❤️

  • @BenjaminTJames
    @BenjaminTJames Před 8 měsíci +6

    This is the first video of yours I watched, and damn, it got me hooked to your channel. The storytelling, production value; it’s really inspiring.

  • @LisaRoseASMR
    @LisaRoseASMR Před 4 lety +513

    The product that this industry produces is what I like to call "Inspiration Porn."

    • @ravinchandra
      @ravinchandra Před 3 lety +4

      I have read an article months back in Medium titled "No more struggle porn" by Nat Eliason, it is a good read

    • @pipilchocolate8654
      @pipilchocolate8654 Před 3 lety +1

      Yup, I think the stuff you see posted in social media can fall under that name too

    • @robin_birdie_
      @robin_birdie_ Před 3 lety

      Oh, now that's a fun :)

    • @sanghelian
      @sanghelian Před 3 lety +3

      Scarily accurate.

    • @LisaRoseASMR
      @LisaRoseASMR Před 3 lety

      @@pipilchocolate8654 Yup.

  • @FallouFitness_NattyEdition
    @FallouFitness_NattyEdition Před 2 lety +1437

    I am 32 years old. I've been trying to reach my "perfect" self by reaching mental, physical and spiritual "perfection" for the last ten years. It has consumed almost every aspect of my life and has left me feeling worthless most of the time. Last night, I had a mental breakdown because the stress of trying to eat perfectly, work out every day for two hours, read a book, "grind" for money at work, and try to be a perfect christian finally broke me. I've decided to take a step back and let go of this poisonous mindset that is killing me. I want to enjoy my life without feeling guilty anymore. I want to sit down and play Fallout New Vegas for a week and not beat myself up because I'm not "grinding." I'm done with this. I'll never reach perfection or that balance I want in life. And from what I've seen, no one else does either. We're all human and we all have flaws.

    • @ZeRo-yc7zf
      @ZeRo-yc7zf Před 2 lety +114

      Trying to be better and HEALING is better than trying to be perfect

    • @ZiggyZagsSensory
      @ZiggyZagsSensory Před 2 lety +92

      Progress > Perfection 😌

    • @meggreen442
      @meggreen442 Před 2 lety +77

      We will never be nor could ever achieve perfection in any part of our lives. Sounds like you discovered that in doing so more stress and disappointment in ourselves is created than what we are seeking. Interestingly God set it up that we find most joy and satisfaction focusing on and helping others than ourselves. Even in doing this our focus can shift back on the wrong thing to being perfect in helping others. Only Jesus is perfect. When you get a lot older like me you’ll learn to embrace the imperfections in ourselves and others (or maybe you’re learning this early!). This is why He told us in our weakness He is strong - we don’t have to be the ones who are strong all the time (what a relief!). And He has never expected you to be perfect in life or as a Christian. Otherwise we wouldn’t need Him and the gospel is useless. That’s one thing the world gets so wrong - Christians are not called to be perfect and God doesn’t expect it, which is why we’re in a constant state of needing Him, even in the good times and not just the bad. Boy I wish I had learned all of this at your age!!! Bless you in your journey - because this is a journey not a destination.

    • @FallouFitness_NattyEdition
      @FallouFitness_NattyEdition Před 2 lety +33

      @@meggreen442 God bless you and thank you for your kind words, they are like a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and health to the bones.

    • @meggreen442
      @meggreen442 Před 2 lety +14

      @@FallouFitness_NattyEdition God bless you too!

  • @Brother_from_Oz
    @Brother_from_Oz Před 4 měsíci +1

    Brother James - you are the man.
    Thank you for making this one.
    My wife of 20yrs had recently left us (&3 daughters) for this same fakery
    - and it's heartbreaking.
    There are true dangers and life destroying consequences from these people and their BS.
    We are fine now and seem to move with what has happened.
    However please people watching take note and knowledge up.
    Our lesson is yours to learn.

  • @SkyeMCburpo-jp3xp
    @SkyeMCburpo-jp3xp Před 3 měsíci +1

    Thank you for making these videos and allowing people to watch them, to the end, for free.

