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I met my wife in college. I played basketball, she played soccer. 14 years later we still exercise together
Love it! Thank you for watching!
I met mine in college as well brother. We still are very active 29 years later, but it helps to me to meet them in college when neither of you have much. I can without question tell you, Everything we have we got it together. So we litterally move money from one account to another depending on who can get their card out the fastest...lol We don't have no his and hers accounts...that's the biggest crock of nonesense. If I'm going to have separate accounts, I'll just move in with my homeboy and have as many women as possible. These folks kill me talking about they are married but they split the bills, but that is what happens when you marry a woman at 42. No one wants to share, they just want the look of being married.
Men love Women with a Sweet and Kind disposition. It goes a long way
I agree! Thank you for watching!
facts, nurturing, friendly, and funny, who cares what career you have, because we don't want your money. Usually, the only men who ask you for money are dusties
As a woman with 8 brothers; you’re ABSOLUTELY correct ma’am. They say that all of the time!!
@@HelenaPaschalyour content is dope and very informative. Black women don't realize their true beauty, I retired from the Navy last year and I've traveled the world and nothing is more beautiful than black women. Most of the black men I know prefer and want to marry black women but they have to constantly deal with their nasty attitude and let's be honest their unrealistic standards. I'm 39 with no kids, and own a house but to many sisters, they view me as a corny dude because I don't possess a certain swag, but for me, my only choice is black women. God bless. keep grinding.
Facts. It's our kryptonite.
From what I've seen, there is a subculture of Black women who take pride in conflict. To Black women who take part in that subculture, being willing to engage in conflict is considered strength.
Oooh I hadn’t thought about that but I have seen it. I don’t understand it at all! Thank you for sharing this perspective, I had forgotten about it. Thank you for watching!
It's not about "taking pride." If you dig deeper, it comes from the survival mode of trying to protect one's femininity, which is often under attack. Had Blacl American communities, COLLECTIVELY made it a priority to nourish the femininity of Black American women, girls, and Maidens, they would not have had to feel they were in fight or flight mode. You cant give your women masculine roles and then criticize some of them on their "lack of femininity." 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼
It's not about "taking pride." If you dig deeper, it comes from the survival mode of trying to protect one's femininity, which is often under attack. Had Blacl American communities, COLLECTIVELY made it a priority to nourish the femininity of Black American women, girls, and Maidens, they would not have had to feel they were in fight or flight mode. You cant give your women masculine roles and then criticize some of them on their "lack of femininity." 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼 🌼
🤔🤔 I never thought about it being a subculture of aggression & conflict.
I had a woman like that tell me “it attracts men because they want to get to know the sweet woman underneath”. Yes she really said that!
Can’t fix a problem until you recognize there is one. Kudos to you. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.
Exactly. Too many black females don't see any problem in anything they do.
So refreshing to see real black women out here that understand what men want. 🥰
Keep it up sis!
As a man i appreciate the work you do, i pray God continue to give you the strength to keep showing up.
I have an MBA, an undegrad degree in Computer Science, multiple certifications and I'm a six figure earning entrepreneur. My wife who is also Black has a bachelor's degree in Computer Science. We met during a summer internship at the corporation that hired us both after college.
Most of the BM in my circle are married to BW that we met during our HBCU college days. That said the only Black men in my circle who are married to WW are the brothers who didn't go to college but are entrepreneurs.
I say all of this to say, If a BW truly wants to get married, college is a perfect time to find a mate. You ladies got a captive audience of BM trying to level up. After that college time period, results may vary. Be well.
My youngest son is going through this right now. He joined the Marines 3 years ago and I told him when you join travel the world and continue to learn how to be a man without being underneath your parents. I told him don't get married yet because you're not ready for that you need to grow some more. But he gets married and he gets married to a young lady that has the boss chick(In College)attitude. Now a lot of guys accused me of pandering to women on my videos but I do call out bad attitudes I just don't believe in putting all black women in the same category that's all. Anyhow this young lady she's a nice gal but her mom has trauma and her mother projected that trauma onto her and she has projected trauma onto my son. So much so that he got tired of it and said I want a divorce. The young lady was distraught and her grandmother who has since stepped in and gave her counsel. She went up to where he's living now and she was good for a little while but he re-enlisted and wants to move to Japan she copped attitude with that. yet she wants to travel but only under her terms. To make a long story short they've only been married for a year-and-a-half and he's already mentally worn out and the other day he told her he's not sure if he loves her anymore. And that's what's happening with a lot of young men. So the good ones I going to be punished because of the bad ones.
