A "Where Have You Been?" Video
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- čas přidán 13. 07. 2024
- In this video I talk about where I've been for the past while, and what's happening next, as well as discussing some games I've been playing recently. Just me sitting and talking.... what could go wrong....
00:00 Introduction
01:12 Where have I been?
22:14 What Now?
23:25 What Games Have I been Playing?
31:08 The Future and Reflecting
32:15 Conclusion - Hry
31:40 Forgive the unscripted rambling here... But I neglected to say I think we need to be better about elevating LGBTQIA+ voices. I am part of this community, but I don't feel like I'm the advocate or the representation my community deserves. I also said "maybe non-binary and transgender people"s voices should be elevated -- take out the "maybe" -- we ABSOLUTELY should be elevating their voices. I'm just unscripted and not very good at talking in this setting... please forgive me for these misspeaks.
Tom ... Tom ... Tom. You are an amazing content creator, and you bring so much to your channel, which is unique from most others. I love your playthroughs ... couldn't have gotten through 7th Continent without you (and there are a lot a videos for that game, but yours is the best). You are a great teacher ... others not so much. You are very careful with editing, especially supplying corrections and interesting comments. You are humble ... others are pretty full of themselves. Also, you haven't added a bunch of new people with you on your channel, which clog up the channel with inferior content and boring hosts. I have only recently found your channel, but yours is now at the top of my list. Your well-being comes first, but after that know that your channel is one of the best, if not THE BEST, out there, and all of us would love to see you continue your excellent presentations of game content. Love you so much! :)
Hey Tom. Dylann here. I just wanted to drop you a message to tell you that no mental health struggle you're facing is ridiculous, weird or stupid. You should be immensely proud of yourself for taking steps to better your mental health, identify triggers and actively work on improving things in your life. I don't know you personally, but even just from watching this video, I just wanted to tell you how proud I am of you for being able to do those things or take steps to implement changes in your life. It can be really difficult and you're doing it. I hope you're proud of yourself for that.
Continue to be gentle with yourself and the expectations you place on yourself. Your health and well-being are #1 above all else, even the channel, and when and if it is going to bring you joy, peace and happiness, that's when you should jump back into it. And when/if you choose to, you'll have new fans here at All You Can Board watching.
I also just wanted to say that when I was struggling with some things in my personal life or in the world in general, I dove head first into Marvel Champions and it brought me a lot of happiness and helped immensely. So you're definitely not alone there and I'm so happy you found it if it's something that will be bringing you any kind of similar joy.
I'm sending lots of positivity your way and you'll be in my thoughts. I hope you continue to feel better as you work through things and once again, I can't overstate how incredible and important it is that you recognized and prioritized your mental health. Be well, stay safe and I'm wishing you all the luck in the world.
-Dylann
Thanks Dylan, that means a lot to me. Literally, one of the things my therapist is trying to help me with is "You have to be more kind to yourself." I'm absolutely my own harshest critic... even when it comes to talking about my mental health.
And I'm so glad to have a fellow Marvel Champions friend to talk to! I'm literally going to respond to comments, take a shower, and go pick up my Vision and Valkyrie packs that just arrived at my FLGS..... so excited! Since I'm new to the game... when YOU get a new Hero, do you build a deck and just put them up against Rhino to see how they play? Or how do you approach it? So far I've only played with Spiderman, Thor, Iron Man, Captain America, and Black Panther... so I have lots of people to try out...
Tom, my intro to the hobby was Gloomhaven…your videos were one of the first board game videos I watched. Since then I look forward to many of your playthroughs and I always appreciate your candor, humor and lightheartedness. My reaction whenever I watch your videos is, “ man, this guy seems like such a fun person to play games with!”. Anyway, thank you for honesty and in sharing your life, not just in this video, but in your many other videos as well. Take care and hope you are well my gaming brother.
Hey Tom! I watched this video when you published it and was glad to hear your voice again. I know you are dealing with a lot. Was very happy that you were making progress in dealing with the things that were bringing you anxiety. I sincerely hope that things have progressed even more. You are missed in this space. You have a great sense of humor and unique voice (literally and figuratively). Whether you come back or not, take care of yourself first. And always. Be well, my friend. 😊
I remember you. You were my middle school math teacher 9th grade. Hope you are doing ok and i can feel you're pain. I have bi polar and its been through my family and middle school was hard for me suicidal problems, and sorry if i was rude to you back then i been through so much too. I am in highschool now and its hard but i hope you are doing ok.
-from your student: matthew reynolds
Tom, you are my favorite how to gameplay person. I always check to see if you made a video regarding the game I'm looking into. I was wondering where you've been, thank you so much for the video. Glad to hear you're getting better. Take all the time you need. Wish you lived near me, it's always so hard to find people to play games with over here as well. I look forward to your next video no matter what it's about. Just hope to see you getting yourself to a better place. Take care, thank you.
Dang John! That's really nice of you to say. Whenever I decide to make my next video, I have no clue how it will all go... but just know it'll be some game that I love enough that I can't stop myself from making a video about it. :D
@@TomTeachesGames you are the reason I know how to play "Root". My favorite game. You helped me teach others. Anyway take care of yourself first. Much love
Thanks for the video. Don’t downplay your own struggles because others have it worse. Someone always has it better and someone always has it worse. Neither should negate your experience.
IF I ever get to SaltCon again, sadly not this year again, but if I do, you’re welcome to wander around with me and play games. Walking the hall looking for a game to jump into is SO INTIMIDATING! I have a few people I look for now but when I don’t see them I just gotta get out of there and take some deep breaths.
I wish the best for you. I’m glad you’ve found some things that are helping. Looking forward to seeing you again sometime.
Hey Mike! Thanks a bunch for this comment. That's a great point that the comparison stuff just isn't really that helpful. It starts as a "I want to be sensitive to other people struggling" to thoughts that become negative to myself. So it's good to keep in check.
And yeah, I thought about this year's SaltCon for about 30 seconds, then decided this year wasn't going to be the year. Both for the reasons I described, AND because of everything else...
It was really great meeting you a couple of years ago. I still take your copy of The Game with me anytime I travel and visit people. It's such a great game and I love that artwork....