  • @kateiry4719
    @kateiry4719 Před 3 lety +817

    13:30 "Rich people don't sleep 8 hours a day!"
    He's right. They sleep 10 hours.

    • @greatbullet7372
      @greatbullet7372 Před 3 lety +9

      or more xD

    • @PranayCoding
      @PranayCoding Před 3 lety +5

      😂😂

    • @MasMaszu2
      @MasMaszu2 Před 3 lety +73

      Ikr, what the fuck does sleeping less make someone rich?! Last time I did this, I just felt worse than before.

    • @jamesclements3463
      @jamesclements3463 Před 3 lety +1

      Most of them get a lot but only when they are rich, and it really depends on what their job is. With that being said to get to the place that they are in the process takes so many hours and consumes you to the point where you barely get sleep. But after then they are golden. Usually.

    • @humanyoda
      @humanyoda Před 3 lety +23

      Becoming successful AND enjoying life requires being in a resourceful state. Not getting enough sleep impedes that.

  • @takemywordforit4128
    @takemywordforit4128 Před 2 lety +1193

    My hotdog once told me:
    "The moment you decide to eat me, is the moment you lose me forever."
    It hasn't left my table since.

  • @masoudtafahomi6484
    @masoudtafahomi6484 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Even though I have recently been obsessed and hooked with your videos I still think your work is a version of self help per se.

  • @j.nl127
    @j.nl127 Před rokem

    The way u make ur videos really gives me goosebumps. Keep going man, i feel like since watching ur videos for the last week. I’ve learned more than the last year. Love from The Netherlands!🇳🇱

  • @MrStoopid801
    @MrStoopid801 Před 3 lety +1114

    "Someone is profiting, someone is winning. The question is; who?"
    Ad: Hey guys, it's Tony Robbins!

  • @rachiboo14
    @rachiboo14 Před 3 lety +765

    The worst thing about self help guidance is that there is no tangible product at the end. If you say to a 'guru' 'that didn't work for me', they will just tell you that you didn't work hard enough

    • @harshagobinath9384
      @harshagobinath9384 Před 2 lety +24

      So is the Law of Attraction

    • @zacharyscott2328
      @zacharyscott2328 Před 2 lety +20

      Yes. This is one of the shaming and blaming tactics overly utilized that keeps one thinking they are the problem and therefore unable to see that the system that delivers that kind of narrative is meant to keep you ensnared in its endless looping of self-denial and self deprecation. That's the real shame right there!

    • @saph100
      @saph100 Před 2 lety +16

      I was once told to quit my lazy negative thinking and work harder and I finally told them, THEY were the problem there

    • @joeanthony7759
      @joeanthony7759 Před 2 lety +5

      Like religion. Not terribly different.

    • @zaklaj
      @zaklaj Před 2 lety +5

      @@joeanthony7759 just pray to god harder

  • @amingalwan
    @amingalwan Před rokem +1

    I dont even need to finish the video to hit Like!!
    this topic was dancing on my head for the last 10 years, thank you so much for putting all that thoughts in a way i couldnt even explain it to my self

  • @alexdad2427
    @alexdad2427 Před rokem

    Maybe one of the best things i have done to myself lately is watching your videos and understanding what you say because i have been there myself. Keep posting content i am happy to support with whatever i can . Stay safe kid 🙏.

  • @SaschaHusenbeth
    @SaschaHusenbeth Před 2 lety +711

    As Ram Dass said: "when you get the message, just hang up the phone". Endlessly consuming advice is the most vicious form of procrastination.

    • @patrickzingler4372
      @patrickzingler4372 Před 2 lety +18

      That was Alan Watts, not Ram Dass, and he was talking about psychedelics

    • @ponternal
      @ponternal Před 2 lety +5

      I think that quote refers to drugs but it does apply the same to useful info online too

    • @rosemarysayers5303
      @rosemarysayers5303 Před 2 lety +1

      @@patrickzingler4372 who? I thought it was from Timothy Leary lmao

    • @michaelnice93
      @michaelnice93 Před 2 lety

      Yes it was Timothy Leary

    • @billybobthekidiswack
      @billybobthekidiswack Před 2 lety

      Affirmations can actually lead to promising results

  • @fatimaahmed9091
    @fatimaahmed9091 Před 2 lety +803

    This video called me out way too much😂 when you said “making a studying schedule and calling it a day without actually studying” I felt that

    • @neshayrobinson
      @neshayrobinson Před 2 lety +2

      Yessss!

