Fiancé died in rehab, we killed our unborn child through abortion at 25 when addicted. I’m 34, live in my car, talk to no one daily. No family. No friends. Brother. You must look at your positives.
I'm hoping the best for you man. I can't imagine how rough that is, but you're still here and I think that's proof enough that you should keep going. Please hang on, you'll get through this.
@@brianmeen2158 Agree. We are not entitled to anything, not even jobs, nor kids, nor wife. Just look after yourself first and hope for a better tomorrow.
Beautifully put. The only real way forward is to become spiritually independent. Grow values that are outside of the domain of normal society. What that is or will be for anyone person is the way itself.
@blazejames47 Yes. I totally agree. At one stage, you must understand that even profound sadness and anger against the system, destiny, or even God that broke you is empty and must be put to rest.
“Found a red IPod at an antique store.” Just that statement is enough to give me anxiety about getting older. I just found out a week ago that my oldest brother was murdered. My other brother decided to leave this earth in 2018 and my older sister did the same in 2015. Seeing my siblings not make it past their 30’s and 40’s has been extremely tough for me, especially since I haven’t really done much with my life except work nonstop since I was 16 years old. I don’t own a home, don’t have prospects for finding a wife, or having children. And I’ll live longer than my any of my older siblings if I don’t die unexpectedly. Along with all that, all the other issues like the state of the world and economy it’s looking somewhat bleak. I empathize with your worries.
@@rejectionistmanifesto8836 What do you mean? Children are born into this world everyday. We are not allowed to _ever_ leave. This heII will continue forever. Also, fuck "God." Whatever made this place is more malevolent than can be humanly comprehended.
I am 58 and when I was 48 I had a mid life crisis and have been going through another for almost 9 months now. Hopeless feeling along with isolation. Thinking on the years gone by is really hard on me. If it wasn't for God my wife I wouldn't be here. Almost drank myself to death until I layed it down last November. Life to me doesn't feel right and I don't feel normal. It's like a sense of impending doom over my head day in day out. Thank you for this video. I do have a glimmer of hope. God and my wife. My home is payed for as our vehicle and I live in the country in Louisiana. I have no reason to feel the way I do except for a spine disease. God bless everyone and thank you again for the video.
@@leontios6661 There's no explaining away the pain you're feeling from that loneliness and I won't try to do that. Men are offered a very revealing perspective on life, utility, and what it means to be loved. What love really is. I found that when I was isolated, the love of creation, of God, is what I felt the most. Just saying I see the weight of the life you are living and wish you strength. And perhaps it was a blessing in disguise. Maybe in a country where people aren't so materialistic, where people value family, safety, opportunity, and strength of character, there is someone waiting for you
I've found over the years that people typically want what others have... enjoy your freedom my friend. The love you yearn for can be the same one you loathe in due time, making you miss those years by yourself. Be good to you and those around you is all. @leontios6661
As a daughter, I appreciate you sharing your experiences. I can tell you, most kid's, me at least , love their fathers dearly and regret a lot. A LOT. missed time, missed expressed love. So now, I tell my dad that I love him, every time we speak. It was difficult at first, after a couple of times he said it back and it wasn't weird anymore.. and now I'm so happy we got into the habit. Telling you this, because I'm sure she feels similar, even if she doesn't express it. You dads, you guys, are dearly loved, ywe know, how much you've done for us...
I'm gonna be 34 this month and I got no wife or kids, never even been close to either, currently single and trying to motivate myself to work on something resembling my current career after being laid off 3 times in the last 4 years. Sometimes it really feels like it's over. It's getting harder to visualize a future where I have the things I wanted, and it all feels purposeless. I genuinely don't know how people make huge life decisions/changes in their 20's, like marriage and kids. I graduated college at 23, blinked, and I was 30.
Sometimes the big decisions pave the way. It’s really counterintuitive. I had a kid at 20. I was a boozer and a loser. Had no idea what I was gonna do, but I knew I was gonna be a good father. Fast forward and I was making 6 figures and my son graduated with a degree in chemical engineering. Sometimes the why arrives before the how.
Don't feel bad some of us aren't lucky enough to find a purpose. Like you I'm 36 and live in N.J and NYC. My purpose in life are my businesses and clients, personally I like adding value to others and making money in the process. I know FOR a FACT I'll be a horrible father so I'm avoiding kids like a plague 🤭 But you just need to find your WHY I do have a girlfriend overseas though since I'm able to travel for free. However I STILL consider myself single because like this man story being married and having the RISK of divorce is enough for me to NOT permanently deal with a woman.
Hey brother, don’t feel down or feel like others are passing you in life. Easier said then done I know, but sometimes the grass is not always greener. I’m 26 with my first kid on the way, I don’t even have a HS diploma. Trying to make the best out what we have everyday is the key. It may not seem like it but there is always someone who wishes they can have what you have (even if you feel like you don’t have much) or live the life you’re living without realizing it. Keep on pushing.
@@zad0k91push the negative thoughts aside, I get it, it seems impossible. I’m not perfect by any means I’m just a regular guy on yt. And I know we don’t know each other personally or know each others lives. You never know where you will be in life in the future, if you delete yourself you will never get to experience the nice things you pass up on. Depression is a terrible thing to experience, I’m rooting for you bro. I’m not gonna push religion on you but I’ll be asking the lord to bless you.
Man talkin about "What direction we thought we'd go" vs where life ends up bringing us... A drunk driver swerved into my lane and she hit me head-on at 45mph(70kmh) a week before my 24th birthday, that was almost 15 years ago, crippled, living in chronic pain for the rest of my life... No wife, no kids, no career, only a couple of RL friends and they never wanna do shit, no prospect to any future outside of homelessness after my parents croak... yeeting myself will happen long before that does though 🤣 Yeah life definitely didn't turn out the way I wanted it to, it is what it is though. Basic stoicism 101 - Everything external is out of our control. It may have been that womans fault for ruining my life, but it's my responsibility in how I deal with it. Spend time with your kids, tell em you love them, just cherish it all my man... Life is hard and the joy of it all is having a family to love.
Wish I could shine your light on a few people....strange how the real deal gives you perspective and strength.. I beleive you only have that because you chose that. Nicely done. Wishing you some peace with the pain
Communities outside of major cities are increasingly WASTELANDS. Addicts, strip malls, the old and the listless. Every aspect of society is going to reflect this basic dysfunction.
I moved from Indiana to SF in 1989 making 30k (78k today). Lived in the city with no problem, paid cash for grad courses, snowboarded, lived it up. It was clean and safe, like a paradise in many ways. I also lived in Monterey and Squaw Valley Tahoe after that. It's crazy how much the "economy" has been destroyed since that time, as well as how many of our beautiful cities are being destroyed by GovCorp. It's been a wild ride and things are going to get even rougher as they continue to force their dystopian vision upon humanity.
I hate to say it but the people that have been in charge for the last 60 years have destroyed a once great county. Try your best to insulate yourself from any coming economic crashes. I’m 44 too and feel it. I understand completely where you’re coming from.
You don’t live in a country just like I don’t (Canada). We live in corporations. And the people in charge aren’t the ones you think are in charge. And they’ve eroded everything on purpose, and it has nothing to do with money and everything to do with control, mass demoralization and the syphoning of our energy. If you believe what they present, they’ve already got you. If you believe in politics, they’ve got you. Keep things simple.
Fellow midwestern 40 yo dude. Lean into it. The young dumdums need our guidance. We need men to step up. Give back. We're done. Help out and reduce their misery as much as possible. That's all we can do.
