Exactly how can men complain so much? They have almost all the power. I wonder why their are so many male relationship coaches teaching women how to get and keep a guy but where are the women who are just as popular as them who give advice about women to men? It seems like women value men's opinion more than men value woman's opinion. Look at how many women attend Matthew husseys retreats and seminars when have men ever done that for a female relationship coach?
Men really have almost all the power in relationships. No one shames them for wanting beautiful women no one calls them shallow but if a woman wants a rich guy she's a gold digger. If a woman wants a guy taller than her she's called narrow minded and picky but if a guy rejects a girl because she has a flat chest no one calls him picky. Also when it comes to beauty standards for both genders it's much more achiveable for men than it is for women. They just need to have abs and be well groomed and hygenic and taller than their girl but are still always told women don't care about your looks anyway. But a women is told from a very young age she needs to have a barbie body.
Funny how most of these male relationship coaches for women are not married or in and out of relationships quickly and people still take them seriously but if a woman tried to be a relationship coach for men people would be questioning her all the time about her relationship or martial status.
Nonsense! If a mature man loves, he’s banging down your door. He shows and speaks. There’s no grey area in love, he’s either into you or not! 👍🏼 no games, no mystery.
Alicia B Atherton Agree! I hate the idea that I need to represent a challenge in order to keep a man. You only need a mature and committed man that knows what he wants.
@@anadominguez8523 It's subconscious. It has nothing to do with being mature. We still have instincts. And yes, when a woman is being too easy, that gives a man a signal that the woman is not of a value. Like it or not.
@@allied9380 I disagree with you, I know men that like that women don't play games or pretend be inacesible. Or play with the time of him pretend is a busy person with many relathionships .And it's know that when a couple it's made the one for the other the chemistry, atraction and intererest for the other is evident.
My man is nothing like this, he tells me he loves me multiple times a day, sweeps me off my feet, massages me, takes me beautiful places, talks with me
I think because he's mature and at some point he felt safe enough and listened to and validated by you to open up. You must really love each other a lot. He's not afraid and neither are you. You're both lucky to have found each other.
That is what my boyfriend told me CONSTANTLY…….He was right. Everything changed. He started bringing tools to fix things in my home. He started buying little things that he noticed that I needed. Taking better of my dog. Etc……😳😳👍❤️
Both can play games or have issues. There's a video describing love languages and another that talks about type of people in relationships, like avoidant, for example
I don't have a fragile ego, or much ego. I don't need a women to protect said ego, no woman should. I will verbally tell someone that I love them and also express it through my actions. My brain only shuts down when I am angry because anger is toxic and don't want to hurt my partner. So, I meditate to let go of anger.
@@laurel1865 how did you get that out of what he said . Really. . And you are clearly one of those that like to push people's buttons and make them hurt you and then stand there playing victim.
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I have been with my husband 20 yrs this mid August and I was only 16, i'm NOW 36 and my husband always tells me how much he loves me and cares about me. He messages me 2-4 times a day everyday too or calls me. He shares his feelings with me as well.
Because your husband is a bear riding a unicycle in the circus. He has been trained primarily to avoid pain and conflict by complying with his master. This is no way for a man to live
If you have to put this much struggle into communication: you're probably not right for each other. Be your true self with someone that is their true self and you will both eliminate the need to strategize on how to understand someone.
Exactly. The best relationship I had was with a wonderful loving man who was upfront from the start. Eager to see me. Clear about how much he cared. Regularly in contact daily, no games. Regular meets. Moved in together seamlessly. It can be like having the other half of you slotted into place. He hugged and held me like he hated to let me go. He passed away but I’ve found that same rhythm again so it’s possible to find mature men who are open with their emotions. If they aren’t they just aren’t that into you. Say thank you next.
This guy is LEGIT. My guy rarely says, “I love you” except in rare circumstances where I might be getting on a plane without him, having a very difficult time, or when he feels a bit threatened. However, he doesn’t need to - he shows he loves me daily by what he does, and how he handles things. I was bothered at first... but over 10 yrs, I learned that’s just real love, and I wouldn’t trade that for the world!
My guy and I have been together almost one year, with a large chunk of that time now being a long distance relationship. We broke up for a month and a half when he announced he had to move because I felt like we couldn’t handle being so far apart. We didn’t last being apart, we speak every day, FaceTime a lot, visit, and now he purchased a house I approved of (he wanted my input on the listings of homes he sent me to make sure I’d like the house also) and has asked me to move in with him. He STILL has never told me he loves me, but every single action proves he does. The way he looks at me, the way he speaks, the way he holds me, the way he takes care of me physically, emotionally, etc... I’m learning how to be OK without hearing those 3 little words. My ex husband tells me I love you on a constant basis, even still, but has rarely ever treated me like he did/does. And that’s how I compare how much actions speak louder than words!
I won't artificially present myself as a challenge, what the actual hell. If I love somebody I will give them comfort and make them feel secure and safe about the feelings I have for them. I did experience the weird affection and clinginess of a guy who I was not willing to be with until I did agree to be with him and suddenly he treated me completely different. That's a terrible feeling and these are the bs guys. I am not going to be messing with someone just so they feel like I am a trophy because I am oh so hard to get. Once 2 people decide to love they should stand up for each other and not make it more difficult than it has to be. If that's not the case I would sure prefer being alone than getting lost in a toxic circle of "oh he doesn't pay attention - I will ignore him - now he wants me - now I show affection - oh he doesn't pay attention".
Michele Smith THIS! If I constantly have to stroke an ego and prove my „value“, how endlessly tiring?! I‘d rather have none of it if I can‘t be my authentic self at all...
if a woman has to work hard to be loved, the love she earned is worthless to her! real love is unconditional (as much as is humanly possible-only Jesus can give fully unconditional love!). You love because of who someone is in their heart, not because of what they do or look like. A woman needs to be loved the way a child is loved, just because they exist. Our need is to be accepted and appreciated as we are in our most casual moments, when we aren't trying to be anything.
I looove my beautiful strong man I've got. :) When he had trouble sharing his feelings, we had a conversation about it and now he almost tells me every day how he loves me and he is thankful and grateful about our relationship. It is called communication and maturity. Yes, ego love and spiritual love is very different. A woman needs to know the difference and love herself enough to love and understand another human being. Women often have issues with self confidence. If women do not resolve that, she will always keep looking for outside confirnation. That is a very tough task to put on a man. Ive been in a relationship with a very insecure man and I felt suffocated. With spiritual, mature love, there is no need for tricks, games, useless fighting etc. Being compassionate for eachother, not always wanting to be right. Those are two very important factors. My boyfriend and I have grown together trough communication, sometimes a good fight. But every time we come out stronger and that's the most important.
That moment when a man mansplains an excuse for social immaturity in men...My husband is the manliest man I’ve ever met and he continuously uses his words on a daily basis to tell me how much he loves me.
That moment when anyone uses the word "mansplains" like it doesn't immediately take away any credibility from the speaker to be so obnoxiously and arbitrarily sexist
This (not expressing verbalky our feelings) may be true for some men, but certainly not ALL. As a man, I'm deeply in love with my wife. I personally made a commitment to tell AND show it. My actions mirror my words and I make sure that we communicate about our mutual feelings as much as possible. Trust me, she LOVES it!
Emotional intelligence is the rarest form of intelligence I’ve noticed. It helps SO much to have ample of it in today’s society. Glad both me and my partner both have it. Makes things much less complicated.
I'd be honest, I didn't hear a single word he you said and was simply reading the comments and after 5mins of the video playing in the background I paused it to read more of the comments.. Brain you really need a coaching from all the people who commented on the video.. Not the other way round
Totally my man! 😂. Never speak up much about his actual feelings about us. (even if i speak up about it, he wont say anything sweeter , but just saying yes, or talking about something else, bcs yeaahh he cant speak about what he is feeling high emotion about. I think he's feeling really happy when i talked about blw much i love him and decided tu be silent). But when we are together, he set all his focus on me, his eyes, body gestures, and everything was so woderful as if "i love you" words wont be needed bcs all of his actions already tells me that he loves me so so much that im holding into tears while typing these 😭😭😭💓
This is not true. When a men loves you he will say it to you, will make you feel special, want to see you smile and make you happy in any way possible.
A$una25 it depends on the guy really. Either way, you can feel it when a guy or person is really into you. As long as you can perceive a genuine sense of admiration from their part. If I really like them and don't get that feeling from them, I just dump them. I know they will never feel the same way, and that is proof enough that they aren't worth my time.