He married too soon to a bad attitude! I know it is emotionally draining for him and your family. It's destructive! I personally do everything I can to protect my energy, I can feel a bad attitude before it even gets near me. What is your advice to him now? Marriage counseling?
Thank you for saying this. I pray your sisters listen to you because they aren’t listening to black men. I pray more black women will start holding each other accountable more.
@@HelenaPaschal nice video fam
@@HelenaPaschal They tried that but she was too defensive. I hate to admit it but I told him to cut his losses before they start having children. I don’t like divorce however you cannot make a person want to act right
Seems like youngins in this generation divorce like they change socks.
My mother sells products at events every year, and it is a sad truth that for years, it is the BLACK PEOPLE who walk past her table, never speak, and never purchase. On the contrary, it has always been the white people who will stop by for a friendly chit chat, purchase, exchange cards, and come back the next year looking for her again. FOR YEARS YA'LL!
Same with my family. When we moved into a predominantly white suburb it was the black families that walked past us while we tried making eye contact with them to speak, while the white people come over, shake our hands ask about our daughter and our dog, invite us over, all of the things. Whether the white people are fake or whatever, these are our experiences with our own people.
I feel your pain! I know exactly what you mean! I'm sorry she has endured it for years. It's no joke! Thank you for watching!
@@HelenaPaschal We've definitely got to do better, I know that for sure.
Remember, our nation has been broken and taught to hate each other and love our oppressors. And being separated from your community and assimilating to theirs, confirms you are a broken slave and no threat to whyte supremacy. The moment you get a few black people together and practice economic exclusivity, watch how quick you become thier enemy.
I grew up in shelters during grade school. My best friend came from a wealthy family and would take me on trips, snowboarding, or to their beach house.
Didn't have any black friends till I moved to the Bay Area 😂😂
I believe it.
30 years of marriage and I am still in love with her.
I was married to an educated "black"woman for 17 years.
That woman damn near drove me crazy!
are you also educated?
I gave up encouraging working out because the response was always “I’m not sweating out my hairdo.” I’m in the gym 4 times a week (sometimes mornings and sometimes evening ) and guess who I rarely see. Those I do see works there. I’m not even entertaining a woman who is not already focused on fitness.
Dude , they love being obese . Black women think that they should be able to get a man no matter how they look .
I worked on a college campus for 20 years, and it was inevitable that black females would go to the rec for the first 2-3 weeks of the semester, then you would never see them again fake working out. They would come back just to watch the guys play basketball.
Wow! How many BW gave you that response?!
@@MsOrganicBlack I go to the gym 3 times a week I see all women except Black women.
@@MsOrganicBlack
Have you seen any chances in their behavior !!!!?? Hell they're still busting at the seam bcoz they still don't know how to walk away or back away from the SEE-FOOD BAR if you get my drift . No pun intended .
YA'LL SISTA'S SHE'S GIVING YA'LL WISE ADVICE!!!
Thank you for watching!
Thank you Mrs lady it's nice to hear that from a educated black woman. Thank you thank you ❤
Helena we give you credit for attempting to fix this mess that has arisen post civil rights era 50 something years now. We need our men to remain disciplined & focused on their paths. We need our women to just be COOPERATIVE.
But, the question is what are you trying to gain cooperation in. What's the plan? Where are you going?
@iamretired5894 No I'm not. What is the plan is a smart question. No woman or man should sign up for a life long commitment with a person who cannot articulate the vision. When my boyfriend and I started to get serious one of the first conversations we had was how our future looked as retirees and how to fund it. Any man who cannot talk about their vision is only play acting.