Lol thanks if you provide this but personally I'm good I'm just living for myself out here in NYC it's survival of the fittest. Plus I'm learning the LESS humans you interact with the MORE peace you have AND higher income.
Yeah I see the young men and many are just lost . I see many that don’t even want to meet women or work .. others are striving to be victims and that mindset is so far from how my generation felt growing up. I’m just not sure what has caused young guys to feel this way…?
I feel ya brother. I'm 40 living with my dad now in California after I got destroyed in my last relationship and lost a lot. I'm pretty much starting over and have a strong disdain for the US....
there is nothing to hang onto. it does not matter who you think you are or your status or your possessions or your family and friends or professional relationships. you lose it all. when you understand this and you accept it and you do not fight it, then you are liberated. there was never anything there to begin with. nor do you have to purposefully try to let go- because there is nothing to hang onto, that is the default situation already. nothing to hang onto and nothing to get rid of. when you stop fighting it then you are at rest. "the first half of life is building a healthy ego. the second half is looking inward and letting go of your ego." -- jung
Life is hell for me currently but I have much to fight for and much to be thankful for. Everyone in the comments and the gentleman who posted, my heart’s with you and I hope you find joy. Surely you will know how to appreciate it.
I’m 45 and I was in a bad place mentally for several years. The difference is, I live about the most ideal life anyone could ask for. I have everything to be grateful for, but still found myself suffering bad. I say this because it doesn’t matter the pains of your past or the current shit that’s causing our mental health issues. The problem is our nutrition man! We’ve been poisoned our entire lives and the FDA claims everything is fine. Over the last year I focused all of my energy on my diet and exercise, I’m here to tell you I’m a changed man. I’m happy to help everyone with their nutrition and exercise to routines. I’ve just started to gear up my CZcams channel for exactly that. Mental and physical with nutrition. I sincerely hope you get everything figured out. Please feel free to reach out to me if you think I can help!
And it's not just the food. The FDA approves several poisons for Americans to use. Lice shampoo contains neurotoxins that cause mental and physical health issues. These poisons have been used on millions of children for decades.
I'm 41 and grew up in the Sierra Nevada foothills too. I wonder if we crossed paths at some point. As for the economy, I believe we're at the same place the Soviet Union was in the late 80s just before their economy totally collapsed: all the official sources are insisting that the country has never been more prosperous while everyone who isn't an out of touch bureaucrat knows that it's over and is just waiting for the the thunder to catch up with the lightning. As usual, those in charge will be the last to know and suffer the least consequences unless they are held to account.
Always heartbreaking to see a daughter go from daddy’s little princess to a demon. All you want to do is protect her and show her that you love her but she doesn’t want to hear it.
@@briannarickner5541 don't take it so serious. I've seen young girls rebel, and most of the time it's just them being teenagers but it can get out of hand fast.
In my 40s with kids too and I think the next flee place is rural America. But the difference is the youth would rather stay in the populated areas. I think most parents insulated their kids and showed them a prosperous US but the reality outside of the screens is, it's over.
My man, I don't think anyone ever envisioned as a kid turning 40+. But then you wake up one day and here you are. I bet it will feel about the same when 60+...just BAM! Here we are... 😮😅. Just have to enjoy the time.
@@ryandgarland my kids are gone. My wife is gone. It’s a lonely month to month struggle to make ends meet and live in poverty as opposed to homelessness. I’m really not enjoying the time at all anymore.
@@danieldaniels7571 crap, that could easy be my life in 10 years. Well, I don't really have any answers. My life isn't bad by any stretch, but it is still a bit of a struggle. I suppose it always has and always will be. I guess the lesson is to try to enjoy the present as much as possible. Nothing is forever.
You've managed to capture the complexity of life and how moments of connection and nostalgia can be intertwined with feelings of uncertainty and reflection. It's touching to see how you find meaning in the small, shared experiences with your children even as you navigate the larger and more daunting challenges of life. It's very zen and meditative.
Hey buddy, thanks for sharing. I did the opposite. I moved from the Midwest to California in 2005. Now, I am your age also divorced and have 9 year old son. Prices are crazy here. At least the weather is nice.
Wow, I’m 42 and I’m going through the same stuff you are that divorced in 2022 and live in Idaho. All the Californians started moving here hiking up the housing rates and my daughters 20 and she doesn’t wanna talk to me for whatever reason so I feel you man , hang in there
Interesting how people respond to more personal content. Shows the state of most people in the world. Especially the men who have to sit with their own thoughts.
As a 25 year old male who’s been having bad luck wit girl after girl… this made me realize I really need to try and be a big part of a company or make my own cause any man can have kids with a woman but the women doesn’t usually stay around and the kids do grow up so while that aspect of life (parenthood) is fulfilling i can imagine the success of my own company would be almost just as fulfilling and can “grow” up until the day I die .
i commend you for being a dad to your kids and showing concern. in todays world such a task is like that of Sisyphus. i hope everything works out for you man. your daughter will come around in time.
I went through your whole video, man. I hear you. And I truly hope that everything gets better for you and your family in the future! Going through my own challenges with the tech sector, burnout, grim vision of the future. Hearing your thoughts and relating to what you said helped me a bit today. Thanks, man!
Whatever happens, get up again. Try again. Each time, you'll get wiser, stronger and be more aware of who you are. Everyone is unique. Be real again. Listen to your gut. You've got this.
Thanks for opening up. As a man it's always a risk. I do think you doing so will be helpful to many fellow men. Beeing a man over 40, married or not, comes with an inner loneliness that I don't think any woman or younger man could understand. Stay strong, brother!
Im a woman, My first existencial crisis was when i was a child practically...yes...life with no meaning...and people trying to help me through the years ..and still i believe life has no meaning 😊 so..why not doing things we love before we die? I know its difficult, i dont buy lots of stuff i like, i dont have many dates as much as i would love to, ..and some of my relatives and 'friends' are quite toxic, but yes, i only have one life (i dont want people to control it) Good luck to everyone in this difficult time. We are not alone in this❤
Freedom is AcceptCe without judgement of this world. Define your own world, from within. Live within our own light internally. Disconnect from the energy sync which is the modern corrupted world. Find yourself in all others, realise we are all One and shine your inner light brightly. You have a kid. Thats a blessing, no matter what.
Im 38, have 2 grown stepkids that i raised since they were 4 and 6 they are 21 amd 23 now. There dad wasnt in the picture at all. I lived in the midwest for 34 years moved to southwest 4 years ago when my youngest moved out. Enjoy the time u can with em when there small it goes by in the blink of a eye. I was able to withdraw my 401k from the mine and used that to move across the country. So literally got all my ducks in row...it had been good and bam.....ended up getting cancer. Typical.... Stay safe out there my freinds hug and kiss your kids often bc u never know what could happen and they grow up to fast.
You’ll be ok man. Be grateful go outside go on walks and limit your entertainment , sometimes we just need a reset that isn’t a major deal. I watched all my older relatives go through something like this and they all came out stronger
I’m 48 and I too have a 11yr old son and 15yr old daughter. Divorced and alone. I can relate to how you feel about your daughter. This is the age where they begin to peel away from you and it hurts. The dating scene is absolutely horrific and my income compared to their mom and her new husband is minuscule, which makes it even more difficult as a single parent financially to be able to do nice things for my kids. They are great kids. I just wish that I could do more and I feel guilty because I destroyed their two parent home. Try and keep your head up man you’re providing solace for people who are in similar situations at least knowing we’re not alone, subscribed. 🙏
Guilt and heartache for me, which I wouldn't have predicted being the case a few years ago. Thought I could force of will life, turns out lifes bigger and tougher than me. Some days hard to focus on the good, I try to think of things I'd have liked my parents to have imparted to me at the same age, so I talk to my daughter about personal finance... she's less than impressed but listens sometimes. Hope you have a good day man.