As a 35 years old woman who has met many men, some partners/boyfriends, some friends, brother's in law, etc... this makes no sense... not all men are like that and some women are like that...what I've seen is that these attitudes differ whether a person is romantic and sensitive or not regardless of whether the person is male or female
JoanaT Sorry for replying to a month old comment but I felt like a crazy person going through the threads looking for a comment like yours. People seem very stuck on the "men are cavemen with no comunication skills who just want to fight tigers or some shit" mentality. God, I'm so tired of it. This video seems taylor made for those poor women that are ALWAYS complaining about how their husbands won't help with chores. "Haha men are so dumb, they can't even change diapers and they never remember birthdays!" Neglected women feel better believing boys will be boys and they will never realize they're just being played by a selfish, lazy, emotionally stunned asshole. Side note: am I supposed to believe women feel like chatting up a creature threatening their lives? I know it's just an analogy but it's a STUPID one. I'm fucking sick of being called a f***** just for feeling BASIC HUMAN EMPATHY and not because of all the sleeping with men. "Oh he's gay, of course he's all sensitive and well spoken" but I'm just NORMAL
don't apologise please. It's never too late for communicating and sharing ideas and opinions... I totally agree with what you say and I hate it too. I have a very good male friend who is so so sensitive and sweet and he is straight but he's like the loveliest guy ever. Nothing wrong with being gay but sadly, I do notice that many people act as if being sensitive and emotional is a sign of weakness or "women's stuff" and so if a man is extra sensitive he must be gay 😔... It's so fucking wrong! I, personally, love men who are capable of showing emotion and are sensitive. For me, a real man is not one who likes to fight and show his muscles, but one who gets emotional and shows it if I write him a special love song for example... Yes I agree some women complain too much. For those women all I have to say is: If your man doesn't know how to change diapers, teach him. He doesn't help with the house chores, ask him to (it's something you should've considered and paid attention to before you decided to live with him). You don't have to live with a man who doesn't make you happy. You deserve the man you want so search for him and wait for him. There are many wonderful amazing decent men out there. Don't settle for less just because you are insecure or afraid of being alone ladies.
I think this is so on point!... I mean, I feel that life is like a series of experiences and every person will perceive it slightly differently depending on what they've been through. Also, common sense would dictate alot. Observe the situation for what it is and you will (usually) find your answer. -SV 34 years of life wisdom will get you to think this way!
I am often amused at the notion that men are about doing and not talking yet when you listen to a sports program, all the men do is talk talk talk about the fine details of a game, or their career, or their injury etc. Imagine if men did this with their partner?
Mothers are responsible of the way her "little man" sees women and relationships. Mom's should teach men to express feelings and not be jealous on his girl.
Our men, they will talk about non important stuff but when something is high emotion is different. We as woman have been hurt so much by man throughout history that some of us can’t see the gift of honesty that he is offering, we get offended instead of listening and looking for ways to heal the female/male relationships. Even more important for those of us who have sons we need to listen so that we honor our sons high emotions and how they express themselves by being inflexible we might be creating monsters of men repressed and frustrated that will continue the cycle of hurting woman.
Humans are like the earth: the more you come close to their core the higher the danger, so if you don't want to lose someone you will have to approach said core either not or with carefull preparation. In both cases flaking on the surface is the safest option. It's the same reason we don't know much about our friends. We don't want to step on their hearts.
I think guys are not that complicated because if he really loves you, he will never do anything that will hurt you. They may not be as expressive as women but their action speaks louder than words.
A New Love Official I totally agree that actions speak way louder than words. However, people *can* hurt each other even without meaning to--like a careless remark, a misunderstanding, or even hitting a "trigger" they didn't know was there. It's what they do when they realize they'd hurt your feelings that counts.
@@RkristinaTay that person IS right. No one who loves another person would intentionally hurt them. There are amazing men out there. The horrible men in the world don't represent all men. Or the horrible women don't represent all women.
SuperKathio this is sad but out of all of my relationship I actually never had this though, to me personally it don't make sense but I find it interesting for women it's mostly what they think about.
I've been questioned by the guy I was in love with.. "Why do you always tell me you love me? Why can't you just accept it at face value?" That was the turning point to me being more cold towards him overall as a person. If a man cannot accept my love for him, even if I have to say it 100 times a day, he will lose my respect.
well if my girl friend asked me that when i told her i loved her id let her go. Letting him go would be the best thing, if he doesn't get that you love him than hes just wasting your time.
I hate it when people say you have to be a “challenge”. It did take awhile for me to go out on a date with my now fiancé, but once we finally did we we were inseparable after that. I’m challenging bc I’m hard headed, but not because I play games with him which is what I feel they mean when they say “challenge”. We both like feeling like we’re a team and couldn’t build our empire without the other. So I think it’s stupid to encourage women to make him “chase” you, otherwise he’ll get bored with you and move on. That’s telling us we’re not good enough as who we are. That we’re boring and uninteresting unless we’re acting aloof and nonchalant. So fuck all that.
Be yourself and the right one will come along. Compatibility is everything. Another man’s trash is another man’s treasure. People like different things.
True love must feel unconditional. You give without expecting anything back, you give the other space and liberty to manifest themselves. Only the idea that they're truly allowed to do anything will keep them relaxed. We tend to grip on the loved one trying to make it exclusive and give them many other roles, mother/father figure, friend, lover, financial advisor, etc. The least amount of pressure we put on ourselves and others, the more fruitful those relationships are going to be. Jealousy has no place when unconditional love is present, then you only want the best for the other.
You've solved a mystery here and taken off a load of garbage from my mind. He knows that I think he's a hero and it is true. He is a hero. I'll never forget how, a few years ago, I had been offended so badly by a group of folks, to an extent that I couldn't even talk, he came over and started telling funny stories and actively raised my emotions to a point where I was able to smile then laugh. When I think back on stuff like that, I realize that I am really blessed to have him. 💞
When aman love u he always show his passion towards u,protective,he always say I love u. But he cannot tolorate his emotions and diginity to be shuttered down. In accordance of showing u love,he always expect RESPECT IN RETURN. Thank you. 👏👏👏👏❤💘❤💘💘❤💘❤💘
Sarah Jensen lmfao if your reverse your statement then it's 100% true women think and act solely based of their emotions. Men anyway real men most men in the u.s are pussies now. But those that are men we are logical 100% of the way
Carl Jung said that men are consciously rational en subconsciously emotional. (Women the other way around) If a man is unable to act rationally, he will have strong emotional outbursts (anger) or withdraw en feel sorry for himself all the time. So in a way you are right, because a man wants to feel love desperately, but first he must get a grip on himself. Women on the other hand have very strict subconcious ideas and convictions (witch they mistake voor 'logic') and can become very rigid in their behaviour if they do not allow conscious reasoning to challenge those subconcious ideas.
Why is that? I used to be like that because my dad always said that girls were not good at math. I decided to try one day since im pretty smart at every other subject including science. Guess what? All of my best math professors were women. I majored in physics which is basically a series of word problems. All of the physical laws of our universe can be simply and beautifully expressed with equations.
My dad is a great communicator. I grew up being taught that if a person isn't able to or inclined to effectively express through words and actions their points of view to ensure minimal miscommunication and maximum information gaining (with people and situations that matter), chaos, stress and pain will eventually follow. If a grown-ass man expects me to magically and accurately interpret what he cant/won't clearly communicate with me, it's "bye". Of course, when I say communication, I am talking words AND actions. I don't expect a man (or another person) to telepathically read my mind. I don't play games. My relationship with my significant other is one of the very few things that ultimately matter in life (along with family, self worth, and human rights), so why won't I protect and nurture it with everything I have? If there are skills I can improve on to increase the chance of the relationship staying healthy and strong, I would actively pursue it. I expect no less from a man. If as an adult he hasn't figured out the benefits of effective and honest communication, he's not mature enough for me.
True I actually think that most womin are more egoistic then men these days. We mostly don't want to change for a man but we want him do everything for us including changing some things that we don't like
Yeah that's sexist bullshit. I quit the vid from the start. All these scientific sexists studies have been disproven. Men aren't heartless flesh beasts without emotions. And women aren't the sweet soft talkative fragile bitches. There's all types of people regardless of gender. I have a guy friend who never stop speaking, and he's the girliest thing possible, way girlier than me lmao.