We'll definitely have to get some games in as soon as all of these crazy times calm down... Your'e a darn good guy and us Utah-guys have gotta stick together!
Hope all is well with you! Hope to see you soon! Take care and God bless! :-)
We miss you, Tom! Hope you're doing well.
Hi Tom! I found your channel when my group started playing Root. I love your teaching style, attention to detail and witty comments 😄.
I just wanted to let you know as a viewer of this video, when you started talking about board games you are currently playing, it was as though the brightness in the room went up 100%. And I’m not saying the rest of the video was boring or blah. I just wanted to point out your passion and love of board games definitely comes through.
You made my day by posting today!! I missed you, your content and your HEY EVERYBODY!! My prayers are with you 🙏 You are a big part of our board gaming hobby dont sell yourself short!! And the community misses you very much. If you choose to not make your content anymore but get yourself to a better place that is most important 💛. I will miss you very much but we still have your videos I watch again and again. Examples space base and cubitos!! I just wanted to thank you because you make this hobby easier for me to understand. I'm terrible at learning games. So THANK YOU!!
Thank you so much for this. I think one issue I've always had (as someone who, for example, really struggled making a lot of friends in school) is that I always feel like I'm standing on the outside looking in. So, sometimes I see other content creators making great and fun and valuable connections, and it kind of brings me back to those feelings. Now, to be fair to them, I am not someone who has reached out much to help myself form those connections, but that's just how it's always been. I'm shy, and that's how shy people function, yea know?
But I appreciate this comment and the perspective it's giving me that "the community" isn't just the ultra-visible representatives (who I really love). "Community," by definition, includes EVERYBODY. Smaller content creators, commenters, viewers, people who never participate in digital stuff but just like to play... So finding and embracing your own spot in the community is very valuable. Thanks again!
In the beginning you say I'm not sure if we noticed, we definitely did. You are brave and inspirational for getting on this platform and opening up. I'm very shy and tried to make some board game videos and stopped. So again as you can see you are loved and were missed by your community !!
Great to hear from you Tom and best wishes for your continued health. Just create content at your own pace as I, for one, have no expectations that you will upload in any frequency. I am frankly amazed you and other creators have the energy / devotion to do this. So many thanks for what you have / will produce 🥰
Thank you so much! And I absolutely agree -- I think my videos are at their best when I'm at my best. So I'm not putting any pressure on myself. As soon as I wake up and think "I WANT to make this video" -- then I'll do it. Until then, I'll just focus on feeling better and better everyday.
Tom, thanks so much for posting this...I appreciate you sharing. I've built up quite the board game collection because of watching your videos. Despite not having met you in person, it feels like visiting a friend when watching your videos. I hope you know you have people that care. Please take care of yourself and I'll enjoy new videos if you make them, but don't feel pressure...I'll watch old ones again too! Jason Scholcz, Winnipeg, Manitoba.
Thanks Jason! Isn't media so funny that way? You can really feel a kinship with people who you've never officially met... and I'm so happy to hear that you feel like visiting a friend. That was literally one of my goals as I started my channel. There are other creators that I LOVE who are so great at teaching, but so often I didn't feel any connection with them, because their videos are very to-the-point and didn't feel warm enough to feel like I knew anything about them. I wanted to make a channel that could help people feel like they were sitting there with me learning the game the way I would teach it in person.... so reading this feels awesome.
Thanks for your comment, and I hope to be back at it when I'm at my best. Stay warm up there!
I love your teaching videos, but please take care of yourself first. ❤️
Thank you so much! I'm going to do my best to do that... I'm not great at it yet, but I'll keep practicing.
Hello there, Tom. So sad to hear about how rough the last year has been for you. Know you have been missed. And to answer the question: What do you bring to the table that is unique? (In the board game sphere or otherwise?) The answer is you. Your experience ... your perspective ... your silliness ... your joy ... your kindness ... your strengths ... your quirks ... No one can be you but you. And that is pretty special :)
Awwww, thank you so much for this. You've always been such a nice person to watch and comment and always say something positive. It means a lot to me, and I especially appreciate this comment. Thanks a million.
This isn’t silly at all!!!! Thanks for sharing!!❤
I had no idea you were going thru so much. It is very good to know that you are getting the help you need. I hope you can find your way back to making videos (as well as representing your community), however you come first! So, if that can't happen, I'd rather you just be well and happy! Hope you can make more, but definitely support you doing what's best for you!
Omar! First of all, for anyone reading this, you need to follow Omar on twitter. I don't hop on twitter all that often, but Omar is one of the kindest people on there. His daily tweets are one of the things I love most in my timeline. Just a simple "Hello" and "Have a great day" makes all the difference for me on there.
So, Omar, thank YOU for all that you do for the community. Your warmth and positive nature make a huge difference.
@@TomTeachesGames Tom, thank so much for that endorsement. ☺️ I actually to that as a small way to inject a bit of kindness into the start of my day, for my own mental health. I actually haven't been doing that much this year, and I'm feeling the difference. I need to get back to it. Being a bit of an introvert myself, I can be tough to put yourself out there. I applaud you for you work on yourself! 🫂
I'm a big fan of your set-up and rules explanation videos. Keep up the great work!
Found your channel recently and loved picking and watching through the playlists of the games that interest me (my wallet perhaps less so). Thanks for all your incredible work - I hate that you suffer and wish you well hoping you find inner peace.
I just discovered your channel through your Roll Player videos. Love your content, love your approach and looking forward to exploring more.
I'm new to this channel but I was really happy to listen to your story and hear your honesty. I have really been enjoying your other videos as well, especially the Burgle Bros one :) I hope that you continue to find the support you need and really look forward to seeing new videos from you.
I'm glad I found this video. I remember listening to your Gloomhaven intro on my long 8 hour journey home from a conference. 8 hours with Tom Teaches Games! WooHoo. I have been trying to find you ever since. Glad to hear your ok and maybe one day you'll be back. You do a great job creating content. AND I really am curious where you live in rural Utah. Big beautiful state and I hope you live in the amazing bits!