DUDE YOU ARE DOPE FOR SHOWING THEM RECLAIMING ELECTRONICS FOR YOUR KIDS. When I told my parents I wad doing electronics fabrication, they repugnantly asked if I was gonna fix short wave radios for a living. YOU ARE RAD. Stop being so soft on yourself dude. Load up her ipod with PANTERA, Scream HELL YEAH, AND LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT SO MAKE IT NICE.
You can that's the thing, the difference is the rules of the "game" changed. I'm fortunate to live near a major city NYC. I did enough networking to find my "rich" dad to learn the tricks the rich use and it actually a game 😂 I'm able to live on my own paying 1k for a room in nyc and I have a maid that comes and clean and a personal chef that meal preps for me. However I'm always working if it's not in my job it's in my businesses
Life’s a trip, that’s for sure. I’m glad you’re here on this earth with me, going thru it. Baby girl loves you, trust that. Daddy’s are the bestest to kids. You a good daddy as is.
No clue how your channel found its way. I was looking up random philosophical phrases or something, but sorta sat & listened to the whole thing like we were just 2 guys hanging out. When you mentioned the empty malls, I went to the Philippines in April to scout out moving out of this trap we are in the west & US in particular for our case, & it was like going back in time. I will be 40 in less than 1 week & I remember jam packed malls. Amazon & online orders has slowly choked out all the physical stores. Locally I've seen stores closing seemingly after lease agreements are finished the employees are not warned it's just a snap l & no more Golden Corral, no more Sears, no more Red Lobster, no more Taco Johns or Papa Johns in this or that area. I don't know your financial situation or if you could continue some kind of secure online work, but the Philippines has honestly given me more hope than I have had in 15 years. I wouldn't make such a long rant post if I wasn't sincere. You have a daughter & maybe other things to consider. I just wanted to share the idea of expat. & You seem the type that if it interested you, you will learn the basics, but look into the more detailed stuff as well. Have a good night bro. No sarcasm or snappy edgy anti-joke, just have a good one.
All those lamenting their existence should look to God. He knows why you were made. If you make efforts toward Him you may be surprised that He reciprocates. One principle here is that to people who are making an honest effort to follow His teachings, a prayer that requests something that is not contrary to His plan/will is likely to be granted. The best way to do this is to imagine Him sitting right in front of you asking you what is on your mind and heart. I won’t go into my personal journey too much but I used to be an atheist and God found me and is killing the worst in me. I’m a 40 year old former “doomer” who believed existence shouldn’t have been. I’ve changed a lot but man there have been growing pains. Some of the last 3 years have been hell. God bless all of you. Don’t give up. ❤
I can't read stuff like this anymore. I get why people say this and I'm glad it helped for them, but for me I honestly believe that understanding your situation and your suffering and learning from it, taking care of yourself and the ones you love, is better.
You're interesting. It's rare to hear a raw and genuine perspective --even when it turns into twenty-five minutes of dragon warrior sound effects while I'm working
I too am a 44 year old man in the Midwest. I even have a PlayStation! It's funny, I'm almost 12 minutes in and you're talking about house prices and who but doctors and lawyers live in those homes? Man, I wonder that all the time. There are lots of jobs that pay well, but I'm in Kansas City and the here are lots of big neighborhoods of really nice homes and how do these people afford that? I grew up in a duplex, live in a townhome now with my mom, so I'm not the guy to ask about job suggestions. Anyway, I should finish your video but I used to think about that a lot just out of pure curiosity. I'm finding changing mindset helps alleviate that.
You'd be surprised. I bet the majority of those people in those homes either can't TRULY afford it and taking out debt, or they do have high paying jobs but are living paycheck to paycheck. You see in the news so many times how all these celebrities, athletes of yesteryear are selling their homes, memorabilia, etc because they can no longer sustain it
Thank you for your story i TRULY appreciate it! 🙏🏾 Personally im 36 and I'm avoiding marriage and kids in the United States AT ALL COST. People nowadays women specifically aren't built to be wives, and the risk of divorce like yourself is too high. I rather avoid all this hassle and live a life of financial abundance and peace.
@eddenoy321 trust me.... I fully know and I hope you're honestly winning as well! There's enough for all of us! Life will always provide as long your intentions and desires are true
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 I always thought having kids was a terrible and misguided decision that would crush men and women both. Children are an industry for medical, legal, manufacturing, and government. It a taboo that is never talked about. Good on you for knowing.
@eddenoy321 yup exactly it quickly keeps you as a slave to the system. Plus humans passed the need of survival, having kids now ate a "WANT" no longer a "need"
Yes but you don’t seem to realize how stressful it is to have kids! Figure in the higher cost of living and that’s a very high stress position. I get your point though as we grew up being told we should work, marry and have kids. That ideal just is not in the cards for many of us. So that leaves us with what to do…?
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Spoken from someone who has never actually dealt with babies or child-rearing!
49 here, until my early mid 30's I was on unemployment and housing benefit here in the UK. Life has got significantly better since then, but one thing I try to do is to just keep looking forward. Dwelling on the past, on the way the world constantly changes and "isn't like it used to be" will drive you insane. I didn't have internet at all until maybe 23 years old, so lived an entire life pre-internet, grew up in the 80's skateboarding, listening to punk rock, watching movies like Pretty In Pink when they came out lol... but the world just isn't like that anymore. Now I'm married, have a nice house with an almost paid off mortgage, 500 games in my Steam account and 4 cats - this is my new life now, and I embrace it, especially as I never saw it coming in the first place! Just go with the flow and try and stay posi.
Lot's of videos like this on here. A lot of people are hurting. You are not alone. Im 54 & could tell a hell of a story. I struggle just to make it to another day. Maybe i will make a video.
We are here to make the world a better place. Most of us relinquish that responsibility. Making the world better TODAY requires peaceful resistance to these destructive systems.
Once you see suffering as temporary and everything else is good. We aren't meant for this world. I'm an Orthodox Christian man who has known all different kinds of suffering and I thank God I have been through it so far so good. I take the good and bad as blessings and lessons to grow from. Staying humble and getting things done, no matter what it is, I just do it.
"Hello Big Brother!" It's Altered Carbon Season 1 bro. If you don't know WHAT that is watch it you'll like it. That is WHAT we live in. The girls think the memories just go away magically somehow, and were left with our you know WHAT in our hand cause they're all used up Star....ers like the NIN song.
Man, I know what your problem is because I deal with it myself. It's easy to look at how bad everything is, especially as men with a lot of experience and wisdom in life. Start focusing on the present and building your life for the next 10 years. Focus on the positives. Try to actively look for positive things and opportunities and say, "how good is that?" For example, the USA is the best country in the world, by far, for an average person to become successful in business or anything.
At least you were able to imprint on your kids after their birth..I'm 46, and found out in 2019 i had a 9yo daughter i never knew existed..needless to say..been a long road and an emotional roller coaster. If your wondering, the mom ghosted me a week after becoming pregnant unknown to me at the time.
I am 57. I raised my son on my own an have seen all the changes with him a sons love. For his father is very diff then. The girls I have never had a daughter
"Accumulation of wealth at one pole is at the same time accumulation of misery, agony of toil, slavery, ignorance, brutality, mental degradation, at the opposite pole," Marx wrote.
That quote is the sentiment of a deeply lazy person who strongly hated work. Communism and socialism have caused a million times more agony of toil, slavery, ignorance, brutality, and mental degradation than anything in the history of man.
