Why a Man Shouldn’t Live With a Woman

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  • @victoryforhip-hop
    @victoryforhip-hop Před 8 měsíci +6

    Kevin Samuels talked about this topic & so many women hated him for telling the Truth.

  • @philipnoble2235
    @philipnoble2235 Před 8 měsíci +14

    Hell no it's not a good ideal. Also I totally agree that a man should live on his own. So he can develop necessary survival skills and a sense of independence.

  • @davidt8381
    @davidt8381 Před 8 měsíci +8

    I can hardly believe it, a woman who actually tells it as it really is and holds herself/ other women accountable. Your channel will definitely succeed because you are down to earth and honest.

  • @toneyeye
    @toneyeye Před 8 měsíci +16

    Living on your own for a while is the absolute prerequisite for both the man and the woman. When you live with someone else, both should be home before bed. I can't sleep with my partner out there on the streets. My worry is not about her cheating or anything like that. I just want to know that every person under my care is safe under my roof before I go to bed.

    • @t.p.anderson1833
      @t.p.anderson1833 Před 8 měsíci +3

      That's how a protector thinks and that's order. My husband has always been that way about our family

  • @johnmcknight1720
    @johnmcknight1720 Před 8 měsíci +10

    A woman with accountability...that's refreshing.

  • @Mental_Alchemist
    @Mental_Alchemist Před 8 měsíci +8

    I moved in with my ex wife😂 while she made more than me. We did the 50/50 thing on the bills and I overcompensated by doing the majority of the house work abt (60/40), while also fixing stuff around the house, yard work, and maintaining the cars.... I thought we were good
    Well long story short.... She became "unhappy"..... She's my ex wife now🤷🏿‍♂️
    We r both now doing 100 of everything alone in separate households..... And she still isn't "happy"

  • @orthopedicmassageLC
    @orthopedicmassageLC Před 8 měsíci +4

    The funny thing to me is, I was never told or taught this. The man in me did not let me have the mindset to move in the a woman unless we are married.

  • @slydoskibelieveinc.7748
    @slydoskibelieveinc.7748 Před 8 měsíci +2

    You've said it all. To men who want to know the truth. When a woman's emotions kick in and she's the one providing the house......... Listen up wise men to this fyne black intelligent woman keeping it real. Thanks for sharing.

  • @user-qd1hm8fc3r
    @user-qd1hm8fc3r Před 8 měsíci +9

    Thank you for your tranparency and admitting what you did wrong in the process...as a single man your points were well taken. BRAVO!

  • @kirkgardner8772
    @kirkgardner8772 Před 8 měsíci +12

    Never, I don’t know how these men move in with these women, giving them all that power over you. I was raised to be the head and not the tail. I cohabitated at ,SIU, never again. When I got married she moved to my house even though her house was closer to our job. Once I realized the marriage was over it was easier for her to leave my house. I’m sure now that I know her character better, she would’ve easily, with a smart ass tone in her voice, put me out.

  • @brandonbrooks7449
    @brandonbrooks7449 Před 8 měsíci +5

    Speaking from personal experience!
    Brothers DON’T MOVE IN WITH A WOMAN I DON’T CARE HOW GOOD SHE MAY SOUND OR PROMISES SHE MAKES OR HOW GOD SHE MAY TRY TO PAINT HOW IT WOULD BE. Have your own set up and have her move in with you.

    • @natashadickson4819
      @natashadickson4819 Před 8 měsíci

      Men already know that A MAN SHOULD HAVE HIS OWN. But when a woman refuses to accept a man who doesn't have his own...oh...the backlash she gets...😂😂😂

    • @brandonbrooks7449
      @brandonbrooks7449 Před 8 měsíci

      @@natashadickson4819
      Speaking for myself. When it was done to me I didn’t feel bad about it. When I got my own I just didn’t allow for no woman to move in with me.

  • @louelmo7349
    @louelmo7349 Před 8 měsíci +3

    "Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then." Katherine Hepburn

  • @tokkie4449
    @tokkie4449 Před 8 měsíci +5

    At least she's honest.i can appreciate her honesty and accountability.

  • @michaelbutler1557
    @michaelbutler1557 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I protect and look after myself. As an adult I don’t need to rely on anybody else to do it.

  • @coachjay1943
    @coachjay1943 Před 8 měsíci +4

    This is why I live with my woman and I keep a apartment on the side. I go there on the weekends and my days offs for my peace of mind and side activities 😅

  • @garryjosy3307
    @garryjosy3307 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I think the best option is to move in together in a new place . Both male and female names on the lease

  • @bigtate123
    @bigtate123 Před 8 měsíci +4

    As a man you should have your on crib

  • @rayday726
    @rayday726 Před 8 měsíci +4

    I agree with you on this 100% it's a NO NO it's just problems on top of problems for all the reasons you laid out & more it just usually never goes smoothly no matter how it goes 4real.