@@artemisk.2334 yes 😧. If you agree with him, go ahead and watch, you'll like him lol. He used different words, but that was the meaning of them yep... 😧
@@bjsellers1463calm down there little dude, something must have traumatized you into think that shit, because i assure you that in the future when you grow older, wiser and more mature, not every woman on the planet is like that, there are plenty of lovely ladies I've came across, including ones I've fallen out of relationship with.
I don't blame you. Part of this "challenge" is if he doesn't give me kind words when I need them most, I'll pull back and abstain from talking for a while until he comes out of the damn forest, looking me in the eyes and showing/telling me in some way that I'm important. If he doesn't, then that's not going to be doing him any favors if he's interested in me. That's a one way street to nowhere.
Love you Brian. Really enjoy and appreciate your excellent videos. You display the perfect combination of intelligence, humor, kind-heartedess, good-natured (and Divine) masculinity and sexiness. I'm looking forward to reading your books! Blessings and Gratitude xo
Infatuation is different to love. When a man is infatuated with me, I'm scared because he's completely insensitive to who I am and what I need or want.
I want to say "Thank You!" I grew up in a house hold with my mother and little sister and my mother had no father as well so I knew what other families looked like with both parents together and that is totally different as well as ever man and woman. You gave me an in site to how my husband is wired because Lord know I have a HUGE mouth 🤗
Thank you Brian! That does make sense. I often ask myself why can't things (relationship) be simple, easy and straightforward and not so complex but then again, I have to remind myself that the human body itself is very complex - we are complex beings. I will keep the points you raised, in mind and make every effort to better understand males and their actions.
i wanted this video to never end, it relates to so much that occurs on my life, the unconditional love i have for him reaches farther than the deepest depths
I don't think it's something you haveto work to do. I believe the narrator is saying that your man knows that you have limits, boundaries, to what you will put up with, that there are indeed deal breakers. Most men, the ones who love you, don't want to be able to just get away with everything. They want you to have standards because it makes them better people.
I don’t believe it. When he loves you there is no possibility to hide emotions but if he doesn’t then he can trick to use you for his occasional amusement
Sadly I would have to say all men. I'm not proud of it but I've strung alone women just on the sole fact I can. I did it for the name of science trying to understand crazy women since all women are crazy and sheer entertainment
I may allow it, but that doesn't mean I'm being strung along. There are no hooks on that string. I just feel like playing with it, that's all. A cat's gotta have entertainment yo.
I honestly found your sense of humour so hilarious. It's not often i actually laugh out loud. Great speaker and nicely delivered information. Thanks for sharing 😁
This video is excellent. It reminds me of a wonderful relationship I had. He was always my man of action. Every day his actions showed how much he cared. I realized it's better to be with a man who shows his love in his actions and maybe speaks less words.
Thank you for this podcast, it has really helped me understand my man more. He can't say he loves me but it's all the things he does for me that shows his love.
Notice how you've gotten a few minutes of exposure to pixels representing a tiny fractional chunk of this entire human being. Yet you know alllllll about him. M'kay. (You judgy hypocrite lol)
The title is kinda dumb. What is a guy thinking when he loves you? Uhhh I'm thinking "I love you" is what I'm thinking lol. Also, he is dead wrong in simplifying our reaction and saying that our brains "shut off" when we experience high emotions. Our brains do not shut off, they light up! We get a surge of clarity that allows us to think fast. Let me ask all the guys, how many of you notice that you can think really fast and you get superhero like sensory abilities to see and hear all around you when you get exited? It's like taking a shot of caffeine! We become hyper alert and super focused and concentrated. This is NOT our brain "shutting down" that would be stupid. Imagine our ancestors brains shutting down at the crucial moment when a wolf wanders into our cave. lol Thats stupid. Our brains get lit up like in that movie Limitless.
This is an amazing video! All of these years and I learn some things that I never knew about men here in this video. After explaining it the way he did, it all makes sense
Not sure I agree with any of this. A person, man or woman, can be a very expressive person or an emotionally repressed or stunted or fall somewhere in between. I've been around women with emotional capacity of a rock and others who appear almost crazy because they cannot control their emotions. I am man who, I think, experiences extremely strong emotions but does not show them all the time because the anger can get you in a lot of trouble and if a man is with a woman and he is to expressive it can 1) scare her off, 2) make her panic because they have such low self esteem they cannot believe someone likes them that much, 3) turn her off and/or make her completely disrespect you because "men don't show emotions and if they do they are weak". If men who have no problem showing/expressing their emotions but appear closed off it is because society and women have shown him that he is weak and not confident. So if a woman bitches that her guy is emotionally unavailable it can be argued that it is partially her fault. Women see an emotionally closed off man as a challenge, something to fix = huge attraction.Lastly, how can men not be emotional creatures if they can appreciate the beauty of women (it's not always sex) or produce the huge amount of beautiful works of art, music, poetry and literature that exist.
wendeln92 most women like expressive lovers. There is no love in the start, no matter what you think or feel. It's not what you feel that leads to longevity, but what you do with those feelings and how you work things out. Most women believe a man can like them a lot or love them. That's not shocking at all. She may not consider you to be that amazing, so it obviously won't boost her self esteem, unless she just likes the attention. In the start, she doesn't know you well enough to be on top of the moon cause you like her. Where love is concerned, most women love an expressive man. And I think most guys ARE expressive! It's normal to express your feelings to your lover. It's expected. Society has taught men not to cry over silly things. Men are not shamed for crying at funerals, being upset or professing their love. Nor are such men seen as weak. I've never heard of that.
I definitely agree with you. I would also like to add that it is not always accurate that women in stressful or high emotional situations always want to talk. I would say it depends on the person, but in emergencies, such as when someone they care about gets sick, or is hurt, women act. Now over extended periods of stress, especially when it comes to situations that they cannot do anything (such as a misunderstanding in the bank, or other frustrations of everyday life) then yes, venting about our woes can be calming. Something I will agree though with the speaker is that perhaps things such as anniversaries and gifts are more important to women than men. Not that men don't care about them and they wouldn't be moved by a heartfelt gift on an anniversary, but I feel that for most women it is much more important, to the point that they can start feeling rather depressed and dissapointed. But that can of course vary in people and their values. I am sentimental and it very important to me to create memories and honor occasions.
aru akise No. Not all men are raised that way. Maybe in rural areas or patriarchal societies. But many countries are against saying "boys don't cry" and what not. And most men do know the difference between feeling jealous, love, anger, sadness, etc. Most don't confuse those feelings. And most do what they have to to deal with their feelings and issues. A man who isn't competent enough to deal with his issues, shouldn't be dating in the first place. Don't punish others for what you feel or go through. Most civilised and sane men don't. Expressing yourself isn't the same as confusing your feelings or punishing others for what you go through. Lashing out, isn't a right. Taking out your emotions on a person who hasn't hurt or abused you, isn't your right. Yes, a man should express his love. But no person has the right to punish, abuse and lash out on you cause they're going through something completely unrelated to you! That's what you call baggage, unresolved issues and not dealing with your emotions and issues. Don't categorise this as emotional, when it's downright abusive and requires therapy. Stable people lead stable lives.
In my experience when I feel deep love and affection I usually show it by doing something. If she is with me I'll touch her and cuddle. If she isn't then maybe I'll text her how much I miss her, or think about her and write a poem or send her memes. I watched this video to see if it was accurate and I agree. It is a pretty good explanation and it gives pretty decent advice to women on how not to ruin a relationship.
Julian Martin that's something most people do. It's the bare minimum. It takes 2 mins to text, send a meme, etc I wouldn't personally interpret that as a sign of love or immense interest. I would take that casually or as a guy being childish and inexperienced. But everyone's different. And it's natural for two people in an intimate relationship, to want to hold the other/each other or cuddle, even though some people aren't big on cuddling, or don't cuddle well. The desire to hold the other in one way or another, is natural. I think that love takes a very long time. And I think that pure/real love is different from love coupled with passion, intimacy, chemistry and compatibility. The former doesn't always work cause love alone isn't enough. It's important to be practical. I personally think that the latter is desirable. I think that some people just get along better than others. When two minds, bodies and souls instantly meet, it's wonderful and exciting. I think that most men are very expressive when it comes to love. I think it's in a mans nature to express himself towards his girlfriend or wife. Young guys or teenagers probably don't express themselves if they have a "crush".
this is exactly what I have been dealing with lately 😅 for someone who is highly emotional, sensitive and intuitive, it's brain whacking to decode men's mysterious ways
You’re good … you’re very helpful. And, for me, you validate that my BF loves me … his actions are consistent and over time and tell me what I need to know but, also, he tells me he loves me - often and with sincerity. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights.