Hey Tom!! I absolutely love your content - you taught me how to play GAH and root and vindication. I never knew you were a teacher but that makes such sense with how well you teach. It is so strong and brave of you to share this with us, thank you. As an introvert alot of what you spoke about especially around the con I can totally relate to. My line to myself the last year has been about giving myself grace. I hope you give yourself grace, as much as I love your content please look after yourself you are more important than anything!!
Welcome back, be strong. So many of us have missed you. Take care.
Thank you so much! It really helps to hear things like this. I hope you take care as well!
I hope things are well! This makes me sad, I just found you this week and you're my new favorite board game explainer and you definitely need more subscribers.
I'm sorry you're struggling with such severe social anxiety issues. I have struggled with it myself as well, and still do. But I recently picked up TTRPGs and got on medicine and they have both helped MASSIVELY. I found your videos looking for how to play the different factions since I don't know how to play the game but started running the RPG.
Really enjoyed this video for its honesty and humility. I just came by your channel after buying TM and loved your videos. Been binging them and loving them!
It’s great to see you again! I’m glad you are taking the time to take care of yourself.
Thank you! We all need to do a little self care these days.... things are just so crazy....
Hi Tom, I only just stumbled upon your fine videos recently and then discovered this one today. I also have a history of mental health issues and more recently it has taken a dive and I found myself in a similar situation to yourself. Your video resonated with me and your bravery has given me some kind of confidence. Thanks for sharing this and I really hope you can find peace. A good friend of mine constantly reminds me to be kinder to myself, I hope you can too.
Very glad to see you back, and safe, and healthy. I definitely missed the presence of your videos. I struggle with a lot of the same loneliness issues that you talked about, and this pandemic has been so hard to deal with. I keep hoping that we're at the end, and I can go out into the world again, and then another wave appears. And not having anyone to play with has meant that I haven't played a game in over a year because I just can't do it alone any more - I just don't have the energy. Good luck, and keep going - and I'll keep watching.
You nailed it. For some of us, loneliness was already very problematic... once the pandemic hit, that was a pretty crappy way to pour salt on the wound.... And you nailed it! I got vaccinated and was so excited to get back to normal! .... then we couldn't.... And not-playing-alone is a seriously relatable feeling. I mean, I couldn't even look at a game without feeling triggered for 6 months... it was like, I had to dip my toe in the water slowly as I looked for games that made me happy to play alone. For me that meant games that were very-much-designed with solo players in mind. Which I think is reflected in the games that I've been enjoying. If you find any game like that (that brings you joy playing solo) make sure you share it with me!
I needed to find a playthrough/how to play video for Empires of the North and after watching a few that weren't super helpful, I came across your teaching video. It was SO good! I was so impressed. I also loved your commentary. It felt like I was learning from a friend because you never removed yourself, your reactions and thoughts from that video. I then subscribed to you today and watched your most recent video (this one). I am absolutely in awe of your vulnerability. Thank you so much for sharing and though I'm new to your channel today, I am SO thankful that I've subscribed to someone who loves the hobby and is incredibly honest with themselves and their viewers. I'm also really proud of you, being a complete stranger. In 2021 I actually started seeing a counselor and this year started medication. It takes bravery and humility to embrace and love yourself in this way. Doing what you do for this community is no small feat. As cheesy as this sounds, there's no pressure in your process. Much love to you. Thanks again for sharing.
Middle school math teachers who love board games unite! I’m thankful Covid hasn’t done me in 🙏🏾 and some of it is differences in our local communities and also I switched to a private school in 2021 which had its own benefits/struggles. It’s good to hear you’re on the up and up. Thanks for your past content and any future content you may be up to making again! I know it’s not quite the same, but if you ever want to play online board games, I’m always up for a game on BGA (partyab). : )
Hey Tom, new subscriber(actually didn't realize I wasn't subscribed until now lol) but just wanted to say I have learned clank in space, res arcana, and a couple other games because of your videos, and am grateful for those! Everyone can have a voice and important place in this hobby just the same, so please don't make your space any less important just because you are who you are.
Hey Tom. Thanks for the update. Been where you are/were for different reasons. Do what YOU need to do to get through it and be happy. Whatever it takes. Thanks for the time to teach the community many amazing games. I learned Aeon's End and Gloomhaven from you. Take care man.
Thank you so much for all the time you've put into this. Whenever I look for gameboard information I always look to see if you have it first. I also have the same struggles you do with finding a game group and trying not to be introverted at times. Thank you for posting this!
Thanks Shawn for reaching out and leaving such a nice comment. And seriously, "trying not to be introverted" is a real thing... ESPECIALLY when you're in such a social-hobby. But, in theory, we can do it!
I just want to say thanks for the videos that you have done many of them really helped me understand a lot of what I was confused about! I also can really relate to you and would go to conventions to myself to be around like minded people . I am very introverted an am a people watcher so meeting others is really hard for me because of the voice inside your head that is you,and especially when it comes to board gaming it can be hard.What has help me in terms of just being close to people is being around online communities while it isn't the same as physical I still get the satisfaction and just being able to talk to others help.I also felt the same but for video games where just playing them made me not want to but it's good you are working on it and hope to see your videos again when you are ready! Also glad you got into marvel champions its my favorite game to play when i'm dead tired from the day and I'm still intimidated by sleeping gods! I hope your year goes well and it's awesome you are repairing your relationship to something you enjoy!
Thanks Billy! Especially at the beginning of the pandemic, I really tried to get online and play games that way -- but I just never got it to click with me. I think one reason is that the thing I love MOST about the board game hobby is the ability to sit around a table with friends and family, step back from the phones, step away from talking about the (important) more-serious parts of life that's happening right now, and to just have fun being with people I care about. The puzzles of games adds to the fun for me, because I like engaging my brain that way.... Also, I don't know why my brain needs that tactile stuff so much so much... it's just weird. I cannot figure out why my brain can't just embrace playing online! It's just so weird.
ANYWAY, the Sleeping Gods intimidation is REAL. It is just so big and sprawling for a "solo" game. We might be similar in that respect. I 100% agree that (assuming I have a hero deck built) the ability to just grab a hero, setup a villain, and just go for it.... there is something that is so great about that that keeps me coming back for more, night after night.