  • @johnwilliams5680
    @johnwilliams5680 Před 8 měsíci +9

    This is a misnomer that men who do this are just bums. Women have invited me to move on with them. And I made more than them. Most of the time it was a balance but one thing I learned from doing so is it won't be considered equal if she has kids or if she becomes disrespectful like your opinions don't matter.
    Lived on my own and doing that now and refuse to allow a woman to disrespect me or think that I'm an ATM either.

    • @coreyward5949
      @coreyward5949 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Dang brother, you preaching to the choir on this one

    • @PhreAnbesa
      @PhreAnbesa Před 8 měsíci +1

      Preach

    • @ralphpinkins5619
      @ralphpinkins5619 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Yes, I agree. Its not a "men who are bums" deal. Its a control issue for these women. I did it twice , due to my ignorance and Ill never put myself in that situation again EVER living with a woman. She has to live in my house. I never grew up with my father or a older person to explain certain manly sh*t and how you supposed to move. So I got the learn as you go, on the job training. Try it , see if it works. That I wont be repeating.

    • @PhreAnbesa
      @PhreAnbesa Před 8 měsíci +2

      @@ralphpinkins5619 that's how the most high works...I can relate to your first name as well as your comment. A clean heart can't be hurt!
      I made the same mistake as well twice...they begged literally so I abliged, paying their rent amongs other things. I value respect and peace before love.

  • @sergiosolis4538
    @sergiosolis4538 Před 8 měsíci +1

    If you're not married and just in a relationship with someone. It's probably best for each to live in their own place. That way you both can have and keep your autonomy.

  • @cimcoder
    @cimcoder Před 8 měsíci +5

    Helena, I love your simplicity. I know that there are only a few women like you out there who are humble enough to send the right message to us (men). Thank you for relating your experience. Thank you for the advise! I will do better to work on these things.

  • @nitro662raw8
    @nitro662raw8 Před 8 měsíci +1

    This is the absolute WORST thing you could EVER do with a woman💯

  • @roberttaylor2916
    @roberttaylor2916 Před 8 měsíci +3

    True when you move into a place together it’s better yet moving in with her not a grand idea, she wants to run things this is my house you can just leave if you don’t like it bla bls bla so I agree . She told me to get out and when I did I swear I was never coming back and I meant it . And I never turned back ..

  • @rowanmurray7523
    @rowanmurray7523 Před 8 měsíci +5

    Marriage is best

  • @sheritownsend5359
    @sheritownsend5359 Před 8 měsíci +10

    I heard it both ways 1. Don't move in with a man because he can put you out with nowhere for you to go and 2. Don't let a man move in with you because you will have a hard time getting him out or if he's truly broke, you may not be able to get him out. In some states, if he lives in your home long enough, per the law, you may find, he's entitled to stay. This isn't about to change anytime soon, because: 1. In the Black community, Black women BEEN doing this. There are too many women who prefer ANY type of man rather than no man and 2. Too many Black men are broke. If they live with a woman, they can get housing plus the "friends with benefits" for free.

    • @SAGwords
      @SAGwords Před 8 měsíci +1

      If you flip the genders around in this post I would be able honestly agree.

    • @Dargodenimco
      @Dargodenimco Před 8 měsíci

      Last time I checked it’s way more black women on public assistance than black men. True enough it’s some broke brothers out here but define broke, Is it can’t afford to pay all your bills and take you to Ruth Chris broke or just straight up broke.

    • @SAGwords
      @SAGwords Před 8 měsíci

      I have experienced all of what you stated from the women of my past. I agree with you. People should not move in with someone who they are intimate with. They shouldn't even know where you live. That's the cherry on top that I would add to what you said.

  • @coolstuffonly
    @coolstuffonly Před 8 měsíci

    OMG! went thru that! FACTS!!!!! She ain't lyin'

  • @stanley-saxman-jones
    @stanley-saxman-jones Před 8 měsíci +2

    You gotta have your own…I feel when a man moves into a woman’s house he’s in position where he’s totally beholden to her…she’s in total control of him and the scenario…if she doesn’t get her way he’s out(basically homeless)…if she says to him “Jump monkey”…his only reply would be “How high boss”….