@wayhep31 Displined and focused on what? Black men collectively and most individually own nothing. " Nothing from nothing equals nothing"; there's a song about it. What industry do Black men own and control? What land, what infrastructure, what nation? The answer is nothing as Black men in the USA. Nothing as Black people collectively. Can't follow when there is no lead. Can't cooperate when there is no clear direction. Well, the direction is clear to...whtye folks. They do provide your basic needs to even live, but according to you, Black men do that. Nah. How about Black men go own and control land, infrastructure, a nation; then you won't have to worry "submission" or being an "alpha" or "high value man".
@@MsSnuTell me you're single without telling me you're single
@mrmitchell4089 whether I'm single or not doesn't mean anyone should sign up for blind obedience, male or female. I find ppl who can not be transparent are usually very fearful.
Wife: A woman who understands that she needs to learn, practice, and leverage skills in support of those qualities that she desires in her man.
I am an educated black woman and I have been married for 27 years. I have been feminine since I was in high school and I have never been a loud person. I never thought my degree benefited my future spouse.
My last relationship told me that I was rude and disrespectful. I was too masculine for him. In my line of work, I have to be on my stuff. I am working on my attitude now. Thank you for having this conversation.
Wow, I really love the authenticity in your channel and your delivery. I turned my daughters and my wife onto you. And as a man I'm learning a lot. You have a way of conveying topics that men and women need to hear in a non-confrontational way yet you still get your point across like a female Doctor Phil. LOL
Awwww, thank you! And I receive that "female Doctor Phil"--I asked God to use my voice to speak on relationship topics with a servants heart. I'm learning a lot from the comments whether positive, negative, or just sharing stories--it's a win-win! Thank you for sharing my thoughts with the women in your life, I appreciate it!
I heard nothing but TRUTH here. Love you too sis. God bless you. 👍
God bless you, too! Thank you for watching!
People think BM date outside our race because of some sort of status or validation of being with another type of woman. It's not. BM don't think like this. Real men aren't seeking validation from anyone and especially from any other race where this is concerned. It's all about the circumstances under which they met and how much peace the woman is providing.
Do not punish the man you just met according to the issues you had in your past. Have a welcoming and peaceful spirit. It's possible to be polite, respectful, and peaceful while also being careful of whom you are attaching yourself. BM want BW for wives do not let anyone tell you differently. The question is whether BW can make the mental and attitude switch to have us invest in them. For those that can, you will be successful. Of that I have no doubt.
Thank you! I believe BM want BW for wives, too! BM go through a lot and a bad attitude would be non-negotiable for me, too! Thank you for sharing your perspective and for watching!
@@terence.jI see it all around me everyday as well I notice a big amount of BM just minding there business and not even bothering with pursuing whenever I go to public places in the city I see many groups of young guys hanging together and In there own world
No, you don't, all you ever wanted was white skin and straight hair.
Keep preaching the gospel to our people. Heavenly blessings to you.
Helena, you and I do not often see eye-to-eye on some of your opinions, especially your discussion on single mothers. However, I applaud you 100% on this topic and the points you made. You completely nailed it. Women: listen to everything Helena said on this video. Rewatch it if you must. She put out some gems that will help you if you are looking for a man. If you do exactly what she said on this video, you will land yourself a good man. I knew within one week of meeting my wife that I would marry her. She brought peace and still does…. 19 years of marriage and counting. For what it’s worth, I am a black male and she is a white female. I could not get peace from the various sisters I dated so I went outside my race and found what I was looking for. Once again, excellent work here Helena!!!
I wish I could send this to my wife without her saying I’m trying to control her.
If she watches CZcams videos she may find the channel interesting. I wouldn’t single out one video, she may watch it if catches her attention.
🤣🤣🤣 i know that's right
Kudos to you ma’am for telling the truth which happens to be the truth for a lot women who won’t tell the truth. They’ll tell their truth. But not the Truth.
I appreciate your understanding and keeping it real. You’re spot on
So far so good. Just started listening. Seem courteous and nice. That’s always a good start.
Throughly enjoyed the discussion. It is a timely word that is much needed today. Blessings ❤
Thank you for your candor and reality, God bless what you are doing.