    • @Padronous
      @Padronous Před 2 lety +9

      I’m sure a lot of people can relate, I know I did.

    • @chillpillvibes671
      @chillpillvibes671 Před 2 lety +1

      Yeaah i do that too haha

    • @michaelnguyen4681
      @michaelnguyen4681 Před 2 lety +11

      cleaning a room and think that’s progress...yup

    • @evanincalza7161
      @evanincalza7161 Před 2 lety +4

      Yeah what about "it took me a whole year of procrastinating before finally deciding to do it". Hit hard man.

  • @corrinetalbot8
    @corrinetalbot8 Před 11 měsíci +6

    It's also the same in spirituality. They make you think you need crystals, Buddha singing bowls, and so on. Spirituality ain't different from self help.

    • @k4nd1incyb3rsp4c3
      @k4nd1incyb3rsp4c3 Před 11 měsíci +2

      Spirituality helps, but you don't need stuff to use it. Having stuff helps, but you shouldn't feel like you need it. I do agree though that people prey on spiritual people to sell products.

    • @AmberPatoc
      @AmberPatoc Před 7 měsíci

      People misinterpreted Buddha's teachings...Buddha had let go of materialism when learning about life,he didn't bring cluttered things when he went in the forest

    • @godsmarkorisakwe1993
      @godsmarkorisakwe1993 Před 5 měsíci

      It's the same trap; letting people tell you how you should think or behave to acheive idealism. I left religion and entered into New Thought Movement through self-help/'Life coaching' and then realized they were the same thing when I started to think critically.
      Most people are not really interested in making you better but in full filling their life ambitions which includes influence, wealth and a successful priestly career 🙂

    • @aniruddhapratapsingh7640
      @aniruddhapratapsingh7640 Před 2 měsíci

      Spirituality is totally different. No one can force it on you until you choose deep inside from your soul. And one more thing you need only you for that not anything else.❤

  • @EntrepreneurialStrategy
    @EntrepreneurialStrategy Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is THE - PERFECT - VIDEO. Pure Art. Congratulations!🙏

  • @Curvature.
    @Curvature. Před rokem +2296

    My father once said something to me that I think was the single most valuable piece of advice I have ever been given. We where moving, my dad had a MBA and he had a ton of books he would read back during his MBA degree (Rich Dad Poor Dad, A random walk down wallstreet, Only the paranoid survive, etc, and a bunch of case studys) I remember him not allowing those books to be brought to my new house after I requested them. As for why, he said to me, and I will always remember this moment "Joey, you are young. Looking back all these years, these books have done nothing but killed my creativity, it gives you a mindset, it gives you a frame of doing something, it makes you think there is no other way to achieve something, it keeps you thinking inside the box. The more you read these self help books, the more you feel the need for knowledge, the constant thought that you dont know something, and that by the grace of god, knowing it will change your life. Thats wrong, you already know everything you need, you learn by doing, not using that same time and hunching over some book. Sure some of these books are good for you (Rich Dad Poor Dad) they help change your mindset, but too much of anything is not good, and in the case of self help books, its exactly the case.

    • @-KAIYULEE-
      @-KAIYULEE- Před rokem +111

      This is some very solid advice here. I appreciate you sharing

    • @TexboyGamer
      @TexboyGamer Před rokem +48

      So your dad wants you to spend years making the mistakes that people spent 10k years learning how not to make and writing them down. Bumbling through life without a mindset is not honorable, it’s naïveté

    • @vexial97
      @vexial97 Před rokem +97

      @@TexboyGamer flew right over your head "I'm sure glad I'm a dense idiot or else I would have understood the point"

    • @TexboyGamer
      @TexboyGamer Před rokem +3

      @@vexial97 explain the point then

    • @vexial97
      @vexial97 Před rokem

      @@TexboyGamer I'm just as much as a dense idiot as you. Let's figure it out together

  • @Swagmageedelaghetto
    @Swagmageedelaghetto Před 4 lety +390

    “The illusion of progress” hit different.

