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Hey Squaaad! 👋 Get ready for some juicy, drama-packed realness in today's video! 🎉 Today, we're diving deep into a wild AITA (Am I the A**hole) story that involves none other than a best friend's wedding! 😱💔 Grab your popcorn and let's spill the tea, because this one's a rollercoaster, my friends!
So picture this: Your bestie is about to tie the knot, and you're thinking it's going to be all rainbows and butterflies, right? WRONG. Our AITA OP (original poster) found themselves smack in the middle of a wedding tornado, and trust me, it's a wild ride.
In classic AITA fashion, there are two sides to every story, and we're going to break it down like only Charlotte Dobre can. 💁♀️ Our OP is faced with a major dilemma, and the choices made at this wedding will make your jaw drop!
Will our hero(ine) rise above the drama or succumb to the chaos of the big day? 🤔 You won't believe the twists and turns that unfold as we dissect this wedding saga. It's like a soap opera, but with real people, real emotions, and a sprinkle of that AITA spice!
Plus, I've got some hot takes and maybe a few personal anecdotes to share because, let's be real, who hasn't been in a situation where you question if you're the a**hole or not? 😂
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Lets be honest... Being chosen as the MOH or bridesmaids isn't an honor anymore 😂lately they're less of an honor, more of an ATM
Pretty sad in a way. I stood for my friend almost 10 years ago and it wasn't over the top expensive. I guess I was blessed in that. Entitled nasty brides make things worse for the bridal party.
@@pattycake8272 is it your sister in law ? Who's this woman your husband going to walk the isle with ? Also what's your issue exactly ?
@@pattycake8272 Are they best friends or related?
@@pattycake8272 sorry this comment thread is getting bigger 😅. If your not comfortable asking now is perfectly ok, but if you do... Is your boyfriend the one walking the bride down the aisle? Is he an important figure in her life, like saved her, raised her, paid her college, uncle, type of figure in her life? We all have this inside feeling when something is off, what is making you feel that for you to ask?
Probably right. Fortunately my friends and family are all so amazing. We just work so well together. And communication is so beautiful.
If my bestie was having fertility issues and told me she'd be heavily pregnant at my wedding, I'd throw her a party and ABSOLUTELY let her do maternity shots at my wedding. That's OUR baby, sis. The audacity.
This is because you see your bestie as a human being that you love and that is important to you
Not as an assessor or soulless mascot like the bride in the story did
*Soviet anthem plays in the background*
And she said second trimester, she may not even look that heavily pregnant at that point. With my first baby I didn't even show until 6 months and even then it wasn't much. I could have easily been unnoticeable under a regular flowy dress. Though whether she shows or not shouldn't be a concern at all to the bride, it would not distract in anyway if they don't specifically draw attention to it. She is just hella selfish...especially after the reveal of the friend being a wedding planner.
You are a great person i would absolutely do that for my bestie
Some people just seem to care about themselves and treat people like accesories.
For the first story, I do find it a bit weird that when her friends were attacking her over her being mad about the situation, that they never even thought to confirm that she knew about the crazy in-laws?
Like do they not stop to think, “hey it’s weird that she’s acting like this maybe we should double check she knows what’s happening?”
The fact that her friend didn’t correct them either was a red flag
Ya I feel for OP, all of them are dicks, what kind of people would care so much who their daughter in law picked for MOH, 3 years they harassed her over this? So not normal
The fact that apparently the 2 most important people (future husband and best friend/MOH) were the ONLY ones who didn't know feels like unreal levels of stupidity from the bride.
The OP didn't think to try to confirm anything either. She says the bride is her platonic soulmate yet she was willing to throw the whole friendship away without at least attempting to figure out the real reason. Yeah the bride handled it poorly and it could have all been avoided but something doesn't sit right with me about how easily the OP was willing to drop the bride over this
@@andrehenderson3364exactly ! I found it childish. I can’t believe they’re roughly 29
I like how how it went from "Don't throw whole relationship right away, because life is complex" to "Except THAT. Dump it in trash right now" 🤣🤣
I agree with Charlotte: You having a wedding doesn't give you carte blanche to treat everyone horribly and have everyone "understand" because it's your wedding. You are going to lose a few people out of your life if you do that, and it will be DESERVED.
WELL DESERVED
Let's not underestimate the jealousy factor in the bride's heart. Her friend experiencing the blessings of motherhood before she does might have triggered a competitive fiber and unavowed envy that has been lingering for years.
If the bride can't celebrate her friend's long-awaited pregnancy the way the friend has shown dedication to her wedding planning, it means the friendship is one-sided and so worth ditching.
It's for both sides. Don't be a bridezilla or a groomzilla but don't be an awful/ jealous/self-centered friend when one of your closest is getting married! I talked with some persons who work in weddings and they told me everytime weddings can bring the worst in people, especially the bridal party and the family... not the couple!
Carte blanche c'est du français 😊
@@solene2014 Bon voyage, bon appétit, faux pas = French expressions borrowed in English 😘
Am I the only one who thinks that wedding culture has gotten out of control? The fact that brides are so worried about having pregnant bridesmaids, bridesmaids with tattoos, hair color, friendships are breaking up over bachelorette parties, people are spending hundreds sometimes thousands on a day for someone else to get married. Why are women so stressed about a single day- especially when there’s a 50/50 chance of divorce. We have started to lose sight of what’s important- getting our friends and loved ones together to celebrate a marriage. It’s not about bridesmaid dresses and gifts and… perfection. Crazy.
I agree. When did maid of honor or bed man start doing all the work. Why do they expect that much? The expected financial crap too.
Not to mention trying so hard to out do a royal wedding when they don't have the money.
Story 1 - She isn't the bride's best friend, the bride is her best friend. The bride told everyone in her friend group the back story of the MIL, but only told her AFTER it became an issue she couldn't avoid.