  • @VG61
    @VG61 Před 8 měsíci +6

    TO be frank, I enjoy some parts of your vlogs, I like them, but I don't really comment.
    Today, I felt like saying something, because you came up with a topic that interest me.
    I am an African born Nigerian, raised in Lagos.
    On my side, I moved in with my wife. She was a government official, an auditor. She helped to finance my studies.
    She saw the potentials that I had and supported that all the way....
    We both earn practically the same amount now, she respects me as her husband, a lovable person, firm and real.
    I am the sigma type who needs my down time, which she gives me... As soon as I am done, I reconnect back to her..
    She German and we've been married now for about 26yrs, and I still deeply LOVE her personality.
    Just from my angle of perception.

    • @Leeshalom
      @Leeshalom Před 8 měsíci +1

      Thank you for sharing
      Your angle of perspective has a lot of layers to peel.

  • @dananblayde7715
    @dananblayde7715 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thanks for giving us this young lady ,we already knew but affirmation is great ..hope u learned from your mistakes and do better next go round!

  • @brianh2476
    @brianh2476 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you for being real. I appreciate you, Helena.

  • @AmmoShockTroop
    @AmmoShockTroop Před 7 měsíci +3

    No man should ever move in with a woman because she ain't his wife and it only takes one small disagreement or mishap to end up on the other side of the door; in other words: kicked out of her house because she resents you. It is always important for a man to have his own place so he doesn't have to worry about put, unless of course, he fails to pay his mortgage, rent or property taxes.

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  Před 7 měsíci

      True! Good point! Thank you for sharing!

    • @AmmoShockTroop
      @AmmoShockTroop Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@HelenaPaschal, it's a another form of complacency.

  • @YahshuaBeTruth
    @YahshuaBeTruth Před 8 měsíci

    You are the most delightful soul seen to put this knowledge out there like this.

  • @michaelbutler1557
    @michaelbutler1557 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Fantastic video.

  • @eduzulu494
    @eduzulu494 Před 8 měsíci

    That's a no brainer because she WILL NEVER RESPECT HIM.
    "Get Out" is coming

  • @mrnobody3949
    @mrnobody3949 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Ironically... knowing all this, She'll Do it again... but never live w a woman, never trust that she'll do what she says because they ALL share the same mind.

  • @SmarticalBoy12
    @SmarticalBoy12 Před 8 měsíci

    Facts excellent video

  • @michaelbutler1557
    @michaelbutler1557 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I agreed with your video as soon as I read the title.

  • @texastea9966
    @texastea9966 Před 8 měsíci

    Thanks!

  • @poobado
    @poobado Před 8 měsíci

    Good honest video.

  • @michaelgreen693
    @michaelgreen693 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I agree with you, this moving in with a women is a no no, because there is going to be a problem, what you is true.

  • @waynekitchen7134
    @waynekitchen7134 Před 8 měsíci

    I love being single at 50 yrs old and own a nice home...I am very independent... I work for myself....And i have no extra baggage,no drama, just peace✌️.... I have two children who love me very much and are Grown and on their own....I Thank GOD everyday for What he has given me for hanging in there and never giving up...( Thank You Again )

    • @waynekitchen7134
      @waynekitchen7134 Před 8 měsíci

      I don't understand why Men don't own their own Home... that just baffles me !

  • @user-mx7hg9sx4p
    @user-mx7hg9sx4p Před 8 měsíci

    Interesting story time ❗💯🔥👍

  • @brianpaschal5430
    @brianpaschal5430 Před 8 měsíci +1

    How fascinating including ironic Ms. Paschal. You've got the same last name as I do, that's actually really kind of cool. Right on.

  • @frederickgolden6694
    @frederickgolden6694 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I would never do it, just living with my own mother and one aunt until i went out on my own at 17 was enough to tell me that from there on, i needed to live a separate and autonomous lifestyle and even if a man makes more than a woman does, she will become an antagonist to try dominating you until acrimony develops between the two parties, it's just the nature of it folks...

  • @yahnaza
    @yahnaza Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you ❤

  • @rowanmurray7523
    @rowanmurray7523 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Experience is always true 👍 !

  • @thedopeconversationspodcast
    @thedopeconversationspodcast Před 8 měsíci +1

    Wow, salute to you for being honest lol

  • @777macdude
    @777macdude Před 8 měsíci

    Strongly agree

  • @nathanpayne5262
    @nathanpayne5262 Před 8 měsíci

    That is good information

  • @t.p.anderson1833
    @t.p.anderson1833 Před 8 měsíci +1

    A man that loves you WANTS to come home because he respects you AND he wants to be with you. Whatever happened to building TOGETHER?