    • @burry218
      @burry218 Před 4 lety +5

      That's progress is only an illusion of you lack self-awareness.

    • @rodytalks3989
      @rodytalks3989 Před 4 lety

      Too much haste is not enough speed

  • @abhishekajayan.
    @abhishekajayan. Před 2 měsíci

    3 years and I guess this is so far the one video that I had watched with full concentration and without skipping a moment. You earned a sub here!

  • @kuex2857
    @kuex2857 Před 4 měsíci +1

    This is a really great video! Extremely relatable and a message that needs to be heard. Good job

  • @Joseph-nh6in
    @Joseph-nh6in Před 3 lety +698

    "Sleeping eight hours a day? that's a third of your life!"
    I don't like this simplistic way of looking at things. It is not a third of your life wasted. You are still breathing, still experiencing being a human being. Still dreaming. Sleeping is a sacred time, and it is necessary for your brain, heart, and soul to be firing on all cylinders. But hey, these days many people listen to the hissing noise of the imaginary abyss and are too disoriented to comprehend the sacredness of nature

    • @AlisonBryen
      @AlisonBryen Před 3 lety +16

      So much physical and mental repair happens when you sleep. Lose but a couple of days of sleep and you'll soon find your mental faculties diminished and your physical body under stress.
      Sleep is about the most proactive thing that we do, not the least!
      A twenty minute power nap after work can restore my tired and anxious mind like no amount of caffeine. Sleep is brilliant!
      On top of that dreams are awesome... I swear I've had so many adventures in my dreams. I've flown to the stars, danced with the planets and conquered worlds.

    • @elatrasi2684
      @elatrasi2684 Před 3 lety +5

      completely agree with you. i have fibromyalgia/ME which means that even after 8 hours sleep i would wake up as if i never slept. i also noticed that lack of sleep or quality would trigger anxiety during the day. however, sleep is essential for managing chronic pain. not sure if anti-depressants are considered part of this new wave of organic self help, but since starting them i finally experience REM sleep which never was the case. i dream up until i wake up. sleeping feels like a genuine rest. the idea of resting less than 7/8 hours, as i did before my diagnosis, seems like sabotage. this is coming from a former toxic-perfectionist (which ultimately led to my burn out in the first place).

    • @AlisonBryen
      @AlisonBryen Před 3 lety +2

      @@elatrasi2684 My mom also suffers with Fibromyalgia. During a bad flair up no amount of sleep will refresh her. It's a physically and mentally exhausting condition. We should never take good quality sleep for granted, once the ability to sleep well is taken from us it does not take long for the mind and body to suffer.

    • @elatrasi2684
      @elatrasi2684 Před 3 lety +1

      Alison Of The Shire sending your mom so much strength and well wishes. fibro has completely changed my life (slows and strips you down to the bare basics), and the invisible nature of this disability makes it even more challenging and misunderstood. flare ups can last a while, so it’s important to know the triggers (including lack of quality sleep) and be self forgiving and kind. you and your mom are not alone in this battle. God bless 🖤

    • @bobsaarloos3385
      @bobsaarloos3385 Před 3 lety +4

      Am I correct when I say that the message of this video is: do what works for you and actually do it instead of just consuming information about what you wanna do. And work smart not hard, just because it's works for most people doesn't mean it works for you. In summary: stay on your own path/journey, be patient, wise, strong & natural.
      Is that correct?

  • @KendrickTan0814
    @KendrickTan0814 Před 3 lety +388

    "Moderation in everything, even moderation" is my go to statement these days

    • @MrBadintentionss
      @MrBadintentionss Před 3 lety +8

      if you're going to over-indulge in something, make it a healthy, active lifestyle ;)

    • @Papada00
      @Papada00 Před 3 lety +2

      Balance... as all things should be.