What if men aren’t outspoken about their feelings because they are raised that way.. it’s ”not manly” to cry and talk about your feelings.. makes sense huh?
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin extreme opposite ends are unhealthy. you can be stoic but the emotion you suppress has to go somewhere, it doesnt just dissapear. eventually it will spill over into a cesspool of madness and chaos. on the other hand expressing everything in excess, while it may be cathartic, can be problematic for others especially if your emotional state is extremely volatile most of the time. there are methods of release which dont require stoicism 100% of the time, however it is controlled and contained in certain environs. one last thing to consider, there is no one size fits all method to self control.
My husband wants me to open up more. I don't complain or talk about my feelings. I try to figure out why I feel an emotion and work it out on my head. Self reflection and emotional control is important to me.
Thank you for making this video which made me feel so much better. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and have always wondered why he almost never initiates telling me that he misses me when we're apart. I have tried communicating with him that I wished he would be more vocal about his feelings and he would apologise saying that wasn't his strength though he would try harder. That said he has always been wonderful otherwise - he would be there always when I needed him, he cares about fitting in with my family and offer running errands with me without me raising it. I guess we just have to accept that we speak different love languages and it's not just him who's not very good at being verbal (which made me wonder for a long time whether this was actually a red flag). So thanks a lot for alleviating my worries.
My man just told me yesterday he loved me for the first time; we met six months ago in July and started dating in August. I was happy and shocked because although I've been waiting for him to say it, it was totally unexpected at the time. He also reinforced how he feels about me by saying to me he adored me and that he was lucky to have me in his life. He's said I was a blessing to him and he wishes he could do more for me.
Reine D' Ester lol me too. I always say this. I think like a man. I hate being nagged or having a clingy person around. Can't stand empty chit chat. Very much a personality D. Lol
And im also a workaholic i just realised that recently. When im in a serious mode i couldn't stand people talking to me. Or i wouldn't be able to pay attention to what they say. This annoyed alot of my girlfriends off. Sometimes, sort of hurt my man but because hes very important to me i would apologize immediately. Poor thing... 😅
I had to laugh when you mentioned the TV remote 😂 We had an enormous row after I had inadvertently taken the remote into another room! He was beside himself🤣
I hate the fact that as a woman, our entire job is to protect a mans fragile ego and make sure we continue to prove we are a prize. How exhausting.
Exactly how can men complain so much? They have almost all the power. I wonder why their are so many male relationship coaches teaching women how to get and keep a guy but where are the women who are just as popular as them who give advice about women to men? It seems like women value men's opinion more than men value woman's opinion. Look at how many women attend Matthew husseys retreats and seminars when have men ever done that for a female relationship coach?
Men really have almost all the power in relationships. No one shames them for wanting beautiful women no one calls them shallow but if a woman wants a rich guy she's a gold digger. If a woman wants a guy taller than her she's called narrow minded and picky but if a guy rejects a girl because she has a flat chest no one calls him picky. Also when it comes to beauty standards for both genders it's much more achiveable for men than it is for women. They just need to have abs and be well groomed and hygenic and taller than their girl but are still always told women don't care about your looks anyway. But a women is told from a very young age she needs to have a barbie body.
Funny how most of these male relationship coaches for women are not married or in and out of relationships quickly and people still take them seriously but if a woman tried to be a relationship coach for men people would be questioning her all the time about her relationship or martial status.
Yes very tiring.
Not it's not. It's too be yourself and the right one will come along.
One thing he said right that a man's actions speak louder than his words.
Yes!
Man!! That is SO true
taemoni.... BEST comment ever!!!
Yes!
Absolutely...I have learnt this at a later age...and I am looking forward to the coming action 😁. Thank you ❤
Nonsense! If a mature man loves, he’s banging down your door. He shows and speaks. There’s no grey area in love, he’s either into you or not! 👍🏼 no games, no mystery.
Alicia B Atherton Agree! I hate the idea that I need to represent a challenge in order to keep a man. You only need a mature and committed man that knows what he wants.
I agree it would be ideal having a mature man who would pursue you and verbalize his feelings as he did without being creepy. Good luck finding him.
@@anadominguez8523 It's subconscious. It has nothing to do with being mature. We still have instincts. And yes, when a woman is being too easy, that gives a man a signal that the woman is not of a value. Like it or not.
@@allied9380 I disagree with you, I know men that like that women don't play games or pretend be inacesible. Or play with the time of him pretend is a busy person with many relathionships .And it's know that when a couple it's made the one for the other the chemistry, atraction and intererest for the other is evident.
@@Mariajbh2 every man is different tho
Yes, I learned that in the hard way ... never believe a man when he says he loves you, look at his actions, it means everything.
i believe that too 😊
Exactly
I feel like it would be healthier to just find a man who is mature & emotionally intelligent enough to communicate about his feelings? 🙋♀️
Prudence K yesss! I cant believe so many people are still arguing with these neanderthaler examples - I mean did you really not evolve from there?!
schnatzl25 Do you know what evolution is?
Prudence K true, I agree that communication is the best way to live
King 445 evolution is wrong
Nazma Nora Ali what
My man is nothing like this, he tells me he loves me multiple times a day, sweeps me off my feet, massages me, takes me beautiful places, talks with me
I think because he's mature and at some point he felt safe enough and listened to and validated by you to open up. You must really love each other a lot. He's not afraid and neither are you. You're both lucky to have found each other.
Sounds like my guy! He will call me up or send a text just to let me know he loves me. He's always there for me...And he offers me footrubs! 😍
Are you married?
How long have you been married??
You're very blessed.
When a man loves you, you will know.
That is what my boyfriend told me CONSTANTLY…….He was right. Everything changed. He started bringing tools to fix things in my home. He started buying little things that he noticed that I needed. Taking better of my dog. Etc……😳😳👍❤️
😢😢😢
How can I make her life better, that’s what I think when I am in love👍
Marc that's a great way to think about being in love with a girl
Britanie Williams well I think it’s the only way, or I may just not be in love...😂😂😂
Got a twin brother?
@ Goat...
@@dayondastribling5080 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So who’s complicated now? Women or Men? Answer: Men
So true!
they are both (the true answer lol) cause humans have complicated psychology 😂👌😀👍😂
Totally agree
😂
Both can play games or have issues. There's a video describing love languages and another that talks about type of people in relationships, like avoidant, for example
When a man loves you, you will never be confused about whether he does or doesn't. He will show you. There will be no doubt.
Jackie James what’s ap him +2348159158915
Jackie are u a man?
@@md6mohammed460 I'm a girl, but the person that helped me is a man, give him a try
@@md6mohammed460 what's app him
@@md6mohammed460 No lol😁
I don't have a fragile ego, or much ego. I don't need a women to protect said ego, no woman should. I will verbally tell someone that I love them and also express it through my actions. My brain only shuts down when I am angry because anger is toxic and don't want to hurt my partner. So, I meditate to let go of anger.
The number one fear that men have is ridicule. Women's number one fear is assault. You must be on of the men whose not afraid of name calling.
Laurel woman can and do much worse. Not so innocent
Wow,good man !
That's beautifully said!
@@laurel1865 how did you get that out of what he said . Really. . And you are clearly one of those that like to push people's buttons and make them hurt you and then stand there playing victim.
The more I know about men, the less I want to be with one..
MEN ARE ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE.... STOP LISTENING TO CZcams VIDEOS AND FEMINAZIS PLEASE
ALL THE MEN IN MY LIFE... FROM DAD, BROTHER, COUSINS, FRIENDS, BOYFRIEND..
ARE ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL!!!!
AND BTW
WE WOMEN ARE FAAARRR FROM PERFECT....
BLESSINGS!
PowerOfLoveTarot Medium Reading so true
PowerOfLoveTarot Medium Reading this guy is generalizing men. Not all men are alike. My boyfriend loves texting he loves me
The more I know about womens and theirs hypergamy, the less I want to be with one
🤣🤣🤣🤣
3:43 when a man loves you he wants to matter to you. One thing that made sense in his endless chatter
Good way of convincing girls that their guy gives them shit but in reality he loves you!! Hahaha well placed words ...
What if you put your energy into teaching men to acknowledge their emotions and communicate instead of asking women to play their games?
Huh?
My experience is that then they walk away.
Hahahahahaha! Right? Hahahahaha! Amen!
Exactly
It would be so much better
Actions speak louder than words 💯
Always the truth - a man is defined by his actions not his words!