@@ronfroehlich4697 Capitalist society is a slave society, there is no relationship between how hard someone works and what they are paid, and not to mention the laws are written by big business, aka america is a lawless nation run my a kleptocratic business community. If a real free market existed, everyone would have the right to print currency so they could hold big business accountable, you're not going to hold a giant mega corporation accountable with infinity money accountable, just see the bailouts of the big banks in 2008.
Best thing I ever did was not bring children into this world, I get why you would and don't throw any shade at anyone that decided to have some, but this grind ends with me. There is no sense of commun8ity here in the US, everyone is out for themselves and you see it advertised everywhere, in our media, in our work places, in our schools and even the way we treat each other. Our politicians match the spirit of the people and that spirit is sickly.
If you consider the fact that basic shelter can be mass produced for as little as $25,000 per unit it becomes obvious that conventional housing on the market in urban areas is really nothing but a form of real estate speculation based upon what the market would bear if and when you decided to sell. And this is quite sick considering that shelter is a necessity. But at least in Cleveland used vintage houses are considerably cheaper than what you’re quoting. And that would be because nobody wants to buy a used house. Everybody who can afford to do so wants a brand new four bedroom house with a tripe garage preferably on a cul de sac erected on virgin land which was carved out of sold off farmland recently. But then if the price of gasoline gets too high these people could find themselves stranded out in the exurbs contemplating the necessity of turning their entire lot into a vegetable garden just to feed themsevles.
James 4:14 Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.
I feel ya man.. Im from Ireland around the same age 48 and it certainly dies feel like simthing is going to give with all the stuff going on right now. and the same thing is happening here prices of everything thru the roof.. we have social / affordable housing announcend €450k. Tge price of food .. tge influx of migrants is shocking and i agree after being shafted atvthe last recession in 08 get the feeling were ramping up for far worse
Everyone in the comments seems to be saying the same thing. Quality of life in this country is low. There's an economic boot on our collective necks. Who's gonna be the leader and start this bloodless revolution. We as a people can change everything if we just unify and demand it.
William Golding is having a mid life crisis and he needs to get over it before he gets to be as old as me (67 years old); and I don’t feel as bad as he does!
I’m about 4 years older than you brother. Hang in there. I’d like to say it gets better but you just have to adjust and push through. You’re an intelligent guy and a thinker. We see through the bullshit. Usually what’s on the other side of the bullshit isn’t too pretty.
I am also 44. My crisis is that I don't think I need to work any more but I still do and I don't know if I should. I bought a foreclosed house after the Wall Street crashed the whole World's economies in 2008 and everybody was screwed, and somehow I was the one uneffected.
We bought a tax sale house for 8k. It was some work, but has paid off. Few years ago we bought 10 acres up north for 17k. Working on building an off grid earthship design cottage to get rid of as many bills as possible. Using masonry walls instead of tire walls. I use linux. Money is a store of value. Currencies loose value. Money is not currencies. Cost of utilities always goes up. The kids actually like going up north camping now. With lower populations I find people are more likely to help each other. Inflation at 2% means over 20 years currencies have lost 40% of value. Property tax at 2% means in 20 years you have paid more than 40% of houses value. The house value goes up too. Agricultural tax exemptions can reduce property tax. Even thou wages go up inflation means you loose value. They fraction the currencies so they take value little bit by little bit. So the currency controllers can take a little more for themselves. Same old money changers. No different then coin clipping by Romans. Senors walk the malls here. Makes sense with bathrooms, benches, and climate control. They need to put dept of aging and social security offices in malls.
I was always getting the "At Will/Right to Work" law used. Just as 3 weeks vacation & 40% vesting. Start over at the bottom. I started slow at buying, fixing & renting old houses. I found something that worked. My wife was against it "all I care about is houses" she'd throw in my face. Well beginning an endeavor is a lot of dedication. I had us up to 3 & the down saved for that 4th. She boyfriends, they take that down payment. Then they false accuse, then after learning he is HIV positive, I file divorce. He coaches so as to live off her takings. I lose my life's work. Why Even Try
People live in paradigms and when a paradigm is challenged cognitive dissonance kicks in to maintain that paradigm. When cognitive dissonance starts to die, a schism begins to take shape and it's there that the fork in the road is noticed.
Fiancé died in rehab, we killed our unborn child through abortion at 25 when addicted.
I’m 34, live in my car, talk to no one daily. No family. No friends.
Brother. You must look at your positives.
I want to take my own life every single day. You will have to fight every single day brother.
@@Brad-wc2xuman that comment hit hard, hope things will get better for you. most of us go through a lot of shit
I'm hoping the best for you man. I can't imagine how rough that is, but you're still here and I think that's proof enough that you should keep going. Please hang on, you'll get through this.
Hope things get better for you.know the feeling
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This society is profoundly sick. All we can do is enjoy what little we have and try to make things a little brighter in our way.
Human nature is not pretty. But yes, the best thing we can do is dial down expectations and try to enjoy the small things
@@brianmeen2158 Agree. We are not entitled to anything, not even jobs, nor kids, nor wife. Just look after yourself first and hope for a better tomorrow.
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" Krishnamurti
We live in a society that relies on the commodification and destruction of meaning and debasement of human beings.
Beautifully put. The only real way forward is to become spiritually independent. Grow values that are outside of the domain of normal society. What that is or will be for anyone person is the way itself.
@@gideonros2705 Precisely. We can’t be too hard on ourselves for reacting to this system, but we must pursue values outside of it.
@blazejames47 Yes. I totally agree. At one stage, you must understand that even profound sadness and anger against the system, destiny, or even God that broke you is empty and must be put to rest.
It feels so robotic doesn't it?
@@gideonros2705not god, “man”
I live in my tent at 32, I have to beg for food. If I don't talk to my parents in 2 months, they barely notice. Winters are pure hell.
I hear you.
im the same age , living in a camper , cant complain its better than a tent in the winter..
Humanity is in a crisis, because for a thousand years we've been lied to about who and what we truly are.
True.
Go on.
Concise and correct
“Found a red IPod at an antique store.”
Just that statement is enough to give me anxiety about getting older.
I just found out a week ago that my oldest brother was murdered. My other brother decided to leave this earth in 2018 and my older sister did the same in 2015. Seeing my siblings not make it past their 30’s and 40’s has been extremely tough for me, especially since I haven’t really done much with my life except work nonstop since I was 16 years old. I don’t own a home, don’t have prospects for finding a wife, or having children. And I’ll live longer than my any of my older siblings if I don’t die unexpectedly. Along with all that, all the other issues like the state of the world and economy it’s looking somewhat bleak. I empathize with your worries.
What would change this
Be HAPPY and thank God every day you dont have to watch children grow up in this kind of world.
@@rejectionistmanifesto8836 What do you mean? Children are born into this world everyday. We are not allowed to _ever_ leave. This heII will continue forever. Also, fuck "God." Whatever made this place is more malevolent than can be humanly comprehended.
I am 58 and when I was 48 I had a mid life crisis and have been going through another for almost 9 months now. Hopeless feeling along with isolation. Thinking on the years gone by is really hard on me. If it wasn't for God my wife I wouldn't be here. Almost drank myself to death until I layed it down last November. Life to me doesn't feel right and I don't feel normal. It's like a sense of impending doom over my head day in day out. Thank you for this video. I do have a glimmer of hope. God and my wife. My home is payed for as our vehicle and I live in the country in Louisiana. I have no reason to feel the way I do except for a spine disease. God bless everyone and thank you again for the video.