  • @danielleuberroth1788
    @danielleuberroth1788 Před rokem +2

    Vulnerability and authenticity will do it every time. Well done.

  • @mrpawan969
    @mrpawan969 Před rokem +4

    A former victim of self helf improvement industry 😢😢😢

  • @ugl7529
    @ugl7529 Před 4 lety +414

    I think one statement that can relate to this strongly is "too much of anything can be bad for you"

    • @MrR0FL0LMA0MG
      @MrR0FL0LMA0MG Před 4 lety +12

      So true. People will often give impossible goals to themselves. Please journal before you do. Write down why you want it. You want to earn more? You are struggling to pay rent? Then this is good goal for you. But if you have 20k USD at your bank account, which is growing with every pay check, and you don't know what to buy, more money won't make you more happy. When I got a raise, I was happy for 20 min. Then I decided to buy my friends drinks to celebrate. And that was the best thing about my raise. So yeah, going out with my friends made me more happy than 15% raise.
      I didn't want to brag about money, I'm not rich by most standards. I wanted to show how you can have goals which aren't important to you. Think about them. Want to read more? Well try to read single book. Don't start some 30 books challenge. Don't buy $200 eink reader. Want to become fit? Try few activities which could help and pick the most fun one. Don't start following fitness blogger, and his (probably fake) routine. Your diet is bad? Try to find one healthy meal, you like (trust me, heathy food can be tasty), and try to eat it once a week. You can add more fruits. You can stop buying soft drinks. Don't become raw food vegan.

    • @ugl7529
      @ugl7529 Před 4 lety +3

      @@MrR0FL0LMA0MG So so true and tbh I'm very guilty of this as well. I always used to aim and focus on the end result which made the journey FEEL impossible and extremely overwhelming to the point where i'd constantly procrastinate because I'd expect myself to do a million things in one day and then i'd beat myself up in the end for not getting anything done which is a dangerous game to play...
      Whilst I believe that the 'Grind' mentality is partially to blame for that way of thinking. I also think people can see in themselves how much potential they truly have and so they get this misguided idea on how this 'potential' should translate into their performance and so they feel like they can take on the world when realistically you have to take on one country at a time before the world is yours.

    • @abhaypratapsingh8933
      @abhaypratapsingh8933 Před 3 lety

      one of the valuable comment,very well

    • @LairaSxOaRnRaY
      @LairaSxOaRnRaY Před 3 lety

      Can't agree more

    • @LairaSxOaRnRaY
      @LairaSxOaRnRaY Před 3 lety

      @@pain5835 That's pretty common expression used in English. Nitty pitty troll.

  • @nicos1097
    @nicos1097 Před 3 lety +1358

    I never understood the “don’t sleep 8 hours a day it’s too much” hustle mentality. You need at LEAST 8 hours of sleep to stay healthy and keep your mind sharp. Especially when you are a teen going into your 20s

    • @lemsip207
      @lemsip207 Před 3 lety +156

      I'm sick of the attitude that you have to get up at 5am to get things done. If you did that you would have to be in bed by 9pm. It's about working smarter not harder and for longer.

    • @Cam_Dedoll
      @Cam_Dedoll Před 3 lety +43

      EXACTLY!! What's the point especially keeping in mind the fact that not getting enough sleep can affect you in so many ways including your productivity.

    • @Kayla-kd8ov
      @Kayla-kd8ov Před 3 lety +62

      Yeah I never got it either. Not sleeping enough fucks up your health, and it definitely creeps upon you later on in life

    • @vukhiempham7213
      @vukhiempham7213 Před 3 lety +11

      And they told u this CEO Routine and that CEO Routine and how they got wildly successful by waking up at 4.30 AM to get bunch of things done LOL

    • @MiguelRPD
      @MiguelRPD Před 3 lety +57

      Not everyone needs 8 hours. Some are fine with 6 or 9. Everyone should sleep what they feel is appropriate to their needs.