You are absolutely correct in every point. Thank you🙌🏾🫶🏾
I like this woman!! Striking the right balance will endear you to your man. I married my wife because she is "SWEET", "WARM-HEARTED" and "DIGNIFIED". Her personality is what won me over. My sweet Levette!!
This Nupe Thanks You For All Of This!
Thank you so much! This AKA appreciates you!
Sweet, nice, kind, sense of humor, easy to get along with, helpful, stylish, classy, intelligent.
You ARE GREAT! Please keep up the great work! It's refreshing to hear you tell the story of "The One!" I ask all married people the exact same questions as well!
This video is a breath of fresh air! Protect this beautiful queen at all costs, love it!
Thank you so much for your video, I really appreciate your honesty, would love to meet you.
Thank you for your honesty.
I appreciate your authenticity and words of wisdom . ❤❤
My God you are on point, write a book with this information and send my cut 😊...Great information this talk is needed.......
This black woman has been told that she is too nice! I’ve encountered men who want to argue or be called names. I have a gentle nature and detest loud talking and arguing. I appear boring and too passive to black men. However, I am a trained listener and hear every word that is be sad. Can smell B.S. a mile away, so I just move on, they can argue and create drama all by themselves, I can wait
Said
Same. Men like trauma and negativity.
Subbed!!! You spoke 1000% Truth.., to the tenth power, lovely lady. Thank you for that. Thank you for BEING!!! 🙏
I appreciate your insight
I just subbed to your channel. Great content.
Great video. I've always supported the education of every woman I've been with because that's not intimidating. You hit it out the park with code switching because both genders need to do it.
Code switching, we know how to do it! I think we just needed a gentle reminder that it works in relationships, too. Thank you for watching!
Agree… support is very important and should be equal on both sides. One is no greater than the other and if you both have genuine love for each other
I understand codeswitching but I don't think real divine femininity can be turned on and off like a switch
Wow!!, you popped up on my feed for the first time and so happy you did. Are you even for real🤔 Are there really women out there like you🤔
Just your voice alone is a turn on along with your beauty. Love everything you have said👍🏿 All we want is fit feminine frendly beautiful and peace😊 Contrary to popular belief,we do love our beautiful black women❤ If black women would listen to you,we would not need to go anywhere else💯
Thank God 🙏 for being honest! Never be afraid to tell the Truth!
I detected no lies this content or context👍🏾. Thank for this PSA!!!
Sis...loving the commentary....truth spoken!
Thank you for watching!
@@HelenaPaschal You're welcome!
Great video. ⚡️
Another wonderful video 👍🏿❤️✊🏿
Much appreciated! Thank you for watching!
Great topic. Thanks for sharing.
You exactly correct. Most educated or Boss Babe BW are not desired, because they have extremely masculine, loud and uncooperative attitudes. I was married to one of these type women, and it was a nightmare. I am also a business owner, educated, retired Marine, and I purposely stay away from BW customers. They are the absolute worst to deal with, so I price them out of my services from the start, don't need the headache. Thank God I have a peaceful, fit friendly, feminine and cooperative black wife. New subscriber here, and I love your channel.
Excellent video!
Great content!
Yessss you are preaching 💯 % facts on this one being at peace goes a very long way & scenarios are real that's what really made me experiment and date outside of race only thing I would say though is the 50/50 thing should be more of an energy/partnership vs. the financial part but other than that I agree on your points 👍🏼🙏🏽
Peace is everything! It's priceless. Thank you sharing your perspective and for watching!
@@HelenaPaschal Yesss it really is priceless and no prob 👍🏼
Great job 👏 thank you 🤓
Very true. A woman having Education and money are not MAJOR requirements for secure successful men. They care more about how the woman makes him feel. But, education and money are major requirements for secure successful women because most don't want to be the breadwinner because they don't want to be used and taken advantage of.
Well Said Helena!!!!!
👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 ❤
I appreciate this.