Shalom Enjoy the sunshine , .. and the rain . Ask Jesus into your life ,Be want to have relationship with you/ us.
Did you or do you have any heart issues?
@@leontios6661 There's no explaining away the pain you're feeling from that loneliness and I won't try to do that. Men are offered a very revealing perspective on life, utility, and what it means to be loved. What love really is. I found that when I was isolated, the love of creation, of God, is what I felt the most.
Just saying I see the weight of the life you are living and wish you strength. And perhaps it was a blessing in disguise.
Maybe in a country where people aren't so materialistic, where people value family, safety, opportunity, and strength of character, there is someone waiting for you
I've found over the years that people typically want what others have... enjoy your freedom my friend. The love you yearn for can be the same one you loathe in due time, making you miss those years by yourself. Be good to you and those around you is all. @leontios6661
As a daughter, I appreciate you sharing your experiences. I can tell you, most kid's, me at least , love their fathers dearly and regret a lot. A LOT. missed time, missed expressed love. So now, I tell my dad that I love him, every time we speak. It was difficult at first, after a couple of times he said it back and it wasn't weird anymore.. and now I'm so happy we got into the habit. Telling you this, because I'm sure she feels similar, even if she doesn't express it. You dads, you guys, are dearly loved, ywe know, how much you've done for us...
I'm gonna be 34 this month and I got no wife or kids, never even been close to either, currently single and trying to motivate myself to work on something resembling my current career after being laid off 3 times in the last 4 years. Sometimes it really feels like it's over. It's getting harder to visualize a future where I have the things I wanted, and it all feels purposeless.
I genuinely don't know how people make huge life decisions/changes in their 20's, like marriage and kids. I graduated college at 23, blinked, and I was 30.
Sometimes the big decisions pave the way. It’s really counterintuitive. I had a kid at 20. I was a boozer and a loser. Had no idea what I was gonna do, but I knew I was gonna be a good father. Fast forward and I was making 6 figures and my son graduated with a degree in chemical engineering. Sometimes the why arrives before the how.
Don't feel bad some of us aren't lucky enough to find a purpose.
Like you I'm 36 and live in N.J and NYC.
My purpose in life are my businesses and clients, personally I like adding value to others and making money in the process.
I know FOR a FACT I'll be a horrible father so I'm avoiding kids like a plague 🤭
But you just need to find your WHY I do have a girlfriend overseas though since I'm able to travel for free.
However I STILL consider myself single because like this man story being married and having the RISK of divorce is enough for me to NOT permanently deal with a woman.
Hey brother, don’t feel down or feel like others are passing you in life. Easier said then done I know, but sometimes the grass is not always greener.
I’m 26 with my first kid on the way, I don’t even have a HS diploma.
Trying to make the best out what we have everyday is the key.
It may not seem like it but there is always someone who wishes they can have what you have (even if you feel like you don’t have much) or live the life you’re living without realizing it.
Keep on pushing.
@@zad0k91push the negative thoughts aside, I get it, it seems impossible.
I’m not perfect by any means I’m just a regular guy on yt. And I know we don’t know each other personally or know each others lives.
You never know where you will be in life in the future, if you delete yourself you will never get to experience the nice things you pass up on.
Depression is a terrible thing to experience, I’m rooting for you bro. I’m not gonna push religion on you but I’ll be asking the lord to bless you.
Take 50 IU of vitamin D for a few months it helped me a lot.@@zad0k91
Man talkin about "What direction we thought we'd go" vs where life ends up bringing us...
A drunk driver swerved into my lane and she hit me head-on at 45mph(70kmh) a week before my 24th birthday, that was almost 15 years ago, crippled, living in chronic pain for the rest of my life... No wife, no kids, no career, only a couple of RL friends and they never wanna do shit, no prospect to any future outside of homelessness after my parents croak... yeeting myself will happen long before that does though 🤣
Yeah life definitely didn't turn out the way I wanted it to, it is what it is though. Basic stoicism 101 - Everything external is out of our control. It may have been that womans fault for ruining my life, but it's my responsibility in how I deal with it.
Spend time with your kids, tell em you love them, just cherish it all my man... Life is hard and the joy of it all is having a family to love.
You are extremely strong
Wish I could shine your light on a few people....strange how the real deal gives you perspective and strength.. I beleive you only have that because you chose that. Nicely done. Wishing you some peace with the pain
Communities outside of major cities are increasingly WASTELANDS. Addicts, strip malls, the old and the listless. Every aspect of society is going to reflect this basic dysfunction.
I moved from Indiana to SF in 1989 making 30k (78k today). Lived in the city with no problem, paid cash for grad courses, snowboarded, lived it up. It was clean and safe, like a paradise in many ways.
I also lived in Monterey and Squaw Valley Tahoe after that. It's crazy how much the "economy" has been destroyed since that time, as well as how many of our beautiful cities are being destroyed by GovCorp. It's been a wild ride and things are going to get even rougher as they continue to force their dystopian vision upon humanity.
Doesn’t matter. Rapture soon!😊
@@Investormillard Been hearing that for 10,000 years now.
I hate to say it but the people that have been in charge for the last 60 years have destroyed a once great county. Try your best to insulate yourself from any coming economic crashes. I’m 44 too and feel it. I understand completely where you’re coming from.
You don’t live in a country just like I don’t (Canada). We live in corporations. And the people in charge aren’t the ones you think are in charge. And they’ve eroded everything on purpose, and it has nothing to do with money and everything to do with control, mass demoralization and the syphoning of our energy.
If you believe what they present, they’ve already got you. If you believe in politics, they’ve got you.
Keep things simple.
@@leopetaccia1012 Me too - the amount of 3rd world dreck that has flooded my small town in the past 3 years is beyond belief.
When was it great when we were slaves?
Money money money money money 😂
@@cherrycabra8096 Mooooooney! Hahaha. Reminds me of the Apprentice and the early 2000s. A simpler time.
“You’re fired.”
Fellow midwestern 40 yo dude. Lean into it. The young dumdums need our guidance. We need men to step up. Give back. We're done. Help out and reduce their misery as much as possible. That's all we can do.
Lol thanks if you provide this but personally I'm good I'm just living for myself out here in NYC it's survival of the fittest.
Plus I'm learning the LESS humans you interact with the MORE peace you have AND higher income.
Yeah I see the young men and many are just lost . I see many that don’t even want to meet women or work .. others are striving to be victims and that mindset is so far from how my generation felt growing up. I’m just not sure what has caused young guys to feel this way…?
your guidance is what made them miserable in the first place.
do better
Dude you have kids. You HAVE SOMETHING/SOMEONE.. IM 40 AND I have nobody. Nobody. Completely alone.
Spoken from someone who has never been around babies/child-rearing.
Children are programmed to run off and live their lives, leaving the family behind. It's part of the atomization that was done to us.
Alone is good.
@@eddenoy321 Silence is golden
I feel ya brother. I'm 40 living with my dad now in California after I got destroyed in my last relationship and lost a lot. I'm pretty much starting over and have a strong disdain for the US....
there is nothing to hang onto. it does not matter who you think you are or your status or your possessions or your family and friends or professional relationships. you lose it all. when you understand this and you accept it and you do not fight it, then you are liberated. there was never anything there to begin with. nor do you have to purposefully try to let go- because there is nothing to hang onto, that is the default situation already. nothing to hang onto and nothing to get rid of. when you stop fighting it then you are at rest. "the first half of life is building a healthy ego. the second half is looking inward and letting go of your ego." -- jung
Beautiful
Life is hell for me currently but I have much to fight for and much to be thankful for. Everyone in the comments and the gentleman who posted, my heart’s with you and I hope you find joy. Surely you will know how to appreciate it.