I'm on my way to go pick up my Vision and Valkyrie packs... and I'm so dang excited....
Good to hear from you, Tom! I love your Root videos. If you don´t mind BGA it´s a wonderful arena for the introverted.
Tom you made my day/week posting this! It is SOOO good to hear from you!! Your channel has always been one of my favorites and I was always excited when I got a CZcams notification that you posted something.
Your channel added a lot to the community. You are one of (if not THE) best teachers of games around.
Keep getting better and I (and I know many others) will be here if/when you return. I am a subscriber for life! :)
Many prayers being sent your way!!
Hey Steve! Your'e one of the people who checked in on me, and so I will always remember and appreciate that. Thanks for all of your positivity and for keeping me in mind. It meant a lot to me. :D
Great to hear that you're still alive and (relatively) well. Sucks that you've been through what you have, but good to know you're doing better. If it's a choice between your health (mental or otherwise) and producing more videos, it's not even a choice (though, obviously, if it's possible, having both would be ideal from my perspective).
Something I know I tend to struggle with is the trap of thinking that I'm bound to my own precedents - that if I do a certain amount for a specific project, I have to repeat at least that much for all future similar projects. Reframing it, not as a commitment to play the game, learn the rules, film a video, edit and annotate the video, engage with comments, update with corrections, design an insert, build the insert, photograph the insert, film a build video for the insert, upload the video, upload the photos and blueprint, and update the website; but rather as a commitment to play the game, and if you want to film a teach, that's a bonus, and a separate, optional commitment, and if you decide to make your own additional storage, that's a bonus, and sharing that storage is then another bonus option, and so on. The main person expecting you to do everything is yourself, and recognising that you're the person inventing the rules you feel trapped by and that you can change them can be a huge step.
It can also be worth considering whether, once you've decided you do want to do a thing, there are ways you could make it easier to do - for example, buying a second camera (and tripod) would save a fair bit of time from the recording process since you could leave one camera on a commonly used shot, and only move the second camera around. Of course, there's an upfront investment there, which may outweigh the benefits - and combining footage from two cameras is going to add complexity to the editing process - but it's worth thinking about where the friction points are, and what can be done about them to make it easier to enjoy doing what you want to do.
Anyway, obviously I hope you do produce more videos, but only if you're enjoying it. I actually checked just yesterday to make sure CZcams hadn't failed to report new videos, so, even if I didn't, in the end, reach out, know that I was still thinking about you.
Hey rmsgrey! It's great to hear from you. You always offer such great perspectives on things. You nailed (in your second paragraph) what my brain does. I have a terrible time filtering the work I assign myself... and, to be fair, it was all stuff I enjoyed doing -- but it absolutely became overwhelming. I nee to be better at filtering and pulling back, and not trying to do every single thing that pops into my head.
I actually spent the last month looking around at options for another camera. I currently use my old iPhone 6..... Originally I didn't want to make any financial investment because I didn't know if I'd actually stick with making content. Knowing I was able to keep with it for a few years, I figured I could... what got little tricky was, by the time I found a camera that I thought would be good for me, it was pretty much at the top of the budget I set for myself... and that was JUST for the camera. As soon as I started looking at the cost of a battery (that lasts longer than 30 minutes) and a memory card, and a tripod (my current one wouldn't work with the camera I was looking at) I was way over-budget, and I didn't think that would work for me. So, it's something I'm looking at, but haven't quite figured out the best way for me to do that yet.
Thanks again for your perspective, and for thinking of me! That stuff does matter.
I was just thinking about you yesterday. I`m so glad you are doing better now.
Well thank you for thinking about me! That kind of stuff really does mean a lot. It reminds me.... there is this early episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer (Season 1, Episode 11, "Out of Sight, Out of Mind") where a girl literally becomes invisible because people just never saw her. It's easy to feel like that online.... but knowing people are thinking about you means so much. Thank you for this comment :D
Hi Tom! I was on your channel a few days ago looking to see if you had a video for Glass Road that I had just picked up. You do bring something special to the hobby which is why I came here first! You are absolutely right in that I'd love to see other voices elevated in all the groups you mentioned. The great part is your voice can be a part of that too when you're ready once again. I echo other sentiments in that we care more about you being healthy than content. I love that your therapist suggested doing this. What a great idea! I love even more that you did it. It can be hard to be vulnerable and open up especially about mental health. For some reason saying, "I got diabetes" (physical problems) is easier to say than "I have depression". As an introvert and someone who has struggled with depression, I can say I've been there and know how hard it can be. So I celebrate with you doing the hard inner work that you're doing. It's worth it because you're worth it. Take the time you need. We'll be here.
I never did get Glass Road... did you get it played? And how did you like it?
I reported that I finally made "the video" to my therapist last night, and she was very proud of me. It was definitely a big boost. It's almost like I pay her to help me get better, she tells me to do things, I do them, and it can have positive results..... weird how that all happens! 😂
And you're ABSOLUTELY right. Its like... with physical issues, they're all visibly verifiable. Like, not just a broken arm, but diabetes has ways to check how your blood sugar is, and when things aren't balanced you can see the negative effects of it.... but seeing mental illness is so much harder, and it's so hard to verify what people are feeling... so you have to just listen. And a lot of the times, the listening isn't a literal hearing... it's observations from people who know you best and recognize what is and isn't "normal" behavior for you.... it's just such a tough thing to follow.
Thanks for celebrating with me! It seems I'm on the right track, I just have to keep moving that way to prevent from slipping backwards....
I just want to add my best wishes. I enjoyed and still enjoy your videos very much. I also agree with other posters that you are hands down the BEST teacher of games. Take care.
Just wanted to expand a bit. Don't ever think you haven't contributed to the viewing community. Even if you never make another video, you have provided many, many hours of viewing enjoyment that I keep going back to. I rewatch the adventures of Norman, Crystale and Taylor even though I know exactly what is going to happen, because the way you play is just so fun to watch, which is pretty rare on You Tube. That plus your great teaching style is what you provide.