I thought this too, honestly. It didn't sit right with me that the only person in the friend group not in the loop was OP
the bride may have been trying to shield OP from feeling like the MIL was harrassing the bride because OP was MOH. it's not a great decision, but good people have made worse choices under pressure
She knew her BFF would make her see sense and she wasn’t ready.
You are absolutely right. She was picked because she had the most money. She even said she was the most financially stable of the group. Also, remember that this drama had been going on for years and she was the only one who didn't know.
Why tf would his family care so much who MOH is? I can not think of anything my family cares so much for they would do this, maybe one or two conversations, but 3 years they harassed their future daughter in law?? If that's true the bride should run fast and far because these people are nuts
I really don’t understand the issues people have with pregnant bridesmaids 😒
"But they won't be paying attention to MMMMEEEEE, and it's MY DAY" 🙄🤦♀️🙄🤦♀️🙄 Seriously some of these a$$holes should just throw a ME party and not drag their friends and some poor guy into their entitlement storm
It's not even that hard to add a panel to give extra room, unless the dress is a slinky, more-skin-than-dress kind of gown. I had a home business doing alterations and custom sewing, and fixed at least one dress to accomodate a baby bump. No biggie!
The only issue I would have for a pregnant bridesmaid is their health. My sister had preeclampsia with all three of her pregnancies so I understand the issues a woman can go through during her pregnancy so I would be worried that my wedding would be causing any unnecessary stress to the friends pregnancy but if she’s all good, then bring on the wedding photos with her and her baby bump 😄
People are too concerned with looks instead of just having the people they love
@@melrobertson2743I agree that it is attention. If they are only focused on how things will look to others, then it is definitely from a place of insecurity or arrogance and you don’t need either.
The first announcement/toast at my wedding was me and my new husband getting up and congratulating my sister on her surprise pregnancy. She had been going through 6 years of fertility issues and we had actually started appointments for me to be a surrogate. The announcement brought on a room full of thunderous applause and cheers. The day was amazing. And I do not regret sharing our day one bit.
🫂 ❤ that's so awesome and beautiful
Thats wonderful!
That's so beautiful! Congratulations to you and your sister!
Well now im crying 😭💕
That’s beautiful, what a wonderful day 💗
To me having a miracle pregnancy in your bridal party would normally be such a joy and honor, I'm seriously so confused about brides being mad
*That one with the pregnant bridesmaid and the comment about she paid for an extra maternity shoot for her MOH at her own wedding is so beautiful! See, the attention isn't on 'oh when are you due' now, it is on the bride, the groom, **_and_** the MOH. Especially the back story! **_THAT_** is a true friendship, and the photo of her and her crying that she's finally pregnant...how special.*
The story of the MOH who got demoted for the SIL reminded me of my own wedding. I had asked my BFF to be my MOH and she accepted. Later, my parents insisted that my younger sister be my MOH which I didn't want (she's 10 years younger and was only 17 at the time), but my parents pulled the "We're paying for everything" card. I explained the whole situation to my BFF and apologized profusely. She understood and graciously accepted the demotion. I, however, tried to make it up by giving her more of the spotlight and had her read some scripture verses during the ceremony. She had acting experience and didn't mind reading the verses in front of all the guests. I told my sister that her main job during the ceremony was to make sure my train was straight. What I didn't explain was that I meant just getting to the altar, after lighting the "unity candle", and before leaving the altar. It's hilarious to watch our wedding video on fast forward to see the nearly dozen times my sister was going over and straightening my train. At least she took her MOH duties seriously and everyone was okay with the outcome. Hubby and I are still married 30 years later, my BFF is still in my life, and my baby sister is now my closest friend.
I loved this story 🥺
This is lovely, thank you for sharing that ❤️❤️
“This train will be the straightest train known to mankind so help me…”
This is the way
Beautiful story! So glad it worked out well for you all 🩷
So glad the MOH drama story had a happy ending.
But there better be some security at that wedding. It really seems like the MIL and her family don’t know how to take “no” as an answer.
💯 agree with you on all of this
They also should get couples counseling, because this ain't over with his family.
For sure have security on the premises! I wonder if the Patriot Guard folks would do for weddings what they do for military families, if they are paid for their services. They are volunteers at the military funerals, and they do a great job at protecting families of the fallen from the freaks who show up to protest and dishonor those who paid the ultimate price.
This could be a side gig that would help cover expenses for what they do for military families.
If you've never heard of PG, they are volunteer bikers decked out in leather and chrome who escort the hearse and guard the perimeter. Scary looking men and women sometimes, but they are sweethearts.
Westboro Baptist jerks came to my cousin's son's funeral, who was a Marine. Those beautiful bikers didn't let them within a mile of the funeral, my sweet grieving cousin wasn't even aware that those hateful things tried to crash the funeral.🥲🏍♥
Tatie Charlotte pourquoi elle fait que des réactions à des vidéos sur le mariage je veux qu'elle fasse d'une manière globale
@@solene2014bc we enjoy them
The first story is exactly why you need to always have very honest and open communication with your friends and your partner. She was trying to save her husband from the truth but that was hurting her and she was lying to her husband in the process. I'm glad mom was disinvited. I'm glad their friendship is intact
Loved the Babylon 5 reference: "Knowledge is a three--edged sword - your side, my side, and the truth."
when my cousin got married her best friend was 7 months pregnant, and the joke was that the baby was an honorary bridesmaid. now her daughter is 6 and she lovessss hearing the story about my cousin (her godmother’s) wedding and it’s helped them build a beautiful relationship. be nice to your friends’ kids!!! they’re part of your life now, too!
Ok that’s adorable tho 💖
That’s what I’m talking about!
My sister (also matron of honour) was discussing having another child during my wedding planning. I encouraged her and called around to find bridal shops that knew what they were doing with maternity gowns for weddings, even before she got pregnant, just in case. It turned out that she was eight months pregnant on my wedding day and looked wonderful. My husband, during his speech, involved our niece in my sisters belly, when he was thanking all of the main people, he mentioned our unborn niece by name.