You hit the nail on the head when you stated that your friends’ wives are peaceful. People get caught in the natural and it’s hard to be sweet when you get caught up in the trappings of the material world. If more people would stop to meditate and focus on your spiritual self instead of the material things in the world (I.e. career, education, your looks). You continually talk about positive energy and that is spot on! We are spiritual beings having a human experience and if we focus on that we’ll have a more PEACEFUL existence.
This was good
Great advice!👊🏾
Well said Sister! 💯
Thank you for watching!
great show
Educated blk men do marry educated blk women.
And end up divorced. Most times.
We marry black women. We don’t care about their education.
I agree, my entire friend circle are all college educated and married to college educated. They also all come from middle class homes which I think makes a different in how people behave. A ghetto black person will always be ghetto no matter how educated.
@@tjandcj123 correction. Jesus was ghetto.
Malcom X,MLK,Garvey,etc... all Ghetto.
The whole enjoyment you have in life was created by those from the ghetto. Suburbs & rich people don't offer anything of actual value to the earth. Repent.
Real talk, sis. ✌🏾✌🏾
Over a year and a half I left a woman who I still love today, but I will never go back to because I want a "WIFE". Not another "Girlfriend".
You are helping them sister. Tell the truth I just hope they listen to you.
Sister you are so on point 👍 with this, I have a hard time with my own sisters just because of how I look and I never understood this, I am trying to be more nice to my guy as well to simmer myself down, I pray black women become more of a support system for each other.
I love your content sister Helena. I'm Abiodun Aderonmu from Nigeria
I am an African, I have worked for the health sector for few years, I dated a Jewish white woman who is a medical doctor, a good number of my family members did not like the idea of me dating a white woman, some of my older brothers asked me if i had never seen a Black woman, others will say "what possessed you into marrying a white woman?", I will laugh it off and change the topic, in my mind they spoke like that because they come from the older generation because some of my sisters and brothers were born in the 1960s and 70s, we went ahead and got married. She comes from a liberal Jewish white family and are active members of the Democratic party (except my ex wife). I will like to remind you Black Americans, most White Democrats speaks awful about you, they would say things like "You are not like African Americans, Africans have culture, they behave well and they love education". To cut the story short, we got divorced, I was looking to date Black American woman, one thing I didn't tell you is that most of these educated Black woman at the hospital were hostile to me, most likely because I had a strong African accent, the woman who liked me the most were White woman. Now am dating an Asian woman. Educated Black woman need to stop their hostility against their man, go back to the feminine beings you are and made to be. I think we have work to do as Black people across the world.
BLACK PEOPLE KNOW WHAT THOSE DEMOCRATS SAY ABOUT BLACK PEOPLE. SO SAYS THE PEOPLE THAT DID SLAVERY AND RACISM AND DISCRIMINATION AND HAVE THE NERVE TO SPEAK ABOUT BLACK AMERICANS!
So you think the Republicans say nice things about black people?
Makes sense I met my wife in college, we have been married for over 16 years four kids and our son just started college.
Amen Sis!
Tks.
Also, I think our women have another trait that I had to work on myself and that is being a doormat. I am very nice and I realized I was almost too nice and it was hard for me to say no but I learned just to say no in a nice way. I truly did not know how to hurt someone’s feelings in a nice way. It’s a balancing act I had to learn.
Very true! Thank you for reminding me. I forget that sometimes people can be too nice and get walked on like a doormat. I have experienced that in my life not in relationships but with my family. Thank you for sharing your perspective and for watching!
Facts.
So glad you are talking about this bc it really breaks my heart when I see this in our women and hear men saying this as well. My mom made me aware of my weight but I also noticed that the whyte women I work with have their health as a standard among each other.. I have been called out (sneaky way) lol by them and I was like I need to be careful lol but it taught me to be more mindful of my weight.
Thank you! A gentle nudge is all we need to redirect our focus on health and weight. Most of us know when we need to work on it and we know what to do fix it. Thank you for watching!
These men are cheating on beautiful black women all day every day, regardless of their perfect weight and looks. Black women are brainwashed into thinking that relationships are just their fault. Don't take advice from whyte women, they are just trying to throw you off THEIR tracks and get into your head. They are trying to take the black woman's man, so they only gonna tell you something obvious, not their secrets on how they get and keep black men.