Nayna Shetty agre with yu completely
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My thought exactly. I was going to comment but then saw this lol so, nevermind. ☺️
totally agree
So are women 😉. And there's nothing wrong with an introverted woman either. This guy means well, but his research is poorly done.
“Most men do think about other things as well occasionally.” 🤣
that killed me lol
And he was so serious!!!😂😂
I laughed at that, too 😅
..and my mind says ..see that's true :-)
+Kaepora Gaebora lolol lmao just in case you stupid.... made me laugh out loud
Did I hear that sentence right?Bad men will always invest the absolute minimum to still get what they want from you!
Yup, they do! And women give it to them 🤷🏽♀️ So men continue getting what they want (the woman) even when they are performing minimally, themselves
I have been with my husband 20 yrs this mid August and I was only 16, i'm NOW 36 and my husband always tells me how much he loves me and cares about me. He messages me 2-4 times a day everyday too or calls me.
He shares his feelings with me as well.
Dats so sweet.lucky u😍
Nice!!! You’re super lucky!!!!
I envy you.
Lucky you. And lucky him
Because your husband is a bear riding a unicycle in the circus. He has been trained primarily to avoid pain and conflict by complying with his master. This is no way for a man to live
"look at his actions, it speaks louder than words" this is the most important thing every woman should understand.
If you have to put this much struggle into communication: you're probably not right for each other. Be your true self with someone that is their true self and you will both eliminate the need to strategize on how to understand someone.
Totally agree.. These youtube vids make relationships seem so complicated when it should really feel comfortable
Exactly. The best relationship I had was with a wonderful loving man who was upfront from the start. Eager to see me. Clear about how much he cared. Regularly in contact daily, no games. Regular meets. Moved in together seamlessly. It can be like having the other half of you slotted into place. He hugged and held me like he hated to let me go. He passed away but I’ve found that same rhythm again so it’s possible to find mature men who are open with their emotions. If they aren’t they just aren’t that into you. Say thank you next.
This guy is LEGIT. My guy rarely says, “I love you” except in rare circumstances where I might be getting on a plane without him, having a very difficult time, or when he feels a bit threatened.
However, he doesn’t need to - he shows he loves me daily by what he does, and how he handles things.
I was bothered at first... but over 10 yrs, I learned that’s just real love, and I wouldn’t trade that for the world!
My guy and I have been together almost one year, with a large chunk of that time now being a long distance relationship. We broke up for a month and a half when he announced he had to move because I felt like we couldn’t handle being so far apart. We didn’t last being apart, we speak every day, FaceTime a lot, visit, and now he purchased a house I approved of (he wanted my input on the listings of homes he sent me to make sure I’d like the house also) and has asked me to move in with him. He STILL has never told me he loves me, but every single action proves he does. The way he looks at me, the way he speaks, the way he holds me, the way he takes care of me physically, emotionally, etc... I’m learning how to be OK without hearing those 3 little words. My ex husband tells me I love you on a constant basis, even still, but has rarely ever treated me like he did/does. And that’s how I compare how much actions speak louder than words!
Seriously, yours and mine are the same then, cause he makes sure I'm okay in every area.... But difficult to say I love always...
I won't artificially present myself as a challenge, what the actual hell. If I love somebody I will give them comfort and make them feel secure and safe about the feelings I have for them. I did experience the weird affection and clinginess of a guy who I was not willing to be with until I did agree to be with him and suddenly he treated me completely different. That's a terrible feeling and these are the bs guys. I am not going to be messing with someone just so they feel like I am a trophy because I am oh so hard to get. Once 2 people decide to love they should stand up for each other and not make it more difficult than it has to be. If that's not the case I would sure prefer being alone than getting lost in a toxic circle of "oh he doesn't pay attention - I will ignore him - now he wants me - now I show affection - oh he doesn't pay attention".
@Rehana Aamir well there are many types in the world so don't lose hope yet 😔😜
Lolzzz. Been through exactly same situation. But yes, it taught me loads- in a jist, what you explained here.
@@sriya9788 good luck to you for moving on! 🙏🏻💫✨
@@noogoom thanks. Let's simplify life 💮🍾. Good luck to you as well. I'm done btw :)
I completely agree with you - there is no reason to play games when both partners are emotionally mature!
The more i watch those videos the more I feel like a man, and i am a woman...
Me too.
Exactly my point... not all women are the same.
T. T. Omg lol😂
😂😂
too funny!
News flash- you are only speaking about yourself brian. Women don’t want to work this hard to be loved.
Michele Smith THIS! If I constantly have to stroke an ego and prove my „value“, how endlessly tiring?! I‘d rather have none of it if I can‘t be my authentic self at all...
if a woman has to work hard to be loved, the love she earned is worthless to her! real love is unconditional (as much as is humanly possible-only Jesus can give fully unconditional love!). You love because of who someone is in their heart, not because of what they do or look like. A woman needs to be loved the way a child is loved, just because they exist. Our need is to be accepted and appreciated as we are in our most casual moments, when we aren't trying to be anything.
Art for Love So true, I totally agree! Everything else isn’t really fulfilling and if love at all, half-hearted love...
News flash: love is work. That’s what make it so valuable
I looove my beautiful strong man I've got. :) When he had trouble sharing his feelings, we had a conversation about it and now he almost tells me every day how he loves me and he is thankful and grateful about our relationship. It is called communication and maturity. Yes, ego love and spiritual love is very different. A woman needs to know the difference and love herself enough to love and understand another human being. Women often have issues with self confidence. If women do not resolve that, she will always keep looking for outside confirnation. That is a very tough task to put on a man. Ive been in a relationship with a very insecure man and I felt suffocated. With spiritual, mature love, there is no need for tricks, games, useless fighting etc. Being compassionate for eachother, not always wanting to be right. Those are two very important factors. My boyfriend and I have grown together trough communication, sometimes a good fight. But every time we come out stronger and that's the most important.
Best comment of ALL here.
That moment when a man mansplains an excuse for social immaturity in men...My husband is the manliest man I’ve ever met and he continuously uses his words on a daily basis to tell me how much he loves me.
That moment when anyone uses the word "mansplains" like it doesn't immediately take away any credibility from the speaker to be so obnoxiously and arbitrarily sexist
@@ItsAsparageese Amen!!!!!
Is that dog in your picture your husband???
What about dogsplaining??? The dog is her husband
Does he have a brother =) lol
This (not expressing verbalky our feelings) may be true for some men, but certainly not ALL.
As a man, I'm deeply in love with my wife. I personally made a commitment to tell AND show it.
My actions mirror my words and I make sure that we communicate about our mutual feelings as much as possible.
Trust me, she LOVES it!
True
Emotional intelligence is the rarest form of intelligence I’ve noticed. It helps SO much to have ample of it in today’s society. Glad both me and my partner both have it. Makes things much less complicated.
I'd be honest, I didn't hear a single word he you said and was simply reading the comments and after 5mins of the video playing in the background I paused it to read more of the comments..
Brain you really need a coaching from all the people who commented on the video.. Not the other way round
Haha same here
Me too right know
Haha same!!
😄 agreed!!!
Same 🙋
Totally my man! 😂.
Never speak up much about his actual feelings about us. (even if i speak up about it, he wont say anything sweeter , but just saying yes, or talking about something else, bcs yeaahh he cant speak about what he is feeling high emotion about. I think he's feeling really happy when i talked about blw much i love him and decided tu be silent). But when we are together, he set all his focus on me, his eyes, body gestures, and everything was so woderful as if "i love you" words wont be needed bcs all of his actions already tells me that he loves me so so much that im holding into tears while typing these 😭😭😭💓
Dahlia Khumaira that’s exactly how my man is💕
This is not true. When a men loves you he will say it to you, will make you feel special, want to see you smile and make you happy in any way possible.
In any way possible? No. You can't expect a man to jump through hoops for you. Go ahead and make him. He'll get tired of it, fast.
Not my man but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me
This is not general to all men but most men prefer actions.
Depends on indivudual personality actually
A$una25 it depends on the guy really. Either way, you can feel it when a guy or person is really into you. As long as you can perceive a genuine sense of admiration from their part. If I really like them and don't get that feeling from them, I just dump them. I know they will never feel the same way, and that is proof enough that they aren't worth my time.
As a 35 years old woman who has met many men, some partners/boyfriends, some friends, brother's in law, etc... this makes no sense... not all men are like that and some women are like that...what I've seen is that these attitudes differ whether a person is romantic and sensitive or not regardless of whether the person is male or female
Exactly all men don't act like this.I have 4 sons 4 brothers they all show love differently.