I would never dream of treating friends or family poorly like some of these people.
I love hearing stories like this. When my niece 'Amy' got married last year, she was already dealing with family conflicts because much of her family is very conservative (homophobic is a better word) & Amy was marrying another woman.
My other niece 'Bea' was Amy's MOH. Bea got pregnant (unplanned) & wasn't married, which was another family issue because ... conservative. She would definitely be showing by the time of the wedding. Amy never for a second considered asking her to step down. Bea contacted family members & asked them to spread the news about her pregnancy to the rest of the family so there wouldn't be any surprises at the wedding.
There were family members (some aunts, uncles, cousins) who didn't attend due to their own homophobia. Not coincidentally, they were the same people who might have given Bea a hard time. Everyone who did attend was there to support & celebrate the two brides & congratulated the sister.
The only surprise at the wedding was when Amy announced she was taking her wife's last name. I can't help but think it's at least in part because her wife's family embraced her with open arms from the moment they met her. Amy's own parents (including my sib) took some time to come around.
A lot of grief could have been avoided had the bride trusted her friend and shared the real reason for her demotion. And a lot more grief (3 years worth) could have been avoided had she trusted her fiance. It was a case of bad decisions compounding a bad situation.
Edit:
Story 2. I think that it's time people measure friendship on quality instead of time. Knowing how difficult it was for OP to conceive, her first thought should have been to congratulate her followed by thinking about delegating some of her duties to the bridesmaids to lessen herr load so that she can take care of herself and her pregnancy. The fact that she wanted OP to continue on helping out with her wedding financially and otherwise and then had the audacity to ask her to stay out of photos because of the aesthetics is mean spirited, shameful and entitled. Perhaps OP had been overlooking all the red flags about her friends character through the years because this type of behavior does not just happen overnight. I'm glad she got out of the wedding and the friendship.
I could never kick a friend out of wedding due to baby, cancer or anything. I would want this day to be just as special for them. Also the one commenter said she took photos with her friends bump, I damn near teared up cause that's how it should be. Congratulations on the baby 💜
I thought bridezilla stories like this were fiction until I met my daughter's sister in law. My daughter included her in her wedding and now it's time for the sister in law's wedding and she's hurt my daughter so badly, I'd love to have words with her. And just all out of jealousy, entitlement and her abusive nature. We have cut contact, thankfully.
Im sorry your daughter was hurt, I hope shes doing better now!
As someone who had battled infertility for over 5 years and is currently taking a break due to Doctors considering us to be a fertility mystery, I would be beyond devastated if my "best friend" treated me like trash if I did get pregnant.
Surround yourself with people who make you happy and bring you up! Everyone else can leave.
Or at least can be happy for you when you are happy.
I hope you get the child you want, however that happens. I was adopted by some people who absolutely refused to return me to an awful foster situation. (the foster parents went to prison!) Please consider that your baby will always be your baby regardless of the origin, I'd humbly request you keep an open heart throughout your journey even though that's really difficult when you are having set backs to disappointments, to devastating lows, I know that's a big ask.
Also, you guys are under some pressure and that can really affect your quality of time together. If it's at the forefront of your thoughts, sex becomes mechanical and transactional. It loses the thing that makes it fun, exciting and bond strengthening.
I'd struggled to conceive, but we didn't see each other for a while and when we did, I got pregnant the 1st night back home! It was also the best I think we'd ever had, I guess it's true absence makes the heart fonder or something? Have fun! Open the windows or go find something that piques your interest. (Something racy, make out like teens, depending on what you guys like of course.
Some people don't like exhibitionist games, everybody is so vastly different.) But the point is to be fully present for your partner, if you're thinking about the result, you guys are not focused on each other and over time, that stress can really be stressing!!
I wish you luck and passion for each other above anything else. Because the rest is up to the universe. Go, upset the neighbors! 😂❤
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@@liz090833This was absolutely beautiful! What wonderful advice, for any couple! ❤
Exactly. Too many people are called friends without earning that title. A friend wants you to have good things despite their own personal problems/circumstances. A true friend would never bring their friend down only lift them up. Obviously miscommunications/ misunderstandings happen but a friend would apologize and move towards resolution and compromise. As I said true friends are few and far between, most people are just convienant acquaintances until it’s no longer convienant or serving them.
I got married in April of 2023 at 33. All of my bridesmaids were already married and in the time of their lives of having children. 2 had children less than a year old and by the time of the wedding 3/8 were at least 6 months pregnant! I was so so excited and would have been happy for every single one to be pregnant if that's what they wanted in their own lives! Excited to say one of my other bridesmaids got pregnant within a week of the wedding and just gave birth last night and I myself am 34 weeks pregnant :D I love children and I love my bridesmaids and I can't even imagine the 2nd story. What a horrible way to treat any person regardless of the fertility issue.
I had my sister in law (brother’s wife) as my MOH. She was wonderful with the help, support and insights she gave me. When I asked her to be my MOH and said that I would pick the colour of her dress but style, fabric and length were her choice and that I would be paying for her dress, she replied that this was the one time that I could ask her to dress as a pumpkin if I so desired and that she would do it and still be happy, that it was my big day and her job was to do whatever she could to make me happy and make things easier for me. She was an amazing MOH and would never have disrespected her by asking her to pay for anything, it was my husband and my wedding so we paid for it, or wanting her to be uncomfortable in a dress just because I thought it would “fit the aesthetic”.
Often, when people want "you" to be "the bigger person," it's because they want YOU to continue to be abused/ mistreated - so no one has to deal with drama or have it directed at them.
We, as a whole, really need to stop asking people to accept being treated poorly for everyone else's comfort.
EXACTLY. It's scary how many of these reddit stories have gaslighting involved,the first story was a very rare happy ending,firs tome I have ever seen and I have seen MANY videos like this,and that says a lot about the current state of humans,sadly
YES YES YES!!!!!!