Tom, I found your channel just a few weeks ago to learn Wingspan and Viticulture (please see my post on Viticulture tom vs tom play through) and now you have retired! I completely understand as I also am an introvert and have struggled on and off with depression since I was a teen. Self care, self compassion, essential for your health. I appreciate so much the video teachings you have on you tube. With your help that saved me tons of hours of struggle, I now know how to play both those games. My next will be Marvel United. I pray that you are good today. My deepest gratitude to you for who you are and what you have given to us with your videos. Well played my friend!
It’s great to hear from you, Tom. I’m sorry you have been struggling, but I’m glad you are getting better. Take care of yourself and know that you are missed, and you are special to your listeners.
Hi Tom. It's so nice to hear from you again. Your teaching video is one my favorite channel. Just want to let you know I miss you and happy to know you still love boardgame. Take care and hope everything turn better for you soon.
Thank you! I miss me too sometimes 😆 Like, I often talk about how "I literally feel like a different person that I was 6 months ago" (and not really in a good way). So, to goal is to get back to that person, and we're getting there! Thanks again
Glad to hear from you! So sorry 2021 was so rough but talking about this is really great! Thank you so much for sharing with us everything and I wish this year to be much better for you and yours. Much luck Tom!
Thank you so much! That's the goal.... let's make 2022 "not suck as badly as 2021" -- it's a lofty goal... but I think I can do it...
@@TomTeachesGames if someone can do it its you, the great teach! We are all rooting for you! I know most of us are complete strangers to you but we really do want the best for you and are glad to see you do what you need to for your health, mental and physical. Massive respect for talking about this despite your anxieties and introversion! Shows you are quite strong! Keep at it man, sending good vibes here from Puerto Rico!
I am really delighted to see you back again as you are one of the best in the board gaming community - and you are very engaging and very interesting to listen to. I am sure you are also a brilliant teacher. Although I would love to see you making more of your videos it is far more important that you take any necessary steps to get back to full health. If and when you do feel able to make more of your videos we will be waiting for you! I use your videos to help me teach new games to my grandson but the only trouble is every time I watch one of your videos I then go and buy the game - so you've cost me a small fortune! All the best from the UK and look after yourself. Mike
Thanks a lot for this comment Mike. I'm glad to help you spend your money in totally unnecessary ways anytime :D And I agree with you -- I know I need a little more time, but that's because I do feel like my videos will be at their best when I'm feeling at my best. That's not quite yet -- but hopefully some day!
Tom, I've watched many of your videos, but this was my favourite. I hope that doesn't diminish from your board game teaching or craft, but listening to you talking about yourself was a real pleasure. I too suffer from depression so I understand much of what you are talking about. So from Australia - I wish you all the best on your journey and thank you for sharing your feelings/thoughts ❤️
(1) "Top of the Muffin to You" had me cracking up. Brilliant username.
(2) Thanks so much for what you said about this video. I really did think over and over about "This just doesn't really fit any other content I have." Eventually I just had to say, "That's okay. It's just a video, and like everything else I post, no one has to watch it if they don't want to." So, as sorry as I am that you are suffering many of the same things I am, I'm really glad that we are able to connect over it.
Thanks for your well-wishes, and good luck on your journey too! And may you have many muffin-tops in the days and years to come.
Hi Tom, really appreciate the courage to post your update, I hope it’s done you some good being able to speak about everything to your fans. However hard it was to listen to your struggles; it’s been great to see the man behind the voice (and the best table mats in CZcams board gaming history!) and get to know him a little better.
I’m glad you are on the mend, and if it helps you, listening to unscripted ramblings about board games and life in general, either on CZcams or a podcast, would be an amazing listen. Don’t worry about all those hours of playthroughs and editing, that’ll come when you’re in a good place again :)
I’ve also recently discovered Marvel Champions, and coming from Lord of the Rings LCG, where the theme was amazing, the deck construction broke me… I’m loving Marvel Champions, even if I don’t love the theme. It’s a great pick up and play.
All the best and sending you lots of love from the UK
Thanks Jack, it's so nice to hear from you, and you bring up a good point. I mean, I'm never scripted... but it could be worth considering casual "what I'm playing" or "what I'm enjoying" or "what games I want" videos. Those could be a way to ease back towards the more labor-intensive stuff.
I had the Lord of the Rings LCG.... And I was never ever able to beat the first scenario(?).... I tried dozens of times... and got so frustrated I never came back to it, and eventually sold it. I only had the base game... so that wasn't too strong of an investment... but I really wanted to like it more. Not only did it feel too difficult for me (this was when it was new) but I also found it to be too complicated and fiddly... It might not be any more (Again, that was about 10 years ago) but yeah, it left a negative taste in my mouth...
@@TomTeachesGames ha yes true, that is one of the reasons I love your videos as you are unscripted and hilarious :)
I went for all the Saga expansions as I love LotR, but I always felt like I needed better cards as, like you said, it's hard... :,(
Hey Tom, thanks for sharing! I've missed you. Love your videos, you're one of the very best board game teachers around. But, nothing about what you have been, and still are going through is silly or stupid. Don't ever think that. The most important thing is to take care of your health. We'll still be here if you decide to start making videos again. Lots of love and hugs from Sweden.
Sweden?!? That's seriously incredible... I had no clue I'd ever reach anyone on a different continent... I appreciate the support, and you're right. I have to be better at being okay with accepting my experiences and not putting hem in the "silly" or "stupid" categories. Its possible they might be for someone else, but I'm the one stuck in this body, so that's where my priorities need to be.
Love your videos Tom. I hope you are feeling ok and remember `If you are going through Hell, keep going!`.....Winston Churchill
Heya just found your channel from your Cubitos video and looked at the most recent video which lead me here. I can definitely relate cause I'm basically an introvert myself and most of the people I know aren't into board games as much as I am. Just wanna let you know that I hope you feel better and take your time. Also that just cause that many people have the same problem as you do doesn't reduce the importance of yours whatsoever. Take care bud.
Hey Tom ! Nice to see you again ! Take care of yourself !
Thank you so much! I'm definitely doing my best to do that now.... Hopefully I can be back to normal soon!