  • @kyonsparks2782
    @kyonsparks2782 Před 8 měsíci

    Thank you

  • @Jazzyblackdrummer
    @Jazzyblackdrummer Před 8 měsíci +10

    Preach sister I know from personal experience that a woman is going to make your life a “living hell” if you move in with her.

    • @Armyvet55
      @Armyvet55 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Exactly 💯 👏 😂😂😂😂😂don't do it

    • @donnachavous6840
      @donnachavous6840 Před 8 měsíci +3

      A living hell to a man in many instances is not being held accountable and not being able to do things that would be of detriment to the relationship. If a man plans on doing the right thing there should be no problems. Would a man expect that the woman still hangs out all night???? Is checking out porn, receiving calls and texts from men still ok for women??? Should we not work around the house not contribute financially??? Both parties just need to do what they know is right and equitable.

    • @kimcham9949
      @kimcham9949 Před 8 měsíci

      ​@@donnachavous6840: 👍🏾🎯💯❤️

  • @nathanpayne5262
    @nathanpayne5262 Před 8 měsíci +2

    I wouldn't marry a woman who thinks I'm there to take care of her we can take care of each other an not at fifty fifty.

  • @stewartgibbs9265
    @stewartgibbs9265 Před 8 měsíci +1

    I agree 👍

  • @brodeythedisciplinebarber1117

    Well im glad you honest but i already know this.😅😅

  • @donnachavous6840
    @donnachavous6840 Před 8 měsíci +4

    Many times men expect to continue to operate as a bachelor after moving in and say well we aren’t married and I am a grown man and can do whatever I want. However, their expectations of women are totally different.
    Men should not just move in as though they are a roommate with benefits. They still need to be held accountable in the relationship.

  • @tyroneh3540
    @tyroneh3540 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Wow woman telling it how it is. ❤

  • @batman6749
    @batman6749 Před 8 měsíci +3

    hell naw i well never move in with a female im not trying to play house its tiime to put a ring on it if thats the case

  • @JoeyT
    @JoeyT Před 8 měsíci +2

    Second video and this is all true. I’ll never move in with a woman again after what happened in 2012.

  • @mimisliveboutique3543
    @mimisliveboutique3543 Před 22 dny

    Mistake of my life! Never do it again.

  • @JOEYDEEZ369
    @JOEYDEEZ369 Před 8 měsíci

    Hi Helena yes I used to think this too but I’m inclined to change my mind at least for today (it’s a ladies prerogative) hahahahah - I think if it’s true bona fide love on both sides union then why not - just get a bigger house - for me though separate bedrooms and bathrooms is a must - yuh gotta keep the mystery going as this makes for more excitement and spontaneity which is so highly important in a romantic relationship - I do not do mundane or the habitual - I’m quite the unpredictable spontaneous kinda of individual hahahahah you thinks you’re getting one thing with me but you end up getting something you did not expect but it’s all the good stuff consistently so there’s no need to threat or worry - living with I is actually a great experience because I’m so laid back - I do mot sweat the little stuff - I’m exciting like a kid tbh and you have complete autonomy over your own time and space (in your mind) as well as literally & with absolutely no arguments from me as I like my time alone and my space - I am a natural loner but can be a social butterfly when the need calls for it - I’m not a woman that wants to be tied to her partner at all times as that feels way too suffocating and I’m way too free spirited to succumb to this kind of neediness in any man as it’s off putting to I hahahahah - I’m kinda a introverted extrovert if you like (is there such a thing) I dunno but I am one all the same - relationships especially if it’s a divine fated one is the only one I am after and interested in - I will never look for love (I’ve never had to btw) I let it find me because it always has and it always will it’s just a matter of time patience and discipline !
    That’s my take on this interesting subject Miss P
    Cheers for this enlightening video I think you delivered it very well indeed hun..
    I wish you a fabulous Thursday in all its entirety hahahahah
    Ciao for now muchacho;)

  • @edwardcollins9727
    @edwardcollins9727 Před 8 měsíci

    yes u are right we are married but she makes more than me but I pay my share of the bills but she want control at all times

  • @gwillis9797
    @gwillis9797 Před 8 měsíci

    Man, forget dat!
    That is just inviting trouble, in the mind and other ways.
    Anyway, people move in with each other before they even get to know the person! Then when trouble starts they write in a ( social app ) for help because either they do have true friends or they don't want to hear the truth from their friends.

  • @deyantaenewson5540
    @deyantaenewson5540 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Helena, hope you good. Thanks for sharing. Fellas, Never Ever Move in with a Woman ! She will 4$HO put your Ass out. No disrespect, but a lot of women's feelings go up and down. One day she likes you, the next day she don't. Can be very moody. All it takes is for her to have a bad day one time and you will be gone. Men get your own place ! Also, No Serious relationships before 30-35. Give yourself time to Grow in your career, finances, and life.