I was 6 months pregnant at MY OWN wedding so I always laugh at stories where brides get pissed about it.
And you didn't try to bridezilla yourself out of the pictures or the wedding? :D
@@Trammiliin that would’ve been quite a feat if I’d pulled it off 😂😂😂
@@rheah7180ooooooh, you didn’t wait! 😉😂🤣
@@davidguidry657 nope! Not at all! Our relationship started with a one night stand but then he just wouldn’t leave me alone. Been married 13 years now 😂😂😂😂
@@rheah7180 thanks for taking that as intended, humorously. Congratulations on y’all’s 13 years! If I may be so bold to encourage y’all to continue putting each other first above everyone else (including the kids) and keep on dating/pursuing one another so y’all can have a lifetime of marital bliss. Here’s to hosting your grandkids/great-grandkids together many years from now! 🫂🙏🏻
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That bride saved herself a lot of grief by telling her fiance, that MIL is a piece of work. He limited his contact with her for a reason.
My sister was 8 1/2 months pregnant at my wedding and I can’t imagine not having her in any photos. Like, the way these people think is absolutely out there.
Because of my sister’s pregnancy hormones, I looked over during my father daughter dance and saw my sister bawling, so I had her come out to dance with him right after. it never even occurred to me that her dancing pregnant with my father at my wedding would ever be an issue. I was happy to have her and my future nephew apart of my day
That's so sweet! I attended a wedding @ 35 years ago where the MOH was obviously pregnant, and the bride couldn't have been happier about that! There were jokes about her being her own "plus one", several people who attended from out of town also brought baby gifts for the MOH (very discreetly, they kept those gifts in their cars until the reception was winding up). They wanted to gift her in person, but couldn't afford two trips. No one seemed to have a problem with that because it took nothing away from the wedding.
Exactly. My MOH was my SIL (with my brother), the sweetest, kindest and sassiest person I will ever know. She had some scars that she was self conscious about due to heart surgery so I made sure that the dress I picked out (mix and match tops) would have a couple of options for her. She was lovely and while I look at my wedding photos with some sadness, several people including her, my father and my younger brother, passed within the decade following, I’ll never forget those memories.
OMG I keep reading these stories in this thread thinking THIS IS THE WAY!
ALL of you are about to have me crying. And you prove that you can each have your beautiful moments and histories without taking ANYTHING away from anyone else’s story! LOVE is the way. ❤❤❤
Thanks, now I'm about to cry. That's so sweet and beautiful! Oops, I blinked, there goes a tear🥲
You're a ray of sunshine and I love that you have a good moral compass so as to know the real things that are important like family. I got a lil teared up thinking about the dance with your dad. That's special anyway but adding that it's now come full circle, new life on the way. Yeah, I'd be a MESS! That's so beautiful! I'm so happy you had those sacred family moments. In the end, that's what you remember!!! ❤
Happy that the first story had a happy ending . Wish the bride had come clean to her fiance about his parents a little bit earlier rather than trying to gaslight the MOH . Probably everybody needs to grow a spine before getting married. Glad the bride did it eventually. 😊
We love a happy ending
@@ndawn90 I get what you're saying, but some people really do try to carry their burdens in the way that will least affect their loved ones. She didn't want to be the reason her fiancé, whom she loves, is fighting with his mom, whom he loves. She didn't want her best friend to feel guilty about being MOH. But when you handle things that way, they do bottle up and cause issues, like happened here.
@@ndawn90 she already said it in the story. It was because he had a bad relationship with his family so they were trying to mend their relationship but she didnt want to complain and be the reason he cut off his family. Her MOH said it was his decision to make not hers and the brid3 so told her fiance and he cut them off. Nothing shady, relax. Lol
She probably had her MIL dress by then.
Nobody’s gonna make the right choice or the perfect decision every time- there are going to be times when we fuck it all up and people we love get hurt. But the fact that the bride fucked up isn’t telling of her character, it’s what she did after she fucked up that tells me who she is.
As someone who also struggled to have kids and finally had a miracle baby this past year, the AUDACITY of that bride is ridiculous! It's so disrespectful and heartless! Hearing those stories about how brides celebrated their pregnant guests was so heart-warming and legit made me choke up.
Best friends holding the baby belly in pictures wearing beautiful dresses im crying! So beautiful and when they look back at that picture at the babies wedding it will be even more beautiful ❤ she is NTA
My mom was 5 months pregnant with me at my aunt's wedding and there was never a thought of her not being the MOH. They just had to add a panel into the dress for the baby belly.
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My Mum was 4-5 months pregnant with my brother (her first) at her own wedding and no one even knew because she wasn't even showing and my parents kept it a secret and didn't want to tell anyone until as late as possible😂. It's amazing how different every woman is actually. But this bride in the story is a selfish, selfish girl. She obviously didn't value that friendship much before. I am glad she found out before baby was born - probably for the best.
My youngest sister was 5-6 months pregnant at mine & my husband’s wedding. Her bridesmaid dress wouldn’t zip (she bought it prior to getting pregnant) & since she knew how to sew, she removed the zipper & made it a corset back, so she could still wear the dress & it looked so good! She looked beautiful. Regardless of that, I would never have thought about telling her not to be a bridesmaid just because she got pregnant. I was really happy for her!
Being in second trimester, she wouldn't be huge. I didn't show until 5 months, and even then it wasn't obvious. She could literally hold a bouquet that would easily cover her "bump" for the photos. I just don't understand the bride's problem with this! Does she think the guests are all assuming that a MOH has to actually be a _maiden_ (virgin)?
@@LazyIRanch 😂😂😂 Well that's a valid question, I wonder if there's a religious component attached but not stated in the story, aside from the obvious "you will take the attention away from me" attitude the bride in the story has.
Be careful of those friends who can't be happy for you and see it as an inconvenience for them. One-sided friendship
Truth. If you all have to drink just to enjoy the company, you're probably not actually friends.
