Opinion | Do I Feel Guilty About Leaving My Community in the U.S.? | Tanzania | Melanin Migration

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  • Do I feel like I'm leaving my community behind? Do I feel guilty about leaving my community in the United States?
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Komentáře • 75

  • @gaaleef
    @gaaleef Před 3 lety +25

    I used to live in Dar es salaam in 1990s as a teenager fleeing civil war in Somalia, and back then Dar es salaam was not as developed as it is now but it was a peaceful place.
    nyama ya mbuzi with green vegetable was my favorite. Now, having lived in the USA more than 24 years, I'm definitely coming back to East Africa in the next few years, to slow down my tempo and to enjoy life the African way.

  • @karenepeters
    @karenepeters Před 3 lety +30

    You can not feel guilty when your skin shines and reflects the spirit of the Continent. Soon come.

  • @chrisbush773
    @chrisbush773 Před 3 lety +24

    I agree with you 100%, Queen. The pursuit of peace should be the priority for all of our people, period. The most important thing for me right now is creating an environment where my children can know peace themselves. We will know the meaning of infinite abundance when our priorities and spirit are in alignment.

  • @dmcarden
    @dmcarden Před 3 lety +24

    Got into an online debate about this with some others who were considering moving. One argument was that our forefathers fought and died for land in America and it was our duty to continue the fight. But I'm like, man I'm 58 years old, I'll be fortunate to get another 20 years on this planet. Have tried to do my part, but I just need some peace now.. I think every person has the right to make a decision for their own lives and their families. I do think if I had young kids I would definitely be moving..that fear of them running into a police officer and maybe not coming home one night, etc..naw, I see the peace your kids have, the joy of just being human..that's what I would want for my kids..and it's what I want for my remaining years.

    • @lorenzowere9433
      @lorenzowere9433 Před 3 lety +4

      This should not be a debate or argument, if you wanna live your life stress free and you have children whom you wanna see grow without that mental stress and blood pressure because of their race, then you move to where you are comfortable...for a black person, africa is the HOME, other places like US are just nationalities

    • @dmcarden
      @dmcarden Před 3 lety +1

      @@lorenzowere9433 So true!!!

  • @divinebynature7056
    @divinebynature7056 Před 3 lety +14

    It has been said that "self care is a political act". You are doing the right thing for yourself and family. Peace of mind and joy are primary. You're raising your babies to be free and that is priceless. I salute you.

  • @dawnydiz98
    @dawnydiz98 Před 3 lety +17

    NEVER EVER feel guilty for doing what's best for YOU and YOUR FAMILY. No one has a say-so in YOUR life. People amaze me having the nerve to say you're abandoning your people...No, on the contrary, I'm removing myself for the benefit of my family. I refuse to continue battling a 400yr+ battle. I'm over half a century old and have had enough. Those who have an issue with it can dismiss themselves. You have NEVER been a part of my life and struggle so don't express your thoughts to me, now. You fight your way and I'll find some semblance of peace my way.

  • @humblethoughts6314
    @humblethoughts6314 Před 3 lety +5

    I’m planning my “escape” sister. It’s a must for me. Not everyone can handle a complete life change, we get too comfortable with our surroundings that we forget there are other worlds and simple yet peace ways of life out there. Thank you for your encouragements💗🙏🏾

  • @thearmed1z
    @thearmed1z Před 3 lety +9

    I applaud you and envy you at the same time. If I were financially able I would leave this pressure cooker called the USA. LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE AND BE HAPPY...

  • @kellynelson1926
    @kellynelson1926 Před 3 lety +8

    Praise be to Yah for his goodness and mercy's toward his chosen people, for taking you and your family to Tanzania. My wife and I will be coming very soon.

  • @fitawrarifitness6842
    @fitawrarifitness6842 Před 3 lety +2

    No one is obligated to stay in an abusive relationship!

  • @Respekhtal
    @Respekhtal Před 3 lety +8

    Your way is the SMART way!

  • @bernardoleonard7331
    @bernardoleonard7331 Před 3 lety +2

    I am a Tanzanian living here🇹🇿 I congratulate because you have done one of the smartest decisions you ever made

  • @TonyaEL
    @TonyaEL Před 3 lety +2

    This world is vast and we as melanated people have the right to live wherever we want. Those that are stuck will continue to be that way. Keep showing them your serenity living outside of the matrix.