Exactly!
JoanaT Sorry for replying to a month old comment but I felt like a crazy person going through the threads looking for a comment like yours. People seem very stuck on the "men are cavemen with no comunication skills who just want to fight tigers or some shit" mentality. God, I'm so tired of it. This video seems taylor made for those poor women that are ALWAYS complaining about how their husbands won't help with chores. "Haha men are so dumb, they can't even change diapers and they never remember birthdays!" Neglected women feel better believing boys will be boys and they will never realize they're just being played by a selfish, lazy, emotionally stunned asshole. Side note: am I supposed to believe women feel like chatting up a creature threatening their lives? I know it's just an analogy but it's a STUPID one. I'm fucking sick of being called a f***** just for feeling BASIC HUMAN EMPATHY and not because of all the sleeping with men. "Oh he's gay, of course he's all sensitive and well spoken" but I'm just NORMAL
don't apologise please. It's never too late for communicating and sharing ideas and opinions... I totally agree with what you say and I hate it too. I have a very good male friend who is so so sensitive and sweet and he is straight but he's like the loveliest guy ever. Nothing wrong with being gay but sadly, I do notice that many people act as if being sensitive and emotional is a sign of weakness or "women's stuff" and so if a man is extra sensitive he must be gay 😔... It's so fucking wrong! I, personally, love men who are capable of showing emotion and are sensitive. For me, a real man is not one who likes to fight and show his muscles, but one who gets emotional and shows it if I write him a special love song for example...
Yes I agree some women complain too much.
For those women all I have to say is: If your man doesn't know how to change diapers, teach him. He doesn't help with the house chores, ask him to (it's something you should've considered and paid attention to before you decided to live with him). You don't have to live with a man who doesn't make you happy. You deserve the man you want so search for him and wait for him. There are many wonderful amazing decent men out there. Don't settle for less just because you are insecure or afraid of being alone ladies.
I think this is so on point!... I mean, I feel that life is like a series of experiences and every person will perceive it slightly differently depending on what they've been through. Also, common sense would dictate alot. Observe the situation for what it is and you will (usually) find your answer. -SV
34 years of life wisdom will get you to think this way!
I am often amused at the notion that men are about doing and not talking yet when you listen to a sports program, all the men do is talk talk talk about the fine details of a game, or their career, or their injury etc. Imagine if men did this with their partner?
Mothers are responsible of the way her "little man" sees women and relationships. Mom's should teach men to express feelings and not be jealous on his girl.
I so happy to have emotionally intelligence guy
Our men, they will talk about non important stuff but when something is high emotion is different. We as woman have been hurt so much by man throughout history that some of us can’t see the gift of honesty that he is offering, we get offended instead of listening and looking for ways to heal the female/male relationships. Even more important for those of us who have sons we need to listen so that we honor our sons high emotions and how they express themselves by being inflexible we might be creating monsters of men repressed and frustrated that will continue the cycle of hurting woman.
@@tessiesantiago2858 Number 1 excellent very insightfull comment.
Humans are like the earth: the more you come close to their core the higher the danger, so if you don't want to lose someone you will have to approach said core either not or with carefull preparation. In both cases flaking on the surface is the safest option.
It's the same reason we don't know much about our friends. We don't want to step on their hearts.
Sounds like you want us to babysit them. No thanks.
Exactly, thanks for saying it
In a nut shell
I think guys are not that complicated because if he really loves you, he will never do anything that will hurt you. They may not be as expressive as women but their action speaks louder than words.
Would be nice if you were right.
True.
A New Love Official I totally agree that actions speak way louder than words.
However, people *can* hurt each other even without meaning to--like a careless remark, a misunderstanding, or even hitting a "trigger" they didn't know was there. It's what they do when they realize they'd hurt your feelings that counts.
@@RkristinaTay that person IS right. No one who loves another person would intentionally hurt them. There are amazing men out there. The horrible men in the world don't represent all men. Or the horrible women don't represent all women.
A man can love and still hurt you.
Do men ever wonder if a woman loves them? Why must we be the ones concerned?
SuperKathio this is sad but out of all of my relationship I actually never had this though, to me personally it don't make sense but I find it interesting for women it's mostly what they think about.
I've been questioned by the guy I was in love with.. "Why do you always tell me you love me? Why can't you just accept it at face value?" That was the turning point to me being more cold towards him overall as a person. If a man cannot accept my love for him, even if I have to say it 100 times a day, he will lose my respect.
if he loves the woman than of course he will wonder if she loves him back. he just might not vocalize it as much as the woman might
well if my girl friend asked me that when i told her i loved her id let her go. Letting him go would be the best thing, if he doesn't get that you love him than hes just wasting your time.
Wait, wait, wait. Did you just ask "Do men ever wonder if a woman loves him?"... Seriously?
Too much pressure being a woman in this generation 🤔
heeheeheehee
You wanted everything to be about you and you got it. You are welcome.
Lmao! Go back to 1955 you wouldn't survive when women had to be ladies. Times are easy for wahmen now. Grow up.
@@androideatsanapple shut up
@@androideatsanapple we had to be Slaves back then.
I love a man who is older than me, because it seems his strong and wise enough of his feelings
ambruce love.me too
I hate it when people say you have to be a “challenge”. It did take awhile for me to go out on a date with my now fiancé, but once we finally did we we were inseparable after that. I’m challenging bc I’m hard headed, but not because I play games with him which is what I feel they mean when they say “challenge”. We both like feeling like we’re a team and couldn’t build our empire without the other. So I think it’s stupid to encourage women to make him “chase” you, otherwise he’ll get bored with you and move on. That’s telling us we’re not good enough as who we are. That we’re boring and uninteresting unless we’re acting aloof and nonchalant. So fuck all that.
When a man loves you. He means every word and in action. He respects you and treats you as a high value woman.
Be yourself and the right one will come along. Compatibility is everything. Another man’s trash is another man’s treasure. People like different things.
I guess my man is the exception then? He tells me he loves me and adores me multiple times a day... guess I'm just lucky then lol
Exactly
we replace expression "i love u" with other type of expressions, one of em is "are u hungry" 😊 works all the time
True love must feel unconditional. You give without expecting anything back, you give the other space and liberty to manifest themselves. Only the idea that they're truly allowed to do anything will keep them relaxed. We tend to grip on the loved one trying to make it exclusive and give them many other roles, mother/father figure, friend, lover, financial advisor, etc. The least amount of pressure we put on ourselves and others, the more fruitful those relationships are going to be. Jealousy has no place when unconditional love is present, then you only want the best for the other.
Yap
You've solved a mystery here and taken off a load of garbage from my mind. He knows that I think he's a hero and it is true. He is a hero. I'll never forget how, a few years ago, I had been offended so badly by a group of folks, to an extent that I couldn't even talk, he came over and started telling funny stories and actively raised my emotions to a point where I was able to smile then laugh. When I think back on stuff like that, I realize that I am really blessed to have him. 💞
If any human being texted me 20 times a day, I'd buy a gun.
not really, but I might change my number and go fly fishing forever.
:D :P same here
I've been arguing that men are emotional creatures while women are logical, but that really pisses men off. ;)
Sarah Jensen seems true though
When aman love u he always show his passion towards u,protective,he always say I love u. But he cannot tolorate his emotions and diginity to be shuttered down. In accordance of showing u love,he always expect RESPECT IN RETURN. Thank you. 👏👏👏👏❤💘❤💘💘❤💘❤💘
Sarah Jensen lmfao if your reverse your statement then it's 100% true women think and act solely based of their emotions. Men anyway real men most men in the u.s are pussies now. But those that are men we are logical 100% of the way
Carl Jung said that men are consciously rational en subconsciously emotional. (Women the other way around) If a man is unable to act rationally, he will have strong emotional outbursts (anger) or withdraw en feel sorry for himself all the time. So in a way you are right, because a man wants to feel love desperately, but first he must get a grip on himself. Women on the other hand have very strict subconcious ideas and convictions (witch they mistake voor 'logic') and can become very rigid in their behaviour if they do not allow conscious reasoning to challenge those subconcious ideas.
Why not be emotional and logical? Certainly, there are benefits to be acquired from both of these perspectives.
my brain shuts off when it sees or hears math tasks...
😂👍
XD
I figured it was actually ADD
what is 46x(87y) over the square route of 90?
Why is that? I used to be like that because my dad always said that girls were not good at math. I decided to try one day since im pretty smart at every other subject including science. Guess what? All of my best math professors were women. I majored in physics which is basically a series of word problems. All of the physical laws of our universe can be simply and beautifully expressed with equations.