I’m 45 and I was in a bad place mentally for several years. The difference is, I live about the most ideal life anyone could ask for. I have everything to be grateful for, but still found myself suffering bad. I say this because it doesn’t matter the pains of your past or the current shit that’s causing our mental health issues. The problem is our nutrition man! We’ve been poisoned our entire lives and the FDA claims everything is fine. Over the last year I focused all of my energy on my diet and exercise, I’m here to tell you I’m a changed man. I’m happy to help everyone with their nutrition and exercise to routines. I’ve just started to gear up my CZcams channel for exactly that. Mental and physical with nutrition. I sincerely hope you get everything figured out. Please feel free to reach out to me if you think I can help!
And it's not just the food. The FDA approves several poisons for Americans to use. Lice shampoo contains neurotoxins that cause mental and physical health issues. These poisons have been used on millions of children for decades.
I'm 41 and grew up in the Sierra Nevada foothills too. I wonder if we crossed paths at some point.
As for the economy, I believe we're at the same place the Soviet Union was in the late 80s just before their economy totally collapsed: all the official sources are insisting that the country has never been more prosperous while everyone who isn't an out of touch bureaucrat knows that it's over and is just waiting for the the thunder to catch up with the lightning. As usual, those in charge will be the last to know and suffer the least consequences unless they are held to account.
Doesn’t matter…Jesus is coming! Rapture soon!🎉
You can do it, Marcus Fenix.
My whole adult.life has been an existential crisis
Always heartbreaking to see a daughter go from daddy’s little princess to a demon. All you want to do is protect her and show her that you love her but she doesn’t want to hear it.
A demon?? What made u say this?
@@briannarickner5541 don't take it so serious. I've seen young girls rebel, and most of the time it's just them being teenagers but it can get out of hand fast.
He means semen demon
@@stinkyfingers1617 No.
That isn't helped when the Father acts like a military soldier defending his daughter's right to dress like a prostitute haha
In my 40s with kids too and I think the next flee place is rural America. But the difference is the youth would rather stay in the populated areas. I think most parents insulated their kids and showed them a prosperous US but the reality outside of the screens is, it's over.
Could be worse. I turn 54 tomorrow.
My man, I don't think anyone ever envisioned as a kid turning 40+. But then you wake up one day and here you are. I bet it will feel about the same when 60+...just BAM! Here we are... 😮😅. Just have to enjoy the time.
@@ryandgarland my kids are gone. My wife is gone. It’s a lonely month to month struggle to make ends meet and live in poverty as opposed to homelessness. I’m really not enjoying the time at all anymore.
@@danieldaniels7571 crap, that could easy be my life in 10 years. Well, I don't really have any answers. My life isn't bad by any stretch, but it is still a bit of a struggle. I suppose it always has and always will be. I guess the lesson is to try to enjoy the present as much as possible. Nothing is forever.
Hope you managed to find some way to enjoy your birthday. Wishing for the best for you stranger, keep your chin up.
@danieldaniels7571 happy birthday man eventhough its a bit late.
You've managed to capture the complexity of life and how moments of connection and nostalgia can be intertwined with feelings of uncertainty and reflection. It's touching to see how you find meaning in the small, shared experiences with your children even as you navigate the larger and more daunting challenges of life. It's very zen and meditative.
Bro just "Keep rollin', rollin', rollin', rollin' (What?) Keep rollin', rollin', rollin', rollin' (Come on!)"
😂
keep on truckin'
rollin', rollin', rollin', rollin' !!!
I knew this guy looked familiar
It's just one of those days!!!
Hey buddy, thanks for sharing. I did the opposite. I moved from the Midwest to California in 2005. Now, I am your age also divorced and have 9 year old son. Prices are crazy here. At least the weather is nice.
Stay strong for your kids. Times are tough for most people, keep moving forward.
You're not alone in these feelings, bro.
Wow, I’m 42 and I’m going through the same stuff you are that divorced in 2022 and live in Idaho. All the Californians started moving here hiking up the housing rates and my daughters 20 and she doesn’t wanna talk to me for whatever reason so I feel you man , hang in there
Interesting how people respond to more personal content. Shows the state of most people in the world. Especially the men who have to sit with their own thoughts.
Times are hard for a lot of people. Everything is expensive now and there's a mental health crisis no one talks about.
@@cwildlife6882 They try to talk about it but they don't understand what the realities are to even begin having a comprehensive conversation
@@901coryowens Yes. Just kind of swept under the rug until it can not be ignored. Pretty sad.
As a 25 year old male who’s been having bad luck wit girl after girl… this made me realize I really need to try and be a big part of a company or make my own cause any man can have kids with a woman but the women doesn’t usually stay around and the kids do grow up so while that aspect of life (parenthood) is fulfilling i can imagine the success of my own company would be almost just as fulfilling and can “grow” up until the day I die .
i commend you for being a dad to your kids and showing concern. in todays world such a task is like that of Sisyphus. i hope everything works out for you man. your daughter will come around in time.
I went through your whole video, man. I hear you. And I truly hope that everything gets better for you and your family in the future! Going through my own challenges with the tech sector, burnout, grim vision of the future. Hearing your thoughts and relating to what you said helped me a bit today. Thanks, man!
Whatever happens, get up again. Try again. Each time, you'll get wiser, stronger and be more aware of who you are. Everyone is unique. Be real again. Listen to your gut. You've got this.
Thanks for opening up. As a man it's always a risk. I do think you doing so will be helpful to many fellow men. Beeing a man over 40, married or not, comes with an inner loneliness that I don't think any woman or younger man could understand. Stay strong, brother!
I’m 46 and have no kids. I just have a dog and my wife is in another state.
at least you got a wife
She’s in Canada.. you don’t know her.
@@Canadian_Eh_I why lmao its not that great
Sooo basically you're single 😂
Look up to you! I'm in the same process, except I'm definitely not having kids for sure.
lol at least she is in another state
Im a woman, My first existencial crisis was when i was a child practically...yes...life with no meaning...and people trying to help me through the years ..and still i believe life has no meaning 😊 so..why not doing things we love before we die? I know its difficult, i dont buy lots of stuff i like, i dont have many dates as much as i would love to, ..and some of my relatives and 'friends' are quite toxic, but yes, i only have one life (i dont want people to control it) Good luck to everyone in this difficult time. We are not alone in this❤
Freedom is
AcceptCe without judgement of this world.
Define your own world, from within. Live within our own light internally. Disconnect from the energy sync which is the modern corrupted world. Find yourself in all others, realise we are all
One and shine your inner light brightly.
You have a kid. Thats a blessing, no matter what.
Im 38, have 2 grown stepkids that i raised since they were 4 and 6 they are 21 amd 23 now. There dad wasnt in the picture at all. I lived in the midwest for 34 years moved to southwest 4 years ago when my youngest moved out. Enjoy the time u can with em when there small it goes by in the blink of a eye. I was able to withdraw my 401k from the mine and used that to move across the country. So literally got all my ducks in row...it had been good and bam.....ended up getting cancer. Typical....
Stay safe out there my freinds hug and kiss your kids often bc u never know what could happen and they grow up to fast.