  • @joshwynette614
    @joshwynette614 Před rokem

    Really well made video, hearing u hit some of those points really made me feel less alone with some stuff that’s been on my mind today. Godspeed to u and what ever is next for u brother❤

  • @brieesalgado9709
    @brieesalgado9709 Před 5 měsíci

    your use of movie clips in this video is *chef's kiss* wow... i really enjoyed that visual aspect and making my own little connections while watching about about a topic like this. well done, friend!!!

  • @chris.crosss
    @chris.crosss Před 4 lety +770

    "Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is uniquely your own"
    - Bruce Lee
    There's a truth in this video. There's really a scam in the the self-help community.
    But, I think if you just utilize self-help in moderation and focus on the action then it won't do you no harm.
    And assess if something suits you, if it's not then don't follow through it. Don't become obsess with "self-help" but with your actual development.

    • @StJoanGuideMe
      @StJoanGuideMe Před 4 lety +7

      Problem is people don't know how to develop "in a vacuum". To improve, you have to replace bad habits with good habits, and you can't replace something you know with something you don't know (which is the issue with so much personal development stagnation, and repeating of old bad things). If only any big system created a moral guide of figuring all that out...oh...wait...

    • @Sirenity01
      @Sirenity01 Před 4 lety +4

      SovngardeBeckoned that’s why you have to go out and try new things

    • @chan625
      @chan625 Před 4 lety

      Well put

    • @EfrenBuzzo
      @EfrenBuzzo Před 4 lety

      Exactly!

    • @bneum
      @bneum Před 4 lety +7

      Also: "If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you'll never get it done." -Bruce Lee

  • @StraightUniversalism
    @StraightUniversalism Před 3 lety +617

    Everyone's fighting for succes by producing something of value, meanwhile the biggest value in life is freedom and peace it self.

    • @swoosh3684
      @swoosh3684 Před 3 lety +3

      Faaaaaaaax

    • @snacklepussPSN
      @snacklepussPSN Před 3 lety +12

      Who wants to know a real secret to live by FOREVER and FOR FREE?
      Satisfied people do not scam and cannot be scammed: Truth:

    • @jjrhwy3376
      @jjrhwy3376 Před 3 lety +18

      THIS!! It's just so disgusting how we are constantly being told to "work hard for your dreams" to "never give up" on them, to "find a job that you like" so you can be "happy". "Work every waking hour" they say. Because if we aren't working all the time, we are being "unproductive" and "lazy". Every hour spent not working is an hour wasted. Time that you could've spent bettering yourself or "getting closer to that dream of yours". Because we've been convinced that the only way to be successful is to make a lot of money, be famous, etc. When in reality, the success that we've always been looking for has been right inside of us all along. The dreams that we've been chasing and the work we've been constantly doing, have been the distraction all along.

    • @StraightUniversalism
      @StraightUniversalism Před 3 lety +9

      @@jjrhwy3376 haha, yeah I know, the western society is designed as such, everything is build on it, but no one needs to work for more than 4-5 hours a day, you could go anywhere, any community, work that much, and be done with it. people are capable of anything tho, if you need to work 80 hours a work one could, but fuck that, not for me, ye we have a self-proof society, not a self-love society you could say

    • @swoosh3684
      @swoosh3684 Před 3 lety +3

      @@jjrhwy3376 so true. Well put. Success is subjective

  • @zanderover2742
    @zanderover2742 Před rokem

    Wowowowow brother! This is insane! Such a bright way of thinking and communicating! I dont know you but im proud

  • @EM-KeepingtheFaith
    @EM-KeepingtheFaith Před rokem +2

    Thank you James. One of the bravest videos I've ever seen. How I wish I'd seen it 10k and a lost house ago.....

  • @gibransanchez5753
    @gibransanchez5753 Před 4 lety +842

    "the business of selling hope" is going to grow exponentially during this global crisis, great video! Thank you!

    • @woosh_police4018
      @woosh_police4018 Před 4 lety +5

      The irony, the fact this video has ads on it from the business

    • @ROAGECOM
      @ROAGECOM Před 4 lety +1

      Roage's material is free and it works.