Exactly. I have a friend who is so jealous of anything good that happens to me. I have Metastatic Melanoma and have suffered from this for years.
It is weird when she complains to me about them not having the right sauce at the grocery store.. while I roll my eyes. 🙄
I was MOH for one of my best friends and 8 months pregnant at her wedding. She was wonderful and supportive. Now trying for a second and my sister is getting married in July. She is also very supportive and doesn’t care if I happen to get pregnant before hand. Point is people that truly love and support you would never see your pregnancy as an inconvenience 🤦🏼♀️
Story 1: NEVER piss off the one financing and organizing stuff.
I’m actually glad that OP got so angry and insisted on “making waves” and meeting with her friend. Without that meeting, her friend may not have told her fiancé and could’ve have lived a marriage definitely NOT made in heaven with that mother-in-law! Kudos and praises to her fiancé for calling out his families toxicity and getting away from them! Friendship is definitely one of the most important things ever and the fact that OP and the bride are still BFF‘s is awesome! Great story! 😊
Honestly, good thing she did that. I kept wondering when she mentioned the in-laws harassing her what the husband was doing about it and the "he had no idea" part felt so god damn stupid, who is this dumb? I mean she even said he has a bad relationship with them, obviously that's for a good reason.
If I was that bride I'd still consider if I wanted to marry into that family even if the fiancé is on her side... I've never been married nor have I been engaged so maybe it feels different once you're there but to me this sounds like disaster waiting to happen unless the fiancé is willing to pretty much cut ties with his mom and sister
Story 1:
Had the bride been honest with EVERYONE from the beginning, none of this would have happened. (I think the bride is a chronic people pleaser) Going forward, everyone now knows that the in-laws are not to be trusted, and to tell hubby everything that they say to her. Best of luck to all.
Yeah, some people are people pleasers and IT can BE so hard to make the right call . . .the irony of Not wanting to upset people actually causeing more upset . . .
Honestly hearing that part made me think she did want the OP to do all the planning and hosting. If she knew the friend would step down if she knew, what other motivation would there be to not tell her, but tell everyone else?
Glad it worked out but it's fishy to me.
@@a_noelle8595she may have wanted OP to do all the planning, and she might have thought OP wouldn’t have minded so much cuz they were besties, irrespective of whether she was MOH or not. Or maybe she thought they could figure it out between them, but MIL obviously wasn’t someone she could talk to or fix things with. She was ready and willing to talk things through, and she wanted OP to be MOH till the end, which makes me think she cares. As for the money and payments, it is obvious that they both had a habit of loaning each other money and so on. Bride probably thought they could handle it between them. OP probably did catch her at a vulnerable moment when she asked to be reimbursed the first time. OP said so herself that she owed money to the bride for several years too. I don’t think we are in a position to judge their relationship. As for knowing OP would step down, I don’t think she wanted OP to step down until she couldn’t handle MIL, she probably told other friends because it was too much pressure for her to keep it to herself without telling her fiancé and OP. She probably wanted to vent or some support without bothering OP or the groom because it directly affected them. She may have wanted to protect them from the evil MIL, in her head.
@@a_noelle8595agreed
@@arianewinter4266 and somehow they end up hurting the people who actually care about them in order to please absolute assholes. I just do not get their line of logic.
For the second story, what tickles me is the pregnant woman would have only been 5 months or 5.5 months pregnant (if my calculations are correct). For your first baby, you generally don’t usually pop out that much until nearer 7 or 8 months (though of course everyone is different). But unless she was expecting twins she wouldn’t have been so huge that she would have stolen the spotlight anyway. This was a non-issue from the start.
That’s what I was thinking too! It just looks like weight gain if you’re not looking for it! People be acting like pregnant=huge, but most of it especially for your first, is not much to look at.
Seeing one of these stories actually have a happy ending is amazing, happy for everyone in the first story cutting the toxic people out and getting to have their day as they wanted it
All the vendors at our wedding were so shocked by how mellow & reasonable we were about everything. Both my husband & I laughed about how grateful everyone was that we acted like normal empathetic people. I couldn't understand until I started listening to these videos, how insane people can get about their weddings, acting like lunatics & treating people horribly just because it's "their day". Oh, and as an aside, I had 2 friends come to my wedding that were in their last trimesters of pregnancy. The ONLY thing I could think was how grateful they could join us for our wedding, especially when traveling is discouraged that late into pregnancy.
You too sound like real good people 🫂 ❤
My BFF was very pregnant during my wedding and I was so so happy for her! We have pics of me kissing her belly in my wedding dress and her bridesmaid dress! She was the DD at my bachelorette party and said it was hilarious watching the shenanigans while sober. 😂 I love her and the little babe she grew. ❤ People are effing cray.
Well said Jessica!
Designated Drivers are the BEST!
My bestie was 8 months pregnant at my wedding. She had a chair at the front because the ceremony was an hour. She is still my bestie and there was no way she wasn’t going to be in my wedding. That was 1990 and she’s the best.
My sister at my first wedding was heavily preggy and I would've never asked her to step down as a bridesmaid or keep her out of photos. My niece is a lil sassy spitfire just like her mama and I love them to pieces
My best friend in all the world told me that she didn't want me in her bridal party because I was pregnant and would ruin her pictures. That ruined the friendship as far as I'm concerned. I went to the wedding but we lost touch shortly after, I didn't care to keep up a relationship with someone who was so shallow that pictures were more important than the friendship. It's been over 4 decades and it still hurts. Not something I dwell on but when I hear a similar story I relive that hurt. I hope it was worth it to her.
One of my friends got pregnant at her last year in the University. Half of the girls on her faculty (child psycology) were pregnant as well (and were getting married). Not only they happily attended each other weddings while being pregnant, they even shared a wedding dress. Yes, they had one bridal dress for all pregnant brides. The type of dress that fit every stage of pregnancy.
Pregnant with child psychology seems like subject of study incoming
That's wholesome, i study psychology as well, sorry i can't hold back on say this, this is the first thought that came in my mind.