But I do know some of them. SEE BELOW.
When whyte women get angry, they go silent treatment. Many don't complain, they go silent since black men don't like to be held accountable for their actions and hear a woman's "mouth". They are passive-aggressive instead of overtly.
They make sure they do the opposite of what a black woman would do, to exert their superiority over black women. This makes them appear "better" than black women, to black men.
They rarely make threats, but if they do it's strategic.
Whyte women try to stay fit to exert power over men, by using fear tactics. Black men know white women will leave them and will have options due to their fitness and WHITENESS. They silently plan their leaving. Also, black men know that whyte women will cheat on them and most likely will find someone "better, ie more money and status" than them. This tarnishes and damages the black man's ego and messes with his psyche. He already thinks "white" is better, so when he is rejected this way, he feels lower than low, but ironically also gain more awe for WHITE POWER.
Whyte women have little boundaries when it comes to sex since many don't have strong moral codes against certain acts like some black women do. Sexual perversion is not in the whyte women's vernacular. They SHOW black men that they idolize the black man's penis (stroking their egos and manparts) and are just as nasty, freaky, and perverted as them. Also, black men don't have to be ashamed of being perverted while dating them, unlike when they dated black women.
Most whyte women, don't bring up Jesus or the bible. If they do, they don't follow God's commandments, it's very surface stuff. They know black men are done with Jesus and God. Jesus or God is not that important to many whyte women anyway. Many Whyte women will choose their man over their surface faith; unfortunately, black men respect this. Black men may act like they know God or reference God just to save face in the community, but secretly they are done with him.
Whyte women follow black men in their corruption, without reserve. If black men want to scam, she will follow. If black man wants to steal, she will follow. If black man wants to do his mama dirty, she will follow. If black man wants to do drugs, she will follow. If black man wants to cheat the IRS, she will cover for him. She will be his accomplice in whatever he desires as long as she gets a benefit in the process.
They make sure black men think they are faithful, even when they are cheating. They use protection when they cheat, like Plan B pill or condoms, or get secret abortions, to make sure they only get pregnant by their "black man". This further makes them appear 'better" than black women, since a lot of black women have sex with men unprotected, end up getting pregnant, and then not know who the baby's father is. Black women will often try to pass the baby as their husbands or boyfriends that they cheated on, only to get trapped later, which makes black women look worse than whyte women.
Whyte women try to be more directly active in schooling their children or they pay someone to do it. They are constantly teaching their kids, with conversations, like when they are at the grocery store, the doctor's office, in the car, etc. Black man sees this as respectable. They aren't cursing out their kids, in public, they are actually teaching them (sorry black women, we got to do better on this for real!).
Whyte women refuse to do all the housework when they have children. They teach their children as soon as they walk to clean up their messes. Black men respect this since they don't like being in a messy house, but don't like house chores themselves. Black men love to see the kids under control this way because it takes the pressure off of them getting off their butts and helping!!
They use the English language more properly and in a sexy manner. Something that a lot of black folks don't know how to do. Too much slang. This is an asset to black men, something else he can gain from whyte women to improve himself and their children.
Last but not least, THEY LEAVE BLACK MEN WHEN IT IS HABITUAL DISRESPECT! It don't take them no 12 years to leave a man that won't marry them and constantly disrespect her unless he got FAT MONEY!
I hope you take heed!!
@@HelenaPaschal These men are cheating on beautiful black women all day every day, regardless of their perfect weight and looks. Black women are brainwashed into thinking that relationships are just their fault. Don't take advice from whyte women, they are just trying to throw you off THEIR tracks and get into your head. They are trying to take the black woman's man, so they only gonna tell you something obvious, not their secrets on how they get and keep black men.
But I do know some of them. SEE BELOW.
When whyte women get angry, they go silent treatment. Many don't complain, they go silent since black men don't like to be held accountable for their actions and hear a woman's "mouth". They are passive-aggressive instead of overtly.
They make sure they do the opposite of what a black woman would do, to exert their superiority over black women. This makes them appear "better" than black women, to black men.