So, going in to this video I honestly had no idea you were a teacher, I can only imagine the kind of stress that has added on top of everything else! I'm glad you're getting the support you need and am more than happy to wait for you to get where you need to be before we get more videos. Also, in terms of "what you contribute": I feel that if you like doing these videos you should keep doing them. Not everything we do needs to be productive, just do things for fun. And you can always collaborate with people from other demographics to help make sure their voices are heard.
It has been quite the teaching ride! Like, for ANY teacher, the first few years are ultra-stressful, just because it's all so new and you're learning so much. I finally felt like I was in a pretty great place (in terms of stress) from around 2016 - 2020.... then, you know, 2020 hit.... and it has felt like I'm back to year one. BUT, even that is getting better with time. This is our "refine what we built last year" year, and then, in theory, next year I'll feel like I'm back to normal.
And I love your idea of collaborating more with ANYONE, but especially people from other demographics. I say I want to "elevate" -- that's a verb... so I could really find some way to do that. Looking for and talking about other creators who should be seen more.... thanks for this great idea!
It's great to see you Tom and thanks for sharing! You already know that but your videos are top board games videos out there (at least for me ;D) Wishing you all the best and waiting for "Marvel Champions" learning video one day ;D ... but joking aside - take care man! Do whatever is best for your health! PS. Hope you don't mind, but I listened this video while building one of your DIY boxes ;)
I've thought about making a Marvel Champions video because of how much I love it! I still might.. it's certainly an option... but also, (If I'm being 100% honest) I am pretty intimidated by the type of audience that might attract.... they appear take those games VERY seriously, and I don't think I could handle that type of scrutiny. 😂 I just want to have fun!
Which box(es) were you making?!? Hopefully it wasn't too insane to build... hahahah
@@TomTeachesGames I understand your concerns about MC :) I was making deck-component combo boxes like you did for Root factions - but with my own graphics for Dungeon Petz. I still can't make those one-piece closing boxes right - the upper part always ends a bit to tight for the lower part - they are the same size afterall :/ but somehow your boxes end up just fine while closing .... I don't know :)
I have always enjoyed your gameplays and videos. Take care of yourself first and if you enjoy doing the videos then do them. Don’t do it if it adds stress. Sometimes simplifying our lives is a relief.
Thanks greatly for the update, and really good you are doing well.
A lot of the games you've been trying are tempting me, and I still have hopes for The Hunger, which I have preordered. (But then, vampires are my favourite thing in the world :) Role Playing Adventures seems weird to me, because I like the original but it makes rather unwieldy characters, but I guess the follow-up is a bit more balanced. We're still playing Arkham Horror, somewhat intermittently, but Marvel Heroes does beckon.
Anyway, hope to see you back for some videos, if you can do them stress-free!
David! You've been here since day 1 (or very close to it) and I'll never forget that. Such a dang nice guy.
I really really want to hear your thoughts on The Hunger. I do need to give it more chances to see if the little things I always forgot or had to look up feel easier...
I also love the original Roll Player. And, while you can import characters (my sister is doing that right now) I am super happy with all of the pre-made character options they have, and that's the route that I went, and I love my character. They have a lot of personality.
I got so far behind on Arkham Horror, and hated getting everything organized in a way that felt good to me, that I just kind of gave up. I DO have things organized now, but haven't gotten it back to the table...
Follow the Marvel Champions beckoning.... it is delicious and good.
@@TomTeachesGames I'll let you know about The Hunger, but I think it will be a while before it arrives.
I've been trying various solo games in lockdown (from dedicated things like Final Girl, to stuff too weird for anyone else like Trismegistus), but still not quite sure it's for me. Trying to get back into some group games, which is going slowly but pretty well. Have you heard of the Thinker/Themer board game channel? They do good discussion about the hobby, that may be of interest.
Hey Tom,
thank's for your honest words. Feel you 100%! I'm also struggling my hole life with mental health issues like depression. Of course it's tough to deal with it. But it's worth it to Keep on working on it. Sometimes steps back..Sometimes progress in the right direction. Life is an ongoing process...I'm also extremly introvert...I'm an Autistic person ...love to be alone... I like the Option to play Board games solo...but also need to be connected to other People...Sometimes...and i know the lonlines you describe. You are not alone with this inner Experience..
Stop to compare your Situation to others...no Need to do that...you are Special just like you are...you seems to be a nice guy...so, Keep on rockin😎
(sorry for my bad english..not a Native Speaker😉)
wish you the best!
Many greetings from north Germany🙋♂️
I completely understand with you're saying! Your English is incredible, AND you're saying things I can relate with. Balancing my alone-time with time-with-other-people is so tricky. Like, there are times when I need to be alone, and times when I want to be alone but really should be with other people, but I don't want to be, but I really should be... And, since I live alone, sometimes I'm not good at pushing myself to give myself what I need instead of just what I want.
I took 4 years of German in high school! But I forgot ALL of it... 🤣 So I am extremely impressed with you.
Thanks for opening up to me like that. The world can be tricky to navigate in our situation, but I know we can do it!
From a fellow anxiety sufferer. Some of the simplest techniques really work best for me when that adrenaline rush/panic attack kicks in for no obvious reason. God how the subconscious is a mf.
7-11 breathing, light meditation and progressive muscular relaxation techniques are, at least for me and others I know, simple to learn, but highly effective calming techniques.
Please look after yourself. You do have tons to offer to the board game community with your honest approach to the hobby. No bullshit, no evidence of playing the sponsorship game. You do it because you love it and that comes across in spades, the quirky bits, unlucky die rolling - the lot!
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Hope you’re doing better and that you find a good support system to address the loneliness.
you are a good man.
Life is full of up's and down's, but sometimes things you love become routine, then routine becomes a chore and before you know it you start building resentment. So a timeout is good, why we have vacations. The other stuff in your life needs a priority, so you need to deal with and heal. Take care man! come back when YOU are ready, the joy will return.
Hi Tom. Thanks for your time, generosity, kindness and authenticity. I wish you the best.
Thank you for taking the time to say this, the was so nice of you, and it means a lot.
Thanks for being open and honest about your struggles, Tom. We missed you. I started watching your channel because of your fantastic Gloomhaven videos. It was like I was watching a friend play, and I was INVESTED. I hope you will eventually do Frosthaven. But your mental health is always more important. There is nothing “stupid” about what you are feeling. It is important to have a healthy relationship with games.