My dad is a great communicator. I grew up being taught that if a person isn't able to or inclined to effectively express through words and actions their points of view to ensure minimal miscommunication and maximum information gaining (with people and situations that matter), chaos, stress and pain will eventually follow.
If a grown-ass man expects me to magically and accurately interpret what he cant/won't clearly communicate with me, it's "bye". Of course, when I say communication, I am talking words AND actions. I don't expect a man (or another person) to telepathically read my mind. I don't play games. My relationship with my significant other is one of the very few things that ultimately matter in life (along with family, self worth, and human rights), so why won't I protect and nurture it with everything I have? If there are skills I can improve on to increase the chance of the relationship staying healthy and strong, I would actively pursue it. I expect no less from a man. If as an adult he hasn't figured out the benefits of effective and honest communication, he's not mature enough for me.
Yes you're correct.
His action speaks louder than words.
Ego is something men and women have. Women are taught to view their ego from a different set of rules.
sometimes our egos can make us float away XD
That's the bloody truth.
True I actually think that most womin are more egoistic then men these days. We mostly don't want to change for a man but we want him do everything for us including changing some things that we don't like
Nerthus Adler No it's just that women can still be happy and connected without men. Single men suffer mentally, physically and emotionally
Quite honestly this is bollocks. All men and women are different.
With real love, we just have to feel our way.
Yeah that's sexist bullshit.
I quit the vid from the start.
All these scientific sexists studies have been disproven.
Men aren't heartless flesh beasts without emotions. And women aren't the sweet soft talkative fragile bitches.
There's all types of people regardless of gender.
I have a guy friend who never stop speaking, and he's the girliest thing possible, way girlier than me lmao.
@@jessq6506 emm just asking but did he actually said such things?????Didn't really watched it i have my own beliefs so...
@@artemisk.2334 yes 😧. If you agree with him, go ahead and watch, you'll like him lol.
He used different words, but that was the meaning of them yep... 😧
Wow, helps to have understanding for the differences and not to expect him to "be as we."
Thanks so much Brian!
I’m so happy to have an emotionally intelligent bf.. this guy is describing a real Stone Age man, a toxic masculinity guy
I agree with you. Men talk.
So agree with you
@@bjsellers1463calm down there little dude, something must have traumatized you into think that shit, because i assure you that in the future when you grow older, wiser and more mature, not every woman on the planet is like that, there are plenty of lovely ladies I've came across, including ones I've fallen out of relationship with.
BS!
Mistress London being emotionally intelligent is not about talking only some people are emotionally intelligent but prefer just to shut up
Thanks for the video but as a women l can say that some time we need to hear a nice words
Amoula Bouaicha Agree
Why? I personally just show whenever i want is this a bad thing?
You managed to make it about you :D. Good job lady!
Amoula Bouaicha or bad grammar and spelling lol
I don't blame you. Part of this "challenge" is if he doesn't give me kind words when I need them most, I'll pull back and abstain from talking for a while until he comes out of the damn forest, looking me in the eyes and showing/telling me in some way that I'm important. If he doesn't, then that's not going to be doing him any favors if he's interested in me. That's a one way street to nowhere.
Love you Brian. Really enjoy and appreciate your excellent videos. You display the perfect combination of intelligence, humor, kind-heartedess, good-natured (and Divine) masculinity and sexiness. I'm looking forward to reading your books! Blessings and Gratitude xo
Infatuation is different to love. When a man is infatuated with me, I'm scared because he's completely insensitive to who I am and what I need or want.
So true
Your way to transmit the idea is too simple and effective... thank you Brian ❤️
The truth a man is seen by his actions not words
Farida Aali I think it's true. I could felt my ex was running out of love when he still told me I needed to trust him :) I did trust him.
If it’s that hard we are good without a men.
You are so genuine and brave to reveal these things. Thank you for sharing!
I want to say "Thank You!" I grew up in a house hold with my mother and little sister and my mother had no father as well so I knew what other families looked like with both parents together and that is totally different as well as ever man and woman. You gave me an in site to how my husband is wired because Lord know I have a HUGE mouth 🤗
"Want some pizza?"
I mean, bouquets are okay, but food is infinitely glorious. 😆
that's right my heart through my stomach!!!! 👌👌👌😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you Brian! That does make sense. I often ask myself why can't things (relationship) be simple, easy and straightforward and not so complex but then again, I have to remind myself that the human body itself is very complex - we are complex beings. I will keep the points you raised, in mind and make every effort to better understand males and their actions.
Yea I when it comes to psychology I often look at how it would be required in our neolithic ancestral times
Finally a good relationship couch! So many crap "couches" in CZcams. But you are truthful and intelligent. Thank you.
i wanted this video to never end, it relates to so much that occurs on my life, the unconditional love i have for him reaches farther than the deepest depths
How's it going now?
I don't want to be a challenge, sounds exhausting.
Agree 👍
I don't think it's something you haveto work to do. I believe the narrator is saying that your man knows that you have limits, boundaries, to what you will put up with, that there are indeed deal breakers. Most men, the ones who love you, don't want to be able to just get away with everything. They want you to have standards because it makes them better people.
Remember also that: "I think the world of you", is not the same thing as, "you mean the world to me".
I don't understand people, and guys. So thank you for helping me learn these things.
Thank you so much
Today i know i am not a dumb man,i just think differently!
I don’t believe it. When he loves you there is no possibility to hide emotions but if he doesn’t then he can trick to use you for his occasional amusement
Aisha Amir yeah not all men think this way and if they do it's cultural and not healthy
Sadly I would have to say all men. I'm not proud of it but I've strung alone women just on the sole fact I can. I did it for the name of science trying to understand crazy women since all women are crazy and sheer entertainment
Ouch hope you understood them doing that!
I may allow it, but that doesn't mean I'm being strung along. There are no hooks on that string. I just feel like playing with it, that's all. A cat's gotta have entertainment yo.
xm377Moyocoyatzin well, that's depressing
Men do think of other things as well *occasionally*
Morgan Lemons occasionally lol
Morgan Lemons
You could lead him around by the nose that way. 😁
@@thisisntallowed9560 my dude this is a quote from the video
@@thisisntallowed9560 I call everyone dude unless if they are older than me...so...are you older than me and if so...sorry man
Lollll
I honestly found your sense of humour so hilarious. It's not often i actually laugh out loud. Great speaker and nicely delivered information. Thanks for sharing 😁
I am always disappointed when this guy ends his video.. I just love listening to him. Keep it up! You are helping a lot of women. 💗
Action speaks louder than words... Yup thats true
You're wrong about the saber-tooth, I know I'm a woman and I wouldn't talk first.... I'd run!
This video is excellent. It reminds me of a wonderful relationship I had. He was always my man of action. Every day his actions showed how much he cared. I realized it's better to be with a man who shows his love in his actions and maybe speaks less words.
Thank you for this podcast, it has really helped me understand my man more. He can't say he loves me but it's all the things he does for me that shows his love.
Notice there's not a ring on this guy's finger.
Yet he knows alllllll about women. M'kay.
Maybe that's why he isn't married
Notice how you've gotten a few minutes of exposure to pixels representing a tiny fractional chunk of this entire human being. Yet you know alllllll about him. M'kay. (You judgy hypocrite lol)
@@ItsAsparageese I could say the same to you, for your reaction toward me. 😂
Emerald Actually, she’s correctly using her resources in order to effectively gauge the reliability of the information she’s being presented.
That’s because he has loved, he loves, and he studies women behavior. I can just see it in his eye.
The title is kinda dumb. What is a guy thinking when he loves you? Uhhh I'm thinking "I love you" is what I'm thinking lol. Also, he is dead wrong in simplifying our reaction and saying that our brains "shut off" when we experience high emotions. Our brains do not shut off, they light up! We get a surge of clarity that allows us to think fast. Let me ask all the guys, how many of you notice that you can think really fast and you get superhero like sensory abilities to see and hear all around you when you get exited? It's like taking a shot of caffeine! We become hyper alert and super focused and concentrated. This is NOT our brain "shutting down" that would be stupid. Imagine our ancestors brains shutting down at the crucial moment when a wolf wanders into our cave. lol Thats stupid. Our brains get lit up like in that movie Limitless.
He gave scientific evidence
I agree! My husband is exactly like this! 😊
Those scientist brain shut off, Adam I agree because my fiancée explained how I make him feel exactly like how you did.