You’ll be ok man. Be grateful go outside go on walks and limit your entertainment , sometimes we just need a reset that isn’t a major deal. I watched all my older relatives go through something like this and they all came out stronger
I’m 48 and I too have a 11yr old son and 15yr old daughter. Divorced and alone. I can relate to how you feel about your daughter. This is the age where they begin to peel away from you and it hurts. The dating scene is absolutely horrific and my income compared to their mom and her new husband is minuscule, which makes it even more difficult as a single parent financially to be able to do nice things for my kids. They are great kids. I just wish that I could do more and I feel guilty because I destroyed their two parent home. Try and keep your head up man you’re providing solace for people who are in similar situations at least knowing we’re not alone, subscribed. 🙏
Guilt and heartache for me, which I wouldn't have predicted being the case a few years ago. Thought I could force of will life, turns out lifes bigger and tougher than me. Some days hard to focus on the good, I try to think of things I'd have liked my parents to have imparted to me at the same age, so I talk to my daughter about personal finance... she's less than impressed but listens sometimes.
Hope you have a good day man.
DUDE YOU ARE DOPE FOR SHOWING THEM RECLAIMING ELECTRONICS FOR YOUR KIDS. When I told my parents I wad doing electronics fabrication, they repugnantly asked if I was gonna fix short wave radios for a living. YOU ARE RAD. Stop being so soft on yourself dude. Load up her ipod with PANTERA, Scream HELL YEAH, AND LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT SO MAKE IT NICE.
Thank you for this man, I hope you get some peace of mind too
No normal person can afford anywhere in the US and still have time for their family's. If you do, then your not a normal person.
You can that's the thing, the difference is the rules of the "game" changed.
I'm fortunate to live near a major city NYC. I did enough networking to find my "rich" dad to learn the tricks the rich use and it actually a game 😂
I'm able to live on my own paying 1k for a room in nyc and I have a maid that comes and clean and a personal chef that meal preps for me.
However I'm always working if it's not in my job it's in my businesses
@@aim-for-greatn3z947Anecdotes aren't reliable evidence.
Life’s a trip, that’s for sure.
I’m glad you’re here on this earth with me, going thru it.
Baby girl loves you, trust that. Daddy’s are the bestest to kids.
You a good daddy as is.
Hit the gyms fellas, the gains is all U need in life
😂😂😂
gains for what though?
Yea gains for what ?
You have a nice velvet Markaplier voice, you should do voice acting man.
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No clue how your channel found its way. I was looking up random philosophical phrases or something, but sorta sat & listened to the whole thing like we were just 2 guys hanging out.
When you mentioned the empty malls, I went to the Philippines in April to scout out moving out of this trap we are in the west & US in particular for our case, & it was like going back in time. I will be 40 in less than 1 week & I remember jam packed malls. Amazon & online orders has slowly choked out all the physical stores. Locally I've seen stores closing seemingly after lease agreements are finished the employees are not warned it's just a snap l & no more Golden Corral, no more Sears, no more Red Lobster, no more Taco Johns or Papa Johns in this or that area. I don't know your financial situation or if you could continue some kind of secure online work, but the Philippines has honestly given me more hope than I have had in 15 years. I wouldn't make such a long rant post if I wasn't sincere. You have a daughter & maybe other things to consider. I just wanted to share the idea of expat. & You seem the type that if it interested you, you will learn the basics, but look into the more detailed stuff as well. Have a good night bro. No sarcasm or snappy edgy anti-joke, just have a good one.
All those lamenting their existence should look to God. He knows why you were made. If you make efforts toward Him you may be surprised that He reciprocates. One principle here is that to people who are making an honest effort to follow His teachings, a prayer that requests something that is not contrary to His plan/will is likely to be granted. The best way to do this is to imagine Him sitting right in front of you asking you what is on your mind and heart.
I won’t go into my personal journey too much but I used to be an atheist and God found me and is killing the worst in me. I’m a 40 year old former “doomer” who believed existence shouldn’t have been. I’ve changed a lot but man there have been growing pains. Some of the last 3 years have been hell.
God bless all of you. Don’t give up. ❤
Repeat this daily 50 times for 1 month brother and you will be healed: "Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner". Up to you.
I can't read stuff like this anymore. I get why people say this and I'm glad it helped for them, but for me I honestly believe that understanding your situation and your suffering and learning from it, taking care of yourself and the ones you love, is better.
@@pikpik42 fr, the fairy tales people believe in order to cope.
So passive agressive.
50 times a day LMAO
You're interesting. It's rare to hear a raw and genuine perspective --even when it turns into twenty-five minutes of dragon warrior sound effects while I'm working
Take care of yourself bro. You are not alone.
I too am a 44 year old man in the Midwest. I even have a PlayStation! It's funny, I'm almost 12 minutes in and you're talking about house prices and who but doctors and lawyers live in those homes? Man, I wonder that all the time. There are lots of jobs that pay well, but I'm in Kansas City and the here are lots of big neighborhoods of really nice homes and how do these people afford that? I grew up in a duplex, live in a townhome now with my mom, so I'm not the guy to ask about job suggestions. Anyway, I should finish your video but I used to think about that a lot just out of pure curiosity. I'm finding changing mindset helps alleviate that.
You'd be surprised. I bet the majority of those people in those homes either can't TRULY afford it and taking out debt, or they do have high paying jobs but are living paycheck to paycheck. You see in the news so many times how all these celebrities, athletes of yesteryear are selling their homes, memorabilia, etc because they can no longer sustain it
Thank you for your story i TRULY appreciate it! 🙏🏾
Personally im 36 and I'm avoiding marriage and kids in the United States AT ALL COST.
People nowadays women specifically aren't built to be wives, and the risk of divorce like yourself is too high.
I rather avoid all this hassle and live a life of financial abundance and peace.
you are winning, but dont know it.
@eddenoy321 trust me.... I fully know and I hope you're honestly winning as well! There's enough for all of us! Life will always provide as long your intentions and desires are true
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 I always thought having kids was a terrible and misguided decision that would crush men and women both. Children are an industry for medical, legal, manufacturing, and government. It a taboo that is never talked about. Good on you for knowing.
@eddenoy321 yup exactly it quickly keeps you as a slave to the system. Plus humans passed the need of survival, having kids now ate a "WANT" no longer a "need"
at least you have kids, some people face existential crisis having felt worthless because they didnt have kids
Exactly what I told him. I am 40 and I have NOBODY.
Yes but you don’t seem to realize how stressful it is to have kids! Figure in the higher cost of living and that’s a very high stress position. I get your point though as we grew up being told we should work, marry and have kids. That ideal just is not in the cards for many of us. So that leaves us with what to do…?
Spoken from someone who has never actually dealt with babies or child-rearing!
Could it be that NOT having kids is the real blessing ?
@@eddenoy321 Ya
You're so close to understanding what we all knew the first time this happened in 2008.
You are not alone
49 here, until my early mid 30's I was on unemployment and housing benefit here in the UK. Life has got significantly better since then, but one thing I try to do is to just keep looking forward. Dwelling on the past, on the way the world constantly changes and "isn't like it used to be" will drive you insane. I didn't have internet at all until maybe 23 years old, so lived an entire life pre-internet, grew up in the 80's skateboarding, listening to punk rock, watching movies like Pretty In Pink when they came out lol... but the world just isn't like that anymore. Now I'm married, have a nice house with an almost paid off mortgage, 500 games in my Steam account and 4 cats - this is my new life now, and I embrace it, especially as I never saw it coming in the first place! Just go with the flow and try and stay posi.
We're in a Depression. Of course the government won't admit it.
Lot's of videos like this on here. A lot of people are hurting. You are not alone. Im 54 & could tell a hell of a story. I struggle just to make it to another day. Maybe i will make a video.
My son is 12 things haven't been that great too..but I'm sorry you can't see your kids that much..that's awful and not enough time
Do you live on a house boat?
There's an awful lot of creaking noises going on in the background.