Thanks Chuck! I'm really glad to hear you enjoyed those Gloomhaven videos. I remember early on, there was viewer who, for every single video (in those early ones) kept telling me how silly and dumb my narrative was. (They didn't like the way I was straying from the pre-written personalities and classes and how different that was from the personalities I was giving to Norman and Crystalé... It was something I really had to wrestle with. I could see their point, but also... I just wanted to have fun.) Those early videos are also when I started to get my first negative comments... and I wasn't ready for how I would respond emotionally... but knowing there are other people who love Norman and Crystalé anyway, is kind of awesome and a fun experience.
Thanks for your nice comment! I hope we can hang out with Norman again soon and, at the very least, help walk him to retirement.
Tom, it’s been a minute. But I truly hope you are doing well and taking care of yourself. I also hope that 2024 is a good year for you.
Be strong and be healthy. Even the Marvel Champions have their nemesis and weaknesses. Keep on playing for the sake of the game and fir winning your life back. We will be waiting for you. Take care John!
Nice to see you back. I loved watching your videos of playing Gloom Haven. Thanks for sharing your story. I too have and still am battling depression. Hang in there. Would love to see you do descent. Prayers for you brother.
Thanks! You’re very nice. It’s a beast of a disease…. And I’m really hoping things go well for you with respect to that. So I guess we both need to hang in there together!
Depression SUUUUUUUUUCKS...... and I'm so sorry that you are also in this battle.... but we can fight side-by-side and keep looking for others fighting with us, and make Sure we win.
I'm not sure I'm going to be playing Descent... I already have so many similar games (Including Descent 2nd edition, which I've owned for 10 years, and only played once) that aren't making it to the table... I don't think that, for me, an investment to Descent is going to be worth it. BUT, it has been VERY TEMPTING.... all of those bits look so freaking cool setup on the table...
@@TomTeachesGames it took me a while before I would commit to buying descent and that was one of the reasons I bought it because of all the really cool terrain. The fighting mechanics is pretty cool too and there's also crafting.
You have been missed. The most important part of life is taking care of it, as you are right now. You are a wonderful teacher (yes, I am an educator) and it shows through your explanation of the games you post. Take your time, we will be waiting, and if you chose not to go in this gaming path, then it is fine too. We will meet along the journey. Be well.
Serious educator-solidarity right now. Holy cow, in many ways this year has been okay -- but (for example) the sub-shortage sure has made things interesting... I know we can do it! And even though it's been two years since our jobs were "normal" -- I have faith that we'll be back to normal, um.... sometime. Or, so they say....
Good luck with the rest of the year! We're more than half-way through...
Hey Tom, it is good to see you! Daran here. I'm sorry I didn't reach out to you during your absence. I have this thing about giving people space. I want to thank you for your advice about recording videos - I asked you about it and you had real feedback and excellent tips. I ended up not really doing much with the video, but thank you nonetheless. What you're saying rings so true to certain aspects of what's up with me, as well, I hope you don't mind but I can't help but hear the echoes. I'm working on ADHD treatment now, and it impacts a lot of different things I have going on. Anyway, your tale about your channel really reminded me being unable to do my family blog for 8 years. It got to a sad part of my life and I just couldn't make myself focus on it. Anyway, 2021 has been rough, that's for sure. You're brave for making this video- - keep fighting the good fight - and thanks for making this and all your videos. (PS - I loved the credit card 4 dollar minimum story.)
If you're still struggling with what you bring to this hobby, I'd say a heart. It's also just going to be good because is is you. That's been the most fun about your channel since you started - I loved that you made mistakes and didn't take them out. It is actually better than "perfect" videos because we see common pitfalls - and what a human sounds like when playing a game.
Please don't feel pressure to start again or to stop for that matter - just know you too are not alone. Do what's right for your health - be that either way. (Or maybe showing up in seasons?)
Hey Daran!
Uh, you don't have to be even a little sorry about giving me space. I love my space.... and during this time, I've also needed my space. You've been one of the greatest people to talk to since I started recording, and you're a great friend.
And hey, I think I maybe have even said this to you when we talked about you making videos before: the only way to know if its "for you" is to try... I'm glad you started taking steps and figured out what was and wasn't working for you.
Isn't crazy how, (thinking about the family blog) something like that can kind of sit there in the back of your mind.... and, while the outside observer might say, "Dude, it would only take you x-amount of time to just get this thing done...." but I totally understand that blockade that happens... that bizarre phenomenon where you can let something sit in the back of your mind, kind of haunting you, for YEARS... and you know you could "just do it" -- but you also can't. It's a real thing. And it's weird, and I can't explain it... but it happens to me a lot. So I can absolutely understand that.
Thanks again for helping me think about my possible contributions. That is a great point -- sometimes I need a reminder that "me" IS something unique. You're a great friend and I appreciate your comment. Keep in touch!
@@TomTeachesGames I also consider you a great friend and it has been fun to see what you come up with over the years!
I know I'm just agreeing with you agreeing with me in a way, but that paragraph there about having something haunt you for years is so dead-on perfect. That is almost exactly how it went down. I've been looking for the words to explain to people and cannot come up with them. I might hit you up on some kind of direct message thing to say just a little more - but nothing I want on display in YT comment section, lol.
I will definitely keep in touch. Heck I wish I lived closer, I could use a friend in my vicinity that likes playing board games and is going through some similar stuff! Take care!
Tom I've watched your playthru's for a long time now. Always great content, and I know shooting all that yourself is SOOO much work. Just wanted to mention that there's an incredible community on Steam with Tabletop Simulator, if you have the computer to handle it. I'm sure you've heard of it, and I've used it SOO much to play various board games with folks remotely(some of my favorite Gloomhaven games have happened there). And of course, you're always free to hit me up. Always up for setting up a session of play and chatting with new people. Nice thing is...NO mess or cleanup! :)
Thank you so much for that! Right when we all went into lockdown, I signed up for TTS and really gave it a try.... and no matter how hard I tried to play with m best friend (who is also on TTS) I could never get the controls figured out.... I'm so terrible at digital gaming 🤣 and it makes me feel like I'm 75 years old. At the most, I've been pretty good at being able to play iPad board games.... but even then, sometimes I struggle. Why are physical components so dang easy to use!