They rarely make threats, but if they do it's strategic.
Whyte women try to stay fit to exert power over men, by using fear tactics. Black men know white women will leave them and will have options due to their fitness and WHITENESS. They silently plan their leaving. Also, black men know that whyte women will cheat on them and most likely will find someone "better, ie more money and status" than them. This tarnishes and damages the black man's ego and messes with his psyche. He already thinks "white" is better, so when he is rejected this way, he feels lower than low, but ironically also gain more awe for WHITE POWER.
Whyte women have little boundaries when it comes to sex since many don't have strong moral codes against certain acts like some black women do. Sexual perversion is not in the whyte women's vernacular. They SHOW black men that they idolize the black man's penis (stroking their egos and manparts) and are just as nasty, freaky, and perverted as them. Also, black men don't have to be ashamed of being perverted while dating them, unlike when they dated black women.
Most whyte women, don't bring up Jesus or the bible. If they do, they don't follow God's commandments, it's very surface stuff. They know black men are done with Jesus and God. Jesus or God is not that important to many whyte women anyway. Many Whyte women will choose their man over their surface faith; unfortunately, black men respect this. Black men may act like they know God or reference God just to save face in the community, but secretly they are done with him.
Whyte women follow black men in their corruption, without reserve. If black men want to scam, she will follow. If black man wants to steal, she will follow. If black man wants to do his mama dirty, she will follow. If black man wants to do drugs, she will follow. If black man wants to cheat the IRS, she will cover for him. She will be his accomplice in whatever he desires as long as she gets a benefit in the process.
They make sure black men think they are faithful, even when they are cheating. They use protection when they cheat, like Plan B pill or condoms, or get secret abortions, to make sure they only get pregnant by their "black man". This further makes them appear 'better" than black women, since a lot of black women have sex with men unprotected, end up getting pregnant, and then not know who the baby's father is. Black women will often try to pass the baby as their husbands or boyfriends that they cheated on, only to get trapped later, which makes black women look worse than whyte women.
Whyte women try to be more directly active in schooling their children or they pay someone to do it. They are constantly teaching their kids, with conversations, like when they are at the grocery store, the doctor's office, in the car, etc. Black man sees this as respectable. They aren't cursing out their kids, in public, they are actually teaching them (sorry black women, we got to do better on this for real!).
Whyte women refuse to do all the housework when they have children. They teach their children as soon as they walk to clean up their messes. Black men respect this since they don't like being in a messy house, but don't like house chores themselves. Black men love to see the kids under control this way because it takes the pressure off of them getting off their butts and helping!!
They use the English language more properly and in a sexy manner. Something that a lot of black folks don't know how to do. Too much slang. This is an asset to black men, something else he can gain from whyte women to improve himself and their children.
Last but not least, THEY LEAVE BLACK MEN WHEN IT IS HABITUAL DISRESPECT! It don't take them no 12 years to leave a man that won't marry them and constantly disrespect her unless he got FAT MONEY!
I hope you take heed!!
Preach the peace!!! Femininity is peaceful!!!!
That's right sis. we just celebrated 29 years of marriage so I speak from experience when I say this. You should be looking for your mate when you are in college. Men cherish women that will motivate them, not compete with them. We have male friends we compete with. I don't want to have to come home and have a power struggle after I have been out all day working with white folks. I know some women will say, "well guess what...we are dealing with the white man's shit just like you"....and that's where the problem is. Think about this....if you are a feminine woman....do you want a man that is more feminine or as feminine as you are? No, you don't. So what makes you all think men want to deal with a woman that's always trying to compete with them. We are looking for the opposite of us. Again, we have male friends that we tell to STFU...no man wants to be talking to a woman like that. The key part of this video though is where you said they should meet them in college. Men that really want to be married are looking for mates in college...to build with. Once a man gets to his mid thirties or even early 40's.....I mean really, what does he need you for at that point. Chances are he's already had kids or even been married by then. Steve Harvey's movie "think like a man" would've been great if he'd told this part of think like a man. At any rate, this was a great video. I just subscribed to your channel so I'll be watching more of your videos. Great job.