  • @eladmitchell752
    @eladmitchell752 Před 8 měsíci

    never again,theyll change and territorial on u,have yr own place and rules,they come to yr home and try to change things,leave items in yr place,dont do it fellas,plus if things get sticky theyll put u out 😂hell no ,i experience this head on

  • @AntwuanJ
    @AntwuanJ Před 8 měsíci +1

    I've been watching your channel for awhile. I have a request from you. I would love for you to expand on the statement you made. "After so many years the thrill is gone." Because so many women are so in a rush to move in with a man because they think it's going to be a love story movie everyday.

  • @DBSMOOV
    @DBSMOOV Před 8 měsíci +1

    If a man needs this video, he already lost

    • @HelenaPaschal
      @HelenaPaschal  Před 8 měsíci +1

      True! It can serve as a reminder just in case he’s thinking about it.

  • @clivematthews95
    @clivematthews95 Před 8 měsíci

    Hi, you look very lovely btw ❤
    Anyways, I don’t know but I think your demands or expectations weren’t unreasonable in your relationship. Your man should be in the house around the time you wanna sleep, and I’m not gonna say he was wrong for choosing to go be with his friend at the time you were hurting from a toothache, but it wouldn’t even be a question where I would spend my time simply because I love showing care and consideration to my woman.
    But yeah, I totally agree, or at least, I don’t believe in moving in with a partner when I’m unable to be on my own two feet. I just think, I’d feel useless and I would wanna kick myself out after a specific period of time because I would be convinced I’m not bringing in enough, in the relationship I mean. Patience matters when you love someone, waiting it out proves commitment and even if it might be inconvenient, it still gives the relationship the best chance to last. Because, as the saying goes, “absence makes the heart grow fonder” 😊
    Great video, and great discussion ❤🙏🏾

  • @anntiup
    @anntiup Před 8 měsíci

    BAD MOVE! THIS IS A HUGE MISTAKE MADE BY MANY MEN.
    I DID THIS 32YRS AGO AND IT
    TAUGHT ME A LOT ABOUT WOMEN. IF I TELL ANY YOUNG MAN TODAY, DO NOT MOVE IN
    WITH ANY WOMAN..BAD IDEA
    😄 🚫

  • @circutr2080
    @circutr2080 Před 8 měsíci

    Lookie here 👀 what a fine woman ❤

  • @darnellwalker1183
    @darnellwalker1183 Před 8 měsíci

    2 words living with a woman: Get out!

  • @ebonyjohnson758
    @ebonyjohnson758 Před 8 měsíci

    Once their shoes by door u can't getting to leave they'll try act like he wasn't ask to leave I'm done

  • @melvinthompson3357
    @melvinthompson3357 Před 8 měsíci +1

    we we that real talk I say take at least a year maybe longer to really get to know each other then see where it go or No thank you H P

  • @nathanpayne5262
    @nathanpayne5262 Před 8 měsíci +1

    A wife should move in live with her husband

  • @jeffreylocke7592
    @jeffreylocke7592 Před 8 měsíci

    Men shouldn’t let other men in their relationship

  • @AntonioMDAndre
    @AntonioMDAndre Před 7 měsíci +1

    LOL

  • @marleyjanim5033
    @marleyjanim5033 Před 8 měsíci

    Don’t you have a twin in Oklahoma

  • @garfordstew5958
    @garfordstew5958 Před 8 měsíci

    That wasn't a good man sister period and u seems like real open minded lady with grass root principle...even though I don't know u like that..but u seems reasonable and he mess up his self loosing a good lasy

  • @arijones9564
    @arijones9564 Před 8 měsíci +1

    A man and a woman shouldn't live with a woman, but a HUSBAND and WIFE should live together.

  • @dfawkes55
    @dfawkes55 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Hmmm...... maybe a man should marry the woman and stop playin' dolly-house with her. 'Cause he know he don' like being in no d-house. Be a man.... make a stand marry the woman and live fully with her. Thanks Helena for your experience on this matter. I will share it with the other single men and women in my contacts.

  • @kimcham9949
    @kimcham9949 Před 8 měsíci

    Married men live longer, and are *healthier* than single men.
    Single women live longer, and are *healthier* than married women.
    *Women* ! Figure it out! You know what to do. 😏

    • @efasina1
      @efasina1 Před 8 měsíci

      So why do married women outlive their husbands most of d time. You are confusing sisterhood...