Dude, that’s so sweet! Plus shows how much they care.
That’s pretty amazing actually, I hope someone made a collage of all the brides for them all.
That's awesome!
The Rollercoaster of emotions with story 1. I'm glad that in the end the husband stood by op and her friend
Me too ❤
I fully appreciate and endorse how more chaotic you're becoming, and I have no idea why I have a weird fan crush about it but I'm actually binging all the videos of yours from the past 2 years and I've subbed because I get a really unexpected mental reset by listening to you read stories and act silly.
Thanks for being here. You're a gem.
18:41 do you listen to Owl City?
I was pregnant and my bff’s MOH. I had a good friend hugely pregnant in my wedding. It’s really not a big deal. Good for OP standing up for herself!!!
As a marriage and family therapist, I am loving how these people had hard conversations to be sure about the situation before making their decisions! Amazing on their parts, and wonderful of the Redditors that gave that advice. Charlotte, I love your videos (and your beautiful redheadedness... I have so many screen shots of you to show my hair dresser lol.)
Neither one of them in the first story was being an AH, only the MIL. At first, I was against the bride for demoting her best friend from MOH. But after hearing about what the MIL was doing, that made more sense. And hats off to the fiancé for doing the right thing and disinviting his family for treating his wife and best friend like crap. I wouldn’t want my family doing that. The MIL was being the AH, not the best friend. God bless them! ❤
💯 agree
Agreed, so glad to see the fiancee standing up for his partner the way you’re supposed to! That is a good man and a keeper!
I can not fathom how any woman puts so much stock into "THIS HAS TO BE MY PERFECT DREAM WEDDING! YOU ARE ALL MY PUPPETS" kinda mentality. Everybody has to look the part, everybody has to be their model self.
I dont want to get on a soap box.. but we should all be there for our friends and family, celebrating each other in each and every step along our lives, pregnancy, marriage, kids, loss.. No day is JUST about you. Im sorry, but there it is. We are in this together, and while your wedding day is a day to celebrate your connection to another person.. other people still have birthdays, pregnancies, loss. We should celibrate these things together, as a group of friends, and not focus so much on the ME.. and instead focus on the WE.
IKR. Well said!! I also don't understand the "MY PERFECT DREAM WEDDING BETTER BE PERFECT OR IT WILL BE RUINED AND I WILL NEVER BE HAPPY AGAIN" mindset
Charlotte, love when you say, "There are three sides to every situation: their side, your side, and the truth." My paternal Gma who was my favorite extended family member said this all the time. It was something I have tried to hold onto through the dark times in my life. And it is nice to hear it because it reminds me of good times and tells me that you are a truly sane individual.
I truly don’t understand not being thrilled that your loved one is pregnant regardless of whatever is going on in your life (wedding or otherwise). That last story had me so baffled. Who does that?! Seriously?
So selfish it blows my mind
I'm not even someone who likes kids, and I was over the moon when my brother and his wife told us they were having a baby. Their daughter is 6 now, and I would do anything for her. Love my SIL and the extension of family she brought to us.
Like If they are Not thrilled or If I worry they will Not make a good parental . . . .but If they tried and tried and are so Happy to BE expecting, of cause I would BE thrilled foe them and Not value aethetics or that someone might give them Attention for IT Higher . . . .wtf IS wrong with people?!!!
Agree, like seriously life doesn’t stop for everyone else around you when you get engaged. Should people hold off on health issues, pregnancy & marriage because you got engaged?? Very weird..
Yeah, I will never understand this. My sister-in-law's sister was the MOH at her wedding and she was pregnant and literally no one cared. It wasn't a huge deal, people weren't freaking out and flocking to the pregnant woman, the pictures look beautiful. It's just a person who happens to be pregnant being there for their loved one.
My daughter got married in October and two of her bridesmaids were heavily pregnant, her sister was 35 weeks and her future sister-in-law was 32 weeks. They all looked beautiful, the wedding was wonderful and they all looled fabulous in the photographs. X
I've been a little depressed lately and that 1st story made me so happy.
Not a wedding story but my best friend and I "broke up" once and when we got back together after talking it was the best thing ever. I'm so thankful we took the time and effort to talk it out. She's so fabulous and I'm blessed to have her in my life. ❤
I was a bridesmaid for a wedding in december and one of the bridesmaids was 7 months pregnant. The bride was happy for her. And she had special treatment from everyone as a bridesmaid for it 🥰 We love her so much we would never do something like that to her.
I feel like you and Mike just peer over your "neighbor fence" and enjoy the drama of others without actually being in it xD
I'm picturing Mike looking unimpressed in his merman outfit, whispershouting "Charlotte! Stop it!" as our Potato Queen peers over the top of the fence, relaying the gossip to him over her shoulder.
@@Chuckf66 I feel this must be entirely accurate as I immediately saw this in crystal clarity.
@@Chuckf66 this made my day xD i kackled
13:07 when looking at wedding pictures I have never said or heard someone else say, oh the pregnant maid is just glowing...
My SIL was visibly pregnant at my wedding. It never would have occurred to me to even consider not having her be a full participant in the event, unless it was too strenuous for her.
Congratulations to the former MOH on your pregnancy! May you and the baby both be healthy!
As someone with a platonic soulmate I couldn’t imagine fighting with her let alone something like this! 🥺 I’m so glad they talked, I’ve never felt so happy for two people before
I went to my brothers wedding 5 days prior to my due date. It was fun to talk to people as they got more and more drunk and convinced they could deliver the baby. I had so much fun even though I couldn’t make it through a full song on the dance floor! The photographer at the Photo Booth did some extra photos of my husband and I as we didn’t do a maternity session, it was my brother and sister in laws idea. Honestly I had more fun being pregnant at that wedding then drunk at others!