    • @mikailum2423
      @mikailum2423 Před 4 lety +1

      💯

    • @woosh_police4018
      @woosh_police4018 Před 4 lety +1

      @Ethan Tran and as we've seen in history it doesn't work. What's stop someone stronger than you to steal you? Cops? They don't get paid. So do they get more food for protection? Sort of taxes with food? You think in this era in a western country everyone would become good farmers? Money isn't valuable it's a piece of paper, but we give it value. Humans would find something to give value too other than money.. gold maybe?

    • @user-dj6lj1dl1c
      @user-dj6lj1dl1c Před 4 lety +1

      Gibran Sanchez hope sells and everyones buying

  • @peacefulruler4491
    @peacefulruler4491 Před 3 lety +659

    there is a huge difference between self-help and self-discovery. The first pushes you to compare yourself to others, while the second makes you embrace your uniqueness and your "imperfections"

    • @yukkiyoyukiyaoi9927
      @yukkiyoyukiyaoi9927 Před 3 lety +2

      💯💯

    • @nonameacc
      @nonameacc Před 3 lety +9

      smells like a cope

    • @hemanthkumar2191
      @hemanthkumar2191 Před 3 lety +1

      Very well said 🙏

    • @bikepacker4506
      @bikepacker4506 Před 3 lety +10

      Exactly. Self-help videos are there to motivate you and it depends on you to really help yourself. If you don't do productive things after being motivated then you're not really helping yourself. If you really do want to help yourself, you can without any self help stuff or maybe what you thought was "enough is enough" maybe wasnt just "enough" to make you change or do something about your life.

    • @venzii_33
      @venzii_33 Před 3 lety +4

      Thank you for this comment.

  • @willhardtshipanga3692

    Since day one I subscribed in this channel I never get disappointed. I found the channel that cover really life situations and i hope its making everyone understand life too .

  • @manictv5811
    @manictv5811 Před 8 měsíci

    James,
    I love your videos. I always look forward to them and i'm going to be honest, I've also been procrastinating to watch this video, and I'm glad I watched it. You are so right about being vulnerable and susceptible to those traps, it's almost like "what you think, you attract, or what you manifest you attract". I was trying to get myself out of the shitty situation and because of desperation, I ended going through the worst phase of my life. I knew that if my head was thinking right, I definitely would've picked out that it was a trap.

  • @massimodambrogio
    @massimodambrogio Před 2 lety +1415

    Self Made man is a myth of our century, an illusion that feeds egocentrism and solitude. We must learn how to live with others and share, instead becoming lonely super burned out individuals.

    • @leliscaiza2627
      @leliscaiza2627 Před 2 lety +9

      Yes, I think take care of yourself is important and interact with other people too.

    • @edgarego5813
      @edgarego5813 Před 2 lety +5

      since the 1700 with robinson crusoe and similar things is portrayed the mith about the self made man, i think it's more a thing that human dream of

    • @massimodambrogio
      @massimodambrogio Před 2 lety +6

      @@edgarego5813 For sure the Enlightenment has been great trigger.

    • @marcuslei6743
      @marcuslei6743 Před 2 lety +8

      Spot on. Each day when I wake up, I experience a small doze of existential crisis, then the fear of missing-out and lastly that the universe owns me (you fill the blank).

    • @NameRequiredSoHere
      @NameRequiredSoHere Před 2 lety +26

      "Self Made man is a myth" Yes. Check out the documentary "The Lottery of Birth". When I hear "Nobody gave me nothing. I had to work for what I got, " I say, "Uh-huh, you decided to be born into the middle class in the richest country in the world, with no birth defects, etc."