  • @Aeon1019
    @Aeon1019 Před 3 lety +2

    Unfortunately A MIND still in Captivity will not *SEE* you, eye to eye on matters that lead to *FREEDOM!*

  • @brentonpearce8650
    @brentonpearce8650 Před 3 lety +1

    Greetings from Jamaica.you have made the right decision.everyone have a right to choose their own destiny.africa is home

  • @mopride7249
    @mopride7249 Před 3 lety +3

    People use words like 'escape', 'run away' and 'abandon' to make it look like those who leave are cowards. If you are hopeful and are willing to die, go ahead and stay and fight (I hope you have enough ammo). Those of us who see the reality, are choosing the leave. Harriet Tubman was not a coward. She valued her life and had self worth.

  • @enricoflamingo
    @enricoflamingo Před 3 lety +8

    Lots of great points. I’m still working on making my way there and I had a brief moment of guilt asking myself “Am I running?” Honestly, no matter what condition the world is/has/or will be in the future, I will still desire to live abroad

    • @illuminadi5848
      @illuminadi5848 Před 3 lety +6

      EnRico, I'm not sure that self preservation should ever be termed, "running." We're taught to look upon the Pilgrims and the colonists with great reverence and regard. Nobody ever says they were running from the oppressions they faced elsewhere.

    • @enricoflamingo
      @enricoflamingo Před 3 lety

      Illumi Nadi Great point

    • @enricoflamingo
      @enricoflamingo Před 3 lety

      CJ J 🥂

  • @belindagrimes2418
    @belindagrimes2418 Před 3 lety +1

    Misery loves company! You did not have to dignify that question. Keep being great living in peace and the sunshine! On my way soon!!!😍👑🎆💥

    • @themigratingmom
      @themigratingmom  Před 3 lety

      Thanks, but it is a common question actually that I wanted to address.

  • @illuminadi5848
    @illuminadi5848 Před 3 lety +30

    It's a sign of deep seated racial and inferiority conditioning that anyone would even question you on this matter. If a Caucasian American decides to seek their fortunes in Australia, or Germany or Spain or wherever, I don't think same reaction would ensue. And honestly, I believe this is most specifically related to your place of choice. I don't even think you would get this same reaction if you had ended up in some European location.

    • @richierich5698
      @richierich5698 Před 3 lety +3

      Ikr

    • @555125kevin
      @555125kevin Před 3 lety +4

      I agree, she Chose not to Subject her children to racism & heightened levels of anxiety, if we're keeping it 100 parents that raise kids in Babylon accept that for their children

  • @lasthour7132
    @lasthour7132 Před 3 lety +3

    Me and my family finally arrived! Thanks for your help! Hope to run into you in Dar Es Salaam sometimes!

    • @themigratingmom
      @themigratingmom  Před 3 lety

      Karibu Tanzania! :)

    • @nicodemusngwala2079
      @nicodemusngwala2079 Před 3 lety +1

      My name is Nicodemus ....you are most welcome ....

    • @lasthour7132
      @lasthour7132 Před 3 lety

      Nicodemus Ngwala Hi my name is Derrick! Here’s some of our video of our house search in Dar Es Salaam! czcams.com/video/-amnpAuYQhU/video.html

    • @kingleonard3484
      @kingleonard3484 Před 3 lety

      You're welcome Derrick

    • @haggaiandagile6232
      @haggaiandagile6232 Před 3 lety

      Hi my name is Haggai welcome back home..you are in the right place

  • @MissAblue676792
    @MissAblue676792 Před 3 lety +1

    What people fail to realize is that when you are born, you are not born into a country you are born into the world! Therefore, just because you were born and raised in a country does not mean you are subjected to live the rest of your life in that country! I feel that people have a right to choose where ever they want to live on earth! Don't let anyone make you feel bad for wanting a new experience for yourself and your family! I agree, not everyone will make that move and they shouldn't! Some has to stay to continue the legacy, and fight! God bless! God willing I am coming to the continent!

  • @MEconcretepool
    @MEconcretepool Před 3 lety +1

    hey sis, such familiar question. I like the points made in the comment section. if one cannot move and travel in this life , he/she is not free indeed. freedom is more than being able to drink from the same water fountain or attend the same school. indeed our people have had a number done on them and most of them are so afraid they wont sell their fear for freedom. Like you had said: many have said watch, you will come back to america when times get hard abroad but i say if you are determine to be somewhere not even cold war can cause you to run back into the very fire you ran from. peace and blessings.