But your'e absolutely right, the quick setup and clean up was insanely nice. I really probably should get back on there and try again... see if I can conquer this digital-weakness...
@@TomTeachesGames I certainly can understand the control woes with TTS...my suggestion is to run through the included tutorial a few times, use an actual mouse (very hard to do on a touchpad or whatever that little knob is that they put on laptops in the middle of the keyboard) and play some simple card-based games on it first (Dominion, Uno, whatever!). Again, I'm always willing to help, teach, or play!
Hi, i found your channel thru aeons end. I hope you made the ends meet. At the end of the day, there is no point in sacrificing so much for work. You should go back to your city and find a job, or just take some break
I wonder if starting a board game club at the school you teach at would do well? You could definitely teach and gamemaster.
Just so you know, I watch your channel because I share your love of board games and your content is some of the highest quality on CZcams. You are a good teacher and seem to be a kind person. The color of your skin and/or your gender never occurred to me. God bless.
Dang Daniel, thank you so much. You're really kind and I appreciate your compliments.
I just wanted to add that I think you and I are SUPER lucky in the sense that we really don't see skin color or gender the way other people do because it is so normal for us to see ourselves everywhere we look. Like, almost all of the content I consume is from people who look like me, so I don't really think about it.
I wanted to offer a perspective that might be worth considering, and I hope that's okay.... I lived 30 years of my life really trying to hide my sexuality. I've known I was gay since I was super young... but I also didn't want to be... so I just hid it as best as I could. Growing up, I hardly ever saw any gay characters on TV or in Movies. They may have been out there, but I wasn't exposed to them... And, again, I didn't really think anything of it, because that was my personal normal. Once they started to appear in the media, I was able to start seeing MYSELF as someone who might not be evil or broken or whatever.... So, there was that. Then, around 10 years ago, board game media was starting to get more and more popular. And, again, it felt absolutely normal to see "myself" (white men) talking about board games. I never even thought twice about it -- because it was so comfortable. Then, one day, I randomly came across @GeekyGaymerGuy 's channel. And, I know this sounds crazy.... but I literally thought that there weren't other gay people who played games. I just thought they were.... I don't even know.... I think I thought they were always out clubbing or something. But Theo literally flicked a switch in my brain where I realized, "Holy cow, there are other people LIKE ME who play games" -- and the feeling was seriously intense and amazing. I had no clue how much I needed to see someone like me (obviously I'm talking about my sexuality, not my skin or gender here, because that was already being represented) talking about board games.
Anyway, all of this is to say that I absolutely get it. It is really easy to never think about the skin color or gender of the people you are watching when they match your own so frequently. BUT, that makes it even more important to listen to people for whom those things DO matter. It wasn't until I had my own personal "Oh my gosh" moment that I really started to understand what "Representation Matters" means... So, as much as things like that are flying under our radar, I know they matter to other people, and it has become important to me to elevate diverse people, so that other people who don't look like me can have that euphoric moment, and feel welcome and included at the table.
Anyway, I'm sorry that comment was much longer than intended. Thank you again for your kindness towards me as I am obviously feeling lots of feelings. I hope to be back to my normal as soon as possible!
@@TomTeachesGames Thank you for sharing that. I'm a Christian and as such I would like to think that I see everyone's voice as having value, no matter how much or little they are represented on CZcams. Don't ever feel like your voice isn't important. A lot of people including me see your contribution as valuable, and hope to see you back soon.
Thank you so much. That’s really kind of you, and I do need to be reminded that I latte sometimes. Thanks again!
Sending this vid to another student *not saying his name because its the internet * i found your channel by finding your zombiecide black plague and idk it was you until i heard your voice. K hope you are doing ok ill prob visit one day to the old middle school to say hi. K cya and remember your not alone.
I hope you are still in that hall way with the lockers with orange and yellow lockers
Can I recommend a great book? Have you read "Extreme Ownership?" It really changed how I look at life and my job.
I have written down the title and will do some investigation. Thank you!
@@TomTeachesGames it's a really good book and there is some great online content to go with it, great way to look at things, at least for me it changed a lot of how I act and do things
great you are back. take you time to rest and take care. all the best from russia!
Thank you so much! I will absolutely take my time to rest -- resting is my favorite! But also, I really do feel like my videos are at their best when I'm at my best... so that's the goal! Thank you again for your comment!
Hey Tom question Have you played or heard of the game Bad company??!! Its like Spacebase. I can't wait to play it. I am hoping its on radar!!
I haven’t heard anything about it! I think I saw Game Night did a video recently…? But that is literally the end of my knowledge. I did buy Machi Koro 2 though!
@@TomTeachesGames ill check that one out tomorrow!! Just watched game night and a Z from dice tower play Bad Company looks like alot of simple fun.
Teaching has been a disaster the last two years and unfortunately is not coming back and I do not see it getting better.
It has certainly been a fascinating time to be teaching.... I really think that what will need to happen is a re-defining of our job description, AND us teachers setting boundaries for ourselves. As it is, right now, it feels like everyone has piled responsibilities on US that should (or could) be designated to other people. I think it happened because we do love the kids, and we want them to be happy and healthy and successful. Sadly, when we are trying to be everything for these kids, they are going to suffer. If we can share these responsibilities with other people, I think that will only help the kids. So, for myself, I've had to set some boundaries for what I am and am not willing to do as a teacher, and I've been working to make sure that qualified people can kind of step into those roles that I'm setting aside.... if that makes sense at all...
@@TomTeachesGames fascinating is not a word that I would use to describe my last two years in the classroom!
😂😂😂 Okay. Fair. I’ll give that to you… because, yeah. I’m not sure how much longer I’ll make it.
Sadly I do not think our profession is ever coming back to what it once was
@@TomTeachesGames yeah it's like being on the Titanic knowing the iceberg is coming
You may or may not have spiritual beliefs. From a Christian perspective a spirit of depression can be beat 💓 by an attitude of gratitude. Take a look at the link. I'm only sharing because I care. No judgments.