I am soooooooo happy to know that somewhere out there !! A real man still exist!! And protected his soon to be wife from his family!!!!!! ❤
Re the MOH to her friend of 20+ years: MAKE NEW FRIENDS, BUT KEEP THE OLD. ONE IS SILVER, THE OTHER, GOLD. God bless her for not bailing on her friend when her friend was in trouble.
You’re not the only one that teared up Charlotte! I struggled with infertility for 3 years and if my so-called BFF did this to me I’d be crushed. That OP deserves so much more
Me too, crying. I'm so sorry you struggled 🫂 ❤
@@BrianAndresScott awww, thank you. It all worked out. I have a beautiful daughter that will be 2 in February. Worth the wait 1000%. IVF is amazing!
@kimberlypritchard3772 that's awesome wish her a happy birthday from me
I was 38 weeks pregnant when my husband and I attended one of his best friend's wedding. They were more than understanding that I wasn't partying hard with everyone and were just happy we made it. 💜
You are one of the best creators on youtube. Your personality comes through so naturally. Your channel is definitely one of my favories.
Watching these makes me realize how chill and smooth my wedding was. I was only stressed because I did everything myself (with help of best friend, mom and sister). I threw together a beautiful wedding and only spent around 4000 on everything including dress, bridesmaid dresses, photography, cake, food, decor, venue… everyhing. We sadly didn’t have a full on reception, we just had delicious bbq and delicious cake. I let people bring kids, I let my bridesmaids alter their matching dresses in whatever way they felt suited them best. I let them do their hair and makeup however they felt comfortable and I just went with whatever happened. It was beautiful and memorable and things definitely didn’t go perfectly.
I have decided I like the AITA posts best because I would rather hear Charlotte read the stories than watch other peoples' videos and only get to hear Charlotte speak half the time. 😆
You are a great storyteller, m'dear! And even when I don't agree with your final analysis (rare, but it does happen occasionally 😉 ), I love the perspective you add to these stories. You tearing up over those supportive friends was the sweetest! Thanks for another fun video!!
So glad it all worked out and the groom is definitely a keeper.
The first story made me want to cry 😢 I’m glad they were able to find a middle ground ❤
Story 1 - something similar happened to my friend. The 3 of us went to college together and the friend A got married a few months ago, I was not invited (she’s extremely religious and I’m atheist) but she invented our friend B and asked her to be a bridesmaid too. We live 6hrs away so the bride also offered her guest bedroom for that friend B. Fast forward to the month before weeding, bride let my friend B know she wasn’t going to be a bridesmaid anymore because she invited someone from the church she barley knew and also couldn’t offer the bedroom anymore either. My friend B didn’t go to the weeding and went on vacation with her bf as the money was already saved for the road trip 😂 as she should 💅
That first story was so heartwarming! In the end, it comes down to communication. More is always better. When you don’t have enough, you get problems like that. So glad it eventually got resolved once more communication was had. 😊
Theres three sides to every story... His hers and the truth(the image of the potato 🤣🤣) Love it! ♥️
Thank you Charlotte for making us laugh and making us happy with every video you bestow on us✨
lol that made me lauggh so hard too🥔🥔🥔😅
I got teary-eyed with you. That is a lovely person and a great friend.
Love ya Charlotte
That first story made me start crying! I'm so glad she told the fiance and he kicked his toxic family to the curb so the best friend could be MOH again !!!!! ❤❤❤
The story about the mother in law wanting her daughter to be the maid of honor:
OMG how refreshing! The turn the story took made my day! Not too often we hear ones like this! Yay for op having a good fiancé that nipped that nonsense in the bud! I hope they have a long wonderful life together!!! (Also the most beautiful, peaceful and drama free wedding!!)
Weddings bring out the worst in people. How does a person treat their friends like this? Especially lifelong friends
When they are narcissists, or at the very least have main character/most special unicorn syndrome, they don’t have friends. They have a validation supply and only keep people around who make them feel special. I had a “friend” like this. Every time someone “cooler” came into our lives, I was demoted. When she came out in college (we were housemates), she told me last (after 15 years of friendship) which I understood was out of anxiety but after bounced me for her LGBTQ friends. That is now her whole identity and she comes off as very insincere and superficial. I don’t talk to her anymore, in a “I’m old enough to only have time for people who put effort in for me but” way but funny enough, still talk to her mom on the regular.
for real though
@@TheBaumcm narcissism seems to be sadly skyrocketing
Not gonna lie, I teared up a bit at the reddit reactions to the MOH being asked to not be in pictures. That was the sweetest I have ever seen reddit be.
One of my bridesmaids had her baby 5 days after our wedding. We were thrilled that she made it to the ceremony. We just made sure that she had every opportunity to sit down and she, her husband and their little boy left right after dinner as she was tired. You can hardly tell she was pregnant in our photos because of the way she and her bouquet were positioned, but we would have had no problem with a nice profile shot lol.
Sounds like the bride had pressure on her from the fiancés family otherwise wouldn't have considered changing MOH, stay strong brides, it's ok to say no to people for your big day plans, go with yours heart ❤️
OP: "She's slightly controlling"
Me: 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
And she only got worse and worse as the story progressed...
Crazy selfish
ikr!!
I got married on August 27 2016. My MOH (my sister) had a baby August 16 and my reception was on a boat. I couldn't imagine my wedding pics that we will look at for years to come, and it not have my sister in it ❤️ people are nuts!
One of my closest friends was 9 months pregnant as my bridesmaid. Her son was born barely two weeks later. It never once occurred to me to consider her size in the pictures. I was more worried about whether the experience would be stressful for her, since it's a big task to take on while growing a life. I was so grateful that she never dropped out of the wedding party and have the most lovely pictures capturing her at that special time. At the end of the day, it's supposed to be about sharing a momentous occasion with the ones you love.
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤
Good morning bestie!!
Morning, Sunshine!
Good morning my favorite pettytato ❤
Good morning! God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ, who is the name above all names & the only way to Heaven❤
Oooh, look, that pedantic ahole has a new account and has already spell checked me.. Good morning!