  • @charlesperkins5003
    @charlesperkins5003 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for this channel. You have given me support and encouragement just by providing your experience. I am here in Dar now and will continue the journey here. Thanks again

  • @jayfill8762
    @jayfill8762 Před 3 lety +3

    Your skin is glowing 😍🥰😍

  • @liadaesimone
    @liadaesimone Před 3 lety

    Needed this! Thank you.

  • @homiedclown1885
    @homiedclown1885 Před 3 lety +6

    I hope your kids are speaking Swahili already? That's a language i wish can speak.

  • @guelorboyo6543
    @guelorboyo6543 Před 3 lety +1

    Welcome again to motherland iknow you were alredy be bless for everything you will do , don, t ever , and lestin to those who chose to live in the babylon for the rest of their life

  • @omangash23oirere20
    @omangash23oirere20 Před 3 lety

    Wish you well mum,am from Kenya.

  • @kiwishbj1
    @kiwishbj1 Před 3 lety

    It's ok and smarter not be inside shit. You are my hero. Life is short . You don't need to spend it in a misery. You are just awoke. Earlier than more..!!!

  • @theonly6359
    @theonly6359 Před 3 lety

    Wow 🤩 your intro music is 🔥🔥🔥

  • @bodeankit
    @bodeankit Před 3 lety

    Don't feel bad great CHOICE

  • @servantoftheonetruegodalmi7212

    I just realised you video of your birthday on the islands on the Tanzanian coast is off your channel. It is a nice video. Shows the boat the water.

  • @coffeemuya618
    @coffeemuya618 Před 3 lety

    Absolutely you're right

  • @MrZbest1966
    @MrZbest1966 Před 3 lety

    Great move sista, you are making move. You can not fight WS it's big in USA.

  • @EcoAfreecan
    @EcoAfreecan Před 3 lety

    Amazing content Ru

  • @luislassen4624
    @luislassen4624 Před 3 lety

    Sister do yourself a favor: live your life. There's no time to feel guilty since life's too short. I spent 3 months in Ghana last year and I felt good about it: We all deserve peace, tranquility and harmony. To me, the US is good to make money not to live at peace and in harmony. Racism, mass incarceration (mostly Blacks and latinos), Police brutality, and other social injustices makes it hard here especially when you're a minority in the US. I hope to bump into you next year when I'm planning on spending 6 months between Tanzania, Mozambique and SA.

  • @TaiwandaBason
    @TaiwandaBason Před 3 lety

    Well said, Lady...👏👏👏

  • @ezpic2
    @ezpic2 Před 3 lety

    Praise Jesus, you are blessed! Peace be yours in Jesus’ name! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

  • @simplymesalma3151
    @simplymesalma3151 Před 3 lety

    🖤🖤🖤

  • @slowclimbertothetop4572

    Rukiya is cute 😍

  • @MzMinnesnowtapop1
    @MzMinnesnowtapop1 Před 3 lety

    ✊✊✊✊

  • @colibri1
    @colibri1 Před 3 lety

    I've known people who moved from the US to countries with normal social services like full healthcare and free or low-cost education and some of them have said that they feel guilty that they now have these benefits as just a normal part of their lives when their US parents may have worked and worked and worked and still no one has all that in the US and probably never will. I don't know if Tanzania is one of the many countries that has good (a.k.a. normal) social services, but if it is, I wonder if you've ever thought like that. Your attitude seems to be a lot more individualistic so maybe not.

    • @shadora
      @shadora Před 3 lety

      Are you suggesting bringing the rest of the family? What if they are not into moving?

  • @Deeplyrooted73
    @Deeplyrooted73 Před 3 lety

    If my sound cliche but my momma always told me, "misery loves company." Is it ok for every other race to become expats and live abroad? Europeans travel world setting up residence wherever they feel comfortable. It shouldn't even be a question whether it is acceptable to live abroad. Anyone who questions this life choice has been preconditioned themselves to live in a box. There is a reason why the majority of African Americans have not stamped their passport or even have one for that matter.
    With that said, if one does not have a genuine intent for adding to a society and is just looking for some kind of reparation they feel owed, prosperity will be difficult to achieve regardless of the ethnicity of the populous.
    Thank you for sharing your life Queen! The information that CZcamsrs are providing to the African Diaspora is invaluable.
    BABYLON 🇺🇸 is on 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @Gwen-joyful-light
    @Gwen-joyful-light Před 3 lety

    Don't look back, be happy that you are in a position to be able to get away from the USA and all their home grown hatred.