@@wulfkoberl1235 lol did you watch that scene in black panther
@@zedazeda9450 sorry hunny I fell asleep on that movie
This is just lovely.. and unconditional love is the answer to all of life's problems.. always was and always will be!
This is an amazing video! All of these years and I learn some things that I never knew about men here in this video. After explaining it the way he did, it all makes sense
Not sure I agree with any of this. A person, man or woman, can be a very expressive person or an emotionally repressed or stunted or fall somewhere in between. I've been around women with emotional capacity of a rock and others who appear almost crazy because they cannot control their emotions. I am man who, I think, experiences extremely strong emotions but does not show them all the time because the anger can get you in a lot of trouble and if a man is with a woman and he is to expressive it can 1) scare her off, 2) make her panic because they have such low self esteem they cannot believe someone likes them that much, 3) turn her off and/or make her completely disrespect you because "men don't show emotions and if they do they are weak". If men who have no problem showing/expressing their emotions but appear closed off it is because society and women have shown him that he is weak and not confident. So if a woman bitches that her guy is emotionally unavailable it can be argued that it is partially her fault. Women see an emotionally closed off man as a challenge, something to fix = huge attraction.Lastly, how can men not be emotional creatures if they can appreciate the beauty of women (it's not always sex) or produce the huge amount of beautiful works of art, music, poetry and literature that exist.
wendeln92 most women like expressive lovers. There is no love in the start, no matter what you think or feel. It's not what you feel that leads to longevity, but what you do with those feelings and how you work things out.
Most women believe a man can like them a lot or love them. That's not shocking at all. She may not consider you to be that amazing, so it obviously won't boost her self esteem, unless she just likes the attention. In the start, she doesn't know you well enough to be on top of the moon cause you like her.
Where love is concerned, most women love an expressive man. And I think most guys ARE expressive! It's normal to express your feelings to your lover. It's expected.
Society has taught men not to cry over silly things. Men are not shamed for crying at funerals, being upset or professing their love. Nor are such men seen as weak. I've never heard of that.
I definitely agree with you. I would also like to add that it is not always accurate that women in stressful or high emotional situations always want to talk. I would say it depends on the person, but in emergencies, such as when someone they care about gets sick, or is hurt, women act. Now over extended periods of stress, especially when it comes to situations that they cannot do anything (such as a misunderstanding in the bank, or other frustrations of everyday life) then yes, venting about our woes can be calming. Something I will agree though with the speaker is that perhaps things such as anniversaries and gifts are more important to women than men. Not that men don't care about them and they wouldn't be moved by a heartfelt gift on an anniversary, but I feel that for most women it is much more important, to the point that they can start feeling rather depressed and dissapointed. But that can of course vary in people and their values. I am sentimental and it very important to me to create memories and honor occasions.
aru akise No. Not all men are raised that way. Maybe in rural areas or patriarchal societies. But many countries are against saying "boys don't cry" and what not.
And most men do know the difference between feeling jealous, love, anger, sadness, etc. Most don't confuse those feelings. And most do what they have to to deal with their feelings and issues.
A man who isn't competent enough to deal with his issues, shouldn't be dating in the first place. Don't punish others for what you feel or go through. Most civilised and sane men don't.
Expressing yourself isn't the same as confusing your feelings or punishing others for what you go through. Lashing out, isn't a right. Taking out your emotions on a person who hasn't hurt or abused you, isn't your right.
Yes, a man should express his love. But no person has the right to punish, abuse and lash out on you cause they're going through something completely unrelated to you! That's what you call baggage, unresolved issues and not dealing with your emotions and issues. Don't categorise this as emotional, when it's downright abusive and requires therapy.
Stable people lead stable lives.
In my experience when I feel deep love and affection I usually show it by doing something. If she is with me I'll touch her and cuddle. If she isn't then maybe I'll text her how much I miss her, or think about her and write a poem or send her memes. I watched this video to see if it was accurate and I agree. It is a pretty good explanation and it gives pretty decent advice to women on how not to ruin a relationship.
Julian Martin that's something most people do. It's the bare minimum. It takes 2 mins to text, send a meme, etc I wouldn't personally interpret that as a sign of love or immense interest. I would take that casually or as a guy being childish and inexperienced. But everyone's different.
And it's natural for two people in an intimate relationship, to want to hold the other/each other or cuddle, even though some people aren't big on cuddling, or don't cuddle well. The desire to hold the other in one way or another, is natural.
I think that love takes a very long time. And I think that pure/real love is different from love coupled with passion, intimacy, chemistry and compatibility. The former doesn't always work cause love alone isn't enough. It's important to be practical. I personally think that the latter is desirable. I think that some people just get along better than others. When two minds, bodies and souls instantly meet, it's wonderful and exciting.
I think that most men are very expressive when it comes to love. I think it's in a mans nature to express himself towards his girlfriend or wife.
Young guys or teenagers probably don't express themselves if they have a "crush".
this is exactly what I have been dealing with lately 😅 for someone who is highly emotional, sensitive and intuitive, it's brain whacking to decode men's mysterious ways
💜 your video‼️ Thank you for taking the time to make it... feeling much better now
You’re good … you’re very helpful.
And, for me, you validate that my BF loves me … his actions are consistent and over time and tell me what I need to know but, also, he tells me he loves me - often and with sincerity.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights.
What if men aren’t outspoken about their feelings because they are raised that way.. it’s ”not manly” to cry and talk about your feelings.. makes sense huh?
xm377Moyocoyatzin if two men are having a fist fight they are actually having a conversation XD I never knew untill my fiance told me
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin men don't know control themself! In any sense, in fights, in sex, ........
nature vs nurture
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin extreme opposite ends are unhealthy. you can be stoic but the emotion you suppress has to go somewhere, it doesnt just dissapear. eventually it will spill over into a cesspool of madness and chaos. on the other hand expressing everything in excess, while it may be cathartic, can be problematic for others especially if your emotional state is extremely volatile most of the time. there are methods of release which dont require stoicism 100% of the time, however it is controlled and contained in certain environs. one last thing to consider, there is no one size fits all method to self control.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin wrong. Lol. You're brainwashed.
My husband wants me to open up more. I don't complain or talk about my feelings. I try to figure out why I feel an emotion and work it out on my head. Self reflection and emotional control is important to me.
Thank you for making this video which made me feel so much better. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and have always wondered why he almost never initiates telling me that he misses me when we're apart. I have tried communicating with him that I wished he would be more vocal about his feelings and he would apologise saying that wasn't his strength though he would try harder. That said he has always been wonderful otherwise - he would be there always when I needed him, he cares about fitting in with my family and offer running errands with me without me raising it. I guess we just have to accept that we speak different love languages and it's not just him who's not very good at being verbal (which made me wonder for a long time whether this was actually a red flag). So thanks a lot for alleviating my worries.
Thank you Brian Nox... first time viewer and subscribed w/bell
i wish my boyfriend knew how to communicate with me instead of making me guess and saying he needs "space" lmao
Same girl same..
@@reni6666 he does a lot of things right but some things he lacks and it gets annoying always having to bring it to his attention
Okay
I don’t have time for that. Never validate a man until he shows you he loves you.
Absolute GENIUS. I am particularly struck by the saber-tooth tiger analogy. Bravo, my good sir!
My man just told me yesterday he loved me for the first time; we met six months ago in July and started dating in August. I was happy and shocked because although I've been waiting for him to say it, it was totally unexpected at the time. He also reinforced how he feels about me by saying to me he adored me and that he was lucky to have me in his life. He's said I was a blessing to him and he wishes he could do more for me.
Then i guessed i'm a man cuz when i get emotional i tend to shut down and expect people to leave me alone. Lol
Reine D' Ester lol me too. I always say this. I think like a man. I hate being nagged or having a clingy person around. Can't stand empty chit chat. Very much a personality D. Lol
Im the same
And im also a workaholic i just realised that recently. When im in a serious mode i couldn't stand people talking to me. Or i wouldn't be able to pay attention to what they say. This annoyed alot of my girlfriends off. Sometimes, sort of hurt my man but because hes very important to me i would apologize immediately. Poor thing... 😅
But I think i want to be left alone, lol I don't really
Men can love you, but you first have to figure out how much you're willing to take from them - and maybe it all stems from loving oneself first.
That's exactly the way it is.Undstanding and acceping it was just the begginning of a much better life for me.
I had to laugh when you mentioned the TV remote 😂 We had an enormous row after I had inadvertently taken the remote into another room! He was beside himself🤣