Love the first story! Just goes to show that it isn’t the circumstances that end a relationship but rather how you handle them. Acknowledging you hurt someone, communicating how you are feeling and what is actually happening instead of them thinking the worst, and being honest, not hurtful but honest, will resolve 90% of conflict. In the end, both know they have someone they can count on 100% and the hubby can walk away with a clear conscience.
That first story... Happened to me too. Best friend since 9th grade, held her leg up as she gave birth when we were 18, took care of her child like they were my own...anyway we were SISTERS. Was so thrilled when she found her person who loved her child and called to tell me they'd gotten engaged. She immediately asked me to be her maid of honour and I of course was delighted. A month b4 her wedding she called me and said she wanted to make some girl I'd never heard of or met her MOH too. I was gobsmacked. It felt like a gut punch. Who does that? Her family and everyone else was horrified she did this. It hurt. So I told her I'd come to her wedding but if she was so close to this unknown girl then she can have the job. I wasn't even going to go. I did though. She completely turned her back to me when I went to congratulate her at the church. Was at a table with all our friends and in her speech she thanked everyone who helped her as a single Mom.... never a whisper of me. The entire table looked at me and everyone was like wtf did she really not mention you!!!! Anyway stood up and quietly left. Never spoke to her again. I moved overseas and 14 years later got a msg on FB telling me how she has regretted her actions all these years and missed me. Too much life has gone by to rekindle our relationship.
I really like the way you do this Charlotte, you funny, forgiving and encourage people to talk it out. I really enjoy you vids! UK
At my sister's wedding, one of her bridesmaids was pregnant, about 1-2 months from her due date on the day of the wedding. My sister was so accommodating to her like picking a dress that would fit her well and making sure she was OK the entire day and giving her rest breaks for her feet.
I thought I was the only feeling emotional and crying over that reddit reply talking about the her and her pregnant best friend taking pictures with the belly at her wedding 😭❤
Absolutely not. I'm right there with you
I had a very young guest at my wedding! My SIL was just showing at my wedding. I smile every time I think of my niece because not only is she awesome, but I've seen her grow up with my marriage. I just wish we didn't live far apart.😊
That first story was great!!! So happy they made up and that the new husband is so supportive!! But the drama was delicious! 😂
I heard the first story before. This is why in laws need to be put in place with wedding planning. (And why I'm songrateful my in laws are wonderful people.)
Charlotte I was rewatchin older videos and I have a question. Did you ever get your dad a boat? 😂 Love ya!
Ha😂 I asked the same question about a year ago. I think she did.
I'm old and I forgot 😅 what she answered.
I believe so. And she took her family to Italy and rented a beautiful boat all day letting dad drive and they drank wine and shopped. It was beautiful. She’s so good to her family. I LOVE that about her.
My best friend and I have known each other literally since birth. Our Moms were best friends when we were born. We are super close and yes, soulmates. It is a 55 year friendship! Sometimes it is difficult to share w/ a close friend the trauma we deal with. Generally, those friends are the ones who want to jump in and “fix” problems and who wants someone you love in the middle of a mess that has nothing to do w/ them?? I see both sides to the first situation and am truly glad they were able to work it all out.
I’m so glad to hear the groom had the bride’s back! That’s refreshing amid all the stories you hear about man-children who prioritize their mothers over their wives/significant others.
#1 I was demoted from MOH so her FSILs could both be in the wedding. In fact, I was kicked out entirely and knew it was the Ahole jerk she married that dictated it. I was "given" the job of personal attendant, which I took because I wanted to be there for her for her day and ultimately when the marriage failed (which it did, as I knew it would). MotB actually almost didn't go/ didn't pay because of my demotion, as we'd been in each other pockets since we were 12 years old. Honestly, after the initial hurt I got over it when I examined what was really happening. We were only 21 at this point and she was desperate to get married due to low self esteem which Ahole jerk fostered in her. He systematically destroyed all her relationships, and I was his first target as I was the one who had qualms in the first place. The dresses were ridiculously ugly anyway.
End to the story (crying as I'm typing this). He'd isolated her to the point of desperation, and I hadn't spoken to her in years because she wouldn't/couldn't return calls. One day I woke up with the intense need to call her, and had to call her mom for her number. She'd just finally left the Ahole! Literally did it that week (I get these intense intuition moments a lot). Her mom was so happy to hear from me and said friend had wanted to call me but was embarrassed. We reconnected and remained in contact (long distance) until she died before she turned 44 of aggressive cancer.
ETA she found a great guy that she married and was with her til she died.
That is so sad!! But I'm so glad she found love before she passed,she deserved all the happiness 😞💔
Every time I hear that first story, I'm like, you are my best friend for over 20 years, but you were having someone harass you for 3 years and didn't tell me? I have gone to war with you, and you keep something like this from me. Either you don't hold me in the regard I hold you, or you don't see nothing wrong with what you did.
And the other friends knew the story. Yeah, I agree, there is something wrong there.
Omg, the last story, it made me remember a uni "friend" who was always glad ti help me. Until i got on my feet and at that moment she started behaving weirdly. We sat and talked and she said she didn't like that I take my kid with me everywhere (I was a newly single parent and tgis friend was by my side through the worst of it). I was a bit shocked and explained that this is what single parenting looks like when one handles it all 😂❤🎉 She couldn't handle it so that was that. I am a double package and happy with the outcome.
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I'm awake! Judge Charlotte has entered!! Respect must be given!
These videos always make me so grateful for my friends and family who while A-holes, don't go out of their way to BE A-holes. We had some family drama floating around the same time as my wedding.
Everyone was cool, everyone left their crap at the door. Everyone was there for a family event and the bride (ME 😂) wanted everyone to just visit and enjoy and have a great time. Mission accomplished. No problems, everyone had a great time and everyone has great memories of it.
I cannot imagine the level of delusional some of these people are! 🤣😆🤦♀️
♥️ You Charlotte!