Thank God, someone is telling these women the truth.
1: Check your BMI.
2 :Check out a gym membership.
2:Check your attitude at the door.
You are point on
This is truth ladies
I am married to a beautiful black women. It is true. My wife is submissive to me even though she’s attractive enough to have choices. But I am also accountable to lead her, provide and protect her.
You made the space for your wife to operate in her feminine energy. It's a beautiful thing. That's what some of these BM don't understand. That's all most BW want.
I’m a product of an HBCU. So I can relate to the part about being your husband or wife in college. Which is what I did. However, many of our people don’t go on to pursue higher learning at universities. So, they’ll have to look elsewhere.
I appreciate a woman speaking to the issues regarding the state of affairs between black men and black women. Something that many black men have been talking amongst themselves about for decades. We’ve got to the point where we’re accepting that it’s just too late for most of our women. The nasty attitudes, the inability and unwillingness to respect black men who are respectful and respectable, has made for such a toxic environment that it’s just not worth the risk of a brother losing his life or his freedom. ✈️
Very good video. Your points are spot on. New subscriber here!
Welcome aboard! Thank you!
Sista, you are preaching tonight!! Lovin it!!!
They need life classes taught in school.
I remember having health and nutrition classes in elementary school. This is something that we no longer have in schools..
We also had home economics. Those clases were very beneficial to students.
She speaks well and attractive.
Some Men Just Want Women To Take What Ever They Do Are Say And Not Voice Their Opinions, That’s Not Going To Work, I Understand About Being Sweet And Be Feminine But Some Man Want You To Be Under Their Control FrFr!
Wow!!! I’m 58 y/o and I must say, this is the first black woman I have ever heard that totally understand what black men want!!!! Most black women will hear this and still challenge you because they know it all, lol!!!! I married for the second time outside my race, I needed a partner to support me and allow me to be the head of house hold. I needed her to maintain her femininity, physical appearance and less masculine. My first wife wanted to always compete with me on every level. I have been with my current wife for 31 years now and she exercises with me daily. She has no fake hair, no fake nails, no fake anything. I appreciate and love her imperfections!!!!!!
The question should be: Why are some Black Women angry, and aggressive? I don’t think it’s totally their fault. There are a lot of things going on in Society that is causing their Attitude Problems.
This is 100% sis 🔥
And I'll add that not all good Black men prefers a perfectly fit woman. Those of us just don't want someone that looks like she has trouble moving and bathing. I've fallen in love with plus sized women in the past. It was their attitudes and how they carried themselves that made all the difference.
I'm a sucker for a woman that's soft spoken, kind, open, ggiving and nurturing. The moment I sense any kind of narcissistic and/or masculine traits; I'll ignore you like the plague
The main thing men of all races want is PEACE.
I’m dealing with this rights now. I told her I can’t do this.
u better 🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾
Education and making money should be a priority for a group of people that has been marginalized and is disproportionately poor and living in impoverished, violent communities with failing schools. Evidently ego is more important than economic success and upward mobility. Suit yourselves.
My husband and I love this video
Hey baby. Good vid
Yes, yes, and yes. Thank❤you
Really good information,I’m 49 and my wife is 66.
To the Good Women who see this, I really want you all to win! This is how you attain a successful relationship with a moral character man. As a woman, there are several key aspects to consider. Firstly, stop being desperate, you know a bum when you see one, stop wasting your time with those type! Secondly, effective communication is vital. Openly expressing thoughts, feelings, and needs while actively listening to your partner fosters understanding and builds a strong foundation of trust. Honoring each other's boundaries and cultivating mutual respect is also crucial. Additionally, fostering emotional intimacy through quality time spent together, shared experiences, and supportive gestures strengthens the bond. Being adaptable, empathetic, and understanding during challenging times helps navigate conflicts and find resolutions. Lastly, nurturing individual growth and maintaining a healthy sense of self within the relationship fosters personal happiness and contributes to a successful partnership. By prioritizing these elements, a woman can work towards building a fulfilling and successful relationship.