Drum set
The Grudge
I had existential crisis at the age we understand that human die!
Stockton is cheap. Only good thing I can say about it.
We are here to make the world a better place. Most of us relinquish that responsibility. Making the world better TODAY requires peaceful resistance to these destructive systems.
It's not a crisis, keep walking.. and listen.
Once you see suffering as temporary and everything else is good. We aren't meant for this world. I'm an Orthodox Christian man who has known all different kinds of suffering and I thank God I have been through it so far so good. I take the good and bad as blessings and lessons to grow from. Staying humble and getting things done, no matter what it is, I just do it.
"Hello Big Brother!"
It's Altered Carbon Season 1 bro. If you don't know WHAT that is watch it you'll like it. That is WHAT we live in. The girls think the memories just go away magically somehow, and were left with our you know WHAT in our hand cause they're all used up Star....ers like the NIN song.
Don't even bother with season 2, only the first couple minutes if you wanna see Poe again. I got a few more good ones for ya if you want after.
Man, I know what your problem is because I deal with it myself. It's easy to look at how bad everything is, especially as men with a lot of experience and wisdom in life. Start focusing on the present and building your life for the next 10 years. Focus on the positives. Try to actively look for positive things and opportunities and say, "how good is that?" For example, the USA is the best country in the world, by far, for an average person to become successful in business or anything.
At least you were able to imprint on your kids after their birth..I'm 46, and found out in 2019 i had a 9yo daughter i never knew existed..needless to say..been a long road and an emotional roller coaster. If your wondering, the mom ghosted me a week after becoming pregnant unknown to me at the time.
Oh, and it's all going down soon..good luck
Thoughtful and deeply reflective.
I am 57. I raised my son on my own an have seen all the changes with him a sons love. For his father is very diff then. The girls I have never had a daughter
Hey you could be like me a woman who means nothing to nobody not even her children and I'm almost 54 and i have nothing
That isn't true, and don't discount yourself just so easily, you have your thoughts and your words and your mind.
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The age of the CZcams Lolcow is over. The time of the CZcams Vlogger has come!
I'm pretty sure CZcams was originally setup as a vlogger website. I would say things are coming around full circle.
Time flies when you're having fun.
Life without God is a futile, empty wasteland. Death is inevitable. Seek the Lord while he may be found.
"Accumulation of wealth at one pole is at the same time accumulation of misery, agony of toil, slavery, ignorance, brutality, mental degradation, at the opposite pole," Marx wrote.
That quote is the sentiment of a deeply lazy person who strongly hated work. Communism and socialism have caused a million times more agony of toil, slavery, ignorance, brutality, and mental degradation than anything in the history of man.
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Capitalist society is a slave society, there is no relationship between how hard someone works and what they are paid, and not to mention the laws are written by big business, aka america is a lawless nation run my a kleptocratic business community.
If a real free market existed, everyone would have the right to print currency so they could hold big business accountable, you're not going to hold a giant mega corporation accountable with infinity money accountable, just see the bailouts of the big banks in 2008.
Idk what the background noise is, but it's kind of distracting.
Best thing I ever did was not bring children into this world, I get why you would and don't throw any shade at anyone that decided to have some, but this grind ends with me. There is no sense of commun8ity here in the US, everyone is out for themselves and you see it advertised everywhere, in our media, in our work places, in our schools and even the way we treat each other. Our politicians match the spirit of the people and that spirit is sickly.
Truth.
If you consider the fact that basic shelter can be mass produced for as little as $25,000 per unit it becomes obvious that conventional housing on the market in urban areas is really nothing but a form of real estate speculation based upon what the market would bear if and when you decided to sell. And this is quite sick considering that shelter is a necessity. But at least in Cleveland used vintage houses are considerably cheaper than what you’re quoting. And that would be because nobody wants to buy a used house. Everybody who can afford to do so wants a brand new four bedroom house with a tripe garage preferably on a cul de sac erected on virgin land which was carved out of sold off farmland recently. But then if the price of gasoline gets too high these people could find themselves stranded out in the exurbs contemplating the necessity of turning their entire lot into a vegetable garden just to feed themsevles.
Pay more attention to yourself.
What you think is important.
Not what the world tells you.
Start taking care of yourself.
I feel like im in an identity crisis, and im only 29.
James 4:14
Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.
The part about your daughter made me sad bro damn
The powers that be want us divided, thankfully we still can’t vote and us uniting is their greatest fear.
I feel ya man.. Im from Ireland around the same age 48 and it certainly dies feel like simthing is going to give with all the stuff going on right now. and the same thing is happening here prices of everything thru the roof.. we have social / affordable housing announcend €450k. Tge price of food .. tge influx of migrants is shocking and i agree after being shafted atvthe last recession in 08 get the feeling were ramping up for far worse
Everyone in the comments seems to be saying the same thing. Quality of life in this country is low. There's an economic boot on our collective necks. Who's gonna be the leader and start this bloodless revolution. We as a people can change everything if we just unify and demand it.
William Golding is having a mid life crisis and he needs to get over it before he gets to be as old as me (67 years old); and I don’t feel as bad as he does!
Just one day at a time. The majority on this amazing mud ball we live on have it way worse.
I’m about 4 years older than you brother. Hang in there. I’d like to say it gets better but you just have to adjust and push through. You’re an intelligent guy and a thinker. We see through the bullshit. Usually what’s on the other side of the bullshit isn’t too pretty.
I hate what today's society does to young women. They go from friendly kids that make you laugh, to mean girl, snobby teenagers. Its so annoying
Yeah probably brcause they get treated like shit and sexualized 25/8
I am also 44. My crisis is that I don't think I need to work any more but I still do and I don't know if I should. I bought a foreclosed house after the Wall Street crashed the whole World's economies in 2008 and everybody was screwed, and somehow I was the one uneffected.
I get it man, it's okay, we'll get through it or somethin'
"iPod at an antique store"...
We bought a tax sale house for 8k. It was some work, but has paid off. Few years ago we bought 10 acres up north for 17k. Working on building an off grid earthship design cottage to get rid of as many bills as possible. Using masonry walls instead of tire walls. I use linux. Money is a store of value. Currencies loose value. Money is not currencies. Cost of utilities always goes up. The kids actually like going up north camping now. With lower populations I find people are more likely to help each other. Inflation at 2% means over 20 years currencies have lost 40% of value. Property tax at 2% means in 20 years you have paid more than 40% of houses value. The house value goes up too. Agricultural tax exemptions can reduce property tax. Even thou wages go up inflation means you loose value. They fraction the currencies so they take value little bit by little bit. So the currency controllers can take a little more for themselves. Same old money changers. No different then coin clipping by Romans. Senors walk the malls here. Makes sense with bathrooms, benches, and climate control. They need to put dept of aging and social security offices in malls.
I was always getting the "At Will/Right to Work" law used. Just as 3 weeks vacation & 40% vesting. Start over at the bottom. I started slow at buying, fixing & renting old houses. I found something that worked. My wife was against it "all I care about is houses" she'd throw in my face. Well beginning an endeavor is a lot of dedication. I had us up to 3 & the down saved for that 4th. She boyfriends, they take that down payment. Then they false accuse, then after learning he is HIV positive, I file divorce. He coaches so as to live off her takings. I lose my life's work. Why Even Try
No country for old men.
Oh that was a GOOD ONE!
People live in paradigms and when a paradigm is challenged cognitive dissonance kicks in to maintain that paradigm. When cognitive dissonance starts to die, a schism begins to take shape and it's there that the fork in the road is noticed.
It’s lonely out here though, not many to relate to