  • @thepandaahbear9025
    @thepandaahbear9025 Před 3 lety +500

    "Someone is profiting... Someone is winning.. The question is...: Who?"
    *Ad of guru starts*

  • @elizabethfernandes6942
    @elizabethfernandes6942 Před 7 měsíci

    … WOW… You are.. absolutely brilliant.. a genius creator really. I’ve been binge watching lots of your videos and I’m just speechless. Keep up the amazing work. Looking forward to notifications of new posts of yours 😊

  • @cwilliams1781
    @cwilliams1781 Před 8 měsíci

    I've read numerous books, until 1 day I thought to myself that this wasn't working and I kept wasting time and money making other people rich. All my problems were being suppressed, I was getting a addicted and no real improvements were coming. I'm glad you found the courage to post this video because there are a lot of people who need to wake up from the hypnosis they are under.
    There are genuine persons with real intentions to help, but you cannot expect to just sit around and read ridiculous scripts and expect to achieve success overnight without a plan and real moves towards your goals.
    Success come to those who apply successful habits consistently.

  • @DjD5
    @DjD5 Před 2 lety +428

    “When the student is ready the teacher will appear. When the student is truly ready…the teacher will disappear.” ~Tao Te Ching~

    • @DEARPEDAGOGY
      @DEARPEDAGOGY Před 2 lety +14

      @@bliss_555 I hate to make such a ridiculously childish reference but it kinda sounds like Nanny McPhee, lol. "When you need me, but do not want me, then I must stay. But when you want me, but no longer need me, then I must go."

    • @nishantkumar6924
      @nishantkumar6924 Před 2 lety +1

      @Deb Downing Could you please elaborate the second part?

    • @lycorisradiata7012
      @lycorisradiata7012 Před 2 lety +14

      @@nishantkumar6924 In case you're still curious, it probably alludes to the scenario of one's determination to learn something.
      When a student is made to learn something that they're not very interested in, the teacher 'appears', as in, they rely a lot more on the teacher to _teach it to them._ However, the latter part conveys the scenario of a student who truly wants to learn something- perhaps something that they're interested in. In this case, the teacher 'disappears', as in, the student's reliance on the teacher (to learn) becomes so infinitesimally small, that it is almost as if the student will not face much trouble even if the teacher were to 'disappear'. The student no longer requires a teacher to _teach it to them,_ because the student has now taken on the role of being their own teacher. The effort the student is putting in to learn their subject of interest barely necessities the need of any external agency / teacher but themself.
      More broadly, you could also apply this example to any person who wishes to learn anything.

    • @SuperCpalacios
      @SuperCpalacios Před 2 lety

      Tao Te Ching is

    • @ckyung1312
      @ckyung1312 Před 2 lety

      Isn't this just The Secret with different 🤔 words?

  • @leezc2443
    @leezc2443 Před 3 lety +911

    Can we talk about how well-made this video is? The music, the audio quality, the video quality... Everything!

    • @michaelkelmonroe7547
      @michaelkelmonroe7547 Před 3 lety +12

      Yeah, this is pretty top notch all around. I cannot imagine how many hours were spent on the back end with the editing, audio - like, I hope to fuck this person is enjoying themselves. I'd rather chew broken glass than work on vlogs and videos all day.

    • @tihkal
      @tihkal Před 3 lety +5

      Michael [Kel] Monroe editing is fun, maybe not for you. He’ll be enjoying himself when he’s pulling in $300k / year and only putting out one vid per month which will be in the very near future. Go chew your glass

    • @michaelkelmonroe7547
      @michaelkelmonroe7547 Před 3 lety +14

      @@tihkal Nah, I'm just gonna do what I like doing instead. I'm happy you like editing, and I don't care who is making what amount of money. Be well.

    • @manuelmillan5970
      @manuelmillan5970 Před 3 lety +5

      @@michaelkelmonroe7547 That response made me automatically like you! great attitude

    • @michaelkelmonroe7547
      @michaelkelmonroe7547 Před 3 lety +1

      @@manuelmillan5970 Thank you, Maneul! :)

  • @shannonoldberg9731
    @shannonoldberg9731 Před 11 dny

    This is brilliant and very true! I've read it all and have also come to the same conclusion , the question you start to ask yourself who's benefitting? Grateful to you for having the courage to make this video it should be required watching for everybody spending their money on all these self help gurus !!